Hey BEAT family! I'm on spring break and I'm loving it! At any rate, today's video provides what I believe are 5 best practices or differences between dating the world's way and courting God's way. After you watch, I would really love for you share your thoughts and please press the like button IF you like the video. It helps increase exposure. Love y'all!
THE BEAT by Allen Parr and what can i watch as a christian are all series bad to watch. sorry my english is not very good i'm from the netherlands. thankyou in advance !
THE BEAT by Allen Parr - I dated a guy years ago from my church; it didn't work out, which to my surprise, I also gained enemies mainly from the single ladies because I wouldn't just quickly decide to go into marriage; in order words, they thought that I wasted their turn" or something, but what they didn't know is that, I was being emotionally abused by my ex who seemed quite "elegant, he was tall, nice car, ladies wanted him, especially the older woman. Lol! I remained quietly about the real issue; I was hated, but the singles didn't know I was suffering inside. The real person who knew I wasn't happy was a best friend and my Pastor. ** I didn't listen to that "discerning" in the Spirit when I first saw the guy at my church! I discerned alcoholism and depression, after we dated, I saw adultery. The alcoholism discernment I saw came to pass, 1 day he sat next to me with a hangover; 2 spirit of adultery also came true, he was UNFAITHFUL, 3, He confessed his severe depression. I have prayed and really expect NOT to meet my "future husband," in a chuch. Not everyone in the house of God wants the best for you! Per your video, I want COURTSHIP! but if all possible, I wish thiscan remain private as much as possible until marriage. I believe my Testimony can help other ladies. **Ladies, never, never ignore DISCERNMENT no matter how long the wait!!
I didn't even know there were different terms for this. But I always had the heart for courtship. Never understood the "dating just for fun of the moment" thing. I'm looking for marriage, not a waste of time.
@@BuckOrosco no, it's a girl holding a stuffed rabbit and she's biting one of the ears. The frame of the RUclips profile cut off the rabbit's head. I'm surprised you thought about a BJ, though? That's the first time anyone's ever said that about my picture.
@@Awaiting_YHWHs_Return Dude, I have male friends, associates, and coworkers. Of course I interact with the opposite sex. Being romantically involved isn't the only way I can talk to men. Also, I'm willing to go on dates if asked by a Christian man, but I'm not dating just for the fun of it. Make the intentions clear. If it's obvious that a long-term relationship/future marriage with this person isn't going to happen, then I'm not gonna just keep dating someone recreationally.
totally. my mom said people should "date around" and honestly, it made me afraid to date in high school, so I waited til my twenties and had a much more difficult time finding a worthwhile marriage partner, versus alot of my classmates who married their high school sweetheart.
mom talked about dating a guy who drank alot, knowing that she would never marry him, but he was someone to spend time with. I was like, what's the point of that??
I didn’t even know what courting really meant until I watched this. I’ve always “dated to marry”, pretty much the only reason being in a relationship was with the intention to someday marry that person. So I guess I’ve always courted in sense? But I know now, 1. I’ll wait on the Lord to show me who is meant to be my wife. 2. To focus on courting in full. Thanks for the wisdom my brother. God bless you
Father we come to you in the name of Jesus. Teach Carl's heart to wait on you. Teach him how to be a husband who will love his wife like you love your church. Let him be patient as you bring him his spouse. In Jesus name , amen ✝️
Best most succinct and clear compare and contrast I've seen between dating and courtship. In my humble opinion, teaching this to EVERY young person growing up today is THE most important message to teach to counteract the evil of indiscriminate sex amongst young people. Loose sex destroys lives more than any other social ill in our world today. It destroys families and the peace of the soul.
I am glad there are Christians who distinguish dating from biblical courtship. This is such an important topic and I believe is at the heart of the poor rate of successful marriages we witness today. Thank you for the upload.
I’m almost 20 and I’m courting for the first time and I love this sound wisdom! Thank you for being clear and talking on this subject. I’m sending this to my partner
Great video man. I wish I would have understood the difference between dating and courtship and the seriousness when I was a teen. You are spot on. Most of my past relationships were mostly all about me getting what I can out of them like sex, hanging out and not being alone. Occasionally I'd talk about marriage but come on be honest how serious is marriage at 13 to 17? I wasn't concerned about baggage from break ups and hurting others. It took giving my life to Jesus and meeting my wife to truly see the difference between dating and courtship and having a God honoring relationship with a woman. Thanks for the video and Jesus bless
John, I understand. Unfortunately for most of my twenties and early thirties I did the same. I did not court in a way that honors God. I'm glad that I learned these principles so I could make a wise choice in choosing my wife. God bless bro,
THE BEAT by Allen Parr yeah man and another thing I forgot to mention was honesty. That was a big difference in my past dating relationships and my wife and I relationship. I was never honest with anybody in the past. I played myself up like such a great guy but in reality I was the biggest womanizer and perverted guy you'd ever know. But I didn't want them to know otherwise they'd want nothing to do with me. While I did hide who I was for awhile eventually I shared my struggles and God delivered me and my wife and I are doing great . honesty makes a world of difference in a relationship and while the truth my not always be pretty it can save heartache and make you trustworthy in the end
Oh my! I dated a non-Christian guy who admired and respected me and my Christian beliefs. In my head, I mixed up dating and courting and we had kind of a mixture of them in our relationship. The video really made it clear to me how he saw the relationship more as dating me, with no clear intentions while I saw it more as a courtship. That's what made it so hard for both of us. Cause I was submissive and didn't want to break it up, praying for his salvation the whole time.. (I knew I wasn't supposed to be in that relationship, but I gave in to the temptation over time :() I really hope God will use my story to His triumph one day. But atm I just need to be healed from this pain of not listening to His voice. It saddens me so much. It seems as if I waisted these months and hurt God, myself, this person and everyone who got fond of me (his family and friends).
Your not alone and he understands.. We got to learn.. But dont hide away you just have to pay attention to what their ideas are and pay attention to their actions.. You can see their intentions. It doesn't matter if they're in a church or not it matters if they love the Lord or not. And if they're mature enough to take a relationship serious. Cuz there can be immature men even in the church. Basically you got to ask for God to bring you your match. And keep your standards High. If that other person doesn't believe the same way you believe drop them. Because they cannot change right there and then. If they don't understand what courting is. They dont have no business dating lol
Am currently in it...am born again he is not...we got so many differences...I have to stop this and wait upon God I came to learn am doing it my way... thanks for sharing your experience
I was in a relationship with a girl that could be described, in practice, as somewhere between dating and courting. We were both routinely Alone Together, but we never had sex with one another. We did kiss quite a bit though. And before we ever engaged in any sort of recreational activities, like going to the movies, I always insisted that she get her school work done first and any other life activities that needed to be done first. What I brought into the relationship was the desire that even if it did not work out I at least did not leave her in a worse situation then what we were in prior to the beginning of the relationship. The reasoning behind our type of relationship was out of practicality though because neither of us had any religious beliefs. We went our separate ways but we left on good terms. Last I heard she was doing well in her educational career and was on her path to graduate and get a good job. Am I a little disappointed the relationship didn't work out? Yes. But I am glad we are both still in a better place than what we were prior to the relationship. Sorry for the long comment.
I agree. I told myself no more 'boyfriend girlfriend' nonsense. I'm over it and nowhere in The Bible does it say anything about this. For now on, courting only. But I'm NOT ready for that step just yet. Waiting on God to work on me and prepare me to be a Proverbs woman.
great insight! I felt bad that I'm not dating but now I understand that's a world idea. I'm going to start praying for a courtship for my present future.
If you’re hanging with friends, family, church, volunteers, coworkers…and pursing your future bride, you’ll be too busy to miss sex. And then it’ll be that much sweeter when you do marry.
Personally, I believe in relegating anything noncommittal to 'friendship'......something public and amongst others until courtship, a genuine pursuit with goals, ensues.
I think before you do either it's really important for both parties to really get to know each other and establish a strong relationship before they get comitted on that next step. That's what I plan to do for my first quote on quote "relationship", because I think it would establish trust and a commitment for long term. Great video as always brother Allen.
"Courtship is intentional. "The scripture supports being intentional as a way of life. " But solid food belongs to those who are of full age, those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil" Hebrews 5:14. " The plans of the deligent lead to abundance, but everyone who is hasty comes only to poverty" Proverbs 21:5.✝️
Ohhhhh this made me understand why I cant get a date. Because everyone else just wants to have a time, like pure dating, meanwhile im trying to find a girl who I could reasonably see myself living the rest of my life with. Which... I mean, it kinda sucks not gonna lie, but im glad I intuitively am coming into this with a relatively good mindset.
This is stupid. Don't listen to this. The heartache is far worse if you get this courtship garbage imposed on you. Worse yet, you will end up in perpetual singlehood if you adopt courtship. Courtship is essentially a way to block you off from marriage, and if you believe it is "God's will" too, you will end up with outright contempt for God. This stuff is fundamentalist trash that destroys lives. I speak from personal experience on all of this.
Thank you for this! I can recognize when I've been in a dating mindset and when I've been in a courting mindset. And there are stark differences, just like you've said. Sometimes courting is harder, because your held to higher accountability and discipline, but in the end its worth it. Time and time again.
Thank you for this very enlightening video. I was new at dating. I gave it try and unfortunately had my first lesson. Some men are very crafty and manipulating. They care nothing about gaining your trust and walking away. The only problem is courtship requires patience and being able to openly communicate. Most men do not have either of the two. Unfortunately, they are use to having their way with women. However, this video is on point. Courtship is certainly better than dating.
This hook up culture has damaged so many people! The boundaries set by the holy word of Elohim makes it to where we would not have to go through anything, If we just do what is righteous. Grate video!
So anointedly articulated!!! I love the part about disappointment vs. devastation. There is a peace that surpasses understanding when you involve God. It makes it so that you don’t feel like your whole world is tumbling down without the other person, but instead you know God is working something out for your best.
courtship is still a way to get to learn about the person and see if thats who God wants you to be with so we got to stay open. But i get what your saying I hate getting close to people just to walk away. I feel the pain. But God will lead the way
Precise and concise. Good video. I stopped dating but the girls in my church still want to play the dating game and thinks that I am too intentional when I say that I am exploring the possibility of marriage with that person. I see girls in my church getting wowed by guys and going on romantic holidays. I dont do that and they think I am boring and conservative. So i am still single.
By far one of the best videos that breaks down the differences between courting vs dating. I'm going to share your views and perspectives at a singles connect group I lead for women and of course share this video. New subbie & keep up the great work!!
Ah thanks so much Billie! that just made my day! I hope and trust you will enjoy this channel and the BEAT community we have formed. We love to interact and have great discussions around God's word. Thanks again!
I agree with everything you said. I was raised Pentecostal christian and I have an open mind. I am practicing courtship and have been celibate for 5 years. I dont put myself in compromising situations. I date myself until there is someone that meets the basic requirements to courtship.
Thank you so much for clearing this up this, brother Allen. And thank you for all the inspiring Biblical explanations of how to live! You've helped me discover my God- given purpose and the Lord definitely led me to your channel. I hope He continues to lead you in these videos, they're real blessings!
You know what’s crazy? I had no idea what courting was for the longest time. I just thought it was a fancy way of saying dating someone. But after seeing this video I’ve been opened up to so much clarity on the subject and understand the difference between them
Great video! I absolutely wish I had committed to courtships over dating. I already have been "compromised", so I can only redeem moving forward. This gave me clarity. Thank you for the way!
Thank you so much for sharing this. I was actually asking God what is right courtship before His eyes. And this video made a clear cut. Keep on blessing others! God bless you!
This is powerful right here. Brother Parr I never liked dating and rarely ever consider it. But courting oh my. You covered some serious ground on how it should be done. Why I am still single. Courting is the only way.
Hey Loviisa, that was also encouraging once again because it takes time to create all of the visuals and sometimes I'm tempted to get lazy and just talk. But I too think the visuals help people learn. Thanks so much.
I think it is important when we are in friendships with the opposite gender to guard our hearts. I was recently friends with someone who indicated that he liked me and I was really praying about it, but suddenly he just got into a relationship with another girl. He really hurt me. I pray and ask that all brothers in Christ would be careful with how they treat their sisters--caring for their hearts and not leading them into false hope (if they aren't interested in a relationship). I know sisters in Christ should do the same but men are the pursuers in this area.
God tells us not to be silly or foolish. Being wise and atune to what is in order. Everyone is not healthy no matter how kind and sweet they present. They must prove worthy of your time, and attention and of course your feelings. I use to think just because a man told me he liked me he was capable of relationship and had the readiness I desired to be taken serious..... Nothing could be more gullible. There is an order verification process that must be completed along with him being consistent before you hand over your trust feelings and love to anyone. You are kind cause you are kind but you know your value and there is a price for your time feelings and prescence. Be glad he moved on you will remember this for the next time- let suitors court you first before you believe. Otherwise its just pretty words... Communicate clearly and watch his behavior and words. : )
Great video! Wish I saw it when I got saved as a young adult. I was not being held accountable for how I conducted myself with men. Accountability is so badly needed! How many pregnancies could be avoided if my sisters in Christ knew how to set boundaries.
I enjoyed the video and appreciate your opinionated enlightenment from a males perspective. I thoroughly enjoyed it and well received. Peace & Blessings
This is so true and what happened between me and my soon-to-be fiancé. Last spring, she gave me a letter stating how she felt toward me and we soon started "dating" throughout the summer. I was hesitant at first because of my relationship with her ex and that time was one of confusion and a little bit of hurt between us. Eventually, I knew I wanted her and I asked her to be my girlfriend and that's when we officially started "courting".
Amazing video just like all the others Allen. I want to do my best to give you some encouragement, because although you may not get a million views at this moment, because of the overall quality of your videos, your amazing love for God, and the fact that all your videos are from the beginning built with the foundation of God and His word, you are truly helping me, and so many other people with their walk with God. Simply thank you so very much. Also, could you possibly make a video about sexual sins other than just intercourse?
Boston Hampton hello my friend! Thank you so much for taking the time to send this wonderful word of encouragement. I actually do have other videos on my channel about sexual sins. Feel free to check out my video on masturbation and then I have another video on the problem with pornography. If you go to my website, you'll also find a blog about pornography as well. My website is allenparr.com.
THE BEAT by Allen Parr No thank YOU for taking the time to respond! And you don't have to respond to this one, but I've actually seen those videos as well! I'm meaning more of, sexual sin other than intercourse, within a dating/courting relationship. But I do completely understand if you feel a video like that wouldn't be necessary! But seriously, thank you so much, have an amazing spring break Allen!
So true Brother. Dating is often very selfish instead of wanting to give Love to the other person and to God. I often hear the phrase “I deserve more” instead of “I should and want to serve more”. I struggled with premarital sex and got an unhealthy soul tie because of it. Sin can be pleasure for the moment but you always have to pay for sin with it’s consequences. Either your body controls you or you control your body through Christ. May God bless you all.🫶🏼🙏🏽
Your videos are A-MA-ZING ! You're so blessed and God uses you to bless us throught all your vids, thank you ! And, yeah... you really really reaaaally look like a younger Denzel Washington, REALLY !
You sir are amazing, I'm currently single, this video has helped tremendously boost my overall well-being confidence and everything to find my future love wherever in the heck she may be. Brother Parr pray that I find her and that she finds me. God bless you sir
I just met someone and he is extremely on fire for the Lord and so am I. We spent every waking hour together for 4 days. Right from the start we found out that we have almost everything in common. I could tell by his questions that he was asking that he was serious. Now we've been talking and texting for the last 2 days, because I'm driving out of state. Just a half an hour ago he officially asked me if I would be willing to have according relationship with him. I am 54 and I have never been married, but he has been divorced 2 times when he was a non-believer.
#6 - Dating is much more pro business than Courtship. I mean what would happen to businesses like Restaurants, Bars, Flower delivery businesses, without Dating en masse
I'm a very conservative and modest person, who saves up myself for marriage. All I see is a world that has moved on from the core values of the Christian teachings and has entered a world of premarital and casual sex, So I decided id rather live alone forever and take care of my parents than leave my principles behind. Me being a person who loves the idea of a family of my own and knowing probably never going to happen makes me depressed but at least I know I'm doing the right thing. God bless You.
My 14 year old and soon-to-be 13 year old ask me this very question last week. I responded something like this: The emphasis in courting is on marriage. Is this person wife potential? That's the question that should be asked before entering into a romantic relationship with anyone. I have three sons, the youngest was not involved in this conversation. However the two older ones were definitely involved in the conversation. They drove the conversation. They asked the questions, and I answered them. Courtship has the intention of marriage. When you are courting each other, your determining whether or not she is wife potential. Not sex partner potential. Not have a good time potential. Wife potential! Is she mother of my children potential? When you are simply dating, there's ambiguity, uncertainty, and devastation.
Thank you for this video. My daughter is young but the subject of marriage is going to come up in 9th grade literature. My husband and I became Christians after we were married so we have some idea of what not to do and some idea what not to do and how to define it. One thing for sure is that you don't see dating anywhere in the bible.
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Hey BEAT family! I'm on spring break and I'm loving it! At any rate, today's video provides what I believe are 5 best practices or differences between dating the world's way and courting God's way. After you watch, I would really love for you share your thoughts and please press the like button IF you like the video. It helps increase exposure. Love y'all!
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can you pleas do a video about unclean food and if they are unlean till this day.
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and what can i watch as a christian are all series bad to watch. sorry my english is not very good i'm from the netherlands. thankyou in advance !
Can you make a video about what age is dating ok cause I'm 14 but very spiritualy mature
THE BEAT by Allen Parr - I dated a guy years ago from my church; it didn't work out, which to my surprise, I also gained enemies mainly from the single ladies because I wouldn't just quickly decide to go into marriage; in order words, they thought that I wasted their turn" or something, but what they didn't know is that, I was being emotionally abused by my ex who seemed quite "elegant, he was tall, nice car, ladies wanted him, especially the older woman. Lol! I remained quietly about the real issue; I was hated, but the singles didn't know I was suffering inside. The real person who knew I wasn't happy was a best friend and my Pastor.
** I didn't listen to that "discerning" in the Spirit when I first saw the guy at my church! I discerned alcoholism and depression, after we dated, I saw adultery. The alcoholism discernment I saw came to pass, 1 day he sat next to me with a hangover; 2 spirit of adultery also came true, he was UNFAITHFUL, 3, He confessed his severe depression. I have prayed and really expect NOT to meet my "future husband," in a chuch. Not everyone in the house of God wants the best for you! Per your video, I want COURTSHIP! but if all possible, I wish thiscan remain private as much as possible until marriage. I believe my Testimony can help other ladies.
**Ladies, never, never ignore DISCERNMENT no matter how long the wait!!
Those different things
I didn't even know there were different terms for this. But I always had the heart for courtship. Never understood the "dating just for fun of the moment" thing. I'm looking for marriage, not a waste of time.
@@BuckOrosco no, it's a girl holding a stuffed rabbit and she's biting one of the ears. The frame of the RUclips profile cut off the rabbit's head. I'm surprised you thought about a BJ, though? That's the first time anyone's ever said that about my picture.
So you have no interaction with the other sex until your 30-40?
@@Awaiting_YHWHs_Return Dude, I have male friends, associates, and coworkers. Of course I interact with the opposite sex. Being romantically involved isn't the only way I can talk to men. Also, I'm willing to go on dates if asked by a Christian man, but I'm not dating just for the fun of it. Make the intentions clear. If it's obvious that a long-term relationship/future marriage with this person isn't going to happen, then I'm not gonna just keep dating someone recreationally.
totally. my mom said people should "date around" and honestly, it made me afraid to date in high school, so I waited til my twenties and had a much more difficult time finding a worthwhile marriage partner, versus alot of my classmates who married their high school sweetheart.
mom talked about dating a guy who drank alot, knowing that she would never marry him, but he was someone to spend time with. I was like, what's the point of that??
So courtship basically is the pathway to engagement
I didn’t even know what courting really meant until I watched this. I’ve always “dated to marry”, pretty much the only reason being in a relationship was with the intention to someday marry that person. So I guess I’ve always courted in sense? But I know now, 1. I’ll wait on the Lord to show me who is meant to be my wife. 2. To focus on courting in full.
Thanks for the wisdom my brother. God bless you
I've decided to quit dating. And I have decided in the future to court instead.
Great choice...
Did you find someone ?
that makes the two of us Sara
I don’t get it am we not supposed to interact with each other until we are ready to marry
Stupid. Good luck getting married. lol
Pray for me, I think I'm ready for a biblacally based relationship.
I want to be ready for the right one at my age.
Father we come to you in the name of Jesus. Teach Carl's heart to wait on you. Teach him how to be a husband who will love his wife like you love your church. Let him be patient as you bring him his spouse. In Jesus name , amen ✝️
We just gon act like my man dont look like Denzel Washington?!?
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Dave Ritchy he could be his brother or something 😂
Best most succinct and clear compare and contrast I've seen between dating and courtship. In my humble opinion, teaching this to EVERY young person growing up today is THE most important message to teach to counteract the evil of indiscriminate sex amongst young people. Loose sex destroys lives more than any other social ill in our world today. It destroys families and the peace of the soul.
Thank you so much Meesh! I appreciate those words!
I am glad there are Christians who distinguish dating from biblical courtship. This is such an important topic and I believe is at the heart of the poor rate of successful marriages we witness today. Thank you for the upload.
I’m almost 20 and I’m courting for the first time and I love this sound wisdom! Thank you for being clear and talking on this subject. I’m sending this to my partner
Thank you for your insight Denzel!! Appreciate it
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Great video man. I wish I would have understood the difference between dating and courtship and the seriousness when I was a teen. You are spot on. Most of my past relationships were mostly all about me getting what I can out of them like sex, hanging out and not being alone. Occasionally I'd talk about marriage but come on be honest how serious is marriage at 13 to 17? I wasn't concerned about baggage from break ups and hurting others. It took giving my life to Jesus and meeting my wife to truly see the difference between dating and courtship and having a God honoring relationship with a woman. Thanks for the video and Jesus bless
John, I understand. Unfortunately for most of my twenties and early thirties I did the same. I did not court in a way that honors God. I'm glad that I learned these principles so I could make a wise choice in choosing my wife. God bless bro,
THE BEAT by Allen Parr yeah man and another thing I forgot to mention was honesty. That was a big difference in my past dating relationships and my wife and I relationship. I was never honest with anybody in the past. I played myself up like such a great guy but in reality I was the biggest womanizer and perverted guy you'd ever know. But I didn't want them to know otherwise they'd want nothing to do with me. While I did hide who I was for awhile eventually I shared my struggles and God delivered me and my wife and I are doing great . honesty makes a world of difference in a relationship and while the truth my not always be pretty it can save heartache and make you trustworthy in the end
So are you saying I can’t interact with females until I’m 30-40?
Are we just supposed to feel lonely and pray about it?
Oh my! I dated a non-Christian guy who admired and respected me and my Christian beliefs. In my head, I mixed up dating and courting and we had kind of a mixture of them in our relationship. The video really made it clear to me how he saw the relationship more as dating me, with no clear intentions while I saw it more as a courtship. That's what made it so hard for both of us. Cause I was submissive and didn't want to break it up, praying for his salvation the whole time.. (I knew I wasn't supposed to be in that relationship, but I gave in to the temptation over time :() I really hope God will use my story to His triumph one day. But atm I just need to be healed from this pain of not listening to His voice. It saddens me so much. It seems as if I waisted these months and hurt God, myself, this person and everyone who got fond of me (his family and friends).
I understand...
Better wasted months than years sweetie.
Am in this same situation right now, this is really a difficult thing for sure
Your not alone and he understands.. We got to learn.. But dont hide away you just have to pay attention to what their ideas are and pay attention to their actions.. You can see their intentions. It doesn't matter if they're in a church or not it matters if they love the Lord or not. And if they're mature enough to take a relationship serious. Cuz there can be immature men even in the church. Basically you got to ask for God to bring you your match. And keep your standards High. If that other person doesn't believe the same way you believe drop them. Because they cannot change right there and then. If they don't understand what courting is. They dont have no business dating lol
Am currently in it...am born again he is not...we got so many differences...I have to stop this and wait upon God I came to learn am doing it my way... thanks for sharing your experience
I was in a relationship with a girl that could be described, in practice, as somewhere between dating and courting. We were both routinely Alone Together, but we never had sex with one another. We did kiss quite a bit though. And before we ever engaged in any sort of recreational activities, like going to the movies, I always insisted that she get her school work done first and any other life activities that needed to be done first. What I brought into the relationship was the desire that even if it did not work out I at least did not leave her in a worse situation then what we were in prior to the beginning of the relationship.
The reasoning behind our type of relationship was out of practicality though because neither of us had any religious beliefs. We went our separate ways but we left on good terms. Last I heard she was doing well in her educational career and was on her path to graduate and get a good job. Am I a little disappointed the relationship didn't work out? Yes. But I am glad we are both still in a better place than what we were prior to the relationship.
Sorry for the long comment.
What a beautiful story. No hard feelings for the other. This is how it should be.
I agree. I told myself no more 'boyfriend girlfriend' nonsense. I'm over it and nowhere in The Bible does it say anything about this. For now on, courting only. But I'm NOT ready for that step just yet. Waiting on God to work on me and prepare me to be a Proverbs woman.
Truth.
I felt this on a deeper level I’m getting courted for the first time after dating way too much too young. I pray this time it works out 👍🏻
great insight! I felt bad that I'm not dating but now I understand that's a world idea. I'm going to start praying for a courtship for my present future.
Amen Cecilia! Courtship is the best option!
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Damn it’s a lonely life waiting until marriage
@@Awaiting_YHWHs_Return I don't think you understood the view. I'd rather do that than just be sinical.
If you’re hanging with friends, family, church, volunteers, coworkers…and pursing your future bride, you’ll be too busy to miss sex. And then it’ll be that much sweeter when you do marry.
Personally, I believe in relegating anything noncommittal to 'friendship'......something public and amongst others until courtship, a genuine pursuit with goals, ensues.
I agree with you.
Ok so it’s ok to be friends with females until I’m ready to be married?
Sir, you left no room for anyone to make any corrections. You're very clear and correct. Thank you.
I think before you do either it's really important for both parties to really get to know each other and establish a strong relationship before they get comitted on that next step. That's what I plan to do for my first quote on quote "relationship", because I think it would establish trust and a commitment for long term. Great video as always brother Allen.
"Courtship is intentional. "The scripture supports being intentional as a way of life.
" But solid food belongs to those who are of full age, those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil" Hebrews 5:14.
" The plans of the deligent lead to abundance, but everyone who is hasty comes only to poverty" Proverbs 21:5.✝️
Ohhhhh this made me understand why I cant get a date. Because everyone else just wants to have a time, like pure dating, meanwhile im trying to find a girl who I could reasonably see myself living the rest of my life with.
Which... I mean, it kinda sucks not gonna lie, but im glad I intuitively am coming into this with a relatively good mindset.
Wow, I wish this was clarified years ago. I could have been spared the heartaches.
Same here
This is stupid. Don't listen to this. The heartache is far worse if you get this courtship garbage imposed on you. Worse yet, you will end up in perpetual singlehood if you adopt courtship. Courtship is essentially a way to block you off from marriage, and if you believe it is "God's will" too, you will end up with outright contempt for God. This stuff is fundamentalist trash that destroys lives.
I speak from personal experience on all of this.
Thank you for this! I can recognize when I've been in a dating mindset and when I've been in a courting mindset. And there are stark differences, just like you've said. Sometimes courting is harder, because your held to higher accountability and discipline, but in the end its worth it. Time and time again.
Very good teaching. I will be sharing this video with my daughters..
Thank you for this very enlightening video. I was new at dating. I gave it try and unfortunately had my first lesson. Some men are very crafty and manipulating. They care nothing about gaining your trust and walking away. The only problem is courtship requires patience and being able to openly communicate. Most men do not have either of the two. Unfortunately, they are use to having their way with women. However, this video is on point. Courtship is certainly better than dating.
You did with this video , my questions were Definitely Answered !!
This hook up culture has damaged so many people! The boundaries set by the holy word of Elohim makes it to where we would not have to go through anything, If we just do what is righteous. Grate video!
So anointedly articulated!!! I love the part about disappointment vs. devastation. There is a peace that surpasses understanding when you involve God. It makes it so that you don’t feel like your whole world is tumbling down without the other person, but instead you know God is working something out for your best.
But when I’m courting... I don’t want to break up😢
lol right. In for the long hall, it hurts just the same and even worse when there is a deeper commitment
courtship is still a way to get to learn about the person and see if thats who God wants you to be with so we got to stay open. But i get what your saying I hate getting close to people just to walk away. I feel the pain. But God will lead the way
Precise and concise. Good video. I stopped dating but the girls in my church still want to play the dating game and thinks that I am too intentional when I say that I am exploring the possibility of marriage with that person. I see girls in my church getting wowed by guys and going on romantic holidays. I dont do that and they think I am boring and conservative. So i am still single.
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I'm glad I have already came to terms with all my experiences in life. This is for the babes in Christ.
By far one of the best videos that breaks down the differences between courting vs dating. I'm going to share your views and perspectives at a singles connect group I lead for women and of course share this video. New subbie & keep up the great work!!
Ah thanks so much Billie! that just made my day! I hope and trust you will enjoy this channel and the BEAT community we have formed. We love to interact and have great discussions around God's word. Thanks again!
I agree with everything you said. I was raised Pentecostal christian and I have an open mind. I am practicing courtship and have been celibate for 5 years. I dont put myself in compromising situations. I date myself until there is someone that meets the basic requirements to courtship.
Thank you so much for clearing this up this, brother Allen. And thank you for all the inspiring Biblical explanations of how to live! You've helped me discover my God- given purpose and the Lord definitely led me to your channel. I hope He continues to lead you in these videos, they're real blessings!
You know what’s crazy? I had no idea what courting was for the longest time. I just thought it was a fancy way of saying dating someone. But after seeing this video I’ve been opened up to so much clarity on the subject and understand the difference between them
Great video! I absolutely wish I had committed to courtships over dating. I already have been "compromised", so I can only redeem moving forward. This gave me clarity. Thank you for the way!
Much respect for "not inserting your person view" into Scripture
Thank you so much for sharing this. I was actually asking God what is right courtship before His eyes. And this video made a clear cut. Keep on blessing others! God bless you!
Very well said my man! 👊🏻 Dating is like hook-up culture. Courtship leads to marriage & long-term commitment.
This is powerful right here.
Brother Parr
I never liked dating and rarely ever consider it.
But courting oh my.
You covered some serious ground on how it should be done.
Why I am still single.
Courting is the only way.
You broke this down so well for me, thank you sir!
Love this I am a new pastor and this is spot on Good bless you and keep it up
Great video!!
What I like about your videos is your teaching skills! And how you visualize things, I learn and remember very visually. :) Thanks for the effort!
Hey Loviisa, that was also encouraging once again because it takes time to create all of the visuals and sometimes I'm tempted to get lazy and just talk. But I too think the visuals help people learn. Thanks so much.
omg... just hearing the word dating gives me a headache. thankyou for this 😏 reaffirms my desires
I needed this SOOOO badly! Thank you thank you so very much!
This is very clear u explain it well my bros God Grant u more wisdom bless u
Thanks so much Joy Deron, I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thanks again for taking the time to watch. God bless Joy Deron,
Beautiful video, Thank you for the clarity between the two
I think it is important when we are in friendships with the opposite gender to guard our hearts. I was recently friends with someone who indicated that he liked me and I was really praying about it, but suddenly he just got into a relationship with another girl. He really hurt me. I pray and ask that all brothers in Christ would be careful with how they treat their sisters--caring for their hearts and not leading them into false hope (if they aren't interested in a relationship). I know sisters in Christ should do the same but men are the pursuers in this area.
What do you think made him want to jump into a relationship so quickly with another person?
God tells us not to be silly or foolish. Being wise and atune to what is in order. Everyone is not healthy no matter how kind and sweet they present. They must prove worthy of your time, and attention and of course your feelings. I use to think just because a man told me he liked me he was capable of relationship and had the readiness I desired to be taken serious..... Nothing could be more gullible. There is an order verification process that must be completed along with him being consistent before you hand over your trust feelings and love to anyone. You are kind cause you are kind but you know your value and there is a price for your time feelings and prescence. Be glad he moved on you will remember this for the next time- let suitors court you first before you believe. Otherwise its just pretty words... Communicate clearly and watch his behavior and words. : )
Great video. This is good wisdom. This is the kind of information that I wish I would have known much sooner in my life.
Great video! Wish I saw it when I got saved as a young adult. I was not being held accountable for how I conducted myself with men. Accountability is so badly needed! How many pregnancies could be avoided if my sisters in Christ knew how to set boundaries.
Amen, sister!
I never knew what was courtship until now and now I know what is dating that explains alot of my personal experience. Thanks for the upload..
This video gave me great reassurance about my relationship thank you❤
Thank you so much for this video! God bless you
I enjoyed the video and appreciate your opinionated enlightenment from a males perspective. I thoroughly enjoyed it and well received. Peace & Blessings
Mi think u jus killed it dear. I jus greatly appreciated di advice. Thou art great bro.
Im 13. Glad I saw this video now vs later :)
Dope stuff! A lot of people consider them the same.
I appreciate your Southern drawl sir 🙏🏾💓
Courtship is about, protecting your partner's heart 💖 and emotional well-being. Confirmation 👌🏾😁
Good ol southern practices
The breakups are disappointing for us southern raised girls but it's never devastating
For the culture, baby 😁💯😁💓
This guy is spot on. Thank you
This is so true and what happened between me and my soon-to-be fiancé. Last spring, she gave me a letter stating how she felt toward me and we soon started "dating" throughout the summer. I was hesitant at first because of my relationship with her ex and that time was one of confusion and a little bit of hurt between us. Eventually, I knew I wanted her and I asked her to be my girlfriend and that's when we officially started "courting".
That was freaking Amazing!!! I needed all of that teaching it gave me such Clarity
God Bless you and your Ministry
Amazing video just like all the others Allen. I want to do my best to give you some encouragement, because although you may not get a million views at this moment, because of the overall quality of your videos, your amazing love for God, and the fact that all your videos are from the beginning built with the foundation of God and His word, you are truly helping me, and so many other people with their walk with God. Simply thank you so very much. Also, could you possibly make a video about sexual sins other than just intercourse?
Boston Hampton hello my friend! Thank you so much for taking the time to send this wonderful word of encouragement. I actually do have other videos on my channel about sexual sins. Feel free to check out my video on masturbation and then I have another video on the problem with pornography. If you go to my website, you'll also find a blog about pornography as well. My website is allenparr.com.
THE BEAT by Allen Parr No thank YOU for taking the time to respond! And you don't have to respond to this one, but I've actually seen those videos as well! I'm meaning more of, sexual sin other than intercourse, within a dating/courting relationship. But I do completely understand if you feel a video like that wouldn't be necessary! But seriously, thank you so much, have an amazing spring break Allen!
thank you for this Sir! I will share this with our youth in our church. God bless your ministry!
That was perfectly explained.
So true Brother. Dating is often very selfish instead of wanting to give Love to the other person and to God. I often hear the phrase “I deserve more” instead of “I should and want to serve more”.
I struggled with premarital sex and got an unhealthy soul tie because of it. Sin can be pleasure for the moment but you always have to pay for sin with it’s consequences. Either your body controls you or you control your body through Christ. May God bless you all.🫶🏼🙏🏽
This is so awesome! Unfortunately, my children are already married but I will send to my son to share with his children.
Awesome, thanks for your continued support Maureen!
Thank you this was a great explanation.
Thats truee... they need to think this way. Protect yourself..
I love your view on this. Keep up the good work.
Thank you. I did not know the difference. All my life l have been dating. From now on its courtship.
This makes so much sense now!!!
Your videos are A-MA-ZING ! You're so blessed and God uses you to bless us throught all your vids, thank you ! And, yeah... you really really reaaaally look like a younger Denzel Washington, REALLY !
Excellent video. Thanks so much
Amazing! 😊❤
You sir are amazing, I'm currently single, this video has helped tremendously boost my overall well-being confidence and everything to find my future love wherever in the heck she may be. Brother Parr pray that I find her and that she finds me. God bless you sir
Great video Sir! Thank you!
I'm glad he mentioned it's his personal view. Courtship is not biblical and there are no rules in the BIBLE regarding courting.
I just met someone and he is extremely on fire for the Lord and so am I. We spent every waking hour together for 4 days. Right from the start we found out that we have almost everything in common.
I could tell by his questions that he was asking that he was serious. Now we've been talking and texting for the last 2 days, because I'm driving out of state. Just a half an hour ago he officially asked me if I would be willing to have according relationship with him. I am 54 and I have never been married, but he has been divorced 2 times when he was a non-believer.
Yes thank you. Very helpful👍✅
#6 - Dating is much more pro business than Courtship. I mean what would happen to businesses like Restaurants, Bars, Flower delivery businesses, without Dating en masse
I'm young but when I'm older I'm going to court
I'm a very conservative and modest person, who saves up myself for marriage. All I see is a world that has moved on from the core values of the Christian teachings and has entered a world of premarital and casual sex, So I decided id rather live alone forever and take care of my parents than leave my principles behind.
Me being a person who loves the idea of a family of my own and knowing probably never going to happen makes me depressed but at least I know I'm doing the right thing.
God bless You.
This might be part of the answer to some of my prayers 🙂
Love this!
wow you really explained this very well.
My 14 year old and soon-to-be 13 year old ask me this very question last week. I responded something like this: The emphasis in courting is on marriage. Is this person wife potential? That's the question that should be asked before entering into a romantic relationship with anyone. I have three sons, the youngest was not involved in this conversation. However the two older ones were definitely involved in the conversation. They drove the conversation. They asked the questions, and I answered them.
Courtship has the intention of marriage. When you are courting each other, your determining whether or not she is wife potential. Not sex partner potential. Not have a good time potential. Wife potential! Is she mother of my children potential?
When you are simply dating, there's ambiguity, uncertainty, and devastation.
Thank you for this video. My daughter is young but the subject of marriage is going to come up in 9th grade literature. My husband and I became Christians after we were married so we have some idea of what not to do and some idea what not to do and how to define it.
One thing for sure is that you don't see dating anywhere in the bible.
This is really good
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Helpful tips! Thank you!
Nice Words my Brother
So good needed this video!
Eh....idk about this. I have so many comments. Glad it’s your opinion sir.
Well explained 🌸❤️❤️❤️
Wow Man,You helped me a lot I was looking for such inf.....Thanks stay blessed n wisdomised
What if you want to be married, and spiritually/emotionally you are ready, but financially you aren't? Like if you haven't got your career set yet?
Bro no one can awnser this question apparently
Like are we not supposed to interact until we have our financings in order?
I love your videos. Im learning a lot
You can still try define relationships in dating.Proc eed with a Protected heart.Still followWord...
How beautiful a courtship is!