And then you take all the decisions making sure you don’t get misunderstood sort of like not making a dirty joke accidentally. Man, I overthink all the time to not get misunderstood
4 reasons why the life of INFJs is hard. 1) They are misunderstood 2) They overthink all the time 3) They are idealistic individuals 4) They have extremely high expectations
Man, love is particularly the worst. I guard my vulnerabilities and emotions like fort knox, but when i come across a spectacular person i get too into them far to quickly and its rough
I am INFJ and I experienced the same thing you had, I can understand you, you are felt pain, suffering, disappointment, guilty because you are failed to make a good relationship with someone, but try to think more clearly because we have a believe that we are always right, but that’s not right because we are humans! So normal we made mistakes sometimes, you are judging about your partner, friends or any kind of the relationships and yeah maybe you said the truth and you are right, but when you think more clearly without your emotions you will see that you are love and care about someone who don’t need it or asked you about it, or with someone who don’t/can’t love and care about anyone that because their emotional problems or in their believes, you should also be careful where you put your love, care, loyalty with someone respect and appreciate it well. Take care of your self, don’t hurt it because of your mistakes or for other people mistakes, live and learn that’s all ❤️❤️
Same. When I meet a girl I like, I fall in love far too quickly and don't see the red flags (or just flat out ignore them as we are idealistic), it always ends up with me getting hurt. This is why us INFJ's need to be with other INFJ's in my opinion, as it means both people can receive back what we put out and crave.
Some lessons I learned for the problems here (hopefully they help you): 1) Feeling misunderstood: First understand yourself (that's the hardest step). Next try to explain what's going on in you (it doesn't need to be perfect). Accept that some people may not understand you and answer "No worries, I didn't understand myself for a long time either.". Find out your needs and communicate them (you don't have to explain, just say what you need, but remember you are free to explain stuff about you). 2) Overthinking: You need to realize that you can't and shall not change the past. What happened is totally fine. Concentrate on what you want for the future. I for myself ask myself "What do I want to be in this world?" and then act accordingly. Here you have to first set what you want to be/cause in this world. But remember, it can be changed anytime you are dissatisfied. 3+4) Idealism and high expectations: That's something I just learned over time. You won't be able to change the world according to your believes. To move a stone, you need to want to move a mountain. Aim big, accept small. Also you can't know what's ideal. So you have to go step by step and for sure you will need to change your path. Being wrong is the best way to become more and more perfect. But the world is changing, so no one and nothing will ever be perfect.
As an INFj , speaking for myself, I’ll take a small nap , to uncluttered my overloaded brain thoughts, in a way it reset and clear my mind So when I awaken , I’m more focus and able to concentrate a lot better
Great video, with a balance and helpful approach that prevents it from feeling daunting. For me, the 1st, 3rd, and 4th challenges have always been helped by the religious community I grew up around, and that I came to fully embrace. Having a ton of trustworthy friends who share your ideals, encourage a positive outlook, and provide emotional support and practical assistance makes a huge difference. It allows me to embrace the value of what I can do, without being as badly thrown by the challenges
I'm disowning my INFJ typing of the past year. Living has not been the internal struggle that characterizes the type. Going back to being a buddhistic, ambiverted, INTP/ENTP. It just ain't no big deal.
Focusing on the present moments can be pretty difficult cuz stress can come when it comes to anything that living on the presents. Lets say, the salary is today and I'll buy all using all of my salary until I broke. Then, when the future come and its time to quit my job, I'll be hopeless. Being hopeless probably what I feared the most. Seeing myself needing help from others are kinda pathetic, actually... Its mean, I didn't lived life I want people to live. But learning is essential. I meet one friend that open my eyes few years ago. So, I quit my job and now, I don't even worried about the future nor the present. It called Kakeibo. I also live healthy lifestyle , cleanse my mind and thoughts from something thats not important. Family is the most important, I'll focusing on them... and Meditations. This three things overcome my hardship. I gotta admit... Life was tough for me back then. 125 kg and jobless..... Depression and had a problem with Excessive eating so I don't have to live anymore.. Now?? I reducing weight and lived my life. Not much but enough to praise God and thank you for all of the wisdom.
For all of my entire life, I have been seriously misunderstood, especially with my sense of humor, what has gotten me into trouble, again and again. Writing comes naturally to me, and I used to write letters to people what freaked them out and turned them against me. I was arrested and sent to the county jail, because I wrote a purely innocent letter to the 11 year old girl next door, because I wanted to be friends with her, for to have her like a granddaughter. I'm 70 years old
There is more, many aspects are stereotypes, like other personalities there are varieties. I'm a born INFJ with variations of INTJ, feelings are a curse and a blessing, masochism 😅. Feelings in nature are very important, that's why they exist and serve to persist, open the mind and possibilities, take all things into account. You may suffer in the future but they are still feelings and consequences.
I've always felt misunderstood even when I was a child by my parents and siblings and by the women I've been in relationships with and that's why I'm single most of the time
I love these creators who get on here and say stupid things like, "Just think differently." I door-slammed this video at that point. Also, mature INFJs do not feel lonely or isolated; it gives us peace.
As an INFJ My wife is baffled by my decisions sometimes as she’s so rationale. I have a business partner that is very rationale and analytical but often comes to the same conclusions as me about the business.
Intreresting how common characteristics INTP and INFJ have. I'm INTP and allso often like to overthinking. Because the school retention is optimized for sensoric thinkers. So on this wy the circular thinking wich is the consequence of this is like a brainwash, in the childhood.
We don't "feel" misunderstood. We ARE misunderstood
And then you take all the decisions making sure you don’t get misunderstood sort of like not making a dirty joke accidentally. Man, I overthink all the time to not get misunderstood
true
Dating a foxy ENTP tomboy (for five years), I didn't feel misunderstood around her.
ENTPs/INFJs share the same wavelength....
4 reasons why the life of INFJs is hard.
1) They are misunderstood
2) They overthink all the time
3) They are idealistic individuals
4) They have extremely high expectations
this is so accurate for me.
It's true and the daily disappointment is hard to handle.
Accurate
That's why i say expectations are curse not everyone have same pure heart and deep emotion like you
Don't expect human
Man, love is particularly the worst. I guard my vulnerabilities and emotions like fort knox, but when i come across a spectacular person i get too into them far to quickly and its rough
I am INFJ and I experienced the same thing you had, I can understand you, you are felt pain, suffering, disappointment, guilty because you are failed to make a good relationship with someone, but try to think more clearly because we have a believe that we are always right, but that’s not right because we are humans! So normal we made mistakes sometimes, you are judging about your partner, friends or any kind of the relationships and yeah maybe you said the truth and you are right, but when you think more clearly without your emotions you will see that you are love and care about someone who don’t need it or asked you about it, or with someone who don’t/can’t love and care about anyone that because their emotional problems or in their believes, you should also be careful where you put your love, care, loyalty with someone respect and appreciate it well. Take care of your self, don’t hurt it because of your mistakes or for other people mistakes, live and learn that’s all ❤️❤️
Same. When I meet a girl I like, I fall in love far too quickly and don't see the red flags (or just flat out ignore them as we are idealistic), it always ends up with me getting hurt. This is why us INFJ's need to be with other INFJ's in my opinion, as it means both people can receive back what we put out and crave.
Some lessons I learned for the problems here (hopefully they help you):
1) Feeling misunderstood: First understand yourself (that's the hardest step). Next try to explain what's going on in you (it doesn't need to be perfect). Accept that some people may not understand you and answer "No worries, I didn't understand myself for a long time either.". Find out your needs and communicate them (you don't have to explain, just say what you need, but remember you are free to explain stuff about you).
2) Overthinking: You need to realize that you can't and shall not change the past. What happened is totally fine. Concentrate on what you want for the future. I for myself ask myself "What do I want to be in this world?" and then act accordingly. Here you have to first set what you want to be/cause in this world. But remember, it can be changed anytime you are dissatisfied.
3+4) Idealism and high expectations: That's something I just learned over time. You won't be able to change the world according to your believes. To move a stone, you need to want to move a mountain. Aim big, accept small. Also you can't know what's ideal. So you have to go step by step and for sure you will need to change your path. Being wrong is the best way to become more and more perfect. But the world is changing, so no one and nothing will ever be perfect.
As an INFj , speaking for myself, I’ll take a small nap , to uncluttered my overloaded brain thoughts, in a way it reset and clear my mind
So when I awaken , I’m more focus and able to concentrate a lot better
Facing what we laughingly call Reality can be a challenge.
Great video, with a balance and helpful approach that prevents it from feeling daunting.
For me, the 1st, 3rd, and 4th challenges have always been helped by the religious community I grew up around, and that I came to fully embrace. Having a ton of trustworthy friends who share your ideals, encourage a positive outlook, and provide emotional support and practical assistance makes a huge difference. It allows me to embrace the value of what I can do, without being as badly thrown by the challenges
Thanks for sharing!
I'm disowning my INFJ typing of the past year. Living has not been the internal struggle that characterizes the type. Going back to being a buddhistic, ambiverted, INTP/ENTP.
It just ain't no big deal.
Thanks for sharing!
How can you choose your personality type? It doesn't work like that.
@@KingDomsKingdom85 While many geniuses are INFJ's not all INFJ's are geniuses. 😂😂
Focusing on the present moments can be pretty difficult cuz stress can come when it comes to anything that living on the presents. Lets say, the salary is today and I'll buy all using all of my salary until I broke. Then, when the future come and its time to quit my job, I'll be hopeless. Being hopeless probably what I feared the most. Seeing myself needing help from others are kinda pathetic, actually... Its mean, I didn't lived life I want people to live. But learning is essential. I meet one friend that open my eyes few years ago. So, I quit my job and now, I don't even worried about the future nor the present. It called Kakeibo. I also live healthy lifestyle , cleanse my mind and thoughts from something thats not important. Family is the most important, I'll focusing on them... and Meditations. This three things overcome my hardship. I gotta admit... Life was tough for me back then. 125 kg and jobless..... Depression and had a problem with Excessive eating so I don't have to live anymore.. Now?? I reducing weight and lived my life. Not much but enough to praise God and thank you for all of the wisdom.
Interesting insight!
For all of my entire life, I have been seriously misunderstood, especially with my sense of humor, what has gotten me into trouble, again and again. Writing comes naturally to me, and I used to write letters to people what freaked them out and turned them against me. I was arrested and sent to the county jail, because I wrote a purely innocent letter to the 11 year old girl next door, because I wanted to be friends with her, for to have her like a granddaughter. I'm 70 years old
This is informative, concerning and uplifting. It would have been cool to have a fellow infj create the script
I saw the effort though
;)
@@PsychologyRefresh oh... the impassive side you used to relatebto the masses
There is more, many aspects are stereotypes, like other personalities there are varieties. I'm a born INFJ with variations of INTJ, feelings are a curse and a blessing, masochism 😅. Feelings in nature are very important, that's why they exist and serve to persist, open the mind and possibilities, take all things into account. You may suffer in the future but they are still feelings and consequences.
Thank you for sharing this!
I've always felt misunderstood even when I was a child by my parents and siblings and by the women I've been in relationships with and that's why I'm single most of the time
I love these creators who get on here and say stupid things like, "Just think differently." I door-slammed this video at that point. Also, mature INFJs do not feel lonely or isolated; it gives us peace.
As an INFJ My wife is baffled by my decisions sometimes as she’s so rationale. I have a business partner that is very rationale and analytical but often comes to the same conclusions as me about the business.
Totally true my brother ✅
Keep it up
Always
Great video
Glad you enjoyed it
My entire existence as an infj.
Intreresting how common characteristics INTP and INFJ have. I'm INTP and allso often like to overthinking. Because the school retention is optimized for sensoric thinkers. So on this wy the circular thinking wich is the consequence of this is like a brainwash, in the childhood.
Thanks for sharing!
And having bipolar ocd and addiction doesn't help
Yes. Living in proverty.
My life sucks right now!!
I want to be like "Nextttttttttttttttttttt video" @3:47 🤔
There's one reason: They doesn't connect properly with other people... They could in principle, but... That's the way the world is.
at 8:11 though 😉
Bog to resava.