Sutton you nailed it at around the 8:50 mark. I know from personal experience that, even when a man and woman stay in the friend zone, one side eventually ends up developing feelings for the other.
What if you and your boyfriend break up and you go to the same church? It’s been SO hard to see him every Sunday at church. And it’s been a while now. I’ve given it a lot of time and it still brings me back every time :(
I feel like if one of you has feeling for the other, you can not be friends. Otherwise the one who likes the other will just always have hope. Which I think is unfair on the person with those feelings. When I broke up with my first boyfriend, which was a very serious relationship I had to cut all ties so we wouldn't be tempted but also to protect our future husband and wife. Even now I have dreams where he pops up in them and it leads me to think about him. And I'm like " No thank you Satan". I know my husband is who God chose for me 14 years later.
I saw you both on the Family Feud Show, and I thought it was cool because I watch your RUclips channel from time to time. I definitely cheered for your family too! 🤗 My husband and I thought Sutton looked a bit like our niece too. Thank You both for encouraging others in the Lord. I have definitely appreciated some of your videos. You both seem like a really great couple. May God Bless You Both and Your Children! 💐
Thank you so much guys this is the first christian advice video that ACTUALLY helps me in this kind of situation. A sister sent it to me and I thank her
This has happened to me but a little bit different. It is very awkward at first, but I promise that you guys will find a different way to be friends and support each other. I don’t recommend spending alone time with each other or sending him personal texts, DMs, etc. Keep everything in group settings and group chats. Make sure not to flirt or entertain any thoughts. 2 Cor 10:5. I think the hardest part was feeling like you lost a best friend. Keep God first in your life and allow His will to guide you. I promise that you will be able to be each other’s cheerleaders from the sidelines without having to say a word to each other, and that’s when you’ll see your growth. You are very wise and stronger than you think you are. I believe God can entrust you with is. I’ll be praying for you, friend. ❤
Never be "just" friends with a woman you really love dude. You'll go through more heartbreak. Walk away you can still have love for her but stop communication focus on your purpose and go to gym go to sports events etc...You'll meet a variety of girls you may like but choose one. She either wants you or not. I don't believe the split because were in different cities because me and my gf were long distance for 2 years i just didnt have my own house yet and was young.
This sounds like maybe this girl just wasnt sure if she wanted to be with you for lifetime but is unsure. Its ok but you two should stop all communication until you make up your mind a definite decision because your just holding on because you dont want to lose their love.if you gf or bf is confused i walk away
For the close, suggest staying in the present tense, “So, we are Nate and Sutton sowing…” because you’re still there and talking. Blessings to you and your family.
I love how God uses you to let His wisdom run through you to us viewers🤍So many quotes of you I'll have to write down somewhere!! This is such an important topic and such a diffucult situation! Thank you for your words on it🤗
For this girl, she needs to talk to her whole family too. Her brother should agree to only see said friend at his place or neutral places for awhile. If the 2 families get together, they should be sensitive to this situation. Maybe just the parents get together by themselves for awhile? I learned years ago that being "still friends" after a break-up means, at a minimum, you hold nothing against each other and your mutual friends don't need to take sides. It may be awkward at, say, church youth group, or school if they're in classes together. Push through it with God's help. Easier said than done. Prayer is needed, right? I'm praying for her too, and anyone else in such a situation.
I have seen this happen to a sister and they were engaged and broke up after and stayed friends but they both went to ministry school and she was waiting on him but he was getting with other women from the school and it would hurt her... Now he is in a relationship for the first time since their high school engagement with another girl and they cannot be friends anymore after 4 years of friendship after they were engaged ..... So take that story and listen to Suttons advice because my sweet sister in christ went through a lot of hurt and waiting.Cut it off as much as you can unless y'all are going to get married it causes so much hurt. I was in a relationship for 5 years before I dated my husband and that should have ended long before it actually did, because I knew he was not going to be my husband.
nate && sutton , what an absolutely sweet sweet sit down video ! i absolutely love love love to see && hear how all your answers point back to the ✞ . this video really convicted me && really just resonates with me && in the season i am in . i can wholeheartedly see the Lord growing you intimacy with Him && it is so so beautiful ! always && forever run ever more persistently to the feet of the Father ! 🕊️🤎
I agree and believe that there is only one MR. or MRS. Right out there. You can't substitute a different puzzle piece that might be the same shape but from a different puzzle. It then doesn't complete the picture and is wrong. Might fit, but not right that picture.-- and it is "THIS" with going into "THAT" for the title of the episode. LOL SMILE!
God is so funny. I was watching Gilmore Girls and this specific plot was that one of the main character’s ex who is newly married ( btw)cheats with her. They were friends after the broke up and nawwww the second it comes on I get this notification of this video from RUclips ☠️
It’s dangerous to be friends with someone who likes you and it’s disrespectful to keep that friendship going when you’re married to a loving husband or wife who has been nothing but loyal to you.
Long Distance relationshiops are hard to do. Some can do them some can't it depends on the couple. Depends how strong the connection is if a relationship develops.I think God has someone for everyone eventually it is up to the person to realize that person is for them. God bless Nate and Sutton.
This is happening/happened in my life right now . We don't text each other or see each other really anywhere . We go to different churches . Our relationship wasn't very long , but it does still hurt . God still shows His love , we're never alone if we trust in him .
If boundaries seem more like red tape that you are more tempted to cross or if they start making you more sad about the situation… maybe think about what it would be like to lean into friendship with him. Friendship, not romantic relationship. Seeing him as first a brother in Christ and a friend instead of someone who you used to be so close with but now can’t talk to. I think different people need different methods. Maybe try the boundaries and take note of how it makes you feel! Definitely counterintuitive to lean into friendship but I think if done right it could be great. And I guess “lean into friendship” is vague, but what I mean is not to start spending a bunch of time with him again but when you are around him, see what it would look like to talk to him like a brother in Christ and someone you do genuinely care about their well-being. Go with what feels right for you though! I have a friend who is going through something similar and she became really sad with the idea of boundaries . But like I said, everyone be different
Hey Nate and Sutton 😊 I love yas channel by the way !!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️. At the end of yas video ya couldn't decide whether it " that was " Nate and Sutton or " this is " Nate and Sutton . I was watching the ending of yas other video and Nate always mentions that was . But I think both can work out just fine 😁👍.
I always thought to set up your life in preparation for your spouse. I’ve seen people love being best friends with opposite sex people and when a significant other comes along that person loses half their relationships because they were too close to people of the opposite sex. I don’t believe opposite sex best friends should be a thing, especially not going out with them alone. Prepare and be faithful for your future spouse!
I’m struggling with a similar situation. Except I’ve only been with my boyfriend for about 2 weeks and then I had to break up with him because he has some commitment issues. We talked about just making it a break and getting back together in a few months. I need to work on myself and he needs to work on himself. He said he still wants to be friends but im just struggling with the whole idea of friends because im still in love with him, and im pretty sure he feels the same way. Im not entirely sure what to do because both of us struggle with making friends, and it would be hard if either of us lost the other.
In order for you both to work on yourselves and focus on yourselves I think it’s necessary that you don’t remain friends. You guys can still be on good terms but I think it will be really good if you guys cut off contact for a bit and then see what God is leading you to do, because if you both are still in love with eachother it will be hard to focus on yourselves if you guys still have contact
I had a really good guy friend and we spent a lot of time together but after some months he developed feelings for me and it was so hard for me (and him) because I didn't feel the same and so we had to end our friendship... I still miss him and like him but I know that I can't contact him because it must be even harder for him to have feelings when the girl doesn't feel the same...
Why didn’t you like him? Perhaps maybe you should have dated him and given him the chance. I’ve been the guy on the other side of the equation and it’s never fun. It makes me want to give up on dating but I still have hope someone will one day reciprocate their feelings to me
@@Josh_Morales I tried, we dated for half a year, but I just did'nt develop any feelings for him. It just did'nt happen. And I couldn't do that any longer because all that time he still had hope so it wouldn't have been fair to date any longer. Sometimes you just don't fall in love even if you like someone as a person. I couldn't imagine a romantic relationship with him 🤷🏽♀️
Yeah, i mean i was 26 years old, in a relationship with an amazing man who was called into ministry. Our relationship was good for the most part and we were starting to think that we would get married and be together. However, my culture required him to do some things to become more friendly with my family especially with my father. My dad wanted him to be like a son to him. The guy i was dating was unwilling to do that even after trying repeatedly to explain my culture and my family’s desires for him. So in the end, i had to be the bigger person and call the relationship off. I havent had any contact with him since. The moral of the story is to anyone reading this. You will find the one that God has intended for your life just because the person you are with at the moment seems like the right person that may not be what God intends You just have to learn how to protect your heart.
I dont agree that you need to take the other persons culture for you to be compatible, you should respect their culture but not necessarily be like them. People are different and you have to respect that, respecting the other persons culture isnt the same as adopting their culture.
Yes, respecting another persons culture doesnt mean you have to conform, it just means you respect it and when it comes to marriage you may have to do something in order to gain acceptance by the other party. Only people of cultured backgrounds will understand this thats what makes its so difficult
@@princessval984 i still disagree, sometimes you dont need acceptance from the other party if what they are asking is absurd to you. I would never turn down a person simply because my culture doesn’t accept them.
What advice do y’all have on forgiving your spouse when they confess and repent from lust (not pornography or anything ongoing; really a “small” sin, all things considered, that they truly are repentant of)? Just overcoming the idea that your spouse could ever be attracted to someone else..
That would be an awesome video topic, My advice would be to remember how much Christ loves you even when you "love" other things or whenever you sin. Think of the story of Hosea and how much he loved Gommer even after she went back into prostitution. He bought her back with his own money and forgave her and made her beautiful again. God does that when we sin He already bought us when He died on the cross but He takes us back and loves us even after betraying Him. That is how much God loves that spouse. That is how much we are called to love them. As we are called to love as He loves (John 15:13). Forgiveness is hard and sometimes, we can know, that we know, that we know the truth, and Satan because he is the father of lies will still try to get us to doubt. Understand that wanting something that isn't God's will is lust and we all at times want that. Whether it is in wanting a relationship, an item, money, or an experience; if we want it and it is not God's will we are lusting. We can forgive because God forgave us first and God forgave them as well. I pray this all makes sense and is helpful. :)
@Madelyn Winslow I do not believe it's a sin simply to be attracted to someone who is not your spouse. Attraction is one thing, but acting on your attraction towards someone is a totally different thing. I myself am attracted to many different types of guys, but that doesn't mean I want to be close with all of them or marry all of them!! (I want to be committed to one person, whoever they will be). 😂😂😂Whenever I get married, and whenever I start dating someone exclusively- I am not going to be okay with them following a bunch of girls that post pictures in bikinis on social media. But, if your spouse repents of lusting after another woman, they obviously want to be open and honest with you. I would forgive them and tell them you love them. Romans 3:23 says "For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard."
Marriage will not stop you from being attracted to other people. Lust & attraction are two different things. Have open & honest discussions with your spouse about these things.
Pray for a heart of compassion and selflessness! And bring your hurt to the Lord in prayer so he can heal your heart. Talk to a trusted, biblically sound mentor figure who you've seen model forgiveness well. If the Lord leads you to do this AFTER you've done the work to surrender your emotions and seek to have grace with your husband, be honest with your spouse about how it affected you if that honesty is needed. I think it becomes hard to forgive when our focus is on ourselves and how we were hurt ... That's not something to ignore which is why we bring it before the Lord in prayer! But our aim is to model the love of Jesus Christ in our lives, and His love is not one that withholds forgiveness, grace, or mercy. So make it your primary aim to be like Jesus to your husband! Love him as God has loved you, and pray for God's grace through His Spirit to help you love him well in this moment by forgiving him and praying for him💙 I know it's a few weeks later so I hope you've been able to work through this with your spouse! And praying for him always helps
Thank you for posting this ❤!!! I need prayer to do the right thing. I have been trying to do the right thing by keeping my distance, but this person I have feelings for is coming around again and asking me to come to events. He is legally married, but separated from her. I really need to have an open and honest conversation with him, but need wisdom.
Did his wife cheat on him, abuse him or desert him? Or even worse did he do these to his wife? If none of these are the case then to marry such a man would be adulterous according to Scripture.
@@jdkayak7868 Amen. So sick of hearing "Christian's" engage and justify divorce other than those two reasons. If they're true believers and followers of Christ, they wouldn't be divorcing nor remarrying.
I don't normally leave comments on videos, actually I don't know if I ever have, but I was curious what denomination of Christianity y'all are? I've been watching your videos for quite a while and I really appreciate the advice you give, but I don't think you've ever mentioned what church you actually attend. Maybe I'm wrong, and if somebody does know, please leave a response. But my reason for asking was more to invite you guys to check out the Catholic faith (I'm not saying you have to go out and convert today, but just check it out), if for no other reason than to learn about the Holy Eucharist, the real body and blood of Jesus Christ. (Little fact, no other faith claims that their bread actually changes into the real body of Jesus, only the Catholic Faith. Also, please look up "Eucharistic miracles" (where the Holy Eucharist does unfathomable things, like bleeding continuously for hundreds of years, never decomposing, beating like a heart) and try to debunk them as best you can. They are unexplainable) I know I will probably receive replies saying I'm crazy and it's all fake and what not, but that's mostly because so many people have a misunderstanding of the Catholic faith. There are millions of people who hate what they think the Catholic Faith is, but very very few hate what the Catholic Faith actually is. Even Catholics who left the faith typically had misunderstandings. A few common ones that aren't true are that we worship Mary or the saints, we worship statues, we hate gay people (we hate the sin, not the person), etc. A great RUclips channel for anybody who's reading this, is "Divine Mercy" and specifically the talks by Fr. Chris Alar. He does long talks about our Catholic faith and often touches on misconceptions about the faith and what we actually believe. I would encourage anybody reading this to just check out a video or two that seems interesting to you. I would even encourage anybody here to try and disprove the Catholic faith, but use Catholic resources, not what people outside the Church claim. I can almost guarantee with 100% certainty that if you use Catholic resources that give the truth about the faith, but you try to disprove the faith, you will more than likely convert to Catholicism. Don't trust me? Give it a try and report back on your results. And if you're not up for the challenge, I think deep down you probably know it's true that you might end up converting and that scares you because you like your current church and you don't want to have more responsibility towards God, but I promise you it will all be worth it in the end when you come to know the full truth of Jesus, with nothing hidden or kept from you. I hope everybody has a wonderful day, and please ask me any questions you have, or reasons you've hesitated on converting or even why you've hesitated to just look into the Catholic Faith. I would love to clear up any confusion anybody has. (Little bonus that I'm not sure if everybody knows, but the Catholic Faith is the only faith that claims to be started by Jesus himself, which is God. All other Christian faiths can be traced back to a normal man branching off. The first of which was the Lutheran faith in the early 1500's, then every other christian faith came after that. So I'm not blaming people if they were raised in a different denomination, but wouldn't it make the most sense to seek out the original, God given faith, not one started by a man? And this is a genuine question, but if the Catholic faith was the only faith for 1500 years, did they have it wrong the whole time and God just let that fly, until all of a sudden Martin Luther, (or whatever guy started your faith), came along and now everything is correct as it should be? I don't say that to belittle anybody, especially if you didn't know the Catholic faith is the only Christian faith that claims to be started by Jesus. If you did know that, wouldn't it make the most sense to be a part of the one faith that Jesus started? I'm not saying it's easy to be Catholic, especially in today's day in age, with the devil attacking us everywhere, but it will be so worth it to know you are following everything Jesus himself taught, and not what some man decided was correct.) Sorry for the long ramble, and please don't think I'm attacking anybody, I know it might seem that way. I just genuinely want to see everybody following the true faith that was started by Jesus and I want to help as many people get to Heaven as possible. Again, please leave any questions or comments and I'll do my best to answer them.
@@joshmohamed You may be right that some do believe it, but the people I personally know that are Lutheran, one of which was my girlfriend for 6 years and her whole family, as well a few of my parents' friends, seemed to imply that they believe it is merely a symbol of his body and not the true body and blood of Jesus. But I suppose different Lutheran churches may teach slightly differently. From what I was able to find online, some Lutherans believe in consubstantiation vs Catholics believe in transubstantiation. The difference is that consubstantiation is the belief that the body and blood coexist with the bread and wine, meaning it's neither one or the other in full capacity. Transubstantiation on the other hand is the belief that it is fully the body and blood of Jesus, with the appearance of bread and wine. A decent analogy is when a man has a child and becomes a father. He may look the same and appear to be the same, but the actual essence of who he is has changed on a much deeper level. It's not perfect, but I think it can help explain transubstantiation a little bit. The Lutherans that do believe in consubstantiation also believe that after church service is over, it is no longer the body and blood, but has converted back to mere bread and wine. (Catholics believe once it has changed, it remains that way, which is why any leftover hosts remain in the Tabernacle to keep them in a safe and holy place - which is biblical if you know what the ark of the covenant is.) Catholics believe once it has changed, it is the body and blood until it is gone, ie. eaten, decomposed, dissolved, etc, and we treat it as so. If somebody were to find a consecrated (changed into the body and blood) host, say in the parking lot or on the floor, we'd contact a priest to properly take care of it, typically putting it in water to let it dissolve. (this is how a lot of Eucharistic miracles have happened. Once placed in water, occasionally the consecrated host begins bleeding and doesn't dissolve) Something else related to this is that in some forms of black masses, or satanic masses, one of the ways that people achieve the highest level of satanic worship and to prove their abilities is to be able to find the one Catholic consecrated host out of a large number of unconsecrated hosts. I think it's like 1 out of 100, or possibly 1000. And they know they are at the top of their demonic ability when they can identify the one consecrated host. And if you're wondering how they get it, they just pretend they are any other Catholic person at mass and go up for communion and then they sneak off with the consecrated host. The Priest is supposed to watch and make sure everybody consumes the host, but occasionally they miss somebody and that's how these things happen. So basically, if the host didn't remain consecrated after mass, the demonic people wouldn't be able to tell out of a large quantity which one is real. Also, continuing on about the host remaining consecrated after mass is all the Eucharistic miracles. All Eucharistic miracles that I've ever heard of have only been in the Catholic faith. I've never heard of any outside of the Catholic faith, which is hopefully eye opening for some people.
Hey Evan, it's time you read the word of God and not the heresy the catholic church has been feeding you. Jesus is the only way, his word is the only truth and anyone who adds or subtracts from his word is not his. Please repent of your religion and turn to Jesus.
@@ironmatto3 I'm sorry, but you have been deceived because of the protestant reformation. It's not your fault, but because of Martin Luther, many Christians believe they can be saved by "faith alone" but this is not true. The Bible used Luther’s phrase “by faith alone” only once: “a man is justified by works and NOT by faith alone” (Jas 2:24). The Bible also says that “what counts is faith working through love” (Gal 5:6). While Catholics and Protestants agree that Jesus alone saves us, Luther in the 16th century inserted without basis the word “alone” in his German translation of Rom 3:28 (“a man is justified by faith”) in order to support his personal interpretation that a Christian is incapable of cooperating with God in his salvation. And I'm not saying you are protestant, but if you believe you can be saved by faith alone, then you have been lead astray by Martin Luther in 1517. The Bible says that the “Word of the Lord” is “spoken” (Jer 25:3), not just written. St. Paul urged us to “hold to traditions which you were taught by us, either by word of mouth or by letter” (2 Thes 2:15). The Bible also tells of a Council’s authority, where Peter settled a doctrinal dispute and declared what “we believe” (Acts 15). In fact there was NO bible for almost 400 years and then after only priests and nobility owned one. Why? because there was no printing press until 1560. So who dispensed the word of the Lord? The Catholic Church. If it were people just claiming that you only need to follow Jesus, we wouldn't have the same teachings now as we did centuries ago, because nobody would be able to agree on what the truth is. With all of that said, I would like to ask why you think following a religion is not the correct thing to do, when there are more than 1.2 billion Catholics, and the Catholic faith is the only faith claimed to be started by Jesus himself, and wasn't changed until 1517. The Catholic Faith is also where the Bible originated, so if you believe the Bible, you believe in the authority of the Catholic church. (According to the Decretum Gelasianum (a work written by an anonymous scholar between 519 and 553), the Council of Rome (AD 382) cited a list of books of scripture presented as having been made canonical. Later, the Catholic Church formally affirmed its canon of Scripture with the Synod of Hippo (in AD 393), followed by the Council of Carthage (AD 397)) Also, if you haven't, please please lookup Eucharistic miracles of the Catholic Church. I know you're likely not going to because I'm just a guy on the internet, but I think you may see a glimpse into the truth and you may have a change of heart. And to be honest with you, I think many people don't like the idea of a religion because they don't want to follow rules and they just want to believe they are a good person and they will go to Heaven just by believing. But if people truly understood the magnitude of God's mercy and love, and the perfection that Heaven is, they wouldn't want to solely believe, they'd want to do anything they can to get closer to God. So just because following a religion, such as the Catholic Faith, has a lot of "rules," that doesn't make it bad, it's actually better because you're being guided and not just left to yourself to guess what is the correct way to Heaven.
3:49 how did you know it was not God’s will? if you don’t mind me asking. I just went through a similar situation a few weeks ago. Me and this girl go on 3 dates. They were awesome. I told her I was looking for something serious, we even talked about the future. Everything lining up perfectly. Both believers, shared similar interests. Then a week after the third date she said that she prayed a lot, and God indicated to her that we were not gonna end up together. I just don’t understand why
Taking $100 dollars from a 17 year old who wants a 30 minute conversation from you seems in poor taste to me. As influencers, there must be alot of fans in a Parasocial relationship with you two. I hope you take the parasocial aspect into further consideration. Remember, licensed therapists study for years, and have strict legal standards they have to adhere in their profession. Nate and Sutton, I believe you can do better.
“The day will come when the mystical generation of Jesus, by the Supreme Being as His father, in the womb of a virgin will be classed with the fable of the generation of Minerva in the brain of Jupiter." -Thomas Jefferson
So was you a born again virgin when you got married. Or was you a virgin. And you said you were in a 5 year relationship and being in love. I do not believe in being in love. But a man is supposed to love his wife
I agree that can't be pastors, but they can be pastors' wives or evangelists' wives, or counselors...I know some people that believe that God has called them to be a wife of a man in ministry which does mean they will be in ministry as well.
That is so silly, I’m hoping you just mean that women should not spiritually lead men in which case that’s correct. But the term ministry encompasses evangelism and to take out every woman’s testimony or missionary work to spread the gospel would be an absolute disservice to the kingdom of Christ.
Ash glass. Not at all silly. Ministry means the office of the minister as installed by God. And that is precisely what I mean. Women should not be in the ministry. Nothing more
Sutton you nailed it at around the 8:50 mark. I know from personal experience that, even when a man and woman stay in the friend zone, one side eventually ends up developing feelings for the other.
nate's silvery hair is so cool
why does her discomfort look so genuine in the thumbnail...
What if you and your boyfriend break up and you go to the same church? It’s been SO hard to see him every Sunday at church. And it’s been a while now. I’ve given it a lot of time and it still brings me back every time :(
I feel like if one of you has feeling for the other, you can not be friends. Otherwise the one who likes the other will just always have hope. Which I think is unfair on the person with those feelings. When I broke up with my first boyfriend, which was a very serious relationship I had to cut all ties so we wouldn't be tempted but also to protect our future husband and wife. Even now I have dreams where he pops up in them and it leads me to think about him. And I'm like " No thank you Satan". I know my husband is who God chose for me 14 years later.
I saw you both on the Family Feud Show, and I thought it was cool because I watch your RUclips channel from time to time. I definitely cheered for your family too! 🤗 My husband and I thought Sutton looked a bit like our niece too.
Thank You both for encouraging others in the Lord. I have definitely appreciated some of your videos. You both seem like a really great couple.
May God Bless You Both and Your Children! 💐
Thank you so much guys this is the first christian advice video that ACTUALLY helps me in this kind of situation. A sister sent it to me and I thank her
So timely, thank you!
This has happened to me but a little bit different. It is very awkward at first, but I promise that you guys will find a different way to be friends and support each other. I don’t recommend spending alone time with each other or sending him personal texts, DMs, etc. Keep everything in group settings and group chats. Make sure not to flirt or entertain any thoughts. 2 Cor 10:5. I think the hardest part was feeling like you lost a best friend. Keep God first in your life and allow His will to guide you. I promise that you will be able to be each other’s cheerleaders from the sidelines without having to say a word to each other, and that’s when you’ll see your growth. You are very wise and stronger than you think you are. I believe God can entrust you with is. I’ll be praying for you, friend. ❤
I haven’t even dated anyone but this was so amazing to read, thank you 🙌❤️
Idk if this was in response to my comment but this was really helpful. 😄
Never be "just" friends with a woman you really love dude. You'll go through more heartbreak. Walk away you can still have love for her but stop communication focus on your purpose and go to gym go to sports events etc...You'll meet a variety of girls you may like but choose one. She either wants you or not. I don't believe the split because were in different cities because me and my gf were long distance for 2 years i just didnt have my own house yet and was young.
This sounds like maybe this girl just wasnt sure if she wanted to be with you for lifetime but is unsure. Its ok but you two should stop all communication until you make up your mind a definite decision because your just holding on because you dont want to lose their love.if you gf or bf is confused i walk away
Amen, very wise advice sister
Can't wait to watch, still at work 😊😊love you guys 💕❤️😘
For the close, suggest staying in the present tense, “So, we are Nate and Sutton sowing…” because you’re still there and talking.
Blessings to you and your family.
I love how God uses you to let His wisdom run through you to us viewers🤍So many quotes of you I'll have to write down somewhere!! This is such an important topic and such a diffucult situation! Thank you for your words on it🤗
💛💛
For this girl, she needs to talk to her whole family too. Her brother should agree to only see said friend at his place or neutral places for awhile. If the 2 families get together, they should be sensitive to this situation. Maybe just the parents get together by themselves for awhile? I learned years ago that being "still friends" after a break-up means, at a minimum, you hold nothing against each other and your mutual friends don't need to take sides. It may be awkward at, say, church youth group, or school if they're in classes together. Push through it with God's help. Easier said than done. Prayer is needed, right? I'm praying for her too, and anyone else in such a situation.
hello Nate and Sutton! your conversations are very interesting ! thank you for sharing your point of view and your experience😀
I have seen this happen to a sister and they were engaged and broke up after and stayed friends but they both went to ministry school and she was waiting on him but he was getting with other women from the school and it would hurt her... Now he is in a relationship for the first time since their high school engagement with another girl and they cannot be friends anymore after 4 years of friendship after they were engaged ..... So take that story and listen to Suttons advice because my sweet sister in christ went through a lot of hurt and waiting.Cut it off as much as you can unless y'all are going to get married it causes so much hurt. I was in a relationship for 5 years before I dated my husband and that should have ended long before it actually did, because I knew he was not going to be my husband.
Perfect timing!!!!
Nate- unrelated to this video but you recommended Point Man few weeks back and got it- it’s so good thanks for the rec!
nate && sutton , what an absolutely sweet sweet sit down video ! i absolutely love love love to see && hear how all your answers point back to the ✞ . this video really convicted me && really just resonates with me && in the season i am in . i can wholeheartedly see the Lord growing you intimacy with Him && it is so so beautiful ! always && forever run ever more persistently to the feet of the Father ! 🕊️🤎
Such a good video!🙂
I agree and believe that there is only one MR. or MRS. Right out there. You can't substitute a different puzzle piece that might be the same shape but from a different puzzle. It then doesn't complete the picture and is wrong. Might fit, but not right that picture.-- and it is "THIS" with going into "THAT" for the title of the episode. LOL SMILE!
I just watched The family rFued game show and was so surprized to see Sutton an You and family as player on the show. Wow
This sounds good! haha 😂
I forgot about the new intro and got so excited when it came on lol
manifesting an as-painless-as-possible divorce for the lady xoxo
Very nice what you are doing ❤
God is so funny. I was watching Gilmore Girls and this specific plot was that one of the main character’s ex who is newly married ( btw)cheats with her. They were friends after the broke up and nawwww the second it comes on I get this notification of this video from RUclips ☠️
🤣
It’s dangerous to be friends with someone who likes you and it’s disrespectful to keep that friendship going when you’re married to a loving husband or wife who has been nothing but loyal to you.
Long Distance relationshiops are hard to do. Some can do them some can't it depends on the couple. Depends how strong the connection is if a relationship develops.I think God has someone for everyone eventually it is up to the person to realize that person is for them. God bless Nate and Sutton.
This is happening/happened in my life right now . We don't text each other or see each other really anywhere . We go to different churches . Our relationship wasn't very long , but it does still hurt .
God still shows His love , we're never alone if we trust in him .
If boundaries seem more like red tape that you are more tempted to cross or if they start making you more sad about the situation… maybe think about what it would be like to lean into friendship with him. Friendship, not romantic relationship. Seeing him as first a brother in Christ and a friend instead of someone who you used to be so close with but now can’t talk to. I think different people need different methods. Maybe try the boundaries and take note of how it makes you feel! Definitely counterintuitive to lean into friendship but I think if done right it could be great. And I guess “lean into friendship” is vague, but what I mean is not to start spending a bunch of time with him again but when you are around him, see what it would look like to talk to him like a brother in Christ and someone you do genuinely care about their well-being. Go with what feels right for you though! I have a friend who is going through something similar and she became really sad with the idea of boundaries . But like I said, everyone be different
I get the concept of one-itis, but -itis means inflammation 😂 enjoy the beach!!
Inflamed with love for one person 🤣
Amen. Including the Lord is the best thing to do, especially in choosing a mate. He knows us best, and he will make his will known to you. God bless!
It’s definitely that
Great advice. When it comes to an "ex"...he/she maybe an "ex" for a reason. Continue to seek God's will b/c he knows what is BEST for your life.
Hey Nate and Sutton 😊 I love yas channel by the way !!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️. At the end of yas video ya couldn't decide whether it " that was " Nate and Sutton or " this is " Nate and Sutton . I was watching the ending of yas other video and Nate always mentions that was . But I think both can work out just fine 😁👍.
Thank you! 😂
I always thought to set up your life in preparation for your spouse. I’ve seen people love being best friends with opposite sex people and when a significant other comes along that person loses half their relationships because they were too close to people of the opposite sex. I don’t believe opposite sex best friends should be a thing, especially not going out with them alone. Prepare and be faithful for your future spouse!
🔥🙏🏼
I’m struggling with a similar situation. Except I’ve only been with my boyfriend for about 2 weeks and then I had to break up with him because he has some commitment issues. We talked about just making it a break and getting back together in a few months. I need to work on myself and he needs to work on himself. He said he still wants to be friends but im just struggling with the whole idea of friends because im still in love with him, and im pretty sure he feels the same way. Im not entirely sure what to do because both of us struggle with making friends, and it would be hard if either of us lost the other.
In order for you both to work on yourselves and focus on yourselves I think it’s necessary that you don’t remain friends. You guys can still be on good terms but I think it will be really good if you guys cut off contact for a bit and then see what God is leading you to do, because if you both are still in love with eachother it will be hard to focus on yourselves if you guys still have contact
Nice video
I had a really good guy friend and we spent a lot of time together but after some months he developed feelings for me and it was so hard for me (and him) because I didn't feel the same and so we had to end our friendship... I still miss him and like him but I know that I can't contact him because it must be even harder for him to have feelings when the girl doesn't feel the same...
Why didn’t you like him? Perhaps maybe you should have dated him and given him the chance. I’ve been the guy on the other side of the equation and it’s never fun. It makes me want to give up on dating but I still have hope someone will one day reciprocate their feelings to me
@@Josh_Morales I tried, we dated for half a year, but I just did'nt develop any feelings for him. It just did'nt happen. And I couldn't do that any longer because all that time he still had hope so it wouldn't have been fair to date any longer.
Sometimes you just don't fall in love even if you like someone as a person. I couldn't imagine a romantic relationship with him 🤷🏽♀️
Why isn't the dog in the intro!?!?
This 😊
Yeah, i mean i was 26 years old, in a relationship with an amazing man who was called into ministry. Our relationship was good for the most part and we were starting to think that we would get married and be together. However, my culture required him to do some things to become more friendly with my family especially with my father. My dad wanted him to be like a son to him. The guy i was dating was unwilling to do that even after trying repeatedly to explain my culture and my family’s desires for him. So in the end, i had to be the bigger person and call the relationship off. I havent had any contact with him since. The moral of the story is to anyone reading this. You will find the one that God has intended for your life just because the person you are with at the moment seems like the right person that may not be what God intends You just have to learn how to protect your heart.
I dont agree that you need to take the other persons culture for you to be compatible, you should respect their culture but not necessarily be like them. People are different and you have to respect that, respecting the other persons culture isnt the same as adopting their culture.
Yes, respecting another persons culture doesnt mean you have to conform, it just means you respect it and when it comes to marriage you may have to do something in order to gain acceptance by the other party. Only people of cultured backgrounds will understand this thats what makes its so difficult
@@princessval984 i still disagree, sometimes you dont need acceptance from the other party if what they are asking is absurd to you. I would never turn down a person simply because my culture doesn’t accept them.
What advice do y’all have on forgiving your spouse when they confess and repent from lust (not pornography or anything ongoing; really a “small” sin, all things considered, that they truly are repentant of)? Just overcoming the idea that your spouse could ever be attracted to someone else..
That would be an awesome video topic, My advice would be to remember how much Christ loves you even when you "love" other things or whenever you sin. Think of the story of Hosea and how much he loved Gommer even after she went back into prostitution. He bought her back with his own money and forgave her and made her beautiful again. God does that when we sin He already bought us when He died on the cross but He takes us back and loves us even after betraying Him. That is how much God loves that spouse. That is how much we are called to love them. As we are called to love as He loves (John 15:13). Forgiveness is hard and sometimes, we can know, that we know, that we know the truth, and Satan because he is the father of lies will still try to get us to doubt. Understand that wanting something that isn't God's will is lust and we all at times want that. Whether it is in wanting a relationship, an item, money, or an experience; if we want it and it is not God's will we are lusting. We can forgive because God forgave us first and God forgave them as well. I pray this all makes sense and is helpful. :)
Thinking that other people are attractive is not lust in my opinion. That’s just having two working eyeballs lol
@Madelyn Winslow I do not believe it's a sin simply to be attracted to someone who is not your spouse. Attraction is one thing, but acting on your attraction towards someone is a totally different thing. I myself am attracted to many different types of guys, but that doesn't mean I want to be close with all of them or marry all of them!! (I want to be committed to one person, whoever they will be). 😂😂😂Whenever I get married, and whenever I start dating someone exclusively- I am not going to be okay with them following a bunch of girls that post pictures in bikinis on social media. But, if your spouse repents of lusting after another woman, they obviously want to be open and honest with you. I would forgive them and tell them you love them. Romans 3:23 says "For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard."
Marriage will not stop you from being attracted to other people. Lust & attraction are two different things. Have open & honest discussions with your spouse about these things.
Pray for a heart of compassion and selflessness! And bring your hurt to the Lord in prayer so he can heal your heart. Talk to a trusted, biblically sound mentor figure who you've seen model forgiveness well. If the Lord leads you to do this AFTER you've done the work to surrender your emotions and seek to have grace with your husband, be honest with your spouse about how it affected you if that honesty is needed. I think it becomes hard to forgive when our focus is on ourselves and how we were hurt ... That's not something to ignore which is why we bring it before the Lord in prayer! But our aim is to model the love of Jesus Christ in our lives, and His love is not one that withholds forgiveness, grace, or mercy. So make it your primary aim to be like Jesus to your husband! Love him as God has loved you, and pray for God's grace through His Spirit to help you love him well in this moment by forgiving him and praying for him💙 I know it's a few weeks later so I hope you've been able to work through this with your spouse! And praying for him always helps
Thank you for posting this ❤!!! I need prayer to do the right thing. I have been trying to do the right thing by keeping my distance, but this person I have feelings for is coming around again and asking me to come to events. He is legally married, but separated from her. I really need to have an open and honest conversation with him, but need wisdom.
I need strength too.
Did his wife cheat on him, abuse him or desert him?
Or even worse did he do these to his wife?
If none of these are the case then to marry such a man would be adulterous according to Scripture.
@@jdkayak7868 Amen.
So sick of hearing "Christian's" engage and justify divorce other than those two reasons.
If they're true believers and followers of Christ, they wouldn't be divorcing nor remarrying.
I don't normally leave comments on videos, actually I don't know if I ever have, but I was curious what denomination of Christianity y'all are? I've been watching your videos for quite a while and I really appreciate the advice you give, but I don't think you've ever mentioned what church you actually attend. Maybe I'm wrong, and if somebody does know, please leave a response.
But my reason for asking was more to invite you guys to check out the Catholic faith (I'm not saying you have to go out and convert today, but just check it out), if for no other reason than to learn about the Holy Eucharist, the real body and blood of Jesus Christ. (Little fact, no other faith claims that their bread actually changes into the real body of Jesus, only the Catholic Faith. Also, please look up "Eucharistic miracles" (where the Holy Eucharist does unfathomable things, like bleeding continuously for hundreds of years, never decomposing, beating like a heart) and try to debunk them as best you can. They are unexplainable) I know I will probably receive replies saying I'm crazy and it's all fake and what not, but that's mostly because so many people have a misunderstanding of the Catholic faith. There are millions of people who hate what they think the Catholic Faith is, but very very few hate what the Catholic Faith actually is. Even Catholics who left the faith typically had misunderstandings. A few common ones that aren't true are that we worship Mary or the saints, we worship statues, we hate gay people (we hate the sin, not the person), etc. A great RUclips channel for anybody who's reading this, is "Divine Mercy" and specifically the talks by Fr. Chris Alar. He does long talks about our Catholic faith and often touches on misconceptions about the faith and what we actually believe. I would encourage anybody reading this to just check out a video or two that seems interesting to you. I would even encourage anybody here to try and disprove the Catholic faith, but use Catholic resources, not what people outside the Church claim. I can almost guarantee with 100% certainty that if you use Catholic resources that give the truth about the faith, but you try to disprove the faith, you will more than likely convert to Catholicism. Don't trust me? Give it a try and report back on your results. And if you're not up for the challenge, I think deep down you probably know it's true that you might end up converting and that scares you because you like your current church and you don't want to have more responsibility towards God, but I promise you it will all be worth it in the end when you come to know the full truth of Jesus, with nothing hidden or kept from you.
I hope everybody has a wonderful day, and please ask me any questions you have, or reasons you've hesitated on converting or even why you've hesitated to just look into the Catholic Faith. I would love to clear up any confusion anybody has.
(Little bonus that I'm not sure if everybody knows, but the Catholic Faith is the only faith that claims to be started by Jesus himself, which is God. All other Christian faiths can be traced back to a normal man branching off. The first of which was the Lutheran faith in the early 1500's, then every other christian faith came after that. So I'm not blaming people if they were raised in a different denomination, but wouldn't it make the most sense to seek out the original, God given faith, not one started by a man? And this is a genuine question, but if the Catholic faith was the only faith for 1500 years, did they have it wrong the whole time and God just let that fly, until all of a sudden Martin Luther, (or whatever guy started your faith), came along and now everything is correct as it should be? I don't say that to belittle anybody, especially if you didn't know the Catholic faith is the only Christian faith that claims to be started by Jesus. If you did know that, wouldn't it make the most sense to be a part of the one faith that Jesus started? I'm not saying it's easy to be Catholic, especially in today's day in age, with the devil attacking us everywhere, but it will be so worth it to know you are following everything Jesus himself taught, and not what some man decided was correct.)
Sorry for the long ramble, and please don't think I'm attacking anybody, I know it might seem that way. I just genuinely want to see everybody following the true faith that was started by Jesus and I want to help as many people get to Heaven as possible.
Again, please leave any questions or comments and I'll do my best to answer them.
I think Lutherans do believe in Real Presence too
Our church is nondenominational :)
@@joshmohamed You may be right that some do believe it, but the people I personally know that are Lutheran, one of which was my girlfriend for 6 years and her whole family, as well a few of my parents' friends, seemed to imply that they believe it is merely a symbol of his body and not the true body and blood of Jesus. But I suppose different Lutheran churches may teach slightly differently.
From what I was able to find online, some Lutherans believe in consubstantiation vs Catholics believe in transubstantiation. The difference is that consubstantiation is the belief that the body and blood coexist with the bread and wine, meaning it's neither one or the other in full capacity. Transubstantiation on the other hand is the belief that it is fully the body and blood of Jesus, with the appearance of bread and wine.
A decent analogy is when a man has a child and becomes a father. He may look the same and appear to be the same, but the actual essence of who he is has changed on a much deeper level. It's not perfect, but I think it can help explain transubstantiation a little bit.
The Lutherans that do believe in consubstantiation also believe that after church service is over, it is no longer the body and blood, but has converted back to mere bread and wine. (Catholics believe once it has changed, it remains that way, which is why any leftover hosts remain in the Tabernacle to keep them in a safe and holy place - which is biblical if you know what the ark of the covenant is.) Catholics believe once it has changed, it is the body and blood until it is gone, ie. eaten, decomposed, dissolved, etc, and we treat it as so. If somebody were to find a consecrated (changed into the body and blood) host, say in the parking lot or on the floor, we'd contact a priest to properly take care of it, typically putting it in water to let it dissolve. (this is how a lot of Eucharistic miracles have happened. Once placed in water, occasionally the consecrated host begins bleeding and doesn't dissolve)
Something else related to this is that in some forms of black masses, or satanic masses, one of the ways that people achieve the highest level of satanic worship and to prove their abilities is to be able to find the one Catholic consecrated host out of a large number of unconsecrated hosts. I think it's like 1 out of 100, or possibly 1000. And they know they are at the top of their demonic ability when they can identify the one consecrated host. And if you're wondering how they get it, they just pretend they are any other Catholic person at mass and go up for communion and then they sneak off with the consecrated host. The Priest is supposed to watch and make sure everybody consumes the host, but occasionally they miss somebody and that's how these things happen. So basically, if the host didn't remain consecrated after mass, the demonic people wouldn't be able to tell out of a large quantity which one is real.
Also, continuing on about the host remaining consecrated after mass is all the Eucharistic miracles. All Eucharistic miracles that I've ever heard of have only been in the Catholic faith. I've never heard of any outside of the Catholic faith, which is hopefully eye opening for some people.
Hey Evan, it's time you read the word of God and not the heresy the catholic church has been feeding you.
Jesus is the only way, his word is the only truth and anyone who adds or subtracts from his word is not his.
Please repent of your religion and turn to Jesus.
@@ironmatto3 I'm sorry, but you have been deceived because of the protestant reformation. It's not your fault, but because of Martin Luther, many Christians believe they can be saved by "faith alone" but this is not true. The Bible used Luther’s phrase “by faith alone” only once: “a man is justified by works and NOT by faith alone” (Jas 2:24). The Bible also says that “what counts is faith working through love” (Gal 5:6). While Catholics and Protestants agree that Jesus alone saves us, Luther in the 16th century inserted without basis the word “alone” in his German translation of Rom 3:28 (“a man is justified by faith”) in order to support his personal interpretation that a Christian is incapable of cooperating with God in his salvation. And I'm not saying you are protestant, but if you believe you can be saved by faith alone, then you have been lead astray by Martin Luther in 1517.
The Bible says that the “Word of the Lord” is “spoken” (Jer 25:3), not just written. St. Paul urged us to “hold to traditions which you were taught by us, either by word of mouth or by letter” (2 Thes 2:15). The Bible also tells of a Council’s authority, where Peter settled a doctrinal dispute and declared what “we believe” (Acts 15). In fact there was NO bible for almost 400 years and then after only priests and nobility owned one. Why? because there was no printing press until 1560. So who dispensed the word of the Lord? The Catholic Church. If it were people just claiming that you only need to follow Jesus, we wouldn't have the same teachings now as we did centuries ago, because nobody would be able to agree on what the truth is.
With all of that said, I would like to ask why you think following a religion is not the correct thing to do, when there are more than 1.2 billion Catholics, and the Catholic faith is the only faith claimed to be started by Jesus himself, and wasn't changed until 1517. The Catholic Faith is also where the Bible originated, so if you believe the Bible, you believe in the authority of the Catholic church.
(According to the Decretum Gelasianum (a work written by an anonymous scholar between 519 and 553), the Council of Rome (AD 382) cited a list of books of scripture presented as having been made canonical. Later, the Catholic Church formally affirmed its canon of Scripture with the Synod of Hippo (in AD 393), followed by the Council of Carthage (AD 397))
Also, if you haven't, please please lookup Eucharistic miracles of the Catholic Church. I know you're likely not going to because I'm just a guy on the internet, but I think you may see a glimpse into the truth and you may have a change of heart.
And to be honest with you, I think many people don't like the idea of a religion because they don't want to follow rules and they just want to believe they are a good person and they will go to Heaven just by believing. But if people truly understood the magnitude of God's mercy and love, and the perfection that Heaven is, they wouldn't want to solely believe, they'd want to do anything they can to get closer to God. So just because following a religion, such as the Catholic Faith, has a lot of "rules," that doesn't make it bad, it's actually better because you're being guided and not just left to yourself to guess what is the correct way to Heaven.
3:49 how did you know it was not God’s will? if you don’t mind me asking.
I just went through a similar situation a few weeks ago. Me and this girl go on 3 dates. They were awesome. I told her I was looking for something serious, we even talked about the future. Everything lining up perfectly. Both believers, shared similar interests. Then a week after the third date she said that she prayed a lot, and God indicated to her that we were not gonna end up together. I just don’t understand why
you have to vlog, plz, pretty plz
She paid money to ask if she should be friends????
Taking $100 dollars from a 17 year old who wants a 30 minute conversation from you seems in poor taste to me. As influencers, there must be alot of fans in a Parasocial relationship with you two. I hope you take the parasocial aspect into further consideration. Remember, licensed therapists study for years, and have strict legal standards they have to adhere in their profession. Nate and Sutton, I believe you can do better.
“The day will come when the mystical generation of Jesus, by the Supreme Being as His father, in the womb of a virgin will be classed with the fable of the generation of Minerva in the brain of Jupiter."
-Thomas Jefferson
So was you a born again virgin when you got married. Or was you a virgin. And you said you were in a 5 year relationship and being in love. I do not believe in being in love. But a man is supposed to love his wife
First problem...women should not be in the ministry. Once that problem is eliminated, everything else will fall into place.
My thought. I do believe women should not be in ministry. That's what Bible teaches us too
I agree that can't be pastors, but they can be pastors' wives or evangelists' wives, or counselors...I know some people that believe that God has called them to be a wife of a man in ministry which does mean they will be in ministry as well.
That is so silly, I’m hoping you just mean that women should not spiritually lead men in which case that’s correct. But the term ministry encompasses evangelism and to take out every woman’s testimony or missionary work to spread the gospel would be an absolute disservice to the kingdom of Christ.
Ash glass. Not at all silly. Ministry means the office of the minister as installed by God. And that is precisely what I mean. Women should not be in the ministry. Nothing more
Even if you look at Philippians 4:3 you can read that Paul thanks his fellow woman that are sharing the gospel and laboring with him...