This was my question, thank you so much for answering it! 😍 I'm 34 btw, and I 100% agree with it being easier when you're younger and not as set in your ways 😄 Thank you again for answering my question, this definitely added value for me. I appreciate the great, valid and fresh advice that I will take to heart and start implementing straight away 🙏
Boundaries are tough, especially when you're young. I think some people don't know them until they've been violated, which can surprise a partner. It's all part of growth.
As a late 50-something man, I've learned that we must be careful sharing our past. It tells the newest love interest how past lovers manipulated you, and you will see it again!! Some things are best left in the closet.
When you tell your past that is the worst thing that you can do when you do not know each other and they will not understand can put end to the all thing
I really appreciate watching the two of you comunicate în real time. This was such a good topic. I now, after two dissolved relationships, feel that honesty is the best policy and communication is key. Thank you so much for the advice that you share.
24:09 THANK YOU!!! Omg... You've articulated it better than my thought path! This is absolutely imperative for continuous understanding 👌💜💜💜💜💜 Value added!
This is awesome. I feel so much better about the future i can build woth the girl I am currently just beginning a relationship with. I used to think I was just a bad boyfriend but you both are helping me realize how to change that.
Only the necessary don't be an open book it does not mean you are honest it means you want to protect the relationship. 10 years ago you could have been a different person. With experience and changing you are supposed to be a better person to your fellow human beings and with animals. And also at the same time strong enough to put your boundaries of respect.
Tidiness means to me I cannot sleep with dirty dishes in my sink, my ex used to make fun of and found it funny about me no matter how upset I’ve used to be about that issue, although not making my bed doesn’t bother me.🤣 Defining the meaning we give to our words is so crucial to avoid unnecessary conflicts and have harmonious relationships.💕🌈🙏
The most important and ignored part of "you teach others how to treat you" is walking away. Ironically, the relationships you NEVER consider walking away from may be the most toxic for you. I really feel like both self respect and empathy are exacerbated in our cultural mores. A lot of people are lost because they feel that relationships define their life rather than their life defining their relationships. If a partner is simply adding value to your life, you dont have all these questions regarding self worth. The simple answer is always to walk away - even if you end up finding that person was everything you wanted. Its a lesson, you arent ready, and you and your (ex) partner should be free to grow as yall please. The fight for relationships based on love rather than legalities and social pressure is a long and enduring one. Be a part of that. If you love someone, stay and talk. If you resent them, walk away, regardless of circumstance. Mostly, stop imposing expectations (sexual, emotional, verbal, behavioral, whatever) on autonomous partners.
This message at 20:27 on collision of values I've been replaying and a challenge in my current relationship I wish to work through. Then end goal is the same, its the individual path to it creates tension and tends to escalate where each begins to defend self as the 'right" way which can be attributed to past experiences. What recommendation is there to collectively work through this in non attacking and without judgement? .
Next year is my 40 year anniversary. I try to keep my feelings to myself. If I say, "This makes me feel..." his response is always, "well you...(do this or that)". I hate those 2 words. Well, you. It's always my fault he says mean things to me. Every little thing turns into an argument. It's gotten worse since he had a stroke 2 years ago. Personality change. I'm not perfect either. Oh, well, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse.
How do you feel about sharing your past with your partner?
If it is beneficial to the relationship then yes if not no need.
This was my question, thank you so much for answering it! 😍 I'm 34 btw, and I 100% agree with it being easier when you're younger and not as set in your ways 😄 Thank you again for answering my question, this definitely added value for me. I appreciate the great, valid and fresh advice that I will take to heart and start implementing straight away 🙏
Boundaries are tough, especially when you're young. I think some people don't know them until they've been violated, which can surprise a partner. It's all part of growth.
As a late 50-something man, I've learned that we must be careful sharing our past. It tells the newest love interest how past lovers manipulated you, and you will see it again!! Some things are best left in the closet.
*“Be strong, not rude.*
*Be kind, not weak.*
*Be humble, not timid.*
*Be proud, not arrogant.”*
Drop a thumbs up to this comment if you agree... :)
When you tell your past that is the worst thing that you can do when you do not know each other and they will not understand can put end to the all thing
Happy to see how both talk to each other. Not an ounce of fakeness or hesitation.
I really appreciate watching the two of you comunicate în real time. This was such a good topic. I now, after two dissolved relationships, feel that honesty is the best policy and communication is key. Thank you so much for the advice that you share.
24:09 THANK YOU!!! Omg... You've articulated it better than my thought path! This is absolutely imperative for continuous understanding 👌💜💜💜💜💜 Value added!
What i get out of this wonderful episode, it is that COMMUNICATION it´s the most important factor to build a GREAT relationship.
"It's that little bit of friction that makes it all work." !!!! Ah! What an incredible way to describe this!!!
This episode really hit home with me, thanks guys!
What a great pair of partners. Thanks for working it out just like you do. Thank goodness we're not all the same. Good growingz!,
Thanks 🙏 guys I love the content. In a different video y’all help me take extreme ownership ❤️
Tidiness is efficiency! Love it and agree 100% ❤️
The past is the past for a reason. If you were good together you would still be together.
This is awesome. I feel so much better about the future i can build woth the girl I am currently just beginning a relationship with. I used to think I was just a bad boyfriend but you both are helping me realize how to change that.
This is a important conversation and definitely hoping for a part 2 of it
Only the necessary don't be an open book it does not mean you are honest it means you want to protect the relationship. 10 years ago you could have been a different person. With experience and changing you are supposed to be a better person to your fellow human beings and with animals. And also at the same time strong enough to put your boundaries of respect.
You guys are awesome. Thank you ❤️
12:09 is exactly why i love you guys!
Very interesting these discussions with your husband!
Oooh his & hers banana boots..This is amazing to see an alpha speaking openly to his wife. Love it 💕
Tidiness means to me I cannot sleep with dirty dishes in my sink, my ex used to make fun of and found it funny about me no matter how upset I’ve used to be about that issue, although not making my bed doesn’t bother me.🤣 Defining the meaning we give to our words is so crucial to avoid unnecessary conflicts and have harmonious relationships.💕🌈🙏
The most important and ignored part of "you teach others how to treat you" is walking away. Ironically, the relationships you NEVER consider walking away from may be the most toxic for you. I really feel like both self respect and empathy are exacerbated in our cultural mores. A lot of people are lost because they feel that relationships define their life rather than their life defining their relationships. If a partner is simply adding value to your life, you dont have all these questions regarding self worth. The simple answer is always to walk away - even if you end up finding that person was everything you wanted. Its a lesson, you arent ready, and you and your (ex) partner should be free to grow as yall please. The fight for relationships based on love rather than legalities and social pressure is a long and enduring one. Be a part of that. If you love someone, stay and talk. If you resent them, walk away, regardless of circumstance. Mostly, stop imposing expectations (sexual, emotional, verbal, behavioral, whatever) on autonomous partners.
This comment was 100% meant for the video before this and im feeling like a boomer
Amazing insights in all your videos I've seen, helps me grow and understand, thanks a lot especially for being so open!!
This message at 20:27 on collision of values I've been replaying and a challenge in my current relationship I wish to work through. Then end goal is the same, its the individual path to it creates tension and tends to escalate where each begins to defend self as the 'right" way which can be attributed to past experiences. What recommendation is there to collectively work through this in non attacking and without judgement? .
Yes especially big stuff. Not the first date but before marriage yes!!!!!
Next year is my 40 year anniversary. I try to keep my feelings to myself. If I say, "This makes me feel..." his response is always, "well you...(do this or that)". I hate those 2 words. Well, you. It's always my fault he says mean things to me. Every little thing turns into an argument. It's gotten worse since he had a stroke 2 years ago. Personality change. I'm not perfect either. Oh, well, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse.
Super helpful 🙏🏻💖🌹
Great insight. Thankyou
Great great loved it
I love you guys 🙂💕
I need to know what brand Lisa’s shoes are 😅
In Australia, "Taking the piss" means to make fun of someone. :) Isn't it funny how mannerisms can change with geography
Nice video, but what happened to the light? The faces are not well lit, or maybe that's the way you wanted to do it?
Gosh she is trying too hard to look like a badass. The first rule is don't try. Don't BOTHER
then don’t watch.