Can you tell instances of status related to marriages in India vs abroad? @sochbymm Any paper or YT video will do. How people define status in different countries?
भाई मैं आशा करता हूं आप इस कॉमेंट को पढ़ रहे हो मैं एक लोअर मिडल क्लास से आता हूं और मेरे घर पर जब शादी पड़ती है तो कम से कम 5000 लोग खाना खाते हैं मैं उत्तर प्रदेश के एक छोटे से जिले से हूं और बचपन से यह मैं देखता आया हूं मेरे घर में मेरे होश सम्हालने से लेकर अब तक लगभग 10 शादियां हो चुकी और उनमें एवरेज ले ले तो कोरोना टाइम के दो शादियों को छोड़कर लगभग सारी शादियों में 5000 या उससे ज्यादा ही लोग खाना खाते हैं उनको कोई मतलब नहीं है किसका शादी है किसका क्या है हमारे यहां से काट जाता है वह लोग आते हैं खाना खाते हैं जाते हैं मुझे यह नहीं करना है पर इससे मेरे घर वाले नाराज हो जाएंगे मैं जानता हूं अब आप यह सोचो कि एक लोअर मिडिल क्लास का होते हुए क्योंकि हम एक राजपूत हैं इसलिए समाज में अपनी छवि को बनाए रखने के लिए हमारे परिवार के लोग इतने सारे लोगों को इनवाइट करते हैं और अपने पावर का प्रदर्शन करते हैं व्हिच इस टोटली नॉनसेंस आई वेटर इन्वेस्ट दिस मनी इन सम स्टॉक्स एंड फंड्स
I have a colleague who did court marriage, didn't even take a day off for that, just said BRB in 2-3hrs got married came back and resumed his work lol. It's not like he was forced to do that it was all his choice! He is an inspiration to me now
I just want to add story of my friend. His family was of 4 people. His father, mother, sister and him. His father is a retired govt employee. He is a bright student. His father saved a lot of money for the marriage of my friend's sister. Savings were done in such critical manner that he had to cancel his admission in a well renowned University even after qualifying the entrance test. His father had money required for the fee but that money was in the savings for sister's marriage. Father got the sister married to a rich guy grandly. Now their condition is so bad. My friend is struggling a lot for money with very low paying jobs and increasing expenses. If I compare his father was richer than my father but now he borrows money. I'm not showing him down but frustrated with the overhyped "Beti ki Shaadi" concept where parents think for daughter's future ignoring son's thinking he can survive. Yes a man can survive but this economic injustice between son and daughter is bad. Who should be blamed here. The father or the society. Jo status ke liye yeh sab Kiya wahi status ab na raha.
@Black WhiteWe all are sailing in a similar boat ⛵ . Every one is struggling to settle and society is still very orthodox , hardly interested to solve problems facing new generation children 😕😔
That money is solely wasted on dowry annd to showoff to the grooms side about their status . Its not that theyy think guys can survive without money its a shame on a family if their daughter can't get married . And for marriage these grooms want a hefty dowry ofc . Theyy regret it when theybare gettingbtheir daughter is getting married and then do the same thing whenn its their son's turn . Where do you get these new concpets of gender bias 😅 matlab kuch bhi
Mohak accepting he is privileged is such a great gesture. TBH when people (especially people with fame and followers) don't acknowledge their privilege then they set wrong path for us middle class people.
i completely agree with you ....only Mohak is accepting this Openly ....his most of the education was happen from Singapore he said in one interview .... in generally if you see the interview of any American , Canadian & European they Cleary talk about gratitude & privilege word now these thing catch by NRI Kids ... i have two cousin both in USA one always says he is privilege where another one skip this and always pretend how to survive in USA i am middle class etc etc ...even everybody know their financial condition ....same applies here in India ....like in one interview Aditya Birla and Mukesh Ambani confessed they were Middle class ..so that they will get Middle class sympathy .... Crucial thing Socio Economic condition plays a vital role in india ....a kid who study in hindi medium school mostly struggle in all subject compare to a student who study in Good PVT school .. i had volunteer for Teach for India NGO ....india Government school are miserable ..i felt bad for those kids .
@@rayaanaaryan2684 Exactly! This also misguide middle class into thinking they can be what their idols are following exact same steps, not knowing that their starting points are different.
@@avishkasingh3993 lol you too are privileged being an urban middle class person ... most of the Indian population is either poor or rural middle class .
At my native place, people usually spend around 50% (sometimes more) of their lifetime savings on marriage (considering they have a single kid, 2-3 bacche hai toh usi hisaab se adjust). I know a few people jinhone apna jameen bech dia shaadi karwane ke lie. I have raised this question and they feel proud to have done that. To each their own, but even I find it a lot. Like spend karo, bas jameen bech ke shaadi karne ka sense nhi banta.
Bro it's like karma when people have their boy marriage they take money from girls family and when they have girls marriage they gave money to boy family .
Accepting the fact that "I'm privileged" might sound like boasting but he said that with all Sanity.. Unlike star kids saying "Humne struggle Kiya he, 50kgs loose kiya falaana dhimkana" We've learned all shitty things from Bollywood..It's high time to follow influencers like Mohak❤️
I am from Rajasthan, the biggest problem of a middle class family is the wedding expenses and 60% of the wedding expenses are spent, no matter how poor I am, it is necessary to buy gold. Or yahe perja kabhi khatam nai hogi 😔
@arjunjaat83-many people have stopped marrying now this way new trend it is due to such things that many people are not marrying within their community
पैसे की बर्बादी और व्यर्थ की ड्रामेबाजी विवाह से दहेज मुक्त विवाह श्रेष्ठ है एक लेवा एक देवा दूतम, कोई किसी का पिता ना पुतम। रेड संबंध जुड़े शब ठाठा, अंत में सब बारह बटा।। यहां पर हम इस वाणी का अर्थ नहीं बताएंगे यह आपको "जीने की राह" पुस्तक में मिल जाएगा हम यह बताने की कोशिश करते हैं जैसे कि कोई डॉक्टर कोई इंजीनियर कोई अन्य पोस्ट प्राप्त करने के लिए जिस प्रकार मर्यादा में रखकर अर्थात शिक्षा ग्रहण करने के लिए स्कूल जाना पड़ता है गुरु से शिक्षा प्राप्त करना पड़ता है ड्रेस यूनिफॉम में जाना पड़ता है इसी प्रकार मानव जीवन को सफल बनाने के लिए हमारे सथ ग्रंथ है जो परमात्मा का विधान है इस विधान से अगर विपरीत काम करते हैं तो हमें लाभ नहीं मिलेगा जिस प्रकार कोई बच्चा पढ़ाई छोड़ कर काम करने चले जाए और कहे मैं डॉक्टर बन जाऊं तो वह व्यर्थ का सर पटकना है अधिक जानकारी के लिए पडढ़े "जीने की राह" सभी धर्मों के सथ ग्रंथों से जानिए "जीने की राह" 🏷️ अधिक जानकारी के लिए "जीने की राह" पुस्तक फ्री अपना नाम ,पूरा पता, पिनकोड ,मोबाइल नंबर हमें 🥏 Whatsapp करें +91 7496801825 ☑️📚 पुस्तक और डिलीवरी चार्ज बिल्कुल निःशुल्क (फ्री) है। 🎯➡️ आध्यात्मिक जानकारी के लिए PlayStore से Install करें App :- Sant Rampal Ji Maharaj 📺 ➡️ सुनिए जगत गुरु तत्वदर्शी संत रामपाल जी महाराज के मंगल प्रवचन :- 🏵️ Nepal 1 टी.वी. पर सुबह 6:00 से 7:00 तक 🏵️ श्रद्धा MH ONE टी. वी. पर दोपहर 2:00 से 3:00 तक 🏵️ साधना टी. वी. पर शाम 7:30 से 8:30 तक 🏵️ पॉपकॉर्न मूवीज पर रात 7:30 से 8:30 तक 📣 Visit Sant Rampal Ji Maharaj on RUclips.
The best wedding i attended was one inside IIT Delhi campus , a professor's son got married and only 30 people were invited. Most simple and decent wedding i attended. No loud noise only simple instrument playing.
Was he south Indian? That's what I love to see.. Just hate the firecrackers noises until midnight in North India. South Indian marriages are less noisy and usually happens in daytime. North Indians are in hangover of the Muslim kings rule in India. At least all Hindus should restart weddings during day.
It depends Most would think inviting unknown small amount of people instead of inviting your relatives and throwing grand party could indicate your commitment towards that relationship and your will to work on it and gear it forward But upper class people with their divorces here and there, it’s not surprising people are not seeing importance of marrying traditional way by inviting all your relatives and friends and welcoming other person in your life and giving promise in front of everyone you know
I hate it whenever people defend a bad thing in society by saying "it helps the economy, dude". This just proves to us that the current economic system is so full of shit that we have to literally torture ourselves to make it "grow" in any way.
The Assamese marriages before this decade consisted of only two ceremonies-"Juron" i.e. The Ring ceremony &The wedding day. Thanks to Social media, Bollywoodisation of Assamese culture and Economic growth- Mehendi,Haldi,Sangeet are now added in Assamese marriages.
Koribo diok he biya dangor ke pati jodi bhal pai patok aru ... Bohut business eiboror uprot e choli ase , Aru amar o khuwa luwa hoi jai aru exaaj besike 😂
I would like to share that northeast Indian weddings are very simple compared to other Indian weddings. I am an Assamese girl from Northeast and our weddings are relatively less expensive because the bride wears simple jewelry and also dowry is not a headache. Please don't get offended I just wanted to share.
I used to live in Assam before, now I live in Lucknow. Yeah, I conform that in North India they don't have any fu*king shame to take dowries in 21st century.
One more reason which I feel might be responsible for large scale weddings- After the ceremony, several people especially family members comment ' Shaadi ache se ho gai'. Somehow people equate 'marriage' with 'wedding'. They think that if the ceremony is lavish, it automatically means that the couple will lead a good life. This is ofcourse just my feeling.
In India parents would rather spend lakhs on their daughter's marriage than getting her good education so that she can be self independent. Even if she has a job, if it's not government and her to be husband works somewhere far off, she's asked to quit the job. Have seen it happen multiple times in front of eyes and that's why I'm working hard on cracking govt exams. There's no other way to be independent in middle class families.
@@kdjoshi726 you said it yourself and it's true. They won't ask you to quit if you've a high paying job. But not everyone has a high paying job. Doesn't mean they should be asked to quit and give up on their financial independence.
पैसे की बर्बादी और व्यर्थ की ड्रामेबाजी विवाह से दहेज मुक्त विवाह श्रेष्ठ है एक लेवा एक देवा दूतम, कोई किसी का पिता ना पुतम। रेड संबंध जुड़े शब ठाठा, अंत में सब बारह बटा।। यहां पर हम इस वाणी का अर्थ नहीं बताएंगे यह आपको "जीने की राह" पुस्तक में मिल जाएगा हम यह बताने की कोशिश करते हैं जैसे कि कोई डॉक्टर कोई इंजीनियर कोई अन्य पोस्ट प्राप्त करने के लिए जिस प्रकार मर्यादा में रखकर अर्थात शिक्षा ग्रहण करने के लिए स्कूल जाना पड़ता है गुरु से शिक्षा प्राप्त करना पड़ता है ड्रेस यूनिफॉम में जाना पड़ता है इसी प्रकार मानव जीवन को सफल बनाने के लिए हमारे सथ ग्रंथ है जो परमात्मा का विधान है इस विधान से अगर विपरीत काम करते हैं तो हमें लाभ नहीं मिलेगा जिस प्रकार कोई बच्चा पढ़ाई छोड़ कर काम करने चले जाए और कहे मैं डॉक्टर बन जाऊं तो वह व्यर्थ का सर पटकना है अधिक जानकारी के लिए पडढ़े "जीने की राह" सभी धर्मों के सथ ग्रंथों से जानिए "जीने की राह" 🏷️ अधिक जानकारी के लिए "जीने की राह" पुस्तक फ्री अपना नाम ,पूरा पता, पिनकोड ,मोबाइल नंबर हमें 🥏 Whatsapp करें +91 7496801825 ☑️📚 पुस्तक और डिलीवरी चार्ज बिल्कुल निःशुल्क (फ्री) है। 🎯➡️ आध्यात्मिक जानकारी के लिए PlayStore से Install करें App :- Sant Rampal Ji Maharaj 📺 ➡️ सुनिए जगत गुरु तत्वदर्शी संत रामपाल जी महाराज के मंगल प्रवचन :- 🏵️ Nepal 1 टी.वी. पर सुबह 6:00 से 7:00 तक 🏵️ श्रद्धा MH ONE टी. वी. पर दोपहर 2:00 से 3:00 तक 🏵️ साधना टी. वी. पर शाम 7:30 से 8:30 तक 🏵️ पॉपकॉर्न मूवीज पर रात 7:30 से 8:30 तक 📣 Visit Sant Rampal Ji Maharaj on RUclips.
@@kdjoshi726 nope, happened to my aunt. She was a head nurse b4 wedding, Government sector,and earned around 40k or something. She got married,had 2 kids n it was getting difficult to manage it,so she had to quit her job,her family members persuaded her to do so. However,she has now opened her own grocery store,a big one,earns more amount and is able to take care of both the kids too all thanks to God. N yeah,her in-laws are also very good n loves her a lot
Me and my husband got married 2 years ago, it was a quick budget wedding, a decent hall, 30 family members and 2 pandits, thats it. We saved that money for 1 month of honeymoon and setting up our house. I sont see a point of calling people you dont know and who are eventually going to criticize the arrangement or the family. It's hard to earn money these days and i believe everyone must spend it wisely
@@heatsingh2205 there has to be a start, from some point.. People barely even think about these topics.. But the same time.. These matters impact our lives pungently
One major problem is that most couples want a bigger wedding at their parents' expense and because of social stigma they have to oblige. The day parents refuse to pay, wedding celebrations will start getting sensible.
My parents were not well off and after my job only things got better. Now, they are just saving the money I send to them and ask me to save as well so that we can spend it on my wedding.
पैसे की बर्बादी और व्यर्थ की ड्रामेबाजी विवाह से दहेज मुक्त विवाह श्रेष्ठ है एक लेवा एक देवा दूतम, कोई किसी का पिता ना पुतम। रेड संबंध जुड़े शब ठाठा, अंत में सब बारह बटा।। यहां पर हम इस वाणी का अर्थ नहीं बताएंगे यह आपको "जीने की राह" पुस्तक में मिल जाएगा हम यह बताने की कोशिश करते हैं जैसे कि कोई डॉक्टर कोई इंजीनियर कोई अन्य पोस्ट प्राप्त करने के लिए जिस प्रकार मर्यादा में रखकर अर्थात शिक्षा ग्रहण करने के लिए स्कूल जाना पड़ता है गुरु से शिक्षा प्राप्त करना पड़ता है ड्रेस यूनिफॉम में जाना पड़ता है इसी प्रकार मानव जीवन को सफल बनाने के लिए हमारे सथ ग्रंथ है जो परमात्मा का विधान है इस विधान से अगर विपरीत काम करते हैं तो हमें लाभ नहीं मिलेगा जिस प्रकार कोई बच्चा पढ़ाई छोड़ कर काम करने चले जाए और कहे मैं डॉक्टर बन जाऊं तो वह व्यर्थ का सर पटकना है अधिक जानकारी के लिए पडढ़े "जीने की राह" सभी धर्मों के सथ ग्रंथों से जानिए "जीने की राह" 🏷️ अधिक जानकारी के लिए "जीने की राह" पुस्तक फ्री अपना नाम ,पूरा पता, पिनकोड ,मोबाइल नंबर हमें 🥏 Whatsapp करें +91 7496801825 ☑️📚 पुस्तक और डिलीवरी चार्ज बिल्कुल निःशुल्क (फ्री) है। 🎯➡️ आध्यात्मिक जानकारी के लिए PlayStore से Install करें App :- Sant Rampal Ji Maharaj 📺 ➡️ सुनिए जगत गुरु तत्वदर्शी संत रामपाल जी महाराज के मंगल प्रवचन :- 🏵️ Nepal 1 टी.वी. पर सुबह 6:00 से 7:00 तक 🏵️ श्रद्धा MH ONE टी. वी. पर दोपहर 2:00 से 3:00 तक 🏵️ साधना टी. वी. पर शाम 7:30 से 8:30 तक 🏵️ पॉपकॉर्न मूवीज पर रात 7:30 से 8:30 तक 📣 Visit Sant Rampal Ji Maharaj on RUclips.
Especially that pre and post wedding tantrums is mostly from spoilt brat kids i have literally seen my cousin throwing tantrums at her wedding to literally everyone I basically became her photographer in her wedding giving me orders take photo from here there I was thinking like " sis your just getting married calm down you yourself will not be interested in your own photo after a year "
One of my friends papa... Won't spend money on her education.. Because of her marriage he want to save the money.. This is still ground reality of our society.. And there are already so many...
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I saw my friend's grade weddings and decided not to do such things. Also, the fact is that I and my husband are financing it. Although we belong to a family who can afford a grand wedding, we decided not to take money from our parents. I invited limited close friends and family. I don't care what people think or talk. The only expensive cost was the photographer. 😅 we spend it for some good realistic memory. And I was surprised when I see people dm me and say after a long time they saw such good happy simple wedding photos. We got married in a mosque. The after-parties were in my home. The two beautiful days of the nonstop party were the best part of it. I spend a minimum on clothing and make-up. I believe if I am happy and smiling nothing else matters.
There was a chapter in my english textbook about a guy's marriage and in ncert there was a question should marriages be lavish and my teacher asked me to answer on it and i said that marriages should be lavish if you can afford because it is a lifelong memory and should be celebrated in a grand way.
@@elonmusk3807 bholi was the one about a girl and dowry, proposal,if I am not wrong was about two neighbors fighting for land and the neighbor's daughter
You don't know so shut your mouth why only Indian are targeted i am not saying do expensive wedding but do a good and normal wedding and perform all the rituals.Why don't you say to rich people who spend crores of rupees for their wedding?
answer is a absolute and astounding yes. For middle class family : whenever parents pays for the wedding it would be wonderful for kid. Only those people who pays for their own wedding only knows the true answer to this question.
I have observed since the ban on dowry, bride's family spend all the money which was to be spent on dowry on making the marriage function more memorable.
@@gossip.wave11 giving dowry ime form of cars ,money and jwellery can be sold in future rather than feeding people who you have not even seen from decades .
@@gossip.wave11 in what way? The ceremony has no utility to the married couple beyond just showing off on the day... at least, if what was given were something like a flat, or a vehicle, those can be used by them. I'm not condoning the practice of 'dowry', just contesting your opinion that spending that money on a 'lavish' wedding ceremony is "better".
Social status and social pressure is the #1 reason for high wedding costs in my opinion. I too want to just do a court marriage and a reception, but every single point I discussed with my parents on why having a simple marriage is beneficial for all was invalidated by them because "log kya bolenge/sochenge". In my opinion it's a waste of money just for couple instagramable photos. As for helping the economy, I can't care less when I'm more worried about giving my wife and my child a good life ahead.
Log kya kahenge is one of the biggest diseases that afflicts our society and people only gossip for few weeks and few months at most. Not worth spending years of income through hardwork on such people.
@@shabnamkhanam5987 I do want to make memories but i would rather do it with my family and not with 200 odd guests and relative who have come there just to eat food. I would rather spend the money on something useful like a new car 😜
I think in addition to what you said, it's just a huge cultural thing in India (at least North India). Even where Bollywood or Insta are not that popular (smaller villages), we see the majority share of debt that families have are because of weddings (next biggest being medical expenses). Of course a large part of this is dowry, which is kind of separate from what you were talking about, but I feel only Bollywood and Insta can't explain this phenomenon. It's deeply cultural. Thanks for the very informative video!
You can deny the impact of insta but you can't deny the impact of bollywood Yes they may not be directly affected from it but people started copying rich people to look rich and it was brought mainstream by Bollywood The chronology here is :- Rich people started it Bollywood copied from them (not exactly copied but Bollywood always shows larger than life scenarios) People copied from Bollywood And villagers copied from what they saw in other weddings
@@harshit6045 it's not unrealistic from Ancient times we Indians Hindus or people who lived in this part of area used to do grand wedding bcoz wedding bring families together, groom and bride both get chance to meet eachother families and relatives. Sirf social status ke liye nahi balki social gathering karne ka bhi bada tarika hai ye, tum khud socho Holi diwali, jese festival par relative ek dusre ke ghar jate hai ye sab chize hamne social gathering family gatherings ho sake uske liye banayi thi but aajakal kuchh log zaroorat se zyada spend karte hai
A superb holistically analysed multi-faceted video covering all dimensions with a beutiful conclusion. Really you deserve appreciation. Best part is that yeah there neither should be any compulsion to do big budget weddings nor criticism if someone doesnt want that. Its a personal choice how you want things in your personal life.
I really appreciate your honesty and humble nature! Very few people would open state that they are privileged. Everyone wants to show themselves as weak and lie to the fullest in order to gain sympathy. Hats off to your attitude and keep maintaining the same! Your videos are great as usual and keep doing the good work!
Exactly! Kudos to him for this acceptance. This seems quite normal but believe me it’s not normal for accepting that you belong to a quite well off family!
The best part about mohak is he is openly saying he is privileged .. Not like others who says they come from a very poor family, faced a lot of struggle to get attention / sympathy
I am a Bangladeshi 🇧🇩🇧🇩 Yes, you are right. A few days ago we had a wedding in Bangladesh which was organized on a floating stage on a pond. This is an initiative to do something different.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@chhatrasal5934 it's not that different . Type Hindu bengali weddings... Bangladeshi weddings are similar except the fact that they do the Qubool hai Stuff instead of going around the Agni ...
@@rishavkumar1250 Muslim marriages are easier than Hindu weddings. Muslims just have to do nikkah and they become each other's wife and husband. In Hindus, it's long process and expensive.
I completely agree with what you said at the end. There are people who have the money to spend in weddings and consider that a worthy expenditure. That is also good for the economy as it provides for many in the wedding business. However, there must be no pressure. Not having big weddings should also be normalised. I don't want an extravagant wedding for myself but I do want a beautiful one that would be memorable.
Yes, they kinda are, especially when we have the simple opportunity to get done with a court marriage. This applies to all weddings where people spend a hell lot of money just for the sake of it. If I ever manage to find someone who is ready to get married to me (I doubt their existence) I will opt for the basic court marriage. Other than that, I would like to host a simple mutual reception where we can call our closest people for their blessings and feed them good food without much of a ruckus.
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Here in My Village in Tamilnadu, We have a 2-day marriage function, with the 1st day of Marriage & 2nd day for Reception. Music Orchestra is something which got included in our recent family wedding which took place less than 10years before. Then we have grand food & the next day is Reception & on the 3rd day, all families depart back to their home, so the Breakfast for the 3rd day shall be arranged. This too costs much & both the families of Bride & Bride groom share the expenses, but definitely not on a Equal proportion.
Also, the cost of wedding tolls heavy, especially on the rural and tribal populations who previously used to have simple weddings. Now, they need to take loans from the rich zamindars and money lenders just to live up to the expectations. In 12th grade, we read a Bengali piece about Palamu which narrated the woes of tribal people and how the debt of wedding costs always kept them indebted to the zamindar class leading to more exploitation.
@@aishikamitra It's not zamindar class exploitation...It's the slavery of desires which are not even natural...How can desires be natural...It's a result of greed , pride , ignorance and egotendencies... Zamindars couldn't become zamindar without the passive will of those people...Just because those people were not inwardly seeking....They didn't know that they could become slave of desires implanted by the society ....It's simply a cycle of FOMO (fear of missing out)...Even I am a Bengali from west Bengal and I know how society implants desires artificially in the mind of people who are already spiritually and economically ignorant taking the name of popular culture. You should listen to acharya prashant. There cannot be one way exploitation ..the exploited always invites exploitation for them voluntarily becoming slave of society , greed , desires and FOMO...The only natural desire of consciousness is "Freedom"...Rest of the desires are deeply biologically rooted as well as society and economy rooted....
@@adwaitvedant3297 Sorry, but I have to disagree to your points as they are catered towards the colonial mindset of victim blaming. That's the same attitude used by capitalists all around the world to justify exploitation as they rest in their soft beds and it's the same principal which was once used by slave traders who thought that us Indians as well as other indigenous people stand nowhere compared to their superior stance in society. A lot of the 'FOMO' you talk about has actually been instilled by the so called 'educated' class to monetise the natural resources found in the rural and tribal lands of India. Similarly, the marriage customs have been extensively changed in areas because of the greed inculcated by the so called zamindars. They often tie the debt takers by huge interests which often includes taking away most of their farm production or force them to work as indentured labours. A similar thing is seen in almost all labour intensive work, especially those that are seasonal, where many workers are sometimes paid in goods rather than actual wages. Also, the idea of freedom varies between people, so it's hard to put down your stance of freedom as the only one that's supposed to be true.
Alhamdulillah, I am from a rural area of Jammu and Kashmir. If someone is doing a big wedding here, it is said that he has done a lot of bad things because he has increased the rituals for the people, so here we have Marriage without dowry and very simple.
People can choose to have their wedding in any way they wish with their money. But if there is social pressure to spend more than their means, or to borrow a lot of money for weddings, then it is a total rubbish social practice, and should be frowned upon.
Weddings can be a time to set an example. I am a fairly rich guy,. being a residential developer. Yet i married small. 300 or so people, small by our standards. Small feasts. No dowry. No force on the bride's side to do this or that. Now many of my friends have followed suit. You can do that too. And bring about the social change.
Acharya Prashant has been stating the ill effect of bollywood on the lives of Indians since the last 10 years. Glad to see an initiative on this topic.
My opinion:- You only live once If you earn decently and can afford a good lavish wedding Just do it It's the most memorable day for everyone I guess And making it even more special doesn't sound wrong to me I guess people might disagree but that's just my personal opinion
Well I guess one can have as lavish a wedding as one wants, but the point to consider is to spend one's own money. Expecting one's parents to spend lavishly on a one day party is stupid and irresponsible.
@@adilmk128 once i went to a wedding reception and saw that guests were served daal, bhaat, one sabji, aam ki chutney and fish curry . That kind of food or even better is consumed by average people on day to day basis. Whats so special in it? On the other hand another neighbour gave grand party and plenty of item were served to the guests on the same day. Surely both were at extreme ends but the lavish party is justified because they could afford it. The other one was horrible. If you cant afford atleast decent dinner for your guests, dont invite to embarass them. Its better for such people to conduct the party within close friend and family circle. Giving lavish food to 25-30 people is better than feeding crap to 300 people.
I am also privileged, dad spent 40 lack in my marriage 2014. After two months they again started asking dowry. After that I took divorce. Now I feel it is waste of money.
I as a Christian need only to buy for two rings and both of us ran to a church and find a pastor and start the wedding ceremony without anyone else. Only 30mins 🙂. And u r happily live a long lasting marriage 😀
Yes... But nowadays even in christian marriages we have many functions like mehendi and haldi Before church marriage... And photoshoot ka alag... Jyada toh photoshoot me he karach jaate hain.. makeup aur khane ka alag
@@deepmazumder1619 this is the biggest myth my friend runs a communication agency with a school she was getting 15 k per month now she's making 60k per month by selling courses there are multiple businesses not one people open small cafes customized gifting business and so much more it's only willingness to earn from business that matters if you feel you lack knowledge watch Shark Tank job will always keep you broke so entrepreneurship is the best way people made huge from papad achar kachori matthi so much can be done without knowledge roo
You could've chosen to get married the simple way despite having money. But you chose a grand wedding, why? Because this is a once in a lifetime moment for parents and their kids. If you want to set an example then lead first.
Bollywood and Instagram have an influence on the upper middle class and the rich class, but when it comes to semi-urban and rural areas, spending heavily on marriages is a deeply rooted social and cultural issue.. Especially in the Hindi heartland, not so much in the South
🌍संत रामपाल जी महाराज जी के विचार सुनकर व्यक्ति दहेज लेने व देने की सोच भी नहीं सकता। ऐसे सटीक तरीके से सत्संग में समझाया जाता है। संत रामपाल जी महाराज जी से दीक्षा लेने के पश्चात् हमने गुरू जी के आदेश का पालन करते हुए दहेज लेना-देना पूर्ण रूप से त्याग दिया है जिस कुरीति के कारण तीन परिवार नष्ट हो जाते हैं:- 1) लड़की का परिवार जिसकी बेटी दहेज की बलि चढ़ जाती है। उसके पास क्या बचता है, केवल रोना, मुकदमों में धन, समय व शांति खोना। 2) ससुराल वाला परिवार। 3) ननंद का परिवार जेल जाकर समूल नष्ट हो जाता है।
A relative of ours is spending close to ₹20 Lakhs on his daughter’s wedding. 10 Lakhs on preparation, gifts and all and 10 Lakhs on a car to gift. He has 2 daughters so 40 Lakhs Rupees in total. I asked my mom is it necessary? She said no but it will affect his social status in his village.
@@Aizen-zs3qu indeed and this situation is also getting good because of women empowerment But still when their is a dispute in a relationship in India the first thing we try to do is solve it we think about divorce only when situation is out of hands.
This is a true anecdote my grandpa told me. 3 decades ago, it was my aunt's wedding. At that time black currant had recently grown popular in India. In the wedding, one of the groom's relatives told my grandpa that if they would eat ice cream, it will only be black currant. My grandpa had organised for 10+ flavours but black currant was not one of them. Since not giving them their ask would be like a blow to his resoect, he ordered for a large quantity if it. Since it was an immediate order it costed a lot. Thus, he spent about twice his monthly salary just to set that one flavour of ice cream.
There are 2 more factors about why Indian weddings became bigger after 1990s ! 1. The number of kids in the family reduced. After 1980s and 90s people had only 1-2 kids, so they could afford to spend a lot of their savings on the weddings. In the previous generations, in the 1950s and 60s and even 70s, parents had 3-4 girls and 1-2 boys ( in the pursuit of a son, 2-3 girls would be born, followed by a son, followed by a spare son.) Average family size was 5+. So they could not afford to throw such lavish weddings for each of their kids ! 2. People could travel easily after 1990s, after the Maruti car came in the market and followed by luxury buses and railways connectivity increased as well as air travel became affordable, people could travel faster and comfortably! Prior to that, every bua and every masi would not be able to travel with her entire family, hundreds of kilometres for every wedding. Now people even come from abroad very quickly and easily to attend the weddings. So the scale and spending of the weddings changed.
Yes, it's a complete waste of money. The worst part is our generation does sensible discussion on a platform like these and in real life looks for a family who can fulfil his/her expectations in a marriage....
@@stilxfound3813 it’s waste for the rich as well, the difference is they’re able to afford wasting money, poor people can’t… and those who overthrow themselves in fulfilling this waste being in either a middle class or lower, they cry a lot for the rest of their lives
@@farulahmed7644 take the weddings as like an entertainment cost. If you argue that way. Anybody can say theatres are a waste of money, Netflix is a waste of money, stadiums, restaurants, Domino's, all are waste of money Even iphones are a waste of money. Let them spend on what they want to spend
Charu Uppal 1 second ago I have not watched the full video yet, but from the title and from the comments here is my initial response. Time permitting will write a detailed one later. Please consider this for now. The way weddings have been created today that is the problem, people should still be invited and ALL ceremonies should still be carried out. To think that weddings are replaceable is taking away a big event which brings together, ritual, prayers, people, and culture in one time and space. What needs to be done is coming up with ways, being creative in reducing the expense. How about pankti wedding, rather than buffet or hiring people.. reducing the number of food items, but maintaining ALL the ceremonies. Oh, that useless added expense these days...'gifts to guests.'. There were some traditional gifts given to young girls and that was it. The rest was within the family. And just cutting out those bollywood inspired alcohol parties which were Never a part of the wedding ceremony will make a difference. Stop cutting down on rituals.They play a significant role. And yes parents spent so much money on their children, in return children made sure the parents were taken care of....that way both celebration and old age were taken care of in the same family. Stop looking at interconnected themes of live as disjointed systems.
@@adityanayak872 of course they’re a waste of money… theatres (where you pay roughly 500-1000) for 3 hours entertainment is really a waste of money… netflix where you hardly watch 1 show in a month but pay premium of 300-400 is a waste of money.. stadiums , restaurants lets say 5 stars they’re a waste of money, dominos is definitely waste of money… iphones it has so many features and the camera is a professional photographer level camera, no one is able to fully utilise the camera or features unless you’re specialized in that field so it is a waste of money but here i can afford all these waste, and that’s what i said in the beginning… its all a waste, the difference is how much can you afford
I am from odisha and i am a Christian. We don't spend money in weddings rather we give that money to the poor people as a gift in festival time. And i am so happy for that. And one more thing, we also don't give dowry to groom's family. We do small wedding plan in the church. We call our very close friends and relatives. That's all our wedding. I am happy for my community and for my society. Which taught me this. Thanks for your video sir.
I didn't want to spend much on my marriage but my father didn't agreed and took all my life's savings and spent on my marriage. Whatever money he spent, he asked back after few days of my marriage.
Mohak trust me . I come from rural area of darbhanga bihar and i have seen family selling their lands or taking dept from market with High rate for dowry and marriage night expenses like foods and gifts . It is very sad they don't have money at all in some cases . I feel that this is not going to change very soon as this is increasing day by day 😢
No prob with a grand wedding or any major occasion for that matter if the spending is getting circulated among the local vendors. To think about it even spending on any religious festival is also a waste of money. Then again, a diwali dress or a christmas cake helps local businesses to grow
It is happier to see that privileged person like you spreading knowledge and making people aware about sociology and social science. Hat's off to you 👍
It depends on both people who want to get married. If both of their mindset doesn't match, doing not something flashy can ruin the whole life. In my opinion, She and her people will hold grudge.
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@@suxsfulrecovery7161 how?
I have a colleague who did court marriage, didn't even take a day off for that, just said BRB in 2-3hrs got married came back and resumed his work lol. It's not like he was forced to do that it was all his choice! He is an inspiration to me now
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I just want to add story of my friend. His family was of 4 people. His father, mother, sister and him. His father is a retired govt employee. He is a bright student. His father saved a lot of money for the marriage of my friend's sister. Savings were done in such critical manner that he had to cancel his admission in a well renowned University even after qualifying the entrance test. His father had money required for the fee but that money was in the savings for sister's marriage. Father got the sister married to a rich guy grandly. Now their condition is so bad. My friend is struggling a lot for money with very low paying jobs and increasing expenses. If I compare his father was richer than my father but now he borrows money. I'm not showing him down but frustrated with the overhyped "Beti ki Shaadi" concept where parents think for daughter's future ignoring son's thinking he can survive. Yes a man can survive but this economic injustice between son and daughter is bad. Who should be blamed here. The father or the society. Jo status ke liye yeh sab Kiya wahi status ab na raha.
The FATHER
Society ham hi banate hain
Sister ko stand Lena chahiye tha ki wo brother ka future kharab nhi karegi .
@Black WhiteWe all are sailing in a similar boat ⛵ . Every one is struggling to settle and society is still very orthodox , hardly interested to solve problems facing new generation children 😕😔
That money is solely wasted on dowry annd to showoff to the grooms side about their status .
Its not that theyy think guys can survive without money its a shame on a family if their daughter can't get married . And for marriage these grooms want a hefty dowry ofc . Theyy regret it when theybare gettingbtheir daughter is getting married and then do the same thing whenn its their son's turn .
Where do you get these new concpets of gender bias 😅 matlab kuch bhi
Mohak accepting he is privileged is such a great gesture. TBH when people (especially people with fame and followers) don't acknowledge their privilege then they set wrong path for us middle class people.
i completely agree with you ....only Mohak is accepting this Openly ....his most of the education was happen from Singapore he said in one interview .... in generally if you see the interview of any American , Canadian & European they Cleary talk about gratitude & privilege word now these thing catch by NRI Kids ... i have two cousin both in USA one always says he is privilege where another one skip this and always pretend how to survive in USA i am middle class etc etc ...even everybody know their financial condition ....same applies here in India ....like in one interview Aditya Birla and Mukesh Ambani confessed they were Middle class ..so that they will get Middle class sympathy .... Crucial thing Socio Economic condition plays a vital role in india ....a kid who study in hindi medium school mostly struggle in all subject compare to a student who study in Good PVT school .. i had volunteer for Teach for India NGO ....india Government school are miserable ..i felt bad for those kids .
@@rayaanaaryan2684 Exactly! This also misguide middle class into thinking they can be what their idols are following exact same steps, not knowing that their starting points are different.
@@avishkasingh3993 lol you too are privileged being an urban middle class person ... most of the Indian population is either poor or rural middle class .
@@rishavkumar1250 And... I accept that so what?
💯
At my native place, people usually spend around 50% (sometimes more) of their lifetime savings on marriage (considering they have a single kid, 2-3 bacche hai toh usi hisaab se adjust). I know a few people jinhone apna jameen bech dia shaadi karwane ke lie.
I have raised this question and they feel proud to have done that. To each their own, but even I find it a lot. Like spend karo, bas jameen bech ke shaadi karne ka sense nhi banta.
Kaha se ho
Bro it's like karma when people have their boy marriage they take money from girls family and when they have girls marriage they gave money to boy family .
video lao jldi kya karrhe ho 3 din se
Sir?
How you here?
Man of culture i see
It's good to see that I've subscribed to both the channels
Aapki shadi me kitne lag gye 😏😏
Mine was a lockdown wedding and 25 was the restriction 👍😁
But I am still answering people why they were not invited 😂
I think marriage should be banned in India, at least for next 20 years......
They love eating for free
@@slayypoint126 भाई बिना marriage के भी बच्चे हो सकते है 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Same here
@@slayypoint126 wah 🤦♂
Accepting the fact that "I'm privileged" might sound like boasting but he said that with all Sanity.. Unlike star kids saying "Humne struggle Kiya he, 50kgs loose kiya falaana dhimkana" We've learned all shitty things from Bollywood..It's high time to follow influencers like Mohak❤️
I don’t think we need to follow someone rather listen to everyone’s opinions and take decisions that would work for you or make sense for you.
Bollywood honestly has such big impact on every Indian's life. And the fact that Bollywood is a reason for so many topics on your videos.
"We have fairly backward audience in India"
- Satyajit Ray
*North Indian*
@@Gop101 that is actually very ignorant of you out of all things
@@Gop101 ha na South to dudh ka dhula hai
Iam south Indian , but Bollywood don't have any impact on me.
I am from Rajasthan, the biggest problem of a middle class family is the wedding expenses and 60% of the wedding expenses are spent, no matter how poor I am, it is necessary to buy gold. Or yahe perja kabhi khatam nai hogi 😔
Haqiqat baat hai sir
@arjunjaat83-many people have stopped marrying now this way new trend it is due to such things that many people are not marrying within their community
पैसे की बर्बादी और व्यर्थ की ड्रामेबाजी विवाह से दहेज मुक्त विवाह श्रेष्ठ है
एक लेवा एक देवा दूतम, कोई किसी का पिता ना पुतम।
रेड संबंध जुड़े शब ठाठा, अंत में सब बारह बटा।।
यहां पर हम इस वाणी का अर्थ नहीं बताएंगे यह आपको "जीने की राह" पुस्तक में मिल जाएगा
हम यह बताने की कोशिश करते हैं जैसे कि कोई डॉक्टर कोई इंजीनियर कोई अन्य पोस्ट प्राप्त करने के लिए जिस प्रकार मर्यादा में रखकर अर्थात शिक्षा ग्रहण करने के लिए स्कूल जाना पड़ता है गुरु से शिक्षा प्राप्त करना पड़ता है ड्रेस यूनिफॉम में जाना पड़ता है इसी प्रकार
मानव जीवन को सफल बनाने के लिए हमारे सथ ग्रंथ है जो परमात्मा का विधान है इस विधान से अगर विपरीत काम करते हैं तो हमें लाभ नहीं मिलेगा जिस प्रकार कोई बच्चा पढ़ाई छोड़ कर काम करने चले जाए और कहे मैं डॉक्टर बन जाऊं तो वह व्यर्थ का सर पटकना है
अधिक जानकारी के लिए पडढ़े "जीने की राह"
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The best wedding i attended was one inside IIT Delhi campus , a professor's son got married and only 30 people were invited. Most simple and decent wedding i attended. No loud noise only simple instrument playing.
Was he south Indian? That's what I love to see.. Just hate the firecrackers noises until midnight in North India. South Indian marriages are less noisy and usually happens in daytime. North Indians are in hangover of the Muslim kings rule in India. At least all Hindus should restart weddings during day.
@@abhilashkrishnan1693 south Indian spend too much more than a north indian....
You can see that too...
It depends
Most would think inviting unknown small amount of people instead of inviting your relatives and throwing grand party could indicate your commitment towards that relationship and your will to work on it and gear it forward
But upper class people with their divorces here and there, it’s not surprising people are not seeing importance of marrying traditional way by inviting all your relatives and friends and welcoming other person in your life and giving promise in front of everyone you know
@@Navs006 abey yar , yaha par mat shuru ho ja 😭
Now that is a nice way to marry.
I hate it whenever people defend a bad thing in society by saying "it helps the economy, dude". This just proves to us that the current economic system is so full of shit that we have to literally torture ourselves to make it "grow" in any way.
Unpopular Fact - Mohak Can Make Unlimited Videos On Marriage 💀
The Assamese marriages before this decade consisted of only two ceremonies-"Juron" i.e. The Ring ceremony &The wedding day.
Thanks to Social media, Bollywoodisation of Assamese culture and Economic growth- Mehendi,Haldi,Sangeet are now added in Assamese marriages.
Hosai, logote hei expensive photoshoots bur....dikhawa bohut amar axomiya r
Koribo diok he biya dangor ke pati jodi bhal pai patok aru ... Bohut business eiboror uprot e choli ase , Aru amar o khuwa luwa hoi jai aru exaaj besike 😂
@@xylermanas4025 আপত্তি কৰা নাই । Facts কৈছোঁ । আপত্তিটো মোহক দাদাইয়ো কৰা নাই, তেওঁ facts কৈছে ।
I am an Assamese aru moi tu enekoi biya nokoru
@@PrantikaJagannath পাৰে যদি কৰক, অৰ্থনীতিৰ বাবে ভাল🤭
I would like to share that northeast Indian weddings are very simple compared to other Indian weddings. I am an Assamese girl from Northeast and our weddings are relatively less expensive because the bride wears simple jewelry and also dowry is not a headache. Please don't get offended I just wanted to share.
Yeah in Assam we don't have dowry.
I have been to the Northeast... great culture. This should be applied to rest of the India.. because the Dowry people don't want to have Girls.
Yas we assamese dont take dowry 😊
Yeah so true.... The concept of dowry has always been alien to me cause here it doesn't exist...
I used to live in Assam before, now I live in Lucknow. Yeah, I conform that in North India they don't have any fu*king shame to take dowries in 21st century.
One more reason which I feel might be responsible for large scale weddings- After the ceremony, several people especially family members comment ' Shaadi ache se ho gai'. Somehow people equate 'marriage' with 'wedding'. They think that if the ceremony is lavish, it automatically means that the couple will lead a good life.
This is ofcourse just my feeling.
All the spendings of marriage is based on one dialogue "शादी दुबारा नहीं होती"
@@jenab2656 nobody cares
@@jenab2656 ?
Janam bhi dubaara nahi hoti ... Fir bhi koi bhi insaan kabhi tumhare pehla janamdin me 1 cr kharch krte hai kya ?
@@jenab2656 kitna kharcha Hui total?
In India parents would rather spend lakhs on their daughter's marriage than getting her good education so that she can be self independent. Even if she has a job, if it's not government and her to be husband works somewhere far off, she's asked to quit the job. Have seen it happen multiple times in front of eyes and that's why I'm working hard on cracking govt exams. There's no other way to be independent in middle class families.
@@kdjoshi726 you said it yourself and it's true. They won't ask you to quit if you've a high paying job. But not everyone has a high paying job. Doesn't mean they should be asked to quit and give up on their financial independence.
yeah infact i think the gender roles should be switched in india and the women should become the breadwinner of the household
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s Are you serious or joking 😂🤣
पैसे की बर्बादी और व्यर्थ की ड्रामेबाजी विवाह से दहेज मुक्त विवाह श्रेष्ठ है
एक लेवा एक देवा दूतम, कोई किसी का पिता ना पुतम।
रेड संबंध जुड़े शब ठाठा, अंत में सब बारह बटा।।
यहां पर हम इस वाणी का अर्थ नहीं बताएंगे यह आपको "जीने की राह" पुस्तक में मिल जाएगा
हम यह बताने की कोशिश करते हैं जैसे कि कोई डॉक्टर कोई इंजीनियर कोई अन्य पोस्ट प्राप्त करने के लिए जिस प्रकार मर्यादा में रखकर अर्थात शिक्षा ग्रहण करने के लिए स्कूल जाना पड़ता है गुरु से शिक्षा प्राप्त करना पड़ता है ड्रेस यूनिफॉम में जाना पड़ता है इसी प्रकार
मानव जीवन को सफल बनाने के लिए हमारे सथ ग्रंथ है जो परमात्मा का विधान है इस विधान से अगर विपरीत काम करते हैं तो हमें लाभ नहीं मिलेगा जिस प्रकार कोई बच्चा पढ़ाई छोड़ कर काम करने चले जाए और कहे मैं डॉक्टर बन जाऊं तो वह व्यर्थ का सर पटकना है
अधिक जानकारी के लिए पडढ़े "जीने की राह"
सभी धर्मों के सथ ग्रंथों से जानिए "जीने की राह"
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@@kdjoshi726 nope, happened to my aunt. She was a head nurse b4 wedding, Government sector,and earned around 40k or something. She got married,had 2 kids n it was getting difficult to manage it,so she had to quit her job,her family members persuaded her to do so. However,she has now opened her own grocery store,a big one,earns more amount and is able to take care of both the kids too all thanks to God. N yeah,her in-laws are also very good n loves her a lot
As an introvert I support no big fat wedding.
Me and my husband got married 2 years ago, it was a quick budget wedding, a decent hall, 30 family members and 2 pandits, thats it. We saved that money for 1 month of honeymoon and setting up our house. I sont see a point of calling people you dont know and who are eventually going to criticize the arrangement or the family. It's hard to earn money these days and i believe everyone must spend it wisely
Who doesn't know that Mohak is married:😂
I would rather buy a fortuner than spending on weeding.
According to me weeding is a waste of time nd 💸💰.
And we can get seggs without marriage..
Me 😀
Damn me too
Alexa, play Heartbreak anniversary
Bhai sir ki age kya hogi clear this doubt please
You are literally changing India by creating such content! Loads of love and gratitude bhaiya! ❤
India is not going to change with just a video.
Waah matlab iss video ke baad change ho jayega log shaadi Mai befizul kharcha karna bandh ho jayega ????
Lol, get real dude.. he is just doing his part. But truth is, no one changes after watching a video.
@@heatsingh2205 there has to be a start, from some point.. People barely even think about these topics.. But the same time.. These matters impact our lives pungently
Cool guys!.. I couldn't rein in my frenzy of excitement and gratitude 😁❤😂.. But what I blurted out in a way, makes sense too
One major problem is that most couples want a bigger wedding at their parents' expense and because of social stigma they have to oblige. The day parents refuse to pay, wedding celebrations will start getting sensible.
My parents were not well off and after my job only things got better. Now, they are just saving the money I send to them and ask me to save as well so that we can spend it on my wedding.
Parents wanna follow societal norms the most..
पैसे की बर्बादी और व्यर्थ की ड्रामेबाजी विवाह से दहेज मुक्त विवाह श्रेष्ठ है
एक लेवा एक देवा दूतम, कोई किसी का पिता ना पुतम।
रेड संबंध जुड़े शब ठाठा, अंत में सब बारह बटा।।
यहां पर हम इस वाणी का अर्थ नहीं बताएंगे यह आपको "जीने की राह" पुस्तक में मिल जाएगा
हम यह बताने की कोशिश करते हैं जैसे कि कोई डॉक्टर कोई इंजीनियर कोई अन्य पोस्ट प्राप्त करने के लिए जिस प्रकार मर्यादा में रखकर अर्थात शिक्षा ग्रहण करने के लिए स्कूल जाना पड़ता है गुरु से शिक्षा प्राप्त करना पड़ता है ड्रेस यूनिफॉम में जाना पड़ता है इसी प्रकार
मानव जीवन को सफल बनाने के लिए हमारे सथ ग्रंथ है जो परमात्मा का विधान है इस विधान से अगर विपरीत काम करते हैं तो हमें लाभ नहीं मिलेगा जिस प्रकार कोई बच्चा पढ़ाई छोड़ कर काम करने चले जाए और कहे मैं डॉक्टर बन जाऊं तो वह व्यर्थ का सर पटकना है
अधिक जानकारी के लिए पडढ़े "जीने की राह"
सभी धर्मों के सथ ग्रंथों से जानिए "जीने की राह"
🏷️ अधिक जानकारी के लिए "जीने की राह" पुस्तक फ्री
अपना नाम ,पूरा पता, पिनकोड ,मोबाइल नंबर हमें 🥏 Whatsapp करें +91 7496801825
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🏵️ श्रद्धा MH ONE टी. वी. पर दोपहर 2:00 से 3:00 तक
🏵️ साधना टी. वी. पर शाम 7:30 से 8:30 तक
🏵️ पॉपकॉर्न मूवीज पर रात 7:30 से 8:30 तक
📣 Visit Sant Rampal Ji Maharaj on RUclips.
Nah most of my friends want lavish weddings
Especially that pre and post wedding tantrums is mostly from spoilt brat kids i have literally seen my cousin throwing tantrums at her wedding to literally everyone I basically became her photographer in her wedding giving me orders take photo from here there I was thinking like " sis your just getting married calm down you yourself will not be interested in your own photo after a year "
One of my friends papa... Won't spend money on her education.. Because of her marriage he want to save the money.. This is still ground reality of our society.. And there are already so many...
that's terrible
From being an introvert to sharing your wedding pics just to show your dedication towards your work ❤️❤️❤️ awesome man 👑👑.
Content pe dhyan de bas. Personal kyu ho raha hai bhai..
पैसे की बर्बादी और व्यर्थ की ड्रामेबाजी विवाह से दहेज मुक्त विवाह श्रेष्ठ है
एक लेवा एक देवा दूतम, कोई किसी का पिता ना पुतम।
रेड संबंध जुड़े शब ठाठा, अंत में सब बारह बटा।।
यहां पर हम इस वाणी का अर्थ नहीं बताएंगे यह आपको "जीने की राह" पुस्तक में मिल जाएगा
हम यह बताने की कोशिश करते हैं जैसे कि कोई डॉक्टर कोई इंजीनियर कोई अन्य पोस्ट प्राप्त करने के लिए जिस प्रकार मर्यादा में रखकर अर्थात शिक्षा ग्रहण करने के लिए स्कूल जाना पड़ता है गुरु से शिक्षा प्राप्त करना पड़ता है ड्रेस यूनिफॉम में जाना पड़ता है इसी प्रकार
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True mohak fans already knew he is married ☺️
Me too
yes me to..... i knew
How?
Bro he gave some hints in his previous videos
He answered in the video where he told about his world Bank internship
I saw my friend's grade weddings and decided not to do such things. Also, the fact is that I and my husband are financing it. Although we belong to a family who can afford a grand wedding, we decided not to take money from our parents. I invited limited close friends and family. I don't care what people think or talk. The only expensive cost was the photographer. 😅 we spend it for some good realistic memory. And I was surprised when I see people dm me and say after a long time they saw such good happy simple wedding photos. We got married in a mosque. The after-parties were in my home. The two beautiful days of the nonstop party were the best part of it. I spend a minimum on clothing and make-up. I believe if I am happy and smiling nothing else matters.
That's great. Enjoyment and positive memories for a life time should be more important for the bride and groom
People like you are our true influencers. Kudos!!
"We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like."
~Tyler Durden
Even if someone has their wedding on the moon, there will still be that relative who thinks it's cheap
😂😂😂
Why should you care ?
Marriage of XÆA-XII be like :-
There was a chapter in my english textbook about a guy's marriage and in ncert there was a question should marriages be lavish and my teacher asked me to answer on it and i said that marriages should be lavish if you can afford because it is a lifelong memory and should be celebrated in a grand way.
Is it "The proposal" in class 10?
@@SunnyandBunny BHOLI
@@elonmusk3807 bholi was the one about a girl and dowry, proposal,if I am not wrong was about two neighbors fighting for land and the neighbor's daughter
I would rather buy a fortuner than spending on weeding.
According to me weeding is a waste of time nd 💸💰.
And we can get seggs without marriage..
@@anushajain8198 ya bro I am currently in class 10th and you are absolutely correct
मैं ग्रामीण इलाके से हूं और यहा भी लोग शादियों में 4-5 सालों की आय खर्च कर देते हैं।
Big issue raised by Mohak👏👏
संत रामपाल महाराज का सत्संग सुनने
its not important how big or small the wedding is, the thing matters is how strong your relationship is.
Tumari "strong relationship" se tumari fufa ji ko thodi panner ki sabji milne wali hai
@@productiveguru-ih9je to kya Fufa ji ki maang zada important tere Hisab se ??
Absolutely agreed that's how it should be
100%.
"Are Indian weddings a waste of money?"
Short Answer: Yes they are :/
still we waste bcoz of society🤣
You don't know so shut your mouth why only Indian are targeted i am not saying do expensive wedding but do a good and normal wedding and perform all the rituals.Why don't you say to rich people who spend crores of rupees for their wedding?
@@itsAPC not me..... I am not a slave to society
No they are not if anyone can afford, there should be no pressure on anyone for spending a very high specific amount of money.
@@deepmazumder1619 then who cannot afford will be shamed due to societal behaviour
answer is a absolute and astounding yes.
For middle class family : whenever parents pays for the wedding it would be wonderful for kid.
Only those people who pays for their own wedding only knows the true answer to this question.
I have observed since the ban on dowry, bride's family spend all the money which was to be spent on dowry on making the marriage function more memorable.
And i think thats much better than giving dowry....
@@gossip.wave11 giving dowry ime form of cars ,money and jwellery can be sold in future rather than feeding people who you have not even seen from decades .
@@gossip.wave11 in what way? The ceremony has no utility to the married couple beyond just showing off on the day... at least, if what was given were something like a flat, or a vehicle, those can be used by them. I'm not condoning the practice of 'dowry', just contesting your opinion that spending that money on a 'lavish' wedding ceremony is "better".
Dowry bs naam ka ban h...bina uske up bihar me ldke wale rista pkka hi ny krte..
@@chhavisparshi3244 than don’t marry them, that’s the only way.
Wow Mohak, being self aware and acknowledging the fact that you were privileged is something I have never seen before.
Social status and social pressure is the #1 reason for high wedding costs in my opinion. I too want to just do a court marriage and a reception, but every single point I discussed with my parents on why having a simple marriage is beneficial for all was invalidated by them because "log kya bolenge/sochenge". In my opinion it's a waste of money just for couple instagramable photos. As for helping the economy, I can't care less when I'm more worried about giving my wife and my child a good life ahead.
Instead of marriage you should buy land with that money. Registration fee for women is 2% of total land value. Where men have to give 5%.
Log kya kahenge is one of the biggest diseases that afflicts our society and people only gossip for few weeks and few months at most. Not worth spending years of income through hardwork on such people.
court marriage and later giving a reception makes more sense
But Its cuts cheaper but more enjoyable events like mehndi,Sangeet,haldi etc. Which are really great
@@luckynath6188 if you have the money then go for it. I personally do enjoy such events but spending lakhs on it also does not make sense to me.
But when you look back and think of you marriage memories you have nothing except a court in your mind standing in queue
@@shabnamkhanam5987 I do want to make memories but i would rather do it with my family and not with 200 odd guests and relative who have come there just to eat food. I would rather spend the money on something useful like a new car 😜
@@rishisharma8311 exactly, I agree with you.
I think in addition to what you said, it's just a huge cultural thing in India (at least North India). Even where Bollywood or Insta are not that popular (smaller villages), we see the majority share of debt that families have are because of weddings (next biggest being medical expenses). Of course a large part of this is dowry, which is kind of separate from what you were talking about, but I feel only Bollywood and Insta can't explain this phenomenon. It's deeply cultural.
Thanks for the very informative video!
You can deny the impact of insta but you can't deny the impact of bollywood
Yes they may not be directly affected from it but people started copying rich people to look rich and it was brought mainstream by Bollywood
The chronology here is :-
Rich people started it
Bollywood copied from them (not exactly copied but Bollywood always shows larger than life scenarios)
People copied from Bollywood
And villagers copied from what they saw in other weddings
@@_qe Not only Bollywood, most film industries have this common thing, showing unrealistic things and making them standard
@@yumi-e2o -yes but it was not so publicized as it is today throughout the country
@@yumi-e2o may i know the region and economic category of your grandmother's grandmother
@@harshit6045 it's not unrealistic from Ancient times we Indians Hindus or people who lived in this part of area used to do grand wedding bcoz wedding bring families together, groom and bride both get chance to meet eachother families and relatives. Sirf social status ke liye nahi balki social gathering karne ka bhi bada tarika hai ye, tum khud socho Holi diwali, jese festival par relative ek dusre ke ghar jate hai ye sab chize hamne social gathering family gatherings ho sake uske liye banayi thi but aajakal kuchh log zaroorat se zyada spend karte hai
A superb holistically analysed multi-faceted video covering all dimensions with a beutiful conclusion. Really you deserve appreciation. Best part is that yeah there neither should be any compulsion to do big budget weddings nor criticism if someone doesnt want that. Its a personal choice how you want things in your personal life.
I really appreciate your honesty and humble nature! Very few people would open state that they are privileged. Everyone wants to show themselves as weak and lie to the fullest in order to gain sympathy.
Hats off to your attitude and keep maintaining the same! Your videos are great as usual and keep doing the good work!
Exactly! Kudos to him for this acceptance. This seems quite normal but believe me it’s not normal for accepting that you belong to a quite well off family!
0:02 - ekdam se halat badal diye , jazbaat badal diye, oooo bhaiii 😂😂😂🤣
The best part about mohak is he is openly saying he is privileged .. Not like others who says they come from a very poor family, faced a lot of struggle to get attention / sympathy
The fact that he is privileged and he didn't felt like to hide it instead told it proudly was so good of him
I am a Bangladeshi 🇧🇩🇧🇩
Yes, you are right. A few days ago we had a wedding in Bangladesh which was organized on a floating stage on a pond.
This is an initiative to do something different.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Nice idea I'll do it on a hot air balloon lel 😂🤣😂
hahahahahaha
@@chhatrasal5934 it's not that different .
Type Hindu bengali weddings...
Bangladeshi weddings are similar except the fact that they do the Qubool hai Stuff instead of going around the Agni ...
@@rishavkumar1250 Muslim marriages are easier than Hindu weddings. Muslims just have to do nikkah and they become each other's wife and husband. In Hindus, it's long process and expensive.
@@patrickbatemanfromohio not true.
Only the nikah part is easy .... in villages muslims still follow lots of rules
5:48 best part 😂😂😂
This topic is very important and thank you for cover it !!!
I completely agree with what you said at the end. There are people who have the money to spend in weddings and consider that a worthy expenditure. That is also good for the economy as it provides for many in the wedding business. However, there must be no pressure. Not having big weddings should also be normalised.
I don't want an extravagant wedding for myself but I do want a beautiful one that would be memorable.
Yes, they kinda are, especially when we have the simple opportunity to get done with a court marriage. This applies to all weddings where people spend a hell lot of money just for the sake of it.
If I ever manage to find someone who is ready to get married to me (I doubt their existence) I will opt for the basic court marriage. Other than that, I would like to host a simple mutual reception where we can call our closest people for their blessings and feed them good food without much of a ruckus.
Same thought❤
Yup I also want to do the same thing but my family is so orthodox that it is impossible in this lifetime.
Can you narrate your purpose of marriage ?
From your writings it seems you are not subscribing mainstream thoughts of the society.
@@indiancitizen4334 Well, marriage is about togetherness and the desire to be with someone as well as share your space with someone.
@@dipalidewangan1484 Don't worry it isn't impossible. We can always try to reason to a certain degree.
Mohak indirectly said that he is married 😂😂🤣🤣 Crush logo ki Dil toot gayi 😂😂🤣🤣
Girls ko mohak pr crush tha .?? Kaise
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@@mohinishmukul7139 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤦♀️😂😂🤣 Kya pata!!! 🤣🤣
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Ruko Google kar k bata rahi hoon 😂😂
Wait omg 😭, congratulations mohak ❤️❤️ lot's of good luck for your marriage 🕺this was SUCH a surprise 😂🥂🎉
Who is watching this video while Ambani's wedding drama is still going on??😂🤣
4:27 Guys by just seeing those illustrations don't think that you're gonna get bald, stages 1, 2 from the frontend are mostly the cases of Widow's Peak and they are natural for a man, don't stress until you're losing hairs from the crown too. Just a factual advice.
1:05 koi to hai social media mai jo khud ko Amir bolta hai 😂
Hum tooh bhai middle class haa😥😥😥😥.Kash hum bhi privilege hote.
Dhumdhaam wali Shaadi is just a way for people to show their status to the society.
Here in My Village in Tamilnadu, We have a 2-day marriage function, with the 1st day of Marriage & 2nd day for Reception.
Music Orchestra is something which got included in our recent family wedding which took place less than 10years before.
Then we have grand food & the next day is Reception & on the 3rd day, all families depart back to their home, so the Breakfast for the 3rd day shall be arranged.
This too costs much & both the families of Bride & Bride groom share the expenses, but definitely not on a Equal proportion.
Also, the cost of wedding tolls heavy, especially on the rural and tribal populations who previously used to have simple weddings. Now, they need to take loans from the rich zamindars and money lenders just to live up to the expectations. In 12th grade, we read a Bengali piece about Palamu which narrated the woes of tribal people and how the debt of wedding costs always kept them indebted to the zamindar class leading to more exploitation.
In south india it was some what economical compared to North India
Palamu of Jharkhand?
@@NeerajMishra03 Yes, I guess then it was a part of Bihar and it's also close to West Bengal.
@@aishikamitra It's not zamindar class exploitation...It's the slavery of desires which are not even natural...How can desires be natural...It's a result of greed , pride , ignorance and egotendencies... Zamindars couldn't become zamindar without the passive will of those people...Just because those people were not inwardly seeking....They didn't know that they could become slave of desires implanted by the society ....It's simply a cycle of FOMO (fear of missing out)...Even I am a Bengali from west Bengal and I know how society implants desires artificially in the mind of people who are already spiritually and economically ignorant taking the name of popular culture. You should listen to acharya prashant. There cannot be one way exploitation ..the exploited always invites exploitation for them voluntarily becoming slave of society , greed , desires and FOMO...The only natural desire of consciousness is "Freedom"...Rest of the desires are deeply biologically rooted as well as society and economy rooted....
@@adwaitvedant3297 Sorry, but I have to disagree to your points as they are catered towards the colonial mindset of victim blaming. That's the same attitude used by capitalists all around the world to justify exploitation as they rest in their soft beds and it's the same principal which was once used by slave traders who thought that us Indians as well as other indigenous people stand nowhere compared to their superior stance in society. A lot of the 'FOMO' you talk about has actually been instilled by the so called 'educated' class to monetise the natural resources found in the rural and tribal lands of India. Similarly, the marriage customs have been extensively changed in areas because of the greed inculcated by the so called zamindars. They often tie the debt takers by huge interests which often includes taking away most of their farm production or force them to work as indentured labours. A similar thing is seen in almost all labour intensive work, especially those that are seasonal, where many workers are sometimes paid in goods rather than actual wages.
Also, the idea of freedom varies between people, so it's hard to put down your stance of freedom as the only one that's supposed to be true.
Unpopular fact-mohak can make infinite videos on dowry, marriage,jobs,groom,brides etc etc😂
i really loved the part where u gave ur marriage's reference which made this vedio give a personal instinct..as always good & great content !😍😇😃
Mohak bhaiyya accepting the fact that he is privileged just shows how much a down-to-earth person he really is.
Alhamdulillah, I am from a rural area of Jammu and Kashmir. If someone is doing a big wedding here, it is said that he has done a lot of bad things because he has increased the rituals for the people, so here we have Marriage without dowry and very simple.
So true ....i have lived in J&K and witnessed it myself ....there they're have small day wedding ...no showoff ...no dowry ...
Which district bro I'm from poonch
Not here in West Bengal. 😢
Yes you are right I'm also from a village in jand k and we have very simple weddings
Hello Bhai love from Jammu
Sabse bda reason to ye hai..😄0:41
11:03 Ye Dil se nikala h sayad... 😂
In my Sister's wedding held on 3rd February 2020 , 1500 guest were invited and 1200 guest attended it 🙏🙏🙏
People can choose to have their wedding in any way they wish with their money. But if there is social pressure to spend more than their means, or to borrow a lot of money for weddings, then it is a total rubbish social practice, and should be frowned upon.
@Saurav-that is what is happening nowadays and you find people taking loan even for weddings
It doesn’t matter how financially well family you belong to, if you have dignity, the money spent of your wedding must be from your earnings.
Thanks for making complex topics easy to understand. Love you mohak💓
The difference between thumbnail and uploading date :🗿🗿
Weddings can be a time to set an example. I am a fairly rich guy,. being a residential developer. Yet i married small. 300 or so people, small by our standards. Small feasts. No dowry. No force on the bride's side to do this or that. Now many of my friends have followed suit. You can do that too. And bring about the social change.
City m rehne wlo ke liye 300 bhi bht bda number hai han pr Gav ya chote town ke hisab se dekhe to 300 avg invitation hi hai 🤣
@@abhishekjoshi8327 i live in a city. Here it's normal to have 2-3K people of my standard to be invited.
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@@abhishekjoshi8327 Agreed lol my parents had like 400 smth guests that too 250 smth being from my dad's side
It's their choice. If people want to have a grand wedding, they shouldn't ruin their special day just to SET AN EXAMPLE
Acharya Prashant has been stating the ill effect of bollywood on the lives of Indians since the last 10 years. Glad to see an initiative on this topic.
My opinion:-
You only live once
If you earn decently and can afford a good lavish wedding
Just do it
It's the most memorable day for everyone I guess
And making it even more special doesn't sound wrong to me
I guess people might disagree but that's just my personal opinion
The key word is "if" . On the other hand people shouldn't be shamed for having a modest wedding
Very true
Well I guess one can have as lavish a wedding as one wants, but the point to consider is to spend one's own money. Expecting one's parents to spend lavishly on a one day party is stupid and irresponsible.
@@adilmk128 once i went to a wedding reception and saw that guests were served daal, bhaat, one sabji, aam ki chutney and fish curry . That kind of food or even better is consumed by average people on day to day basis. Whats so special in it?
On the other hand another neighbour gave grand party and plenty of item were served to the guests on the same day.
Surely both were at extreme ends but the lavish party is justified because they could afford it. The other one was horrible. If you cant afford atleast decent dinner for your guests, dont invite to embarass them. Its better for such people to conduct the party within close friend and family circle. Giving lavish food to 25-30 people is better than feeding crap to 300 people.
It's about expending beyond means not emotions
I am also privileged, dad spent 40 lack in my marriage 2014. After two months they again started asking dowry. After that I took divorce. Now I feel it is waste of money.
I as a Christian need only to buy for two rings and both of us ran to a church and find a pastor and start the wedding ceremony without anyone else. Only 30mins 🙂. And u r happily live a long lasting marriage 😀
Muslim wedding only 15 minutes 😅😅
Its great to see christian wedding are cheap but in northeast we have to feed our realitives with good food 😅
Yes... But nowadays even in christian marriages we have many functions like mehendi and haldi Before church marriage... And photoshoot ka alag... Jyada toh photoshoot me he karach jaate hain.. makeup aur khane ka alag
When you realise;
Video to ek bahana tha
Baki mohak Yahi batana chahta tha ki i am married.....😂😂😂
😂😂
True. "Shaadi Scam hai! Bramhachari jeevan apnao"
We avoid spending 15 lakhs for a better education but can easily spend 25 lakhs on wedding!
In these days investing 15 lakhs on education is futile too rather invest in a business idea
Aur muth maaro
25 lakh ka budget aam ho gya hai aaj kal
@@vanshikakaushik6497 for business also you need knowledge, kidhar se aayega wo.
@@deepmazumder1619 this is the biggest myth my friend runs a communication agency with a school she was getting 15 k per month now she's making 60k per month by selling courses there are multiple businesses not one people open small cafes customized gifting business and so much more it's only willingness to earn from business that matters if you feel you lack knowledge watch Shark Tank job will always keep you broke so entrepreneurship is the best way people made huge from papad achar kachori matthi so much can be done without knowledge roo
You could've chosen to get married the simple way despite having money. But you chose a grand wedding, why? Because this is a once in a lifetime moment for parents and their kids. If you want to set an example then lead first.
Instead of wasting extra money on weddings , keep wedding simple and save that Extra money for your Honeymoon.
Invest that money in mutual funds
Bollywood and Instagram have an influence on the upper middle class and the rich class, but when it comes to semi-urban and rural areas, spending heavily on marriages is a deeply rooted social and cultural issue.. Especially in the Hindi heartland, not so much in the South
🌍संत रामपाल जी महाराज जी के विचार सुनकर व्यक्ति दहेज लेने व देने की सोच भी नहीं सकता।
ऐसे सटीक तरीके से सत्संग में समझाया जाता है।
संत रामपाल जी महाराज जी से दीक्षा लेने के पश्चात् हमने गुरू जी के आदेश का पालन करते हुए दहेज लेना-देना पूर्ण रूप से त्याग दिया है जिस कुरीति के कारण तीन परिवार नष्ट हो जाते हैं:-
1) लड़की का परिवार जिसकी बेटी दहेज की बलि चढ़ जाती है। उसके पास क्या बचता है, केवल रोना, मुकदमों में धन, समय व शांति खोना।
2) ससुराल वाला परिवार।
3) ननंद का परिवार जेल जाकर समूल नष्ट हो जाता है।
Mohak mangal is married is astonishing for me 🤣🤣🤣
Muje kya me to salman bhai se inspire hu 👀shaadi hi nai karni 😂😂
A relative of ours is spending close to ₹20 Lakhs on his daughter’s wedding.
10 Lakhs on preparation, gifts and all and 10 Lakhs on a car to gift.
He has 2 daughters so 40 Lakhs Rupees in total.
I asked my mom is it necessary? She said no but it will affect his social status in his village.
That's why we have less divorce cases because we think wedding as a very big occasion which comes only once in lifetime.
Nice point broo but that's y many ppl just shut up and suffer even when things get soo hard don't uh think
That sounds super depressing...
@@Aizen-zs3qu yup
@@Aizen-zs3qu indeed and this situation is also getting good because of women empowerment
But still when their is a dispute in a relationship in India the first thing we try to do is solve it we think about divorce only when situation is out of hands.
@@saurabh-singh haha
00:05 Mohak bhai aap toh bade khatarnak aadmi nikle. Marrying the girlfriend is still a dream for many middle class boys
He is not middle class
Chik Chik ke bta rha ha me privileged hu middle class nhi
This is a true anecdote my grandpa told me. 3 decades ago, it was my aunt's wedding. At that time black currant had recently grown popular in India. In the wedding, one of the groom's relatives told my grandpa that if they would eat ice cream, it will only be black currant. My grandpa had organised for 10+ flavours but black currant was not one of them. Since not giving them their ask would be like a blow to his resoect, he ordered for a large quantity if it. Since it was an immediate order it costed a lot. Thus, he spent about twice his monthly salary just to set that one flavour of ice cream.
10:25
Everyone should hear it properly
There are 2 more factors about why Indian weddings became bigger after 1990s !
1. The number of kids in the family reduced. After 1980s and 90s people had only 1-2 kids, so they could afford to spend a lot of their savings on the weddings. In the previous generations, in the 1950s and 60s and even 70s, parents had 3-4 girls and 1-2 boys ( in the pursuit of a son, 2-3 girls would be born, followed by a son, followed by a spare son.) Average family size was 5+. So they could not afford to throw such lavish weddings for each of their kids !
2. People could travel easily after 1990s, after the Maruti car came in the market and followed by luxury buses and railways connectivity increased as well as air travel became affordable, people could travel faster and comfortably!
Prior to that, every bua and every masi would not be able to travel with her entire family, hundreds of kilometres for every wedding. Now people even come from abroad very quickly and easily to attend the weddings. So the scale and spending of the weddings changed.
Yes, it's a complete waste of money. The worst part is our generation does sensible discussion on a platform like these and in real life looks for a family who can fulfil his/her expectations in a marriage....
@@stilxfound3813 it’s waste for the rich as well, the difference is they’re able to afford wasting money, poor people can’t… and those who overthrow themselves in fulfilling this waste being in either a middle class or lower, they cry a lot for the rest of their lives
@@farulahmed7644 take the weddings as like an entertainment cost.
If you argue that way. Anybody can say theatres are a waste of money, Netflix is a waste of money, stadiums, restaurants, Domino's, all are waste of money
Even iphones are a waste of money.
Let them spend on what they want to spend
@@farulahmed7644 In the same way buying an iPhone is waste of money too because you can easily get a good phone for 25k why to buy one?
Charu Uppal
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I have not watched the full video yet, but from the title and from the comments here is my initial response. Time permitting will write a detailed one later. Please consider this for now. The way weddings have been created today that is the problem, people should still be invited and ALL ceremonies should still be carried out. To think that weddings are replaceable is taking away a big event which brings together, ritual, prayers, people, and culture in one time and space. What needs to be done is coming up with ways, being creative in reducing the expense. How about pankti wedding, rather than buffet or hiring people.. reducing the number of food items, but maintaining ALL the ceremonies. Oh, that useless added expense these days...'gifts to guests.'. There were some traditional gifts given to young girls and that was it. The rest was within the family. And just cutting out those bollywood inspired alcohol parties which were Never a part of the wedding ceremony will make a difference. Stop cutting down on rituals.They play a significant role. And yes parents spent so much money on their children, in return children made sure the parents were taken care of....that way both celebration and old age were taken care of in the same family. Stop looking at interconnected themes of live as disjointed systems.
@@adityanayak872 of course they’re a waste of money… theatres (where you pay roughly 500-1000) for 3 hours entertainment is really a waste of money… netflix where you hardly watch 1 show in a month but pay premium of 300-400 is a waste of money.. stadiums , restaurants lets say 5 stars they’re a waste of money, dominos is definitely waste of money… iphones it has so many features and the camera is a professional photographer level camera, no one is able to fully utilise the camera or features unless you’re specialized in that field so it is a waste of money but here i can afford all these waste, and that’s what i said in the beginning… its all a waste, the difference is how much can you afford
I am from odisha and i am a Christian. We don't spend money in weddings rather we give that money to the poor people as a gift in festival time. And i am so happy for that. And one more thing, we also don't give dowry to groom's family. We do small wedding plan in the church. We call our very close friends and relatives. That's all our wedding. I am happy for my community and for my society. Which taught me this. Thanks for your video sir.
Sorry to say but hamaare mein aisi sasti shaadi nhi hoti 😂😂🤣🤣🤣
@@ShubhamKumar-vd9xy no problem that's your choice 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@amitkumarpradhan2529 thanks for replying 😊😊👍👍🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@ShubhamKumar-vd9xy most welcome bro...
And we are proud of our Hindu weddings which are the most fun weddings ever ( in my opinion)
I didn't want to spend much on my marriage but my father didn't agreed and took all my life's savings and spent on my marriage. Whatever money he spent, he asked back after few days of my marriage.
if he has taken all your life's saving then why he is asking for money from you
@@eren-qu9uu caz I earn salary every month duh
@@shoaibha no i am asking about last sentence , why he asked back , does it mean he spend his money on your marrige?
Ur dad is illiterate
@@eren-qu9uu caz he wanted to get the money he spent on my marriage
Mohak trust me . I come from rural area of darbhanga bihar and i have seen family selling their lands or taking dept from market with High rate for dowry and marriage night expenses like foods and gifts . It is very sad they don't have money at all in some cases . I feel that this is not going to change very soon as this is increasing day by day 😢
Same thing in AP many times
@@JustMe54328 sad 😭😭😭😭
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Bhai... Bohut aage jaoge tum.
Keep up the good work... and do not quit... I repeat, DO NOT QUIT
Without watching the video - YES IT IS.
No prob with a grand wedding or any major occasion for that matter if the spending is getting circulated among the local vendors. To think about it even spending on any religious festival is also a waste of money. Then again, a diwali dress or a christmas cake helps local businesses to grow
It is happier to see that privileged person like you spreading knowledge and making people aware about sociology and social science. Hat's off to you 👍
It depends on both people who want to get married. If both of their mindset doesn't match, doing not something flashy can ruin the whole life.
In my opinion, She and her people will hold grudge.
5:52 ooh bhai
Bhai I am shocked when I hear a govt. LDC who earns 30000 get a dowry of 60 lakh
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