Why divorce can be so devastating for men
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When we realize that most women's love IS conditional, we as men feel jaded, cheated, and feel that life as a man is very loveless. So we must get a dog, look into ourselves and keep trucking through life.
Men do not love unconditionally. If she gains a 100lbs or stops having sex, you will stop loving her.
Woof woof, as a man, woof woof! 👍👌💪💪
The answer then is to not look for unconditional love from your woman and realize it’s other parts of the relationship that make it good/enjoyable. To not expect forever and focus on making the relationship work while it works. Knowing how it can end and let timing it end. She’s not your mom and even your mom’s love is conditional.
Yes, yes. The stoic response. Of course what you write is accurate, fully accurate even, just don't pretend though that it doesn't hurt or make us jaded. It is what it is but it kills a dreamer part of us we all have. We're not robots nor should we strive to be. As men, we live to build something lasting, and we get to realize for lasting relationships and all that entails, modern society/laws/customs/women make it pointless. Not great for society!
Men's love is conditional as well. If your wife suddenly started abusing you constantly everyday you will eventually leave her. Having conditions for a relationship is fine.
As a man, I’m not only expected to protect and provide, but I’m expected to love unconditionally and completely altruistically.
I’m expected to love her and cherish her regardless of if she’s working, regardless of if she’s contributing to the household expenses, regardless of if she’s spending beyond our means on petty frivolities, regardless of if she’s self absorbed, a terrible mother; a manipulator, a liar, a cheat. Regardless of if she gains weight or withholds intimacy. Regardless of if she shows affection, or if she just views me as a pay pig.
But if SHE for ANY reason, decides that the relationship isn’t “working” for her, then she’s not only ENTITLED to leave, but ENCOURAGED to do everything in her power (including lying to the courts) in order to take everything I have, destroy my life, and literally enslave me while she goes off and looks for “something better.”
At what point is this a good deal for me?
Never is brother, never is.
The wife is also ENTITLED to mentally leave the marriage and have children with other men without the husband explicitly knowing. The statistics are disturbing.
So, redefine what you want in a relationship. You don't HAVE to get married, you don't HAVE to cohabitate, and you don't HAVE to have children (surrogacy is a thing)
YOU set the terms of the relationship you want, and become the kind of man a woman would happily follow into that relationship.
It’s not. Get what you want and never commit. Let them suffer in their own crap
*SLAVERY OF MEN BY WOMEN*
Every Man irrespective of who they are must read the book by a German writer Esther Villar In her book "The Manipulated Man"
This book has caused outrage and *hostile criticism* from women, it explains how women since the earliest times have manipulated men and turned them into their slaves, they have *pretended* to be the oppressed sex while in the real sense they are the oppressors.
She explains how a woman manipulates a man skillfully by steps like *courtship* and finally *marriage* , hence the saying “ *a man chases a woman until SHE catches him”* .
In her book she explains how the man is *tricked* to care for the woman all his life and her offspring.
He rolls the stone like *Sisyphus* and in turn gets rewarded by a few minutes of sexual pleasure.
We can, by observing Esther Villars assertions that a man is a slave of his desires and the woman uses and has used it for thousands of years as a stick and carrot to keep the man chasing vanity and commit his life to serving her.
She goes ahead to explain the *rivalry of women* , how each woman feels the powerful urge and need to own a male for herself.
Like a *slave owner* she detests any move the man would make to offer his services to another woman. She uses all means to keep the man to herself and her offspring alone.
Esther Villar's sentiments are captured by Nigerian Poet, critic and writer, Chinweizu Ibekwe in his book, “The Anatomy of Female Power” (AFP) and Will Farrel's, “The Predatory Female”.
They all push the theory that all societies are matriarchal and not patriarchal as we are pushed and forced to believe. *Matriarchy has ruled not through brawn but wits and tricks;* women feigning weakness to be protected etc. Thus the male becomes the most exploited sex in human history, (in wars the man is always ready to die for the woman; he has been trained to do that).
Chinweizu calls the idea of *dating* and *courtship* , *training* , like that of a horse. It is during this time that a woman having kept the man on a leash by denying him sex and getting him addicted to her by false charms, trains and breaks him to whatever she wants him to become.
The marriage celebration becomes a celebration for the *woman and her friends,* and they all congratulate her for having succeeded in getting herself a *slave* .
A man on that *wedding* day waves goodbye to his independence and his coalition of males and commits himself to a *Sisyphean* life, rolling the stone, an act he cannot abandon having *society* and the *government* checking on him and always ready to *jail* , *shame* or *exile* him for absconding his duties of slavery.
Thus the government and society helps the woman in keeping her *slave*(man) in check.
Chinweizu gives a narration of how women are trained by older matriarchs to *tame* men. He explains how a man is trained to rely on women by his own mother.
A man is *shamed for cooking* for himself and other domestic chores by his *own mother* who is an agent of the global matriarchal rule.
By getting the man to hate *domestic* works and having it enforced by culture which warns men against going into the kitchen, doing *laundry* etc.
The mother trains his son for the woman who will captivate him and when the time comes she takes hold of the man's stomach and by getting the man addicted to her body she holds him by the two, in *bed* and in the *kitchen* .
With those two weapons she manipulates the man and turns him into her plaything.
In the “Myth of the Male Power”, Esther Villar's “A Man's Right to the Other Woman”; “The Polygamous Sex”, the authors of those books challenge the narrative that men oppress women, and by detailed research across African, Western and Eastern both in ancient and modern societies, the authors unravel the hidden power of the ruthless matriarchal power that rules the world.
Also Helen E. Fisher did anthropological research of ancient human societies and wrote the book "The Sex Contract, The evolution of human behaviour" 1982. She too came to the conclusion that Marriage is a selfish creation of a Woman, where she uses sex to manipulate a man to take care of her and her offspring. Other male animals do not carry the same burden and responsibility.
*Presidents* , *Emperors* and *Kings* are all puppets of the matriarchy forces that rule the World by pulling the strings from behind the curtains
A noble piece which is a must read for every Man under the globe...
"PLS READ"
I used to say, I feel like I’m just a paycheck. Only said it, because that’s how I felt deep down. It was a horrible way to feel.
Sadly, the worst mistake in a relationship is to relax and expect to be loved regardless...and I say this for both genders
but isn't it the point of a relationship? a safe space to relax and be comfortable with who you are
@@holeysmokes8277I think he means whenever you become complacent in life, whether it be looks, jobs, etc
Maybe if you're a really good parent you can love your kids unconditionally. And maybe if they're loved unconditionally, they can grow up to love a partner unconditionally. Of course, if you're in this corner of the Internet, the first part wasn't totally true for you. We're hoping for someone to continually forgive our faults, but somewhat unwilling to pick up the work involved in forgiving theirs.@@holeysmokes8277
@holeysmokes8277 it should be, but the moment any partner let's him or herself go, problems start rising and not everyone can adjust to a new status quo
@@holeysmokes8277In my opinion men love way harder than women and when we finally commit, we commit for good, because it's all about loyalty, something most women lack.
I loved my wife despite her shortcomings, she filed force divorce and it has been hell since.
You did your best brother and you should continue moving forward knowing that sweet fact
She must have had a lot of shortcomings to throw all that away
@@borivojejasic9934 No, didn´t do his best. Married a woman in SPITE of her shortcomings which probably was exposed early. Is there a shortage of women somewhere on Earth?? Rgr
It'll all settle out. Been there. Hang in there!
A good woman can/will stick with a man through his successes and failures as long as she trusts his competence and leadership. If that fails, so does the relationship. Women aren't equipped psychologically or physically to carry a man.
There are no good women. They leave the moment they get bored, or the moment someone else gives them the “tingles.”
Women aren’t capable of loyalty or altruistic romantic love.
*SLAVERY OF MEN BY WOMEN*
Every Man irrespective of who they are must read the book by a German writer Esther Villar In her book "The Manipulated Man"
This book has caused outrage and *hostile criticism* from women, it explains how women since the earliest times have manipulated men and turned them into their slaves, they have *pretended* to be the oppressed sex while in the real sense they are the oppressors.
She explains how a woman manipulates a man skillfully by steps like *courtship* and finally *marriage* , hence the saying “ *a man chases a woman until SHE catches him”* .
In her book she explains how the man is *tricked* to care for the woman all his life and her offspring.
He rolls the stone like *Sisyphus* and in turn gets rewarded by a few minutes of sexual pleasure.
We can, by observing Esther Villars assertions that a man is a slave of his desires and the woman uses and has used it for thousands of years as a stick and carrot to keep the man chasing vanity and commit his life to serving her.
She goes ahead to explain the *rivalry of women* , how each woman feels the powerful urge and need to own a male for herself.
Like a *slave owner* she detests any move the man would make to offer his services to another woman. She uses all means to keep the man to herself and her offspring alone.
Esther Villar's sentiments are captured by Nigerian Poet, critic and writer, Chinweizu Ibekwe in his book, “The Anatomy of Female Power” (AFP) and Will Farrel's, “The Predatory Female”.
They all push the theory that all societies are matriarchal and not patriarchal as we are pushed and forced to believe. *Matriarchy has ruled not through brawn but wits and tricks;* women feigning weakness to be protected etc. Thus the male becomes the most exploited sex in human history, (in wars the man is always ready to die for the woman; he has been trained to do that).
Chinweizu calls the idea of *dating* and *courtship* , *training* , like that of a horse. It is during this time that a woman having kept the man on a leash by denying him sex and getting him addicted to her by false charms, trains and breaks him to whatever she wants him to become.
The marriage celebration becomes a celebration for the *woman and her friends,* and they all congratulate her for having succeeded in getting herself a *slave* .
A man on that *wedding* day waves goodbye to his independence and his coalition of males and commits himself to a *Sisyphean* life, rolling the stone, an act he cannot abandon having *society* and the *government* checking on him and always ready to *jail* , *shame* or *exile* him for absconding his duties of slavery.
Thus the government and society helps the woman in keeping her *slave*(man) in check.
Chinweizu gives a narration of how women are trained by older matriarchs to *tame* men. He explains how a man is trained to rely on women by his own mother.
A man is *shamed for cooking* for himself and other domestic chores by his *own mother* who is an agent of the global matriarchal rule.
By getting the man to hate *domestic* works and having it enforced by culture which warns men against going into the kitchen, doing *laundry* etc.
The mother trains his son for the woman who will captivate him and when the time comes she takes hold of the man's stomach and by getting the man addicted to her body she holds him by the two, in *bed* and in the *kitchen* .
With those two weapons she manipulates the man and turns him into her plaything.
In the “Myth of the Male Power”, Esther Villar's “A Man's Right to the Other Woman”; “The Polygamous Sex”, the authors of those books challenge the narrative that men oppress women, and by detailed research across African, Western and Eastern both in ancient and modern societies, the authors unravel the hidden power of the ruthless matriarchal power that rules the world.
Also Helen E. Fisher did anthropological research of ancient human societies and wrote the book "The Sex Contract, The evolution of human behaviour" 1982. She too came to the conclusion that Marriage is a selfish creation of a Woman, where she uses sex to manipulate a man to take care of her and her offspring. Other male animals do not carry the same burden and responsibility.
*Presidents* , *Emperors* and *Kings* are all puppets of the matriarchy forces that rule the World by pulling the strings from behind the curtains
A noble piece which is a must read for every Man under the globe...
"PLS READ"
There's nothing good about that. Wanting "competency" is just a surrogate indicator for "will give me $$$". But nature is horrifying sometimes and that's ok.
A woman loving a man for what he provides is no different than a man loving a woman for how young and beautiful she is.
The theoretical good woman, which doesn't exist, is the one who loves you even if you're incompetent.
Only women and dogs are loved unconditionally.
Men are loved based on what he provides (or can potentially provide).
It takes a strong woman to utter that last line. G-d bless you, Ma'am.
A good woman will give her soul to nurse a man back to health, but she's waiting for the day he says "I'm OK now and I have a plan"
@@Neoteny374 Damn you 2 give the most polite criticisms I've ever seen online, salut !
I loved this entire interview so much! Here’s a thought for the men who say woman only love you conditionally- good woman don’t marry you for your lifestyle, they marry you for you. A fake woman will leave when the lifestyle she wants ends. Vet the woman out before you marry her so you don’t get duped. Once you’ve learned you’ve been duped- get out and find a woman who fits your world- your thoughts, dreams, hobby’s, mindset, etc. - not your lifestyle you can give her. So many shallow woman will fake themselves to get your prize. Many good woman are doting, lovely, caring and true partners through good and bad. Find them. Ps- the non shallow ones are not at the clubs or on social media showing off their bodies.
The good ones definitely are out there. My ex wife was one.
Funnily enough, now that she's my ex she's constantly showing off her body on social media.
So really you can never truly know someone.
People also change over time sometimes. My ex changed I think around the menopause - which she denied was happening.
In truth her anxieties and control issues were always there (again, she denied them- I’ve always been upfront about mine and worked on them) but they got worse after we had kids, and continued to grow.
She changed, became self obsessed, nothing I did to help and support was enough, focused on her new business, money, new friends, jealous of my career, blamed me for everything wrong in her life, she withdrew intimacy, openly told me my job was to have no needs and just support her.
When I got sick she gave me 6 months to get better by myself and then decreed she had no room in her life for a cripple, forced me out of the marriage, family and home, and tried to take almost everything, lied in court, lied to the children, all sorts.
You think you know someone- I never in my life believed she could be like that.
Tbf I think my illness came at a time when her hormones changed, career change, recent house move, I think she became overwhelmed, went into survival mode, saw me as a threat to her happiness, and recast me as “other” - non human.
But she had become cold and withdrawn intimacy several years before despite my best efforts to communicate, foster intimacy, do even more parenting and domestic jobs etc. no matter what I did it was never enough, the more I gave the more she took. 🤷🏼♂️
Now the dust has settled we get on pretty well and Co-parent well. I see a lot more of the woman I once knew and loved (still do) but there’s still that obsessiveness and coldness at times.
@@abr32155 Damn dude, that's fucking rough.
I think you're likely right about menopause and hormone changes and such.
Personally I'm glad my son was all grown up by the time my ex left so I never have to see her again. I thin the only time I would at this point would be if he got married or he died.
@@abr32155 I’m so sorry. I was definitely duped by my ex husband. I’m dating a good guy now - but you’re right. People change and you never really know someone. I’ve been in therapy to help me how to see a better man than my ex.
Similar situation/ I became ill and he was horrible. Very neglectful, and left me alone with the small kids when I could barely manage myself - he lied about having to work. He just didn’t want to take care of the home stuff.
I got better and divorced him. It was so much easier being a single mom than have him add his chaos to the situation. I was doing it all myself anyway.
Too bad though because I didn’t get married to be divorced, but when they change for the worse and aren’t willing to get help, or worse- fake changing- there isn’t anything more to do.
Sorry you went through all of that. Hugs.
Men love unconditionally. Women love when conditions are met.
No,man love conditionally the woman should always look 20s even in her 50s if not goodbye to her.
@@zeenathbanu-yy4rvchads maybe but most 80 percenter definitely love any woman that is decent to them. It’s women who are the selfish and shallow ones
@@zeenathbanu-yy4rv you feel you've not been loved for who you are right now.
I dont know why men keep saying this. Is it because you're repeating the bitter Red Pill manosphere rhetoric? If she gets fat or stops having sex with you, cheats, or repetively disrespects you, you will stop loving her.
Until she puts on 200lbs after the wedding lol
I have always always said this, nobody is loved unconditionally except kids that too not all are that lucky. Unconditional love is hard, most people can't love like that. And tbh it's torture on yourself cuz most people don't deserve that kind of love.
Not even children are loved unconditionally. 99.9% (this is a real statistic) or more orphans go unadopted. We are incredibly selfish beings.
Am glad that more men are speaking up on behalf of men. Men need our support, and as a woman and fellow-humanbeing I'm rooting for all the good, dedicated, hard-working men out there!!! We see you (for WHO you are, and you are beautiful just the way you are). ✨
This is perpetuating the lie of "love you the way you are" which simply isn't true, ever. It's a disservice to men from being great.
It's likely women's selective nature that helped humans evolve into such advanced animals on this planet.
Selective women isn't a bad thing for humanity. It's absolutely devastating for individual men who struggle and can't seem to become selected and want to be.
But do these men actually want to be used as a provider? Probably not. They still have that fantasy that a woman can love unconditionally. And not being selected is devastating to the ego and soul because it feels like god himself has simply decided he is not chosen for love.
But that is just a blind man. Get rich, get in shape, dress well, become charming, speak well, and things rapidly change.
In other words, present the image that you can provide. But at that point, do you really want it anymore?
@@thorie79That last sentence hit hard. Men who make it alone have no incentive to commit to a woman anymore. We want someone who was there during the hard times; not someone who waited at the finish line.
It seems like men are chasing that pity lovey dovey type of love from women. Nah fellas, embrace your purpose, be competent in your respective field, and invite them to admire your greatness. The type of love you seek from women is the: victim, children, “I need saving” type of love. We’re men, they can’t love us that way because we’re inherently more powerful than they are. They reserve that kind of love for other women and for children. As a man accept this, your relationships with women will become much easier.
Massive generalization, guy.
@@Lex_Lugar It’s facts. That unconditional love most dudes are seeking doesn’t exist. Most men will only be loved when they produce some kind of value.
@@Khan-rz8qi True. The expectation of unconditional love is only reasonable in early childhood. As we become more mature and independent, we have to bring value to be valued. The expectation of anything else is selfish and immature.
That is something that Xerxes from 300 would say. I am so down!
I will invite you to honor my gloriousness❤😂
Fat and ugly women will love you unconditionally. Beautiful women….different story. A woman who has conditions for how she allows herself to eat, keep up her looks, etc… will definitely have conditions for men.
It's such a relief for women too: "I can be loved - it's not about the shape of my legs, or my butt. My skin around the eye is allowed to wrinkle over time and I can still be loved."
But it doesn't work that way.
Very powerful insights: life works out in a strange way, it’s a matter of how you can balance both ends.
What do you mean "both ends"?
This is the love men seek to get coz its the love they seek to give.
Time to get rid of no-fault divorce.
No one should ever be financially incentivized to break a marriage contract. I can’t think of any other situation in which an individual gets _paid_ to break a contract.
Divorced really destroyed my life when my kids were 3 and 4. So I had to provide for almost 20 years. Almost 50% of my income went straight to her. She alienated my kids to me. Very tough. Still not over it really. She blamed me for what she was doing. And the courts allowed me very little defense.I was shocked they were they were so biased. And I'm 68 years old. My recommendation don't get married.
PsycHacks, Subscribed because your videos are so much fun!
When that rug-pull happens, Jesus, does it go the other way! That hit hard!
As a dude who’s been married and divorced for many years, and still fighting for visitation of his kids, it’s just better not to marry or have kids at all.
You will only ever have one mother. That's not your woman's job.
Tons more women looking for daddy than men looking for mommy. People love projecting their own deficiencies.
That is the purest form of love. The most ideal form is when it’s not about value.
But on the flip side when you love someone else all you want to do is add value to their lives. It’s an unstoppable desire. Why is it such a paradox?
🤡🤡🤡🤫
@@nlawson2004 Not sure about them clowns but… I’d say a more accurate determination of if someone truly loves you is not when you don’t provide, but when you can’t provide. Because there is a difference between withholding value on purpose and being in a position to where you can’t. Valuable people are the ones who stick with you through thick and thin no matter what.
To truly love someone the way Orion is talking about requires more than just superficial conversations. To love someone on a deeper level you have to get to know them on that deeper level to be able to appreciate them for them. This is different than the familial type of love because it requires effort and interest to get to know someone that you don’t know yet. Getting to know someone because you’re interested in who they are is different than getting to know what someone can do for you.
At the same time… this type of love when it’s real.. goes both ways. It requires both people being vulnerable enough to be more than just physically naked.
Also …providing for a man shouldn’t feel like a burden on him. When a man is well taken care of by his woman it gives him fuel it doesn’t drain his tank. The only time it would feel like a burden is when one person is leeching or he has too much on his plate, either physically or emotionally.
@@BeautiHacks 🤡🤡🤡🤦🏾♂️🫵🏿🤫
@@nlawson2004 I don’t know what’s with you 😂 somting..Wong ?
Yes, but it works both ways & both men & women need to love purely from the heart 1st before value or conditions occur in relationships
As a man you just gotta always know you’ll only be loved conditionally….
I dont know why men keep saying this. Is it because you're repeating the bitter Red Pill manosphere rhetoric? If she gets fat or stops having sex with you, cheats, or repetively disrespects you, you will stop loving her.
No big deal. You have conditions for her as well like she can't start to constantly abuse you.
@@ErikLiberty Finally, someone who gets it.
Can we both all just get on board (males and females) on what’s the meaning of loving compassionately and unconditionally, what does that look like, and how, how can it go both ways? Try eight dates!
Thank you, Orion for these insights. As a woman, I'm learning and hopefully becoming better.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Only woman who will ever love us men for who we are is our mother....and many do not even have that.
I loved my ex no matter what. He had no job, no status and no money. I loved him and everything about him. He made me laugh and made me feel loved and cared for.
So why is he your ex?
@@RaymondBoeijenshe already said it. he was a loser lol
@@RaymondBoeijenCommenting because I'm also interested.
😅😂@@spontaneousbootay
@@RaymondBoeijen we had our issues for sure, he became insecure, posessive and controlling and the more he did that, the more we would fight, the more time I would spend with family and friendsaway from him. When I ended up in a hospital for surgery and the surgery went wrong, I almost lost my life. Had to stay for 14 days, wasnt allowed to move or get out of bed for 14 days yet he couldnt come sit at my bedside or even text or call. Thats when I knew I had to end it. He stalked me for 8 years after.
All men can find a woman who will love them unconditionally but most men do not find women with no standards attractive. I’ve heard the term “starter wife” because the same men who cry about wanting to be loved unconditionally don’t hesitate to upgrade from the woman who married them when they had nothing once they have enough money to marry the type of woman you can only get once you have lots of disposable income.
Umm you realize the dynamics of the game right now. Men are lucky if she even responds to you on the dating app ( she’s getting 100 messages a day… ).
The chance he will be too dawg is slim to
None……
So no I cannot agree with you.
*SLAVERY OF MEN BY WOMEN*
Every Man irrespective of who they are must read the book by a German writer Esther Villar In her book "The Manipulated Man"
This book has caused outrage and *hostile criticism* from women, it explains how women since the earliest times have manipulated men and turned them into their slaves, they have *pretended* to be the oppressed sex while in the real sense they are the oppressors.
She explains how a woman manipulates a man skillfully by steps like *courtship* and finally *marriage* , hence the saying “ *a man chases a woman until SHE catches him”* .
In her book she explains how the man is *tricked* to care for the woman all his life and her offspring.
He rolls the stone like *Sisyphus* and in turn gets rewarded by a few minutes of sexual pleasure.
We can, by observing Esther Villars assertions that a man is a slave of his desires and the woman uses and has used it for thousands of years as a stick and carrot to keep the man chasing vanity and commit his life to serving her.
She goes ahead to explain the *rivalry of women* , how each woman feels the powerful urge and need to own a male for herself.
Like a *slave owner* she detests any move the man would make to offer his services to another woman. She uses all means to keep the man to herself and her offspring alone.
Esther Villar's sentiments are captured by Nigerian Poet, critic and writer, Chinweizu Ibekwe in his book, “The Anatomy of Female Power” (AFP) and Will Farrel's, “The Predatory Female”.
They all push the theory that all societies are matriarchal and not patriarchal as we are pushed and forced to believe. *Matriarchy has ruled not through brawn but wits and tricks;* women feigning weakness to be protected etc. Thus the male becomes the most exploited sex in human history, (in wars the man is always ready to die for the woman; he has been trained to do that).
Chinweizu calls the idea of *dating* and *courtship* , *training* , like that of a horse. It is during this time that a woman having kept the man on a leash by denying him sex and getting him addicted to her by false charms, trains and breaks him to whatever she wants him to become.
The marriage celebration becomes a celebration for the *woman and her friends,* and they all congratulate her for having succeeded in getting herself a *slave* .
A man on that *wedding* day waves goodbye to his independence and his coalition of males and commits himself to a *Sisyphean* life, rolling the stone, an act he cannot abandon having *society* and the *government* checking on him and always ready to *jail* , *shame* or *exile* him for absconding his duties of slavery.
Thus the government and society helps the woman in keeping her *slave*(man) in check.
Chinweizu gives a narration of how women are trained by older matriarchs to *tame* men. He explains how a man is trained to rely on women by his own mother.
A man is *shamed for cooking* for himself and other domestic chores by his *own mother* who is an agent of the global matriarchal rule.
By getting the man to hate *domestic* works and having it enforced by culture which warns men against going into the kitchen, doing *laundry* etc.
The mother trains his son for the woman who will captivate him and when the time comes she takes hold of the man's stomach and by getting the man addicted to her body she holds him by the two, in *bed* and in the *kitchen* .
With those two weapons she manipulates the man and turns him into her plaything.
In the “Myth of the Male Power”, Esther Villar's “A Man's Right to the Other Woman”; “The Polygamous Sex”, the authors of those books challenge the narrative that men oppress women, and by detailed research across African, Western and Eastern both in ancient and modern societies, the authors unravel the hidden power of the ruthless matriarchal power that rules the world.
Also Helen E. Fisher did anthropological research of ancient human societies and wrote the book "The Sex Contract, The evolution of human behaviour" 1982. She too came to the conclusion that Marriage is a selfish creation of a Woman, where she uses sex to manipulate a man to take care of her and her offspring. Other male animals do not carry the same burden and responsibility.
*Presidents* , *Emperors* and *Kings* are all puppets of the matriarchy forces that rule the World by pulling the strings from behind the curtains
A noble piece which is a must read for every Man under the globe...
"PLS READ"
@@ssing7113 I think you are missing the point. Women who love unconditionally upfront tend to have low standards for how they take care of themselves. A man who is willing to be with a woman he is not physically attracted to can easily find unconditional love. It’s men who have beauty standards that struggle to find someone to love them unconditionally. Overweight women with bad skin have tons of love to give.
Umm, we literally never see this happening. What you described is what women do.
Holy shit that has to be one of the longest sentences I've ever read.
Equality for men and women should start in family courts. I said what I said...
Where is this whole episode?
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Describe male psychology to the T
And the solution to our modern condition. As soon as you relax into that “I’m home” feeling then it’s over. The foundation will be ripped from your soul.
Modern women do not need you. They want you for some romantic wedding cake idea but always remember that she is going to leave. Don’t be the gambler who goes all in and ends up homeless on the street.
Accomplish more and side chick.
Accomplish more even when she complains you work too much. She probably doesn’t even realize that the moment you comply with that she’ll lose respect and it’s over.
I have a different view of this. I think when either party gets too comfortable, it is the inevitable death of the relationship. We live in a Happily Ever After culture. People generally don't see relationships as a constant struggle, but that is what they are and (in my opinion) what they are meant for. Iron sharpens iron only until one of the two blades becomes dull. When two people stop growing together, they inevitably start growing apart. When a man fails to grow, his woman leaves. Men are allowed to do the same thing, but we generally don't for whatever reason. Yes, a relationship should be a place of peace, but also shared goals and values -- spiritually, mentally, physically, etc.
the problem as i see it is that people are overly selfish. i see so many men complain about how much money theyve lost in a divorce and i just think that its so pathetic every time that they worry so much about money. it shows their lack of resourcefulness and its probably another major reason why they got left in the first place.
if i got divorced, she can have everything for all i care. ill just build myself up again because thats life, and life is suffering but suffering begets beauty.
You put it in writing...great job! Haha. With Physical, mental & social health at the 100 stat sure anyone at anytime could build just enough to survive. Time takes a toll, health is not always 100 on all fronts. Scouts & military know to Be Prepared at the very least.
I think that you're really stupid, but your ego is unmatched. I'll give you that. Society generally rewards that type of thing, so good for you buddy.
It's a little deeper than that, bro. By losing tons of assets and money, you've also lost valuable time. Valuable youthful years of your life lost for nothing. That's why it's more bittersweet than "it's only money bro, just make some more."
@@TheHamburgler123 isn't it the same for women (if it's true that their "market value" drops with age)? They also lost the best youthful years on the guy. No? I am not necesarily subscribing to that. I am just saying both points of view are very selfish and no party seems to see any value lost in terms of untangibles like support and nice moments the couple hopefully shared at one point. And no one is mourning that - just the lost money and beauty.
Romantic notions of what "love" should be are always trumped by the biological imperative
You’re loved by many who don’t even know you. Best content always.
The more you know their nature, the more you get relieved, do not fully emotionally invest in her, it's the only way out.
The Stranger by Billy Joel
Men live in a fantasy world, thinking a woman will be loyal to him and love him no matter what happens...ride or die. You either love women or understand them.
I wish, l could meet the lawyer, badass ❤❤❤
Interesting ❤
Can we get a link to the full interview?
Under the Community tab. It's the one with James Sexton on the Soft White Underbelly channel.
Where can I find the full video of this?
It's in soft white underbelly
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Strange. I don't want to discredit the basic truth here. But I was loved twice for who I am. Those women were much better off economically than I as a student. The relationships lasted 5 and 1,6 years.
Why did those relationships end then? Did they die?
BINGO begs the question.@@Grumpollion "I was Truly Loved for who I was"..."But we never got Married" So who exactly is the immature fool in this scenario? Wake up Bro, you're making yourself look really Bad.
Women are emotional men are logical. She’ll throw it all away just on a whim.
Reality
Your mother loves you like that and all other women do not so grow up.
Using shaming tactics doesnt help anybody. Stay on point and maybe provide some fine print or numbers instead. Quick example, how many women will leave a partner if he loses a job or his business is going thru a rough patch? Flip that scenario and how many men will leave the woman? There is still alot of dialogue out there about equality but it seems the ladies like to cherry pick when it should apply and when it shouldn't. Play it with a straight bat, be geniunely fair and reasonable and people generally wont get their noses out of joint.
Where’s this from. Isn’t that soft white background ?
Yes, you can find the full video under the Community tab.
This guy has a very self centered viewpoint but is entirely able to see though others' eyes. He's like the teenager who thinks he's SOOOO unique and angst ridden and no one can EVER understand him.
This 🎯
Same goes for women too.
No. Therein lies the problem. Men are Men, Women are Women are we are NOT the same.
It’s not like a woman’s love is conditional on you blinking or sneezing or something. Dr. Taraban has said it multiple times : if you’re thinking about reality, you’re not in love. Most people will make a lot of excuses to stay in love. Women put up with A LOT so if you made it to the courtroom, you need to do a serious post mortem, as you’ve allowed your partner to enter back into reality.
No one is loved for who they are, they’re loved because of the partners experience of being blinded from reality.
Interesting.
That girl dont love you. Thats just how she feel atm. How u miss me and take 8 hours to hit me on yo day off😂😂
Men have to understand that
Women is not a Man
What you do, shows who you are. What you do for the living. How you spend your spare time. How you make time for your loved ones. How you spend money, how you talk about others, how you measure yourself, what you believe in, ....etc. It is all you. All. Can't be separated. You are not a baby anymore, cute anyway. You are a responsible person. It is terrifiing. Yes. This is life.
Divorce sucks, yes, but it is part of life. Happens. We can't pretend, that it does not, like the catholic church. Those who divorce, can be excluded even from sacraments. Who tries to survive such a tragedy, and start a new, is stoned. What kind of love is that we show to those? Love is the first commandmend, all the rest does not even exist, if love is not fullfilled first! The love of God, the love of others, and the love of yourself. All the rest is secondary, and can be overwritten. Jesus turned the stones into life, rules are written into hearts. And people understood it better, than those who should have. They understand life. Layers understand it more, than priests, bishops or the Pope.
Yeah, You are not going to be granted the Eucharistic Sacrament if the Parties break their Lifelong Vow for their Sacramental Vocation. This is Serious stuff. There is a price & in comparison it's quite small( But get Married young, for Sanctioned Sex...yeah thanks Padre!) You can still be a member of the Church & attend the Mass & other sacraments tho. A different parish would be best. Men are chopped Liver in churches, especially single Men. Women & children are and will always be the Cash Cow.
Wtf? Like its not devastating for women?
It's not that at all! A woman can love you for who you are. You only have to keep working, taking care of your health (not using drugs, etc) and keep doing the things all human beings have to do! Including women. In summary: As long as you're not self destructive or destructive towards her, a woman will stay with you! Is not the woman asking for conditions, it's life! And life asks the same from her too!
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Everything is an enmeshing huge lie
Relationships are an overkill 24/7 job
People enjoy a challenge. Life gets intolerably boring on easy mode. The irony in this is that people think relationships should be free from problems, but they are fundamentally understanding the purpose of them wrong. They think that relationships are the antidote to their issues, but in reality, it is quite the opposite. Relationships are an opportunity for growth through shared struggle. Intimacy is only a byproduct of that.
Y’all are such Hippocrates 😂
Hypocrites!