WHY ARE CIS (NOT TRANS) PEOPLE LIKE THIS? | NOAHFINNCE

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  • Опубликовано: 3 дек 2024

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  • @NOAHFINNCE
    @NOAHFINNCE  3 года назад +1683

    WHATS THE MOST AWKWARD THING A CIS PERSON HAS ASKED YOU?!

    • @lees_act
      @lees_act 3 года назад +244

      "Why are you gay?"
      - a guy from my school

    • @junkiejerkoff
      @junkiejerkoff 3 года назад +197

      How is your transsexual life?? 😱😱😱😱😱

    • @arlothedinosaur8810
      @arlothedinosaur8810 3 года назад +293

      “Are you sure about that??”
      -mom

    • @Someonesomethingidk
      @Someonesomethingidk 3 года назад +51

      @@lees_act REALLY, SAME 😁

    • @bluechequer
      @bluechequer 3 года назад +186

      "Are you sure this isnt a phase?"

  • @bentel6069
    @bentel6069 3 года назад +2179

    The casual asexual inclusiveness by saying "sexuality: who you wanna f*ck, or hug, if you're asexual and don't wanna f*ck " made my heart so happy

  • @curtisscott1848
    @curtisscott1848 3 года назад +1041

    "Can't you just be gay? Isn't that enough?" Well it was until I got the premium subscription, LGBTQ+

    • @XHello.KittyX
      @XHello.KittyX 2 года назад +12

      Yesss

    • @DamienXavier1828
      @DamienXavier1828 2 года назад +45

      I’ve heard this so many times. It’s like, “well Brenda. If I had a choice, I wouldn’t be LGBT at all. I’d rather not live my life with discrimination and hate for just existing. But thanks for the input”

    • @khadizabhuiyan.random2758
      @khadizabhuiyan.random2758 2 года назад +14

      Again with the whole "you can choose which part of the LGBT+ you waNT TO BE!!!".

    • @rocktoo7603
      @rocktoo7603 2 года назад +8

      Boy I wish that was enough.
      I’ve been in an invisible egg since I was conscious and only now have I realized it’s there

    • @-cloudii-
      @-cloudii- 2 года назад +5

      I got the premium version now. got more options for how I want to piss off old transphobes + homophobes

  • @lucycade9201
    @lucycade9201 3 года назад +3701

    me and my sister were listening to conan gray and my mum went “his voice is quite high…is he…you know…like noah?” so you’ll be glad to know your name has replaced trans in my mums vocabulary (also i did inform her trans is not a bad word, and men can also just have higher voices without being trans)

    • @NOAHFINNCE
      @NOAHFINNCE  3 года назад +1725

      LIKE NOAH CUFJFBDBEV

    • @Dake-gw6it
      @Dake-gw6it 3 года назад +320

      inside voices noah 🤫

    • @alexrose20
      @alexrose20 3 года назад +235

      lmao she just thought all men had deep voices 💀

    • @qwandary
      @qwandary 3 года назад +94

      Noah doesn't even have a high voice!

    • @lucycade9201
      @lucycade9201 3 года назад +156

      @@qwandary i think she was referring to noah being trans rather than having a high voice haha

  • @SunShine-nr5ut
    @SunShine-nr5ut 3 года назад +1300

    my sister once brought home a cis guy to cheat on her bf and he did a better job addressing me than my entire family did for years. dumped her for deadnaming me, then we talked a bit about life over a cup of tea, he was rlly surprised i'm actually older than him, found out my sis is actually in relationship, etc. it was weird and my sister was mad at me for few weeks but totally worth it

    • @KarolYuuki
      @KarolYuuki 3 года назад +111

      That guy looks awesome!

    • @NOAHFINNCE
      @NOAHFINNCE  3 года назад +406

      that’s wild

    • @lavender3609
      @lavender3609 3 года назад +98

      Jesus christ. Wow. That sounds like a day and a half.

    • @Mars-mm7hx
      @Mars-mm7hx 3 года назад +86

      Now that is how you gayboss

    • @redssus680
      @redssus680 3 года назад +25

      you go boo

  • @Ash-sd6zk
    @Ash-sd6zk 3 года назад +1285

    I used to get called a ‘theyfriend’ like bestie I’m not a pronoun-

    • @CasperTheDadLover
      @CasperTheDadLover 3 года назад +234

      OMFG RIGHT my bestie is non binary and they have a gf and she kept misgendering them and I was like “THEY!” and she goes, “can I still say gf”, and I’m like, “if they’re comfortable with it”, and she goes, “I know! Theyfriend!” And I’m like, “noooooo!! Just say partner if you’re not sure!! Please!!!”
      Why it no make sense to the cis?!?

    • @Ash-sd6zk
      @Ash-sd6zk 3 года назад +173

      @@CasperTheDadLover cis people can be so confusing- like you don’t call people ‘hefriend’ or ‘shefriend’ so why is it different with nonbinary people 🤨🤨🤨

    • @thea6835
      @thea6835 3 года назад +16

      It's so annoying😭

    • @SaKura-il8op
      @SaKura-il8op 3 года назад +130

      One girl called her nb romantic Partner her „joyfriend“ (The partner was cool with this btw). I think that’s kinda cute.

    • @Ash-sd6zk
      @Ash-sd6zk 3 года назад +67

      @@SaKura-il8op oh actually that sounds really sweet! it's not weird or condescending and just generally seems very nice and normal :]

  • @biancap3943
    @biancap3943 3 года назад +2332

    I’m really fixated on Noah messing with his earring

    • @djgamer7796
      @djgamer7796 3 года назад +90

      Same. The other earring seems jealous

    • @nicoleraco636
      @nicoleraco636 3 года назад +36

      I'm wondering if he always plays with his earring on that side so I'll have to go back and look at other videos to see if that's what he does LOL

    • @TYLER-yb1ex
      @TYLER-yb1ex 3 года назад +23

      i’m really fixated on noah in general i’ve been stalking his account for the past week waiting for him to post more i’m that obsessed

    • @emilylouise1971
      @emilylouise1971 3 года назад +10

      Same I listened to everything but that’s all I watched lol

    • @whydoineedtohaveahandle
      @whydoineedtohaveahandle 3 года назад +14

      I love how that bottle kept randomly appearing

  • @ariszervas7295
    @ariszervas7295 3 года назад +469

    "if you enjoy gay people screaming at each other..." LMFAOOO NOAH

    • @erin8432
      @erin8432 3 года назад +12

      As someone who went to his London show in September this is very accurate

    • @djgamer7796
      @djgamer7796 3 года назад +1

      @@erin8432 yes

    • @ariszervas7295
      @ariszervas7295 3 года назад +3

      @@erin8432 i wish i lived in uk, I would have definitely been there!

    • @sadpotato10yearsago50
      @sadpotato10yearsago50 3 года назад +4

      @@ariszervas7295 Same, living on Mars is hard. :(

    • @FreddieVx
      @FreddieVx 3 года назад +2

      @@sadpotato10yearsago50 I live on Uranus help.

  • @oyoliwejeme7067
    @oyoliwejeme7067 3 года назад +859

    "It's not a phenomenon, I just like using big words that I'm not entirely sure what they mean"
    Noah is so relatable 😂

    • @mirrorportle
      @mirrorportle 3 года назад +4

      i liked this then unliked cuz 69 likes

    • @leoorchard5992
      @leoorchard5992 3 года назад

      So you relate to an unintelligent attention seeker? Ok.

    • @calicoclowder
      @calicoclowder 3 года назад +14

      @@leoorchard5992 sounds a lot like you rn

  • @theob6580
    @theob6580 3 года назад +277

    “why can’t you just be gay?? why can’t you just be a masculine woman??” AAAARGH

    • @BahamutEx
      @BahamutEx 3 года назад +25

      "just be gay" doesn't work on me(trans woman) - i mean I'm gay now(lesbian), yeah, but that's probably not how it's meant :3 Let people be who they are.

    • @saltydinonuggies1841
      @saltydinonuggies1841 3 года назад +10

      My dad used that on me when i came out. Too bad for him i was identifying as gay (mlm) so nope. Definitely not a lesbian. Im actually bi but still.

    • @kurapikakurta1997
      @kurapikakurta1997 2 года назад

      It’s not the fact that I act masculine it’s the fact that I feel like chopping off my tits

  • @theatrelover9920
    @theatrelover9920 3 года назад +731

    My nephew always says to me "You're a they!" And he's just so sweet and supportive, and always corrects people who misgender me, I love him so much 😍

    • @shoto-v7j
      @shoto-v7j 3 года назад +33

      Awwwww

    • @max.d03snt.3xist
      @max.d03snt.3xist 3 года назад +36

      The definition of wholesome.

    • @phrog4479
      @phrog4479 3 года назад +25

      That's adorable!

    • @Rivwe
      @Rivwe 3 года назад +37

      tell ur nephew i said that we need more people like him in the world, i love this

    • @queenthefangirl268
      @queenthefangirl268 3 года назад +9

      Your nephew is amazing. And so are you!

  • @FlotsamCarnage
    @FlotsamCarnage 3 года назад +1488

    I love what you advised about just saying "yes" and not overly explaining yourself to nosy cis people. Cause I also tend to overexplain. And it's so nosy, they really don't deserve an answer at all

    • @alenefitzgerald4454
      @alenefitzgerald4454 3 года назад +21

      As a cis person, Noah's answer of yes is exactly all I need to know. You're all good? Cool.

    • @peachycrow9462
      @peachycrow9462 3 года назад +9

      I feel like at some point if someone asks me a really nosy question to just overexplain so much that they would not ask a question like that again, so just really explaining EVERYTHING to make them really not want to ask it again

    • @FlotsamCarnage
      @FlotsamCarnage 3 года назад +13

      @@alenefitzgerald4454 I got u but at the same time as a cis person I feel like it's really not a question you should be asking. At least not in those words. And only if you're really close friends already

    • @FiveAlive95
      @FiveAlive95 2 года назад +2

      Once had a regular at the cafe I was working at call us and get all nosy about why my name had changed after she noticed. I admittedly have some trouble saying no, so after a few minutes of prodding I just said "I'm transitioning, so I'm also changing my name. Is there anything food related I can assist you with?" and that turned into a whole ordeal where she first asked me if the business just "hired anybody off the street now" and then complained to management about the information she practically harassed out of me. Have learned that "None of your business" IS a good enough answer, and often times the best.

    • @FlotsamCarnage
      @FlotsamCarnage 2 года назад +1

      @@FiveAlive95 wow im really sorry you were harassed at work like that. What a nasty customer.

  • @djjcjdcndjcjdjc5590
    @djjcjdcndjcjdjc5590 3 года назад +659

    i love how the title slightly seems like an attack on cis people yet in the video you’re just going over things and explaining shit trying to help cis people and learning them how to do better
    catch attention with aggression but treat with care, that’s the way to fucking go hell yes

    • @alenefitzgerald4454
      @alenefitzgerald4454 3 года назад +21

      As a cis person, I cringe laugh at 'are the cis ok' videos. So no aggression here.

    • @yeetusfeetus7877
      @yeetusfeetus7877 3 года назад +27

      I see so many people who are upset with the “are the straights okay” videos/etcetera, it looks like they haven’t actually seen any of them.
      I’m cisgender and I don’t get all wound up over people laughing at people who are confused about trans people, there are so many snowflakes in this world and it’s always the people who call others “snowflakes”.

    • @the_alien_1239
      @the_alien_1239 2 года назад +3

      Yes I love it!’

  • @SHREDDING.
    @SHREDDING. 3 года назад +683

    As a cis dude I can confidently say, I do not treat anyone different by there gender or sexuality, I treat people differently based on their taste of music (I.E. if somebody dislikes Noahfinnce's music I dislike them. Stock photo models need to learn.

    • @nevviedarling
      @nevviedarling 3 года назад +16

      Basically what you're saying is, you dislike people for their opinions?
      (Not saying that I don't like Noah's music btw)

    • @aztronomy4380
      @aztronomy4380 3 года назад +78

      @@nevviedarling Yes, freedom of speech means that you're able to voice your opinion, but also that others are free to dislike you for that opinion, as long as no one gets hurt

    • @skill07qc67
      @skill07qc67 3 года назад +50

      @@nevviedarling I think it's just a kind way to make a joke and a compliment :p

    • @SindriMjolnir
      @SindriMjolnir 3 года назад +14

      @@nevviedarling I would argue that basing one’s view of another on their opinion is good, actually. Out of all the metrics, a person’s opinions (as opposed to race, gender, nationality, fashion sense, drawing skills, etc) is usually an accurate and a more fair indicator of their character. On what do you base your view of other people, if not their opinions?

    • @jackiepitch9606
      @jackiepitch9606 3 года назад +8

      @@SindriMjolnir No, I think their point is something like, 'So since someone doesn't like the same stuff you do, you don't and won't like them?". But then again, I'm not them , so I can't tell you.

  • @Dethamaranth
    @Dethamaranth 3 года назад +425

    the overcompensating thing is hitting so hard for me - my dad does the "oh look at my masculine manly son!!" thing so often despite also making very transphobic and sexist comments pretty often sometimes and i'm guessing he's trying to move away from them and be more accepting but bro does it feel performative and weird, just call me your son. that'd make me so much more happy 😭

    • @qwandary
      @qwandary 3 года назад +21

      It sounds like that is probably more for him than you in some ways. Like he's trying to find a connection with you, and society teaches men to connect through hypermasculine pride of your MANLY ACHIEVEMENTS.
      So I guess he's trying... but also, it's kinda self serving? Which is probs why it feels (and is) so performative.
      Like he needs to do that work internally, not try to validate your gender to himself, out loud in front of you when you're like 'Dad please, Im just a regular son, stop it' lmao
      I'm sorry he's a hot mess right now but I hope he is changing. Also maybe that last part, if you tell him that, it might do something for him??

    • @KernowWarrior
      @KernowWarrior 3 года назад +11

      It sounds like its coming entirely from a place of love. He's trying to make you happy by saying the things he thinks you want to hear? Maybe show him this video and the penny will drop. Or just sit down and speak to him about it. As long as he knows, that you know that its not intentionally meant to hurt you i'm sure once you explain.....

  • @toothfairy10133
    @toothfairy10133 3 года назад +71

    my mum came home from work one day and told me all about how she "defended the gender-nonbinaries today :D" and i had to keep a straight face while she explained that one of her co-workers was transphobic and how she'd said "well, as the mother of a nonbinary child--" like okay mum thank you :,)

    • @theoneandonlybeeeee
      @theoneandonlybeeeee 2 года назад +15

      She’s trying! Yay supportive mother!

    • @mariyahlvjy
      @mariyahlvjy 2 года назад +9

      that is so wholesome i cant 😭😭

    • @Panguinolucy
      @Panguinolucy 2 месяца назад

      Yay! Our aunt did something similar-🦊

  • @darkartist9936
    @darkartist9936 3 года назад +418

    Have been asked if I'm uncomfortable with going to the restrooms. Not for the right reason. I've been assumed as a Trans Man because I haven't came out and start my transition yet. I'm actually a Trans Woman. People would say "Thank you ma'am...um I mean sir. Sorry." I'm just over here thinking "NO! YOU HAD IT RIGHT!!"

    • @salmonellq2981
      @salmonellq2981 3 года назад +22

      god that must suck lol 💙

    • @Eryna_
      @Eryna_ 3 года назад +27

      Had someone say "you don't look like one" to me coming out as a trans woman (technically demifem but they're cis sooooo)

    • @darkartist9936
      @darkartist9936 3 года назад +9

      @@Eryna_ That would have stung me as well. Hopefully I gave away enough hints once I drop the bomb.

    • @SomeOnlinePerson
      @SomeOnlinePerson 3 года назад +4

      I remember getting a "What can I get you, man? Uh, ma'am?" and I think there was a quick, mumbled apology. I was also happier prior to the attempted correction - but I could still appreciate the confusion in general. I was more interested in just getting some food than in explaining to some stranger that I'm nonbinary, though. ^^;

    • @geminiwolf0077
      @geminiwolf0077 2 года назад +5

      @@SomeOnlinePerson I once was at a Walmart store and was paying for something and I had makeup on and a dress. The male register clerk(is that the term for someone you pay to scan your groceries?) was surprised when I spoke from a male register(yes, I know, a horrible pun/play on words). I'm AMAB and non-binary. I enjoyed his initial shock, but what actually shocked me was that he didn't question it and was kind and respectful towards me.

  • @quachkq
    @quachkq 3 года назад +472

    today the italian government rejected a law against homophobia, ableism and discrimination of other minority groups, i've cried a lot but this video made me smile so thank you :>

    • @sofiamiga7232
      @sofiamiga7232 3 года назад +15

      daje ce la faremo un giorno

    • @alchemyofcolorandstyle
      @alchemyofcolorandstyle 3 года назад +23

      Support from Italy here! ❤️a testa alta, sempre

    • @fatalimmortality801
      @fatalimmortality801 3 года назад +18

      @UCWUKW-oQtS5VWb_0JnHhxMA wow so edgy you're so brave to admit that /s fuck off.

    • @camsandov
      @camsandov 3 года назад +6

      @RaceGaming Clan you’re a peculiar channel mate

    • @vhrsvdx_
      @vhrsvdx_ 3 года назад +12

      @RaceGaming Clan shut up

  • @cam6963
    @cam6963 3 года назад +185

    “and he’s a girl now!” …say that again…but SLOWLY.

  • @wafsack270
    @wafsack270 2 года назад +14

    I'm cis and I get so confused when other cis people mix up gender and sexuality. I've heard people say something like "I'm not trans, I'm straight" and it makes me so confused. They're two completely different things and I don't understand how you can mix that up.

  • @phoenixdiricci6043
    @phoenixdiricci6043 3 года назад +45

    Not the sheer panic that hit me from hearing "What was Phoenix born as?" 😭😭

  • @robinducks2409
    @robinducks2409 3 года назад +34

    I remember when the gender clinic asked if I'd consider just being a masculine girl, I tried to picture it and I littlerally started crying so yea I'm kinda confident that yes, I am in fact trans

  • @niamhstalkstoomuch
    @niamhstalkstoomuch 3 года назад +80

    AS SOMEONE WHO WAS AT THE LAST TOUR IT WAS ONE OF THE BEST EXPERIENCES OF MY LIFE YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT!!

  • @rookbrooke8901
    @rookbrooke8901 3 года назад +79

    Something I've noticed is how people will use your pronouns with no issue up until the point they realise you're trans... like what? It's like they'll be perfectly fine with using let's say he/him for you until they find out you're trans and then they'll be wary to use them and will often become a bit off with you. Of course this doesn't go for everyone, but it's just something I've noticed

  • @lavender3609
    @lavender3609 3 года назад +47

    God, I love it whenever transphobes try to scream at a trans guy saying"You'Ll nevEr be a wOman!"
    I mean, not that I'm happy those transphobes exist in the first place, but still. They're so confused it's hilarious.

  • @Nnemett
    @Nnemett 3 года назад +345

    HI NOAH I'M A BIG FAN AND BECAUSE OF YOU I FOUND MY TRUE SELF I WAS CONFUSED ABOUT MY GENDER FOR A LONG TIME AND THEN WHEN I STARTED WATCHING YOU I FOUND OUT I WAS TRANS,SO THANK YOU

    • @djgamer7796
      @djgamer7796 3 года назад +7

      If you want to thank him, dont shout. Its not very nice.

    • @aiden5246
      @aiden5246 3 года назад +12

      @@djgamer7796 💀 💀 💀 they can say whatever they like

    • @Nnemett
      @Nnemett 3 года назад +16

      @@djgamer7796 sorry I usually type like that😅

    • @soapeater58
      @soapeater58 3 года назад +18

      @@djgamer7796 it's caps not shouting 💀💀

    • @blueerie_
      @blueerie_ 3 года назад +9

      @@djgamer7796 ok they weren’t shouting and he literally said to yell at him lmao

  • @djgamer7796
    @djgamer7796 3 года назад +74

    Noah you were my idol. Im cancelling my tour tickets. Cant believe it

  • @sparkle58
    @sparkle58 3 года назад +31

    ok but when he said “you don’t have to be manly to be a guy” my day got so much better especially since I’m not out to any of my family (except one person) and I still dress feminine. (Just for reference I’m genderfluid)

  • @ZL.Mateo000
    @ZL.Mateo000 3 года назад +52

    As a cis-male and psych researcher of social identity formation, I really appreciate videos like this! It's important to me that I'm fully respectful to others and how they identify.
    it's also SUPER HELPFUL in being able to hear directly from people in the community, in order to have a richer understanding of how people end up having to negotiate their social environment.
    Thank you! 😄

    • @afoolishman
      @afoolishman 2 года назад

      Ily Zach you’re the best cis person

  • @ko2vo
    @ko2vo 3 года назад +22

    Oh maaan, the "How can you be sure you won't regret this" made me think of my mom. After coming out, but before taking testosterone, we had a conversation in the car where she was telling me about how difficult it would be to live the way I was trying to live. That life would be difficult, that people were not going to understand, that it would cause me a lot of turmoil I otherwise wouldn't have to face going through medical transition.
    Meanwhile, I was like, "I'm???? Mother, I am living it??? Already? The turmoil is present." Anyhow, I'm almost four years on T now, feeling much better overall and she's been supportive, a lil confused but she has the right spirit.

  • @djgamer7796
    @djgamer7796 3 года назад +94

    Noah what youve done is absolutely outrageous

    • @osheridan
      @osheridan 3 года назад +2

      What happened on discord??

    • @djgamer7796
      @djgamer7796 3 года назад +19

      @@osheridan
      Just a bit of banter from the discord.
      This is exactly what Noah put in the discord:
      Everyone i have a new video out and i think we should confuse everybody who’s not in the discord by commenting
      “noah what you’ve done is unacceptable” or “i thought u were cool ://“ or “can’t believe you’ve done this”
      LMAOO GO DO IT

  • @Uta-Chan695
    @Uta-Chan695 Год назад +9

    5:24 I was with my dad, telling him it was pride month, and reminding him that my pronouns are they/them, he looked at me and said, "Can they bring this to mum?" It took me a while to realise he meant me. I'd say he's a well meaning cis het. He meant well, but was just a bit off.

    • @Chaos-._
      @Chaos-._ Год назад +7

      He's got the spirit, what a wholesome interaction!

    • @Maya-pf6lk
      @Maya-pf6lk 4 месяца назад +3

      That’s…nice that he’s trying? I’m glad he’s trying :)

  • @TurtleFrogz
    @TurtleFrogz 3 года назад +42

    AHH that thing with "dude" and "guys" rmeinds me so much of myself lmao. I f.em use the words bro and girl for every gender because its kidna gender neutral for me(same with guys) and my friends know that, but I do have a trans friend who is uncomfortable with the word girl even tho he knows I mean it gender neutral, so I dotn use it anymore, so jsut check how a person if feeling if u call them that and if they r ok with it it's not a problem
    I mean since I'm gender fluid the words girl and boy(referring to me) r sometimes making me uncomfortable and sometimes making me feel very good and I cna understand if these terms may make anyone feel uncomfortable

  • @DIYmanicpixiedreamGUY
    @DIYmanicpixiedreamGUY 3 года назад +73

    “I’m not really feeling these boobies” is my favorite sentence ever spoken 😹😹😹

  • @spicepandaexe
    @spicepandaexe 2 года назад +8

    I loved the ace shout out at 7:43, it’s always awesome to have your existence acknowledged lol

  • @screenedat0m
    @screenedat0m 3 года назад +74

    Hope you’re feeling better from your tonsillitis!!! Also yes, that is a very good question (,:

  • @So-gu1vi
    @So-gu1vi 2 года назад +7

    I am a cis bi girl and when I came out to my cishet mom she told me something similar to "THAT'S JUST A PHASE, YOU ARE DISCOVERING WHO YOU ARE AND YOU WILL CHANGE SOON". Don't say bad things about her because I love her

  • @batoul8713
    @batoul8713 3 года назад +184

    Nobody :
    Literally nobody :
    Noah: "I like using big words that I'm not entirely sure what they mean"
    Lmao I do that too sometimes, just say it and hope they get what I mean lol

    • @ilikedarknes3351
      @ilikedarknes3351 3 года назад +5

      somehow i know big words that ive heard like once before and never looked up the definition but i actually use them correctly its weird

    • @aceatlasska4343
      @aceatlasska4343 3 года назад +1

      @@ilikedarknes3351 I do that all the time haha, I couldn't explain to someone what the word means but I know how to use it lol

    • @ilikedarknes3351
      @ilikedarknes3351 3 года назад +2

      @@aceatlasska4343 yeah ill be talking to someone then they bring up a word they dont understand and the conversation will go like this
      friend: do you know what (insert a word cant think of one rn) means?
      me: yeah
      friend: what does it mean?
      me: idk
      friend: but you just said-
      me: I know I just said I knew what it mean't I just don't know how how to explain it
      friend: could you at least try to explain it
      me: well um- its like- no uh its like when this happens and then you do this
      friend: What???
      me: IM NOT GOOD AT ENGLISH OKAYYY
      some times my friends forget that just because i know difficult words and English is my first language doesn't mean im good at explaining stuff and it does not at all mean im good at English lmao

    • @aceatlasska4343
      @aceatlasska4343 3 года назад +1

      @@ilikedarknes3351 haha yeah that'll happen to me when my mum (she's Polish) will ask me if I know what a word means, and I know how I'd use it but I can't explain it and she ends up googling it lol

  • @durabelle
    @durabelle 3 года назад +26

    As a well-meaning cis person I really appreciate videos like this, because language keeps evolving and I'm never super confident about the correct ways to say things. So I can see why some people might avoid saying trans for example.
    On the other hand it's generally pretty easy to just not comment on stuff that falls in the area I don't know well enough. A lot of the time it's none of my business in the first place, and I'm just not curious enough to ask the questions. If any of my friends for any reason want to talk to me about trans things I can always listen, but honestly I prefer talking about dogs rather than anything too personal with anyone 😄

  • @parxboiiz
    @parxboiiz Год назад +4

    7:19 my mom did something like this. She said that “oh, if you’re non-binary, why aren’t you just bisexual? Does it have anything to do with being bisexual?”
    …how are non-binary and being bisexual related?

  • @commonerscoffee.
    @commonerscoffee. 3 года назад +152

    “if your a trans man you can’t do anything feminine!”
    me, a trans masc femboy who crossdresses:

    • @GalacticAnimationsYT
      @GalacticAnimationsYT 3 года назад +8

      same

    • @lyraleen1504
      @lyraleen1504 2 года назад +11

      Yeah, they dont understand your gender have nothing to do with how you look

    • @The_big_prooooo
      @The_big_prooooo 2 года назад +1

      A fellow femboy!

    • @miaouxmiaouxnumber1fan
      @miaouxmiaouxnumber1fan 2 года назад +3

      Personally, I’m not a femboy. I dress up feminine because I’m closeted

    • @-cloudii-
      @-cloudii- 2 года назад +1

      Yes. As a trans masc, I will continue to look hot af in a dress every time I go out

  • @Mia-nz1qr
    @Mia-nz1qr 3 года назад +23

    Cis people: YOu’lL nEvER bE a GIrL
    Noah:🌝

  • @d0tstfu.m1
    @d0tstfu.m1 3 года назад +14

    After seeing my best friend for the first time in 4 months, I introduced him to my new best friend and my significant other, after a while of all of us speaking, I brought up a memory of us two from when we were kids! But I accidentally said his dead name and I felt SO bad. I didn't freak out, I just said I was sorry and corrected myself then moved on. Love you Mateo, Sorry lovely.

    • @oodles_of_noodles.
      @oodles_of_noodles. 3 года назад +6

      And that's all that you have to do. It sounds like you handled it perfectly 😊

  • @emero.a.scythe1786
    @emero.a.scythe1786 2 года назад +4

    My favorite is the "When did you change gender?"
    Just cause I like to interpret it as a grandpa who is very supportive of their grandkid, and hasn't seen them for years, and when they finally see them again, they're like, "When did you transition? You look great, I'm so proud of you!"

  • @sage-om2yb
    @sage-om2yb 3 года назад +13

    i came out as genderfluid to a fried at school, and asked her to use they/he pronouns for me that day because i was feeling more masculine. she said: ''yeah no thats a bit confusing for me, i mean i look at you and youre not dressed like a boy, so i just see you for you, ya know, a girl. so ill just use she/her. see you in class.'' like ma'am CLOTHES HAVE NO GENDER AND YOURE SUPPOSED TO BE MY FRIEND! i also have vocal tics, and after a while she realised what my triggers were, and she started purposely triggering my tics, because she thought they where ''cute'' ugh

    • @kurapikakurta1997
      @kurapikakurta1997 2 года назад +1

      ITS JUST CHANGING A WORD- people really think that’s hard??

    • @Artemis_the_gremlin64
      @Artemis_the_gremlin64 5 месяцев назад

      Uhmmm, no. That’s not ur friend. Rlly srry u had 2 go thru that.

  • @arcadeazure
    @arcadeazure 3 года назад +66

    As a gender fluid person I change gender a lot lmao

    • @gaeraptor
      @gaeraptor 3 года назад +6

      I feel that. I used to have a dartboard with gender expressions on it and throw darts to pick on days I couldn't figure out how to look 😅

    • @popplejam2128
      @popplejam2128 3 года назад +9

      i feel like what people don’t understand about genderfluidity is that we don’t choose when it changes. i phrase it as “my gender changes” rather than “i change gender” because i think people tend to misinterpret the second one as if it’s a choice, which makes no sense. no one would choose discrimination and being called a gender they think they aren’t just to be “quirky”, it never happens yet some cis people act like it’s common.

  • @faithgilby-jones384
    @faithgilby-jones384 3 года назад +40

    god i cant believe youd do that noah i really respected you

    • @Areoxx
      @Areoxx 2 года назад +1

      LUL

  • @ErrolGetner
    @ErrolGetner 2 года назад +4

    I'm a grandparent of a trans person; listening to your videos has enabled me to understand so much. Thank you

  • @bluewolfuxx139
    @bluewolfuxx139 2 года назад +6

    "You don't have to be manly to be a guy. You just have to be: Oh i'm a guy. That's how it works" I love this

  • @Atypical-Abbie
    @Atypical-Abbie 3 года назад +12

    Question about the "have you considered living as a masculine girl?" thing, is that something transfems get asked as well? Like, feels like cismen aren't really allowed to be feminine the same way ciswomen are, so that seems really strange that transmasc people would get asked that.

  • @effie7268
    @effie7268 3 года назад +9

    i cant believe you've done this. i am shaking my head so much rn

  • @cryptidgraveyard
    @cryptidgraveyard 2 года назад +4

    my dad was talking about how he was out with a trans woman and another friend (they didn't know each other) and his friend went "wow she's really pretty" and my dad went "yeah, and she's trans." great job dad. great job outing people /s

  • @jess7539
    @jess7539 3 года назад +9

    YES THE KING IS BACKKKKKKK

  • @Pa5an1
    @Pa5an1 Год назад +5

    I’m still a baby trans at the ripe old age of 34, I came out at work but by not over the past weeks and I’ve gotten some gems. Everyone was very supportive and positive, but there was stuff like “so when did you decide to be trans” or “my friend has a daughter called [deadname] who is a boy now” and of course “will you get tHe sUrgeRy?”. And a shoutout to my lovely and also supportive (but shocked) parents who said I’ll always be their little girl in some way. They’re trying very hard to use the correct name and pronouns though, just like all my coworkers, so tbh I’m just glad it all went better than expected so far and I’m not mad at anyone or anything cause I don’t really expect boomers to automatically know all about being trans and how to act. I always make sure to tell them I’m always fine with answering questions and so far everyone who asked has been respectful and stayed above the belt

    • @Pa5an1
      @Pa5an1 Год назад +1

      And there was one situation at work when I wasn’t out to everybody yet where one coworker who knew talked to another one who knew and used my new name and pronouns (they talked about my work so it wasn’t like they were gossiping or anything). And that second coworker got mad at the first coworker cause according to her she only used the correct name/pronouns to brag about how she already knows I’m trans. I was so confused, I had expected some tension at the office, but not like that 🤣

    • @I_Like_SharksHamish
      @I_Like_SharksHamish Год назад +1

      Wow, honestly all those questions suck, but you know who you are, and people are supportive (even if they're struggling). I hope all the euphoria comes your way!

  • @cd-19-97
    @cd-19-97 2 года назад +2

    12:00 - noah’s daily routine:
    wake up, in a trans kinda way.
    eat trans breakfast
    put trans clothes on
    follow the trans agenda for the rest of the day
    eat trans lunch
    spend the afternoon bring trans
    eat trans dinner
    idk i give up now i got bored of writing this

  • @funkyfrogcos
    @funkyfrogcos 2 года назад +5

    omg, so i recently changed my name there's a girl at mt school. she was going around saying "SHE changed HER name and i don't know why SHE would do that". and i walked up to her and said "it's because i'm trans" and then she went around sceaming "SHE'S FAKING HER GENDER!! SHE'S FAKING HER GENDER". and a couple weeks ago i had told my whole class my name is florian and my pronouns are he/him. and she missgenders and deadnames me, but not infront of my friends, which is how i know she's doing it purposefully, it's honestly kinda funny. she's scared to do it infront of my friends because she knows that they will tell someone. anyway i hope you have a great day noah!

    • @The_Void0001
      @The_Void0001 2 года назад +2

      Jeez wat a bitch, does atleast the rest of the class accept you?

    • @topazmoss1393
      @topazmoss1393 Год назад +1

      Ugh, I have a girl like that in my class too, it’s so bad it’s gotten to a point that teachers have even pointed it out. Honestly, as much as it sucks, if you really want her to just use your proper pronouns, your best bet is to just ignore it, if there’s no response, she’ll probably calm it down, and even if she doesn’t, it won’t bug you as much if you just ignore her.

  • @hyena_theshyvampire
    @hyena_theshyvampire Год назад +3

    16:47 i spent almost a decade in the closet because i wasnt taught what being trans was, my family sheltered me and my siblings into never consuming any media that had lgbt representation so the sims 2 was my first experience with lgbt representation and i thought it was a glitch in the game because i was never taught that some families have two moms or two dads or anything in between. I lived such a sheltered life that i didnt know being trans was a thing until i was 17, then it all clicked. My emtire childhood i would play by roleplaying, and i always had either a character that i woukd say "you cant tell if im a boy or a girl" so i knew the concept of nonbinary before it was ever taught to me. Later on in my early teens i would roleplay online as male only characters and this was my awakening. This was when i really started questioning why it felt so natural portraying myself as male and never played a female role. Sure i see the point where role-playing doesnt define ones gender HOWEVER this was my sheltered way of gender exploration as a kid. I was a hotwheels and dinosaur kid growing up and was considered a tom boy for the entirety of my childhood. Ive always leaned more masculinely in presentation as i hated dresses with a burning passion growing uo and i wanted to wear suits and cut my hair short. My parents never let me do these things because "id look like a boy", but when they said that it only made me more realize how badly i wished i were born a boy. Sure coming out when i was 18 shocked everyone since they thought i was just a butch lesbian, but this was YEARS AND YEARS of gender exploration for me, and they dont realize that. Everyones journey js different, some people dont explore gender identity until theyre in their late 30s and thats okay! Youre never too late to explore your options and being late to explore doesnt make you any less trans that someone who explored it in childhood like me. Everyones trans experience is different and thats the beautiful thing about it🎉

  • @Jess-TheMess
    @Jess-TheMess 3 года назад +13

    Thx for your videos! I struggle with my gender identity and feeling valid in it but watching your videos helps! You're appreciated💜

  • @whoesgreen
    @whoesgreen Год назад +1

    i’m a cis girl but i have a trans friend. genuinely one of the only reasons i watch noah lol. it’s genuinely super helpful tho so i know how to be there for him and understand him more, i remember in a video you said somthing about never wanting to call ppl because of your voice, and my friend never likes to call. somthing clicked all of a sudden and it made sense. tysm noah we love you 💕

  • @kevintheegg2847
    @kevintheegg2847 3 года назад +2

    14:28 This is so relatable! I am ftm and my dad uses the excuse, "But you were make-up and dresses, that makes you a woman" and it's very annoying. I just like it, I'm a feminine man and because of him I've distanced myself from that stuff :(

  • @indiapaleg3825
    @indiapaleg3825 3 года назад +12

    I can't believe you've done this

  • @katiehumphries
    @katiehumphries 3 года назад +7

    At 13:49 when he said “here is my absolute favourite” while shaking the apple juice bottle, I really thought that sentence was going to go in a different direction and was very surprised.

    • @FlotsamCarnage
      @FlotsamCarnage 3 года назад

      Omg me too, thought he was going to recommend his fav juice lol

  • @JorgMe23
    @JorgMe23 3 года назад +6

    can’t believe you’ve done this

  • @saraaaa9732
    @saraaaa9732 2 года назад +1

    I stumbled across this channel and am now binging all his videos. He’s the type of person that you don’t get irritated when they talk. He really captivated my attention so fast.

  • @randomisonline
    @randomisonline 3 года назад +5

    Back when I was new to being a trans ally, I remember someone telling me they wear a binder and I said I respected that because it sounded painful to be. They were nice enough to explain to me that binders don't hurt unless you put them on incorrectly or you've been wearing it too long.

  • @agirlnamedgoo
    @agirlnamedgoo 3 года назад +15

    good question

  • @phoenixa17earth
    @phoenixa17earth 3 года назад +5

    I go by Phoenix 12:06 surprised me
    that made me happier than I thought it would :D

    • @phoenixxamaro_
      @phoenixxamaro_ 2 года назад

      Me too! But it kinda creeped me out for a second as I was spacing out and I just heard my name (ignore my username, it's my deadname)

  • @alicebate6384
    @alicebate6384 3 года назад +58

    Noah. I can’t believe you’ve done this. I had huge respect for you until now. Looks like I’m gonna have to go find a new trans RUclipsr 😭😭

    • @nicoletta_777
      @nicoletta_777 3 года назад +2

      Why? What did he do??

    • @weirdkidz1131
      @weirdkidz1131 3 года назад +8

      @@nicoletta_777 everything wrong its unacceptable

    • @miles.1317
      @miles.1317 3 года назад +7

      @@nicoletta_777 I really thought he was cool :/

    • @waffles4wrath
      @waffles4wrath 3 года назад +7

      @@nicoletta_777 it's absolutely saddening

    • @Bibibi1990
      @Bibibi1990 3 года назад +6

      Really cant beleive he has done this.

  • @Meggzilla
    @Meggzilla 3 года назад +1

    I am a restroom attendant at a night club. I run the bathroom. I welcome all trans women into my restroom and even gay men... They love me as much as I love them... I don't know if this is pc, but it makes me happy to congratulate my regulars on their new V after their bottom surgery.... It's good to see a friend so happy.

  • @JoaoIsntJohn
    @JoaoIsntJohn 3 года назад +1

    I love this page! As a gay cis DUDE they are wonderful prompts to further education, if one cares to not act defensive and listen to why things are seen as hurtful by the people they hurt aka read the comments. The "is he... You know" thing... I wonder if a lot of the time it's actually because people don't know the word "trans", or it's not quite in the forefront of their minds as all of the slurs they're used to hearing/using...

  • @kaylaa2204
    @kaylaa2204 3 года назад +11

    how I feel about the word dude as a trans woman, is I'm fine with it in certain context
    I explain it like this right
    I'm your dude, I'm everyone's dude, I'm your bro
    BUT
    I'm not "A DUDE"
    Theres a difference in my mind between using it as a form of endearment and using it to describe gender
    Because you can use it for both contexts

  • @djgamer7796
    @djgamer7796 3 года назад +8

    Noah i never thought you'd say that

  • @finchcrossly2836
    @finchcrossly2836 3 года назад +11

    Noah what you have done is UNNACEPTABLE
    I cant believe it, I really thought you were cool.
    like if u get it
    join the discord uwu

  • @reever_r
    @reever_r 3 года назад +2

    You so like inspiring but you still make it funny I’ve been binging your videos during my zoom classes all day 💀 and now it’s 9pm and I’m not planning on stopping your like my new favourite RUclipsr.

  • @tiffannytwo
    @tiffannytwo 3 года назад +2

    I love watching your videos because it teaches me, as cis, a lot about the transgender community. Keep on educating!

  • @user-hs9hg3pe6i
    @user-hs9hg3pe6i 3 года назад +6

    i can’t believe you’ve done this

  • @LordOfElysium
    @LordOfElysium 2 года назад +3

    11:00 reminds me of the lady who made a whole video about how using “hey guys” is bad because it only adrases the guys…

  • @user-hs9hg3pe6i
    @user-hs9hg3pe6i 3 года назад +4

    i regret coming to see you in manchester on tour i am not longer going to leeds to see you again my tickets are going in the BIN i can’t believe you’ve done this ://

  • @rubymaed4815
    @rubymaed4815 3 года назад +2

    The description of the tour was very true for when I was at Manchester last month. A lot of queer people, a lot of screaming, a lot of fun. (I’m going to Leeds w/my friend Ruby in Feb)

  • @iskipple2136
    @iskipple2136 3 года назад +2

    First vid I've seen by you, not disappointed

  • @MoonTowne
    @MoonTowne Год назад +4

    I'm a fellow trans guy and so many people at my school were mad at me because I still liked pink and I would wear earrings, it was kinda funny watching them stress over it ngl 🤣

  • @mj456ljl8
    @mj456ljl8 3 года назад +11

    Noah, I can't believe you've done this.

  • @Jay-oi6eb
    @Jay-oi6eb 3 года назад +5

    ive been questioning my gender and you and jamidoger have been helping me out with that im gonna start asking my friends to use any pronouns and a different name for me I believe myself to be gender fluid so thank you so much for the education and validation :D

  • @user-pi3mf3fg5d
    @user-pi3mf3fg5d Год назад +1

    7:42 "or hug if you're asexual and don't wanna ****" had me cracking up😂

  • @the-digital-idiot
    @the-digital-idiot Год назад +1

    12:58 HOW ARE YOU SPEAKING WITH YOUR MOUTH CLOSED! WHAT IS THIS MAGIC!

  • @Issyplayzz
    @Issyplayzz 3 года назад +4

    CANY BELIEVE YOUVE DONE THIS

  • @aNATomy13128
    @aNATomy13128 3 года назад +6

    so... everyone in my art class has asked me at one point, "What's your REAL name?" like... if I don't want to be called that... why would you ask!? So I respond with the name I prefer and then they ask again. I would switch out if I didn't want to have to change my whole schedule and I want to be in art. Also my art teacher likes to either say my name incorrectly or straight up deadname me... god damn it... I hate school-

  • @StarCatchrr
    @StarCatchrr 2 года назад +4

    8:10 the fact that a gender clinic HAD to ask you that is so fuckin weird.. like YES, WHY ELSE WOULD I BE HERE

  • @LukaMgDraws
    @LukaMgDraws 2 года назад +1

    My boyfriend's little sister got told to call me they. Little seven year old thought I had two names, she rarely used pronouns to begin with. It is adorable, Freya, you are amazing ❤

  • @minikipp8549
    @minikipp8549 2 года назад +1

    ngl it means so much when you mentioned ace people - ik it was a small thing but thank you

  • @user-es7ui5mc1m
    @user-es7ui5mc1m 3 года назад +7

    My sibling is enby (and vegan) and whenever someone asks "is your friend... you know?" they always say "vegan? yeah" (or no, depending on if the person is vegan but yeah)

  • @arden.h6880
    @arden.h6880 3 года назад +18

    srsly Noah I thought you were different I can't believe you've done this

  • @cinder6775
    @cinder6775 3 года назад +4

    6:20 my grandparents have said this, *word for word,* so many times ;-;

  • @charliefraser2273
    @charliefraser2273 3 года назад +2

    pls make more like this, so relatable and lowkey reassuring(?) to know this is a common thing for other trans folk. plus its hilarious

  • @apersonnamedmt4424
    @apersonnamedmt4424 2 года назад +1

    I had been crying and this (probably abt 45-55 year old) lady tried to make me feel better by saying "You are a beautiful and strong goddess"
    I get that she was trying to help and make me feel better, but it just made me feel worse, especially since she had been trying to make me feel better and had only good intention and I couldn't tell her that this was just making things worse.

  • @amythewolf6314
    @amythewolf6314 3 года назад +11

    12:32 reminds me of the conversation about ffs (face feminization surgery ) with my mum, i show her some pictures of trans woman and shes like "i can tell they were born a guy, you can with all trans woman" so i get some mash of cis woman photos and trans woman photos without telling her that some were cis and i scroll through and ask "what about this one and this one, can you tell this one" and checkmate she's a huge liar

  • @lees_act
    @lees_act 3 года назад +7

    Thank you for your videos Noah, they really make my day 💕🖤

    • @djgamer7796
      @djgamer7796 3 года назад +1

      Ur welcome

    • @KennettStalin
      @KennettStalin 2 года назад

      @@djgamer7796 they weren't talking to you

    • @djgamer7796
      @djgamer7796 2 года назад +1

      @@KennettStalin my name is Noah

    • @djgamer7796
      @djgamer7796 2 года назад +1

      @@KennettStalin how am I meant to know they weren't taking to me? 🤷

  • @Ray-of-SunFox
    @Ray-of-SunFox 6 месяцев назад +1

    Phoenix is a nickname my friend came up with for my chosen name and him using Phoenix as an example name for a boy made me SO HAPPY!

  • @axis7191
    @axis7191 2 года назад

    While you were talking about people overcompensating and coming across as patronising, I was thinking about how often I internally thought “he’s so cute!” Lol.. I love that you’re such a great communicator and I’m learning so much about the trans community. I appreciate it

  • @BlahBlah-nq3vh
    @BlahBlah-nq3vh 3 года назад +9

    y'know....when i was a kid....i thought you were cool 😭