Yeah, real emotional. Pretty normal during honest conversations, when talking about your mother, who's long past away. Simply seeing her face in his mind, as he talks about her, brings pain. A beautifull pain.
Hey played the anti christ long ago and that can set an actor back. There have been actors who have played undesirable people and have affected their acting career
@@TheNilliz85 religious people like... Leonardo da Vinci, Michelangelo, Thomas Aquinas, Raphael, Vivaldi, Bach, Mozart, Shakespeare, Einstein, Alessandro Volta, Fr. Gregor Mendel, Louis Pasteur, Fr. Georges Lemaître, Nicola Cabibbo etc. Etc etc??? .... but probably you even ignore the mere existence of half of these writers, artists, philosophers and scientist and their masterpieces.
@@reconquistaahead1602 except einstein several times rejected the idea of a personal god. He simply said he can not prove he doesn’t exist. Da Vinci was raised catholic but he did also never claim to be religious when he grew up and there isn’t anything to support that claim either. Same goes for several others. And whether a skilled musician is religious or not proves nothing lol. Same goes for painters and so on.
Best wishes for everything to Sam. Very glad a smart and perceptive man once recommended you for a part and eventually we got you in Jurassic Park and all the rest.
People hate advice like this because it is the only advice that actually works. Hard to actually pull yourself together sometimes, but it will always lead to success.
@@CAK10111 Exactly, sometimes it's not possible and that should be obvious to anyone with critical thinking skills. When it is possible though, it will always lead to a better future. Truly a wise man who was fortunate enough to have a very wise mother.
People pull themselves together every day. That's why it's the worst type of advice. It's a way of saying, "I will not help you, you are on your own. I'm your mother but I have zero mothering skills".
I imagine Mr. Neil was touched because - as his age, (my age) - if we have had good parents - we are so very deeply aware of the sacrifices they made for us. Its humbling.
More than touching, trying to find the words for a simple answer become effortless and challenging all at once. You have a few moments to boil a an entire universe of emotion and love into just a brief statement. If you have great parents, sometimes the hardest part is getting past the twitch you feel in your face when all the images run through your head.
Sam Neill had a convincing short role in "The Horse Whisperer." Sam was able to size up the situation his wife was in, giving her a free choice ... that choice was made in the final scene.
Don't meet your heroes is all I'm going to say. I've seen him in public a couple times, he yelled "fuck off" into the face of a young girl politely asking for photo He wasn't eating, on the phone, talking to someone or anything
@@Harmi-XD Not one to defend celebrities, but imagine you're going through things and just want to go for a stroll or something and get endlessly pestered for photos, autographs, and papparazzi expose every moment of your life. Was this around or about 2016 when tabloids were plastering his face on Aussie magazines of him kissing a woman during his affair? I'd imagine he wasn't in the best emotional state between 2015 and 2017 during all of that and probably got taken for half of all the millions he'd earned and then he is forced to pay millions of alimony for years (some people are literally forced like slaves to keep working and keep making millions just to pay divorce settlements). John Cleese nearly had a mental breakdown after a similar situation, had to pay up $20 million and alimony and had no idea how he could do it basically being forced to go back to acting. People don't realize courts don't respect retiring and don't take into account that you may be DONE earning money. i.e. make $40 million, now you plan to retire, oops your wife takes $20 million AND is now entitled to $1 million a year alimony, that remaining $20 million isn't going to last you more than a few years before she drains it and so now you've got to go back and pray you can somehow make it all again.
It’s okay to be alone My mother never remarried after my father and her divorced. She remained the most stable and dependable person in my life while my father left the state for most of my childhood chasing women. She told me that she “wanted to focus on you kids more than anything else”. I love her so much. But in all this I saw my father in and out of relationships, heartbreak, drama, and my mother being happy and stable. I learned that relationships aren’t everything and in fact are not for everyone and it’s okay to be alone.
A good or great relationship will make life brilliant and a bad or dreadful one will likely break you however if your capable of being ok truly on your own your likely to outlast 90% of people mental health wise iv realised as iv gotten older the number of people able to handle being truly alone is very low but if you can manage it your likely to manage most things life will throw at you.
@@lordsathariel4384I agree. I personally don’t think you can consider yourself a mentally tough person until you can truly handle loneliness and be happy while being lonely. People are not dependable. Everyone changes and grows apart eventually. The most reliable person in your life should be YOU! Because you are all you really have at the end of the day. Don’t rely on other people for happiness.
God bless ur mother & hopefully ur father is inna better place in his life now. thing is tho, yeah sometimes for some ppl its okay to be alone but also i think others choose to close themselves off to the opportunity of new love because of past trauma. i think in a general consensus it’s always best to let love come on its own, going & looking for it & wanting to force relationships to try and work just ends up w/ hurt people.
Both my parents came from broken homes and were abused by their families. They were determined to build a better family but it didn't go as well as they'd hoped. Through all the mental illness and turmoil that seeped out from the cracks in their hearts, I could see two broken souls trying their best to love under the weight of themselves. We have every right to the anger we feel when we've been abused or mishandled, but when we choose to heal rather than hurt, we can give others that opportunity too. Hard work, grace, forgiveness and love will never return void. These things will test your strength and brake you. Though If you can make these things a part of yourself, then when you break, you can piece yourself back together righteously. Learning to suffer well and with grace will make you unstoppable. Jesus loves.
Absolutely beautifully put❤ Thank you. Nothing is wasted when it’s in Jesus’ hands. What the enemy or people meant for evil, can be turned around for our good. There is hope through the worst of times, and that assurance that we are seen. ❤
I learned an incredible lesson from my friend’s mother 35 years ago. She dropped and broke a camera. My friend and I saw it happen and were kind of freaking out because it was expensive. She picked it up and seemed unbothered which surprised us. When we questioned why she wasn’t upset, she said “Getting upset isn’t going to make the situation any better” That has stuck with me my entire life.
He really isn't a nice dude, I haven't spoken to him directly but he went by my work a couple times. I watched him yell to f off in the face of a young fan who politely approached him
@@Harmi-XD not a good look ill admit but you're making a pretty big assumption off of very little. Celebrities are actual people with their own personal lives when the cameras are off too. Could've had an awful day and blew up (wrongly) at the 274th person that's probably approached him that week. None of us are perfect, iv certainly done worse in my life than tell someone to F off, doesn't mean we aren't good people
He was born about an hour from where I live. His parents would have had tough times in their generation and he appreciates what their experience taught him. A fantastic actor and very humble.
I wish I had parents. I wish my children had grandparents 😢 One is in prison and the other couldn’t care any less. It hurts so bad sometimes 🤦🏻♀️😭❤️🙏🏽
Hugs out there 💐 Your parents have gone. I understand. 🙏Pray. It truly helps your heart. How blessed are you to have beauty in your life some never experienced it. 💥❣️
Me too brother, me too. Hope you can give a big hug to your parents, and if they aren't here anymore to do that, you should give it to yourself, coz their memories are still in this world because you are. Abrazote!
@@carmenlux1775 I think the point was that despite the flaws coming out the tough times faced by that generation, hard work and perseverance was everything to them.
@@carmenlux1775 actually I think a lot of people from the World War II generation who weren’t wealthy were pretty stoic about life, everyone in my family was, my parents included.
Now add the word “bootstraps” and see how far this concept gets you in the society cultivated by management centers whos power hinges on large groups believing they’re not responsible for themselves
That's true and really powerful. Thank you. At 37 I realize I am lucky to still have my parents. Because alot of people don't. So what you wrote I needed to hear so thank you.
You can tell she said to him in the most loving and supportive way. Not to dismiss him or play tough love but to help her son. Also, she asked, "How are you darling?" That's a lesson in itself.
It’s so true. Only someone who knows that pain of losing a great strong parent recognizes the pain that initial breaking in his voice. Miss my mom every single day.
Yeah I feel that. I'm 31 years old. Lost my dad when I was 6, mom died almost 2 years ago. Got no other family members in this country left. I got a handful of friends I can truly depend on and myself. Regardless of what happens I'm still living by moms favorite saying "it can always be worse"
So true. I lost both of my parents. Mom taught me strength through adversity. She's the one to tell me to pull myself together. She taught me to leave things better than you found it. She also gave me her giving spirit. My dad taught me respect and kindness to others no matter their status.
Just the words our kids need to hear when they’re in their early twenties…it conveys to them that we have every confidence in them that they are smart and resourceful if they’ll only persevere.
from an outside mentor because to be fair, they'll resist and resent it from someone too close to them until they're much older, unless some greater incident helps them to pull their heads from their derriere - the mindfulness to just be, breathe, meditate, prayer not like a shopping catalogue of hopes, dreams, wishes but on thoughts, on questions, on answers. It is just the nature of these things and the baggage we accumulate... the stages of development we go through. Yes, some are capable of reaching this plateau quicker but for most.. it's still a matter of growing pains. Given that twenty year olds today are younger than twenty year olds twenty years ago... and so on, they need a few more steps, a few more tools in order to comprehend the messaging and skill building to develop the tools to absorb the information they're receiving... as well as to be able to share it among their peers. Really, if anything, it's their peers that need it. . . if you can offer it to their peers, especially when they see you as a surrogate figure more than their own, then it has better odds of being communicated and adapted to your own children that may have additional baggage and other weights that make it difficult to absorb these lessons directly from you. To get it from their parents/guardians, they need to go the roundabout way.. which is difficult because they too have baggage and weights that take their child for granted... so taking that extra initiative can make them resentful and many give up believing that they're smarter, wiser, have more access to information than they ever had and so on, sort of excuses get in the way... so, short of kidnapping parent and child and stranding them in an isolated environment where it's necessary to rely on each other or resort to cannibalism to survive. . . we need to involve some sort of mid-stakes activity that involves both of them and has shorter term (but far reaching) rewards and consequences to put this into a more longterm practice, especially if both have been out of practice for a while. It can be of minor risks, really, but it depends on the sort of people they are and what milemarkers they've passed on life's highways... or it can be as high stakes as trying to convince a family to participate with their (as an example) paraplegic daughter/son in a tough mudder's competition. Something that could take as much or little, depending on perspective, as three years to prepare for. or as little as a mummy/daddy and me personal finance course. So many different personalities, family dynamics, there's no one size fits all, exact ingredients solution for this sort of thing... especially when you're making up for lost time and having to cram extra lessons you've put off or let slide into disuse... and they're nearly grown, can't or shouldn't depend on you any longer in the same capacity. In many ways, it's much harder for the parents involved... the empty nest approaches and they're not ready for the changing the family dynamics and roles. Most parents, guardians and even siblings, and the extend family aren't ready nor willing to allow their family roles to evolve. Hence, year after year, at family gatherings they slip back into comfortable roles that are often ill fit and lead to dysfunction... a higher rate of tumultuous relationships that risk extended separations, if not permanent. . . and often over very little as each party fights to establish boundaries and control but often in a way that ignores the boundaries and control of others. But I digress. "independence is no solution for modern babies, they don't know how to use free minds... " so often people move on to their next youngest to instill these values in practical form because it's merely easier, the younger is often still receptive to communication and they believe they can make up for the 'mistakes' or avoid the resentments of the last. It might be as easy as taking them fishing... tho, it's a bit better if rather than using a pole, bait or a lure... you use only a belt, pantyhose and an earring. it's funny, from children to elders, everyone is allegedly neurodivergent now and yet divergent thinking is at an all time low. because there are fewer repair shops, few youth unable to afford repairs, had to learn how to repair things on their own - from first bicycle to a skateboard to a home computer.. and given the plethora of apps, which many are skilled at using, they haven't a need to learn to code or merely jailbreak their phones... they have unspoken expectation that all their present conveniences will be available to them at all times, everywhere and they should only grow.. Now all in all, the advice hasn't changed by much from their day as twenty sometimes from their parents and grans... but again, each generation has become a little younger, childhood lasts a little longer and the approach to all this and all the things they need learn is a lot more of what they're missing out on. likewise we get back to the trouble with their elders having the same fallacy for them, even as the yell at the clouds on the front lawn in front of all the neighbors. . . expecting what was once common sense and the norm of their generation and prior gens to the be the same.. the expectation that this youngest generation should be even more advanced rather than recognizing, it had a little bit social engineering and governmental nannying get in the way that caused a developmental gap. It hit the younger millennials and downward onto the gen alpha. Not unlike the shift, in fact, very much mirroring it, of the younger silent gen to baby boomers -- hyper nanny protections, major societal shift, on childrearing that ultimately blew up down the road... coming off a fear state against feral youth, the pendulum swung to the other extreme with a bit too much helicoptering, too many inane laws that prevented more practical alternatives so, bloody, yeah, always gotta find that place of moderation. of our young people being able to pull themselves up by their bootstraps but also know when to ask for help while also recognizing, they're obnoxious little shts that are going to resist especially if they have a limited foundation to draw from. . . and they're younger than generations before.. so, in turn, it's going to take a few years longer for most of them to reach pass this milestone.
Im tearing up too... I too lost my father and never stopped grieving him.... I've always wanted to know what his parents were like ..... I've always loved and respected Sam Neill , he's amazing! Well Done Sir.... ❤❤
We should all share 1 Papi and my Ma, they used to give me 2 bucks or something and send me to a homeless person. Learned to love the poor from 5 to now. I'm 30. And the best thing they taught me, for a long time over and over again, is to be happy with what you have, it can always be worse, but you can make it better. If I ever have little ones, I'm going to teach them Jesus
Sometimes I'll hand someone a dollar bc its not rly abt the money or what theyre gonna buy with it. Just to let you know I see you and I wish you the best
Amen! I learned things are not easy, work together, hard work will not hurt you, work hard for what you want, help other people how you can, even if they have not helped you, and be grateful to God for everything you have-you will always come out better!
My parents taught me a very powerful lesson, the very best lesson they taught me, I don't think parents can teach any lesson that is more important than this lesson and it is taught in so many ways but the lesson is: not all kids gets to have loving parents in their lives.
What a great question and a meaningful, wise answer. I cried with him, thinking about our long-gone parents and what they gave us that is so precious: wisdom, strength, love, discipline, and joy. Thank you for sharing.
@@salveregina7914 Sam Neil & a caveat, his portrayal of someone approaching madness because his perception of reality is unraveling in, "In The Mouth of Madness" was particularly profound!
Do unto others as you would want done unto you that is the best lesson my parents taught me Roman Catholic love live laugh and cry with joy family forever
The best (and only) advice I was given is that if you never ask the answer will always be no. It’s always worth a shot to ask, to apply for that job, and even to try that thing that calls to you.
@@TheAncientColossus in my experience those are opposite and yet the same part of the spectrum. Others were squeaky, but my mouth was closed. I am curious about the impact of one’s environment and the timeliness of their ability to recognize they can open their mouths. ❤️
Ha! And there’s me sitting here feeling sorry for myself wondering why things are so tough right now expecting things to change. I just need to ‘pull myself together’, get up and start doing because I’m the only person that can turn this mess around. I needed to hear this. I am blessed and need to remember all the blessing I do have in my life and focus on them. Thank you ❤🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
What good advice, it shows that she trusts that he can do that, that he can muster the strength to meet his own needs, that: he's got this! and with her love and approval, he realized that yes, he got this!!
Our parents say things throughout the course of our lives and we sometimes disregard them until we're faced with uncertainty and we remember things like this. My Mum said a lot to me when I was 15... Times of love and hate and I am so grateful for the things she said that are a part of me now. ❤
Amen, it still hurts like hell, when I think about my mum, my pillar of strength, my mother inspired me to reach for the stars, and all things are possible with diligence, perseverance, never give up, be innovative to succeed in life! I can only hope that I will never let her down in my whole life. I love you so much mum and miss you everyday, since you passed away in 2009. Mums are the best and should be dearly valued, and protected at all times! God bless all mums!
My grandparents helped raise me, and they are like this, lived through the depression and second world war, abused and neglected by their parents but created an amazing life for their kids. They can be hard at times, but there is no doubt at all that they love you more than anything. My generation doesn't know true suffering, our life is too comfortable and we look for things to complain about. We should be looking to the older generations for advice a lot more.
What I learned from my parents is. Just because someone has a title, it doesn’t mean they have the ability to live up to it. They taught me to count on myself and be my own caretaker. Life sucks and it’s definitely not fair at times, but I’m no victim. I’am a overcomer! And, I believe this is the exact role they needed to play in my life in order to make me a loving, compassionate, selfless, forgiving and independent being. Who knows how I would have turned out if their role was different. I love my parents. They were the opposite force of what I want to attract so, it created balance in my life ❤ listen, some of us don’t have a support system or a network to support and cheer us on and that’s ok. We have to be our own cheerleaders and our own biggest supporters ❤
The best lesson I have learned is to always exercise patience when helping others. It is useful to take a 3rd person perspective when trying to help yourself. It functions as a reminder that you are both the teacher and the student in that instance. You must exercise patience from both perspectives. The type of patience required may be different with each role.
the question in it's self posed to him nearly moved him to tears. such a powerful question, and the answer originates from a place of humility. it is eternal the approval we seek from our parents. excellence in journalism, in an age where journalism has no integrity.
My parents taught me respect for nature, conservation, and sharing our world with our fellow humans. I was four or five when I tore into a fellow camper that I witnessed stealing a Lady Slipper from the woods “you put that back, it’s an endangered species!”, and the lesson of not picking flowers. If I loved it so much, those that come after me will get to live it as well, but I’m being selfish if I pick it for myself, and it will quickly wilt, and then no one gets to live or enjoy it. They taught me that my footprints have impact on our wild lands. They taught me how to be a better steward of nature. And it wasn’t from recent trend, it was in the 70’s and borne out of practicality. Clothes ain’t dirty? Don’t wash them. We have a well that will run out. Spilt some milk? Just use a little paper towel instead of the whole sheet, we don’t have a lot of money.
@@bens.664 they did die but they were really good parents that's why I used the term heaven so whats wrong with that? The cheap thing is people don't respect other's people's words. I said what thought and meant it. You say what you think and I will say what I think.
Best lesson learned from my parents is always question everything and believe in yourself from the moment you wake up til you go to sleep and thank GOD you can breathe and walk and talk.
The best lesson I learned from my mother, how NOT TO MOTHER. Whatever she did, I did the opposite. My daughter and I have the best relationship now, my mother and I are 'oil and water'.
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Best question ever asked... And most honest answer given. No BS, just straight from the heart.
@@maz5907 WTF
His reaction touched my heart. It reduced him to a boy, vulnerable, authentic, and answered with such an open heart ❤️
@@mmcs4973Yes! It really did. He was so vulnerable and literally spoke form the heart. No sugar coating, just the pure honest truth ❤️🙏🏽
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He literally pulled himself together before everyone’s eyes as he answered the question.
The tears in his eyes shows that he absolutely from the heart meant every word.
Yeah, real emotional. Pretty normal during honest conversations, when talking about your mother, who's long past away. Simply seeing her face in his mind, as he talks about her, brings pain. A beautifull pain.
Sam Neill. An hysterically underrated actor
Hey played the anti christ long ago and that can set an actor back. There have been actors who have played undesirable people and have affected their acting career
@@ggarza714 might be true but it’s so dumb. Another reason to laugh at religious people
@@TheNilliz85 religious people like... Leonardo da Vinci, Michelangelo, Thomas Aquinas, Raphael, Vivaldi, Bach, Mozart, Shakespeare, Einstein, Alessandro Volta, Fr. Gregor Mendel, Louis Pasteur, Fr. Georges Lemaître, Nicola Cabibbo etc. Etc etc??? .... but probably you even ignore the mere existence of half of these writers, artists, philosophers and scientist and their masterpieces.
@@reconquistaahead1602 except einstein several times rejected the idea of a personal god. He simply said he can not prove he doesn’t exist.
Da Vinci was raised catholic but he did also never claim to be religious when he grew up and there isn’t anything to support that claim either. Same goes for several others. And whether a skilled musician is religious or not proves nothing lol. Same goes for painters and so on.
@@TheNilliz85 hence you believe only in the God of science. Good luck.
What a sweet, honest, and thought response
Isn't it just ❤
One of my favorite actors and human beings. A kind, deep, thoughtful man.
You never get used to losing your mom or dad, you just learn to live with it. These are the moments that remind you of that. 😢❤
Very true.
They really were the greatest generation!. Beautiful. Thank you!
It's not beautiful.
Sam Neil is one of my favorite actors.
Best wishes for everything to Sam. Very glad a smart and perceptive man once recommended you for a part and eventually we got you in Jurassic Park and all the rest.
@@lefantomeralso very talented. I adore him.
absolutely love him in "Jurassic Park" and "The Hunt for Red October" ❤
The omen was the first horror trilogy I watched as a kid. His role in the third took it from horror to biblical drama. Brilliant.
Event Horizon
"Pull yourself together!" Simple, and to the point. TY Mom!
It.. it.. it can’t be that easy..NO! TRIGGERED!!!!!!
@@rams812 ... aaaand that's why old schol parents used to tell us to get a grip
He is without w a shred of doubt one of the single most underrated actors ever.
People hate advice like this because it is the only advice that actually works. Hard to actually pull yourself together sometimes, but it will always lead to success.
He says “sometimes” so he is saying he knows it’s not always possible. When possible pull yourself together ❤️ , it is good advice.
@@CAK10111 Exactly, sometimes it's not possible and that should be obvious to anyone with critical thinking skills.
When it is possible though, it will always lead to a better future. Truly a wise man who was fortunate enough to have a very wise mother.
People pull themselves together every day. That's why it's the worst type of advice. It's a way of saying, "I will not help you, you are on your own. I'm your mother but I have zero mothering skills".
Mine taught us, by example, unconditional love. 💕
Lucky
I imagine Mr. Neil was touched because - as his age, (my age) - if we have had good parents - we are so very deeply aware of the sacrifices they made for us. Its humbling.
Your comment needs more than a thumbs up. Amen
totally
You're parents get a lot smarter as you get older, don't they? 💞
More than touching, trying to find the words for a simple answer become effortless and challenging all at once. You have a few moments to boil a an entire universe of emotion and love into just a brief statement. If you have great parents, sometimes the hardest part is getting past the twitch you feel in your face when all the images run through your head.
Absolutely, and it's often after they are gone that we realise that..
I don’t admire many actors but I do like Sam Neill
Sam Neill had a convincing short role in "The Horse Whisperer." Sam was able to size up the situation his wife was in, giving her a free choice ... that choice was made in the final scene.
Don't meet your heroes is all I'm going to say. I've seen him in public a couple times, he yelled "fuck off" into the face of a young girl politely asking for photo
He wasn't eating, on the phone, talking to someone or anything
Seriously? @@Harmi-XD
@@Harmi-XD Not one to defend celebrities, but imagine you're going through things and just want to go for a stroll or something and get endlessly pestered for photos, autographs, and papparazzi expose every moment of your life. Was this around or about 2016 when tabloids were plastering his face on Aussie magazines of him kissing a woman during his affair?
I'd imagine he wasn't in the best emotional state between 2015 and 2017 during all of that and probably got taken for half of all the millions he'd earned and then he is forced to pay millions of alimony for years (some people are literally forced like slaves to keep working and keep making millions just to pay divorce settlements).
John Cleese nearly had a mental breakdown after a similar situation, had to pay up $20 million and alimony and had no idea how he could do it basically being forced to go back to acting. People don't realize courts don't respect retiring and don't take into account that you may be DONE earning money. i.e. make $40 million, now you plan to retire, oops your wife takes $20 million AND is now entitled to $1 million a year alimony, that remaining $20 million isn't going to last you more than a few years before she drains it and so now you've got to go back and pray you can somehow make it all again.
@@Harmi-XDThat sounds more like actor Russell Crowe. He is known for doing that to people.
I love him. Phenomenal actor
Who is that?
It’s okay to be alone
My mother never remarried after my father and her divorced. She remained the most stable and dependable person in my life while my father left the state for most of my childhood chasing women. She told me that she “wanted to focus on you kids more than anything else”. I love her so much. But in all this I saw my father in and out of relationships, heartbreak, drama, and my mother being happy and stable. I learned that relationships aren’t everything and in fact are not for everyone and it’s okay to be alone.
A good or great relationship will make life brilliant and a bad or dreadful one will likely break you however if your capable of being ok truly on your own your likely to outlast 90% of people mental health wise iv realised as iv gotten older the number of people able to handle being truly alone is very low but if you can manage it your likely to manage most things life will throw at you.
@@lordsathariel4384I agree. I personally don’t think you can consider yourself a mentally tough person until you can truly handle loneliness and be happy while being lonely. People are not dependable. Everyone changes and grows apart eventually. The most reliable person in your life should be YOU! Because you are all you really have at the end of the day. Don’t rely on other people for happiness.
she was not alone she had you. Being truly alone is not good for anybody. But a romantic relationship is not the end all be all of having a good life
God bless ur mother & hopefully ur father is inna better place in his life now. thing is tho, yeah sometimes for some ppl its okay to be alone but also i think others choose to close themselves off to the opportunity of new love because of past trauma. i think in a general consensus it’s always best to let love come on its own, going & looking for it & wanting to force relationships to try and work just ends up w/ hurt people.
BE Blessed 🎉
There’s a lot in that “pull yourself together”
My mom did the same, and after a pause, she said "And I will help you, my son"
His honest answer touched me..
Love this!
Self responsibilty - best life skill ever.
A very wise loving Mum.😌
I got through my depressions in college by remembering Tennyson. He said "I must lose myself in action, lest I wither in despair."
Hey! That’s a lovely thought. A good maxim to live by too.
I've never heard that quote before. But I love it.
wise words
Thank you. Peace & Love to you and yours❤
Yep. Keep yourself occupied without becoming overly anxious. It’s transformative.
Tough love delivered with gentle strength and grace! This is so encouraging, especially as a mother!❤
Both my parents came from broken homes and were abused by their families.
They were determined to build a better family but it didn't go as well as they'd hoped.
Through all the mental illness and turmoil that seeped out from the cracks in their hearts, I could see two broken souls trying their best to love under the weight of themselves.
We have every right to the anger we feel when we've been abused or mishandled, but when we choose to heal rather than hurt, we can give others that opportunity too.
Hard work, grace, forgiveness and love will never return void. These things will test your strength and brake you. Though If you can make these things a part of yourself, then when you break, you can piece yourself back together righteously.
Learning to suffer well and with grace will make you unstoppable.
Jesus loves.
Absolutely beautifully put❤ Thank you. Nothing is wasted when it’s in Jesus’ hands. What the enemy or people meant for evil, can be turned around for our good. There is hope through the worst of times, and that assurance that we are seen. ❤
" Keep thy heart with all diligence ;
for out of it are the issues of life. " Proverbs 4...
Galatians 5:21-23
@@annafoy8128galatians 5:21-23
Proverbs 4:23
Beautifully said! ❤
I learned an incredible lesson from my friend’s mother 35 years ago. She dropped and broke a camera. My friend and I saw it happen and were kind of freaking out because it was expensive. She picked it up and seemed unbothered which surprised us. When we questioned why she wasn’t upset, she said “Getting upset isn’t going to make the situation any better” That has stuck with me my entire life.
Stunning 🥰🙏🏽❤️
Wow.
The depth of this conversation is something they will both remember for quite sometime.
Today Sam Neil reported his cancer is in remission.
What i didn't even know he had cancer.
Bless him
Wonderful news!!
Great news. Sad that people suffer such fate.
The expression on the girls face asking the question, such deep sincerity. ❤
The young people asking the questions were all on the autism spectrum which makes their questions particularly thoughtful
Ikr!! She's definitely a sweet, gentle, empathetic soul. I hope people around her didn't hurt her.
I have been watching Sam Neil since 1979. He just keeps getting better and better. What a thoughtful man.
That's Sam Neil ? Why's it say Chris Bumstead?
He really isn't a nice dude, I haven't spoken to him directly but he went by my work a couple times.
I watched him yell to f off in the face of a young fan who politely approached him
@@Harmi-XD not a good look ill admit but you're making a pretty big assumption off of very little.
Celebrities are actual people with their own personal lives when the cameras are off too. Could've had an awful day and blew up (wrongly) at the 274th person that's probably approached him that week.
None of us are perfect, iv certainly done worse in my life than tell someone to F off, doesn't mean we aren't good people
We love our Kiwi Sam❤
@@ScorpIron58 its a link to another video on the same channel. it confuses me sometimes too.
He was born about an hour from where I live. His parents would have had tough times in their generation and he appreciates what their experience taught him. A fantastic actor and very humble.
I miss my parents like crazy....i wish there were things in life i could redo again with them 😢
❤ I know exactly what you mean.😢 sending a hug your way.
I totally agree with you I wish I could hit the pause button!!😢
I wish I had parents. I wish my children had grandparents 😢
One is in prison and the other couldn’t care any less. It hurts so bad sometimes 🤦🏻♀️😭❤️🙏🏽
❤ Me too .... 🙏
Hugs out there 💐 Your parents have gone. I understand. 🙏Pray. It truly helps your heart. How blessed are you to have beauty in your life some never experienced it. 💥❣️
"Always end on a good note." My Father
"Sometimes maybe good, sometimes maybe shit"- my polish workmate
Gosh this one hit me
Me too brother, me too. Hope you can give a big hug to your parents, and if they aren't here anymore to do that, you should give it to yourself, coz their memories are still in this world because you are. Abrazote!
Didn’t it just 😮💨
An awesome generation of parents.
do not generalise because i bet he's in a minority of people who had parents like that
@@carmenlux1775 I think the point was that despite the flaws coming out the tough times faced by that generation, hard work and perseverance was everything to them.
@@carmenlux1775 actually I think a lot of people from the World War II generation who weren’t wealthy were pretty stoic about life, everyone in my family was, my parents included.
Nothing wrong with pulling yourself together, we can all do it. Wise words.
Now add the word “bootstraps” and see how far this concept gets you in the society cultivated by management centers whos power hinges on large groups believing they’re not responsible for themselves
You can tell her lesson held strong because obviously, that question caught him by surprise.
And he did exactly what he was taught pulled it together
Enjoy your time with your loved ones while it lasts, it won’t last forever. ❤
That's true and really powerful. Thank you. At 37 I realize I am lucky to still have my parents. Because alot of people don't. So what you wrote I needed to hear so thank you.
Time with family is everything - it goes so fast - little else matters
@@MichaelSmith-bl3pxoh yes indeed sir.
Im 32 and im living alone. My parents died few years ago, im in total depression, can't even sleep.
It takes a very mature and wise person to answer a question as such.
The message is; KEEP GOING! You are stronger than you think. Keep the momentum going!!
You can tell she said to him in the most loving and supportive way. Not to dismiss him or play tough love but to help her son. Also, she asked, "How are you darling?" That's a lesson in itself.
That question would move anyone who has lost their parents, especially.
It’s so true. Only someone who knows that pain of losing a great strong parent recognizes the pain that initial breaking in his voice. Miss my mom every single day.
Yeah I feel that. I'm 31 years old. Lost my dad when I was 6, mom died almost 2 years ago. Got no other family members in this country left. I got a handful of friends I can truly depend on and myself. Regardless of what happens I'm still living by moms favorite saying "it can always be worse"
So true. I lost both of my parents.
Mom taught me strength through adversity. She's the one to tell me to pull myself together. She taught me to leave things better than you found it. She also gave me her giving spirit.
My dad taught me respect and kindness to others no matter their status.
He is moved because all grown men become little boys when their late mother is felt in their heart again...
Just the words our kids need to hear when they’re in their early twenties…it conveys to them that we have every confidence in them that they are smart and resourceful if they’ll only persevere.
from an outside mentor because to be fair, they'll resist and resent it from someone too close to them until they're much older, unless some greater incident helps them to pull their heads from their derriere - the mindfulness to just be, breathe, meditate, prayer not like a shopping catalogue of hopes, dreams, wishes but on thoughts, on questions, on answers.
It is just the nature of these things and the baggage we accumulate... the stages of development we go through. Yes, some are capable of reaching this plateau quicker but for most.. it's still a matter of growing pains.
Given that twenty year olds today are younger than twenty year olds twenty years ago... and so on, they need a few more steps, a few more tools in order to comprehend the messaging and skill building to develop the tools to absorb the information they're receiving... as well as to be able to share it among their peers.
Really, if anything, it's their peers that need it. . . if you can offer it to their peers, especially when they see you as a surrogate figure more than their own, then it has better odds of being communicated and adapted to your own children that may have additional baggage and other weights that make it difficult to absorb these lessons directly from you.
To get it from their parents/guardians, they need to go the roundabout way.. which is difficult because they too have baggage and weights that take their child for granted... so taking that extra initiative can make them resentful and many give up believing that they're smarter, wiser, have more access to information than they ever had and so on, sort of excuses get in the way...
so, short of kidnapping parent and child and stranding them in an isolated environment where it's necessary to rely on each other or resort to cannibalism to survive. . .
we need to involve some sort of mid-stakes activity that involves both of them and has shorter term (but far reaching) rewards and consequences to put this into a more longterm practice, especially if both have been out of practice for a while.
It can be of minor risks, really, but it depends on the sort of people they are and what milemarkers they've passed on life's highways...
or it can be as high stakes as trying to convince a family to participate with their (as an example) paraplegic daughter/son in a tough mudder's competition. Something that could take as much or little, depending on perspective, as three years to prepare for.
or as little as a mummy/daddy and me personal finance course.
So many different personalities, family dynamics, there's no one size fits all, exact ingredients solution for this sort of thing... especially when you're making up for lost time and having to cram extra lessons you've put off or let slide into disuse... and they're nearly grown, can't or shouldn't depend on you any longer in the same capacity.
In many ways, it's much harder for the parents involved... the empty nest approaches and they're not ready for the changing the family dynamics and roles.
Most parents, guardians and even siblings, and the extend family aren't ready nor willing to allow their family roles to evolve. Hence, year after year, at family gatherings they slip back into comfortable roles that are often ill fit and lead to dysfunction... a higher rate of tumultuous relationships that risk extended separations, if not permanent. . . and often over very little as each party fights to establish boundaries and control but often in a way that ignores the boundaries and control of others.
But I digress.
"independence is no solution for modern babies, they don't know how to use free minds... "
so often people move on to their next youngest to instill these values in practical form because it's merely easier, the younger is often still receptive to communication and they believe they can make up for the 'mistakes' or avoid the resentments of the last.
It might be as easy as taking them fishing... tho, it's a bit better if rather than using a pole, bait or a lure... you use only a belt, pantyhose and an earring.
it's funny, from children to elders, everyone is allegedly neurodivergent now and yet divergent thinking is at an all time low.
because there are fewer repair shops, few youth unable to afford repairs, had to learn how to repair things on their own - from first bicycle to a skateboard to a home computer.. and given the plethora of apps, which many are skilled at using, they haven't a need to learn to code or merely jailbreak their phones... they have unspoken expectation that all their present conveniences will be available to them at all times, everywhere and they should only grow..
Now all in all, the advice hasn't changed by much from their day as twenty sometimes from their parents and grans... but again, each generation has become a little younger, childhood lasts a little longer and the approach to all this and all the things they need learn is a lot more of what they're missing out on.
likewise we get back to the trouble with their elders having the same fallacy for them, even as the yell at the clouds on the front lawn in front of all the neighbors. . . expecting what was once common sense and the norm of their generation and prior gens to the be the same.. the expectation that this youngest generation should be even more advanced rather than recognizing, it had a little bit social engineering and governmental nannying get in the way that caused a developmental gap. It hit the younger millennials and downward onto the gen alpha. Not unlike the shift, in fact, very much mirroring it, of the younger silent gen to baby boomers -- hyper nanny protections, major societal shift, on childrearing that ultimately blew up down the road... coming off a fear state against feral youth, the pendulum swung to the other extreme with a bit too much helicoptering, too many inane laws that prevented more practical alternatives
so, bloody, yeah, always gotta find that place of moderation.
of our young people being able to pull themselves up by their bootstraps but also know when to ask for help while also recognizing, they're obnoxious little shts that are going to resist especially if they have a limited foundation to draw from. . . and they're younger than generations before.. so, in turn, it's going to take a few years longer for most of them to reach pass this milestone.
That is the truth. Be Strong in the face of fear.
Treat people kindly
We don’t all deserve it
But
The more people do that, the better this world will be...
We are stronger than we realize. 😊
Im tearing up too... I too lost my father and never stopped grieving him.... I've always wanted to know what his parents were like ..... I've always loved and respected Sam Neill , he's amazing! Well Done Sir.... ❤❤
We should all share 1
Papi and my Ma, they used to give me 2 bucks or something and send me to a homeless person. Learned to love the poor from 5 to now. I'm 30.
And the best thing they taught me, for a long time over and over again, is to be happy with what you have, it can always be worse, but you can make it better.
If I ever have little ones, I'm going to teach them Jesus
Sometimes I'll hand someone a dollar bc its not rly abt the money or what theyre gonna buy with it. Just to let you know I see you and I wish you the best
Amen! I learned things are not easy, work together, hard work will not hurt you, work hard for what you want, help other people how you can, even if they have not helped you, and be grateful to God for everything you have-you will always come out better!
My parents taught me a very powerful lesson, the very best lesson they taught me, I don't think parents can teach any lesson that is more important than this lesson and it is taught in so many ways but the lesson is: not all kids gets to have loving parents in their lives.
What a great question and a meaningful, wise answer. I cried with him, thinking about our long-gone parents and what they gave us that is so precious: wisdom, strength, love, discipline, and joy.
Thank you for sharing.
Dude even i got INSTANTLY emotional when she asked it even before i saw his reaction.
He’s the sweetest most genuine down to earth man. A true treasure 💕
One of my most favorite actors!
Very intetesting, I was simply going to a tiny endless spiral of emotions when I read your comment about him been an actor and then it just stoped
What is his name?
@@salveregina7914 Sam Neil & a caveat, his portrayal of someone approaching madness because his perception of reality is unraveling in, "In The Mouth of Madness" was particularly profound!
@Larry-j9b I thought it looked like Sam Neil. Thanks for the clarification.
Wow. Sam Neil was almost left speechless after that question. And applied the pull yourself together lesson brilliantly before everyone’s eyes ❤
Love it when men are expressive with their emotions!!😢❤
Do unto others as you would want done unto you that is the best lesson my parents taught me Roman Catholic love live laugh and cry with joy family forever
The best (and only) advice I was given is that if you never ask the answer will always be no. It’s always worth a shot to ask, to apply for that job, and even to try that thing that calls to you.
I love that
Squeaky wheels get the grease.
A closed mouth doesn't get fed.
@@TheAncientColossus in my experience those are opposite and yet the same part of the spectrum. Others were squeaky, but my mouth was closed. I am curious about the impact of one’s environment and the timeliness of their ability to recognize they can open their mouths. ❤️
@@TheAncientColossusmy mom’s exact words to me ❤
Ha! And there’s me sitting here feeling sorry for myself wondering why things are so tough right now expecting things to change.
I just need to ‘pull myself together’, get up and start doing because I’m the only person that can turn this mess around.
I needed to hear this.
I am blessed and need to remember all the blessing I do have in my life and focus on them.
Thank you ❤🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
What good advice, it shows that she trusts that he can do that, that he can muster the strength to meet his own needs, that: he's got this! and with her love and approval, he realized that yes, he got this!!
What a brilliant young lady to get straight to the heart. I love the answer as well.
I needed this today.
Glad his story could help!! :)
Heartfelt moment, remembering a stoik mother, telling you in a nice way. Harden up ! Life goes on, if you are ready or not
Don't ever give up on what you want even if it doesn't work
An important lesson, based on a very personal, heartfelt life experience... Bravo, Sam! You're one of the best.
Our parents say things throughout the course of our lives and we sometimes disregard them until we're faced with uncertainty and we remember things like this.
My Mum said a lot to me when I was 15... Times of love and hate and I am so grateful for the things she said that are a part of me now. ❤
Amen, it still hurts like hell, when I think about my mum, my pillar of strength, my mother inspired me to reach for the stars, and all things are possible with diligence, perseverance, never give up, be innovative to succeed in life! I can only hope that I will never let her down in my whole life. I love you so much mum and miss you everyday, since you passed away in 2009. Mums are the best and should be dearly valued, and protected at all times! God bless all mums!
My grandparents helped raise me, and they are like this, lived through the depression and second world war, abused and neglected by their parents but created an amazing life for their kids. They can be hard at times, but there is no doubt at all that they love you more than anything. My generation doesn't know true suffering, our life is too comfortable and we look for things to complain about. We should be looking to the older generations for advice a lot more.
Those who came before, those who made us. Think about how many people it took to fight through life, to get each of us, to where you we are now.
Their is suffering in comfort aswell, just different, we are going through a mental suffering aswell
It's so beautiful and vulnerable. The question and the answer were both amazing. Bravo. ❤❤❤
What I learned from my parents is. Just because someone has a title, it doesn’t mean they have the ability to live up to it. They taught me to count on myself and be my own caretaker. Life sucks and it’s definitely not fair at times, but I’m no victim. I’am a overcomer! And, I believe this is the exact role they needed to play in my life in order to make me a loving, compassionate, selfless, forgiving and independent being. Who knows how I would have turned out if their role was different. I love my parents. They were the opposite force of what I want to attract so, it created balance in my life ❤ listen, some of us don’t have a support system or a network to support and cheer us on and that’s ok. We have to be our own cheerleaders and our own biggest supporters ❤
The question is great. The answer is so pure and true..
He had to pull himself together in order to even answer the great question!
I absolutely love Sam Neill. One of a handful of absolute gems in show business.
Wise words so dearly needed for this new generation.
The best lesson I have learned is to always exercise patience when helping others. It is useful to take a 3rd person perspective when trying to help yourself. It functions as a reminder that you are both the teacher and the student in that instance. You must exercise patience from both perspectives. The type of patience required may be different with each role.
the question in it's self posed to him nearly moved him to tears. such a powerful question, and the answer originates from a place of humility. it is eternal the approval we seek from our parents. excellence in journalism, in an age where journalism has no integrity.
My dad once told me.
"Have you ever just stood up and breathe?"
For whatever reason, that got to me.
Sam Neil, fantastic actor. Always enjoyed watching him ❤❤❤
This is great advice...
Much needed... Thank you. Sometimes the most simple advice is the most profound
MY PARENTS TAUGHT ME TO STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND WORK FOR WHAT EYE WANT. I TAUGHT MY CHILDREN MAKE NEW MISTAKES BLESS
Gosh darn the initial attempt hit soo hard.
Awe he is so charming and sweet.
My parents taught me to always be humble and kind.
Miss my mom's words of advice!
Just Love this Man.......... he is so Real & Honest. Sam Neil is the Best Public Man that I know of.
We all have to do things that we don’t want to
My parents taught me respect for nature, conservation, and sharing our world with our fellow humans.
I was four or five when I tore into a fellow camper that I witnessed stealing a Lady Slipper from the woods “you put that back, it’s an endangered species!”, and the lesson of not picking flowers. If I loved it so much, those that come after me will get to live it as well, but I’m being selfish if I pick it for myself, and it will quickly wilt, and then no one gets to live or enjoy it.
They taught me that my footprints have impact on our wild lands.
They taught me how to be a better steward of nature. And it wasn’t from recent trend, it was in the 70’s and borne out of practicality. Clothes ain’t dirty? Don’t wash them. We have a well that will run out. Spilt some milk? Just use a little paper towel instead of the whole sheet, we don’t have a lot of money.
Sam Neil is always a joy and a delight.
Lovely demeanor and answer
The greatest generation.
A wonderful actor, a beautiful soul, a real human being. #SamONeal ❤
Parents suffered a lot too and they are in heaven now so what l learned never regret living a good life with your loved ones.
Don't cheapen the memory of your parents by pretending they didn't die.
@@bens.664 they did die but they were really good parents that's why I used the term heaven so whats wrong with that? The cheap thing is people don't respect other's people's words. I said what thought and meant it. You say what you think and I will say what I think.
@@bens.664 you have the bedside manner of a vulture.
I have lived a life with my parents and siblings being so LOVED and am forever thankful for the memories.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
My strength was my DAD ❤❤❤ He used to say those kind of things to me and I will never forget them either ❤❤❤❤
Best lesson learned from my parents is always question everything and believe in yourself from the moment you wake up til you go to sleep and thank GOD you can breathe and walk and talk.
Thank you alot
Dead Calm,Jurassic Park, Peaky Blinders
Great Range Actor
Amen, no matter how we learn that lesson, it is one of the most important lessons.
The best lesson I learned from my mother, how NOT TO MOTHER. Whatever she did, I did the opposite. My daughter and I have the best relationship now, my mother and I are 'oil and water'.
Love me some Sam Neil. ALWAYS loved him.