I should qualify my comment, there are plenty of years I worked and functioned logically. What happened is I ditched logic in matters of the heart, and ignored warning signs -- not smart. Live and learn, thanks to HG Tudor!
Going "Gray Rock" and Stoicism saved my life-As Epictetus would say, “another person will not do you harm unless you wish it; you will be harmed at just that time at which you take yourself to be harmed.” Marcus Aurelius wrote to himself that “the best way to avenge yourself is to not be like that.” Another Stoic, Seneca, put it this way, “How much better to heal than seek revenge from injury. Vengeance wastes a lot of time and exposes you to many more injuries than the first that sparked it.”
Wanting revenge on a soulless being who cannot feel Love is never the answer. Moving on to a healthy relationship with someone who can feel and give real Love 💘 is.
Empaths or those who are compassionate and seek to help others are not only drawn to narcissists but narcissists are also drawn to us. Knowing this and not telling potential friends and mates these things about yourself will keep you from becoming hooked to a narcissist again.
Stopped emotional thinking and switched to total logical thinking. Had a final, somber talk with the narc then later in the night blocked her on everything that had to with communication. So far, so good 2 months later. Had to endure a smear campaign where I'm slowly losing a third of my family because of an onslaught of lies and smears. Because of maintaining a logical viewpoint, I finally see who was really my "loving family member". Whenever my thoughts go to the so-called good ol days, I let the logical thinking take over and get right back to normal. Thanx HG man, you actually saved a guy from what was about to be never ending misery. My ex-female narc can't figure out why her tricks to get me back in her bed are not working. I've since started a couple of hobbies (bought a Ducati motorcycle and purchased an old farm) to take up the extra time.
You on the right path brother. This coming April would make it 1 year no contact. Found a lady who appreciates and values me. Gives me no stress. You’d find but don’t rush it. You’d probably meet other narcissist before meeting the one who suits you well. Make sure you heal
I’m past the point of revenge. Past the point of closure, I just want to move on. To live my life. It’s nice to have a place to vent. It helps in my healing. Plus, I don’t ever want to experience this type of abuse for the rest of my life.
Im dealing with adrenal fatigue at the moment caused by the narcs in my life..even though their physical presence is gone the emotional hangover continues..
I’m finally there.... only took 40 years... it’s exceptionally hard when the narc is your mother.... and you have this hole inside your soul. It’s true going no contact is the only way. After 6-7 months I finally know some peace.
@@mcawesomest1 Took me nearly 40 years also (my father - parents are the toughest to eradicate). there's been two very short relationships with me since but I recognised the traits immediately; nipped it in the bud within weeks. It's possible; just say No, this isn't working for me; then ghost/ ICE them.
Romans 16: 17 Now I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause dissensions and obstacles contrary to the doctrine you have learned. Avoid them,
I stopped complying with the narcissists demands, then rebuilt relationships with family, then told him to leave and stopped all contact. Looking back I cannot believe I spent 14 years in a confused unhappy state. Be aware that narcissists will return as the perfect person once they know you are pulling away...
*Only God* has The power to make us invincible to all of these damn devils. And, we won’t be invincible, per say. Ever. Until we r dead. That’s *if* with don’t end in The Eternal Flames w/them!
@@debrabostwick2250 That's right! 😃 At first with their love bombing sessions the might seem lovely and interesting but it's because we're falling in love with our images but with time and out of the trauma bonding you discover they're extremely boring. They don't have an identity, only masks; they lack the genuine sparks of authenticity, no matter who intellectual or intelligent they might be.
They follow the same pattern- Idealize(love bombing, etc), Devalue and Discard. Once they exhaust their supply(which was you) and drained you of what they wanted, they move on to greener pastures and fresh supply.
Once i've been addicted to a narcissist... Now I'm addicted to your videos and your beautiful voice... The narcissists bring us confuse, abuses, and problems... While you bring us clarity, knowledge and freedom... Goso... Thx HG...I'm a Survivor thx to you... Much appreciation and love for your contribution and legacy 💖
Empaths don't get angry they become distant. That's a cliche but it best describes how we operate. However, we don't do this for them, we do it for us. This goes for everything not just with our interactions with narcissists.
If you find yourself in connection with a narcissist you're probably not an Empath , but very codependent. Codependent people like to romanticize their condition by calling it other things that sound better.
@@MegaBlueEyezz are you saying there are no codependente empaths? romanticize? are you devaluing others? check yourself... alot of unhealed empaths are targeted by narcs, but there are empaths that when enouf is enouf, burn a narc to the ground.
Observation is the only way to truly understand. Even as an empath, observing has been the best way for me to learn and overcome. I find it crazy how much I pick up on that no one else notices! I don’t think a lot of people observe, but if you do, you’ll see how narcissism operates. Self observation as well as observing others in a balanced way. Don’t over observe yourself in a way that excuses some of the narcissists behaviour. I think appropriate allocation of responsibility is important. They may be trying to cast doubt in your mind, you don’t have to succumb to the self doubt that they would like you to accept.
I have been educating myself on narcissism for the last two months and have watched many videos and listened to many people talking. You give the most sincere advice on the matter.
I’ve done no contact after 60 years - I’ve lost other members of my family because I’ve done this 😭 but it’s the only way. I’m feeling SO much better. Thank you 🙏🏼
I've just detached myself from a family member. Over the pity plays victimhood manipulations and martyrdom. I have no energy for the drama and found out I've been painted black and smeared. Set others against me. I've cut the ties for self preservation and not be controlled. I am learning resilience and strength. I know that the truth has been twisted to fit the narcs narrative. I will always love this family member but do not like the behaviours or character. I dont want revenge. Peace is my plan
I suffered an ensnarement with a narcissist. He is the only man who didn’t fight for our relationship when I finally walked. I want nothing from him, I want what I have....to be done. HG, you gave me that...the desire to live again without him and never looking back.
Took me 5years to recover and feel liberated. And another 5 years to start a new life alone. I love my life now no man ever just my fabulous ginger cat who loves me for me happy days
Dear hg, I'm here because i'd like to forgive myself for what I have accepted and went thought with my narcissist. I'd like to stop feeling stupid and weak. I'd like to learn how to close my heart once for all!!! This is what he's done to me: he was able to make me hate myself for having loved, given, donated throughout all these years.
Then he has won. Think about it. You feeling so worthless even if you go no contact means nothing. He achieved his goal. We have to forgive ourselves.It's not our fault that because we are good loving people there are those who use us for their own purpose. Be proud you recognized it. It's the first step. It's not an easy road. I left mine 5 years ago and I still have a lot of work to do and still have not reached a point where I fully love myself again but it is possible. We cannot have regrets either and I know it's difficult. I wasted over half my life with him and it's easy to be angry with myself but I find ways to get past it. We are only human and will regress back into that place of worthlessness but we can also learn to move forward from it. We may have suffered but it's not all that our lives have been. We have to focus on the positives that happened along the way not to fool ourselves into thinking it was okay what we went through but remind ourselves that it wasn't always negative.
Just remember everything he showed you in the love bombing phase was what he saw in YOU! What he projected during the devalue stage is what he knows of himself. I have been dealing w the same issues. Normal ppl breakup & they want you to have a happy life, just not w them. He wants to destroy me & make me hate myself as much as he hates me!! I’ have never done anything to him! Even when he tried to get me jealous or to rage, I never did. So not sure what he hates about me
@M.G. G., There’s absolutely NO need to close your heart. You’re NOT stupid or weak. Shut down that negative self-talk. Your feelings are superpowers, something the Narc will NEVER have. In fact, I suggest you open your heart wider & shine your love on everyone - even the Narc - but don’t ever let that fucker back in. I know it hurts, the pain is real. I’ve been there. Acknowledge the pain, but don’t allow this person or experience to diminish your light. ✨♥️💫
@@Jezebel066 sounds like you cannot *fathom* *why* demons hate human beings, since we technically “never did anything to them” much less why The devil hates God, when all God has *ever* done was bestow favor upon favor and honored him even above The status of The angels. In short, *naive* .
My daughter has hit upon this herself. Her ex husband is a narcissist. She threw him out, I am so proud. She has four sons with him so a certain amount of contact is necessary at least until the eighty-year-old is on his own. She has found a wonderful man whose father was a narcissist and his guidance has been wonderful. I remember years ago a woman on television advising "if someone makes you unhappy and miserable, don't go around them. It doesn't matter who they are, your parent, a grown child, it doesn't matter. You do not ave to ave them in your life,
There IS one single thing you can use to defeat the Narcissist: knowledge. See, in studying you for weeks, months and years I have an ever increasing awareness of their drive, inclinations, apathy. Once taken to heart, the necessary boundaries will emerge one by one. Being drawn in by the Narcissist is mistake one. Believing that you are powerless is mistake 2. Doing nothing to cancel them out is mistake 3.
🙏🙏🙏 i left 3 times before i actually LEFT. Everytime he drew me back in. The final time, i left and did not tell him where. By the time he found me, after a few months, i was a little stronger and able to not be drawn back in. I wish id had the internet and HG at that time. My gorgeous empaths, please, please listen to HG ❤
I have found the most insulting thing you can do to anyone is to be indifferent to them. Not rude just not interested. People want to feel that they can get a rise out of you. As a woman I have found that polite indifference drives people mad.
You are absolutely right about complete no-contact. The goal is to render the narcissist completely inert in your life. It is possible. It takes time, study and work on one’s own characteristics that have to be dampened in order to move on. And for those times when we must interact with the narcissist due to parental obligations and such; we must realize that these interactions are ephemeral and we can pack them away and resume our lives once they are over. Making a narcissist inert is something we do for ourselves as it has no impact whatsoever on the narcissist but, Then again, who cares? Working on one’s self is of the utmost importance because ultimately defeating a narcissist is quite simply impossible because we cannot play their game because we do not think as they do so leave the vengeful thinking behind and work on yourself and all the things you’ve learned from being with the narcissist.
I very much appreciate these videos. I don't want to defeat the narcissist but instead understand them and learn how to live amongst them without being victimized by them. It is important to understand them. I don't want revenge.
Narcissist personality disorder is a mental disorder. Trauma through childhood with parents or bullying with people can caurse it. They think by being nasty to people and gaining things all the time they win, but the reality is they're completely miserable and angry, loss of who they should be as a personailty . They feed on dark energy with people and they use to be empaths too. I understand them as a sigma empath but how to talk with them is another story.
Why am I looking at this video? The same reason I watch all of the videos...I need to have this information drilled into my head. I’ve toyed with the idea of buying material from the knowledge vault but honestly, these videos have gotten me so far from where I once was, trapped in my emotional thinking. I need to understand how the narcissist thinks not just from the perspective of doctors or victims/survivors but from someone who lives it every minute of every day. I need to know how to handle myself when I’m in situations where no contact is just not an option. I need to know that no contact is how I win the war. I need to be reminded that while my experiences were real in that they did happen, none of those experiences were genuine. I need these videos. Hopefully there will be a day when I don’t but for now I patiently await the next upload and as soon as I get the notification I stop what I’m doing and watch. I don’t know you and don’t know enough about you to hate you and I don’t dislike you. I’m grateful that you exist. Even though I know that provides fuel, insignificant as it may be, I don’t care. The fuel you get from me is worth every bit of knowledge I’ve gained as a result of you laying it all on the table. Thank you.
@LaTanya It sounds like you got sucked into the whirlwind of a narcissist, that you got out, but can't go 100% no contact at this time. Judging by your comment, it sounds like you've given it a lot of thought, and that there really is no way to go totally dark -- yet. I see no venom in your comment, no desire to figure out the best way to strike back, no sign of a woman driven by emotions instead of by rational thought (in other words, you don't appear to have a personality disorder). Permit me to make a prediction based solely on the content of one comment you made: You may go through a few more months of questioning your reality, of thinking of yourself as an emotional wreck, of dwelling on how easy a mark you were, etc. This is normal. When it hits you, remember that, although you were sucked into the vortex, YOU climbed out, and now YOU are putting your emotions under the reign of your rational, logical mind. That makes you the heroine of the story. luminescence. It could be a tooled leather bookmark that you carry in your Kindle case, or Grandma's old wind-up watch. Whatever it is, make it personal. Keep it with you. Tell no one: It's your secret. Keeping that secret will help build your rational control over your emotions, and touching that trinket will remind you of your strength.
I’ve read lots of comments on Narc experts channels, and I sometimes get the impression there are those who, subconsciously probably, relish their victim status by being unable to employ cold hard logical thinking. We are not victims, we were prey, to those who feast on emotional abuse. We got ourselves onto his/ her plate by either having never knowingly encountered a narcissist before, or never having found the one who elevated our empathic character traits as we were going through the first phase of admiration and those thrown out crumbs of love etc we gobbled up eagerly which led like a trail straight onto the plate . Prey cannot appeal to or argue with a predator, every reaction applied to normal humans, is feeding him/ her. Prey swiftly removes itself entirely to safety, physically and mentally before it gets sucked dry . A bit metaphorical, I know …
I love your voice and your insight into dealing with narcissist. Your videos have helped me heal and rebuild my life and there is no better Information than to get it straight from the a narcissist himself. I subscribe to many other videos but your channel has been my survival bible for the last 6 months. Working on emotional thinking is truly great skill to develop, think with your head and not your heart is everything . Forever grateful for you.
I really want to thank you, this found me at the exact time I was in question on weather or not to "FINALLY" answer him back, all the letters and phone calls that keep containing little digs, small and hurtful sentences and even some border line threats to my safety, I happen to stumble upon this, and thank you again because you truly saved me from making that mistake!!!
Many of us want instant gratification of revenge when we realize what's happened. It doesnt work. They are the king of kings(or queens) when it comes to short term satisfactions. The only way to win is looking at it in the long term. They are terrible at that
As someone who was utterly crushed by narcissists, which lead to physical, emotional breakdown and at the brink of insanity, it took 3 years of healing and i think the best revenge on a narcissist is not no contact, it is remaining in their vicinty, showing them that even though they stomped you that low their efforts were ultimately futile, showing them your resistance and ability to have grown even better and bigger than what you used to be, the biggest blow though to a narcissist is indirectly letting them know that you know exactly who and what they are and still be able to smile and have a converstion with them while enforcing impenetrable boundries, this is what i believe conquering a narcissist looks like.
I know you already know this but as twisted as your thinking is, you are a brilliant man and we all thank you for helping us empaths understand a little more about narcissism . You are to the point and clear, no sugar coating- no BS! Thank you for your time and insight. Much appreciated HG! Love listen to your voice… guilty. Your content is the first reason I listen to your channel! Excellent 👍🏻
Thank you HG once again you have hit the nail on the head I have accomplished no contact with my ex-Narcissist he is definitely afraid to even try to contact me if he does try it he’s dumber than I thought. That bridge has been burned
Trying to get revenge on the narcissist is like trying to met out revenge on a 3 year old. They are sad sad people and if you do you would become just as pathetic as they are. They really deserve our pity for the hellish existence they live.
I feel God gets the revenge on your behalf, eventually you do get justice just have to be patient, I’ve found this happened in my life, 😊I’m at peace now, better to stay away from a narc
HG, I’m so guilty of administering incorrect information about narcissists. Out of empathic emotional thinking, and pain, but it’s also been a huge part of my recovery too. It gave me a sense of my own control back for the first time in decades. I have actually helped women win their children or assets back prepping them for court, but not any guarantee either w other women. I thought I knew so much about human behavior, and realize I have so much more to learn. Thank you for your brilliant work.
I’ve been complete no contact for 10 years and he is still posting songs with my name in them. I just recently looked into it. Before I just didn’t care enough to even check. Recently I was bored and looking up my exes. So I don’t feel like he is defeated. It would be nicer if he never thought about me
mine did the same thing to me, begged and pleaded about how wrong he was, then silent treatment when he realized i was still in shock over the emotional abuse and triangulation, then returned a different person and casual discard lol its like these soulless demons were manufactured in the depths of hell with all the same ingredients
The best revenge is no revenge. He’s dead to me and I’m dead to him. Yes I am addicted. Yes I’m obsessed but I’ve gone cold turkey. Yes it hurt and still does but for me no contact is the way and the only way.
No contact for nasty abusive ex partners. No contact for evil control freak mothers. No contact for that self appointed mental health worker from the Church, who was threatening to pull the mental act on me if I don't attend her groups. No contact for selfish always asking for favours and then asking for money neighbour. You guys are everywhere...thanks HG. Dragon sleighing in action
This is an EXTRAORDINARY channel. This man is a pure, certified, hands on, been there, done that narcissist who has become a psychology teacher. If you noticed, all the other psychologists who are ALL empaths, and they cannot resist infusing their personal reactions of offense and or desire to take revenge on narcisists. They speak from the outside trying to figure them out. This is the ONLY psychologist who has HIMSELF plunged into the REAL inner world and thought patterns of narcissists. After 3 years with a beautiful woman narcissist, I NOW know that only the saving power of the Lord Jesus Christ, can transform genuinely such a person, and all depends upon Gods elective mercy upon those who He chose to be saved before the world began. Folks, thats the ONLY chance your narcissist will be what you dream and hope...until then , as he says, go no contact permanently.
I think I’m trying to defeat myself because she’s out of my life two years so the issue is whitin me to find peace. Getting revenge will achieve more chaos and solve nothing
i knew it the moment i saw the title. yet i watched, listen with the video till end. because i know your there with your honest straight forward thoughts where we can find solace and peace. thank you as always HG.
Here’s some fuel....I appreciate you HG. Because of you...I’ve got my sons mother all confused. I’m a whole different animal now. No emotional reaction... I don’t give a &$@!
you are the only one I listen to HG ,you alone has explained the unexplainable that no doctor or councillor has, immense insight and intelligence . Thank you again for teaching me how to understand and use logic ❤️
4 years Full No Contact and Divorce coming to the end me and my Children have defeated this evil vile man it is the hardest painful years of our lives finally we are Recovering through the grief but we have all stuck together and found our selfs again to move on 🙌 my mother before she died gave me the push and strength and said KEEP GOING and that’s what we have done defeated him x
I don’t know about this, to infer that taking revenge is a form of feeding your addiction. No it’s just a sense of equity. I think it’s fair to take some revenge, and then go no contact. You’ll feel better as you move on, I did.
Lol. I blocked him. Then he blocked me. Then he unblocked me. I texted him to be nice. And then he blocked me again. Now I’ve blocked him hopefully for good!I hope I stick with it!
Get your very truthful parting shots in I mean the truth that is very valid and were afraid to say before bc it would bring a rain of hellfire. Things true, but you can’t take back. IE- “ no wonder your own grown daughter loathes you and discarded you for good”. Painful, but 100 percent true. easier to GOSO. they won’t let painful truth spoken go, ever.
This has been happening for over 3 years but everytime I find the courage to walk away and go 'no contact' he somehow finds a way back in by being nice and attentive. I feel (and tell others) 'he's definitely changed'...and then a month later the mask slips and he is the same awful person pulling me down and sucking my good energy. I end up sick, in bed and not able to socialize with any other person, except for him and so anxious when he won't communicate or acknowledge my existence that I contemplate ending my life . It's so heartbreaking that I somehow seek out this form of abuse in my codependency. I hope by watching and learning these videos I will be able to walk away with self-worth and emotions intact.
Thank you Mr narcissist.. if someone like you wasn’t able to give us this information we would be stuffed. i don’t want my narcissist to suffer.: I still love him even through I now understand him .. I will no longer have any contact with him, but I still pray for him because he has no one because he has alienated every one... we all woke up to his games!!
❤🎉thank you again for your channel 🙏 ❤ We all need to hear this information. And we all need to be shown the Truth. 🎉❤ CELEBRATE 🍾 💖 your life ✨️ you only have one.
TSEGA--I wish it was that way. In my case, my EXTREME COVERT NARC soon to be ex- husband, uses God, Jesus, the Bible and praying to attempt to put guilt, lay blame, control and attempt to make one feel shame for what HE DOES. Uses scripture, verses and attempts to make you feel fear.. It didn't work. I left him. He's still trying (hoovering me) by telling me I'm not of God LOL 😂 But he is the one, when he goes into narc RAGE, he goes outside in the middle of the night, and he BLASPHEMIES God and Jesus, by SCREAMING calling them DISGUSTING names, giving them the finger.. ETC. I am ABSOLUTELY convinced HE IS A demon
Just because they say they believe in God/ Jesus does not mean they are off God. There are a lot of narc in church. Believe me if you truly believe in God love him God will come to your rescue. It might not be in your time frame but in time.
I found your videos years after I split with my narcissist ex. the sex with a narcissist one showed up in my feed and..oh my god...it explains so much. The no contact or acknowledgement of his existence when we were living together (called me te Ive Queen after we fought becasue I refused to tolerate his antics, but I assumed it was alcohol more than narcissism. I appreciate your honesty. You admit that you have your reasons for making this videos and regardless of what they might be for you on a personal level, this might be a form of apology to your empath victims in a sense, letting people know the truth. Many blessings to you, Sending you love, even if you don't feel it.
How to defeat a narcissist? Goso, no contact and show the world that we can have an amazing life on our own. Trying to raise hell for a narcissist is pointless. Two wrongs won't make a right. Sometimes it takes a wrongdoer to tell us that what we're doing is wrong. HG builds his legacy, and more people escape the claws of a narc. Win win isn't it?
H G you are greater than the super empath because you are making this world a better place by revealing the truth about evil and helping infinite universe to evolve in a natural and positive way. Thank you ❤ infinitely.
Heed HG’s advice. His words are Truthfully spoken. How am I so certain?? I lived it. I once was ensnared, a hopeless victim of a narcissist for 11yrs due my own emotional manner of thinking and approach to everything in life, particularly relationships of all manner and due my LACK of knowledge and understanding of the Narcissist. I’ve been FREED from the Grip of the narcissist for 15+ years now. However it took me the 11 years of a Hell I’d never experienced, least not in such an all consuming manner as that relationship was. Doomed from the beginning. If only I had known then what I do know... Ahh but isn’t life like that. I Survived it, But not without scars leftover from wounds. Nevertheless I came thr it and a better person I am. A better version of all that makes me whom I am. Once freed I never looked back. Absolutely NO Contact is a MUST! Why am I here, listening to HG’s audio videos? Because HG Tudor puts into words all that I couldn’t. Those words of truth and wisdom helped me too understand my experience. Providing me the ability too articulate my experience minus the emotions. Thank you HG Tudor.
My boss is a narcissist, possibly a psychopath. She is a total horror but then fake charming when she wants to be. She is a very influential person and will do her best to destroy anyone who makes her mad. I particularly irritate her because I don't react the way she wants me to. I ignore her as much as I can. She expects total loyalty and admiration as well as my being available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I do feel terrible but I do not let her see. I am soon to retire and looking forward to being free of her nastiness and control. She hates not being able to get the reactions she wants from me.
Honestly I don't wish that man, I once knew any bad, cause he is living bad every second of his sick life, he has to rely on people in other to feel important. Now think about it, that is living very bad
Sometimes I imagine my narc being abused as child. He suffered a lot of abuse as a child. When I think of this, I don't take what he did to me so personal
I refuse to change who I am to try and make someone else feel the pain they caused me. I am who I am and it sucks sometimes but at least I can sleep knowing I don't purposely go out to breaking people because I can't control my impulse for instant self gratification or have the dedication and courage to face and dive into my self inadequacies to better myself. Wishing everyone love
(1) The reason I listened was because I was surprised you were making such a blunt declaration. (2) If it wasn’t for discovering and listening to these video topics on narcissism I would have never known what it was, thought it was completely me-crazy for 40 years, and don’t even want to think about where I’d be right now.
Has it ever occurred to you that there are people out here just as smart as you on the other side of the fence? I know now what I have been dealing with. I’m listening to you because I want to understand it every tool and every weapon in your arsenal. No matter the reason for being an empath, we are an empath. No matter the reason that you are a narcissist, you are a narcissist. I want to defeat the enemy. I want to be done with all of you. Yes, your voice is seductive. Yes your information is extremely helpful I don’t kid yourself, I’m not here to be seduced by you. I am here to defeat you. I’m here to defeat every narcissist who enters into my life. I am a trauma-based empath. I am trying to self psychoanalyze if you will. I will learn from you but I will discard you as easily as you discard us.
Because of you …I have understood everything. Thank you. I am in GoSo status and no contact. I’ve acquired logical thinking in looking at the narc behavior. Wanted to know more about revenge…but not anymore…I’m well.👍🏻
For twenty years I was married to one and didn't know it...got divorced and met another one for 30 years it has been a roller-coaster the second Narc (10)YRS died suddenly of a heart attack in the woods on a hunting sport that was how I was awarded my escape from him. They both where charmers, master manipulators, you name it they did it...30 years of my life stolen because I didn't know...thanks hg for this information.
Enjoy listening, but is more than joy. There is nothing else I'd wish to do but listen non stop, day and night from this last week. It did well, moved my 3 desks to start working again, nothing has changed as I'm in the middle of them and keep listening. I'm too smart to admire anyone, it has surprise myself to have come to this situation of admiring someone so strong and smart with HG Tudor. Is not that I believe everything, in awe most of all away reason. This voices could be impossible to near a ear.
Get on with your life and do well with what you do. Go no contact with the narcissist forever. Loosing their fuel hurts them, and you doing well shows the narcissist that their plans are defeated.
All so curious. Now learning that I have been married to a narcissist for 45 years…learned this after his unexpected death (helicopter crash) with his mistress of 7-8 years. No wonder I had a wall protecting my heart. He lied to me when I questioned his behavior and a million other things that now fit together. Still needing to process and learn about this so I can let go of his hold and find my complete freedom.
The opening words of this episode brought tears since this man is so incredibly brilliant and insightful. I do not know him, but I sincerely hope he is not alone, he has so much to give people. (Edit) Saying HG has so much 'to give' may sound like a contradiction to what I have heard in his videos, such as 'no contact' but if all narcissists were to be isolated and put in their own country we would not have precious souls as Mr. Tudor.
Some times it isn't about revenge, it is about survival. Sometimes you can't run. My guess is exposure, the destruction of the image in the minds of the people who have been conned into believing it.
I already had my retribution. Now I'm at this point of my life that I want to understand and to find personal resolution. Also it's good to be prepared for future encounters with other narcissistic people, as it's a common problem and I see narcissistic traits very often.
HG, thank you SO MUCH for the discount code for your Knowledge Vault. I just purchased a bunch of your resources. I’m on a tight budget, but I can justify this investment. ❤️
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The best revenge for a narcissist is to treat them like they don't exist.
Dead to me
I am a Scorpio and that is my superpower 🤣😁
@@heatherwagar2898 me too but deep down i still love him
@@heatherwagar2898 me as well!! #scorpios
That's because that's literally what happens when they die... they cease to exist, no control, no influence... nothing.
I’ve found that a combination of silence, time, and letting karma do its thing generally work. I’ve outlasted a lot of them.
Agree. Isolate and ignore only way you can have a peaceful life.
And that's more for us than them.
This is great news! It seems I have been doing the right thing since 2011!
No contact is defeating the narcissist. They hate it and we love it! 💗
and when that isn't an option?
My motto .....NO REACTION IS THE BEST REACTION,....
Worked for me
TOTAL lack of response - just blank it
Yup has helped me since dec.
The Underline :)
How did they react?
Yes, this really works
I don't want revenge or payback.
I want to learn to think logically --- and avoid ever being an appliance again.
That's why I'm here.
Same here. All I have heard thus far in many ways says, no contact is line of least resistance. No need to feed the beast.
I should qualify my comment, there are plenty of years I worked and functioned logically. What happened is I ditched logic in matters of the heart, and ignored warning signs -- not smart.
Live and learn, thanks to HG Tudor!
Accomplices vs. appliances. Bad nightmare.
Me too. Been no contact for 4 years, but still have anger towards the way I was treated.
Going "Gray Rock" and Stoicism saved my life-As Epictetus would say, “another person will not do you harm unless you wish it; you will be harmed at just that time at which you take yourself to be harmed.” Marcus Aurelius wrote to himself that “the best way to avenge yourself is to not be like that.” Another Stoic, Seneca, put it this way, “How much better to heal than seek revenge from injury. Vengeance wastes a lot of time and exposes you to many more injuries than the first that sparked it.”
Wanting revenge on a soulless being who cannot feel Love is never the answer. Moving on to a healthy relationship with someone who can feel and give real Love 💘 is.
Empaths or those who are compassionate and seek to help others are not only drawn to narcissists but narcissists are also drawn to us. Knowing this and not telling potential friends and mates these things about yourself will keep you from becoming hooked to a narcissist again.
Truthfully, revenge is a tool that destroys its
Wielder
E-x-a-c-t-l-y.
@@pattyroe : Yeah, this is such a 1973 thing isn’t it?
One spit short of delusion
Be aware
Stopped emotional thinking and switched to total logical thinking.
Had a final, somber talk with the narc then later in the night blocked her on everything that had to with communication. So far, so good 2 months later. Had to endure a smear campaign where I'm slowly losing a third of my family because of an onslaught of lies and smears. Because of maintaining a logical viewpoint, I finally see who was really my "loving family member". Whenever my thoughts go to the so-called good ol days, I let the logical thinking take over and get right back to normal. Thanx HG man, you actually saved a guy from what was about to be never ending misery. My ex-female narc can't figure out why her tricks to get me back in her bed are not working. I've since started a couple of hobbies (bought a Ducati motorcycle and purchased an old farm) to take up the extra time.
Like I said earlier, living well is the best revenge!
You on the right path brother. This coming April would make it 1 year no contact. Found a lady who appreciates and values me. Gives me no stress. You’d find but don’t rush it. You’d probably meet other narcissist before meeting the one who suits you well. Make sure you heal
Good for you!! Keep going and growing!! 👏👏👏
Good for you
Why a Ducati? But good for you.
I’m past the point of revenge. Past the point of closure, I just want to move on. To live my life.
It’s nice to have a place to vent. It helps in my healing.
Plus, I don’t ever want to experience this type of abuse for the rest of my life.
Me neither.
Im dealing with adrenal fatigue at the moment caused by the narcs in my life..even though their physical presence is gone the emotional hangover continues..
I’m finally there.... only took 40 years... it’s exceptionally hard when the narc is your mother.... and you have this hole inside your soul. It’s true going no contact is the only way. After 6-7 months I finally know some peace.
@@marhar1172 It goes on for a very long time because they have you believing its you.
@@mcawesomest1 Took me nearly 40 years also (my father - parents are the toughest to eradicate). there's been two very short relationships with me since but I recognised the traits immediately; nipped it in the bud within weeks. It's possible; just say No, this isn't working for me; then ghost/ ICE them.
The way 2 defeat the narc is this: GOD
You hit the nail on the head, my friend God is bigger than all things greater he that is within us and he is in the world
Romans 16: 17
Now I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause dissensions and obstacles contrary to the doctrine you have learned. Avoid them,
The best revenge is no revenge..
Run as far away as you can from that person and keep on running. NO CONTACT
I stopped complying with the narcissists demands, then rebuilt relationships with family, then told him to leave and stopped all contact. Looking back I cannot believe I spent 14 years in a confused unhappy state. Be aware that narcissists will return as the perfect person once they know you are pulling away...
*Only God* has The power
to make us invincible to all
of these damn devils. And,
we won’t be invincible, per
say. Ever. Until we r dead.
That’s *if* with don’t end in
The Eternal Flames w/them!
Is it just me or would anyone like to hear H.G. narrate "How the Grinch Stole Christmas?"
HG has narrated some Dr Seuss already.
Perfect. I would love it.
The Chronicles of Narnia.
Right
🤣
They hate when you tell them they're SO predictable; drives them crazy but, of course, life is beautiful without them.
No contact is best.
Predictably boring.
@@debrabostwick2250
That's right! 😃
At first with their love bombing sessions the might seem lovely and interesting but it's because we're falling in love with our images but with time and out of the trauma bonding you discover they're extremely boring. They don't have an identity, only masks; they lack the genuine sparks of authenticity, no matter who intellectual or intelligent they might be.
@@debrabostwick2250 right
They follow the same pattern- Idealize(love bombing, etc), Devalue and Discard. Once they exhaust their supply(which was you) and drained you of what they wanted, they move on to greener pastures and fresh supply.
YES TRUE.
Idk.
The one simple thing is to get out, STAY OUT!
7 months no contact.
I am healing.
Thanks again!
Me too no contact 7 months and I’m loving it I’m in healing
Once i've been addicted to a narcissist... Now I'm addicted to your videos and your beautiful voice... The narcissists bring us confuse, abuses, and problems... While you bring us clarity, knowledge and freedom... Goso... Thx HG...I'm a Survivor thx to you... Much appreciation and love for your contribution and legacy 💖
Empaths don't get angry they become distant. That's a cliche but it best describes how we operate. However, we don't do this for them, we do it for us. This goes for everything not just with our interactions with narcissists.
Yes
God Him Self gets angry
righteous anger is a thing
If you find yourself in connection with a narcissist you're probably not an Empath , but very codependent. Codependent people like to romanticize their condition by calling it other things that sound better.
i do get angry and im a empath so yiur statement is wrong
@@MegaBlueEyezz are you saying there are no codependente empaths? romanticize? are you devaluing others? check yourself... alot of unhealed empaths are targeted by narcs, but there are empaths that when enouf is enouf, burn a narc to the ground.
You have to realize narcissist are cold hearted individuals and they aren't capable of caring about anyone but themselves.
Forgive the Narcissist and stay calm and move on .
Forgive yourSelf, stay calm and move on!
Best advice
I told my narcissist wife that I forgave her. I also told her I still loved her. It's been a month no contact
THIS!! ❤️ This is the BEST advice EVER!! You maintain peace integrity and a clear conscience. Soul intact full of life and the abundance of it all.
Observation is the only way to truly understand. Even as an empath, observing has been the best way for me to learn and overcome. I find it crazy how much I pick up on that no one else notices! I don’t think a lot of people observe, but if you do, you’ll see how narcissism operates. Self observation as well as observing others in a balanced way. Don’t over observe yourself in a way that excuses some of the narcissists behaviour. I think appropriate allocation of responsibility is important. They may be trying to cast doubt in your mind, you don’t have to succumb to the self doubt that they would like you to accept.
I have been educating myself on narcissism for the last two months and have watched many videos and listened to many people talking. You give the most sincere advice on the matter.
Thank you. My work and its efficacy is unrivalled.
I’ve done no contact after 60 years - I’ve lost other members of my family because I’ve done this 😭 but it’s the only way.
I’m feeling SO much better. Thank you 🙏🏼
I've just detached myself from a family member. Over the pity plays victimhood manipulations and martyrdom. I have no energy for the drama and found out I've been painted black and smeared. Set others against me. I've cut the ties for self preservation and not be controlled. I am learning resilience and strength. I know that the truth has been twisted to fit the narcs narrative. I will always love this family member but do not like the behaviours or character. I dont want revenge. Peace is my plan
God bless y'all 🙌we can and will find our peace 😇
Very brave of you 💪🏻
I suffered an ensnarement with a narcissist. He is the only man who didn’t fight for our relationship when I finally walked. I want nothing from him, I want what I have....to be done. HG, you gave me that...the desire to live again without him and never looking back.
He may still Hoover you. Sometimes months or years later but from my experience they always Hoover.
When I went silent on him for just a week..he hoovered me.
Narcs should just leave us the hack alone, no need for revenge. Them looking in the mirror every day is punishment enough!
🤮😳🤮😳
The best revenge is living well in my narc free zone.
Exactly I wanted revenge for years jus brung myself down finally found little peace dont worry bout getting them back judgement day coming soon enough
Exactly Kat. We dont look, want or ask for their kind while they hunt us down.
Took me 5years to recover and feel liberated. And another 5 years to start a new life alone. I love my life now no man ever just my fabulous ginger cat who loves me for me happy days
Right on .. NO CONTACT ... means...NO
CONTACT!!!!! Listen to HG!!!!!!!
Dear hg, I'm here because i'd like to forgive myself for what I have accepted and went thought with my narcissist. I'd like to stop feeling stupid and weak. I'd like to learn how to close my heart once for all!!! This is what he's done to me: he was able to make me hate myself for having loved, given, donated throughout all these years.
Then he has won. Think about it. You feeling so worthless even if you go no contact means nothing. He achieved his goal. We have to forgive ourselves.It's not our fault that because we are good loving people there are those who use us for their own purpose. Be proud you recognized it. It's the first step. It's not an easy road. I left mine 5 years ago and I still have a lot of work to do and still have not reached a point where I fully love myself again but it is possible. We cannot have regrets either and I know it's difficult. I wasted over half my life with him and it's easy to be angry with myself but I find ways to get past it. We are only human and will regress back into that place of worthlessness but we can also learn to move forward from it. We may have suffered but it's not all that our lives have been. We have to focus on the positives that happened along the way not to fool ourselves into thinking it was okay what we went through but remind ourselves that it wasn't always negative.
Just remember everything he showed you in the love bombing phase was what he saw in YOU! What he projected during the devalue stage is what he knows of himself.
I have been dealing w the same issues. Normal ppl breakup & they want you to have a happy life, just not w them. He wants to destroy me & make me hate myself as much as he hates me!! I’ have never done anything to him! Even when he tried to get me jealous or to rage, I never did. So not sure what he hates about me
@M.G. G., There’s absolutely NO need to close your heart. You’re NOT stupid or weak. Shut down that negative self-talk. Your feelings are superpowers, something the Narc will NEVER have. In fact, I suggest you open your heart wider & shine your love on everyone - even the Narc - but don’t ever let that fucker back in.
I know it hurts, the pain is real. I’ve been there. Acknowledge the pain, but don’t allow this person or experience to diminish your light. ✨♥️💫
@@Jezebel066 sounds like you cannot *fathom*
*why* demons hate human beings, since
we technically “never did anything to them”
much less why The devil hates God, when
all God has *ever* done was bestow favor
upon favor and honored him even above
The status of The angels. In short, *naive* .
Stupid, big time COWARD
And weak......YOU DESCRIBE
THE NARCISSIST.........That
Is not you..........
My daughter has hit upon this herself. Her ex husband is a narcissist. She threw him out, I am so proud. She has four sons with him so a certain amount of contact is necessary at least until the eighty-year-old is on his own. She has found a wonderful man whose father was a narcissist and his guidance has been wonderful.
I remember years ago a woman on television advising "if someone makes you unhappy and miserable, don't go around them. It doesn't matter who they are, your parent, a grown child, it doesn't matter. You do not ave to ave them in your life,
No contact is the only way to defeat the NPD- thank you H. G. Tudor! Superb as always. Simply WALK AWAY. Stay Away. The end. Perfect advice.
There IS one single thing you can use to defeat the Narcissist: knowledge. See, in studying you for weeks, months and years I have an ever increasing awareness of their drive, inclinations, apathy. Once taken to heart, the necessary boundaries will emerge one by one.
Being drawn in by the Narcissist is mistake one. Believing that you are powerless is mistake 2. Doing nothing to cancel them out is mistake 3.
🙏🙏🙏 i left 3 times before i actually LEFT. Everytime he drew me back in. The final time, i left and did not tell him where. By the time he found me, after a few months, i was a little stronger and able to not be drawn back in.
I wish id had the internet and HG at that time.
My gorgeous empaths, please, please listen to HG ❤
My mother is a narcissist, your videos really help me out.
Good.
Mine too.
Blessings, Julia. Happy healing, love!
NM as well. Brutal childhood. Tudor has helped me immensely.
Mine too 👍
This could be the most narcissistic video I've ever seen on this topic 😀 Brilliant
I have found the most insulting thing you can do to anyone is to be indifferent to them. Not rude just not interested. People want to feel that they can get a rise out of you. As a woman I have found that polite indifference drives people mad.
You are absolutely right about complete no-contact. The goal is to render the narcissist completely inert in your life. It is possible. It takes time, study and work on one’s own characteristics that have to be dampened in order to move on. And for those times when we must interact with the narcissist due to parental obligations and such; we must realize that these interactions are ephemeral and we can pack them away and resume our lives once they are over. Making a narcissist inert is something we do for ourselves as it has no impact whatsoever on the narcissist but, Then again, who cares? Working on one’s self is of the utmost importance because ultimately defeating a narcissist is quite simply impossible because we cannot play their game because we do not think as they do so leave the vengeful thinking behind and work on yourself and all the things you’ve learned from being with the narcissist.
I very much appreciate these videos. I don't want to defeat the narcissist but instead understand them and learn how to live amongst them without being victimized by them. It is important to understand them. I don't want revenge.
Good luck with that
Great attitude. They need our prayers. And by the grace of God, we are able to pray and forgive.
There is no need for that truely.
Narcissist personality disorder is a mental disorder. Trauma through childhood with parents or bullying with people can caurse it. They think by being nasty to people and gaining things all the time they win, but the reality is they're completely miserable and angry, loss of who they should be as a personailty . They feed on dark energy with people and they use to be empaths too. I understand them as a sigma empath but how to talk with them is another story.
Why am I looking at this video? The same reason I watch all of the videos...I need to have this information drilled into my head. I’ve toyed with the idea of buying material from the knowledge vault but honestly, these videos have gotten me so far from where I once was, trapped in my emotional thinking. I need to understand how the narcissist thinks not just from the perspective of doctors or victims/survivors but from someone who lives it every minute of every day. I need to know how to handle myself when I’m in situations where no contact is just not an option. I need to know that no contact is how I win the war. I need to be reminded that while my experiences were real in that they did happen, none of those experiences were genuine. I need these videos. Hopefully there will be a day when I don’t but for now I patiently await the next upload and as soon as I get the notification I stop what I’m doing and watch. I don’t know you and don’t know enough about you to hate you and I don’t dislike you. I’m grateful that you exist. Even though I know that provides fuel, insignificant as it may be, I don’t care. The fuel you get from me is worth every bit of knowledge I’ve gained as a result of you laying it all on the table. Thank you.
@LaTanya It sounds like you got sucked into the whirlwind of a narcissist, that you got out, but can't go 100% no contact at this time. Judging by your comment, it sounds like you've given it a lot of thought, and that there really is no way to go totally dark -- yet. I see no venom in your comment, no desire to figure out the best way to strike back, no sign of a woman driven by emotions instead of by rational thought (in other words, you don't appear to have a personality disorder).
Permit me to make a prediction based solely on the content of one comment you made: You may go through a few more months of questioning your reality, of thinking of yourself as an emotional wreck, of dwelling on how easy a mark you were, etc. This is normal. When it hits you, remember that, although you were sucked into the vortex, YOU climbed out, and now YOU are putting your emotions under the reign of your rational, logical mind. That makes you the heroine of the story.
luminescence. It could be a tooled leather bookmark that you carry in your Kindle case, or Grandma's old wind-up watch. Whatever it is, make it personal. Keep it with you. Tell no one: It's your secret. Keeping that secret will help build your rational control over your emotions, and touching that trinket will remind you of your strength.
Thanks HG ❤ Vintage iron clad reminder here. And loved the humour in it. Your steadfast welcome logic. Absolutely always hits the spot.🙏🏻
I’ve read lots of comments on Narc experts channels, and I sometimes get the impression there are those who, subconsciously probably, relish their victim status by being unable to employ cold hard logical thinking. We are not victims, we were prey, to those who feast on emotional abuse. We got ourselves onto his/ her plate by either having never knowingly encountered a narcissist before, or never having found the one who elevated our empathic character traits as we were going through the first phase of admiration and those thrown out crumbs of love etc we gobbled up eagerly which led like a trail straight onto the plate . Prey cannot appeal to or argue with a predator, every reaction applied to normal humans, is feeding him/ her. Prey swiftly removes itself entirely to safety, physically and mentally before it gets sucked dry . A bit metaphorical, I know …
Excellent
Beautifully said.
I love your voice and your insight into dealing with narcissist. Your videos have helped me heal and rebuild my life and there is no better Information than to get it straight from the a narcissist himself. I subscribe to many other videos but your channel has been my survival bible for the last 6 months. Working on emotional thinking is truly great skill to develop, think with your head and not your heart is everything . Forever grateful for you.
You are most welcome.
I appreciate the bluntness of your video.
No more emotional thinking.
Just cold hard logic.
I really want to thank you, this found me at the exact time I was in question on weather or not to "FINALLY" answer him back, all the letters and phone calls that keep containing little digs, small and hurtful sentences and even some border line threats to my safety, I happen to stumble upon this, and thank you again because you truly saved me from making that mistake!!!
Well done 👍
Many of us want instant gratification of revenge when we realize what's happened. It doesnt work. They are the king of kings(or queens) when it comes to short term satisfactions. The only way to win is looking at it in the long term. They are terrible at that
*exactly* . They r piss stupid
when it comes to reality and
permanent, everlasting goals.
As someone who was utterly crushed by narcissists, which lead to physical, emotional breakdown and at the brink of insanity, it took 3 years of healing and i think the best revenge on a narcissist is not no contact, it is remaining in their vicinty, showing them that even though they stomped you that low their efforts were ultimately futile, showing them your resistance and ability to have grown even better and bigger than what you used to be, the biggest blow though to a narcissist is indirectly letting them know that you know exactly who and what they are and still be able to smile and have a converstion with them while enforcing impenetrable boundries, this is what i believe conquering a narcissist looks like.
I know you already know this but as twisted as your thinking is, you are a brilliant man and we all thank you for helping us empaths understand a little more about narcissism . You are to the point and clear, no sugar coating- no BS! Thank you for your time and insight. Much appreciated HG! Love listen to your voice… guilty. Your content is the first reason I listen to your channel! Excellent 👍🏻
Thank you HG once again you have hit the nail on the head I have accomplished no contact with my ex-Narcissist he is definitely afraid to even try to contact me if he does try it he’s dumber than I thought. That bridge has been burned
Trying to get revenge on the narcissist is like trying to met out revenge on a 3 year old. They are sad sad people and if you do you would become just as pathetic as they are. They really deserve our pity for the hellish existence they live.
I feel God gets the revenge on your behalf, eventually you do get justice just have to be patient, I’ve found this happened in my life, 😊I’m at peace now, better to stay away from a narc
I broke him.he will never ever recover. Bars for 30 years!
👍
Wow. Be careful. He will try to retaliate. I don’t know how theh do it but they do.
You broke him? He will never recover? Spoken like a true narcissist.
@@Jezebel066 golly gosh
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
HG, I’m so guilty of administering incorrect information about narcissists. Out of empathic emotional thinking, and pain, but it’s also been a huge part of my recovery too. It gave me a sense of my own control back for the first time in decades. I have actually helped women win their children or assets back prepping them for court, but not any guarantee either w other women. I thought I knew so much about human behavior, and realize I have so much more to learn. Thank you for your brilliant work.
I already know the outcome to these topics. The more I hear is the stronger I become emotionally. My goal is my peace. Thank you.
I’ve been complete no contact for 10 years and he is still posting songs with my name in them. I just recently looked into it. Before I just didn’t care enough to even check. Recently I was bored and looking up my exes. So I don’t feel like he is defeated. It would be nicer if he never thought about me
Don’t look, you breached no contact.
Mine begged to get back together then during the weekend he disappeared and returned as a different person mid week and discarded me casually 🤦🏻♀️🥴
It is predictable. Over and over, again IF you permit it.
As Mr. Tudor speaks about often, you fell for The Hoover.
This happened to me until i got so sick of it. Almost took 3 months.
Go no contact! SOLID, UNBREAKABLE NO CONTACT! Its the only thing that works, if not this will happen again.
mine did the same thing to me, begged and pleaded about how wrong he was, then silent treatment when he realized i was still in shock over the emotional abuse and triangulation, then returned a different person and casual discard lol its like these soulless demons were manufactured in the depths of hell with all the same ingredients
And what a good job you have done. I applaud you for your expertise on the subject
God bless you xx
The best revenge is no revenge. He’s dead to me and I’m dead to him. Yes I am addicted. Yes I’m obsessed but I’ve gone cold turkey. Yes it hurt and still does but for me no contact is the way and the only way.
I don’t hate you, I appreciate everything you are saying thank you from the very bottom of my heart
No contact for nasty abusive ex partners. No contact for evil control freak mothers. No contact for that self appointed mental health worker from the Church, who was threatening to pull the mental act on me if I don't attend her groups. No contact for selfish always asking for favours and then asking for money neighbour. You guys are everywhere...thanks HG. Dragon sleighing in action
I absolutely LOVE H.G Tudors voice!!!
This is an EXTRAORDINARY channel.
This man is a pure, certified, hands on, been there, done that narcissist who has become a psychology teacher. If you noticed, all the other psychologists who are ALL empaths, and they cannot resist infusing their personal reactions of offense and or desire to take revenge on narcisists. They speak from the outside trying to figure them out. This is the ONLY psychologist who has HIMSELF plunged into the REAL inner world and thought patterns of narcissists. After 3 years with a beautiful woman narcissist,
I NOW know that only the saving power of the Lord Jesus Christ, can transform genuinely such a person, and all depends upon Gods elective mercy upon those who He chose to be saved before the world began. Folks, thats the ONLY chance your narcissist will be what you dream and hope...until then , as he says, go no contact permanently.
This channel is a gold mine for sure!!! I love learning about psychos from a psycho. That’s the best teacher.
I think I’m trying to defeat myself because she’s out of my life two years so the issue is whitin me to find peace. Getting revenge will achieve more chaos and solve nothing
I cannot thank you enough. Not only was this video insightful, and logical but economical.
i knew it the moment i saw the title. yet i watched, listen with the video till end. because i know your there with your honest straight forward thoughts where we can find solace and peace.
thank you as always HG.
Here’s some fuel....I appreciate you HG. Because of you...I’ve got my sons mother all confused. I’m a whole different animal now. No emotional reaction... I don’t give a &$@!
All the best 🦁
Lol wut.
How about, If it's too good to be true. It's too good to be true!
I kept thinking my late Mother would tell me he was too sweet to be wholesome
To my point of view HG is tooooo ULTRA good and it is TRUE! 😂💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
you are the only one I listen to HG ,you alone has explained the unexplainable that no doctor or councillor has, immense insight and intelligence .
Thank you again for teaching me how to understand and use logic ❤️
Yes omg. You really are full off crass , I love it you are so full of crass, I’m so empathic that I can’t see through your crass . Happy crass . X.
Lol you make me laugh while learning about what I’ve been dealing with
No contact is best to achieve peace and freedom. . Live long and prosper.
4 years Full No Contact
and Divorce coming to the end
me and my Children have defeated this evil vile man
it is the hardest painful years of our lives
finally we are Recovering through the grief
but we have all stuck together and found our selfs again to move on 🙌
my mother before she died gave me the push and strength and said
KEEP GOING
and that’s what we have done
defeated him x
No, I just watch your video's now because I do find you quite humorous!!
I could listen to this man quote war and peace and be happy.
I don’t know about this, to infer that taking revenge is a form of feeding your addiction. No it’s just a sense of equity. I think it’s fair to take some revenge, and then go no contact. You’ll feel better as you move on, I did.
Lol. I blocked him. Then he blocked me. Then he unblocked me. I texted him to be nice. And then he blocked me again. Now I’ve blocked him hopefully for good!I hope I stick with it!
Lmao!! Sounds like what I've been going through now it's just silent treatments
Get your very truthful parting shots in I mean the truth that is very valid and were afraid to say before bc it would bring a rain of hellfire. Things true, but you can’t take back. IE- “ no wonder your own grown daughter loathes you and discarded you for good”. Painful, but 100 percent true. easier to GOSO. they won’t let painful truth spoken go, ever.
This has been happening for over 3 years but everytime I find the courage to walk away and go 'no contact' he somehow finds a way back in by being nice and attentive. I feel (and tell others) 'he's definitely changed'...and then a month later the mask slips and he is the same awful person pulling me down and sucking my good energy. I end up sick, in bed and not able to socialize with any other person, except for him and so anxious when he won't communicate or acknowledge my existence that I contemplate ending my life . It's so heartbreaking that I somehow seek out this form of abuse in my codependency. I hope by watching and learning these videos I will be able to walk away with self-worth and emotions intact.
Thank you Mr narcissist.. if someone like you wasn’t able to give us this information we would be stuffed. i don’t want my narcissist to suffer.: I still love him even through I now understand him .. I will no longer have any contact with him, but I still pray for him because he has no one because he has alienated every one... we all woke up to his games!!
❤🎉thank you again for your channel 🙏 ❤ We all need to hear this information. And we all need to be shown the Truth. 🎉❤ CELEBRATE 🍾 💖 your life ✨️ you only have one.
The only way to defeat a narcissist is throwing God and his word ! Those demons will flee. Resist the devil 👿 and he will flee.
TSEGA--I wish it was that way. In my case, my EXTREME COVERT NARC soon to be
ex- husband, uses God, Jesus, the Bible and praying to attempt to put guilt, lay blame, control and attempt to make one feel shame for what HE DOES.
Uses scripture, verses and attempts to make you feel fear.. It didn't work. I left him. He's still trying (hoovering me) by telling me I'm not of God LOL 😂
But he is the one, when he goes into narc RAGE, he goes outside in the middle of the night, and he BLASPHEMIES God and Jesus, by SCREAMING calling them DISGUSTING names, giving them the finger.. ETC.
I am ABSOLUTELY convinced HE IS A demon
Just because they say they believe in God/ Jesus does not mean they are off God. There are a lot of narc in church. Believe me if you truly believe in God love him God will come to your rescue. It might not be in your time frame but in time.
Mental illness has nothing to do with demons….😂😂😂😂😂
@@stacyrich113 u haven’t experienced it
They think they are God.
I found your videos years after I split with my narcissist ex. the sex with a narcissist one showed up in my feed and..oh my god...it explains so much.
The no contact or acknowledgement of his existence when we were living together (called me te Ive Queen after we fought becasue I refused to tolerate his antics, but I assumed it was alcohol more than narcissism.
I appreciate your honesty. You admit that you have your reasons for making this videos and regardless of what they might be for you on a personal level, this might be a form of apology to your empath victims in a sense, letting people know the truth.
Many blessings to you, Sending you love, even if you don't feel it.
How to defeat a narcissist? Goso, no contact and show the world that we can have an amazing life on our own. Trying to raise hell for a narcissist is pointless. Two wrongs won't make a right.
Sometimes it takes a wrongdoer to tell us that what we're doing is wrong. HG builds his legacy, and more people escape the claws of a narc. Win win isn't it?
H G you are greater than the super empath because you are making this world a better place by revealing the truth about evil and helping infinite universe to evolve in a natural and positive way. Thank you ❤ infinitely.
It's the game that's won by not caring if you win.
Heed HG’s advice. His words are Truthfully spoken.
How am I so certain??
I lived it.
I once was ensnared, a hopeless victim of a narcissist for 11yrs due my own emotional manner of thinking and approach to everything in life, particularly relationships of all manner and due my LACK of knowledge and understanding of the Narcissist.
I’ve been FREED from the Grip of the narcissist for 15+ years now.
However it took me the 11 years of a Hell I’d never experienced, least not in such an all consuming manner as that relationship was.
Doomed from the beginning.
If only I had known then what I do know... Ahh but isn’t life like that. I Survived it, But not without scars leftover from wounds.
Nevertheless I came thr it and a better person I am. A better version of all that makes me whom I am.
Once freed I never looked back. Absolutely NO Contact is a MUST!
Why am I here, listening to HG’s audio videos?
Because HG Tudor puts into words all that I couldn’t.
Those words of truth and wisdom helped me too understand my experience.
Providing me the ability too articulate my experience minus the emotions.
Thank you HG Tudor.
My boss is a narcissist, possibly a psychopath. She is a total horror but then fake charming when she wants to be. She is a very influential person and will do her best to destroy anyone who makes her mad. I particularly irritate her because I don't react the way she wants me to. I ignore her as much as I can. She expects total loyalty and admiration as well as my being available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I do feel terrible but I do not let her see. I am soon to retire and looking forward to being free of her nastiness and control. She hates not being able to get the reactions she wants from me.
Are you employed with Zurich? 😂😂
She triangled you with your collegues?
I like the fact that it is annoying to the boss narc that I am still there and I see through them both
So helpful, thanks H.G.
Whole life i thought I was in a war.turns out i was.in a npd war defending my inner child from narcissists.
Honestly I don't wish that man, I once knew any bad, cause he is living bad every second of his sick life, he has to rely on people in other to feel important. Now think about it, that is living very bad
Sometimes I imagine my narc being abused as child. He suffered a lot of abuse as a child. When I think of this, I don't take what he did to me so personal
When you say you have a "unrivalled" mass of information, I'm like.... yep defo a narcissist (respectfully from an empath) ✨
I refuse to change who I am to try and make someone else feel the pain they caused me. I am who I am and it sucks sometimes but at least I can sleep knowing I don't purposely go out to breaking people because I can't control my impulse for instant self gratification or have the dedication and courage to face and dive into my self inadequacies to better myself. Wishing everyone love
(1) The reason I listened was because I was surprised you were making such a blunt declaration. (2) If it wasn’t for discovering and listening to these video topics on narcissism I would have never known what it was, thought it was completely me-crazy for 40 years, and don’t even want to think about where I’d be right now.
Has it ever occurred to you that there are people out here just as smart as you on the other side of the fence? I know now what I have been dealing with. I’m listening to you because I want to understand it every tool and every weapon in your arsenal. No matter the reason for being an empath, we are an empath. No matter the reason that you are a narcissist, you are a narcissist. I want to defeat the enemy. I want to be done with all of you. Yes, your voice is seductive. Yes your information is extremely helpful I don’t kid yourself, I’m not here to be seduced by you. I am here to defeat you. I’m here to defeat every narcissist who enters into my life. I am a trauma-based empath. I am trying to self psychoanalyze if you will. I will learn from you but I will discard you as easily as you discard us.
Because of you …I have understood everything. Thank you. I am in GoSo status and no contact. I’ve acquired logical thinking in looking at the narc behavior. Wanted to know more about revenge…but not anymore…I’m well.👍🏻
Good to read. Well done.
I love it, you're good.
For twenty years I was married to one and didn't know it...got divorced and met another one for 30 years it has been a roller-coaster the second Narc (10)YRS died suddenly of a heart attack in the woods on a hunting sport that was how I was awarded my escape from him. They both where charmers, master manipulators, you name it they did it...30 years of my life stolen because I didn't know...thanks hg for this information.
I hope you are enjoying your life now. 🌺
@@LilyGazou I have peace of mind now at 60...thank you.
Like your story, I was thinking with the title - just have them die some way.
Enjoy listening, but is more than joy. There is nothing else I'd wish to do but listen non stop, day and night from this last week. It did well, moved my 3 desks to start working again, nothing has changed as I'm in the middle of them and keep listening. I'm too smart to admire anyone, it has surprise myself to have come to this situation of admiring someone so strong and smart with HG Tudor. Is not that I believe everything, in awe most of all away reason. This voices could be impossible to near a ear.
Get on with your life and do well with what you do. Go no contact with the narcissist forever. Loosing their fuel hurts them, and you doing well shows the narcissist that their plans are defeated.
All so curious. Now learning that I have been married to a narcissist for 45 years…learned this after his unexpected death (helicopter crash) with his mistress of 7-8 years. No wonder I had a wall protecting my heart. He lied to me when I questioned his behavior and a million other things that now fit together. Still needing to process and learn about this so I can let go of his hold and find my complete freedom.
To never give up, to learn how to love, live , and laugh...to have happiness and success that they can't take credit for...that is the best revenge.
The opening words of this episode brought tears since this man is so incredibly brilliant and insightful. I do not know him, but I sincerely hope he is not alone, he has so much to give people. (Edit) Saying HG has so much 'to give' may sound like a contradiction to what I have heard in his videos, such as 'no contact' but if all narcissists were to be isolated and put in their own country we would not have precious souls as Mr. Tudor.
Some times it isn't about revenge, it is about survival. Sometimes you can't run.
My guess is exposure, the destruction of the image in the minds of the people who have been conned into believing it.
H.G Tudor eres el único Narcisista qué si merece mi atención. Tu inf me ha hecho despertar. Hoy abrazo la lógica irónicamente gracias a ti.
I already had my retribution. Now I'm at this point of my life that I want to understand and to find personal resolution. Also it's good to be prepared for future encounters with other narcissistic people, as it's a common problem and I see narcissistic traits very often.
I listen because this is what I NEED to hear, and it helps me. Thank you. And I love to listen to you speak.
HG, thank you SO MUCH for the discount code for your Knowledge Vault. I just purchased a bunch of your resources. I’m on a tight budget, but I can justify this investment. ❤️