A weekend away after the hardest year of my life
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- Опубликовано: 20 авг 2023
- AN ODE TO MY WIFE: After the hardest year of our lives Helen and I head to Tasmania to ride some single track, eat slowly, talk to friends and take stock of two people hurtling through space and time without enough sleep. Low and behold, we realised we’re ok and that the sleep will come and that our second kid- the non sleeper, was about to turn a corner.
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Filmed at the magnificent Blue Derby Pods Ride; accommodation, food and guiding. bluederbypodsride.com.au/
Big thanks to Tara, Steve, Charlie and the team at Pods for the mouthwatering food, trails, bev and company. Goodoya Vic, Sherb, Kel, Helen, and Jade and Charlie from Black Barn Farm.
Filmed by Mitch, Steve and Beau in Derby, Tasmania.
Directed by Beau Miles
Edited by Lucy Cawood with Mitch Drummond
Final Sound Mix
James Dobson
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As someone who is young, impressionable, and most importantly, has not hit the age of 25 yet, Beau has been an incredible inspiration to me in many ways. Much love.
What ways
Wait till you hit 25 😂
I'm 40, I guarantee you that he's onto something.
The loneliness is the hardest thing to get used too
I second that!
One of my favourite storytellers on the platform, thanks for your work Beau
Hello jay
Just subbed to you, because you like Beau... good man
Aw, love that we share an interest mate
He has a child for crying out loud, you really going to say that? He's awful. They're awful. You really think we have a future? You really think that?
^ bate
This guy really loves his wife, good for him and her.
Beau is such a genuine person. No fakeness, no fluff. Even a short 5 minute video of his I cherish because it's so _real_
How do you know?
@@valbonkapaza5103 I know from what I see, and I don't care about anything else because that's not what I watch him for. Everyone has flaws. _Every single person._ So what?
growing up with storytellers like you has genuinely been such a blessing
Thank you for joining us Beau and Helen, to say it was a pleasure to have you stay is an understatement! To many more adventures 🙌 Love, Tara, Steve and The Pods Ride Crew
Aw shucks. What a love fest. Yep. Can't wait to be back. One of my new mottos in life is when I have a great experience, return! Return!
I turned 46 6 months ago. I can confirm that it does get easier even with a 6 and 2 year old. I’ve just realised that this is my lot and instead of being unhappy with what I haven’t got got I’ve become grateful for what I have got.
Wow. Good luck. Hang in there and remember you control how you react to a situation. Don't let the situation control you. I'm 47 but both of my kids are grown but I still remember those tough early years.
Yes gratitude is the key.
Was seriously worried something bad happened to Helen. Glad everything is okay.
F*** me I know, right? I've been scrolling like mad trying to see what the problem was.
G'day folks. I'm going back on tour around the brown biscuit of Aus this week, about to hit up Hobart, Canberra, Adelaide and Perth. Tickets still available via my website, mates! beaumiles.com/screenings/
would be lovely to see you in the UK one day Beau 😊
Cant wait to see you in Adelaide next week.
Hey Beau, would you be able to share the study you read? Would love to read it thanks! Thanks for the great content, it's helped me a lot through my depression, a parttime Master and a job change last year or two.
love your work beau!
Gracing Brisbane with your presence anytime soon Beau?
Thanks for another great video. A solo parenting 31 year old dad of an energetic 2 year old boy (wife’s been away for work for almost 3 months).
I don't see aging the same. My young years and early adulthood were horrific. I was abused, made homeless, addicted, etc.
I now love the stability and boredom of being in my 30s and just having a nice safe life, a roof over my head, no drugs clouding my thoughts.
I have a boring job that I love, a dog, and a partner. I thought I'd be dead by this age, so my boring little life is just perfection to me.
My teenage years and twenties so far have been devoid of abuse or addictions thankfully so I really can't imagine, but I was homeless for 6 months and these years have generally been very lonely and trying. Full of the lack of confidence feeling behind everyone else brings in my twenties, and as a teen not fitting in at all. I honestly can't wait to enter my 30s and you inspire me. Adulthood means control, when you're young you have none, you're at the mercy of a world that tells you to sink or swim. Doesn't care about your young adult problems, invalidates them at every turn. Your life sounds wonderful and I'm glad you're with us.
i think aging is a threat for the ones who had it great when young. I'm not even close to the suffering you had but still that what I see on ppl
Great that you love your job. May I ask what you do for a living?
Well done, I know that must of been tough. Keep your chin up, there's no such thing as a happy ending, and you still have a long way to go.
Really resonate with this. These traumas change your perspective.
Beautiful words Bo. Moved a middle-aged man to tears. And I'm giving my wife an extra long hug when she gets home from work tonight. Thanks for making these films.
Ta mate. Good instincts.
Yeah, exxxtra lonnng
You would have gotten lucky that night lol! Good man. ❤
Does he glorify Jesus Christ?
Beau you and your wife appear to be handling a tough stage of life with grace. I have three, two of whom are under three years, and it’s so hard every day. Your ideas about backyard adventuring have been a huge inspiration to me with my own kids, so just remember you can make an impact on your family and your wider world even when it feels like you’re getting slaughtered. Let’s hang in there together!
On the other side! Thanks Q
Helen is not an ex-mountain biker. She IS a mountain biker! She knows what she is doing. Coming from a life long mountain biker. Great video Beau. Hope you both start finding things a little easier soon:)
You can only be what you are now. 🙏🏼
100% this, or any other hobby you have a passion for. You may take a “break” but it never leaves you, in the end. It’s whether you have the guts to force yourself to go do it
the beauty of the first 45 seconds, being the first 45 years - bravo
One of few genuently brilliant story tellers who isn't pushing at end of every video to like, subscribe and comment.
That's what I call an organic growth and true following.
Amazing channel! Keep up the good work!
To see a toddler learning new skills every day are magic.
One day she will be a teenager and make daddy worried for real.
I heard about this recently too; the "U-shaped curve of happiness". I actually found it a relief! I'm 38, two kids, business, mortgage etc, and wondered what I was doing wrong. Now I realise I just need to keep on chugging and enjoy the process - it'll get easier soon.
Thanks for your work, Beau, it's as beautiful as ever 🙏
Ta mate. We're in the thick of it! Goodonya
Doesn't sound like you are doing wrong man. Just keep at it and consciously keep trying to make your days better. They will.
I mean it won’t and that’s the issue with our system. It’s even worse for your employees that I am sure make much less than you. We just stress our lives away pretending it’s enjoyable
@@HelloThere-uh3ll
How do you know how he runs his business and how they feel? You can't control everything that happens around you . That's life. It's hard. Maybe get a better attitude
@@HelloThere-uh3llhis employees have an option to go start their own business or find a different job. That’s capitalism and a free market. Starting and owning a business isn’t easy. Your putting your entire life on the line and you do feel responsible for your employees.
"I got the better deal when I married Hellen. She's one good egg" - (Beau, 2023)
Im getting married in 10 days, definitely resonate with this, and will be using this quote for a while
Fantastic film. The funny thing as someone who is approaching 68 is, that none of the career, ego, looks crap ever mattered at all. It is only about how we treat each other ❤️
Well said.
I'm 27. You're telling me I've got 18 more years of adult angst?
I am 61,, it doesnt get ANY easier!!!😅😅😅😅😅
You might have, but you might not. Depends on how you go!
You can ride it any way you like. Stay optimistic.
Sweetie, it's all angst😂64 years here.
Don't get married and life will be easy
As someone with a fussy and demanding 10 month-old, and not a lot of friends who are parents, this video lands at the perfect time for me. Thanks Beau.
I'm 44yrs old, i needed to hear this.
I take my hat off to you guys, very weel spoken Beau.
Thanks. ❤
Every Beau Miles video feels like going for a short walk through a large maedow, with the sun shining and birds chirping. No other storyteller has this ability to instantly put me in the state of relaxation and contemplation you get when walking through nature.
Incredible guy
Beau and Helen, hang in there guys, ride the waves, it is SO worth it out the other side. Our youngest is 22 yrs old and we are reaping so many rewards now with these kids who we love to the moon and back. You are in the hardest stage right now. But it only gets better. Spend as much time as you can with your kids, and talk to them throughout the teenage years. And remember you and Helen come first ❤❤
My non sleeping second child turns 17 in a week. This kid is amazing. He’s a talented skateboarder, and general “wants to be outside; sitting in a chair is a waste of time” character. I’m 45 and can very much relate to the concept of happiness as a curve. Thank you for reaching out and touching our hearts with your talents.
I have no words..what a wonderful guy!
As a proud dad of a 18-months-old-rarely-sleeping daughter, this really helps. The lack of sleep makes everything, literally everything, a lot harder. Not everyone can understand this. But despite ups and downs, hopes and disillusions, I feel myself lucky. My daughter is happy, is healthy, loves us unconditionally: being also someone who works with severely ill people (children as well) this is never obvious. Enjoy every single minute of them, we all know that we can’t know how much it will last!
Beau i am close to turning 45. I absolutely love your storytelling. A genuine love for life, looking at life through honest eyes. Taking on incredible, challenging, and just plan old adventures. Hats off to you my friend!
Gearing up for our second baby in the next few months. My wife continues to astound me with how much she does, but I'm usually left with the feeling that my appreciation is just scratching the surface. Thanks for providing the encouragement I didn't realize was needed until hearing it.
Help her. Do all of the housework if you love her like you claim to.
I'm 25. My adulthood just started by the looks of it. Mortgage, Career, Bills, Moving.
This helps me realize that the crazy days are only valuable if you use them to gain experiences like this. Thank you Beau. Going to eat a can of beans for you tonight
Thankful to be hearing this today, best of luck to anyone and everyone reading this. one love!!
As a 30 single man I have not cried as hard at a RUclips video in my life. Beautiful story and honesty Beau. One day I hope to find someone half as good as either of you. Thank you for your channel and your heart.
Have a 13 & 11 year old here, at 42, life is busy, but in a different way, I remember the days of babies and toddlers, you definitely are in survival mode at times, it gets easier, enjoy each other, make sure you and Helen get to fill your cups too, great video, always enjoy the content. Cheers. 😊
hahaha ... as a grandmum now, I laughed and remembered... awesome ode xx
Thanks Beau. I just shed a few tears. You put that beautifully, and I appreciate the wisdom you have for your wife's life. Ah children, long days short years. All will be well if you both remain true to your path. Peace Nx
I love the encouragement for your wife to take care of herself, very few moms get time to themselves, much less any encouragement to actually take care of themselves during that time from their spouses! It's so lovely to see
I’ve been in the North West of Tasmania since April this year and I had no idea the North East was just as spectacular! I’m also 45 years old and building tiny houses and chook sheds for an off-grid community, but feeling the responsibility of family back in Qld- luckily the kids are almost grown up and doing well.
turning 25 in 4 months, and this is a masterpiece. THANK YOU!!
Number 2 is on the way. I really needed this. Thank you.
I feel your joyful pain. I had 5 non sleepers. Thankfully they finally get all their worst teeth through and then they suddenly start sleeping for the WHOLE NIGHT ! Magic!!! It always gets better.
I think if we could ‘live in our own being’, in a ‘more fluid way’, never at an ‘end state’, we could ride the waves of our journey on earth in a more peaceful way. Thank you do much for making this video and giving me this important perspective to think on.
♥️😌♥️
Loved the film...as an old man I'd say enjoy it all...one day and it will come way too soon the kids will have flown and you will look at your partner and say WHERE THE HELL DID THE TIME GO.
I'm a parent of two kids under three, with a wife who makes so many sacrifices in order for me to work for a living for our family. I've always loved your videos, but this one was more relatable than ever. Well done for celebrating Helen, and thanks for reminding us to celebrate our wonderful better halves!
I initially found this channel from the "Running a marathon, one mile every hour" video, like many, but I stayed for the personality, wisdom, and thought-provoking videos you always produce. Thanks.
You, sir, are a goddam legend ... [which likely makes Helen some sort of goddess?!]. This might be the most loveliest of love letters I've ever encountered. Thank you. [Again]. 🙏
Beau is the kind of person anyone would be happy to meet, and even happier to become
Literally feels like this was written for my wife and I (former mountain bikers). Our little baby is the best, but neither of us have any time to do the things we did prior and it takes its toll. Thanks Beau for one of your best videos.
You might be struggling with sleep but trust me Beau what you have is precious. Unfortunate events means I’ve missed the boat with kids but that’s ok, it’s got to be. So cherish your time and keep on being ripper parents. Thanks too for your stories because your videos make me smile.
You can always adopt. Same thing as kids
Beau reminds me so much of my departed father it kinda hurts. But its the good hurt of memories once had and good times missed.
We...Love...Helen............and Beau!
The utter selflessness of motherhood is something I never really appreciated. Now as a father, it's still not something I fully comprehend.
Hats off to Helen - all the other mothers who appear to drop everything for their families
If you don’t start taking Helen mountain biking once a month from now on you’re gonna have hell to pay with me personally. And that’s a bloody promise
It's fair enough
Nice username
@@m1ndfoxprobably don't want meth man mad at you.
Lmfao this is gold. But seriously, Beau and Helen are an inspiration for everyone. Two truly amazing people.
That was wonderful. You are indeed, a lucky man.
Beautifully said Beau
I have a 4 year old boy and a 2 year old girl. After we had our first and he was a shocking sleeper everyone said don't worry you never get two bad sleepers in a row you'll be fine for the next one. The little girl came along and wasnt a fan of sleeping either. Just starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel now Beau hang in there, couldn't agree more on how much tougher the mums have it too. Great video.
Much love to you and yours from a little family in Alberta, Canada.
Take care, Beau.
hello fellow Albertan
hello fellow albertan :D
Thanks Bass. I freakin Lovvveee Canada.
Beau & H. Love it. Welcome to the club. Ace vid big man. ❤
What an inspiration you are Beau❤ God bless you and your family..❤
You always get the right words Beau. I don't know if it's froced through hours of rewriting and rehearsal or improvised, but you always manage to just... "get it". Simple, genuine and the love you have for her just jumps out at the screen in all the little editing touches and words... Stellar work as always.
As a dad two, this made me go tell my wife how great she is. Great content man. Much love from Ohio bean boy.
What a beautiful ode
Beau, probably the best video you have made. Thank you
As a mother of two children under 5 and who used to go mountain biking every week, this brought a tear of happiness to my eye!
'uninterrupted stretching' 😂.
That's on point. We have 3 young boys that think when daddy stretches it's pile up time 😫🤣
Thanks for the videos, hi to Helen and kiddos.
lol, same here :D
That was a line for Helen who has had perhaps two stretches in the last month where a kid hasn't sensed in and bombed her
5 minutes 43 seconds of magic ❤
The most relatable opening minutes of any video in existence
G'day Beau, as a father of three (10, 8 and 5) I felt every single bit of this video.
It gets easier as time goes on but it doesn't get any less busy.
Thanks mate, you're the best.
This makes me cry. I am crying. Just today we are planning a logistics how to pick up my Boyfriends new MTB tomorrow. I am tyred, I have no alone time without our baby. I want some recognition for the keeping the house running, feeding them both. I am thirsty, I dont drink enough water :(
So it feels really good that at least one wife on the other side of the world gets here day in woods, love and a second proposal ♥
I am 70yo and I have seen and done all that stuff (including Derby, awesome)and you have summed it up in a few minutes. Very philosophical and oh so true.
Mate you just hit the nail on the head for me. Bravo 👏 👏
Thanks for sharing this Beau! What a guy you are amazes me! Your insights are so true. I‘m through the 25-45 rough patch, as a matter of fact I‘m 58. I can assure you that certain things do get easier because at some point a „whatever“ mentality sets in. No more social pressure. But I always say that life in general is hard. Nothing really prepares you for it, which is why we shouldn’t judge if someone fails or just isn’t as good at it. In any case, you have a beautiful family and a very healthy perspective on things. Enjoy it!
What an incredible husband and father you are. You are so thoughtful and kind. Accepting life on life's terms is a sure sign of wisdom. Keep on spreading the love and kindness.
Can't be a Beau miles fan without being a Helen fan. Thanks for the beautiful images.
You’re a fantastic filmmaker sir, thank you
As someone in their early 40s, the first minute of this video was definitely something I needed to hear. Thanks Beau
This made me tear up and smile at the same time because it's similar to what my husband and I are going through this very moment. We're entering our 40s and these past 5 years have been the fastest and most stressful years of our lives. We were going so fast in life that I found myself in a complete breakdown which caused me to leave my career last month, I had "switched off the circuit breaker". You did a great job on this video. You acknowledged the reality of a growing family and you'll make it through as long as you're committed. I'm glad to be reminded we're not the only ones.
Now this is a real man. the way he talks about his wife is lovely xxx
Derby is a hidden gem of a place. Beautiful filmmaking and beautiful message.
The first few years of raising babies feels like you are doing it from a cave. I was so focused on both of my kids that the world went by and I didn’t notice. It’s crazy how this instinct kicks in and envelopes you. You come out the other side a little exhausted and foggy but it’s so good. Thanks Beau! Best content on platform!!
Honestly mate, you’re both such good souls I can’t help but love the pair of you. You’re excellent humans ❤
Beau, you're a gem, and you've found yourself a gem. What a pair you two are.
My awesome wife is due to give birth to our first child in 7 days. This is a good lesson to remind me to help make sure she has time for herself and the things she enjoys.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 congratulations! You baby will be over 1/2 a year old by now
What a beautiful video, Beau. You did well marrying Helen. I'm glad she was able unwind for a little bit. I reckon she needs a vacation more often 😄👍
I'm in the thick of all this right now. 42 with a baby under two, really learning what it means to live for someone else and not be selfish for once in my life. To want security and a safe space not for myself but for my family, so this really hits home. Health and happiness to you and yours mate.
Your videos and stories are absolutely amazing. Thanks Beau.
Love the quick clip of you getting pissed off the road wine. One of my favorites :D
Beau...you still continue to inspire us. So thanks.
Nice to have someone be real for once. Life’s not easy but it’s reassuring hearing that other people go through the same struggles.
Awesome to see you relax.
TY Beau Much Hugs. Am not fromDown Under but need to say Ta Mate. 💪🏻👍You share such relatable Life Passages , which are very heartfelt. ❤️ It’s a Beautiful thing we share. ❤️Please take care of yourself. 👌👍🙏🏻TY so very much. 😘
Beautifully said! I’m 35, and Can confirm what you are saying.
This last year I was working as a teacher for little pay in Spain. I'm 24 and life ain't what I thought it would be.
This video hit home. I took a holiday in Finland with my mate where we went hiking and did lots of sauna and lake swimming. After that, I can see life in colour again :)
As a guy who's wife is just about to leave with 2 kids aged 3 and 5 this really hits hard..
While watching this, Lonestar's Mr. Mom song was playing in my head.
No sleeping? Like their 24-hour challenge dad! 🙂 Love your films!
The kiddo dazed and confused in hat-land while you talk about snacks was quite cute and hilarious. I had forgotten how blinding a toque/beanie and jacket hood can be for the little ones.
Our second didn't sleep nights or during the day until he was over 2 years old. So I know how you must be feeling with two kids at that age with one not sleeping. Love this reflection and the way you show love towards your wife.
I enjoy your adventures Beau. And your honesty in regards to everyday situations. And l find the way you present your posting a really good watch. Thanks mate
I like so much what you are doing and the way you are doing it. Cheers from Switzerland
I love this story Beau, and you're absolutely right that your wife deserves it, as do all others, as they are remarkable in so many ways.