Surprising Changes That Help with CPTSD (4-Video Compilation)
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So much information about CPTSD focuses on the past and what other people have done. If you're feeling stuck, try focusing on changes YOU can make in your life today to reduce symptoms and feel calmer, more focused, and more in charge of your life. In this 4-video compilation, I share videos about changes you can make to move your trauma healing forward faster.
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So much great content in this compilation! I’m grateful for your counter cultural approach to healing CPTSD. Self reflection and facing my own patterns of relating is a concept that most counselors don’t address. Speaking the truth and facing reality of my trauma helps me to see that I’m the only one who can control the future trajectory of my life. Thank you for sharing your healing journey and sharing the principles with everyone here on this channel. I’m truly grateful for you!
Thank you for your kind words! I'm sure Anna will appreciate this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I LOVE these long video compilations on various topics! A few things that stood out on this one for me:
1. Dating is a chance to get to know someone you MIGHT want to get into a committed relationship LATER. Imagine that?!
2. The lie that "God doesn't give you more than you can handle", a type of spiritual bypassing. I realized a long time ago this was untrue, and I was glad to hear Anna mention it.
3. Trauma is a neurologial injury! It is not "who I am", it is not my identity. What happened to me damaged my neurologial system, and it isn't my fault. But because it is an injury, it is something that can be healed. Maybe not 100%, but with time and effort, I can experience healing, and a reversal of symptoms to a degree.
4. Neurological dysregulation is a universal symptom of C-PTSD. It causes a wide variety of symptoms/illnesses in survivors of abuse.
5. Conventional ideas about trauma disempowers survivors. Also, "trauma informed" doesn't really mean anything when looking for a therapist to work with.
6. Being in a relationship where I don't feel loved, safe, or happy: it's not supposed to be that way! Wow, what a revelation! Sadly, I have lost years of my life in relationships like this.
7. If I'm not clear on who I am and what I want, I can't communicate that to others. This leads to attracting those who can't offer the type of relationships I'm longing for.
Thank you Anna, for another very helpful video! ❤
Great comment Christine, the real life pro tips are often in the comments. Thanks for your input, I appreciate it and I’m gonna save it.
This is great! Thank you for sharing your insights with us. Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Thanks for this.
I like the thought about dating. I had never thought about giving myself that possibility of dating without having to commit to a relationship. Silly, maybe, bu5lt now I know I need this layer of engagement, once removed from full-time commitment. Definitely after 27 with a covert narcissist who has given me so much pain.
@@jusbe47 I know, I never thought about it before, either! Dating to see if you might be interested in committing to a relationship down the road...vs how I usually do it, jumpng right into a relationship!
I realized recently that having attention from a man replaced a relationship. Now in my 50's I live a life of solitude outside of my job and don't really on men from attention to appease me. I do feel like I am in the middle of this transition with something different waiting for me on the other side.
There will be times when it is complete necessary for you to walk alone. It is necessary, because you are going to a place that only you can find.
Giving up certain relationships is the absolute ultimate hardest thing of all. Addicted to prove toxic people that we're worth being loved, because that's what we "failed" to do as children to toxic parents. It just keeps hunting and hunting the wounded heart. Such a deep sitting poison, expressed as obsession that requires really a tremendous work. And supportive network.
Therapy has come a long way.
Remember when Weight Watchers was the only mail delivery diet food there was and now you can have salmon delivered to your doorstep.
Remember when all we had were those awful Jazzersize videos to workout to and now there are professional quality workout videos everywhere
Healing has come a LONG way.
The daily practice saved me. More than anything else it helped me 'see' what i wanted and stopped me in the tracks from doing self sabotage. Thanks, Anna, the internet is so full of opinion bullies that anything counter cultural especially viz a viz therapy must have been so difficult to put through. Its so life affirming to see someone live out a vocation(like Jung says) in real time. God bless you. ❤❤
@christinelamb1167 - Thanks for the summary. It's beneficial. I am just adding the time stamps so I can return to it.
0:00: Empower yourself by creating a simple tool to overcome frustrations and confusion and map out a way to solve problems.
6:55: ⚖ Healthy relationships, emotional independence, and self-care are vital in recovering from CPTSD.
13:45: 💔 Misunderstanding dating, childhood trauma impact, and healing regrets.
20:36: 💡 Recognizing internal barriers leads to personal growth and surpasses external blame.
27:29: 💪 Empower yourself by facing past trauma, taking responsibility, and focusing on solutions.
34:29: 💔 Personal account of childhood trauma, loss, and heartbreak leading to complex PTSD realization.
41:38: ⚕ Addressing trauma-related health issues through practical tools significantly improves overall well-being.
48:31: Impact of upbringing and self-defeating behaviours on the healing process.
55:31: ⚡ Effective methods to alleviate CPTSD symptoms without medication.
1:01:27: ⚠ Impact of medication on regulating emotions and tools for CPTSD recovery.
1:08:23: ⚡ Empowering oneself in healing from complex PTSD leads to independence and better choices.
1:14:52: ⚖ Importance of addressing self-defeating behaviors, healing past mistakes, and expressing true nature for fulfillment.
1:22:11: ⚡ Healing from past trauma to attract desired relationships and commitments.
I got my disability denied. I'm trying so hard to get therapy. Im lucky to get in every month and a half. Im 49 years old. Just started medicine for bipolar last year. My bipolar has gotten so severe im afraid of being in the end stages. Ive Been listening to tim fletchers videos on complex trauma. They are hard to listen to. Sometimes it sounds so negative and hopeless. Thank God for this channel. The only speck of hope im finding. Maybe if i keep listening to crappy childhood fairy i might actually start believing there is hope
There is hope because healing is possible! If you haven't already, try Anna's Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
It took me four years to get disability approved. Let me know if you want any advice.
@@barb7124 I have zero money and just broke up with a guy that was helping me out
I simply love the way you laugh 😊 so pure and love filled! You have the prettiest smile I have seen..
And thank you for helping us all so much ❤
I love these videos. Where were you years ago? Total God send. Thank you so much. I have been binge watching at times for the last year and keep referring back when need of a reference. Word
Thank you for being a part of our community here!
Nika@TeamFairy
I love this. I really tried to start The Daily Practice a couple months ago. It's funny how even the smallest trigger and get you off track. I got back into the old routine, without thinking about it. So, last week, I didn't have a very good appointment with my doctor. At 69, I'm very healthy, and grateful. But the appointment was a "come to Jesus" moment, over my blood pressure.ISince then, my brain has gone everywhere. However, I really had to acknowledge that Im the only one who can control my health, etc. It's how I felt when I became interested in this Crappy Childhood. I was/am ready to process the trauma from my childhood, how I was a crappy parent, sought bad relationships, etc. So, GEEZE, the middle of the night, it was like BAM. You idiot, you haven't been doing the Practice! Talking about your health, made me remember some crazy things I've gone through lately. Some really strange things like aches, pain, stomach issues, just unexplainted issues. And, of course my BP. It makes total sense that triggers, recalling memories, finds it's way into affecting your health. I'm definitely getting back on track. This is an integral part of being healthy.
I so appreciate the physical things that help.
My daily practice consists of meditation and EFT. I also had some resistence and skipped doing them several times. Sometimes I write down my feelings too. It feels like all the stress always starts accumulating again and it overflows quickly if I don't do my practice. I used to not like willingly face my painful emotions but I'm not afraid of them anymore.
Thank you Anna the Fairy🙏💖 I'm so happy I found you about a year ago - you are the best!🎖✨️
Thank you for being a part of our community, we're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Your daily practice is very similar to what my EMDR therapist told me to do between sessions. Pretty much everything you say in this video is the same as why she said. That said, she told me I still struggle with C-PTSD becuase my sociopath mom (no booze or drugs needed) began abusing me as a small baby. so my subconscious sees everything as a threat. She stressed gratitude, and doing gratitude exercises. After additional and unexpected trauma late last year, I've lost a lot of progress. I struggle with apathy so severe it's borderline crippling. When I'm inside, I don't want to do *anything*; cook, clean the cat litter boxes, much less clean the house. I don't want to do anything or go anywhere. All I want to do it eat, sleep, watch tv, play on the internet, or read. BUT, when I do go somewhere, even just grocery shopping, I feel 10 times better.. Until I get home, Once I'm inside the apathy returns full blast. Yesterday I went for a walk down to the beach just a mile from the house, but today I came up with a million excuses not to go again. I isolate horribly. I don't talk to people at all unless facebook counts (I don't think it does). What's worse, I have the solutions from my earlier therapy, but I can't get myself to do them. When I try to watch your videos,I quickly get either bored and/or angry and go back to net surfing. What the hell is wrong wit me?
Anna you are so honest and wise❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love your show❤️
As someone with suicide from both maternal grand/great grandmothers, Im surprised Im alive and well to type this out. I have ancestral rage, trauma, alcoholic abuse, injuries, questionable learning disorders and anxiety to manage life long. My mom came out extremely Narc and accountability is like acid reflux for her.
I take it in stride and am proud of my healing so far from my own CPTSD and adult re-traumatizing relationships.
Ah gonna journal more. I know it helps. Even scribbling to-do lists is extremely sayisfying, anything written down gets me going.
Thank you, TCCF!
Exactly how I feel right now.. Everything I touch turns to crap!! 😢 Sad
I’m so glade I have found this I always knew my childhood was bad but did not know how much it affected me in my adult life. I hope it’s not to late to save my marriage
Glad the video was helpful! Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy
Loads of really great information and tips in this compilation. Thanks
Glad you enjoyed it!
Nika@TeamFairy
The daily practice is really good. It’s helped me a great deal. In terms of medications, has there been much research on psychedelics for complex trauma? I know it helps PTSD, depression, anxiety etc but C-PTSD is a different beast and I wonder how these novel treatments affect complex trauma.
Glad to hear you enjoy the Daily Practice! Thank you for your question. You might want to watch this video ruclips.net/video/RB9V8SWUdR8/видео.html where Anna mentions about the psychedelic therapy (at around 14:20).
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you, Anna. I just had my first surgery procedure. It was a big wake up call to make changes. I have to, if not pain follows. Thank God I’m I. A good position to rest and work on my self, in program, writing and action. Your videos are definitely a part of that healing.
We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you soo much.
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you for helping me help myself ❤
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thanks SO very much 😊❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
I need help. I am struggling with anger and rage. And I hate that I am exposing my small children to that. I want to be a better mom.
Are you in a narcissistic relationship? That could be it.
@@BooThing14 No, I was raised by narcissists. And my husband was raised by one too. I was verbally and emotionally abused and he was severely neglected. So we are both trying to parent from next to nothing
Thank you for watching. Daily Practice is a great way to process fears and resentment. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Change takes a great deal of STRENGTH IN EVERYTHING.. TOOOO many challenges & not not not have the strength to carry ON with one's LIFE. NEED SOMEONES TO LEAN ON. 😮😢😢😮 FEARS run a muck. Tooo much . Where
Is the STRENGTH GIVERS.????? 😊
Another grand slam!
I got 8/10 on ACE
I feel you. I got 10. This is no joke. A loving help for us to know what we are up against! Total recovery can happen. I am happy now.
I don't feel like I am capable of anything good.. sad😢...
Which self re regulating books & techniques would you recommend? What worked best for you? Thank you
I thought I was healing, but I fell back to the bottom. ...Several times already.
Giving up addictions and leisure didn't help me get a better job or relationships. I still fail every time and go back to square one. -_-
I encourage you to try Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Consistency with this practice will keep you moving forward, not stepping back.
Nika@TeamFairy
19:54 This one really triggered me or resonated… or not sure what exactly? I’m definitely one of the people in this category of, “I’m not built in the same way 9-5 working people are built. I would end up so miserable that I’d end up sui¢idal, so for my own sake I need to find my niche elsewhere.” So the fact that Anna is calling this a “high horse” is… offensive to me. I don’t think I’m “superior” to anyone. If anything, maybe the contrary. But even then, I don’t consider it a complete disadvantage-I just function at my optimum in a different way than most. It happens. People have different strengths, weaknesses, traits, skills, characteristics, personalities…….
Is my head so far up my own digestive system that I’m not seeing the truth about my situation or am I justified in feeling this way? I’m definitely conflicted now. 😕
I felt triggered by that too but i think she's probably right... suffering is poetic, it can be an addiction in itself, it gives us an "explanation"
No system is perfect and they are made by people and from their point of view. We have to distill the things we can build into our own system. She says we are the boss about our own change and own life- yes, that applies here as well. If your intention doesn't come from superiority and the high horse and being poetically misunderstood and suffering, then there's no problem with not working in the "normal" way. It is your life, your way! Maybe you have another or better plan. Besides this idea can be culturally determined as well.
Btw I love her approach and advices but I don't always agree with her. I just implement what I can and want to.
I have issues with black and white thinking.... And it effects every facet of my life... 😢 Sad...
I really struggle with working full time because I WANT to work but my body is so weak, I'm wiped out for 3 days after 1 full day... 😞 It makes the cptsd worse bc I feel helpless.
Hey friend, I'll tell you my story so you'll consider talking to an MD or family doctor. I worked full time and had consistant energy. One day my health declined even when eating right and working out. My body kept getting skinnier and weaker so I decided to ask my doctor to get some blood lab tests. My body completely stopped making testosterone and other male hormones. I had fatty liver disease and I was anemic. I dont drink and health conscious but my body was dying. After hormone therapy everything improved, no longer anemic and no longer have fatty liver disease.
@gabegroom9581 I believe it. Unfortunately, my PCP will not test my hormones. I'm slowly saving up to pay for testing out of pocket somewhere else. Glad you're feeling better. 😊💓
Find a sport or excercise. Trust that over time you'll get a new stamina that'll help heal your other symptoms. Your body is aching to heal, just guide it on the tracks. We damaged folks are constantly "retracking" but that is a part of the job of managing one's traumas that is totally unique and customizable once you have the tools for your triggers and setbacks.
I use BJJ for my cptsd, fitness and "ultimate revenge for the world doing me wrong" lol but it can be anything
That is tough. As a previous commenter suggested making sure you are physically healthy is a priority that I know you also mentioned. Also consider that maybe you don't need to work what most people consider 'full time'. Maybe you start small and try to pick up more hours as you feel stronger.
I don't share all the same concerns as you, but I don't work 5 days a week, but rather 4 now. I miss full time money, but I have learned to live with less to have a better balance while I am healing. I read a really great book about finance (not a finance bro type book) called Your Money or Your Life by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robinson. Helped me put into perspective how to value my money and time.
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You consider your self
healed or still healing ?
I understand myself to be healed of
some reactions,
yet,
I do not understand 'healed'.
For me it's a process that never really will be completed
Who is the woman pictured in the green dress with flowers and a sword in her hand ?
St. Dymphna
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you !
Anna Im trying to zoom in on the books😂😂@@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Yeah but what happens when you feel like crap, know you're off base but simply DO NOT WANT to do the work. UGH it's annoying me right now.
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