As an 11yo currently struggling with body image issues, this video is SO REAL. People are always saying how I'm so "petite" and "small" then my family is like "her butt is HUGE " and " Her legs are so thick" and it tore me apart. Now I don't know what to do with myself. I've cried so much about my body and I just feel like letting go and not taking care of my physical and mental state. Don't help me! I'm fine:)
You made me cry when you said "people look at you and wish they were you" your so amazing and no matter what people say or do, don't listen to them and keep eating junk food because I love chocolate. Ruby you are amazing and every single video you post is so good :) edit: I AM BEAUTIFUL one thing I love about myself: my hair and my smile:D
**I know this comment is long but I promise it’s worth reading🌸💗** I struggle with a whole bunch of body image. I’m 13 years old and I’ve been told I’m “fat” or I “gained weight” and that made me sad I suffered from cancer & I was really skinny because my tumor was in my stomach so I didn’t have room to eat I’m finally able to eat and then that’s when it started… My aunt said I look fat my cousins say I’m not to beautiful myself my sister likes to point out stuff Even my mom said stuff about my body I don’t even like my legs bc they are really thick I don’t like the shape of my waist or how small it is my arms I don’t like either they look to fat My fingers are too chubby My face is to fat I’m always being compared to my sister who is skinny… **⚠️TIGGER WARNING AHEAD⚠️** : sometimes I feel like if I starved myself people will start to like me? sometimes I feel like if I forced myself to throw up will I have the body I would wish like? I’m slowly stating to fall out of this but it isn’t easy, im trying to love and see how im beautiful, unique & amazing! You don’t have to be “skinny” to be beautiful & being “fat” is not lazy or “not attractive” everyone is beautiful, either if you don’t see it yet or you do, you’re human & I want you to know how proud I am you were created. your body is always growing and changing, and that already beautiful enough
it sounds like you have been through a lot, and that is just so awful that people started commenting on your body like that when you got better. you are beautiful and perfect the way you are, but i get it and i think a lot of the same thoughts. that's amazing that you are now trying to love yourself bc you SHOULD love yourself, and you are so right!! these quotes are amazing :)
If you want to have an ideal body there's somethin called subliminal's and their literally for anything abs,jawline, type of hair, boobs, booty anything But I suggest that you be comfortable and confident in yourself so I stopped trying to use them. But I'm sorry that this comment is long and I'm sorry for what you have to go through bc my situation is similar I get body shamed by my whole family and I get bullied my whole life so yea
Nobody ever talks about the reality, and I’m so glad that someone like you did. Because I feel like I can relate to you so much about body image and wanting to be “petite and skinny” I feel like I’m not as alone. And not just social media but all my friends I think they have the “perfect” body and I know it sounds wrong but I’m jealous. Thank you so much your videos mean a lot to me.
Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself “why shouldn't I love myself more?” When people degrade or make you feel lesser than themselves they should be ignored. There's really no point in listening to what they have to say about you. Im here to tell you girl/boy that those who degrade or treat you less than what you deserve, I suggest you move on from them. You should change yourself only if you want to not because others say so. If you don't love yourself, who's gonna do it for you? - source:- quora~
Some advice for everyone that really helped me is to lookin the mirror and say everything that you do like. For example, “wow my hair is glowing”, “I love my smile”. Even if you think your stomach and thighs are bad. Eventually if you only focus on the good things of your body it really helped me. It’s really hard to do but in reality it’s all in your head. Everyone is so insecure and looking at themselves and your wishing you were someone else but so is everyone. You think people are staring at you but they’re staring at themselves too. I’ve gone through it too and doing better and I wish the best for everyone too. Thank you for making the video and keep doing great
I have been struggling so much with my body image lately and almost everything I've been struggling with, you mentioned in this video and seemed to be going through similar things. It made me want to jump through the screen and give you a hug lol. I truly admire how you were able to come on here and be vulnerable with us about your insecurities and help all of these people who are struggling. You are such a beautiful young lady Ruby and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! 💗🥰
i am so sorry that you have been struggling but it’s good to know that we aren’t alone 💗💗💗 this comment made my day, you are so sweet and thank you so much, you are so beautiful
i’m nearly two months into ED recovery, i was never severely underweight it was more the mindset, never let anybody and any thoughts try to change u ruby your absolutely stunning
trigger warning i used to have an eating disorder and i almost died because of it it is still a really sensitive subject for me but i need to talk about it to recover.People used to ask me if i ate at all.I went to the nail salon one day and a person that worked there asked me if i ate at all and i burst into tears and people just laughed at me. I now go to therapy for it and on the bright side i gained 3 pound and im so happy.I had an eating disorder because it was hard for me to gain weight and i was skinny as is so i was obsessed with loosing more and more weight.Then one day i passed out and didnt wake up for 2 days because my body was lacking nutrients. If anybody is reading this and you struggle with an eating disorder there is hope and light.Thank you for reading
Thank you so much for making a video about this. I'm so insecure abt my weight and now I look and it makes me feel less insecure when I find out that I'm not the only one. I'm trying to loose weight and your vids make me feel so much better. Ly and thanks for the info! And ignore the bullies!
fr tysm ruby! i was feeling so insecure because i wasn't able to do my workouts recently and had an anxiety attack. i have bulimia nervosa and i gained like 21 pounds during the last 2 years which ik is so unhealthy so i've been trying so much to lose that weight. and ive now lost 16 pounds which makes me so happy
I used to suffer with this, I’m kind of just getting out of it. It’s a very harsh reality but once you realize your worth, it’s really the best feeling ever. If you are reading this and struggling in some way with this, trust me, it gets better 💗
This is so relatable, I’m the “biggest” in my friend group and I’m always comparing myself to all of them, and I’ll never know if anyone is judging me or how I look and I also have really greasy hair so I’m just so self conscious and some days I only eat one meal so I can be “ skinny “ witch I know is so unhealthy but that’s just how I feel some times. Thank you for speaking out on “taboo topics” I really appreciate it 😊
Never starve your self or eat one meal unless you’re fasting from food. Sure enough you know that it’s unhealthy but it’s important you eat four meals a day. every body is perfect you’re beautiful I’m pretty sure some of your friends have at least one part of their body their insecure of. your not the only one. So keep your head up your doing amazing 🤩☺️
As someone who suffers with not liking their body image,i'm very skinny and i try to gain weight but it just doesn't happen so this helped alot because i get bullied alot for it!!
Same I look like a twig and as a 14 year old I look like a flat pancake it makes me compare myself and to make things worse I feel like people look down on me bc of my height and not looking grown up enough for a freshmen (5’1) :(
ohh- i clicked this video because i have been recently struggling more about body image than i have in the past. when i say i related to absolutely everything you said in this video, that is no joke... recently, i have found myself eating less and less and working out to the point that i feel shaky and almost to the point where i am about to faint... i know it is unhealthy, but i am obsessed with gaining the "perfect body" in my head, but my body is made to be more on the muscular side, so it doesnt really help to lose weight.. my friends tell me often i look good in dresses or whatever, but im constantly looking at myself thinking my face is too round(which for me, i have a naturally more round face) and i feel like my thighs are too big when the ppl around me tell me they arent.. and about the bloating, i know everyone has that, but whenever i get bloated throughout the day and see myself in the mirror wearing the same outfit i had been wearing that day that maybe i felt fine in when i left the house, i see myself as fat and ugly and then thats the only thing i can focus on from then.... i cant have fun bc i am too hyper focused on how i look. i often have the urge to eat rly small portions that to me look too much still, but my mom will look at and say it is too little... it feels like a never ending fight with my mind and body and it gets more and more exhausting each day.. i know other people will relate with me, so i say this so you know you arent alone.
Thank you so much for making this video! It was super relatable and it’s really helpful to see other people like me going through similar things. I know what helps for me is to just remind myself that I am beautiful and my own person and that everyone is different and beautiful in their own way. But thank you so much for sharing your experiences on here because I know it’s hard but it was super helpful and it has provided a space where anyone can share and relate to what everyone is going through with body image and eating.❤️❤️❤️
of course! i am so glad that you felt like you could relate to someone, and yes everyone is perfect in their own way. yes it was hard but it's worth it for people to be able to have someone to relate to... thank you so much, i'm so glad
Hi Ruby I just want to say thank u so much for posting this. There is so many people struggling with body image who need to hear this. Thank you so much I needed this
This video is so amazing and helpful Ruby I could relate to most of the things you said sadly i’m so sorry you have to deal with this being a preteen/teenager is honestly harder than I thought it would be but with people like you sharing story situations and advise it makes it that a little bit easier tysm for making such amazing videos for all of us xx
My earliest memories of feeling insecure about my body was at around 8/9 years old. I hit puberty way earlier than the rest of my classmates (I had my first period at 9,5!) and I remember that being taller than the whole class, having a bigger chest and wearing a bra made me so anxious.. I also dealt with anxiety and trichotillomania at the time which made it even worse.. Fast forward to today, I am 15 years old (still insecure) but constantly remind myself that I am beautiful and that personality matters a lot more than looks! 🧡
yes i've heard that people who start puberty earlier feel more insecure, and that's just horrible because everyone matures at their own rate and no one should feel bad about starting earlier... i'm sorry you went through all that and that ur still insecure. those reminders are so great and true!! :)
girly, you are so sweet and i don’t know why anyone would EVER say those things. you are more than enough. i’m not the person to be commenting on anybody’s RUclips or Instagram or whatever but the way that you shine the light in this world gets me through every day. Don’t listen to what they think. You’re amazing🥰
ruby you are so beautiful and im sorry you feel this way but remember the first step of loving yourself is accepting yourself for who you are and what you look like. as long as you are eating good, getting a little bit of exercise, and sleeping good, you're healthy and that's what's best for your body. at the end of the day, its your body and you have to live in it for the rest of your life so you might as well embrace it. and like you said, no one is the same and no one is perfect and everyone has insecurities. and remember, most people aren't even paying attention to how you look, they're too busy worrying about how they look (and if they are commenting on your appearance, that just shows how insecure they are). anyways have a good rest of your day :)
I love how real ruby is compared to other youtubers I hate how some other people pretend they are perfect everyone is beautiful in their own way I was really insecure in 2 years ago but I have learned that everyone is great and beautiful in their own way bcs I got skinny shamed by one of my own best friends bcs she was saying stuff like “why don’t u eat” and “u need to eat more”
Thank you so much- the more you kept talking the more I thought about my self saying these things… there are so many more things I want to say but I know that the other comments will say what I’m thinking a hundred times over I just want to keep reminding you that you are SO FRICKING GORGEOUS AND BEAUTIFUL Keep telling yourself that even if you don’t believe it YET but I really hope u do soon
tysm for posting this bc last year i used to be soo insecure and then this year i met my best friend and she would alwyas complment me and i would be so shocked anyone woudl complment me bc like i woudlnt say i’m skinny nor fat i was almsot like both so i was like why would anyone complment someone like me and then she woudl do it more and more and she would literally make me feel sm better and then slowly a couple months later i started looking “pretty” all of a sudden and i realized i wasn’t just “lucky “ it was my attitude that changed towards my body and then the more confident i got with myself the more complments i would get and i stopped caring how ppl thought of me bc there opinions don’t matter to me if i love my body i’m gonna love my body there opinion isn’t gonna change that and i remember in october i weighed a lot in my opinion i was average for my height and age but i thought it was bad bc soem and most of my friends were lighter then me but then a few months later i weighed myself again and aprently since october i had lost 6 or more pounds and it made me so happy bc i cried in october when i saw how much i weighted and when i was this is was so happy but ofc there are days where i thibk i look fat and i have bad days but i have good days two erbtone does some days i could be super confident and others i could think i’m the ugliest human to exist so basically i just wanan say and i love hwo your talking abt your experience bc every experience is different and i love that you are being awareness to this subject bc it’s not a subject everyone is ready to tlak to i love that your doing this for ppl struggling ilysm
Thank you for talking abt this!! people definitely need to talk abt body image more openly. also in 8:12 u began to talk abt being jealous abt naturally skinny people. i'm naturally skinny and people always tell me how jealous they are of me or how lucky i am to be skinny, when in reality i wish i were at a healthy weight. every time i go to the doctor i'm told to gain weight but it truly is easier said than done.So i guess i just wanted to say be careful what you wish for because the reality of being skinny isn't always what it seems. everyone wants to be skinny and i truly don't think people think about the downsides. everybody is beautiful and everybody is different and that's ok just like the one and only Zendaya said "Nobody's Ugly, that doesn't exist" and i'll leave it at that.
I related to this video greatly♥️ Especially the long torso short leg part, it felt really good to hear these things from someone so similar to me✨Thank you so much! New sub!!
(Possible TW) I've struggled with body image for a long time. I used to hate looking in the mirror because of how I looked. I'm working on loving myself and I thought I might share some words of advice I guess. Food is fuel and balance is key. Your body is going to change SO much as you grow and change and that is totally normal. For every thing you don't love about yourself, someone is jealous of just as many. If you ever struggle with thoughts of self-harm, please talk to someone because I promise it will get better. I believe that God created us because he has a plan for us and that in itself makes us all perfect. I hope that you all can love yourselves through the good and bad. You've got this and I believe in you.❤
One thing that I’ve don’t that helps is to look at yourself in the mirror every day and say to yourself that you are beautiful, and just give yourself complements. I love your videos so much ruby and you are such an inspiration!
i've been struggling with my body image. imagine that when u pass a mirror, the only things u see are ur body ''mistakes'' (that's what i've been saying to myself ) i wasn't even seeing my beautiful features! and the only thing u think about is a way to change these mistakes. that that's what that would make u feel happy abt ur body. but guess what : no!!! the only way that u can appreciate ur body is to accept it! i realized that and i also realized that thats when u start feeling pretty that u become it! i worked on myself and on my confidence to feel better :))))) so right now i think that my body is just perfect. and urs is too!
thankyou sm ruby. i thought i was the only one battling with this. sometimes i like to be strong and believe that there's nothing wrong with me and like i'm the perfect teen, but no i can't. i'm skinny but i wish i was skinnier, i count my calories sometimes and also starve in school some days, the whole of last week i starved myself, i hate it when i eat. sometimes i love my body sometimes i don't i wish i had a different body. i had gone through extreme weight loss and also added. my family thinks there's nothing wrong with me that i'm that perfect little girl, but no i'm not, i'm 13 now and i care what people think. whole of easter i restricted, worked out and all. please pray for me im scared i love you ruby
of course, you are definitely not the only one! i relate to this a lot and i am so sorry that you are struggling with this, i know it's easy for me to say but please don't starve yourself, you are beautiful and worth so much more... i hope that you can see this soon, ly too and sending love
thank you so much for posting this I was really struggling with my body image. I’ve been bullied for being to wide/skinny so I’m so grateful for people like you being so nice
Ik this is a month later but I feel you. I am so glad I found your channel. I also struggle with body image and reminding myself that I’m me and can’t be anyone else. I’m super skinny and I just want to be an average size, your body type. My enemy and I mean ENEMY are swimsuits. I once tried on every. Single. One they had at the store and they were all way to big or too small. Now that I realize it social media has changed this world completely. When I was little I loved myself and didn’t care how I looked. My insecurities started in 5th grade. I looked at my friends and compared myself to them. Sometimes I wish I didn’t live in this generation. It’s sad that almost everyone goes through this but I’m also glad we arnt alone and going through this together. Tysm for being an inspiration to me and being real! ly ❤️
I was thinking about this earlier when I was trying on swimsuits, honestly I don't want to shove this in some people's faces but I'm pretty happy with my body now, and idk why people are so worried I mean I do understand but like I don't think that ugly is a word! Because everyone is beautiful in there own body and some people are smaller, bigger, taller, shorter and I think everyone should be more confident and I know that's easier said then done but FOR REAL! You're body is a blessing and you should respect you're body and others Edit: so when I mean I'm happy with my body "now" basically back in August I got sick and this lasted for 8 months where like everyday I was nauseous and I didn't eat like anything for weeks so I was 72 pounds ( keep in mind I was 9) and I lost 12 pounds that I didn't need to lose so after months 5 doctors and meditation I'm feeling better this has been gone for a few months and I hope it will stay that way so now I'm eating I normal amount however I feel like it's alot because back then I wasn't eating so finally I can say that I'm happy with my body I'm not skinny and I'm not over Wight I'm really happy so yeah there's what I meant
I’m so sorry ruby that you went through that. There isn’t a “perfect” body in this world. Remember ruby, every one isn’t perfect, and those insecurities are what makes you beautiful. You are not alone. ❤️
"I am beautiful" Ok so I was really insecure about myself ,because I was always the short and the immature girl in my class.(I'm 4'11 rn,I turn 15 in october lmao) I was always bullied for that. Everyone was mature, and there was me with a door body lmao. But time passed, and now I am confident almost everyday. Of course there are days that I feel like I'm not enough, and on thoose days I compare myself to social media, but if I have enough energy, I work out and do exercises. I started working out for about a month, and I can already see progress and I'm soooo happy. Anyone who's reading this, you are beautiful and enough, don't compare yourself to social media , cuz that just won't help anything. Try to find something about your body that you like, and focus on that!! Ily!!
thank you so much for watching! i am so sorry that you were bullied and that you went through that, but omg i'm so proud of you for being confident and happy now!! the advice is amazing thank you, ly too
Sometimes I do feel very insecure about how my body looks and it’s really hard but we are not alone, there are so many people going through the same thing. Thanks for spreading awareness about so many topics and many people appreciate it so much.
I relate to this so much! I’m in my puberty ages where I get a lot of different chances in my body. My thighs have always been a huge insecurity but I’ve been growing out of that. And I’ve always had a “pooch” and it was a HUGE insecurity and I started exercising more and now I do it more for me than for my body. At lunch I had gotten in a fight with a boy that sat behind me and I heard him say, “she eats too much,” and I started crying. He started saying my name and his friends were like, “no don’t say it!” And I kept saying, “no! What do you want?” He didn’t tell me that I eat too much, but that memory will always be a motivation for me bc I don’t need to listen to people like him. Ily ruby bc you’re such an amazing person!!❤️❤️
i am sorry that you have been struggling with insecurities but i'm glad that you have the mindset where you don't listen to like what happened to you... ly too aww thank you so much
thank you sooooooooooo much. I never thought that we would kinda be the exact same person in the way we think. Every "unhealthy" thing you pointed out I think about too. It's so inspiring and great to see someone my age post something like this and I just want to say thanks for how much you have helped me :) 💕
thank you for making a video on this they make me hate myself my parents call me fat, people at school bodyshame me. as if right now I still suffer from body image issues and I hope that i learn to love myself one day
Honestly whenever I hate my body I go in the mirror and compliment myself. Like I'll say i love my belly because it's cute and it means I'm eating enough food! Hope this helped and remember imperfections make u perfect
Hi ruby!! So I was struggling with body image but I just try and remember that I was put on the earth for a reason and most things you care about (insecurities) other people find interesting about you in a good way!!! Everyone is so pretty y’all so gorgeous!!! Ruby ur amazing and you don’t need to change ur pretty and brave for doing this!! 💗💗💗
I definitely could relate to this video and as a 14 girl who is 5’1 and going into high school I am always looked down on for my height and even sometimes just being smaller than the rest of my peers and friends even my friends sometimes joke about it which makes me feel worse inside but also thx for your amazing content ruby keep it up :) and ty for sharing your struggle and reality for many girls ❤️❤️
yeah i have been made fun of for being short too!! just remember that everyone has a different height so don’t feel bad about it, you are so perfect the way you are… thank you! of course ❤️❤️
*Pls read to the end* I'm 11 an I've been insecure since I was 8, only because I looked in the mirror and said I wished that I looked much more like my friends especially the friend I had at grade 3 who was really beautiful. My mum also sometimes say that I'm too skinny and I should gain some weight. When I started puberty, I started hating my body shape because I had pimples,thick thighs,small hips and stuff like that.And it actually affected my mental health for 3 years. But now I've left all the negative thoughts and I try more every day to tell myself that I am unique and perfect just the way I am. Just a reminder: Always love yourself no matter what and realise that you're perfect, don't be intimidated by any one else
the past 4 weeks I have struggling w/ eating calling myself overweight, semi-fainting during the day and just really struggling with my body image. Your video came at the right time thank you.
Im sorry for ur experince in the begging of the vid but i thank u for putting that in the vid because i can relate to that and i hope u know ur not alone😢💖.Btw ily and ur one of the real relatable youtubers out there💕
it’s so amazing that you talk about this! it’s my 12th birthday and i feel like people should take about this more! keep going ruby, you’re doing the right thing! ❤️
I just wanna say that your Chanel is super inspiring, and it’s so helpful cause you talk about things that are important like body image, and periods. But that is exactly what a lot of people I put generation need to hear! Plus..your automatically amazing cause you have Gilmore girls posters up 😌
As someone who has had insecurities my whole life, but especially since year 5, (10-11 years old) it really sucks sometimes so thankyou for making this video!
Im 15 and i also started in summer of 7th grade and it really went downhill from there i struggled with my mental health and i talked to my teacher and i really relate to you, i am 5'6 and i dont look OVERLY fat id say but my mom is a big part of why im insecure but after seeing other people and you talking makes me feel better
I’m 12 years old. I started getting insecure from age ten to eleven and it was about my thighs I never had big problems with my body or anything until one day I just saw my thighs were bigger than everyone else’s I kept comparing and was searching exercises and once I found one I got my period so basically I think it was hormones :( anyways after that it wasn’t just thighs it was my breasts and stomach I was searching how to lose weight all the time and how to be confident because I was always insecure my mum would make me feel better for like three days then I went back to normal. I then started searching pre teen plus size models and every time there was something different that’s when it clicked “there’s only one me” I got what my mum was talking about and slowly I began to love myself I was so confident on my skin and it felt so great. I’m so grateful for my mum because without her I could’ve been in a much more bad state. People at my new school were calling me Sipho (my name is pronounced Sipo but my full one is Siphosami I just shorten since people find it difficult to spell) the big fat hippo. It was just mean and I acknowledge the fat bit but just the bit that girls are demeaning other girls and being mean. And I realised the ones who were doing it were also insecure I didn’t hesitate to report them because why not. I’m now trying to be healthy because I don’t want to develop health problems whilst growing up so I’m just praying it’d be a success baby steps
I’m so happy I found someone who relates to how I feel! All the girls in my school are so so skinny and I always feel huge compared to them but this made me feel more comfortable in my own body :))
Tysm! for posting this because I thought I was the only insecure about my my acne and chest insecurities for example my chest are big but when I see people on social media I would like to be like them but in the same time they would like to be like me!! I just don’t understand!
Tysm for posting this. I feel lots of people are scared to talk about this but you are literally the bravest person I know online. LYSM have a amazing summer!!
Thank you so much for posting this Ruby ❤️ I’ve always been super tiny and underweight, everyone is always telling me to eat more but it just doesn’t help me. I’ve always been insecure about clothing sizes because I’m going to be a sophomore in high school, but some of the only clothes that fit me are in the young girls section. there are times where I get these random “oh no I ate too much. Would throwing it up really be that bad…?” thoughts and convince myself I need to LOSE weight even though I really don’t. Seeing you talk about your struggles and knowing that I’m not alone helps so much :) Thank you again ❤️
of course! i’m so sorry that you have struggled with that :( i can relate to those thoughts ughh i’m glad it helped for you to feel like you weren’t alone!
I love this video so much. I’m so glad that someone came out and talked about this kind of stuff and I cannot thank you for that enough Ruby. Especially the part about emetophobia and throwing up, I feel the exact same way and I’m glad I’m not alone. Thank you.
I'm sorry Ruby that other people said stuff like that to you, I love you and your videos and you seem like a fantastic person; everyone just has to know it's about the inside that matters, not the outside.
@@rubixcubix28 I’ve also had it for about 6 years so I’m used to it at this point. It sucks so it’s nice to have someone to relate to because not a lot of people have it that I’ve seen.
One day the teacher at my school said ''Who's the skinniest in the class'' Then one girl said my name...I felt so hurt and I started eating more....I compared my body with Idols and I started eating more...But now I realise that I LOVE MYSELF..JUST THE WAY I AM!I LOVE MYSELF ...ENOUGH IS ENOUGH
I'm naturally skinny too and i still feel very insecure about my body and it's so hard sometimes but we need to remember that every body is special and beautiful and we need to take care of ourselves and to be healthy even tho it's can be hard at times. everyone has insecurities, growing up i reliazed that we're so insecure because we think that if we'll have the things others have, we'll be happy. There's days that i think i look beautiful but I still feel so bad so it doesn't help me feel better lol. Happiness is so hard to create this days lmfao. I really wanna thank you for being vulnerable and real with us, such a relateble video, im obsessed with your channel! P.s: everyone in this comment section is enough ❤️
yes this comment is so true!! i think we need to embrace what we have and realize that all bodies are beautiful in their own ways. i rly relate to this lol and aww of course, it was tough to be so vulnerable but now that i see how many people can relate, i'm so glad i did it! thank you so much and yes that reminder is great
I'm very much strugling with body image, and i'm very insecure abd my tummy, my big thights, also my hip dips and way more.. A lot of people i know body shamed me, like my cousin, my sister sometimes even my mom said i was fat or thicker than my skinny sister and i have always dreamt of being skinny, i always try a lot of diets, workouts but i always fail, becouse i end up eating sweets and snacks, And that is not okay! I always feel ugly but my bestie says that i'm beautiful. But the same thing is with my Bestie, She thinks shes ugly and fat but i see her very beautiful.. But this is how life is! I loved the video! You go gurl ^^
I just now recently(and it took awhile) have learned how to be confident and love myself and that I don’t have to look like a shein model lol. I used to not listen to the people who were all “cringe” who would say “god made you perfect” he did. My “best friend” made me REALLY insecure about my nose cause it’s kinda big. But now I realized my nose is like really symmetrical and like a nice size actually. I used to be really skinny but now that I hit puberty I obviously gained wait and I used to hate myself for GOING THROUGH PUBERTY a normal thing!! The thing is though that Christianity really saved me because he makes us perfect in our own way, he made me not hate myself :)
the only way I learned to make peace with the way I look is when I learned to be more grateful than I ever have been. the chance of me being alive right now is 1 in trillions. I am so, so thankful to even have a body and that’s more than most life in the universe can say!! I have decided that life is too short to care about what my body looks like.
I struggle with the problem of being skinny no matter how much I eat, and I'm just saying there is no way you're "supposed" to look like. Only you can shape what you want to look like, not some random cyber bully on the internet. The perfect body is such a terrible thing to compare yourself too, it's not worth it, it never was. Thank you for this video Ruby! We are all beautiful, no matter what we look like!
Thank You for bringing up this topic. These past few days I’ve been feeling very bad about myself and I have many insecurities. Im struggling with body weight and my diet and I’m having my Quinceanera (15th bday party) soon and I’m scared that people will be pointing out those imperfections about me. Anyways hope you’re doing well Ruby! ❤️
I am very underweight and I’m insecure about it. My parents tell me to eat more, but I can only eat so much. I’m also insecure about my acne, my smile, my long legs, and my frizzy hair. We’ll get through this together!
Mine started with having stomach problems I felt nausea all the time so I stopped eating as much and lost a lot of weight(under weight), I used to not be insecure but now I’m insecure about being too skinny and thinking I look like a skeleton. I’ve been told that before too so that made it worse. I went to the doctors and I am under weight so when I heard that, my brain immediately went EAT MORE. I started eating to the point were I felt sick and then because of that I got disgusted by food once again
I’m getting better at being more body positive. But when I was 11 I literally thought that if I worked out and ate no sugar I would lose weight and everyone would love me. I actually stopped eating sugar for 2 weeks bcuz I was so insecure. Now I realize, it’s not that easy, and I should love myself no matter what. I still feel insecure but I have been trying to workout to feel better about myself, and I try not to limit myself too much with eating. Unless I’m just eating because I’m bored (I used to do that a lot too) That’s why I like to be busy. If I’m busy I dont have time to be hungry, and when I’m actually hungry I’ll eat. I dunno- still feel really insecure but it’s getting better❤❤❤
I’m 18 I started taking birth control nearly two years ago (16 years at the time) to regulate my periods. Due to that I started to noticed more growth in my body shape the way I look in general I had a struggled with body image like hair around my belly button, how pale I was , stretch marks etc. my older cousin had anorexia my mum told me I’m beautiful in my know way and not become anorexic. As some with anxiety I learned that it’s normal to have this body shape and that I’m pretty at 5’2 from a short side (from my mums side) of the family my cousins girlfriend told me I’m beautiful and to love myself 💕
I’ve never told anyone but I have been struggling with my body sense 5th grade😔 Edit:One of me best friends started to point them out…. That’s where a lot of it started.
Ruby, this was much needed for Me. I struggle with the same things, and I’m sorry you went through this. You’re really beautiful, thanks for opening up about it. it was helpful.
this was actually really helpful since I have struggled with some of the same things you said like measuring myself in the morning and at night, constantly looking in the mirror, comparing myself to others and many more. I missed about 50 days this school year alone just because I felt too insecure to show up and have people looking at me. I truly hate seeing people edit their pictures like on instagram because it sets up such an unrealistic body image for others. I get they want to seem like they have the 'perfect body' but i'm not sure they realize the impact they have especially on younger audiences. I was fat shamed pretty much my whole life. It first started off with my parents telling me not to eat so much and my brothers and sister calling me fat. The other day my sister called my fat and justified it by saying 'well you basically eat like a whole turkey so you are fat' which first of all i dont even like turkey lmao. and she eats more than me it's just our different metabolisms that make a difference. It can also be very frusturating because i'm the only one in my family who has a slower metabolism while they all eat as much as they want and barely exercise and still are very skinny. I also related a ton with when you said you saw pictures where you thought you were fat at the time but you looked fine. I struggle with this a lot as well and then I start wishing I looked the way I did when I was 8 or 9. And to anyone reading this: i promise you that everyone else is too wrapped up in their own insecurities to be paying attention to yours so don't be like me and miss like 50 days of school because you were too scared to let people see you. Every body is beautiful and this may sound cliche but it's honestly true. All bodies are different, like Ruby said, and all shapes are beautiful.
i am so sorry that you have gone through all of this, i hate when people edit their instagram pictures too, it's just so toxic and unhealthy for other people AND themselves. yes everyone has different metabolisms, and that is so wrong that you were fat-shamed. i'm the same way with my family, they have fast metabolisms and eat tons of food and they're still skinny and i still don't feel skinny even when i eat little and exercise a lot! yup i always wish i looked the way i was when i was younger... thank you for the advice and thank you so much for watching
I wasn’t insecure abt what I looked like until I was 13,I gotten bullied abt my height and just how I am and I still get bullied abt it at 17 almost 18,I see all these beautiful girls and I wish to look like them. One day I think I’m pretty then the next I think I’m rlly ugly,I don’t like my side profile and how I have a baby fave,I don’t like my stomach or my feet but what I do love abt myself is my hair and eyes,idk rlly anything else is jus okay Ig, I just wish I was pretty like them but I get what I get and don’t throw a fit,everyone is beautiful in there own way,jus love urself,ur stuck with urself forever and you can’t always change things abt urself. I sometimes starve myself bc I think if I do that I’d be skinny like I wanted but Ik it’s not healthy and it hurts,I have a love hate relationship with food bc I always loved food until the day I started hating my body,please eat guys it’s rlly important and I’m speaking from experience.when I see/hear that some of these girls on the internet fakes what they look like kinda makes me feel better abt myself but at the same time sad bc I still wanna look like that and so do they so they gotta fake it.
I just wanted to say thank you 💜❤ I have been insecure about my body I was only one that didnt got my period at age of 14 . I watched all of your videos abour periods so I will be ready for my and guess what I just got it this morning ik everything .... just ty 🥺👐
I recently watched a clip of Taylor Swift talking about her eating disorder and it was so relatable 😭 I'm so happy that I'm doing better now and I think Taylor is too
I was trying to find your account in subscribed but I literally couldn’t bc I was checking if you posted and you did!! And I just got on the video right now and I do struggle with body image because my friend said she had a perfect hourglass body and showed me I got i Safire after that and at the same time I’m like “idc what people think” but also like “I do though...” And also I’m only 10… I’m turning 11 in 3 days But I used to do and hourglass workout but I stopped and so I only have 1 insecurity and it’s slowly fading but I don’t feel like it’s gonna get better I’m middle school :( (I am beautiful
yeah i definitely relate to what you are saying! don’t be insecure because everyone’s body is different and one thing about someone else doesn’t mean they’re better than you… thanks for watching ❤️❤️❤️
i got diagnosed with anorexia at 11 (not saying how old i am now) and im still recovering. this video really helped me💗
i am so sorry, you are so strong, and i’m really glad this video could help ❤️
As an 11yo currently struggling with body image issues, this video is SO REAL. People are always saying how I'm so "petite" and "small" then my family is like "her butt is HUGE " and " Her legs are so thick" and it tore me apart. Now I don't know what to do with myself. I've cried so much about my body and I just feel like letting go and not taking care of my physical and mental state. Don't help me! I'm fine:)
Tysm! You posted this on a day that I was really struggling.
aww i’m glad i could help hopefully! 💗
You made me cry when you said "people look at you and wish they were you" your so amazing and no matter what people say or do, don't listen to them and keep eating junk food because I love chocolate. Ruby you are amazing and every single video you post is so good :)
edit: I AM BEAUTIFUL
one thing I love about myself: my hair and my smile:D
aww
**I know this comment is long but I promise it’s worth reading🌸💗**
I struggle with a whole bunch of body image. I’m 13 years old and I’ve been told I’m “fat” or I “gained weight” and that made me sad
I suffered from cancer & I was really skinny because my tumor was in my stomach so I didn’t have room to eat
I’m finally able to eat and then that’s when it started…
My aunt said I look fat
my cousins say I’m not to beautiful myself
my sister likes to point out stuff
Even my mom said stuff about my body
I don’t even like my legs bc they are really thick
I don’t like the shape of my waist or how small it is
my arms I don’t like either they look to fat
My fingers are too chubby
My face is to fat
I’m always being compared to my sister who is skinny…
**⚠️TIGGER WARNING AHEAD⚠️** :
sometimes I feel like if I starved myself people will start to like me?
sometimes I feel like if I forced myself to throw up will I have the body I would wish like?
I’m slowly stating to fall out of this but it isn’t easy, im trying to love and see how im beautiful, unique & amazing!
You don’t have to be “skinny” to be beautiful
& being “fat” is not lazy or “not attractive”
everyone is beautiful, either if you don’t see it yet or you do,
you’re human & I want you to know how proud I am you were created.
your body is always growing and changing, and that already beautiful enough
it sounds like you have been through a lot, and that is just so awful that people started commenting on your body like that when you got better. you are beautiful and perfect the way you are, but i get it and i think a lot of the same thoughts. that's amazing that you are now trying to love yourself bc you SHOULD love yourself, and you are so right!! these quotes are amazing :)
thank you for this
If you want to have an ideal body there's somethin called subliminal's and their literally for anything abs,jawline, type of hair, boobs, booty anything But I suggest that you be comfortable and confident in yourself so I stopped trying to use them. But I'm sorry that this comment is long and I'm sorry for what you have to go through bc my situation is similar I get body shamed by my whole family and I get bullied my whole life so yea
I love this
You are right. Every single person deserves to hear this.
Nobody ever talks about the reality, and I’m so glad that someone like you did. Because I feel like I can relate to you so much about body image and wanting to be “petite and skinny” I feel like I’m not as alone. And not just social media but all my friends I think they have the “perfect” body and I know it sounds wrong but I’m jealous. Thank you so much your videos mean a lot to me.
i'm so glad that this helped and that you could relate, of course, thank you
Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself “why shouldn't I love myself more?”
When people degrade or make you feel lesser than themselves they should be ignored. There's really no point in listening to what they have to say about you.
Im here to tell you girl/boy that those who degrade or treat you less than what you deserve, I suggest you move on from them. You should change yourself only if you want to not because others say so.
If you don't love yourself, who's gonna do it for you? - source:- quora~
thank you so much i love this
I’m really insecure about my body and I always hate on myself. This video really helps and makes me feel so much better.
Some advice for everyone that really helped me is to lookin the mirror and say everything that you do like. For example, “wow my hair is glowing”, “I love my smile”. Even if you think your stomach and thighs are bad. Eventually if you only focus on the good things of your body it really helped me. It’s really hard to do but in reality it’s all in your head. Everyone is so insecure and looking at themselves and your wishing you were someone else but so is everyone. You think people are staring at you but they’re staring at themselves too. I’ve gone through it too and doing better and I wish the best for everyone too. Thank you for making the video and keep doing great
i'm going to do this tysm!! this was really so helpful so thank you for the advice, i'm glad you're doing better... ofc
I have been struggling so much with my body image lately and almost everything I've been struggling with, you mentioned in this video and seemed to be going through similar things. It made me want to jump through the screen and give you a hug lol. I truly admire how you were able to come on here and be vulnerable with us about your insecurities and help all of these people who are struggling. You are such a beautiful young lady Ruby and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! 💗🥰
i am so sorry that you have been struggling but it’s good to know that we aren’t alone 💗💗💗 this comment made my day, you are so sweet and thank you so much, you are so beautiful
i’m nearly two months into ED recovery, i was never severely underweight it was more the mindset, never let anybody and any thoughts try to change u ruby your absolutely stunning
i am so sorry you went through that… congrats on getting that far into recovery! you are so strong, keep going, and thank you so much 💗💗💗💗
trigger warning i used to have an eating disorder and i almost died because of it it is still a really sensitive subject for me but i need to talk about it to recover.People used to ask me if i ate at all.I went to the nail salon one day and a person that worked there asked me if i ate at all and i burst into tears and people just laughed at me. I now go to therapy for it and on the bright side i gained 3 pound and im so happy.I had an eating disorder because it was hard for me to gain weight and i was skinny as is so i was obsessed with loosing more and more weight.Then one day i passed out and didnt wake up for 2 days because my body was lacking nutrients. If anybody is reading this and you struggle with an eating disorder there is hope and light.Thank you for reading
Thank you so much for making this video! This week has been pretty rough for me. I’ve been recently struggling with body image and it’s tough.
of course! i’m so sorry you’re going through that, i can rly relate rn
Thank you so much for making a video about this. I'm so insecure abt my weight and now I look and it makes me feel less insecure when I find out that I'm not the only one. I'm trying to loose weight and your vids make me feel so much better. Ly and thanks for the info! And ignore the bullies!
of course! i'm sorry you struggle with being insecure but i'm glad that you could feel less alone through this video... ly too tysm!
fr tysm ruby! i was feeling so insecure because i wasn't able to do my workouts recently and had an anxiety attack. i have bulimia nervosa and i gained like 21 pounds during the last 2 years which ik is so unhealthy so i've been trying so much to lose that weight. and ive now lost 16 pounds which makes me so happy
i am so sorry that you've struggled with that :( thank you! ofc
I used to suffer with this, I’m kind of just getting out of it. It’s a very harsh reality but once you realize your worth, it’s really the best feeling ever. If you are reading this and struggling in some way with this, trust me, it gets better 💗
so proud of you for getting out of it ❤️❤️❤️ this rly gives me hope so thank you so much!
@@rubixcubix28 np! ✌
This is so relatable, I’m the “biggest” in my friend group and I’m always comparing myself to all of them, and I’ll never know if anyone is judging me or how I look and I also have really greasy hair so I’m just so self conscious and some days I only eat one meal so I can be “ skinny “ witch I know is so unhealthy but that’s just how I feel some times. Thank you for speaking out on “taboo topics” I really appreciate it 😊
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Never starve your self or eat one meal unless you’re fasting from food. Sure enough you know that it’s unhealthy but it’s important you eat four meals a day. every body is perfect you’re beautiful I’m pretty sure some of your friends have at least one part of their body their insecure of. your not the only one. So keep your head up your doing amazing 🤩☺️
As someone who suffers with not liking their body image,i'm very skinny and i try to gain weight but it just doesn't happen so this helped alot because i get bullied alot for it!!
i’m so glad this helped! yes everyone goes through different things when it comes to body image 💗💗💗
SAMEEEEE!!!!!! I’m also skinny and I have the same problem. 😞
@@lifeisgreat8266 finally someone who has the same problem hope everything gets better for you
Same I look like a twig and as a 14 year old I look like a flat pancake it makes me compare myself and to make things worse I feel like people look down on me bc of my height and not looking grown up enough for a freshmen (5’1) :(
@@izzysvlogs8767 i hope everything gets better
I have my insecurities and now I accept that I have the body I have because I’m a teen girl going through things and my body is changing ❤
ohh- i clicked this video because i have been recently struggling more about body image than i have in the past. when i say i related to absolutely everything you said in this video, that is no joke... recently, i have found myself eating less and less and working out to the point that i feel shaky and almost to the point where i am about to faint... i know it is unhealthy, but i am obsessed with gaining the "perfect body" in my head, but my body is made to be more on the muscular side, so it doesnt really help to lose weight.. my friends tell me often i look good in dresses or whatever, but im constantly looking at myself thinking my face is too round(which for me, i have a naturally more round face) and i feel like my thighs are too big when the ppl around me tell me they arent.. and about the bloating, i know everyone has that, but whenever i get bloated throughout the day and see myself in the mirror wearing the same outfit i had been wearing that day that maybe i felt fine in when i left the house, i see myself as fat and ugly and then thats the only thing i can focus on from then.... i cant have fun bc i am too hyper focused on how i look. i often have the urge to eat rly small portions that to me look too much still, but my mom will look at and say it is too little... it feels like a never ending fight with my mind and body and it gets more and more exhausting each day.. i know other people will relate with me, so i say this so you know you arent alone.
Thank you so much for making this video! It was super relatable and it’s really helpful to see other people like me going through similar things. I know what helps for me is to just remind myself that I am beautiful and my own person and that everyone is different and beautiful in their own way. But thank you so much for sharing your experiences on here because I know it’s hard but it was super helpful and it has provided a space where anyone can share and relate to what everyone is going through with body image and eating.❤️❤️❤️
of course! i am so glad that you felt like you could relate to someone, and yes everyone is perfect in their own way. yes it was hard but it's worth it for people to be able to have someone to relate to... thank you so much, i'm so glad
Get her to 30k EVERYONE she is so underrated it’s crazy ily ruby ❤️❤️❤️
aww ur so sweet!! thank you sm ly too 💞💕💕
Hi Ruby I just want to say thank u so much for posting this. There is so many people struggling with body image who need to hear this.
Thank you so much I needed this
of course ❤️❤️❤️ hope i could help!!
This video is so amazing and helpful Ruby I could relate to most of the things you said sadly i’m so sorry you have to deal with this being a preteen/teenager is honestly harder than I thought it would be but with people like you sharing story situations and advise it makes it that a little bit easier tysm for making such amazing videos for all of us xx
thank you so much! yeah i totally relate, aww that makes me so happy, ty
My earliest memories of feeling insecure about my body was at around 8/9 years old. I hit puberty way earlier than the rest of my classmates (I had my first period at 9,5!) and I remember that being taller than the whole class, having a bigger chest and wearing a bra made me so anxious.. I also dealt with anxiety and trichotillomania at the time which made it even worse.. Fast forward to today, I am 15 years old (still insecure) but constantly remind myself that I am beautiful and that personality matters a lot more than looks! 🧡
yes i've heard that people who start puberty earlier feel more insecure, and that's just horrible because everyone matures at their own rate and no one should feel bad about starting earlier... i'm sorry you went through all that and that ur still insecure. those reminders are so great and true!! :)
Same! I got puberty in like grade 3 and my chest is still bigger than than the others. But its really gotten to me the last 3 years. ;(( thanks ruby!
I just love Ruby's channel.It's just so amazing..She puts a smile on my face whenever I'm down..She is just ✨AMAZING✨
thank you so much ahhhh
girly, you are so sweet and i don’t know why anyone would EVER say those things. you are more than enough. i’m not the person to be commenting on anybody’s RUclips or Instagram or whatever but the way that you shine the light in this world gets me through every day. Don’t listen to what they think. You’re amazing🥰
thank you so much, this comment made my day
awwwww❤️
ruby you are so beautiful and im sorry you feel this way but remember the first step of loving yourself is accepting yourself for who you are and what you look like. as long as you are eating good, getting a little bit of exercise, and sleeping good, you're healthy and that's what's best for your body. at the end of the day, its your body and you have to live in it for the rest of your life so you might as well embrace it. and like you said, no one is the same and no one is perfect and everyone has insecurities. and remember, most people aren't even paying attention to how you look, they're too busy worrying about how they look (and if they are commenting on your appearance, that just shows how insecure they are). anyways have a good rest of your day :)
thank you so much, this comment really meant a lot to me... have a great day
I love how real ruby is compared to other youtubers I hate how some other people pretend they are perfect everyone is beautiful in their own way I was really insecure in 2 years ago but I have learned that everyone is great and beautiful in their own way bcs I got skinny shamed by one of my own best friends bcs she was saying stuff like “why don’t u eat” and “u need to eat more”
Thank you so much- the more you kept talking the more I thought about my self saying these things…
there are so many more things I want to say but I know that the other comments will say what I’m thinking a hundred times over
I just want to keep reminding you that you are SO FRICKING GORGEOUS AND BEAUTIFUL
Keep telling yourself that even if you don’t believe it YET but I really hope u do soon
i’m glad you could feel less alone and thank you sm, reminding you of that too ❤️❤️❤️
tysm for posting this bc last year i used to be soo insecure and then this year i met my best friend and she would alwyas complment me and i would be so shocked anyone woudl complment me bc like i woudlnt say i’m skinny nor fat i was almsot like both so i was like why would anyone complment someone like me and then she woudl do it more and more and she would literally make me feel sm better and then slowly a couple months later i started looking “pretty” all of a sudden and i realized i wasn’t just “lucky “ it was my attitude that changed towards my body and then the more confident i got with myself the more complments i would get and i stopped caring how ppl thought of me bc there opinions don’t matter to me if i love my body i’m gonna love my body there opinion isn’t gonna change that and i remember in october i weighed a lot in my opinion i was average for my height and age but i thought it was bad bc soem and most of my friends were lighter then me but then a few months later i weighed myself again and aprently since october i had lost 6 or more pounds and it made me so happy bc i cried in october when i saw how much i weighted and when i was this is was so happy but ofc there are days where i thibk i look fat and i have bad days but i have good days two erbtone does some days i could be super confident and others i could think i’m the ugliest human to exist so basically i just wanan say and i love hwo your talking abt your experience bc every experience is different and i love that you are being awareness to this subject bc it’s not a subject everyone is ready to tlak to i love that your doing this for ppl struggling ilysm
Thank you for talking abt this!! people definitely need to talk abt body image more openly. also in 8:12 u began to talk abt being jealous abt naturally skinny people. i'm naturally skinny and people always tell me how jealous they are of me or how lucky i am to be skinny, when in reality i wish i were at a healthy weight. every time i go to the doctor i'm told to gain weight but it truly is easier said than done.So i guess i just wanted to say be careful what you wish for because the reality of being skinny isn't always what it seems. everyone wants to be skinny and i truly don't think people think about the downsides. everybody is beautiful and everybody is different and that's ok
just like the one and only Zendaya said
"Nobody's Ugly, that doesn't exist"
and i'll leave it at that.
I related to this video greatly♥️ Especially the long torso short leg part, it felt really good to hear these things from someone so similar to me✨Thank you so much! New sub!!
i'm so glad you could relate! ofc and welcome to the channel aww
(Possible TW) I've struggled with body image for a long time. I used to hate looking in the mirror because of how I looked. I'm working on loving myself and I thought I might share some words of advice I guess.
Food is fuel and balance is key. Your body is going to change SO much as you grow and change and that is totally normal. For every thing you don't love about yourself, someone is jealous of just as many. If you ever struggle with thoughts of self-harm, please talk to someone because I promise it will get better. I believe that God created us because he has a plan for us and that in itself makes us all perfect.
I hope that you all can love yourselves through the good and bad. You've got this and I believe in you.❤
i'm sorry that you have struggled with that... your advice is amazing, thank you so much for it
One thing that I’ve don’t that helps is to look at yourself in the mirror every day and say to yourself that you are beautiful, and just give yourself complements. I love your videos so much ruby and you are such an inspiration!
i've been struggling with my body image. imagine that when u pass a mirror, the only things u see are ur body ''mistakes'' (that's what i've been saying to myself ) i wasn't even seeing my beautiful features!
and the only thing u think about is a way to change these mistakes. that that's what that would make u feel happy abt ur body. but guess what : no!!! the only way that u can appreciate ur body is to accept it! i realized that and i also realized that thats when u start feeling pretty that u become it! i worked on myself and on my confidence to feel better :)))))
so right now i think that my body is just perfect.
and urs is too!
thankyou sm ruby. i thought i was the only one battling with this. sometimes i like to be strong and believe that there's nothing wrong with me and like i'm the perfect teen, but no i can't. i'm skinny but i wish i was skinnier, i count my calories sometimes and also starve in school some days, the whole of last week i starved myself, i hate it when i eat. sometimes i love my body sometimes i don't i wish i had a different body. i had gone through extreme weight loss and also added. my family thinks there's nothing wrong with me that i'm that perfect little girl, but no i'm not, i'm 13 now and i care what people think. whole of easter i restricted, worked out and all. please pray for me im scared i love you ruby
of course, you are definitely not the only one! i relate to this a lot and i am so sorry that you are struggling with this, i know it's easy for me to say but please don't starve yourself, you are beautiful and worth so much more... i hope that you can see this soon, ly too and sending love
thank you so much for posting this I was really struggling with my body image. I’ve been bullied for being to wide/skinny so I’m so grateful for people like you being so nice
of course! sorry you're struggling and that you've been bullied :( thank you!!
Ik this is a month later but I feel you. I am so glad I found your channel. I also struggle with body image and reminding myself that I’m me and can’t be anyone else. I’m super skinny and I just want to be an average size, your body type. My enemy and I mean ENEMY are swimsuits. I once tried on every. Single. One they had at the store and they were all way to big or too small. Now that I realize it social media has changed this world completely. When I was little I loved myself and didn’t care how I looked. My insecurities started in 5th grade. I looked at my friends and compared myself to them. Sometimes I wish I didn’t live in this generation. It’s sad that almost everyone goes through this but I’m also glad we arnt alone and going through this together. Tysm for being an inspiration to me and being real! ly ❤️
As someone who seriously suffers with this and is overcoming my eating disorder I love this!
i’m so sorry that you have had to go through that ❤️❤️❤️ thank you!
I was thinking about this earlier when I was trying on swimsuits, honestly I don't want to shove this in some people's faces but I'm pretty happy with my body now, and idk why people are so worried I mean I do understand but like I don't think that ugly is a word! Because everyone is beautiful in there own body and some people are smaller, bigger, taller, shorter and I think everyone should be more confident and I know that's easier said then done but FOR REAL! You're body is a blessing and you should respect you're body and others
Edit: so when I mean I'm happy with my body "now" basically back in August I got sick and this lasted for 8 months where like everyday I was nauseous and I didn't eat like anything for weeks so I was 72 pounds ( keep in mind I was 9) and I lost 12 pounds that I didn't need to lose so after months 5 doctors and meditation I'm feeling better this has been gone for a few months and I hope it will stay that way so now I'm eating I normal amount however I feel like it's alot because back then I wasn't eating so finally I can say that I'm happy with my body I'm not skinny and I'm not over Wight I'm really happy so yeah there's what I meant
I can relate, for some reason at random, I struggle with body image and my brain subconsciously makes me stop eating idk
yes exactly you are so right!! i'm sorry you went through that before and that's amazing that you are in that mindset now
I’m so sorry ruby that you went through that. There isn’t a “perfect” body in this world. Remember ruby, every one isn’t perfect, and those insecurities are what makes you beautiful. You are not alone. ❤️
thank you ❤️❤️ this comment helped!
@@rubixcubix28 im so glad it helped! you aren’t alone in this world!
"I am beautiful"
Ok so I was really insecure about myself ,because I was always the short and the immature girl in my class.(I'm 4'11 rn,I turn 15 in october lmao) I was always bullied for that. Everyone was mature, and there was me with a door body lmao. But time passed, and now I am confident almost everyday. Of course there are days that I feel like I'm not enough, and on thoose days I compare myself to social media, but if I have enough energy, I work out and do exercises. I started working out for about a month, and I can already see progress and I'm soooo happy.
Anyone who's reading this, you are beautiful and enough, don't compare yourself to social media , cuz that just won't help anything. Try to find something about your body that you like, and focus on that!! Ily!!
thank you so much for watching! i am so sorry that you were bullied and that you went through that, but omg i'm so proud of you for being confident and happy now!! the advice is amazing thank you, ly too
Sometimes I do feel very insecure about how my body looks and it’s really hard but we are not alone, there are so many people going through the same thing. Thanks for spreading awareness about so many topics and many people appreciate it so much.
ugh i'm sorry you're insecure but yes we are not alone! of course
I relate to this so much! I’m in my puberty ages where I get a lot of different chances in my body. My thighs have always been a huge insecurity but I’ve been growing out of that. And I’ve always had a “pooch” and it was a HUGE insecurity and I started exercising more and now I do it more for me than for my body. At lunch I had gotten in a fight with a boy that sat behind me and I heard him say, “she eats too much,” and I started crying. He started saying my name and his friends were like, “no don’t say it!” And I kept saying, “no! What do you want?” He didn’t tell me that I eat too much, but that memory will always be a motivation for me bc I don’t need to listen to people like him. Ily ruby bc you’re such an amazing person!!❤️❤️
i am sorry that you have been struggling with insecurities but i'm glad that you have the mindset where you don't listen to like what happened to you... ly too aww thank you so much
@@rubixcubix28 ❤️❤️
thank you sooooooooooo much. I never thought that we would kinda be the exact same person in the way we think. Every "unhealthy" thing you pointed out I think about too. It's so inspiring and great to see someone my age post something like this and I just want to say thanks for how much you have helped me :) 💕
of course! yeah it’s crazy how many people out there can relate… i’m so glad i could help aww thank you 💗
thank you for making a video on this they make me hate myself my parents call me fat, people at school bodyshame me. as if right now I still suffer from body image issues and I hope that i learn to love myself one day
don’t listen to them bc you really are beautiful and deserve to love yourself 💗
Honestly whenever I hate my body I go in the mirror and compliment myself. Like I'll say i love my belly because it's cute and it means I'm eating enough food! Hope this helped and remember imperfections make u perfect
Hi ruby!! So I was struggling with body image but I just try and remember that I was put on the earth for a reason and most things you care about (insecurities) other people find interesting about you in a good way!!! Everyone is so pretty y’all so gorgeous!!! Ruby ur amazing and you don’t need to change ur pretty and brave for doing this!! 💗💗💗
exactly that is such a good reminder!! i’m sorry you have been struggling :( thank you so much omg ur so sweet 💞💞
@@rubixcubix28 u too 💖💖
I definitely could relate to this video and as a 14 girl who is 5’1 and going into high school I am always looked down on for my height and even sometimes just being smaller than the rest of my peers and friends even my friends sometimes joke about it which makes me feel worse inside but also thx for your amazing content ruby keep it up :) and ty for sharing your struggle and reality for many girls ❤️❤️
yeah i have been made fun of for being short too!! just remember that everyone has a different height so don’t feel bad about it, you are so perfect the way you are… thank you! of course ❤️❤️
@@rubixcubix28 thx for responding and hopefully I’ll stop comparing myself 🥰 love you ruby recently subscribed bc I love your content 😩🙌🏻💗
*Pls read to the end*
I'm 11 an I've been insecure since I was 8, only because I looked in the mirror and said I wished that I looked much more like my friends especially the friend I had at grade 3 who was really beautiful. My mum also sometimes say that I'm too skinny and I should gain some weight. When I started puberty, I started hating my body shape because I had pimples,thick thighs,small hips and stuff like that.And it actually affected my mental health for 3 years.
But now I've left all the negative thoughts and I try more every day to tell myself that I am unique and perfect just the way I am.
Just a reminder:
Always love yourself no matter what and realise that you're perfect, don't be intimidated by any one else
the past 4 weeks I have struggling w/ eating calling myself overweight, semi-fainting during the day and just really struggling with my body image. Your video came at the right time thank you.
i’m so sorry you’ve been struggling with that… i hope i could help ❤️❤️
Remember, all bodies are different!! We can get through this!!
yes!!
EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL!!!! EVERYONE IS WORTHY!!!!
EVERYONE DESERVES FOOD!!!!
EVERYONE DESERVES TO FEEL LOVE!!!
^^^
Im sorry for ur experince in the begging of the vid but i thank u for putting that in the vid because i can relate to that and i hope u know ur not alone😢💖.Btw ily and ur one of the real relatable youtubers out there💕
thank you
it’s so amazing that you talk about this! it’s my 12th birthday and i feel like people should take about this more! keep going ruby, you’re doing the right thing! ❤️
happy birthday!!
@@kate.the.great.24 thank you so much!!
@⊹ ｡˚ luvlykeila ɞ . ･ﾟ: ofc!!
@tunafishy thank you :)
thank you!! ahhh happy birthday 💗💗💗💖💖💖 i agree that ppl should talk about this more too, ty :)
I just wanna say that your Chanel is super inspiring, and it’s so helpful cause you talk about things that are important like body image, and periods. But that is exactly what a lot of people I put generation need to hear!
Plus..your automatically amazing cause you have Gilmore girls posters up 😌
aww thank you! i'm glad i can help! ahaha yup elite show
As someone who has had insecurities my whole life, but especially since year 5, (10-11 years old) it really sucks sometimes so thankyou for making this video!
yeah i relate :( ofc!
@@rubixcubix28 omg yay I love ur videos they are so comforting❤️❤️
Im 15 and i also started in summer of 7th grade and it really went downhill from there i struggled with my mental health and i talked to my teacher and i really relate to you, i am 5'6 and i dont look OVERLY fat id say but my mom is a big part of why im insecure but after seeing other people and you talking makes me feel better
I’m 12 years old. I started getting insecure from age ten to eleven and it was about my thighs I never had big problems with my body or anything until one day I just saw my thighs were bigger than everyone else’s I kept comparing and was searching exercises and once I found one I got my period so basically I think it was hormones :( anyways after that it wasn’t just thighs it was my breasts and stomach I was searching how to lose weight all the time and how to be confident because I was always insecure my mum would make me feel better for like three days then I went back to normal. I then started searching pre teen plus size models and every time there was something different that’s when it clicked “there’s only one me” I got what my mum was talking about and slowly I began to love myself I was so confident on my skin and it felt so great. I’m so grateful for my mum because without her I could’ve been in a much more bad state. People at my new school were calling me Sipho (my name is pronounced Sipo but my full one is Siphosami I just shorten since people find it difficult to spell) the big fat hippo. It was just mean and I acknowledge the fat bit but just the bit that girls are demeaning other girls and being mean. And I realised the ones who were doing it were also insecure I didn’t hesitate to report them because why not. I’m now trying to be healthy because I don’t want to develop health problems whilst growing up so I’m just praying it’d be a success baby steps
I’m so happy I found someone who relates to how I feel! All the girls in my school are so so skinny and I always feel huge compared to them but this made me feel more comfortable in my own body :))
i am so glad this helped!!
Tysm I have so much body image and honestly (this really help) also I love your vids and have a awesome summer
of course! i’m so glad this will help ❤️❤️ thank you sm have a great summer!
@@rubixcubix28 your welcome !
Tysm! for posting this because I thought I was the only insecure about my my acne and chest insecurities for example my chest are big but when I see people on social media I would like to be like them but in the same time they would like to be like me!! I just don’t understand!
exactly!
Tysm for posting this. I feel lots of people are scared to talk about this but you are literally the bravest person I know online. LYSM have a amazing summer!!
of course! ahhh ur so sweet ty, i try to be brave bc i know it helps a lot of people to relate ❤️❤️❤️ ly too, have an awesome summer!
Thank you so much for posting this Ruby ❤️ I’ve always been super tiny and underweight, everyone is always telling me to eat more but it just doesn’t help me. I’ve always been insecure about clothing sizes because I’m going to be a sophomore in high school, but some of the only clothes that fit me are in the young girls section. there are times where I get these random “oh no I ate too much. Would throwing it up really be that bad…?” thoughts and convince myself I need to LOSE weight even though I really don’t. Seeing you talk about your struggles and knowing that I’m not alone helps so much :) Thank you again ❤️
of course! i’m so sorry that you have struggled with that :( i can relate to those thoughts ughh i’m glad it helped for you to feel like you weren’t alone!
girl you are so goddamn pretty , don’t listen to what anyone else says🥰🥰🫶🏻
thank you so much omg 💗💗💗
@@rubixcubix28 no problem at all❤️🥰
I love this video so much. I’m so glad that someone came out and talked about this kind of stuff and I cannot thank you for that enough Ruby. Especially the part about emetophobia and throwing up, I feel the exact same way and I’m glad I’m not alone. Thank you.
thank you! i wish more people would talk about this, and i’m glad you could relate to someone. ofc ❤️❤️
this honestly helped me. i thought i was the only one and this truly comforted me
i am so glad ahhh ur definitely not the only one 💗💗💗
I'm sorry Ruby that other people said stuff like that to you, I love you and your videos and you seem like a fantastic person; everyone just has to know it's about the inside that matters, not the outside.
I relate to this so much, it really hit close to home when you said you have a fear of throwing up because I have the same thing.
yeah i’ve had it for a while!
@@rubixcubix28 I’ve also had it for about 6 years so I’m used to it at this point. It sucks so it’s nice to have someone to relate to because not a lot of people have it that I’ve seen.
One day the teacher at my school said ''Who's the skinniest in the class''
Then one girl said my name...I felt so hurt and I started eating more....I compared my body with Idols and I started eating more...But now I realise that I LOVE MYSELF..JUST THE WAY I AM!I LOVE MYSELF ...ENOUGH IS ENOUGH
that's amazing yessss
I love you with all my heart, your videos all ways help me out with a ton of things
that is so sweet aww ly too, i’m so glad 💕💕
I am so bad with my body image. I am so self concious. Thanks so much for this video. All of your videos are so helpful
ugh me too :(( of course ahhh ty!
I'm naturally skinny too and i still feel very insecure about my body and it's so hard sometimes but we need to remember that every body is special and beautiful and we need to take care of ourselves and to be healthy even tho it's can be hard at times. everyone has insecurities, growing up i reliazed that we're so insecure because we think that if we'll have the things others have, we'll be happy.
There's days that i think i look beautiful but I still feel so bad so it doesn't help me feel better lol. Happiness is so hard to create this days lmfao.
I really wanna thank you for being vulnerable and real with us, such a relateble video, im obsessed with your channel!
P.s: everyone in this comment section is enough ❤️
yes this comment is so true!! i think we need to embrace what we have and realize that all bodies are beautiful in their own ways. i rly relate to this lol and aww of course, it was tough to be so vulnerable but now that i see how many people can relate, i'm so glad i did it! thank you so much and yes that reminder is great
I'm very much strugling with body image, and i'm very insecure abd my tummy, my big thights, also my hip dips and way more.. A lot of people i know body shamed me, like my cousin, my sister sometimes even my mom said i was fat or thicker than my skinny sister and i have always dreamt of being skinny, i always try a lot of diets, workouts but i always fail, becouse i end up eating sweets and snacks, And that is not okay! I always feel ugly but my bestie says that i'm beautiful. But the same thing is with my Bestie, She thinks shes ugly and fat but i see her very beautiful.. But this is how life is! I loved the video! You go gurl ^^
ugh i'm so sorry that you are insecure and struggling with that :( you are so beautiful your bestie is right!! thank you sm
@@rubixcubix28 Thanks, Btw Love your content ❤️ Hope you have a good day!
Ruby so glad you posted, it's such an important topic to talk about, you are so gorgeous and ilysm Ruby 🤍💗🙃🙃🦋
thank you so much, it definitely is 💗💗💗 ty and ly too!
I just now recently(and it took awhile) have learned how to be confident and love myself and that I don’t have to look like a shein model lol. I used to not listen to the people who were all “cringe” who would say “god made you perfect” he did. My “best friend” made me REALLY insecure about my nose cause it’s kinda big. But now I realized my nose is like really symmetrical and like a nice size actually. I used to be really skinny but now that I hit puberty I obviously gained wait and I used to hate myself for GOING THROUGH PUBERTY a normal thing!! The thing is though that Christianity really saved me because he makes us perfect in our own way, he made me not hate myself :)
the only way I learned to make peace with the way I look is when I learned to be more grateful than I ever have been. the chance of me being alive right now is 1 in trillions. I am so, so thankful to even have a body and that’s more than most life in the universe can say!! I have decided that life is too short to care about what my body looks like.
this really is so helpful and a great mindset, thank you for sharing it
I struggle with the problem of being skinny no matter how much I eat, and I'm just saying there is no way you're "supposed" to look like. Only you can shape what you want to look like, not some random cyber bully on the internet. The perfect body is such a terrible thing to compare yourself too, it's not worth it, it never was. Thank you for this video Ruby! We are all beautiful, no matter what we look like!
exactly, this is so right, everyone struggles with different things… thank you for saying this! of course ❤️❤️❤️
Thank You for bringing up this topic. These past few days I’ve been feeling very bad about myself and I have many insecurities. Im struggling with body weight and my diet and I’m having my Quinceanera (15th bday party) soon and I’m scared that people will be pointing out those imperfections about me. Anyways hope you’re doing well Ruby! ❤️
of course! yeah i’ve been feeling that way lately too :( have fun at your quinceanera!! hope you’re doing well, and you’re beautiful 💗💗💗
ty!
I am very underweight and I’m insecure about it. My parents tell me to eat more, but I can only eat so much. I’m also insecure about my acne, my smile, my long legs, and my frizzy hair. We’ll get through this together!
yeah it’s rly hard to struggle with insecurities, i’m so sorry but you are beautiful the way you are ❤️❤️❤️ yes we will :)
@@rubixcubix28 thank you ♥️
Same
Mine started with having stomach problems I felt nausea all the time so I stopped eating as much and lost a lot of weight(under weight), I used to not be insecure but now I’m insecure about being too skinny and thinking I look like a skeleton. I’ve been told that before too so that made it worse. I went to the doctors and I am under weight so when I heard that, my brain immediately went EAT MORE. I started eating to the point were I felt sick and then because of that I got disgusted by food once again
i'm so sorry that you are struggling with all of that :((
Omg gurl ty so much making this vid helped me so much I also have thick thighs and it's a bit of an insecurity but this vid helped🤍
of course ❤️❤️ so glad it helped! don’t be insecure, you’re beautiful!
I have sooo much cellulite and I am really insecure about it but I have been watching videos and I feel much better x 💗💗
don’t be insecure! it’a common! glad you feel better 💗💗
I love myself and thanks fir the super inspiring video! I am prepared for teenage years because of your videos :) Thankss
I’m getting better at being more body positive. But when I was 11 I literally thought that if I worked out and ate no sugar I would lose weight and everyone would love me. I actually stopped eating sugar for 2 weeks bcuz I was so insecure. Now I realize, it’s not that easy, and I should love myself no matter what. I still feel insecure but I have been trying to workout to feel better about myself, and I try not to limit myself too much with eating. Unless I’m just eating because I’m bored (I used to do that a lot too)
That’s why I like to be busy. If I’m busy I dont have time to be hungry, and when I’m actually hungry I’ll eat.
I dunno- still feel really insecure but it’s getting better❤❤❤
You could not have posted this at a better time tysm
so glad, ofc
Thank you so much!!! I love how real you are and it makes me feel so much better about myself and I love having someone to relate to! ❤️❤️
of course! ahhh this comment made me so happy, i’m so glad you can relate ❤️❤️❤️
I’m 18 I started taking birth control nearly two years ago (16 years at the time) to regulate my periods. Due to that I started to noticed more growth in my body shape the way I look in general I had a struggled with body image like hair around my belly button, how pale I was , stretch marks etc. my older cousin had anorexia my mum told me I’m beautiful in my know way and not become anorexic. As some with anxiety I learned that it’s normal to have this body shape and that I’m pretty at 5’2 from a short side (from my mums side) of the family my cousins girlfriend told me I’m beautiful and to love myself 💕
I’ve never told anyone but I have been struggling with my body sense 5th grade😔
Edit:One of me best friends started to point them out…. That’s where a lot of it started.
i’m so sorry you’ve gone through that ❤️
Ruby, this was much needed for Me. I struggle with the same things, and I’m sorry you went through this. You’re really beautiful, thanks for opening up about it. it was helpful.
i’m sorry you’re struggling too… thank you so much and of course, so glad it helped ❤️❤️❤️
this was actually really helpful since I have struggled with some of the same things you said like measuring myself in the morning and at night, constantly looking in the mirror, comparing myself to others and many more. I missed about 50 days this school year alone just because I felt too insecure to show up and have people looking at me. I truly hate seeing people edit their pictures like on instagram because it sets up such an unrealistic body image for others. I get they want to seem like they have the 'perfect body' but i'm not sure they realize the impact they have especially on younger audiences. I was fat shamed pretty much my whole life. It first started off with my parents telling me not to eat so much and my brothers and sister calling me fat. The other day my sister called my fat and justified it by saying 'well you basically eat like a whole turkey so you are fat' which first of all i dont even like turkey lmao. and she eats more than me it's just our different metabolisms that make a difference. It can also be very frusturating because i'm the only one in my family who has a slower metabolism while they all eat as much as they want and barely exercise and still are very skinny. I also related a ton with when you said you saw pictures where you thought you were fat at the time but you looked fine. I struggle with this a lot as well and then I start wishing I looked the way I did when I was 8 or 9. And to anyone reading this: i promise you that everyone else is too wrapped up in their own insecurities to be paying attention to yours so don't be like me and miss like 50 days of school because you were too scared to let people see you. Every body is beautiful and this may sound cliche but it's honestly true. All bodies are different, like Ruby said, and all shapes are beautiful.
Also: I AM BEAUTIFUL!! and so are you :)
i am so sorry that you have gone through all of this, i hate when people edit their instagram pictures too, it's just so toxic and unhealthy for other people AND themselves. yes everyone has different metabolisms, and that is so wrong that you were fat-shamed. i'm the same way with my family, they have fast metabolisms and eat tons of food and they're still skinny and i still don't feel skinny even when i eat little and exercise a lot! yup i always wish i looked the way i was when i was younger... thank you for the advice and thank you so much for watching
I wasn’t insecure abt what I looked like until I was 13,I gotten bullied abt my height and just how I am and I still get bullied abt it at 17 almost 18,I see all these beautiful girls and I wish to look like them. One day I think I’m pretty then the next I think I’m rlly ugly,I don’t like my side profile and how I have a baby fave,I don’t like my stomach or my feet but what I do love abt myself is my hair and eyes,idk rlly anything else is jus okay Ig, I just wish I was pretty like them but I get what I get and don’t throw a fit,everyone is beautiful in there own way,jus love urself,ur stuck with urself forever and you can’t always change things abt urself. I sometimes starve myself bc I think if I do that I’d be skinny like I wanted but Ik it’s not healthy and it hurts,I have a love hate relationship with food bc I always loved food until the day I started hating my body,please eat guys it’s rlly important and I’m speaking from experience.when I see/hear that some of these girls on the internet fakes what they look like kinda makes me feel better abt myself but at the same time sad bc I still wanna look like that and so do they so they gotta fake it.
I just wanted to say thank you 💜❤
I have been insecure about my body I was only one that didnt got my period at age of 14 . I watched all of your videos abour periods so I will be ready for my and guess what I just got it this morning ik everything .... just ty 🥺👐
of course! i'm so glad i could help prepare you!
This is soo relatable and I feel so much better after watching this video! Thankyou !
aww glad you could relate! ofc 💕
I recently watched a clip of Taylor Swift talking about her eating disorder and it was so relatable 😭
I'm so happy that I'm doing better now and I think Taylor is too
i think i watched that too, yeah that’s amazing that you’re doing better and i think she is too ur right
I have been struggling with body image for 2days now
This video was just in time for me!!
sorry you’ve been struggling, hope this vid could help!
I was trying to find your account in subscribed but I literally couldn’t bc I was checking if you posted and you did!! And I just got on the video right now and I do struggle with body image because my friend said she had a perfect hourglass body and showed me I got i Safire after that and at the same time I’m like “idc what people think” but also like “I do though...”
And also I’m only 10… I’m turning 11 in 3 days
But I used to do and hourglass workout but I stopped and so I only have 1 insecurity and it’s slowly fading but I don’t feel like it’s gonna get better I’m middle school :( (I am beautiful
yeah i definitely relate to what you are saying! don’t be insecure because everyone’s body is different and one thing about someone else doesn’t mean they’re better than you… thanks for watching ❤️❤️❤️
Omg Ruby, you are like my internet best friend, this was so helpful. I can’t thank u enough :)
aww that means so much! so glad i could help, of course ❤️❤️❤️
I can relate so much, you make me feel much better about my body, thank you! 💕
that makes me so happy omg of course!! ur beautiful
@@rubixcubix28 right back at you, ur the prettiest!! 💖💖