This is pretty much my life. Finally got her served with the papers I can’t wait until I finally get some rights to my son. Update: Got the response, she only wants to give me two days basically while she's at work from 7:30-4:30 on tuesday and wednesday. No overnights not fair at all. Pretty much just babysitting him We have a Court date on March 2 im preparing for submitted my financial disclosure and completed the COPE class required by the courts today. Update 2: went to zoom court and judge ordered 3 days a week visitation. The judge was cool and I finally had my first full day with my son.
@@5thhorseman982 thanks. Yeah I kinda got screwed cuz when I moved out I only ever got to see my son by going over to her house and playing with him for a few hours at a time. Never able to take him anywhere
@@justinthematrix You have to stress that: -She's not allowing parenting time which is abusive towards the child -She cannot work with you on an equal footing and will not see you as an equal parent (won't inform, communicate etc.) Not putting the kid first. She's not looking out for the kid. With someone like that you will have to request Orders in writing and have them enforceable. It's going to be a while before things are made right. Pack your patients. It's a slow game.
My mother is a narcissist, she’s been emotionally abusing me for 15 years and me and my father are finally putting our foot down. I’ve started studying (very basic) law, gathering witnesses and evidence, I’m nervous but I think we can pull it off. Thank you for the tips and wish us luck
Wishing you luck bro. Im in almost the exact same spot as you. Like my mother is a narcissist and emotionally abused me ever since July 2020. In november 2020, my life was at its worst time ever and it still is continuing today against me.
basically go to court, tell the judge how shes hurt you and your dad needs to bolster the claims. 3 more years and you get freedom from her for good hopefully sooner than that.
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That’s how you do it! You study the law! You stand up and YOU DO IT! I’m doing it too and I’m a pit bull. The law is for me for sure but for right reasons only!
Wow! Thanks. I have watched dozens of videos on custody. This one is by far the best. Straight forward. Concise. Best advice I've heard since working on custody dispute so far. BTW, I'm a single dad and had sole legal and physical custody for 8 years. I hope to keep it going. I'm grateful for every day that I have with my kids. Good luck to all.....especially, your kids.
@Gemma Dann same for either parent should be equal for both parents as kids deserve too have both mum/dad in there life no matter what's gone on between the parents as long as kids are safe to have that bond with both & not court in the middle
@Gemma Dann no idea but sounds like alot hatred towards the mum which I also have towards my ex but wouldn't keep kids from her unless wasnt safe as it's there right too have both parents around just a very sad situation for them too see & they figure it out themselves but feel they after go with the parent that they live with no matter what is said I no I'll never be that happy without mine that's for sure as it's what I've always wanted along with a family & I find it so difficult too trust even more so now
@Gemma Dann yeah it's a very sad too happen & not only ruins kids childhood but there future adult life as well believe me I no as my parents split when I was about 8 & wasnt the same afterwards as my dad just gave up after a few yrs & although i see him now sometimes it's not like it should be & won't ever be either as I've tried & now this also I was very badly bullied at school sometimes I use too think what did I do too deserve all this drama but it's kinda made me a much stronger person
Also, if you have an alcohol, drug, or mental health issue, do whatever it takes to address it and get help instead of trying to pretend it’s not an issue. Denial like that doesn’t work.
Absolutely! Judges are about fostering the parent child relationship. If parents want to be parents we ask the Judge to allow for some kind of reunification plan.
@@TerriHerronLaw I'm in this boat now. I have been away from my son due to mental health issues and being in many hospitals getting help. His father does not believe in mental illness nor does he understand it. And he and his family is always bad talking about me, they throw my gifts away and they do not let me see him or talk to him.
@@ilovejesuschrist992 thnx for sharing your point of view. Helpful to gain patience & understanding . Stay strong. With Determination I know you can overcome this
Interesting. My child's dad meets all of these criteria. Haven't seen my daughter in three months. When he took her from me the first time for a month, I got her back and she was asking me "where mom??" he then came over for a visit and hopped out of my bedroom window with her. I ask to see her daily, or even for a picture and he won't give me any of it. Thankfully yesterday I was able to get an address of where he is to have him served. This made me feel a lot better. I know I'm doing everything right. He wasn't an active part of her life until I moved to the city he lives in in order for him to be in her day to day life. Ended up biting me in the ass but I had to be able to say that I tried.
@@raboc7702 I got her back after 5 months. At the temporary custody hearing, (via zoom) Ex mentioned a "suicide attempt" that happened years ago while I was suffering from Post Partum Depression. I have not ever made an attempt since. So the judge started yelling at him asking when all of this happened and if it was recent and he could not answer with the truth. The judge then told him to be quiet and asked me to clarify what's been going on and to address what my Ex was talking about. So, as it turned out, my mic had me speaking in slow motion. Judge then has Ex speaking for me in court because for some reason, my Ex could hear me but the judge could not make out what I was saying. Judge then ultimately granted Ex full temporary custody because of my issues with my mic and him having no idea what was really going on. Fast forward several more months, we went back to court and I was able to explain everything. Judge granted 50/50. My ex did not get in trouble for withholding or any abuse done to me during and after pregnancy. Despite me showing documented proof of his abuse towards me, the judge pretty much said we're too poor to go to trial and granted 50/50 custody in April. "Co-parenting" has been a nightmare. Almost immediately after the decree was signed, Ex got locked up twice. Once for a misdemeanor Domestic Violence Simple Intimidation and then again shortly after his release, for Felony Domestic Violence by Strangulation and again for first degree kidnapping of his girlfriend (the felonies were dismissed). Mind you, our three year old was in his care during both arrests and has witnessed him be abusive to the girl. Now CPS is involved and are telling me to withhold or I will get in trouble for Failure to Protect while my court order still says 50/50. I have tried to take him back to court but he to this day will not provide me an address (he was homeless/jobless upon his release from jail) So I am going the long route and trying to take the necessary steps to have him served again to Modify custody. I've done a 15 min session with the courts lawyer through the ask a lawyer program and pretty much laid out what's been going on mainly because I am paranoid about losing custody for technically breaking a court order and she too has told me to withhold. So that's where I'm at rn. Have daughter 100% of the time, have zero help with childcare and still trapped in this city. I would still like to move back to where I have actual family support.
@@freakishlypeculiar Sending love to you girl, keep fighting for that better life you imagine! It is so heart breaking to hear he had the nerve to take your child like that. You are not the crazy one. Its okay to be scared but your vision of how you want the future to turn out is important to keep you motivated 🥰🥰🥰 Peace and Love girl 😇
Absolutely! My parents have been divorced for 20 years and when they were married, they were constantly arguing and fighting. People got involved when they weren’t supposed to and it was so toxic for me and my brother. For years, I realize that them getting divorced was probably the best thing to happen because we knew that they can’t be together! As a child dealing with that, I felt the pain and I learned from it and hope to not ever repeat it! Hurting kids from a toxic relationship isn’t fun. I experienced it first hand. This came to me at the right time in my life. Your recommendation ring so true. Thank you USESPY
Love this lady. She just made me feel better. My childs mother has been preventing me from seeing my child for 35 days now. I filed affidavits for contempt of court after 2 weeks. Thank you Miss.
@@kevinwallance4514 The courts and childrens attorney are trying to protect her. They actually warned her to work out something with me to drop the contempt of court because she can go to jail. I asked her for more time with my child to drop case. She refused. Now we have court next month. She's not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
@@MrCoughupalung These Mothers Out Here Are Ridiculous. I Jus Got My 50/50 With My Daughters And Their Mom Told The Judge That I Can Sign Them From Their After School Program. Then She Tells The After School Program To Don't Allow Me To Sign My Daughters Out. Bro! It's Getting To The Point Where Im Jus Gonna Hire An Attorney Cause It's Getting Ridiculous.
@@CarlosGonzalez-qd6fh Damn, bro. sorry to hear that. File a contempt of court order. It's easy. You can do it for self. Save your money. Just leave emotions out of the court room. I'm in the process of never paying child support again.....LEGALLY! In court right now.
@@MrCoughupalung Wowww Thats Good I'm Still Paying Child Support. Smh But My Daughters Witnessed Everything That Happened On Friday When I'm Supposed To Get Them For My Weekend. I'm Jus Tired Of Her Drama And My Daughters Are Sick Of Her Shit Too.
This made me feel better about my coming case with my 10yr old daughter. I can’t afford a lawyer but I’ve had her enrolled in school until 2nd grade when mother transferred her, she’s failing now & mom is alienating me. She has an attorney so I’m glad I viewed this.
Terri, your video is a breath of fresh air in a horrible time in my life. I can't tell you how many mistakes I am seeing from the other party in my court case. It's amazing. You are spot on with this list.
Been at it for years without an attorney and I have gained much respect for the task a lawyer has. It is a stressful process when you don’t have an attorney. My only hope is that the courts understand that I have been filing documents for years and fighting to have more time with our children. I pray for the parents that fight to be a part of their children’s life. I see why most parents don’t want to deal with the stress of not knowing how to fight this battle in court. Most parents just leave and abandon the whole situation because it can become unbearable. Till this day I fight and will continue to do so until I am given sufficient time to be a significant part of our children’s life. I encourage parents to be as cordial as possible when in these types of battles and find a way to get along for the children’s sake. May God intervene and help families in distress. Thank you for helping families 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
My son is just starting to go through this. It's only been a few weeks and the mother already has his kids calling another man, her boyfriend daddy. It's sickening. Good luck to all fathers fighting for their rights to be a daddy. Hang in there, your kids need you! 🙏
In my case he goes MIA for months on his daughter but Constantly Texts me that he misses me etc. Then when a new girl comes around he wants to make himself look like the good dad and ask for my daughter I never kept my daughter from him I’ll let him see her when he wants every 3 to 4 months 🤦🏻♀️ and when my daughter goes over he’s sleeping because he’s hungover 🤦🏻♀️ i’ve been dealing with this for over 11 years I’m finally going to court for this . wish me luck 😭 All I wanted was my daughter to have her dad in her life.
Disparaging the other parent is absolutely terrible. For some reason, some parents think it makes them feel better that they can insult the other parent to the child. But I have only seen it back fire, where the child gets angry at the insulting parent because they are insulting their other parent.
Child custody/child custody battles - very sad when parents 'fight to get possession' of their children. Children are NOT inanimate objects - they are human beings who share the DNA of both parents. Doesn't matter what the parents think of each other - their children will want to have a relationship with each parent. If you're honest, you'll acknowledge the damage, confusion and devastation that you cause your children when you try to prove that you are the better parent. The only winners are the lawyers...put your differences aside and do what is best for your children. Time goes by so quickly...if you're jerks when the kids are young, then they will cut ties with both of you as soon as they can. 😐
Great video! The judges don’t have time for bickering and false allegations. I had a custody battle during my divorce to determine child support. I had my Dr sign a document saying I was unable to work at that time for an illness and my x husband’s attorney tried to rebuttal that with “Do you walk your dog???” I guess he thought I was going to say of course I do!” But I really didn’t walk my dog because she was a 120 pound Mastiff. But I’m glad I saw where he was going with that. Very smart to be prepared! Have everything in writing! Dad’s.... get a report card, school photos, hand outs from their Christmas concerts, photos of baseball or ballet recitals, dates, times definitely years! Make it easy for the judge! Save the jealousy , false allegations and your x paying for his new girlfriend’s boob job! Please,,,, talk to your friends about that over a coffee! Not in the courtroom!
Thank you. I have been cut from my childrens lives and fighting for 2 years based on lies and crocodile tears. I never quit. Now there is a parenting plan that says i basicly am no part of the children's lives. I have had a attorney and fighting the entire time. My ex showed she has broken all of your tips, and hope the judge sees now the truth.
What if he doesn't tell me or allow me to be an active parent. In other words I ask about her doctors appointments and school but he gives me the run around..
Girl, you are the Bee's Knees! Thanks for a short, sweet and to the point video. Love getting right to the meat of the matter without 12 minutes of fluff chatter. You just got a new subscriber
Btw, my son's ex gf is doing the first 4 things on this list. He hasn't seen his daughter since April 5th, when mom made false allegations of child sexual abuse that were unfounded by DCFS, because he didn't even HAVE his child that weekend. 🤦♂️ The bad thing is, his attorney is literally doing nothing to help him other than showing up at court and forwarding mail from opposing party. He has appointment with new attorney in 4 days. Wish us luck! If you lived in Illinois, we'd hire you! 💜
This video help me a lot. My story is so sad, because i met my daughter when she was 5, because the mother had put a retraining order on me, when I was 17 and she was 15. Over the 13 years my daughters Mom and her aunt and her grandmother been putting me thru the most stress. I love my daughter I never harm her, I went to parent class that the courts send me to. I even had got full custody at one point, and I kept my daughters family around, I would never keep her away from her family. In July 2021 I let her spend time with her family and I never seen her again. They said she went to the police and lied I hit her. I never hit. Even writing this to you is making me so depressed. Yes They are even saying I touch my daughter witch is not true. They called Child protection service on and even DHS. Now they have a temporary order on trying to keep me away from my daughter. I miss my daughter: I wish this wasn’t like this. I even gave my rights up because I’m tired of fighting it’s to much I just lost my mom last year, it’s to much. The story even went viral. The aunt post it on fb of my daughter crying, I got death threats and everything, it’s to much. I can’t even afford a lawyer so I’m going to court alone on 1-11-2022
Wow. just came across this video today 11/25/21 and loved the notes Terri - thank you. Always hard paying attention to the words a beautiful woman speaks - when she is beautiful and is speaking - always easier to just look at her talk. Beautiful Terri! hard to keep my eyes off those lips, :-). thanks for sharing those valuable tips.
Sometimes us real fathers just get tired and frustrated when it comes to spending more money out of our pockets when more money is coming out of our pockets everyday illegally
I’m 16 years old and right now my mom has custody of me, but I want to live with my dad. I haven’t told her yet, but I’ve told my dad. I really want to live with my dad and he’s a good man, good job, good education, and has great manners. My mom I’d say is very spiteful and childish, she always forces me to take her side even though she’s wrong most of the time. One time she even slapped me because I didn’t take her side. At her house, there’s always someone yelling whether it be my mom or my older sister. It’s very frustrating living with my mom. My dad makes more money than my mom so the child support I guess helps her. Would the judge allow me to live with my dad if I want to? Is there a way to do this as fast as possible like just going to the courtroom and telling the judge I want to live with my dad?
Call cops and report your mother for domestic abuse slapping is domestic assault be prepared to send your mother to jail but if she slapped you she deserves it...
At 16, you are luckily old enough to have a few choices legally! Some of your choices are dependent upon the State you live in, but the first thing you can try is to ASK your Dad to petition the court for full custody of you. Without this, nothing will change (legally). It's the appropriate jumping off point, because the two of you will need to strategize together to make this transition successful. You can call the courthouse yourself (family court division) and ask for a 'guardian ad litem'. This is a person dedicated to YOUR best interest. They aren't on your Dad's or Mom's side or paid by either one of them! They are just for you and given by a judges in situations like yours where an agreement can't be reached between the parents. They exist to protect YOU. Another way you can go is to petition the court yourself to become legally emancipated. Emancipation means you are no longer legally controlled by your parents, but YOU now make the adult decisions that affect your life. I believe there are other legal choices too, but I think I gave you a good start here....do your research and and make a phone call to your courthouse ASAP. Keep in mind that each of these choices brings a set of legal requirements you will be responsible for. It will take time, especially in this pandemic. Also, there's bound to be some hurt feelings. You need to be ready for that and NOT REACT in any way that could jeopardize the courts ability to see you as an adult. You are going to have to be strong and smart. I wish you well. It can't be easy in your situation, but you aren't without resources. Standing up for yourself and your rights and desires doesn't make you a bad daughter or love your parents any less. It just makes you a strong woman and ultimately, that should be any parents goal: a strong daughter that knows her worth, advocates for herself and sets healthy boundaries! We can't always get what we need from our parents. But nothing is stopping us from getting what we need for ourselves! Good luck. 🙂
Depends on the state you live in whether slapping is abuse or a legal form of punishment that will decide if mom can or cannot get in trouble legally for a slap i don’t know the entire situation either and children shouldn’t be involved in adult matters anyways so parents on both sides shouldn’t be a talking to their child about their adult issues it sucks that kids even have to worry about this stuff
The best summary of all the tips and secrets to a healthy and lasting relationship that make sense I can't but agree with every single tip and although people often know these tips, it's always good to be reminded of them. Thank you USESPY and I love you! You're very inspiring !!
Thank u just this video is of great help and all of the above are things I’m going through with my ex I’m from NJ done all the right things without one mishap and it seems like no one really wants to help my children are the ones suffering. Thanks for your wisdom
I hope you were able to get through it victoriously. We have to learn how to just coparent. Love for the children should be the foundation, but I know it's not a lot of times.
My brother bby momma did all this and played victim. My brother was already sharing custody and the mom wanted to move 40hr away. The guy she didn't even know the dude for a year. Judge let her leave idk how she got caught lying multiple times. 5 years later they still dislike the guy and hate where they are no family support. My brother had no reason for the kids to be taken frim him. Im just lost how they got away with this.
I live in the state of Texas and I just recently filed for joint custody because I be having my daughter half the time. My normal days are Monday through Thursday and she has my daughter Friday through Monday morning. She hasn't let me see my daughter in two weeks, she got upset with me for 2 reasons because recently things went sour on my job that I had been on for 6 years and I asked her could she go on half with me to pay her auntie for keeping our daughter every week and she refused. So on my days to have her I took my daughter to my mother whom lives 3 hours away to keep her while I find a job. She and her mother came and got my daughter from my mom and I haven't seen her going on 2 weeks. I called I text and I also had the police come out and do a welfare check. So I filed a petition for joint custody and her lawyer called and said I beat him filing a petition. I don't have any money for legal representation what should I do when we go to court?
Update on my case I was ordered to continue to pay daycare and mom's insurance. I have extended stay where I pick her up every other Thursday and drop her off on Monday
Great Work, USESPY. Thankfully, I have all six of your tips mastered. It's all about self-care. You made me laugh out loud when you put that shaver up to her chats. Keep up the great work.
@@lunanelsa4507 you have to fall in a certain income bracket to qualify and if there's one not in your county that's pretty rare because I never heard of that before I don't know what state you're in but if there's not one in your county I would go to another county if possible I never heard of a county not having some sort of legal aid for metal over class not saying that you are just saying there's a certain income level that you have to be in to qualify it should be all online
I agree with all but number 4. My son started calling my husband “dad” On his own at 5 years old. He’s almost 11 now and I’ve never pushed that on him. He came to that conclusion on his own.
Sure you didn't lmao. You could've corrected him instead of lying to him but you didn't because you thought it was cute and want other people to think you're kid doesn't have a step-dad
I paid child support for 21 years in NY. The first thing I told my lawyer when I moved out was keep me out of court. That's the last place you want to be. I wrote a support check each week from day 1. It took over 3 years before I was before the judge. My lawyer did a great job. By that time I had already established a track record of paying each and every week. Of course she wanted more money. The judge awarded her another $25.00 per week. Keep recipients for every dollar you spend on your child. You will need them later. Do not be in a hurry to to get before a judge. It will cost you money. Pay every week like I did. What's the hurry? All the judge sees everyday are fathers that don't pay. In your case you will have been paying from day 1. Your the good guy. Stay out of court. If the lawyer tells you different. Change lawyer's. No matter what your ex will blame you for everything. Get used to it. Your kids will be fine. That's because your paying each week. At some point she will want to remarry. Let her hire the lawyer. Whats the hurry? That costs money. I didn't divorce for 6 year's. So what! Didn't cost me a dime. Remember. Don't panic. If you get served papers. Hand them to your lawyer. He will push that court date out a long way. They can't garnish your wages without a court order. That's your lawyer's job. Don't panic. Keep paying each week. Let the time slip by. Don't be the fool that's in a hurry. Every time she calls her lawyer it costs her money. Not you. The first thing the lawyer will ask every time. Is he paying support? Of course you are. You have every receipt. He will call your lawyer and that costs her more money. She will get tired of that real quick. I love the idiot lawyer's that tell the woman that the husband's always pay the lawyers fees. I never paid a dime towards her lawyer. I didn't hire him. She did. She spent thousands and got nothing in return. That's because I paid from day 1.
1.The battle keeps you employed 2 attorneys are contractors of the child support system. 3. Those are not judges.. they do not have judicial power. They are administrators 4. You agreed to be "non custodial" Pa-rent.. and wonder why they are collecting rent from you.. 5. Children and mother's are unintended beneficiarys of child support.. 6. Study up men to these crooks..
Good tips not just for custody, but for raising kids after a split. I was never a fan of bashing the other parent (mostly the dads in what I saw). The kids usually grow up and see that it was BS, but it took a lot from them that they’ll never get back.
Haven’t seen my son since New Year’s Eve . I tried waiting it out and reaching out but got blocked in every possible way unfortunately now I have to get into court which I never expected to take this route but I need to see my boy I can’t go any longer
Question: If the legal father has emotionally abandoned the child and is never around, then what’s wrong with the child call her stepfather her dad, especially when the child is the one who’s requested to do so?HOW is that disrespectful when her biological father hadn’t seen her in 3 years and won’t even return her phone calls? Literally, her dad has never been there and blames the military on why he’s an uninvolved father,
I assume you mean interrogatories and if you haven't been advised that this is not okay then the Judge will when you get to the Final hearing. Deposition is an appearance to be deposed/asked questions. Interrogatories are questions sent to you where you send written responses. It's impossible to cover all of the many different fact patterns, but if you're in court about this now, that tells me that the biological father filed a Legitimation case (which tells me he's pursuing a relationship. There is nothing wrong with step parents, but in Georgia the Judges do not like when step parents are called mom and dad over the biological parents. No one is taking away from step parents, but this is well known with custody attorneys that this is not accepted by Judges. Best of luck to you and make sure you follow your lawyer's direction.
@@raynamaldonado6806 get it in your small brain that the step father isn't the kids dad. Open your big ass mouth and say to your kid your REAL DADS NAME IS.....my bf isn't your dad his name is blank call him that...
That’s funny my WIFE just fled the state with my kids after getting me arrested even though she literally told me she was going to do this and told my mom this in text messages before it happened. I applied for custody, they gave her temp custody and me no visitation even though I pay the rent and I have a drivers license. She doesn’t have either. I’ve never been arrested before. I spent the last two nights in jail. I cried for my kids. They failed to serve her the order stating she cannot leave the state in time, so now she’s gone with my kids. I miss them. I’m an 8 year army vet. I miss my babies. I would never do this to her.
I’m glad I watched this. I haven’t seen or talked to my kids in almost three years! I’ve tried seeing my kids tried helping him buying school clothes. He didn’t even let me know where they lived! I wanted to do it the right way without getting the court involved. I wanted the kids to live with me and I knew that they would ask me if I could financially take care of them and I did have a job but I didn’t make enough to support them. I left him because he was physically abusive to me and would hit me in front of my kids while they cried and said stop…. He is a good dad to them and I left them with him because I had no job and they were still in school. I’m doing a parenting plan at the moment I still have to finish it.
I truly appreciate your insight & conviction in the importance of "active participation/ parenting ". I'm from Cali. Nevertheless am grateful to have found your channel. #morepowertoyou 🦸♀️💙🙏🏻
Sis I love this. I'm going through this situation myself unfortunately... I've tried for the past 4.5 yrs w my ex and after several shady attempts I'm over it. Lord willing we'll be awarded full custody
I understand all of this and amazing advice. The mom has violated each of these arguments. I follow everything by the books and even the mediator has noted that they don’t see why I don’t deserve 50/50 physical custody. I’ve been fighting for this fair percentage for years now. Why is it that my judge still doesn’t want to grant me my 50/50 physical custody request???? Am I doing something wrong or is my judge being bias???
I agree with everything except the last part. My son's ex has moved the kids 6 times to different day cares now she has moved them twice out of state. It's against the law for a school to give out information over the phone. We faxed ID's and birth certs, custody papers and the school still wouldn't tell us if the kids were there. It's an 1,100 mile drive one way. She has fought every attempt for him to be a part of the kids lives, She has told the kids horrible lies about him and his family ( me), She has made false allegations to the court, CPS, the police, Doctors, counselors, therapists, friends and co-workers. The person who is not telling the truth seems to be rewarded in court. If she can't be served she can't be held accountable.
Great advice. I wish the ex wife would watch this video. It would be great if you would do a video on parental alienation and what to do when court ordered parenting plan is violated time after time
You can file petition to enforce the court order...or for contempt of court...or for primary custody, if she can't adhere to order and respect your parenting time. The exact steps depend on your state law.
so I’m a child and my mother has custody of me apparently. And my dad tries to come in my life and my mom says no when he asks. I’ve recently saw my dad and we talked about it and I’m positive I want to live with him. my mom doesn’t let my father see me and uses the excuse that “ we’re busy “ because he got a new girlfriend and she got more strict. And she tries to make me call her husband dad. She tells me that he doesn’t want me and he doesn’t love me. Do you think the judge would give my dad custody of me?
@@jayboi7565 no it's not that easy in NJ. Dad has to file and spend 5,000 on a lawyer first then a judge will do a assessment to see if the child's not being coached by either parent. In NJ there is no Pacific age limit when you can ask. This court system in NJ is a Joke and I am sure GA the same. I sorry for the kid that asking to be with her father but the chances are are slim to none that's going to Happen, I am sorry but it's true your better hanging in and move in with your dad when your 18 years old. The court system does not care if they did there would be more laws enforced than they are. Good luck to all of you hang in there.
I disagree with the part of the children not calling other people mom/dad. I have been in my fiancé’s children’s lives more than their actual mom I feed them go shopping for them take them to the park while she drank and drove with them, did drive around them, let random men with weapons around them and never bathed or clothed them. In this instance I think it’s warranted considering I’ve been more of a mom. Also they started calling me that on their own no one coerced them
Hi, All your videos are so helpful, Can you make some videos on this topics:1. Can sole legal custody and/or primary physical be awarded if Parents A, B share custody and Parent A is active in day to day in child's life and Parent B is not. If parent doesn't child to attend school activities during their time, will that play a role as well? 2. Can there be change in custody because if Parent A Co-parents and Parent B Parallel parents during share custody and the Parent B doesn't communicate properly or shows any interest in communication and refuses to attend Co-parenting together.3.Can custody be awarded if child attends school walking distant from Parent A and Parent B lives 25 minutes away, and Parent B has not been involved in child's school activities, conferences throughout the year and blames distance for not attending. Also Parent B doesn't drop off or picks up child to school , stepparent does all the time or occasionally Parent A4. Can a Parent A lose custody if they try to take child's out of school during Parent's B custodial time, because Parent A wanted child to attend a school that went against their school agreement.5. Can Parent A have a sole decision on baptism if Parent B doesn't practice religion but still refuses to baptism.6. Can custody be awarded to Parent A if Parent B doesn't make reasonable decisions about child's future or doesn't try to be involved in making decision on child's future because they are always too busy, but still refuses anything Parent A proposes.7.Can Parent A get primary custody if Parent B doesn't spend their custodial time with child at all because of working late on weekdays8. Can Parent A get custody if Parent B suffers mental illness( depression, borderline personality disorders, bipolar etc...)and even though Parent B is not on treatment or going through a crisis the mental illness still might be affecting decision making or being impulsive when upset and/ or uses marijuana(not medically ) to self medicate in a state where marijuana laws haven't kicked in yet.
My child’s father wasn’t involved. Didn’t want to be in my sons life for 2.5 years. My boyfriend has raised him since he was born and his first word at 6 months old was dada. He knows my boyfriend as dad and did it on his own. 2.5 years old his bio showed false desire to be in his life and is demanding he calls him dad and my son refuses to.
I understand this can be hard, but if his actions have changed and he's showing that he wants to be a Father, give him a chance to be. I think it's great that your boyfriend has stepped in to be a Father figure, but the Judges here in Georgia frown upon children calling someone other than the Father "father" when there is a father. Again, I completely understand your position.
@@TerriHerronLaw I agreed with everything except for this point. I do believe a child should know who they come from, but anybody can be a biological father . Top be called, "Dad", is an earned title. If a woman's husband (and I say husband, NOT boyfriend) becomes the one filling that "Dad" role because bio dad doesn't want to, then that's bio dad's decision and that will be something he will have to deal with the rest of his life (this goes for both sides). Any state can frown upon that all they want, but it depends on the relationship in household. No state can control that.
@@ericmalone4032 I totally agree with you! The five mistakes are based on child custody cases. So, this video would cover Dads who are trying to be part of the child's life. If bio dad has abandoned his interest, then so be it and let step dad step in and be called dad, but if there's an active dad, I think it's disrespectful for someone else like mom's boyfriend or even husband to be called dad, but only if bio dad has abandoned his opportunity. That's such a special title to me! Thanks for your comment. I love to see things from different perspectives and especially from the viewer's perspective.
@@TerriHerronLaw I do believe that a child should acknowledge the active bio dad as father no matter what, as long he is active for sure. And step father should respect that. But in the end it depends on the relationships. Ultimately it's the child's decision, within reason of course. Thank you for replying to my comment. I loved your response and also appreciated the respect in a different opinion. Thank you
Lol are you stupid? So just because your little boy toy helped for 3 years the biological father loses all rights to his own child? The real "DADA" has arrived now and you will have a little pep tslk to your bf telling him his real dad is here.
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jessknotty that is something you can bring up, but depending on the situation the Judge may give it little weight. If the person was arrested 7 years ago on a charge that has nothing to do with the child being harmed it would likely not carry weight. Also, when it comes to temporary protective orders, they can be granted for one of the parties but not the child of the parent feels likes the child has not been harmed or threatened. There are a number if scenarios that can go both ways.
Terri Herron Law if it has nothing to do with the child but the dad would it really affect the chances of me winning? I’ve had full care of my daughter this whole time and her dad hasn’t bothered nor pitched in to care for her even he has an attorney and I’m surprised he’s not trying in that matter. I originally just asked for child support he went in months later filing for custody.
My niece has been through hell for almost 12 years. Dad hates mom and is spiteful towards her with every movement that he takes with his child. Now the child is hurting and doesn't want anything to do with dad. Its heartbreaking to see the pain this child goes through. He is told he is a kid his feelings don't matter. He is told he is the way he is because of mom. Mom pays for everything. And you are so correct. The children will always see the truth of who their parents are and which parent takes care of them.
absolutely fantastic advice... I'm going to court today fighting for my twin girls that my ex partner has not let me have access to for 8 months with no reason at all!
How'd it go? My husband did this to me and I'm gearing up to do the same. He tried to file a PFS on me and it backfired pretty quick in court, the judge just so happens to also be our judge that's going to be handling our divorce/custody hearing.. it was unsubstantiated and she found out at the same hearing he was keeping her from me after a Thanksgiving visit. Never brought her home and lied saying we never agreed to a time and day and I submitted proof of 3 times we did actually agree to a time date and place. So its already left a bad taste in her mouth.
Loved everything about this except when she said not to let a child call a step-parent “dad”. I think that is 100% up to the child as to what they want to call a step parent. I understand not letting them call a new boyfriend dad but come on. I grew up in a divorced household, and my mother re-married to a man who was more active, involved and supportive in my life than my biological father. They were together for 13 years. I called him by his first name, and my brother called him dad and I see nothing wrong with that. He was a huge part of our childhood, and helped us in more ways than our actual father could. Nothing about having a step father and being able to call him dad has to be confusing as long as you communicate effectively with the child, and let him decide what they would like to call them.
I’m fighting for custody of my children in GA at the moment . I hear GA is one of the states that really tailor to the mom. Do you have any opinion on this and/or tips for a dad . Thank you !
My BM stop me from seeing my daughter Becuz of the new girlfriend.. two months went by then when I finally seen our daughter I went from daddy to daddy”my first name”. Her boyfriend was daddy “first name”. Disrespectful
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As always, I welcome well thought out comments and questions and let's be honest, this is not one. If you're new to our channel, please review our website and other videos to understand why we mainly speak to the fathers. In the State of Georgia, if a child is born out of wedlock, the Father has no legal rights and no custody rights. Therefore, most of the experiences from our firm is from the father's perspective and we also give moms' perspectives as well. When you understand the video in the proper context, you understand why we address certain things the way we do. Also, some of the tips reference and apply to both parents. That being said, you've obviously not seen our brand video to hear my story and why I fight for fathers. I would encourage you to watch that. Lastly, there are plenty of videos that address what you need in youtube world. I would advise that you find your tribe and let them impart in you, because if this video doesn't answer your question or fit your spirit, don't waste your time. Quickly find your tribe and best of luck to you in finding the answers you definitely need right now. These videos are not consults, if you have specific facts, just pick up the phone and request a consultation with one of our top Atlanta child custody Attorneys or ask your question in the comments so that I can make a video addressing your concern. Sounds simple right? It really is that simple. Freedom to choose is an awesome thing. Try it!
@@TerriHerronLaw I was not trying to be disrespectful, just an observation. I do find your states parental status situation interesting. My comment was meant to highlight the fact that you were infact probably more likley to provide legal consul/aid to men as they are... Iam not sure what they are. I have never been able to justify the idea that men are worse guardians. (Previous claim is supported by the fact that women are more likey to take custody in many states and nations.)
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I’m 12 soon 13 and I want to live with my dad,my grandparents knows,dad knows,other family and one day my siblings told my mom and she tried talking about it and I said I stay and I agreed with her because I’m scared she going to yell maybe hit and if I said I wanna live with dad she might not take it well and say bad things about him even though she’s wrong and plus she always talks bad about him and it hurts I cry every time and I can’t stand it so I need help to know how to move with my dad without having me and my mom having a conversation about it
Cops can't physically get you out of the house so sneak to your dads and case closed your mom can't do anything by force. And she wouldn't be able to go inside your dads house to get you.
My ex has been popping in and out of my life using the child as a weapon to tease and hurt me. The last time she tried to pull this trick i said "im not intrested in being involved unless the dr knows who I am the school and teachers know who I am and we work towards me the father getting my rights". She ended up deciding to not support that so I filed for a dna test.
I was wrong she was actually doing me a favor keeping him out of my life till now he has autism and has been very supportive of me being in his life now and has been a very supportive friend in my life. There’s a lot I didn’t know because we both cut ties and I’m happy to have both of them in my life.
My name is Christopher Cruz and I watch your RUclips channel which I have enjoyed and collected a lot of information regarding family law. I want to share my situation with you and your community and get your professional advice. About 15 years ago I separated from my partner due to our differences leaving my daughter five years old. She kicked me out of her parent’s house and said she didn’t love me anymore. I beg her not to make that decision but was unsuccessful. As soon as I walked out that moment, I had made up my mind not to return and regardless of the outcome, I was going to start a new life. Know, that this decision was made after seeking counseling, we were going nowhere. 3 months later we both find out that she was pregnant and that I was the father. She used that situation to let me know that she wanted to start all over again, but I was completely done with her and was not having it. I didn’t have any feelings for her anymore. Our relationship was very toxic, and it was getting very dangerous, I was already losing control and the last thing I wanted to do was to put my hand on her. We tried to keep it out of court and tried to have an agreement, but as soon I got with another woman all of that went out the window. There was no written agreement between me and her. She started to use the children like pawns, for example, if I didn’t give her money for child support, she was not going to let me see my children. Everything went down the hill when I lost my job and was not able to provide child support payments. I couldn’t take or see my daughter for a long time, almost 5 months until I decided to take her to court. I submitted all the paperwork and filed it. Skipping all that trial at the end the court removed the child support because I was on food stamps and cash assistance. We had 50/50 custody, share vacation, holidays, and alternate birthdays. She was furious that the Judge had ordered the child support removal. 15 years later, now married and she too. My daughter now 19 years old has moved in with me and going to a community college. My son at 15 years old still lives with her. At times she tries to control my daughter and make her feel guilty that she decided to move in with me. Still, till now I haven’t paid child support, but I have helped her with what my son needs. My daughter moved in with me, I pay for full medical for both and living expenses for my daughter as car payments, insurance, cell phone, and dental, and give her 200 dollars for her personal needs as long she goes to college. The problem that I’m having is with my son. I haven’t been able to do the same for him. But whenever he needs something, we split it in half or she pays for it or I do, just depends on the situation. I now have a total of 5 kids, 3 with my current wife of 14 years and 2 with my previous, we never married. She lives in downtown LA, and I live in the high desert area, about 1hr, and 45minutes from LA. Due to the travel and time management, I don’t see my boy that often, I pick him up when I can or when he is not busy with sports. But it’s a constant problem with her that I don’t spend the time enough or she says that I don’t love him the same as my daughter. So, it gets me angry, and we get into it again and again. Now recently my boy is graduating from JR high and wants me to be there, on the other hand, she doesn’t want to see me and that I don’t have the right to be there. Because I haven’t provided for him as much. She tells him that I don’t love him and to see the difference in how I treat my daughter and him. She tries to manipulate him into hating me because she doesn’t want him to leave her as my daughter did. When my daughter was younger, she had set the responsibility of taking care of his brother. My daughter was molested by a family friend, on her mother’s side and had to seek counseling. Also dealing with the situation in her mother’s marriage which also has problems. She moved in with me. My daughter already knows how manipulated her mom is, she does not hold back and tell her how she feels. Only that mom accuses her that she prefers me over her and that she messed things up by moving in with me. After talking to mom, I stated that it was not fair to my daughter and son that she puts them in a situation where they must choose between us both. It was not fair to them and the only thing it causes is more hurt and trauma. She said that she was going to fight in court over my son and for the back pay of child support, even though the court decided 14 years ago. My question to you is, is this possible? What can happen and what should I do to prepare? my son convinced her that he wanted me there at his graduation and that he wanted to spend his vacation with me. She was not happy but, in the end, she agreed. My wife says that I don’t bash their mom or express hate comments to my kids, and they know that I’m not a bad father. That’s why regardless of how she feels toward me the kids still look for me. I have crazy hate text messages from her, would I be able to use this in court? If we ever had to go back. What are your comments? Thank you for your time and if you post a video let me know. Sincerely, Christopher Cruz Ccruz40@avc.edu
Ms Herron I can not overstand keeping the child away from me for 10 years thn sueing me for child support. Disparaging me with scripted phone calls made by the child. I appreciate your video. Personally I do not believe in the system. It does nothing for the family structure. It also allows women to be as vindictive as they want to be.
Great tips! The whole system needs to be updated I have some good great ideas that will help if they were implemented reach out and I'll share I'm no longer in the system but i pray for those who are.
I agree with everything except the last part. My son's ex has moved the kids 6 times to different day cares now she has moved them twice out of state. It's against the law for a school to give out information over the phone. We faxed ID's and birth certs, custody papers and the school still wouldn't tell us if the kids were there. It's an 1,100 mile drive one way. She has fought every attempt for him to be a part of the kids lives, She has told the kids horrible lies about him and his family ( me), She has made false allegations to the court, CPS, the police, Doctors, counselors, therapists, friends and co-workers. The person who is not telling the truth seems to be rewarded in court.
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Number 4, I never forced my kids to call their step mom, "mom". It took about 3 to 4 years of marriage and having a baby together for 1 of the kids to call her mom on their own, of their own decision. My ex damn near forced the kids to call her new husband dad. They still him Roger almost 9 years later. It's the children's choice.
Thank you for the vote of confidence. I’m doing exactly what I enjoy doing and if I wanted to be a Congresswoman or Lobbyist I would do so, but that’s not my calling! Also, I'm not sure if you're aware that an Attorney's job is to give advice. If you are not looking for advice, you're on the wrong page! Head over to a child lobbyist page because I believe you have the professions mixed up. Since your comment comes with such passion, I would advise you to be the change that you would like to see in the world by becoming a lobbyist or Congressman! Lastly, be sure that you are not exhibiting any of the negative behaviors in your co-parenting.
Been the sole provider in all areas for the last 8 months. Going for primary physical custody, pray for me. Update: 1 year later, back in court.
Good luck. I hope it went well.
@Gemma Dann no they dont usually, unfortunately it seems to be happening more and more, why do you think that is ?
You be okay I’m about to go threw the same thing man
It’s hard when your mate controlling
Any update?
This is pretty much my life. Finally got her served with the papers I can’t wait until I finally get some rights to my son.
Update:
Got the response, she only wants to give me two days basically while she's at work from 7:30-4:30 on tuesday and wednesday. No overnights not fair at all. Pretty much just babysitting him
We have a Court date on March 2 im preparing for
submitted my financial disclosure and completed the COPE class required by the courts today.
Update 2: went to zoom court and judge ordered 3 days a week visitation. The judge was cool and I finally had my first full day with my son.
You need custody, go for the throat. If you settle somewhere in the middle she will make your life hell.
@@5thhorseman982 thanks. Yeah I kinda got screwed cuz when I moved out I only ever got to see my son by going over to her house and playing with him for a few hours at a time. Never able to take him anywhere
@@justinthematrix don't settle for this nonsense.
howd it go?
@@justinthematrix You have to stress that:
-She's not allowing parenting time which is abusive towards the child
-She cannot work with you on an equal footing and will not see you as an equal parent (won't inform, communicate etc.) Not putting the kid first.
She's not looking out for the kid.
With someone like that you will have to request Orders in writing and have them enforceable. It's going to be a while before things are made right. Pack your patients. It's a slow game.
My mother is a narcissist, she’s been emotionally abusing me for 15 years and me and my father are finally putting our foot down. I’ve started studying (very basic) law, gathering witnesses and evidence, I’m nervous but I think we can pull it off. Thank you for the tips and wish us luck
Wishing you luck bro. Im in almost the exact same spot as you. Like my mother is a narcissist and emotionally abused me ever since July 2020. In november 2020, my life was at its worst time ever and it still is continuing today against me.
basically go to court, tell the judge how shes hurt you and your dad needs to bolster the claims. 3 more years and you get freedom from her for good hopefully sooner than that.
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Same but my dad has did this to me
That’s how you do it! You study the law! You stand up and YOU DO IT! I’m doing it too and I’m a pit bull. The law is for me for sure but for right reasons only!
Wow! Thanks. I have watched dozens of videos on custody. This one is by far the best. Straight forward. Concise. Best advice I've heard since working on custody dispute so far. BTW, I'm a single dad and had sole legal and physical custody for 8 years. I hope to keep it going. I'm grateful for every day that I have with my kids. Good luck to all.....especially, your kids.
Thank you!! Enjoy those children and the holidays!!
@Gemma Dann same for either parent should be equal for both parents as kids deserve too have both mum/dad in there life no matter what's gone on between the parents as long as kids are safe to have that bond with both & not court in the middle
@Gemma Dann no idea but sounds like alot hatred towards the mum which I also have towards my ex but wouldn't keep kids from her unless wasnt safe as it's there right too have both parents around just a very sad situation for them too see & they figure it out themselves but feel they after go with the parent that they live with no matter what is said I no I'll never be that happy without mine that's for sure as it's what I've always wanted along with a family & I find it so difficult too trust even more so now
@Gemma Dann yeah it's a very sad too happen & not only ruins kids childhood but there future adult life as well believe me I no as my parents split when I was about 8 & wasnt the same afterwards as my dad just gave up after a few yrs & although i see him now sometimes it's not like it should be & won't ever be either as I've tried & now this also I was very badly bullied at school sometimes I use too think what did I do too deserve all this drama but it's kinda made me a much stronger person
@Gemma Dann I think the same thing
Also, if you have an alcohol, drug, or mental health issue, do whatever it takes to address it and get help instead of trying to pretend it’s not an issue. Denial like that doesn’t work.
Absolutely! Judges are about fostering the parent child relationship. If parents want to be parents we ask the Judge to allow for some kind of reunification plan.
@@TerriHerronLaw I'm in this boat now. I have been away from my son due to mental health issues and being in many hospitals getting help. His father does not believe in mental illness nor does he understand it. And he and his family is always bad talking about me, they throw my gifts away and they do not let me see him or talk to him.
@@ilovejesuschrist992 I'm going through the same thing.
@@ilovejesuschrist992 thnx for sharing your point of view. Helpful to gain patience & understanding . Stay strong. With Determination I know you can overcome this
My husband refuses to believe his bipolar is a problem and refuses to get help. It’s a big reason we’re looking at divorce in the first place.
She keeps them from me and now that i sent in papers for contemt now im geting somewhere i have learning disability but now im fighting
Interesting. My child's dad meets all of these criteria. Haven't seen my daughter in three months. When he took her from me the first time for a month, I got her back and she was asking me "where mom??" he then came over for a visit and hopped out of my bedroom window with her. I ask to see her daily, or even for a picture and he won't give me any of it. Thankfully yesterday I was able to get an address of where he is to have him served. This made me feel a lot better. I know I'm doing everything right. He wasn't an active part of her life until I moved to the city he lives in in order for him to be in her day to day life. Ended up biting me in the ass but I had to be able to say that I tried.
Have you gotten her back yet?
Wow I am almost in the exact same situation. How did everything turn out for you?
@@MsPenny05 Yes I got her back.
@@raboc7702 I got her back after 5 months. At the temporary custody hearing, (via zoom) Ex mentioned a "suicide attempt" that happened years ago while I was suffering from Post Partum Depression. I have not ever made an attempt since. So the judge started yelling at him asking when all of this happened and if it was recent and he could not answer with the truth. The judge then told him to be quiet and asked me to clarify what's been going on and to address what my Ex was talking about. So, as it turned out, my mic had me speaking in slow motion. Judge then has Ex speaking for me in court because for some reason, my Ex could hear me but the judge could not make out what I was saying. Judge then ultimately granted Ex full temporary custody because of my issues with my mic and him having no idea what was really going on. Fast forward several more months, we went back to court and I was able to explain everything. Judge granted 50/50. My ex did not get in trouble for withholding or any abuse done to me during and after pregnancy. Despite me showing documented proof of his abuse towards me, the judge pretty much said we're too poor to go to trial and granted 50/50 custody in April. "Co-parenting" has been a nightmare. Almost immediately after the decree was signed, Ex got locked up twice. Once for a misdemeanor Domestic Violence Simple Intimidation and then again shortly after his release, for Felony Domestic Violence by Strangulation and again for first degree kidnapping of his girlfriend (the felonies were dismissed). Mind you, our three year old was in his care during both arrests and has witnessed him be abusive to the girl. Now CPS is involved and are telling me to withhold or I will get in trouble for Failure to Protect while my court order still says 50/50. I have tried to take him back to court but he to this day will not provide me an address (he was homeless/jobless upon his release from jail) So I am going the long route and trying to take the necessary steps to have him served again to Modify custody. I've done a 15 min session with the courts lawyer through the ask a lawyer program and pretty much laid out what's been going on mainly because I am paranoid about losing custody for technically breaking a court order and she too has told me to withhold. So that's where I'm at rn. Have daughter 100% of the time, have zero help with childcare and still trapped in this city. I would still like to move back to where I have actual family support.
@@freakishlypeculiar Sending love to you girl, keep fighting for that better life you imagine! It is so heart breaking to hear he had the nerve to take your child like that. You are not the crazy one. Its okay to be scared but your vision of how you want the future to turn out is important to keep you motivated 🥰🥰🥰 Peace and Love girl 😇
Absolutely! My parents have been divorced for 20 years and when they were married, they were constantly arguing and fighting. People got involved when they weren’t supposed to and it was so toxic for me and my brother. For years, I realize that them getting divorced was probably the best thing to happen because we knew that they can’t be together! As a child dealing with that, I felt the pain and I learned from it and hope to not ever repeat it! Hurting kids from a toxic relationship isn’t fun. I experienced it first hand. This came to me at the right time in my life. Your recommendation ring so true. Thank you USESPY
Love this lady. She just made me feel better. My childs mother has been preventing me from seeing my child for 35 days now. I filed affidavits for contempt of court after 2 weeks. Thank you Miss.
Yo how did it go for you I'm in the same boat
@@kevinwallance4514 The courts and childrens attorney are trying to protect her. They actually warned her to work out something with me to drop the contempt of court because she can go to jail. I asked her for more time with my child to drop case. She refused. Now we have court next month. She's not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
@@MrCoughupalung These Mothers Out Here Are Ridiculous. I Jus Got My 50/50 With My Daughters And Their Mom Told The Judge That I Can Sign Them From Their After School Program. Then She Tells The After School Program To Don't Allow Me To Sign My Daughters Out. Bro! It's Getting To The Point Where Im Jus Gonna Hire An Attorney Cause It's Getting Ridiculous.
@@CarlosGonzalez-qd6fh Damn, bro. sorry to hear that. File a contempt of court order. It's easy. You can do it for self. Save your money. Just leave emotions out of the court room. I'm in the process of never paying child support again.....LEGALLY! In court right now.
@@MrCoughupalung Wowww Thats Good I'm Still Paying Child Support. Smh But My Daughters Witnessed Everything That Happened On Friday When I'm Supposed To Get Them For My Weekend. I'm Jus Tired Of Her Drama And My Daughters Are Sick Of Her Shit Too.
This made me feel better about my coming case with my 10yr old daughter. I can’t afford a lawyer but I’ve had her enrolled in school until 2nd grade when mother transferred her, she’s failing now & mom is alienating me. She has an attorney so I’m glad I viewed this.
How’d it go?
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Terri, your video is a breath of fresh air in a horrible time in my life. I can't tell you how many mistakes I am seeing from the other party in my court case. It's amazing. You are spot on with this list.
Been at it for years without an attorney and I have gained much respect for the task a lawyer has. It is a stressful process when you don’t have an attorney. My only hope is that the courts understand that I have been filing documents for years and fighting to have more time with our children. I pray for the parents that fight to be a part of their children’s life. I see why most parents don’t want to deal with the stress of not knowing how to fight this battle in court. Most parents just leave and abandon the whole situation because it can become unbearable. Till this day I fight and will continue to do so until I am given sufficient time to be a significant part of our children’s life. I encourage parents to be as cordial as possible when in these types of battles and find a way to get along for the children’s sake. May God intervene and help families in distress.
Thank you for helping families
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My son is just starting to go through this. It's only been a few weeks and the mother already has his kids calling another man, her boyfriend daddy. It's sickening. Good luck to all fathers fighting for their rights to be a daddy. Hang in there, your kids need you! 🙏
Going through the same thing. Disgusting. How is it going?
The disrespect ! I pray he comes out of it on the other end
In my case he goes MIA for months on his daughter but Constantly Texts me that he misses me etc. Then when a new girl comes around he wants to make himself look like the good dad and ask for my daughter I never kept my daughter from him I’ll let him see her when he wants every 3 to 4 months 🤦🏻♀️ and when my daughter goes over he’s sleeping because he’s hungover 🤦🏻♀️ i’ve been dealing with this for over 11 years I’m finally going to court for this .
wish me luck 😭
All I wanted was my daughter to have her dad in her life.
Y do you keep saying my daughter? Didn’t y’all both play a part in making her?
@@RicardoCray Just because you’re a sorry donor, doesn’t make you an actual parent. You need to act like a parent
@@thelovelylife7451 I agree but you (not saying you) chose that “sorry donor” accountable much?
I respect you for that as a women
Me as well I am so 🥱 tired
Disparaging the other parent is absolutely terrible. For some reason, some parents think it makes them feel better that they can insult the other parent to the child. But I have only seen it back fire, where the child gets angry at the insulting parent because they are insulting their other parent.
Child custody/child custody battles - very sad when parents 'fight to get possession' of their children. Children are NOT inanimate objects - they are human beings who share the DNA of both parents. Doesn't matter what the parents think of each other - their children will want to have a relationship with each parent. If you're honest, you'll acknowledge the damage, confusion and devastation that you cause your children when you try to prove that you are the better parent. The only winners are the lawyers...put your differences aside and do what is best for your children. Time goes by so quickly...if you're jerks when the kids are young, then they will cut ties with both of you as soon as they can. 😐
Great video! The judges don’t have time for bickering and false allegations. I had a custody battle during my divorce to determine child support. I had my Dr sign a document saying I was unable to work at that time for an illness and my x husband’s attorney tried to rebuttal that with “Do you walk your dog???”
I guess he thought I was going to say of course I do!” But I really didn’t walk my dog because she was a 120 pound Mastiff. But I’m glad I saw where he was going with that. Very smart to be prepared! Have everything in writing! Dad’s.... get a report card, school photos, hand outs from their Christmas concerts, photos of baseball or ballet recitals, dates, times definitely years! Make it easy for the judge! Save the jealousy , false allegations and your x paying for his new girlfriend’s boob job! Please,,,, talk to your friends about that over a coffee! Not in the courtroom!
Thank you. I have been cut from my childrens lives and fighting for 2 years based on lies and crocodile tears. I never quit. Now there is a parenting plan that says i basicly am no part of the children's lives. I have had a attorney and fighting the entire time. My ex showed she has broken all of your tips, and hope the judge sees now the truth.
Update us on what happened!!
Keep fighting for your children no matter what!!🙂
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I really respect everything you say
Am going thru the same things RN
Actually today is my trial.
Thanks 🙏 for the tips MS. Terry ✊ 👩⚖️
What hap at trial
What if he doesn't tell me or allow me to be an active parent. In other words I ask about her doctors appointments and school but he gives me the run around..
Amazing video I’m a guy going through full custody battle and this is such a helpful video thank you so much
Hey! You may want to take a look at my channel. I have some tips on how you can increase likelihood of getting the results you want.
Glad it helped!
One of the best videos I’ve seen. Explained extremely simple for the common person like me.
This video was great! I've been watching quite a few of these sorta of videos to help me friend with a case and this was by far the best one!
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Girl, you are the Bee's Knees! Thanks for a short, sweet and to the point video. Love getting right to the meat of the matter without 12 minutes of fluff chatter. You just got a new subscriber
You are so welcome!
Btw, my son's ex gf is doing the first 4 things on this list. He hasn't seen his daughter since April 5th, when mom made false allegations of child sexual abuse that were unfounded by DCFS, because he didn't even HAVE his child that weekend. 🤦♂️ The bad thing is, his attorney is literally doing nothing to help him other than showing up at court and forwarding mail from opposing party. He has appointment with new attorney in 4 days. Wish us luck!
If you lived in Illinois, we'd hire you! 💜
This video help me a lot. My story is so sad, because i met my daughter when she was 5, because the mother had put a retraining order on me, when I was 17 and she was 15. Over the 13 years my daughters Mom and her aunt and her grandmother been putting me thru the most stress.
I love my daughter I never harm her, I went to parent class that the courts send me to. I even had got full custody at one point, and I kept my daughters family around, I would never keep her away from her family. In July 2021 I let her spend time with her family and I never seen her again. They said she went to the police and lied I hit her. I never hit. Even writing this to you is making me so depressed. Yes They are even saying I touch my daughter witch is not true. They called Child protection service on and even DHS. Now they have a temporary order on trying to keep me away from my daughter. I miss my daughter: I wish this wasn’t like this. I even gave my rights up because I’m tired of fighting it’s to much I just lost my mom last year, it’s to much. The story even went viral. The aunt post it on fb of my daughter crying, I got death threats and everything, it’s to much. I can’t even afford a lawyer so I’m going to court alone on 1-11-2022
Wow. just came across this video today 11/25/21 and loved the notes Terri - thank you. Always hard paying attention to the words a beautiful woman speaks - when she is beautiful and is speaking - always easier to just look at her talk. Beautiful Terri! hard to keep my eyes off those lips, :-). thanks for sharing those valuable tips.
Yes indeed I love you miss ! Thank you frfr ! It’s been a crazy journey
Sometimes us real fathers just get tired and frustrated when it comes to spending more money out of our pockets when more money is coming out of our pockets everyday illegally
This is very true.
I’m 16 years old and right now my mom has custody of me, but I want to live with my dad. I haven’t told her yet, but I’ve told my dad. I really want to live with my dad and he’s a good man, good job, good education, and has great manners. My mom I’d say is very spiteful and childish, she always forces me to take her side even though she’s wrong most of the time. One time she even slapped me because I didn’t take her side. At her house, there’s always someone yelling whether it be my mom or my older sister. It’s very frustrating living with my mom. My dad makes more money than my mom so the child support I guess helps her. Would the judge allow me to live with my dad if I want to? Is there a way to do this as fast as possible like just going to the courtroom and telling the judge I want to live with my dad?
Call cops and report your mother for domestic abuse slapping is domestic assault be prepared to send your mother to jail but if she slapped you she deserves it...
At 16, you are luckily old enough to have a few choices legally!
Some of your choices are dependent upon the State you live in, but the first thing you can try is to ASK your Dad to petition the court for full custody of you. Without this, nothing will change (legally). It's the appropriate jumping off point, because the two of you will need to strategize together to make this transition successful.
You can call the courthouse yourself (family court division) and ask for a 'guardian ad litem'. This is a person dedicated to YOUR best interest. They aren't on your Dad's or Mom's side or paid by either one of them! They are just for you and given by a judges in situations like yours where an agreement can't be reached between the parents. They exist to protect YOU.
Another way you can go is to petition the court yourself to become legally emancipated. Emancipation means you are no longer legally controlled by your parents, but YOU now make the adult decisions that affect your life.
I believe there are other legal choices too, but I think I gave you a good start here....do your research and and make a phone call to your courthouse ASAP.
Keep in mind that each of these choices brings a set of legal requirements you will be responsible for. It will take time, especially in this pandemic. Also, there's bound to be some hurt feelings. You need to be ready for that and NOT REACT in any way that could jeopardize the courts ability to see you as an adult. You are going to have to be strong and smart.
I wish you well. It can't be easy in your situation, but you aren't without resources. Standing up for yourself and your rights and desires doesn't make you a bad daughter or love your parents any less. It just makes you a strong woman and ultimately, that should be any parents goal: a strong daughter that knows her worth, advocates for herself and sets healthy boundaries!
We can't always get what we need from our parents. But nothing is stopping us from getting what we need for ourselves! Good luck. 🙂
Depends on the state you live in whether slapping is abuse or a legal form of punishment that will decide if mom can or cannot get in trouble legally for a slap i don’t know the entire situation either and children shouldn’t be involved in adult matters anyways so parents on both sides shouldn’t be a talking to their child about their adult issues it sucks that kids even have to worry about this stuff
I am in the same situation I want to live at my dads so bad
@@lf3541 what about 14?
Thank you! Very helpful and Encouraging.
The best summary of all the tips and secrets to a healthy and lasting relationship that make sense I can't but agree with every single tip and although people often know these tips, it's always good to be reminded of them. Thank you USESPY and I love you! You're very inspiring !!
The best explanation video - I ever seeing!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH❤️
Thank u just this video is of great help and all of the above are things I’m going through with my ex I’m from NJ done all the right things without one mishap and it seems like no one really wants to help my children are the ones suffering. Thanks for your wisdom
Love this video. This is such a great aspect of everything that's happened in my life for almost a year now
I hope you were able to get through it victoriously. We have to learn how to just coparent. Love for the children should be the foundation, but I know it's not a lot of times.
I didn't hire an attorney because I can't afford $300 an hr for one
My brother bby momma did all this and played victim. My brother was already sharing custody and the mom wanted to move 40hr away. The guy she didn't even know the dude for a year. Judge let her leave idk how she got caught lying multiple times. 5 years later they still dislike the guy and hate where they are no family support. My brother had no reason for the kids to be taken frim him. Im just lost how they got away with this.
Thank you ma’am I really appreciate your advice. Blessings to you.
The guests keep getting bigger and better. The spywares are real cool, smart dudes. Congrats on everything,USESPY!
I live in the state of Texas and I just recently filed for joint custody because I be having my daughter half the time. My normal days are Monday through Thursday and she has my daughter Friday through Monday morning. She hasn't let me see my daughter in two weeks, she got upset with me for 2 reasons because recently things went sour on my job that I had been on for 6 years and I asked her could she go on half with me to pay her auntie for keeping our daughter every week and she refused. So on my days to have her I took my daughter to my mother whom lives 3 hours away to keep her while I find a job. She and her mother came and got my daughter from my mom and I haven't seen her going on 2 weeks. I called I text and I also had the police come out and do a welfare check. So I filed a petition for joint custody and her lawyer called and said I beat him filing a petition. I don't have any money for legal representation what should I do when we go to court?
Update on my case I was ordered to continue to pay daycare and mom's insurance. I have extended stay where I pick her up every other Thursday and drop her off on Monday
Excellent video.
Thank you. Let me know if you have any questions and remember we have plenty material on our website at www.terriherronlaw.com.
Great Work, USESPY. Thankfully, I have all six of your tips mastered. It's all about self-care. You made me laugh out loud when you put that shaver up to her chats. Keep up the great work.
That’s when you call an attorney, lol who has the money
Facts!!! child support takes SOOOO MUCH
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There is free legal aid for low income people in every state.
@@timmax2015 is that available for child support cases also? Because at my county they said they don’t provide attorneys for child support
@@lunanelsa4507 you have to fall in a certain income bracket to qualify and if there's one not in your county that's pretty rare because I never heard of that before I don't know what state you're in but if there's not one in your county I would go to another county if possible I never heard of a county not having some sort of legal aid for metal over class not saying that you are just saying there's a certain income level that you have to be in to qualify it should be all online
I agree with all but number 4. My son started calling my husband “dad” On his own at 5 years old. He’s almost 11 now and I’ve never pushed that on him. He came to that conclusion on his own.
This is what I can't understand..i think if the kids want to do it they should..some guys just make better Dads than the actual father.
Sure you didn't lmao. You could've corrected him instead of lying to him but you didn't because you thought it was cute and want other people to think you're kid doesn't have a step-dad
@@gabrielgalaxygh lol, ok. Have a great day. 😂
@@gabrielgalaxyghexactly
I paid child support for 21 years in NY. The first thing I told my lawyer when I moved out was keep me out of court. That's the last place you want to be. I wrote a support check each week from day 1. It took over 3 years before I was before the judge. My lawyer did a great job. By that time I had already established a track record of paying each and every week. Of course she wanted more money. The judge awarded her another $25.00 per week. Keep recipients for every dollar you spend on your child. You will need them later. Do not be in a hurry to to get before a judge. It will cost you money. Pay every week like I did. What's the hurry? All the judge sees everyday are fathers that don't pay. In your case you will have been paying from day 1. Your the good guy. Stay out of court. If the lawyer tells you different. Change lawyer's. No matter what your ex will blame you for everything. Get used to it. Your kids will be fine. That's because your paying each week. At some point she will want to remarry. Let her hire the lawyer. Whats the hurry? That costs money. I didn't divorce for 6 year's. So what! Didn't cost me a dime. Remember. Don't panic. If you get served papers. Hand them to your lawyer. He will push that court date out a long way. They can't garnish your wages without a court order. That's your lawyer's job. Don't panic. Keep paying each week. Let the time slip by. Don't be the fool that's in a hurry. Every time she calls her lawyer it costs her money. Not you. The first thing the lawyer will ask every time. Is he paying support? Of course you are. You have every receipt. He will call your lawyer and that costs her more money. She will get tired of that real quick. I love the idiot lawyer's that tell the woman that the husband's always pay the lawyers fees. I never paid a dime towards her lawyer. I didn't hire him. She did. She spent thousands and got nothing in return. That's because I paid from day 1.
So what can a judge do if you let them call a significant other mom or dad?
1.The battle keeps you employed
2 attorneys are contractors of the child support system.
3. Those are not judges.. they do not have judicial power. They are administrators
4. You agreed to be "non custodial" Pa-rent.. and wonder why they are collecting rent from you..
5. Children and mother's are unintended beneficiarys of child support..
6. Study up men to these crooks..
THANK YOU!
Good tips not just for custody, but for raising kids after a split. I was never a fan of bashing the other parent (mostly the dads in what I saw). The kids usually grow up and see that it was BS, but it took a lot from them that they’ll never get back.
Haven’t seen my son since New Year’s Eve . I tried waiting it out and reaching out but got blocked in every possible way unfortunately now I have to get into court which I never expected to take this route but I need to see my boy I can’t go any longer
stay calm bro
Question:
If the legal father has emotionally abandoned the child and is never around, then what’s wrong with the child call her stepfather her dad, especially when the child is the one who’s requested to do so?HOW is that disrespectful when her biological father hadn’t seen her in 3 years and won’t even return her phone calls? Literally, her dad has never been there and blames the military on why he’s an uninvolved father,
It’s not. You do you girl. I’m in SAME boat. That’s real love you got there. Step dads are the real real.
Rayna Maldonado Thank you! We just had our deposition questions done and it went well! Thank God.
I assume you mean interrogatories and if you haven't been advised that this is not okay then the Judge will when you get to the Final hearing. Deposition is an appearance to be deposed/asked questions. Interrogatories are questions sent to you where you send written responses. It's impossible to cover all of the many different fact patterns, but if you're in court about this now, that tells me that the biological father filed a Legitimation case (which tells me he's pursuing a relationship. There is nothing wrong with step parents, but in Georgia the Judges do not like when step parents are called mom and dad over the biological parents. No one is taking away from step parents, but this is well known with custody attorneys that this is not accepted by Judges. Best of luck to you and make sure you follow your lawyer's direction.
@@raynamaldonado6806 get it in your small brain that the step father isn't the kids dad. Open your big ass mouth and say to your kid your REAL DADS NAME IS.....my bf isn't your dad his name is blank call him that...
I agree . I am also glad someone beside me feels that way. No matter what life is hard.
That’s funny my WIFE just fled the state with my kids after getting me arrested even though she literally told me she was going to do this and told my mom this in text messages before it happened. I applied for custody, they gave her temp custody and me no visitation even though I pay the rent and I have a drivers license. She doesn’t have either. I’ve never been arrested before. I spent the last two nights in jail. I cried for my kids. They failed to serve her the order stating she cannot leave the state in time, so now she’s gone with my kids. I miss them. I’m an 8 year army vet. I miss my babies. I would never do this to her.
Stay strong a day never ket them see you cry. You got this brother! Stay in contact with your attorney and keep your nose clean.
I’m glad I watched this. I haven’t seen or talked to my kids in almost three years! I’ve tried seeing my kids tried helping him buying school clothes. He didn’t even let me know where they lived! I wanted to do it the right way without getting the court involved. I wanted the kids to live with me and I knew that they would ask me if I could financially take care of them and I did have a job but I didn’t make enough to support them. I left him because he was physically abusive to me and would hit me in front of my kids while they cried and said stop…. He is a good dad to them and I left them with him because I had no job and they were still in school. I’m doing a parenting plan at the moment I still have to finish it.
EXACTLY WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH MY HUSBAND.
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No words to describe.This is really awesome.
Thank you. I hope that this was helpful especially for those in child custody cases.
You literally nailed everything I’m currently dealing with now
I truly appreciate your insight & conviction in the importance of "active participation/ parenting ". I'm from Cali. Nevertheless am grateful to have found your channel. #morepowertoyou 🦸♀️💙🙏🏻
I have a personal question how can I talk to you for an advice ?
You just gained a new subbie! Very informative!
Thank you!
Lovely, sweet, straight and short.
Sis I love this. I'm going through this situation myself unfortunately... I've tried for the past 4.5 yrs w my ex and after several shady attempts I'm over it. Lord willing we'll be awarded full custody
I understand all of this and amazing advice. The mom has violated each of these arguments. I follow everything by the books and even the mediator has noted that they don’t see why I don’t deserve 50/50 physical custody. I’ve been fighting for this fair percentage for years now. Why is it that my judge still doesn’t want to grant me my 50/50 physical custody request???? Am I doing something wrong or is my judge being bias???
I agree with everything except the last part. My son's ex has moved the kids 6 times to different day cares now she has moved them twice out of state. It's against the law for a school to give out information over the phone. We faxed ID's and birth certs, custody papers and the school still wouldn't tell us if the kids were there. It's an 1,100 mile drive one way. She has fought every attempt for him to be a part of the kids lives, She has told the kids horrible lies about him and his family ( me), She has made false allegations to the court, CPS, the police, Doctors, counselors, therapists, friends and co-workers. The person who is not telling the truth seems to be rewarded in court. If she can't be served she can't be held accountable.
If she has moved that many times, most Judges would consider custody since she appears to be unstable.
@@TerriHerronLaw we are hoping but Tuesday the judge did another 60 day delay
Thank you sooo much.
Great advice. I wish the ex wife would watch this video. It would be great if you would do a video on parental alienation and what to do when court ordered parenting plan is violated time after time
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How did that go? I have the same situation
@@factor25davis52 what specifically?
@@thesoulclinic_ on violating the agreement
You can file petition to enforce the court order...or for contempt of court...or for primary custody, if she can't adhere to order and respect your parenting time. The exact steps depend on your state law.
so I’m a child and my mother has custody of me apparently. And my dad tries to come in my life and my mom says no when he asks. I’ve recently saw my dad and we talked about it and I’m positive I want to live with him. my mom doesn’t let my father see me and uses the excuse that “ we’re busy “ because he got a new girlfriend and she got more strict. And she tries to make me call her husband dad. She tells me that he doesn’t want me and he doesn’t love me. Do you think the judge would give my dad custody of me?
I’m pretty sure you can choose who you want to live with
@@jayboi7565 no it's not that easy in NJ. Dad has to file and spend 5,000 on a lawyer first then a judge will do a assessment to see if the child's not being coached by either parent. In NJ there is no Pacific age limit when you can ask. This court system in NJ is a Joke and I am sure GA the same. I sorry for the kid that asking to be with her father but the chances are are slim to none that's going to
Happen, I am sorry but it's true your better hanging in and move in with your dad when your 18 years old. The court system does not care if they did there would be more laws enforced than they are. Good luck to all of you hang in there.
James 87 damn I didn’t know that. I wonder if it’s the same in Texas
Hang in there kid it's going to be a long ride but one day you can be with your dad.
@@jayboi7565 not where I live :(
Excellent info!!
I disagree with the part of the children not calling other people mom/dad. I have been in my fiancé’s children’s lives more than their actual mom I feed them go shopping for them take them to the park while she drank and drove with them, did drive around them, let random men with weapons around them and never bathed or clothed them. In this instance I think it’s warranted considering I’ve been more of a mom. Also they started calling me that on their own no one coerced them
I think she means in the beginning. The first months or a year . It’s too quick.
Hi, All your videos are so helpful, Can you make some videos on this topics:1. Can sole legal custody and/or primary physical be awarded if Parents A, B share custody and Parent A is active in day to day in child's life and Parent B is not. If parent doesn't child to attend school activities during their time, will that play a role as well? 2. Can there be change in custody because if Parent A Co-parents and Parent B Parallel parents during share custody and the Parent B doesn't communicate properly or shows any interest in communication and refuses to attend Co-parenting together.3.Can custody be awarded if child attends school walking distant from Parent A and Parent B lives 25 minutes away, and Parent B has not been involved in child's school activities, conferences throughout the year and blames distance for not attending. Also Parent B doesn't drop off or picks up child to school , stepparent does all the time or occasionally Parent A4. Can a Parent A lose custody if they try to take child's out of school during Parent's B custodial time, because Parent A wanted child to attend a school that went against their school agreement.5. Can Parent A have a sole decision on baptism if Parent B doesn't practice religion but still refuses to baptism.6. Can custody be awarded to Parent A if Parent B doesn't make reasonable decisions about child's future or doesn't try to be involved in making decision on child's future because they are always too busy, but still refuses anything Parent A proposes.7.Can Parent A get primary custody if Parent B doesn't spend their custodial time with child at all because of working late on weekdays8. Can Parent A get custody if Parent B suffers mental illness( depression, borderline personality disorders, bipolar etc...)and even though Parent B is not on treatment or going through a crisis the mental illness still might be affecting decision making or being impulsive when upset and/ or uses marijuana(not medically ) to self medicate in a state where marijuana laws haven't kicked in yet.
That’s a lot, but I will try my best to get some videos done on it.
Thank you!
Thank you much for all the tips very helpful
Your smile is contagious 😷😝
Thank you!!
My child’s father wasn’t involved. Didn’t want to be in my sons life for 2.5 years. My boyfriend has raised him since he was born and his first word at 6 months old was dada. He knows my boyfriend as dad and did it on his own. 2.5 years old his bio showed false desire to be in his life and is demanding he calls him dad and my son refuses to.
I understand this can be hard, but if his actions have changed and he's showing that he wants to be a Father, give him a chance to be. I think it's great that your boyfriend has stepped in to be a Father figure, but the Judges here in Georgia frown upon children calling someone other than the Father "father" when there is a father. Again, I completely understand your position.
@@TerriHerronLaw I agreed with everything except for this point. I do believe a child should know who they come from, but anybody can be a biological father . Top be called, "Dad", is an earned title. If a woman's husband (and I say husband, NOT boyfriend) becomes the one filling that "Dad" role because bio dad doesn't want to, then that's bio dad's decision and that will be something he will have to deal with the rest of his life (this goes for both sides). Any state can frown upon that all they want, but it depends on the relationship in household. No state can control that.
@@ericmalone4032 I totally agree with you! The five mistakes are based on child custody cases. So, this video would cover Dads who are trying to be part of the child's life. If bio dad has abandoned his interest, then so be it and let step dad step in and be called dad, but if there's an active dad, I think it's disrespectful for someone else like mom's boyfriend or even husband to be called dad, but only if bio dad has abandoned his opportunity. That's such a special title to me! Thanks for your comment. I love to see things from different perspectives and especially from the viewer's perspective.
@@TerriHerronLaw I do believe that a child should acknowledge the active bio dad as father no matter what, as long he is active for sure. And step father should respect that. But in the end it depends on the relationships. Ultimately it's the child's decision, within reason of course. Thank you for replying to my comment. I loved your response and also appreciated the respect in a different opinion. Thank you
Lol are you stupid? So just because your little boy toy helped for 3 years the biological father loses all rights to his own child? The real "DADA" has arrived now and you will have a little pep tslk to your bf telling him his real dad is here.
Thank you Miss @Terri for wonderful information
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Wow..I'm really interesting.
Thank you. Check out our other videos dealing with child support, divorce and other family law matters.
What if there is a criminal background of domestic violence and there's proof, should you bring that up?
jessknotty that is something you can bring up, but depending on the situation the Judge may give it little weight. If the person was arrested 7 years ago on a charge that has nothing to do with the child being harmed it would likely not carry weight. Also, when it comes to temporary protective orders, they can be granted for one of the parties but not the child of the parent feels likes the child has not been harmed or threatened. There are a number if scenarios that can go both ways.
Terri Herron Law if it has nothing to do with the child but the dad would it really affect the chances of me winning? I’ve had full care of my daughter this whole time and her dad hasn’t bothered nor pitched in to care for her even he has an attorney and I’m surprised he’s not trying in that matter. I originally just asked for child support he went in months later filing for custody.
My niece has been through hell for almost 12 years. Dad hates mom and is spiteful towards her with every movement that he takes with his child. Now the child is hurting and doesn't want anything to do with dad. Its heartbreaking to see the pain this child goes through. He is told he is a kid his feelings don't matter. He is told he is the way he is because of mom. Mom pays for everything. And you are so correct. The children will always see the truth of who their parents are and which parent takes care of them.
absolutely fantastic advice... I'm going to court today fighting for my twin girls that my ex partner has not let me have access to for 8 months with no reason at all!
How'd it go? My husband did this to me and I'm gearing up to do the same. He tried to file a PFS on me and it backfired pretty quick in court, the judge just so happens to also be our judge that's going to be handling our divorce/custody hearing.. it was unsubstantiated and she found out at the same hearing he was keeping her from me after a Thanksgiving visit. Never brought her home and lied saying we never agreed to a time and day and I submitted proof of 3 times we did actually agree to a time date and place. So its already left a bad taste in her mouth.
When they let the other parent call them dad or mom it's truly to make the parent feel complete not the child that's very selfish!!
Loved everything about this except when she said not to let a child call a step-parent “dad”. I think that is 100% up to the child as to what they want to call a step parent. I understand not letting them call a new boyfriend dad but come on. I grew up in a divorced household, and my mother re-married to a man who was more active, involved and supportive in my life than my biological father. They were together for 13 years. I called him by his first name, and my brother called him dad and I see nothing wrong with that. He was a huge part of our childhood, and helped us in more ways than our actual father could. Nothing about having a step father and being able to call him dad has to be confusing as long as you communicate effectively with the child, and let him decide what they would like to call them.
Agree 100% with you and goes both ways
Thank you so much for this video
I’m fighting for custody of my children in GA at the moment . I hear GA is one of the states that really tailor to the mom. Do you have any opinion on this and/or tips for a dad . Thank you !
My BM stop me from seeing my daughter Becuz of the new girlfriend.. two months went by then when I finally seen our daughter I went from daddy to daddy”my first name”. Her boyfriend was daddy “first name”. Disrespectful
@B B that violates someone's privacy,bad action or not,a person's phone/device is THEIR device,breaking someone's privacy is even illegal in some countries if i recall correctly,stop advertising what probably is either malware or a scummy thing.
Yes, disrespectful, for sure. And petty.
I like how even she speaks as if the mother already has custody.
"Dads this." "Dads that."
As always, I welcome well thought out comments and questions and let's be honest, this is not one. If you're new to our channel, please review our website and other videos to understand why we mainly speak to the fathers. In the State of Georgia, if a child is born out of wedlock, the Father has no legal rights and no custody rights. Therefore, most of the experiences from our firm is from the father's perspective and we also give moms' perspectives as well. When you understand the video in the proper context, you understand why we address certain things the way we do. Also, some of the tips reference and apply to both parents. That being said, you've obviously not seen our brand video to hear my story and why I fight for fathers. I would encourage you to watch that. Lastly, there are plenty of videos that address what you need in youtube world. I would advise that you find your tribe and let them impart in you, because if this video doesn't answer your question or fit your spirit, don't waste your time. Quickly find your tribe and best of luck to you in finding the answers you definitely need right now. These videos are not consults, if you have specific facts, just pick up the phone and request a consultation with one of our top Atlanta child custody Attorneys or ask your question in the comments so that I can make a video addressing your concern. Sounds simple right? It really is that simple. Freedom to choose is an awesome thing. Try it!
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I was not trying to be disrespectful, just an observation.
I do find your states parental status situation interesting.
My comment was meant to highlight the fact that you were infact probably more likley to provide legal consul/aid to men as they are...
Iam not sure what they are. I have never been able to justify the idea that men are worse guardians.
(Previous claim is supported by the fact that women are more likey to take custody in many states and nations.)
I didn't think I could win my divorce case, but then *usespy online* swooped in like a knight in shining armor. Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise saved the day. Thank you !!
Thank you
HAHAHA! "You cannot make allegations and not substantiate them." OMG, I'm starting to wish I lived in Georgia.
I like this attorney and how she talks in this video. We need more female attorneys to give their prospective on child support and custody cases.
Or just attorneys in general...
Thank you so much, it gives me some comfort
Thank you for this video!! 😊
I’m 12 soon 13 and I want to live with my dad,my grandparents knows,dad knows,other family and one day my siblings told my mom and she tried talking about it and I said I stay and I agreed with her because I’m scared she going to yell maybe hit and if I said I wanna live with dad she might not take it well and say bad things about him even though she’s wrong and plus she always talks bad about him and it hurts I cry every time and I can’t stand it so I need help to know how to move with my dad without having me and my mom having a conversation about it
Cops can't physically get you out of the house so sneak to your dads and case closed your mom can't do anything by force. And she wouldn't be able to go inside your dads house to get you.
My ex has been popping in and out of my life using the child as a weapon to tease and hurt me. The last time she tried to pull this trick i said "im not intrested in being involved unless the dr knows who I am the school and teachers know who I am and we work towards me the father getting my rights". She ended up deciding to not support that so I filed for a dna test.
I was wrong she was actually doing me a favor keeping him out of my life till now he has autism and has been very supportive of me being in his life now and has been a very supportive friend in my life. There’s a lot I didn’t know because we both cut ties and I’m happy to have both of them in my life.
My name is Christopher Cruz and I watch your RUclips channel which I have enjoyed and collected a lot of information regarding family law. I want to share my situation with you and your community and get your professional advice.
About 15 years ago I separated from my partner due to our differences leaving my daughter five years old. She kicked me out of her parent’s house and said she didn’t love me anymore. I beg her not to make that decision but was unsuccessful. As soon as I walked out that moment, I had made up my mind not to return and regardless of the outcome, I was going to start a new life. Know, that this decision was made after seeking counseling, we were going nowhere. 3 months later we both find out that she was pregnant and that I was the father. She used that situation to let me know that she wanted to start all over again, but I was completely done with her and was not having it. I didn’t have any feelings for her anymore. Our relationship was very toxic, and it was getting very dangerous, I was already losing control and the last thing I wanted to do was to put my hand on her.
We tried to keep it out of court and tried to have an agreement, but as soon I got with another woman all of that went out the window. There was no written agreement between me and her. She started to use the children like pawns, for example, if I didn’t give her money for child support, she was not going to let me see my children. Everything went down the hill when I lost my job and was not able to provide child support payments. I couldn’t take or see my daughter for a long time, almost 5 months until I decided to take her to court. I submitted all the paperwork and filed it. Skipping all that trial at the end the court removed the child support because I was on food stamps and cash assistance. We had 50/50 custody, share vacation, holidays, and alternate birthdays. She was furious that the Judge had ordered the child support removal.
15 years later, now married and she too. My daughter now 19 years old has moved in with me and going to a community college. My son at 15 years old still lives with her. At times she tries to control my daughter and make her feel guilty that she decided to move in with me. Still, till now I haven’t paid child support, but I have helped her with what my son needs. My daughter moved in with me, I pay for full medical for both and living expenses for my daughter as car payments, insurance, cell phone, and dental, and give her 200 dollars for her personal needs as long she goes to college. The problem that I’m having is with my son. I haven’t been able to do the same for him. But whenever he needs something, we split it in half or she pays for it or I do, just depends on the situation. I now have a total of 5 kids, 3 with my current wife of 14 years and 2 with my previous, we never married.
She lives in downtown LA, and I live in the high desert area, about 1hr, and 45minutes from LA. Due to the travel and time management, I don’t see my boy that often, I pick him up when I can or when he is not busy with sports. But it’s a constant problem with her that I don’t spend the time enough or she says that I don’t love him the same as my daughter. So, it gets me angry, and we get into it again and again.
Now recently my boy is graduating from JR high and wants me to be there, on the other hand, she doesn’t want to see me and that I don’t have the right to be there. Because I haven’t provided for him as much. She tells him that I don’t love him and to see the difference in how I treat my daughter and him. She tries to manipulate him into hating me because she doesn’t want him to leave her as my daughter did. When my daughter was younger, she had set the responsibility of taking care of his brother. My daughter was molested by a family friend, on her mother’s side and had to seek counseling. Also dealing with the situation in her mother’s marriage which also has problems. She moved in with me. My daughter already knows how manipulated her mom is, she does not hold back and tell her how she feels. Only that mom accuses her that she prefers me over her and that she messed things up by moving in with me.
After talking to mom, I stated that it was not fair to my daughter and son that she puts them in a situation where they must choose between us both. It was not fair to them and the only thing it causes is more hurt and trauma. She said that she was going to fight in court over my son and for the back pay of child support, even though the court decided 14 years ago.
My question to you is, is this possible? What can happen and what should I do to prepare? my son convinced her that he wanted me there at his graduation and that he wanted to spend his vacation with me. She was not happy but, in the end, she agreed.
My wife says that I don’t bash their mom or express hate comments to my kids, and they know that I’m not a bad father. That’s why regardless of how she feels toward me the kids still look for me.
I have crazy hate text messages from her, would I be able to use this in court? If we ever had to go back.
What are your comments? Thank you for your time and if you post a video let me know.
Sincerely,
Christopher Cruz
Ccruz40@avc.edu
Ms Herron I can not overstand keeping the child away from me for 10 years thn sueing me for child support. Disparaging me with scripted phone calls made by the child.
I appreciate your video. Personally I do not believe in the system. It does nothing for the family structure. It also allows women to be as vindictive as they want to be.
Great tips! The whole system needs to be updated I have some good great ideas that will help if they were implemented reach out and I'll share I'm no longer in the system but i pray for those who are.
I agree with everything except the last part. My son's ex has moved the kids 6 times to different day cares now she has moved them twice out of state. It's against the law for a school to give out information over the phone. We faxed ID's and birth certs, custody papers and the school still wouldn't tell us if the kids were there. It's an 1,100 mile drive one way. She has fought every attempt for him to be a part of the kids lives, She has told the kids horrible lies about him and his family ( me), She has made false allegations to the court, CPS, the police, Doctors, counselors, therapists, friends and co-workers. The person who is not telling the truth seems to be rewarded in court.
@@kantwinnada its crazy.. stay strong and keep it PUSHING. The minute you lose your cool it becomes a dv case.
@@dee387nfl4 plz do share. Information is key when you dealing with the system.
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This was excellent! And very helpful
Number 4, I never forced my kids to call their step mom, "mom". It took about 3 to 4 years of marriage and having a baby together for 1 of the kids to call her mom on their own, of their own decision. My ex damn near forced the kids to call her new husband dad. They still him Roger almost 9 years later. It's the children's choice.
Instead of giving advice why dont you go to Congress and make a change since you know so much
Thank you for the vote of confidence. I’m doing exactly what I enjoy doing and if I wanted to be a Congresswoman or Lobbyist I would do so, but that’s not my calling! Also, I'm not sure if you're aware that an Attorney's job is to give advice. If you are not looking for advice, you're on the wrong page! Head over to a child lobbyist page because I believe you have the professions mixed up. Since your comment comes with such passion, I would advise you to be the change that you would like to see in the world by becoming a lobbyist or Congressman! Lastly, be sure that you are not exhibiting any of the negative behaviors in your co-parenting.
Terri Herron Law perfect 👌 response
@@TerriHerronLaw You handled that oh so professionally... Awesome Ms. Herron