First of all, on behalf of german men, let me say: thank you. It's great that you had such good experiences, but somehow I can't get rid of the nagging suspicion that you make us look a lot better than we are, over all. ;) Second, as an educated man with a great respect for women, I would say: it is a pleasure to have you here in our country.
I am glad you like it in Germany. I remember being in England on my year abroad and coming home with marks from being pinched in the butt, and then back in Germany, instead of trying that, they will step back and let you pass. And nobody wolff calling me all night in the club. Felt so weird.
Reading the comments of this video, I am coming to a (not very surprising) main conclusion: We Germans still haven't learned to cope with compliments about our "German-ness"! Even if it is understandable when regarding our history, we are still in a state of underestimating our virtues and advantages, and we are far away from feeling "patriotic". (And sadly enough - WHEN some of us feel patriotic it turns out to be sort of a rather brown patriotism which in the end is nothing but a very anxious trial of refusing the fact that the world is not a static thing, that things are changing and nothing stays as it has been in former times. No fixed frames to keep the hands on when the soil starts shaking because of panta rhei!) Sorry for being a little ironic. But I really dream of a Germany which is able to regard itself as sort of "admireable" without slipping into a far right corner by doing so.
It's so healing for me to hear this. As we still suffer from deep subconscious guilt from our past, which is fed almost every day on tv, it's awesome to hear how foreigners experience "us". Big hug. 😘
I totally agree. The Germans on a whole are worldly and respectful and the men ain’t macho, which is so nice. But I find kiwi men are pretty good too and not far behind the Germans. I live in OZ now and I find there are plenty of macho Aussie blokes, I can definitely see a difference when I go back home to NZ.
My only problem with German men is that they border on being wusses. It's one thing to be respectful of women and another thing to not stand up and help women when they are being touched and pushed around by a certain group of men. Women often have to approach the man to get them to talk to them and they act afraid of women and if you read some remarks on other channels, the German men agree with that.
I was eight weeks in New Zealand in 1990 with a friend. We traveled five weeks over the south island and the three weeks over the north island. The German Reunification was going on at this time and the "Kiwis" were very interested in this and we were asked a lot. That was very nice. I liked the most Christchurch, Coromandel and the beaches near Nelson. In Wellington our hostel was called "Beethoven". Unfortunately I've heard that Christchurch has changed not to better - through the rebuilding after the heavy earthquake. If I could I would visit New Zealand again. The hardest thing during our travel were the sandflies ;-) and one had always to have in mind the sun radiation and the ozon hole.
I was tripping around the South Island 6 months ago, and there were a lot of Germans! So I'm not surprised many know about NZ. And I was also travelling with a German lol...
I know someone who is visiting/living in New Zealand. She updates us here at home from time to time, what she does, where she lives now, which job she chose. Really interesting. I would love to go there someday
There is "Catcalling" also in Germany, but just when some guys have alcohol in their bloodstreams and/or when they are young and boisterously. A woman should not enter a tram or train when a lot of Soccer Hooligans are in it.
Then what are you to do if you're meeting a friend somewhere that is on the way to the stadium. You arrive at your stop, the platform is full of soccer fans and you realize, and, oh shit, there is a game today? Cancel the meeting and go back home? Makes no sense. You squish into the subway. The air is usually pretty thick, OK some people are a bit drunk already (vorgeglüht :-) ) but usually they have a friend who is still sober(er) and keeps them in check. I can't say anyone has every gotten really obnoxious, some are even rather sweet and goofy. This is before the game, of course, not after and maybe when their team has lost ;-)
I slapped a guys phone away once when he was taking pictures of me without asking. But I really only had those kind of bad experiences with drunk football fans. I lived a year in the UK and had more cases of sexual harassment, bordering on assault, than in my entire life before combined, several times over. It really made me appreciate German men in a new way when I came back.
You have a lovely english dialect and voice, emily and I like you as a kiwi enjoying your time here in germany. Germany has hundreds of old towns waiting to be discovered, different mentalities (at least three different in NRW, three different in RP, two different in BW, at least four different in bavaria, one in sachsen, one in berlin, one in hamburg, one in niedersachsen, one in schleswig-holstein and meck-pom.), a minimum of two dozens dialects of german and a very rich cultural heritage like our great neighbours - i.e. the long time cultural idol country France.
XLV750DD01 Solche ungebildeten erbärmlichen Wichtigtuer wie Du haben gar keine Schulbildung . Für Dich müßte man, hättest Du jemals eine Schule ( wenigstens eine Hilfsschule) besucht, zusätzliche Zensuren erfinden : z.B die 9 ! Setzen ! Für eine 9 plus hats leider nicht gereicht ! Sorry !
Well we have so many foreigners who don’t except our language and culture (Turkish minority, arabs etc.). It warms my heart that you accept us like we are☺️❤️
I think it feels so different for you, because there a different levels of being respectful or that people know a lot about other countries. I see so many people where I think they are really respectless towards others. People who are rude or people who act like being super nice but being completely ******. Another thing is, because you are foreginer, it is more likely that you meet people from a different societal level. Most people from lower class do not care that much about someone from New Zealand or the US. But middle class and lower upper class are much interested in people like you and therefore might have a broader knowledge. If you ask the typical Hauptschüler where New Zealand is, he would reply with a question what New Zealand is. It really depends on social level, how people are. Be a teacher in a Hauptschule for one week, then you know what I mean... Or even nowadays at any school. And parents are not always much better. I would say Emelia is 10 times more polite than most kids in school. Women and men are more less treated equally, as always: It depends. It changed a lot the last years, but there still enough jobs where people who laugh about women working as a carpenter for instance, or making fun of women who are the head of something... But overall you are right, it's much better than in other countries where males clearly dominate businesses and jobs. ps. If you have any questions about Germany, just let me know.
While you're partially right in your observation that there are a lot of people who're rather oblivious to the world outside of their narrow horizon, I'd say that the divide isn't as class and school related as you make it seem. I came to know a whole lot of self-centered assholes who don't care about anything else than where to get the best beer and the money to buy it who would definitely be considered as part of the middle or even upper class, and I've come to know a lot of lower class people who do whatever they can to educate themselves and travel around the globe by means they can afford. I'd say it's more a question of what was instilled in you as a curiosity by your parents and teachers.
Der Sonnenschein aus Neuseeland, ihre süßten lieben Kinder und hoffentlich bald auch ihr guter Ehemann berichten über Deutschland. Danke Dir, liebe Antoinette!
The funny thing is that I can relate to all the stuff you've said for Austria as well. The only thing here is that we aren't wolf-whistling either but if someone does it the woman/girl feel proud and flattered. Maybe because women here dress pretty casually (even when going out) in general and therefore likes it to be acknowledged because of her natural beauty.
I love your videos, please keep up the good work ! It's so interesting to get all this information first-hand from a NZ expat, on your country and your impressions about germany :-) Which city in NZ do you come from, and is it in northern or southern island ?
As a German living in the US, I struggled with the fact that we as women are considered objects here -in Germany, never, and I repeat again, never has anyone made me feel less of a person because of my gender, when I grew up i, and the years I spent there as an adult. My merrit was based on my contribution and manners, not that I am female. However, as soon as I came here, to the US, I was treated completely different, seperated from the men, my opinion no longer valued as much, which was was especially disconcerning as I was brought up to have opinions, to research (as you mentioned), and to share my knowledge. Even though I stayed here in the US due to marriage, but I raised my children the German way, which has gotten my daughter in hot waters, occassionaly, as she does not back down, and makes her worth known. I wish I would have valued German men more, when I was young, and honestly would have been better off with one of them. Thank you.
My ex-mother-in-law is from Dresden, I agree with you Antoinette, very cultured culture 😊 Do we get to hear you speak the German language with your accent? New subscriber, looking forward to future video's, hoping you can support my channel the same. Saludos amiga!
I have lived in the US most of my life except when i lived in the pacific. The wolf calls or cat calls that have been mentioned, I have never witnessed. Maybe this is a big city thing. I feel confident if this was to happen in a rural or a smaller venue it would be between friends and all in fun. if the calls were vulgar then i would of course expect someone to speak up. Just an observation.
Omg I get you about USA not knowing where NZ is. We got that when we visited there as well. When you say that germans are well travelled do you mean they quite often go overseas? Or as in the have travelled more in land or near germany? Interesting video.
Yeah, I know what you mean. I lived in the States for 13 years and really forced myself to warm up to small talk but it's not really in our German nature. In the US kids get trained in having polite small talk very early on and the grow up to be really good at it. However, it is difficult to get into deep conversations with Americans unless they are close friends with religion, politics and other contentious topics being taboo.
Well, if we do small talk it's more of an insult to the other person because we feel like he/she is not worth our time to engage in a real conversation lol. Seriously though, I think the main difference is what we consider to be part of our private sphere. If a stranger asked me something like "How was your weekend" I'd probably think something along the lines of "That's none of your f'in business" and reply with a confused raised eyebrow. On the other hand it would probably not take me a long time of warming up to that person to share my views on current politics, which seems to be a red flag at least in the US.
Dear Antoinette; I grew up with two little sisters, each quite different personalities. I think it was a difficult process for me to accept that there all by sudden was a baby that just took my place of beeing the prince. But in all these years i learned how valuable my relationship with my sisters is. I had to learn this.A Women can do a lot of things much better but men, but LOL they think different.Every man will agree. Beeing disrespectful of a women just because she is a woman is ignorant and stupid.We are all equal, no matter what colour, race, sex or religious believe,we all can learn from each other,and learning is a process which should never stop.By the way, guys, who did ever dated a girl because he was wisteling at her??? So funny.I think this is just a premature behaviour to impress some "buddies", not girls at all.So Guys start thinking
The "no kidding"part is actually not necessary, it's true :D when Lotr got popular, many ppl got interested in the country and educated themselfes. same phenomena to be watched in groups of ppl who like manga/anime and got to know the japanese culture more and more.
Hello Dear Antoinette i was born 1959 so a different society a different age. I grew up in a very split society where there was still the old nazi thinking and the Hippie new gernatation. We had a right, that is still my believe to fight this old way of thinking. Even though i was at the time only 14 years old i found it strange to see a women doing the same work as a male getting paid half. Yes ,i was raised that males are stronger more intelligent( OKEEE::::::::::) but this is how i was raised. During my live i did learn This, women can be much better friends, most women can take more pain , women can do boxing,female soldiers are as brave as males, sometimes more. Females think much complicated, ( i was suffering under two sisters......) I would like to see you.....They mean be right here yesterday.... Jepp : Now not only that i am german I am star sign Sagittarius, no way females will understand the way i do think. Please forgive me , but all these male people who pretend to understand females NO ....YOU LIE, , NOT TRUE, still what makes my heart burn.............. is HER
Germans don’t do small talk. (Well, sometimes they do - but they rarely admit it.) Most German-speakers will tell you that their language is too serious and precise to be wasted on small talk or chitchat, especially with strangers. FUN FACT German saying: "Reden ist Silber, Schweigen ist Gold" or "speech is silver, but silence is golden" Meaning: Sometimes it is better to be silent instead of saying inappropriate or superfluous things.
it all comes down to germans not doing small talk really. when a german is not actually interested in talking to a girl and having a meaningful conversation, he is not going to call out to her, it's less about not bein gdisrespectful and more about not wasting her time, because if there are two things most germans hate it's to have their time wasted or wasting someone elses time.
I went to Timaru for 8 months after school and I feel like the treatment of Women is caused by the schools due to them separating boys and girls. I felt like this was just an All Boys School think to do, while mixed schools have not had a lot of issues with this. Not a scientific fact, but just my personal experience talking here
I think that the respectful attitude (most) German men toward women hane may be a result of the time shortly after WWII. I have lived through that time, when men were either killed in the war or held captive in foreign countries. Germany was in ruins. These women took the pickaxe, the shovel, the wheelbarrow or their bare hands to clear the rubble while at the same time struggling to get their kids fed and clothed. The women of these times were heroines. And when the men finally came back there were self aware, strong, and self-reliant women who could not but respected for the work the had done.
What you say in this video about Americans is very true. It starts in the public schools. The're is not much education in world geography, world history and American history. They spend more time on the social aspects in schools. What I call it is the brain washing of our youth. It's been happening in America for a couple generations. That could be one of the reasons why overall American education is ranked so low in the world.
It is kind of sad that some people would actually rather identify a picture from New Zealand as a place from "Lord of the Rings" than the actual New Zealand... On the other hand, both places are very beautiful. ;)
Respect for women has a history here ... after World War II and destruction and millions of men in captivity were the "rubble women" who rebuilt Germany
guys dont wolve whistel after girls because this is extremely immature behavior. if a guy wants a girl´s attention, he wants her attention in a positive way as a man, not as a pubescent victim of his hormones.
We should respect men and women but it doesn't mean men and women are equal (physically...). In Germany we have traditional women and we love them. By the way, in Germany we have so many brothels and we can have sex with women whenever we want. Germany is a great place for MEN.
the downside to the small-talk topic: most germans are terrible small-talkers. the language just wasn't made for it (even from a linguistic standpoint). it is more common to get to the point immediately, to talk about something funny or meaningful or to not talk at all.
On behalf of American men, let me say that there _are_ the enlightened among us, but we have the unfortunate tendency of being drowned out by the more obnoxious and ignorant. There's this joke that war is God's way of teaching American's geography. So, of course, New Zealand, being a country that the US has never invaded, is a country that most of us in the US cannot hope to locate on a globe.
I can't stand small talk in New Zealand, it's so banal and fake, much prefer the indepth and meaningful conversations I think I would fit in well in Germany in that case
Lets be honest there are a LOT of things women just can do better but men its true. If i would be able to have a child there would be one child thats it.A female can do 3 things at a time while we men are not able to do so. What would we do without womens??????They take care for us when we get sick, the smile of our beloved women makes the day and brothers its true
Ich hatte bei mit mal eine Australierin wohnen, die immer mehr das Gefühl bekam, sagte sie mir, sie sei unattraktiv, weil die deutschen Männer sie nicht ansprachen. Auch auf den Partys, sagte sie mir, sei wesentlich weniger los in sexueller Hinsicht als in Australien.
german man will bring you flowers..and hold the door open for you...and they will be romantic...if he is curios about you...but only for the first couple of weeks...after that he will concider you as his best friend an behaves accordingly!!!
The question of "Why Germans are awesome" is fundamentally flawed. Sorry to be pedantic but there are awesome Germans, and not so awesome Germans. You can't focus on one group or trait and use it to define them all.
Here it goes... brutal but breaking it down, germans seems to be reserved but we are irritated. some groups of our ppl are highly educated and fluent in 2 or 3 languages and masters in math or engineering but also some are dumb like every other nation. psyco and philosophy besides. We KNOW our past and design our own future so we treat everyone equally. Yes you can say "smalltalk" is an dispensable way to say halloooooo 'cause we are all like "work work work" but that's not true. we avoid it because we are shy. nobody will evvvver admit it! we just need time to think before the answer ;-) for the haters: fU
I recommend that you take any comments about American education with a grain of salt and try not to spread broad generalizations about it yourself. It differs a lot by region. For example, I grew up and live in New England, and students here (in general..depending on income levels and associated tax revenue in particular towns) receive a very good education. I can take criticism of my country, but I find this annoying. Also, the fact that Trump managed to by some miracle (or fraud, who knows) become our leader does not mean our population is uneducated.
Some of the observations are no exactly correct - here is some evidence of some bavarian construction workers :-) ruclips.net/video/pnZyHMcBZ9I/видео.html I am really happy you can feel the respect and honest interest of us germ(an)s in different countries, people and their culture.
That men and women are treated equal is not true. Not only statistics say that there are for example still not equal payed for the same job or that less women get high positions, but I also as a women felt it many times. It is true that they don't shout you at the street as often as in other countries and many things they do are more subtile, but this doesn't mean that those things are less important. I had less opportunities in my job because I'm a woman, if I'm working in a group of men I almost everytime I need to show first of all that I'm as good as they are and in many conversations my opinion is less important. I have even seen a book to learn to read for girls (pink, of course) and one for boys (blue). I think as almos every country they still have a long way to do.
I don't find your description of German guys appealing at all. I'm from the South, so respectful men take care of women. They treat women like women not like men. I couldn't never date a German man
Dear Antoinette, after watching this fascinating video about my fellow Landsleute ( needless to say I am German myself and very proud to be), however lot of the facts that you have made are totally false 😂😂, more than have of our population are very ignorant and don't even know where Spain is, let alone New Zealand, they don't make small talk... No they don't they just always up in your in business because they are nosy! All in all 90 % of what you said is not true at all. Talking about the US, in my opinion not so ignorant as made out to be, and the woman are not as cold hearted as the German woman are. Mit freundlichen Grüßen
Thank you for your compliments. But unfortunately the right-wing populists want to destroy our open-minded mentality. I love a multicultural Germany which brings so much input into the society. Greetings from Waiblingen, Stuttgart. P.S. I love Kiwis because they are so pleasant to talk to. I had been on a day trip to Arrowtown and went into a little shop and the owner was very interested from where I was. Nzl is by far the most beautiful country with landscape out of a fairy tale or ha ha Lord of the Rings.
I laughed out loudly when you started with how much germans know about other countries and how you campared that to the US lmao. People in the USA (not all but the majority) don't know anything about the world. That is no country you should compare with any other country in this world. They are educated with such an ignorance, it's pathetic. I doubt Trump knows the difference of Austria and Australia lol. Then equality men/women in jobs. Well.....yes there are a lot of women in powerful positions meanwhile but there is still an average wage difference of 20% if men and women have the 100% same position. So there is still lot to do. And then small talk: I wished I would be better with that. Of course I prefer deep conversations but not with everyone. With a lot of people I'd prefer a small talk rather then to talk with with them about any deeper going things, if you know what I mean ;-) Sometimes a good small talk is also a door opener. There is nothing bad about a small talk, just not always.
A. Volpe, you showed your nationalism on Hayleys video already. Anny Penny is right to a specific point: if they have a german passport, they are german. If they live here for years, they belong to the country - even as foreigners. So, how do you know if someone has a german passport? White skin? Wrong!
I'm sorry to disappoint you, but in germany women aren't treated or even paid equal which is a huge problem.i realise there is a change in societies mind but just look out for statistics about gender pay gap, pink taxes or sexism...there's a lot of work to do. i'm glad that my future husband is willed to stay at home with our kids (when we got some), but this will bring new problems for the both of us which we wouldn't have, if i would stay at home and he goes to work *sigh*
I do not know how I got here lol but i think you exaggerate a little bit ... the german society has good aspects and bad aspects like most countries in the world .. I wish you wouldv given a critical opinion and not compliments .... Germany has an excellent economy and a good job market .. that is why it is agoal for many people around the world ... The germans are generally honest, , active, peaceful, very committed to the rules, polite and respectful through direct dealings " not in the state departments hhh " ، but on the other hand they are unfriendly especially in the countryside and east germany ... The friendly people in germany are an exception ...They do not like niether small talk nor deep conversations with foreigners . And according to the results of the last election 1/5 of the germans is a nazi, which was shocking und surprising and means that 1/5 hates you only because of the color of your skin or your affiliation or ... at th end germany still a good country with wonderful lows although .
If you watch more of my videos you will see that this video was just one very small aspect of my views on Germany. I make videos talking about a wide range of German related topics, some positive, some not so positive.
First of all, on behalf of german men, let me say: thank you. It's great that you had such good experiences, but somehow I can't get rid of the nagging suspicion that you make us look a lot better than we are, over all. ;)
Second, as an educated man with a great respect for women, I would say: it is a pleasure to have you here in our country.
Groffili
M8, I agree all with you 100%
Groffili As a German myself 100% have to agree.
Yes Sir I absolutely agree
I totally agree.
also, only sometimes it is respect, more often it is blank fear^^...
I am glad you like it in Germany. I remember being in England on my year abroad and coming home with marks from being pinched in the butt, and then back in Germany, instead of trying that, they will step back and let you pass. And nobody wolff calling me all night in the club. Felt so weird.
Germans like to travel alot and new zealand is a very nice destination for traveling. Lord of the rings showed alot of nice landscapes there.
I couldn't agree more 😊
Tim NurSo Two words: a lot
Reading the comments of this video, I am coming to a (not very surprising) main conclusion: We Germans still haven't learned to cope with compliments about our "German-ness"! Even if it is understandable when regarding our history, we are still in a state of underestimating our virtues and advantages, and we are far away from feeling "patriotic". (And sadly enough - WHEN some of us feel patriotic it turns out to be sort of a rather brown patriotism which in the end is nothing but a very anxious trial of refusing the fact that the world is not a static thing, that things are changing and nothing stays as it has been in former times. No fixed frames to keep the hands on when the soil starts shaking because of panta rhei!)
Sorry for being a little ironic. But I really dream of a Germany which is able to regard itself as sort of "admireable" without slipping into a far right corner by doing so.
It's so healing for me to hear this. As we still suffer from deep subconscious guilt from our past, which is fed almost every day on tv, it's awesome to hear how foreigners experience "us". Big hug. 😘
I totally agree. The Germans on a whole are worldly and respectful and the men ain’t macho, which is so nice. But I find kiwi men are pretty good too and not far behind the Germans. I live in OZ now and I find there are plenty of macho Aussie blokes, I can definitely see a difference when I go back home to NZ.
My only problem with German men is that they border on being wusses. It's one thing to be respectful of women and another thing to not stand up and help women when they are being touched and pushed around by a certain group of men. Women often have to approach the man to get them to talk to them and they act afraid of women and if you read some remarks on other channels, the German men agree with that.
OZ = old zealand ??
OZtralia
I was eight weeks in New Zealand in 1990 with a friend. We traveled five weeks over the south island and the three weeks over the north island. The German Reunification was going on at this time and the "Kiwis" were very interested in this and we were asked a lot. That was very nice. I liked the most Christchurch, Coromandel and the beaches near Nelson. In Wellington our hostel was called "Beethoven". Unfortunately I've heard that Christchurch has changed not to better - through the rebuilding after the heavy earthquake. If I could I would visit New Zealand again. The hardest thing during our travel were the sandflies ;-) and one had always to have in mind the sun radiation and the ozon hole.
I was tripping around the South Island 6 months ago, and there were a lot of Germans! So I'm not surprised many know about NZ. And I was also travelling with a German lol...
detonator same🙈
back in germany for a month now...
Germany has like the best passport for travel, hence is why so many of us are well traveled.
divanihsta los geht's Deutschland ⚜️🇩🇪⚜️
I know someone who is visiting/living in New Zealand. She updates us here at home from time to time, what she does, where she lives now, which job she chose. Really interesting. I would love to go there someday
Danke vielmals für den Bericht. Geiles Video!! Viel Erfolg. Bleib gesund, Mach's gut. 🍒✝️🍍
There is "Catcalling" also in Germany, but just when some guys have alcohol in their bloodstreams and/or when they are young and boisterously. A woman should not enter a tram or train when a lot of Soccer Hooligans are in it.
Soccer fans are the worst >_
Then what are you to do if you're meeting a friend somewhere that is on the way to the stadium. You arrive at your stop, the platform is full of soccer fans and you realize, and, oh shit, there is a game today? Cancel the meeting and go back home? Makes no sense. You squish into the subway. The air is usually pretty thick, OK some people are a bit drunk already (vorgeglüht :-) ) but usually they have a friend who is still sober(er) and keeps them in check. I can't say anyone has every gotten really obnoxious, some are even rather sweet and goofy. This is before the game, of course, not after and maybe when their team has lost ;-)
I slapped a guys phone away once when he was taking pictures of me without asking. But I really only had those kind of bad experiences with drunk football fans.
I lived a year in the UK and had more cases of sexual harassment, bordering on assault, than in my entire life before combined, several times over. It really made me appreciate German men in a new way when I came back.
You have a lovely english dialect and voice, emily and I like you as a kiwi enjoying your time here in germany. Germany has hundreds of old towns waiting to be discovered, different mentalities (at least three different in NRW, three different in RP, two different in BW, at least four different in bavaria, one in sachsen, one in berlin, one in hamburg, one in niedersachsen, one in schleswig-holstein and meck-pom.), a minimum of two dozens dialects of german and a very rich cultural heritage like our great neighbours - i.e. the long time cultural idol country France.
4:00: Wer einer Frau so etwas hinterher ruft, zeugt von einem schlechten Elternhaus!
Einen solchen Satz zu verfassen zeugt von schlechter Schulbildung. Deutsch 6, setzen!
Lobet den Herrn. Los geht's Deutschland ✝️🇩🇪🍒
XLV750RD01 Ja, und nun zu dem, was an uns ziemlich ätzend ist... z. B. Schulmeisterei...
XLV750DD01 Solche ungebildeten erbärmlichen Wichtigtuer wie Du haben gar keine Schulbildung . Für Dich müßte man, hättest Du jemals eine Schule ( wenigstens eine Hilfsschule) besucht, zusätzliche Zensuren erfinden : z.B die 9 ! Setzen ! Für eine 9 plus hats leider nicht gereicht ! Sorry !
Ich liebe Duetschland♥️♥️
We have had quite a few German guests in our Airbnb and they are lovely people.
I despise small talk so I'd enjoy that aspect!
Well we have so many foreigners who don’t except our language and culture (Turkish minority, arabs etc.).
It warms my heart that you accept us like we are☺️❤️
In welchem Elfenbeinturm lebst du?
BFN AK Es gibt beide Arten von Erfahrungen.
I think it feels so different for you, because there a different levels of being respectful or that people know a lot about other countries. I see so many people where I think they are really respectless towards others. People who are rude or people who act like being super nice but being completely ******. Another thing is, because you are foreginer, it is more likely that you meet people from a different societal level. Most people from lower class do not care that much about someone from New Zealand or the US. But middle class and lower upper class are much interested in people like you and therefore might have a broader knowledge. If you ask the typical Hauptschüler where New Zealand is, he would reply with a question what New Zealand is. It really depends on social level, how people are. Be a teacher in a Hauptschule for one week, then you know what I mean... Or even nowadays at any school. And parents are not always much better. I would say Emelia is 10 times more polite than most kids in school.
Women and men are more less treated equally, as always: It depends. It changed a lot the last years, but there still enough jobs where people who laugh about women working as a carpenter for instance, or making fun of women who are the head of something... But overall you are right, it's much better than in other countries where males clearly dominate businesses and jobs.
ps. If you have any questions about Germany, just let me know.
While you're partially right in your observation that there are a lot of people who're rather oblivious to the world outside of their narrow horizon, I'd say that the divide isn't as class and school related as you make it seem. I came to know a whole lot of self-centered assholes who don't care about anything else than where to get the best beer and the money to buy it who would definitely be considered as part of the middle or even upper class, and I've come to know a lot of lower class people who do whatever they can to educate themselves and travel around the globe by means they can afford. I'd say it's more a question of what was instilled in you as a curiosity by your parents and teachers.
even i don t think the germans are always so, you re still very kind to say so! enjoy germany!
Danke für die lieben Worte über uns ❤️ 🇩🇪 I am going to visit New Zealand next year and I am already excited 😍
2:00 My sister was in New Zealand for 6 months and I saw the pictures she took there and thought it was a pity that I couldn't be there.
Der Sonnenschein aus Neuseeland, ihre süßten lieben Kinder und hoffentlich bald auch ihr guter Ehemann berichten über Deutschland. Danke Dir, liebe Antoinette!
The funny thing is that I can relate to all the stuff you've said for Austria as well. The only thing here is that we aren't wolf-whistling either but if someone does it the woman/girl feel proud and flattered. Maybe because women here dress pretty casually (even when going out) in general and therefore likes it to be acknowledged because of her natural beauty.
Love your video! Always a pleasure to come across Germanophiles!♡
Thank you for your nice comments !
Thanks for all the compliments 😊💕
Thank you for sharing this video. :-)
I love your videos, please keep up the good work ! It's so interesting to get all this information first-hand from a NZ expat, on your country and your impressions about germany :-) Which city in NZ do you come from, and is it in northern or southern island ?
As a German living in the US, I struggled with the fact that we as women are considered objects here -in Germany, never, and I repeat again, never has anyone made me feel less of a person because of my gender, when I grew up i, and the years I spent there as an adult. My merrit was based on my contribution and manners, not that I am female. However, as soon as I came here, to the US, I was treated completely different, seperated from the men, my opinion no longer valued as much, which was was especially disconcerning as I was brought up to have opinions, to research (as you mentioned), and to share my knowledge. Even though I stayed here in the US due to marriage, but I raised my children the German way, which has gotten my daughter in hot waters, occassionaly, as she does not back down, and makes her worth known. I wish I would have valued German men more, when I was young, and honestly would have been better off with one of them. Thank you.
My ex-mother-in-law is from Dresden, I agree with you Antoinette, very cultured culture 😊
Do we get to hear you speak the German language with your accent?
New subscriber, looking forward to future video's, hoping you can support my channel the same. Saludos amiga!
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Hi, i just joined your channel and my english is not the best... I just wanted to see what not-germans think about us ^^ So thank you for this! :)
Danke für deine lieben Worte über uns. :-) Liebe Grüße
I have lived in the US most of my life except when i lived in the pacific. The wolf calls or cat calls that have been mentioned, I have never witnessed. Maybe this is a big city thing. I feel confident if this was to happen in a rural or a smaller venue it would be between friends and all in fun. if the calls were vulgar then i would of course expect someone to speak up. Just an observation.
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“Do you mean Australia?” Hahahaha that’s awful I am so sorry!! 😂😂
Omg I get you about USA not knowing where NZ is. We got that when we visited there as well. When you say that germans are well travelled do you mean they quite often go overseas? Or as in the have travelled more in land or near germany? Interesting video.
This video feels good to me.
I do know Smalltalk, but I went abroad.😂
Yeah, I know what you mean. I lived in the States for 13 years and really forced myself to warm up to small talk but it's not really in our German nature. In the US kids get trained in having polite small talk very early on and the grow up to be really good at it. However, it is difficult to get into deep conversations with Americans unless they are close friends with religion, politics and other contentious topics being taboo.
Well, if we do small talk it's more of an insult to the other person because we feel like he/she is not worth our time to engage in a real conversation lol. Seriously though, I think the main difference is what we consider to be part of our private sphere. If a stranger asked me something like "How was your weekend" I'd probably think something along the lines of "That's none of your f'in business" and reply with a confused raised eyebrow. On the other hand it would probably not take me a long time of warming up to that person to share my views on current politics, which seems to be a red flag at least in the US.
So cool, we have the same name!!
That's so cool! I've never met anyone in real life with the same name as me! 😊
Lol a Kiwi loves Germany. But me as a German don't love Germany, I LOVE New Zealand :D!
Dear Antoinette; I grew up with two little sisters, each quite different personalities. I think it was a difficult process for me to accept that there all by sudden was a baby that just took my place of beeing the prince. But in all these years i learned how valuable my relationship with my sisters is. I had to learn this.A Women can do a lot of things much better but men, but LOL they think different.Every man will agree. Beeing disrespectful of a women just because she is a woman is ignorant and stupid.We are all equal, no matter what colour, race, sex or religious believe,we all can learn from each other,and learning is a process which should never stop.By the way, guys, who did ever dated a girl because he was wisteling at her??? So funny.I think this is just a premature behaviour to impress some "buddies", not girls at all.So Guys start thinking
:) welcome in Germany
Well I think many germans know a lot about New Zealand because of „Herr Der Ringe“ (Lord of the rings)😂
Just kidding.
It definitely helped making New Zealand popular around here.
It was definitly the first thing that came into my mind
Marvin Wolf same
The "no kidding"part is actually not necessary, it's true :D when Lotr got popular, many ppl got interested in the country and educated themselfes. same phenomena to be watched in groups of ppl who like manga/anime and got to know the japanese culture more and more.
Second thing that came to mind. First was earthquake in Christchurch.
Hello Dear Antoinette
i was born 1959 so a different society a different age. I grew up in a very split society where there was still the old nazi thinking and the Hippie new gernatation. We had a right, that is still my believe to fight this old way of thinking. Even though i was at the time only 14 years old i found it strange to see a women doing the same work as a male getting paid half. Yes ,i was raised that males are stronger more intelligent( OKEEE::::::::::) but this is how i was raised.
During my live i did learn This, women can be much better friends, most women can take more pain , women can do boxing,female soldiers are as brave as males, sometimes more. Females think much complicated, ( i was suffering under two sisters......) I would like to see you.....They mean be right here yesterday.... Jepp : Now not only that i am german I am star sign Sagittarius, no way females will understand the way i do think.
Please forgive me , but all these male people who pretend to understand females NO ....YOU LIE, , NOT TRUE,
still what makes my heart burn.............. is HER
Germans don’t do small talk. (Well, sometimes they do - but they rarely admit it.) Most German-speakers will tell you that their language is too serious and precise to be wasted on small talk or chitchat, especially with strangers.
FUN FACT
German saying: "Reden ist Silber, Schweigen ist Gold" or "speech is silver, but silence is golden"
Meaning: Sometimes it is better to be silent instead of saying inappropriate or superfluous things.
it all comes down to germans not doing small talk really. when a german is not actually interested in talking to a girl and having a meaningful conversation, he is not going to call out to her, it's less about not bein gdisrespectful and more about not wasting her time, because if there are two things most germans hate it's to have their time wasted or wasting someone elses time.
When you are doing the job of providing info about NZ already, why not become a honorary consul of New Zealand for Franconia?🤔
That would be awesome!
I went to Timaru for 8 months after school and I feel like the treatment of Women is caused by the schools due to them separating boys and girls. I felt like this was just an All Boys School think to do, while mixed schools have not had a lot of issues with this. Not a scientific fact, but just my personal experience talking here
That's a really interesting observation! I never thought about it in that way but you have a very good point there.
I think that the respectful attitude (most) German men toward women hane may be a result of the time shortly after WWII. I have lived through that time, when men were either killed in the war or held captive in foreign countries. Germany was in ruins. These women took the pickaxe, the shovel, the wheelbarrow or their bare hands to clear the rubble while at the same time struggling to get their kids fed and clothed. The women of these times were heroines. And when the men finally came back there were self aware, strong, and self-reliant women who could not but respected for the work the had done.
❤️ New Zealand
What you say in this video about Americans is very true. It starts in the public schools. The're is not much education in world geography, world history and American history. They spend more time on the social aspects in schools. What I call it is the brain washing of our youth. It's been happening in America for a couple generations. That could be one of the reasons why overall American education is ranked so low in the world.
I don’t know what you are talking about the US education is ranked one of the highest in the world...
Greetings, antipode. ;-) Okay, not really. To swim a bit in southeastern direction would hit it perfectly.
You are very nice! And cute:-)
New Zealand is where the Movie "Lord of Rings" were made 😍😄 !
It is kind of sad that some people would actually rather identify a picture from New Zealand as a place from "Lord of the Rings" than the actual New Zealand... On the other hand, both places are very beautiful. ;)
Respect for women has a history here ... after World War II and destruction and millions of men in captivity were the "rubble women" who rebuilt Germany
4:35 Why the hell would someone do that?! That’s way to embarrassing.
It was only among groups of under 23 year olds, mostly teenagers & a little older. Bravado in groups; didn't happen between individuals.
guys dont wolve whistel after girls because this is extremely immature behavior. if a guy wants a girl´s attention, he wants her attention in a positive way as a man, not as a pubescent victim of his hormones.
peter koller true
We should respect men and women but it doesn't mean men and women are equal (physically...). In Germany we have traditional women and we love them. By the way, in Germany we have so many brothels and we can have sex with women whenever we want. Germany is a great place for MEN.
the downside to the small-talk topic: most germans are terrible small-talkers. the language just wasn't made for it (even from a linguistic standpoint). it is more common to get to the point immediately, to talk about something funny or meaningful or to not talk at all.
I’m Australian & I’m confused about New Zealand. I know they hang around Bondi a lot. & they think six is sex. 🙄
On behalf of American men, let me say that there _are_ the enlightened among us, but we have the unfortunate tendency of being drowned out by the more obnoxious and ignorant. There's this joke that war is God's way of teaching American's geography. So, of course, New Zealand, being a country that the US has never invaded, is a country that most of us in the US cannot hope to locate on a globe.
Some of the most interesting, intelligent people I know are American so I'm certainly not speaking for all Americans here :)
How does the saying go? "The dumb ones are always the loudest." Unfortunately so :(
I can't stand small talk in New Zealand, it's so banal and fake, much prefer the indepth and meaningful conversations I think I would fit in well in Germany in that case
Lets be honest there are a LOT of things women just can do better but men its true. If i would be able to have a child there would be one child thats it.A female can do 3 things at a time while we men are not able to do so. What would we do without womens??????They take care for us when we get sick, the smile of our beloved women makes the day and brothers its true
i noticed your camera doesnt focus :( it s all blurry :O
Yes I've been having some problems with the focus on my camera, hopefully I can sort this problem out.
1:00 Na ja, nicht alle! 😒
Ich hatte bei mit mal eine Australierin wohnen, die immer mehr das Gefühl bekam, sagte sie mir, sie sei unattraktiv, weil die deutschen Männer sie nicht ansprachen. Auch auf den Partys, sagte sie mir, sei wesentlich weniger los in sexueller Hinsicht als in Australien.
you should marry a germany guy..😍😄
Most Americans haven't even heard of New Zealand??? Seriously?
german man will bring you flowers..and hold the door open for you...and they will be romantic...if he is curios about you...but only for the first couple of weeks...after that he will concider you as his best friend an behaves accordingly!!!
I like u :)
The question of "Why Germans are awesome" is fundamentally flawed. Sorry to be pedantic but there are awesome Germans, and not so awesome Germans. You can't focus on one group or trait and use it to define them all.
Ich bin ein deutscher
Here it goes... brutal but breaking it down, germans seems to be reserved but we are irritated. some groups of our ppl are highly educated and fluent in 2 or 3 languages and masters in math or engineering but also some are dumb like every other nation.
psyco and philosophy besides. We KNOW our past and design our own future so we treat everyone equally. Yes you can say "smalltalk" is an dispensable way to say halloooooo 'cause we are all like "work work work" but that's not true. we avoid it because we are shy. nobody will evvvver admit it! we just need time to think before the answer ;-)
for the haters: fU
I recommend that you take any comments about American education with a grain of salt and try not to spread broad generalizations about it yourself. It differs a lot by region. For example, I grew up and live in New England, and students here (in general..depending on income levels and associated tax revenue in particular towns) receive a very good education. I can take criticism of my country, but I find this annoying. Also, the fact that Trump managed to by some miracle (or fraud, who knows) become our leader does not mean our population is uneducated.
Some of the observations are no exactly correct - here is some evidence of some bavarian construction workers :-) ruclips.net/video/pnZyHMcBZ9I/видео.html
I am really happy you can feel the respect and honest interest of us germ(an)s in different countries, people and their culture.
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The secend Point is not true. Women get about 9% less Money for the Same Work and the Bosses are Most men
Not true. On average they make less money because they work less.
That men and women are treated equal is not true. Not only statistics say that there are for example still not equal payed for the same job or that less women get high positions, but I also as a women felt it many times. It is true that they don't shout you at the street as often as in other countries and many things they do are more subtile, but this doesn't mean that those things are less important. I had less opportunities in my job because I'm a woman, if I'm working in a group of men I almost everytime I need to show first of all that I'm as good as they are and in many conversations my opinion is less important. I have even seen a book to learn to read for girls (pink, of course) and one for boys (blue). I think as almos every country they still have a long way to do.
I don't find your description of German guys appealing at all. I'm from the South, so respectful men take care of women. They treat women like women not like men. I couldn't never date a German man
Dear Antoinette, after watching this fascinating video about my fellow Landsleute ( needless to say I am German myself and very proud to be), however lot of the facts that you have made are totally false 😂😂, more than have of our population are very ignorant and don't even know where Spain is, let alone New Zealand, they don't make small talk... No they don't they just always up in your in business because they are nosy! All in all 90 % of what you said is not true at all. Talking about the US, in my opinion not so ignorant as made out to be, and the woman are not as cold hearted as the German woman are.
Mit freundlichen Grüßen
Thank you for your compliments. But unfortunately the right-wing populists want to destroy our open-minded mentality. I love a multicultural Germany which brings so much input into the society.
Greetings from Waiblingen, Stuttgart.
P.S. I love Kiwis because they are so pleasant to talk to. I had been on a day trip to Arrowtown and went into a little shop and the owner was very interested from where I was. Nzl is by far the most beautiful country with landscape out of a fairy tale or ha ha Lord of the Rings.
I laughed out loudly when you started with how much germans know about other countries and how you campared that to the US lmao. People in the USA (not all but the majority) don't know anything about the world. That is no country you should compare with any other country in this world. They are educated with such an ignorance, it's pathetic. I doubt Trump knows the difference of Austria and Australia lol. Then equality men/women in jobs. Well.....yes there are a lot of women in powerful positions meanwhile but there is still an average wage difference of 20% if men and women have the 100% same position. So there is still lot to do. And then small talk: I wished I would be better with that. Of course I prefer deep conversations but not with everyone. With a lot of people I'd prefer a small talk rather then to talk with with them about any deeper going things, if you know what I mean ;-) Sometimes a good small talk is also a door opener. There is nothing bad about a small talk, just not always.
September Rain Don't speak for all of us
Please don’t generalize
American are ignorant
Germanistan not Germany 🤣 i was there this year and saw more muslims and africans then german people there
*than
And you shouldn't visit Dortmund or Bremen when you want to see more Germans.
Germanistan!! LOL!
All these people belong to Germany! Like it or not...
Anny Penny they are foreigners, so no
A. Volpe, you showed your nationalism on Hayleys video already.
Anny Penny is right to a specific point: if they have a german passport, they are german. If they live here for years, they belong to the country - even as foreigners. So, how do you know if someone has a german passport? White skin? Wrong!
I'm sorry to disappoint you, but in germany women aren't treated or even paid equal which is a huge problem.i realise there is a change in societies mind but just look out for statistics about gender pay gap, pink taxes or sexism...there's a lot of work to do.
i'm glad that my future husband is willed to stay at home with our kids (when we got some), but this will bring new problems for the both of us which we wouldn't have, if i would stay at home and he goes to work *sigh*
can't argue with that :D
I do not know how I got here lol but i think you exaggerate a little bit ... the german society has good aspects and bad aspects like most countries in the world .. I wish you wouldv given a critical opinion and not compliments .... Germany has an excellent economy and a good job market .. that is why it is agoal for many people around the world ... The germans are generally honest, , active, peaceful, very committed to the rules, polite and respectful through direct dealings " not in the state departments hhh " ، but on the other hand they are unfriendly especially in the countryside and east germany ... The friendly people in germany are an exception ...They do not like niether small talk nor deep conversations with foreigners .
And according to the results of the last election 1/5 of the germans is a nazi, which was shocking und surprising and means that 1/5 hates you only because of the color of your skin or your affiliation or ... at th end germany still a good country with wonderful lows although .
If you watch more of my videos you will see that this video was just one very small aspect of my views on Germany. I make videos talking about a wide range of German related topics, some positive, some not so positive.