Sherlock was quite interested in People's Profession and he would sometimes deduce it through people's handshakes, haircuts and so on. Surgeons (doctors) and Musicians tend to have a softer handshake because their hands are very important for their work. Military people usually have great posture and short haircuts. People who do extensive manual labor, their dominant hand is usually noticeably bigger. Kindergarden teachers potentially have dirty clothes near the knees area.
Mentalists like Derren Brown excel in using the cold reading techniques that you are describing. The skill of cold reading is also common among politicians, actors, psychics, etc.
i am a musician so i know that if you look at someone hands, you can usually deduct what instrument they are playing. Pianists usually have very soft hands, people who play string instruments have rough fingertips from playing, guitarist (idk if this applies to all but I noticed in some of them) have a longer thumb fingernail.
Robert Downey Jr's micro expressions are real obvious. You can tell that he's just like "I really don't want to talk about this. I'm here to talk about a movie, not my personal life. Please stop."
there are small elements of that feeling that we pick up on mostly intuitively. But he does things like pull up his nose (think of smelling a bad door), which is a disgust reaction, he squints his eyes briefly several times, and his lips drop as was pointed out in the video. Oh and he's trying to fight the urge to raise or furrow his eyebrows (raise in shock, furrow in anger). He's raises his nose in disgust when he's thinking "How dare this guy ask me this, how dare he betray my trust so cheaply", he's squinting when he's wondering what angle this scum bag might have, how he might be trying to rile him up into a poor reaction, and is sizing him up. He drops his lips when he's reliving memories he'd rather not experience, which immediately precedes the intensified breathing as those feelings trigger his flight or fight response. RDJ is weighing up his professional obligations and his desire to leave the entire time. The self control required to be able to think at all in those sorts of confrontations is intense.
What i thought to say " let's keep this professional and about the movies success" usually the interview is always about a project and not about a personal conflict like divorce,past drug issues or who the celeb is dating. And this is neutral not an attack
I don't think that RDJ Interviewer didn't or couldn't read the signs. I think he could and he did. He was fully aware of what he's doing and he pushed on any way.
“Lie to Me” is also a great show to watch to learn nonverbal cues. I watched all 3 seasons multiple times to practice learning subtle gestures. Plus Tim Roth was a great actor
The lessons from watching CoC videos are absorbed and then acted out without thinking about them. I don't need to take notes and consciously remember to act a certain way. And this is why I appreciate the sheer output of this channel - gives me a lot to work with.
The ability to read people well can be a blessing and a curse. People who can lie and cry simultaneously have the power to dance around dragons with a straight face 😊
Huh I had a fake friend who was this. She lied well, decieving most everyone, but not me. But when confronted she burst out of tears so that we would get in trouble (we were schol aged then)
You mentioned people stand ridged when they're uncomfortable. Subconsciously I somehow always knew this tell. There was a girl in High School that I was interested in. We talked a lot, we got along well, and there were other tells as well that I was picking up on as well. She was making eye contact, but would look down at my lips while I was speaking, she'd giggle nervously, and her cheeks would flush. Me being the teenage boy filled with confidence, I broke the touch barrier by taking her hands into mine while subtly implying that she should follow me down a hallway before classes started for the day. Instantly, she seized up. She went ridged and her smile dropped. I thought I had misread the situation. Unfortunately, I read it correctly the first time. It was years later when she told me over Instant Messenger that she had a crush on me, and she thought I wasn't interested in her because I let her go after she seized up. Morale of the story is, when someone is uncomfortable, it's not always for the reasons you think. Turns out she was preparing herself for a serious make out session, and I read it as her getting ready to tell me I was in the friend zone. Such is life...
I started dating a girl and on our 2nd date, we were on a Ferris wheel, I reached over, put my arm around her and tried to pull her closer. She stiffened up so I backed off... We spent the rest of the evening together and I didn't do anything, she seemed stiff for the rest of the evening. When I took her home, I walked her to the door, I think I kissed her on the cheek and said, "Thank you, take care!" She stopped me. She told me that she really likes me, just sometimes has trouble letting people to get close to her. She ask me to give her another chance. We dated for 5 years after that!
Which is likely why RDJ had no problem handling him like a chump. An honest mistake is one thing. But he literally couldn’t have made it clearer that the dude was treading on thin ice, and that it was rapidly getting thinner. Man just figured he’d plow on anyways, and wound up taking a cold bath in RDJ’s contempt.
That interviewer stepped right into one of the pitfalls of interviewing... He presumed that it's somehow a reporter's duty to make interviewees uncomfortable. There's a fairly popular myth that "Good reporters ask hard questions"... AND that's not exactly the way it works. Watch a bunch of interviews, both great and awful, and you'll notice the best interviewers made the space feel comfortable enough for the interviewees to open up. Some interviewees even gave up unsolicited personal information without even being asked... ...not because a reporter kept probing... ...but because the interviewee felt safe in revealing. If you're asking someone difficult questions, you have to be careful. It's easy to cause them to "clam up" and just refuse to share anything anymore... and even the hardest boiled detective runs out of tricks when the communication just gets cut off. Your "subject" can't be lying to you so you can read anything if he doesn't say anything at all. One sides conversations get you nowhere... and they don't take their time about it. ...remember that. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 Exactly. This dude makes it absolutely clear it's about his career and ego scoring "points" with his professional circle and that he really doesn't give a damn about his interviewee. Nobody wants to deal with an asshat like that.
@@JamesRDavenport You are correct, up to the point that he'd be fired in half the "professional interviewing circles" I've known... You get no points for not getting answers. THAT is basic "101 stuff" or even high school level. Some people can get by with being a bit of an asshat. Most of us can't... It's just worth pointing out, this guy has no excuse for not noticing how uncomfortable he was making the whole room... NOR does he deserve a pass for deviating so hard away from the promotion, when we ALL know that was the whole point of arranging the interview in the first place... "epic fail" Some bosses might let one screwed up interview pass... BUT not most of them, and certainly not this badly. ;o)
I (probably being on the spectrum but not growing up in a household that promoted such ideals of mental health for the high functioning) got really good at reading body language. My attention to detail and the smallest things and watching sherlock deduce things paired really well for me in learning more about people. I became and still am really really good at reading people generally speaking. I still have other struggles but body language doesn't lie. I just haaate making eye contact. I found that focusing on the bridge of the nose makes the person perceive eye contact, and equally allows me to asses the micro changes of the face well enough to generally understand what they mean - almost to well at times. This video is a nice collective of what I've been able to intuitively guess at for a long time.
That book is very helpful to learn how to build rapport with anyone. I've used some of the tactics and practices in the book on my coworkers and it works like magic. Really awesome to see how it applys to real life
@@gurkiratsingh8747 Not true. Eyes can be very expressive on their own. If someone's smiling, their eyes will start to squint a bit, the eyebrows will raise, and the skin underneath the eyes will raise as the corners of the mouth push the skin of the cheeks upwards.
Kelsey W Correct, this is called a Duchenne smile, for those that don’t know. When someone is smiling as described, the smile is drawn from genuine emotion. This is how it’s easy to tell if someone is feeling happy when wearing a mask.
The eyes and eyebrows are the biggest sources of expression. You also get a lot from people’s breathing pattern, body direction, arms crossed, and voice tone. Literally the only thing that the mask covers is mouth. That’s only 15-20 % of what you need.
"If they're looking around the room, they're probably either bored or uncomfortable." I wouldn't say that's consistent enough to even give as a tip. They could be talking about people spread across the room, aspects of the room, maybe they're the sort of person who does that in conversation regardless, maybe they're easily distracted, etc.
True, I usually look around the room when I am casually talking because there really isnt anything important on the other person's face. I only look at them directly when its something serious.
True. I really like this channel, but this one is super generic and I've seen a lot of interviews with former CIA agents who've said that these really aren't reliable.
Yeah, you've got to take the situation in consideration. Say if you and a coworker are in Sales on a Showroom floor working and having a conversation. You or they looking around can't be factored in, as it is literally your job to be constantly looking for mark--er--- I mean prospective new clients. ;)
Step 1: spend months if not years studying behavioral psychology, reading practical psychology books and practicing reading people in your day to day life Step 2: ??? Step 3: Profit
Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming even though everyone around you hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.
every since I watched Sherlock, I've started to pay attention on...everything. Obviously I can't be as good as Sherlock :D like...never, but I still can practice (like, I would be a bit better someday, than I am now).
Ah yes, the art of deduction. Elementary my dear Watson I definitely need to get better at reading myself and be aware of these things so other people can't read me like a book 😎 Looking forward to be able to use these methods to help me, thanks!
Actually, body language gives us a lot of information. Sometimes I feel I read it unconsciously, but I believe if I pay more attention to these details I would interpret the people's information more efficiently.
Sherlock Holmes is my favorite and inspiration when I have a conversation on anyone. In fact I had used the point you given and they shock every word I said. Thanks for the video guide to improve my skills and I love it.
5:50 when you want to know the truth, ask the question and watch how they will react in the next few seconds.. so you will know read and understand beyond maybe the person's real reaction And also the eyes, they never lie
I read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie my senior year in college. As I began to apply it’s principles to my everyday life I saw a huge leap in my popularity. Each new friend I made reinforced my ability and confidence level so that when I joined the workforce as an independent CPA I could talk to a CEO or a apprentice plumber with equal ease. I took each new meeting as an opportunity to expand my network and business contacts. It works!!
Ooo I was getting so stoked on applying these to my own bodies observations, cheers for suggesting that mind control is best first and foremost applied to ones self Jocko willink wisdom
The intonation in their voice is also very important. Do you realize when a girl say Hiiii in a high pitched voice; then she is more interested in the guy. Or even when someone makes a joke. The heaviness in their voice highlights the seriousness behind the joke. Usually they wanted to say something serious but due to the situation they had to say it as a joke but unconsciously the heaviness in their voice as they say the joke betrays their intentions
4:39 Or since he's an actor, a master of faking it, he reeeally knows how to use body language to scream messages even if he doesn't actually feels this way, you can see this when he was really pissed at the end of the interview, he could be very well faking it, exaggering it, using intimidation as a weapon (Tywin style, specially book Tywin) and not being that angry.
A few years ago, when I had just stepped into adulthood, I used to be really tough on myself and call myself a weirdo, and think that I’m superbad at reading people. I’m not autistic or aspie, but I do have ADHD and my social skills were less than average. So I worked on that part and improved myself, and now it feels like most adults I know, are worse in reading others than I ever was! People really take it for granted, but it’s important.
Excellent advice. I also use this channel to pick Netflix shows I can watch that will teach me inter personal skills while being entertaining at the same time.
Best way to understand someone body language is thinking how would you react if you were in the same situation ie: first date and you get hugged by your date the moment you walk in.
@@KarmasAB123 Eccentricity is literally the main reason why this debate leans more towards Benedict being the slightly better Sherlock in the entirety of the internet. Look it up on Quora, Reddit and every other article about the subject. I'm not saying it, most of the fanbase is and I agree completely. Of course, everyone is welcome to have different opinions though.
One thing i would recommend is not to intellelectulize it. You have to feel how it would feel to that microexoresison and that can tell you. You dont have to interpret with words but register it as a feeling. For example with a smile. How does thst smile make you feel is it odd or does jt feel genuine.
I don't think Anger is a negative emotion. Cause it can be used in a positive way. I think the right way to say it would be positive or negative situation, cause emotions are there just to help us. Or Bigger Intellects can call it just situations to go through life, not considering anything positive or negative. But I don't think I've reached there quite yet.
I think you mean the reaction to Anger? Is not negative. Emotions we dont like to feel, especially because of the self detrimental reactions it brings out on us, are negative. I dont think its "bad" to describe them as negative or postive emotions. But the importance is understanding what we do in response is still in our control. And we can decide for how long we feel those things. So I dont think anyone can avoid feeling anger or sadness but they can decide to leave that state of being as quickly as possible. ✌
@@emblem9242 The point I was trying to make was, When you define things like Anger or Sadness as negative, people start to avoid them. Just like you said "leave it as quickly as possible". If you don't let the natural course of things to run, you can burst out in Anger or get depressed by enormous Sadness. That's why I said, you shouldn't consider them as negative. A good example would be, if you feel like something wrong is going on, or something wrong has happened, what emotion are going to feel? That's right, Anger. And without that little bit of anger how are you going to keep your focus or motivation on correcting things. What are gonna do instead? Smile and act like a clown? That's why I said, we shouldn't categorise emotions as positive or negative. It's all about balancing them, like spices in a dish, too much salt or sugar etc or too little of them doesn't taste well or taste at all respectively.
Nearly time I drive the Jeep I built with a diesel engine (unusual sound), I immediately pick up on people (guys, lol) in the parking lot I am driving through showing interest in it just by their body language (sometimes I will stop and talk, other times I'm in a rush and it's annoying). Now I know what a "hot chick" feels like... she knows I am staring, lol!!!!!!!!
4:18 You can probably fake this too by becoming a good actor and use this as a weapon (Kira style). Especially if you establish yourself as someone inexpressive.
That's a self-limiting line of thought. Being on the autistic spectrum might make us less adept (and thus less practiced and less skilled) at reading body language and social cues, but it's still a skill that can - and should - be learned, even though it might be more difficult for us than for most.
Sherlock was quite interested in People's Profession and he would sometimes deduce it through people's handshakes, haircuts and so on.
Surgeons (doctors) and Musicians tend to have a softer handshake because their hands are very important for their work.
Military people usually have great posture and short haircuts.
People who do extensive manual labor, their dominant hand is usually noticeably bigger.
Kindergarden teachers potentially have dirty clothes near the knees area.
good job sherlock-kun
Mentalists like Derren Brown excel in using the cold reading techniques that you are describing. The skill of cold reading is also common among politicians, actors, psychics, etc.
@@error5753 and pickup artists
i am a musician so i know that if you look at someone hands, you can usually deduct what instrument they are playing. Pianists usually have very soft hands, people who play string instruments have rough fingertips from playing, guitarist (idk if this applies to all but I noticed in some of them) have a longer thumb fingernail.
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Robert Downey Jr's micro expressions are real obvious. You can tell that he's just like "I really don't want to talk about this. I'm here to talk about a movie, not my personal life. Please stop."
there are small elements of that feeling that we pick up on mostly intuitively. But he does things like pull up his nose (think of smelling a bad door), which is a disgust reaction, he squints his eyes briefly several times, and his lips drop as was pointed out in the video. Oh and he's trying to fight the urge to raise or furrow his eyebrows (raise in shock, furrow in anger). He's raises his nose in disgust when he's thinking "How dare this guy ask me this, how dare he betray my trust so cheaply", he's squinting when he's wondering what angle this scum bag might have, how he might be trying to rile him up into a poor reaction, and is sizing him up. He drops his lips when he's reliving memories he'd rather not experience, which immediately precedes the intensified breathing as those feelings trigger his flight or fight response. RDJ is weighing up his professional obligations and his desire to leave the entire time. The self control required to be able to think at all in those sorts of confrontations is intense.
The RDJ interview will forever make me feel uncomfortable.
What i thought to say " let's keep this professional and about the movies success" usually the interview is always about a project and not about a personal conflict like divorce,past drug issues or who the celeb is dating. And this is neutral not an attack
,,Not every hard swallow is a sign of dishonesty"
Why is that the most important lesson, I've learned from this.
😪 clearly u watch too much porn cause u lonely n scared to approach women respectfully
It's a meme, not a d*ck, don't take it so hard B-)
@@bugeye8749 what the frick are women?
@@Astavyastataa your mom
your personality = memes....
I don't think that RDJ Interviewer didn't or couldn't read the signs. I think he could and he did. He was fully aware of what he's doing and he pushed on any way.
Yep. I'm almost positive I've seen him do the same thing in another interview with someone else. What a tool.
Humans are strange creatures’
Yes but is a good example to use. Perfect example.
totally spot on.... the guy is a tw@t... he's had other similar interviews... ambush tactics for sesational reaction...
"There is nothing more deceptive than an obvious fact"
---Arthur Conan Doyle,
‘I love you’
@Apo Galiev who's the author
Is it not 'elusive' rather than 'deceptive' ? Feel free to correct me if i'm wrong.
"People point their feet towards the things/people they like"
That's the reason why a dead guy at a funeral points at the sky
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Lol
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@@rexaustin2885 facts
“Lie to Me” is also a great show to watch to learn nonverbal cues. I watched all 3 seasons multiple times to practice learning subtle gestures. Plus Tim Roth was a great actor
Thanks I'll check it out
@@nihalm2684 I was SOOOOO angry when it just ended in the middle of the season right after a huge character development scene RUDE
You might like the book, Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell.
Pamela Gaudet Wth?! I was at my doctors appointment today and we were talking about this exact book!
The lessons from watching CoC videos are absorbed and then acted out without thinking about them. I don't need to take notes and consciously remember to act a certain way. And this is why I appreciate the sheer output of this channel - gives me a lot to work with.
that's the frailty of genius, john. it needs an audience
The ability to read people well can be a blessing and a curse. People who can lie and cry simultaneously have the power to dance around dragons with a straight face 😊
Huh I had a fake friend who was this. She lied well, decieving most everyone, but not me. But when confronted she burst out of tears so that we would get in trouble (we were schol aged then)
@@aarna6853 Damn, you had those skills in school, noice.
This is very true. Anyone raised in an abusive environment quickly learns to read people, even if it's subconscious.
very wise
That’s how I got out of mandatory military service lol
You mentioned people stand ridged when they're uncomfortable. Subconsciously I somehow always knew this tell. There was a girl in High School that I was interested in. We talked a lot, we got along well, and there were other tells as well that I was picking up on as well. She was making eye contact, but would look down at my lips while I was speaking, she'd giggle nervously, and her cheeks would flush.
Me being the teenage boy filled with confidence, I broke the touch barrier by taking her hands into mine while subtly implying that she should follow me down a hallway before classes started for the day. Instantly, she seized up. She went ridged and her smile dropped. I thought I had misread the situation. Unfortunately, I read it correctly the first time. It was years later when she told me over Instant Messenger that she had a crush on me, and she thought I wasn't interested in her because I let her go after she seized up.
Morale of the story is, when someone is uncomfortable, it's not always for the reasons you think. Turns out she was preparing herself for a serious make out session, and I read it as her getting ready to tell me I was in the friend zone. Such is life...
I started dating a girl and on our 2nd date, we were on a Ferris wheel, I reached over, put my arm around her and tried to pull her closer. She stiffened up so I backed off... We spent the rest of the evening together and I didn't do anything, she seemed stiff for the rest of the evening.
When I took her home, I walked her to the door, I think I kissed her on the cheek and said, "Thank you, take care!" She stopped me. She told me that she really likes me, just sometimes has trouble letting people to get close to her. She ask me to give her another chance. We dated for 5 years after that!
I’m not sure to congratulate you or send my condolences
Arent you thinking of maybe getting back to her?
Aww that's kinda... :(
@@greencertifiedweb Thanks for sharing that experience..brings back memories. :)
Usually the *smallest movements and signs* are a _big_ hint about how people are feeling.
The interviewer knew full well that Robert Downey Jr. was uncomfortable. He just didn't care.
Which is likely why RDJ had no problem handling him like a chump.
An honest mistake is one thing. But he literally couldn’t have made it clearer that the dude was treading on thin ice, and that it was rapidly getting thinner. Man just figured he’d plow on anyways, and wound up taking a cold bath in RDJ’s contempt.
That interviewer stepped right into one of the pitfalls of interviewing... He presumed that it's somehow a reporter's duty to make interviewees uncomfortable. There's a fairly popular myth that "Good reporters ask hard questions"... AND that's not exactly the way it works.
Watch a bunch of interviews, both great and awful, and you'll notice the best interviewers made the space feel comfortable enough for the interviewees to open up. Some interviewees even gave up unsolicited personal information without even being asked...
...not because a reporter kept probing...
...but because the interviewee felt safe in revealing.
If you're asking someone difficult questions, you have to be careful. It's easy to cause them to "clam up" and just refuse to share anything anymore... and even the hardest boiled detective runs out of tricks when the communication just gets cut off. Your "subject" can't be lying to you so you can read anything if he doesn't say anything at all. One sides conversations get you nowhere... and they don't take their time about it.
...remember that. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 Exactly. This dude makes it absolutely clear it's about his career and ego
scoring "points" with his professional circle and that he really doesn't give a damn about his interviewee. Nobody wants to deal with an asshat like that.
@@JamesRDavenport You are correct, up to the point that he'd be fired in half the "professional interviewing circles" I've known... You get no points for not getting answers. THAT is basic "101 stuff" or even high school level.
Some people can get by with being a bit of an asshat. Most of us can't...
It's just worth pointing out, this guy has no excuse for not noticing how uncomfortable he was making the whole room... NOR does he deserve a pass for deviating so hard away from the promotion, when we ALL know that was the whole point of arranging the interview in the first place... "epic fail"
Some bosses might let one screwed up interview pass... BUT not most of them, and certainly not this badly. ;o)
Omg I’ve ALWAYS wanted to watch a video like this- yes! I’m so excited to watch this- Sherlock is AMAZING!
Soooo happy you finally did this! I remember requesting this over a year or two ago. Sherlock is one of my favorite shows! ❤
I (probably being on the spectrum but not growing up in a household that promoted such ideals of mental health for the high functioning) got really good at reading body language. My attention to detail and the smallest things and watching sherlock deduce things paired really well for me in learning more about people. I became and still am really really good at reading people generally speaking. I still have other struggles but body language doesn't lie. I just haaate making eye contact. I found that focusing on the bridge of the nose makes the person perceive eye contact, and equally allows me to asses the micro changes of the face well enough to generally understand what they mean - almost to well at times. This video is a nice collective of what I've been able to intuitively guess at for a long time.
You don't just need Sherlock's observation skills, you also need to have enough knowledge in almost everything to guess correctly.
Read a lot, enjoy learning and have the kind of memory to retain as much of it as possible.
Interpersonal tact requires the ability to read the room.
E.V.A V2000
😉
Rigid body is a deceiving sign. Is the sign of discomfort but it may be due to high affection for example. Or uncertainty.
“Crime is common. Logic is rare.”
Opened up french captions and now i can read anyone in french!
Yes! Finally, a Sherlock vid...
I HAVE NEVER CLICKED THAT FAST
Omg actually love Sherlock so much very helpful thank you can’t wait to use these tips
Oh thank you, i was waiting for Benedict's from a long time.
Thank you times 100
How about analyzing Davos seaworth's method of negotiation
Please make part 2 on this please it helps helps me a lot
5:17 That's My Sherlock Holmes , He applied it in real life 🥰
I Loved Guy Ritchie's Movies more than Series
That book is very helpful to learn how to build rapport with anyone. I've used some of the tactics and practices in the book on my coworkers and it works like magic. Really awesome to see how it applys to real life
Everyone wears a mask now, so I guess facial expression is out
@@gurkiratsingh8747 Not true. Eyes can be very expressive on their own. If someone's smiling, their eyes will start to squint a bit, the eyebrows will raise, and the skin underneath the eyes will raise as the corners of the mouth push the skin of the cheeks upwards.
Kelsey W
Correct, this is called a Duchenne smile, for those that don’t know. When someone is smiling as described, the smile is drawn from genuine emotion. This is how it’s easy to tell if someone is feeling happy when wearing a mask.
I dunno. You can sometimes read smiles based on the eyes. I guess it depends on the person. Closed body language you'd have to be blind to miss tho.
The eyes and eyebrows are the biggest sources of expression. You also get a lot from people’s breathing pattern, body direction, arms crossed, and voice tone. Literally the only thing that the mask covers is mouth. That’s only 15-20 % of what you need.
@@gurkiratsingh8747 if they don't smile with their eyes it isn't a genuine smile, it's a polite smile.
The best video since Ben started doing videos again.
Agreed! That Dale Carnegie book should be mandatory reading for anyone who deals with the public. I've read it numerous times!
"If they're looking around the room, they're probably either bored or uncomfortable."
I wouldn't say that's consistent enough to even give as a tip. They could be talking about people spread across the room, aspects of the room, maybe they're the sort of person who does that in conversation regardless, maybe they're easily distracted, etc.
True, I usually look around the room when I am casually talking because there really isnt anything important on the other person's face. I only look at them directly when its something serious.
True. I really like this channel, but this one is super generic and I've seen a lot of interviews with former CIA agents who've said that these really aren't reliable.
As a socially anxious person, I look around constantly because I'm just not comfortable staring at the other person's face constantly.
ericpowell96 can you maybe name the channel or some Titels from the videos because I would love to watch them
Yeah, you've got to take the situation in consideration. Say if you and a coworker are in Sales on a Showroom floor working and having a conversation. You or they looking around can't be factored in, as it is literally your job to be constantly looking for mark--er--- I mean prospective new clients. ;)
Step 1: spend months if not years studying behavioral psychology, reading practical psychology books and practicing reading people in your day to day life
Step 2: ???
Step 3: Profit
"Time to go to work, Work all day, We need hey!
We won't stop until we have !
Yum tum yummy tum tay!"
Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming even though everyone around you hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.
07:34 - i am on the cusp of finishing it as we speak and can atest it's a very good book/read.
every since I watched Sherlock, I've started to pay attention on...everything. Obviously I can't be as good as Sherlock :D like...never, but I still can practice (like, I would be a bit better someday, than I am now).
YEEES!! This book is amazing! It change my life, really!
Ah yes, the art of deduction. Elementary my dear Watson
I definitely need to get better at reading myself and be aware of these things so other people can't read me like a book 😎
Looking forward to be able to use these methods to help me, thanks!
@Lambert Simnel 😂😂😂😂😂this is funny
Actually, body language gives us a lot of information. Sometimes I feel I read it unconsciously, but I believe if I pay more attention to these details I would interpret the people's information more efficiently.
this was the most awaited video on this channel
Sherlock Holmes is my favorite and inspiration when I have a conversation on anyone. In fact I had used the point you given and they shock every word I said. Thanks for the video guide to improve my skills and I love it.
Gotta read people ! ! ! 🔥
5:50 when you want to know the truth, ask the question and watch how they will react in the next few seconds..
so you will know read and understand beyond maybe the person's real reaction
And also the eyes, they never lie
I read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie my senior year in college. As I began to apply it’s principles to my everyday life I saw a huge leap in my popularity. Each new friend I made reinforced my ability and confidence level so that when I joined the workforce as an independent CPA I could talk to a CEO or a apprentice plumber with equal ease. I took each new meeting as an opportunity to expand my network and business contacts. It works!!
Wow this is one of your best videos
Gotta take a moment to appreciate your editing
Nobody:
Me: *feels like a sherlock for knowing how to read body language*
Really was waiting for a BBC sherlock breakdown , been a great fan❤ , Thank You Ben...
More videos like this about Sherlock, please
Please do a charisma study on Elijah Mikaelson from "The Originals"
Hi , can you make video about Cristiano Rolando charisma ?
Than you so much
Pls lord I hope nobody can read me when I'm masking my social anxiety 😶 (this is my fav channel for teaching me how not to flub conversations btw. 💜)
I’m so bad at conversations with people I’m not comfortable with yet😪
Ooo I was getting so stoked on applying these to my own bodies observations, cheers for suggesting that mind control is best first and foremost applied to ones self Jocko willink wisdom
this is brilliant!!
Have you ever looked at the show ‘Lie to Me’ great for the micro expression
I don't know why, but I think this is one of the best videos made by Ben.
Please make a video on Bill Burr 🙏
Amazing one started this book yesterday
I already can do that! It’s my talent
I've waited for this video for so long
Sherlock: Your Pupils are dilated
Her: It's f*cking dark in here
The intonation in their voice is also very important. Do you realize when a girl say Hiiii in a high pitched voice; then she is more interested in the guy. Or even when someone makes a joke. The heaviness in their voice highlights the seriousness behind the joke. Usually they wanted to say something serious but due to the situation they had to say it as a joke but unconsciously the heaviness in their voice as they say the joke betrays their intentions
4:39 Or since he's an actor, a master of faking it, he reeeally knows how to use body language to scream messages even if he doesn't actually feels this way, you can see this when he was really pissed at the end of the interview, he could be very well faking it, exaggering it, using intimidation as a weapon (Tywin style, specially book Tywin) and not being that angry.
A few years ago, when I had just stepped into adulthood, I used to be really tough on myself and call myself a weirdo, and think that I’m superbad at reading people. I’m not autistic or aspie, but I do have ADHD and my social skills were less than average. So I worked on that part and improved myself, and now it feels like most adults I know, are worse in reading others than I ever was! People really take it for granted, but it’s important.
Excellent advice. I also use this channel to pick Netflix shows I can watch that will teach me inter personal skills while being entertaining at the same time.
oddly enough i already did these, but it's pretty cool learning that these are helpful/good!
Suggestion, start doing vids about enhancing your video conferencing presence (Zoom, Teams, Etc). The skillset (and tech) feel a little different.
Best way to understand someone body language is thinking how would you react if you were in the same situation ie: first date and you get hugged by your date the moment you walk in.
The book that is recomended at the end is GOLD
Big thank you so much
Robert Downey Jr Vs Benedict? Whom do you like as Sherlock? :D
They're both fantastic casting, but I think Robert captures the eccentricity better.
@@KarmasAB123 it's the complete opposite 🤔
BEN! :D
@@Fizius How do you figure?
@@KarmasAB123 Eccentricity is literally the main reason why this debate leans more towards Benedict being the slightly better Sherlock in the entirety of the internet.
Look it up on Quora, Reddit and every other article about the subject.
I'm not saying it, most of the fanbase is and I agree completely.
Of course, everyone is welcome to have different opinions though.
One thing i would recommend is not to intellelectulize it. You have to feel how it would feel to that microexoresison and that can tell you.
You dont have to interpret with words but register it as a feeling.
For example with a smile. How does thst smile make you feel is it odd or does jt feel genuine.
Liked before watching the video..
I don't think Anger is a negative emotion. Cause it can be used in a positive way. I think the right way to say it would be positive or negative situation, cause emotions are there just to help us.
Or Bigger Intellects can call it just situations to go through life, not considering anything positive or negative. But I don't think I've reached there quite yet.
I think you mean the reaction to Anger? Is not negative. Emotions we dont like to feel, especially because of the self detrimental reactions it brings out on us, are negative. I dont think its "bad" to describe them as negative or postive emotions. But the importance is understanding what we do in response is still in our control. And we can decide for how long we feel those things. So I dont think anyone can avoid feeling anger or sadness but they can decide to leave that state of being as quickly as possible. ✌
@@emblem9242 The point I was trying to make was, When you define things like Anger or Sadness as negative, people start to avoid them. Just like you said "leave it as quickly as possible". If you don't let the natural course of things to run, you can burst out in Anger or get depressed by enormous Sadness.
That's why I said, you shouldn't consider them as negative. A good example would be, if you feel like something wrong is going on, or something wrong has happened, what emotion are going to feel? That's right, Anger. And without that little bit of anger how are you going to keep your focus or motivation on correcting things. What are gonna do instead? Smile and act like a clown?
That's why I said, we shouldn't categorise emotions as positive or negative. It's all about balancing them, like spices in a dish, too much salt or sugar etc or too little of them doesn't taste well or taste at all respectively.
Ok this one finna be good
Nearly time I drive the Jeep I built with a diesel engine (unusual sound), I immediately pick up on people (guys, lol) in the parking lot I am driving through showing interest in it just by their body language (sometimes I will stop and talk, other times I'm in a rush and it's annoying). Now I know what a "hot chick" feels like... she knows I am staring, lol!!!!!!!!
Yes! Thank you so much for this
Great Video! Love the topic!
Okay, but now no one will invite me to parties and they all think I have a thing for feet.
But were you being invited to parties before this though? Maybe you're just weird af to people even before this video. Well, are you?
4:18 You can probably fake this too by becoming a good actor and use this as a weapon (Kira style). Especially if you establish yourself as someone inexpressive.
The show Lie to Me is a great show on micro expressions
hmm. next thing you know weird characters go out claiming they know everything about people they met 2 mins ago lmao
You totally got me, Charisma on Command. You knew that if I saw a picture of Sherlock, I would click. Good move!
That guy that made Robert Downey Jr. uncomfortable was the same guy richard Ayoade trolled in an interview. haha! I get now why he did that.
I was literally reading the book "How to win friends and influence people" and i saw this
Coincidence?
thanks for time stamps
even a kid could tell how robert was trying to hide the urge to punch the interviewer in the face
Great job.
Hey big fan! Please can you do a breakdown of either jesse pinkman or walter white from breaking bad?
Wow! Very good episode 🔥 !
Well, I have Autism. I literally can not process body language.
@Bob the Fish Autism is funny like that, though I usually don't notice body language personally.
That's a self-limiting line of thought. Being on the autistic spectrum might make us less adept (and thus less practiced and less skilled) at reading body language and social cues, but it's still a skill that can - and should - be learned, even though it might be more difficult for us than for most.
I'm terrible with people but I can read them easily, I just can't react to them well. Im also autistic
I cannot talk looking at people's face, let alone eye..I look down or somewhere else and talk ..I am just nervous.
This was a great video.
The point on"yourself" ❤️
Favorite vids on RUclips
Love this video
Many points are from Joe Navarro's book
I like this video as it's a quick revision
Gosh I love the sherlock clips
I hope this video all my life THANKS