The Benefits of Crying
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- We often believe that the very worst and most immature thing to do might be to cry about our sorrows. In fact, the ability to go off for a while and have a very intense cry about how awful everything is is in fact a crucial bit of wisdom - and a very adult move as well. Being a crybaby isn't just something children should be afraid of being called, it's something every adult should be proud to remember about themselves.
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“One of the wisest things about young children is that they have no shame or compunction whatsoever about bursting into tears, perhaps because they have a more accurate and less pride-filled sense of their place in the world: they know they are extremely small beings in a hostile and unpredictable realm, that they can’t control much of what is happening around them, that their powers of understanding are limited and that there is a great deal to feel distressed, melancholy and confused about. Why not then, on a fairly regular basis, sometimes for only a few moments at a time, collapse into some highly salutary sobs at the sheer scale of the sorrow of being alive?...”
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If I had a bit more money but thats gonna take a couole of years😂 love your vids though
Research has found that in addition to being self-soothing, shedding emotional tears releases oxytocin and endorphins. These chemicals make people feel good and may also ease both physical and emotional pain. In this way, crying can help reduce pain and promote a sense of well-being.
Hi
I'd cry.
If I was even able to.
Not being able to cry is the norm for me. No matter how hard life strikes me down, I scrub the blood off my forehead, reset my broken bones, and keep walking.
I want to cry, I TRY to cry... but I can't.
And an inability to have vulnerability even when you actively try to have it... is just death being koy.
There is a reason why it hurts so bad to hold back tears and feels so good to just let the tears flow...
@@bruno_kunda You say maybe but you're completely right my man.
@@bruno_kunda Taoism has entered the chat
@@bruno_kunda What you've said is actually the philosophy of wu wei.
No pain no gain haha
There's also a reason why broccoli taste horrible and donuts tastes delicious.
I remember a therapist once said that crying can be a sign of a healthy emotional response
FU... I'm screwed, I do not remember the Last Time i Did cry seriously, even as a Kid the most would be red eyes, although when I recover some of My memories a small tear runs my cheek,I clean it and continue doing what i do.
Bernhard Von Barret theres probably nothing wrong with that.
@@bernhardvonbarret1729 dont worry, it doesn't mean that you HAVE to cry to be emotionally stable. It's just that crying can relieve a great deal of stress, anger or sadness with some people. Everyone has their own ways of doing that. For me it always used to be crying but now that I'm in puberty I cry less, not because I want to look tough but because I just have less the need to do it.
I miss it though, it was always very nice to cry. But now I just care less about the world around me and I'd most of the time listen to music. I don't like this, I wish I were as empathetic as I was as a child. Or maybe I still am but now because I'm in puberty I'm a bit less empathetic? And it will come back once I exit puberty? I don't know. What I do know is that I loved caring about the world and people around me, and crying was always very nice. :)
Do you think that I have lost my empathy or that it will return or that I still have it but don't notice it because of the coronavirus or still have it but don't notice it because of puberty or....?
@@V-D. To Be Honest do not know, since I do not know you in person nor I can see your quirks and determine your actions, as for that do not worry, It is QUITE hard to lose empathy if you have been raised properly like my Parents did with me, and I Hate it, iI want to be Full Chaotic Evil XD.
But the Injury I have is not in the frontal lobe so dunno, but still losing other faculties, except empathy, if you do yo can go full Psychopath Route XD, no, what you experience is normal, it is part of the "adult" world, meaning that you have to become a Monster like Peterson says to be able to survive this world and be able to defend yourself and not be Naive and Gullible so others take advantage of you.In some sense you need to adapt and incorporate your shadow, meaning the traits you dislike of your persona and that you shove quite deep so you can ignore them and feel in peace, which is an error, since that we ignore tends to grow bigger.
But aside from that no, I think not. it is quite Uncommon or even Rare for someone to lose Empathy when you are an adult, it is more of a trait you are born with due to genetic and environmental effects, that develops as time goes, if you feel bad kicking a puppy or a kitten or doing something that you acknowledge as bad then you are Ok, if you know it is bad and you do not feel anything or even pleasure then you are on a Bad path XD.Not Caring is Indicative you are shielding yourself because you can get hurt easily.Or you are an Stoic and do not know it XD.
@@bernhardvonbarret1729 wow, thanks for the long message. I saw you commenting on another comment that you had kidney stones... was that the injury you were talking about?
I want to thank you for taking your time by writing such a long piece, I do sincerely thank you. :)
I think that what you're saying is true, it's probably just because now I'm 16 and I feel different than when I was 13 it's because of puberty. But it does still TRULY feel like I don't care, not that I don't care because I don't want to get hurt....
And what's a stoic person? Stoicism is something from philosophy right?
I want to believe that it's puberty but I don't know exactly; no one does. The only way I can find out if it's puberty that causes me to be less empathetic is by waiting until it's over.... I still have moments where I feel empathetic for people, but I don't know exactly if that's always.
Another possibility that I think of now is that I know myself for 16 years now that the specialty of being empathetic hasn't changed in strength but because I'm so used to me having it, maybe it's so that I got used to me having it and so I don't notice it that much? I don't know, honestly. It feels different for me to have conversations. Saying sorry, etc. is all harder for me than before.
But, I did notice that I can control my anger better (I am not an angry person in general, but I used to get angry now and then like everyone does). For example, a few days ago I felt like a friend betrayed me because him and I decided to hang out, and then he texted me that he was going to play soccer with other people... So he wanted to play soccer and not hang out, which hurt me, and when I confronted him about it he accused me of something else... I felt rage coming up but I just left it and texted him calmly....
Dear School of life,
Thank you for giving us emotional support and advice. It really means a lot to people like us.
badal singh Yeah, I wish more people knew about this channel and can understand the meaningfulness of these videos.
@@cheese_6443 hahahaha thanks your tips.
@Guess What Animation Yes, it's sad that, only women can cry. According to society those men that cry are considered weak and are told to "Man up" and "Don't cry like girls".But when a women cry she is given emotional support and help. These kind of people fail to see that men have emotions too. But right now men just have to bury their emotions and their sadness. And I think this is why men commit more mass shootings, there is an ancient proverb related to this " A man who is not accepted in the village, will burn down the whole village just to feel it's warmth".
and dear school (like a real school)
fuck you for giving us depression
The saddest part about being sad is not being able to shed a tear.
YES! This is so true! That's literally what I feel like ALL THE TIME!
so we share the same level of emotional deprivation? bullied too much , or stressed too much to the point where you demand to shed some tears but your brain blocks them all, instead you get a runny nose; because your brain is completely convinced that nobody deserves to see your emotional breakdown because you reached a point where you realized that nobody around you deserves to see you vulnerable. it leads to depression with time, and to loathing and hatred towards oneself and the society a whole. i know it too well.
@@TrueInvisible yes, I once was like you, guys. I became able to cry again doing body scans. there are lots on youtube. body scans and then breathing medidations. just stay there with the body and eventually the suppressed tears will flow (it will not be pretty). but you will feel the best you've felt in years. have courage. stay there, where the pain is.
@@marceloz7894 after having not released a tear in 14 years now , i may try it.
That is depression my friend. I have had this for so long, but it’s all about surrendering and realizing it’s perfectly okay to be sad and cry for whatever you are sad about.
If you don’t cry right away, be patient with yourself - in my case, i was very dishonest with how i felt to the point of numbness, but when i showed love to myself, by being gentle with myself, i got tremendous progress.
Hope it helps and best of wishes to you :)
My grandfather passed away when I was 15. I was devastated! I was full of tears, but was afraid to cry. A minister at the funeral home appeared beside me, as he saw I was in distress. He told me...never be ashamed to cry. Tears are healing. I have remembered those words me entire life and I am now almost 60.
I remember when my 14 year old nephew died in May 13th of this year. I was devastated but I couldn't get my tears out yet. Took me a few minutes and I finally cried 3 times around night time. My stepdad called me the same night while he and my mother were driving 600 miles away. He was wondering if I was okay. Told him I was trying and after I hung up, I dropped my phone on the ground and cried really hard.
When we got to the funeral home, I let it out again after sitting by my nephews death bed. My dad came in the room, hugged me and told me to let it out. I wasn't ashamed to cry in front of my family. About one week after my nephews death, my 5 year old pet rabbit died at an animal clinic where my mom works. When my sister told me the news, I dropped my stuff I was holding and cried over her shoulder. I had a rough 2 weeks but I'm doing a little better. It's pretty hard to lose 2 family members like that. I believe God is taking care of them along with my grandparents.
Crying is one of the BEST ways of letting go. Let yourself cry ❤️🍀🌸
Can't even when tried
The fuck is up with those emojis?
Crying is good
Trust me
I was feeling so much pain in my heart
But after crying
I feel so good 🥰🥰
I just had a cry after my nap yesterday then i laughed for the rest of the day
Nicely done ✅ lol I wish I was so organised
this touched me, for real. thanks.
Fucking cutest comment I’ve ever read
RiRi Jane Millz sometimes there is no logical reason for crying. Your brain just knows when you need a release. The point is not to strangle it thinking it’s a form of weakness.
@@ImprovementisGrowth
Yup
I remember once crying for no reason or over dumb reasons that aren't coming from sadness
It's weird but sometimes feels good
"That we have one and a half good friends on the planet" that hit home
I lost my friends, don't have a tub, last time I had a physical contact with a person was two months ago and I felt quite suicidal for many years. Oh! And I can't cry. Last time I cried was 7 years ago. But I'm going to therapy on Saturday, which is good
All the best to you! :)
seems like you have many repressed feelings. once you manage to shed the first tear, you won’t be able to stop. it’s good, be sure to allow that.
How are you doing now?
@@angryalientv4964 thank you, still pretty shitty, like nothing good is going to happen to me
Crying is actually good for you, there's scientific evidence that it's really good for mental health
That makes sense
oh so "science". The phrase "scientific evidence" has become a cliche and trigger point for me now.
Yash Pal Goyal Well for me, I think back to my own experiences of holding something in that’s been troubling me. I felt stressed. So it’s probably good to just let your feelings unknot.
@@cheese_6443 Thanks for reply. I was not saying that crying doesnt help. I just was saying that the reliance on scientific shit for everything has to be lowered for things related with emotions. Like why do have to be fucking machines, let us be what we were - emotional humans.
Reliance on data can rather maybe upped for other things where it matters more.
(ps: I am not rude or whatever... just being informal)
Only when the tears come out from stress/distress. Removes some toxins/produces good chemicals.
Research has found that in addition to being self-soothing, shedding emotional tears releases oxytocin and endorphins. These chemicals make people feel good and may also ease both physical and emotional pain. In this way, crying can help reduce pain and promote a sense of well-being.
If you look closely enough... grown-ups are all just a bunch of toddlers with bills
This isn’t fake deep, this is pretty true
@Balaclava Man hehe thisisdeep leddit sub!!! comment is actually super dumb!!! xDDDD i am SOO SMART!!!!!
@Balaclava Man tbh? yeah. i expect nothing but the worst out of people online
@@ponponpatapon9670 when you can’t take a fucking joke
If we would look at the world accurately and honestly, and with an open heart, we would start sobbing and never stop.
I usually fall asleep after a while.
I think that we should remember that there is also beauty and love in the world. Life just has both sides and yes there is a lot of sorrow but nature, love, compassion, and much more things are a big force too. This is hard to see sometimes but this is just as real like all the hard things
this channel is single handedly carrying me through all my quarantine breakdowns
Whats causing you to breakdown? Just the cabin fever and lack of socialising?
ZSaSzquatch tell em bro, still don’t get why people are going crazy over this quarantine thing
ZSaSzquatch basically, it’s definitely not helping my already fragile mental health
@@ruyax4390 lol same
Mr Anderson cry it out hahah
I cry easily, and was hated for being over dramatic, weak, childish, fake, spoilt..etc by my ex. Now I cry when no one is looking. No one has to see my vulnerabilities, they don’t deserve it.
part of becoming an adult is hardening to reality. at least you aren't brainwashed into church philosophy where they keep people thinking childish and taking on life's problems. that is so fricken stupid.. oh woah is me, some mythological being will handle it all i dont have to think or worry just be a 5 year old. Well congradu-fckin-lations for you having human emotions it's signs you are experiencing life unlike those nutcases. You are the normal person !
I was the opposite. In the past I only cried by myself... now I have a lovely fiance since over a year and lots of difficult things happen in that time and I cried a lot in front of him (my mom fighting against cancer etc.) And now she seems to recover although it doesn't look good in the beginning and she had her last therapy this week and yesterday I start crying, when I realized that she will be healthy again and my fiance hold me and told me to let it out and I felt realised. What I want to say is that you must find a good guy... I know not easy, but a great guy would never take your weakest moments against you... wish you all the best.
@@ireefree2024 ah... wish you the best with your mom. It's always okau to cry, I would never judge you!😇🙂
Just don't care what he thinks! It's so relieving to cry in front of others! Others only say that it's weak to cry because they don't have the power to do it. "The best characteristics come from a place that is often seen by most as weak, insecure and immature." 😘
Irena K. But it’s totally fine to cry over your mother having cancer, it’s normal even for men, and certainly appropriate. If you cry every time someone is remotely rude to you that’s different but it sounds like you cried over real problems.
i've just cried for 4 hours this afternoon and now this video appears in my recommendation like WTF HOW COULD U READ MY MIND?! Anyway, thank you School of Life u r the most understanding channel ever im gonna cry again ok
ok so how can I cry?
Take care of yourself ♥️
Are you a pisces zodiac sign?
your google phone heard you crying
@@Design_errorr thanks! you too❤
i love that when you post that's what I'm literally feeling..
Everytime!
Same, they are big brother of the emotions
I only cried if someone else crying in pain, if only all human sincerely want to help each other.
If anyone is feeling empty, lonely, depressed etc, I want you to know that Jesus loves you, and He is the Only one who can make you feel true love, happiness, joy and peace. We need to repent of our sins and turn to Him and start living for Him and He will be there with you every step of the way.
Researchers have proven what many caregivers have already figured out on their own: Sometimes there’s nothing like a good cry to make you feel better. While society often callously considers shedding tears to be a sign of weakness, it is a cathartic experience and highly evolved behavior.
Crying is not only a human response to sorrow and frustration, it’s also a healthy one. It is a natural way to reduce stress that, if left unchecked, can have negative physical effects on the body, including increased risk of cardiovascular disease and other stress-related disorders. In addition to the physical benefits, research shows that 85 percent of women and 73 percent of men feel less sad and angry after shedding some tears.
Benefit of crying for tough men: It's a way to sweat from your eyes to get more swol!
ha ha
Yeah, but don't cry in front of women, they don't like that.
People like you never deserve a good life...whats the point of a woman who can't stand your crying? You better find another one and provide yourself some comfort..... cry....it helps...crying is purest motion of all@@Unknown-px6lm
Crying really helps us out in venting out our feelings and it's pure science that it relieves us from the emotional load. And the moment, we let go of that emotional load, we start making sense of the reality and then we can make better decisions.
...... no words for u SoL. U have changed my life for better, and have shed many of my doubts away with ur videos. I wish u nice days :)
As a child I was a huge crybaby, and it unfortunately led to my family scolding me every time they so much as noticed me sobbing. I never learned to hold back tears and I grew up depressive, so it was kind of... hell. Stunted me a lot in learning to deal with myself and my emotions. It's been a tough road, but I'm trying my best to unlearn that.
In therapy, my psych would just tell me to cry it all out. It felt healing. Liberating, in a way.
I’ll take this into note. I’m 13 and I’m also a huge crybaby with my parents firmly telling me to stop crying. I at least now know that crying is good for me. I’m crying over a research topic cause I don’t know what to do for it, but my breakdown right now gave me inspiration. Thanks!
I can relate to your response; my parents, mainly my mother, often kept saying 'you're too sensitive' when ever I got upset and well, yeah, I do think I have some form of depression now because of this and maybe a few things from my childhood.
I do my best to cry when ever I feel I should, but I should look into some kind of afforadable therapy in the future to help explore my underlying issues.
@@shelbiewilliams4027 Most sensitive ppl are emotionally intelligent, and are strong empaths. That is why they are kind because they know to treat ppl the way you'd like to be treated. How ever they can be very defensive if they feel misunderstood, spiking their emotions. But! Talking it out usually fixes it.
It's interesting and nothing to be a shamed about.
@@ex-x7079 you've put this so clearly. This is who I am and what I feel when someone takes these emotions as being "too sensitive" or "weak" . And I've often been portrayed as someone who's overdramatic, to gain attention.
But I'm glad there are people who feel the same as I do and I'm happy to come across them and this video.
"the need for a cry"
when you cheat on a test and still manage to fail
I once googled the WHOLE ANSWERS and wrote like a lot. So I had a very Good feeling before getting the results but guess what, I failed :)
Seth Colby our online exam’s answer sheets were leaked. School didn’t know it
Sometimes I watch a drama whenever I feel like crying so I'll think that I cried because of what I watched.
I thought I was the only one did that! I cry often when I'm watching something sad, and I think it's partly so that I have an "excuse" to cry.
I cry alone but I can never cry in front of others. My parents treated negative emotions from me like taboo, not intentionally but they were always saying I was too sensitive. I never hardened, but I learned to sob completely silently by the time I was nine. To anyone who’s a parent... tough love has its place, but nurturing does too. Sometimes your kids need it.
I cry alone but I can never cry in front of others.
Trust issues. I have it too.
Crying can be a great release of stress,
Jesus also wept, meaning according to the christian dogma, God cried, that's why you shouldn't be afraid to cry
It's easy to understand the need of crying, explained beautifully here. But what about the how?
How do we cry, men and women that grew up hearing that crying was a bad thing. How do we let it flow?
One and a half good friends on the planet? You overestimate my social circle.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about letting go of emotions..
It’s okay to cry it’s okay to show emotions it’s going to be okay just hold in there after all you made it this far don’t give up
Thank you. I really needed this.
Crying releases mental stress af.
I’m actually jealous of people that can cry, I never seem to ever and worry there’s all this bad juju built up inside I can’t let out 🤷🏼♀️👀👀👀
same :/
It will eventually come out. Try taking acid? Maybe ur too good at burying the thought and emotions and the neuron pathways in ur brain have become accustomed to doing that. Acid forces new neuron pathways in the brain and literally opens ur mind up to thinking in ways you’ve never thought before. My first acid trip brought a lot of the insecurities and other buried emotions to the surface. During the trip it was rough and I broke down crying, ugly crying in the days that followed. Friends that I didn’t realize would care stepped up and I realized this was exactly what I needed. New clinical research suggest there are a vast array of benefits that can come from the controlled use of psychedelics.
Same, I feel the deep sadness and I wanna cry but nothing comes... I feel like I’m not a human being anymore.
Its okay you can learn to be more in touch with your emotions, Its a proces.
I don’t know how to cry anymore. My identity is so confused and manipulated.
Andy Peterson this
⭐️It is so much meaningful info and true fact. I always try to remember this feelings and feel so much free. I meditate all the time owing to having positive energy and emotions. thanks :) ⭐️
When you are early but cant come up with jokes.
'Sobbing like an adult!' So good :D
Great video. I think if you don't acknowledge yourself and your limits, then you'll often find that circumstances that push beyond those limits will sneak up on you, leading to potentially catastrophic results.
I heard that women cry on average 30-60 times A YEAR.. even if it’s 60.. that’s like 5 times a month.. dude sometimes I cry 5 times in a freaking day. I’ve always been a huge crybaby since I was a child and I’m 20 now. Sometimes crying feels like a burden because it makes me so tired and gives me headaches :(
This channel seems to always know exactly how I’m feeling
There’s a quote from the movie Dear Zindagi it says "If you dont cry wholeheartedly how will you laugh wholeheartedly?" letting all kinds of emotions to be expressed freely is really important no matter how vulnerable it makes you.
Crying in front of others of course embarrassing but I think it heals me for some reasons 😂😊
It's been made terribly apparent I'm not allowed to cry. Because I'm a man. Not even allowed to be less than my usual outgoing self. Even though I had suffered some of the hardest losses that befall humans in their lifetime in a very short span. I wept in front of my girlfriend of multiple years, I couldn't help it, no one could. She was put off and hesitant to comfort me. Which I never expected considering I had comforted her many times in the past. I quickly stowed the rest of my outburst when I noticed and never did that again. But our relationship had taken on a new dynamic partially because I was griefstricken and more reticent but partially because her view of me had dimmed. Relationship fell apart shortly thereafter. Even my male friends did not respond with sympathy and patience despite knowledge of the events, I only outwardly displayed a less cheery than normal countenance and less talkative demeanor. Which again confused me because they had gone through hard times and I had always tried to help them and be sympathetic. Being abandoned while enduring terrible grief is like drowning and someone tossing you a cinderblock instead of a life preserver. Logically, I'd like to write it off as bad luck and surrounding myself with bad people, But the experience was searing enough that logic will not erase it. Maybe through your videos more people will learn emotional maturity and won't treat the people they care about like lepers when they endure trauma.
I cried a few days ago and it was months or even a year since I cried, it felt relieving
Your uploads are surprisingly mind reading!
Is it weird that I was crying earlier and now RUclips suggested me this?
Well, this made me cry..
Bruh I balled my eyes out at the end of an audiobook, its called city of thieves and I just let go of my deep repression of negative emotions. Never felt better than after I was done crying.
I’ve never been able to cry....I very rarely cry. This happen mostly when I’m praying or meditating. 99% of the time my sadness has always stayed inside.. eating me up. It sucks.
Out of control, this world is scary, one need to cry.
I have this weird feeling if I haven't cried within a week or two, which is why I take time to listen to some sad music or watch a touching movie so I could shed a tear. Makes me feel more connected with my inner longings.
I can't remember the last time I cried for myself. I usually cry for others.
Your an empath. That's not a bad thing. But learn to cry for yourself. Even infront of people. It's a strong ability.
I love to cry when it's needed
Trying a new strategy to deal with pron addiction... not really an addiction anymore but if Im stressed I noticed thats when I mess up, maybe I just need to cry, sounds dumb but should work
Does anyone else reach a place of panic after crying with noise? I get there sometimes and I have a feeling it might be the abandonment wound. I then do my best to soothe myself so it doesn’t end up turning into a panic attack
Let it out seems to be an important phase of PMS
Sometimes I need a "10 Minute Breakdown" (TMB). I'm able to calmly tell everyone I need a TMB, and I either retire to my bedroom, or a friend may hug me while I sob quietly. I only need 10 minutes, now and then, and I always feel better afterwards.
That's interesting I think I need to try this method👌
That soumds like a really healthy way to do it, good job.
Wow i wish i was able to do that, For me its hard to adress why i need to cry and that makes it hard to start.
I cryed tonight for a minute from stress & anxiety I've felt because I live in a Senior building & I had to install security cameras from an intruder comming into my apt. & vandalizing. out of 60 units I'm the only one it's happened to.
I can't cry anymore
Valuable information, thank you sir
What I hate is I want to cry but when I have the chance I have to force myself
As I become older, I discovered how HEALTHY is was to cry. Holding the emotions end that causes you to cry can lead to ulcers, heart attacks, or violently striking out. It’s those who hold it in ,who praise themselves on not showing emotions are dangerous.
THIS CHANNEL IS LIKE MY PHILOSOPHY CLASS BUT ENTERTAINING ❤️
Few years ago due to stress i cried in my work place , where most were women. since then from their behavior i felt like they are looking down on me.like if i'm a kid in a man body.
Just cry alone, not even with your partner.
As a child, If we cried we will get a whupping and get put down. I am 45 years old I still have trouble crying when I need to. I couldn't even cry when the news of my beloved nephew died.
As an autistic child, I used to cry all the time. School was sensory hell and I was not used to the school routine yet even when I was in fifth grade.
As an autistic teenager, I learned to bottle up my emotions because I was getting picked on for being a "crybaby." It wasn't just limited to crying though. I began to keep all of my emotions on a tight leash; I forced myself to remain stoic at all times, even in situations I wasn't comfortable in. I cried occasionally, but I wouldn't let anyone else see me cry. In high school, I was even praised for how "mature" I was compared to the rest of my classmates because I appeared so calm all the time.
Ironically, this bad habit I learned led me to becoming an emotionally stunted, depressed, and anxious autistic adult. It's hard for me to cry or have fun with other people, even my own family and closest friends, because I start to feel self-conscious.
I realized I'm not as mature as I and many people thought I was because I don't know my own feelings very well. I'm trying to reteach myself how to cry again so I won't bottle my emotions as much anymore.
I also keep my emotions bottled up because I feel that people will see me as weak. I wish you well.
I'm not autistic but I literally have the same experience in my life. I did break a couple of times in my life though that I couldn't stop crying even if I wanted to. I don't understand myself. I am 27 years old and just had a mental breakdown for over a week. It is the first time in my life that I have an appointment with a specialist to talk about my emotions
I am also autistic, and super stressed with all that's going on in my life lately. But I live with a family that goes through more than me, so I do my best to keep myself together. That being said, I don't feel good about it. I just feel misunderstood.
This world is filled with very mean people that make me cry... I fell asleep crying. This morning I cried for almost an hour, sobbing uncontrollably because someone was mean to me last night on a public Whatsapp group where the whole town I live in could read it.
That's life, we grow up and we cant cry and express some feelings, cause it means weakness. :(
The question that I hate the most
“why are you crying?”
phrase i hate: "stop crying"
I do not think I have ever cried as an adult. I can bring tears to my eyes but cannot get into a real blub, even though I would LOVE to have one.
I know this seems contradictory and paradoxical, but I feel a good long unrestrained blub would be both sad and enjoyable at the same time. I feel that if I could make myself cry a few times I could become a real crybaby, just cannot do it the first time.
Not for the first time, I thought about going back home today (and by home I mean back to God). I seem to cry so easily and I hate that how 'emotional' I am seems to be so annoying and burdensome to others. But then I watched this, and I think I'll be ok in this temporary home on Earth for a bit longer
crying is healing
I literally was looking for a crying tutorial, to help me cry. Its so important to me to evacuate, but I am in a society where men don't cry and as a dad to young children, I don't want to cry in front of them, but maybe I should. Anyways, had a panic attack with chest pains and the whole lot, went to cry, much better. We have more power within us than we can ever imagine
I ACTUALLY CRY WHEN I AM HURT. Your not kind your mean. You hurt others. You use others. What person does that?
Weird title in german. I would call it "Die Notwendigkeit zu weinen". Your title translated back to english would mean "The need for one scream"
I definitely have a need for one scream.
I am 61 and cry everyday … I m crying 😢 now as I have had no luck for days and days to get my foot 🦶 attended to. I put
My Feet in a salt warm water lemon soak and ate fish and rye bread. Then cried again on the sofa stroking My arm and loving myself for being a lost hurt little girl again. Life is not kind especially as I age I realise no one really cares about me if I don’t 😊
"moments of losing courage belong to a brave life"
as a trans man, i thought for the longest time i had to stop being emotional in order to be perceived as strong and masculine. for the longest time, i held back tears so i’d be seen as strong, but i now know that real strong people aren’t afraid to show their emotions and be openly vulnerable. thanks school of life, you’ve saved me :)
My dad just say "Let me give something to cry about."
I got news for you...., that terrified little child is alive and well in the unconscious and presents itself on numerous occasions in the life of the adult....., just in a different guise that does not involve tears. This fact explains a lot about humans behavior. and no...., I am not a head shrinker. you don't need to be one to understand this.
It hurts more when you can't even shed tears anymore as an adult.
Is this some adult thing that no one directly says or something? This and many of these comments lead me to believe that some people just lose the ability to cry when they get older or something
@@starrynight1165 no, we didn't lose our ability to cry. The point is we choose to stop crying over things as time passed by. We all tried to become emotionally strong and it affects us unconsciously which causes the inability to shed tears even when we wanted to breakdown sometimes.
@@pamhoihlian1129im 26 and I've held back my tears for years but.. I feel like if I really wanted to cry. I could .
@@cardoone6091 I'm happy to know that. I also realised that it's definitely okay to cry(˘⌣˘ )
*“Sadness. Mom and dad. The team. They came to help because of Sadness.”*
One of the best movies about embracing our emotions ever
My grandmother died recently and I really love her and expected that I would cry all day yet on the day of the funeral I haven't shed a tear. I don't know if its normal
Don’t worry yourself about this.
As the video points out society wants us to wear a brave face.
These things also take time to register. You may still be in shock so just give it time.
Your way of grieving is completely normal for you. Everyone grieves differently. There are stages of grief, too, so you just may have not reached that stage yet.
How are you now?
Sobbing is therapeutic, the harder you sob the better; your diaphragm gets a good massage and you feel a lot better
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“The sheer scale of the sorrow of being alive “
Jesus I didn’t expect it to get that dark lol this is literally my first view of this channel
I cry myself to sleep quite often... 🤷🏻♀️
My therapist told me that the fact that I’m crying it means that the therapy is working
I just got finished bawling my eyes out silently at like 4 am, I have anxiety/depression & it just kicked in out of nowhere and I kind of know what to expect , but I wish it was never a thing you know? 🙏🏽
it's been 6 yrs since I had to put my cat to sleep...it's something I've continued to struggle with to this day and when I think about it I'm overwhelmed with grief and cry uncontrollably...
I've been crying almost every day these days... Glad I'm doing something right
Thanks. I miss my cat :) feels so good to cry!
I love you're video intro. Please don't ever change it. It prepare me to feel positive.
I used to hide whenever I cried so no one would ever find out and think of me as ‘weak’ but vulnerability is all part of the human bonding experience. Hearing the words “it’s ok to cry” is very comforting and this video was a great reminder. (Perfect timing, as today was the first time I’ve cried in months ahah.) In all seriousness, even though ppl tend to say “aww don’t cry!” while comforting someone, crying can be a much needed cathartic release.
"All humans are vulnerable"
who had been here after tanmay's shoutout
Tears are the physical expression of emotional cleansing. Love a good cry.
Let it out my homies
I need to cry because I just watched Darkside of the Ring Owen Hart episode