Best relationship I've had so far was with an ENFP. We were together 9 yrs. We are still on great terms. It was a very challenging relationship because he viewed me as cold & self-centered - pertaining to our relationship not necessarily with everyone. Words of affirmation are important to him & it's only now that I'm using them with people. I think he overreacts & complains too much (Ne and Fi stuff). But our core selves are very much soulmates so we had a deep connection & love + helped each other out with our weaknesses. I made sure bills were paid and pushed him to start a business. He took care of errands that I hate doing & taught me how to mask emotions for sake of not stressing others out. That's the short version. I love ENFPs so much.
I’m an ENFP therapist and deeply crave intellectual curiosity. I feel the ENTJ will mentally spar with me in a satisfying way I don’t experience often. For me, people seem intimidated by being a therapist. The ENTJ jumps in and willingly explores and answers vulnerable questions.
Ooph. I relate to this so much. Nothing is more attractive and interesting then when another person has the courage to ask and honestly explore difficult questions.
I am an ENFP and my husband is an ENTJ! Definitely agree with everything you said. My husband really does data analytics for a living😂 we totally bond over music,movies, and discussing art as well! Thank for you this video.
As an enfp married to an entj i would like to say that entj's provided a much trusted and respected net to bounce my sometimes crazy ideas off. You help me a lot. Thanks.
With my ENFP husband almost 13 years and this is terrifyingly accurate. Our biggest hurdle is making friends together because I can’t stand meet and greets or stupid people, and he wants to meet everyone lol.
Yes exactly. My brother is a social butterfly. He doesn’t care why he’s hanging out with people, any reason will do. I need a specific purpose, I can’t socialize unless it’s for a reason that I find meaningful.
My husband is an enfp and his business partner is an entj. Wonderful match 15 years straight and ongoing. They divided the activities and roles perfectly. What makes it work is mutual respect and openness. I myself am infj. And I feel good interacting with both my husband and his business partner.
As an ENFP I disagree with our disability to analyze, we have Te as our third function, which means its still a pretty strong function. I feel like what you’re talking about is that ENFP’s like to discuss ideas in a non-competitive way, while ENTJ’s actually really enjoy a form of competition. As an example, for me personally, I really enjoy battling out two different ideas that seem contradictory to each other, and see which one of these concepts come out as “most plausible” (simply said). What I don’t enjoy is when one person represents one idea and the other represents the other idea. Then it feels like we’re not seeking the truth, but battling each other, having to compete our intelligence against each other where there is one “winner” and one “loser”. While, when you separate the people from the concepts, and instead of battling each other, you look at a distance, analyze the different ideas and let the ideas battle each other (instead of the people), it feels more as if we’re on a journey of truth together, instead of having a competition. This is actually what I really enjoy to do with myself. Having two different perspectives in my head, and each perspective analyzes and criticizes the other. Ofcourse, this is from the perspective of 1 ENFP, which means my opinion is not completely objective, this is just what I feel is most true for me personally.
This helped a lot. I am experiencing all of this with my ENTJ. We can have the best convos and even cuddle while watching TV / movies to analyze later, but the way he communicates -- verbally and non verbally -- hurts my feelings a lot and I just try to self sooth because it probably means nothing. ENFPs look into everything like, "this statement meant this.." and "he not speaking to me means he hates me," when I am now picking up that it's not the case. Consequently, I do crave words of affirmation and physical warmth from him, but I know that's something I may not receive and will just accept his acts of service as his love language. Great video! And great comments from other ENTJs for perspectives. I want to show this to my ENTJ but I don't think he'll care lol.
You do deserve love and words of affirmation. I think any type is capable of that. Even if it isn't necessarily what you would want, when you love someone if brings you joy to do it for them. Never accept anything less than what you truly desire!!!!!
I’m an enfp and my father and one of my friends are textbook Entjs, and something that I noticed is that they are deeply sensitive. They might not really show this sensitivity , but they are. They tend to get really defensive about things when you challenge their beliefs or or perspective, and most of they just seem to refuse to look outside themselves (Fi), though I know the last thing they would describe themselves as is sensitive . then don’t think twice when it comes to walk all over someone else’s values and feelings if the don’t see any logic to them (Te dom doing it’s thing I guess). I’ve learned to talk to them and understand why they are like that, but most people don’t . And that’s why my infp friends and my entj friend just keep clashing, I guess that’s why I find interesting that you like infps that much . This is what I noticed myself, I would like to know your opinion on my take.
I love your perspective and I think it's probably very accurate. Most ENTJs are that aggressive and pushy because, exactly like you said, they have a sensitive inner world that they are trying to protect. As I've grown in life I've been forced to face that sensitive inner world of mine, again and again, and I've become comfortable with it. I've found I don't have to hide it anymore and that has brought balance to my life and my relationships. It may be because of this that I enjoy the company of INFPs where as others may not. When you have a growth oriented mindset you tend to be drawn to people who are different than you because they are strong where you are not.
@@FPT84 Interesting question. I couldn’t tell you for sure. I think it depends on the individuals and the situation. I think in mature relationships it’s the challenging things about our partners that make us appreciate them the most.
ENFP 4w5 coming from Reddit hereee🙋🏻♀️!! I love your channel and your perspectives are really interesting! Please don't stop making those videos even if the views are still small, because I'm sure they'll grow eventually 🥰
Great insight! I'm an ENFP (type 7 & 3). You're totally right about everything. I will add that when it comes to criticism, I've developed the emotional intelligence to know that if someone comes off as critical, they could be naturally that way and just don't take into account that it may hurt some. As a result, I don't walk around hurt anymore if someone I know and trust handed down some criticism. It's worth looking at objectively to see if it's actually true. I try to see myself without bias.
Most of the times, I have seen people suggesting ENFPs as stupid people and most ENFPs making an video on themselves try to show how smart they are which sometimes end up creating a misunderstanding about ENFPs in minds of other types. This video actually observed both good and bad traits and that to without making ENFPs look stupid. Just not too analytical which was a good perspective. Nice video. 😊
Good to see an actual entj on here speaking on Myers Briggs stuff. Most of the other people on here claiming to be like us are somehow mistyping, cuz they seem like disingenuous cornballs. More like estps or some other Fe type with vids that feel cringy and scripted, talking about money and “winning” or whatever. I could tell u are the real deal by your cadence and how your face moves. Eyebrows always moving around, like mine 😂 I am obsessed with mbti cuz it’s a solid system for understanding and, as you said, analyzing people. Originally I got into it to learn about myself. Then to learn about other people, so I can optimize my interaction with them, AKA manipulate them 😬 But then something surprising happened.. instead of me using it to play chess with people, I developed tolerance for them and genuinely started respecting them more, and I lost the desire to control them🤯 I have often thought of making videos about this subject, but I can barely even keep up with my tattoo channel as is and this shit is just a hobby for me. Glad to see someone else blazing that trail, cuz I feel like one of us has to. Hopefully you decide to keep it up. Subscribed.
You nailed it buddy! I'm an ENFP, with a few exceptions though. I'm an engineer very technical and detail-oriented and I'm not a procrastinator like most other enfps unlike other enfps but I do wear my heart on my sleeve and I'm the most emotional man anybody's ever met
@@ENTJ_Perspective The ENFP used Fi as a manipulative tool, however once I realised that was happening I became impervious to it, which then escalated it to a level of 'Fi Terrorism' which blew up the relationship.
@@ENTJ_Perspective I've had lots of dealings with other ENFPs, they can be very manipulative but usually aren't skillful with it, which makes it all the more irritating.
@@theloniusmonk1263 LOL. Well I think while Te might be lacking in the "emotional vibes detecting" department, what it excels at is picking up on the motivation and intentions of others. So yea I think it makes you very sensitive to WHY people do what they do, and it can be irritating when something feels obvious to you and another person isn't aware.
We can be analytical but we cant be bothered wasting enetgy because we wabt to use that energy on networking for social connections and BUSINESS connections
hi, ENFP here in a new relationship with an ENTJ. I test as a very typical ENFP. However, i think contrary to what you said, i am very analytical. The difference though is that I like analysing things because it gives me satisfaction and a sense of security to have examined a problem from all possible angles and connected all the dots, examined possible outcomes ect... My ENTJ will notice this and see it as me merely wasting a bunch of time time for nothing, and push me to take action immediately rather than wasting time in the ether pondering how this issue might be connected to the deeper meaning of life (very fixated on efficiency, which might be good for me cos i also have ADHD and can be quite all over the place). He is very confident in himself and his decision making process. I dont think he has had time to see that there is always a method to my madness when I research things extremely thoroughly and make decisions. I sometimes feel like he might get a bit dismissive with me and think he knows whats best on a topic i have done more research on for example. But its early days and we are still feeling things out and getting to know each other. For the most part he motivates and inspires me and I know we will not become stagnant together. I had another 9 year relationship with an ISFJ and that ended in stagnancy. But this relationship by contrast feels very goal, future and progress oriented. Its what I wanted and i manifested it... but now it feels like a bit of pressure too.
I work with an ENFP right now. She is always reading about different social/political ideas. Literally every time I work with her she's reading a different book. Makes for great conversation. But her eyes always seem to glaze over a bit when I start analyzing and testing the ideas. How true are they? How well do they work? What's the result if this new perspective is implemented? For her it seems to be more like "oh look, a shiny new idea!" And when I start analyzing it, it seems to suck the fun out for her.
I don’t think stains on your shirt is typical of ENTJs. We ENTJs do care about our appearance. Maybe not cutting edge fashion, but at a minimum: appropriate and polished.
@@ENTJ_Perspective I feel I need to keep up and then when it gets to PEAK point...ENTJ needs to back off & give female ENFP space for herself & reflecting time for inner self to RECHARGE & come back STRONGER
@@FPT84 Yea, I’ve heard that Extroverted Deciders have a tendency to, uh, smother. I’m the type where when there’s a problem I always want to talk it out. And I tend to be attracted to women who’s tendency is to give the problem space first. A humbling experience for sure.
@@ENTJ_Perspective Yeah it gets too much for us who like to internalise feelings 1st gain SELF perspective and then come back with clarity to solve situation. I feel I need a BIG break away from ENTJ right now. Everything in moderation. It's like if someone has ice cream. A little bit is great, a bit more may satisfy fulfilment but OVER INDULGE...and you get my point! It becomes an issue
I’m an ENFP and I’m so analytical I drive everyone nuts with it. I read all the comments to see if your conclusions on that point were validated and I was surprised to find they were. So I wonder if it’s a function of my Mensan IQ or I hypothesize that it might be that we analyze different aspects of the same topics. ENFPs are interested in how ideas have shaped and impact human interaction. There’s nothing I hate more than someone who plays devils advocate or goes off into the pedantic weeds like intj’s do. Maybe entjs perceive and analyze aspects we don’t see and don’t find important and that’s the reason we get bored by talking about it. I’ve always thought a hallmark of enfps was their deeply analytical minds. I just met an ENTJ which brought me to this video. He seems like we might be a great complement. Whereas my older brother and the ENTJs I’ve met to-date have been practically executioners with their abrupt and complete invalidation. I have come to the conclusion that the only type that would be strong enough for me would be an entj but to find one that isn’t too brutal that I’m allowed to exist is the sticky wicket. Maybe this one 🤞 The thing I look forward to most with all interactions is someone who will analyze with me. I’ll keep in mind the entjs love it as well so I’ll know we just need to get on the same plane and agree on a common lexicon. My initial observation is that the same language between us conjures extremely different meanings. That’s exciting and frustrating at the start.
@@ENTJ_Perspective I observe that the ENTJs talk good game at first but go off to swim in the shallows with themselves when it’s time to connect beyond the physical. The highest % of Mensans are ENFPs because we don’t have limits to engaging curiosity. I’ve learned this past week that control is what’s found at the end of curiosity. Now I understand when and why I switch from ENFP to ENTJ when I know a law or regulation that others aren’t following. I don’t need curiosity, it’s time to employ control. I wonder how common female ENTJs are? In typing this out, I’m finally seeing that my unwillingness to do others’ emotional labor and refusal to manipulate others has resulted in trying to lay down the law. ENTJ tendencies do NOT work for my tiny self in a world full of men who want me to be acquiescing. If I remained curious in my true ENFP self, I might be more successful. The ENTJ type must have the clout to back up their brutality or else why would anyone put up with their inability to authentically emotionally connect? It’s a riddle I’m still working out.
My mom is an entj and she's the definition of style. But she says it took her time and my dad who i suspect, was an enfp to really help elevate her whole look. I don't agree about the analytical/combatitiveness nessicarily maybe because I was raised by an entj. I love analyzing things having debates and researching but I don't feel the need to always prove I'm right. I can comfortably remain silent if the other person is getting emotional or needs to win unless I feel it's serious enough that the truth needs to be said otherwise I can just listen. I admire entjs work ethic, loyalty, dedication, drive and need for the truth. Def agree about the need to be more aware of others emotions. But I also think they're more emotional than others give them credit for, they just don't live in emotion like f types. A lot less combative than infjs for sure. Probably my personal favorite type.
Why ENTJ posessive? Is this 1 instance or it's overall? Is it protective male or over posessive? Anyone? Because ENFP like freedom! Let them be freeeeeeeeeeeee to be who they are! No need to be insecure ENTJ! IF ENFP meant to be yours then will be! No need to keep ENFP on a silent leash!
Perhaps tendency towards possessiveness can be personality related, but I think possessiveness itself is a result of fear and insecurity. Can happen to anyone, though maybe it takes different forms.
What about ENTJ male in romantic relationship with ENFP woman? Could you pls do a video about it, i searched everywhere on youtube nobody talks about it, and is annoying.
I do have an ENTJ partner and i'm the enfp, it has been a roller coaster, and i've been looking for this kind of videos too haha. Btw i love to debate, and very much appreciate to analyze situations (not like you mentioned that we're not analytical) and society and all, especially with entps, but my ENTJ has one opinion and will not change it, is like he cannot see the two sides of the coin, it can be frustrating for us both but we try to make it work.
@@karicastaneda4046 That's very interesting because I love seeing both sides. And I'm typically dismissive of people who don't. What's the point of having an opinion if you can't at least explore and entertain the opposing point of view? So I wonder, Kari, if some of the things we've mentioned have more to do with having a growth mindset, or being open minded in general, than they do with personality, Your thoughts? P.S. Love your banner btw.
@@ENTJ_Perspective i have a crush on 1. Plus why nobody talks about how to make it work with every type? How would they interact? All i see about Entj and Enfp are only videos about friendship, family members, bussiness partners etc. but what about romantic relation? how would this interaction unfold ? What about the ppl that already have a romantic relation and they love eachother and dont know how to make it work?
@@catycika4856 Well I think part of a relationship is figuring out how to make it work. That process never really ends. But I agree there isn't much content out there. If I ever date an ENFP I'll share my experience 🤣
Great, i hope i can meet more healthy entjs, to me its okay you judge me and i judge pepole also the problem is when you hurt me with harmfull and rude way and other pepole and after that you come and say i am an nt person who judge pepole, i love te i love judge i hate being rude and being harmfull. also the entjs who i met them were very toxic, i hope i meet more, thx.
When you feel hurt by another person it's because you take what they've done personally, and believe it is about you. The way someone treats you is a reflection of how they are seeing the situation, and the beliefs and attitudes they carry with them. Once you see that, you can disregard and distance yourself from rude behavior as easily as you would a fly buzzing around your face. Do you feel hurt by the fly? Of course not, it's a fly.
@@ENTJ_Perspective i gree, i have my own way to not talking things personally but i am talking about saying stuff like : you are stupid or talking loudly with anger or saying relly bad stuff that would hurt anyone even nt person, i want pepole to judge acts not pepole so we relly emprove our life. Sorry if i didnt talk fluntly i dont have that much time now, i will watch your chanel so i understand the entjs more.
If someone calls you stupid and it hurts you, it's because of what you believe about the situation. If an angry toddler called you stupid would it hurt you? Probably not. Why then might it hurt you when someone close to you says it? It's because of what it means to you.@@Duck-fy6xn
@@ENTJ_Perspective I understand your idea that we don't have to take things personally, but I want to differentiate between constructive criticism and destructive criticism. There are some people who take criticism as a way to insult and mock others.
Great question, thank you. INTJ, INFP, and INTP. But my experience with all the types is limited. I’m very eager to meet more people and understand all the dynamics. Since I believe we’re all on a spectrum, there is no perfect match. I must understand all dynamics! 🧠
@@SS-bu8ez I think enneagram is another framework of concepts- a "lens" if you will- that you can look through to understand an individual's personality. So it's not so much that enneagram plays a part, but rather that enneagram is another framework you can apply that may take things into consideration that MBTI does not. Short answer? Yes.
Best relationship I've had so far was with an ENFP. We were together 9 yrs. We are still on great terms. It was a very challenging relationship because he viewed me as cold & self-centered - pertaining to our relationship not necessarily with everyone. Words of affirmation are important to him & it's only now that I'm using them with people. I think he overreacts & complains too much (Ne and Fi stuff). But our core selves are very much soulmates so we had a deep connection & love + helped each other out with our weaknesses. I made sure bills were paid and pushed him to start a business. He took care of errands that I hate doing & taught me how to mask emotions for sake of not stressing others out. That's the short version. I love ENFPs so much.
Yep, that checks out with a lot of my understanding of the dynamic.
You sound like a positive and mature person. Happy to hear your story :)
@@ENTJ_Perspective thanks!! You as well.
@@ENTJ_Perspective I wonder if different when MALE ENTJ and Female ENFP vs Female ENTJ & Male ENFP because the ENTJ traits are sexy in masculine
@@FPT84 I’d have to agree. About the sexy part that is.
We're back together and better than ever!
I’m an ENFP therapist and deeply crave intellectual curiosity. I feel the ENTJ will mentally spar with me in a satisfying way I don’t experience often. For me, people seem intimidated by being a therapist. The ENTJ jumps in and willingly explores and answers vulnerable questions.
Ooph. I relate to this so much. Nothing is more attractive and interesting then when another person has the courage to ask and honestly explore difficult questions.
I am an ENFP and my husband is an ENTJ! Definitely agree with everything you said. My husband really does data analytics for a living😂 we totally bond over music,movies, and discussing art as well! Thank for you this video.
That's awesome! Thank you, always great to hear when a relationship is working.
As an enfp married to an entj i would like to say that entj's provided a much trusted and respected net to bounce my sometimes crazy ideas off. You help me a lot. Thanks.
With my ENFP husband almost 13 years and this is terrifyingly accurate. Our biggest hurdle is making friends together because I can’t stand meet and greets or stupid people, and he wants to meet everyone lol.
Yes exactly. My brother is a social butterfly. He doesn’t care why he’s hanging out with people, any reason will do. I need a specific purpose, I can’t socialize unless it’s for a reason that I find meaningful.
My husband is an enfp and his business partner is an entj. Wonderful match 15 years straight and ongoing. They divided the activities and roles perfectly. What makes it work is mutual respect and openness. I myself am infj. And I feel good interacting with both my husband and his business partner.
Love it.
As an ENFP I disagree with our disability to analyze, we have Te as our third function, which means its still a pretty strong function. I feel like what you’re talking about is that ENFP’s like to discuss ideas in a non-competitive way, while ENTJ’s actually really enjoy a form of competition. As an example, for me personally, I really enjoy battling out two different ideas that seem contradictory to each other, and see which one of these concepts come out as “most plausible” (simply said). What I don’t enjoy is when one person represents one idea and the other represents the other idea. Then it feels like we’re not seeking the truth, but battling each other, having to compete our intelligence against each other where there is one “winner” and one “loser”. While, when you separate the people from the concepts, and instead of battling each other, you look at a distance, analyze the different ideas and let the ideas battle each other (instead of the people), it feels more as if we’re on a journey of truth together, instead of having a competition. This is actually what I really enjoy to do with myself. Having two different perspectives in my head, and each perspective analyzes and criticizes the other. Ofcourse, this is from the perspective of 1 ENFP, which means my opinion is not completely objective, this is just what I feel is most true for me personally.
YES!!
This helped a lot. I am experiencing all of this with my ENTJ. We can have the best convos and even cuddle while watching TV / movies to analyze later, but the way he communicates -- verbally and non verbally -- hurts my feelings a lot and I just try to self sooth because it probably means nothing. ENFPs look into everything like, "this statement meant this.." and "he not speaking to me means he hates me," when I am now picking up that it's not the case. Consequently, I do crave words of affirmation and physical warmth from him, but I know that's something I may not receive and will just accept his acts of service as his love language. Great video! And great comments from other ENTJs for perspectives.
I want to show this to my ENTJ but I don't think he'll care lol.
You do deserve love and words of affirmation. I think any type is capable of that. Even if it isn't necessarily what you would want, when you love someone if brings you joy to do it for them.
Never accept anything less than what you truly desire!!!!!
@@ENTJ_Perspective thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
@@kellikakes81 Always.
I’m an enfp and my father and one of my friends are textbook Entjs, and something that I noticed is that they are deeply sensitive. They might not really show this sensitivity , but they are. They tend to get really defensive about things when you challenge their beliefs or or perspective, and most of they just seem to refuse to look outside themselves (Fi), though I know the last thing they would describe themselves as is sensitive . then don’t think twice when it comes to walk all over someone else’s values and feelings if the don’t see any logic to them (Te dom doing it’s thing I guess). I’ve learned to talk to them and understand why they are like that, but most people don’t . And that’s why my infp friends and my entj friend just keep clashing, I guess that’s why I find interesting that you like infps that much . This is what I noticed myself, I would like to know your opinion on my take.
I love your perspective and I think it's probably very accurate. Most ENTJs are that aggressive and pushy because, exactly like you said, they have a sensitive inner world that they are trying to protect.
As I've grown in life I've been forced to face that sensitive inner world of mine, again and again, and I've become comfortable with it. I've found I don't have to hide it anymore and that has brought balance to my life and my relationships.
It may be because of this that I enjoy the company of INFPs where as others may not. When you have a growth oriented mindset you tend to be drawn to people who are different than you because they are strong where you are not.
@@ENTJ_Perspective my question is, do INFP's respond well to the ENTJ push or do they run off because they're the REAL internalisers! I'm curious
@@FPT84 Interesting question. I couldn’t tell you for sure. I think it depends on the individuals and the situation. I think in mature relationships it’s the challenging things about our partners that make us appreciate them the most.
ENFP 4w5 coming from Reddit hereee🙋🏻♀️!! I love your channel and your perspectives are really interesting! Please don't stop making those videos even if the views are still small, because I'm sure they'll grow eventually 🥰
Aww! Thank you so much 🥹. I will 🙏🏼
The king and the fool thumbnail is so good I’m dying
LOL right
ENFP can battle with ypu on ideas however they will choose thier battles wisely because need to reserve energy for OTHER important things in life
I didn't expect so many ENFP's on here!
dude we are bored
@Dunjoon bored with...?
@@FPT84 as an ENFP I just get bored easily, but I don't remember why 🤣
Wow I’m the ENFP who doesn’t care, and it’s the ENTJ who is alllll style
Yea there's definitely more to style than personality. Our different experiences are a great example of this, thank you.
Great insight! I'm an ENFP (type 7 & 3). You're totally right about everything. I will add that when it comes to criticism, I've developed the emotional intelligence to know that if someone comes off as critical, they could be naturally that way and just don't take into account that it may hurt some. As a result, I don't walk around hurt anymore if someone I know and trust handed down some criticism. It's worth looking at objectively to see if it's actually true. I try to see myself without bias.
Best explanation I've ever heard!! Bravo! Spot on!
I'm an ENFP.
Thank you :)
Most of the times, I have seen people suggesting ENFPs as stupid people and most ENFPs making an video on themselves try to show how smart they are which sometimes end up creating a misunderstanding about ENFPs in minds of other types. This video actually observed both good and bad traits and that to without making ENFPs look stupid. Just not too analytical which was a good perspective. Nice video. 😊
Good to see an actual entj on here speaking on Myers Briggs stuff. Most of the other people on here claiming to be like us are somehow mistyping, cuz they seem like disingenuous cornballs. More like estps or some other Fe type with vids that feel cringy and scripted, talking about money and “winning” or whatever. I could tell u are the real deal by your cadence and how your face moves. Eyebrows always moving around, like mine 😂
I am obsessed with mbti cuz it’s a solid system for understanding and, as you said, analyzing people. Originally I got into it to learn about myself. Then to learn about other people, so I can optimize my interaction with them, AKA manipulate them 😬 But then something surprising happened.. instead of me using it to play chess with people, I developed tolerance for them and genuinely started respecting them more, and I lost the desire to control them🤯
I have often thought of making videos about this subject, but I can barely even keep up with my tattoo channel as is and this shit is just a hobby for me. Glad to see someone else blazing that trail, cuz I feel like one of us has to. Hopefully you decide to keep it up.
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You nailed it buddy! I'm an ENFP, with a few exceptions though. I'm an engineer very technical and detail-oriented and I'm not a procrastinator like most other enfps unlike other enfps but I do wear my heart on my sleeve and I'm the most emotional man anybody's ever met
As an ENTJ I was married to an ENFP for 5 years it was good for 2 then devolved into an Fi war.
Interesting. I think I can relate to this. Can you elaborate?
@@ENTJ_Perspective The ENFP used Fi as a manipulative tool, however once I realised that was happening I became impervious to it, which then escalated it to a level of 'Fi Terrorism' which blew up the relationship.
@@theloniusmonk1263 Fi terrorism, lol. Yea checks out.
@@ENTJ_Perspective I've had lots of dealings with other ENFPs, they can be very manipulative but usually aren't skillful with it, which makes it all the more irritating.
@@theloniusmonk1263 LOL. Well I think while Te might be lacking in the "emotional vibes detecting" department, what it excels at is picking up on the motivation and intentions of others. So yea I think it makes you very sensitive to WHY people do what they do, and it can be irritating when something feels obvious to you and another person isn't aware.
We can be analytical but we cant be bothered wasting enetgy because we wabt to use that energy on networking for social connections and BUSINESS connections
hi, ENFP here in a new relationship with an ENTJ.
I test as a very typical ENFP. However, i think contrary to what you said, i am very analytical. The difference though is that I like analysing things because it gives me satisfaction and a sense of security to have examined a problem from all possible angles and connected all the dots, examined possible outcomes ect...
My ENTJ will notice this and see it as me merely wasting a bunch of time time for nothing, and push me to take action immediately rather than wasting time in the ether pondering how this issue might be connected to the deeper meaning of life (very fixated on efficiency, which might be good for me cos i also have ADHD and can be quite all over the place). He is very confident in himself and his decision making process. I dont think he has had time to see that there is always a method to my madness when I research things extremely thoroughly and make decisions. I sometimes feel like he might get a bit dismissive with me and think he knows whats best on a topic i have done more research on for example. But its early days and we are still feeling things out and getting to know each other. For the most part he motivates and inspires me and I know we will not become stagnant together. I had another 9 year relationship with an ISFJ and that ended in stagnancy.
But this relationship by contrast feels very goal, future and progress oriented. Its what I wanted and i manifested it... but now it feels like a bit of pressure too.
ENFP here loves to debate
I work with an ENFP right now. She is always reading about different social/political ideas. Literally every time I work with her she's reading a different book. Makes for great conversation. But her eyes always seem to glaze over a bit when I start analyzing and testing the ideas. How true are they? How well do they work? What's the result if this new perspective is implemented?
For her it seems to be more like "oh look, a shiny new idea!" And when I start analyzing it, it seems to suck the fun out for her.
@@ENTJ_Perspective hmm....interesting! Is it because it shredded the whole shiny perspective into zilch? Lol
I don’t think stains on your shirt is typical of ENTJs. We ENTJs do care about our appearance. Maybe not cutting edge fashion, but at a minimum: appropriate and polished.
Yep, I think you're right.
as an entj fashion is everything to me lol
ENTJ male draining my ENFP energy right now!
Oh no!
@@ENTJ_Perspective I feel I need to keep up and then when it gets to PEAK point...ENTJ needs to back off & give female ENFP space for herself & reflecting time for inner self to RECHARGE & come back STRONGER
@@FPT84 Yea, I’ve heard that Extroverted Deciders have a tendency to, uh, smother.
I’m the type where when there’s a problem I always want to talk it out. And I tend to be attracted to women who’s tendency is to give the problem space first. A humbling experience for sure.
@@ENTJ_Perspective Yeah it gets too much for us who like to internalise feelings 1st gain SELF perspective and then come back with clarity to solve situation. I feel I need a BIG break away from ENTJ right now. Everything in moderation. It's like if someone has ice cream. A little bit is great, a bit more may satisfy fulfilment but OVER INDULGE...and you get my point! It becomes an issue
started laughing so hard at the shirt reveal 😭
I’m an ENFP and I’m so analytical I drive everyone nuts with it. I read all the comments to see if your conclusions on that point were validated and I was surprised to find they were. So I wonder if it’s a function of my Mensan IQ or I hypothesize that it might be that we analyze different aspects of the same topics. ENFPs are interested in how ideas have shaped and impact human interaction. There’s nothing I hate more than someone who plays devils advocate or goes off into the pedantic weeds like intj’s do. Maybe entjs perceive and analyze aspects we don’t see and don’t find important and that’s the reason we get bored by talking about it. I’ve always thought a hallmark of enfps was their deeply analytical minds. I just met an ENTJ which brought me to this video. He seems like we might be a great complement. Whereas my older brother and the ENTJs I’ve met to-date have been practically executioners with their abrupt and complete invalidation. I have come to the conclusion that the only type that would be strong enough for me would be an entj but to find one that isn’t too brutal that I’m allowed to exist is the sticky wicket. Maybe this one 🤞 The thing I look forward to most with all interactions is someone who will analyze with me. I’ll keep in mind the entjs love it as well so I’ll know we just need to get on the same plane and agree on a common lexicon. My initial observation is that the same language between us conjures extremely different meanings. That’s exciting and frustrating at the start.
Beautifully written. Let me know how it goes with this one.
@@ENTJ_Perspective I observe that the ENTJs talk good game at first but go off to swim in the shallows with themselves when it’s time to connect beyond the physical. The highest % of Mensans are ENFPs because we don’t have limits to engaging curiosity. I’ve learned this past week that control is what’s found at the end of curiosity. Now I understand when and why I switch from ENFP to ENTJ when I know a law or regulation that others aren’t following. I don’t need curiosity, it’s time to employ control. I wonder how common female ENTJs are? In typing this out, I’m finally seeing that my unwillingness to do others’ emotional labor and refusal to manipulate others has resulted in trying to lay down the law. ENTJ tendencies do NOT work for my tiny self in a world full of men who want me to be acquiescing. If I remained curious in my true ENFP self, I might be more successful. The ENTJ type must have the clout to back up their brutality or else why would anyone put up with their inability to authentically emotionally connect? It’s a riddle I’m still working out.
That's a lot of theory.
@@ENTJ_Perspective oh. Wait. I’m an ENFP. I not supposed to be analytical. Right. 🫡 *puts her silly little cotton candy brain away
@@user-ee4xu9lh4k Yea but it's so fun breaking the rules 😈
You are my brother from another mother - ENTJ-T
My mom is an entj and she's the definition of style. But she says it took her time and my dad who i suspect, was an enfp to really help elevate her whole look. I don't agree about the analytical/combatitiveness nessicarily maybe because I was raised by an entj. I love analyzing things having debates and researching but I don't feel the need to always prove I'm right. I can comfortably remain silent if the other person is getting emotional or needs to win unless I feel it's serious enough that the truth needs to be said otherwise I can just listen. I admire entjs work ethic, loyalty, dedication, drive and need for the truth. Def agree about the need to be more aware of others emotions. But I also think they're more emotional than others give them credit for, they just don't live in emotion like f types. A lot less combative than infjs for sure. Probably my personal favorite type.
I think friendship is okay between these 2! Naaah to relationship!
Why ENTJ posessive? Is this 1 instance or it's overall? Is it protective male or over posessive? Anyone? Because ENFP like freedom! Let them be freeeeeeeeeeeee to be who they are! No need to be insecure ENTJ! IF ENFP meant to be yours then will be! No need to keep ENFP on a silent leash!
Perhaps tendency towards possessiveness can be personality related, but I think possessiveness itself is a result of fear and insecurity. Can happen to anyone, though maybe it takes different forms.
Last thing ENFP would want is for ENTJ to not be themselves and be walking on egg shells. Either both are a mafch or not. It needs to be organic
What about ENTJ male in romantic relationship with ENFP woman? Could you pls do a video about it, i searched everywhere on youtube nobody talks about it, and is annoying.
Why do you ask? Do you have an ENTJ partner?
I do have an ENTJ partner and i'm the enfp, it has been a roller coaster, and i've been looking for this kind of videos too haha. Btw i love to debate, and very much appreciate to analyze situations (not like you mentioned that we're not analytical) and society and all, especially with entps, but my ENTJ has one opinion and will not change it, is like he cannot see the two sides of the coin, it can be frustrating for us both but we try to make it work.
@@karicastaneda4046 That's very interesting because I love seeing both sides. And I'm typically dismissive of people who don't. What's the point of having an opinion if you can't at least explore and entertain the opposing point of view?
So I wonder, Kari, if some of the things we've mentioned have more to do with having a growth mindset, or being open minded in general, than they do with personality, Your thoughts?
P.S. Love your banner btw.
@@ENTJ_Perspective i have a crush on 1. Plus why nobody talks about how to make it work with every type? How would they interact? All i see about Entj and Enfp are only videos about friendship, family members, bussiness partners etc. but what about romantic relation? how would this interaction unfold ?
What about the ppl that already have a romantic relation and they love eachother and dont know how to make it work?
@@catycika4856 Well I think part of a relationship is figuring out how to make it work. That process never really ends. But I agree there isn't much content out there. If I ever date an ENFP I'll share my experience 🤣
Great, i hope i can meet more healthy entjs, to me its okay you judge me and i judge pepole also the problem is when you hurt me with harmfull and rude way and other pepole and after that you come and say i am an nt person who judge pepole, i love te i love judge i hate being rude and being harmfull.
also the entjs who i met them were very toxic, i hope i meet more, thx.
When you feel hurt by another person it's because you take what they've done personally, and believe it is about you.
The way someone treats you is a reflection of how they are seeing the situation, and the beliefs and attitudes they carry with them. Once you see that, you can disregard and distance yourself from rude behavior as easily as you would a fly buzzing around your face.
Do you feel hurt by the fly? Of course not, it's a fly.
@@ENTJ_Perspective i gree, i have my own way to not talking things personally but i am talking about saying stuff like : you are stupid or talking loudly with anger or saying relly bad stuff that would hurt anyone even nt person, i want pepole to judge acts not pepole so we relly emprove our life.
Sorry if i didnt talk fluntly i dont have that much time now, i will watch your chanel so i understand the entjs more.
If someone calls you stupid and it hurts you, it's because of what you believe about the situation. If an angry toddler called you stupid would it hurt you? Probably not. Why then might it hurt you when someone close to you says it? It's because of what it means to you.@@Duck-fy6xn
@@ENTJ_Perspective I understand your idea that we don't have to take things personally, but I want to differentiate between constructive criticism and destructive criticism. There are some people who take criticism as a way to insult and mock others.
Definitely!@@Duck-fy6xn
New experiences, interpret art
Social butterfly
Style
Heart on sleeve
(Sensitive to criticism)
Which type do you feel the most connected to or crave to be around?
Great question, thank you. INTJ, INFP, and INTP. But my experience with all the types is limited. I’m very eager to meet more people and understand all the dynamics. Since I believe we’re all on a spectrum, there is no perfect match. I must understand all dynamics! 🧠
As an entj, def intp- infp
@@ENTJ_Perspective Thanks for replying. Would you say enneagram also plays a part?
@@Mztbtc INFP my weakness :' )
@@SS-bu8ez I think enneagram is another framework of concepts- a "lens" if you will- that you can look through to understand an individual's personality. So it's not so much that enneagram plays a part, but rather that enneagram is another framework you can apply that may take things into consideration that MBTI does not. Short answer? Yes.