If we understand that everything we have and need is from God, then we will see it’s up to God if we will have that thing that we really need. That is how I manage those situations. It’s all God’s will. That is where contentment comes in. We have to pray to be content in any situation we find ourselves.
"The devils are in the details"...if needed, just tell her "You are pretty I give you that, STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND"...Be jealous and stand up if need, you know what I mean.
I used to be very jealous although I would try to convince myself I wasn't. Then one day I saw a video of a Catholic priest talking about why it's wrong to be jealous. Some of the points he made were: 1. You only see the exterior of the person. You don't see or care about the interior. You see they live in a nice house, drive a nice car, wear designer clothes, etc and think they have the perfect life. You don't know they are in an abusive marriage or suffer from depression and suicidal thoughts. Jealously only let's you see the outside. 2. Jealousy makes you angry and bitter. 3. When you are too busy being jealous then you don't realize all the beauty and love around you. You are never happy. You never realize all the blessings you have. This video really opened my eyes and I do believe God put this video in my life. I still get jealous at times but with prayer I'm doing a lot better.
I am actually a naturally jealous person. I have had tons of struggles on this issue. So these are my two cents about handling jealousy: What DID NOT work for me: 1. Discounting what she has (e.g. Her xxxx is not "that" gorgeous.) 2. Trying to find superiority in my life (e.g. I may not be as pretty but I am smarter). 3. Trying to shame myself for wanting "worldly things(e.g. looks, money, boyfriend)". It's okay to want those things. It's only wrong when you sin your way to pursue those things. 4. Trying to find the "formula" to her happiness. e.g. "Maybe she was more mature than me, that's why she was blessed with an amazing husband." Well. Actually, you may be more mature than her. There are tons of married people who have flaws. God's grace is a free gift, not a reward to someone's passing a test. (See #1 below) 5. Trying to justify God. e.g. "God has a greater plan for me" kind of things... (He always does, but let's suppose He doesn't have one, if so, are you going to stop loving Him because of that?) What DID work for me: 1. Acknowledging that God has the freedom to choose whomever He wants to give HIS blessing. Everything is God's, and the GIVER decides whom to give His good things. It is presumptuous for me to tell Him what He can and can't do with His creation. 2. Learning to praise God for doing His Will, even if it may not even end up as a "greater plan" for me. I acknowledge the bad situation as bad, but still can praise Him, NOT because He will "turn this around", but because I love Him and I want Him to be free. 3. Just telling God in prayer that I feel tempted. And admitting that that's because I honestly want what she has. And that I want His blessings, too. God always wants me to straight come to Him like a baby "I want that too!" and confide in Him my innermost desires, than to seethe in jealousy toward another human being as a convoluted expression of my own desire.
Thank you for your honesty. Please do a video on passive- aggressive behavior. I have learned and healed so much from your videos and I am still struggling with my passive-aggressive personality.
You made me cry. I have a step cousin that my family embraced at what I feel was my expense that nurtured a root of jealousy. I know that this needs to be addressed and this video has helped so much. I was moved to tears when you said to pray for their happiness ❤️❤️❤️❤️I feel like God will have his way now in this and I’m so happy! Thank you Heather!!!
I really like this type of video. I hope you continue this type of format and make “faith Friday” a series where you talk about some stuff that the viewers have sent you. Or share positive stories that viewers have sent you.
I’ve suffered from jealousy- my husband and I have been trying for 8 years to start a family so I find it soothing to watch such loving interactions with you and your children - you really are a great mum and you’re such a wonderful role model! Please pray for us ✝️ When you say your ending ‘God Bless’ I say it back to you 😉 Have a great day!
@@ACatholicMomsLife Thank you Heather! I am less than a week from completing my 54 day novena and am so excited that it's been going so well - I will look into the Pope John Paul II novena too - I watched a youtube video the other day about him - it may have been called JPII His Last Days - anyway I was bawling my eyes out because he was so beautiful and so was his story and his persistence!! God Bless!!
The old me used to say "well at least you're married and not single like me"..... gosh so jealous and bitter. No more! I pray you have a fudge ton of children, if it's God's will!!!
Thank you for this topic. This is something I struggle with. I used to be worse but through prayer and confession I have definitely improved a lot. Still struggle with it, especially with social media and seems like people only post the happy times on there. What I do is try to remind myslef that those are their blessings. God has given me other blessings, like health, the health of my children, a home m, jobs that we can pay our bills with. Family and friends. I repeat those things in my mind. When you take time to be thankful for what you have you dont have time to think about the things you don't or you wish you did. Staying off Social Media fir a while helps too. Spending more time reading, time in prayer really does help. That's what has worked for me. God bless and thank you for your ministry!
Thanks Heather! This video was perfect for what I didn’t know I needed to hear! Please do more of these type of videos- maybe on how to cultivate virtue and grace? So helpful!
Jealousy is a terrible and common monster. God’s grace is so good if we just remember to include Him in our thoughts! Great video! Sharing with my 14 year old daughter!
Thank you for this video. I’ve been both envious and jealous of others. What I’ve realised is that God gives us each our own path to walk and it’s best just to concentrate on the things that matter. When I feel jealous again or envious I’ll take your advice and pray for this person. Thank you Heather, you are a blessing to the world.
This is a great video and the timing is perfect like our Lord. I struggle with jealousy but what you said about praying for them is something a priest once told me when I was struggling with anger. I never understood as well as you put it about receiving grace when you pray for someone you struggling with because more than anything is your trying to find peace in what you don't have or are angry about. Life happens and we all have different journeys. I'm going to put this more into practice. Thanks and God bless you and your ministry
I try to avoid being jealous of anyone. I have always tried to associate it with envy and God's Commandment to Moses about not coveting your neighbor's posessions. It's always better to be content with what you have.
When I notice I'm getting jealous I definitely pray and think of my blessings. There's one that I've really had to work on is being jealous of those who don't have to struggle and live pay check to pay check. I know it's wrong and petty. I continue to pray and I'm getting better. Thanks for covering this, it's so important. Bless you
I too, have learned to pray for the person I am jealous for, and I agree...it was the ONLY thing that changed the situation, by the grace(s) of God. I still struggle occasionally, but continue to go to confession and pray, etc., and ultimately I know that it's because of my own feelings of inadequacy, in whatever it is, which is not fair to the next person. I am much like you, whereas it's not in materialism, but I admit, any of my reasons are just as sinful, as sin is sin. Original sin sucks! Lol. Anyway, beautiful... I am in love with your channel and I truly wish I had Catholic friends like you in my everyday presence. Thank you for your videos.
I’m surprised jealousy of someone else’s appearance wasn’t mentioned... that is a huge one.. especially amongst women... unfortunately a lot of pressure is putting on women to feel that they need to look a certain way.. I’m sure a video could be made dedicated to that topic alone...
That is true, none of the people who contacted me brought that up it was all materialism and spiritual things they struggled with, but I am sure lots of people struggle with appearance too!
Just getting ready to read the Count of Monte Cristo by Alexander Dumas. It is over 1400 pages and I honestly have never read a book this big. It could take awhile but is such a great novel. I might glin more from this read regarding jealousy and look forward to it. Thanks for all you do darling. Much love to you and your family.
I get envious because I really appreciate and want certain things, tangible and intangible, and I see others having and I'd never begrudge anything and I'm always genuinely happy for others fortune. I enjoy seeing others prosper! But I talk to God because I know He doesn't like envy. So I confess and pray about it. I'm grateful for what I have, and who I am. But yeah, I can relate to coveting and envy.
I know this is not a new video but thank you!! I went looking for it because I need to root out some yucky feelings. ♥️ 🙏 please pray for me anyone who sees this
I am envious of others cooking abilities, they make any dish seem easy and being able to knit or sew (never my strong point) I can't sing but like too. ; ) I know and I am grateful for being the way I am, for loving and being sensitive to others etc. But it is hard at times to not wish my hands could make what theirs do but I do help crafts people by buying things I can afford and joyfully accepting a gift from them.
Some jealousy can stem from insecurity. "This person has what I want, a handsome husband who can provide... but I'm not married, what's wrong with me? What do they have that I don't? Am I not good enough to be a wife and mother Jesus?" ;( Of course, I had that issue, and I realized that I wasn't ready, but it still hurts sometimes seeing people who seem happier than I. But it's true you gotta cut it off right away by saying "In the name of Lord Jesus, stop" or "Lord help them grow closer to you, me too." before you let it spread and fester.
I so agree...indeed, this has worked for me. Pray for them, and it slowly abates... unbelievable how it just goes away. I have three kids and would love four....I hear you about the longing for more babies. At 43 I don't think it's in God's plan for me to have more, but it is so hard to make peace with not having more babies in my house. 🥰😘 Much love to you, my sister in Christ.
@@ACatholicMomsLife It's amazing to me how through the internet you can still feel a real community and a kinship. Thank you for putting yourself out there for the sake of that community. It brings a great deal of friendship to my days!
You’re talking more about envy. Jealousy, to me, means I start thinking that my husband is attracted to someone else and I get jealous! That is the kind of jealousy that is very, very hard to cope with.
Hi there, I would like to get a Catholic Bible, I do not know which one to get! There are so many and I am confused. What are the differences etc. Thank you.
My issue isn't jealousy. It's anger and revenge. I'm a giving and nurturing person, but people have been rude to me my entire life, including my own mother. I am not trying to make a sob story because I have met and know so many wonderful people. But there were close friends and even family members who secretly rooted for me to fail. I used to be so vengeful but God has brought me to a new light. It's not my job to seek revenge. My job is to learn from my mistakes and most importantly serve God. All I do now is pray for people- even those who hurt me-, read my Bible, and serve God in my life.
I am so happy when I see others succeed but when I succeed, many people snub it. Like I said, it's OK. Because all my success came from God and that's all that matters.
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If we understand that everything we have and need is from God, then we will see it’s up to God if we will have that thing that we really need. That is how I manage those situations. It’s all God’s will. That is where contentment comes in. We have to pray to be content in any situation we find ourselves.
YES!!! A thankful heart is so important to heal from Envy or jealousy! God loves a grateful heart!
Yes! Thanks for sharing Heather. Your messages are always good.
"The devils are in the details"...if needed, just tell her "You are pretty I give you that, STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND"...Be jealous and stand up if need, you know what I mean.
Well said. Thank you!
I used to be very jealous although I would try to convince myself I wasn't. Then one day I saw a video of a Catholic priest talking about why it's wrong to be jealous. Some of the points he made were:
1. You only see the exterior of the person. You don't see or care about the interior. You see they live in a nice house, drive a nice car, wear designer clothes, etc and think they have the perfect life. You don't know they are in an abusive marriage or suffer from depression and suicidal thoughts. Jealously only let's you see the outside.
2. Jealousy makes you angry and bitter.
3. When you are too busy being jealous then you don't realize all the beauty and love around you. You are never happy. You never realize all the blessings you have.
This video really opened my eyes and I do believe God put this video in my life. I still get jealous at times but with prayer I'm doing a lot better.
I have this written out to remind myself...."what I have is sufficient because God has ordained it so."
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I love that!
Thank you so much for posting this affirmation. You have no idea how much I needed to read this today.
Amen . " Our hearts are restless until they rest in God . " St Augustine .
I am actually a naturally jealous person. I have had tons of struggles on this issue. So these are my two cents about handling jealousy:
What DID NOT work for me:
1. Discounting what she has (e.g. Her xxxx is not "that" gorgeous.)
2. Trying to find superiority in my life (e.g. I may not be as pretty but I am smarter).
3. Trying to shame myself for wanting "worldly things(e.g. looks, money, boyfriend)". It's okay to want those things. It's only wrong when you sin your way to pursue those things.
4. Trying to find the "formula" to her happiness. e.g. "Maybe she was more mature than me, that's why she was blessed with an amazing husband." Well. Actually, you may be more mature than her. There are tons of married people who have flaws. God's grace is a free gift, not a reward to someone's passing a test. (See #1 below)
5. Trying to justify God. e.g. "God has a greater plan for me" kind of things... (He always does, but let's suppose He doesn't have one, if so, are you going to stop loving Him because of that?)
What DID work for me:
1. Acknowledging that God has the freedom to choose whomever He wants to give HIS blessing. Everything is God's, and the GIVER decides whom to give His good things. It is presumptuous for me to tell Him what He can and can't do with His creation.
2. Learning to praise God for doing His Will, even if it may not even end up as a "greater plan" for me. I acknowledge the bad situation as bad, but still can praise Him, NOT because He will "turn this around", but because I love Him and I want Him to be free.
3. Just telling God in prayer that I feel tempted. And admitting that that's because I honestly want what she has. And that I want His blessings, too. God always wants me to straight come to Him like a baby "I want that too!" and confide in Him my innermost desires, than to seethe in jealousy toward another human being as a convoluted expression of my own desire.
Wow this is so beautiful! To PRAY for the person and their happiness, that they will grow closer to God through their joy. You are amazing!
Attending RCIA and you have helped me so much on my journey to Jesus.
I cant wait to be able to take the body and blood of Christ at mass 💙✝️💙
So awesome! I can’t wait for you too! Nothing better then receiving Jesus!🥰
Thank you for your honesty. Please do a video on passive- aggressive behavior. I have learned and healed so much from your videos and I am still struggling with my passive-aggressive personality.
Sure I will put that on my list of videos!
You made me cry. I have a step cousin that my family embraced at what I feel was my expense that nurtured a root of jealousy. I know that this needs to be addressed and this video has helped so much. I was moved to tears when you said to pray for their happiness ❤️❤️❤️❤️I feel like God will have his way now in this and I’m so happy! Thank you Heather!!!
I really like this type of video. I hope you continue this type of format and make “faith Friday” a series where you talk about some stuff that the viewers have sent you. Or share positive stories that viewers have sent you.
I’ve suffered from jealousy- my husband and I have been trying for 8 years to start a family so I find it soothing to watch such loving interactions with you and your children - you really are a great mum and you’re such a wonderful role model! Please pray for us ✝️ When you say your ending ‘God Bless’ I say it back to you 😉 Have a great day!
Yes! I will pray for you! We did a novena to Pope John Paul II and ended getting pregnant a couple months later💕
@@ACatholicMomsLife Thank you Heather! I am less than a week from completing my 54 day novena and am so excited that it's been going so well - I will look into the Pope John Paul II novena too - I watched a youtube video the other day about him - it may have been called JPII His Last Days - anyway I was bawling my eyes out because he was so beautiful and so was his story and his persistence!! God Bless!!
The old me used to say "well at least you're married and not single like me"..... gosh so jealous and bitter. No more! I pray you have a fudge ton of children, if it's God's will!!!
Thank you for this topic. This is something I struggle with. I used to be worse but through prayer and confession I have definitely improved a lot. Still struggle with it, especially with social media and seems like people only post the happy times on there. What I do is try to remind myslef that those are their blessings. God has given me other blessings, like health, the health of my children, a home m, jobs that we can pay our bills with. Family and friends. I repeat those things in my mind. When you take time to be thankful for what you have you dont have time to think about the things you don't or you wish you did. Staying off Social Media fir a while helps too. Spending more time reading, time in prayer really does help. That's what has worked for me. God bless and thank you for your ministry!
Heather you are such a sweet and kind soul. Thank you for encouraging us in such a humble and loving way. 💜
Thanks Heather! This video was perfect for what I didn’t know I needed to hear! Please do more of these type of videos- maybe on how to cultivate virtue and grace? So helpful!
Those are great topics I will put them on my list😊
Jealousy is a terrible and common monster. God’s grace is so good if we just remember to include Him in our thoughts! Great video! Sharing with my 14 year old daughter!
Thank you for your humility and your ministry here. I pray the Lord will bless you
Thank you for this video. I’ve been both envious and jealous of others. What I’ve realised is that God gives us each our own path to walk and it’s best just to concentrate on the things that matter. When I feel jealous again or envious I’ll take your advice and pray for this person. Thank you Heather, you are a blessing to the world.
This is a great video and the timing is perfect like our Lord. I struggle with jealousy but what you said about praying for them is something a priest once told me when I was struggling with anger. I never understood as well as you put it about receiving grace when you pray for someone you struggling with because more than anything is your trying to find peace in what you don't have or are angry about. Life happens and we all have different journeys. I'm going to put this more into practice. Thanks and God bless you and your ministry
I try to avoid being jealous of anyone. I have always tried to associate it with envy and God's Commandment to Moses about not coveting your neighbor's posessions. It's always better to be content with what you have.
Thank you for being real. You are right, we have to recognize the enemy of God within us that, by nature, wants to curse others.
When I notice I'm getting jealous I definitely pray and think of my blessings. There's one that I've really had to work on is being jealous of those who don't have to struggle and live pay check to pay check. I know it's wrong and petty. I continue to pray and I'm getting better. Thanks for covering this, it's so important. Bless you
Thank you for sharing!
That is EXAXTLY what I am jealous of myself . why does life have to be so hard for some but not others ?
I too, have learned to pray for the person I am jealous for, and I agree...it was the ONLY thing that changed the situation, by the grace(s) of God. I still struggle occasionally, but continue to go to confession and pray, etc., and ultimately I know that it's because of my own feelings of inadequacy, in whatever it is, which is not fair to the next person. I am much like you, whereas it's not in materialism, but I admit, any of my reasons are just as sinful, as sin is sin. Original sin sucks! Lol.
Anyway, beautiful... I am in love with your channel and I truly wish I had Catholic friends like you in my everyday presence. Thank you for your videos.
God bless you, Heather 🙂
Your videos are always so helpful, thank you, Heather
Such great advice. Thank you, Heather! God is really using you powerful ways. Your videos are life changing. 🙏🏼💕
I’m surprised jealousy of someone else’s appearance wasn’t mentioned... that is a huge one.. especially amongst women... unfortunately a lot of pressure is putting on women to feel that they need to look a certain way.. I’m sure a video could be made dedicated to that topic alone...
That is true, none of the people who contacted me brought that up it was all materialism and spiritual things they struggled with, but I am sure lots of people struggle with appearance too!
Yes for sure
Just getting ready to read the Count of Monte Cristo by Alexander Dumas. It is over 1400 pages and I honestly have never read a book this big. It could take awhile but is such a great novel. I might glin more from this read regarding jealousy and look forward to it. Thanks for all you do darling. Much love to you and your family.
I’m jealous of your bookshelf. 😆
jbowen828 Lol !!! So am I 😜
Kat thank you. She sadly passed away last June at 17 yrs old. I got her at 2 days old. I miss her so much.
You all are too funny 😂
In time, if the Lord wills it, your Catholic Library one day could rival Heather's.
Thank you for sharing this. It was beautiful and touching.
Your videos have been so AWESOME lately! Thank you for your hard work and dedication to your channel. You are such a blessing!
Thank you so much!
My kingdom to know God's will!
I get envious because I really appreciate and want certain things, tangible and intangible, and I see others having and I'd never begrudge anything and I'm always genuinely happy for others fortune. I enjoy seeing others prosper! But I talk to God because I know He doesn't like envy. So I confess and pray about it. I'm grateful for what I have, and who I am. But yeah, I can relate to coveting and envy.
I didn’t think I needed this video! Thanks for putting yourself out there! 💗
I know this is not a new video but thank you!! I went looking for it because I need to root out some yucky feelings. ♥️ 🙏 please pray for me anyone who sees this
Thanks Heather! God bless you friend!
Rosary prayers will make you feel content and less jealous
Another awesome and important video! Thank you, great advice. I think this is something we all struggle a bit with :)
Very inspirartional. Thank you. I needed to hear that today. xxx
I am envious of others cooking abilities, they make any dish seem easy and being able to knit or sew (never my strong point) I can't sing but like too. ; ) I know and I am grateful for being the way I am, for loving and being sensitive to others etc. But it is hard at times to not wish my hands could make what theirs do but I do help crafts people by buying things I can afford and joyfully accepting a gift from them.
Some jealousy can stem from insecurity. "This person has what I want, a handsome husband who can provide... but I'm not married, what's wrong with me? What do they have that I don't? Am I not good enough to be a wife and mother Jesus?" ;(
Of course, I had that issue, and I realized that I wasn't ready, but it still hurts sometimes seeing people who seem happier than I. But it's true you gotta cut it off right away by saying "In the name of Lord Jesus, stop" or "Lord help them grow closer to you, me too." before you let it spread and fester.
I so agree...indeed, this has worked for me. Pray for them, and it slowly abates... unbelievable how it just goes away. I have three kids and would love four....I hear you about the longing for more babies. At 43 I don't think it's in God's plan for me to have more, but it is so hard to make peace with not having more babies in my house. 🥰😘 Much love to you, my sister in Christ.
I hear you! You are not alone!
@@ACatholicMomsLife It's amazing to me how through the internet you can still feel a real community and a kinship. Thank you for putting yourself out there for the sake of that community. It brings a great deal of friendship to my days!
You’re talking more about envy. Jealousy, to me, means I start thinking that my husband is attracted to someone else and I get jealous! That is the kind of jealousy that is very, very hard to cope with.
Hi there, I would like to get a Catholic Bible, I do not know which one to get! There are so many and I am confused. What are the differences etc. Thank you.
My issue isn't jealousy. It's anger and revenge. I'm a giving and nurturing person, but people have been rude to me my entire life, including my own mother. I am not trying to make a sob story because I have met and know so many wonderful people. But there were close friends and even family members who secretly rooted for me to fail. I used to be so vengeful but God has brought me to a new light. It's not my job to seek revenge. My job is to learn from my mistakes and most importantly serve God. All I do now is pray for people- even those who hurt me-, read my Bible, and serve God in my life.
I am so happy when I see others succeed but when I succeed, many people snub it. Like I said, it's OK. Because all my success came from God and that's all that matters.
Thank you
Jealousy is a disease which is more dangerous than cancer. Cancer only kills human body but Jealousy kills human Soul.
Heather, I wanted to ask you. With 10 children and a divorce, how did your mum and you all manage financially?
Not jealous just angry till wanna get rid of them eternally.....ever feel that or maybe plan to do it
I encourage to pray the Rosary Mary will help
I just want a girlfriend. I’m 29 and never had one. It eats me up inside.