I am a cis man, but I face some of these same issues because of my voice, my posture etc. Even I felt confused about possibly having a genetic issue or something (genetic test came normal XY though, thankfully). The way society treats people who do not fit into regular rectangular boxes can be painful sometimes, I have been called "madam" many times even though I (believe that I) look like a normal guy. The phone is even worse, for obvious reasons, I had service denied because they "weren't convinced" they were talking to me, but to a woman instead, even though I made several requests to have on file that my voice is high and that I might sound a bit like a woman 😟 It took me 40 years to make peace with the fact that, no matter what I do, people will judge and believe they "know better" even when they're wrong. I am very glad to hear you're in peace with yourself as well 💖
FINALLY a video about being trans that doesn't make me doubt myself I have a lot of issues with my FtM identity, but you actually made me feel confident in it, thanks man, really appreciate it 💚
If you want to achieve a more „masculine“ body shape, train shoulders and upper body. Pull-ups and push-ups are excellent exercises for that. Also lockdown-friendly as you can easily do it at home.
Im hitting my 5th month on t and its always been hard to pass and I’m finally being called sir and I’m like freaking out about it like super geeking and no one should care about how people present themselves society should just respect any or everyone THE WORLD IS CHANGING!!!
My voice is super high and its usually the thing that outs me as not being a cis guy. Lots of people have suggested I do voice training. But ultimately I decided I don't want to have to consciously change myself in order to fit. The whole reason behind my transition is to be the true me. So to put on a voice that isn't natural to me seems counterproductive. But I completely get why it's important for many people to "pass" and if that works for them that's great.
@@myname.1602 I absolutely agree it is to treat dysphoria but I'm not transition to be someone else.. By the "true me" I mean that I will behave naturally and not put on an act to pass. I'm 10 months into hormone treatment now and my voice has dropped "naturally" as a result of testosterone. I'm 1000% more comfortable in myself and in social situations but at no point did I put on an act to fit the male stereotypes.
As a trans guy some tips I’ve been told by cis guys and I’m telling you now is you gotta have thick skin sometimes as much as it’s hard to not let people get to you no matter what other cis guys will do that no matter what
I have a naturally higher voice, and before I transitioned, I always got ma’amed on the phone, now that I’ve transitioned from male to female my higher voice has worked to my advantage. I think that your voice is fine, Sam. Not every man or non binary masculine person has to have a super deep Morgan Freeman voice.
You have that "trying over compensate" right on. I would always do that and still struggle with it today. It makes me pass a whole lot less, when in all reality I already pretty much completely pass but I ruin it when I try too hard. It's really just how you feel.
As an afab (gender fluid questioning) person, ive always spoke from my chest more and thats just where my natural range is at. And when I'm feeling feminine, I hate that my voice is lower. But other times I try to go deeper with my voice. (I've tried out speaking more feminine and I very rarely like it 😂) So thank you for the tips for my more masc/Andro days!
I’m happy as a gay man being slightly feminine in my mannerisms! Is it amusing to you that having transitioned you sometimes are perceived as a gay guy? 😉
I love what you said about accepting your own traits and not caring about what other people think and that we’re all human with a mixture of stereotypical feminine and masculine traits. I couldn’t agree with you more and think this is true whether you’re male, female, trans, straight, gay or whatever. We’re all unique humans with something positive to offer the world ☺️
Love this video! I really like how you take time to go beyond the physical aspects of being transgender and pay attention to the psychological aspects. And it's true that these things are not mentioned enough in the trans community. Keep up the good work!
If u don’t wanna get the shirts with the weird shape at the bottom u can tuck ur shirt in a the back and a little at the sides and either leave the front untucked or tuck it and then pull the front out and it more subtly mimics the same shape and helps mask ur hips and make ur waist look straighter and less hourglass shaped
Im trans pre t and have no lgbt friends it kinda makes me sad and lonely, I feel like I'm the only one struggling :(, good thing I have youtube anyways
I'm not pre t but I still found these tips helpful. I'm glad to find another guy who is just himself and doesn't care what people think. A lot of people think I'm gay and feminine because of the way I talk as well but it's too much work to change so whatever lol
I see videos like this and its crazy to me because if I didn't know you were transgender, I literally would NEVER think it. Its sort of incredible to me and I love your outlook on the insecurities and stopping the overthinking about peoples opinions. Good work man!💗
Besties, if u can’t get a binder because of like family or something ask for a compression sports bra and layer it with a cami. It works really good for me but i don’t have that big of a chest so it may or may not work for bigger breast peoples :)
Okay, bro.... your videos are just far beyond AWESOME! You have yet another subscriber to your channel. I really like how open-minded you and how you just don't give a fuck about other people think about you, you just ignore it!
One lil interesting thing I've noticed while studying the mannerisms of the men in my life, men tend to walk with their hands in their pockets, while women swing their arms. This also seves to kind of hide your figure and your shoulders kinda seem wider too! So give it a go!
I mean the confidence is definitely true I was feeling great, and masculine. My friends asked me if I started t. I didn’t. But now I’m trying to get bad ahh I lost it
I usually pass until i speak. My voice is what I'm most dysphoric about. I always get called mam on the phone but every so often i get called sir and it makes my whole week
3 year old video, but I have a coworker who speaks with your same inflection and mannerisms, and he is a cis straight guy. Just letting anyone reading this know, in case anyone feels insecure about passing. Even among cis guys, there's a range of presentations
Lol I get mistaken for a guy when I’m not physically present , like on the phone or no video on a chat. It’s something I deal with my whole life. I just naturally have a deeper voice as a woman. That being said, I think your voice is fine lol, we can switch if you want 😂😂. I used to be insecure about it but I don’t care anymore. 🤷🏽♀️. Also that last point you made I think it’s very important, people can spot the “I have to prove it” attitude from a mile away. So cool I stumbled on you. I’m not trans but I like your energy 👌🏽.
haven’t finished watching yet, but just a heads up that it seems like the annotation for the video about recommenced places to buy binders and packers is missing.
Sam says that he doesn't want to change his voice because he wants to change what it means to be male and masculine. But we all know the truth: Sam doesn't change his voice because he knows that tenors are worth their weight in gold. :P
Thank you so much for making this video as a transgender pre teen I really appreciate i came out to my mother a bit ago she supports but doesn’t try to use my pronouns or name
(I’m just going to vent a little here, probably not going to make much sense.) Right now I’m seriously considering whether or not I want to start identifying as male. Now I’ve been identifying as non binary for a little over two years, don’t remember exactly how long, but I’ve been going by He/They pronouns for a while. When I actually think about if I want my physical body to be biologically male, hell yeah I do. However, when I even think about medically transitioning to get masculine features, I feel deeply uncomfortable. I think that’s just mostly me being sensitive around the topic of genitalia and surgery in general, rather than me not wanting to transition though. But a part of me wishes I was just born a man rather than having to go through all this trouble and discomfort of changing my body if I want to become something that aligns to who I feel like I am. And it’s not like I don’t like femininity. Fuck, I love wearing makeup and painting my nails and shit, I just wish I could do that without people assuming I’m female because I do those things. I wanna be able to pass physically as a male while simultaneously wearing traditionally feminine things. Basically I wanna pass as a feminine man. Not to mention transitioning will be even more difficult, because my family still wont even use my they/them pronouns I’ve been going by for two years, and only a few months ago my dad started doing the bare minimum of using my preferred name. Now I have to tell them I want to go by he/him as well, not to mention how I want to start hormone therapy, which I have no idea how my dad will react to. And I’m still in school, and I have to worry about going into the men’s bathroom and risk potentially being assaulted or something, or going into the women’s bathroom and become dysphoric in there. I just have no idea, and I’m scared. Its already hard identifying as non binary, but I don’t want to keep living like this.
What I’ve pretty much done and has thus far has helped me was feeling big, take up space. Has made me the most comfortable. However i do hate people pass me when i scowl more. I was to look happy bruhhh LOL
I have the feeling no clothing tips work. I have a large chest (I HATE it) yes I bind but it doesn’t work the way I want it to. Like hoodies don’t work shirts don’t work. Nothing works I legit have the feeling my chest is growing everyday (I’m 19 so that’s not the case). Man why don’t work hoodies on me:(
Hullo there ! Does anyone know where I can find some of these waist cut shirts ? I would looooove to get some for my partner but can't find them anywhere 😰!! P.s love the channel !
If the way people treat you doesn't matter why did you pass? Does it mean that mean nothing will change if I pass? (Sorry for mistakes, english is not my native language)
I mean, it realistically matters of course, but the core focus should really be on doing it for yourself. To be more comfortable and aligned with yourself.. happier. I think that’s what you were asking??
You look guy. When you did the "bellowy" it sounded *so* guy. Yes. yes. Yes, when you say wiggly. This wiggliness is the biggest thing, for me. We cis guys are sort of dead lumps. I am a bit gay and my wiggliness gives it away. The lip touching, self-touching seems a tiny bit girl.
I don't think your voice sounds feminine or gay! Sounds normal to me. And right on! I'm all for the 'don't give a shit' about other people's views. They can take their attitudes and get stuffed!
Your voice sound like a young guy.and i have a question.are you a gay trans man or straigth, i find you really atractive hope dont get offended.really handsome
I find your voice masculine, it just sounds quite youthful, and enthusiastic. I wouldn't say it either sounds female or very camp
Sam, your voice sounds like literally any random guy anywhere. Don't sweat it.
Yewww 🤘🏼thanks !
True
he sounds like the cutest voice actor ever
he sound like noah
100%. That's the first thing I thought when he started saying that he hadn't conquered that.
I am a cis man, but I face some of these same issues because of my voice, my posture etc. Even I felt confused about possibly having a genetic issue or something (genetic test came normal XY though, thankfully). The way society treats people who do not fit into regular rectangular boxes can be painful sometimes, I have been called "madam" many times even though I (believe that I) look like a normal guy. The phone is even worse, for obvious reasons, I had service denied because they "weren't convinced" they were talking to me, but to a woman instead, even though I made several requests to have on file that my voice is high and that I might sound a bit like a woman 😟
It took me 40 years to make peace with the fact that, no matter what I do, people will judge and believe they "know better" even when they're wrong.
I am very glad to hear you're in peace with yourself as well 💖
FINALLY a video about being trans that doesn't make me doubt myself
I have a lot of issues with my FtM identity, but you actually made me feel confident in it, thanks man, really appreciate it 💚
Trans dude friends wear shorts a lot. That seems to really help him feel like a guy. I love your voice.
Showing off that leg hair 😎
Be as swift as a coursing river
With all the force of a great typhoon
🎶mysterious aaaas the dark side of.... THE MOON! 🎑
If you want to achieve a more „masculine“ body shape, train shoulders and upper body. Pull-ups and push-ups are excellent exercises for that. Also lockdown-friendly as you can easily do it at home.
Im hitting my 5th month on t and its always been hard to pass and I’m finally being called sir and I’m like freaking out about it like super geeking and no one should care about how people present themselves society should just respect any or everyone THE WORLD IS CHANGING!!!
thing this a year later and just from your pfp you pass so well!! hope you’re doing good :)
@@cedarly6656 thank you so much it really means alot to hear that!! I feel better then i did a year ago!!
Who wants stereo-types when you can meet unique people out there with their own stories? Diversity is such a good and cool thing 🍀
Delusion isn't cool
@@paintsilj ok “marine boy”
If you want to make your hips look slimmer, look for pants that are tight at the calves and loose on the thighs. Really does wonders
Ooofff that doesn’t the exact opposite for me 😱diff body types though!
My voice is super high and its usually the thing that outs me as not being a cis guy. Lots of people have suggested I do voice training. But ultimately I decided I don't want to have to consciously change myself in order to fit. The whole reason behind my transition is to be the true me. So to put on a voice that isn't natural to me seems counterproductive. But I completely get why it's important for many people to "pass" and if that works for them that's great.
Look im not on t but my voice is pretty deep but im not going for a deep voice, i want to have more of a high voice to impersonate michael jackson.
@@angrybirdchickfila8152 can we swap? 😂 I'm not on T yet either so I'm looking forward to it deepening my voice "naturally"
@@crazycat1166 tbh i just naturally have high t😂😂
The reason to transition is to become a male. Not "true you". It's to cure most of dysphoria lol.
@@myname.1602 I absolutely agree it is to treat dysphoria but I'm not transition to be someone else.. By the "true me" I mean that I will behave naturally and not put on an act to pass. I'm 10 months into hormone treatment now and my voice has dropped "naturally" as a result of testosterone. I'm 1000% more comfortable in myself and in social situations but at no point did I put on an act to fit the male stereotypes.
As a trans guy some tips I’ve been told by cis guys and I’m telling you now is you gotta have thick skin sometimes as much as it’s hard to not let people get to you no matter what other cis guys will do that no matter what
"wear a jacket"
me, who hasn't left the house without my game theorist hoodie since i got it in may: i am four parallel universes ahead of you
I have a naturally higher voice, and before I transitioned, I always got ma’amed on the phone, now that I’ve transitioned from male to female my higher voice has worked to my advantage. I think that your voice is fine, Sam. Not every man or non binary masculine person has to have a super deep Morgan Freeman voice.
Everyone though wants to sound like Morgan Freeman even for 2 minutes 😂
Ethra Zagorianou Or at least narrate our lives. 😂🤣
Omg dude you sound, look, and act just like my son ! You two are twins I love it! I didn’t even realize you were female before, you’re adorable 💕
You have that "trying over compensate" right on. I would always do that and still struggle with it today. It makes me pass a whole lot less, when in all reality I already pretty much completely pass but I ruin it when I try too hard. It's really just how you feel.
As an afab (gender fluid questioning) person, ive always spoke from my chest more and thats just where my natural range is at. And when I'm feeling feminine, I hate that my voice is lower. But other times I try to go deeper with my voice. (I've tried out speaking more feminine and I very rarely like it 😂) So thank you for the tips for my more masc/Andro days!
I’m happy as a gay man being slightly feminine in my mannerisms! Is it amusing to you that having transitioned you sometimes are perceived as a gay guy? 😉
transition goals
I love what you said about accepting your own traits and not caring about what other people think and that we’re all human with a mixture of stereotypical feminine and masculine traits. I couldn’t agree with you more and think this is true whether you’re male, female, trans, straight, gay or whatever. We’re all unique humans with something positive to offer the world ☺️
Love this video! I really like how you take time to go beyond the physical aspects of being transgender and pay attention to the psychological aspects. And it's true that these things are not mentioned enough in the trans community. Keep up the good work!
I love that your videos are so positive. It’s so nice to see that :D
If u don’t wanna get the shirts with the weird shape at the bottom u can tuck ur shirt in a the back and a little at the sides and either leave the front untucked or tuck it and then pull the front out and it more subtly mimics the same shape and helps mask ur hips and make ur waist look straighter and less hourglass shaped
Sickkk! Thanks so much for another tip!
Your voice and your mannerisms seems so normal and natural. I’m so happy you didn’t get in your head over it. Don’t change!
Wooo 11k sammies 😊. Lol idk why I just named your subscribers sammies 🤦🏽♀️.
Also Courtney is really good at this editing thing.
You are so confident and totally masculine. You are you. You are fabulous!
Im trans pre t and have no lgbt friends it kinda makes me sad and lonely, I feel like I'm the only one struggling :(, good thing I have youtube anyways
Hey, my insta is @padfinndertje if you wanna ever want someone to chat with about trans stuff, feel free to dm me😊
I'm not pre t but I still found these tips helpful. I'm glad to find another guy who is just himself and doesn't care what people think. A lot of people think I'm gay and feminine because of the way I talk as well but it's too much work to change so whatever lol
Great video man! I have found as I’ve become more confident in my manhood, the people and world around me start to reflect it😄
Yayyy! That’s so awesome. 👏🏼💙
I see videos like this and its crazy to me because if I didn't know you were transgender, I literally would NEVER think it. Its sort of incredible to me and I love your outlook on the insecurities and stopping the overthinking about peoples opinions. Good work man!💗
Besties, if u can’t get a binder because of like family or something ask for a compression sports bra and layer it with a cami. It works really good for me but i don’t have that big of a chest so it may or may not work for bigger breast peoples :)
Okay, bro.... your videos are just far beyond AWESOME! You have yet another subscriber to your channel. I really like how open-minded you and how you just don't give a fuck about other people think about you, you just ignore it!
And guess what else. I like how you just ignore people and don't give it all a second thought! 😀😀😀
One lil interesting thing I've noticed while studying the mannerisms of the men in my life, men tend to walk with their hands in their pockets, while women swing their arms. This also seves to kind of hide your figure and your shoulders kinda seem wider too! So give it a go!
Thanks Sam!!! I have never thought about it. I have always passed as male. Even as a kid. Great Things To Think About. 👍😎
So glad you live and express your mix. Owning and thriving in the wiggles. Yay! Acceptance.
Great video man. Really appreciate you!
Thanks my friend!
I’m kinda scared of the fact that I want top surgery when I’m older because I’m super scared of getting surgery and stuff 🥺
thanks for the GUYdance. heheh ehehuheh EHUUEUEJJEJH
I mean the confidence is definitely true I was feeling great, and masculine. My friends asked me if I started t. I didn’t. But now I’m trying to get bad ahh I lost it
this is helping my dysphoria sm how confident you are and you just dont give a fck
I usually pass until i speak. My voice is what I'm most dysphoric about. I always get called mam on the phone but every so often i get called sir and it makes my whole week
I’m cis gay male 100% attracted to men and I’ve got a major crush on you :) 🤪😍 but we won’t tell my husband!
Bruh I was born a male but you have better facial hair than me 🙄
I embrace hoodie and binder 🤩💯
Every time I watch one of your videos I am completely distracted by your SMILE. It's so good!!! ♥️
I needed this, thank you 😔❤❤
God your just super cute. Love your bubbly personality too!
3 year old video, but I have a coworker who speaks with your same inflection and mannerisms, and he is a cis straight guy. Just letting anyone reading this know, in case anyone feels insecure about passing. Even among cis guys, there's a range of presentations
He’s gonna be famous
Whoaaa!! Life changed on the inflection thing
Thank you so much Sam I needed this :)
My sister is an RN and she still insists you were never female. She gets angry when I insist and she says I am making her angry. 😂
HAHAHA the music when he was talking about his voice
Lol I got really caught off guard when you changed your voice. Was just relaxing taking in the info and then bam! Deeper voice.
Have you ever considered a modeling career? Seriously, you have the energy, presence, handsomeness, etc. to be successful as a model!
You look great!!! Also love the vids
really nice video man. thanks
Here in New Zealand all our voices go up at the end of sentences due to our accents.
Just be you☺
thank you so much for this video 💗🤍💙
you‘re amazing!
I have a large chest a and it's starting to be summer months. I got bad chest dysphoria and I'm pre everything.
Bud, you're adorable....j/s, your tips are great for younger guys...thanks! (I'm old af, but enjoy your vids anyway...you have good energy.)
I think you're great. There is nothing that would keep me from saying "Oh, that guy looks great" and want to know all about you.
Lol I get mistaken for a guy when I’m not physically present , like on the phone or no video on a chat. It’s something I deal with my whole life. I just naturally have a deeper voice as a woman. That being said, I think your voice is fine lol, we can switch if you want 😂😂. I used to be insecure about it but I don’t care anymore. 🤷🏽♀️. Also that last point you made I think it’s very important, people can spot the “I have to prove it” attitude from a mile away. So cool I stumbled on you. I’m not trans but I like your energy 👌🏽.
you're amazing!!
haven’t finished watching yet, but just a heads up that it seems like the annotation for the video about recommenced places to buy binders and packers is missing.
Ah! Just fixed it, thank you! 🙏🏼
Sam Switz no problem ☺️☺️
I feel like being shy and timid is such a girl thing and i hate that about myself.
Sam says that he doesn't want to change his voice because he wants to change what it means to be male and masculine. But we all know the truth: Sam doesn't change his voice because he knows that tenors are worth their weight in gold. :P
Thank you so much for making this video as a transgender pre teen I really appreciate i came out to my mother a bit ago she supports but doesn’t try to use my pronouns or name
(I’m just going to vent a little here, probably not going to make much sense.) Right now I’m seriously considering whether or not I want to start identifying as male. Now I’ve been identifying as non binary for a little over two years, don’t remember exactly how long, but I’ve been going by He/They pronouns for a while. When I actually think about if I want my physical body to be biologically male, hell yeah I do. However, when I even think about medically transitioning to get masculine features, I feel deeply uncomfortable. I think that’s just mostly me being sensitive around the topic of genitalia and surgery in general, rather than me not wanting to transition though. But a part of me wishes I was just born a man rather than having to go through all this trouble and discomfort of changing my body if I want to become something that aligns to who I feel like I am. And it’s not like I don’t like femininity. Fuck, I love wearing makeup and painting my nails and shit, I just wish I could do that without people assuming I’m female because I do those things. I wanna be able to pass physically as a male while simultaneously wearing traditionally feminine things. Basically I wanna pass as a feminine man. Not to mention transitioning will be even more difficult, because my family still wont even use my they/them pronouns I’ve been going by for two years, and only a few months ago my dad started doing the bare minimum of using my preferred name. Now I have to tell them I want to go by he/him as well, not to mention how I want to start hormone therapy, which I have no idea how my dad will react to. And I’m still in school, and I have to worry about going into the men’s bathroom and risk potentially being assaulted or something, or going into the women’s bathroom and become dysphoric in there. I just have no idea, and I’m scared. Its already hard identifying as non binary, but I don’t want to keep living like this.
I got a sign trumps card ad for the 100th time 😡✌
What I’ve pretty much done and has thus far has helped me was feeling big, take up space. Has made me the most comfortable.
However i do hate people pass me when i scowl more. I was to look happy bruhhh LOL
I’ve been working with the public for 26 years and you come across as any cis-gender guy I’ve ever met, so keep on and carry on!
Would anyone mind telling me the name of that tshirt that hides your hips please?
you are a very handsome young man... stay the way you are... very cool.
if i put on some eyeliner will i look too feminine?
Wearing black helps
Me a ftm person who only wears black pants: 😐🙂
Great video !!
This video is so interesting!
I have the feeling no clothing tips work. I have a large chest (I HATE it) yes I bind but it doesn’t work the way I want it to. Like hoodies don’t work shirts don’t work. Nothing works I legit have the feeling my chest is growing everyday (I’m 19 so that’s not the case). Man why don’t work hoodies on me:(
Sam, you're so Gorgeous.
first time on your channel, and already interested being a transmasc guy named sam-
Thanks sam!👍
Gr8 vid fella x
I'm 15years old and my voice is so high, what can i do?
Hullo there ! Does anyone know where I can find some of these waist cut shirts ? I would looooove to get some for my partner but can't find them anywhere 😰!! P.s love the channel !
You are so cool . I think you awesome
I like baggies clothes to help hide the curves lol good video.
If the way people treat you doesn't matter why did you pass? Does it mean that mean nothing will change if I pass? (Sorry for mistakes, english is not my native language)
I mean, it realistically matters of course, but the core focus should really be on doing it for yourself. To be more comfortable and aligned with yourself.. happier. I think that’s what you were asking??
You look guy. When you did the "bellowy" it sounded *so* guy. Yes. yes. Yes, when you say wiggly. This wiggliness is the biggest thing, for me. We cis guys are sort of dead lumps. I am a bit gay and my wiggliness gives it away.
The lip touching, self-touching seems a tiny bit girl.
I don't think your voice sounds feminine or gay! Sounds normal to me. And right on! I'm all for the 'don't give a shit' about other people's views. They can take their attitudes and get stuffed!
can anyone help me. how do you call those long sleeves with the sides cut out? I need one!
Rounded or curved hem tees
@@karsonharris1991 thanks!
Just my 2 cents worth regarding your voice, perfectly normal guy voice. I wouldn’t clock you just having a convo.
I just never wear light jeans lol.
Your enjoyable!
You remind me of Ryan Reynolds
i love you Sam love David
I really want a binder and a packer but I'm a closeted minor- :')
Your voice sound like a young guy.and i have a question.are you a gay trans man or straigth, i find you really atractive hope dont get offended.really handsome