How to Handle Feelings of Insecurity and Inadequacy with Your Partner | Tom Bilyeu & Lisa Bilyeu
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- Dealing with your partner’s insecurities in the relationship gets very challenging. Because they are often triggered by something internal the work needs to come mainly from your partner. When you are committed and down for the long-term relationship, you realize that dealing with your own insecurities is more effective in creating and maintaining a healthy and happy relationship. Tom and Lisa share how Tom was able to recognize and address one of his own insecurities early in the relationship. It may be a surprise but at the root of your insecurity and your partner’s insecurity is a challenge to your identity and personal values.
Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships.
SHOW NOTES:
Free Your Insecurities | Tom shares how he handled his insecurities at the beginning [2:01]
Identity Change | What you tie identity to in the relationship matters for your insecurities [7:11]
QUOTES:
“What set me free to deal with my insecurities was recognizing that I could get better.” Tom Bilyeu [2:12]
“The real goal is to be desirous of a partner who is equally as powerful as you are.” Tom Bilyeu [6:40]
![NOSFERATU - Official Trailer [HD] - Only In Theaters December 25](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/nulvWqYUM8k/mqdefault.jpg)
How do you address feelings of insecurity when talking to your partner?
Do you think So or you really need help .💁,..
Hi sweetheart I got my broken relationship fixed with the help this great spiritual Dr who brought my partner Back in 48 hours After many years of separation.
What'sApp him for help.
➕𝟙𝟡𝟜𝟡𝟝𝟞𝟡𝟚𝟡𝟝𝟛 ♻️♻️🚻🎦🎦你好，現在怎麼,..
I have the perception he gaslights her and she knows deep inside but she's somehow constantly convincing herself he is the right guy for her. Body language doesn't lie. He displays manipulative behaviors with passive aggressive comments hidden in jokes. He doesn't honor her as she deserves. Sorry but I'm talking from what I see. I may be wrong. Or not. From my perspective he is not the right man for her no matter for how long they've been together nor how many billions they have.
I can also see how she mentions these issues between them as if somehow she'd be trying to expose his passive aggressive behavior and attitudes towards her but he seems to be a type of narcissistic person
Again, I don't know a thing but there's something called intuition, experienced having been with these type of men and also...body language reading.
It's as if there's something being forced.
The stiffness of her facial expression when he talks and his kind of hostil tone in his voice truly say too much.
Women know. We know.
Just as the 'couch guy's girlfriend' .
A woman knows when somethings going on. You may wanna deny it. But the truth is exploding on your face.
Sorry if I offended anyone. But as they expose their relationship I guess we have the right to give our opinions.
I agree with you.
@@Ayama369 Well you are the first person that sees the same
He's probably a dismissive avoidant and she's a fearful avoidant or secure attachment...But it's really OBVIOUS he loves her in his own way. People aren't perfect but what's important is being honest and choosing to be committed to each other.
@@theexotic2983 No way that is love. It could be domination disguised as love. But you don't have to be a genius to acknowledge passive agressive behaviors
Lisa, at the beginning you spoke about feeling invalidated by Tom at a meeting. Then, it was quickly flipped on you when he said, i thought you don't let yourself feel invalidated. I just want to say everyone needs to own their behavior. If he did misstep, don't blame yourself. Women take too much blame and shame especially from men.
I was debating that comment as well. Yes, we shouldn’t allow someone else to invalidate us but it doesn’t mean we can’t feel invalidated. It’s why we have boundaries in the first place to protect our hearts. It’s why people react passive aggressively bc it’s too hard to express themselves without the worry of feeling invalidated.
I didn’t let my ex validate me physically but it doesn’t mean his criticisms didn’t hurt or when I expressed myself and he didn’t acknowledge what I was saying or deflected the conversation... it felt like he invalidated me. That what I said or felt wasn’t important to him. A relationship is such that it literally takes two people working together. If I feel hurt or invalidated, the way I feel is valid as well. The intention might not have been there for Tom but it doesn’t mean you can’t feel that way either...
I see the same. I actually find they have a relationship in which he somehow is insensitive with her and I think she tries to convince herself he is worth her but deep inside a woman knows.
Can you put a link to the whole video? I was on the edge of my seat for the how does he deal with Lisa's insecurities and it stops😭😭
I was also a bit confused after that comment. Lisa, how did you react when Tom said that to you in the meeting? How did you deal with your insecurities? Did you just try to ignore them?
I would love to watch these conversations in their entirety rather than just clips. This clip in particular felt incomplete.
I genuinely love seeing the way you two communicate. Keep em coming 🙌
Do you need help on this...
Hi sweetheart I got my broken relationship fixed with the help this great spiritual Dr who brought my partner Back in 48 hours After many years of separation.
Wtzp Dr Akunda.
Checked your "University". Now I understand how you make money hand over fist. You are brilliant. I appreciate that with your with RUclips channel you give broke people access to your knowledge and your awesome specialized people you bring on. Thank you!
I appreciate your videos and love to see that both of you have different ideas and ways to deal with things and can find the respect for each other in it. There is nothing more difficult than having a partner telling you that how you feel or deal with yourself is wrong. I don't know where to send a question so I'll write it here: can you talk about the concept of defining the partner. I example.. when telling someone you don't like x and x, you add to it that you know how they feel or felt doing it, what their intentions are and what they were thinking etc. I have a lot of tolerance and acceptance for many things but with being told by someone (my partner) what I feel, think or what my intentions are or were --- toward someone or just with myself --- I have zero tolerance and this make me feel controlled and not respected. I believe I am the only one to know what I feel, think or what my intentions are. I am willing to explore and openly explore all this with myself and the other but not being imposed a conclusion about what I am or think or feel or want. What are you thought about it? (you can rewrite my sentence if needed, I am french :P)
Why the video was cut off all the sudden?
Where is the full conversation?
I love this channel. Such an inspiring couple. God bless you both.
Do you need help on this...
I am a living Testimony of Dr Akunda Love manifestations that completely manifested my partner to love me unconditionally.
Message him for help🙏
➕𝟙𝟡𝟜𝟡𝟝𝟞𝟡𝟚𝟡𝟝𝟛 ♻️♻️🚻🎦🎦你好，現在怎麼,..
Wonderful, always 🙏🏻❤️🩹✨
So fun to watch you two together!
What makes you ythink you would know. When nobody else does. Because alll relationships are totally different
Ppl that say I can't make you feel anything, whilst fundamentally us correct , kinda, it also is super unfeeling, we fuck up, come across harshly maybe, you might not agree, but you can hear and empathize then discuss further
How disappointing ,