That’s the most literal case of gaslighting I’ve heard of. Usually it’s things like, “that’s not what I said,” and “You’re too sensitive,” etc. but this is literally physically moving and altering things and telling her it’s not happening.
@cathielami7899 that's not ocd. Even if it was, he would have just apologised for tightening jars and not say "it's all in her head". He clearly has mental problems, of psychopathic variety, but tgat doesn't mean he doesn't do it on purpose - he has sick satisfaction of her frustration, if not outright sadism.
Reminds me of the guy who told his girlfriend that she smells bad to the point that she was showering several times a day. Only to find out that it's something he learned from his dad as a method to break a woman down.
Yes! I was thinking the same thing! That, and the one where the guy would hide her stuff, then it would "magically" reappear after she didn't need it anymore. He was going so far as to do it to her keys when she had something important that she needed to drive to. I seriously don't get it. I tease my husband every once in a while by being silly. It has never occurred to me to make him think he's going crazy. I find no pleasure in hurting him; even the thought of causing him intentional harm makes me queasy.
This man is intentionally being malicious for his own jollies. OP said every single jar in the frig; that means he is deliberately and consciously standing in the open frig and methodically handling every single jar with a metal lid. This isn't OCD, this isn't an "oops" now and again not realizing how tightly he put the lid back in place because it is items/products he never uses. This is a sick, twisted head game he plays with OP to intentionally irritate her and stress her out, so he can laugh at her frustration and gaslight her to prove he's better than she is because he controls the frig jars. This man has 6 too tight and 6 too loose and I'm not talking about jar lids. It is one thing for spouses to prank one another in light-hearted fun but when it stops being fun, or turns to being vicious on one's part, it is time to end it. That he went on a trip and left her with no way to open those lids, to the point the neighbor couldn't even get them open without one jar breaking, maybe hubby is hoping that while OP is fighting to get them open, one will shatter in her hands and cut her badly and she'll need medical care and then he can blame her for being careless or reckless. This guy is not right. He likes to see her cry: he builds himself up and strokes his ego by knocking her down. This is emotional abuse and he seems to be a master at it. Makes me wonder what else he does that is similar she hasn't picked up on yet or isn't telling us about. OP is definitely NTA.
The fact the neighbour has heard the fighting and after helping with the jars also thinks he is doing it on purpose says it all… NTA glad she’s filed for divorce
5:43 he made sure every single jar in the fridge was going to the unopened until he got home. I wonder if he is using a tool to tighten them because one jar got smashed trying to open. What else is he messing with that you havent noticed yet? Will it be medication next he messes with ? This is very worrying stuff
The fact that the neighbour couldn't undo it with tools is wild. Then causally mentions he has heard it as an ongoing argument he knows every aspect of and ponders about in his down time 😮. He did it when he went away, how was she suppose to eat? Why would you be mad about an IUD if you weren't planning on a baby? Because it's tamper proof
It was smart for her to get an IUD. When I got mine, my OBGYN told me that some abusive partners will actually rip the IUD out of the woman. I’m so glad she didn’t have to deal with that on top of everything else he’s done to her.
As usual, Candy Thunder is on the money. We almost said "Annoyatron" at the same time. Emotional abuse. Psychological abuse. Does he have to actually touch her for it to be physical abuse? He did something physical that impacted what she physically did - I wonder how many times she hurt/strained her hands trying to open a jar. Did she ever break one and get cut on the glass? Either way, OP's on the right path and I hope she gets her confidence back.
That last comment to me sounded like a baby trap. He wants her to get pregnant so she can’t work cause he said she would watch the baby while she works. Nah that would be really difficult. He’s baby trapping her
This is gaslighting for sure!! But my mustard jars are always tighter when I pull them out off the fridge, other jars no problem, but mustard 🤷♀️ Ooh and I live alone, except for my cat, but if I find out he is tightening my mustard jars, I dont know if I will send him to the circus or have an existential crisis.
My soon-to-be-ex totally my brand new car a week or two after we bought it. It had both our names on the lien - when he was towed to the dealership, he bought another car and guess what? It's only got his name on the title (Lien at the time, but I've since paid it off)
Almost immediately I had this guy pegged as a manipulative, gaslighting abuser. As the video went on it got confirmed every which way possible. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. I'm glad I got out of that relationship! I pray this woman stays the course and continues with the divorce.
The more things OP lists off that her spouse did, the more I'm like, 'honey, run far and fast away from that ahole!'. Just wow. It's a good thing she had enough with the jar and finally pulled the trigger on a divorce. More power to her.
NTA! This is purposeful. I suspect it's a control mechanism and his way of showing you who is in charge. I truly doubt this is the ONLY thing he does, just the only one that really stands out. Considering he will back off only to restart, he KNOWS what he's doing and is laughing at you.
My dad is notorious for over tightening lids and everything that requires tightening, like sprayers that attach to hoses. I give that as an example because I can’t get the dang sprayer that broke off of the hose it’s attached to and he can’t either. 😂 He’s not purposely doing it, he just doesn’t realize his own hand strength. He’s been a builder and in the construction industry since he was a kid with his father as well as a cowboy on his grandfathers cattle ranch, so he really is quite strong in his hand strength. With that said, he doesn’t go and find things to tighten just to annoy me or my family. That’s just weird and I think OP is going to start seeing other things he does just to get a rise out of her. For real, if he does this on purpose he has to be doing other stuff that she’s not noticed yet.
I've realised my brother over tightens some jars in my house and that's why I need him to open them for me... they're definitely only ones he uses though.
NTA. He does it to make himself the "man" who "has" to open jars for his woman. He's a jerk. He knew it bothered her and still kept doing it. It was nice that the neighbor was able to validate that it wasn't an accident.
Some people get a kick out of seeing others cry and freak out, they want to seem like the "sane" one to everyone, so they do little things to make the other person seem crazy or in some way wrong. I'd bet he's done this to prior girlfriends. The Annoyatron thing was definitely my first thought hearing all of this.
For years….he has been doing this for years! He is intentionally doing it…psychological warfare. He does it because he enjoys making her feel like she is going insane. Otherwise he would have stopped after her first or second request to stop. I bet she is so focused on the tight lids that she has overlooked other ways he is messing with her head. He is one BAD dude! He appears like the great guy, and that’s why their friends think she is horrible…he enjoys making her crazy and being the victim. It’s not the fridge…he is abusing her!
This is so crazy. I'll ask my fiance how he likes the towels folded or the dishwasher loaded even if I think it's wrong I'll do it the way he likes because he usually does the dishwasher and towels. Who wants to make their partner upset?
What makes me so sad and angry for op here is the aftermath of what i can see coming. Him saying to everyone, "She divorced me cos I tightened a jar or two too tight, and she got ao emotional about it even though i didn't mran it." "She kept accusing me of hiding important documents in her office, when all i did was make a little space to put my laptop down. She even said i could work in there." He'll be painted as a saint for putting up with such 'emotional crazy', and she be painted as a nutjob b!tch for losing it over some jars. I genuinely feel so much for OP on this one and i hope she gets out of it.
@@radicalreactions1633 They are a troll account. They used to just comment on the video with one comment, with the most outrageous and insulting comments imaginable. They got called out for being a troll so I guess they decided to up their game and start going to individual comments to troll now.
He did it on purpose. He stopped after she told him he needed to stop but then he started it back up again. It wasn’t an anomaly- it was with full intent.
This whole story reminded me of the movie "Gaslight". A young woman gets married and moves in with her new husband, and after a while, things would be a little different. Maybe something was moved from its normal place, or she hears strange voices, or the gaslights in the house will dim for no reason. The woman brings this up to her husband, and he says "oh, there's nothing wrong, you're probably just imagining things." It's actually the husband doing all these things to make her think she's crazy. This movie is where the term "gaslighting" comes from. I'm so glad OP got the heck out of there.
As far as the hypothetical- what if it was environmental. I can identify a couple flaws with that. The first: she says the pepper paste is in the way back of the fridge, never gets used. But I’ve got different jars all over the fridge. Some are in the door, in the back, on top, and the lowest shelf. All of the jars, throughout the fridge, all overly tight, right when he leaves town? Nah. But two, more importantly, she freaks out and tells him to stop. And what happens for a period of time? Mysteriously the jars aren’t too tight again. For a bit. That’s allllll him.
this feels really intentional, maybe hes doing it to make sure that she "will always need him" and that she will never leave him since "who will open my jars" which would be a successful gaslight if she didn't know that she can open freshly store brought jars. wife is really nta she should leave as fast as she can,
I guess some guys don't see their partners as equals, let alone human. He wants her to be the mother of his children but needs to break her spirit first? He wants his vehicle fixed but needs her vehicle broken first? This is a little boy who wants his toy to make more toys for him to play with. Somewhere, his mother owes the world an apology, starting with OP.
Uneasy? Girl I'd be frightened from all this. This is the most textbook gaslighting I've ever seen. Literally like the way the man from Gaslight turned down the lights incrementally while making the woman feel like she's literally going insane. She definitely needs to get out of here.
Your theory r.e. the fridge error option only holds water if and only if while he was away, all the untightend jars suddenly become hard rock lockdown jars. He was gone for 2 weeks, and apparently, they never tightened.So your theory holds no water. Easy enough experiment. He's doing this for control and only control. He needs to feel needed, and the only thing he can do is the jars. My autistic son does this because he feels better when I call him to open the jars. Now he doesn't do this with every jar, just the couple he likes.
How do you tighten jars more then the store without breaking or warping them?! I get having trouble opening jars....but if its this bad is it possible that he's adding glue or something to make some of the jars impossible without adding a solvent?
Ok I had to pause this because I was having flashbacks. No for real, I have rheumatoid arthritis bad, in my hands. I always had to ask someone to open jars for me. My daughters dad got so tired of helping me he bought me Black and Decker jar opener in early 2001 so I'd stop asking. Then the last guy I dated for 9 yrs, yes 9yrs, don't judge! Lol was abusive verbally and would get exasperated every time I asked to open the jars. I had to figure out how to do it on my own. So I discovered sports gloves (the sticky ones) and dish gloves, work amazing! So ladies there ya go no damn man needed for jars again. I'm single now so look me up lol I have got lots of do it yourself ideas!
I doubt very much that it had to do with temperature pressure. My hubs over tightens my daughter’s drink bottles ands it drives me nuts! I can easily open everything else in the fridge, except her damn drink bottles.
He might have over tightened them so she would have to rely on him. It’s still wrong, but I’m not sure if it’s worth divorce. This is a strange situation. But I don’t think OP is an AH. If she feels that it is necessary that is completely valid. Edit: did not hear the edit when I typed this out. Yea he is for sure gaslighting her.
@@radicalreactions1633 Now that I’ve seen the rest of the video it’s obviously a control thing, 110%. Agreed that OCD doesn’t hurt others in of itself. In my personal experience, any chronic condition can have unintended adverse effects on all types of relationships, but especially for those that are close. And more so if the condition isn’t recognized and/or acknowledged. Without that knowledge, the outward presentation can be perplexing or annoying or hurtful, etc.
All these people saying he’s a gaslighter blah blah. She legitimately admitted there are no other issues in the marriage. To me…I can’t see that being possible, but she admits it is. So yeah, she’s insane to divorce him over this.
And you're probably making excuses for an abuser. If your only problem was your ignorance then you'd have a pretty good life, your other problem is lacking common sense and empathy.
That’s the most literal case of gaslighting I’ve heard of. Usually it’s things like, “that’s not what I said,” and “You’re too sensitive,” etc. but this is literally physically moving and altering things and telling her it’s not happening.
Gaslighting at it's finest 😮 he's definitely just about making her need him and control and making her feel crazy about it is the icing on the cake
The neighbor heard the fighting. He also felt the need to tell her that the husband was doing it on purpose
For her to actually break down more than once and him still doing this? Thats abuse. He's trying to drive you crazy!!
Or OCD
@cathielami7899 that's not ocd. Even if it was, he would have just apologised for tightening jars and not say "it's all in her head".
He clearly has mental problems, of psychopathic variety, but tgat doesn't mean he doesn't do it on purpose - he has sick satisfaction of her frustration, if not outright sadism.
Reminds me of the guy who told his girlfriend that she smells bad to the point that she was showering several times a day. Only to find out that it's something he learned from his dad as a method to break a woman down.
That was crazy too.
Yes! I was thinking the same thing!
That, and the one where the guy would hide her stuff, then it would "magically" reappear after she didn't need it anymore. He was going so far as to do it to her keys when she had something important that she needed to drive to.
I seriously don't get it. I tease my husband every once in a while by being silly. It has never occurred to me to make him think he's going crazy. I find no pleasure in hurting him; even the thought of causing him intentional harm makes me queasy.
Perfect example of gaslighting
Or OCD
@@animorphs17 I have OCD this isn't that it's malice
"Gaslighting" is a term that gets (mis)used way too much these, but in this case... you're absolutely right. This is textbook gaslighting.
That was my thought exactly!
Literally! Like damn near right out the play
This man is intentionally being malicious for his own jollies. OP said every single jar in the frig; that means he is deliberately and consciously standing in the open frig and methodically handling every single jar with a metal lid. This isn't OCD, this isn't an "oops" now and again not realizing how tightly he put the lid back in place because it is items/products he never uses. This is a sick, twisted head game he plays with OP to intentionally irritate her and stress her out, so he can laugh at her frustration and gaslight her to prove he's better than she is because he controls the frig jars. This man has 6 too tight and 6 too loose and I'm not talking about jar lids. It is one thing for spouses to prank one another in light-hearted fun but when it stops being fun, or turns to being vicious on one's part, it is time to end it. That he went on a trip and left her with no way to open those lids, to the point the neighbor couldn't even get them open without one jar breaking, maybe hubby is hoping that while OP is fighting to get them open, one will shatter in her hands and cut her badly and she'll need medical care and then he can blame her for being careless or reckless. This guy is not right. He likes to see her cry: he builds himself up and strokes his ego by knocking her down. This is emotional abuse and he seems to be a master at it. Makes me wonder what else he does that is similar she hasn't picked up on yet or isn't telling us about. OP is definitely NTA.
The fact the neighbour has heard the fighting and after helping with the jars also thinks he is doing it on purpose says it all… NTA glad she’s filed for divorce
This is intentional. He did this for control.
Or maybe he has OCD
or maybe he's a troll who seriously needs to get a life already and stop posting comments for attention, animorph.
@@animorphs17OCD makes you do a lot but tightening the lid on jars he doesn’t even use is something else.
5:43 he made sure every single jar in the fridge was going to the unopened until he got home. I wonder if he is using a tool to tighten them because one jar got smashed trying to open. What else is he messing with that you havent noticed yet? Will it be medication next he messes with ? This is very worrying stuff
The fact that the neighbour couldn't undo it with tools is wild. Then causally mentions he has heard it as an ongoing argument he knows every aspect of and ponders about in his down time 😮. He did it when he went away, how was she suppose to eat? Why would you be mad about an IUD if you weren't planning on a baby? Because it's tamper proof
It was smart for her to get an IUD. When I got mine, my OBGYN told me that some abusive partners will actually rip the IUD out of the woman. I’m so glad she didn’t have to deal with that on top of everything else he’s done to her.
How is that possible? How can a man rip out an IUD? The only real way to get them out is to go to the Dr for them to remove it.
What... That's horrible...
As usual, Candy Thunder is on the money. We almost said "Annoyatron" at the same time. Emotional abuse. Psychological abuse. Does he have to actually touch her for it to be physical abuse? He did something physical that impacted what she physically did - I wonder how many times she hurt/strained her hands trying to open a jar. Did she ever break one and get cut on the glass? Either way, OP's on the right path and I hope she gets her confidence back.
My guess is there *are* other issues and she just hasn't recognized them yet.
ETA: posted before I heard the edit. Yep, definitely controlling and gaslighting.
That last comment to me sounded like a baby trap. He wants her to get pregnant so she can’t work cause he said she would watch the baby while she works. Nah that would be really difficult. He’s baby trapping her
What she was experiencing was a panic attack. He literally drove her to a panic attack because he refused to listen, and that's not okay.
This is gaslighting for sure!! But my mustard jars are always tighter when I pull them out off the fridge, other jars no problem, but mustard 🤷♀️ Ooh and I live alone, except for my cat, but if I find out he is tightening my mustard jars, I dont know if I will send him to the circus or have an existential crisis.
Cats do like some weird stuff
@@silentlyjudgingyou you are not wrong 😳
Literally the plot of the movie Gaslight
It can't be the fridge because it stops when OP has a meltdown and then starts again.
I bet he totalled the cars on purpose.
Right, like he never totaled his car but totals hers right away
@@funnyfoxbird exactly!
My soon-to-be-ex totally my brand new car a week or two after we bought it. It had both our names on the lien - when he was towed to the dealership, he bought another car and guess what? It's only got his name on the title (Lien at the time, but I've since paid it off)
Almost immediately I had this guy pegged as a manipulative, gaslighting abuser. As the video went on it got confirmed every which way possible. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. I'm glad I got out of that relationship! I pray this woman stays the course and continues with the divorce.
Was thinking it was a small percentage chance it was undiagnosed OCD. The update killed that thought.
Yo, this gave me flashbacks to my horribly abusive dad, this was something he did early on. Get away from him immediately.
"That was jarring Dustin" 😂 👏 👏
Sounds malicious he knows what he's doing.
Edit: and he just keeps getting worse
The more things OP lists off that her spouse did, the more I'm like, 'honey, run far and fast away from that ahole!'. Just wow. It's a good thing she had enough with the jar and finally pulled the trigger on a divorce. More power to her.
She told him how this made her feel, and he refused to change. Good for her. Life's too short to deal with this.
NTA! This is purposeful. I suspect it's a control mechanism and his way of showing you who is in charge. I truly doubt this is the ONLY thing he does, just the only one that really stands out. Considering he will back off only to restart, he KNOWS what he's doing and is laughing at you.
My dad is notorious for over tightening lids and everything that requires tightening, like sprayers that attach to hoses. I give that as an example because I can’t get the dang sprayer that broke off of the hose it’s attached to and he can’t either. 😂 He’s not purposely doing it, he just doesn’t realize his own hand strength. He’s been a builder and in the construction industry since he was a kid with his father as well as a cowboy on his grandfathers cattle ranch, so he really is quite strong in his hand strength. With that said, he doesn’t go and find things to tighten just to annoy me or my family. That’s just weird and I think OP is going to start seeing other things he does just to get a rise out of her. For real, if he does this on purpose he has to be doing other stuff that she’s not noticed yet.
I've realised my brother over tightens some jars in my house and that's why I need him to open them for me... they're definitely only ones he uses though.
NTA. He does it to make himself the "man" who "has" to open jars for his woman. He's a jerk. He knew it bothered her and still kept doing it. It was nice that the neighbor was able to validate that it wasn't an accident.
Some people get a kick out of seeing others cry and freak out, they want to seem like the "sane" one to everyone, so they do little things to make the other person seem crazy or in some way wrong. I'd bet he's done this to prior girlfriends. The Annoyatron thing was definitely my first thought hearing all of this.
For years….he has been doing this for years! He is intentionally doing it…psychological warfare. He does it because he enjoys making her feel like she is going insane. Otherwise he would have stopped after her first or second request to stop. I bet she is so focused on the tight lids that she has overlooked other ways he is messing with her head. He is one BAD dude! He appears like the great guy, and that’s why their friends think she is horrible…he enjoys making her crazy and being the victim. It’s not the fridge…he is abusing her!
This is so crazy. I'll ask my fiance how he likes the towels folded or the dishwasher loaded even if I think it's wrong I'll do it the way he likes because he usually does the dishwasher and towels. Who wants to make their partner upset?
What makes me so sad and angry for op here is the aftermath of what i can see coming.
Him saying to everyone, "She divorced me cos I tightened a jar or two too tight, and she got ao emotional about it even though i didn't mran it."
"She kept accusing me of hiding important documents in her office, when all i did was make a little space to put my laptop down. She even said i could work in there."
He'll be painted as a saint for putting up with such 'emotional crazy', and she be painted as a nutjob b!tch for losing it over some jars.
I genuinely feel so much for OP on this one and i hope she gets out of it.
Control. It's all about control. He would have ended up physically abusive.
Or maybe he just has OCD.
@@animorphs17 Maybe YOU have OCD. But this is not OCD. So stop saying it on everyone comments.
@@brookiebakerie Yeah, with all the times this dope keeps claiming desperately, on an abuser's behalf no less, that it's OCD.
@@radicalreactions1633 They are a troll account. They used to just comment on the video with one comment, with the most outrageous and insulting comments imaginable. They got called out for being a troll so I guess they decided to up their game and start going to individual comments to troll now.
9:54 damn~ a red flag in just about every shade
This is basically the absolute definition of gaslighting. I hope OP goes through with that divorce and gets away. This is abusive behavior.
Gaslighting…. The definition of gaslighting.
A beautiful example of a narcissist. He will never change.
He did it on purpose. He stopped after she told him he needed to stop but then he started it back up again.
It wasn’t an anomaly- it was with full intent.
A caring partner might have loosened jars since he was away.
This whole story reminded me of the movie "Gaslight". A young woman gets married and moves in with her new husband, and after a while, things would be a little different. Maybe something was moved from its normal place, or she hears strange voices, or the gaslights in the house will dim for no reason. The woman brings this up to her husband, and he says "oh, there's nothing wrong, you're probably just imagining things." It's actually the husband doing all these things to make her think she's crazy. This movie is where the term "gaslighting" comes from. I'm so glad OP got the heck out of there.
As far as the hypothetical- what if it was environmental. I can identify a couple flaws with that. The first: she says the pepper paste is in the way back of the fridge, never gets used. But I’ve got different jars all over the fridge. Some are in the door, in the back, on top, and the lowest shelf. All of the jars, throughout the fridge, all overly tight, right when he leaves town? Nah. But two, more importantly, she freaks out and tells him to stop. And what happens for a period of time? Mysteriously the jars aren’t too tight again. For a bit. That’s allllll him.
Your husband is malfunctioning; return him immediately
This is the definition of gaslighting. Except with jars.
She says there is no abuse, but this is ABUSE!
this feels really intentional, maybe hes doing it to make sure that she "will always need him" and that she will never leave him since "who will open my jars" which would be a successful gaslight if she didn't know that she can open freshly store brought jars.
wife is really nta she should leave as fast as she can,
That covert manipulation is abuse. Nta. Wow.
Maybe he wants her to only need him ? IDK 🤷♀️
I guess some guys don't see their partners as equals, let alone human.
He wants her to be the mother of his children but needs to break her spirit first?
He wants his vehicle fixed but needs her vehicle broken first?
This is a little boy who wants his toy to make more toys for him to play with.
Somewhere, his mother owes the world an apology, starting with OP.
I totally think he would have messed with her birth control! The manipulation and gaslighting makes me sick to my stomach.
Holy moly I’m seconds into this video and already enraged!
Thank gosh she did not give him a baby
Uneasy? Girl I'd be frightened from all this. This is the most textbook gaslighting I've ever seen. Literally like the way the man from Gaslight turned down the lights incrementally while making the woman feel like she's literally going insane. She definitely needs to get out of here.
Your theory r.e. the fridge error option only holds water if and only if while he was away, all the untightend jars suddenly become hard rock lockdown jars. He was gone for 2 weeks, and apparently, they never tightened.So your theory holds no water. Easy enough experiment. He's doing this for control and only control. He needs to feel needed, and the only thing he can do is the jars. My autistic son does this because he feels better when I call him to open the jars. Now he doesn't do this with every jar, just the couple he likes.
He likes to make excuses for abusive men, gee I wonder why /s?
He knows how much it pi$$es you off and still does it.
Nope!🚩🚩🚩🚩
Bro just want's to feel needed and useful... Though I agree he should have stoped when she asked.
9:35 Ok I retract my comment!
Op should talk to his ex(es), assuming he has one/some to see what they think, did they experience similar things. I bet they did!
I could believe that he wasn’t intentionally doing it, if her loosening them would tighten up in the fridge
How do you tighten jars more then the store without breaking or warping them?! I get having trouble opening jars....but if its this bad is it possible that he's adding glue or something to make some of the jars impossible without adding a solvent?
The title 😂😂😂😂😂
And that's why you need to live together before marriage... Divorce is a pain in the ass.
Didn't know about the oh no consequences result. Joining
You know a great way to find out why he did it? Therapy
Ok I had to pause this because I was having flashbacks. No for real, I have rheumatoid arthritis bad, in my hands. I always had to ask someone to open jars for me. My daughters dad got so tired of helping me he bought me Black and Decker jar opener in early 2001 so I'd stop asking. Then the last guy I dated for 9 yrs, yes 9yrs, don't judge! Lol was abusive verbally and would get exasperated every time I asked to open the jars. I had to figure out how to do it on my own. So I discovered sports gloves (the sticky ones) and dish gloves, work amazing! So ladies there ya go no damn man needed for jars again. I'm single now so look me up lol I have got lots of do it yourself ideas!
Gaslighting
You're not an abusive person so you can't comprehend the reasoning behind it.
Or maybe he is and that's why he constantly justifies and makes excuses for everything the men do in these stories.
@@radicalreactions1633 is don't get that at all. If that's what you think, why do you watch?
I doubt very much that it had to do with temperature pressure. My hubs over tightens my daughter’s drink bottles ands it drives me nuts! I can easily open everything else in the fridge, except her damn drink bottles.
💜
He might have over tightened them so she would have to rely on him. It’s still wrong, but I’m not sure if it’s worth divorce. This is a strange situation. But I don’t think OP is an AH. If she feels that it is necessary that is completely valid.
Edit: did not hear the edit when I typed this out. Yea he is for sure gaslighting her.
The only other possibility is OCD.
Nah… the birth control thing had nothing to do with OCD.
@@themadgranolathe car thing neither
For the last effing time, OCD DOESN'T HURT OTHERS.
@@themadgranola you’re right…hadn’t got that far in the video yet.
@@radicalreactions1633 Now that I’ve seen the rest of the video it’s obviously a control thing, 110%. Agreed that OCD doesn’t hurt others in of itself. In my personal experience, any chronic condition can have unintended adverse effects on all types of relationships, but especially for those that are close. And more so if the condition isn’t recognized and/or acknowledged. Without that knowledge, the outward presentation can be perplexing or annoying or hurtful, etc.
All these people saying he’s a gaslighter blah blah. She legitimately admitted there are no other issues in the marriage. To me…I can’t see that being possible, but she admits it is.
So yeah, she’s insane to divorce him over this.
I think he has OCD
so another possibility is OCD.
OCD doesn’t make you lie about tightening the jars.
Bish, stop using this pathetic excuse. OCD is something you do FOR YOURSELF, it doesn't hurt others. Stooge.
They make a cheap device that open tight jars. He's probably OCD. If tight jar lids are your only problem, you live a VERY good life.
And you're probably making excuses for an abuser. If your only problem was your ignorance then you'd have a pretty good life, your other problem is lacking common sense and empathy.