I dealt with this behavior from past relationships. Had a man to ghost me after 3 years of dating. I realized that you don't abandon things you want. You abandon things you were using.
The man he described here, is not worthy of a high quality woman. He’s looking for a doormat.- not a good man. A while man is not his watch, his car, or his shoes.Move on to better Sis as soon as he is any one of these. : inconsistent , distant, or rude.
Don't wait until a man starts mistreating or disrespecting you when you notice less signs of affection and care way before that. Life is too precious to even consider settling for breadcrumbs and staying when you don't receive what you put out, what you're wishing for. No reason to stay is good enough reason to go.
Not necessarily. Men feel like they get out-talked with women. Most men just want to avoid the argument. They don't want to see you break down in tears, get emotional, or cause a scene if they tell you they aren't in love anymore. I think the key here with Tony's lesson is to pay attention to a man's actions. Action speaks louder than words, remember that?
Life happens and sometimes people drift apart or fall out of love but that is no excuse for a man to hurt your feelings. A decent good character one will respect you enough to tell you with words not hurtful actions that he is not feeling the same anymore, WHILE a low character one will continue to take as much as he can while giving as less as possible, leading you on with false promises and hopes. Remember: it's not the hardest being alone, but feeling lonely while in a relationship, so don't let that be you !
yes..an ex bf years ago told me 'I dont feel anything anymore' to which I answered something not nice 'I never felt anything anyway ' ..lol but yeah it took me 2 days get over it and I was..a low character man ghosted me..after I poured my love at first sight to him..he d always look at me on the street with his new gf..and I started to ignore him.recently he d walk ahead of her..and look at me..he turned around to look at me once..and the gf looked at me for the first time...I ignored them..maybe he created a separation by walking ahead of her..but he hasn't been honest and my last text was from 2 years ago..so weird..it sucks because many men I meet dont care..and at least when we met he paid attention to what I said..but wasnt genuine..this is why I cant look at him anymore..
For the most part today, men want some type of usage of women up front. Sexual intimacy, free food, money, or other free material items on her budget. Women who comply create a revolving door of relationships. When he’s tossed you a dozen times and gotten what he can , he suddenly doesn’t feel anything for you anymore because he never did to start with. It was all about him receiving and you giving. He’s off to the next woman willing to be a doormat for him. There’s usually one waiting. Women need to start owning up to their enabling behavior with poor quality men. Value yourself first! Don’t waste a second with another male user.
Tony is so on point.. “out late watching the game, drinking, playing cards..” missing that phone call he usually makes… reminds me of my ex!! So many signs they show us.
This wasn’t him , it was me who did this because I got tired of me having to chase him for so many years and to still not have a ring was frustrating. So I started to do ME. He thought it was another man, but instead I choose ME.
The crazy thing about this is……a guy will do all of what Tony said and they’ll still try and contact you knowing how rude and fucked up they was toward you and expect for you to talk to them when you did nothing to him! BLOCK & DELETE is the best thing to do! And even then they still try and contact you! It’s insane! It makes no kinda sense! When a person tell you who they are believe them. When he treat you like he don’t care believe it and get far away from him!
Lmao my ex started emailing me because I blocked him on all other apps. EMAIL. And he didn’t even apologise for being a dick, he wanted to see if I was cool with him inviting himself over. Nope nope nope. Blocked and deleted.
Like my father always say don’t stay no we’re your not wanted or welcome. Especially when their a person always trying to justify their wrong doing . You said it best TG that’s exactly it
I'm addicted to Tony's insights about relationships. The more I watch them the more I feel proud of myself and the way I'm living. God bless your existence 🙏🏽 Thank you 😊
I know the feeling the more I know the more I grow finally learning to love ❤️ myself @ the young age of 52 it hasn’t been easy but Lord knows it’s been worth it and the best is yet to come… stay tuned 🙌🏽
Would be nice if they'd just be honest and mature about it instead of playing these games. It really isn't that hard to tell your partner that you are no longer happy and want out instead of pushing them away so they get fed up and end the relationship. To add insult to injury, when things don't work out with the new person, they'll try to come back and act like you're the one who hurt them when you left. Taking zero responsibility for their behavior that caused you to leave in the first place.
Because they never loved or cared about you. They got bored of you and now think they can do better so they have to devalue you while start to idealize someone else until they are ready for the discard. If things don't go well they still can recycle you and use it for a bit more until they got a shining new toy. Don't bite into that shit of men not knowing how to communicate their feelings, men aren't honest about not feeling happy anymore blabla bla. Think of getting a puppy, while the puppy is small and cute and you can just play teddy bear with it you "love" that puppy, but then puppy grows up and becomes a big dog that isn't so cute anymore, needs more walkings, needs more food, can't carry it around like a toy, so you are not happy with it anymore and start to look for another puppy, while resenting the dog that needs walkings and food and as much love as it got as puppy and just give it the bare minimum. Then finally you get the a new puppy and abandon your previous dog at the side of the road to die or at a shelter (in case you can't get the puppy for some reason you still can go get the dog and foster ir for a while). Do you think doing this to a dog is correct? Do you think someone who behaves like this can feel love or any consideration? NO. Puppy is just a toy to be used and thrown away the same way people can be thrown away.
@@Sarablueunicorn I agree. This is a reason why Tony says not to take a man back if he leaves. (Though I must admit, I did laugh a little when my ex tried to come back, telling me that he was unhappy with the woman he left me for.) My ex has shown a pattern of narcissistic behavior. So many red flags, I stopped counting. I am not qualified to diagnose him, but it is obvious that a relationship is not going to be a healthy one, which is why he is no longer part of my life.
Relationship can be a really bad investment. When I listen to teachings like these, I think it's better for me to invest time and everything in myself. Because people can make you go emotionally and financially bankrupt. I really hate the desire to have someone in my life. I can't stand that desire. Every now and then when it's bubble up, I feel that hate. Because it's difficult get someone that you can trust with your heart.
Yes sir, my ex did all of that, made fun of my weight, made fun of my butt, made fun of my skin color. Started cursing at me, made a big deal out of nothing. He left. Well, God bless him.
Real talk. We sense it and know it but we keep hanging onto that thread of small hope. Like Tony said "Gon bout yo business". It's time to go about your business and love on yourself instead of waiting for someone else to do it. Thanks so much Tony. You speak the truth even if it is hard to hear.❤❤
Thank you Tony for the REALITY CHECK!! As a married woman, this video actually gives me a greater appreciation for the good things my husband does for me. So often I get caught up in what he doesn't do and focus too much on those areas. I'm changing that Today!
In my case it was a change in behavior. No rudeness just distancing and less showing of romantic/sweet talk. He was lovebombing me to go out with him for months beforehand. It happened about 3 1/2 months into the relationship. When I brought it to his attention he acted like he was not aware of it. Found out my instinct was correct. He was in communication with a work colleague who had broken up with her on off relationship. She contacted him to let him know; that’s when I noticed the change in him. As soon as I was on to his game (within a day) I finished it with him. 11 days later she came to visit him. So Tony is right he was in healing mode for a few weeks before I ended it. It was quite upsetting since I have not been in a relationship for 14 years! I took a chance on a grown boy (70) but I had no idea it would turn out the way it did. 😩 Doing so much better now since watching Tony’s great videos. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
yep theres no point in bringing it to their attention men will never outright say anything we always have to be the ones to leave, they dont want conflict or drama so they stay and make you leave them first
@@amaliasafaryan4256 💯 true! I’ve personally experienced what Tony is talking about. Even in old age (Ex is 71) they still play the middle school games!
This is the exact thing that happened to me and I was married for 5 years just had a baby and he started acting like this. So I left with a 1 month old baby and never came back. Its been 9 months. He never tried to get me back. Wow Tony thanks for letting people know this because it really hurt me so bad I didn't know what to do.
This just described my last relationship perfectly. I see all the red flags now. But in it, I never did. God bless you Tony. All these videos keep helping me heal. I appreciate all you do!!
Your a good man Mr Tony. My ex was once that way, but we married young and out grew each other. I pray that you had some men watching. There are some good men left. 😌
I wish I had this message like 3-4 years ago. I was young and didn’t know better. However, it was a big learning experience. Never again will I let him or anyone else put me through this again. Anyone dealing with a situation like this please head the warning, because this is nothing but TRUTH. You will not win the battle.
Thank God that I’m not currently experiencing this, but if you are PLEASE listen to Tony because these are facts! And DON’T let him gaslight you. I think all women notice these changes and can tell something is up, but hearing this confirmation from a man just solidifies what we already knew. I’ve definitely experienced the distance, the switch up of routine, the little digs at me that he usually wouldn’t make, and then when I asked if everything was okay, “no we’re good”, only for him to be with his ex a few months later. Listen to Tony! And as always, thank you Tony!
Men are never satisfied there are soo many good women who settle because we've been with this person forever and don't wanna start over dump his ass and live your best life by yourself my peace of mind is priceless!!!
Bullseye. He said "going through a lot." Instead of continuing to say that he shouldn't pull away from me, who he said he wanted to marry, I gave him space. The most obvious signs came later when he got physically ab*sive and "forgot" my birthday. By then, my heart was removed. Afterwards, the tears I cried were for myself with allowing the trauma...
Yes. Rude and irritated, missed phone calls, less time spent together. Cell phone off or left in the car too. I have experience this when I was a teenager but now I would not even allowed to get this far. just two of those examples then I will cut myself off because I’m too weak of a person to put up with the rest of it . I will call it off that way he gets what he wants and I won’t go through that type of stress.
It's something how women are usually more vocal then men. Women will usually tell a man when a relationship is over unless he's CRAZY. Thank you TG for giving us the physical and emotional signs of when a man is done with a relationship.
Distant, grumpy, lackluster ... yup that sounds like my husband. Hes so checked out. I thought a lot of it was the alcohol. I really wish he would leave our house, but he ain't.
@Ilene K I'm curious. Why do you think he's still there if he's checked out already? What is he waiting for? Isn't it clear that he wants you to leave? "HE'S NOT MAN ENOUGH" to leave. Will something bad happen or is your safety an issue if you leave?
It's so true I got all three little by little. But he just wouldn't break up with me. After a few months i just kicked him to the kerb. When I did he acted like he was sorry,so I started to do what he was doing to me. And he begged me not to finish with him. Some men only know what they had when its gone.
Yep, those signs sound familiar. The difference was night and day. I thank God though that once I got it, I GOT IT. I cried my tears, dusted myself off and began working on myself. What I didn't do was look back.
When people are found out to prove who they really are, their level of respect was a lie, they never truly loved God, then of course the next step is BYE! Blessings to all!
Wow!! This happened to me. One night, I was bothered by it, woke him up at 3 am. Wouldn't let it go, asked him what was going on & he told me we wanted to leave. I said okay, he said, you' re not going to fight for your marriage. I said NO, you decided on your own therefore; YOU'VE put a lot if thought into this. I told him I will file for a divorce & he had the audacity to say I don't want a divorce. I told him I do because I would never be with him again. He could feel whatever he wants but to not talk to me was a huge violation. It's like something happened in that moment to make me not want to be with him anymore because he was sneaky and deceitful. I REALLY thought we were better than that. I left...no regrets, I would never want to be with someone so deceptive nor strong enough to talk to your significant other.
@@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453 Hi, no, for some reason I immediately felt deception. I was completely blindsided but, I've never been the type to try and change someone's mind about me. It felt like having an affair. Simply stated, I don't want anything from someone that they do not want to give. I guess after all of our years together, he didn't know me.
Please just breakup with her. That's better than this. Both suck, but this is abusive. I just spent months of my life wondering if I was being emotionally abused, if I had loved a monster, etc. He had just checked out and left me mentally and emotionally before he left me physically. The unfairness, some of it, was in him trying to pull me back once I caught on and got distant. He would pull me back in just to bully me again when I fell back in love with him. This was all really unfair and he truly could've just left me. I loved him too much and myself not enough at the time to leave him.
I marvel at the descriptive details about your wife. That is proof you "nurture and caress" your marriage relationship. You're not just feeding us information, you yourself are leading by example of how to "lead in love". You are truly invested ❤ thank you
Thanks 🙏🏽 Mr. Gaskins for being a ram in the bush. After leaving a 21 years toxic marriage the more I know the more I grow it hasn’t been easy but Lord knows it’s been worth it. I’m not where I want to be but I’m grateful I’m not where I used to be 🙌🏽 and the best is yet to come… Knowledge is power do the work & gon bout your business it pays off !
Tony always on time with these videos messages I was in a situation before just like this I’m glad I had the strength to move on from that person!!!! Thanks Tony!!!🙂🙂🙂👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Tony! Thank you so much! Although this happened to me 5 years ago and couldn’t understand why he was acting the way he was, it’s so good to hear it now! It’s added to my closure! You are so appreciated!
What you saying is so true and it does apply to me and my partner I went through that but once I realized that I can't make nobody love me or respect me and treat me like I deserve I reserve my love for a real man that's not afraid to love me like I should be loved. I dried my tears put my shoulders back head held my head up high most of all I trust God and I understand where I went wrong in the relationship I love too fast I love unconditionally and never got it in return after 4 years I have no more love to give
I just went through this. He did EVERYTHING to self sabotage the relationship. He was very argumentative, mean, grew very distant and then broke up with me over something stupid. The day after we broke up (I told him I would leave and accepted the breakup and did not cry or beg him to stay or anything) when I tried to get my stuff, he ended up getting physical and I ended up calling the police and he got arrested. I tried everything to make it work. But he was already done. His loss. Because I took everything I bought while we lived together and his apartment was next to empty. His karma is coming back double. The judge ordered no contact and I’m glad. But I wish I saw this video sooner. I sure would have left. I thought it was a phase.
💯 what I just went through. Thank you Tony.. Moving forward with my life . Appreciate your guidance from a man's perspective . Good looking. Hope your wife is feeling better 😊
100% "SPOT ON" Tony‼️This even applies to platonic relationships. I noticed the frequency of our emails had DRASTICALLY decreased. About a month later, he picked a fight for the CRAZIEST reason. I fell for it and was very angry with him. He later apologized because he knew he picked a stupid fight. The next thing I know, I got a "DEAR JANE" email about we should go our separate ways. 😐
Thank you Lord for showing me that men that truly love their wife as Christ loves the church actually exist. Just when I’m ready to settle, I hear how Tony treats his wife and then I snap out of it and realize I deserve more. So many times I’m ready to accept an appetizer when God wants me to have the full buffet.
God bless you Tony!!! You are doing the Lords work. Tell your wife we thank her for allowing you to walk in your full calling! God bless your union!!! This is something I wish I knew sooner than later but glad I know now!
Another thing is a man telling you flaws about yourself but wanting to keep you around (relationship). Its the signal that he’s looking for someone to replace you and that may take him a month or even a year. They really be wasting people time for years as placeholders. That’s why it’s up to the woman to pay attention and when you get the signal move on!!
Bro Tony this message is on point ,this is a very good topic to speak on 3 signs when a Man is breaking up with you.this is truly an eye opener message. Thanks Bro Tony for the wisdom. As listen to your teaching every day it let's me know I don't know nothing of the ways of a Man. Bro Tony, you're helping me alot. Am so Grateful ❤️😊
What you are telling us is that men will put themselves out there for love and you will know it and feel it. Good lesson. Now we ladies need to watch and learn so as to not get burned!
Thank you so much Tony gaskins for this video it’s very helpful information to me! You be on point most of the times and I am truly thankful to have met you on RUclips! God bless you and your family always!😇
Thanks for Game, God is Good, and brother Tony you are blessing that my Lord up above choice you to save 75 percent of women's mess up love life , believe me appreciate 💯 that was a good lesson 😊, lady's out there in the world you better listen, nothing don't last forever and that's a thing and words Right on,! Right on;! Ha,Ha!🌞.
I had a guy do the rude, little snarky comments. He was always a bad communicator but it got to the point if I didn't reach out he wouldn't. So I just stopped reaching out, it's been about two weeks now and I got a "hey big head" text....🙄😡😒
@@delorismartin3537 My ex started to call me "big nose" and still had the temerity of saying that it was a cute pet name, because he has a big nose too, so it was not a bad thing and even brought up the fact that we joked about having similar big bones when we met. Interestingly, 2 months before dumping he decided adequate to call me by this new "pet name". Also remarks about my body hair (that i try to be free of my shaving/waxing/burning), he did in bed while we were on it and he went through a missed spot and said "you have body hair just like a man" while making that rabbit's nose disgust face.
Hi Tony please tell your wife to try organic pads or organic tampons to help ease her symptoms during that time of the month. Major companies use chemicals to treat pads and tampons to cause women to bleed more so that we buy more. The chemicals also make us feel sick. I used to go to the hospital every month due to severe pain. I can honestly say that organic pads have changed my life. I get mine from Women's Haven. They have tampons as well.
Yes, organic sanitary products are game changers for anyone not hip! They make a night and day difference in severe symptoms. I just stumbled upon them and purchased because organic sounded good, and had no idea that they would literally improve my quality of life. It’s important to spread the word to our sisters because if we wait for corporations to do honest business, we’ll meet the Lord first 😭
PRECISELY...YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH ANYONE THAT DON'T WANT TO BE KEPT....THATS THAT OLD SKOOL SAYING....IT MAY HURT AND HURT BAAAD...LET THEM GOOOO...WHEN THEY SHOW YOU...AND PRAY ON IT...YOULL FIND PEACE AND REJOICE IN IT.
They'll also start fights over the stupidest smallest things, they're not even mad or upset about what they're arguing about, they just enjoy letting out their resentment towards you and creating more distance like Tony said
How about men need to learn to communicate. Instead of going through all of that emotion. Simply communicate that the relationship is no longer in the best interest of either of you. Agree to move on. The practice of maturity is Needed.
I dealt with this behavior from past relationships. Had a man to ghost me after 3 years of dating. I realized that you don't abandon things you want. You abandon things you were using.
Yes indeed!!
Wow....a word
I felt that! The usery part. Smh
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“1. Be rude. 2. Get distance. 3. Be inconsistent.” TG
The man he described here, is not worthy of a high quality woman. He’s looking for a doormat.- not a good man. A while man is not his watch, his car, or his shoes.Move on to better Sis as soon as he is any one of these. : inconsistent , distant, or rude.
@@debsmith2789 yes and yes!
Don't wait until a man starts mistreating or disrespecting you when you notice less signs of affection and care way before that. Life is too precious to even consider settling for breadcrumbs and staying when you don't receive what you put out, what you're wishing for. No reason to stay is good enough reason to go.
100% agree
This!!
That part
My mom once told me (in Spanish)“When a man starts seeing your flaws, two things are happening either he no longer loves you or he has someone else.”
Very wise words from you mom ❤️
Either way "gon bout yo business"
@@mahletalem Exactly
@@Latinaperspective how does the phrase go in spanish pretty?
Yep
“You never want to be with somebody, who don’t want to be with you 🤷🏾♀️🙌🏾💙” - TG
He's a grown boy and not a man when he can't just communicate his feelings.😏
Yep!
Exactly!!! 💯
Lol baby boy 🤔😬🤭🤦
Not necessarily. Men feel like they get out-talked with women. Most men just want to avoid the argument. They don't want to see you break down in tears, get emotional, or cause a scene if they tell you they aren't in love anymore. I think the key here with Tony's lesson is to pay attention to a man's actions. Action speaks louder than words, remember that?
Exactly, he can't even be honest with himself. How could he ever be honest with you.
This is a shame...somebody would go through all that instead of saying.....I DON'T WANT TO BE IN THIS RELATIONSHIP ANY LONGER !!!!
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Right, because this is so weak and lame.
Right sad
Most Men are not great communicators. Unfortunately
Right, just be honest.
Life happens and sometimes people drift apart or fall out of love but that is no excuse for a man to hurt your feelings. A decent good character one will respect you enough to tell you with words not hurtful actions that he is not feeling the same anymore, WHILE a low character one will continue to take as much as he can while giving as less as possible, leading you on with false promises and hopes. Remember: it's not the hardest being alone, but feeling lonely while in a relationship, so don't let that be you !
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As always you have great insights to share on Tony’s topics.
yes..an ex bf years ago told me 'I dont feel anything anymore' to which I answered something not nice 'I never felt anything anyway ' ..lol but yeah it took me 2 days get over it and I was..a low character man ghosted me..after I poured my love at first sight to him..he d always look at me on the street with his new gf..and I started to ignore him.recently he d walk ahead of her..and look at me..he turned around to look at me once..and the gf looked at me for the first time...I ignored them..maybe he created a separation by walking ahead of her..but he hasn't been honest and my last text was from 2 years ago..so weird..it sucks because many men I meet dont care..and at least when we met he paid attention to what I said..but wasnt genuine..this is why I cant look at him anymore..
You said it!
For the most part today, men want some type of usage of women up front. Sexual intimacy, free food, money, or other free material items on her budget.
Women who comply create a revolving door of relationships. When he’s tossed you a dozen times and gotten what he can , he suddenly doesn’t feel anything for you anymore because he never did to start with. It was all about him receiving and you giving. He’s off to the next woman willing to be a doormat for him. There’s usually one waiting. Women need to start owning up to their enabling behavior with poor quality men. Value yourself first! Don’t waste a second with another male user.
Tony is so on point.. “out late watching the game, drinking, playing cards..” missing that phone call he usually makes… reminds me of my ex!! So many signs they show us.
This wasn’t him , it was me who did this because I got tired of me having to chase him for so many years and to still not have a ring was frustrating. So I started to do ME. He thought it was another man, but instead I choose ME.
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
You Never want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you... TG
The crazy thing about this is……a guy will do all of what Tony said and they’ll still try and contact you knowing how rude and fucked up they was toward you and expect for you to talk to them when you did nothing to him! BLOCK & DELETE is the best thing to do! And even then they still try and contact you! It’s insane! It makes no kinda sense! When a person tell you who they are believe them. When he treat you like he don’t care believe it and get far away from him!
Sounds like a narcissist to me. I can speak from experience unfortunately. Those types of people are the most toxic in existence.
Lmao my ex started emailing me because I blocked him on all other apps. EMAIL. And he didn’t even apologise for being a dick, he wanted to see if I was cool with him inviting himself over. Nope nope nope. Blocked and deleted.
Block is the way.
This is 100% True
Love you Breeny honey!!
Breeny!!! 💖
Love you Breeny
Love you, girl! ❤️
Hey Breeny! Love your channel 🥰
Like my father always say don’t stay no we’re your not wanted or welcome. Especially when their a person always trying to justify their wrong doing . You said it best TG that’s exactly it
I'm addicted to Tony's insights about relationships. The more I watch them the more I feel proud of myself and the way I'm living. God bless your existence 🙏🏽 Thank you 😊
I know the feeling the more I know the more I grow finally learning to love ❤️ myself @ the young age of 52 it hasn’t been easy but Lord knows it’s been worth it and the best is yet to come… stay tuned 🙌🏽
@@pamelaward2264 🙏🏽 Amen!!
Absolutely his videos let's us know we are moving in the right direction!!
Girl, I know. Amen!
Would be nice if they'd just be honest and mature about it instead of playing these games. It really isn't that hard to tell your partner that you are no longer happy and want out instead of pushing them away so they get fed up and end the relationship. To add insult to injury, when things don't work out with the new person, they'll try to come back and act like you're the one who hurt them when you left. Taking zero responsibility for their behavior that caused you to leave in the first place.
You absolutely nailed it in your comment 💯
So right !!
True.
Because they never loved or cared about you. They got bored of you and now think they can do better so they have to devalue you while start to idealize someone else until they are ready for the discard.
If things don't go well they still can recycle you and use it for a bit more until they got a shining new toy.
Don't bite into that shit of men not knowing how to communicate their feelings, men aren't honest about not feeling happy anymore blabla bla.
Think of getting a puppy, while the puppy is small and cute and you can just play teddy bear with it you "love" that puppy, but then puppy grows up and becomes a big dog that isn't so cute anymore, needs more walkings, needs more food, can't carry it around like a toy, so you are not happy with it anymore and start to look for another puppy, while resenting the dog that needs walkings and food and as much love as it got as puppy and just give it the bare minimum. Then finally you get the a new puppy and abandon your previous dog at the side of the road to die or at a shelter (in case you can't get the puppy for some reason you still can go get the dog and foster ir for a while).
Do you think doing this to a dog is correct? Do you think someone who behaves like this can feel love or any consideration? NO. Puppy is just a toy to be used and thrown away the same way people can be thrown away.
@@Sarablueunicorn I agree. This is a reason why Tony says not to take a man back if he leaves. (Though I must admit, I did laugh a little when my ex tried to come back, telling me that he was unhappy with the woman he left me for.) My ex has shown a pattern of narcissistic behavior. So many red flags, I stopped counting. I am not qualified to diagnose him, but it is obvious that a relationship is not going to be a healthy one, which is why he is no longer part of my life.
You can feel it !! ((guts)).. When you start to be disrespected…it’s time to go!
Every Single Sign showed up in my marriage when we were close the end.. Smh.. Sad history but I'm glad I survived and here to be a witness!!!
Relationship can be a really bad investment. When I listen to teachings like these, I think it's better for me to invest time and everything in myself. Because people can make you go emotionally and financially bankrupt.
I really hate the desire to have someone in my life. I can't stand that desire. Every now and then when it's bubble up, I feel that hate. Because it's difficult get someone that you can trust with your heart.
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So many mind games. Really the cowards way out of just saying he is no longer interested in the relationship. Playing games with lies and deceit. SMH
He's telling the truth,speaking from experience.
Spot on Tony!! I had to walk away. His loss. 🤷🏽♀️💃🏽💃🏽 Thank u, next!!!
Yes sir, my ex did all of that, made fun of my weight, made fun of my butt, made fun of my skin color. Started cursing at me, made a big deal out of nothing. He left. Well, God bless him.
Real talk. We sense it and know it but we keep hanging onto that thread of small hope. Like Tony said "Gon bout yo business". It's time to go about your business and love on yourself instead of waiting for someone else to do it. Thanks so much Tony. You speak the truth even if it is hard to hear.❤❤
Thank you Tony for the REALITY CHECK!! As a married woman, this video actually gives me a greater appreciation for the good things my husband does for me. So often I get caught up in what he doesn't do and focus too much on those areas. I'm changing that Today!
What an honest comment. Your self awareness is refreshing! I pray blessings on top of blessings over you! 🙏🏻❤💯
In my case it was a change in behavior. No rudeness just distancing and less showing of romantic/sweet talk. He was lovebombing me to go out with him for months beforehand. It happened about 3 1/2 months into the relationship. When I brought it to his attention he acted like he was not aware of it. Found out my instinct was correct. He was in communication with a work colleague who had broken up with her on off relationship. She contacted him to let him know; that’s when I noticed the change in him. As soon as I was on to his game (within a day) I finished it with him. 11 days later she came to visit him. So Tony is right he was in healing mode for a few weeks before I ended it. It was quite upsetting since I have not been in a relationship for 14 years! I took a chance on a grown boy (70) but I had no idea it would turn out the way it did. 😩
Doing so much better now since watching Tony’s great videos. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Whew! 70!!! 14 years is a long time...I'm glad you stayed off your back too.👏🏾
yep theres no point in bringing it to their attention men will never outright say anything we always have to be the ones to leave, they dont want conflict or drama so they stay and make you leave them first
@@amaliasafaryan4256 💯 true! I’ve personally experienced what Tony is talking about. Even in old age (Ex is 71) they still play the middle school games!
This is the exact thing that happened to me and I was married for 5 years just had a baby and he started acting like this. So I left with a 1 month old baby and never came back. Its been 9 months. He never tried to get me back. Wow Tony thanks for letting people know this because it really hurt me so bad I didn't know what to do.
This just described my last relationship perfectly. I see all the red flags now. But in it, I never did. God bless you Tony. All these videos keep helping me heal. I appreciate all you do!!
Your a good man Mr Tony. My ex was once that way, but we married young and out grew each other. I pray that you had some men watching. There are some good men left. 😌
You are spot on! Those are the signs, especially creating distance and inconsistency.
I wish I had this message like 3-4 years ago. I was young and didn’t know better. However, it was a big learning experience. Never again will I let him or anyone else put me through this again. Anyone dealing with a situation like this please head the warning, because this is nothing but TRUTH. You will not win the battle.
Thank God that I’m not currently experiencing this, but if you are PLEASE listen to Tony because these are facts! And DON’T let him gaslight you. I think all women notice these changes and can tell something is up, but hearing this confirmation from a man just solidifies what we already knew. I’ve definitely experienced the distance, the switch up of routine, the little digs at me that he usually wouldn’t make, and then when I asked if everything was okay, “no we’re good”, only for him to be with his ex a few months later. Listen to Tony! And as always, thank you Tony!
Men are never satisfied there are soo many good women who settle because we've been with this person forever and don't wanna start over dump his ass and live your best life by yourself my peace of mind is priceless!!!
Nowadays they just ghost you and come back when whoever they moved onto gets old
Only if you let them...
Bullseye. He said "going through a lot." Instead of continuing to say that he shouldn't pull away from me, who he said he wanted to marry, I gave him space. The most obvious signs came later when he got physically ab*sive and "forgot" my birthday. By then, my heart was removed. Afterwards, the tears I cried were for myself with allowing the trauma...
Yes. Rude and irritated, missed phone calls, less time spent together. Cell phone off or left in the car too. I have experience this when I was a teenager but now I would not even allowed to get this far.
just two of those examples then I will cut myself off because I’m too weak of a person to put up with the rest of it . I will call it off that way he gets what he wants and I won’t go through that type of stress.
Great topic!! Ladies lets get this knowledge so that we can do better 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Ikr, Amen Sis 🙏🏾
Yes 👏🏽 the more I know the more I grow knowledge is power 💪🏽
It's something how women are usually more vocal then men. Women will usually tell a man when a relationship is over unless he's CRAZY. Thank you TG for giving us the physical and emotional signs of when a man is done with a relationship.
Distant, grumpy, lackluster ... yup that sounds like my husband. Hes so checked out. I thought a lot of it was the alcohol. I really wish he would leave our house, but he ain't.
Same here. Wish they would just leave ! So should we leave ?
@Ilene K I'm curious. Why do you think he's still there if he's checked out already? What is he waiting for? Isn't it clear that he wants you to leave? "HE'S NOT MAN ENOUGH" to leave.
Will something bad happen or is your safety an issue if you leave?
Men show similar signs when they are in this place in the relationship. Respect just goes out of the door that they hesitate to leave out of.
I needed this years ago. Everything u said, he was doing. Making me think I was crazy
Girl you're not crazy
Talk Mr Tony, talk, I'm all ears. It's the learning for me. Be blessed.
I wished I had known about this back when I was with my sons father. He done everything that Tony spoke of.
It's so true I got all three little by little. But he just wouldn't break up with me.
After a few months i just kicked him to the kerb.
When I did he acted like he was sorry,so
I started to do what he was doing to me.
And he begged me not to finish with him.
Some men only know what they had when its gone.
Yep, those signs sound familiar. The difference was night and day. I thank God though that once I got it, I GOT IT. I cried my tears, dusted myself off and began working on myself. What I didn't do was look back.
When people are found out to prove who they really are, their level of respect was a lie, they never truly loved God, then of course the next step is BYE! Blessings to all!
These signs were there in my last relationship where I got the hint and broke up with him
You are the real deal. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and godly gifts with us.💯🤗
Wow!! This happened to me. One night, I was bothered by it, woke him up at 3 am. Wouldn't let it go, asked him what was going on & he told me we wanted to leave. I said okay, he said, you' re not going to fight for your marriage. I said NO, you decided on your own therefore; YOU'VE put a lot if thought into this. I told him I will file for a divorce & he had the audacity to say I don't want a divorce. I told him I do because I would never be with him again. He could feel whatever he wants but to not talk to me was a huge violation. It's like something happened in that moment to make me not want to be with him anymore because he was sneaky and deceitful. I REALLY thought we were better than that. I left...no regrets, I would never want to be with someone so deceptive nor strong enough to talk to your significant other.
Wow. So good. Help us sisters out.
How long were you married for ?
@@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453 I was married for 23 years.
@@tripleplatinumautosales4320 wow. 21 here. That’s amazing. Do you think you were already ready for it to be over before he said that to you ?
@@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453 Hi, no, for some reason I immediately felt deception. I was completely blindsided but, I've never been the type to try and change someone's mind about me. It felt like having an affair. Simply stated, I don't want anything from someone that they do not want to give. I guess after all of our years together, he didn't know me.
Sad, but thanks for telling us. We need to know.
Please just breakup with her. That's better than this. Both suck, but this is abusive. I just spent months of my life wondering if I was being emotionally abused, if I had loved a monster, etc. He had just checked out and left me mentally and emotionally before he left me physically. The unfairness, some of it, was in him trying to pull me back once I caught on and got distant. He would pull me back in just to bully me again when I fell back in love with him. This was all really unfair and he truly could've just left me. I loved him too much and myself not enough at the time to leave him.
I marvel at the descriptive details about your wife. That is proof you "nurture and caress" your marriage relationship. You're not just feeding us information, you yourself are leading by example of how to "lead in love". You are truly invested ❤ thank you
Thanks 🙏🏽 Mr. Gaskins for being a ram in the bush. After leaving a 21 years toxic marriage the more I know the more I grow it hasn’t been easy but Lord knows it’s been worth it. I’m not where I want to be but I’m grateful I’m not where I used to be 🙌🏽 and the best is yet to come… Knowledge is power do the work & gon bout your business it pays off !
I've left
Tony always on time with these videos messages I was in a situation before just like this I’m glad I had the strength to move on from that person!!!! Thanks Tony!!!🙂🙂🙂👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Thank you Tony❣ A lot mentioned are signs or red flags I have seen in the past so I am.on track.😆 💯
Tony! Thank you so much! Although this happened to me 5 years ago and couldn’t understand why he was acting the way he was, it’s so good to hear it now! It’s added to my closure! You are so appreciated!
What you saying is so true and it does apply to me and my partner I went through that but once I realized that I can't make nobody love me or respect me and treat me like I deserve I reserve my love for a real man that's not afraid to love me like I should be loved. I dried my tears put my shoulders back head held my head up high most of all I trust God and I understand where I went wrong in the relationship I love too fast I love unconditionally and never got it in return after 4 years I have no more love to give
Straight facts! Thanks Tony for the free game and being real because sometimes us women need to hear it from a man. 🙌🏾
So sweet of you massaging your wife head. Thanks for sharing. Gives me hope.
100% on point. Thanks TG
I just went through this. He did EVERYTHING to self sabotage the relationship. He was very argumentative, mean, grew very distant and then broke up with me over something stupid. The day after we broke up (I told him I would leave and accepted the breakup and did not cry or beg him to stay or anything) when I tried to get my stuff, he ended up getting physical and I ended up calling the police and he got arrested. I tried everything to make it work. But he was already done. His loss. Because I took everything I bought while we lived together and his apartment was next to empty. His karma is coming back double. The judge ordered no contact and I’m glad. But I wish I saw this video sooner. I sure would have left. I thought it was a phase.
When you say “he broke with you”. Did he verbally tell you “im done”?
@@Monce08 no….. he just said “it’s not working…..I think we need to break up.” So I said ok. Got my stuff and left
This is exactly how my relationship ended with my child’s father… I was always wondering what I did so wrong. I wish I found your channel sooner
I love the real life examples used in this video 🙌🏾❤️ Thank you Tony
💯 what I just went through. Thank you Tony.. Moving forward with my life . Appreciate your guidance from a man's perspective . Good looking. Hope your wife is feeling better 😊
100% "SPOT ON" Tony‼️This even applies to platonic relationships. I noticed the frequency of our emails had DRASTICALLY decreased. About a month later, he picked a fight for the CRAZIEST reason. I fell for it and was very angry with him. He later apologized because he knew he picked a stupid fight. The next thing I know, I got a "DEAR JANE" email about we should go our separate ways. 😐
Thank you Lord for showing me that men that truly love their wife as Christ loves the church actually exist.
Just when I’m ready to settle, I hear how Tony treats his wife and then I snap out of it and realize I deserve more.
So many times I’m ready to accept an appetizer when God wants me to have the full buffet.
God bless you Tony!!! You are doing the Lords work. Tell your wife we thank her for allowing you to walk in your full calling! God bless your union!!! This is something I wish I knew sooner than later but glad I know now!
Thanks Tony! Enjoy your videos learning so much! We’re never to old to learn! This is all very knowledgeable! 😇🙏😇
Thank You So Much This has made has truly opened my eyes... It's crazy how on point you are with this, crazy...
Another thing is a man telling you flaws about yourself but wanting to keep you around (relationship). Its the signal that he’s looking for someone to replace you and that may take him a month or even a year. They really be wasting people time for years as placeholders. That’s why it’s up to the woman to pay attention and when you get the signal move on!!
Very rude indeed they become absolutely
I needed this last year. 😩
Me too!! 😩
So did i
Definitely all the things I dealt with before the end .. facts !
Bro Tony this message is on point ,this is a very good topic to speak on 3 signs when a Man is breaking up with you.this is truly an eye opener message. Thanks Bro Tony for the wisdom. As listen to your teaching every day it let's me know I don't know nothing of the ways of a Man. Bro Tony, you're helping me alot. Am so Grateful ❤️😊
What you are telling us is that men will put themselves out there for love and you will know it and feel it. Good lesson. Now we ladies need to watch and learn so as to not get burned!
Thank you so much Tony gaskins for this video it’s very helpful information to me! You be on point most of the times and I am truly thankful to have met you on RUclips! God bless you and your family always!😇
Thanks for Game, God is Good, and brother Tony you are blessing that my Lord up above choice you to save 75 percent of women's mess up love life , believe me appreciate 💯 that was a good lesson 😊, lady's out there in the world you better listen, nothing don't last forever and that's a thing and words Right on,! Right on;! Ha,Ha!🌞.
You as usual are spot on!
Excellent content as usual, you help me more than you know. Thank goodness you’re here 🙏🏽
I had a guy do the rude, little snarky comments. He was always a bad communicator but it got to the point if I didn't reach out he wouldn't. So I just stopped reaching out, it's been about two weeks now and I got a "hey big head" text....🙄😡😒
He’s just checking to see if your still standing there. Move around and let hm miss you with the b.s
@@denisemyers733 yea I don't stay where I'm not wanted. I addressed it and got ghost. Thank you💜
@@delorismartin3537 My ex started to call me "big nose" and still had the temerity of saying that it was a cute pet name, because he has a big nose too, so it was not a bad thing and even brought up the fact that we joked about having similar big bones when we met. Interestingly, 2 months before dumping he decided adequate to call me by this new "pet name".
Also remarks about my body hair (that i try to be free of my shaving/waxing/burning), he did in bed while we were on it and he went through a missed spot and said "you have body hair just like a man" while making that rabbit's nose disgust face.
You are so on point distance he is finished just have to say the word and never have time for you
Ooooh! This is deep here. I've done the distancing thing too in my previous relationships. So sad.
Got my shirt, Aaaaayyyyeee"👑💃Thank you Tony!!!
Thank you for a lovely video.
Hi Tony please tell your wife to try organic pads or organic tampons to help ease her symptoms during that time of the month. Major companies use chemicals to treat pads and tampons to cause women to bleed more so that we buy more. The chemicals also make us feel sick. I used to go to the hospital every month due to severe pain. I can honestly say that organic pads have changed my life. I get mine from Women's Haven. They have tampons as well.
Yes, organic sanitary products are game changers for anyone not hip! They make a night and day difference in severe symptoms. I just stumbled upon them and purchased because organic sounded good, and had no idea that they would literally improve my quality of life. It’s important to spread the word to our sisters because if we wait for corporations to do honest business, we’ll meet the Lord first 😭
@@bribri4275 facts!
Why doesn’t he just straight up tell the woman I want to break up instead of going through all that so they both can move on
That would be the mature thing to do! SMH!!
Thank you, God bless you
Thanks for these videos!!
I wore this shirt just yesterday for the 1st time. Love it!!!😊
PRECISELY...YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH ANYONE THAT DON'T WANT TO BE KEPT....THATS THAT OLD SKOOL SAYING....IT MAY HURT AND HURT BAAAD...LET THEM GOOOO...WHEN THEY SHOW YOU...AND PRAY ON IT...YOULL FIND PEACE AND REJOICE IN IT.
Soml thank you I needed to hear this 👍🏽
You are incredible thank you for this
Thank you Tony!!
Thank You for this channel
They'll also start fights over the stupidest smallest things, they're not even mad or upset about what they're arguing about, they just enjoy letting out their resentment towards you and creating more distance like Tony said
How about men need to learn to communicate. Instead of going through all of that emotion. Simply communicate that the relationship is no longer in the best interest of either of you. Agree to move on. The practice of maturity is Needed.
Wow. This is so informative
Be blessed 🔥
I love your stories ❤
I'm a happily married woman and I still watch your videos!!