It's a tragic life for the Narcissist -I can see how the Empaths would be attracted to them, wanting to heal them, not knowing that they can't heal them.
If you stare at them, seeing how they speak and behave, it's easy to perceive the superficiality, their deep sadness is so loud and devastation inside them just overflows any mask.
@@mercedesharrison5550 my ex had that look... it's because they stopped maturing in early childhood, have no identity of their own, no friends, no loved ones, no passions in life, no accomplishments, and are complete slaves to their mental illness. She was a wraith haunting the very life she should have been living. I'd pity her if she were likable enough to be pitied.
My grandfather and sister are and it’s almost like it’s contagious. Both miserable people, with even more miserable souls. I pray for them often and hope that they don’t wait to meet the feet of the creator to have to experience infinite joy. Paradise is not that far away from our consciousness. Trust is ive been surrounded by narcissist my whole life , I attract them because i feel bad for them, feel bad for their lack of direction, their lack of belief in life and God, it’s a sad existence to have
Reminds me of a narcissistic friend I went on holiday with once. Of course, she was difficult, selfish, demanding at times. It was irritating but one day I remember in her company feeling this incredible sense of emptiness emanating from her. It was very very strange. It’s like there was nothing actually there. Instead just some kind of void. I also felt a wave of depression circling around her at the same time, something I had never seen before. Also, when I think about her, and I think about my mother in particular who is also a narcissist, I reflect that they never really showed any joy. Not real joy, anyway. Not a deep wonder and joy. Just surface tinkering of humour, conversation, activities, suspicions, calculations, opinions and wants. No real happiness and joy in the void.
Oh my, I just came back from a holiday with a narcissistic friend. I had an eerily similar experience to yours. My mother is also very high on the spectrum. Your observation about a lack of any real joy is so spot on.
They want you to feel dead and empty like they do. They can't love so they drain you of yours. They leave you lingering somewhere between life and death.
I got that impression many times especially from the last narcissist who was a lower lesser victim. He was never satisfied and there seemed to be a constant restlessness. He was always negative and thought everyone had an agenda. He came across as callous and empty towards me. However being a narcissist doesn't make up for the damage he caused. It was never going to get better, only worse. The only way to regain my perspective and my life was to get rid of him. It is unfortunate it took 4 years. This was the catalyst that forced me to take a good hard look at all my past relationships, all the way back to my childhood. Now things are making sense. From what I have been learning, I have been dealing with many narcissists.
That is my story as well.... unfortunately.... parents, husband for 20 years , mother in law , lover for 4 years .... I just want to live narc free even if I suppose to live alone ....
Too true!!! Tough learning experience. Every word is accurate. Thank you . The ultimate con game.the narcissist is completely lacking in care, love, sorrow, empty, empty, empty. Sucks the other person dry like a vampire in a horror movie.
Like Satan 100%.. come to "seek who they may devour"; just like Satan, they come to Kill, steal, & destroy [those who are/with a good heart, or anyTHING that is good]~ 100%
Man my sons mother literally destroyed me. It was spot on textbook. Idealize, devalue, and discard. Now she verbally attacks me and calls me immature when I FaceTime my son and refuse to acknowledge her “new” supply (whom she was “talking to” a “month” before we split. I set a boundary but now I’m getting punished for failing to participate in triangulation. This stuff is spot on but I refuse to let her break me again. I’m a whole different animal now.
Yes. It was like, I knew it. I was right all along. All my intuition, its excuses, gaslighting, blameshifting. I knew it was wrong and eventually got the answer. It was freeing
Like a bug lol...we had a guy like that in our circle of freinds that would jump from bed to bed male or female...he earned the nickname "bed bug" ! Lol
Tina, I feel the exact same way that you do, so I agree with your comment 100%... Over time I can clearly see why someone can despise a mid range narcissist... HG knows best...
MY narcissist was a coward as well.It used to worry me that I had more courage and strength of character at 5'2",110 pounds than a 6'3",225 pound man.Now I know why.It's still disturbing.
Thank You HG Tudor I have seen the emptiness that lives inside the Midrange narcissist I was with. The anxiety begins, hands shaking, head hurting, feeling sorry for there self. As a empath You can feel the hurt rushing through there body. It’s a horrible thing to watch happening to them but, also knowing that the emptiness will be more enduring when they become alone with no one in the end.They say the best things in life are free. It’s to bad He didn’t accept what was being offered love, companionship, and someone to take care of Him. There is a child that lives inside of him that craves all of this and uses the Narcissism to protect his vulnerabilities.He may have perfection (a wall) but will never feel nurtured.Sad really. Glad to have escaped the torture.
Thank you. You helped me to escape my ex narcissist and you are continuing to help me with this horrible addiction that sometimes overwhelms me and I feel like reaching out to him I instead come on here and listen to your videos. My healing journey seems to be never ending.. You are appreciated.
Sounds like hard work being a narcissist, a full time job. I'm just in the process of escaping mine. Been listening to your work HG Tudor all this week whilst decorating my home. So insightful, I feel your work will empower me to stay away from my narcissist of 8 years.
I have been watching your videos all day. I learned a lot. I grew up in a narcissistic family. Now I understand all the abuse, It was all about fuel. All the abuse was all about fuel.Them seeing me in pain from what they did gave them fuel. Even though I cut my family off, they still get fuel from the damage they caused me. I can see them smirking anytime they think of the post traumatic stress they have caused me. Your videos help me a lot. Thank you HG. I pray for you in the name of Yahushua that the the most high heal you and set you free from narcissism. You are helping a lot of people. Yahweh bless you.
I feel very sad for my late narcissist husband. He was never happy. Nothing was ever enough. He never got full from eating. He never got a good night sleep always restless. Never could gamble enough Never could drink enough. He would drink an unimaginable amount of alcohol and once said "I can't catch a buzz" I saw the misery in his eyes when he was alive. The only time I saw peace on his face or in his eyes was when he died. Lost soul indeed.
Your comments feel like you are describing my husband before he passed away, he was so broken. it took a few years of counseling to begin to find myself again. We were married 39 years and it was a constant roller coaster
I was hit with overwhelming sadness from this video. Hearing this from the mouth of a narcissist himself. You are one of a kind HG. As much as your voice send shivers down my spine, I feel so much admiration for you. Thank god for you ❤
@@alanamb8384 that's her intention. 😂 She's putting herself out there as "learned bait" in hopes to have some sort of "experience". 😂 She IS very pretty though, the actual sad part about the narcissist, is they don't see any of that. Just a faceless doll walking around, only to be used as a walking blow up doll. As insulting as it sounds, this is exactly how the narcissist see women and people in general.
I wasted six years on a narcissist. I was in pain and joy on and off. I left him, I knew I had to because I finally figured out he didn’t care about me at all.
Even though I cannot, I must not, have a relationship with them. I also find it painful to see what they have become; knowing them from so very young. There is no way I can truly understand there is no soul, no beingness; what a tortuous existence without a glimmer of redemption.
This is too sad. How can we hate them? This is so distressing to hear. How awful to feel such emptiness. My husband used to say: “you never feel down do you? I’m having one of those awful pointless days”. He would never explain or discuss it but just disappear for hours. I learned to see it coming in that I could see when that awful look of emptiness came over him. We are apart now and I don’t look on at his life and think that he is having a great time although he looks like he is... I know that pain of emptiness that exists for him and although he has most dreadfully smeared me to the point where I’m going to have to move away I cannot hate him but I feel so sad for him. This is my sticking point and I don’t know how to get past it!!!! So frustrating!
its cz u see him from ur empathetic side and emotional thinking. if u see them with logic,neurosience and how capable these creature hurt u and damage u...u ll start to think different
You need to get very angry,sad, shameful. every emotion NOW 🚨Just like a death ☠️ of who you thought he was. You get no VIP section in heaven for being a martyr. My BFF died of breast cancer because she chose rose colored glasses and it ate her alive.... You are worth it Start healing you🙏🏻🙏🏻
I do NOT feel sad for the person whom humiliated me publicly, used our grown children as subterfuge, caused parental alienation, 34 years of lies, smear campaign, serial cheating w/ women AND men, abuse of alcohol, cocaine, gambling, porn, sexual acting out, marijuana, power, prestige, money. I’m nearly 60 and starting life completely over. Lost my health, business interest, home, family, in-laws, retirement dreams, sense of self, even my own history, almost everything. Nope, I do NOT feel sorry for him at all.
All the love bombing never happened to me. He was mean, abusive, and controlling. If he did do anything for me, it was forced and then he used it to manipulate me. He would say, " look at all I did for you," whenever he got caught doing bad things to me and others or got called out on his lies. Glad I was able to get away from that monster.
Thank HG for this information. The "howling wilderness, that chasm and void that can never be filled" I can actually see it in him now. It is terrifying. I understand now how his ex-partner cannot look at him. I really understand now. I recoil just at the thought
For lesser and mid-range narcissists, the pursuit of fuel is an existential imperative. Without it, they are done. When a crisis occurs in the quantity and the quality of their fuel supply, they can seriously lose it. I was hoovered the very next day after trying to disengage from my narc. Her supply must have been low, and she went into panic mode. I ignored her text messages for weeks and she called me out of the blue and told me how nice it was to hear my voice. The hint of desperation in her tone makes mores sense now that I have listened to your videos. She was like a junkie looking for a fix. That is all.
Dont kid yourself. H G says in other work that someone who can abuse you never loved u, and we all know that's true. So whatever he did when he was with you is likely to be an illusion.
We who are or have been trapped by a Narcissist need to remind ourselves, as HG said of the lingering emptiness that narcissists must run from and quash, even if they are on a Caribbean island making out with another partner that they replaced us with. And that new partner is in for a world of hurt too.
I understand that narcissism is a disability imposed on you through childhood and other factors. Fate was harsh on those people. But then they insure that the seed of misery is planted within another person. Thus giving it away. I can only say I do not envy those people. I don't envy myself either. From entanglement and destructive separation I now suffer from cancer. As a single cancer stricken mom I depended in my own mother for support. Being unaware of her narcissism. She wore me out to the extent that the cancer - which had been cured - then progressed. I still am a single parent now. Guess what : my son is a narcissist.
Am I the only one who has no desire to see the narc fall? I honestly just feel sorry for them. They seem incapable of receiving joy! Yes, I’ve had my experience with them and was taken advantage of in most every way, but I left rather quickly cutting myself off painfully and seeking therapy. I reverse engineered every mechanisms that enabled me to sustain him however shortly. And at the end of that, I feel so much compassion for them. It just seems like a rather sad existence. I hope he does love someone one day and truly experience joy and happiness. It’s as if they’ve cut off the circuits to those emotions so long ago to protect themselves, that they now only know less vulnerable emotions of anger, passion, etc. But the emotions that can increase their contentment in life is completely cut off.
It is pitiful. They're little children that were abused and neglected when they needed it most. They shut down normal feelings to avoid being hurt. It is tragic.
That's your emotional thinking is kicking in cause you're an empath. No matter how shitty a person is, some empaths still try to play the devil's advocate. And I'm saying all that as an empath myself.
I completely agree with how you feel the way you do. Narcs are actually worse than what you described...they didn't cut off emotional circuits, they were never allowed to develop, and cannot later in life. IMO, they're not even human, they're something less; half people, walking emotional reflex arcs, adult bodies with the minds and emotions of children, living wraiths incapable of happiness haunting their own lives. I truly believe they were the inspiration for vampire mythology.
Eh. I dont wanna see horrible stuff happen either, but a narcissts fall doesnt even have to actually be awful. Its more like the word "apocalypse" doesnt mean the end of the world. The literal definition is "lifting the veil", loss of illusions/delusions. A narcissist's "fall" would be the shattering of their delusions and they ARE incredibly delusional.
So grateful for this information. It’s healing. Imagine receiving healing from a narcissist!! I always feel better after a good listener to HG. Thank you!!
You make me cry I was so kind with him for 25 years why all of that hate I can’t forget the evil look why he is so bad with our kids he used to love our daughter he hates her because she doesn’t agree with him about what he did to us I don’t want him but still hurt me what he did
The golden period was great. What came after, was cherished too. I went to the depth of my soul, madness, but coming thru , a lesson to be learned. I’m grateful to the man that sent me learning about myself. To you to sir, for enlightening me. People are people, more whole or less. We all need to feel safe and have different ways to achieve it. Narcissist is not our enemy, he is our teacher. I’ve grown out of it, because I am more, don’t know what it means, but I bet I’ll find out 😄
This Saddens me. Tough listening. You explain it so thoroughly, cannot help feeling for anyone who feels emptiness. Even a Narcissist. Just draw the line at ever being anywhere near one again. Thankyou HG for your sharing , also your incredible work.❤️🌻
They true don't know what they want. They would rather have regular drama than regular periods of calmness. To my fellow empaths, do not try to reason with them. They live in a mirage. You are real.
I agree. Pointless reasoning with them. You can control something uncontrollable, like a freight train without a driver. and yes, in my experiences with Narcs they would definitely rather have regular drama than regular periods of calmless. Total opposite of what Empaths would have.
Thank you for your honesty H.G.The more I listen to your videos the clearer the picture of my ex-husbands narcissism becomes.What a confused little fool I was!!!The dust of that horrific relationship has settled but the resonance remains etched upon my soul.Thank you for the time&thought you put into each video.☠
I've just watched this. Very good program 👏👏👏 I'm slowly catching up. I did stop this one at 6.54 I started crying at listening to you read my life back to me. 27 years of both feet stuck in the mud, 3 years of absolutely No contact, but the wounds I still carry. Thanks for arming me, I appreciate your knowledge and logical way of explaining things cheers HG🙏
Like you I got stuck in the mud. 35 years together gone in a flash. I now thank god for the discard. I wouldn’t have escaped otherwise. Now divorced and rebuilding my life
HG the deliberate devastation that my ex ultra Narcissist laid waste upon this Ultra Empath having known him for decades is absolutely unbelievable! Thankfully, your site and many intelligent therapists have helped enabled me to move on without ruminating over what “could have been! Only yesterday, he breached my PayPal account and unblocked himself from my Facebook account! What a sad little 🐛 bug! I thank God and the Universe every day that he’s out of my life and will NEVER stand a chance with this self empowered Empath again! I’m living a fun filled happy life and it is completely Narc free…Ahhh the Bliss😀🥂
Can you make a video on why once you get to know the narcissist their conversations become negative. Why they gossip about their family and friends and smear them. Thank you HG
It's to make YOU feel special. It's forced teaming and a feeling of 'us against the world'. It appeals to our ego (because we feel the narc sees us as a better person than the ones being smeared) and helps us bond to the narc. Look at Prince Harry...a prime example of this tactic.
QUESTION FOR NEXT "ASK HG" Would you describe a narcisist's experience of life as a continual series of rotating movies that they repeeatedly enter into and exit, and while playing each role, forget about the other movies they are in while acting in each movie?
It was like this with my N-sister too. I noticed it in photos. I used to wonder why my N-mother looked like she had blank doll eyes, with a plastic smile, posed for effect in photos. When she didn't know anyone was watching her, I would study her expression, and the antagonism was obvious. The aggression, the constant restlessness, the churning fury boiling like lava; there was never any real peace or happiness. She was always at war with someone, ready to criticise and attack someone who was getting something better than she was. I could never understand it.
You are so right. There is absolutely NO "depth" beyond their pupils. Like reptile eyes. No expression, no warmth, no matter what they are talking about or doing.. Just COLD and impersonal. 🙈
@@bettinawillam4120 The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light. But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness! (Matthew 6,22-23) Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life. (John 8,12)
Never thought I’d say this. But I prefer the psychopath to the narcissist. The psychopath needs nothing from me. It’s the narcissist that is bothersome.
Totally agree. I think the vampire genre came about as a an allegorical representation of Narcissists, long before the word narcissist was common parlance.
Long ago I watched a theatrical artpiece, 'The emptiness that cannot be filled with sleep'.So stressful i had to put my watch to my ear for the rhythm of the tick...tick...tick....tick...
I def dated a narcissist. At the time I thought she was the greatest thing since sliced bread. In hindsight, following the breakup, as I swiftly came to see what she was even before I could put a name to it-It’s odd. After about a year, I could scarcely remember the good times, even with pictures. It felt like a wave of amnesia befell me. I don’t even recall the negative either, she became dare I say it, in my memory, “a blank space.” HG is right. It was all just an illusion.
This is so hard to listen to because it just brings up so much hurt. You describe it perfectly. I’m currently reading your book Exorcism, praying I can get him out of my heart and soul. He seems to be giving her everything he wouldn’t give me and it does make me feel miserable, even knowing what he is. It doesn’t seem fair, but I’m staying quiet. I don’t need to tell anybody what he is. He will do it all by himself! I had to laugh at the poses all over the place. He’s blocked now but the pic he posted as his profile pic looked like a middle school couple (and he’s 44) with duck face and him kissing her cheek. I know it’s my emotional thinking talking here, but it breaks my heart that they are so empty inside.
Thank you again. You’re so right about the wanting justice it can be so consuming it alone will stop your progress. I’m an American girl and I got hooked on all those movies where the Narcissist does get their justice. But in real life. Never. So you must find a new resolve. My Narcissist gave me sobriety because I knew I couldn’t numb the pain the way I chose and stay away. What is Sobriety to me...Freedom 🦋 Your brilliant H.G. I love you let your freak flag fly people love real. And you’re doing such a good thing be happy!
The thing is though, a narcissist doesn't always discard you. At least, mine didn't. He didn't want to let me go. He was obsessive about holding onto me. He had few and lengthy monogamous relationships. Each time, it was the woman that ended things, not him.
Wow. So interesting. My impression is that when they are not getting distraction through their sadistic kicks, that they are miserable human beings. “There is no rest for the wicked.” One psychologist I saw on RUclips said narcs are secretly crying inside.
I’m now in the devaluing stage but I’m ghosting him. Yesterday he told me (I’m gay) that he has a girlfriend and I was shocked and in pain, a relationship built on a lie.
One of mine gave me a romantic bubble bath with candles and music. Of course, i bought it hook, line, and sinker. 2 weeks later came discard and knowledge he was married to somebody else. DISGUSTING
My mother said she's never felt depressed and she has never even feigned empathy with me or anyone else. I've never heard her use the word love about anyone or anything She's never made any effort to hide what she is. She looks ecstatic when she witnesses violence. Underhand scheming gives her a gleeful look. When she doesn't get what she wants she's angry.
I really enjoy your vids. I learn a lot. I have a sister who's a criminal narcissist. Never wrong Never apologizes. It's so sad. I take some tips from you and darned if it doesn't make a difference. Thanks!
It's all "manufactured" on the basis of decit. I can honestly say that I never passively suffered the devaluation, though it is harmful and definitely hurtful; I always knew had great worth; it was always a question of how and when I would get away. I can honestly say that I was totally FASCINATED at the dysfunction I was witnessing. I needed to explain it. I finally left knowing that she was a grandiose mid-ranger; I saw the total emptiness within her whenever I saw her driving by in her car alone. She looked totally unrecognizable; this is what you will see when you catch them alone. And on the day when I rode off into the dust, she simply ran away from me and shut herself away from situation. No doubt couldn't cope with the terror of abandonment. And this was the final abandonment, this was the closure she had tried denying me until I took control at that point. We must remember ... WE decide when closure is real for us!!! And when we finally discard, the control remains ours from that point onwards. At this stage we have gone past the limit of emotional thinking and logic now takes over for the good and betterment of our life. Goodbye 👋
I agree - we decide even if discarded. We decide to be sad (thus still buying into the illusion it was real) or we stop playing the game. Luckily, I had enough, saw sense, boundaries were enforced and narcy kicked to the curb. Life soon got better. The last weeks until that point narcy tried to gain control saying it wouldn't change, I had to. I didn't concede. I gave it space, didn't chase. We met to talk the following week, but I started to see a mess of a person, vindictive, mean, withdrawn, up n down. Mask off. When it showed it wasn't there for me, it was gone. Finito. Never looked back.
Its a life of nightmares, lonely is a given, its dealing with insanity, thank you for your ability to teach ,i could have used u, decafes ago and had my life back sooner, kudos HG
I Diagnosed with NPD and I don't know if im sad or happy that i am the way i am. one hand it's true i can't have actual relationships with anyone or ever be close to my own gf but also only thing i think about is money and power and that i will be sad but with money
Agree Velda Lyons, Isaiah 48:22, "There is no rest 4 the wicked,".. [And I Agree, Everything he is saying in this video is true.. 100%] Yea, in scripture, "Narcissists = the Son's of Disobedience" are described throughout the entire scriptures, His Word. Just like Satan, THE GREATEST & 1st Narc who is TOTALLY MISERABLE, & in their Misery, Misery loves company -- they think we need them.. No, the other way around, The Narc needs US, because like Satan, they also seek people to "Kill, Steal, & Destroy, [or devour] like Satan. This is what is taking place on the Spiritual plane. There is so much more going on in the Spiritual realm.. "for our battle is not against flesh & Blood, but against dark Spiritual forces & Rulers in High Places".. The term "Narcissist" is simply an interchangeable word 4 "The Sons of Disobedience," who do everything in scripture that God disapproves of & He will pour out HIS vengeance, "for Vengeance is Mine says the Lord.." Because Christ has already won - That's the WAY IT IS.. & He is watching all the sin carried out by the Narcs.. He will bring His Righteous Judgement & punishment -- the Karma will in time come 4 the Narc because God wants Love, Life, kindness, patience, slow to anger, & God MUST Destroy Evil, "the Narc/Son's of Disobedience." They only hope to intimidate you -- the reason they are "Empty", is because their Conscience is Dead, Soul less, just as a Psychopath Serial Killer admitted once.. They are called "Spiritual Reprobates".. "And the Truth is not in them," Liars, murderers even in heart, without love 4 others or even themselves.. "And so their consciences are seared, because the son's of Disobedience wanted to continue in their wicked ways, so God sent them a strong delusion that they might not be able to discern the Truth any longer." 2 Thessalonians 2:11. 100% ***** "But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty; for people will become lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God. Avoid such people." 2 Timothy 3:1-17**** And this is how the "Narc/Sons of Disobedience" are depicted by God in His Word/scripture.. It's no wonder then, that Narcissists seem to be growing into an Epidemic itself - & Satan knows His fate is SEALED, so He's ramping things up & the days become more & more evil, [No surprise to me]. ***"You believe that God is one; you do well. Even the demons believe -- & shudder!" James 2:19. **** 100% I do pray that it's actually possible 4 a few of some of them to Repent b 4 it's too late, because God's Righteous Judgment, punishment IS coming .. but unlikely many will because like Satan most will NEVER let go of PRIDE/or fake, false, delusional grandiose self they imagine themselves to be in their own fantasy world instead of seeing/accepting reality as it is [Like Satan, the most Grandiose Creature] -- Their downfall, because, "Pride comes b4 a fall." "God is not mocked."*** We ALL will face God.. not believing this will not change it.. Just as he [H.G.] is giving the truth about Narcissists, I am logically [non-emotionally] on the flipside just telling the truth as well, nothing more.. So, yeah, I Agree that everything here he is saying in this video is definitely the Truth, & only confirms even more what the scriptures say [completely making sense on the Spiritual plane] -- That's why No Person Is an APPLIANCE - we all have a Spirit/Soul whether it is good or wretched & evil -- ***If GOD had intended us to be like a mere "APPLIANCE" when He created us, He would have made us like robots who cannot choose right from wrong {free will in our daily lives & choices. ****Only People who Have a Dead Conscience would Ever COMPARE another HUMAN BEING to a mere APPLIANCE.. :/
A narrcistic person is made not born...they are the product of domineering cruel parent(s) who criticize..belittle and devalue a child.. I never realized this until I divorced my husband and people would tell me stories of how awful his parents were...He NEVER told me..he would shut down like a lamp when the switch was flipped..I despised him until I found out what happened to him wasn't his fault...he was an innocent child who's dysfunctional alcoholic parents destroyed him
Not necessarily, my soon ex husband was coddled and turned into the golden child and can do no wrong. Enabling crap behavior by his mother, grandmother, sister. VERY TOXIC
Like being slapped about your face with a cold, wet Cod...LOL!! Yes...it’s like that. Your correct...narcissists don’t experience happiness...or gratitude. I never worried that he would go find “the perfect one”. I know better. He’s a songwriter... over the years I assumed that his lyrics were a deep, dark vent...a way of expressing what he was too proud to talk about. I read those lyrics now...and they are an “Ode to the Howling Wind”...”Ode to Control”...”Ode to Ego”. It was there the whole time...in his own words. I didn’t understand the depths of darkness expressed in those songs. It was like “where is that coming from?”...but I understand now. In our last face to face interaction to sign separation papers...he had the fucking audacity to ask me for money. It was like...huh?...fucking seriously? Ummmmm...fuck no Narcissus...not today. I sincerely wish that he falls flat on his face...stranded on a desert highway...the nearest gas station 100 miles away...then...I miraculously show up to slap him about his face with a cold, wet Cod and zoom away in my fuel tanker leaving him stranded and desperate...on empty. Bye bitter bum. 🙂 Thank you for this video. I liked it very much.
Hello HD Can you explain what do you mean when you say you are empty inside what do you feel and think when you have no supply? Its hard to understand you have no feelings at all or joy??? Does it mean you are not human? But the way you talk sounds like a Monique
I imagine that any demon who wants to be worshipped, but never loving back, and who wanted to destroy humanity, would create a narc out of any host, and ger them to feel the emptiness you just described, with the despair (lie) that it cannot be changed, and to follow the same script.
They react to us through internal object relations which are skewed because they really don't know who we are. As that is a partial answer why their verbalizations upset us so much. Their reality testing and judgment are impaired. Our only solace is the midrange has no idea of the emptiness they face daily. They lack insight and contentment. Micropsychotic events in the midranger.
I think I was well prepared for your kind.I did my homework and I have to say I enjoyed the antics the narcissist employed.Eventually he realised that he had done things back to front, they really need to check out the fact of the age range they are dealing with before wasteing all that energy on someone who is their friend not their Ipps.They are a free spirit who need fuel constantly that is understood.
I will need to bookmark this one ! HG -again you are right on it. I hear everything you say and I understand it and I also know in time I will move on BUT that empathy part of me wants to protect the next victim. I want to right all the wrongs, clear my name and I know it's impossible and in the end futile. I have to come to terms that I will again not have my say at least for my own say. I'm not interested in talking with my Narcissist ( I know that is a waste of breath) I want to reach out to his next victim. It's a waste of time, I know this but it's that - that keeps going through my head .
Thanks to your videos, I flat out don't care! 😁 Yes, I was stuck in marriage for 11 stinking years, he was making me a basket case, I escaped, I'm so happy! Happy 💃! Great videos! Thank you so much!
You know you're with a narcissist when you constantly feel lonelier than if you were single.
Lol.. right
Well said 👏👏👏👏
They try to turn us into them…
Fuck yeah
100% correct
I take solace in the fact I got away from mine but she’ll never be able to get away from herself.
Right...💯💯
Very true, be glad that you got away...
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Oddly enough, I said those Exact words to the one I foolishly gave 6 years to, on the very first day we met!
Isaiah 48:22 “ There is no rest for the wicked “
Great scripture quote... I named my first born Son Isaiah...
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@@elijahpendletonbr6871so did I
Bless
Who said we're wicked we where made like this.
It's a tragic life for the Narcissist -I can see how the Empaths would be attracted to them, wanting to heal them, not knowing that they can't heal them.
If you stare at them, seeing how they speak and behave, it's easy to perceive the superficiality, their deep sadness is so loud and devastation inside them just overflows any mask.
Everything was a lie. I accept that. I survived, I am ok. praise God.
I've absorbed it and felt it for myself. Absolutely horrific. It's extreme emotional numbness. No warmth, no soul, just a great expanse of hollowness.
My father is a lesser narcissist and he is a miserable human being. I can see the pain in his eyes. It’s such a sad life
I hear you on that one I’ve experienced this myself
Same here. Mine looks so lost all the time like a child. I told him for the first time he's wasting his life and it's really sad to watch.
@@mercedesharrison5550 my ex had that look... it's because they stopped maturing in early childhood, have no identity of their own, no friends, no loved ones, no passions in life, no accomplishments, and are complete slaves to their mental illness. She was a wraith haunting the very life she should have been living. I'd pity her if she were likable enough to be pitied.
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My grandfather and sister are and it’s almost like it’s contagious. Both miserable people, with even more miserable souls. I pray for them often and hope that they don’t wait to meet the feet of the creator to have to experience infinite joy. Paradise is not that far away from our consciousness. Trust is ive been surrounded by narcissist my whole life , I attract them because i feel bad for them, feel bad for their lack of direction, their lack of belief in life and God, it’s a sad existence to have
Such a sad existence for the narcissist...
Reminds me of a narcissistic friend I went on holiday with once. Of course, she was difficult, selfish, demanding at times. It was irritating but one day I remember in her company feeling this incredible sense of emptiness emanating from her. It was very very strange. It’s like there was nothing actually there. Instead just some kind of void. I also felt a wave of depression circling around her at the same time, something I had never seen before.
Also, when I think about her, and I think about my mother in particular who is also a narcissist, I reflect that they never really showed any joy. Not real joy, anyway. Not a deep wonder and joy. Just surface tinkering of humour, conversation, activities, suspicions, calculations, opinions and wants. No real happiness and joy in the void.
Oh my, I just came back from a holiday with a narcissistic friend. I had an eerily similar experience to yours. My mother is also very high on the spectrum. Your observation about a lack of any real joy is so spot on.
They want you to feel dead and empty like they do. They can't love so they drain you of yours. They leave you lingering somewhere between life and death.
Yeah, but I always thought that narcissists were full of themselves..
No, they're full of what they take from YOU
I got that impression many times especially from the last narcissist who was a lower lesser victim. He was never satisfied and there seemed to be a constant restlessness. He was always negative and thought everyone had an agenda. He came across as callous and empty towards me. However being a narcissist doesn't make up for the damage he caused. It was never going to get better, only worse. The only way to regain my perspective and my life was to get rid of him. It is unfortunate it took 4 years. This was the catalyst that forced me to take a good hard look at all my past relationships, all the way back to my childhood. Now things are making sense. From what I have been learning, I have been dealing with many narcissists.
Exactly...💯💯empathic people are like a moth to flame with narcissists...
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That is my story as well.... unfortunately.... parents, husband for 20 years , mother in law , lover for 4 years .... I just want to live narc free even if I suppose to live alone ....
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Too true!!! Tough learning experience. Every word is accurate. Thank you . The ultimate con game.the narcissist is completely lacking in care, love, sorrow, empty, empty, empty. Sucks the other person dry like a vampire in a horror movie.
They are energy vampires
Like Satan 100%.. come to "seek who they may devour"; just like Satan, they come to Kill, steal, & destroy [those who are/with a good heart, or anyTHING that is good]~ 100%
Man my sons mother literally destroyed me. It was spot on textbook. Idealize, devalue, and discard. Now she verbally attacks me and calls me immature when I FaceTime my son and refuse to acknowledge her “new” supply (whom she was “talking to” a “month” before we split. I set a boundary but now I’m getting punished for failing to participate in triangulation. This stuff is spot on but I refuse to let her break me again. I’m a whole different animal now.
One thing is for sure they are always bored and they are always lonely. Always. Even if someone is around them.
That emptiness is the absence of your living soul. Nothing can ever fill that void and you will never have happiness.
The realization didn’t cause devastation, but instead was a moment of clarity and emotional freedom.
Yes. It was like, I knew it. I was right all along. All my intuition, its excuses, gaslighting, blameshifting. I knew it was wrong and eventually got the answer. It was freeing
@@irielion3748Both you are spot on with how I felt once it was confirmed to be complete and utter
b u l l s h i t
They never have genuine real happiness pretend to be happy fake it inside is empty which makes them to jump from one to another source like a bug
Exactly...💯💯
Like a bug lol...we had a guy like that in our circle of freinds that would jump from bed to bed male or female...he earned the nickname "bed bug" ! Lol
A tick who then you are left with Lyme disease 🦠
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Like a PARASITE!
I LOVE how you seem to despise the Mid-Range & their actions! Such COWARDS & WHINERS!!! Exactly what mine was! Thank you HG! ❤
mine too
Same here, he was so pathetic and complained about everything!!
Tina, I feel the exact same way that you do, so I agree with your comment 100%... Over time I can clearly see why someone can despise a mid range narcissist... HG knows best...
MY narcissist was a coward as well.It used to worry me that I had more courage and strength of character at 5'2",110 pounds than a 6'3",225 pound man.Now I know why.It's still disturbing.
Thank You HG Tudor I have seen the emptiness that lives inside the Midrange narcissist I was with. The anxiety begins, hands shaking, head hurting, feeling sorry for there self. As a empath You can feel the hurt rushing through there body. It’s a horrible thing to watch happening to them but, also knowing that the emptiness will be more enduring when they become alone with no one in the end.They say the best things in life are free. It’s to bad He didn’t accept what was being offered love, companionship, and someone to take care of Him. There is a child that lives inside of him that craves all of this and uses the Narcissism to protect his vulnerabilities.He may have perfection (a wall) but will never feel nurtured.Sad really. Glad to have escaped the torture.
This information is so freaking addicting
A safe knowledgeable addiction ✍🏻😉📖🤣
Yesss I can't STOP
I stumbled upon H.G. videos and ummmmm He is DEAD TF ON...WOW......
It's his Christopher Lee voice, too.
This channel is a sort of Hoover in itself. Hg is honest about this
You may not see them suffer like they made you suffer, believe me, their biggest punishment is that they are who they are.
This is a huge plus in being alone.
Way less stress. More time to focus on yourself. Logic increased.
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I fell in love with a covert and this man's entitlement is beyond anything I've ever seen in my life
Thank you. You helped me to escape my ex narcissist and you are continuing to help me with this horrible addiction that sometimes overwhelms me and I feel like reaching out to him I instead come on here and listen to your videos. My healing journey seems to be never ending.. You are appreciated.
❤ yes thank you
It took a brain tumor to make me get away from my ex narc. I recovered from that brain tumor, and from the narcissist. I’ll never look back.
God b less
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Sounds like hard work being a narcissist, a full time job. I'm just in the process of escaping mine. Been listening to your work HG Tudor all this week whilst decorating my home. So insightful, I feel your work will empower me to stay away from my narcissist of 8 years.
You can do this❤️
I have been watching your videos all day. I learned a lot. I grew up in a narcissistic family. Now I understand all the abuse, It was all about fuel. All the abuse was all about fuel.Them seeing me in pain from what they did gave them fuel. Even though I cut my family off, they still get fuel from the damage they caused me. I can see them smirking anytime they think of the post traumatic stress they have caused me. Your videos help me a lot. Thank you HG. I pray for you in the name of Yahushua that the the most high
heal you and set you free from narcissism. You are helping a lot of people. Yahweh bless you.
I feel very sad for my late narcissist husband. He was never happy. Nothing was ever enough. He never got full from eating. He never got a good night sleep always restless. Never could gamble enough
Never could drink enough. He would drink an unimaginable amount of alcohol and once said "I can't catch a buzz" I saw the misery in his eyes when he was alive. The only time I saw peace on his face or in his eyes was when he died. Lost soul indeed.
I completely know where he was at.
Your comments feel like you are describing my husband before he passed away, he was so broken. it took a few years of counseling to begin to find myself again. We were married 39 years and it was a constant roller coaster
Damn
I was hit with overwhelming sadness from this video. Hearing this from the mouth of a narcissist himself. You are one of a kind HG. As much as your voice send shivers down my spine, I feel so much admiration for you. Thank god for you ❤
You are definitely supply 🤮
@@alanamb8384 that's her intention. 😂 She's putting herself out there as "learned bait" in hopes to have some sort of "experience". 😂
She IS very pretty though, the actual sad part about the narcissist, is they don't see any of that. Just a faceless doll walking around, only to be used as a walking blow up doll.
As insulting as it sounds, this is exactly how the narcissist see women and people in general.
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I finally know what " I can't get no Satisfaction" is really about.
They are the devil 😈 in disguise
When he left me for a better prospect I learned the beauty of relief and indifference
Sometimes a blessing in disguise. Soul destroying trying to fix things.
And on and on he will go .. always looking for the next one.
Correct.
@@hgtudor-theultra Thank You for helping me get to the other side .. and staying here.
I wasted six years on a narcissist. I was in pain and joy on and off. I left him, I knew I had to because I finally figured out he didn’t care about me at all.
Even though I cannot, I must not, have a relationship with them. I also find it painful to see what they have become; knowing them from so very young. There is no way I can truly understand there is no soul, no beingness; what a tortuous existence without a glimmer of redemption.
This is too sad. How can we hate them? This is so distressing to hear. How awful to feel such emptiness. My husband used to say: “you never feel down do you? I’m having one of those awful pointless days”. He would never explain or discuss it but just disappear for hours. I learned to see it coming in that I could see when that awful look of emptiness came over him. We are apart now and I don’t look on at his life and think that he is having a great time although he looks like he is... I know that pain of emptiness that exists for him and although he has most dreadfully smeared me to the point where I’m going to have to move away I cannot hate him but I feel so sad for him. This is my sticking point and I don’t know how to get past it!!!! So frustrating!
its cz u see him from ur empathetic side and emotional thinking. if u see them with logic,neurosience and how capable these creature hurt u and damage u...u ll start to think different
You need to get very angry,sad, shameful. every emotion NOW 🚨Just like a death ☠️ of who you thought he was. You get no VIP section in heaven for being a martyr. My BFF died of breast cancer because she chose rose colored glasses and it ate her alive.... You are worth it Start healing you🙏🏻🙏🏻
I do NOT feel sad for the person whom humiliated me publicly, used our grown children as subterfuge, caused parental alienation, 34 years of lies, smear campaign, serial cheating w/ women AND men, abuse of alcohol, cocaine, gambling, porn, sexual acting out, marijuana, power, prestige, money. I’m nearly 60 and starting life completely over. Lost my health, business interest, home, family,
in-laws, retirement dreams, sense of self, even my own history, almost everything.
Nope, I do NOT feel sorry for him at all.
Don't hate him, but let your anger at his abuse lead you to seek justice for yourself. You cannot properly love others unless you love yourself first.
Hate is a weakness. Acknowledge the facts and move on.
The narcissist can be outwitted if you are aware of their modus operandi.
All the love bombing never happened to me. He was mean, abusive, and controlling. If he did do anything for me, it was forced and then he used it to manipulate me. He would say, " look at all I did for you," whenever he got caught doing bad things to me and others or got called out on his lies. Glad I was able to get away from that monster.
Why were you ever involved with him if from day one he was terrible? Did you grow up this way so it was normal to you?
How did you get trapped into that?
Ya mine has nvr loved bomb either he just walked out on us as if I nvr existed, but his version is I pushed him away, gee I wonder why👿👺💩head
Thank HG for this information. The "howling wilderness, that chasm and void that can never be filled" I can actually see it in him now. It is terrifying. I understand now how his ex-partner cannot look at him. I really understand now. I recoil just at the thought
Real emptiness strong feeling
For lesser and mid-range narcissists, the pursuit of fuel is an existential imperative. Without it, they are done. When a crisis occurs in the quantity and the quality of their fuel supply, they can seriously lose it. I was hoovered the very next day after trying to disengage from my narc. Her supply must have been low, and she went into panic mode. I ignored her text messages for weeks and she called me out of the blue and told me how nice it was to hear my voice. The hint of desperation in her tone makes mores sense now that I have listened to your videos. She was like a junkie looking for a fix. That is all.
I dont think about what he does or who he does, I think only about what he did when he was with me.
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Exactly heal you 🙏🏻
Dont kid yourself. H G says in other work that someone who can abuse you never loved u, and we all know that's true. So whatever he did when he was with you is likely to be an illusion.
We who are or have been trapped by a Narcissist need to remind ourselves, as HG said of the lingering emptiness that narcissists must run from and quash, even if they are on a Caribbean island making out with another partner that they replaced us with. And that new partner is in for a world of hurt too.
“A world of hurt”… so we’ll put it breaks my heart. And he is on a Caribbean island… are you his new partner? I wish I could protect you.
Oops… *so we’ll put
“Well” this is irritating.
I feel sorry for my nex's new partner
I remember my narc-ex referring to a 'deep emptiness'. He asked me if I felt it too.
Narcs are black holes.
Wow
It sounds like he knows he is "not right".
I understand that narcissism is a disability imposed on you through childhood and other factors. Fate was harsh on those people. But then they insure that the seed of misery is planted within another person. Thus giving it away.
I can only say I do not envy those people. I don't envy myself either. From entanglement and destructive separation I now suffer from cancer. As a single cancer stricken mom I depended in my own mother for support. Being unaware of her narcissism. She wore me out to the extent that the cancer - which had been cured - then progressed. I still am a single parent now. Guess what : my son is a narcissist.
Am I the only one who has no desire to see the narc fall? I honestly just feel sorry for them. They seem incapable of receiving joy! Yes, I’ve had my experience with them and was taken advantage of in most every way, but I left rather quickly cutting myself off painfully and seeking therapy. I reverse engineered every mechanisms that enabled me to sustain him however shortly. And at the end of that, I feel so much compassion for them.
It just seems like a rather sad existence. I hope he does love someone one day and truly experience joy and happiness. It’s as if they’ve cut off the circuits to those emotions so long ago to protect themselves, that they now only know less vulnerable emotions of anger, passion, etc. But the emotions that can increase their contentment in life is completely cut off.
It is pitiful. They're little children that were abused and neglected when they needed it most. They shut down normal feelings to avoid being hurt. It is tragic.
That's your emotional thinking is kicking in cause you're an empath. No matter how shitty a person is, some empaths still try to play the devil's advocate. And I'm saying all that as an empath myself.
I completely agree with how you feel the way you do. Narcs are actually worse than what you described...they didn't cut off emotional circuits, they were never allowed to develop, and cannot later in life. IMO, they're not even human, they're something less; half people, walking emotional reflex arcs, adult bodies with the minds and emotions of children, living wraiths incapable of happiness haunting their own lives. I truly believe they were the inspiration for vampire mythology.
Eh. I dont wanna see horrible stuff happen either, but a narcissts fall doesnt even have to actually be awful. Its more like the word "apocalypse" doesnt mean the end of the world. The literal definition is "lifting the veil", loss of illusions/delusions. A narcissist's "fall" would be the shattering of their delusions and they ARE incredibly delusional.
So grateful for this information. It’s healing. Imagine receiving healing from a narcissist!! I always feel better after a good listener to HG. Thank you!!
You make me cry I was so kind with him for 25 years why all of that hate I can’t forget the evil look why he is so bad with our kids he used to love our daughter he hates her because she doesn’t agree with him about what he did to us I don’t want him but still hurt me what he did
Are you sure he loved her? Narcs just see kids as an extension of themselves.
I am lucky.....I can detect evil energy immediately so I don't get sucked in...... I have extreme self love.....
The golden period was great. What came after, was cherished too. I went to the depth of my soul, madness, but coming thru , a lesson to be learned. I’m grateful to the man that sent me learning about myself. To you to sir, for enlightening me. People are people, more whole or less. We all need to feel safe and have different ways to achieve it. Narcissist is not our enemy, he is our teacher. I’ve grown out of it, because I am more, don’t know what it means, but I bet I’ll find out 😄
This Saddens me. Tough listening. You explain it so thoroughly, cannot help feeling for anyone who feels emptiness. Even a Narcissist. Just draw the line at ever being anywhere near one again. Thankyou HG for your sharing , also your incredible work.❤️🌻
They true don't know what they want. They would rather have regular drama than regular periods of calmness.
To my fellow empaths, do not try to reason with them. They live in a mirage. You are real.
I agree. Pointless reasoning with them. You can control something uncontrollable, like a freight train without a driver. and yes, in my experiences with Narcs they would definitely rather have regular drama than regular periods of calmless. Total opposite of what Empaths would have.
This is brilliantly described.
Thank you HG!
Thank you for your honesty H.G.The more I listen to your videos the clearer the picture of my ex-husbands narcissism becomes.What a confused little fool I was!!!The dust of that horrific relationship has settled but the resonance remains etched upon my soul.Thank you for the time&thought you put into each video.☠
Thank You, HG for your sharing...I endlessly listen to these videos and it is so beneficial in my keeping no contact
I've just watched this. Very good program 👏👏👏
I'm slowly catching up.
I did stop this one at 6.54 I started crying at listening to you read my life back to me.
27 years of both feet stuck in the mud, 3 years of absolutely No contact, but the wounds I still carry.
Thanks for arming me, I appreciate your knowledge and logical way of explaining things cheers HG🙏
Like you I got stuck in the mud. 35 years together gone in a flash. I now thank god for the discard. I wouldn’t have escaped otherwise. Now divorced and rebuilding my life
HG the deliberate devastation that my ex ultra Narcissist laid waste upon this Ultra Empath having known him for decades is absolutely unbelievable! Thankfully, your site and many intelligent therapists have helped enabled me to move on without ruminating over what “could have been! Only yesterday, he breached my PayPal account and unblocked himself from my Facebook account! What a sad little 🐛 bug! I thank God and the Universe every day that he’s out of my life and will NEVER stand a chance with this self empowered Empath again! I’m living a fun filled happy life and it is completely Narc free…Ahhh the Bliss😀🥂
Can you make a video on why once you get to know the narcissist their conversations become negative. Why they gossip about their family and friends and smear them. Thank you HG
because they are in crisis of a supply and walking over someone with their feet, feeds em and makes em feels good about their fundamental worth
It's to make YOU feel special. It's forced teaming and a feeling of 'us against the world'. It appeals to our ego (because we feel the narc sees us as a better person than the ones being smeared) and helps us bond to the narc. Look at Prince Harry...a prime example of this tactic.
Genius HG! As always , you explain it beautifully!
QUESTION FOR NEXT "ASK HG"
Would you describe a narcisist's experience of life as a continual series of rotating movies that they repeeatedly enter into and exit, and while playing each role, forget about the other movies they are in while acting in each movie?
Now I know why his eyes never matched his facial expressions, especially in photos. His eyes look so....empty.
It was like this with my N-sister too. I noticed it in photos.
I used to wonder why my N-mother looked like she had blank doll eyes, with a plastic smile, posed for effect in photos. When she didn't know anyone was watching her, I would study her expression, and the antagonism was obvious. The aggression, the constant restlessness, the churning fury boiling like lava; there was never any real peace or happiness. She was always at war with someone, ready to criticise and attack someone who was getting something better than she was.
I could never understand it.
You are so right. There is absolutely NO "depth" beyond their pupils. Like reptile eyes. No expression, no warmth, no matter what they are talking about or doing.. Just COLD and impersonal. 🙈
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The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light.
But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness! (Matthew 6,22-23)
Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life. (John 8,12)
@@caroliner2029 perfect word lava 🔥always waiting to erupt 👹💥
Dark. There was either nothing behind them...or demons.
Never thought I’d say this. But I prefer the psychopath to the narcissist.
The psychopath needs nothing from me. It’s the narcissist that is bothersome.
I have been trauma bonded 3 times. I now understand my mistakes and will never be so again. And what sad little men they all were!
Thank you. Listening from Alaska.
I found this video.....comforting.
Me too.... definitely felt better after.
Reminds me of vampires who have to get a fix daily to survive, at the expense of others.... wicked
Totally agree. I think the vampire genre came about as a an allegorical representation of Narcissists, long before the word narcissist was common parlance.
They ARE literally vampires. Energy vampires in the truest sense of the word.
This is how I see her now. Means I’m not affected by her smug face. Her religious husband keeps her “topped up.”
The stinking collaspe of the narc's future I care not for, to see or hear about. I only care on my future's clarity and peace.
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Long ago I watched a theatrical artpiece,
'The emptiness that cannot be filled with sleep'.So stressful i had to put my watch to my ear for the rhythm of the tick...tick...tick....tick...
I def dated a narcissist. At the time I thought she was the greatest thing since sliced bread. In hindsight, following the breakup, as I swiftly came to see what she was even before I could put a name to it-It’s odd. After about a year, I could scarcely remember the good times, even with pictures. It felt like a wave of amnesia befell me.
I don’t even recall the negative either, she became dare I say it, in my memory, “a blank space.”
HG is right. It was all just an illusion.
This is so hard to listen to because it just brings up so much hurt. You describe it perfectly. I’m currently reading your book Exorcism, praying I can get him out of my heart and soul. He seems to be giving her everything he wouldn’t give me and it does make me feel miserable, even knowing what he is. It doesn’t seem fair, but I’m staying quiet. I don’t need to tell anybody what he is. He will do it all by himself! I had to laugh at the poses all over the place. He’s blocked now but the pic he posted as his profile pic looked like a middle school couple (and he’s 44) with duck face and him kissing her cheek. I know it’s my emotional thinking talking here, but it breaks my heart that they are so empty inside.
Thank you again. You’re so right about the wanting justice it can be so consuming it alone will stop your progress. I’m an American girl and I got hooked on all those movies where the Narcissist does get their justice. But in real life. Never. So you must find a new resolve. My Narcissist gave me sobriety because I knew I couldn’t numb the pain the way I chose and stay away. What is Sobriety to me...Freedom 🦋 Your brilliant H.G. I love you let your freak flag fly people love real. And you’re doing such a good thing be happy!
The thing is though, a narcissist doesn't always discard you. At least, mine didn't. He didn't want to let me go. He was obsessive about holding onto me. He had few and lengthy monogamous relationships. Each time, it was the woman that ended things, not him.
All I can say is thank you. This is just what I needed to hear today 🙂🇦🇺
You are welcome.
Wow. So interesting. My impression is that when they are not getting distraction through their sadistic kicks, that they are miserable human beings.
“There is no rest for the wicked.”
One psychologist I saw on RUclips said narcs are secretly crying inside.
I’m now in the devaluing stage but I’m ghosting him. Yesterday he told me (I’m gay) that he has a girlfriend and I was shocked and in pain, a relationship built on a lie.
One of mine gave me a romantic bubble bath with candles and music. Of course, i bought it hook, line, and sinker. 2 weeks later came discard and knowledge he was married to somebody else. DISGUSTING
Of course If its to good to be true it Always is ✍🏻🗣🚨
My mother said she's never felt depressed and she has never even feigned empathy with me or anyone else. I've never heard her use the word love about anyone or anything She's never made any effort to hide what she is. She looks ecstatic when she witnesses violence. Underhand scheming gives her a gleeful look. When she doesn't get what she wants she's angry.
This dudes awesome, and helps me understand this better!
I really enjoy your vids. I learn a lot. I have a sister who's a criminal narcissist. Never wrong Never apologizes. It's so sad. I take some tips from you and darned if it doesn't make a difference. Thanks!
It's all "manufactured" on the basis of decit.
I can honestly say that I never passively suffered the devaluation, though it is harmful and definitely hurtful; I always knew had great worth; it was always a question of how and when I would get away.
I can honestly say that I was totally FASCINATED at the dysfunction I was witnessing. I needed to explain it.
I finally left knowing that she was a grandiose mid-ranger; I saw the total emptiness within her whenever I saw her driving by in her car alone.
She looked totally unrecognizable; this is what you will see when you catch them alone.
And on the day when I rode off into the dust, she simply ran away from me and shut herself away from situation. No doubt couldn't cope with the terror of abandonment. And this was the final abandonment, this was the closure she had tried denying me until I took control at that point.
We must remember ... WE decide when closure is real for us!!! And when we finally discard, the control remains ours from that point onwards. At this stage we have gone past the limit of emotional thinking and logic now takes over for the good and betterment of our life. Goodbye 👋
I agree - we decide even if discarded. We decide to be sad (thus still buying into the illusion it was real) or we stop playing the game. Luckily, I had enough, saw sense, boundaries were enforced and narcy kicked to the curb. Life soon got better.
The last weeks until that point narcy tried to gain control saying it wouldn't change, I had to. I didn't concede. I gave it space, didn't chase. We met to talk the following week, but I started to see a mess of a person, vindictive, mean, withdrawn, up n down. Mask off. When it showed it wasn't there for me, it was gone. Finito. Never looked back.
Everyday when not distracted the creature stirs. The midrangers think its anxiety. That's their karma.
Its a life of nightmares, lonely is a given, its dealing with insanity, thank you for your ability to teach ,i could have used u, decafes ago and had my life back sooner, kudos HG
Thank you H , this video really helped me to feel better, really!
I Diagnosed with NPD and I don't know if im sad or happy that i am the way i am. one hand it's true i can't have actual relationships with anyone or ever be close to my own gf but also only thing i think about is money and power and that i will be sad but with money
My sincere hope is that my ex narc winds up utterly alone.
This one made me cry. HARD 💔
I say F it! Make sure you are comfortable in your own skin and DON'T rely on anyone except yourself!
Agree Velda Lyons, Isaiah 48:22, "There is no rest 4 the wicked,".. [And I Agree, Everything he is saying in this video is true.. 100%]
Yea, in scripture, "Narcissists = the Son's of Disobedience" are described throughout the entire scriptures, His Word. Just like Satan, THE GREATEST & 1st Narc who is TOTALLY MISERABLE, & in their Misery, Misery loves company -- they think we need them.. No, the other way around, The Narc needs US, because like Satan, they also seek people to "Kill, Steal, & Destroy, [or devour] like Satan. This is what is taking place on the Spiritual plane. There is so much more going on in the Spiritual realm.. "for our battle is not against flesh & Blood, but against dark Spiritual forces & Rulers in High Places".. The term "Narcissist" is simply an interchangeable word 4 "The Sons of Disobedience," who do everything in scripture that God disapproves of & He will pour out HIS vengeance, "for Vengeance is Mine says the Lord.." Because Christ has already won - That's the WAY IT IS..
& He is watching all the sin carried out by the Narcs.. He will bring His Righteous Judgement & punishment -- the Karma will in time come 4 the Narc because God wants Love, Life, kindness, patience, slow to anger, & God MUST Destroy Evil, "the Narc/Son's of Disobedience." They only hope to intimidate you -- the reason they are "Empty", is because their Conscience is Dead, Soul less, just as a Psychopath Serial Killer admitted once.. They are called "Spiritual Reprobates".. "And the Truth is not in them," Liars, murderers even in heart, without love 4 others or even themselves..
"And so their consciences are seared, because the son's of Disobedience wanted to continue in their wicked ways, so God sent them a strong delusion that they might not be able to discern the Truth any longer." 2 Thessalonians 2:11. 100%
***** "But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty; for people will become lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God. Avoid such people." 2 Timothy 3:1-17**** And this is how the "Narc/Sons of Disobedience" are depicted by God in His Word/scripture.. It's no wonder then, that Narcissists seem to be growing into an Epidemic itself - & Satan knows His fate is SEALED, so He's ramping things up & the days become more & more evil, [No surprise to me].
***"You believe that God is one; you do well. Even the demons believe -- & shudder!" James 2:19. **** 100%
I do pray that it's actually possible 4 a few of some of them to Repent b 4 it's too late, because God's Righteous Judgment, punishment IS coming .. but unlikely many will because like Satan most will NEVER let go of PRIDE/or fake, false, delusional grandiose self they imagine themselves to be in their own fantasy world instead of seeing/accepting reality as it is [Like Satan, the most Grandiose Creature] --
Their downfall, because, "Pride comes b4 a fall." "God is not mocked."*** We ALL will face God.. not believing this will not change it..
Just as he [H.G.] is giving the truth about Narcissists, I am logically [non-emotionally] on the flipside just telling the truth as well, nothing more.. So, yeah, I Agree that everything here he is saying in this video is definitely the Truth, & only confirms even more what the scriptures say [completely making sense on the Spiritual plane] -- That's why No Person Is an APPLIANCE - we all have a Spirit/Soul whether it is good or wretched & evil --
***If GOD had intended us to be like a mere "APPLIANCE" when He created us, He would have made us like robots who cannot choose right from wrong {free will in our daily lives & choices. ****Only People who Have a Dead Conscience would Ever COMPARE another HUMAN BEING to a mere APPLIANCE.. :/
Thank you so much HG, I loved your video and I learn also from all the great people that comment... Interesting comments, I must say...
A narrcistic person is made not born...they are the product of domineering cruel parent(s) who criticize..belittle and devalue a child.. I never realized this until I divorced my husband and people would tell me stories of how awful his parents were...He NEVER told me..he would shut down like a lamp when the switch was flipped..I despised him until I found out what happened to him wasn't his fault...he was an innocent child who's dysfunctional alcoholic parents destroyed him
But how he conntinues IS HIS FAULT
Not necessarily, my soon ex husband was coddled and turned into the golden child and can do no wrong. Enabling crap behavior by his mother, grandmother, sister. VERY TOXIC
My favorite video so far.
Like being slapped about your face with a cold, wet Cod...LOL!! Yes...it’s like that. Your correct...narcissists don’t experience happiness...or gratitude. I never worried that he would go find “the perfect one”. I know better. He’s a songwriter... over the years I assumed that his lyrics were a deep, dark vent...a way of expressing what he was too proud to talk about. I read those lyrics now...and they are an “Ode to the Howling Wind”...”Ode to Control”...”Ode to Ego”. It was there the whole time...in his own words. I didn’t understand the depths of darkness expressed in those songs. It was like “where is that coming from?”...but I understand now. In our last face to face interaction to sign separation papers...he had the fucking audacity to ask me for money. It was like...huh?...fucking seriously? Ummmmm...fuck no Narcissus...not today. I sincerely wish that he falls flat on his face...stranded on a desert highway...the nearest gas station 100 miles away...then...I miraculously show up to slap him about his face with a cold, wet Cod and zoom away in my fuel tanker leaving him stranded and desperate...on empty. Bye bitter bum. 🙂 Thank you for this video. I liked it very much.
That is a beautiful dream 😴 scenario 🔥☠️🤣
I laughed too hard 🤣🤣🤣...what the hell...ur mind is beautifully wicked to have created that 🤣🤣
Hello HD Can you explain what do you mean when you say you are empty inside what do you feel and think when you have no supply? Its hard to understand you have no feelings at all or joy??? Does it mean you are not human? But the way you talk sounds like a Monique
I imagine that any demon who wants to be worshipped, but never loving back, and who wanted to destroy humanity, would create a narc out of any host, and ger them to feel the emptiness you just described, with the despair (lie) that it cannot be changed, and to follow the same script.
I really like learning about them from your perspective. Thank you.
Tonight i saw 2 strange nbr calling and txing...didn't answer the call block the whatsapp message been no contact for a week..loving it
The voice is so soothing
They react to us through internal object relations which are skewed because they really don't know who we are. As
that is a partial answer why their verbalizations upset us so much. Their reality testing and judgment are impaired. Our only solace is the midrange has no idea of the emptiness they face daily. They lack insight and contentment. Micropsychotic events in the midranger.
I think I was well prepared for your kind.I did my homework and I have to say I enjoyed the antics the narcissist employed.Eventually he realised that he had done things back to front, they really need to check out the fact of the age range they are dealing with before wasteing all that energy on someone who is their friend not their Ipps.They are a free spirit who need fuel constantly that is understood.
I will need to bookmark this one ! HG -again you are right on it. I hear everything you say and I understand it and I also know in time I will move on BUT that empathy part of me wants to protect the next victim. I want to right all the wrongs, clear my name and I know it's impossible and in the end futile. I have to come to terms that I will again not have my say at least for my own say. I'm not interested in talking with my Narcissist ( I know that is a waste of breath) I want to reach out to his next victim. It's a waste of time, I know this but it's that - that keeps going through my head .
Thanks to your videos, I flat out don't care! 😁 Yes, I was stuck in marriage for 11 stinking years, he was making me a basket case, I escaped, I'm so happy! Happy 💃!
Great videos! Thank you so much!
Mine was 2 years of hell...predator all he wanted was money...money...sucking my blood like a vampire...
Glad that you're both out, and know the truth.
Aren't truth and freedom precious?