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I have found that it's counterproductive to rush in and try to fix things, definitely. But that's a very hard thing to get away from, because it's just a normal response to have!

Thank you…❤ Needed this! I plan on sharing this with my therapist.

Took years to find a therapist who didn't start from a point of trying to find the problem but rather let me take several years to find me. Now that we've found her, she has just begun to talk about what might be considered 'the problem', or rather the experiences, traits, and life circumstances that became problematic. Definitely establishing a sense of safety, by not putting anything off limits, allowing re-exploration of issues from different angles, and an openness to trust what was essentially a very young child to lead him back through a path of personal history with constant encouragement and affirmation. I've always had someone who wanted me to be going forward, which, if you think about it, is rarely the best path. Allowing detours and exploration helps find the best route forward, even if it means occasionally backtracking or picking up a previously abandoned path. Thank you for helping to reinforce the importance of the relationship, not the method.

YES!!! Rapport is huge, especially for those of us who have experienced severe forms of trauma.

Thank you for this. Really interesting to hear about, and as I’m hearing it, makes a WHOLE lot of sense. And reinforces that I’m not stupid lol that it is important to feel safe in the therapeutic relationship in order to have a base to work from regardless of the modality. Thank you.

I got a question for you if I may ask, I recently gone through an evaluation because I was beginning to suspect an OSDD since one of what I started to believe to be a part me needed a clear answer to our situations, and the results were kinda meh to be honest. I won't blame the therapist who did my evaluation since I personally believe he did a good job, but could it be that most therapist/psychologist who aren't well-informed into those kind of dissociative may not think of their clients as one part/alter who came to them? They acknowledge I had Parts, and that it looked like a lot like an OSDD, but since I didn't displayed or talk about any "suffering" as they say in my day to day life, I didn't qualify for it. Which in a sense I'm fine with it since my goal was to dissipate the "Am I imagining things up" doubts, but with judging how my weeks has gone and how it shook things up there, I can help but wonder if there is a possibility that they mistook a fonctionning alter has being a "whole" person? There's parts of me who didn't felt seen at all, and since everything feels like we had chosen a spokesperson to explain our situation to them, I cannot help but wonder if having an alter who didn't/ don't have access to the said distress/suffering would have been able to show said distress. I'm still in the discovery phase and maybe I'm just trying to convince myself in some way that it is definitely an OSDD for some reason, but with how my week has gone since the evaluation there's no way that there was no "suffering"/distress there. So I guess my last question would be: Could an alter with no signs or access to said distress during an evaluation be a trap in which, an inexperienced therapist with those kind of disorder, may fall into? This is kind of a long and specific one I'm guessing, but I would love to hear/read your take on this since I can't help but feels that this is what happened for ourselves. Thank you for reading, and I hope that you can forgive my usage of we if I'm not allowed to do so, but it is becoming hard to not use it and I'm tired fighting my own language every time this come up. May you have an excellent day, and thank you again for all the time and effort you put into thos video. It is as always, really informative ❤

Interesting, we just had a conversation with our T about how some of us feel unwelcome by them as they exclusively work through the adult self. We found when we switch if it's noticed and the one who is out is talked to, we get to know them, and that's helpful Our T refused and suggested we go to somonelce.

I've interacted with a couple of therapist/psychologist online re autism and many more autistics who've had the same & that's - i've got xyz years in practice, I've got xyz number of qualifications - and worst of all xyz study says autistics do this or that and you're lived experience counts for squat. I've recently had my own 1st experience with a clinical psychologist/therapist (re cancer treatment) & she was brilliant at establishing that rapport and which translated into actual practical help. It did help that I clocked her as ND early on (& she later admitted she thought she is). When I 1st came to this channel it was very apparent to me that cared greatly for your clients and that you Listened to them. I continue to recommend you to people in the online groups I'm in.

I wonder whether the more attachment or developmental trauma there is, the more this is true... by far my best results are with a body-aware therapist who is focused on our therapeutic relationship (I dissociate a lot but no specific disorder). Anyone with a specific modality was a dangerous failure for me. Took me a year sadly to work this out. Really wish more health practitioners of all kinds whatsoever placed greater value on the relationship. Thank you so much for this video, I'll quote it in the book I'm writing.

Safety, consistency and development of trust in the relationship have been the best predictors for successful outcomes for us as a system - and that's for any type of therapeutic work in general, even if DID/trauma isn't the focus. Unfortunately, the need for safety and trust is often misunderstood and too often is viewed through the lens of being needy/dependent, which then pushes professionals to do the very opposite of what is actually conducive to most effective/helpful support, in our experience anyway. We do keep trying to be open, but if the safety isn't there, it's difficult! Thanks for sharing your tips for the many professionals out there who may come across a system 😊✨🌸

I'm still searching for a therapist. I believe I have dissociative identity disorder, but have never seen a therapist before. I don't know what type of therapist to choose. I was thinking of a therapist who treats childhood trauma, since that is part of my history but should I search for a therapist that treats DID, as well?

I have found that therapists who take the time to really develop a sense of safety in our relationship are the most helpful to me. If I have safety in the relationship, I feel like everything else flows. If I don’t have a sense of safety, I stay in a place of jittery terror, and nothing much is coming out of that therapeutic process.

thanx for all you do, have been dealing with being a system on my own for years before getting a therapist, and this channel, along with a few others, are what helped us on our journey.

Yeah. From a client's point of view, therapists come and therapists go for countless valid reasons. I entered my most recent therapeutic relationship with a therapist whose expertise is not in a therapy I use in my personal work. She's an astute and respectful listener and after nine months of monthly in-person sessions interspersed with some telephone sessions, I'm finding myself choosing with greater confidence and effectiveness what to bring to the therapeutic space. Your videos are a valued asset. Thank you. I'm thinking sharing a list of which RUclips content creators I use for instruction will be helpful. Again, thank you. It's good feeling better more often and having measurable progress to show for my efforts.

Sorry, I know this channel isn’t for people who don’t have did, but I have/had 🤷‍♀️ a partner for over 7 years before he ghosted me (not relevant lol) who I have a strong feeling has did due to some of the things he said and did during our relationship. Am I allowed to ask questions about this with you? Please.

I think I was influenced by the same expert through experience 😊

Thank you :)

Another great video from you ... I only have one question .... When will you be opening a Clinc in Australia, preferrrabley in Melbourne ?

This has answered a lot for me this morning, thank you 🙏🏻

This is really important, thank you for this video. Building trust in therapy can be extremely difficult. It's so hard to find someone who understands.

This is fascinating! I am unsure if I'd qualify as DID or OSDD as I am unsure if my "switches" are noticable to others. However, I think partial DID is definitely off of the table, as everyone has agency. We actually have to vote on some decisions, even silly ones like dinner! Interestingly, we can tell how many people are for or against immediately (ie 3 out of 7). Thanks so much for the video!

Why are do we care? Bipolar. BDD. OSDD. DID. What difference does it make for treatment? How do I leave this all behind and become a people?

DID should be called Disorder of Intensive Denial.

I feel like I spend a lot of time dealing with my trauma and healing/shadow work is pretty fkg exhausting too

Saw a video of yours randomly in my feed. The universe certainly knows sometimes what we need….. so I have decided to subscribe and start from Ep 1 🙂 From a new fan in 🇦🇺

I'm so sorry to hear of your losses, Mike. Sending my love to all. ❤

Sounds wonderful but left me feeling sad and invisible here in the UK. NHS assessment and diagnosis of DID, DR, DP, DA. No specialist services or treatment offered. No funding for referral but put instead into developing a dissociative service. Outcome = Nothing! Supportive individuals but not for dissociative disorders. I feel I’m coming across as angry, that’s because I am 😢

Sounds wonderful but left me feeling sad and invisible here in the UK. NHS assessment and diagnosis of DID, DR, DP, DA. No specialist services or treatment offered. No funding for referral but put instead into developing a dissociative service. Outcome = Nothing! Supportive individuals but not for dissociative disorders. I feel I’m coming across as angry, that’s because I am 😢

Question and possible topic for a video: What is your opinion/take on schema mode theory and if/how it could be used in helping dissociative identity disorder or OSDD? I saw a small article/study in an internet search testing whether schema mode theory therapy was helpful for people with DID versus BPD, and also posing the suggestion that dissociative identity disorder is an extreme presentation of different schema modes. Would be interested in your thoughts.

Sounds like a great experience. Glad it went so well. ❤

It was great to meet you! I'm the short guy from DC haha. I'm currently planning a career change so I can do research on trauma and dissociation, which means I'll be going back to school. So hopefully I can make it to another one of your lectures as a student, and eventually as a professional!

Wow, sounds wonderful! I'd love it if you were to do the same in the UK! 💙

You're proposing that therapy is too good and that is triggering and it's the patient's fault that the theraputic relationship has broken down and stalled? Might it be that the clinician has the perception that therapy is going great but the therapist is chipping away at the relationship bit by bit, and then the therapist has caused their own problem?

Kind of like having all the parts out at the same time, figuring out how to integrate?

What to do when a therapist doesn't contain? And gets frustrated at you for your defensive responses

I am so excited for your report on the trip. For me, I realize it is too late for me to get any real therapy...but for the countless other people who are younger than me with disassociation, I am hopeful that your training to US mental health professionals will go far in helping the younger generation. Its time for the US Mental Establishment to realize that DID and OSDD is a very real condition and be equipped to deal with it. I am excited to see more of your work here in the US. I am also so happy that you had a positive experience and a safe experience.

I’m in Dallas Texas. Wish I could’ve met u there.

I'm curious if u do anything like this here in the UK? Currently begging the nhs to take my dissociation seriously and having no luck, I'd love to go to something like this

Thank Ü Dr. Lloyd! For everything divulgation about this so long stigmatized coping mechanism to health extreme measure/mental health way of living I see you from México where DID/TID yet not on clinical public eye nor on scholar scheduling. Woking on that dough. Long story short I'm Âûtist ADHD bpd and DDnos late diagnoses and starting psychology at the national university on my country. By the second semester 2 other persons and I and a whole lot of other ND students working as a collective we all accomplished to create and maybe sign a letter to the academic department for reasonable adjustments for every neuro divergeance and/or disabled by any mean, subjective or objective. And they are open to retrieve it, sign it and accommodate every issue on their hands. It's been a huge thing happening on very short time Next on schedule will be on increasing the neurodivergeance paradigm ideology on career programming and try to repair the damage done by considering us as sick or disabled on diagnose manuals. It's a long way up. Keep on pushing doctor, you inspire every one of us, we do it together. Thanks for advocate by educating

Considering the symptom overlap of Bpd, bipolar, osdd and did, how does this differ from the symptoms experienced by adhd and autistic patients who dissociate when masking or feeling overwhelmed? Very fascinating, great video!

Its too late for you to present this year, but please consider coming to the Healing Together conference run by An Infinite Mind! Its a great conference for clinicians, people with lived experience, and supporters to come together and connect.

This sounds like a wonderful energizing and inspiring event! I’m so grateful for your efforts to connect communities and countries. I hope to be able to travel to the next conference when you visit. Thank you so much for your commitment to the Dissociative community. You are a rare gift .

That sounds like an awesome meeting!❤

Please once again can you consider doing this in the UK- it feels like we really need this- both psycheducation wise and socially- since FPP has now gone there’s a really big gap here for this. Thank you Mike 😊

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Thank you for this Mike. It's so great you're fighting our corner. We're now 39 and been NHS diagnosed for about 3 years. We've had no treatment whatsoever, aside from a weekly talk with a cpn (who was brilliant but freely admitted couldn't treat the d.i.d). Funding has been dangled like a carrot. We were sectioned for nearly 6 years, pinned down and had antipsychotics injected by force for 'schizophrenia' we didn't have. The whole experience has been horrific. We suspect RAMCOA at this point but have no help whatsoever now. We got moved from England to Scotland for domestic violence reasons and ended up homeless after unaliving attempts. In homeless accomodation now but NHS England haven't changed care over so since August we haven't even had a cpn or psychiatrist. Our body's failing us. Stomach's bleeding. Bladder issues, suspected billary tree obstruction with gallstones. Irregular heartbeat. Low iron with could be causing our bone issues. Hips are going ...it's all fun and games.🤦 On a serious note, the unfortunate reality is this disorder has been made a mockery of online and I believe this has had a direct effect on treatment availability. We're going on faith alone now. The system (the medical one, not ours😆🤦) has failed us to the point where we've given up. Only God can save us now. Sorry for the info dump - but people need to know the reality of leaving someone with d.i.d to the jackals. Thank you again Mike. You're a pioneer. Please keep carrying that torch for us all🙏 Blessings to you all who are struggling.🫂💖

It certainly sounds lovely! I'm happy and relieved to hear that the whole experience was such a success. It makes me hopeful, honestly. Hopeful that Europe can catch up sooner than later, hopeful that my country (Spain) can too. We have a few good voices, but I think it's quite telling that our top organisation and researchers on trauma and dissociation are BPD specialists (which I know is related, but it's still different from DID/OSDD). It just frustrates me to know, that we seem to be stuck at the "DID doesn't exist" or "it exists but it's extremely rare and with little to no research" phases. Whatever, at least I had a good chuckle at that closing statement. That on its own, looks like a good reason to repeat next year 😂😂

From my experience as a DID patient in the states, I feel like a more connected clinical community would make a huge difference for the patient community. For myself and the other systems I'm connected to, it's been very difficult to get referrals and find providers with the skillset to treat OSDD/DID. Thank you for pushing to make this better!