Our brains are hardwired to expect the worst possible outcome so that we are always prepared for the worst. Especially when you have anxiety, your brain is so desperate for control that catastrophizing is your brains messed up way of protecting you. I know it’s awful and so incredibly difficult to talk about but like you said, “I don’t want to let 10 seconds of negativity ruin my day” and that’s an excellent mentality to have! Therapy is a useful tool but it’s definitely not the only tool so continue to do what works for you. You got this 🙂
I had a problem with insomnia which led more or less to extreme alcoholism, such that if I stopped drinking I couldn't breathe, my organs would not work and if I couldn't drink soon enough I had to go to hospital; I heard one in five such cases are extreme-you die if you try to stop. I was that way for a decade (all 20s; now 34) until I was able to fall in love, but I'm not very socialized (never have been) partly because of it; I suppose the point is that I understand anxiety now, I just call it medical anxiety. My liver hurts. Anyway, you shouldn't obsess over the friend thing; I don't have even any friends but some cats, and I seem not to care, completely. Although I suppose it will become necessary. I can't relate to people because of my peculiar interests I suppose. Black Metal and what's called process philosophy. I am a complete stranger and there's no shame in it, despite it's an unutterable fate.
Sorry to hear you had/have all these thoughts. Yeah, it’s must be hard to talk about this on camera. And yep your not alone in dealing with these things. I think I’ve had some of the same thoughts. I’ve started to get worried about traveling in cars, Thinking something bad is going to happen. Only had it since lockdowns were lifted. Even on something silly like pre-ordering a figure. I’m like what the point as I might not alive when it gets released. Or a new movie or TV series released date. New albums etc... One time recently a few months ago I was worried I might not seen the last episodes of Picard before the latest season ended. It’s not like this is all the time. Some are just a random thoughts and a few do effect you. Most of the time I just try to push the thought to the back of my mind and keep the mind busy.
You seem a very level headed person and it's good to talk and be honest about your feelings. I've had therapy most of my life but mainly for drugs and sometimes it helped sometimes it made things worse but it's disgusting you have to pay for it. My problem is I don't love myself so I couldn't ever grasp anyone else would, I've missed and wasted most of my life and nearly died on a fair few occasions. Life is full of ups and downs and I've accepted who I am and come to terms with dying. Don't worry about what you've missed and enjoy what you do. Good friends = good life 🤘🏻🤘🏻
Hi sweetheart I have the same our brain is a crazy tight and can be horrible I think a lot like I'm getting cray or that some people are liking me or not or I just panic for no reason etc etc 😢 you are not alone remember that!!! I meditate and I'm always thinking about my thoughts to see wait this is relly me or is just my brain? That helps a bit... I really hope that you will menage better as well❤
I wish I could care react to this video the same way I would be able to on Facebook. I feel about 90% of the things that you feel. I always worry about getting into my car and wondering if I'm going to get hit by drunk driver just like you said. Literally every morning I wake up I think to myself "is today it? Is today the day that I'm going to die or get immobilized by an incurable injury? Will I eventually find out that I have terminal brain cancer?" I always wonder why my friends don't contact me much. I mean, I know I'm the only guy in my circle of friends who isn't a father yet and I'm 32. So I understand they have priorities but damn, Am I seriously the only bachelor? There have been so many things in my life that I ha e turned down over fear that something bad would happen to me. I think you and I would be best friends if we knew each other in real life because I can seriously related to a lot of your struggles. Yeah Therapy doesn't work for me either. The last time I went was about 11 years ago.
Our brains are hardwired to expect the worst possible outcome so that we are always prepared for the worst. Especially when you have anxiety, your brain is so desperate for control that catastrophizing is your brains messed up way of protecting you. I know it’s awful and so incredibly difficult to talk about but like you said, “I don’t want to let 10 seconds of negativity ruin my day” and that’s an excellent mentality to have!
Therapy is a useful tool but it’s definitely not the only tool so continue to do what works for you. You got this 🙂
Thank you for the support 💜
I had a problem with insomnia which led more or less to extreme alcoholism, such that if I stopped drinking I couldn't breathe, my organs would not work and if I couldn't drink soon enough I had to go to hospital; I heard one in five such cases are extreme-you die if you try to stop. I was that way for a decade (all 20s; now 34) until I was able to fall in love, but I'm not very socialized (never have been) partly because of it; I suppose the point is that I understand anxiety now, I just call it medical anxiety. My liver hurts. Anyway, you shouldn't obsess over the friend thing; I don't have even any friends but some cats, and I seem not to care, completely. Although I suppose it will become necessary. I can't relate to people because of my peculiar interests I suppose. Black Metal and what's called process philosophy. I am a complete stranger and there's no shame in it, despite it's an unutterable fate.
Sorry to hear you had/have all these thoughts. Yeah, it’s must be hard to talk about this on camera. And yep your not alone in dealing with these things. I think I’ve had some of the same thoughts. I’ve started to get worried about traveling in cars, Thinking something bad is going to happen. Only had it since lockdowns were lifted. Even on something silly like pre-ordering a figure. I’m like what the point as I might not alive when it gets released. Or a new movie or TV series released date. New albums etc... One time recently a few months ago I was worried I might not seen the last episodes of Picard before the latest season ended. It’s not like this is all the time. Some are just a random thoughts and a few do effect you. Most of the time I just try to push the thought to the back of my mind and keep the mind busy.
Yes. I try to do things that keep me occupied. Thanks for understanding 🙏
You seem a very level headed person and it's good to talk and be honest about your feelings. I've had therapy most of my life but mainly for drugs and sometimes it helped sometimes it made things worse but it's disgusting you have to pay for it.
My problem is I don't love myself so I couldn't ever grasp anyone else would, I've missed and wasted most of my life and nearly died on a fair few occasions. Life is full of ups and downs and I've accepted who I am and come to terms with dying.
Don't worry about what you've missed and enjoy what you do. Good friends = good life 🤘🏻🤘🏻
Thank you :)
Hi sweetheart I have the same our brain is a crazy tight and can be horrible I think a lot like I'm getting cray or that some people are liking me or not or I just panic for no reason etc etc 😢 you are not alone remember that!!! I meditate and I'm always thinking about my thoughts to see wait this is relly me or is just my brain? That helps a bit... I really hope that you will menage better as well❤
Thank you for the support 🙏
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I wish I could care react to this video the same way I would be able to on Facebook. I feel about 90% of the things that you feel. I always worry about getting into my car and wondering if I'm going to get hit by drunk driver just like you said. Literally every morning I wake up I think to myself "is today it? Is today the day that I'm going to die or get immobilized by an incurable injury? Will I eventually find out that I have terminal brain cancer?" I always wonder why my friends don't contact me much. I mean, I know I'm the only guy in my circle of friends who isn't a father yet and I'm 32. So I understand they have priorities but damn, Am I seriously the only bachelor? There have been so many things in my life that I ha e turned down over fear that something bad would happen to me. I think you and I would be best friends if we knew each other in real life because I can seriously related to a lot of your struggles. Yeah Therapy doesn't work for me either. The last time I went was about 11 years ago.
I'm glad to hear I'm not alone :)
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