Therapist Reacts to Everything Everywhere All at Once
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- Опубликовано: 22 сен 2022
- Does anything we do matter? Or does EVERYTHING we do matter? Or is everything just on a bagel?
Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright take a look at Jonathan's new favorite film, Everything Everywhere All At Once, to explore themes of family dynamics, forgiveness, the power of kindness, nihilism, love, existential crises, mother-daughter relationships, romantic relationships, and a whole lot more. Because this movie really does have everything. Everywhere. All at once. They talk about the fantastic performances by Michelle Yeoh, Stephanie Hsu, Ke Huy Quan, and of course Racacoonie. And how a scene where people have hot dog fingers, or even where they're rocks, can have such an emotional impact.
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Written by: Megan Seawright, Jonathan Decker, and Alan Seawright
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The line" In another life I would have liked to do laundry and taxes with you"broke me in a new way I've never felt before.
BIG same. I cried so many times in this film... Raccacoonieeeeee 😂!!
One of my favorite lines, ever.
I’ve watched this movie multiple times and it gets me every time. It made me shoulder shake sob the first time
The funny part of that is that for their to be another life... there must be something beyond our present existence.
YES
OMG it shattered, and healed, something in me I didn’t know was there. That and the lines about kindness. I saw a lot of myself in Joy. I strive to be more like Waymond
my favourite line of the whole film is "I am no longer willing to do to my daughter what you did to me. How did you let me go so easily?"
I started crying like a baby at that part
I said these words to myself at 15 I said these words to my father at 20. I am 28 and have a mostly healthy relationship with my folks who used to beat me and call me all sorts of degrading things. THERAPY WORKS.
Yesss
@@danktankdragkings7117 damn
Childhood trauma
As someone who grew up hearing that I was too soft and sensitive… waymond’s character really made me feel seen. It’s like they took my inner thoughts and put them in a character. I love this movie so much
I so feel the same way. In fact when I was watching him at Oscar’s, it suddenly occurred to me that he is probably born year of the pig. And low and behold he is 1971 year of the pig. Sweet and forgiving, intelligent and wise are the ways of the pig. (Yeah I’m one too) also a person could be born in the hour of the pig. I’m wondering if Brandon Fraser is, ha always had a sweet and gentle side to him.
Same, Hey you might like MBTI 16 personality , There are people like waymond's character call " INFP ". Its really made me happy to see people who can kinda understand what i thinking...
Don't believe that is a bad thing, its a superpower trust me, you feel things more intensly and have a big compassionate heart which is the best thing human can use to move mountains and oceans, it's a gift just remember that
I feel you on every level
Compassion and love are never weak.
I remember watching this for the first time with my Mom. I’ve suffered from chronic depression for over thirteen years and there have been days when I’m sunk into a pit of darkness like Jobu where I just want to be sucked into my own bagel for the pain to stop.
Once we finished the movie, my mom teared up and told me that she’s always going to reach into the bagel and pull me out when I get there each time.
And that meant so much to me.
that’s so beautiful! thank you for sharing this here
to feel heard and seen. and cherished, thats everything.
I think the daughter's journey with emotional wellness as an individual , like yours, is also worth looking at. In therapy you usually get just the estranged parent OR the struggling young adult. Both have their own individual quest to joust with in life.
I wish for all of my clients to have parents that would go in the bagel for them, every time.
oh wow that got me 😭😭😭😭😭 thank you for sharing this wow LMAO
I watched this movie with my mother.
In the first 20 minutes i saw only my mother on Evelyn, and i did so many jokes about it, but my mom was avoiding it.
And when Joy asked to go to her mother, mine's said: she is going to say no.
And then it hit me,(for real) my mother is Evelyn without the character improvement.
The worst is, after all this, she still in the end of the movie try to hug me. Tough. I didn't wanted her being like "minha filha" - My daughter in portuguese. I wanted just my mom actually seeing me.
The fact that just watching random clips of this movie can STILL bring me to tears is a testament to how powerful it is.
I WAS CRYING TOO 😭
Seriously! It’s so incredible.
Me tooooooo! My kids were like oh god - you're not even watching the movie right now
Same... hahahah
Same here 😭
The crazy thing about that “laundry and taxes“ line is that while the subtitles say “in another life“ the direct translation of what Waymond is saying is _”if there is a next life.”_
He is willing to die and be reborn just to have a measly but happy life with Evelyn. That and the scene with the rocks _absolutely destroyed me._
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That's incredible 🤯
😭😭😭
omg Im crying again thank you :')
Omg, THANK YOU for providing this clarification.
It's amazing how at the start of the movie Evelyn is literally "joyless" in her life and in the end she regains "JOY" back in her life. What a masterpiece.
Wow, bravo
Also how that connects to her line “So the great evil Waymond was talking about is in my Joy?” (Sorry if it’s not accurate); like, she’s literally saying the reason she’s joyless it’s because her daughter IS her happiness and she wasn’t focusing on their relationship…the deepness of the line is so amazing and profound…
@@ximenacelic2451 It also speaks so much to the course of Evelyn's life - how she gave up her dreams right from the outset to marry this man, how she poured her attention into the idea that maybe she could find joy in this laundromat life, how her daughter became a vessel for that hoped-for joy to the point that she *named her daughter that*, in an effort to conjure joy into the reality of her life. To see how her fraying relationship with Joy represents her own failure to find that joy nonetheless. And finally, in the end, to see that the Joy she created is all that matters (because, after all, nothing matters... except what you CHOOSE).
This comment is a masterpiece.
We watched this at a family gathering yesterday, I find it funny how my cousins and I were completely blown away by this movie and pretty sure would've been in tears if we weren't surrounded by people, and then all of our parents and the older generation were like "that was a really stupid movie, I didn't like it a single bit". If that doesn't shout generational walls, I don't know what does lol
Lol right? I watched this with my family and my mom said it was a "disrespect to movies." It seems a lot of people from older generations really don't like it and younger generations absolutely adore it
My therapist didn't really like it. He's not my therapist anymore.
The older folks in my family had a hard time following the story 🙃
lollllll same tho my mom was more courteous and said she could see how it's a good movie but it wasn't her kind of movie. she lit said she could feel the generational gap btw us lmao
@@positiviteee lool my parents were mad at the daughter for being disrespectful to her parents and grandparent
Alan saying "I cannot love things calmly I must love things ferociously" has to be one of the most poetic lines of natural dialogue I've heard in a while
I felt incredibly moved by those words, you are right it was profoundly poetic
yes, and I am stealing it to live by these words. With kindness!
It fits my daughter, we've said shes aggressively affectionate since she was a baby.
Right? Good for Alan! Don't lower your love frequency for anyone!
us neurodivergent folks
Everyone's just trying to survive. Kindness in this movie is courageous and loud, and I want to choose that for my life. It's not a bold choice in American culture, where everyone's fighting to shout louder, but this movie reframed my mindset on gentleness and kindness
"This is how I fight"
"this is how i fight" is as much of a soul-shattering immutable truth for me as moana telling te ka "this does not define you."
Honestly, I’m a American and I chose as a young adult to fight thru sunshine and happiness:)
My personal philosophy is: every time you do a kindness, evil gets an ass kick
Start a movement - do something special for two people everyday, but ask them, as a thank-you, to do something special for two people themselves everyday.
@@pw.70 hey, I kinda do the same thing, except replace "do something special" with "scare"
Everyone talks about the line "In another life I would have liked doing laundry and taxes with you", but as a daughter with a rocky relationship with her mother, the line of "I will always want to be here with you" just breaks my heart. BRB need tissues.
same...
Hah, "rocky"
I see what you did there
Same!!!! It’s like The Runaway Bunny. No matter how far you run, I will never give up on you, cos I’m your mother and I will always love you.
I cried during her whole speech. Never have I watched a movie that related so hard to my relationship with my mother
I like the laundry quote simply because it meant he would've gave up everything he has just to be with her even if the life is mediocre. Its really just another way to say "I will always want to be with you" but with the husband instead.
The fact that everyone thought Evelyn was misremembering Racacooni, then it was revealed that she knew it from a different her was brilliant.
Ikr! XD My literal first thought was, “Oh, so it’s different in her universe? That’s so co.ol! :0”
No, remember it’s your thoughts that lead you to a different universes. She has to imagine where she’s going. So she mis-remembered Rattitoui as having a raccoon in it and went to the raccoon universe instead lol
I would also love to see a video talking about the healthy non-toxic masculinity that Waymond portrays! He’s the heart of the story and it’s such a breath of fresh air!
Yes! Though Pop Culture Detective has already done a really good one: ruclips.net/video/O7YnbGszcb8/видео.html
@@merpaca I was going to mention that!
Yes please @CinemaTherapy
Accented cinema has done an amazing video on this
AN EXCELLENT IDEA!!! Please do this
I CRIED so hard at the rock scene where she rolls after her daughter. Then I laughed and cried again. It felt so good
That is the appropriate reaction. All the emotions!!
Haha yes! I only noticed that on the second watch though. So much to take in!
For some reason the rock scene had me tearing up the most. Possibly because it shows how there's only one thing that transcend the power of logic to achieve and reach for what we seek the most: love.
@@CinemaTherapyShow All at once.
Most of people felt this way. I feel really bad for finding all these scenes corny and cheesy. I think I'm emotionally dried or soulless. I need therapy for not liking this movie.
Chinese here. When I heard Joy saying the line, "Where your daughter is more than just this", it hurt me so much. There's so much genuine exploration of generational trauma in Asian families in this film, really amazing.
You could even delve into the psyche of Asian female relationships. The Chinese culture is infamous of the "I'm sorry. It's a girl" mentality of society. But there's a lot of it in the other cultures too. Like in Japan a female student was expelled from school cause her hair was "too brown" and she MUST'VE dyed it...and how their society "grooms" their girls to be a certain way. Must look a certain way, must behave a certain way, etc. And the boys.....not so much, or not nearly as much.
But the things Asian women must deal with because their society is still very much male-centric patriarchy can be an entire psychological video essay topic.
If you do a villain therapy on Dierdre, please please address that the disgust the audience feels about the hot dog world mirrors the disgust Evelyn feels about homosexuality and learns to change her mind about. It was very impactful to me and I think many people don't understand the importance of the hot dog fingers and how they relate to Evelyn's experience of homophobia. I haven't seen a single other film that gets the audience to relate to that state of mind in such a subtle and accurate way
Good point!! The hot dog fingers is a good analogy for homophobia - people are like ewww, gross and how could they live like that. It seems like an odd parody joke but then they find the beauty in the relationships in hot dog world anyhow.
I think it’s also a great callback to the first “tell Deirdre you love her, and mean it” joke from earlier. Because there is a world in which that makes total sense, and while it’s played for absurdity in the moment, it foreshadows how the thing that ultimately solves this mess is love and acceptance and compassion.
Wow! Thank you for your insight and comment.
OMG lol I didn't think about it like that
@@swimmyswim417 well put!
I loved the fact that the director wanted the protagonist to have undiagnosed ADHD and in the process of researching he realized that he also might have undiagnosed ADHD
It's really, really nice to see an accurate representation of what ADHD is like.
Neat
Hopefully now diagnosed ADHD or at least working towards it especially if he's having ADHD related problems
That explains why my ADHD brain seemed to love this movie so much lol
@@cartoondeathnoises8756 he is diagnosed now!
The line, "Be kind. Especially when we don't know what's going on." Feels like it came out of March 2020 and punched me in the face for like three weeks after watching this movie. I have so many feelings about Waymon, but he's amazing and that's the most important takeaway.
rofl also I adore how Jono has to add "and 15 minutes" every time.
Throughout the movie the fighting style she is using is called Wing Chun. It is a completely defensive fighting style based on using your opponents momentum against themselves as a defense instead of offensively hiring them. It is a very nice subtle wink at the entire point he makes at the end of the film! 😁
Bruce Lee was a student of this style, until he developed his own.
It is a soft style of Martial arts that was created by a woman.
@@keliniajohnson9397 👆
I thought her fighting style looked familiar! It reminded me of Ip Man!
The rock scene, unbelievably, is the part where the waterworks have started in my first watch in that movie. This has to be the first time Evelyn and Jobu/Joy can finally sit together and look each other in the eye without going down into miscommunication, unsaid words, and killing each other. Most especially when Rock Evelyn is trying to reach out for her daughter. God, no one will ever believe me if I told them that the saddest scene I ever watched in a film is the part where a pair of rocks discussed humanity's place in the world and how they have a heartfelt talk between mother and daughter.
I was not ready for the rocks ;-;
The rock scene is when the protagonist hits rock bottom.
@@patrickchuan4550 RIMSHOT
But seriously speaking it is, since before the rock scene, all Evelyns across all multiverses were having a nasty breakdown after seeing the Bagel's hole. After that mess of a scene, the rock scene is a perfect respite.
the "I'm going to get you!!" had me crying laughing 😭😂
I just have to point out how FKN AMAZING Stephanie Hsu is. Everyone seems to be getting so much praise EXCEPT her (including with the lack of nominations for her). That scene where she starts singing “sucked into a bagel”… I get fkn CHILLS every time I see it. It’s comedic yet she is delivering a stone cold serious performance in that moment. Did anyone even notice the tear that falls from her lifeless face? She is delivering one of the most profound expressions of PAIN I have EVER seen in my life… all within a scene that is intended to have a comedic tone.
She. Is. BRILLIANT.
She is an icon. A legend. The moment.
Awards are sadly more about more than individual performances, which is why it comes as no surprise to me that the nominations would go to the actress who has been turning in quality performances for a long time and the former child actor who is making a comeback rather than to the relatively unknown young actress, even though I personally thought all three of them were equally amazing.
@@korganrocks3995 I’m not saying in comparison to Michelle Yeoh. Nothing can touch her and she deserved the recognition decades ago. I’m referring to the collective of many many different types of awards an actor can be nominated for any performance.
@@PneumaNoose I wasn't saying in comparison to Michelle Yeoh either, just pointing out that young actors tend to not get the recognition they deserve until years or decades later when they've built up a resumé of quality roles. I definitely think it's stupid, but I'm never surprised when I see it.
But, she did get nominated for an Oscar…
I don't have the best relationship with my mom and that last scene where Joy tells her mom "I'm tired. I want to stop hurting but every time I'm with you it just hurts us both" broke me in a way I never thought imaginable. The mom's response was EXACTLY what I wish my mom would say to me and exactly what I needed to hear. I watched this movie with my mom and I turned to her in that scene; she was fast asleep while I was bawling. The fact this movie wasn't Jobu Topahki trying to kill Evelyn but a daughter who is hurt and depressed just wanting her mom to understand her and support her ... this movie is my therapy. Please please please do a mother-daughter episode of this movie.
Sofia you took the words right out of my mouth! I actually experienced something very similar to this as well. I was beyond broken by this movie especially with my relationship with my mom so much so I also took her to see this movie and she just couldn’t get past some of the more ehem absurd scenes lol and she was on her phone most of the Time. Nevertheless this movie was so incredibly healing for me as well.
-Guys please do a mother daughter episode!
I don't actually have a bad relationship with my mom, but we just don't have anything in common and most of the time I just bore her even tho she would never tell me this. It's sad knowing I can't watch this movie with her while knowing she won't appreciate it and afterwards it will just hurt me more.
I am so sorry for all of you...my heart breaks for all of you. I'm sure your mothers have some kind of wound of their own and their defense mechanism prevents them from seeing you and what you are trying to communicate to your mothers. It also takes time for any message to penetratr fully, so don't give up on your moms. They might change or at least be open to change down the line, but if it really hurts too much remember to hold yourselves sacred and to give yourselves that motherly love ypu crave and missed out on.
I love you and sending you all motherly love and hugs. 💛🤗🤗🤗💛
@@foggyfrogy her own child should never bore her. If she considers you boring then she is boring too 🤷🏽♀️ even if you have different interests, your mother should always take initiative to share and participate in your interests. I don’t know how old you are or how ready you are to hear this, but stop making excuses for toxic parents. No matter how minuscule their toxicity might seem, it never is coming from your foundation (your parents). And you saying she won’t appreciate this movie even watching it with you is a hint…
Yes! A mother daughter therapy please,
I also had a bad relationship with my mom, and the moment Evelyn apologized to Joy crushed me so hard, all I want is a sorry like that but I never have the chance.
As I grew up in a Taiwanese immigrant family, being queer, suffering from depression , this movie speaks for me in so many levels.
Crazy Rich Asians and Key Quan's resurgence in film are actually making me want to try acting again. As an Asian-American woman who had a talent agent for 3 years back when I was in college hoping to make it to support my family financially, the roles I auditioned for back then left me feeling bereft of hope. This movie makes me want to dream again.
Go for it!
Yes please do!
I wanna see you in a movie one day!!!
Do it!
PLEASE!!! WE NEED MORE ASIAN AMERICAN REP ON SCREEN!!
That line “then I will cherish, these few specks of time” makes me cry like a baby and I don’t know why but it just gets me
In my teens I felt this "emptyness" that was later confirmed as depression, and had many issue with my mom so I connected a lot with Joy... fast-forward to my early 20s I got my life on track and everything started to feel right... a year later both my parents died on a car accident. When I saw this movie I started crying and said to my husband "in another time, another universe, my mom, dad and my brother are watching this movie and for some reason, that idea brings me joy"
That is and was a LOT to happen to you!
That’s beautiful thanks for sharing that
And they are…
This movie is about finding meaning in every step we take and every sight we watch, and it hits us so much with every possibility it thought of that we kinda realise that life is what we make of it. I am sure that your family is thinking about seeing this movie with you, somewher in the infinite cosmos, and they are happy that you thought about them.
I can only imagine
I related way to hard to the struggles of Joy. The spiraling well of nihilism and depression and the problems with her mother hit me too hard. When Joy said “But I’m tired. I don’t wanna hurt anymore and for some reason with I’m with you it just hurts the both of us.” That hit me so deep because I’ve felt that exact feeling before. I don’t feel attached to anything anymore and the one thing that has kept me going in times of facing death was the little things, breathing air, watching the clouds move, listening to rain and seeing leaves blow in the wind. That’s what kept me going. One of the messages of the movie is that nothing matters so you get to decide what matters to you in your life and that really shifted my jaded perspective. This will definitely be one of my go-to moves to lift me up.
Same, to everything you said. I'm here for the trees, the breeze, the stars, and the sky.
Every 'like' is someone going through the same thing. Words cannot express how much we empathize with you. You are not alone. Your story makes me feel a little stronger in our shared experiences. All of us, for that matter. Thank you for sharing.
Those little things you realized were there is actually "living in the present moment", and it's one of the main motives in this movie.. it is inspired on Chinese philosophy and spirituality and that's why it hits so deep. It has a lot of important messages that you can see if you pay enough attention
you described all of it perfectly. i actually developed a love for photography because of those little moments, a reminder that there is so much to appreciate when things get bad if you will :)
This is why I love "Soul" as well, just wanna watch the falling of leaves
I'm not sure I've ever cried as hard from a movie as I did during Waymond's speech(s). It is the most perfect positive masculinity I have ever seen across media. More than just the first time this movie and the many moments across it still bring up emotions on repeat watches.
You should check out Pop Culture Detective who takes like 20 minutes exploring Waymond and positive masculinity, it's excellent.
Amen!!! It brings me so much joy to see that portrayed onscreen. I love how they play into the traditional mindset about people like Waymond and then make it into his superpower. Masculinity doesn’t have to be aggressive. It can and should be kind.
If you watch Ke's recent interviews, it's not that there weren't roles for him; Hollywood didn't want him, and the way you describe it almost does a disservice to his experiences because he tried so hard to find something. It's so great to see him have a resurgence.
Midway through the film (when Joy fights random security guards and reveals that she's a villain), my fiance turned around to me and jokingly said "this is what I imagine your brain looks like", and when the credits rolled I admitted, "yeah, an exploration of ADHD, nihilism, depression, and anxiety." I was actually stunned to find out that Evelyn was initially written to have undiagnosed adult ADHD - the attention shifts, the feeling of being pulled apart, overwhelmed, the mourning of underachieved potential until... something matters all of a sudden. It's beautiful.
That take hits hard. Wow. I feel that.
I've seen this movie a good dozen times now and watched plenty of reaction and analysis vids on it, and I'm just now making the connection on ADHD. Thank you for mentioning it!
i took it personally more like a schizophrenic experience as im schizophrenic because attention deficits, literally seeing and interacting in unreal settings, paranoia, but thats just me relating to my own mind but definitely this movie can be seen from a mental illness perspective
Adult ADHD and this movie touched me deeply and this is likely a huge part of why it did. Where did you see Evelyn was originally written to have undiagnosed ADHD???
@@hatesBarney4life I think it was on the wiki somewhere!
Can we please acknowledge that Michelle Yeoh and Ke Huy Quan are showing such incredible range as actors *while* fluently switching between THREE LANGUAGES?
This is my favorite movie of all time.
I cannot express enough how this made me feel so at home and a movie that finally felt like it was made for people like me. Switching between three or even four languages is very common where I live, it's just a part of our daily lives, we don't think about how odd it is, it just is. My parents are like that, they will switch between english, mandarin and cantonese with such ease, this movie is just brilliant in how relatable it is.
I’m gonna sound stupid but there were 3 languages? Was it english, mandarin and cantonese or something?
@@KhuestionableDecisions yes!
@@KhuestionableDecisions Yep, that's right. And though they are both "Chinese," Mandarin and Cantonese are actually mutually unintelligible--they really are different languages.
@@merpaca thanks! I didn’t realize they used both dialects in this movie. I just assumed that a chinese person would only need to use one or the other, depending where they’re from
Growing up in Taiwan, being told that you are getting fat from your mom or relatives, meaning that they care about you and your health. It resonates so much as an Asian kid, feeling like your mom criticises your figure and not being supportive, it is heartbreaking. 😢
Our parents tend to expect us to understand all the cultural nuances without being taught about them, and they get really upset when we don’t get their way of expressing love through blunt criticism… my cousin was loved so much by her mom this way, that she ended up with anorexia and heart problems so severe that she was hospitalised during high school, and has never been able to concentrate on building herself up again since then. These days my aunt just wants her daughter to be alive and healthy, and I feel that for most Asian parents they only have two standards for their kids: be the very best in the world, or just existing…
This isn’t just Asian. My very southern great aunt frames it as “when did you get so fat?” As if it’s an actual question. Like, I don’t know, last week?
Also, as an Asian American (tho my mixed family definitely adopted plenty of “I love you”s) it was really gratifying and rewarding to me that in the whole resolution she never says “I love you”. A really great and nuanced representation, good screenwriting because it doesn’t feel too on the nose, but also it’s a really great demonstration that expressing love without saying “I love you” can be so valid and deep and meaningful, even moreso than saying it. Truth in general and great representation.
The "I will always want to be here with you" was maybe a deeper/more significant way to say "I love you"
If Ke Huy Quan doesn’t get some kind of nomination, then something is badly wrong. The man has range, he’s the heart of this movie with Michelle Yeoh and it’s a goofy heart felt masterpiece that will bring every kind of tear out of you and make feel happier for watching it.
I want to see him in all the roles from now on. I need more Ke.
Of course the MCU grabbed him right after his comeback, they seem to cast all of my favourite actors sooner or later.
All three of the main actors need an award. Their performances (though, ESPECIALLY Ke Huy Quan and Stephanie Hsu) were absolutely incredible. They were both playing two characters and did it flawlessly. And obviously, the wonderful Michelle Yeoh at the center stage did just as amazing as a job.
@@TheTongueTwisler You're only saying "especially Ke Huy Quan and Stephanie Hsu" because it was more surprising, but Michelle Yeoh is just as good.
If the Oscars had any sense, Best actress would go to Michelle Yeoh, best supporting actress to Stephanie Hsu (with Jamie Lee Curtis also nominated) and Ke Huy Quand would either win Best actor or best supporting actor.
@@blade7y156 Completely agree, there better be some nominations here for sure.
@@blade7y156 I absolutely agree. They were all fantastic but I was extremely surprised at just how good Ke Huy Quan and Stephanie Hsu were. I was totally and unexpectedly blown away by them.
The moment Ke Huy Quan appeared on the screen, I just cried. As an Asian who rarely saw positive representation, or often any representation at all, it was like seeing an old friend. And I can’t blame him for stepping away when the roles were such stereotypes back then, and why he didn’t want to be another Asian actor trapped doing Long Duck Dong style caricatures.
I completely agree! As a POC, I’ve seen many non-white actors have to take offensive or stereotypical roles bc that’s all that was offered, and no shade to them. However, him saying to the industry “if you only want me in yellow face speaking gibberish, then you don’t get to have me” is a HUGE power move. So glad he’s back in the movie world now bc he is SO GOOD
Waymond was one of the most moving characters for me almost instantly because it was the first time I saw an Asian man in a movie who wasn’t a joke or stereotype in some way. And I saw my dad in him.. So it built and broke my heart altogether
I just realized the bagel is a metaphor for Joy. In her universe, her mom put everything on her. So much pressure. And what you get was this. Jolulokabi, a person who feels like nothing matters
Waymond is the kind of person that makes other people want to be better people. He is absolutely priceless.
I can’t remember the last time a movie made me put this much thought into my own existence. Such an entertaining, impactful, beautiful, and important film.
Waymond's message of "We need to be kind. Please be kind. Especially when we dont know whats going on" reminds me of how Patton Oswalt said that he is always trying to find a bigger meaning to Life, and that his late wife Michelle McNamara was a nihilist, but her motto was "(Everything/Life) is chaos. Be kind". It got me right in the feels
that fat creep murdered his wife lmao
Same here 💜
"be kind, especially when we don't know what's going on."
Be compassionate, especially to people that you don't know what their story is about. Regardless of our similarities and difference, and especially the lack of knowing, we should be kind to others by default.
Easy to be kind when the US has 4% of the population and 30% of the worlds resource.
Easy to be kind when the US has over 600 military bases in the world and invades every country whenever they want to.
For me it recalls Peter Capaldi's Doctor Who. That period of the show had a lot of misses, but when it hit, it hit hard and his "just be kind" ethos was a big part of why.
After watching it once, I felt like this movie actually CHANGED ME. Dramatic? Maybe, but it's so true.
Watching it a second time, with my daughters (22 and 20 yo) was devastating. I love my girls. They KNOW how much I love them. We all have trauma. And this film had us weeping, declaring our love and giving each other hugs. We are still talking about moments of this film.
I could go on and on....
I wonder why you called your second watching devastating. From your description, I think it was kind of fulfiling, healing experience.
@@ReviewandChill66 I think it's hard for any parent to think of their children hurting, and it's hard not to feel responsible, even if you gave them your very best. It can be devastating to look at your adult children and know you couldn't--and still can't--protect them from everything. I think I can understand how it would be devastating to watch this as a mother, even if it ended up being positive. This movie hits HARD
Quan's wife is the one person he said who never gave up on his acting career potential and kept inspiring him. He said in his Oscar speech that he survived suicidal ideation from believing he was a washed up child star. To see what he overcame is beautiful and just shows you can't let temporary feelings make permanent decisions.
Something you didn’t mention (maybe didn’t know!) is that the flipside of the nihilism coin present in this movie is Zen Buddhism-which is also a philosophy that says nothing matters, but focuses on, instead of existentialism, the present moment and how beautiful and wonderful each insignificant thing is. Appreciating things for what they are instead of what they can be, taking that time to stay grounded in the present because that’s all there is.
Most importantly for this movie, one of the meditative practices of Zen Buddhist monks is a calligraphy practice called ensō, which is drawing a circle to exist in creation and that tactility without needing a particular visual product at the end, or aiming for any level of perfection. A black circle, much like the Everything Bagel.
It's Camus' form of Absurdism, though Buddhism came to similar conclusions much earlier in history.
correct me if i'm wrong but wouldn't the movie be exploring absurdism camus' specifically
Imma just copy and paste my journal entry from this vid as a shout to the void:
You use to be so much more proudly atheist. Now you lean towards reincarnation and Buddhism. There's intentions behind your actions (to get a better next shot) instead of using your previously trusted instincts (and accepting you only have one life). You basically accepted you failed this life. At 22... Wtf... You use to give 60 year olds hope... New music... New foods... You literally panicked and told them "have you tried jalapenos and pistachio ice cream? no? Well now aren't you curious?"
People then thanked you, sometimes while cry laughing for your bizzare perspective and were relieved someone didn't wanna change them...
(I've been in isolation for two years and I'm trying to get skills and memories back).
NOT a shout to the void:
I really wanna get into Buddhism, but I have no clue where to start, other than mediation and acceptance of things you cant change, are there any books or links you (the reader) have to share about Buddhism?
@@roberttramone9967 I'm here just to say you didn't shout into the void, I appreciated reading your comment.
Unfortunately I'm also not sure where would be a good place for a beginner to start (but I also want to!)
However I wanted to share 2 glimpses of it that stuck with me that made me want to go deeper:
1) I don't know if you've watched it but on the ending of The Good Place series, there's this character Chidi who explains the concept of death to Buddhists and it's so beautiful to me (the scene is on RUclips)
2) There's a book called The Whole Earth and the Infinite Sky, which is fictional but Buddhism permeates the narrative. The writer studied some books and texts that are mentioned at the end of the book
@@roberttramone9967 From out here in the void, I just want to say that I value very highly, stranger, your sharing those private thoughts with ... well with me, just to speak for myself.
19:50 the rock scene, of just them and the speech bubbles, had me sobbing. Like, covering my mouth to not to ruin the moment for everyone else in the theater. It’s such a ridiculous concept and silent scene but it just broke me.
"Just be a rock"
it`s not ridiculous, it`s the most amazing accomplishment in Film making, to have a still scene wit two f**king Rocks and it`s one of the most emotional scene in Cinema History!
the part where the rock turns to reveal googly eyes and evelyn starts chasing joy cut with the scene of young evelyn chasing baby joy through the laundromat made me SOB
When Evelyn-rock falls off the cliff after Joy-rock 😭😭😭
The silence is intimidating and focusing... as utterly bonkers as the concept and scene is.
Absolutely dominated the oscars!!! And not just them, their studio, A24! A24 swept all major categories when you include "The Whale" with Brendan Fraser
We're so happy about it!!
@Cinema Therapy Do y'all plan on a reaction of The Whale?
As an over thinker with severe anxiety and existential dread and burnout, I relate so much to joy. My mind never sleeps. I feel like I’m constantly existing everywhere at all times and wearing myself thin. The little things matter so much to me
I'd also like to point out, as someone with ADHD/Autism, that that opening scene is probably the most perfect way I've ever felt ADHD portrayed in the most abstract way. "What are you thinking about?" "cue the crooked cop from The Professional" "EEEEEVERYYYTHIIIING!!!!!!!!!!"
I totally relate! I’ve always found the feeling so hard to explain as well, like it doesn’t seem to make sense when I verbalize it, but this movie managed to capture all of those feelings so perfectly and it seriously left me amazed lol
As a 45 year old woman, it was awesome to be the hero & to have a story. We are usually invisible. This was cool.
I totally agree that it feels like we’ve been robbed of Ke Huy Quan’s potential acting work for decades. But to Alpha Waymond’s point, every setback, rejection, and disappointment has led to this moment in time where we have this masterclass of a performance in a masterpiece of a film. Would this film even be what it is without Quan having endured what he did? EEAAO can be so meta when viewed through various lenses like this. I can’t wait to see what these phenomenal actors do next. Also, love these takes on the film 👍🏼 I shed tears all over again with each reaction video I watch.
This is so insightful and well put. It took KHQ 30 years to realize the character of Waymond and boy was it worth the wait. His performance was a revelation.
quite amazing what you just wrote.
When Ke Huy Quan was finally ready to give acting another shot. He called up his agent and in just 2 weeks, this role of Waymond was offer to him. The stars were align my friends. He was meant to play it.
I would love couples therapy for Waymond and Evelyn but the one I want to most is mother daughter therapy with Joy and Evelyn. Love you guys!
They're on our list to get to!
@@CinemaTherapyShow Can't wait!!
"I cannot love things calmly. I must love things ferociously" is super profound. And the concept of being kind because we don't know what is going on would have been helpful through the Pandemic, and will be helpful moving forward.
I've never seen a movie that captures the kind of existential depression I've often struggled with, and the effect of being overwhelmed by information and stimulus constantly in the internet age.
Not to mention the brilliance of the cinematography and the effects and the editing. And, of course, the acting.
And Waymond is my hero. A perfect model of gentle masculinity.
(Also, I *live* for that whole Wong Kar Wai sequence. So beautiful.)
All I can say is Me Too. Be Kind, friend.
That was definitely my experience too. It really connected with me, regarding nihilism.
I feel you, I been going through that since I was 3. This movie has hit so many things for me. I wish it was there for one of my worst cycles of depression, but I'm glad it's here today.
I just love the random scenes where alan and jono turn into a thumb with a face or a bagel with a wig. staying true to Everything Everywhere All At Once
Our editor on this one (Sophie) knocked it out of the park!
I loved those so much! Sophie - you are an editing treasure
tysm Sophie💅
For me it's kinda hard to listen to the words you say when I have to think about why there is a thumb talking to me at the same time. 🤨
The main cast as a whole was just stellar. Each of them brought 110% to this movie. And the supporting cast brought it all as well.
I just love how I watched this video with zero context of the movie and the scene with Evelyn and Joy just absolutely BROKE ME!
That scene alone made me watch the film and I don't regret it~ This movie is EVERYTHING
"I cannot love things calmly, I must love things ferociously" - Alan.... that needs to be made into a shirt PRONTO!!!!
It's basically a neurodivergent motto too, hyperfixations in a nutshell.
@@AnInsideJoke i actually didn't know that, but makes sense which makes it resonate all that much more.
YESSSS please!!!
@@AnInsideJoke Lol, yuuuuup.
I would buy one!
If this movie is not nominated for hundreds of awards, I will lose faith in the award circuit. EVERYTHING deserves an award here. Editing, acting, support acting, original screenplay, directing, effects, BEST MOVIE
To be fair the academy is just a bunch of old white people so I don’t let them determine what is and isn’t good art. It’s arbitrary to be honest.
The awards have never been fair. They have their bias. They are just a big circle jerk for Hollywood to pat itself in the back.
BEST EVERYTHING.
@ M-K-L
Faith . . .hmm
@@emmabunch-benson4795 ikr. Like the parasite from South korea. Don't get me wrong it a really amazing movie but it wouldn't win if those white guys didn't see money in korean film making
Watched this movie with my girlfriend, at it was the first time I'd been absolutely destroyed by something during a date, so that was a fun experience. Waymond's whole Everything just deeply spoke to me and hit me really hard, and really made me understand the kind of person I want to be. Plus, the line "In another life, I would have been happy just doing laundry and taxes with you" was just, laser targeted.
Agreed. I watched this with my girlfriend too, and we spent the next three hours afterwards crying. Honestly, I feel like this is the perfect movie for when you want to get to know your partner better
I finally saw this movie, so I could finally watch this episode.
The movie really is everything, so was your breakdown, I would love to see more. And a special shout out to the editing this episode, that was such good fun!
So glad you enjoyed the movie and our episode!
Could you please do a villain therapy episode for Joy Wang / Jobu Tupaki? I actually think Stephanie Hsu was the MVP here as I've never seen an actor do such a perfect job of portraying depression. Depression is not about being weepy, it's complete emotional oblivion and she just kills it in the role
YES PLEASE
So true
In my experience with depression, the weeping comes *after* the depressive episodes, and it's tears of a sudden rush of relief that you thought you'd never feel again.
@@IceMetalPunk its the feeling of unclogging the blocked up stream, but on the inside you know that this is not everything. Something's still stuck
For me, this movie came out very shortly after I got my ADHD diagnosis as an adult and was coming to terms with it, and having characters that were explicitly written as ADHD and a writer/director who found out in the course of making this movie that he has ADHD was very important to me.
SAAAAAAAAAME
So true! I have ADHD, too and think the sheer speed of the film represents the (visual) overflow we can have perfectly.
Yeah everyone in all my ADHD circles is bonkers over this movie, because they can actually see their own brains in a movie.
Also love thinking about how this movie literally taught the director they have ADHD. That was probably a great "wait, what?' moment for them
Yesss! This! My bf and i have adhd and we didnt kno about the directors adhd so we went in and were like "yo... this is how my brain feels like to me :o" to each other 😂😂so to find out after that thats prob why was a really cool feeling
I’m trying to get screened as an adult and did not know this! I feel better knowing that!
My mom saw this movie before I did and she really vouched for it and convinced me to watch it. She asked me everyday for almost 2 weeks if I wanted to watch this movie with her. And I finally did.
And I was bawling at the end, holding my mom. Because I had gone through a severe depression two years prior. I was hospitalized and I had to fight like hell to come back. And my mom was always there by my side for that fight. Every day. I wouldn't have made it without her. So this movie really spoke to that experience.
Normally I’m not the type of person to leave comments in videos but I just had to this time. I discovered your channel today and it just became my absolute favourite, bringing my 2 favourite things together, films and talking about feelings. Thank you so much for your job and hope you keep going strong, this is amazing!!!
Welcome! Thanks for commenting (it really helps creators) and for watching. :)
If the entire cast doesn't get nominated for Oscar for their performances, I will be FURIOUS. This film deserves nominations in EVERY category. I saw this 3 times in theatres and bought the Blu-ray. I'd watch you do 500 more episodes on this movie.
It deserves to win almost ALL categories !
I said 'almost' because animation is impossible, and best vfx will likely go to Avatar 2.
@@blade7y156 I totally agree. There isn't a single thing I would change about this movie. But yeah, I'm anticipating Avatar 2 winning the visual and probably sound design awards as well.
I saw it twice in theaters then again digitally all in the same month 😭 it’s gonna be hard for a group of people to top this movie in the future
It really deserves all the awards. Best Picture, Best Actress, Best Actor, Best Supporting Actress, Best Cinematography, Best Screenplay, Best Visual Effects, Best Director
@@ladyreverie7027 I totally agree.
As someone who is an atheist but also a Buddhist "I will cherish these few specks of time" really hit me hard. Even if there is no meaning or purpose, the fact that we are here to live is a miracle in itself. We can make everything meaningful just by being present, and it is such a gift to experience everything, everywhere, all at once.
perfectly put😊
Same as how I feel. You put that very well.
Buddhism is an atheist religion :)
Don't be mad at me but there's no such thing as an atheist but a Buddhist. Maybe you are agnostic, someone who's believing in a creator but does not believe in the religion
@@user-pm2b47ar8d I say atheist as in not believing in Gods or deities (Buddhas are not revered as such, they are viewed as teachers who have reached enlightenment). Our existence could just be random energy and particles, I don't know, and I don't need to know in order to enjoy life (I'm not looking or waiting for an answer). Religion to me should focus more on humanity rather than the unknown purpose of life because we can decide that for ourselves.
I watched this movie with my Dad, and as an autistic adhd person who really struggles with expressing emotion, this move captures my exact philosophy. The things in your direct sphere are what matters, the actions you do, the people you love, that is what matters when nothing matters.
I think my Dad is the autistic one of my parents, so watching this with him I think we both really connected over that and because we both loved it we learned a lot about each other in a way we can't particularly express with the words or emotions available to us.
Absolutely my favorite movie. Not my favorite comfort movie, that goes to Spaceballs, but the best movie I have ever seen.
When Joy said being with Evelyn “just hurts the both of us” really made me cry (again)… I know how it feels so bad
if you’re going to do Evelyn and Joy mom/daughter therapy I highly recommend bringing on a female Asian guest to explain the distinction of Asian mom daughter dynamics
YES PLEASE
I'm not Asian but even I got how Asian mom that line about getting fat was lmao. They for sure need someone to delve deep into the Asian mom-daughter stuff head on and give us more nuance about that!
ooooo....that would add a very cool angle to the episode
YESSSS🎉🎉🎉
That's a great idea
There is so much to unpack- waymond's masculinity, joy's depression, expression of emotions in asian families, etc. You can just turn the whole channel into just its breakdown and there will still be more.
I'm still chewing on the idea of having so much power because of failing at everything.
In my house, we *STAN* Waymond's Masculinity 🙌🏾
I saw a video essay once discussing the idea of "tender masculinity" as an antidote to toxic masculinity. Tender masculinity is kind, nurturing, protective, empathetic, leads without being domineering or bullying. I just love how Waymond models this even in his "cool Tony Leung-like businessman in a Wong Kar Wai universe" version.
@@auldthymer fr does that mean u have less power bc u suceeded
I just finally watched this, and it instantly became my new favorite movie. It has everything, from the poignant thoughts on what our purpose is here, the most laugh-out-loud moments I've ever experienced (that rock scene and Raccacoonie broke me), and insanely awesome fight scenes with choreography on the level of a John Wick film. And the level of acting on display was incredible, everyone especially Stephanie Hsu did an amazing job.. To be able to switch between the alternate universe personas so seamlessly is really a credit to their acting skill.
That moment when she validates her daughter and reminds her she sees and hear her through her darkness it qas really profound and healing. I’ve never been able to verbalized what I want from my mom.
And makes me happy yo be the villan jaja. I like the villan stories the most
'The most movie ever in a movie.' LOVE THAT. I am the mother of a nearly teenage daughter. So I saw it through that lens. When they become rocks then the mom puts on googly eyes to chase her daughter with the daughter yelling at her to keep away, I nearly jumped out of my seat. ...I've been the teenager struggling to understand an uncaring universe and the mom struggling to reach her daughter through the confusion and pain. I've been the rejected daughter and the rejected mom. And I have the life partner who stays with me through the insanity. Somehow. Nothing matters so the smallest act of kindness can be EVERYTHING.
That was beautifully said
@@kevmagill5163 thank you 😊
Great last name! I have the same last name!
Everyone that has empathy weeps when watching this film. I've cried every time I've watched reaction videos. I hope this film, the directors, the editors, the composer, the set designer, the customers, and the actors win everything at the Oscars. I love how much exposure this film is getting. Now more than ever we need reminders to be kind and choose love.
I totally second this. To me this could totally be the time where they show up with one envelope and say “everything everywhere all at once wins everything everywhere all at once, thank you good night” I wouldn’t even blink. I haven’t seen such an amazing movie in forever. I feel that it’s especially refreshing since we are seemingly living the life of regurgitated garbage being produced instead of people coming up with novel ideas. To me this movie set a bar extremely high.
THIS MOVIE GOT ME CRYING OVER ROCKS FALLING OFF A CLIFF. LIKE WTF.
One thing I love about the scene where Evelin and joy hug is the shot just before they hug is two planets crashing into each other, but as cinema wins said, “planets colliding do not have the same impact as their embrace.” Love is the most impactful force on the planet.
Seriously the whole cast were just outstanding in this movie. It’s like a perfect storm of creativity
Definitely talk about this movie forever! Couples Therapy, Mother-Daughter Therapy, Villain Therapy for both Jobu and Deidre, Evelyn (ADHD/ The Weight of Life) Therapy, Waymond Carrying the Family Emotionally Therapy, Waymond In Depth Worldview Therapy. We want Every Therapy! Preferably All At Once 😂😅
A big big shoutout to the Cinema Therapy editors! All the little details and changes were really fun to watch and we appreciate all of it! Thank you for all your hard work!😊
It was such a wonderful touch!
Also, did the style/character design of the animated flashes remind anyone else of Bob's Burgers?
@@AnInsideJoke I think the BB theme song started to play when Alan switched xD
I'm amazed with the face expression delivered by Evelyn, the husband and the daughter, in fact by just watching random clips of this movie almost bring me to tears is a testament to how powerful those lines and face expression were....
Right I'm sitting here getting teary eyed just over a few clips, damn this movie is good
I live in Japan. The movie opens today March 3, 2023! Yepp sooo late. Just went to see it. It made me laugh and cried (hard). LOVEEEEE IT. Finally, i can watch this video from you guys!!!!
My mum passed away a few months before this film came out. She was an Indonesian first gen immigrant with the hard working always working attitude. When Evelyn says “I will always always want to be here with you” absolutely broke me, I know if she were still around my mum would say exactly the same and one of the biggest sadnesses of her passing is that I won’t ever be able to watch this film with her.
Easily my favourite film of the year if not for a very long time.
Not to bring the mood down even further, but my mom died shortly after this movie came to streaming, and I remember one of my regrets was the movies we didn’t get to share; this movie, at the top of that list. I think of my mom daily, and whenever I do, I feel how much she loves me, how proud she is of me, and how much she wants me to succeed.
My mom passed a couple months ago as well, and seeing the relationship between Evelyn and Joy helped my heart a lot through this process. I hope you're healing and you have support in this time, and I'll keep your family in my prayers 💖
My mom and I watched this together in the cinema. We were holding hands and weeping for basically the last half of the movie. We both knew we had a tough time when I was a kid. We didn't have the ways to communicate it until we saw this together. This film healed us and I saw that we were both the daughter and both the mother.
The fact that it's up for Oscars like it it is is effing amazing for women's relationships onscreen.
Oh my goodness I love this for you both. 🙏
Oh my goodness I love this for you both. 🙏
I’ll share this movie with my daughter when she gets older a bit… It tells so much that I can’t express.
If you've every dealt with crippling depression and hopelessness, there are quite a few scenes in this film that cut to the bone. Someone involved in making this film understands that feeling all too well.
I would LOVE to see another 50 episodes about this film :) And a mother - daughter therapy would be AMAZING!!
Damnit... Waymond pleading everyone to please be kind, just kicks me right in the feels... every... single... time! 😭
This is an absolutely incredible movie!
When i hear Waymond say Be Kind, my mind finishes with "rewind."
And then when she sees him anew and remembers all the sweet quirky moments of his behaviour and sees it for the bravery and beauty that it is. So many chills.
The line “I’m learning to fight like you” had me sobbing
Waymond is my hero ❤
The two of you have put my feelings about this movie into words more eloquently than I’m able to. It spoke to me on a level no other film has ever achieved and it feels very encouraging and heartwarming to not be alone in this sentiment. I loved your video and I’m excited to see more from the two of you!
This was the best ‘Everything Everywhere All At Once’ movie analysis & review ever!! Love the therapeutic expertise & the cinematic expertise intertwined in your analysis. Love that you’re men who can cry & have emotions. Love it all!! Thank you for this content and making available for free. Much love to you both. Keep up the great work 👏👏👏👏🧡🧡🧡🧡
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it!
This movie made me and my Fiance cry so hard. Right in the "wishing you could heal generation parental trauma" button
🤔... but you can, tho. Our elders get to choose whether or not to heal, and so do we. The second you start making different choices than your parents is the moment the cycle stops, one nasty behavior pattern at a time :)
@@Setsunako6587 You misunderstand my meaning but I understand your positive intention. I don't mean the cycle as it continues in us as we understand how to address this. Its wishing we could reach back in time and give our parents the tools they needed to heal themselves then or now. Wishing we could have that kind of healing and growing together experiences as in the movie. Some of our parents are still working through a lot of ignorance and not amount of breaking the cycle can give us back that feeling of connection to those we love. Like you said, our elders need to choose to heal too
I would love a multi-part series just on this movie.... it's so multi-faceted that I think it deserves way more attention!
I love how respectful you guys are about animating and film making- as someone who wants that to be a passion it just makes me realize how important everyone's story us
Can I just say that your editor Sophie Téllez did a wonderful job editing this video. The intro showing the movie clips with you guys' narration was pitch perfect.
The rock scene did it for me. I love the yin and yang symbolism. The googley eyes being the light and the bagel being the darkness. I feel like this film could also be an exploration of the balance of the darkness and light. The dao or enlightenment (why Michelle Yo places the google eye on her third eye chakra). During the rock scene the subtitles are in black and white, really carrying the motif through. More episodes please! This is by far my new favourite film…
More fun eastern philosophy references I caught:
They speak of the mind as a clay pot, which is an analogy used throughout Buddhist teachings to describe the different ways we fail to gain wisdom. Eg. A full pot means you are not accepting new ideas, a leaky pot means you are forgetting what your experiences ect.
The hero seeing the way to end all pain and choosing to remain in her mundane life in order to save her daughter is pretty much an exact explanation of the Bodhisattva; a person who sees the path of transcending and ending rebirth but chooses to remain in samsara in order to do good in the world.
Yes that so true thank you for sharing next time l see it again because. . . Everything l will be seeing that too
Bagels are just eyes but inverse colors
I need ALL the videos on this. Couples therapy, family therapy, villain therapy, all of it.
Love you guys!
Thanks, Bilbo!
Hundred percent agreed
@@CinemaTherapyShow yes indeed please keep talking about this movie forever
YES. We need MORE.
1000000% this!
What is so mind-blowing is that Stephanie Hsu auditioned with "sucked into the bagel" speech almost beat for beat as the filmed version.
YES! Please make ALL the videos on this film!
Stay tuned!
One pair of reactors I watch described this movie as "We've been away at college consuming a lot of junk food media and we just came home for the holidays and got a full Thanksgiving feast".
And you know, that is a pretty good way to describe it.
My mom passed away not long before this movie came out and I was sobbing in the cinema. My mom was more like Waymond and my dad is more like Evelyn so I just felt the loss of my mom’s kindness and optimism (she was a psychiatrist who specialised in trauma) so keenly while watching this film.
Anyway, hell yeah to more content about this masterpiece. Couples therapy, mother/daughter therapy, Racaccoonie therapy, everything (everywhere all at once)! Thanks a lot for the amazing content as always ❤️
Chad: I'm useless alone.
Evelyn: We're all useless alone.
@@auldthymer me, EVERY SINGLE TIME (yes, even now): 😭😭😭😭!!!!
Edit: "It's a good thing we're not alone" 🥲💖
Racaccoonie therapy +1
I, too, lost my mom few months before watching the movie so was also sobbing in the cinema.. I relatef to soooo many parts of the movie. Evelyn's failures, her fighting for her daughter, the suicidal daughter who wants to destroy the world bc she doesn't feel loved, the failed marriage, the Optimism, the what ifs of the multiverses..the rocks, the black holes of the bagel..Everything. I could relate to almost everything.. except for being gay, coming from an Asian culture, or dealing with a tax lady lol and the hot dog hangs ..nope. that was just..so gross! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
after the first hour and half I just started crying and crying, later when my mom asked why i was moved and I explained her i cried again. nothing moved me like this movie did. this movie has EVERYTHING!
Love this film ferociously too! It's so good. I love that the first time I saw it I thought of leaving during the onslaught of the first hour or so- but it was all of that that made the meaning kick in. All my aversion transformed to openness.
I saw it in the theater again two days later, & cried through most of what I had previously had such a hard time taking in. Beauty, gratitude, cracking open. So glad they have received such acclaim. I hope the message of kindness reaches everyone. We need it.
Also- this is my first time on this channel, & you two are incredibly special, insightful, & present. Thank you❤
To me, the Bagel represented Joy's depression and how she wanted to sink into it and never come out. I know that's a real fear when I go dark.
I viewed the bagel as suicide, and a mother trying to save her daughter's life.
Then the line “there is always something to love” hits…
What about the Name "Joy". It's a teenager suffering depressed feelings called Joy.
@@ForOrAgainstUs That's how I viewed it too. The way the entire family holds Joy back, trying to support each other as they try to pull her away from the void. That scene had me sobbing. And then her letting go, giving Joy the choice and asking her to choose to exist... God, just such a powerful scene.
I appreciate this movie for capturing something I've had to live my whole life. When you advocate for kindness the default is to assume you're weak or ignorant or both. But, actually, some of the people pushing for kindess are those who have faced the very darkest the world has to offer.
Anyone who has ever tried to be kind through pain, knows it is not a sign of weakness but a sign of extreem strength.
It takes nothing to be mean, but it takes *everything* to be kind. Which is why its such a powerful weapon.
Glad to have found you guys. I'm a therapist and love cinema. This movie was life changing. It's really my favorite movie ever. It's moved a lot of my patients as well. Subbed!
I LOVE this movie, but I just have one teeeensy problem, and I think it’s mainly caused by it being a movie and needing to have a climax and not screw up the catharsis/pacing. But when Joy said that being around her hurts, all I could think was - my gosh these two people need a little time and space from each other before they can begin their healing journey together. Because often times that is an important breath to take before diving into the hard stuff. And it just felt like her mum didn’t respect that, instead she held on harder, pushed her more “I’m not going anywhere “ - and also still called her fat which is just like, so much repeating the negging and hyper-criticism from before! No moment of acknowledging “hey, maybe I need to pay attention to what I say because we obviously don’t communicate in the same love language and she’s explicitly told me I hurt her”
I know it’s a long comment on an old video but this film is astounding and SO ALMOST PERFECT it just hit me so hard with disappointment at that moment 🥺
I had that moment too of questioning if the mom should have hung on, but what helped me see why she didn't let her go is because Joy was asking her mom to do something she believed was secretly in her heart anyway, that her mom wishes she didn't have a daughter like her, 'so stop pretending like you want a daughter like me and let me go.' At first, the mom is like, "I'll give you what you want" until she realizes what her daughter wants is a confirmation of a lie. So it's not that the daughter can't go on with her life by herself, but what she needed to hear is that even if she does, her mom will still love her. She needed confirmation that her mom would love her no matter what. That's what not letting her go meant.
@@FriendsWithIssues Damn, that was really insightful and well articulated. Thank you for that!
I think what's also important to notice is that Evelyn isn't trying to convince her daughter that she has to stay, she says "I will always want to be here with you". She's expressing her love for her daughter and her desire for her to stay while still offering her an option to leave.
And at the end, it's Joy who reaches out first (from the bagel) - only then does Evelyn pull her in with the hug, so it was still ultimately Joy's own choice to stay