So my thing is i struggle to use the bathroom if im just sitting there with my thoughts. I get overwhelmed with the knowledge that i have to relax to go and then i panic and am hust unable. Using my phone distracts my thoughts and lets me go. So this ones not helping me much lol
Speaking from experience, that behavioural loop your in is like sweeping dust under the rug, eventually you're going to have to clean it all up. You are the only person who is going to live with your own thoughts, you might as well treat it as your ultimate best friend. That's what helped me. Your best and only friend is trying to talk to you. Something to think about.
@@pokelosophy my bad I didn't explain very well. I get what you're saying, I have no issue being alone with my thoughts, I do embrace it the way you explained actually. My issue is with anything that I have pressure about. So like, I can be completely comfortable and relaxed and go to take a shit and everything could be going well, then it dawns on me that the only thing it would take to stop my body from doing this is getting a little worked up or anxious. So then I am anxious about the idea of becoming anxious which then causes my muscles to tense and my body just stops using the bathroom until I can get my thoughts focused on something else to avoid that self awareness. Similar to having to go to sleep with something important to do in the morning. It's not the actual event that causes me stress, it's just the simple fact that I know if I get a bit anxious I'll be wide awake for hours and feel terrible in the morning, and then that potential causes me to be anxious and then I can't sleep. Lol I have a pretty severe anxiety disorder too, I think the biggest thing is just getting with a good therapist, but I'm open to any advice.
@@cjsdizzy Thank you so much for taking the time to explain it to me. I have a lot of anxiety that I’ve learned to play “ninja” with, I’m still learning so not a black belt yet. “So then I am anxious about the idea of becoming anxious which then causes my muscles to tense and my body just stops using the bathroom until I can get my thoughts focused on something else to avoid that self awareness. “ What helped me was realizing the best “defence” is knowing that you won’t be 100%, all good sport teams know they are not 100%. I used to work at Best Buy and they budgeted 10% of items will be stolen so it’s in their budget. Same idea. You’re going to experience this regardless so you have to instead of fighting it, just go through it. Now what helped me the most was realizing, it’s easier to put out a “smaller fire” than a “bigger fire”. I realized a lot of my anxiety came from environmental triggers that are unrelated to the thought. For me it is caffeine so I am working on reducing my intake because while I’ll still have those thoughts, the “fires” are WAYYY smaller. Caffeine was gasoline on the fire, it just made things worse. So I recommend first identifying what are the obvious triggers that are not in your head and lear not manage those. Then I recommend just recognizing, "you know what I can’t stop my thoughts but have I found ways to put out the fires faster" There is something called TIPSS, temperature, intense exercise, paced breathing and progressive muscle relaxation. This almost always lowers the “fire” of the anxiety. In summary, I think to me, your battle is recognizing, these thoughts won’t go away but I can at least put out the fires faster by 1) reducing any fuel the fire may experience externally like people or substances and 2) when the fires happen, use TIPPs. www.mindfulteen.org/dbt/distress-tolerance/tipp-skills/
@@pokelosophy I appreciate it. Powering through it will make it easier and easier and I may never be 100% but that acceptance and working on tolerance will make it happen less and less. I've done that with others ways my anxiety manifests so of course it would apply here too. Thanks for taking to time to talk!
@@cjsdizzy Anytime you need some words of encouragement or tips, just pop a comment in the videos and I'll be happy to help. My social anxiety was really bad but I also realized, 99% of people are just as anxious about themselves. They are just as anxious as you, no one really cares. There is a scene from Schitt's Creek that demonstrates that: ruclips.net/video/FkXAutT_6Wc/видео.html "People aren't thinking about you like how you are thinking about you"
People order our patties? It seemed appropriate to watch this one in the bathroom, but it turns out that was a mistake. Since I don't like being present or smelling my poop, it sounds like I can avoid both by having my phone in here. Her name's Sabrina. Most people take her on 6th after Koga, but it is definitely possible to face her first.
@@pokelosophy It's a SpongeBob SquarePants reference. There's an episode (I think one of the more famous ones) that is a fake new hire training video for the Krusty Krab, and like all businesses they have internal acronyms and stuff the video is trying to get across. One of them is POOP = People Order Our Patties.
Dr k a real one for this🙌
So my thing is i struggle to use the bathroom if im just sitting there with my thoughts. I get overwhelmed with the knowledge that i have to relax to go and then i panic and am hust unable. Using my phone distracts my thoughts and lets me go. So this ones not helping me much lol
Speaking from experience, that behavioural loop your in is like sweeping dust under the rug, eventually you're going to have to clean it all up. You are the only person who is going to live with your own thoughts, you might as well treat it as your ultimate best friend. That's what helped me. Your best and only friend is trying to talk to you. Something to think about.
@@pokelosophy my bad I didn't explain very well. I get what you're saying, I have no issue being alone with my thoughts, I do embrace it the way you explained actually. My issue is with anything that I have pressure about. So like, I can be completely comfortable and relaxed and go to take a shit and everything could be going well, then it dawns on me that the only thing it would take to stop my body from doing this is getting a little worked up or anxious. So then I am anxious about the idea of becoming anxious which then causes my muscles to tense and my body just stops using the bathroom until I can get my thoughts focused on something else to avoid that self awareness. Similar to having to go to sleep with something important to do in the morning. It's not the actual event that causes me stress, it's just the simple fact that I know if I get a bit anxious I'll be wide awake for hours and feel terrible in the morning, and then that potential causes me to be anxious and then I can't sleep. Lol I have a pretty severe anxiety disorder too, I think the biggest thing is just getting with a good therapist, but I'm open to any advice.
@@cjsdizzy Thank you so much for taking the time to explain it to me.
I have a lot of anxiety that I’ve learned to play “ninja” with, I’m still learning so not a black belt yet.
“So then I am anxious about the idea of becoming anxious which then causes my muscles to tense and my body just stops using the bathroom until I can get my thoughts focused on something else to avoid that self awareness. “ What helped me was realizing the best “defence” is knowing that you won’t be 100%, all good sport teams know they are not 100%. I used to work at Best Buy and they budgeted 10% of items will be stolen so it’s in their budget. Same idea. You’re going to experience this regardless so you have to instead of fighting it, just go through it.
Now what helped me the most was realizing, it’s easier to put out a “smaller fire” than a “bigger fire”. I realized a lot of my anxiety came from environmental triggers that are unrelated to the thought. For me it is caffeine so I am working on reducing my intake because while I’ll still have those thoughts, the “fires” are WAYYY smaller. Caffeine was gasoline on the fire, it just made things worse.
So I recommend first identifying what are the obvious triggers that are not in your head and lear not manage those. Then I recommend just recognizing, "you know what I can’t stop my thoughts but have I found ways to put out the fires faster" There is something called TIPSS, temperature, intense exercise, paced breathing and progressive muscle relaxation. This almost always lowers the “fire” of the anxiety.
In summary, I think to me, your battle is recognizing, these thoughts won’t go away but I can at least put out the fires faster by 1) reducing any fuel the fire may experience externally like people or substances and 2) when the fires happen, use TIPPs. www.mindfulteen.org/dbt/distress-tolerance/tipp-skills/
@@pokelosophy I appreciate it. Powering through it will make it easier and easier and I may never be 100% but that acceptance and working on tolerance will make it happen less and less. I've done that with others ways my anxiety manifests so of course it would apply here too. Thanks for taking to time to talk!
@@cjsdizzy Anytime you need some words of encouragement or tips, just pop a comment in the videos and I'll be happy to help.
My social anxiety was really bad but I also realized, 99% of people are just as anxious about themselves. They are just as anxious as you, no one really cares. There is a scene from Schitt's Creek that demonstrates that: ruclips.net/video/FkXAutT_6Wc/видео.html
"People aren't thinking about you like how you are thinking about you"
People order our patties?
It seemed appropriate to watch this one in the bathroom, but it turns out that was a mistake.
Since I don't like being present or smelling my poop, it sounds like I can avoid both by having my phone in here.
Her name's Sabrina. Most people take her on 6th after Koga, but it is definitely possible to face her first.
Haha! Also what do you mean by people order our patties?
@@pokelosophy It's a SpongeBob SquarePants reference. There's an episode (I think one of the more famous ones) that is a fake new hire training video for the Krusty Krab, and like all businesses they have internal acronyms and stuff the video is trying to get across. One of them is POOP = People Order Our Patties.