EVERY (SINGLE) NEEDS TO KNOW THIS! CANDID CONVERSATION WITH REBECCA LYNN POPE

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  • @BreenyLee
    @BreenyLee  Год назад +219

    GRAB YO SNACKS!
    Will post the time stamps tomorrow, angels 💕 DONT FORGET TO HIT “LIKE” pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee ✨

    • @princessgigiking
      @princessgigiking Год назад +7

      Hello Breeny Lee This Topic Is So Juicy, Yasss ❤️❤️❤️

    • @ree6056
      @ree6056 Год назад +3

      Thank you Breeny. Can you please put this on podcast?

    • @angelashevonne5026
      @angelashevonne5026 Год назад +2

      is time stamps coming soon?

    • @Ro-vW
      @Ro-vW Год назад +1

      Thank you Rebecca! See..Stop expecting men to come preassembled. Relationships require work and some of that work you’ll have to do selflessly.

    • @Brina-777
      @Brina-777 Год назад

      Breeny Leeeee please tell us how you did to lose that weight, cos gwurllll you look fineeeeee
      Please tell a sis how you did it, we tryna get the bodies in shape
      Thank youuu 😘

  • @JojoandSelah
    @JojoandSelah Год назад +606

    I think people need to understand marriage isn't perfect, men aren't perfect, and women aren't perfect. We need to have realistic expectations. Communication, listen often and apologize if you did anything wrong. We are always learning. I agree with some things she said, but not all.

    • @ELamy802
      @ELamy802 Год назад +26

      I totally agree. I can admit that I can be idealistic. Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and live.

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach Год назад +60

      I think most Women have LOW expectations in Marriage. They don't realize their husbands should ADORE them and treat them special. There not just a live in Cook and maid.

    • @JojoandSelah
      @JojoandSelah Год назад +34

      Cheating isn't an issue in my marriage. I do admit sometimes I don't feel adored or special. However, my husband is my life partner and best friend. I know if I can't work he will keep things afloat and our son and I will be cared for. This is our only marriage and we keep the Lord in the center. We argue and get on one another nerves but we forgive and show one another grace just as much. Every day I try to show him respect so that he can show me love. Respect is everything to a man. That's marriage to me.

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach Год назад +1

      @@JojoandSelah Everyday you show him Respect. What does he show you everyday. Marriage is 50/50. Two people making each other happy.

    • @JojoandSelah
      @JojoandSelah Год назад +39

      @@CrystalDatingCoach he shows me, love. Love and respect go hand in hand. Marriage is 100/100.

  • @morenikeakinwunmi711
    @morenikeakinwunmi711 Год назад +411

    It was around this time 2 years ago that I first stumbled across Rebecca Lynn Pope - that same roommates interview and I literally did a 180. I locked off my situationship and then met my now husband of nearly a year. The majority of what she said really connected and helped to take the pressure off the process of dating. Such a blessing. Thanks for this great interview Breeny x

  • @lakeau_237
    @lakeau_237 Год назад +151

    Approaching my 30’s, I’ve learnt a lot based on my mistakes and I don’t regret anymore. Being single or in couple doesn’t matter to me no more, what matters is being AUTHENTICALLY MYSELF 🤗 and enjoy every step of my life. What’s meant to me, it’s gonna come to me naturally. I deserve the best, we’re all deserve it ❤❤❤

    • @naturallytajy973
      @naturallytajy973 Год назад +6

      This is beautiful, I’m happy you accepted what is for your journey and you are learning and growing. I’m 27 and chose the same, I’m excited about what my life journey has in store. Keep doing you lovely 🔥🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @yurad2193
      @yurad2193 Год назад +3

      That is so true! What is for you will be for you.

  • @shanonee2715
    @shanonee2715 Год назад +269

    To add to the topic of "what's the difference between fear and intuition", fear is temporary while intuition is consistent. Our intuition will continue to remind us what is right or wrong, while fear is here today and gone tomorrow, and ever changing. Breeny, your content and conversations bring in so much depth that forces you to look within yourself and re-evaluate our own values. Over the years you have continued to aid in my growth as a woman and I thank you. You're def my BIG SIS that I never had lol.

  • @MsSugarDyme
    @MsSugarDyme Год назад +28

    Ultimately marriage is not the prize... it is not a goal like buying a house or earning a degree. Having respect, partnership and reciprocity in a relationship is the prize. Start by loving and valuing yourself and love will find you. Being a wife is not a prize in this current cultural system. Being healthy and healed with people who value you is the prize.

  • @cmzekile03
    @cmzekile03 Год назад +85

    '"A man has to stand on his own feet." It's what I am currently training myself to allow my partner to do. 🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️

  • @hennisisyimon
    @hennisisyimon Год назад +12

    I have noticed that a lot of men get into relationships for themselves, not for woman. A lot of men are still in a relationship because the woman hasn't left yet. A man will know he no longer loves or like you, no longer cares for you, and will he will mistreat you and he still won't leave you. If you notice carefully, a woman will do much better when she's by herself, and a man will do better when he has a woman, it's because 99% of men get in relationship for themselves, but they will never tell you that.

  • @hotvirgirl
    @hotvirgirl Год назад +22

    Omg this was me. I've been married twice and related to her journey😳. It's insane how many men will marry a woman because they don't want anyone else to have them , but then have no intention of doing what they need to do to keep the women happy. I no longer date potential. If they can't step up during the dating phase they get cut off lol. I'm happily single until a man can show me they know how to put in the work.

  • @DeJolies
    @DeJolies Год назад +85

    This is single-handedly the best podcast episode I've ever heard on relationships/marriage. Really well done!

  • @nesha6208
    @nesha6208 Год назад +13

    I'm only 26 minutes into this video and I have to say that Rebecca has already hit the nail on the head for me, TWICE!
    For one, being a young black Christian woman who was raised in the faith, I consider myself really a kind and loving woman. I definitely felt like I enabled a lot of the selfish behavior while the men do literally nothing. They bring nothing and I lowered my standards with hope that things will get better.
    And then being a black Christian woman in the USA, I agree so much with the church part. I feel like it is often so taught that women have to endure everything that their husband puts them through, be his rock regardless of whatever, etc. I felt that a lot. I feel like so many women are doing so many things to become a wife but just like Rebecca said, not many men are doing the same.

  • @ThokoTwala
    @ThokoTwala Год назад +123

    I know of women who didn’t want to get divorced but were advised by doctors to get divorced after being admitted into psyche wards or going through other stress related illnesses like strokes caused by stressful marriages.

    • @TamaraGarrettAlpha
      @TamaraGarrettAlpha Год назад +15

      Those are the soul suckers

    • @lasagnekiller
      @lasagnekiller Год назад +11

      this happened to me while i was in a relationship, depression ruined me and my body and my doctor advised me to leave.

    • @dawntheeducator7455
      @dawntheeducator7455 Год назад +12

      Wow! A lot of us have gotten sick trying to hold onto miserable situations!! We have to be stronger and love ourselves more!!!!

    • @astoldbymuriel103
      @astoldbymuriel103 Год назад +3

      Like the wives of the 30's, 40's, 60's, and 60's. They were given prescribed sedatives and anti psychotic meds to deal with their marriages 😞😞

    • @lavish_1717
      @lavish_1717 Год назад

      @@astoldbymuriel103
      Or sent off to mental asylums and guys seem to miss those days

  • @LeyaahMadison
    @LeyaahMadison Год назад +53

    I will be 25 in December but I have definitely been interested in becoming a better woman first for myself and also for my future husband. This video revealed a lot for me, thank you Breeny for bringing her on.

  • @toshiacarpenter7766
    @toshiacarpenter7766 Год назад +57

    Can we take a moment to be honest. No not all women are idolizing marriage. No it may not be a “badge of honor” but truth be told to be “chosen” is something that most women that want to be married want to experience. Yes we love ourselves but it does have some type of effect on you to not be that women for anyone. It’s easy for women that have been married before to say marriage isn’t a goal, badge of honor, etc.

    • @Erynnmcfall
      @Erynnmcfall Год назад +18

      I think you missed an opportunity here. The whole point is that you don’t even know what you’re yearning for. You want to be married, to be “chosen”, to say a man has picked you but the fact is that it’s not as meaningful as we’ve been raised to believe. A lot of men marry women who are around when they’re ready to settle down, not because they’re the women they love the most. And a lot of men do this for convenience or because there’s societal pressure to do it. There’s nothing wrong with you or other women who haven’t been married or proposed to. It does not mean you haven’t been valued or loved by a man. A lot of men are just pressured into it by their partner or their parents or friends

    • @sallyhemings2295
      @sallyhemings2295 Год назад

      So why haven’t you been married?

    • @tiredoftheworld4834
      @tiredoftheworld4834 Год назад +4

      For me, it’s not about getting High off of bragging that I’m married if I get married. It’s about the relationship, and the vow, the sacredness of marriage as well. It’s the experience of being with someone that will commit to you wholeheartedly. Not some shiny jewel on your finger and bragging rights lol

    • @tiredoftheworld4834
      @tiredoftheworld4834 Год назад +1

      @@Erynnmcfall based off of how I see modern men talk about marriage I think they are scared of it. Or just women in general

    • @Jdawnsha
      @Jdawnsha Год назад

      This the one.

  • @islip376
    @islip376 Год назад +28

    Boundaries will keep you single for a while , and THAT is ok!

  • @armamia.1701
    @armamia.1701 Год назад +70

    I watched this video from start to end. When I saw 2 hours I was like… this is wild. But I will never regret listening to this conversation. I am so grateful to you ladies for sharing such important wisdom with us and Breeny, for asking the questions that we all would have wanted to ask.
    Thank you 🙏🏾 Sincerely.

  • @IEVAKambarovaite
    @IEVAKambarovaite Год назад +134

    *Ditch your list!* Love it! There's a reason why the list we carry for our potential partner may mean absolutely nothing.
    It's influenced by our environment, our past, our upbringing, trauma, social media.. All of it. So incredibly important to go out with someone who is not your usual type.
    Loved this conversation! Always an inspiration for my channel x

  • @juliejuju7419
    @juliejuju7419 Год назад +27

    Yeaaaaa! You interviewed @rebeccalynnpope! She's the BOMB. 🤩🤩🤩🤩And so are you Breeny!🤩🤩🤩

  • @moniquesmith9930
    @moniquesmith9930 Год назад +112

    As someone who also married at 19, I enjoyed this interview. I would have liked to hear Rebecca share her shortcomings and what she could have done differently. All I heard was how she was unhappy and the men were not ready, but I’m sure at 19 and 21 she was not ready either. It felt at times like she put it all on one party… it definitely takes two. As a now 48 year old you gain experience, intuition and reflection and sometimes that very religious background can make huge issues in the real world in relation to sustainability of a healthy relationship, I’d like to hear how she actually showed up in those early relationships. Clearly there was something broken within her to get married that young multiple times. No judgement, I’ve been there and I know it comes from a broken place….but you grow and mature & do better. I enjoyed this great conversation ladies.

    • @joycewatt800
      @joycewatt800 Год назад +15

      @Monique Smith All good points that you speak of.
      I think oftentimes the message or stories are lopsided because they’re one sided.
      I think as women we tend to be lax on taking accountability for our choices and our actions.

    • @thandazo5239
      @thandazo5239 Год назад +12

      I think you can follow her , she does take accountability on the men she chose. 🥰

    • @laurend5731
      @laurend5731 Год назад +19

      It doesn’t always take 2 for a relationship to fail. You only need 1 unhealthy person for a relationship to be unhealthy. RLP did mention some of her shortcomings. She was very young and inexperienced with choosing her first two husbands. She chose based on chemistry and pressure alone, not so much compatibility. She also said in the end that she’s a hothead.

    • @pashmina781
      @pashmina781 Год назад +9

      I think she iterated that, in her 2nd marriage at least, she went to therapy, read self-help books, etc. to try to make her 10 year marriage work. So I think she was, by extension, saying she was doing the work on herself at this point but he just wasn’t matching her energy. (I’m only halfway through the video at 1:26:10, so she may or may not elaborate on this further in the video.)

    • @joydean8958
      @joydean8958 Год назад +1

      I too can identify with Rebecca. She did not go into depth but she did say that she tried and did the counseling, "the talks" etc. I applaud her for getting out when she did. I got married in my early 20s and stayed for over 2 decades believing it would work, knowing from year one that it wouldn't. Excellent interview.

  • @daliaa5294
    @daliaa5294 Год назад +33

    See our girl Breeny doing big things. We are so proud of you. 😘

  • @d.jackson1770
    @d.jackson1770 Год назад +8

    There is soooooo much foolishness on social media about relationships. But every now and then we get one of these. Thank you, thank you thank you for this one.

  • @xshesyourqorqeousxx3
    @xshesyourqorqeousxx3 Год назад +7

    I agree with Rebecca when she said that men that had marriage and being a father in their hearts get married younger and aren't the single 35 year olds. I asked my bf if he wasn't with me, would he still be getting married by 30 and he said of course! I always say that the 30 year old version of my man isn't out there for me because the 30 year old version of my man is married.

  • @kirstenbrogan5958
    @kirstenbrogan5958 Год назад +10

    Love this! I think women need to step back and wait for the right man while we develop ourselves. We lose ourselves in wrong relationships. Peer pressure is something young people need to overcome. A good place to start is in the church.

  • @lacematecosmetics
    @lacematecosmetics Год назад +51

    This was a valuable in depth discussion on relationships and marriage. Breeny did an excellent job on asking questions and Rebecca was definitely on point about everything. This by far added to my dating strategies on how to be a good wifey and what not to settle for in a man.

  • @sylvsshys4729
    @sylvsshys4729 Год назад +65

    A collab we definitely needed! Thank you Breeny and Rebecca ❤

  • @cassiesandra233
    @cassiesandra233 Год назад +48

    For me, I don't think it's as simple as idolizing marriage in itself. It's about the inherent need or desire to start a family, maintain companionship, and receive support. This and much more can be achieved (and almost guaranteed) through the confines of a family. Lastly, build your community through the family you create. This is why even after years of success (fulfilling her purpose of making all that money) and living her best life, Rebecca still got married at the end of it all. Of course, she knew better at this point and could choose better also men rarely choose women for their brains and money unless they are users or don't have their sh*t together. Get your money and books up for yourself, your security but maybe not to attract a man because in most cases they honestly won't care

    • @juneelle370
      @juneelle370 Год назад

      Men in ego mind (competitive mind) don’t like women who can’t be controlled and where they can’t measure “superiority” over you in any way,

    • @mytomp
      @mytomp Год назад +2

      I agree with you on this

    • @Heyu7her3
      @Heyu7her3 Год назад

      "Men rarely choose women for their brains"... uhhhh.
      idk if you're just describing the status of things or saying this is right/ what ought to be

  • @whatadaytobealive
    @whatadaytobealive Год назад +35

    Nailed it again Breeny. I'll only add, to put God first. "Delight in him and he'll give you the desires of your heart."💕💕💞💞
    "He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing." Proverbs 18:22.

    • @IamThee1111
      @IamThee1111 Год назад +3

      Psalm 37:4 ❤

    • @whatadaytobealive
      @whatadaytobealive Год назад

      @@IamThee1111 Amen!

    • @maggieramara
      @maggieramara Год назад +1

      @@IamThee1111 me rushing to my Bible to read this scripture

    • @joycewatt800
      @joycewatt800 Год назад +4

      @Laurel God REALLY should be the foundation of marriage. After all, it was His idea from the beginning.
      Marriages built on sinking sand typically fall apart. Marriages built on God (the solid rock) typically stand even when the wind blows and the storms come. Does it make it easier? Not necessarily but it makes it doable. Is it worth it? Absolutely!
      14 years married and going strong.
      Ladies, it’s NEVER hopeless unless you give up hope.
      But I will say this….You must be determined to work on yourself MORE than you attempt to work on him.
      Also, you are not “the good thing”
      The covenant of marriage is the good thing.

  • @psat21
    @psat21 Год назад +20

    I’m going to watch this later, I was a divorced single mum at 25. I thought I had it bad. Finally someone who was in a similar predicament to myself. Will absolutely indulge later. Just need to find me a good 3 hours of free time on this very busy day 🙃🙃🙃

  • @princizzraven2000
    @princizzraven2000 Год назад +42

    I love her honesty and that she gained lessons. She is so resilient. She has a lot of wisdom worthy of listening to. She’s literally my new online auntie and I’m glad I watched this.

  • @laurenroberts1404
    @laurenroberts1404 Год назад +22

    Thank you Breeny for asking ALL of the important questions. Thank you Rebecca for leaving no questions unanswered. We needed this! ♥️

  • @NiaJ144
    @NiaJ144 Год назад +17

    Whewwww chile I love this lady and this my first time ever hearing about her but she is full of wisdom, intelligent and so down to earth. This was EXCELLENT! I absolutely love what she said at the 1 hr 56 min mark because she is so right about that. You have to build a relationship with God and take everything to him first. He has heightened my intuition to the next level. Your intuition is literally God within you. We as women often times totally ignore our intuition and that’s where we go wrong. Wow great candid conversation for sure🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @Vdee1987
    @Vdee1987 Год назад +31

    Love the wife Convo... Your a wife when he finds you!!❤️🥰

    • @joycewatt800
      @joycewatt800 Год назад +4

      You should be a wife BEFORE he finds you. The scripture states ……
      “he who (finds) a wife…” I believe that means that you already personify all of the qualities/characteristics of a wife. A man needs to see that in you. The wedding isn’t the time to prepare to be a wife.
      I say that now having been married 14 years.
      Many women think they want to be someone’s wife. I’m convinced that most just want to be a bride.

    • @Vdee1987
      @Vdee1987 Год назад +4

      @@joycewatt800 yeah that is what I was saying by the post ie when he finds u you are a wife like u are not just becoming one...but thanks for taking ur time to write out the scripture for those that need it. Be well.

  • @daviddevlogger
    @daviddevlogger Год назад +14

    Live your life the way that you want to live it, don’t let other people live it for you…

  • @tashlaw9293
    @tashlaw9293 Год назад +5

    People jump from relationship to relationship all the time with no intention to commit. Marriage just shows your level of commitment.

  • @klewis9654
    @klewis9654 Год назад +6

    Omg Breeny. Thank you for inviting Ms. Rebecca Lynn Pope to your channel. She dropped some incredible gems. As a single female who has never been married, she thoroughly educated me. I love "Doctor Pope." I plan on following her on RUclips and buying her book. Excellent video. Well done Breeny!

  • @danikarenee6463
    @danikarenee6463 Год назад +4

    Ohh this is so good 👌🏾 I am 28 just out of a 4 year relationship with an older man and questioning who I am. I had low self esteem before that relationship and it got worse in it and now I am picking up the pieces. I idolize not only marriage, but men and that’s why I put up with so much traumatizing stuff with him. My dad was a pastor too and he was also sexually abusive so I wanted nothing to do with him. I thought I wanted the complete opposite of him sis 😅 I am glad God loves me because that was a big lesson learned for me. This conversation is right on time and much needed. Thank you so much Breeny and Rebecca!

  • @marydlf
    @marydlf Год назад +33

    Breeny, this was such an amazing interview and I’m so grateful you did it. ❤️🙏🏼 I watched it from beginning to end with no pause because Rebecca was so captivating and revealed major truths about everything she talked about. First of all,marriage&kids should not be put on a pedestal. Nor anyone who is married has everything figured out whereas who isn’t,doesn’t. I also want to add a small disclaimer on healing with what she was explaining in the end..that we should always see ourselves as beautiful,lovable,whole and complete beings and there is nothing that we need to “do” to prove our worth. Even in our darkest times. I find a common trap when you’re into self development,that you’re not “good enough” now..there’s a huge level of shame and that there’s something wrong with you so you need to do “inner work” to become good enough,to be in a loving committed relationship. No. You’re always beautiful,and you do the work as part of the journey of your human evolution,not to become “good enough”. Releasing that shame,accepting myself just as I am and having gratitude for everything I’ve experienced in life was crucial and a game changer for me. ❤️
    Thank you to both amazing ladies again 🙏🏼✨ Sending much love and gratitude 🤗😘

  • @endearing1119
    @endearing1119 Год назад +4

    This resonates on so many levels of my generation. The taboos needed to be broken, I was one of those you had to get married my parents are churchgoers and I’m referred to as the black sheep / prodigal child. My mother was always submissive to my father they had bad domestic scenarios. I have refused to trust and submit to men wholeheartedly when older.
    When Rebecca said she felt freedom from that second marriage it gave me those chills again , nothing can ever describe that feeling .

  • @novemberpepper9761
    @novemberpepper9761 Год назад +10

    Agree with the 3% number. Only a few men will treat and see you like true wife material. I was engaged six months after meeting my fiancé-he left no doubt, kept our courtship moving and snatched me up 😂❤

  • @bellasanchez9042
    @bellasanchez9042 Год назад +6

    I’m so happy I came across this video. This legitimately made me become more feminine and realize we need to stop idolizing these instagram relationships. I’m 20 and watching this video helped me really understand the truth of relationships. Thank you so much💗

  • @la_julz
    @la_julz Год назад +11

    My favourite ladies collaborated!!! Thank you so so much ladies! 😍🤗🥰

  • @sweetumsDenise
    @sweetumsDenise Год назад +12

    Breeny, this was a wonderful interview, you asked some good questions girl! I really appreciate Mrs. Pope’s honesty about her experiences and the lessons she learned along the way.
    I was especially humbled by her revealing that month in Belize. These are the kinds of things we don’t usually hear from the elders or even the social media influencers that let us know that marriage takes WORK! To hear that it isn’t and hasn’t always been perfect and yet you can still be on track without compromising yourself is such an encouragement.
    Thanks and blessings to you both 🙏🏾

  • @ThinkingLikeAVIRTUOUSWoman
    @ThinkingLikeAVIRTUOUSWoman Год назад +8

    This woman is real… and you gotta be real with yourself to appreciate a lot of what she said

  • @whitneydellafosse_
    @whitneydellafosse_ Год назад +8

    Breeny. You outdid yourself , I did not expect this, you are both my favorite coaches online.

  • @LadyKai315
    @LadyKai315 Год назад +4

    I don’t know how you ladies came across my algorithm on YT because I’ve never heard of you both but PRAISE GOD you did and I clicked on. This was the BEST conversation I’ve ever heard and I live at conferences etc. I appreciate the transparency and road map because I am a 50y/o getting out there on the dating scene. You ladies helped me! I’ll be sharing this with manny and watching it over and over!

  • @ms.sherine3475
    @ms.sherine3475 Год назад +4

    To all the single ladies with an intention to one day be married : It would be well served to watch this interview. Thank you so much Breeny Lee for asking thoughtful questions. Thank you so much Rebecca Lynn Pope for being a wonderful resource. God makes no mistakes. It may be on a hard journey for love and relationship, but you both provided a beautiful interview.

  • @chelsealynn3814
    @chelsealynn3814 Год назад +5

    Breezy you asked all the right questions! I never heard this woman before but the gems she was dropping was enough to last us women through a lifetime

  • @onlyonekiney
    @onlyonekiney Год назад +4

    Breeny What a great interview! I follow Mrs. RLP but this interview was the bees knees! I’m been married twice going through a very very toxic divorce after 30 years. We ar`e `going through everything one can go through in an horrible divorce, anger, violence, shame, financial ruin but I’m still divorcing this man, its been a long process in kings county Brooklyn . What a mistake, wow what a learning process. I’m healing through learning, therapy, reading, journaling and building my spiritual relationship with Christ, getting closer to my family etc. Thank you for this most informative interview. Blessing to you Ms. Lee wishing u all the very very best and continue to vet well in these streets, totally listen to your inner voice which is Christ himself, my friend. Stay still and hear him. Pray for discernment so that you make the very best decision on your man of purpose. Blessings.

  • @hospitalityempire
    @hospitalityempire Год назад +16

    This is such an insightful session. Thank you Breeny . It would be beautiful to see You and Mina - The Universe Guru on The Intimate Series. She is phenomenal !

    • @a.j2614
      @a.j2614 Год назад

      YES 💯💯💯💯💯

  • @MariamTalks
    @MariamTalks Год назад +4

    I remember when I met breeny in real life such a classic beauty with a lovely personality I won’t lie I was surprised she was so lovely. So grateful for the advice and tours we had. Also this content is changing lives you don’t even realised

  • @alishia4433
    @alishia4433 Год назад +18

    Best interview ever! Packed with so many relationship gems. I have followed Mrs. Pope for a couple of years and she never disappoints. Her spirit led, no nonsense advice is always spot on. Thank you Breeny for introducing her to your followers. Our young women need to be armed with this information while navigating these dating streets.

  • @Mimses-b4e
    @Mimses-b4e Год назад +11

    Marriages are designed to bring our wounds to the surface so we can heal.

  • @felicia4025
    @felicia4025 Год назад +11

    I can’t tell you how much this video has been so helpful. Knowing self is key. Love from Nigeria 🇳🇬 ❤

  • @patrab
    @patrab Год назад +20

    I really wish all women would understand that life is not all about men honestly🙄

  • @Lov3A11Rac3s
    @Lov3A11Rac3s Год назад +9

    “Where are all the men being raised to be equipped..?” YESS! That’s the root

  • @justified7677
    @justified7677 Год назад +6

    I believe that it was meant for me to watch and listen to this video today. The whole conversation was so rich and beautiful. Thank you, Jesus, for letting me eat at your table and to get as much food as I wanted. And for letting me see a woman you have literally transformed into a vessel of honor, ready and equipped for your use. Thank you very much Rebecca for letting God use you. Amen

  • @kokoalaska9888
    @kokoalaska9888 Год назад +30

    This video is a total gem.💎 Definetly will be rewatched with a notepad. The modern dating market is so rediculous right now that every tip I can get is super helpful.

  • @Paula-by4vr
    @Paula-by4vr Год назад +12

    God bless you women. I’m 20 years old and I literally needed to hear this, thank you for this.

    • @MaiyaJade
      @MaiyaJade Год назад

      Yes learn this wisdom and apply it!

  • @princessgigiking
    @princessgigiking Год назад +12

    A man has to stand on his own two feet. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @kcole0920
    @kcole0920 Год назад +7

    I really appreciate her transparency! She is amazing. Thank you for this interview Breeny.

  • @chanmc301
    @chanmc301 Год назад +1

    Every 2 hours and 40 minutes of this was pure goldddd. I have so much hope for my future. And can we just talk about how breathtaking Breeny looks 😍😍😍

  • @Marie-fb2dg
    @Marie-fb2dg Год назад +9

    I get lot of comments that im in my 30s i should settle and just get married because men dont want to date women of my age that much. Well then dont🤷‍♀️ i have good friends, loving family and im healty 🙏🙏

  • @roea7846
    @roea7846 Год назад +16

    Love this collaboration between the 2 Queens. I was happy to see this. Stay blessed ladies.

  • @princessgigiking
    @princessgigiking Год назад +16

    Never knew how much I needed this interview in my life, lots of wisdom. Thanks ladies 🌹🌹

  • @zeeb116
    @zeeb116 Год назад +2

    As someone who got married very young (currently divorced) it’s easy to dismiss relationship conversations because With the exception of a select few, I’m not hearing anything I haven’t already lived/learned from life the hard way. However with this conversation, I can say I took good notes and felt validated from this interview…Rebecca makes me feel SEEN. Breeny you ask ALL the right questions, thank you for being vulnerable with your values and thought processes, it makes for juicy questions and fulfilling answers throughout the conversations! Brava!🎉

  • @bianca.jenesse
    @bianca.jenesse Год назад +2

    EVERY SINGLE WOMAN in the MODERN dating world! NEEDS to HEAR THIS! THERE ARE SOME GEMS💎💎💎in here Rebecca drops! Some of it TOUGH love but SO necessary for seeing REAL results in your LOVE life!❣I've used some of these and its been working in my dating life!💟

  • @auralitedivine
    @auralitedivine Год назад +8

    This conversation was suuuuuch a blessing!!!!! MashAllah!!!! Thank you ladies sooooo very much for this. This has truly blessed my life!!!!! Alhamdulillah

  • @biznezzacademy
    @biznezzacademy Год назад +4

    I enjoyed this conversation.
    Rebecca’s transparency was🔥🔥🔥

  • @LearningToLove..
    @LearningToLove.. Год назад +2

    “We do too much, we help too much, we give too much.”
    I felt this so much.

  • @JasmineGoodenDisciple
    @JasmineGoodenDisciple Год назад +13

    Modesty is important too ladies 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @jacquelineharris8850
    @jacquelineharris8850 Год назад +6

    I love her story. I totally understand the stigma of marriage before dating. I did the same thing. You've got to take the time to know yourself and the other person before you commit.

  • @refiloemaj7924
    @refiloemaj7924 Год назад +2

    Breeny what an incredible interview
    @rebbeca wow. Wisdom on steroids sis, thank you for being so open and honest. You’ve saved us from a lot of heartache.

  • @agnesokpeh2055
    @agnesokpeh2055 Год назад +15

    Wooow what a great interview.
    This was jam packed with so much gems, I jotted a lot of things down. It may seem long but there was no part of this that I felt was a waste of time.
    Thank-you to you both for being used as a vessel to help guide us in this dating scene that is really filled with mixed messages and division.
    God bless you both for your honesty and wisdom 💕.

  • @queenqueen1053
    @queenqueen1053 Год назад +4

    I appreciate this because Breeny asked valid questions that nobody is asking . I never seen a marriage and i desire to be in a happy partnership/marriage with a man one day but I want to know HOW to become a wife and what I need to do in the meantime . I loved this conversation sooo much . Now you need to have her and Stephan on at the SAME DAMN TIME that’ll be fun and insightful for men and women

  • @johnathanadams8420
    @johnathanadams8420 Год назад +16

    This was a great video I watch Male and Female videos for Wisdom to me this was just relational intelligence Thank you Ladies for the wisdom God bless walk in peace filled with blessings 🙏🏾

  • @ikhlasabdulmoula6640
    @ikhlasabdulmoula6640 Год назад +9

    Thanks breeny....now I have bachelor degree exams in dental school, but I save this episode in watch later....I can't wait to see it ❤🌹❤

  • @Joy_LaFaye
    @Joy_LaFaye Год назад +11

    33 min in and I’m glued to the screen!! Haha!! I haven’t watched any videos from Rebecca in a min so this is super on time!!! I relate to Rebecca so much even our personas… I’m fina watch this in it’s entirety this is so 🔥🔥🔥… Thx Breeny & Auntie!!! Welcome back B!!! 💕✨👏🏾🙌🏾

  • @natishagreen2535
    @natishagreen2535 Год назад +5

    One of the BEST interviews on relationships!! Thank you ladies for being so transparent😘💛

  • @kaoshi_kutie
    @kaoshi_kutie Год назад +6

    2 Queens dropping nothing but Gems. Thank you Breeny for this!! ❤️🥰

  • @eyethumfazwe
    @eyethumfazwe Год назад +5

    Such an insightful and great interview. Mrs Pope looks so beautiful, one could mistake her for being in her 30s. Thank you Breeny for giving us this interview and the weightloss is working for you. You look beautiful as always.
    Regards from South Africa

  • @TheLove2share
    @TheLove2share Год назад +6

    God bless you both for this interview. The fear v/s intuition resonates with me.❤ I recently found myself in the exact position with a man who wants to be my husband. He pursues me with frequent contact. But he never makes plans to be with me. And when he does, I am always afraid he will cancel because of all the things going on in his life that made him hesitate to make plans to begin with. 😢 I took some time with spirit (fasting/praying) & stopped communication with him for a while. In perfect peace I realized… he’s not good for me. We broke up. Now I’m dealing with him trying to convince me that my intuition (spirit) is wrong. This interview confirmed: spirit is never wrong. Love & fear are opposites. If something scares me, it’s a warning to seek God first & trust His guidance. ❤

  • @Michevell
    @Michevell Год назад +45

    WOW! You really produce quality content. This was worth the wait, Idc how long of a break you take because the videos you post are of so much value.
    The whole time during this interview I kept saying “mhm, yes, agreed!” I actually wished it was longer lol but everything in this video was on point. This interview was very reassuring and humbling for me. I’m happy you introduced Rebecca to us I’m going to subscribe to her right now.
    THANK YOU 💖

  • @imanijx
    @imanijx Год назад +2

    Breeny you are such a great interviewer. Love how you let the guest speak and then you ask such excellent follow-up questions. We appreciate this content sooooooo much!!!

  • @Ivylaismusic
    @Ivylaismusic Год назад +2

    This was a candid conversation, it took me a while to get around to watching it but when I started I didn’t want to stop. This video has so many gems, really great points and can’t wait for more interviews.

  • @cassiesandra233
    @cassiesandra233 Год назад +4

    Rebecca wouldn't have given her current husband a chance before the "humbling" because she left her second husband for goals (money reasons) and started dating businessmen and Harvard guys after that. She was in a place where he had an absolutely no pastors rule too so I don't believe she was honest in saying she still would have given him a chance. On her dating journey after her second divorce, I believe she might have met a couple of good men but did not realize this because of her list. This happens to all of us

  • @youandi9244
    @youandi9244 Год назад +15

    Thanks so much with sharing this valuable info. The topic of timelines I feel gets browsed over but it really plays a big role in the pressure women feel when dating. Some women want to be mothers, but the wait comes with the anxiety years going by thus reducing the chance at having children. As a Christian I struggled with this until I gave in and actively wanted a baby. I struggled to conceive because of my age. As soon as I became a mom at almost 40, my dating experience has completely changed for the better. I feel that the issue of timelines needs to be discussed in depth aswell. We don't have the luxury of time like men do.

    • @juneelle370
      @juneelle370 Год назад +1

      Men’s healthy fertility ends at 35… older dads over 35 give their children much higher rates of autism, add, schizophrenia, allergy and autoimmune conditions… many problems for the life of the child not seen at birth. In fact, what matters MOST to the health of the child (as long as a woman CAN deliver a child) is the age of the man! Bias in science has been strong and although this scientific information is still out there, it hasn’t trickled down into mainstream consciousness in the least. That’s pretty common in science-it can take 30 years for change to come, despite scientific evidence. (Like doctors and hand washing). This false timetable making women on a timeline and not men, is one of the biggest false justifications for sexism and ageism against women. And it’s a lie.

  • @jessicaapaloo8049
    @jessicaapaloo8049 Год назад +5

    Great interview. The 💎 💎 💎. Breeny has literally brought my on all my faves...Rebecca, Stephan and Tony...this series is PRICELESS. Waiting for you and RC Blakes to pop up in my notifications. 🙏🏾

  • @ladygigi9097
    @ladygigi9097 Год назад +3

    Cant believe i watched this entire thing like a whole movie!! Gorgeous, inspiring, edifying. Thank you!❤

  • @Acosta1774
    @Acosta1774 Год назад +1

    This was awesome! With that last question and she said she left..that conversation
    Got real!!! I agree with Mrs Pope 100%. You go girl..love your wisdom and love ur strength. Real woman 🙏🏽

  • @clarityandself1895
    @clarityandself1895 Год назад +2

    I most definitely have been guilty of saying that I don’t wanna work at my relationship because I work every where else. I’ve now shifted to valuing the relationship at a higher level than jobs etc. Healthy relationships are very important and deserve attention and effort too

  • @emberroy3181
    @emberroy3181 Год назад +49

    Everyone needs more than their salary to be financiaIIy stable as making money is an action. Keeping money is behavior. Growing money is knowledge.. 💯

  • @geadonnamoore2719
    @geadonnamoore2719 Год назад +4

    I'm not even done with viewing this, what, I call a video Podcast yet and I have to write a comment. Breeny, your interview skills are really maturing. With each of your guest you are just stepping it up and up. This interview is on fire. Your questions are on fire. Your guest today is so wise and giving such educational, informative insight on so many topics in this interview such as marriage, dating, celibacy, business, money, mental health, death, bible versus. This interview. *****. Five Stars. Five

  • @africangirl189
    @africangirl189 Год назад +12

    Repeat that " I don't believe in impressing men at all be yourself" 💯💯

  • @damselindenim
    @damselindenim Год назад +2

    Truly enjoyed this. Wish she talked more about hypergamy ( women with less income wanting a man with more income/upper social class). A lot of focus and emphasis on Boss Women which is awesome. Some of us, dare I say most of us, do not fall under that category. Overall such a great listen/watch and I have shared it with my girl group!

  • @sinegugudube4956
    @sinegugudube4956 Год назад +1

    Uuuuuh one of the most genuine, honest interviews I have watched on RUclips ever. i watched the entire episode, whole two hours glued to the screen. Loved everything about this talk, sooo many gems, I kept pausing and sharing snippets on my WhatsApp and sharing the link. Everyone needs to watch it. Keep up the good work, with ❤from 🇿🇦

  • @erind2261
    @erind2261 Год назад +13

    Breeny I absolutely love the podcast episodes. I listen to them on my commute to work... You helped me a lot.
    One of my favorite gems you dropped: there's nothing a man won't do for a grateful woman.

  • @queenloudwine
    @queenloudwine Год назад +13

    I know she said ditch the list but I really need a 6’2 man because I’m a tall girl. I just can’t do it sis lol.
    All jokes aside this was very insightful.

    • @jaythenihilist4689
      @jaythenihilist4689 Год назад +2

      Based off of that one standard alone, you are limiting yourself to only 6% of the male population in America? I'm assuming that stat is similar in most western countries. I'm not telling you what to do, but that's the reality. The women who refuse to let go of that list, are most likely to be the ones who end up alone. And the longer you wait as a woman, the more difficult it becomes. Is it *really* worth it? Only you can answer that. Good luck.🙃

    • @queenloudwine
      @queenloudwine Год назад +10

      @@jaythenihilist4689 yea that’s just going to be the case for me, I’m 6ft mama and I cannot be with a shorter man. Also I’m not pressed to be alone, it’s quite peaceful here.

  • @paulesaturday9490
    @paulesaturday9490 Год назад +12

    RC Blakes is definitely a father figure 💯

  • @tmed362
    @tmed362 Год назад +2

    So true. . . . . There is no mention of the man's accountability to submit to God and for him to learn how to be healthy husbands, fathers let alone be a healthy son, brother. friend. To know your commonalities is important.

  • @victoriamarsi7938
    @victoriamarsi7938 Год назад +2

    I am so glad I’ve found this video. Breeny , I’m very grateful for you bringing these wonderful collabs on. I’ve been blown away by Toni’s intake and now Rebecca just humbled me even more! Was definitely eye opening! Thank you🙏🏾