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Steph and Craig
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Steph & Craig Salazar
Hosts of the Steph and Craig Show
Sharing our healing journeys in order to help you on yours. 💜💙
Hosts of the Steph and Craig Show
Sharing our healing journeys in order to help you on yours. 💜💙
Are You Tired Of Always Hating On Yourself? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Reprogramming Self-Talk & Transforming Your Negative Beliefs Into Positive Ones
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Is your internal dialogue negative or positive? Do the beliefs you hold about yourself uplift you, or are they toxic and self-defeating? If you struggle with negative self-talk, this episode is for you. Today, Steph & Craig dive deep into the world of self-talk and the powerful impact it has on your life. They break down the negative thoughts and toxic self-beliefs that everyone experiences, re...
Are You Recreating Your Childhood Unconsciously? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Tired of Walking on Egg Shells All The Time? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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When Is It Not Really About Who Does The Dishes Or The Laundry?
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On today’s episode, Steph & Craig tackle a big issue in relationships: What’s the difference between pointing out your partner's imperfections and things you'd like them to change vs. nagging them and trying to control them to become the partner you want? They discuss how to see the difference between the two and how they navigate the fine line that can exist in this space. Steph & Craig also d...
What Happens When You Both Remember It Differently? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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What Happens When You Both Remember It Differently? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
Are You Programmed For Codependency? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Are You Programmed For Codependency? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
What Unconscious Things Are Affecting Your Relationship?
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What Unconscious Things Are Affecting Your Relationship?
How Do You Know If It's True Love or Toxic Codependency? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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How Do You Know If It's True Love or Toxic Codependency? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
Are You Stuck in a Toxic Codependent Relationship? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Are You Stuck in a Toxic Codependent Relationship? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
How Growing Up With Complex Trauma Can Lead to Codependency | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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How Growing Up With Complex Trauma Can Lead to Codependency | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
The Connection Between Complex Trauma, Codependency, & Narcissism
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The Connection Between Complex Trauma, Codependency, & Narcissism
Are You Reparenting Your Inner Child? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Are You Reparenting Your Inner Child? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
Jiu-Jitsu is The Perfect Somatic Practice For Men | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Jiu-Jitsu is The Perfect Somatic Practice For Men | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
Are you actively connecting to your nervous system every day?
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Are you actively connecting to your nervous system every day?
What Happens When Boundaries Are Crossed? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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What Happens When Boundaries Are Crossed? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
When Healthy Communication Goes Wrong | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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When Healthy Communication Goes Wrong | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
Do You Censor What You Put in Your Journal Out of Fear? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Do You Censor What You Put in Your Journal Out of Fear? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
What if They Really Knew What You Were Thinking? The Fear of Being Seen.
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What if They Really Knew What You Were Thinking? The Fear of Being Seen.
Stop Thinking About Your Feelings and Start Feeling Them | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Stop Thinking About Your Feelings and Start Feeling Them | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
The Intersections of Parenting, Mental Health, and Emotional Well-Being
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The Intersections of Parenting, Mental Health, and Emotional Well-Being
Are You Guilty for What You Judge in Them? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Are You Guilty for What You Judge in Them? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
How to Call Your Partner Out on Their BS | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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How to Call Your Partner Out on Their BS | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
How to Stop Blaming Your Partner for Everything | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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How to Stop Blaming Your Partner for Everything | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
What's Really Happening When You're Being Judgmental?
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What's Really Happening When You're Being Judgmental?
What Does it Take to go Full Time as a Content Creator? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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What Does it Take to go Full Time as a Content Creator? | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
How to Support Your Partner as They Heal | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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How to Support Your Partner as They Heal | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
Codependency With Your Kids | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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Codependency With Your Kids | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
Live your life on your terms and enjoy every minute of it
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Live your life on your terms and enjoy every minute of it
The Communication Game that Will Change Your Relationship | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
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The Communication Game that Will Change Your Relationship | The Steph & Craig Show Clips
Also, I’m going to start using that clarifier, “not to blame shame, just to explain.”
Great open, conversation ! I love how open you both are to model what & how you both are looking/attempting/working on healing through. You both seem to really be attempting to implement change & model it, showing anyone watching that we sure don’t have to be all “healed & perfect” to begin to have these conversations. Wonderful follow up to the conversation you had with Tim…. What a beautiful example of how to converse & share esp. when it comes to addressing the hard stuff, the programming, the exposures that make us tick as people & what we bring to relationships…this is my second podcast from ya’ll & I look forward to going through your other conversations. Please keep these wonderfully open conversations coming!
#blessed #hope
I absolutely loved the information shared in this video. Thank to all of you for bringing this precious chat around narcissism, codependency and complex trauma. Just wow ❤
@@losdiariosdepandora So glad you enjoyed it. It's some tough subject matter but we think it's super important information to get out there. Thanks for watching. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thanks for your videos. It feels like I have two very open and relatable friends having a conversation in the background, at my house, and I hope your channel grows!
@@Nina-xv4ie Thank you! We love that description!! 🫶🏼🫶🏼 It's totally a vibe we'll take. 😁😁 Thanks for watching. 🙏🏼
No I am not co depending any more ok 0:27
I tell everyone about the ACEs test now. My score is a 7? I think. And I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at age 27 with a lot of my symptoms in my hips and legs (the hips are considered the seat of the soul/where emotions are stored) in Ayurvedic medicine which I find interesting. There’s a woman on FB reels who was diagnosed with a chronic illness (similar to MS) that believes that processing her trauma is leading to her healing in her body. Brains are neuro plastic and can form alternate pathways. I also read “the body keeps the score” which kind of discusses some of this
We're so glad you found us. You're definitely in the right place. We're big believers when it comes to the energy we store in our bodies and it affecting all sorts of different things. We both have personal experiences/examples.
Reassigning meaning - reframing it
Exactly!
This is so my life from now all the way back to 5 or 3 years old, probably 1 day old. Now though laws make it so a wife can unload onto her husband all her stuff as well.
Sorry that's been your experience. Hope this helped shed some light on things for you.
Absolutely excellent interview!!! 10 out of 10
Thank you. We really appreciate it. Please share the episode with someone. We think the things Tim discussed throughout the episode are applicable to a lot of relationships out there.
I've been married for 20 years. Haven't heard an "I'm sorry" more than once or twice. Not sure I can stay married like this. She's not changing, she just doubles down on being ungrateful
Sorry that's been your experience. Sounds terrible.
#what? 😂😂😂
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My life experiences were similarly to yours. Caused a lot of pain to myself, wife and family. Until i began becoming aware. Everything started to make sense. Now i am on the journey of healing and healing wounded relationships as far as possible.
Way to go, that takes a lot of accountability and hard work. 👋
He told me "that thing" that I didn't know was a problem, BUT, I trusted him, knew he loved me, and would never say something that would hurt me intentionally. Result? Iistened...and changed with help! He passed some years ago. I'm grateful he helped me HEAL!
Sorry for your loss. 🙏🙏
Truth. And GRATEFUL.
Us too, recognizing it has helped so much.
I’m trying to see how this works. I can see it for my wife but not for myself. How funny how that works. The blind spots. I’ll have to reflect on this one.
Yeah, the unconscious things we can't see are sometimes the exact things we need to see in order to change.
Yes. I’m here for it. 👏 👏 👏
We have no doubt!! 😁💪
Sorry to be a creeper with all the comments but you two are hilarious 😂
No apology needed. Keep on creepin!😁😁
Can we discuss getting “squirreled” or has this already been discussed somewhere? 😆 I’m glad one of y’all (Steph) can remember where the conversation was going before getting sidetracked because I get SO EASILY distracted. 😂
We're surrounded by actual squirrels at our house and it's not by mistake!! 🤣🤣We take turns forgetting what the hell we're talking about.
@@stephandcraigtrue! Craig does bring it all back sometimes too 😆
Yessss Steph! I can relate to the negative self talk. My thoughts make it ten times bigger when someone is coming down on me. I like the mantra idea
Well then you're going to love the next episode!! It's all about negative self talk. We discuss what it's been like navigating it through our lives and how we're working on changing it.
Such great stuff! 👏 🫶
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When Craig said even if you violate his boundaries I will forgive you 😢🙌 damn. Same. That’s unconditional love right?
Truthfully, a few years ago we would have said yes. But today, we see it as a form of toxic program of love that we both had because of complex trauma and codependency. Violating someone's boundaries is never a sign of love.
I talked to my husband about a similar situation we had months ago, after listening to this episode. I love all of this. I found myself trying to book him something the other day too 😂 ran it by him and he didn’t like it 😂. But now he says if he goes anywhere overnight he would want me to go with him so he isn’t bored after a couple hours. So relatable.
Thanks! We're hoping to get to the point where it doesn't cause each of us a nervous breakdown. We can hope, right!!
Dumbest gotcha I’ve ever heard. Do you know how that energy got to your EV? It came through a power cable Do you know how the energy got to the ice car. It was dragged by a bigger ICE burning more fuel. Play that game up the chain and the efficiency argument works out in favour of the EV Suggestions to the contrary are not born out by the facts. And you’re either stupid or a liar maybe even both to keep making the claim.
Anyone else see how wonderful it is to have both male and female sides to this convo? (Both codependent sides conversing about the same path to healing) We can digest what information works for us as an individual. One is tactile (very physical) and the other analytical at it’s core. The way it then rounds out the communication about codependent mental states is very helpful. I have to be able to see both sides to feel “safe” moving fwd through trauma spaces. It allows me to know I’m making a choice that is valid and well evaluated. These conversations do that for many of us.
That's a great breakdown, thank you!! Thanks so much for watching too. We're super grateful.🙏
@@stephandcraig ☺️🙌 thank y’all always for your dedication to eachother and to your audience. Hopefully both can fuel the other in the difficult times!
@@xbemos 💜💙
The thing wasn't a problem in the beginning . So, no, the thing isn't changing.
@@theowenssailingdiary5239 is it something you talk about often?
What if it's not one thing but literally 300 things? And you've addressed 100 of them completely, and 150 of them partially? But you still hear about the 200 all the time? Still only the mans fault?
@@mrh4382 It's almost never 100 percent one person's fault but seeing things that way can take awhile and a lot of healing.
Interesting. When men do this in their relationships. Their toxic but when women do its because they care. Is that how it works. What💩💩💩... NB shaming tactics dont work on me!!! Get red pilled gentlemen.
Thank you for your wonderful podcast
@@jacqui6153 Thanks so much for watching. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
It's so helpful that you flesh this out in the moment. Great exampling on how to do so while regulating and honoring each other's perspective. Thankyou so much, both of you, for sharing your vulnerability. Beautiful teaching through demonstration. Ty. This is very helpful
@@roxstarry So glad you found it helpful. We're always doing our best to show up and share the truth of what it looks like for us. Thanks for watching. 🙏🏼
Nah its just naggin. Get a better women.
I drink too much.
I love how honest and open you both are. The way you all talk through the daily challenges in relationships, processing through them and giving examples is very helpful. Very relatable and insightful. Thank you for this.
@@theselfwithinus Happy you found it helpful. Thank you for watching and please share it with someone. 🙏🏼
Huh???
Using the word bitching about it is disrespectful.
Could that be why you are triggered
One hour sixteen you see how Narcissistically ABUSED this woman is. Sad.
Omgosh, every day with my husband. I get the “stop nagging” line, but I’m just asking for a little respect. Don’t throw your dirty underwear in the sink. Don’t flip on the light and slam doors in the morning when EVERYONE else is still sleeping. Wipe the spaghetti sauce off your hands before opening the cabinets and fridge. 😳🤦🏻♀️
Dang. Why he living like a bachelor if he's got a woman? I'm single and don't do any of that but if I shared a space and home with a spouse I would not be wanting a mother to follow me around picking up after me. I'm too grown, to pick up after another adult or be picked up after by one. Peace be with you! Best wishes
@@Sickandtired34 That's so frustrating. Sorry you're having to experience that. 🫂
Thank you both! Sorry, I had to vent on this one. It really hit me.
@@Sickandtired34 No worries, we totally get it. 🙏
25:20 and suddenly you see the truth
Gen Xers think we are so tough - drinking from the garden hose, out of the house from 9am to sundown and we thought it was freedom. Our central nervous system understood that we are a generation of NEGLECTED kids as our parents had unprocessed, unrecognized, unacknowledged and certainly undealt with trauma themselves. The Boomers will tell you “well, we just toughened up and got on with it.” No they didn’t. They just shat it onto their kids and told their kids to toughen up… do this generation after generation and now we have kids cutting off parents and I’ll add - the rise of autism, in my opinion, is a result of consistent low grade trauma over generations - made manifest.
Spot on assessment. Thank you!
Hands up if you were your mother’s emotional caretakers as a child?
@@kimstrandberg9529 🙌🏼🙌🏼 Together we only have 4 hands but here's a few more because of how accurate this is. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I have noticed a lot of these “RELATIONSHIP Podcasrs” we BARELY hear from the NON NARCISSISTIC partner (the woman)!!!!!
Amber Heard?
Tim Fletcher and React is one of the best programs in healing from CPTSD . I turned my therapist group onto Tim’s work. And I make sure to let everyone I know who is working on healing about the videos on RUclips. Thank you Tim Fletcher for you kindness and willingness to do the hard work.
Yes tim is greatest depth like he meats you were your at heres terrific. Just crazy about what he says next
He's really amazing. Thanks for watching!
Thank you , very good to hear my perspective reflected . and the Narzisst is not the bad person. Everyone can heal ! When they start to see there pattern . Was a very good watch. Thanks I love your volubility Good example thank you I like the cough sign 😊
Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for watching!
I grew up with pretty extreme abuse - sadistic Psychopath father (into kids) and covert narc mother. But, being Autistic, I always saw through their ruse and found it mind blowing that others didn't. I guess it's the result of being more individualistic naturally and less driven towards social homogeneity. I'm grateful for that, but life is very hard with Neurodivergence and CPTSD, especially with chronic illness and invisible physical disability. Itd be interesting to hear theories about how my people adapt lolol
Thanks for watching. We're going to have Tim back on the podcast so it may be something we get a chance to ask.
Almost 40 mins and havent heard a word from Steph. ...An observation.
... and I notice that their questioning isn't prepared and there's fumbling. Bit off-putting. Thank goodness the guest is an expert and takes charge.
I miss Steph’s participation too.
I notice a LOT of these relationship shows with a Narcissistic partner that is the case! It’s gross
This is my mom. She went as far as calling me a bad mom to my son. We haven't spoken for over a month. All because I told her not to talk to me like that. She tried to beat me up, she pulled my braids. I fought back and scratched her arms.
Sorry to hear that you had to experience that. Sounds like you did the right thing by setting a boundary. 💙💜
I was married for 25 years before my husband passed. I can tell you from experience that if you are not mature enough to sit down and have a conversation then you were not mature enough to be married. There are lots of things that irritated me about my husband, just like there were a lot of things about me that irritated my husband. We sat down and talked about those things and the things that irritated me about him. He loved me enough to work on those just like I loved him enough to work on my problems. Saying this I do have to put in. If you are throwing a fit over something that truly is petty, then shame on you. Same goes with your s o.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, sorry for your loss as well.
This is my life😂 so I’m a co-narc? Makes sense! Thank you! Ok wow
It was a new way of looking at things for us too. It's something we're still working on processing and completely understanding. Thanks for watching!
I'm Screwed
We get that feeling. For us, even though having clarity and awareness really sucks at times, eventually it leads to unpacking and healing it all.