The people that say "let black women do what they want" are usually the same that call natural hair "nappy" and ugly. So they want to feel free to wear a wig but they don't want others to feel free to wear their natural hair ?
Natural hair is superior. Not an opinion just a fact. The hair that grows out your scalp ..does that for free. It's pretty, beautiful, better for your body, health, cheaper to manage and does not contribute to exploiting poor women in various asian countries. Synthetic hair is plastic. Many people, myself including at one point install braids and yhrow away the hair. The plastic hair that contributes to the climate crisis we have. Plastic does not decompose and if you're black girl addicted to braids and live in them only. You're throwing away money monthly on something that is harmful to the planet. Wool braids are better. Synthetic can also have harmful chemicals and then the emissions to ship them regularly to buy them. Relaxers can cause cancer and burn bumps where you have alopecia Wigs and weaves thing your edges. Exploits poor women and girls. Makes you hate your own hair (since most wear straight hair). You get an indent on your head from the glue. The lace is visible and it doesn't look good and makes you a victim of wig blindness. Excessive silk presses makes you look basic. You blend in you dont stand out. You get less compliments. Heat damage and breakage. Thinning. You can't go out in the rain. Natural hait is simply superior. No exploitation, no cancer risk, no chemicals. You're unique, you get so many compliments, you can go swimming, run in the rain carefree and you actually like what you see in the mirror
@@ariannawilliams6040 oooooh the blending in with the crowd is the most visually jarring thing about straight wigs and relaxers/silk press. When I walk around my black shopping area, everyone is wearing straight hair in some form. They blur together that I can't tell them apart and my brain doesn't want to anymore. Same edges, same makeup, same fashion THE SAME. Black women LOVE and PRAISE assimilation, so they don't even realize they have sucked any uniqueness out of them and just another buss down on the street. But tell me why I still can vividly remember a natural with a cute hairdo last year? Cause natural hair is exotic and unique. Superior.
You’re right. I feel more empowered than my late aunts & mom who all wore wigs daily for several years. As they aged - their hair all fell out from lack of air & care. One hot muggy time these 2 biracial women came wading into the water. They stood in their shorts & t shirts bragging to their ‘white’ moms of how happy they were that they both invested in straightening their tresses. Then they looked ‘shocked staring down on me enjoying the water. I was not burning up or sweating terribly. But doing my favorite hobby - swimming! And they couldn’t! Like Doja Cat - they self hate on natural hair. Even w/ permed hair - I suffered from frizzies and breakage. I won’t go back. Still learning to deal w/ tangles in my 4a-3c hair. And improving on it w/ online videos.😊
@@rosalynbeatty8310the two biracial women - that’s absolutely sad. If I have children it’s my duty to keep them from playing into self hate whether black or not… Loving natural hair is so much better
people who say they're sick of this conversation confuse me... this is still a very niche conversation. it's not mainstream so how are you sick of it? It seems like you just don't want to hear the truth and are trying to shut it down before it gets to be a more mainstream conversation. it's a necessary conversation and needs to be had.
Doja was mad because she is half white but got 4c hair. Let's keep it real. I have 4c hair, I found that locs is my style. I don't have the time to detangle, don't want a relaxer, and I especially don't want to wear another person's hair.
@@actuallyjuliee I can definitely understand Doja’s mindset unfortunately I’m multi generationally mixed, so I have plenty of cousins with white mothers and the self hatred for black features that is taught by white moms is so insidious Especially when the black side of the family isn’t there. i’m lucky enough to have white women in my family who have taken the time to learn about their black children’s hair and really encourage them, but I also have cousins who have the tightest coil pattern of all of their siblings and have been talked down to about that their entire life, in fact, one of my cousins didn’t start wearing her natural hair until my aunt Pat passed away I remember her being so frustrated that her hair didn’t look like her older sisters or her mothers
Well, one thing I can’t say about Doja Cat is she has really been rocking her natural hair quite a lot lately so she’s obviously learning to love her natural hair so let’s give her grace
Our hair is not difficult to manage. WE make our hair difficult to manage with all these different regimens and fads that we choose to follow because of influencers. Its crazy that BW say our hair is difficult when other races of women have to wash, blow dry, and detangle their hair every other day. Some times every day. We can literally wash, blow dry, and style our hair once a week. Our hair is WAY more manageable.
I don’t want no other race people women thinking I want to wear their hair 🤷🏽♀️ y’all keep saying we are the original woman yet wearing the non originals hair ………. Some non black women are calling it out and there’s nothing I can say to defend bw because they do wear a lot of weave from other women’s hair what are y’all gonna do then the Asian women tell y’all to stop wearing their hair ?? That’s embarrassing what if they stop selling weave then what ??
@joimonae4090 🤭🤭 the gaggery of this comment. It reminds me of how I saw this video of a South Asian woman showing off her hair on TikTok and some of them went CRAZY in her comments, basically with responses like: "Make this into (a) bundle(s) 🥺😍" and "This is the hair we want, not European hair 🤪🤪", IIRC. Like HELLO?? ( ;;O__O) How are they not seeing the problem?? (ノ｀△´)ノ
@@rewbi2196 I remember that video. Those comments from black women were so embarrassing. And they really thought they were "sticking it to white women" by propping up another woman's hair. How are you literally bragging about another woman's hair?
@@rewbi2196 oh god don't remind me! I genuinely don't understand how the women making those comments didn't feel any type of embarrassment. 😭😭 "We don't think Europeans have better hair than us😡! We think _Asians_ have better hair than us. Tuh😋"
@BantuBeauties this very comment exactly. 😆😆 They will make all the hihi haha "jokes" and "puns" about 4C hair and then WONDER why they hate their 4C hair..... ヽ(ﾟДﾟ)ﾉ
Same! I wear my natural hair every day. Haven't straightened it or worn any extensions that don't look like my hair texture in almost a decade. People will ask if I'm planning to wear wigs or extensions for special occasions, and every time I explain that my natural hair is suitable for any occasion.
They watched a video about women who would rather have pus and blood coming out their scalps from their wig mishaps rather than just taking a break and wearing their own hair, and still didn't understand what "overdependence" is? They saw hairline bleeding and didn't get it? The wig glue seeping into their skull at this point. And I do think black women should absolutely do whatever we want with our hair including the ugly wigs. But call a spade a spade, come on.
It’s crazy that these women will say be the change that you want to see in the world but yet your daughters and your nieces only see you step out of the house with somebody else’s hair on your head. I was told that my natural hair was beautiful all my life, but it wasn’t until my mom, aunts and my cousins went natural(women who thought were the most gorgeous women in the world ) that I had the confidence to wear my natural hair outside of the house.
"let black women do what they want with their hair" until you tell them to at least wear wigs that match their hair texture then it's crickets. literally saw black women crying under the video of a wig vendor because she was selling a kinky straight wig with kinky edges, they said she was mocking black women.
What??? Mocking black women for making realistic textures of wigs? Did they want the edges to be bone straight? Weird. That's why they looked goofy doing that "relaxing my edges trend".
@@actuallyjuliee i was very shocked at the comments because i assumed people would be happy to see a wig that looks exactly like their hair texture. i think they felt like she was mocking them because the wig vendor was an Asian lady which isn't surprising to me because the hair business market is mostly owned by Asian people. I don't see how making a realistic wig is mocking black women though, our edges are not kinky straight.
My mom bought this beautiful kinky straight ginger wig recently, it’s not my texture since I got curly hair but the way imma steal it cause it’s literally so pretty 🫣🫣
I say this every time they bring up white women wearing wigs and extensions. Non black women do wear extensions and wigs but they wear their own hair texture. Bw avoid their hair texture.
I have never worn a wig or weave, but I dont knock women who choose to wear those things. I do hate that a lot of black women feel like they dont look good unless they have straight silky hair on their heads. I have 3 daughters who have natural hair, and I've always taught them to love their hair and tell them how beautiful it is. I and all 3 of my daughters currently have locs, and we all love our hair. I wish all black women could learn to love their hair exactly as it grows out of their scalp because black hair is absolutely beautiful no matter what the texture is ❤
@nondumisogasser7155 Right, I didn't get why Doja Cat was so bothered by it (then again, I seldom understand that woman.....). There was nothing negative regarding those comments!! ¯\_(シ)_/¯
As a black woman, I personally always thought that black people looked better with their natural hair ❤. I usually live with my hair in miny twists with the occasional braids to switch it up, but I always love going back to my twists because they are so much more comfortable and of course they're pretty😊. Doing my hair is fun, I like it. It's a form of self care. I think some people need to accept who they are. Not in judgy way but in a stop hurting yourself kind of way.😕
2:40 all she had to do was twist it the day before and undo it. Or finger coil it and undo it for a curly fro. Why, with all the information online, are women still struggling with their natural hair ?
It’s hard to believe with so much knowledge available right at our fingertips, but some black women are too ashamed or uninterested in their natural hair to learn how to take care of it. :(
@@daniibaby1 I'm very surprised and disappointed myself, because with how chronically online the global population seems to be, you'd think some of them would invest in their hair after all that digital overstimulation, but NOOOOO.
@@rewbi2196 ikr when I went natural almost 10 years ago, I learned to do my hair from RUclips. It was trial and error until I understood my hair. It really isn't that hard smh
I'm glad you use Doja Cat as an example. She is talanted but i saw her differently after she talked about her natural hair. People who feel about their hair like her should NOT wear wigs. They need to learn how to take care of their hair. I love how creative and stylish we make wigs look like. I don't have a problem with wigs. I have a problem with people who make million excuses about their natural hair being trash just to wear wigs and not take care of it. its sad. almost the same with makeup. So people won't been seen without it. AGAIN i love the art of wigs and makeup but not when it makes you hate your natural yourself.
I’m so glad I found your channel. I’ve been relaxed and natural off and on for my entire life and I’m 32! I just recently did a big chop to finally get rid of my damaged, relaxed hair and start over. I usually wait until I have more length but this time, for some reason I was just over it. My hair looks healthy again, short (and that’s okay) but healthy and after watching your videos I’m learning to appreciate my natural hair again. I’ve always seen wigs as an accessory but I never truly just sat down and took time to appreciate my own hair for what it is. I’m happy to be starting this journey again and I’m glad I’m able to watch your videos during this process. Also girl, you are hilarious 🤣
It’s the poor comprehension skills for me 😂 time to go back to school. Social media has made people forget how to use social platforms for social interaction so they can get more attention from other people instead of being lazy about social interactions. When you are so quick to argue with people you don’t even know, you’re being lazy. Healthy social interaction requires understanding, comprehension, and helpfulness. ❤
28:22 I am a white woman who has always wished I could wear an Afro wig because unfortunately, I cannot grow one. I remember the first time I saw a woman with an Afro when I was a small child in Colorado in the 1970s. It triggered something in my mind. I don't know why. But that has always been the most beautiful and perfect hair in my eyes. If I could get away culturally with wearing an Afro wig, I would have one in every single color. And I would wear them all the time. Not every day, but I would wear them frequently. But if I did that, the world would not respond kindly. Even though there is nothing racist about it in my opinion. ❤❤
They want black women to do what they want, but I can swear I get more questions and judgement by leaving my hair natural. If I'm on a wig, it's ok, relaxed hair is fine, braids with attachments are wonderful. However, when people see just my natural hair, I get weird comments. I'm just coming from the salon today 😅. My mom's friend asked if it's not painful (when I was relaxing my hair, I used to have wounds always and the hair doesn't even relax properly 😢). Still I got a kinda nice compliment, this lady walked into the saloon when the stylist was just done combing out the Afro. She said "oh you are already done" 😂😂 She actually thought my hair was the afro weave, it might be a bit problematic but I chose to accept the part that means that she saw my hair and felt I looked good to go out.
9:41 has me in tears i cannot😂😂😂😂 now i watch the whole video i fully understand the short that ypu made using doja as an example :)) And i think that coily hair is so pretty and i cant believe there are people that dont like it. I remember being little having a fascination with straight hair, and whenever i saw straight hair i touched it any chance i could because i thought it was so pretty. I remember seeing little girls on relaxer boxes wishing my hair was straight too ( because i was not only fascinated by straight hair but unbearingly tenderheaded and id be getting burnt, getting my hair yanked and everything on washday and detangling was HORRIBLE and it would take the whole day to do my hair ) and when we would be in the beauty supply i would pray my mom would get the relaxer thinking it would make my hair straight like the girls on box and i would be pretty like them and it wouldnt hurt to do my hair anymore . And id be so disappointed when id look at my hair after we used it just to see my hair was still curly. whenever i would get my hair straightened I'd always have my peers touching my hair telling me how pretty i was, saying "wow do you like your hair straight or normal i like it straight better" and i never knew what to say. And at that time i had waist length hair ( but because its 4c it was only that length when strengthened ) my mom straightened my hair one time for chruch and some elders thought it wasnt my real hair and criticized my mom asking "why did you put extensions in her hair" so that didnt happen again😂 when i was little straight hair was the standard and it was only pretty if they looked shiny and "bouncy" like Shirley temple curls but now i see that curly hair is pretty as long as its not 4c. Or 4c hair is only pretty if its long. So 5 year old me is happy about you making this video thank you so much💗 and why is that hairstylist frying her clients hair like plantain Lord have mercy😂 Anyways God bless you i hope you are doing great💖
@@mazelovesosa Not being rude, just realistic. It is not my job to explain US legislation to non-US citizens as you identified yourself. Clearly, this is not the channel for you if you do not even care to do your own research. Now, have a blessed day!
@ Get off your high horse lol you can swear up and down all you want that you’re being realistic it doesn’t matter you were rude asf for absolutely no reason. Never said it was your job but It would’ve costed you absolutely nothing to answer me or just shut up if you didn’t want to reply. If you just didn’t know how to explain it yourself then just say that that’s mostly what ppl who say “Google is free” be doing when themselves have no clue what they’re talking about. Ppl with knowledge are often happy to provide you an answer. Now you have the audacity to tell me which channel is or isn’t for me just bc I asked you a question? Girl bye your arrogance won’t get you anywhere in life. Humble yourself. Have the day you deserve.
Thank you for making this video. There was a black woman who attacked me in the comments and then blocked me because i brought up black womens self hatred when it comes to wigs and weaves. She literally told me i needed to look in the mirror and go heal because i told the truth about how black women cover up their natural hair with wigs because they dont like their own hair. Lol You can tell by how defensive and triggered these types of black women get that them wearing wigs and waves is deeper than just hair. They do not think their natural hair is beautiful at all. I also think its more so black culture thats causing this problem and not white society. We want to blame racism but the truth is majority of the negative comments come from other black people.
@actuallyjuliee Before she cut it off, she showed it wet, with product and it was even giving 3c. Just because she didn't define it doesn’t mean she's 4c.
Let’s just stop typing our hair so we can stop fighting over something a yt man created (all while hating it and ranking it last in the typing system) and focus on self love and self esteem. Pls
10:00 I’m not listening to any woman that has something negative to say about natural hair with a wig on like that. As if she had better hair options than her own hair
It's my first time watching ur video nd sis I'm subscribing cause u re hilarious nd I love the way u talk about this subject 😂😂😂. I hv been natural for 5 yrs nd I wish I had gone natural earlier. I don't even use extensions anymore. I'm sending u lots of love from Ghana ❤❤❤❤
My natural hair is having a hard time getting long so I can understand the pain these girls have. I have tried everything I needed to and it has been the same length, til today. If someone says that natural hair is difficult, understand them instead of going against what they are saying because it has been a struggle for me as well. I love natural hair, but not every women is going to feel the same way about their's and that's okay. It's not self hated. People just don't like hearing the truth from women's perspectives and that's really sickening. I feel like you should stop getting offended when black women talk the struggles of their own natural 4c hair. It can be relatable.
She is a black woman and she is a white woman. She has a black parent which makes her black and this is coming from me myself who is fully black. I think it's really disrespectful some people have the balls to say what box mixed people should be put in.
I wear natural hair 24/7 but I do agree that people should stop policing black women. Black women are already being attacked for just existing. Im not pro hating natural hair. I'm pro do whats best for YOU! If you like the bald look go for it, if you like narutal go for it, if you like weaves go for it.
No one is "policing" black women. Black women exist in a world with other people and people are going to have an opinion of the people, places, and things around them and that includes black women. The same way black women are all over social media giving their opinions about men, women, white people, politics, food, hair, relationships, etc.
Not necessarily. When it's self hate is when you exhibit texturist or anti natural hair tendencies. Wearing straight hairs just to try something different is not self hate. There are nuances to this.
I’m black but part Japanese I have naturally STRAIGHT hair and two black parents with kinky curly hair and people think I have a wig/relaxer but they don’t know ITS MY REAL HAIR
@@kpapi2454Time and Patience. It will. I looked up some videos too to help when choosing the products. Just make sure everything you’re using works for you ❤
@@kpapi2454 Same. I'm a bit low on funds to be buying all the sorts of creams, special oils, ect,- I am from Jamaica. I wash my hair outside easier for my bathroom to avoid cleaning fallouts, and it's so much more calming. And detangle, part in sections, and oil my scalp... That's it. I'm hoping to start going to the hairdresser to get my hair ends trimmed, when I get the money for it.
Thank you so much for putting this old tried topic to rest. I’m so tired of this hair dilemma . How about black women live and let live. In other lets Mine our own business .
I agree with you about the over dependence, but we must also talk about how people have mocked black women over the years about their natural hair. There is also the issue of texturism. Though we should just let black women do what they want with their hair, I think you touch on health issues and overdependence on wigs. Also, the instillation of such wigs and how women might opt out of wearing wigs that match their natural hair texture.
"Can you just allow black women to hate natural hair in peace?!?!?!?!"
"...Well no." YO I just started LAUGHINGGGGG
Exactly. Like what did you think this was? 🌝
The people that say "let black women do what they want" are usually the same that call natural hair "nappy" and ugly. So they want to feel free to wear a wig but they don't want others to feel free to wear their natural hair ?
So true 👍
@GabomaToon case in point. 👆🏾👆🏾
@@Gabona3.0 they want to be free to call natural hair nappy in peace and write epistles about how much they hate it at any chance they get.
@@Gabona3.0 Say it again!!!
@@actuallyjuliee 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Natural hair is superior. Not an opinion just a fact.
The hair that grows out your scalp ..does that for free. It's pretty, beautiful, better for your body, health, cheaper to manage and does not contribute to exploiting poor women in various asian countries.
Synthetic hair is plastic. Many people, myself including at one point install braids and yhrow away the hair. The plastic hair that contributes to the climate crisis we have. Plastic does not decompose and if you're black girl addicted to braids and live in them only. You're throwing away money monthly on something that is harmful to the planet. Wool braids are better. Synthetic can also have harmful chemicals and then the emissions to ship them regularly to buy them.
Relaxers can cause cancer and burn bumps where you have alopecia
Wigs and weaves thing your edges. Exploits poor women and girls. Makes you hate your own hair (since most wear straight hair). You get an indent on your head from the glue. The lace is visible and it doesn't look good and makes you a victim of wig blindness.
Excessive silk presses makes you look basic. You blend in you dont stand out. You get less compliments. Heat damage and breakage. Thinning. You can't go out in the rain.
Natural hait is simply superior. No exploitation, no cancer risk, no chemicals. You're unique, you get so many compliments, you can go swimming, run in the rain carefree and you actually like what you see in the mirror
@ariannawilliams6040 Amazing comment!!
@@ariannawilliams6040 oooooh the blending in with the crowd is the most visually jarring thing about straight wigs and relaxers/silk press.
When I walk around my black shopping area, everyone is wearing straight hair in some form. They blur together that I can't tell them apart and my brain doesn't want to anymore. Same edges, same makeup, same fashion THE SAME. Black women LOVE and PRAISE assimilation, so they don't even realize they have sucked any uniqueness out of them and just another buss down on the street.
But tell me why I still can vividly remember a natural with a cute hairdo last year? Cause natural hair is exotic and unique. Superior.
You’re right. I feel more empowered than my late aunts & mom who all wore wigs daily for several years. As they aged - their hair all fell out from lack of air & care.
One hot muggy time these 2 biracial women came wading into the water. They stood in their shorts & t shirts bragging to their ‘white’ moms of how happy they were that they both invested in straightening their tresses. Then they looked ‘shocked staring down on me enjoying the water. I was not burning up or sweating terribly. But doing my favorite hobby - swimming! And they couldn’t! Like Doja Cat - they self hate on natural hair. Even w/ permed hair - I suffered from frizzies and breakage. I won’t go back. Still learning to deal w/ tangles in my 4a-3c hair. And improving on it w/ online videos.😊
@@rosalynbeatty8310the two biracial women - that’s absolutely sad. If I have children it’s my duty to keep them from playing into self hate whether black or not…
Loving natural hair is so much better
@@ariannawilliams6040 oh you ate that.
people who say they're sick of this conversation confuse me... this is still a very niche conversation. it's not mainstream so how are you sick of it? It seems like you just don't want to hear the truth and are trying to shut it down before it gets to be a more mainstream conversation. it's a necessary conversation and needs to be had.
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Doja was mad because she is half white but got 4c hair. Let's keep it real. I have 4c hair, I found that locs is my style. I don't have the time to detangle, don't want a relaxer, and I especially don't want to wear another person's hair.
Yeah. It gave she felt cheated out of her 'birthright'.
She actually has 4a hair. She posted her hair when it was wet and it was giving 3c/4a.
@@actuallyjuliee I can definitely understand Doja’s mindset unfortunately I’m multi generationally mixed, so I have plenty of cousins with white mothers and the self hatred for black features that is taught by white moms is so insidious Especially when the black side of the family isn’t there. i’m lucky enough to have white women in my family who have taken the time to learn about their black children’s hair and really encourage them, but I also have cousins who have the tightest coil pattern of all of their siblings and have been talked down to about that their entire life, in fact, one of my cousins didn’t start wearing her natural hair until my aunt Pat passed away I remember her being so frustrated that her hair didn’t look like her older sisters or her mothers
Doja doesn’t have 4c hair.. why are we on this app spreading lies wtf
Well, one thing I can’t say about Doja Cat is she has really been rocking her natural hair quite a lot lately so she’s obviously learning to love her natural hair so let’s give her grace
Our hair is not difficult to manage. WE make our hair difficult to manage with all these different regimens and fads that we choose to follow because of influencers.
Its crazy that BW say our hair is difficult when other races of women have to wash, blow dry, and detangle their hair every other day. Some times every day.
We can literally wash, blow dry, and style our hair once a week. Our hair is WAY more manageable.
It’s too many different rules because I thought blowing once a week was damaging😂
Ridiculous. Blatant lies. Coarse and curly hair treatment is more complicated than straight hair.
I don’t want no other race people women thinking I want to wear their hair 🤷🏽♀️ y’all keep saying we are the original woman yet wearing the non originals hair ………. Some non black women are calling it out and there’s nothing I can say to defend bw because they do wear a lot of weave from other women’s hair what are y’all gonna do then the Asian women tell y’all to stop wearing their hair ?? That’s embarrassing what if they stop selling weave then what ??
@joimonae4090 🤭🤭 the gaggery of this comment. It reminds me of how I saw this video of a South Asian woman showing off her hair on TikTok and some of them went CRAZY in her comments, basically with responses like: "Make this into (a) bundle(s) 🥺😍" and "This is the hair we want, not European hair 🤪🤪", IIRC. Like HELLO?? ( ;;O__O) How are they not seeing the problem?? (ノ｀△´)ノ
@@rewbi2196 I remember that video. Those comments from black women were so embarrassing. And they really thought they were "sticking it to white women" by propping up another woman's hair. How are you literally bragging about another woman's hair?
@@rewbi2196 omg yess so now asian women are going to think we all want their hair
@@joimonae4090 too late, they already do
@@rewbi2196 oh god don't remind me! I genuinely don't understand how the women making those comments didn't feel any type of embarrassment. 😭😭
"We don't think Europeans have better hair than us😡! We think _Asians_ have better hair than us. Tuh😋"
The crazy thing is, they will be the same ones under a wash and go video leaving comments like "I don't 4c that in my future" 😂
@BantuBeauties this very comment exactly. 😆😆 They will make all the hihi haha "jokes" and "puns" about 4C hair and then WONDER why they hate their 4C hair..... ヽ(ﾟДﾟ)ﾉ
@@BantuBeauties right. They love to bond over being a victim of 4c hair.
I wore my natural hair to my MSc graduation, my friend's wedding etc. these were all special events
I love that!
Same I wore an afro to prom 🙃
Same! I wear my natural hair every day. Haven't straightened it or worn any extensions that don't look like my hair texture in almost a decade. People will ask if I'm planning to wear wigs or extensions for special occasions, and every time I explain that my natural hair is suitable for any occasion.
They watched a video about women who would rather have pus and blood coming out their scalps from their wig mishaps rather than just taking a break and wearing their own hair, and still didn't understand what "overdependence" is? They saw hairline bleeding and didn't get it? The wig glue seeping into their skull at this point. And I do think black women should absolutely do whatever we want with our hair including the ugly wigs. But call a spade a spade, come on.
They be misunderstanding on purpose just so they can have an argument.
It’s crazy that these women will say be the change that you want to see in the world but yet your daughters and your nieces only see you step out of the house with somebody else’s hair on your head. I was told that my natural hair was beautiful all my life, but it wasn’t until my mom, aunts and my cousins went natural(women who thought were the most gorgeous women in the world ) that I had the confidence to wear my natural hair outside of the house.
It soo important to have loved female figures taking that step for you and many young girls don't have that.
"let black women do what they want with their hair" until you tell them to at least wear wigs that match their hair texture then it's crickets.
literally saw black women crying under the video of a wig vendor because she was selling a kinky straight wig with kinky edges, they said she was mocking black women.
What??? Mocking black women for making realistic textures of wigs? Did they want the edges to be bone straight? Weird. That's why they looked goofy doing that "relaxing my edges trend".
@@actuallyjuliee i was very shocked at the comments because i assumed people would be happy to see a wig that looks exactly like their hair texture. i think they felt like she was mocking them because the wig vendor was an Asian lady which isn't surprising to me because the hair business market is mostly owned by Asian people.
I don't see how making a realistic wig is mocking black women though, our edges are not kinky straight.
My mom bought this beautiful kinky straight ginger wig recently, it’s not my texture since I got curly hair but the way imma steal it cause it’s literally so pretty 🫣🫣
Crazy 😂😂😂😂
I say this every time they bring up white women wearing wigs and extensions. Non black women do wear extensions and wigs but they wear their own hair texture. Bw avoid their hair texture.
I have never worn a wig or weave, but I dont knock women who choose to wear those things. I do hate that a lot of black women feel like they dont look good unless they have straight silky hair on their heads. I have 3 daughters who have natural hair, and I've always taught them to love their hair and tell them how beautiful it is. I and all 3 of my daughters currently have locs, and we all love our hair. I wish all black women could learn to love their hair exactly as it grows out of their scalp because black hair is absolutely beautiful no matter what the texture is ❤
Your daughters are so blessed to have you❤
@@MaNoZu thank you so much! ❤️
They are. They’re truly more than blessed. Keep going mama. 🖤
It's the "stuck up, insecure, natural hair LOOSEEER" for me LMAOOO
@@rewbi2196 😂😂
It’s the funniest part for me 🤣😭
@@Kingofthenet2 Me too, the way she said it was sooo insane!! 😆😆
I love that you always post on my washdays 😅
@@isadoramiranda936 🤭🤭
I just washed my hair yesterday 🙇🏽♀️😭😭It was a long day but it was worthwhile ❤
Megan's hair texture is soooo gorgeous bro. I absolutely love and adore when she wears it out.
She forgot to say "do what they want with their STORE BOUGHT HAIR or HAIR PROPERTY" 😂😂😂
omg why is she wearing a wig OVER HER HEAD THAT IS LITERALLY LEAKING PUS???
Beats me
It is like sheeps wool..or lambs wool.
That is a compliment. It is how they describe Gods hair and christs hair
@nondumisogasser7155 Right, I didn't get why Doja Cat was so bothered by it (then again, I seldom understand that woman.....). There was nothing negative regarding those comments!! ¯\_(シ)_/¯
I got my Father's hair 🙏🏾
Love your personality, Julie ❤
@@Gabona3.0 thank you boo 💕
As a black woman, I personally always thought that black people looked better with their natural hair ❤. I usually live with my hair in miny twists with the occasional braids to switch it up, but I always love going back to my twists because they are so much more comfortable and of course they're pretty😊.
Doing my hair is fun, I like it. It's a form of self care.
I think some people need to accept who they are. Not in judgy way but in a stop hurting yourself kind of way.😕
Hair care is self care for sure
2:40 all she had to do was twist it the day before and undo it. Or finger coil it and undo it for a curly fro. Why, with all the information online, are women still struggling with their natural hair ?
They hate themselves
It’s hard to believe with so much knowledge available right at our fingertips, but some black women are too ashamed or uninterested in their natural hair to learn how to take care of it. :(
@@daniibaby1 I'm very surprised and disappointed myself, because with how chronically online the global population seems to be, you'd think some of them would invest in their hair after all that digital overstimulation, but NOOOOO.
@@rewbi2196 ikr when I went natural almost 10 years ago, I learned to do my hair from RUclips. It was trial and error until I understood my hair. It really isn't that hard smh
@@Kittenheelxoxo it's so sad 😞
For doja cat, its funny how it's yt women telling her, her hair is beautiful 😢.
I'm glad you use Doja Cat as an example. She is talanted but i saw her differently after she talked about her natural hair. People who feel about their hair like her should NOT wear wigs. They need to learn how to take care of their hair. I love how creative and stylish we make wigs look like. I don't have a problem with wigs. I have a problem with people who make million excuses about their natural hair being trash just to wear wigs and not take care of it. its sad. almost the same with makeup. So people won't been seen without it.
AGAIN i love the art of wigs and makeup but not when it makes you hate your natural yourself.
I’m so glad I found your channel. I’ve been relaxed and natural off and on for my entire life and I’m 32! I just recently did a big chop to finally get rid of my damaged, relaxed hair and start over. I usually wait until I have more length but this time, for some reason I was just over it. My hair looks healthy again, short (and that’s okay) but healthy and after watching your videos I’m learning to appreciate my natural hair again. I’ve always seen wigs as an accessory but I never truly just sat down and took time to appreciate my own hair for what it is. I’m happy to be starting this journey again and I’m glad I’m able to watch your videos during this process. Also girl, you are hilarious 🤣
Aw I'm glad. I hope your journey is much much satisfactory this time!
It’s the poor comprehension skills for me 😂 time to go back to school. Social media has made people forget how to use social platforms for social interaction so they can get more attention from other people instead of being lazy about social interactions. When you are so quick to argue with people you don’t even know, you’re being lazy. Healthy social interaction requires understanding, comprehension, and helpfulness. ❤
I'm telling you
28:22 I am a white woman who has always wished I could wear an Afro wig because unfortunately, I cannot grow one.
I remember the first time I saw a woman with an Afro when I was a small child in Colorado in the 1970s. It triggered something in my mind. I don't know why. But that has always been the most beautiful and perfect hair in my eyes.
If I could get away culturally with wearing an Afro wig, I would have one in every single color. And I would wear them all the time. Not every day, but I would wear them frequently. But if I did that, the world would not respond kindly. Even though there is nothing racist about it in my opinion. ❤❤
They want black women to do what they want, but I can swear I get more questions and judgement by leaving my hair natural. If I'm on a wig, it's ok, relaxed hair is fine, braids with attachments are wonderful. However, when people see just my natural hair, I get weird comments. I'm just coming from the salon today 😅. My mom's friend asked if it's not painful (when I was relaxing my hair, I used to have wounds always and the hair doesn't even relax properly 😢). Still I got a kinda nice compliment, this lady walked into the saloon when the stylist was just done combing out the Afro. She said "oh you are already done" 😂😂 She actually thought my hair was the afro weave, it might be a bit problematic but I chose to accept the part that means that she saw my hair and felt I looked good to go out.
Ugh I remember scabs falling out of my head because of relaxers 😫
I still have scabs/ bumps on my head from a bad relaxer 7 yrs ago
9:41 has me in tears i cannot😂😂😂😂 now i watch the whole video i fully understand the short that ypu made using doja as an example :)) And i think that coily hair is so pretty and i cant believe there are people that dont like it. I remember being little having a fascination with straight hair, and whenever i saw straight hair i touched it any chance i could because i thought it was so pretty. I remember seeing little girls on relaxer boxes wishing my hair was straight too ( because i was not only fascinated by straight hair but unbearingly tenderheaded and id be getting burnt, getting my hair yanked and everything on washday and detangling was HORRIBLE and it would take the whole day to do my hair ) and when we would be in the beauty supply i would pray my mom would get the relaxer thinking it would make my hair straight like the girls on box and i would be pretty like them and it wouldnt hurt to do my hair anymore . And id be so disappointed when id look at my hair after we used it just to see my hair was still curly. whenever i would get my hair straightened I'd always have my peers touching my hair telling me how pretty i was, saying "wow do you like your hair straight or normal i like it straight better" and i never knew what to say. And at that time i had waist length hair ( but because its 4c it was only that length when strengthened ) my mom straightened my hair one time for chruch and some elders thought it wasnt my real hair and criticized my mom asking "why did you put extensions in her hair" so that didnt happen again😂 when i was little straight hair was the standard and it was only pretty if they looked shiny and "bouncy" like Shirley temple curls but now i see that curly hair is pretty as long as its not 4c. Or 4c hair is only pretty if its long. So 5 year old me is happy about you making this video thank you so much💗 and why is that hairstylist frying her clients hair like plantain Lord have mercy😂 Anyways God bless you i hope you are doing great💖
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I hate how folks always coming for “us!” Is it jealousy or envy? We can do a lot with our hair…the styles are endless.
@@SixFives5StarChic periodd
People also genuinely dislike it, they don't have to be mean or anything but that's a human preference. Not everyone likes textured hair.
@@HandsomePutinit’s the hair that grows out of our head. Not liking your own hair is just self hate.
Love the natural styles here.
This is why the Crown Act is so necessary. Why is our hair even a topic of discussion? Goodness.
What’s the crown act? (Not American sorry for bothering you 🥲)
@@mazelovesosa Google is free.
@@PS-hr9bv lmao see, instead of being rude for nothing you could’ve just shut up if you weren’t going to answer
@@mazelovesosa Not being rude, just realistic. It is not my job to explain US legislation to non-US citizens as you identified yourself. Clearly, this is not the channel for you if you do not even care to do your own research. Now, have a blessed day!
@ Get off your high horse lol you can swear up and down all you want that you’re being realistic it doesn’t matter you were rude asf for absolutely no reason. Never said it was your job but It would’ve costed you absolutely nothing to answer me or just shut up if you didn’t want to reply. If you just didn’t know how to explain it yourself then just say that that’s mostly what ppl who say “Google is free” be doing when themselves have no clue what they’re talking about. Ppl with knowledge are often happy to provide you an answer. Now you have the audacity to tell me which channel is or isn’t for me just bc I asked you a question? Girl bye your arrogance won’t get you anywhere in life. Humble yourself. Have the day you deserve.
Lol i enjoyed this video and your sense of humor new subbie
You crack me up!!! ❤😂
I love your message and the way you say it never change your content 💗💗
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Fela Kuti sang yellow fever for the bleachers, I think we need a prophet for the wig warriors, keep telling the truth Juliee and God bless you
Thank you 🙏🙏
The doja situation is ironic
Came back to bite her in the ass
Thank you for making this video. There was a black woman who attacked me in the comments and then blocked me because i brought up black womens self hatred when it comes to wigs and weaves. She literally told me i needed to look in the mirror and go heal because i told the truth about how black women cover up their natural hair with wigs because they dont like their own hair. Lol
You can tell by how defensive and triggered these types of black women get that them wearing wigs and waves is deeper than just hair. They do not think their natural hair is beautiful at all.
I also think its more so black culture thats causing this problem and not white society. We want to blame racism but the truth is majority of the negative comments come from other black people.
"Many black women depend heavily on wigs because they don't like their hair" is a fact. I don't know why they love to deny this.
I like my hair, just want it longer so I get extensions that are my exact hair type
The thing is Doja doesn't even have 4c hair. She literally has 4a hair and because she brushes it out and doesn't moisturise it, she thinks it's 4c.
There are pictures of her hair styled as well. That's not what 4a looks like though. Maybe 4b. But 4a is a stretch.
@actuallyjuliee Before she cut it off, she showed it wet, with product and it was even giving 3c. Just because she didn't define it doesn’t mean she's 4c.
@@genevaxohmm ok. I've never seen this video of her though. I went based off the pictures and videos of her hair that I've seen so far.
@@genevaxo I'm gonna take your word for it, but this means she just....doesn't know how to take care of her hair?
Let’s just stop typing our hair so we can stop fighting over something a yt man created (all while hating it and ranking it last in the typing system) and focus on self love and self esteem. Pls
10:00 I’m not listening to any woman that has something negative to say about natural hair with a wig on like that. As if she had better hair options than her own hair
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That so sad for this girl on the cruse😢
It's my first time watching ur video nd sis I'm subscribing cause u re hilarious nd I love the way u talk about this subject 😂😂😂. I hv been natural for 5 yrs nd I wish I had gone natural earlier. I don't even use extensions anymore. I'm sending u lots of love from Ghana ❤❤❤❤
Thanks for subbing! Good to have you here.
I really enjoyed this video!! I laughed and agreed with most of your points. You have a vibrant personality. (^__^)v xx
Yay, thank you!
21:05 I compare my hair to wool because it’s soft , haven’t necessarily been compared to carpet
My natural hair is having a hard time getting long so I can understand the pain these girls have. I have tried everything I needed to and it has been the same length, til today. If someone says that natural hair is
difficult, understand them instead of going
against what they are saying because it has been a struggle for me as well. I love natural hair, but not every women is going to feel the same way about their's and that's okay.
It's not self hated. People just don't like hearing the truth from women's perspectives and that's really sickening. I feel like you should stop getting offended when black women talk the struggles of their own natural 4c hair. It can be relatable.
I am 10 years loc’ed and I love my hair. I don’t lay my edges or retwist all the time. I am 40 and i just let my hair be
You don't have to be rich to have natural hair ❤
Doja Cat isn’t a Black woman so I’m not sure why she’s up on the thumbnail.
@StephanieNiecey me either. ┐(-。-;)┌
@@StephanieNiecey I know she's mixed. She has kinky hair tho. 🤷
She is a black woman and she is a white woman. She has a black parent which makes her black and this is coming from me myself who is fully black. I think it's really disrespectful some people have the balls to say what box mixed people should be put in.
@@SugarSista820 No, she is a Biracial person. Simple.
@@SugarSista820 And what’s disrespectful is them claiming to be Black when they’re not.
7:55 the woman who was so attached to her wig to the point of infection 😢
I wear natural hair 24/7 but I do agree that people should stop policing black women. Black women are already being attacked for just existing. Im not pro hating natural hair. I'm pro do whats best for YOU! If you like the bald look go for it, if you like narutal go for it, if you like weaves go for it.
No one is "policing" black women. Black women exist in a world with other people and people are going to have an opinion of the people, places, and things around them and that includes black women.
The same way black women are all over social media giving their opinions about men, women, white people, politics, food, hair, relationships, etc.
That's litterally her video
@@NamasteInYourLaneexactly
Nice video 👍
No wigs doesn't equal self hate it's when a black woman wears textured hair that don't look like hers that self hate i think...
Not necessarily. When it's self hate is when you exhibit texturist or anti natural hair tendencies. Wearing straight hairs just to try something different is not self hate. There are nuances to this.
@@actuallyjulieefacts
God dont like changing your texture cause your character changes and often not in a good way and you dont even notice.
I’m black but part Japanese I have naturally STRAIGHT hair and two black parents with kinky curly hair and people think I have a wig/relaxer but they don’t know ITS MY REAL HAIR
I just wish my natural hair would grow 😔
It will. Do you have a regimen?
@@actuallyjuliee Not really, I just wash my hair condition, oil, detangle and let it free😓
@@kpapi2454Time and Patience. It will. I looked up some videos too to help when choosing the products. Just make sure everything you’re using works for you ❤
@@kpapi2454 Same. I'm a bit low on funds to be buying all the sorts of creams, special oils, ect,- I am from Jamaica. I wash my hair outside easier for my bathroom to avoid cleaning fallouts, and it's so much more calming. And detangle, part in sections, and oil my scalp... That's it. I'm hoping to start going to the hairdresser to get my hair ends trimmed, when I get the money for it.
Thank you so much for putting this old tried topic to rest. I’m so tired of this hair dilemma . How about black women live and let live. In other lets Mine our own business .
What is the name of the podcast that you mentioned in this video? I want to watch the full version.
Bahd and boujee podcast
@@actuallyjuliee thank you! I’ve been binge watching your videos🩷
@@angelm.2595 thank youu
15:01 very embarrassing
Inconvenience feee??? Is that "hairdresser" sane?
I agree with you about the over dependence, but we must also talk about how people have mocked black women over the years about their natural hair. There is also the issue of texturism. Though we should just let black women do what they want with their hair, I think you touch on health issues and overdependence on wigs. Also, the instillation of such wigs and how women might opt out of wearing wigs that match their natural hair texture.
Omg is that me??? 20:20
The clown? Is it?
Self hated Mixed Boy
Id love to share some photos of my hair with you. Show you my hair is longer. Stronger and shrinks to your length.
@@actuallyjuliee😂😂😂😂