How to overcome social anxiety disorder
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@@SFY654It is recent feature of youtube.
We suffer more in our imagination than in reality
I don’t know I still think after people walk away they are talking crap behind my back
you are right..i exaggerate everything in my imagination..and then my thoughts become negative
@@NewsFortI swear I always think abt that too
Being exposed to the internet does that. The internet can best be described as a drug that incredibly exaggerates emotions and expressions.
Yeah my heart is pumping like mad in real life but thanks...
“Maintain eye contact” triggered my fight or flight tbh
Me too 😣
Facts. I’m all set on that.
nope, social anxiety for me is just walking in the street and feeling hyper activated and aware of each walking person and feeling their glances on me. therefore I start walking faster than normal and I avoid eye contact, which makes me unaware of what’s happening around me. It feels like hallucinations to be honest
I am generally under control when I’m in a slow paced closed environment
Same bro
Yes that's it😂😂🤣😭
this happens to me
So what do we do???
Same and my brain stops working sometime during the day and then I am all like hmm, huhhh, hm hm... like I can't even think of anything to say and people notice that pretty quickly
One thing i dont understand is that i am not always socially anxious, sometimes i am pretty confident and mantain eye contact but othertimes i cannot look the person in the eye
Bipolar
Got the same problem
Same its weird
Yeah it’s like 50/50
exactly the same problem with me.
When you step outside of your comfort zone, two things happen:
1. You experience some degree of fear
2. Your comfort zone enlarges
Well said!
I just found out that I have struggles maintaining eye contact with others, I have fear of walking by people, I have fear eating infront of others, I’ve got lots more but coming to the point, are this signs of social anxiety or am I an Introvert?
It has not enlarged I'm still afraid
@@iwasher9218 Honestly, could be either or a combo of both. But I can say that pushing yourself to face awkwardness and rejection will strengthen you socially regardless of your natural disposition or fears or both.
@@TheMaskedThearpist It takes time, and repetition. Often the progress feels insignificant in the moment, but if you persist, you'll be able to look back on this time and see how you've transformed a tiny little bit at a time.
As much as I'd like to step out there and face my fears, it's really not as simple. I remember being in improv theater class for the first time and I never felt so bad in my life, I was constantly sweating and I just wanted to run away and cry. Even doing small tasks gets my heart beating so fast that it hurts
Maybe because you refuse something, I think this is an ego problem, others must at all costs see us in the way we wanted to, and if poeple see us otherwise, this puts us in a huge discomfort, the worse thing is running away from those kinds of situation and not facing them because this how fear grows, it get bigger and stronger when we choose to run away from it. Next time, try to practice mentally by visualizing the worst case scenarios that could happen to you, like it is happening in real life. And let your body react, it could be in form of sweating, crying, fast heartbeat, weakness in your legs ... think of this process like a negative energy getting out of your body, and at the same time ask yourself what's the worst thing that could happen to you? Maybe for example poeple saying that you are a loser or you're good for nothing.. in this case ask yourself how is this going to harm you? What is the worst thing that could happen to you? You will find that it's just a little idea you created a long time ago whether you picked it up from your family, parents, at school , friends or from your teacher,, anyways it all begun from a simple idea that kept growing with feelings and repetitive scenarios in which you concluded this idea until it became a fear. So from now on, don't nourish it, try to face it one moment at a time, and I guarantee you, as you make more efforts to face it, as it becomes weaker & u become stronger. It happened to me and it can happen to you as well, just don't be harsh on yourself, you're not the only one , everyone of us has some kinds of fears. You're not alone. Keep fighting!
@@khadijas1579 that is amazing advice! I hope you know you helped someone today!! :)
@@vineetamadineedi1310 yeah 🙂
@@khadijas1579 this is really good advice man thank you
@@khadijas1579 everyone has a plan until they get punched on the face
Alone because of social anxiety still we fear of being alone
We fear of people judgments, we don't even think about the rest! We fear that we become fearful. So basically our biggest fear is fear itself!
Once we confront our biggest fear with open eyes we will see that nothing is there!
I’m really about to start recording myself doing stuff in public to get attention I’m getting tired of having this I’ve tried everything people tell me now it’s time I learnt to make a fool of myself and not be scared
Ain’t that the truth
I got social anxiety at 14 years old, I always feel like i am not my real self
Me at 12, and i'm almost 20 now ☠️
@@bluefire3297 now i am 17. Hope you overcome it soon
That's exactly how I feel 😢
Same, now 22 starting a new job and already got the reputation as the quiet guy again 😔
@@redzz4708 story of my life 😀
I have social anxiety and let me tell you guys it's a worse nightmare and so is normal anxiety.
I have a fear of people thinking I’m weird and rejection but you broke it down now I know what to do. If I’m in a social interaction I’ll just be my weird self and if they don’t like it then oh well. Not everyone will like you, it’s just life.
Well said!
True
Youre just a girlboss this is normal
Me I forget what to even say because I’m thinking about how weird I look or sounds 😔
I lost many opportunities becuase of this mindset. i need to fix it fast, we all know deep inside its not good to live life like this forever
I have panic attacks when going outside but i manage it by not thinking i have it. What i do is just go on the way, try to relax and see what would happen.
exactly that's what I do like for example I have a family-owned restaurants and sometimes I have to do meetings I just do the meeting anyways and see how it falls I let things fall in place and I relax if that makes any sense, because I sometimes have panic attacks I've been hospitalized by a really bad panic attack so that kind of told me I have to do something about it and figure out a solution
Are urs as persistent? My panick attacks are so persistent such that I'll overcome once and get swayed a few minutes later when it shows up again
@@samuelmaina8769 keep socializing friend, it's good that you can overcome it and surely you still. Just practice mindfulness. Be positive. I have anxiety too but what you do is when you walk, think like you have a shield on you. And no one can get you. My anxiety now is not so worst, I learned to take care of myself. God words can really help. The very first time that I read a bible verse was the start of fighting my social anxiety. Though, going outside for me was very very hard and feel embarrassed, thinking I was weird. I have realized that I wasn't, when you let those things rule on you, you can't be in peace. Dust it off. And meditated on Gods words. That is the work of the enemy. Don't let that things live on you. It's a trick. The enemy comes to mind. They want us to be in fear, remember that we are the creation of God and we are called for him. Those enemies, if you're battling in those minds. Do not fight it. Give it to God. He will give you peace if you let God rules over it. No one is greater than his love and peace. God's promises is true. Have faith and you are called to live and to love.
Philippians 4:6-7 (NKJV)
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."
I want to share this if those thoughts battling you. Say this: I take that thought captive, In Jesus Name! And pray that God help you. It's powerful.
@@lee_ashh This is an awesome reply. I'll surely put it into practice. Thanks
I suffered from social anxiety my whole life and lately I realized how many opportunities I missed because of this. I'm now working on going out of my comfort zone. It's really hard but I want to get rid of social anxiety. Right now it's just ruining my life!
I think social anxiety is a result of self rejection, and pushing yourself to socialize more, only makes it worse. You need to love and accept yourself first , and then it won't matter who else doesn't.
In other words, join improv class! Or a theater group! I used to be unbelievably shy I would barely talk infront of anyone, and I am going into only my third year in theatre, my friend says that in the best way I'm like a whole new person, it has really changed my life and built my confidence in every aspect possible
When I ran social anxiety group therapy, I’d include a section on improv. Improv skills are just such a great way to listen to someone else, stay connected, and build a conversation together 🙌🏽
I've been in theatre, and I still have anxiety
I don’t know about shyness having anything to do with social anxiety. It just sounds fictional to me
Or just be weird!Who wants to be normal it’s so boring lol.Your never alone God is with you always!He accepts you when people reject you!🙂
Thank you 😢
Problem is that I’ve been already rejected by everyone I have ever met
And now I am alone and hopeless
If you read this, I hope that you don’t experience what I’ve experienced
The same I've been experiencing. And it's horrible. Because people hardly understand us.
hope you're doing better
I hope you and everyone else who is suffering with social anxiety gets out of it and becomes a confident person
Bro, you have God don't forgot that (if you are religious). And even if they all gone. These people don't deserve you. Create a new circle of friends. People that deserve you. (btw I have thisf ear too)
@@yousyousf5247 شكرن آنا مسلم بس احس إني ما استحق الأسم مسلم لاني وقفت اصلي هل ايام
A really good trick I use to not get nervous in public is to make a point not to look at anyone. Not just in the eyes, I mean don't look at them in general. It's amazing how well it works, and it makes you realize how often you look at people lol.
(This only applies to going into stores and out around strangers. I don't mean in an actual social setting like going out with friends)
my social anxiety keeps getting worse and worse. after corona i started to just be in a room whole day for 2 years of my life, and now when i go out and talk to people. i get anxious. nervous. scared. not that they are dangerous for me or anything. im just afraid how i am being presented to them, im afraid what they might think of me, now i know i shouldnt care about what everyone might think about me. but i cant help it. whenever im out in public in a lot of people. i feel like im doing something wrong. and i get nervous and at that moment all i need is a mirror, a full whole body mirror to see myself and tell myself that no ur not doing anything wrong, ur just looking exactly how others are. iv been dealing with this for years, and i thought it will go away but its not.
Exactly same
Same
Exposure therapy Is great, necessary even. But sooner or later, you have to work on your trauma. That's the hard work.
The thing is I’ve exposed myself to social situations my entire life and always feel weird and fearful 😂 it’s not working
Same!
I didn't know I had social anxiety until recently I thought the physical pain and shortness of breath was somewhat normal
Being alone is not bad at all, infact it's amazing.
Feeling lonely tho..
Its interesting how most people with social anxiety aren't actually weird, they are very normal people, except we tell ourselves we are weird, and this actually leads to weird and anxiety-related behaviours and habits.
This is actually the best advice ever, if you truly are looking to heal
I do have some social skills (now), but i still feel that people are judging me. I can say "good morning" and ask for something in a restaurant, but i can't make friends because i'm afraid that if i open up myself for people they won't like me
Same wanna be friends
I can do a lot more than that the only thing is if i’m trying to make friends w somebody i just end up not speaking to them bc i feel like they think i’m wack
I'm like this too...how to overcome this 🗿 It's so frustrating
I am a huge believer in keeping things ridiculously simple, therefore imma share my ridiculously simple yet powerful tips/hacks I’ve used to overcome many obstacles.
Well first of all guys n gals we need to break down what anxiety is. I have struggled from different anxieties my whole life until the start of Covid. Long story short i discovered by accident that anxiety is a psychologically related problem which has physical symptoms. I see most people in the comments have confidence and self belief issues. And that’s what causes your anxiety folks.
Sit down, plan out how you gonna start building up your confidence and self belief because where focus goes energy flows, so if you keep focusing on your anxiety that’s all you gonna get. You don’t know how? Read psychology books. Stoicism is great.
Don’t forget, doctors are nothing more than meds salesman, even when they from it themselves bc they don’t know better.
Wish y’all good luck folks
Social situations put me into fight/flight mode. This can last for days. I will wake up after a social event literally trembling. This has been happening for a year. I've always had anxiety, but never this severe.
So pretty much like learning how to swim; just dunk yourself in water and start swimming. You’ll feel like you’re drowning at times but as long as you’re not too far in the deep end, you’ll be fine. So practice until you can swim in the deep end with no problems. In other words, learn, practice, and repeat until mastery.
I am not even scared of what people will think of me, I don't particularly care. What I am scared of is how unpredictable, vitriolic and cruel people can be in groups and it feels like too much of a risk to expose myself to that.
Ok so I actually started to open up more to my friends about my fear of rejection instead of bottling all up, looking stoic from the outside but panicking on the inside. so what happened was, they felt uncomfortable, not knowing how to react and suggesting me therapy and later distanced themselves from me like not texting as frequently as usually. and my fear of rejection was like "see? told ya no one really likes you"
The thing is I can make new connections and do all this stuff over and over again, but I end up feeling the same.
Well I imagine myself in these situations indeed where I feel "weird or embarrassed " and I still panic and my heart beats louder just imagining myself there. Yeah that's how bad it's
Same problem with me
SAMEER
I started feeling this fear/ anxiety when I was 17, after 9 years trying to overcome this fear, nothing has changed. I'm tired and thinking about giving up my social life, my brother is my only one friend...
This helped a lot. Thank you.👍🏾
Whenever i get into a social situation
I tend to almost throw up, my vision gets blurry and I start to have difficulty breathing
My friend once said to me: "If anyone in the world thinks they are lowest, they should know there is another person who is more lowest to them... That's you"
By hearing this, I just broken down.. It's been 10 years he told this... But I can't forget this! Still now it makes me feel pain inside!
Thanks so much, this makes sense and im gonna try it. there's not one time i realized i was avoiding uncomfortable situation most of the time
That's how exactly what I thought to do but, just couldn't do it right now because I am most of the time not aware of what is happening, and always try to hurry up replying someone, lots of times I mess up while replying and also I fumble while speaking so so many times people ask me what I just said and I have to repeat what I just spoke. I reply them then realise that I shouldn't or I wasn't supposed to say this or that. And in most of the situations I consider this as a blunder, because I found that my replies and actually good! And also my insecurities like I walk really and my face is asymmetric, I wear glasses and they look a bit odd(not like others...).
I feel like it’s made it worse for me. Like presentations. They never got easier. I would always feel like a complete failure after. And I never feel proud after social situations, but I’m used to it by now
I have been dealing with social anxiety from a quite young age and the only thing that helps is putting yourself out there and to face more situations. Have someone who has your back. My teacher always used to tell me that it is not that I am not confident but rather that i am hesitant to speak my real voice. It is like having a fear that you won't fit in
nah.. i have exposed my self for most of my life... doing public speaking, teaching, being in many meetings try voicing out my opinion.. but still i struggle with social anxiety.. i still struggle to say anything during social setting or in meetings... i freeze even though i have tried to calm myself.. people sense my akwardness n they ran away from me n avoid being with me....
Please more of this content!!! You are awesome 👏 greetings from Bulgaria 🇧🇬
Yes, absolutely, it's so major to do exposure therapy. Not only that but by building your own confidence, you won't be afraid anymore
Gotta face it, not avoid it. Btw, my name is Audrey and i’ve been called Oddity as a nickname before, what a coincidence. 😂
Thank God I thought I was the only 1 🙄😭💯 I started exercising outside and I always have a intense fear people are watching me or keeping tabs on me following me so I don't stay out that long 😆🤷🏾♀️
This is killing me at my new job I never been like this I changed a lot but I'm feeling always sad and alone
Embrace and laugh at your differences, it makes you unique, for people to like.
Thank you sir. Very useful information
I have had exposure therapy my whole life in attempts to appear normal. And while certain social interactions have become easier a lot of the unconscious anxiety just hasnt gone.
I got severe social anxiety but I push my limits and try to break barriers by intentionally putting myself into conversations with people and groups, but I still get avoided. That discourages me a lot and adds to my anxiety.
Seems like people don't like my company😢
But doing these things makes me stress a lot so I go back and shut myself
Im afraid people will humiliate me is the reason why i have social anxiety i always stayed by myself in order to avoid this now it's affecting me alot in getting employment.
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yeah it helps to expose yourself to social situations, but the moment I stop it comes back very quickly.
Who ever is Reading this and feels Like me. Lets Tell us, that no metter how much we have been judged by people who had a big role in our lives, that we are not judged by every random Person around us. We are not wierd. We are like everyone else. Lets live life free from fear and anxiety.
To be honest for me, I don’t think I have social anxiety. I’m good enough at talking with people but the only problem now is that I don’t got any friends and I’m afraid that “will u be my friend” or starting a conversation is the only thing I’m afraid of now
I got out of this, and then got right back into it
The thing im scared abt is not their words im more scared of them touching or hurting me
You just explained exactly my problem. Thank you, you are the best.
Im introvert and it's impossible to overcome social anxiety, i do anything . But it's impossible 😢
Social Anxiety Disorder is a chronic mental health condition characterized by an intense, persistent fear of being watched and judged by others. This fear can affect work, school, and other daily activities. People with social anxiety disorder may avoid social situations altogether, or they may endure them with significant distress.
I'm not sure if this works because I'm naturally a shy introverted person who had been working front desk face to face hotel job for over 6+years, I hated it so much I quit and it has not helped. I still feel anxiety and nervousness. It sucks.
That causes oversharing and getting feedback from those people makes me seem negative or self-centered...
It's too hard to face that time when we thought we look weird 😣
Been to therapy and never get advice get advice like this.
Eye contact actually works. Ive noticed it makes girls hold eye contact back and smile, flip hair, the signs of attraction which make me feel good and boosts my confidence. Before i would just aviod eye contact and anytime they would stare and smile or giggle i would take it as them judging me, laughing at me which would make me mad and want to get away. But in reality thats their way of them showing they like you. Noone ever looks at or stares at someone they don't like. Its the opposite we actually try avoiding looking at them. I still feel social anxiety near anyone but atleast I feel some confidence now. I still feel weird if someone is stealing glances at me. Even if i know what it means i don't like being watched that way. it makes me nervous self conscious about myself
I can always maintain eye contact, but most people say that im too intimidating
I'm living a true nightmare with my social anxiety...It's stopping me from doing my tasks and living my life normally…I really want to overcome it but idk how💔
it takes courage but start with baby steps. maybe call to order food or go in the store to buy something. Compliment someone or just make eye contact with someone walking by. Just do these little things and build up to more monumental things. Before you know if you will overcome so much of your social anxiety. Taking an SSRI medication can definitely help, and challenging your irrational thoughts will too. CBT is helpful in challenging irrational thoughts.
I'm in complete admiration of this. I recently read a book with a similar topic, and it was astonishing. "Better Sleep Better Life" by William Brook
I was at a friends gathering yesterday. My husband is the more extroverted one and he wasn’t there as he was coming back from somewhere. Instead of saying “hi!” They say “where is your husband?”. It’s like I don’t even matter and for the rest of the night I just couldn’t interact in the way that I wanted to.
Someone would say something and I would respond so quietly and just barely get the words out and I felt like I was quiet the whole time.
this guy literally gave the exact responses i was thinking of lol
Thanks doc i get it, but it's hard to do it😢😭😭 but i will do it thank you doc.
i am now going to go outside and overcome my social anxiety
I love performing but social anxiety makes it so damn hard. I hyperventilate before even going on stage, even cried a few times. im scared to tell this to my team bcs I feel like they’re gonna judge “why is she joining if she has anxiety? she’s selfish. she’s gonna ruin the whole performance”
Two ideas. First, share part of your experience with someone you trust. “I’m really nervous about our upcoming presentation…”
The other idea is to find some coping skills that can help you to be in those situations. Check this video for more on that: ruclips.net/video/xGb4fvfZpWM/видео.html
If someone who even performs regularly still has social anxiety how will exposure therapy even change things the, now I’m not so reassured 😢
@@redzz4708 hi dear, pls know that there is hope, always! I’m sure exposure therapy works for most people, but if it doesn’t work for you, there are always alternatives. In my case, meditation helps a lot, and I mean months of consistent meditation,
my anxiety hasn’t completely washed off but at least, it’s not as intense and I can finally feel like a normal person!
I would do this, but I have social anxiety.
👌
Really😂
I haven't had social anxiety since I was a teenager... This is the hardest thing to deal with.
Yooooo ....I didn't expect this at all. I heard a clip and searched and found this short. That clicked a whole lot in my head. Strange.
I just learned to mask my weird and I have lots of people around and feel alone and alienated from them because I can't be authentic. My take be weird and focus on the people that don't run away if you are. You're gonna get rejected a lot. But you don't need tons of friends anyway. The way out is yes I'm weird, so what. Own you.
The thing is idk why im afraid of the public i just am i dont care if they think im weird, i am wierd, i just lose my luch when i have to talk to people
i for some reason feel nauseous whenever im in a crowded space:(
My problem is that after any social interaction or meeting my relatives the embarrassing moments I face will repeat in my mind like a thousand times and even the old ones no matter how hard I try to brush them off ....and I think this what makes me create a distance between whom I like also like relatives and all..ufff I don't know 😅
I dont need to finish that sentence, since im not afraid about what people think of me
Thinking 29282827 times about what happened between you and some guy and fearing so much that when you encounter that guy again he will remember what happened before
I afraid to be alone but totally forgot that I’m actually more alone than ever because of social anxiety
Even watching this gives me anxiety....
I thought I was the only one lmao
Staying connected to people is exhausting and troublesome....so what now?
Nah I don't fear being alone I just get tensed thinking about if the person insult me and I end up getting bullied
I feel anxiety at work place when I am alone in a new place, new challange and i feel people will think I am nervous and they will pity me, it's worst
I literally keep shaking when I'm nervous or with a stranger, how do i stop?
Do you know that everyone is human from the highest status man to the lowest status man: they go every day to the bathroom, they cry, they fear something etc.
So there is absolute no need or even microscopic sense to fear or being anxious in front of ANYONE. The only one that deserves to be feared(because massively respected/admired) is God Almighty and THAT'S IT! My beloved friend, adapt this mentality and it's guaranteed that you'll Succeed in every aspect of life, God willing of course😉
Do you have hand shaking or neck shaking?
@@marat_a leg shaking i guess
@@Ch3rrycosmossDude I have the same problem.
@@worstplayer4521 the best thing to make this go away it's to accept your shaking and if someon ask you why just tell the truth and dont care about his replay just forgot him.
Im not scared of people finding out anything about me since I’ve become someone i truly love over the past few years
But for some reason im always feeling like an undercover spy who is going to get caught or something and idk why.
It’s almost like everyone sees something different in me but no one tells me what it is. It’s weird lol
I've tried exposure therapy, but I freak out, and break down before or during it, nothing works.
Dear friend, I know what you mean and I feel you, and all of us just needs more time. Let's keep pushing ourselves, know that you're not struggling alone
@@pilly3815 thank you
Learning to accept that you are okay definitely will help you
Some times i feel lost... And doesnt even know what to say what to do....
it's been shown that exposure therapy don't work for social anxiety
People invited me to attend a festival. My excuse was that the music wasn’t my cup of tea. Afterwards I cried cuz my fears of judgement and not feeling secure about myself overwhelmed me. Still deciding if I should go….
This sounds terrifying and painful. Getting so much rejects. I'm most afraid of rude people. I do not believe rudeness is something I should feel comfortable with.
I don’t like attention, the more eyes on me the worse I feel, in my head in 5”2 really quite and just float in the background, but in reality I stick out like a sore thumb
I got really bad anxiety. I'm constantly restless outdoors. Especially at work its torment everday. Ive been tryna look for jobs with no people in it. People think my face looks mean or sad but im trying to hide my nervous face with those 2 faces. On top of that im not comfortable around family or friends but only sometimes its weird wish there was a off button
I am an extreme introvert and i got to know about it when i started feeling uncomfortable even just by going for a small walk or even standing infront of my house door,,i mean i myself don't know why I feel that way...but the thing I experience in those situations are the worst...
I can’t even go to the bathroom in public without someone going with me and I’m afraid someone will actually think I’m weird bye getting someone to go with me to the bathroom
I am so confused. I am EXTREMELY afraid of talking to people (even to cashiers at the grocery or on the phone) that I can't buy anything or make an appointment with the dentist myself. However, I am a very CONFIDENT dancer. I love being on the stage and getting attention from the audience. the more people seeing my performance, the better. 😢