one reason why children cry when their hair is being done is because people are detangling their hair dry from root to tip! of course they’d be in tears because it’s painful!!
The problem with most black women is that we prioritise hair styling over hair care. We prefer getting tight braids in order keep them for 8 weeks (mind you, not washing our hair during that period) just for them to be neat.
This is horrifying. It’s so sad in a group of women I spoke how I’d never get locs because I’d miss my curls & the sheer amount of genuine confusion was heartbreaking & eye opening. Our women are truly brainwashed & suffer extreme hair dysmorphia. Mind you all of these women wear straight wigs or have relaxers in their short, stiff hair
@@kikib9091 Because I said I would miss my curls. One woman stated she ‘shaved all her shit off’ because it was “nappy.” A few bw get locs because they do not want to face their hair in its natural state & then regret it because locs are more maintenance
@@LI8A__noirthis is an interesting observation because I remember watching a video about black people and our hair and the person said something like “the reason black people like locs is because the length gives the illusion of looser textures they like” . That is just a simplified version of what I remember and it wasn’t just the length, I’m sure, but that was the gist.
It makes me sad when they're doing it to their babies hair. I'm old and white but watched my best friend go through absolute TORTURE from her Grandmother doing her hair. Almost sixty years later and that memory has stuck with me. AND she's nearly bald now.
I started cornrows on my own hair 3 years ago going 4 years strong and I've never looked back on such braided hair extension styles anymore. You should see my mother's blood boil everytime I get my cornrows done. Problem being, I'm not a proper lady without braids. And oh don't let me get started on our African women/mothers and their digust for OUR OWN NATURAL HAIR! It would be a whole thesis at this point. An older woman asked when I first went natural "what would I do if my future husband didn't approve of MY natural hair?" In my response, I also asked "why would I be with someone who doesn't like my natural fro?"
My mum calls me "rural" for not getting my hair neatly done and plaited at the salon. Her comments hurt but i decided to not let them bother me since its my hair, my head, and my health. I have the longest hair in my family but still she wants to tell me the right way to maintain it.
I wore my hair out one day on a trip to the mall and David’s bridal. The look of disgust or just sourness my mom had for me wearing it ou was wild. My dad was smiling and said I looked great. And so were the black and white ladies in the bridal shop looking at me but not with hate on the face. It’s sad…
And then have the nerve to say black women can't grow long hair. Ofc they can't when their hair is being damaged in their youth and often by their own mothers!
Its the malfunctioning Medusa for me 🤣🤣🤣... im so glad im a natural loc head cause i couldn't go through the bs anymore. Barely able to move, sleep, or function with hair that tight.
i can’t even wrap my headscarf too tight let alone do tight styles. i don’t get how they tolerate the pain as they’re getting the braids put in, it literally hurts me to watch.
@@afenismama Girl, I'm not joking: if it hurts, it's not good ! You're going to have a bald spot where the knot is pressing on your scalp, trust me !!!
I started doing my own braids once I noticed my scalp was bleeding, persistent headaches, and trouble sleeping. Never again will I let someone touch my hair
Same, my mother never straightened her hair or wore wigs in my lifetime and I'm grateful for that. I've straightened my hair and even relaxed it at times, but I've never hated my hair and I have always had a full head of beautiful hair
Yes. Every girl I hung with and on my block did their own hair. We sat on the steps and did each other's hair also. Also we had that Black Barbie Big Head to practice on. Do anyone remember when individuals was on the low in $25 - $75 in the streets and $120. - $150 in the Salon ✂️💈. ✌🏽❤️🍷
This is spirtual warfare at it finest. This is why I refused to let ppl touch my hair. This is why I told my Nigerian co work “NO, I dont want to be bald” when he said I should go to an African braiding shop.
I am turning 23 y/o next month and I stopped installing braids with added hair in 2022. My hair is thick and healthy, and I wear it out every day and take care of it myself. 😊
I think this is deeper than it appears. Something spiritual even. Why are we the ones SITTING and allowing someone else do this to us. Like we feel deep down we ain't worth it
Nah, it’s not being not worth it, we’re taught that our hair is too much. That it need to be tied up and hidden. That it’s not to be touched. That we need a ‘wash day’, one whole day to feel like your hair is a hassle. It starts at home. Period.
This comes from a lack of self love and self respect. most of these women shouldnt be attempting any of these styles. They should just let their natural hair be out but they wont because they hate their hair.
@@nottodaylilbaldheadSome women get braids just so they can hide their natural hair. I hear this all the time from a lot of Black women with 4c hair. This is why you see some black girls or women wearing braids back to back or wearing the same braids for months at a time ( 3+ months).
Let's stop pretending that everyone HAS to love their hair the way it grows out of their head. It's okay to not like your hair and style it the way that makes you most confident. This is why you NEVER see 4c/4b wigs! Only mixed/exotical wigs
My babygirl was a happy bald baby for her first 3 years, I would notice Nigerian "aunties" (we're from the UK) side eye me and the brave ones would suggest I braid cornrows on her barely there hair. I just declined and when she turned 3 I would do lose thick braids with her TWA. Now at age 10 she has beautiful 4c long AND thick hair, I always tell her I'm after health and not length.
Yep!!! Traction alopecia is real. People ask me all the time what I do to my hair to make it so healthy and long . No tricks, no miracle oils and no crazy expensive routines. I stay out of the salon. I keep my hands out my hair, no waves braids or wigs and I make sure my hair is detangled and moisturize that’s it. The longest my hair has been is to my waist!! I AM NOT RARE!!!
"Child having her"...cerebral cortex snatched through her scalp" 😔😞😢 That one was a really hard watch, especially because she's a child and gad no choice. She looked happy at the end but ut still gurt to see. Beautiful little girl before. The after hair looked like torture.
My daughter is almost 6, and her hair is to her knees. NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO TOUCH OR BREATHE ON HER HAIR OTHER THAN MY MOTHER!!!! PERIOD!!! when she goes to school, it is put in a high bun, and not an inch is left down because people have a touching problem.
@EtherealSolana it's pretty common in my country to touch your classmate's hair and even braid them. Acting so overdramatic is weird. "Noone is allowed to touch of breathe her hair" sounds like a narcissistic person to me. Maybe it's not common for whites, who knows. Cultural shock ig.
@@ifykyk679you're not from America so you wouldn't understand the texturism and racism people experience. We have so many different races it's easier to hate on each other. ESPECIALLY over long hair. They'll bully you no matter if it's fake or real. How about you get off your high pedestal.
@@ifykyk679just because you like ppl nasty hands all in your head and what not does not mean others will allow it. Not only do you not understand the reasoning behind keeping ppl hands out of your head, you also said you're white so your comment has no merits in this space. Last, but not least you used narcissistic so wrong.
I have traction alopecia as a result of tight braids in my 20’s. Both times the braiders braided too tight and I requested that they don’t and they told me that it would last longer that way. So I have hairline damage as well as nape damage from braids. I wear a TWA now. I’m so glad that I did not continue with the braids and weaves After my 20s because I would truly have shiny bald spots. Thankfully, the hair grew in that area but it’s very thin. It’s not thin enough to see scalp, but it’s definitely noticeable when combing my hair or when I feel those areas with my hand. I’m just not interested in tight styles anymore because I’ve been through the pain of waiting three days for the braids to loosen up and that’s just not fun.
If you ask the person braiding your hair not to do it so tightly and they refuse to do as you ask, tell them to stop. Gather your belongings, including the braid hair you purchased and leave. Braiders who respect your scalp, edges and hairline do exist.
I live in Poland and we have very few black people here. I knew braids are popular amongst them but I never knew it's so extreme! You have so beautiful hair as it is. Afro is really unique ❤. No need to gave yourselves so much pain! At least don't pull out your soul out with those hair babes. And thise poor kids 😢.
I stopped getting my hair braided when this African auntie tried to tell me about my edges when I requested her to leave them alone and not to braid them.
I was a teaching assistant in a primary school in UK and the teachers ( white)used to remark in the little black girls with foreheads and edges pulled so tight that the roots were actually white/grey with the traction. How those kids were expected to concentrate with that agony for weeks until it grew a bit was hard to understand. I’m sure many of them are bald and relying on wigs now ten years later.
When you said they reserve these styles for kinkier textures, I realized that you’re so right. Mixed kids always wore was n gos or something similar, but kids with type 4 hair weren’t even “allowed “ to
The tightness is for the sleekness. Idk how to explain it really. But I was caught in the trap I was younger. I use to give myself terrible headaches to get that sleek look. My scalp hated it. But I didn't know. Wasn't even self aware. Like when I use to get relaxers, the mindset was, if it's burning, you know the hair is coming out straight. My edges will recovering. Happy to say that locs are my niche. It is me all the way. Feel very comfortable in my skin. I don't have to fight with my natural hair and grew to hate relaxers and I've always hated wigs/ sew ins. I
i'm african, and....i'm just so glad it's never gotten this bad😭😭😭 i used to be the girl who just sat and endured the pain. who believed that 'no pain no gain', 'beauty is pain' and all those liesss. ever since i discovered how to take care of my natural hair, i've only gone to the salon once. And that salon visit convinced me to never get my hair done by anyone else. thankfully it was not a horrible experience like these tiktoks but i just realized no one is going to be as gentle with my hair as i am. so i'm going to just have to learn to do these styles on my own. i'd rather struggle with the learning curve than struggle with hair loss.
One day I just got so tired of the pain and drama that comes with tryna wear weave and extensions and I just decided to take care of my own hair whether other people accepted it or not. This was about 13 years ago and I never went back. I can scratch my head if i need to, wash it if i need to, trim it if I need to. No pain and im never going back. For those who still choose to wear it there's a right way to do it. It shouldnt be painful.
In 2020, I chopped my hair off and kept trimming it every month like clockwork. Fast forward to 2023, I visited Canada, and my sister-in-law dropped some divine wisdom on me: ‘Let your God-given veil grow.’ So, I stopped cutting, stopped braiding-basically left my hair to mind its own business. Now, a year later, my hair is thriving-long, full, and fabulous. Honestly, I don’t get why some Black folks say growing our hair is so hard. The real struggle? Trying to turn our natural crown into something it’s not. Too many people ditch their hair for wigs, weaves, and whatnot, instead of embracing the beauty God already gave them.🤷🏾♀️
Subscribed. You’re so funny 😂 Edit: about black Woman having long hair, yes it’s true. I have 4c hair and I stoped getting braids and just did my own cornrows very lose ad now my hair is down my back. It’s all about being patient and being gentle to your scalp.
I hate hate hate hate hate hate hair stylists, hair dressers, make up artists, or people who you pay to help you maintain your look DON'T WANT TO LISTEN!!! it's our body not theirs 😡🎉
It’s awful! My mom taught me to braid my hair at 10. She learned the hard way and educated herself and us (daughters). I only had one non-family member/stranger so my hair and I never did it again. I rather braid it myself as I don’t know what energies these braiders/hairstyles carry. That really bothers me the most about getting your hair done.
I love that. More black mothers should be teaching the kids how to do their own hair. Maybe if these stylists begin to feel the pressure, they'll actually sit up and stop feeling so untouchable.
Same here and that’s why I stopped having other women touch my thick 4c hair almost 30 years ago. They always made it seem like doing my hair was such a burden so I’ve been unburdened by what has been. I also came up when the go to for bw was to get a relaxer. I did that for about five years from age 16-21…but went natural 30 years ago. There are some bw women my age (50) with hair issues today because they did all of those trends and never learned how to care for their own hair. I know bw are beautiful people. I also know that many are lost and sad and tired and yes…jealous…etc and I don’t need that energy up on my head. My 28 y.o. Daughter with thick hair down her back has repeatedly thanked me for never putting chemicals in her hair.
All jokes aside, you mean to tell me after hundreds of years of braiding our hair some black women still don’t understand that tight braids aren’t good for you? If your goal is for them to be neat and “last longer” my dear you’re a big fool😭at the end of the day, you’re not even going to have any hair left by the time you’re 30. It’s not always genetics that gave you a receding hairline, it’s your ignorance.
This is how one of my aunts ended up with extreme traction alopecia on the perimeter of her hair. My other aunt is balding thanks to this. My mom has a full head of hair bc she left her head alone and she's the eldest of her sisters.
0:21 bruh everytime a white gurl get her hair braided they braid it tight AS FUCK and when her hair fall out they say “see? Their hair type can’t have braids it’s only for black people” the lengths people go to gatekeep is WILD 😭
@@sagba947 thats not even true 💀💀 My friend who is Hispanic gets her hair dyed blonde all the time and I get blonde braided into my hair and all the blonde girls I know love it 💀💀💀 Idk who you know that gate keeps a hair color, but that’s just an extremely negative person who thinks they’re more special than they actually are and they don’t represent all white people. Also, not all white people have blonde hair 💀
@ man you won’t gaslight me damn right I had honey blonde highlights in school but if you climb up from up under the rock you will see the comments say blonde hair is something they have so I don’t care how many styles you or your home girls got cause I keep my hair done as well😅
I started doing my own hair and my partings aren’t the best and they’re not tight and when I took out my braids after a few weeks the growth was amazing! ❤❤❤
@Actually Juliee you should be a comedian!😂 “Police! Police!”😭All jokes aside though, you’re absolutely right about these painstaking, hair breaking styles😫
i only did box braids once in my entire life when i rocked my afro, i got real locs now, no need to sit 10 hours on a salon chair to get bald like this… adding someone else’s hair wtf stop wigging and weaving… Girls be spending $150-250 EVERY WEEK on theses “protective styles” …GO NATURAL SAVE YOUR MONEY!
I so dislike when some blk people say blk people hair don’t grow. Speak for yourself. There are many black people all over the world, from Africa to Asia, Europe Americas, etc, with long healthy beautiful hair. If you hair is breaking off, at a rapid pace. Then you are not going to see growth. I find the less you do to your hair. The more it grows. Keep it simple, also eat healthy, use good hair products, or things from nature, oils, herds, along with butters.
You said it right. Most people are lazy and cheap. They don't want to spend proper time and money on their hair without even realizing they spend more buying wigs. As long as I remember,I have never been afraid to shave my hair because I know what to do to help my hair grow back fast, long, and healthy looking. You really said it all, some will tell you it's alright to be in pain while doing your hair LOL.
Multifunctioning Medusa took me tf out🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙌 m here for the roast We sleep standing with this one 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂✋ ewooooo! Edit: "jail, go to jail" 😂😂😂😂😂nah bc i agree with yuh, m here for the roast. " and the hairdresser that is filming and laffin is going to hell" 😂😂😂😂😂😂please...when yuh said natural anesthesia, i nodded bc like i said, they think they have more power😂 Now yuh have no money n no hair🤣🤣🤣🤣😭✋
I can't even wear a ponytail for more than an hour without dying, omg I need an Imitrex after seeing these poor girls 😭 Seriously though I'm so sick of the war on natural hair. I'm Romani, not black, but I have very thick, coarse, 2C hair and I got made fun of all through school for it. Called tampon head, nappy, frizzy, etc, and I destroyed my poor hair with flatirons for years cause I thought I was ugly otherwise. I didn't learn to love my natural hair until I had my son and no longer had the time or energy to spend almost 2 hours ironing it every day. I quit going to salons and taught myself how to cut and layer it to work WITH my texture instead of letting other people give me cuts that only look good straight. *Texture is beautiful.*
Omg people are so dumb. I wish someone would tell me my hair was ugly so I'll give them more reasons to be jealous. Lmao. I'm not humble at all. I'll show up everyday with a new hair style and you'll have no choice but to ask me to give you lessons.
The comedic commentary is genius😂 I'm not even halfway through it and I'm cracking up on the jokes alone🎉 even without the video, the jokes are top-notch
I've always thought it looked too tight with some of these braids and twists I've seen growing up but figured I just didn't know enough about it. Even Jojo Siwa makes me cringe with how tight back her hair is. Thank you for covering this, hopefully this practice goes out of style soon.
That's so true i was bald headed till i wad 3 my mom only put little clip bow and let me embrace my baldness i guess but when i hit three baby hair touching my back never got braids only used to get buns or twist yall needa leave them babies heads alone its ridiculous
Lol! I just do hair like I have a conscience. lol! I'm 43 and I'm trying to hold on to mine until I'm 60..all through menopause..after that I can have a senior wig. lol!
The thumbnail was enough to give me traction alopecia 😂. Braids so tight the plaits are flying 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Omg 😭😭😂 it's not even funny
Braids are floating like someone cast a spell on them
@actuallyjuliee I'm dying, lmao!
Whole head look laminated. She's protecting her thoughts and dreams 😂
@@fangirlsruineverything😂😂😂
one reason why children cry when their hair is being done is because people are detangling their hair dry from root to tip! of course they’d be in tears because it’s painful!!
Yes exactly. If you handle that child's hair with utmost care, they will find the experience fun.
And they be YANKIN and rackin thru it!!! Like they just do not care!!!
YES exactly! My little cousin cried when she was getting her hair done by her mom. I took over and now I do her hair. No kore tears ❤
My mom used to sprits my hair with a spray bottle then detangle from bottom to top and it was still uncomfortable. Some kids are just sensitive.
@@Aniexo_ I experienced the same thing. Now my niece only allows me to braid her hair.
Those cornrows are the craziest hairstyle I’ve ever seen. She is about to be smooth bald. Embrace your texture. Please.
"Smooth bald" damn😂😂😂
She will have permanent zigzag pattern baldness in her scalp after those braids come off. 😩
The first one looks like the motorway junction
Got me rubbing my scalp like I'm the one feeling the pain....
The girl with the razor and scissors cutting out the front of her braids is insanity!!! Just take them out!
The braids have her thinking upsidedown.
No brain cells. Cut your hair save a funky style that don’t even look nice.
That was crazy. She is about to have peach fuzz for edges all because she wanted to keep some ugly cornrows that were too tight.
Right! That was really ignorant lol
Shit, I wouldn’t have sat there and allowed that and PAID, just to have to razor and cut them😭 ppl are 🤪
Serious topic but your sense of humor 😂😂😂 a malfunctioning Medusa got me 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😭😭 I feel bad for her but she should have fought back. At least pinch the stylist!
I was laughing at that exact same part😂
SAMMMMMEEE!!! 🤣🤣😭😂😭🤣🤣🤣😭💀💀💀👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
"Why can I see your veins and your inner most desires through your scalp?" I had to rewind that, you are hilarious 😹
The parts are exposing EVERYTHING! 😩
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“Why isn’t your first instinct to call the police”
the way I laughed and hollered😂😂😂
I wasnt expecting a standup comedy show🤣
One has to laugh so as not to cry 😩
The way that I hollered laughing 😂, it was the commentary for me. I felt bad laughing at those sisters pain. 😅 Well delivered 👏🏽👏🏽
Frrr im just watch im only 1:10 seconds in and im cracking up 😂
The commentary is so funny I love it 😂
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They say being beautiful is pain forget that I will stay ugly 😂😂😂😂
The problem with most black women is that we prioritise hair styling over hair care. We prefer getting tight braids in order keep them for 8 weeks (mind you, not washing our hair during that period) just for them to be neat.
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Who’s not washing their braids? Half the point of wearing them is so that they can get wet with little maintenance afterwards.
True. And truly sad. And I know I’m going to get hate but lazy too. One word. Demodex
@@femf8tal demodex are those little guys living on me right?
just looking at these are making my scalp hurt lorddd💀
This is horrifying. It’s so sad in a group of women I spoke how I’d never get locs because I’d miss my curls & the sheer amount of genuine confusion was heartbreaking & eye opening. Our women are truly brainwashed & suffer extreme hair dysmorphia. Mind you all of these women wear straight wigs or have relaxers in their short, stiff hair
huh? what does loc have to do with their reaction? Did they react like that because of the loc comment or because you said you'd miss your curls?
It's usually the relaxer gang horrified that someone can actually like and enjoy their natural texture.
@@kikib9091 Because I said I would miss my curls. One woman stated she ‘shaved all her shit off’ because it was “nappy.” A few bw get locs because they do not want to face their hair in its natural state & then regret it because locs are more maintenance
@@actuallyjulieegirl I’ve noticed! 😂 so sad
@@LI8A__noirthis is an interesting observation because I remember watching a video about black people and our hair and the person said something like “the reason black people like locs is because the length gives the illusion of looser textures they like” . That is just a simplified version of what I remember and it wasn’t just the length, I’m sure, but that was the gist.
It makes me sad when they're doing it to their babies hair. I'm old and white but watched my best friend go through absolute TORTURE from her Grandmother doing her hair. Almost sixty years later and that memory has stuck with me. AND she's nearly bald now.
I started cornrows on my own hair 3 years ago going 4 years strong and I've never looked back on such braided hair extension styles anymore. You should see my mother's blood boil everytime I get my cornrows done. Problem being, I'm not a proper lady without braids. And oh don't let me get started on our African women/mothers and their digust for OUR OWN NATURAL HAIR! It would be a whole thesis at this point. An older woman asked when I first went natural "what would I do if my future husband didn't approve of MY natural hair?" In my response, I also asked "why would I be with someone who doesn't like my natural fro?"
My mum calls me "rural" for not getting my hair neatly done and plaited at the salon. Her comments hurt but i decided to not let them bother me since its my hair, my head, and my health. I have the longest hair in my family but still she wants to tell me the right way to maintain it.
I wore my hair out one day on a trip to the mall and David’s bridal. The look of disgust or just sourness my mom had for me wearing it ou was wild. My dad was smiling and said I looked great. And so were the black and white ladies in the bridal shop looking at me but not with hate on the face. It’s sad…
@@geemai435 dont let it get you down. If your hair is thriving, it is thriving! Good for you girl
Wtf.
@@EtherealSolana
Damn, it's indeed very sad. 😥💔
Bald by 23 is CRAZY like yikkkeeessss
They are asking for it. Begginggg for it! 😩
And then have the nerve to say black women can't grow long hair. Ofc they can't when their hair is being damaged in their youth and often by their own mothers!
Icl its not as crazy i was bald at 14
Legit, CPS need to be called on some of these mfs cause that’s straight up torturing children.
It's sickening
I feel so bad for these kids
"Just shave it all with a lawn mower" 😂😂😂
Its the malfunctioning Medusa for me 🤣🤣🤣... im so glad im a natural loc head cause i couldn't go through the bs anymore. Barely able to move, sleep, or function with hair that tight.
She is just glitching. 😩 All that torment for a mid hairstyle.
Same I have sisterlocs and I do not miss getting my hair braided omg praying for these girls!!
i can’t even wrap my headscarf too tight let alone do tight styles. i don’t get how they tolerate the pain as they’re getting the braids put in, it literally hurts me to watch.
Girl ok😂 I get a headache from the knot in the front if it’s too tight
Me too 😂😂@@afenismama
@@afenismama
Girl, I'm not joking: if it hurts, it's not good ! You're going to have a bald spot where the knot is pressing on your scalp, trust me !!!
I started doing my own braids once I noticed my scalp was bleeding, persistent headaches, and trouble sleeping. Never again will I let someone touch my hair
Damn. That's so crazy. Why do they braid like they actually want to take your lyfe?
I’ve had scalp bleeding a few times 😢
@@EtherealSolana the last place you’ll ever expect to see blood!!! It’s abuse from these hairstylists
@@actuallyjuliee Braiding your hair like you’re their enemy 🥴
Ahhhhhh
My head hurts 🤕 just looking at this.
My mom taught me how to do my own hair when I was 9. Best gift ever (I'm 57 now).
Same, my mother never straightened her hair or wore wigs in my lifetime and I'm grateful for that. I've straightened my hair and even relaxed it at times, but I've never hated my hair and I have always had a full head of beautiful hair
Yh this is important especially if you're pretty them lil blk gurls would bullly me
Yes. Every girl I hung with and on my block did their own hair. We sat on the steps and did each other's hair also. Also we had that Black Barbie Big Head to practice on. Do anyone remember when individuals was on the low in $25 - $75 in the streets and $120. - $150 in the Salon ✂️💈. ✌🏽❤️🍷
This is spirtual warfare at it finest. This is why I refused to let ppl touch my hair. This is why I told my Nigerian co work “NO, I dont want to be bald” when he said I should go to an African braiding shop.
It really is. Just to look cute. I would never let anyone hit me let alone PULL MY DAMN HAIR. And I don't care what their profession is. TF💀
I am turning 23 y/o next month and I stopped installing braids with added hair in 2022. My hair is thick and healthy, and I wear it out every day and take care of it myself. 😊
Love to see it! You're already winning. 😍
I love this. Weave is unnecessary
I have no idea why they think tight equates with long lasting
The headache and alopecia are long lasting. That's for sure!
Cuz it's physically attatched to the hair and won't move that's their logic
i couldn't watch the whole video lol its too painful. but from what i watched you're making valid points, sis
@@docfabz understandable 😩 It just needed to be addressed
I'm trying to get through it but it's honestly making me feel their pain, it's so horrifying 😭😭
@@no.6377 A really scary experience right there and I hate it so bad 😭😭
0:45 And she looks gorgeous. I love her hair.
I’m black and my daughters are too, all of our hair is near waist length ❤
I think this is deeper than it appears. Something spiritual even. Why are we the ones SITTING and allowing someone else do this to us. Like we feel deep down we ain't worth it
It’s also pressure form our parents “look KEMPT!” They say. And this is what they mean by Kept especially with African parents
Masochism.
Nah, it’s not being not worth it, we’re taught that our hair is too much. That it need to be tied up and hidden. That it’s not to be touched. That we need a ‘wash day’, one whole day to feel like your hair is a hassle. It starts at home. Period.
@@missbearlockholmesit’s not that. It’s laziness. Do it so tight that you don’t have to “worry” about it for as long as possible
This is against the first and second commandments
It is spiritual in origin
🤣🤣 🗣Police help, police heeeelp😂
This comes from a lack of self love and self respect. most of these women shouldnt be attempting any of these styles. They should just let their natural hair be out but they wont because they hate their hair.
They really hate themselves
😂😂😂 whatttt?! Braids come from wanting a new style... How you get self hate from this???
@@nottodaylilbaldheadSome women get braids just so they can hide their natural hair. I hear this all the time from a lot of Black women with 4c hair. This is why you see some black girls or women wearing braids back to back or wearing the same braids for months at a time ( 3+ months).
Let's stop pretending that everyone HAS to love their hair the way it grows out of their head. It's okay to not like your hair and style it the way that makes you most confident. This is why you NEVER see 4c/4b wigs! Only mixed/exotical wigs
@@nottodaylilbaldheadbraids come from putting the hair up, out of sight and out of mind.
My babygirl was a happy bald baby for her first 3 years, I would notice Nigerian "aunties" (we're from the UK) side eye me and the brave ones would suggest I braid cornrows on her barely there hair. I just declined and when she turned 3 I would do lose thick braids with her TWA. Now at age 10 she has beautiful 4c long AND thick hair, I always tell her I'm after health and not length.
Yep!!! Traction alopecia is real.
People ask me all the time what I do to my hair to make it so healthy and long .
No tricks, no miracle oils and no crazy expensive routines.
I stay out of the salon. I keep my hands out my hair, no waves braids or wigs and I make sure my hair is detangled and moisturize that’s it.
The longest my hair has been is to my waist!!
I AM NOT RARE!!!
Hi, can you give me some detangling tips? I have 4c/b hair and that’s my only struggle, I have high density hair
You're a rarity, otherwise nobody would be listening.
I hoped you washed your hair at least
Heavy on staying out of the salons.
Watching it is giving me goose bumps😢😢😢 whyyyyy
@@REETAMSHELIA I can't believe people are putting themselves through that.
1:56 girl got a free facelift😂😂
Side effect: baldness.
"Child having her"...cerebral cortex snatched through her scalp"
😔😞😢
That one was a really hard watch, especially because she's a child and gad no choice. She looked happy at the end but ut still gurt to see. Beautiful little girl before. The after hair looked like torture.
😢this was a hard watch
'Malfunctioning medusa ' was quite personal 😂
All that pain for ugly hair style.
It baffles me. Not one of those hairstyles were cute!
That girl said she has a date , and put a bonnet on! A dateee?
That is the craziest part. Every single style was ugly except the girl who did her own boho faux locs and she did them very loose.
@@amilllion1 maybe a halloween themed date?😭 👻
@@ocky88 yep. Wish more black women knew how to do their own hair. Some stylists are insane.
I left my kids hair alone. Now they have hair to their waist and behind 💁🏽♀️. Wash it, condition it, detangle it, two strand twist. Leave it alone.
My daughter is almost 6, and her hair is to her knees. NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO TOUCH OR BREATHE ON HER HAIR OTHER THAN MY MOTHER!!!! PERIOD!!! when she goes to school, it is put in a high bun, and not an inch is left down because people have a touching problem.
...Jesus calm down lmao.
@@ifykyk679 you wouldn’t understand
@EtherealSolana it's pretty common in my country to touch your classmate's hair and even braid them. Acting so overdramatic is weird. "Noone is allowed to touch of breathe her hair" sounds like a narcissistic person to me.
Maybe it's not common for whites, who knows. Cultural shock ig.
@@ifykyk679you're not from America so you wouldn't understand the texturism and racism people experience. We have so many different races it's easier to hate on each other. ESPECIALLY over long hair. They'll bully you no matter if it's fake or real. How about you get off your high pedestal.
@@ifykyk679just because you like ppl nasty hands all in your head and what not does not mean others will allow it. Not only do you not understand the reasoning behind keeping ppl hands out of your head, you also said you're white so your comment has no merits in this space. Last, but not least you used narcissistic so wrong.
I have traction alopecia as a result of tight braids in my 20’s. Both times the braiders braided too tight and I requested that they don’t and they told me that it would last longer that way. So I have hairline damage as well as nape damage from braids. I wear a TWA now. I’m so glad that I did not continue with the braids and weaves After my 20s because I would truly have shiny bald spots. Thankfully, the hair grew in that area but it’s very thin. It’s not thin enough to see scalp, but it’s definitely noticeable when combing my hair or when I feel those areas with my hand. I’m just not interested in tight styles anymore because I’ve been through the pain of waiting three days for the braids to loosen up and that’s just not fun.
Braids are doing more harm than good for many black women it seems. Hairdressers are uneducated and unwilling to learn and it's frustrating.
@ Exactly.
@@actuallyjulieealso cosmetology books (created by non blk ppl) say that the only thing to do with our hair is to straighten or relax it 😮
If you ask the person braiding your hair not to do it so tightly and they refuse to do as you ask, tell them to stop. Gather your belongings, including the braid hair you purchased and leave. Braiders who respect your scalp, edges and hairline do exist.
@ I eventually found someone who doesn’t braid tight and does listen. I don’t wear braids anymore, but when I did, she was a godsend!
I live in Poland and we have very few black people here. I knew braids are popular amongst them but I never knew it's so extreme! You have so beautiful hair as it is. Afro is really unique ❤. No need to gave yourselves so much pain! At least don't pull out your soul out with those hair babes.
And thise poor kids 😢.
I stopped getting my hair braided when this African auntie tried to tell me about my edges when I requested her to leave them alone and not to braid them.
They are insane. I will literally just stand up and leave of you try to play in my hair.
Lady you have to do standup comedy as a side hustle!😂😂😂
😂😂😩 omg. Don't encourage this behaviour.
I was a teaching assistant in a primary school in UK and the teachers ( white)used to remark in the little black girls with foreheads and edges pulled so tight that the roots were actually white/grey with the traction. How those kids were expected to concentrate with that agony for weeks until it grew a bit was hard to understand. I’m sure many of them are bald and relying on wigs now ten years later.
Dear Lord the poor person at 3:05 had me crying in pain. The delicate follicles can’t take that kind of tension
When you said they reserve these styles for kinkier textures, I realized that you’re so right. Mixed kids always wore was n gos or something similar, but kids with type 4 hair weren’t even “allowed “ to
As a girly with loose texture curls, all I wore were wash n gos as a kid and sometimes loose cornrows 🫶🏾
"Can she feel her face?" is diabolical
😂😂😭
The tightness is for the sleekness. Idk how to explain it really. But I was caught in the trap I was younger. I use to give myself terrible headaches to get that sleek look. My scalp hated it. But I didn't know. Wasn't even self aware. Like when I use to get relaxers, the mindset was, if it's burning, you know the hair is coming out straight. My edges will recovering. Happy to say that locs are my niche. It is me all the way. Feel very comfortable in my skin. I don't have to fight with my natural hair and grew to hate relaxers and I've always hated wigs/ sew ins. I
I feel the pain on my scalp just by watching everybody in that video 😔😔😔it just looks so painful 😢
i'm african, and....i'm just so glad it's never gotten this bad😭😭😭 i used to be the girl who just sat and endured the pain. who believed that 'no pain no gain', 'beauty is pain' and all those liesss. ever since i discovered how to take care of my natural hair, i've only gone to the salon once. And that salon visit convinced me to never get my hair done by anyone else. thankfully it was not a horrible experience like these tiktoks but i just realized no one is going to be as gentle with my hair as i am. so i'm going to just have to learn to do these styles on my own. i'd rather struggle with the learning curve than struggle with hair loss.
Me too. I only let other people do my hair when it's a style I absolutely can't make myself.
One day I just got so tired of the pain and drama that comes with tryna wear weave and extensions and I just decided to take care of my own hair whether other people accepted it or not. This was about 13 years ago and I never went back. I can scratch my head if i need to, wash it if i need to, trim it if I need to. No pain and im never going back. For those who still choose to wear it there's a right way to do it. It shouldnt be painful.
Thank you for telling the truth!! Folks are in denial
Oh my god my jaw is on the floor!! I’m so tender headed 😂😂
She’s crying trying to put on a bonnet!!! I’m done!!
In 2020, I chopped my hair off and kept trimming it every month like clockwork. Fast forward to 2023, I visited Canada, and my sister-in-law dropped some divine wisdom on me: ‘Let your God-given veil grow.’ So, I stopped cutting, stopped braiding-basically left my hair to mind its own business. Now, a year later, my hair is thriving-long, full, and fabulous.
Honestly, I don’t get why some Black folks say growing our hair is so hard. The real struggle? Trying to turn our natural crown into something it’s not. Too many people ditch their hair for wigs, weaves, and whatnot, instead of embracing the beauty God already gave them.🤷🏾♀️
Subscribed. You’re so funny 😂
Edit: about black Woman having long hair, yes it’s true. I have 4c hair and I stoped getting braids and just did my own cornrows very lose ad now my hair is down my back. It’s all about being patient and being gentle to your scalp.
I hate hate hate hate hate hate hair stylists, hair dressers, make up artists, or people who you pay to help you maintain your look DON'T WANT TO LISTEN!!! it's our body not theirs 😡🎉
watching this video made my scalp hurt, yikes
I hear ya 👋 😔
It’s awful! My mom taught me to braid my hair at 10. She learned the hard way and educated herself and us (daughters). I only had one non-family member/stranger so my hair and I never did it again. I rather braid it myself as I don’t know what energies these braiders/hairstyles carry. That really bothers me the most about getting your hair done.
I love that. More black mothers should be teaching the kids how to do their own hair. Maybe if these stylists begin to feel the pressure, they'll actually sit up and stop feeling so untouchable.
Same here and that’s why I stopped having other women touch my thick 4c hair almost 30 years ago. They always made it seem like doing my hair was such a burden so I’ve been unburdened by what has been. I also came up when the go to for bw was to get a relaxer. I did that for about five years from age 16-21…but went natural 30 years ago. There are some bw women my age (50) with hair issues today because they did all of those trends and never learned how to care for their own hair. I know bw are beautiful people. I also know that many are lost and sad and tired and yes…jealous…etc and I don’t need that energy up on my head. My 28 y.o. Daughter with thick hair down her back has repeatedly thanked me for never putting chemicals in her hair.
The doll at the end brings back childhood memories 😂😂😂😂😂
OMG
Girl your humor almost took me out as much as the missing shiny edges 😅
You are hilarious!
😭😭
This was the most Entertaining, Hilarious and Reak video i've ever watched 😭😭😭😭
They are really out here trying to get us to look like the Cynthia doll from Rugrats 🤣🤣🤣
😭😭 has to be a social experiment
I went to an African hair braider once, and she really braided my SCALP. Hurt so bad…never again I do my own hair now.
All jokes aside, you mean to tell me after hundreds of years of braiding our hair some black women still don’t understand that tight braids aren’t good for you? If your goal is for them to be neat and “last longer” my dear you’re a big fool😭at the end of the day, you’re not even going to have any hair left by the time you’re 30. It’s not always genetics that gave you a receding hairline, it’s your ignorance.
They all need to get detained for this behaviour actually
Omo girl you are funny something am suppose to be serious and am here laughing 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is how one of my aunts ended up with extreme traction alopecia on the perimeter of her hair. My other aunt is balding thanks to this. My mom has a full head of hair bc she left her head alone and she's the eldest of her sisters.
lol 14:58, Her shirt speaking to her, she gon be sorry when her hair starts coming out due to damaged follicles.
😩😩 foreshadowing
I love this woman , she is so real n soooo funny 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@randomkid0079 😅💕💕
0:21 bruh everytime a white gurl get her hair braided they braid it tight AS FUCK and when her hair fall out they say “see? Their hair type can’t have braids it’s only for black people” the lengths people go to gatekeep is WILD 😭
They gatekeep blonde like they don’t go get it out of the clairol box man bye😂😂😂
@@sagba947 thats not even true 💀💀
My friend who is Hispanic gets her hair dyed blonde all the time and I get blonde braided into my hair and all the blonde girls I know love it 💀💀💀
Idk who you know that gate keeps a hair color, but that’s just an extremely negative person who thinks they’re more special than they actually are and they don’t represent all white people.
Also, not all white people have blonde hair 💀
@ man you won’t gaslight me damn right I had honey blonde highlights in school but if you climb up from up under the rock you will see the comments say blonde hair is something they have so I don’t care how many styles you or your home girls got cause I keep my hair done as well😅
@ I’m not reading this full essay got real books for that ✌🏽
@@sagba947 what are you even saying 😭
I am in pain just watching these clips.
I started doing my own hair and my partings aren’t the best and they’re not tight and when I took out my braids after a few weeks the growth was amazing! ❤❤❤
Me too. Sometimes I have someone do my parting for me at the back and I go on to do my hair myself.
“A malfunctioning Medusa” is hilarious 😂
I’m too tender headed for anything like this. I wouldn’t make i through any part of this process.
@Actually Juliee you should be a comedian!😂 “Police! Police!”😭All jokes aside though, you’re absolutely right about these painstaking, hair breaking styles😫
Its like pain blindness like wig blindness lmao !
8:44 poor baby 😭
i only did box braids once in my entire life when i rocked my afro, i got real locs now, no need to sit 10 hours on a salon chair to get bald like this… adding someone else’s hair wtf stop wigging and weaving… Girls be spending $150-250 EVERY WEEK on theses “protective styles” …GO NATURAL SAVE YOUR MONEY!
I paid over $300 to get my hair braided. They were so tight I took them out 2 days later and started my locs 😂
Omg all that money to suffer 😂😭 I'm sorry.
Such a waste of money ik the pain
FGS that is torture!!poor them!!!I love how funny you are and, completely agreed Hun.
You have the best HairTube commentary in my opinion❤❤
Thank you! 💞
Damn! I was taught not tight my hair too tight or I'll be bald and you guys do this to yourself??? Madness!
I so dislike when some blk people say blk people hair don’t grow. Speak for yourself. There are many black people all over the world, from Africa to Asia, Europe Americas, etc, with long healthy beautiful hair. If you hair is breaking off, at a rapid pace. Then you are not going to see growth. I find the less you do to your hair. The more it grows. Keep it simple, also eat healthy, use good hair products, or things from nature, oils, herds, along with butters.
OMG!! YOU HAD ME ROLLING IN LAUGHTER!!! Girl, you are TOO FUNNY!! Thank you for this and for the VALUEABLE information you are giving!!
You are so welcome
This is one of the reasons I will never be found in a salon. The best person to take care of my hair is me.
Gulp😢😨🤢 this is horror content
@@nkroks4492 I'm sorry, babes. 😩 It needed to be said.
It is! 😂😂😂
Your comments throughout the video are hilarious omg!!😂😂🤣🤣
YOUR commentary AND comment section is on 🔥 absolutely on point and hilarious 😅
I appreciate that☺️
You had me crying from laughing so hard!! You are so hilarious. But everything u are saying is so true!!
Thanks for watching! 😂💕
U ate with the demure comment in the beginning 😂
You said it right. Most people are lazy and cheap. They don't want to spend proper time and money on their hair without even realizing they spend more buying wigs. As long as I remember,I have never been afraid to shave my hair because I know what to do to help my hair grow back fast, long, and healthy looking. You really said it all, some will tell you it's alright to be in pain while doing your hair LOL.
Yeaaaah seeing these videos make me afraid of going to any hair salons ever😭😭
Multifunctioning Medusa took me tf out🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙌 m here for the roast
We sleep standing with this one 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂✋ ewooooo!
Edit: "jail, go to jail" 😂😂😂😂😂nah bc i agree with yuh, m here for the roast.
" and the hairdresser that is filming and laffin is going to hell" 😂😂😂😂😂😂please...when yuh said natural anesthesia, i nodded bc like i said, they think they have more power😂
Now yuh have no money n no hair🤣🤣🤣🤣😭✋
It's your commentary for me 😂😅
@@actuallyjuliee I loved every minute of it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣❤ so entertaining.
🤣😂🤣😂 Recover soon babe.
@@moreni2nd405 I'm on my sick bed as we speak
I can't even wear a ponytail for more than an hour without dying, omg I need an Imitrex after seeing these poor girls 😭 Seriously though I'm so sick of the war on natural hair. I'm Romani, not black, but I have very thick, coarse, 2C hair and I got made fun of all through school for it. Called tampon head, nappy, frizzy, etc, and I destroyed my poor hair with flatirons for years cause I thought I was ugly otherwise. I didn't learn to love my natural hair until I had my son and no longer had the time or energy to spend almost 2 hours ironing it every day. I quit going to salons and taught myself how to cut and layer it to work WITH my texture instead of letting other people give me cuts that only look good straight. *Texture is beautiful.*
Omg people are so dumb. I wish someone would tell me my hair was ugly so I'll give them more reasons to be jealous. Lmao. I'm not humble at all. I'll show up everyday with a new hair style and you'll have no choice but to ask me to give you lessons.
The comedic commentary is genius😂 I'm not even halfway through it and I'm cracking up on the jokes alone🎉 even without the video, the jokes are top-notch
I've always thought it looked too tight with some of these braids and twists I've seen growing up but figured I just didn't know enough about it. Even Jojo Siwa makes me cringe with how tight back her hair is. Thank you for covering this, hopefully this practice goes out of style soon.
That's so true i was bald headed till i wad 3 my mom only put little clip bow and let me embrace my baldness i guess but when i hit three baby hair touching my back never got braids only used to get buns or twist yall needa leave them babies heads alone its ridiculous
Juliee...YOU ARE HYSTERICAL!!!!!!! I'm at work trying not to crack up too loud...LMAO!!!!
Thank you 🤣
Lol! I just do hair like I have a conscience. lol! I'm 43 and I'm trying to hold on to mine until I'm 60..all through menopause..after that
I can have a senior wig. lol!