Black women don’t realize that these types of videos also make non-black women feel inherently superior because we can’t even bother to have the most basic level of self-esteem and self preservation online it’s embarrassing .great video Julie !!
Exactly I been saying this I stopped wearing any texture weave 10 years ago it makes Asians and other non black women feel superior that was my exact statement to my stylist
@@sagba947yes, I visually seen it one day. I was training at this job and the lady training me was pretty but she had a blonde buss down wig. This lady, who wasn't yt but something other, she was with a BM. She started flipping her hair all extra when talking to the blonde hair girl. It was very weird but interesting. I never forgot it!
Just because they have 4c hair doesn't give them the license to bash 4c hair because they are basically telling us they don't like our hair and we love our hair. This is getting really cringe and creepy! I'm so tired of it.
Thank you! I’m Igbo and I always think this. What’s weirder is that African American women will actually have the audacity to think they are superior to us bc they are less African. Very cringe indeed. Just bc you hate yourself doesn’t mean I hate myself and my own features! So embarrassing, cringe and offensive.
It’s the way they always gather in comment sections to bash themselves for me, truly pathetic. Typing “Cries in 4c” under comment sections of other races of women 🤮 and if you tell them to love their own hair, they get triggered and start insulting you.
@ I don’t even involve myself in discussions about natural hair with women around me anymore even though they compliment my hair every time, I’m tired, there’s always an excuse as to why they treat their hair like its not part of their anatomy. I mind my business, i would rather continue making videos that show the beauty and versatility of natural hair.
@@actuallyjuliee Lol! Yeah cause 4c bundles don't usually cost a band. Lol! When you don't want something everyone else has, God brings you blessings for staying true to yourself!!! I have clip-ins, puffs and half wigs that match my 4c because I'm too lazy to straighten leave out daily and like keeping my edges. Rain, sweat, swim, humidity, wind, my hair stays the same...meanwhile...these women running from the weather and exercise. Lol! even back in the 90s, the relaxed girls were told not to wet or sweat out the relaxer...smh... My health is more important than a hairstyle.
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Lol, I have 4c hair and I’m so tired of the slander💀 Like our hair is pretty. If it’s lookin “rough” it’s probably from trying to make it into something else or not learning proper care. I just think healthy hair in general is pretty. I love the versatility of my kinks! My inspo has always been my mom whose hair is kinky and strong, grows to her waist and is gorgeous. Even when she cuts it, it is still pretty. #EmbracetheKink lol🫶🏽
I've seen some older women complain that my hair is 4 people's hair but they don't tell the story of how they damaged their scalp and hair with crazy and painful styles from an early age. I'm always asked about the products I use, I use Xhc (don't know much about the brand, use it because it's cheap) and it's mostly a shampoo, after which I put my hair in regular sized twists for a month. I've avoided anything that will stress my scalp and damage my hair for 4 years. Now it's past my neck🎉. I have a cousin that has hair that makes people call her Indian, when we are together it's like a confirmation that we are mixed. However, she's really young and her mother uses trash products and relaxers on the hair, I only got to see the "foreign" curls when she was on a low cut because of secondary school rules. I'm going to advice her to protect her hair now that she's graduating next year, I have to get in there before her mother resumes 😅
Does anyone remember that one Indian lady who had super long brown hair and in the comment section, 99% BW were BEGGING that woman for an inch of her hair?? The 2nd hand embarrassment was real that day. Extra heavy on the cringe too😓
Same here. I have 4A/4B hair and I see all loose textured wigs as a Halloween costume on my features; it looks ridiculous and overtly out of place on my head. Straight wigs look crazy to me on pretty much anyone with afro textured hair. It doesn't fit.
I must admit, I used to think like this too. But then I realized that my hair is a different texture and I love it. We all have different hair textures and that’s the beauty of it. I can understand why they hate their hair so much (thanks, Eurocentric beauty standards). But eventually, they have to find healthy ways to build up their low self esteem. I know I did.
Another thing that’s wild is that I work in a predominantly white field and the amount of them who say they want my hair/love my hair even when it’s on it’s WORSE day is amazing.
@@aracystic28two things to keep in mind about that: 1-they might just be saying that to be nice, white women do that a lot, especially since they know black women struggle with hair self-esteem and 2-it’s shadenfreude, where they feel it doesn’t look good but they’re tired of seeing black women mimic their texture with wigs/relaxers so they say it to keep you from doing that again. If they really loved it and wanted it so badly, you’d see them rocking 4c wigs and chemical processes to make their hair that texture the way you see black women getting relaxers/Gina curls, and wearing type 1-3 wigs.
Im actually crying that some people think curly type 3 hair just stays like that all the time 😅😂 like, my country is mostly mixed so a lot of curly type 3 hair and ive yet to see a person who just has "juice curls" all the time. Also, the amount of people who grow up straightening it...grass is always greener
All curls can last you just have to use the right products, if it’s still frizzy you need to use a stronger gel. Most people with 4c hair do not have a visible curl pattern so they need to use much stronger gel and it is a little harder to get defined curls but it is possible, you just need a lot of patience
@Sharquitty that's not the point im making. Personally, I don't like the stiffness of strong hold gel on my hair. Its absolutely fine to have a bit of frizz especially since I like volume. My hair define just fine but i don't wanna be worried if its absolutely perfect all the time. It feels like taming it(for me). Its curly and it gonna do curly hair things 😅 Naturalidade is the word
@@necrotic9433 I get what your saying but I also wasn’t challenging your point I was stating a fact. No one should feel the need to have there hair defined all the time, however sometimes it is necessary for proper hair hydration. You said that “I’m actually crying that some people think curly type 3 hair stays like that all the time” and yes, it’s true that every textured hair does end up getting frizzy. However type 3 hair does stay defined much longer and much easier USUALLY. Key word there. Even when type 3 hair gets frizzy you still have some slight visible curl pattern which does not happen on 4c hair. However 4c hair also does not have the same need to be defined to be moisturized. Also the ways peoples hair are treated in different cultures is obviously very different. The point I’m trying to make is that while yes, type 3 hair can get frizzy fast, type 4 more specifically 4c hair has a hard time getting it defined in the first place. And because of that people with 4c hair have a perception that there hair is nappy without realizing that different types of hair is equally as beautiful and there hair has different needs than type 4 hair.
@@Sharquittyway too much focus on getting definition. If someone feels a need to regularly force & struggle to get their hair to do anything it doesn't easily/naturally do, therein lies the problem. Self-acceptance is KEY
It all boils down to not being secure with yourself. I never felt envy towards another hair texture I never even think about it 😂 I always rock my natural hair and it honestly makes me feel sexy. We have the coolest hair but the disrespect is acceptable because who usually has 4c ~black ppl~ it’s always ok to disrespect black people.
"They keep looking up ahead, across, from side to side, to see who supposedly has it better" chile and that glass slipper meme too........ CHILE........
4c hair is the only hair that is exclusive to African ancestry and we should be proud. Who else can wear beautiful Bantu knots braid outs and twist outs or big big Afros? Hair that is parted so straight and so neat with unique braid styles can’t be achieved by any other texture. STOP hating your hair and embracing it. Truth be told, other cultures are actually envious of our hair. They are curious and wonder how our hair does what it does. Stop feeding into the lies about 4c hair and rock your beautiful braids cornrows, twist outs Afros and Bantu knots. Our 4c hair is our own and we shouldn’t allow anybody else to talk down on it. Enough of this worshiping other hair types.
Being curious is not the same as being envious. If they were envious, they’d be wearing 4c hair weaves/wigs with the same frequency those who envy types 1-3 hair wear those weaves/wigs…
@@favouro6344lol, “because we told them not to” hate to burst your bubble, but the people who run this country and formerly owned your people don’t need permission, as clearly the slaves didn’t consent. They simply don’t like 4c hair at all.
* to the person who doesn’t get it, under your comment: Yes, they are envious, hence they don’t want us gatekeeping traditionally African hairstyles and practices while they like to gatekeep representation in media
@@NamasteInYourLane Same here. （＞人＜；） They're such disgusting words, I'm not buying into that whole "wE'rE rEcLaImInG iT 🤪🤪" statement people use, because if they were, why are they getting mad at other races/men using it?? 🤔🤔
First, I said this once and I'll say this again. Diary. Some of these people should be write in it. Secondly, a natural hair youtuber I was watching for a while is Taiana White. I've started to watch Afrikanhairgod as well to learn more about my hair because he works with natural hair. Both of them are so uplifting and helpful. Once I get a proper diet my hair will as I've been sick for a while.
All i have to say is thank you bc im tired of it too. I get that some are on a journey to love their 4c but i love mines. If you don't love your 4c, start surrounding yourself with 4c love and positivity and block out the negativity both online and real life
Hii Juliee Just loosened my 4c hair thirty minutes ago and noticed your video was up 🤣 The fact that I'm already to subscribed to Yinka Naturalista and Glory Okings, I'm seventeen and I decided long ago I'm going to love and take care of my hair in its natural state 🥹 Oh and I'm Nigerian too so we all have that in common 😂 Anywayss love youu, love your content✨
Aw. I love that! Sabi girl. 😍 I love that you didn't let the naysayers get to you. It's especially special when self love is the default and not something you have to fight to attain. But I hope we all find our way to it.
I just saw a video of a non black woman showing how she gets her long straight hair to be wavy using the sock method. In the video she was taking her hair down after she did the sock method and there were comments from Black women telling her to cut her hair so they can wear HER HAIR as bundles. It’s insane how so many black women hate their type 4 hair and want to put another race of woman’s hair over their head.
Omg, how stupid can those women be. I went to predominantly Whyte schools so I KNOW how ww can especially be. I bet most of those women begging for bundles never grew up in whyte communities and schools. WW dont like us. When will they understand that 😂
Although it's common for any woman, with any hair type, to struggle with their hair. I do agree that hating your natural hair and sitting a self-pity rather than embracing your natural hair and its uniqueness is ridiculous. when you love yourself as you are you not worried about what the world thinks...
In Nigeria, people have asked me if I'm Jamaican 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ like majority of those people don't originate from here. The funniest part is that I have 4b 4c hair, it's just long and full and people think it's a sign of foreign ancestry.
Thank you for this video. The self loathing naturalistas are EXHAUSTING. There's nothing more energy zapping than a woman endlessly complaining about not feeling beautiful enough. I don't keep these kinds of women around me because they always have something backhanded to say to the girlies that actually love their afro textured hair and aren't struggling.
I had my hair in a gravity defying hairdo. Someone in class asked me if I was "going for something?" Like what? You've never seen 4c natural hair before? I was wearing it naturally for the week. 😅😂
That girl just made me see how pathetic I come off when I intentionally play small in the world and verbalize self-doubt (not as it pertains to hair). It DOESN'T SERVE anyone EXCEPT to make someone ELSE "feel," superio3, because YOU made YOURSELF inferior. 19:35: I've always thought this kind of hairstyle to be REGAL, BUT MY "black hair won't do it." I don't whine about it and profess jealousy. I admire, give compliments when there is opportunity and relish in the satisfaction of witnessing class & sophistication being exuded effortlessly from not JUST A black women, but one who EMBRACES her SELF (the NATURAL HER). And as for me & my hair, we respect our limits and do what WORKS, for US. I hope the positive voices will reach decibels loud enough to DROWN OUT the buffoonery!
I saw the title and came here to say God bless you for talking about this before I even finish the video. People told me that I’m too sensitive and they have a right to complain about their hair 😠
@@actuallyjuliee And even when someone praises their own hair they’re also there to tell them they must not have the real 4c and don’t understand their struggles
Reminds me of the struggle 4c pity party held on StarPuppy's channel. She gets tons of views every time she makes a video bashing, hating and crying over her hair. It's always "woe is me I have the worst hair 4c, let's gather together and have inferiority complex p0rn together please pity me 🥹" And then 4c women are shocked when the rest of the world parrots back what they say about their hair and THEN ready to attack, insult and demean you when you dare call out their obvious self h8 about their hair. It's never ending and insufferable I can't stand it.
exactly what I have been saying for years. they come online and talk shit about our hair texture then act suprised when people talk shit about it like make it make sense? they are only parroting what they've seen and heard. I remember my former white coworker saying it just be difficult to take care of my hair and I said it isn't, she said she saw a video on Tiktok and and her daughter finds it difficult to take care of her biracial daughter's hair, I said that is their own opinion because my hair is very easy to take care of.
@@bevbevbev_yup! This is why if I have braids, etc. And they say "omg, it must've hurt or took a long time" I always say "nope, it took an hour🙂". Lol. Nah, I'm not doing that!
I used to love watching StarPuppy but then she kept complaining about her 4c hair and I really started to have doubts about my 4c so I stopped watching her content altogether.
@@naboudi1472I watch Star puppy too and I don't think I watched her enough to see her complain but I feel like she grew into it and leaned to love her hair. Idk i digress
This low key why I cut my locs . I feel like a lot of American black women hide their hair texture in that style as well. People would ask me if I planned to comb them out and straighten my hair. 🫠
And it's so crazy because the natural hair movement started in the U.S. Ima need our sisters to get it together. The complaining is annoying atp and my sympathy is starting to slim down. You can't complain about texturism from society and you talk about your hair negatively.
Mine is easy to take care of straight. It doesn’t break off at all. I struggle the most when it’s in its natural state. It beaks, doesn’t break off when flat ironed.
"Awh, I'm sorry girl UwU, you deserve to have hair like mine. 💇🏾♀💇🏾♀ It's too bad you have, *scoffs* THAT instead 🤭🤭", honestly truly though, they would really be throwing up and foaming at the mouth with that one. ORRRR, sadly agreeing. 🙃🙃
I was never allowed to relax my hair as a kid. So I’ve been rocking 4c hair since birth. I’ve had ups and downs about it but, it really is amazing. We can do any hair style! Like, we can have pin straight hair one day and then next, an Afro that fluffs up like beautiful cloud. I hate seeing people crap on it when it’s one of our unique features as a people. People need to learn how to do it and be creative instead of advertising their self hatred. Long ago, outsiders told us as a group that our hair was bad and unkept. And that was intentional. We need to stop subscribing to the beauty standards of other groups and making ourselves miserable.
You are the only RUclipsr who has addressed people who are insecure about their 4C hair correctly. Everyone else who reviews these videos go too easy on them. Your tone was perfect😂
Tired of the sugarcoating. They don't sugarcoat all the nasty words they have for this hair type. If I have to scroll seeing them, they'll have to put up with my videos too.
Once I was truly happy with my hair I remembered how I used to look at my Mexican friends and feel so sad my hair couldn’t be like theirs. Now I can look at other women and appreciate their beauty in such a neutral way. I can celebrate others because I can celebrate myself. 4c thick Afros , red head curly, bone straight jet black, wavy golden blonde. All beautiful and just glorious that humans can be so varied and all so beautiful
Idc idc any black women waring a weave they doesn’t match their hair texture hates themselves bc why else are you wearing it when I wear weave it always matches my hair texture I love my hair it’s a beautiful curly pattern it may not be 4c but it’s still type 4
So when I wear my afro for a month straight then you happen to catch me wearing a straight wig with bangs the next day I hate myself? 😭 everyone is so strict lol
Talk about it I think it’s so embarrassing i never felt envy nor jealousy over another texture it just screams insecure I hate when black girls do that bs bc then everyone is gonna assume every black women feels that way and it’s absolutely not true
@@actuallyjuliee I spoke with her about it. She said she meant that cause we take longer to do our hair. It was eventually brought up to our boss by another AA woman who'd multiple occurrences of people being inventive to her color.
I'm jamaican with 4c hair i use to despise my hair when i was younger cause i saw no growth but now snice I'm 16 I've grown to love it and realized castor oil and grease and teas and herbs made my hair grow a bit all we need to do is just take care of our hair
I loathe pity parties these days. Especially hating something God blessed you with. You're unique sis. Got off the internet, enter the real world and sit down and embrace and learn YOU. I've seen the beauty of our hair, its versatility and its capabilities when its short and when its grown long. Jealousy is an ugly demonic trait and its roots in us when we believe lies like this. Stop comparing yourself to others. Thats a start at lwarning to appreciate you for who you are -A fellow 4c (Proverbs 14:30)
it is really sad to see so many of our women who can't recognize the beauty in themselves unless they have some sort of wig or weave on their head. they don't even talk about their own hair, but they can't stop talking about all the fake hair they want to buy.
The real tea is, those wigs look absolutely ridiculous on BW. I'm baffled at how many BW have yet to realize that those straight, platinum blonde, rainbow, beach wave bussdowns look like party city costumes on our unique, afro centric phenotypes. They don't even suit us. No matter how laid, or slayed the bundles are, they all look disingenuous and ridiculous to me and I wish other BW would stop lying to them and telling them they look good when they don't.
I’ve NEVER disliked my hair ! Nor envy another hair texture. I ♥️my 4 C ( CROWN ) Hair. No one can make me feel or think otherwise. I hope those women learn to luv and care for their hair.
I love the way you speak and the points you make. And even greater, reading all these POSITIVE comments here about type 4 hair is just BEAUTIFUL💕 and yes, it is always “grass is greener on the other side”. My mom has thick, long straight Native American hair and believe it or not, people with straight hair also need an actual hair care routine. I have no idea where the idea of doing “nothing” with looser or straight texture hair came from.
My grandma relaxed my 4c hair when I was 6 so "it would be easier to manage" and I love my granny so I did what she told me. made that mistake again when my aunt told me she would loosen my curls instead of relaxing them. They kept saying my hair that I just washed and styled was tangled and looked bad 🫠 now my hair won't curl even if my life depended on it and looks like straw 🫠 I'm just done with the bullying and preassure put on people with 4c hair because "I'ts not pretty, or looks tangled, or with that hair you will never get someone or a career"
You will get a man or a career with 4c hair. Lots of women with 4c hair have great careers. Look at the woman who is a broadcaster that they attacked because she didnt carry the way "they" thought her hair should be. She is successful and has 4c hair.
It’s is just hair but when you were raised to hate your hair type it takes time to change that Midset I admit it is pathetic I look back how I used to cry because of my hair but I’m getting better at loving and embracing my texture but time can only help me build this confidence more
I also have 4c hair nd someone have also told me that I should go put relaxer in my ,that my hair looks ugly, bushy nd rough that looks like spoungh nd I said to the person no matter what you say about 4c hair will make me relax my 4c hair cos I love my 4c hair so much::what I don’t understand is why people a batching on 4c hair; imagine no salonist wants to do my hair bcos of my texture 4chair nd nd this is so devastating I decided to start doing my hair by myself nd that av be doing for years know nd I love doing my hair with no body insulting me about my hair….❤❤
People are quite literally dvmb. A lot of 4c girls will have no choice but to learn to do their hair themselves because these stylists don't even bother learning how to. I do my hair 80% of the time because whenever I go out I have to treat my hair for months to recover.
@@actuallyjuliee you are very correct bcos people are leterally dump as for me i cut my hair myself bcos no salonist understand natural 4c hair ask a salonist to cut your hair …. They will cut a very long 4c hair to a very short hair bcos they cut more than you ask for nd leave your hair damaged beyond repair nd this is very devastating nd painful,nd the worst part of it this salonist they don’t even care about your 4c hair they are scissors happy…. As for me I say good bye to salon I do my 4c hair myself bcos I understand my 4c hair better nd I also cut my hair myself ….☺️☺️
I wish I could identify as a different category of black woman sometimes because of women like that. Like…I actually love myself. I don’t crave a 13 x 6 yaki bussdown.
These women are so embarrassing and whats crazy is if a woman with that same water wave texture she was gushing over made a video and said “I’m so glad I have this texture of hair instead of 4c hair” I bet you the same woman would be mad and crying about texturism 😂😂😂
@theamethyst93 LMAO 100%!! Because which one is it, are they mad THEY have the hair texture or are they mad OTHERS don't like it nor want it?? Please. Pick. A. Struggle. (* ￣︿￣)
Omg! First of all, how have we turned a HAIR CHART that was meant to help people identify your hair and its needs, into a whole NEW way to create division, jealousy, self depricating behavior. Love your hair, your crown and maximize the beauty of your hair, you'll learn yours is awsome. I think girls who do this want people to say Aaaw its gonna be ok🥹. Girl, get up! There are soooo many ladies with 4 hair thats glorious! Yea i do have type 3 hair, and when people compliment me i say thank you and move on! Texturism... is that what we're doing now?? 🙄
It was actually never meant for us. The man who create it hatred tightly coiled hair 🤷🏾♀️ I don’t even type my hair anymore. Too many women scream and rant about what is or isn’t 4c, b, or a. Idk anymore. That doesn’t matter in hair care. Just the shape of the hair strand matters and the nature of black hair. That’s it
@@EtherealSolana i dont know if thats rumor or hearsay or truth. But point is, even if the person did, what the devil meant for evil God turned for good because it still has helped many figure out what type of care their hair needs. And also, by fighting over something as petty and stupid as hair texture, wouldnt that just be playing right into the persons hands??
I have type 3c/4a and I get ignorant comments all the time, especially with those assuming my hair type is easy to take care of. Like, no it’s really not. I just take the time to learn my hair and once I find something it likes, I stick with it.
I have 4c hair i and people always told me i had good hair cause i jad alot of hair on my head , prior to that i had a perm and it was breaking my hair off , they don't realize hair looks good when you take care of it and learn what works for your hair and not , my sister helped me alot when she went natural so i didn't have to struggle alot in the beginning stages , it all double downs to , alot if yall are jist lazy and dont dont care to learn about your hair and thats why people struggle alot
I mean some people do think something is wrong with our hair. I don't have 4c hair but my hair is type 4. I'm often asked questions about my hair by my students because they have never seen hair like mine. My students predominantly have bone straight hair (I live in Asia). A little girl asked me why my hair was like that and I said I was born like that. So I decided to ask her why her hair was like that and she said because her mom knew that this was the prettiest hair lmao. I got negged by a 2nd grader. Unprovoked. So it would be untrue to pretend that other people don't see our hair as not pretty or nice. I know for a fact they do, due to living here for almost a decade. However, I don't think that's an excuse for us to neg our own hair. Although I think if the majority of us wore our hair and normalized it, this would change.
But aren’t in some parts of Asia they’re going to salons for Afro textures well at least the videos I seen😂a little yt girl told us she wanted our Afros during a school concert her mama had been complaining about her hair being short
And some parts of Asian (South Korea) give their children plastic surgery as a gift they don't even like themselves so I don't care about what they think about us lol
I used to also not like my 4c hair when I was relaxed.....after cutting it I had to acknowledge that because in the beginning I used to follow women with looser hair textures 3b 3c 4a and think my hair could do that after deep conditioner and moisturing process I remember the day I stopped following those ladies and stopped liking their posts I then started following West African women and a few USA women and my algorithm was algorithming so beautifully on Instagram, Pinterest, RUclips and TikTok....I only then started to appreciate and love my hair then after I noticed a change in my hair density, length, shine and volume I did this before such conversations like yours were being discussed and I am so glad I did that because I would have never known the potential of my natural hair and people always stare at it and give compliments and I am not gonna lie I can't get enough of the compliments 😂❤.....mind you this is my view and my story and it doesn't apply to everyone
Yasss. My first advice for 4c girlies learning their hair is to follow more creators with their hair type. Of course you can follow people with different hair textures but if you're still in that delicate place of not liking/understanding your hair, you should affirm yourself by surrounding yourself with textures like yours.
I've been banned from my other account for telling people the truth aka trolling. Great to be back and watching another fantastic Juliee video. Can always rely on Juliee for the truth!
The levels of annoyance i feel when i see this type of behavior ugh i can't stand them. but what i hate more is when they band together and try to make you feel the way they do. The second they see you actually love your hair they're mind-blown. They can't understand why and they try to talk bad about their hair and make you join in. how are you gonna try to make me hate the masterpiece i was born with? I love it and that's that. Hate yours on your own time.
I've been noticing how the other races wanna look Eurasian, and some of them are honest with it 😏😏, some aren't. 😐😐 Us on the other hand, a CERTAIN section of us at that, want to look Afro-Asiatic and we really have to be honest about it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ The hair, as we know, is usually outsourced from Southeast Asia for one. ☝🏾☝🏾 For two, the makeup styles mimic the techniques of drag queens and Arab women which are usually exaggerated and dramatized to high heavens, like..... what's REALLY going on?? ╚(•⌂•)╝ Something must be in the water for real. Btw, I put ol girl and ol boy on mute (with subtitles on), because I can't have ignorant statements like theirs swim about in all three parts of my consciousness. ¯\_( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)_/¯ Once AGAIN, it's one thing to feel negatively about your hair texture (which you should have a support system for, and possible therapy sessions), but to blast all the things you hate about it ONLINE, for all to see, instead of in a diary (like it was mentioned in that screenshot, just got to that part LOL) you could've gotten from the Dollar store to your fanciest Arts and Crafts shop is NUTSO. (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ Don't @ me with nonsense either, I don't wanna hear it nor do YOU want to read what I have to say about that. 😝😝 The only things I'm striving to coat with sugar are FOOD. Also, bubble braids/poodle puffs are SOOOO pretty, I've got to try them at least ONCE. (T__T)
YUPPP instead of trying to look more Eurasian i focus on tapping into traditional African beauty standards and i try to replicate African beauty because that is what i am deep down
@@bruhvibes5941 UGH, thank you!! 🤯🤯 That annoys me (or just makes me laugh) to no end. 👆🏾👆🏾 Some present day East and North Africans have their own admixture(s) due to VARIOUS things (ຈ﹏ຈ), and even then, they have similar hair textures to us, but only showcase certain types. ( ± _ ± ) Us in the diaspora are usually of Bantu origin and of the Niger-Congo linguistic groups, and that's present day West, Central and some parts of South Africa. 「(°ヘ°) That means we're gonna have kinky, kinky curly or (tight) curly hair. ¯\_(・ ᴗ・ )_/¯ They need to wake up and smell the truth. 🤭🤭
@@rewbi2196 It’s also annoying to see more admixed diasporans be over-represented, like Justine Skye, Ryan Destiny and Jasmine Tookes. It’s basically all the same skinny noses Type 3 hair darkskin over and over again.
I love you. I love your channel. God BLESS you sincerely from my heart. Sometimes I think I’m the only person who doesn’t hate myself and my features but actually find them beautiful! You are a breath of fresh air. Please these women need self esteem, a backbone, God, deep and serious help! You are doing His work! Don’t ever think you aren’t. You make me feel relieved, bc the second hand bitterness and embarrassment I feel for my people is too much at times. Somebody has some sense and self respect Biko.
Unfortunately, we tend to want what we don't have. My hair is 3c/4a and long, and I love 3b curls (my son has 3b curls and it's so easy to do and absorbs moisture so quick, 3b tends to be normal porosity). I've seen people be a little obsessed over 3c hair and trust me it's not easy to do. It tangles very easy, it's dry, breaks super easy and shrinks a lot. Wash days take a whole day! Now, I do love my hair especially once it's all styled, it's also a struggle just like 4a, 4b etc (my crown is 4a). Being frustrated with our hair once in a while is normal (I've been frustrated almost every week lol), but when that happens, I just watch videos of 3c/4a hair to motivate me and keep going... or simply do a ponytail etc. to take a break cause it's a lot of work. I try to only straighten it once a year, but when I'm extremely frustrated... I just straighten it until I miss my curls again 2 weeks later. It's a process, but no.. 3c/4a is not easy at all
I remember wanting more curves as a teen.....Fast forward to my 30s and 40s and I still do not like bras and my butt gets me in all kinds of trouble...... I glad that I do no have bigger breasts and that my butt isn't any bigger because clothes would never fit and bras would be super expensive and hurt my back and shoulders and my butt would be knock more things off the shelf and preventing me from running. Lol! God knows what he was doing when he created us. I can't even sit for waist-length braids so how and I supposed to stand detangling weekly waist-length hair that does not stay neat in braids? 4c hair stays the neatest in braided styles...meanwhile, all the other types start to look crazy after 2 weeks. Not to mention the excess oil/grease that Non-type 4 hair be producing.
5:29 THIS It's sad because some black girls are trying their best to appreciate their hair, and then some people bring this type of unnecessary comments...
Remember when everyone use to rock an afro, remember when everyone wanted 4c hair so they could pull that off? I do so why did we let our love for 4c hair go?
Some black women do not realize that if they hydrate and take care of the curls properly it will match whatever wig they’re trying from water wave to 4c wigs. I have 4a hair I buy 4a wigs that are a longer than my real hair. My leave out matches because I take care of it. If I want it to look “ wet” it’s a 2 hour process in the morning even with the proper hair care I have. We need to start normalizing 3a-4c hair so women can love themselves.
What I don’t get it is how EVERY OTHER curly type is acceptable except… 4C? We can literally shape our hair into anything we want. We can braid it without getting sun burn on our scalp or our hair falling out. We can straighten it. we can even CHANGE THE CURLY PATTERN. Our hair is the most diverse on the planet. It’s crazy to me how much they hate themselves.
These be the same women who would complain about mean lying and cheating on them but they lie and cheat on their hair with other peoples hair . To me they brought this in their lives with negative behavior.
I hear Nigerian women saying the B word, it has absolutely nothing to do with being American or not….. but you’re on point with the rest of the video 😂
OMG I LOVE everything you said about these saddies and self-deprecating, attention seeking women 💯 I love Yinka! I wish she made more content or there were more creators on her wave length. Thanks for introducing me to Glory O Kings ❤
This 😅. I have som empathy because I get the discrimination that we can face but..... its almost 2025. I (along with many other naturals) have found ways to simplify my routine and take care of my hair. Ive even got to the point where im not grasping for length because there are so many styles you can do on naturally kinky hair! I guess there will always be a subset of women that hate their hair though unfortunately
@ 9:05 hold on! You just made me remember that RUclips woman that got dragged for saying she was "blessed" to not have 4c hair😂😂. I did not get why people came for her so bad cuz like....that is exactly how a lot of people with kinky hair online think. So many black girls with kinky hair come online to express how badly they want looser textured hair so she basically just said the quiet part out loud. I didn't really care too much, cuz I feel blessed to have my own kinky hair type and think I look weird with flatter hair. I'll be honest, though -- I still feel tired styling and taking care of it sometimes. But it's just hair. People are so weird online.
They were mad because she said what they always say lol. I saw that video too and it's so ironic because she said it was her own mother that told her she was lucky she had looser curls and not "naps" like her. Crazy how bw are the villains in their own stories.
4c girlies we need to stay on code, ok ? Just hate yourself silently if you want but stop *filming your self hate* it gives the others a pass to bash ME and I didn't ask for that because I love my hair.
The thing with hair is that we always see the final product of every hair, I personally love 4c hair alot, yes the internet got to me making me think certain curls are better but in really in love with 4c hair, but Chile the work is crazy but it's not just 4c hair. There is work everywhere.
Black women don’t realize that these types of videos also make non-black women feel inherently superior because we can’t even bother to have the most basic level of self-esteem and self preservation online it’s embarrassing .great video Julie !!
❤💯
Same with videos talking about how no man wants dark skinned woman, like you’re giving this b***** a confidence boost😭😭
Exactly I been saying this I stopped wearing any texture weave 10 years ago it makes Asians and other non black women feel superior that was my exact statement to my stylist
❤❤❤❤💯💯💯💯! They're too slow
@@sagba947yes, I visually seen it one day. I was training at this job and the lady training me was pretty but she had a blonde buss down wig. This lady, who wasn't yt but something other, she was with a BM. She started flipping her hair all extra when talking to the blonde hair girl. It was very weird but interesting. I never forgot it!
Just because they have 4c hair doesn't give them the license to bash 4c hair because they are basically telling us they don't like our hair and we love our hair. This is getting really cringe and creepy! I'm so tired of it.
It's very cringe. #BringBackDiaries
Thank you! I’m Igbo and I always think this.
What’s weirder is that African American women will actually have the audacity to think they are superior to us bc they are less African. Very cringe indeed. Just bc you hate yourself doesn’t mean I hate myself and my own features! So embarrassing, cringe and offensive.
It’s the way they always gather in comment sections to bash themselves for me, truly pathetic. Typing “Cries in 4c” under comment sections of other races of women 🤮 and if you tell them to love their own hair, they get triggered and start insulting you.
I dropped all my friends like this
@ I don’t even involve myself in discussions about natural hair with women around me anymore even though they compliment my hair every time, I’m tired, there’s always an excuse as to why they treat their hair like its not part of their anatomy. I mind my business, i would rather continue making videos that show the beauty and versatility of natural hair.
And anybody with long, moisturized, or healthy 4c hair is told that their hair isn’t actually 4c. It’s wild.
@@Deviantbrat❤❤❤
@@emmyl487 The backhanded compliments 😂. The hair looks good so it can’t possibly be 4c. The perpetual victim hood is crazy!!!
Of course it’ll blend when you use hair that match your hair texture
You know the kinky girlies are never gonna do that. They "ain't spending a banddd on no 4c bundles". You saw the comments. 💀
@@actuallyjuliee Lol! Yeah cause 4c bundles don't usually cost a band. Lol! When you don't want something everyone else has, God brings you blessings for staying true to yourself!!! I have clip-ins, puffs and half wigs that match my 4c because I'm too lazy to straighten leave out daily and like keeping my edges. Rain, sweat, swim, humidity, wind, my hair stays the same...meanwhile...these women running from the weather and exercise. Lol! even back in the 90s, the relaxed girls were told not to wet or sweat out the relaxer...smh... My health is more important than a hairstyle.
@@marleyhill34may I ask where you buy your kinky clip ins etc?
Imagine those with looser textures using 4c bundles and crying that it doesnt match 😂😂😂
@@introvertednigeriangirl4865 Outre, Sensationne,l Fingercomber and Janet Collection has good quality synthetic kinky 4c hair. For human hair...CurlsCurls, HerGivenHair Betterlength and CurlsQueen
I know we’re not a monolith but i feel secondhand embarrassment when i see this 😩
Saaammee. Like get a diary or see a therapist or something.
Same. I see comments like this so much, but thankfully I see a lot videos with of black women loving naturing their natural hair.
Literally it pisses me off
It's so embarrassing 😐
I mean..they are the reason why other women feel entitled to come on TikTok and start bashing us and go viral for that. 🤷🏾♀️
Lol, I have 4c hair and I’m so tired of the slander💀 Like our hair is pretty. If it’s lookin “rough” it’s probably from trying to make it into something else or not learning proper care. I just think healthy hair in general is pretty. I love the versatility of my kinks! My inspo has always been my mom whose hair is kinky and strong, grows to her waist and is gorgeous. Even when she cuts it, it is still pretty. #EmbracetheKink lol🫶🏽
Exactly! It's all about proper care and loving what you've got.
I've seen some older women complain that my hair is 4 people's hair but they don't tell the story of how they damaged their scalp and hair with crazy and painful styles from an early age. I'm always asked about the products I use, I use Xhc (don't know much about the brand, use it because it's cheap) and it's mostly a shampoo, after which I put my hair in regular sized twists for a month. I've avoided anything that will stress my scalp and damage my hair for 4 years. Now it's past my neck🎉. I have a cousin that has hair that makes people call her Indian, when we are together it's like a confirmation that we are mixed. However, she's really young and her mother uses trash products and relaxers on the hair, I only got to see the "foreign" curls when she was on a low cut because of secondary school rules. I'm going to advice her to protect her hair now that she's graduating next year, I have to get in there before her mother resumes 😅
Does anyone remember that one Indian lady who had super long brown hair and in the comment section, 99% BW were BEGGING that woman for an inch of her hair?? The 2nd hand embarrassment was real that day. Extra heavy on the cringe too😓
@@JaKyra365 yes very embarrassing. I made a video about that before. They take any opportunity to act a fool.
It’s funny because my hair is 4a and I think I look weird with straight or wavy hair. It doesn’t suit me or my features.
Same
It looks so odd
Same here. I have 4A/4B hair and I see all loose textured wigs as a Halloween costume on my features; it looks ridiculous and overtly out of place on my head. Straight wigs look crazy to me on pretty much anyone with afro textured hair. It doesn't fit.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 lmao . Halloween costume is correct lmao!!!!
me too!
I must admit, I used to think like this too. But then I realized that my hair is a different texture and I love it. We all have different hair textures and that’s the beauty of it.
I can understand why they hate their hair so much (thanks, Eurocentric beauty standards).
But eventually, they have to find healthy ways to build up their low self esteem. I know I did.
@@melodysafo5437 I love to see the growth. Both the internal and external, cause I know that hair greww once you got rid of that mindset.
@melodysafo5437 Wow, I'm proud of you!! Keep on evolving with your beautiful self (along with your gorgeous hair texture). xx
Another thing that’s wild is that I work in a predominantly white field and the amount of them who say they want my hair/love my hair even when it’s on it’s WORSE day is amazing.
@@aracystic28two things to keep in mind about that: 1-they might just be saying that to be nice, white women do that a lot, especially since they know black women struggle with hair self-esteem and 2-it’s shadenfreude, where they feel it doesn’t look good but they’re tired of seeing black women mimic their texture with wigs/relaxers so they say it to keep you from doing that again. If they really loved it and wanted it so badly, you’d see them rocking 4c wigs and chemical processes to make their hair that texture the way you see black women getting relaxers/Gina curls, and wearing type 1-3 wigs.
They could never make me hate my 4c hair. Neva!!
Heavy on the neva!!!
Im actually crying that some people think curly type 3 hair just stays like that all the time 😅😂 like, my country is mostly mixed so a lot of curly type 3 hair and ive yet to see a person who just has "juice curls" all the time. Also, the amount of people who grow up straightening it...grass is always greener
All curls can last you just have to use the right products, if it’s still frizzy you need to use a stronger gel. Most people with 4c hair do not have a visible curl pattern so they need to use much stronger gel and it is a little harder to get defined curls but it is possible, you just need a lot of patience
@Sharquitty that's not the point im making. Personally, I don't like the stiffness of strong hold gel on my hair. Its absolutely fine to have a bit of frizz especially since I like volume. My hair define just fine but i don't wanna be worried if its absolutely perfect all the time. It feels like taming it(for me). Its curly and it gonna do curly hair things 😅 Naturalidade is the word
@@necrotic9433 I get what your saying but I also wasn’t challenging your point I was stating a fact. No one should feel the need to have there hair defined all the time, however sometimes it is necessary for proper hair hydration. You said that “I’m actually crying that some people think curly type 3 hair stays like that all the time” and yes, it’s true that every textured hair does end up getting frizzy. However type 3 hair does stay defined much longer and much easier USUALLY. Key word there. Even when type 3 hair gets frizzy you still have some slight visible curl pattern which does not happen on 4c hair. However 4c hair also does not have the same need to be defined to be moisturized. Also the ways peoples hair are treated in different cultures is obviously very different.
The point I’m trying to make is that while yes, type 3 hair can get frizzy fast, type 4 more specifically 4c hair has a hard time getting it defined in the first place. And because of that people with 4c hair have a perception that there hair is nappy without realizing that different types of hair is equally as beautiful and there hair has different needs than type 4 hair.
@@Sharquittyway too much focus on getting definition.
If someone feels a need to regularly force & struggle to get their hair to do anything it doesn't easily/naturally do, therein lies the problem.
Self-acceptance is KEY
@ that’s literally what I just said
It all boils down to not being secure with yourself. I never felt envy towards another hair texture I never even think about it 😂 I always rock my natural hair and it honestly makes me feel sexy. We have the coolest hair but the disrespect is acceptable because who usually has 4c ~black ppl~ it’s always ok to disrespect black people.
Everything you said
Especially when black people are the main ones disrespecting other black people
"They keep looking up ahead, across, from side to side, to see who supposedly has it better" chile and that glass slipper meme too........ CHILE........
I kind of ate huh?😭😂
@@actuallyjuliee You sure ate indeed. 😆😆
“ STUTTERING AND FLAPPING LIKE A FISH ON DRY LAND” I LOVE YOUUU 😭😭
😂😂👌
4c hair is the only hair that is exclusive to African ancestry and we should be proud. Who else can wear beautiful Bantu knots braid outs and twist outs or big big Afros? Hair that is parted so straight and so neat with unique braid styles can’t be achieved by any other texture. STOP hating your hair and embracing it. Truth be told, other cultures are actually envious of our hair. They are curious and wonder how our hair does what it does. Stop feeding into the lies about 4c hair and rock your beautiful braids cornrows, twist outs Afros and Bantu knots. Our 4c hair is our own and we shouldn’t allow anybody else to talk down on it. Enough of this worshiping other hair types.
no other culture is envious of nappy they aren't wearing 4c lace fronts
@@umm3766because we told them not to. That its appropriation. But ive had many people express interest in wearing an afro
Being curious is not the same as being envious. If they were envious, they’d be wearing 4c hair weaves/wigs with the same frequency those who envy types 1-3 hair wear those weaves/wigs…
@@favouro6344lol, “because we told them not to” hate to burst your bubble, but the people who run this country and formerly owned your people don’t need permission, as clearly the slaves didn’t consent. They simply don’t like 4c hair at all.
* to the person who doesn’t get it, under your comment:
Yes, they are envious, hence they don’t want us gatekeeping traditionally African hairstyles and practices while they like to gatekeep representation in media
I also cringed at that word, i don't understand why people love to use it 😥. It a degrading word for women 🥺
@@kay_swan she used it over 20 times in one video. Whyyy😭😩
I feel the same way about the N word.
@@NamasteInYourLaneme too I really don't like when that word is being used,it just want to cover my ears 🤦🏿♀️
@@actuallyjulieeyes and it was unnecessary too😅
@@NamasteInYourLane Same here. （＞人＜；） They're such disgusting words, I'm not buying into that whole "wE'rE rEcLaImInG iT 🤪🤪" statement people use, because if they were, why are they getting mad at other races/men using it?? 🤔🤔
Your editing is so cute and funny. I 4C a great future on youtube for you 🤩
@@SoulyOn555 aw thank you! 💕
Never been jealous of no other texture. I love my soft 4c hair. Love who you're and stop envying what you'll never have! Simple!
First, I said this once and I'll say this again. Diary. Some of these people should be write in it.
Secondly, a natural hair youtuber I was watching for a while is Taiana White. I've started to watch Afrikanhairgod as well to learn more about my hair because he works with natural hair. Both of them are so uplifting and helpful. Once I get a proper diet my hair will as I've been sick for a while.
Same here girl. I watch them too 😊
"Albino alligator"?!?!?!?! Julie, gimme your phone, STAT. 😂😂
😭😭 sorry not sorry
I’m in tears😂😂😂😂
All i have to say is thank you bc im tired of it too.
I get that some are on a journey to love their 4c but i love mines. If you don't love your 4c, start surrounding yourself with 4c love and positivity and block out the negativity both online and real life
Period. 💞
You’re so well spoken, articulate, and funny ❤
I appreciate you so much 💕
Hii Juliee
Just loosened my 4c hair thirty minutes ago and noticed your video was up 🤣
The fact that I'm already to subscribed to Yinka Naturalista and Glory Okings,
I'm seventeen and I decided long ago I'm going to love and take care of my hair in its natural state 🥹
Oh and I'm Nigerian too so we all have that in common 😂
Anywayss love youu, love your content✨
Aw. I love that! Sabi girl. 😍 I love that you didn't let the naysayers get to you. It's especially special when self love is the default and not something you have to fight to attain. But I hope we all find our way to it.
I just saw a video of a non black woman showing how she gets her long straight hair to be wavy using the sock method. In the video she was taking her hair down after she did the sock method and there were comments from Black women telling her to cut her hair so they can wear HER HAIR as bundles. It’s insane how so many black women hate their type 4 hair and want to put another race of woman’s hair over their head.
Begging for crumbs of someone else's hair is insane
Humiliating, bro. Deadass
Omg, how stupid can those women be. I went to predominantly Whyte schools so I KNOW how ww can especially be. I bet most of those women begging for bundles never grew up in whyte communities and schools. WW dont like us. When will they understand that 😂
Although it's common for any woman, with any hair type, to struggle with their hair. I do agree that hating your natural hair and sitting a self-pity rather than embracing your natural hair and its uniqueness is ridiculous. when you love yourself as you are you not worried about what the world thinks...
In Nigeria, people have asked me if I'm Jamaican 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ like majority of those people don't originate from here. The funniest part is that I have 4b 4c hair, it's just long and full and people think it's a sign of foreign ancestry.
@@tamiausten873 Nigerians will see a little curl in your hair and ask you if you're mixed 😭💀
Wig blindness is really a thing.
Yup. And we are currently in the wig blindness PANDEMIC.
I thought I was the only one who thought this
Thank you for this video. The self loathing naturalistas are EXHAUSTING. There's nothing more energy zapping than a woman endlessly complaining about not feeling beautiful enough. I don't keep these kinds of women around me because they always have something backhanded to say to the girlies that actually love their afro textured hair and aren't struggling.
I had my hair in a gravity defying hairdo. Someone in class asked me if I was "going for something?" Like what? You've never seen 4c natural hair before? I was wearing it naturally for the week. 😅😂
Like, "Girl, that's the look. Move along!"
That girl just made me see how pathetic I come off when I intentionally play small in the world and verbalize self-doubt (not as it pertains to hair). It DOESN'T SERVE anyone EXCEPT to make someone ELSE "feel," superio3, because YOU made YOURSELF inferior.
19:35: I've always thought this kind of hairstyle to be REGAL, BUT MY "black hair won't do it." I don't whine about it and profess jealousy. I admire, give compliments when there is opportunity and relish in the satisfaction of witnessing class & sophistication being exuded effortlessly from not JUST A black women, but one who EMBRACES her SELF (the NATURAL HER). And as for me & my hair, we respect our limits and do what WORKS, for US.
I hope the positive voices will reach decibels loud enough to DROWN OUT the buffoonery!
I saw the title and came here to say God bless you for talking about this before I even finish the video. People told me that I’m too sensitive and they have a right to complain about their hair 😠
@@quaintrelle20 that's all they want to do... complain and whine.
@@actuallyjuliee And even when someone praises their own hair they’re also there to tell them they must not have the real 4c and don’t understand their struggles
@@quaintrelle20That's a key sign of a miserable person who wants to keep living in misery. ヽ（´ー｀）┌
Reminds me of the struggle 4c pity party held on StarPuppy's channel.
She gets tons of views every time she makes a video bashing, hating and crying over her hair. It's always "woe is me I have the worst hair 4c, let's gather together and have inferiority complex p0rn together please pity me 🥹"
And then 4c women are shocked when the rest of the world parrots back what they say about their hair and THEN ready to attack, insult and demean you when you dare call out their obvious self h8 about their hair. It's never ending and insufferable I can't stand it.
exactly what I have been saying for years. they come online and talk shit about our hair texture then act suprised when people talk shit about it like make it make sense? they are only parroting what they've seen and heard.
I remember my former white coworker saying it just be difficult to take care of my hair and I said it isn't, she said she saw a video on Tiktok and and her daughter finds it difficult to take care of her biracial daughter's hair, I said that is their own opinion because my hair is very easy to take care of.
@@bevbevbev_yup! This is why if I have braids, etc. And they say "omg, it must've hurt or took a long time" I always say "nope, it took an hour🙂". Lol. Nah, I'm not doing that!
@@come_on_barbie_123 exactly, I will never give them the opportunity to associate pain and suffering with my hair. miss me with that.
I used to love watching StarPuppy but then she kept complaining about her 4c hair and I really started to have doubts about my 4c so I stopped watching her content altogether.
@@naboudi1472I watch Star puppy too and I don't think I watched her enough to see her complain but I feel like she grew into it and leaned to love her hair. Idk i digress
Ma’am was not sugarcoating anything 😂😂😭 Tagged them with names and all😂😂
I actually tried to cover names but I got lazy while editing 💀😭
So true it exhausting hearing these girls complain about 4c hair.
This low key why I cut my locs . I feel like a lot of American black women hide their hair texture in that style as well. People would ask me if I planned to comb them out and straighten my hair. 🫠
And it's so crazy because the natural hair movement started in the U.S.
Ima need our sisters to get it together. The complaining is annoying atp and my sympathy is starting to slim down. You can't complain about texturism from society and you talk about your hair negatively.
You're my kind of people! Cause smh. You're making sense sha
😂😂 thank you girll
How long does everyone want to be a victim?
I've always found my 4c hair easier to take of rather than when it's straightened.
Mine is easy to take care of straight. It doesn’t break off at all. I struggle the most when it’s in its natural state. It beaks, doesn’t break off when flat ironed.
Keep being eloquent ❤. Great content
Thank you for watching 💕
"Awh, I'm sorry girl UwU, you deserve to have hair like mine. 💇🏾♀💇🏾♀ It's too bad you have, *scoffs* THAT instead 🤭🤭", honestly truly though, they would really be throwing up and foaming at the mouth with that one. ORRRR, sadly agreeing. 🙃🙃
It will throw them in a tizzy because they won't know what to do after that one
Screaminggggg
I was never allowed to relax my hair as a kid. So I’ve been rocking 4c hair since birth. I’ve had ups and downs about it but, it really is amazing. We can do any hair style! Like, we can have pin straight hair one day and then next, an Afro that fluffs up like beautiful cloud. I hate seeing people crap on it when it’s one of our unique features as a people.
People need to learn how to do it and be creative instead of advertising their self hatred. Long ago, outsiders told us as a group that our hair was bad and unkept. And that was intentional. We need to stop subscribing to the beauty standards of other groups and making ourselves miserable.
It's crazy how some people think we are limited because of our hair. 4c can literally do anything.
Same. I feel grateful that I've never had a relaxer.
You are the only RUclipsr who has addressed people who are insecure about their 4C hair correctly. Everyone else who reviews these videos go too easy on them. Your tone was perfect😂
Tired of the sugarcoating. They don't sugarcoat all the nasty words they have for this hair type. If I have to scroll seeing them, they'll have to put up with my videos too.
Once I was truly happy with my hair I remembered how I used to look at my Mexican friends and feel so sad my hair couldn’t be like theirs. Now I can look at other women and appreciate their beauty in such a neutral way. I can celebrate others because I can celebrate myself. 4c thick Afros , red head curly, bone straight jet black, wavy golden blonde. All beautiful and just glorious that humans can be so varied and all so beautiful
Love this!
I hit the not interested button so fast as soon as the self hating pops up on my timeline it’s soooo weird
These pics with healthy thick 4C hair are gorgeous!!
4c hair eats. Long, short, medium. Just need confidence and knowing you're that girl.
Idc idc any black women waring a weave they doesn’t match their hair texture hates themselves bc why else are you wearing it when I wear weave it always matches my hair texture I love my hair it’s a beautiful curly pattern it may not be 4c but it’s still type 4
That’s you in the picture???
So when I wear my afro for a month straight then you happen to catch me wearing a straight wig with bangs the next day I hate myself? 😭 everyone is so strict lol
@@kilaa3417 that’s what I be tryna figure out!
@@jessicab331 yes
@@kilaa3417 bc why wear silky straight when there’s weaves that matches your hair texture you can get black hair to be silky
Girl not the albino alligator 😭😭
Even alligators need to pay bills. He wanted that rage bait cheque.💀
I had 4c hair my whole life & never had a problem or thought of my hair as difficult. I never heard of this until the internet.
The Internet can give you insecurities you have no business having if you're not careful
Talk about it I think it’s so embarrassing i never felt envy nor jealousy over another texture it just screams insecure I hate when black girls do that bs bc then everyone is gonna assume every black women feels that way and it’s absolutely not true
My workmate who is white said: "You guys got the bad end of the stick with hair" bruh
@@ameliac504 report to HR. What the heck.
@@actuallyjuliee I spoke with her about it. She said she meant that cause we take longer to do our hair. It was eventually brought up to our boss by another AA woman who'd multiple occurrences of people being inventive to her color.
I'm jamaican with 4c hair i use to despise my hair when i was younger cause i saw no growth but now snice I'm 16 I've grown to love it and realized castor oil and grease and teas and herbs made my hair grow a bit all we need to do is just take care of our hair
I loathe pity parties these days. Especially hating something God blessed you with. You're unique sis. Got off the internet, enter the real world and sit down and embrace and learn YOU. I've seen the beauty of our hair, its versatility and its capabilities when its short and when its grown long. Jealousy is an ugly demonic trait and its roots in us when we believe lies like this. Stop comparing yourself to others. Thats a start at lwarning to appreciate you for who you are -A fellow 4c
(Proverbs 14:30)
it is really sad to see so many of our women who can't recognize the beauty in themselves unless they have some sort of wig or weave on their head. they don't even talk about their own hair, but they can't stop talking about all the fake hair they want to buy.
Yes it's self and race hatred wishing they were another race by mimicking desiring coveting
The real tea is, those wigs look absolutely ridiculous on BW. I'm baffled at how many BW have yet to realize that those straight, platinum blonde, rainbow, beach wave bussdowns look like party city costumes on our unique, afro centric phenotypes. They don't even suit us. No matter how laid, or slayed the bundles are, they all look disingenuous and ridiculous to me and I wish other BW would stop lying to them and telling them they look good when they don't.
I’ve NEVER disliked my hair ! Nor envy another hair texture. I ♥️my 4 C ( CROWN ) Hair. No one can make me feel or think otherwise. I hope those women learn to luv and care for their hair.
I love the way you speak and the points you make. And even greater, reading all these POSITIVE comments here about type 4 hair is just BEAUTIFUL💕 and yes, it is always “grass is greener on the other side”. My mom has thick, long straight Native American hair and believe it or not, people with straight hair also need an actual hair care routine. I have no idea where the idea of doing “nothing” with looser or straight texture hair came from.
Thank you. Texturism is only okay when it's type 4 girls that do it apparently lol.
My grandma relaxed my 4c hair when I was 6 so "it would be easier to manage" and I love my granny so I did what she told me. made that mistake again when my aunt told me she would loosen my curls instead of relaxing them. They kept saying my hair that I just washed and styled was tangled and looked bad 🫠 now my hair won't curl even if my life depended on it and looks like straw 🫠 I'm just done with the bullying and preassure put on people with 4c hair because "I'ts not pretty, or looks tangled, or with that hair you will never get someone or a career"
You will get a man or a career with 4c hair. Lots of women with 4c hair have great careers. Look at the woman who is a broadcaster that they attacked because she didnt carry the way "they" thought her hair should be. She is successful and has 4c hair.
Favorite RUclips account!! You never miss girl, sending love from New York
Thank you! 🥰💞
It’s is just hair but when you were raised to hate your hair type it takes time to change that Midset I admit it is pathetic I look back how I used to cry because of my hair but I’m getting better at loving and embracing my texture but time can only help me build this confidence more
The b word is an american thing too its gross.
Agreed. I don't condone anyone casually referring to me as a female dog. It's so degrading and classless.
I also have 4c hair nd someone have also told me that I should go put relaxer in my ,that my hair looks ugly, bushy nd rough that looks like spoungh nd I said to the person no matter what you say about 4c hair will make me relax my 4c hair cos I love my 4c hair so much::what I don’t understand is why people a batching on 4c hair; imagine no salonist wants to do my hair bcos of my texture 4chair nd nd this is so devastating I decided to start doing my hair by myself nd that av be doing for years know nd I love doing my hair with no body insulting me about my hair….❤❤
People are quite literally dvmb. A lot of 4c girls will have no choice but to learn to do their hair themselves because these stylists don't even bother learning how to. I do my hair 80% of the time because whenever I go out I have to treat my hair for months to recover.
@@actuallyjuliee you are very correct bcos people are leterally dump as for me i cut my hair myself bcos no salonist understand natural 4c hair ask a salonist to cut your hair …. They will cut a very long 4c hair to a very short hair bcos they cut more than you ask for nd leave your hair damaged beyond repair nd this is very devastating nd painful,nd the worst part of it this salonist they don’t even care about your 4c hair they are scissors happy…. As for me I say good bye to salon I do my 4c hair myself bcos I understand my 4c hair better nd I also cut my hair myself ….☺️☺️
I wish I could identify as a different category of black woman sometimes because of women like that. Like…I actually love myself. I don’t crave a 13 x 6 yaki bussdown.
I love how honest you are! Its refreshing. I'm the same way. Weak people step to the left! 😂
8:53 THIS MEME LMAOO 💀💀
😂😂😂
These women are so embarrassing and whats crazy is if a woman with that same water wave texture she was gushing over made a video and said
“I’m so glad I have this texture of hair instead of 4c hair” I bet you the same woman would be mad and crying about texturism 😂😂😂
@theamethyst93 LMAO 100%!! Because which one is it, are they mad THEY have the hair texture or are they mad OTHERS don't like it nor want it?? Please. Pick. A. Struggle. (* ￣︿￣)
Facts
They are confused and strange, I tell you.
Omg! First of all, how have we turned a HAIR CHART that was meant to help people identify your hair and its needs, into a whole NEW way to create division, jealousy, self depricating behavior. Love your hair, your crown and maximize the beauty of your hair, you'll learn yours is awsome.
I think girls who do this want people to say Aaaw its gonna be ok🥹. Girl, get up! There are soooo many ladies with 4 hair thats glorious! Yea i do have type 3 hair, and when people compliment me i say thank you and move on! Texturism... is that what we're doing now?? 🙄
It was actually never meant for us. The man who create it hatred tightly coiled hair 🤷🏾♀️ I don’t even type my hair anymore. Too many women scream and rant about what is or isn’t 4c, b, or a. Idk anymore. That doesn’t matter in hair care. Just the shape of the hair strand matters and the nature of black hair. That’s it
@@EtherealSolana i dont know if thats rumor or hearsay or truth. But point is, even if the person did, what the devil meant for evil God turned for good because it still has helped many figure out what type of care their hair needs. And also, by fighting over something as petty and stupid as hair texture, wouldnt that just be playing right into the persons hands??
I have type 3c/4a and I get ignorant comments all the time, especially with those assuming my hair type is easy to take care of. Like, no it’s really not. I just take the time to learn my hair and once I find something it likes, I stick with it.
your 4c hair leave out would match your bundles if you use the exact texture of your hair.
I have 4c hair i and people always told me i had good hair cause i jad alot of hair on my head , prior to that i had a perm and it was breaking my hair off , they don't realize hair looks good when you take care of it and learn what works for your hair and not , my sister helped me alot when she went natural so i didn't have to struggle alot in the beginning stages , it all double downs to , alot if yall are jist lazy and dont dont care to learn about your hair and thats why people struggle alot
I mean some people do think something is wrong with our hair. I don't have 4c hair but my hair is type 4. I'm often asked questions about my hair by my students because they have never seen hair like mine. My students predominantly have bone straight hair (I live in Asia). A little girl asked me why my hair was like that and I said I was born like that. So I decided to ask her why her hair was like that and she said because her mom knew that this was the prettiest hair lmao. I got negged by a 2nd grader. Unprovoked. So it would be untrue to pretend that other people don't see our hair as not pretty or nice. I know for a fact they do, due to living here for almost a decade. However, I don't think that's an excuse for us to neg our own hair. Although I think if the majority of us wore our hair and normalized it, this would change.
But aren’t in some parts of Asia they’re going to salons for Afro textures well at least the videos I seen😂a little yt girl told us she wanted our Afros during a school concert her mama had been complaining about her hair being short
Also take note of how she's confident her hair is the prettiest kind because her mom instilled that in her. Can black women say the same?
And some parts of Asian (South Korea) give their children plastic surgery as a gift they don't even like themselves so I don't care about what they think about us lol
I used to also not like my 4c hair when I was relaxed.....after cutting it I had to acknowledge that because in the beginning I used to follow women with looser hair textures 3b 3c 4a and think my hair could do that after deep conditioner and moisturing process I remember the day I stopped following those ladies and stopped liking their posts I then started following West African women and a few USA women and my algorithm was algorithming so beautifully on Instagram, Pinterest, RUclips and TikTok....I only then started to appreciate and love my hair then after I noticed a change in my hair density, length, shine and volume I did this before such conversations like yours were being discussed and I am so glad I did that because I would have never known the potential of my natural hair and people always stare at it and give compliments and I am not gonna lie I can't get enough of the compliments 😂❤.....mind you this is my view and my story and it doesn't apply to everyone
Yasss. My first advice for 4c girlies learning their hair is to follow more creators with their hair type. Of course you can follow people with different hair textures but if you're still in that delicate place of not liking/understanding your hair, you should affirm yourself by surrounding yourself with textures like yours.
I've been banned from my other account for telling people the truth aka trolling.
Great to be back and watching another fantastic Juliee video. Can always rely on Juliee for the truth!
Welcome back! 💕
The levels of annoyance i feel when i see this type of behavior ugh i can't stand them. but what i hate more is when they band together and try to make you feel the way they do. The second they see you actually love your hair they're mind-blown. They can't understand why and they try to talk bad about their hair and make you join in. how are you gonna try to make me hate the masterpiece i was born with? I love it and that's that. Hate yours on your own time.
I LOVE My 4C hair. I have been off the creamy crack for 7yrs and i will not go back. My crown reaches the sky as it is suppose to
It takes a special amount of trauma and guts to actually refer to women you don't know by the spec of their fibre/being to female dogs...smh
I've been noticing how the other races wanna look Eurasian, and some of them are honest with it 😏😏, some aren't. 😐😐 Us on the other hand, a CERTAIN section of us at that, want to look Afro-Asiatic and we really have to be honest about it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ The hair, as we know, is usually outsourced from Southeast Asia for one. ☝🏾☝🏾 For two, the makeup styles mimic the techniques of drag queens and Arab women which are usually exaggerated and dramatized to high heavens, like..... what's REALLY going on?? ╚(•⌂•)╝ Something must be in the water for real.
Btw, I put ol girl and ol boy on mute (with subtitles on), because I can't have ignorant statements like theirs swim about in all three parts of my consciousness. ¯\_( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)_/¯
Once AGAIN, it's one thing to feel negatively about your hair texture (which you should have a support system for, and possible therapy sessions), but to blast all the things you hate about it ONLINE, for all to see, instead of in a diary (like it was mentioned in that screenshot, just got to that part LOL) you could've gotten from the Dollar store to your fanciest Arts and Crafts shop is NUTSO. (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ Don't @ me with nonsense either, I don't wanna hear it nor do YOU want to read what I have to say about that. 😝😝
The only things I'm striving to coat with sugar are FOOD. Also, bubble braids/poodle puffs are SOOOO pretty, I've got to try them at least ONCE. (T__T)
YUPPP instead of trying to look more Eurasian i focus on tapping into traditional African beauty standards and i try to replicate African beauty because that is what i am deep down
@@victoriac7966Exactlyyy!! Afrocentric beauty is our only resource. I hope you continue. (◍•ᴗ•◍)♡
People need to stop posting Tuaregs and Somalis as proof “we can have straight hair” as well.
@@bruhvibes5941 UGH, thank you!! 🤯🤯 That annoys me (or just makes me laugh) to no end. 👆🏾👆🏾 Some present day East and North Africans have their own admixture(s) due to VARIOUS things (ຈ﹏ຈ), and even then, they have similar hair textures to us, but only showcase certain types. ( ± _ ± )
Us in the diaspora are usually of Bantu origin and of the Niger-Congo linguistic groups, and that's present day West, Central and some parts of South Africa. 「(°ヘ°) That means we're gonna have kinky, kinky curly or (tight) curly hair. ¯\_(・ ᴗ・ )_/¯ They need to wake up and smell the truth. 🤭🤭
@@rewbi2196 It’s also annoying to see more admixed diasporans be over-represented, like Justine Skye, Ryan Destiny and Jasmine Tookes. It’s basically all the same skinny noses Type 3 hair darkskin over and over again.
As a 4b/4c girly, I stopped wearing silky straight hair and started wearing kinky Hali straight textures. Best thing I’ve done.
Whew chile… I’m here with you. I’m tired of hearing it.
I'm tired. I might start agreeing with them next time because they don't want to be helped 😂
-love me some Yinka ❤
Thanks for introducing Yinka I actually was looking into more positive examples of girls with my type of hair
You're welcome 💞
This video is so well made that its making feel sad and happy at once
I love you. I love your channel. God BLESS you sincerely from my heart. Sometimes I think I’m the only person who doesn’t hate myself and my features but actually find them beautiful! You are a breath of fresh air. Please these women need self esteem, a backbone, God, deep and serious help! You are doing His work! Don’t ever think you aren’t. You make me feel relieved, bc the second hand bitterness and embarrassment I feel for my people is too much at times. Somebody has some sense and self respect Biko.
Unfortunately, we tend to want what we don't have. My hair is 3c/4a and long, and I love 3b curls (my son has 3b curls and it's so easy to do and absorbs moisture so quick, 3b tends to be normal porosity). I've seen people be a little obsessed over 3c hair and trust me it's not easy to do. It tangles very easy, it's dry, breaks super easy and shrinks a lot. Wash days take a whole day! Now, I do love my hair especially once it's all styled, it's also a struggle just like 4a, 4b etc (my crown is 4a). Being frustrated with our hair once in a while is normal (I've been frustrated almost every week lol), but when that happens, I just watch videos of 3c/4a hair to motivate me and keep going... or simply do a ponytail etc. to take a break cause it's a lot of work. I try to only straighten it once a year, but when I'm extremely frustrated... I just straighten it until I miss my curls again 2 weeks later. It's a process, but no.. 3c/4a is not easy at all
When you love and take care of your hair, it will thrive.
Best video i have seen, and will see in 2024. Full of truths!!
I hope these 4C complainers just start getting blocked. They are setting positive imagery back.
I remember wanting more curves as a teen.....Fast forward to my 30s and 40s and I still do not like bras and my butt gets me in all kinds of trouble...... I glad that I do no have bigger breasts and that my butt isn't any bigger because clothes would never fit and bras would be super expensive and hurt my back and shoulders and my butt would be knock more things off the shelf and preventing me from running. Lol! God knows what he was doing when he created us. I can't even sit for waist-length braids so how and I supposed to stand detangling weekly waist-length hair that does not stay neat in braids? 4c hair stays the neatest in braided styles...meanwhile, all the other types start to look crazy after 2 weeks. Not to mention the excess oil/grease that Non-type 4 hair be producing.
5:29 THIS
It's sad because some black girls are trying their best to appreciate their hair, and then some people bring this type of unnecessary comments...
Remember when everyone use to rock an afro, remember when everyone wanted 4c hair so they could pull that off? I do so why did we let our love for 4c hair go?
The switch is crazy
Some black women do not realize that if they hydrate and take care of the curls properly it will match whatever wig they’re trying from water wave to 4c wigs. I have 4a hair I buy 4a wigs that are a longer than my real hair. My leave out matches because I take care of it. If I want it to look “ wet” it’s a 2 hour process in the morning even with the proper hair care I have. We need to start normalizing 3a-4c hair so women can love themselves.
What I don’t get it is how EVERY OTHER curly type is acceptable except… 4C? We can literally shape our hair into anything we want. We can braid it without getting sun burn on our scalp or our hair falling out. We can straighten it. we can even CHANGE THE CURLY PATTERN. Our hair is the most diverse on the planet. It’s crazy to me how much they hate themselves.
These be the same women who would complain about mean lying and cheating on them but they lie and cheat on their hair with other peoples hair . To me they brought this in their lives with negative behavior.
How is that related? Cheating is bad regardless
I hear Nigerian women saying the B word, it has absolutely nothing to do with being American or not….. but you’re on point with the rest of the video 😂
OMG I LOVE everything you said about these saddies and self-deprecating, attention seeking women 💯
I love Yinka! I wish she made more content or there were more creators on her wave length. Thanks for introducing me to Glory O Kings ❤
This 😅. I have som empathy because I get the discrimination that we can face but..... its almost 2025. I (along with many other naturals) have found ways to simplify my routine and take care of my hair. Ive even got to the point where im not grasping for length because there are so many styles you can do on naturally kinky hair! I guess there will always be a subset of women that hate their hair though unfortunately
The pic of Cinderellas step sister trying to fit her foot in the shoe took me out 😂😂
@ 9:05 hold on! You just made me remember that RUclips woman that got dragged for saying she was "blessed" to not have 4c hair😂😂. I did not get why people came for her so bad cuz like....that is exactly how a lot of people with kinky hair online think. So many black girls with kinky hair come online to express how badly they want looser textured hair so she basically just said the quiet part out loud. I didn't really care too much, cuz I feel blessed to have my own kinky hair type and think I look weird with flatter hair. I'll be honest, though -- I still feel tired styling and taking care of it sometimes. But it's just hair. People are so weird online.
They were mad because she said what they always say lol. I saw that video too and it's so ironic because she said it was her own mother that told her she was lucky she had looser curls and not "naps" like her. Crazy how bw are the villains in their own stories.
4c girlies we need to stay on code, ok ? Just hate yourself silently if you want but stop *filming your self hate* it gives the others a pass to bash ME and I didn't ask for that because I love my hair.
The thing with hair is that we always see the final product of every hair, I personally love 4c hair alot, yes the internet got to me making me think certain curls are better but in really in love with 4c hair, but Chile the work is crazy but it's not just 4c hair. There is work everywhere.
« Albino alligator »😂😂
I was being kind. That was the more tame description I had.
@ understandable 😂
0:11 I see what you did there 😘
@hippie1252 LMAO she is so shady, and within reason too!! #Hallelu
@@hippie1252 😂😂❤️