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Brene Brown - Bad For Men - Good For Women?
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- Опубликовано: 16 мар 2021
- Brene Brown talks a lot about vulnerability, is this bad for men, and good for women?
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Dont buy hes book. Hes In it for the money, not to help you. Seriously this guy calls himself alpha, and act like he knows it all. Never meet a guy that calls himself alpha seriously...
@@CryotoWolf whatever his motivation he's still giving men good advice. Not to concede your manhood, stay in shape, earn money, don't let women walk all over you, etc. Still good advice
@@CryotoWolf Where's your ACTUAL evidence of Mr. Richard Cooper's predatory greed and extreme maniacal ravenous capitalism? Do you think you are the mind-reading, all-kowing God or you just replaced Morgan Freeman on that role in movies? Also, I still have not heard Mr. Cooper flaunt his Alpha status even once, but I see no fault about it, even counting the fact that that he may have DIRECTLY AND EXPRESSLY called himself that at some point or several times. By the way, show the evidence of him DIRECTLY doing so.
Self-Recognition of BOTH our negative and positive sides is essential for growth and progress, whether you are Alpha or Beta or in-between, which is something you obviously lack and therefore deeply resent in Mr. Cooper. He even mentions in this video how he has made his WOUNDS his work and his mission to help others. That's REAL MANLY ALPHA VULNERABILITY AND EMPOWERMENT, not Brene Brown's emotional FEMININE version of those.
instablaster.
Women in their teens: "Yay feminism"
Women in their 20's: "I'm a strong, independent woman. I don't need a man"
Women in their 30's: "Where have all the good men gone?"
Women in their 40's: Single, lonely and surrounded by 10 cats
Women in their 50s:
Being tabbed by Convalescent Homes to render her Incompetent
50's on antidepressants, hating men and voting Democrat.
Men in their teeens: learning to talk to girls
Men in their 20s: realising that girls should not be the focus of their world
Men in their 30s (if they lift weights, run, become financially independent, and get their sh*t together): they get their pick of the women
Men in their 40s: this continues as long as they put themselves first
Men in their 50s: women half their age are chasing them as long as the body, mind and career of a man elevates and inproves
Men who are 60+: Hefner status
LOOK THE ONLY WOMEN WHO METTER ANYWHERE AT ANYTIME ARE YTE SO IF YOU AIN'T CAUCASIAN NO TRAILS WILL YOU BE ABLAZIN'🙄🙄🤷♀️🤦♀️
Bruh you move like a bot
Women will go on and on about how men should be vulnerable, but the moment you actually are begins the countdown to her inevitable disappearance.
Facts.
A woman with good intentions may offer a man a glass of soy. But a man must never take the glass.
@@Biosynchro as a vegan I never touch soy, so terrible for you.
Don't I know it, I mean doesn't every man know it.
Learn some real facts. It's all about shame.... Wake up
People have attachment issues. Look up attachment styles. People get triggered when you try to reciprocate vulnerability. Too much vulnerability is overwhelming. Causing them to become dismissive & disinterested. It's a neurophysological reaction to childhood programs.
Real problem is allowing parents to have kids when they are unqualified & under educated on children's needs.
People are not able to express their shame they internalized in early childhood. Expressing shame triggers others to feel their repressed parts of their self which causes significant pain or ego backlash.
Were basically living in the dark ages for emotional awareness in society. Most people are systemically broken internally.
Women shame men for expressing basic human emotions. "Men don't cry. That's weak beta stuff". Social narratives to enable emotional abuse. Truth is it's a healthy way to grieve and let go.
Grief is a healthy part of relieving shame.
Shame is the root of all addictions.
Shame is a cancer of the soul.
Shame is the problem.
Vulnerability pokes at shame.
Shame is the sin.
Shame is to be not good enough.
Shame is the root of our problems in society.
Educate your self about the dynamics of shame. Then we can have a more dynamic conversation about this. In my opinion, this is a more complex problem then what is on the table.
Educate your self about complex post traumatic stress disorder. (C-PTSD) & "toxic shame".
If she ever tells you she wants a sensitive man, she means she wants a man that is sensitive to HER wants and needs. She doesn’t want a sensitive man. She will resent you and will use your vulnerability against you.
Isn’t that common sense? It’s human nature for people to be selfish with their needs. If the roles were reversed it would be the same with guys. Giving her body up for that guy only and to satisfy his needs.
@@walikhaled7739 I don’t think so. Most nice guys I’ve known want to make women happy. There’s a difference. It’s like that study that shows women are happy when a man is upset in a relationship because it shows he cares. Most men aren’t happy when a woman is upset in a relationship and will try to make her happy. There is a BIG difference.
@@BetaBuxDelux yeah I see what you mean. I believe, and I have done this too, is that men tend to project their idealism about the world, etc on to women. The takeaway is that women in general are not sugar spice and everything nice. But that doesn’t mean they are terrible people altogether. The problem I am beginning to see is that guys seem to be somewhat jealous that the average woman has more choices than the average guy. Deep down guys know this which is why they do everything they can to keep his woman happy by simping and acting desperate. women just tend to have the upper hand and deep down it makes men angry because the cards aren’t in their favor. It never was. And this reality is what makes them bitter because no one told them this. Not Hollywood, not the media, and maybe not their fathers.
@@walikhaled7739 “guys seem to be somewhat jealous that the average woman has more choices than the average guy”
Dude, this has very little to do with the whole red pill movement and waking up to the reality of things. Narcissism has grown drastically with women and social media/culture promotes the heck out of it. The inflated ego’s of them thinking they are higher is an issue. Women want to sleep around until it’s too late and nobody wants there used up bodies.
Also almost 90 percent of divorces are initiated by women, if that doesn’t show you how unsatisfied they are with everything then idk what will.
TRUTH. Well said. Helps me a lot. Thank you, bro.
I have only met one female who openly said “I am not a strong independent woman, I need a man”.
Here's the second one 😂
Did you have a relationship with her? She sounded ready to be with a man.
I've met a few irl, a very small few, but theyre out there. Theyre far more common in some places over others, unfortunately, they're mostly extinct in the west though
I've met hundreds in Hawaii and Asia.
I want a woman who is okay with the fact that I don't like cry when ever I feel sad.
My ex wanted me to be more open and vulnerable with her because she was vulnerable with me. As soon as I opened up I realised she just judged me unfairly and caused a rapid decline. Just don't open up they can't handle it.
What woman want ;
" The power and benefits of a man
The privilege and entitlement of a woman
The accountability of a child and the
self-awareness of a foetus! "
I've seen this before hmm...
The Indian conservative women are known for it
She doesn't love you for you, she just love what you can do for her.
No one loves anyone
@@ythandlerandom1278LK wow so true parents sometimes brother if you're lucky. Except the toxic one's
@@ythandlerandom1278LK Men love their women for who they are, women love what their man can do for her.
@@ythandlerandom1278LK That's why the saying goes "He gets with her hoping she'll never change, she gets with him hoping he'll change for her."
LOOK THE ONLY WOMEN WHO METTER ANYWHERE AT ANYTIME ARE YTE SO IF YOU AIN'T CAUCASIAN NO TRAILS WILL YOU BE ABLAZIN'🙄🙄🤷♀️🤦♀️
I think Brown has a lot of wisdom to offer. To appreciate it though, you have to be the kind of person who will go looking for it in such a book. The problem with Brown is not that she gives bad advice, it is that men read her and get the idea that to be emotionally intelligent they have to act like women. Men who lead use their empathy and emotional intelligence, and develop it, and are, to use a misunderstood word, not afraid of "vulnerability." They are real, and they are able to listen, relate, inspire, and judge wisely, and that is why they are able to lead effectively and why other men respect them. Guys mistakenly believe being emotionally intelligent or able to use empathic reasoning means "acting like a woman." It doesn't mean that at all. Vulnerability is not about being submissive, passive, whiny, or weak, or "tender," or submerged in emotionalism and exuding choking clouds of cloying estrogen. Vulnerability is about being nakedly honest, raw, genuine, and not afraid to risk taking a few punches to the emotional gut. Courage is not about hiding your emotions or hiding from them; it is about facing them, owning them, and not letting them own you. Ask yourself who has more balls: the guy who goes into a tough environment armored up like a stormtrooper and bedecked with weapons, or the guy who walks into that tough environment with his street clothes and maybe a dagger? The toughest guys are the SEALs and Green Berets and special forces. They are LIGHT infantry. They are lightly armored and lightly armed. They have to be tough to survive because they are not driving around in a tank, surrounded by armor plating, horsepower, and firepower. It takes more guts to go bare knuckles. It takes a lot of courage, a lot of fortitude, and a lot of smarts to be honest, raw, and genuine, but unless you're getting the wrong message out of Brene Brown, it does NOT entail acting like a woman. You've got to be careful, if you read Brown, that you don't draw the wrong message or lesson from her, and I'm not saying that she is the best thing to read, but she does have things to say and wisdom to offer. Read widely as well as for depth.
I also agree that just "knowing the lingo" won't do any man or woman any benefit if they don't do the work. There is no faith, creed, or philosophy that will automatically improve you just by having familiarity with it. You have to internalize it, live it. Men and women, especially women, can psychobabble all day long and it doesn't mean anything. What gets results is action. Do I practice what I preach is the question to ask.
I also like hearing you say that it is not our as men job to "go swoop in and save women." Nobody can save anyone from themselves. Here's the thing though: if you're in an intimate relationship with a woman, your own differentiation, wisdom, and maturity will be a constant challenge to her to up her game. Conversely, her differentiation, wisdom, maturity, and emotional fortitude will be a constant challenge to you to up your game. That's how intimacy works. It's not a contest, except with ourselves. If you own yourself your partner will be challenged by your ability to hold onto who you are. Good video. I really enjoyed it.
Well said bro. I agree with your comments.
Yes!
I only read one Brene Brown book, "the Gifts of Imperfection". It was useful at the time because my own monologue was to basically call myself a piece of shit for not getting everything perfect 100% of the time. Which was a lot of misfocused energy. Her book helped me to get rid of that and realise that that drive for perfectionism was actually holding me back. Her message actually got me making attempts with women when I would have waited for the perfect time and situation and IOIs that would never come. Clearly she wouldn't advocate pickup, but I applied the principles and they worked for me.
From the book:
"Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life-paralysis. Life-paralysis refers to all of the opportunities we miss because we’re too afraid to put anything out in the world that could be imperfect. It’s also all of the dreams that we don’t follow because of our deep fear of failing, making mistakes, and disappointing others. It’s terrifying to risk when you’re a perfectionist; your self-worth is on the line."
A lot of advise geared towards women is good for men going through emotional adolescence and healing from the bs in our heads. At a point you move past it and onto the masculine stuff. She was decent and genuine but you can’t stop there as a guy or you will be stuck.
@@daveshore8671 yeah I agree. It was very useful for me at the time though. I think there's probably a gap in the market for a masculine expert helping men through the same processes.
In general though I don't expect any teacher or coach to be able to guide me through all stages in my development.
@@busybecomingmyself look up Jordan Peterson.
@@K3nVV I know of him and agree he is of value but has he handled the same topics as Brown?
i read one of her books and got a totally different message. i read it more as being willing to put yourself in positions where you may be vulnerable or judged. how you feel is ok as long as you go do it, like asking for a raise or a girls number etc. idk i feel like i read a totally different book to everyone else haha
My best is women who attend events where "faith, hope, love" signage is proudly displayed, they hug and tell each other that "I am enough"...
I also watched some of her stuff a while ago and was programmed to tell people how I feel, but I realized telling people how I feel will not change the world or the people around me. It gives others a lot of power in exchange for temporary relief, as opposed to taking responsibility, deciding what I do or do not want, and then taking action towards my inspirations and making progress on the vision of how I want my life to be.
Every single woman (maybe except of your mum) will dump you if you truly tell her how you feel.
Richard you were very fair in your assessment. I am familiar with Brene’s work. It certainly can’t hurt if your woman wants to be more self aware. I think she helps women develop better relationships with other hopefully healthy women. So it comes down to what you say “ the average of the five people you hang around. “
i listened to one of her books. I read it differently. I read it as being willing to put yourself in situations where you are vulnerable or might be judged. Rather than looking vulnerable or projecting being a vulnerable person. like asking for a pay raise or a girl out on a date, both situations put you in a vulnerable position. I took it as being willing to take the hit, which is no.1 about being a man. Life will fucking punch you in the face when you least expect it. you're always vulnerable.
Remember, it's the enemy that wants you vulnerable. Sensitivity means situational awareness, not needy weakness.
Blue pill showed me to be vulnerable dependent winny the red pill is showing me to be independent problem solving and work for my excellence and become a high value man and I’m cool with myself now
You're content is AMAZING. I am a young teen and I always in a way thought like this but You're content really opened my eyes about a lot of thing. Keep it UP
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Always love and appreciate your perspective. You, Better Bachelor, and Kevin Samuels are doing incredible work to help men - thank you!
The ability to experience and express a wide range of emotion is a strength. Men who can't feel all their feelings medicate.
Just started to follow your work. Good stuff. Also put in an order for the soap. I've been having a lot of success lately by just smiling at women and telling jokes and relating humorous observations. If she's laughing then she will be receptive. Keep it light guys.
Thanks Rich! Just got done with the book on audible. Finished it in 2 days. Starting it over again today.
Great info, thanks Richard, has a lot of content in this one.
Appreciate what you do, Mr. Cooper. Coming up on 2 years since I've found your work, and things have changed for the better. I know there will be obstacles, but it's only up from here. Greetings from a 20 year old music student on the west coast.
Good that you found Mr. Cooper. I can also recommend Rollo Tomassi.
@@Ace.0.0.0. I found Rollo's work fairly recently. Been doing my due diligence in watching his live casts. Checking out The Rational Male this week.
Rich you spend alot of time researching this stuff.
Thank you
The description at 17:07 had me on the floor laughing! You nailed it in one! Awesome channel Rich, Thanks
Listening to your book now. Good stuff thanks for the work.
This man is a wealth of knowledge men. If your going to go down a RUclips rabbit hole and your looking for truth and answers I invite you to listen to this mans video playlist which is loaded with truths and gems that will open your eyes. Good day gentlemen
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Anyone who has had a relationship with a woman and she gets home to offload the drama of the day.
She simply wants to vent, not solutions.
Why would it be any different in a group of women than with you alone?
It’s why they call it a ‘Pity Party’?
It’s NOT about the NAIL!
Last woman I dated was all over Brown's work. Too much to go into here. Long and the short Rich, your take and experience on Brown's work and women, spot on. This was one piece of a puzzle that was one crazy ass rollercoaster ride that I am no longer on.
When I first heard Brené Brown, I immediately saw that her talks on vulnerability applied to women but not to men. The “women doing the work” fought me loudly on this. We know they don’t understand men so that didn’t phase me. We also know why it’s impossible for them to understand why Brown does not work for men; solipsism and hypergamy - as you noted.
Later Dr. Brown herself was set straight after a talk when a man who attended the talk explained that his wife and daughter would prefer he die on his horse (while protecting and providing) rather than fall off his horse (being vulnerable).
Men with sense know that being “vulnerable” is the FASTEST way for women to lose respect and attraction for a man.
Personally, I have experienced that loss of respect - even if they try to hide it - when I showed “vulnerability” (which was not my natural inclination to do) and I have had women tell me that their man had “better not be weak”.
So you are correct: the vulnerability “movement” was a thing for a while that women could get “the feels” over when discussing it in the abstract but never actually took seriously.
Her anti shame stuff which was where she began her actual research is helpful if you were raised in a dysfunctional home. Or if you are very blue pill suffering with lots of self loathing. Her more recent stuff is very fluffy and not helpful to most men.
Yeah good call. I listened to her stuff years ago and thought her TED talk was great.
She began believing her own grandiosity because Oprah cuddled up to her. She just spouting opinions right now which is a long ways from the research based information she shared early on
@@aillyia Yeah, doing all that research to figure out why you're the way you are isn't usually that much fun. Then when you can just talk fluff without the tough research and be getting paid, who wouldn't prefer that?
Sounds like she is molding her message to the wants of her customers...
@@stevec3526 possibly. I have no idea. Women don’t usually get too deep for very long. And most experts stick with the area that has the biggest audience. Hence red pill creators appeal mostly to men at the beginning (anger/outrage phase) and not to men who’ve progressed.
Seeing people do what feels good is probably the biggest reason I see most people fail or not hit their goal.
Not gonna lie I came here from a hate video on you, and I ended up subscribing lol. Idk I couldn’t find anything those guys were talking about, I find your channel pretty wise. Keep up the good work ✊🏼
There’s a disconnect between what women say they want and what they actually want and go for. Remember that.
There's a disconnect between what they want, what they think they should want, and what they think other people think they should want.
Great video 👍🏾
If I had a penny every time I was inaccurately called a narcissist and “needed to be more vulnerable” by my ex. I could lend Elon Musk money.
Never tell a woman you love them
she will hate you forever...
Hell, I once told a woman that I trusted her and it backfired.
The way I approach my relationship is "she's not mine it's just my turn" when a woman breaks my boundary it's bye I wish u luck have a nice life
After divorce, etc I turned to friends and professionals.
Women keep saying they want you to open up, but it’s bs. Unfortunately you can’t do it.
Awesome 👏🏾
I just found you and you are my new favorite person.
Always keep your vulnerability inside of you, keep it revolving towards your boys and maybe your mother. Crazy how that works.
I like what your talking bro... I subbed ...
Everyone should read her book Daring Greatly. Just because women gravitate towards her, doesn't mean her work is for only women. She is a university professor and researcher on the social dynamics of shame and guilt. She defines vulnerability in a totally different mindset than what the ignorant general public understands it as.
Vulnerability is the courage to understand your self fully; own your shit and accept your faults as part of your humanity. Most people cannot do this, men and women alike. Guilt and shame arises from this battle within us when refuse to acknowledge our faults.
Vulnerability is the courage to be open and honest about yourself to those in your working relationships and personal life, despite the fear of rejection, which, she argues, is a baseless fear. People crave authenticity from the people they work with and have intimate relationships with. People listen to and follow authentic, caring, courageous leaders.
Shame and guilt dynamics cause us to bury ourselves in layers of fakery; materialistic trappings that keep us secluded from authentic relationships and leaving a lasting footprint on the world.
Guilt and shame about ourselves and our inability to free ourselves from them keeps us stunted in so many areas of our lives.
So a couple of things where I think you are missing the mark.
First off, it's borderline dishonest to refer to Brene Brown as just some author who has done some Ted talks without mentioning that she is a university professor who does research on grief and shame. The things she is writing about in her books are based on scientific research, not just her opinion, philosophy, or world view. She's not just some, "lady empowerment author", writing about topics she has no scientific knowledge of. She does study both women and men.
As a couple of people have mentioned in the comments in greater depth, vulnerability as defined by Brown does not equal weakness. It's more like being your authentic self and owning your shit. If any particular person can't handle your authentic self, fully realized without giving any fucks about what other people think, then that's not the person for you. Do some women read this stuff and misunderstand / misuse it? Sure. Like all science, it's a tool. Like all tools, they can be misused. Used correctly though they can be useful to men as several others in the comments have attested to. The feminist dominated society is constantly trying to shame men. By understanding shame you can defuse it.
Of the ones I have read, her book, "Men, Women, and Worthiness", is probably most relevant to the gender dynamics you cover a lot in this channel. I listened to the audio version of this recently and was glad to hear her calling out women on their shit. She doesn't write from a pro-woman, anti-man viewpoint. Great story in there about how she came to start studying men after initially focusing only on women. She got truth bombed by a man.
While I'm writing I'll throw another name into the mix, Alison Armstrong. In her Audible workshops this woman deftly described everything that is dysfunctional in my marriage and how we got there. Really insightful. She has some powerful truth bombs for women and men. I like the concept she calls, "frog farmer". Some women turn frogs into princes and some women turn princes into frogs. So true. You can find lots of videos of her being interviewed by people on RUclips to get a general idea of where she is coming from. The one with Suzanne Venker is good as she has a similar point of view.
I read her book Daring Greatly, so was interested in what you'd have to say. I found that book to be incredibly beneficial and insightful, but it has to be taken in the right context: all the stuff I learned from that book didn't do a single thing to help or improve my marriage, but it did a ton to help me improve my close and intimate relationships with my closest male friends.
Some of the guys I deployed to Iraq with as Marine Corps infantrymen were already closer to me than most people, and even those relationships saw a boost. And surprisingly, to me, those dudes who were all buttoned up and never let a single shred of vulnerability show had no problem opening up in return without hesitation, somebody just had to go first. You know what, if I'm first and they wanna call me a bitch (jokingly) for getting all into my feelings, that's cool. I'm secure enough in myself and my relationships with those dudes that it just rolls right off...but they also responded in kind with vulnerability of their own and we are better brothers for it.
Haven't read her newer stuff, but I will say that when applied to the relationships men care most about, with the people you can trust the closest, Daring Greatly is a good book and you'll learn from it. Being vulnerable in your romantic relationships with women in the way that her book describes is futile at best, and a complete disaster at worst.
If you are a female in the military you got awarded a pussy pass.
Female entry standards are lowered compared to mens entry standards.
Don't you feel any shame in that?
You're talking to a fellow man.....
Jesus lol
I liked that book myself.☺
The moment you start to show interest in a woman, she will cut you off
ya you gotta balance the interest out. you gotta make her feel that she has to put in the work to be your women... women may be the guardians of sex but we as men are the guardians of relationships/marriage
@@Monk_Mode_Master 100%. Couldn’t have said it better myself. Took me 29 years to figure this out. Found Rich’s content a couple years ago. Now I have everything I want when it comes to Women and relationships.
@@Partisanfarms how many do you have?!
@@Monk_Mode_Master oh holy wow
Sure that's the reason. Showing interest.
Very good Sir
I think vulnerability is interpreted often in a weak light. Vulnerability is not necessarily crying and being weak. It is acknowledging your short comings and insecurities which is a must when it comes to mastering your true potential and being a true alpha that is comfortable with themselves and confident. There are too many fake alphas that are just over compensating and masking their insecurities and once someone sheds light on their insecurities they become uncentered and emotional bitches. Vulnerability is important. But I agree no needs emotionally weak blubbering betas
Agree but share that vulnerability with friends you want advice from. She’ll use it against you
Brene Brown mentions how women tend to discourage vulnerability without being aware they are doing it, so you have a point there.
Side note: It’s quite possible that men are less likely to take antidepressants because it’s not as socially accepted as it is for women, not because they’re generally less depressed.
Kevin samuels just slammed this chick from Canada about not dealing with her trauma first before she goes on the market. Women expect itnout of men. But women will not hold themself accountable. Well hopefully one day.
When they need a man to protect and provide for them and their children, they don’t have time to fix themselves first. They put on a front, lock down a naive blue piller and before he sees what a trainwreck she is, he’s in too deep.
Depends on circumstance. I worked with SA and MH groups and in some cases hearing brene brown has helped both male and female with their inner guilt/shame struggle. Helps to see the difference between guilt and shame.
Help me with the abbreviations Sex Addictions and Mental Health?
@@cd0130 substance abuse and mental health.
Dont get me wrong... i have benefitted of this channel. Richard coopers online body of work has helped me tremendously. There are limits though and a place for everything.
For example, I've worked with many veterans. One such was a vietnam vet who goes to bed every night and sees the skin fall off a child burn victim as he tried to pick her up. He had caused the fire. No ammount of red pill, stoicism, "do the work" was going to help him. (As it did me) But a brene brown video did help him separate guilt from shame to find a starting point.
Thank You Richard for Your compassion, integrity, and prolific knowledge in bringing forth light upon men's darkness & doubts.
re. anti depressant usage in NA.
Ask your Pharmacist what % of anti-depressants (aka "happy pills") are prescribed for women: Eighty!
And w/LT usage comes with behavioral modification(s). I've seen this up close and too damn personal in a few gf's. The Rolling Stones wrote "Mother's Little Helpers" (1966) as a warning what was transpiring.
A "tell" that a woman is on 'meds' is when she attempts to "creative truth-tell" (ie lie) when her eyes dart around (unbeknownst to the woman). Especially if her 'meds' have recently been increased.
Note: I am NOT a Doc or Pharmacist. But my sources are.......
Addendum - Check out Annie Duke's blogs on how to recognize a "tell". On anyone.
Annie's background [aside from a world poker championship win] includes a PhD study in psychology [but did not follow through w/dissertation as she realized a greater ROI in playing poker professionally].
I love Brene Brown work on inner self love. You need to love yourself fully and completely before you start your journey into the unknown.
I think from Brene Brown’s perspective - men need to let go of women to be perfect & women need to go of men being perfect - only when there is compromise and commitment - there can be peace.
Not all men are into their full masculinity and that’s ok. Not all women are into their full femininity and that’s ok.
If you look at it in a wider perspective - every person plays a role in a much more harmonious system that serves the strongest or the one who is most willing to take the risk.
To some, that’s Jesus , to others it’s Mohammad , or Buddha. People like us who took the risk of change.
There is no perfect answer that befits all. And there is a perfect answer that befits some.
In the end it’s your path and your journey alone.
Wishing you all peace ☮️
Man this vid hit home. Dated a girl who was heavy in that Bene stuff. Seemed sweet at first. Turned out to be a nightmare. Just became completely unrealistic and like you said once things got deep and she got what she wanted couldn’t see past her nose. Everything became all about her and what she needed even though I literally broke my back to help this chic. If I meet a chick now and she mentions anything about that Bene. I’m running like the road runner! lol
Nurses and teachers😂 thats all. i needed to. know
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs says that after the basics(food, water, etc) , people need to feel safe. One doesn’t feel safe with a vulnerable-acting person in charge.
Its uncanny how you have made this video at this time when I was actually pondering over the same thing.
Brene's got some good content and she says to take responsibility for your stuff in her Ted Talks. A valid point. Unfortunately, many of her female fans won't do much about the responsibility part at all. They only hear 'men should be vulnerable and open up more'. Agree, that is a bad move for most men. Been there, done that.
I’m unsure how this idea of vulnerability is being defined. Crying on your woman’s shoulder isn’t the only example of such.
There’s an important discussion around the masculine and the feminine and how much any man or woman should be living from those energies.
Should a man have no understanding of the feminine or be able to act from that place? What if your son comes to you with an issue? You gonna tell him to shut up and stop feeling? What if your woman comes to you with an issue? You can’t hold that emotion?
I would be curious to see the list of recommended books. The link to the Amazon storefront does not show books.
We are now living in an age where extremist political, racial, and cultural opinions have been pushed to the extremes.
The moment you make any effort towards intelligent debate on any issues regarding feminism, gender roles, and biological differences between men and women, your instantly labelled the enemy.
I’m grateful that there a a few corners on the internet where such intelligent debates can still take place.
Keep up the great content Rich :)
Peace!
Being vulnerable is a weakness, for both men and women. I really don't like that term and people should stop using it. Being open on the other hand is good and shows a healthy emotional intelligence.
I rarely worry about what a woman thinks . They just don't do it that often .
This was perfect bc audible haS been trying to push her on me, luckily i dont go to a butcher for financial advice... If you know what i mean
I asked my ex wife the same question using our son as the example about bringing home a single mom with kids in tow or the young woman with no kids who treats him well and the ex said, “ I want our son to be a kind human and love anyone regardless of how many kids they have or if they’re divorced.” LOL 😂 I said suuuuure you do!
Love = Lose so others will exploit you to win?
> kind human
If she is using that kind of language tell her to wake up from her freaking delusion.
These pieces of advice are so strong that they turn betas into Alpha Kings. I’ve turned my life around in just four years. Life is good. I am free. Thanks to the RP veteran teachers like yourself. Thanks Rich!! 💪🏾
Alphas are overated.
@@practicalphilosophy9031
I wouldn’t disagree.
@@MansSuperPower true sign of an Alpha don't Argue with an internet troll......
Righteous
What do you think about the works of Belgian therapist Esther Perel? She seems quite optimistic about how to fix and have healthy relationships.
7:13 😂
I grew up everyone encouraging me and other men to be "sensitive", but that was a horrible lie! You need to become unsensitive. You don't have to ignore your emotions, but you need to work on neutralizing negative emotions and developing a stoic character. A woman can't be your accountabillabuddy. You shouldn't even want that in the first place. Be strong just to be strong for you. Then it doesn't matter what women, or whoever, tries to play you with whatever. You'll know that you can handle anything. That peace of mind is better then being dependent on other's validation which is out of your control.
Men: Reach For the Stars. You may fail, you almost certainly will fail: But it is your destiny. However, while you're alive, grab hold of life with BOTH hands and don't let go.
Which advice will you take.
The thumbnail has Karen written all over it
The thing is it is ok for guys to have vulnerability and to have weaknesses. We just shouldn’t shout about them and certainly not share them with our partners. You only grow through acknowledgment of weakness. Look at what David Goggins teaches. I like all of these videos but there is an underlying feeling that so many guys in the pick up industry are just hurt little boys. They often seem to think ‘I’m just going to fuck my way to happiness’. There can be a balance to life. There are shades of grey not everything is a binary decision. Good video. I enjoyed this and Rene Browns ted talk. It’s ok to share weaknesses with women. But only once you have vanquished them.
As a man I still think Louise L. Hays big topic "Autosuggestion" can offer tremendous value to a man´s life since it doesn´t contradict the fact that you need to do the work. Like a woman it will complement your life if you don´t forget to stay on your grind. Have a look at it gents
Hmm, don't see amazon link.
It Simple dudes, there is a healthy balance with everything.
Vulnerability+emotionally available Vrs strong masculine Alpha mentality.
I just don't care about what they "want" , tell me what you "need" so as I can decide what I'm prepared to give . It's a complete "Cluster......... ; bye ladies .
Brene says vulnerability is not weakness, vulnerability is being aware pf your fear and not shutting down. So it applies to all humans, regardless pf their gender
No it's not, vulnerability by definition is close to weakness and women HATE weak men.
I have only known 2 secure women in my life, 1 was my 107 year old grandmother, the other was a women I fell in love with when I lived in Europe back in the early 80's but it never came of anything. To me, there was nothing more attractive in a women who is both feminine and secure in there skin. Very Very Rare! I have a talent to balance my more chauvinist side with a gentlemanly wit and charm that has attracted a lot of very beautiful women over the years far greater then my looks. But I'm very healthy and fit and savvy. I have a penchant to shun some very beautiful women because of there insecurities.
Vulnerability leads to flaking, ghosting, and blue balls.
Vulnerability is like popping. You don't do it in front of anyone except you. Deal with your shit alone.
yeah my boyfriend is the vulnerable one lol i am the one who needs to "be more emotional" LOL
Jack Donovan's 'The way of men' is the male to male version of 'The Rational Male.' Its written by a man qwho has more experience with men then anyone else in sphere, due to his homosexual background, and although he goes off at one point about Globalists, it's very apolitical in perspective, a rare sight with the type of book The Way of Men is.
He was homosexual?
Yes, female hypergamy is real and it makes obvious sense from an evolutionary point of view. Denying hypergamy means not understanding the very basics of human nature. However, a lot of so-called manosphere communities only focus on female hypergamy, while hypergamy also exists in men. Male hypergamy is looks based. You just need to look around to see male hypergamy in effect: men want attractive women. Best of all, more attractive women than they are, and more than one of them.
In simple terms:
Male hypergamy trade status, resources and power for looks. Female hypergamy trade looks for status, power and resources.
I wish this was covered more
Society at large inundates everyone with the fact that men compete for the most attractive women. Society doesn't talk about female hypergamy as comprehensively.
You don't understand the term hypergamy. Wanting beautiful women is not hypergamous.
@@normangoldstuck8107 clearly you're the one that doesn't understand male hypergamy
I browsed over Brene's videos and omfg.
Absolute solipsistic,narcissistic ego stroking, no learning about accountability nor improvement of any kind.
"Self Love“
Smh
Also she has psychotic eyes.
Something to watch when a woman's mind already snapped beyond repair.
Rich, I'm 99.999% with you. No, make that 100%.
Chase excellence not women!
With cops and with women - "Everything you say can and WILL be used against you"
women's greatest downfall is vanity and man's is anger which is a negative emotion; nothing gets improved by pointing out the negative.. we do much better by learning and growing from each other not by concentrating on the negative, but raising ourselves by learning from positive and good qualities; all the best getting out of this rabbit a holes ass.. too dark for what's obvious..
Dude love your channel But I Have few questions :-
1. What are the dangers of becoming red pilled
2. Should teens Get Any red pilled knowledge cause Like teens aren't used to rejection and Giving them red pill knowledge Would Be Really shake their paradigms And they might Not be able to handle the cold hard truths that your channel Deliver.
3) How do I become An unplugged alpha as a teen ?
These are my questions
Hope you Answer them
I’ll take a shot -
1. Don’t get jaded or hateful towards women in the process - learn how many act from the community and accept dealing with them within those confines and set your own boundaries to simply protect yourself while working towards your goals and enjoying life and women along the way
2. That’s part of the point - when your are better educated about expecting rejection as a part of life whether it be in business or personal life and realize that failures are part of growing towards success you shops be able to handle it as a possible positive rather than demeaning to you.
3. Take in as much as you can from the community members who you are drawn towards.
With red pill, pick and choose what parts you believe, some of it is helpful for self development, but most of the dating advice that comes out of the community isn't accurate at all. I'm not tall, I work out but I'm not a body builder and I'm well of but I'm not ultra rich. So according to the philosophy, I'm a beta guy, but let me assure you, I get my choice of women.
@The Warden I'll take a third shot.
Unless you have been though a narcissistic discard(after living 20 years with somebody who has N.P.D).....you have zero idea of what is coming.
Red pill is NOT about hating women for their nature. Red pill is about being aware of that nature and avoiding falling prey to it. Avoiding oneitis is probably the most valuable tenet of TRP because it keeps you from over-investing.
Crying is the most courageous act a man can perform. Showing your vulnerability to the society that just waits for the opportunity to exploit it is brave. Uncalculated and stupid, but brave nontheless.
Brene Brown is very qualified, has done the work, and has some good books. The problem is/are her "students," who don't fully inculcate that she's talking about both sides of the street (i.e., the women who want men to "change", but won't take ownership/responsibility of their role in creating a dysfunctional dance.) I've heard/read her call out women for being inauthentic---she's actually done that more to women than men. She's not perfect, but better than most.
Lol lets hold hands and sing.
My man’s advice is always solid... He’s a gem, man.... If only he got rid of that corny-ass “What’s up, my brothas?”.... he’d be five-star!!
Like and post for the Al Gore Rhythm, but stay for the commentary!
women's solipsism extends to their choice of alpha males. You may think you are an alpha male but for women the definition of an alpha male is: "any male that a woman "perceives" or believes for whatever reason to be stronger, more successful or more desirable to her or one of her friends than the man she knows, is currently dating, is in a relationship with or is married to" Practically, you can still be one if you manage your social circle. Effectively, there is no such thing as an "alpha male" That is the hard truth whether you can face it or not and you would do well to always keep it in mind. (situational awareness)
What's your love language Richard....🤣 good video brother!
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“Jack Donovan - a 42-year-old skinhead icon and right-wing extremist - lived the gay life once. It was in the 1990s, after he left his parents’ blue-collar home in rural Pennsylvania to study fine art in New York, when he danced go-go in gay clubs, hung out with drag queens, and marched for gay pride. But then he dropped out, learned how to use tools and work as a manual laborer, studied MMA, and decided he wasn’t gay - just “an unrepentant masculinist.””
Doesn’t seem like my kind of author I’d read from, but to each their own.
Brene can give valuable perspective but it's not a guide for men. Brene even said it in her book, that statistics show that women can not handle male vulnerability and shame. It makes them disgusted. Also not surprising that women use her language for rationalizing her actions. But there is still some valuable info in her books. Notably the idea of self acceptance and being resilient against shame.