5 Signs He’s Moved On (mentally)

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  • @JustDoRight
    @JustDoRight 4 года назад +1861

    If a man can walk away from you in any type of way, shape or form, then let him walk. Period! He's not apart of your destiny.

    • @annsam2111
      @annsam2111 4 года назад +12

      Word!

    • @ebonieshenece
      @ebonieshenece 4 года назад +22

      JUSTDORIGHT I had to learn this a year ago. I’m glad I let him walk

    • @angelarambo72
      @angelarambo72 4 года назад +7

      Wheeeew👈👈🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 4 года назад +5

      Selah

    • @daughterofYah_Joelene
      @daughterofYah_Joelene 4 года назад +12

      So needed this vid...thanks a million Mr Gaskins,you are truly heaven send for our generation💟💯
      Be blessed🙏🙌

  • @indriadrayton1132
    @indriadrayton1132 4 года назад +1214

    Starting to sound like being single is the better option.

  • @fatimacorreia786
    @fatimacorreia786 4 года назад +788

    If you clicked on this video, 99% chance he's moved on!

  • @Tebatso6333
    @Tebatso6333 3 года назад +277

    For the last 3 weeks he has been treating me like I don’t exist, after pouring all my feelings to him , nothing happened. I broke it off with him, it hurts but will be fine

    • @cherylross393
      @cherylross393 3 года назад +10

      Don't worry it's going to be better next time .

    • @SaraFJones
      @SaraFJones 3 года назад +6

      Hugs 💞💞💞💞

    • @lilmar1710
      @lilmar1710 2 года назад +8

      Stop pouring your feelings to him and move on.

    • @GodLovesYouAllTheTime
      @GodLovesYouAllTheTime 2 года назад +3

      I’m sorry to hear that, how do you feel today? Did you guys get back together or did you try later to work it out? I’m asking because I’m conflicted and it’s like…he stopped investing time but he will hit me up randomly or try to hang out etc. it hurts because I know I need to walk away but it’s like I’m stuck in this soul tie.

    • @brandyheartqueen9326
      @brandyheartqueen9326 2 года назад +3

      Going through the same thing but I will be fine

  • @B_Murph
    @B_Murph 4 года назад +2052

    I walked away from a 10 year relationship. It can be done and you will be okay ladies❤️

    • @khalilahbutler4344
      @khalilahbutler4344 4 года назад +71

      Melissa Murphy working on walking away from 15 years ..

    • @kimwilliams729
      @kimwilliams729 4 года назад +41

      Walked away from 5 years

    • @B_Murph
      @B_Murph 4 года назад +46

      Khalilah Butler Trust the process and know there are better days to come.

    • @kimsmith819
      @kimsmith819 4 года назад +77

      Yes it can honestly be done. I walked away from 15 years and all of a sudden he went to 2 therapist and a Pastor to straighten his ass out. Leson learned on his behalf. He thought I couldn't afford to live on my own. He learned i could. Got his act together and after 7 months and 1800 miles apart, i have moved back into my home with him. He does know if he starts the BS again, i will leave again and will never return

    • @TiffanyBTV
      @TiffanyBTV 4 года назад +14

      Melissa Murphy so proud of you love 💕 choose you

  • @Iamstaceek
    @Iamstaceek 3 года назад +273

    I'm single cause I don't have time for heartbreak & inconsistency. I'm waiting on God.

    • @jmsmurfy9
      @jmsmurfy9 3 года назад +2

      Me too!

    • @ktucker4083
      @ktucker4083 3 года назад +1

      Me too.

    • @JustDoRight
      @JustDoRight 3 года назад +3

      Look up Pastor RCBlacks on RUclips. Queenology! You'll know when you will come across THE ONE!

    • @lonyawilliams6296
      @lonyawilliams6296 3 года назад +1

      Me also sweetie I know God got us...!!!!

    • @mssimona3667
      @mssimona3667 2 года назад +1

      Same here!

  • @andreahoward2683
    @andreahoward2683 3 года назад +54

    Men feelings in relationships are fleeting. They want the “in love” feeling at all times, while you do all the work to keep the relationship together. Then, a man can drop you in a second of the day for a new woman and not care. I’ll never date just one man ever again.

  • @missleigh336
    @missleigh336 2 года назад +24

    He was distant with me.. stopped being close.. then started to argue.. so I ended it... and he didn’t argue he just left... I have been heartbroken over it, but spent time with family and friends. 3 months later he’s calling my phone asking how I am telling me about his new business etc and wishing me well. And then hangs up and sends me love songs explaining how I make him feel etc. So the love bombing came back for one day.. he follows all my social media and sends me pics of his food. I’m kind to him and treat him like a friend with no bad vibes or emotions. Past is past. So I believe he wants me back but do I want him hmmm.. there’s a reason why people break up.. if he can treat me bad and leave me bcoz he had money problems and some family issues, then he’s not worth going back to. I was his best friend and he still cut me off to suit him. Now he clicks his fingers and expects me to flock. I think I need to stop crying in my bed and move the fuck on..

  • @crystaldblevins
    @crystaldblevins 4 года назад +190

    Be Blessed. Signs he has moved on mentally according to Tony Gaskins:
    1. Stop investing time in you.
    2. He argues a lot.
    3. Not affectionate
    4. Don't care about your feelings
    5. Distant or gone a lot.
    This is the best information because my last relationship had 3 out of 5 off this list. I really am having a hard time and sad. I left him but I feel like I wasted my time with a man who said he loved me one day and distant, ghosting and uncaring the next. I feel like he was a scammer of my heart and an imposter. I feel foolish that I actually believed he was the one for me. Thank goodness for Mr. Gaskins videos. I know now everything to look for and the mistakes I made.

    • @jaydblak4638
      @jaydblak4638 3 года назад +4

      I’m 5 out of 5

    • @mayasheartdesiire
      @mayasheartdesiire 3 года назад +3

      Going thru it now smh

    • @aprilandersen995
      @aprilandersen995 3 года назад

      Gaskins has taught me a lot about relationships.❤️

    • @valt3379
      @valt3379 3 года назад +4

      I don’t think anyone should ever feel foolish for loving someone or giving them time because we never know what will happen, but the foolish one is the one who did not know how to receive. Years down the road they will see it and say something along the lines of, I wish I had of...” or “I don’t know why..” or “ If I had it to do all over again...”. Learning from a mistake is time well spent because it only makes us wiser and stronger. Good for you.

    • @marrencebaraquiel
      @marrencebaraquiel 3 года назад +5

      same sis!!! narcissist do that!!! loveboming then devalue you after! ew

  • @mskesha4735
    @mskesha4735 4 года назад +958

    5 signs he’s moved on MENTALLY:
    (NOTE: if he has financial issues, these signs can be an indicator that he is financially stressed)
    1. He stops investing time
    2. He argues a lot
    3. He starts to become less affectionate
    4. He doesn’t care about your feelings
    5. He is distant/gone a lot

    • @brendarivera1269
      @brendarivera1269 4 года назад +11

      Be blessed

    • @larkford4460
      @larkford4460 4 года назад +46

      If he’s moved on then he won’t argue at all with you! 😊

    • @nu4968
      @nu4968 4 года назад +5

      @@larkford4460 is it the same if he texts you out of nowhere?

    • @LeafsIn2024
      @LeafsIn2024 4 года назад +12

      Thank you for consolidating the list!

    • @jboo1756
      @jboo1756 4 года назад +17

      Yes mines is financially stress right now 😔

  • @Della0701
    @Della0701 4 года назад +95

    WOWzers! 1. He stops investing time 2. He argues frequently, regardless of length 3. He starts becoming less affectionate. The simple things will stop! 4. He does not care about your feelings and starts to say things that are hurtful 5. He's distant or gone often. You don't have his undivided attention nor focus any longer.

  • @gailjoyner06
    @gailjoyner06 4 года назад +255

    Be blessed, I had to realize that he was mentally gone when he stopped trying to make me smile, the way we use to laugh together disappeared and the silent treatment was more than just talking. Please pray for me that I let go mentally of toxic relationship. Thank you

    • @prettydiamonds2343
      @prettydiamonds2343 4 года назад +7

      Keeping you in prayer sis. Went through this for 2 years. Just ended it. Now he wants us exclusive. What ! I thought we were. Smh. Moving on for me

    • @melaniegonzalezart8506
      @melaniegonzalezart8506 3 года назад +6

      You deserve to smile sis!

    • @antoinettejordan6288
      @antoinettejordan6288 3 года назад +14

      Going through the same thing...fasting and praying...for God to open doors so I can move on mentally, emotionally, and physically, and spiritually.

    • @AA-zx6ct
      @AA-zx6ct 3 года назад +6

      I appreciate u mentioning the smile because a grown boy will try to manipulate if the money is right even give you time but evil intend with jealousy will bring laughter. People will take up your time....The devil knows the Bible.

    • @AA-zx6ct
      @AA-zx6ct 3 года назад +2

      Will not to soothe the soul but pay bill ot two so he can be PRESENT and be on time for dinner. I want laugh because you are a job...laughing brings joy

  • @mirandasmith8501
    @mirandasmith8501 4 года назад +145

    Signs are red flags that the time is approaching to cut your losses. He's definitely not going to tell you.

    • @michpell1130
      @michpell1130 4 года назад +21

      Agree, he def won't tell you straight.

  • @alicea561
    @alicea561 4 года назад +443

    If someone tells you they love you but not in love with you anymore that means that their emotions for you are not there anymore. The chemicals are not as strong as it was before. So when you reach that place in the relationship what is going to sustain you. True Love is a decision not a Feeling.
    Real love is unconditional not conditional.
    A grown boy is led by his emotions but a grown man is lead by his logic.
    Whenever you see a person going from relationship to relationship that's an indication that they are chasing that high when the high is gone they would cheat on you or Leave You.
    Jesus Christ should be every person's Rock, strong hold and Foundation.

    • @kimsmith819
      @kimsmith819 4 года назад +4

      Awesome reply

    • @mariac5294
      @mariac5294 4 года назад +4

      DAVID ALICEA @ really really wonderful reply 🥰😇

    • @leneag1521
      @leneag1521 4 года назад +2

      very true!

    • @angelarambo72
      @angelarambo72 4 года назад +8

      Amen!!!..Say it louder for the people in the back😆😆😆

    • @adelina7
      @adelina7 4 года назад +5

      There's a big difference love and in love for sure!

  • @CoachLove
    @CoachLove 4 года назад +637

    This makes me applaud women who date more than one man. Investing months in one man, he turns cold or gives the immature silent treatment, then you're out starting all over again. Nope. Bobby tripping, not caring about my feelings, going two days without spending time or calling me, Shawn, Timothy, or Donte' will replace him. A man that wants you won't allow space for another man to slip in and take you. (If he can go hard for that chicken wing or that sports team, and be mediocre with you...CUT!) Be Blessed.

    • @ebonieshenece
      @ebonieshenece 4 года назад +65

      Jessie C Love I used to get criticized for saying “I don’t chase I replace.” Or “what one man won’t do another will.”
      I quickly learned to talk to multiple people. Just no more than I can handle.

    • @mansajoka5390
      @mansajoka5390 4 года назад +10

      Jessie C Love how long will h have to “chase you “ how long will he be vulnerable to you and will you take him as he is ..don’t be bias be different tho ur self and you won’t have to have a rotation

    • @Fonzi79
      @Fonzi79 4 года назад +19

      sadly this is what Ill be doing in the future!!! My x wasted 3 years of my fertile life to leave like i never exsisted . I always was a good woman to him and loved him very much... i look back know and made at myself for being so stupid and making excuses for his coldness towards the end...

    • @patriciaearley4177
      @patriciaearley4177 4 года назад +18

      @@ebonieshenece great strategy! I'm working on that I hear dating up to 3 people is manageable😉

    • @cottonsockzc2405
      @cottonsockzc2405 4 года назад +22

      Yeah it's easier to deal with rejection when you have options however that aswell can cause emotional issues for yourself and the men that come across you as I find u become more emotionally cold because you want someone else but using someone else u don't really care for. It's just best to ignore the person u care for and invest in yourself, career, hobbies and goals if they ever cared or really want u in their life they should come back if not oh well another one bites the dust. Lol

  • @carlajordon4540
    @carlajordon4540 3 года назад +13

    Married but living SINGLE

  • @stellast2695
    @stellast2695 4 года назад +281

    1_ He Stop investing time on u
    2_He argue a lot
    3_He's less intimacy
    4_ He doesn't care about your feelings
    5_He's distance alot ( busing all the time with his friends or phone) silent treatment
    Thank Tony,u totally describe my Ex behaviour wen he cheating,he argue alot for no reasons at all.

    • @BeBeautifullyYou
      @BeBeautifullyYou 4 года назад +12

      lole stecy he had a reason - earning “cool off” time away from you. That’s what they do to create a reason to get out unlimited.

    • @SGWndrWmn1211
      @SGWndrWmn1211 4 года назад +7

      My ex did the SAME EXACT THING ...wish I had this information sooner

    • @SGWndrWmn1211
      @SGWndrWmn1211 4 года назад +2

      @Eternity With Christ yes you're right about questioning whether or not I'm being loved, then I'm not 😕

    • @mariac5294
      @mariac5294 4 года назад

      lole stecy @ this is exactly 💯right

    • @stellast2695
      @stellast2695 4 года назад

      @@mariac5294 thanks been there

  • @aliciasartain9701
    @aliciasartain9701 3 года назад +32

    My ex got laid off was angry and mad. We would fight and argue about finances and it got real cold and he stopped caring. He left and im not chasing him. He had an opportunity to stay. He didn't. Im not forcing it. Been crying a month. I know its over so now its just acceptance.

  • @krystalmorrison4407
    @krystalmorrison4407 3 года назад +65

    And about my feelings he tells me to stop feeling.. he definitely puts more tears on my face then a smile

  • @AngelaRCurry
    @AngelaRCurry 4 года назад +130

    Some men will leave 80% for 20%.....

  • @dinahyasharel3588
    @dinahyasharel3588 4 года назад +159

    1 John 3:18 KJV
    [18] My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.

  • @iscelaarias3957
    @iscelaarias3957 3 года назад +21

    When a man is gone, a woman feel like he is in another country even when he is next to you in bed..... no matter if they were married10, 20, 50 years

  • @lateciaUNiQUE
    @lateciaUNiQUE 4 года назад +149

    My man does all this... I’m wasting my time at this point

    • @kelleybright3113
      @kelleybright3113 3 года назад +10

      Sis u not alone..it stops now level up on overload..fuck him excuse my braces

    • @Queengemi5
      @Queengemi5 3 года назад +1

      Same smh

    • @lateciaUNiQUE
      @lateciaUNiQUE 3 года назад +2

      Kelly Brightness period !

    • @zek280
      @zek280 3 года назад

      🤦🏽‍♀️ wow 😳 this resignates

    • @jenniferasante7504
      @jenniferasante7504 3 года назад +1

      I'm sorry you are going through this.

  • @YURBREAKUPS1976
    @YURBREAKUPS1976 3 года назад +16

    I think sometimes we must let go to start a new chapter.

  • @anointedstilettos
    @anointedstilettos 4 года назад +375

    THE. GRASS. IS. NEVER. GREENER. It's fake!

    • @larkford4460
      @larkford4460 4 года назад +4

      Anointed Stilettos not if you actually water it😊

    • @anointedstilettos
      @anointedstilettos 4 года назад +17

      @@larkford4460 The grass is not greener on the other side when you have your own partner and looking at someone else's.

    • @trisha1989
      @trisha1989 4 года назад +7

      or it’s greener because they are watering, fertilizing and giving it a LOT of attention 🌳

    • @diamonds2diamonds370
      @diamonds2diamonds370 4 года назад +21

      Water your own grass, then it will be just as green& beautiful as the one your looking at....give all the attention to your own grass

    • @missball404
      @missball404 4 года назад +4

      Speak!!!!!!!!👏👏👏👏 NEVER!!!!!!

  • @ebonyflowers7599
    @ebonyflowers7599 4 года назад +250

    I watched this five times because this really resonated with me. Especially the ending. It's confirmation for me that I made the right decision leaving a relationship 7 months ago. I am so grateful that I did the work in me to recognize that I wasn't being treated correctly. Self love and having self worth is so important. Dating with a healthy self esteem will not allow you to.waste your time with anyone who sees you as an option. Be blessed!

    • @Ericadoeslife
      @Ericadoeslife 4 года назад +9

      Amen! Good things are coming your way!

    • @ebonyflowers7599
      @ebonyflowers7599 4 года назад +4

      Erica Pettway I receive that! Amen!

    • @redafro321
      @redafro321 4 года назад +2

      @Ebony Flowers, WELL SAID 👍❗️GOOD FOR YOU THAT IT WAS ONLY 7 MONTHS IN & YOU WERE ABLE TO PUT THE BREAKS ON THE MADNESS INSTANTLY🤗‼️

    • @lisapurnell2064
      @lisapurnell2064 4 года назад +1

      I felt like I was reading something I would have wrote except for the part you left. I'm still working on that.

    • @ebonyflowers7599
      @ebonyflowers7599 4 года назад +5

      The fact that you are listening to this shows you are well on your way! You are the prize! There is someone else out there that will treat you far better!

  • @annalee1384
    @annalee1384 4 года назад +22

    Who care, just take care ur self first ladies or put ur self in first place. Men come and go, no one is perfect.

  • @kellyellis6080
    @kellyellis6080 3 года назад +9

    Oh yeah! The phone for sure! That was my first sign ( turning screen away so I couldn't see it , hiding out in bathroom with phone for an hour or more with no water running , toilet flushing , or any sign of actually " using " the bathroom , shoving phone in pocket when I walked in , etc )

  • @TuBella14
    @TuBella14 4 года назад +88

    😂😂😂 like he said in his previous video “get the hate out your heart & subscribe”. You heard the man‼️

    • @kayegordon861
      @kayegordon861 4 года назад +3

      If they think he really thinks its hating, they sure won't subscribe.😁 They'll be too angry with his choice of words. Psychology is powerful. Come on guys, he's just joking, cant you see?Subscribe, very informative and beneficial. Remember subscribe.

    • @ItsELE3
      @ItsELE3 4 года назад

      Tu Bella 😂😂😂

    • @sheacunningham2462
      @sheacunningham2462 4 года назад

      True!

    • @kelleybright3113
      @kelleybright3113 3 года назад

      I want 2 thank that charity case 4 taking him off my hands ..this lady bug flyn on 2 higher altitude

  • @jessicaaleman2150
    @jessicaaleman2150 4 года назад +28

    Wish I knew these years ago!! Wasted so much time with my ex and he had moved on years ago.

  • @faoziyams6424
    @faoziyams6424 4 года назад +74

    Spot on. This is exactly what's happening to me at the moment. I know I deserve better and I'm ending it sooner than later.

    • @ahdollita1
      @ahdollita1 3 года назад

      Ive kwown this for a long time now and it hurts so bad especially when you love that person so much

    • @nanano8525
      @nanano8525 3 года назад

      My husband does this all the time

    • @stewartforeal1079
      @stewartforeal1079 3 года назад

      Did you leave

  • @justsonia7863
    @justsonia7863 3 года назад +65

    When you watching this but you single AF😂😂😂😂😂😂anywho, let's gather knowledge

    • @lindasharpe7039
      @lindasharpe7039 3 года назад

      😂

    • @lindasharpe7039
      @lindasharpe7039 3 года назад +1

      You better so you know what's up!

    • @Denise_Cocoa
      @Denise_Cocoa 3 года назад +1

      Same 😂 Prepare for war in times of peace lol

    • @LoveAlways1002
      @LoveAlways1002 3 года назад +1

      I literally said "oh he talking to people with a man, not me" then I saw your comment 😂😂😂😂

    • @kandisbuckley1653
      @kandisbuckley1653 3 года назад

      Me 😩

  • @WomanofZion7
    @WomanofZion7 4 года назад +65

    Be blessed, my husband that I just left showed all of these signs and I wasn't having it. It happened in the first 3 months of us living together as a married couple. Nope not what I signed up for.

    • @WomanofZion7
      @WomanofZion7 4 года назад +3

      @@bamarealist exactly, it was so baffling!

    • @preciouslartigue7550
      @preciouslartigue7550 4 года назад +14

      My husband started showing these signs about a year and half after marriage..at first it was like, maybe he's getting use to it, but no, he's been married before..!!
      Then I got pregnant and became a stay at home mom.. And oh man.. He really became non affectionate and I became so lonely.. You think, gurl! Hang out w/ ur gf's..no, I wanted my husband!!
      If I didn't make "date night" he didn't care.. Homebody, nonchalant.. work and sleep is all his life ..
      Didn't care about my feelings, and intimacy was boring..
      What to do?!?!
      This is NOT what's I said I DO TOO !! 😥😣😥😒

    • @CoachLove
      @CoachLove 4 года назад +5

      How long had you been together before getting married? He never showed any if this during the courtship?

    • @preciouslartigue7550
      @preciouslartigue7550 4 года назад +3

      @@CoachLove we dated and was engaged about a year and 1/2 total ... maybe that wasn't long enough, but I truly thought he was the one..

    • @WomanofZion7
      @WomanofZion7 4 года назад +2

      2 years and no. After the fact I realized that I was an addiction, like a new toy, and when he got a new toy, i.e. his motorcycle, I became worthless to him and the bike became all that mattered. That is when the Ill treatment started.

  • @trenmeadows9275
    @trenmeadows9275 4 года назад +288

    These sound like signs you’re in a relationship with a narcissist. IJS

    • @audreypowell674
      @audreypowell674 4 года назад +18

      Tren Meadows YESSSSSSS & those be the worst ones !!

    • @trenmeadows9275
      @trenmeadows9275 4 года назад +5

      Audrey Powell You are absolutely correct!
      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @livvybabyxo
      @livvybabyxo 4 года назад +3

      Yes! Especially number 4.

    • @tamaratyler1490
      @tamaratyler1490 4 года назад +27

      I was married to one for 3 looong years. Prayed for his removal. This was the most destructive, disturbing man. GOD heard my cry. Thank you LORD!!!!

    • @sherryone757
      @sherryone757 3 года назад +3

      Absolutely

  • @dv2796
    @dv2796 4 года назад +22

    I was dumped after 3 months. He was emotionally closed towards the end. Throughout our relationship, he said he was traumatized from a past relationship and that he moved on quickly into dating me....but sadly we both agreed to still try. He would be affectionate in the beginning...then dwindled slowly til the end. I told him that he seems unaffectionate in his texts (we were long distance). He said he cannot open up since his last breakup. He said if we keep the relationship going and he still cannot meet my affection standards, he would be stringing me along and hurting me more and doesn't want to continue hurting me. He decided that he should leave and work on himself before he hurts me even more. He said maybe later on down the road, if we are still interested and single...we may get back together. It's been a week of no contact and it's been so difficult. When a man is on a different emotional pace than you are, it really hurts deep.

    • @1fdarlentwo
      @1fdarlentwo 4 года назад +8

      @ Deb V. Although it is a painful process now, I hope you find some solace that he was actually honest and choose to end the relationship instead of giving you false hope. It's not everyday men actually admit to being traumatized by relationships, moving on to quickly and needing to work on themselves.

    • @OkJess0404
      @OkJess0404 3 года назад

      At least you got an explanation! I was dumped after 3 months and he didn’t really say why but still wanted to be a friend and said he still cared deeply for me. I try not to stay hurt and know God has a bigger plan for the both of us, I have accepted my part in the breakdown of what we were and have faith he will come back around when he is ready to talk. But I moved on mentally from him and started focusing on Christ and me and I feel better every day. It’s been 17 days since he broke up and I’m doing just fine! ( We started dating and he knew from day 1 I was moving for a job, maybe he couldn’t handle long distance and strung me along for the time being...I dunno. He just dumped me and that was that...)

    • @mayasheartdesiire
      @mayasheartdesiire 3 года назад +1

      At least he didn’t leave you hanging giving you silent treatment...and he was transparent and honest with you

    • @francinecannon1903
      @francinecannon1903 3 года назад +2

      He has someone else.

  • @madelinehunter1843
    @madelinehunter1843 4 года назад +43

    Tony, this sounds like a grown boy

  • @KeyisGodsdaughter
    @KeyisGodsdaughter 4 года назад +6

    Going through it right now... married 10 years 5 kids all very young and he shows me ALL of these signs. Just had our 5th child.... Calls me all kinds of names, caught him cheating, on social media publicly embarrassing me etc... tells me it’s all my fault. I get it bad... I’m sad but I’m leaving and he may have a clue but maternity leave is up and I’m getting it together and dipping. He’s looking for my replacement and hasn’t found it yet is what I believe. He thinks I’m a fool but I’m planning my exit.

  • @kizzyrock
    @kizzyrock 4 года назад +46

    I agree..same as some woman... if we are stressed in other areas men tend to think we are cheating because sex is the LAST thing on our mind. Life stressors can def take a toll. Lol @squeeze ya booty😂

  • @rositayoung9445
    @rositayoung9445 4 года назад +18

    Thanks for this video. I had all 5 signs with my husband! Over 20yrs ago. I got tired of being mistreated so I demanded he tell me whats going on with him. He hesitated for a long while but I let him know I meant business! All of a sudden, he started to look very sad. So I said, did you lose your job? Is it your family? Whats wrong? Next, I said, are you involved with another woman? He said, I have a friend!!! My mind went crazy!!! But I thought of my children and decided not to hurt him. I moved on with my life. God gave me a beautiful relationship after that so I'm ok. Single but life is good. Why men can't just be honest and say goodbye before it gets bad? Thanks again.

  • @robincrawley311
    @robincrawley311 4 года назад +18

    Women, young and old, Listen to this young man, he has Words Of Wisdom Straight From the Heart of God to his, to speak To and Through your Soul, Pay Close Attention, He Has and Will Help Many, he has been Gifted & Chosen By The Almighty God to Do so, To God Be The Glory, Well Done!!! Keep Being About Your Heavenly Fathers Business Minister Tony Gaskins, Many Blessings To You, Your Wife & Family!!!💛
    😇😇😇

  • @zenasherman9444
    @zenasherman9444 4 года назад +81

    Tony, aka, I call you "Big Brother", Be blessed!!!!! I took your advice from one of your videos one morning and I spoke to the gentleman I was seeing at the time very calmly and directly in his eyes once the conversation was over he didn't say anything and we are no longer seeing each other because I let him know I was not going to put up with the being in my presence yet not present. Thank you sooooooooooo very MUCH!😊

    • @viktoria4911
      @viktoria4911 3 года назад

      Hi Zena, I had the same situation with my fiancé. They are mute when you confront them. Their narcissists, watch all you can on utube about this subject, it’s frightening.

  • @shaunabee
    @shaunabee 4 года назад +50

    Tony is confirming what I already knew. I bring it to my hubby but he continues to deny it...
    Be Blessed!!!

    • @preciouslartigue7550
      @preciouslartigue7550 4 года назад +3

      See, I can't talk about this to my husband, he says I'm complaining and just be happy he's paying the bills... :(

    • @shaunabee
      @shaunabee 4 года назад +8

      authentic4Life I dare not mention what “another man” said. I call out what I see, all the red flags but somehow I’m the one being negative and I’m making up stuff, and I just don’t “understand his feelings”... I’m getting new knowledge and I’m working on a plan!

    • @kenyacooper7980
      @kenyacooper7980 4 года назад +8

      I don't have time for games. I have to take care of my heart

    • @kelitametcalf2754
      @kelitametcalf2754 4 года назад +2

      Be blessed and thank you

    • @livvybabyxo
      @livvybabyxo 4 года назад +3

      @@shaunabee I feel for you. Honestly. He sounds like a verbally abusive man..which I personally think number 4 can tie into. Educate yourself as much as possible and do your self esteem work. Support groups really help so much in getting up the will to leave. You deserve far better than that.

  • @luanajhay5708
    @luanajhay5708 4 года назад +15

    Well, I came back to a relationship that I was in 15 years. I left to take care of my mother and used that as the excuse to get away. I was gone for a whole year got into another relationship with the person I fell in love with. A man that treats me like a queen. I came back out of guilt because he showed me he wanted to be a father and he became a better man and showed me better. Someone I never expected him to be. That only lasted long enough to get my feelings caught up again. I actually loved him more than I did in the 15 years....for what? After 4 months he became the same distant asshole that he was in the 15 years together. Never take them back. I'm preparing to leave soon, but my daughter is the reason I came back and find it hard to leave. Emotionally I'm DONE! I realized it was the idea of having my daughter with her father and mother that I fell in love with. Not him.

  • @simplyrealtywithkimbushyea8428
    @simplyrealtywithkimbushyea8428 4 года назад +14

    Man...where were you 20 yrs ago. Everything you're saying in this clip is exactly what I experienced with my ex-husband. Sad to say that I never felt love from him. Thank God I had a dose of healthy esteem....

  • @Ericadoeslife
    @Ericadoeslife 4 года назад +86

    This has become my lunch time routine. Thanks for the daily upload of videos!!

    • @bre_s9164
      @bre_s9164 4 года назад +4

      Mine too! Lol

    • @Ericadoeslife
      @Ericadoeslife 4 года назад +5

      @@bre_s9164 Lol everyone at work knows lunch time is Tony time!

    • @msstewart-washington3792
      @msstewart-washington3792 4 года назад +5

      Just before my bedtime lol, I work overnight

    • @Ericadoeslife
      @Ericadoeslife 4 года назад +2

      @@msstewart-washington3792 Lol yes Sis getting in that new knowledge 😁

    • @bre_s9164
      @bre_s9164 4 года назад +2

      @@Ericadoeslife yasss! 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @tiarrashorter133
    @tiarrashorter133 3 года назад +9

    I promise i just got out of a relationship exactly just like this anf he was abusive mental and physically no romanace at alll i'd rather be along

    • @sashacollins1031
      @sashacollins1031 3 года назад

      I’m so glad you had the strength to leave !

  • @ambitiouz92211
    @ambitiouz92211 3 года назад +28

    Thank you. I needed this. Been in a sexless marriage for almost 7 years. ItS OVER NOW. IM DONE

  • @danielleross8493
    @danielleross8493 4 года назад +31

    When u said men don’t know what they want I truly felt that... I believe that this what I’m going through in my relationship Ive been praying for clarity and I came across ur videos ... thank u and continue to Be blessed

  • @anasmith8755
    @anasmith8755 4 года назад +40

    Be blessed, I had all 5 signs . He finally left me alone and I am not looking back . I love these viedo your doing now , it bring so much clarity to unanswered questions . Keep up the good work.

  • @joyleneyork6540
    @joyleneyork6540 4 года назад +72

    This was a really good lesson I just wish that these videos was out back in 2009 when I was getting a divorce to help me cope thank you so much Tony

  • @terilynnsj8566
    @terilynnsj8566 4 года назад +27

    I always thought when you enter a relationship you are supposed too help uplift and help one another grow

  • @xxjason79xx
    @xxjason79xx 4 года назад +20

    The same things can be said about a woman. My ex told me she left me emotionally. Then she started going out with her friends so I kicked her out my house but now I'm the bad guy cuz I put her out. I look at it as if you want to leave emotionally you might as well leave physically cuz I be damn if you living in my house on some co-habitat bull@#$ that the dumbest thing ever

    • @JC-ve8bk
      @JC-ve8bk 3 года назад +2

      O my lawd. . . .I am CURRENTLY goin' through the EXACT thing right nah. . . I am open to ANY advice. . . .

  • @valenciawalker6498
    @valenciawalker6498 4 года назад +14

    Yes, it does feel cold . When I’m away from him he’s in a happier mood in his texts . Yes , he doesn’t really care about my feelings & angry if I cry . He’s distant we live 25 mins apart . He’s distant however texts everyday . Be blessed.

  • @biancavulc5131
    @biancavulc5131 3 года назад +4

    He hugged me in his sleep the night before, told me he loved me, that I was his "life" .. and the next day, he left for 5h and after that he came and said we need to break up... he said we could be friends, but secretly didn't even hope for me to contact him anymore.. he deleted 2 pics of me 2 days ago.. we broke up a week ago.. =(

  • @aliciawills3911
    @aliciawills3911 3 года назад +19

    Wow. Story of my life. The sad thing is I'm married to him.

  • @TUFTSLOVE
    @TUFTSLOVE 2 года назад +2

    That's exactly what he's been doing playing on my love for him. Financially I'm not able to move out right now but I'm preparing myself to live separate in my own space

  • @dovetales3
    @dovetales3 4 года назад +115

    Good riddens!! Chile Bye!! Ain't nobody got time for that!! 20/20 is knocking at the door. Just saying....Keep it moving!

    • @tameekaharris6425
      @tameekaharris6425 4 года назад +1

      Facts!

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 4 года назад

      *riddance Amen.

    • @dovetales3
      @dovetales3 4 года назад

      @@nikkyshamz2696 HA! good grammar.....

    • @kelleybright3113
      @kelleybright3113 3 года назад

      Bye philicia...his lost and im smelling good feeling good..god said this blessing is just 4 me glad he gone new home on the hill all new everything..he can shew that&swallo it

  • @jazminehoneysilk92
    @jazminehoneysilk92 3 года назад +3

    Omg that last part! He said it all😭😭 it all makes sense now. That’s exactly what he did and tried to get me to be in a polygamous relationship and everything. Omg I don’t think I’m dating anymore. This is too much

  • @godseed79
    @godseed79 4 года назад +4

    Confirmation that I read the situation correctly and absolutely made the right choice to leave him.

  • @SC-id8mq
    @SC-id8mq 4 года назад +35

    Tony, He doesn’t look me in the eyes anymore?? This hurt so much.

    • @kelleybright3113
      @kelleybright3113 3 года назад +5

      The mirror is ther use it..2 look back

    • @chepossible3953
      @chepossible3953 3 года назад +9

      Guilt

    • @theythinkidontknow1975
      @theythinkidontknow1975 3 года назад +3

      I see the back or top of my husband’s head because he won’t look me in my face either...Especially during conversation

  • @kmac5822
    @kmac5822 4 года назад +30

    Thanks again Tony, this one was a real eye opener. I am free already, my intuition is a force, I try not to think about him but it’s hard sometimes. It has been 6 months free, no other, celibate, a little lonely, a really LOT of self love. I had forgotten who I was 😟🥰🔥

    • @Mimshe1
      @Mimshe1 4 года назад +5

      I am going on my 5th month and it seems like this month has been the hardest, but thank God I'm free.

    • @dr.m6152
      @dr.m6152 2 года назад

      Saame, girl! Hang in there 💕
      Don't know when guys will learn

    • @precioussobamiwa5881
      @precioussobamiwa5881 Год назад

      Same here ... 5 months here though.

  • @traquilasmith2275
    @traquilasmith2275 4 года назад +6

    All of these 5 points are so true thats why i broke up my ex 6 years ago and my last my ex 12 months ago im not wasting no more of my time they didn't care so i didn't care and i moved on and im happy and im blessed. Great advice tony be blessed everyone we have to pay attention to all the red flags if your man doing this then you move on ladies don't settle for less. The grass isn't greener on the other side. If he want the other side of the grass let him go over there to the other grass he will see it wasn't so greener oh well good bye.👏👍☺

  • @Ashleymonroe305
    @Ashleymonroe305 3 года назад +7

    As soon as I saw some of these signs I completely took off asap lol. My intuition was telling me something was off and I listened to it QUICKLY. Now he hates my guts lol

    • @Denise_Cocoa
      @Denise_Cocoa 3 года назад +2

      He hates you because you didn’t allow him to play you lol his poor little ego was bruised

    • @Ashleymonroe305
      @Ashleymonroe305 3 года назад +1

      Denise Lol exactly! Like how am I the victim in the situation but now you hate me? That little ego lol

    • @marrencebaraquiel
      @marrencebaraquiel 3 года назад +1

      same 😂😂 but he came back!!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️he said he didn’t do anything bad yikes you blind?

  • @joannajohnson2669
    @joannajohnson2669 3 года назад +5

    Yessss Preach !!!!!!! He nearly killed me today He Exchanged his number in front of me with another girl today and I was just diagnosed with A Heart problem so I left him right there and came home and balled my eyes out

    • @deerice6131
      @deerice6131 3 года назад +1

      Hope you stayed gone!!

    • @sashacollins1031
      @sashacollins1031 3 года назад +1

      I’m sorry you had to experience that hun! I hope all is well now

  • @CoachHC
    @CoachHC 4 года назад +6

    Great Message and so true. Be Blessed!!

  • @nenashanta7121
    @nenashanta7121 4 года назад +38

    It’s sad that some woman are quicker to label a man as a “narcissist” instead of recognizing and excepting the fact that he’s checked out of the relationship mentally and emotionally. Not that it is ok for a man to treat you any kind of way but take note as to why he’s doing what he’s doing or not doing.

    • @nenashanta7121
      @nenashanta7121 4 года назад +9

      Eternity With Christ I agree with you. But at some point we as woman have to take responsibility for remaining in dead end relationships. As much as I agree that a man acting this way should not be in a relationship but the point I was getting at is we the women should also not be entertaining these men. They will only get away with what we allow them too. Also on the flip side if a man is feeling some king of way and for whatever reason he doesn’t say anything to you, if you love this man and you recognize him moving different, as his woman you should also feel comfortable to approach him and get to the bottom of what he’s feeling. Maybe something in the relationship needs to change or maybe the relationship needs to end. Either way, I feel tony is telling us the signs that we as woman sometimes ignore or look past. Not saying you individually but in general.

  • @shatawnajohnson6077
    @shatawnajohnson6077 4 года назад

    Be blessed!! I hear you LOUD AND CLEAR!!!! God bless you brother

  • @CaramelKissez
    @CaramelKissez 4 года назад

    Be blessed. Everything is true. I learned all this the long way, but ended it before it got too tough.

  • @valt3379
    @valt3379 3 года назад +4

    Great info. Someone once told me, “The grass may look greener on the other side, but there’s a whole lot of s&@% over there.”

  • @robincrawley311
    @robincrawley311 4 года назад +6

    Be Blessed, Still Here!
    😇😇😇

  • @rainclouds1188
    @rainclouds1188 4 года назад

    Great video Tony... keep bringing it straight, no chaser!

  • @treenarami8288
    @treenarami8288 4 года назад

    Be blessed💞 great advice. Very Helpful. God bless you Mr. Gaskins

  • @nekojoe1305
    @nekojoe1305 3 года назад +4

    Amen.....this is exactly what just happened to me...thank you for this enlightment.

  • @lorrainegregg3745
    @lorrainegregg3745 4 года назад +3

    Emotionally Intelligent, good one. I like that one.

  • @sharlitawilson6503
    @sharlitawilson6503 3 года назад +2

    Be Blessed!!! Thank you Mr. Tony for this video. Much needed for many people.

  • @latashawatts3690
    @latashawatts3690 4 года назад

    WOW!! This video's message hit home for me. Very enlightening and powerful. Thank you for your videos. They are very informative.

  • @lyndasjackson
    @lyndasjackson 4 года назад +9

    Be blessed! Thank you Tony for all that you do to teach, minister and encourage us all!

  • @cindyandallaniscorner6040
    @cindyandallaniscorner6040 4 года назад +9

    Tony, I just experienced every single one of these!

  • @sheilabrooks4848
    @sheilabrooks4848 4 года назад +2

    Thanks Tony for all the motivation!! Be blessed

  • @stephaniesanders4738
    @stephaniesanders4738 2 года назад +1

    Wow you hit that on the nail. I've been dealing with this for 5 years. Time to bounce.

  • @carolinekimani3696
    @carolinekimani3696 4 года назад +5

    Very informative,feeling blessed from United Arab Emirates

  • @carameldiva7asmr415
    @carameldiva7asmr415 3 года назад +3

    Tony, I think I’m on video #50 since I’ve recently subscribed to your channel. So empowering

  • @deborahscott6994
    @deborahscott6994 4 года назад

    I'm blessed by Tony Gaskins pouring out into me with the valuable information that he shares

  • @shannonscruggs-allen3607
    @shannonscruggs-allen3607 3 года назад +1

    Preach it, Brother Tony.
    God bless YOU, dear. So love the Word you teach. Thank you, dear.

  • @annettesolomon1347
    @annettesolomon1347 4 года назад +13

    Be blessed,yup time for him to kick rocks .

  • @staciragland1681
    @staciragland1681 4 года назад +3

    He's got all 5 signs !! BE BLESSED 👏👏

  • @MelNesbitt25
    @MelNesbitt25 4 года назад

    🙏🏽 appreciate the insight, really good to know I’m not delusional

  • @simonemays8413
    @simonemays8413 3 года назад +1

    Blessed Tribe!This was my situation.. He’s gone. Thx Tony God Bless you

  • @MsFree2u
    @MsFree2u 4 года назад +9

    “Be blessed”. Time for me to 🏃‍♀️ roll❤️

  • @gorgeouswales9635
    @gorgeouswales9635 3 года назад +5

    We are married, this is so on point. Thank you! Be Blessed 😊

  • @juanitairvin5649
    @juanitairvin5649 3 года назад

    U are truly a blessing sir . Thank you for letting God use you . I really needed to hear this I know G sent me to your channel .I'm blessed .

  • @Allthingscocoposh
    @Allthingscocoposh 3 года назад

    Tony you are a saving grace. God bless you for the clarity this video provides. I’m in this very situation and feel like crap.

  • @s0phieloveee
    @s0phieloveee 3 года назад +10

    Watching your videos makes me realize how much bs I put up with that I did not need to deal with. Thank you Tony! God bless 🥰

  • @annetteresto7587
    @annetteresto7587 4 года назад +5

    PREACH IT 🤗 AMEN HALLELUJAH 🤗 PRAISE HIM 🤗 THUMB UP

  • @livvybabyxo
    @livvybabyxo 4 года назад

    Tony and followers you are amazing! Keep being strong, confident and beautiful women. Be blessed!

  • @cubanadelrey
    @cubanadelrey 4 года назад +2

    Be blessed!
    Watching all of your videos is part of my healing!! I won’t be his puppet anymore. Thank you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @ericabostwick4033
    @ericabostwick4033 4 года назад +5

    Be blessed Tony! I just joined the tribe!

  • @lamuel4004
    @lamuel4004 3 года назад +6

    Love it when they leave you , then the girl who they left you for dumps him, he comes back , you tell him no. Lol Every guy did that except 2.

  • @raeann1988
    @raeann1988 4 года назад

    Be blessed.
    I recently experienced all these signs. Thank God I dodged that bullet.

  • @vchild
    @vchild 4 года назад

    You better speak on it!!! Take heed ladies... Don't turn a blind eye. Thank you Tony!!