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  • @mint_soup9743
    @mint_soup9743 2 года назад +172

    Nothing says red flag like a man who insults you immediately after setting boundaries. Show your colors, red flags 🚩 fly high! 😂

  • @sierradenise76
    @sierradenise76 2 года назад +973

    I’m glad you touched on who we attract. I’ve always heard “You attracted what you are” but never fully agreed and saw it as a shift blaming tactic. At the end of the day we attract all kinds of men. Yes I believe the more respectable you are the more likely you are to attract a respectable man but you’re also likely to attract men that are just bold enough to try you. That’s why boundaries are so important.

    • @MT-hk9cp
      @MT-hk9cp 2 года назад +57

      Can I also add that what you entertain once you attract them is a huge factor.

    • @sierradenise76
      @sierradenise76 2 года назад +44

      @@MT-hk9cp that goes back to my point of having boundaries. Sometimes we entertain men not knowing what their intentions are but our boundaries can protect us. So yes we are responsible for what we entertain but it’s not always evident who and what we’re entertaining at first.

    • @MT-hk9cp
      @MT-hk9cp 2 года назад +15

      @@sierradenise76 oh I definitely agree that we don't know what we are entertaining initially but once we find out so many people remain because they'd rather deal in dysfunction than be single. My grandma taught me that there is power is being alone and liking it because it shows that you can be with yourself and not be sad. Of course, if you crave companionship then be your best self and vet the candidates while keeping your standards and boundaries.

    • @princesstc987
      @princesstc987 2 года назад +21

      The 'bold enough to try you' men are the most annoying too! Like I often ask myself what gives them the confidence. I've been chatted up by a drunk man who literally peed himself in the bus station in the middle of the day and another drunk who started chatting about black women not usually being his type before proceeding to ask for my number. Both situations, I was embarrased because people heard these men chatting to me and I was internally pissed off because I couldn't just leave and go elsewhere.

    • @annagrace1159
      @annagrace1159 2 года назад +1

      @@princesstc987 And if you raised up and defended. yourself they would've called you angry #smh

  • @melissagitts
    @melissagitts 2 года назад +323

    Standards
    1. Knowing who you are
    2. Knowing what you desire
    3. Knowing what is unacceptable.
    -Keep boundaries high.
    -Stop trying to please.

  • @adampantriangle2424
    @adampantriangle2424 2 года назад +231

    "your ex is not the standard"
    IT TOOK ME A FEW YEARS AND A COUPLE OF HEARTBREAKS TO START UNDERSTANDING THIS ✨🖤

    • @AkuraClosetRaid
      @AkuraClosetRaid Год назад +1

      Same here...shuuuu! that line was it

    • @oldschooldani
      @oldschooldani Год назад

      Happens when the bar was on the ground 😭 i get it 🫶🙌

  • @CeeceeH1819
    @CeeceeH1819 2 года назад +567

    Every time I've lowered my standards to give a guy a chance, it resulted in disastrous outcomes.
    Without standards and boundaries, we're just desperate delusional daydreamers.

    • @shalalala868
      @shalalala868 2 года назад +5

      That part!!

    • @jaythenihilist4689
      @jaythenihilist4689 2 года назад +16

      Never lower your standards. Never settle. Too many women settle when they're young. But as women age and become more mature, they become *more* desirable to men. It's the women who know what they want, and refuse to settle for anything less that end up much happier in the end.

    • @elifolarin7545
      @elifolarin7545 2 года назад +3

      Omggg yesss!!

    • @meiiilin
      @meiiilin 2 года назад +3

      Facts

    • @AkuraClosetRaid
      @AkuraClosetRaid Год назад +6

      'desperate delusional daydreamer' what you said there sis👏🙌

  • @josephineszmolena424
    @josephineszmolena424 2 года назад +520

    Girl…your shape…your glow up…GIRLLLLL

    • @crystalcutz
      @crystalcutz 2 года назад +14

      RIGHT!? ❤

    • @JP-227
      @JP-227 2 года назад +24

      She been fine‼️😍❤️

    • @QueenKLLC
      @QueenKLLC 2 года назад +7

      But she been glo'd up tho.

    • @yowilli6669
      @yowilli6669 2 года назад +4

      She is a rare beauty 😍

    • @angela_rodriguez
      @angela_rodriguez 2 года назад +1

      That is what I’m saying

  • @bibisaldana6685
    @bibisaldana6685 2 года назад +34

    “You don’t always have to open the door to those who knock”

  • @hdelf
    @hdelf 2 года назад +408

    I was seeing a guy for two months, I feel like we had a good connection and we had our fun adventures. My birthday comes around and he had told me weeks before that he would give me a call as we were both away and he didn’t, he texted before the night ends. So I texted him back “Thanks for the good wishes!” I was playing ‘Miss Cool Cat’ whilst the whole time this seemingly small thing actually bothered the shit out of me. I was swimming in a murky feeling for a week, I didn’t address my feeling, so I sent him a message that what he did was not okay. He didn’t reply. I think he’s just not that into me. And I suppose that is okay, I’ll be okay about it all. Because as much as I like him, I love myself more.

    • @mariako8480
      @mariako8480 2 года назад +78

      it’s okay baby!Be glad that he showed his true colors!You deserve someone better and trust that you will find him!

    • @jayminjoh142
      @jayminjoh142 2 года назад +30

      I was seeing a guy for around that same time but he had different priorities.
      He just stopped talking to be but would like my insta stories on a daily and even WhatsApp statuses. I tried to talk to him to make it work but instead he asked why "I was having issues". I cut my loses and left

    • @kenishabailey1662
      @kenishabailey1662 2 года назад +26

      He's on games sis, red flag 🚩

    • @Haysti2000
      @Haysti2000 2 года назад +36

      I totally feel you. Had a guy who on his birthday made him feel like the most special person on earth. On mine he barely acknowledged me or made time for me. Best thing I ever did was block him couple weeks later without any explanation. Learn to never explain yourself when someone has harmed you. All this shit about "just communicate" is a lie, he didnt have to communicate to me that I treat him extra special on his birthday. I dont care if he "just didnt get it" or "didnt have bad intentions" when it was things that mattered to him (sex) he couldnt leave my side. Men know what they are doing, we all do, so explanations are meaningless.

    • @dahsirivan8329
      @dahsirivan8329 2 года назад +5

      Good for you. If a guy not into you it time to move on we have no time for time waster and it's gonna be okay give your time to a man who worthy of you time.

  • @daphwill
    @daphwill 2 года назад +103

    "I know what I want and what I need & I know what is unacceptable" - Management

    • @letstlk
      @letstlk 2 года назад +1

      Facts.

  • @ladylorp2738
    @ladylorp2738 2 года назад +129

    That was me too, my last relationship I tolerated so much that I would NEVER allow anymore. I like dates, flowers, gifts and just words of encouragement n my ex did none of those things n I kept my cool to keep the peace n in the end it was the very reason I ended a 4 years relationship so moving forward I won’t tolerate what I don’t like anymore. I will be firm about my wants and needs.

    • @sbrown804
      @sbrown804 2 года назад

      👏🏾

    • @alias4506
      @alias4506 2 года назад +2

      Yup. They think it’s a fucking joke.

  • @princessgigiking
    @princessgigiking 2 года назад +116

    Boundaries: Do not allow a person to do what they want to do to me or talk to me in a harsh way. Say No! ✋Say Stop. ❤️❤️❤️

    • @wolfiesasha887
      @wolfiesasha887 2 года назад +4

      Did that, and now i got a friend that doesn't speak to me anymore, just because i told her what bothered me when we had a conversation 😹

  • @brandi17able
    @brandi17able 2 года назад +48

    I am glad you talked about flirting..I had a convo with a guy recently and he said when he is in a relationship he won't cheat but he doesn't mind flirting because it shows he still got it... I was like I am glad I am not dating you

    • @mariako8480
      @mariako8480 2 года назад +7

      oh no ma’am!Good thing he snitched on himself

  • @trob9100
    @trob9100 2 года назад +68

    You young ones are so lucky to have social media with influencers and people like Breeny to help you know better in life. Some of us had nobody that gave good advice or guidance so all we can do now is help others by sharing our testimonies. Be grateful.

    • @Yukirusi
      @Yukirusi Год назад +3

      But you have always had your Bible. Everything she is teaching is inside your Bible.

    • @DianaUkaoyobhi-nb2jq
      @DianaUkaoyobhi-nb2jq 10 месяцев назад

      ​@GrowthHive44 But not everyone is religious

  • @TiffanyBTV
    @TiffanyBTV 2 года назад +20

    This confirmed my breakup. As much of a good guy he is…..he isn’t the one for me. My standards and boundaries begin to be compromised. It weighed heavy and i had to walk away. Glad i recognize early.

  • @Saniqueeee
    @Saniqueeee 2 года назад +51

    Heavy on the “don’t feel bad” about not being attracted to “nice guys”. I set boundaries and everyyyyy time, I get blocked or unfollowed by the same person I wasn’t interested in 🥴

  • @snugglebear6836
    @snugglebear6836 2 года назад +402

    Breeny you helped me get out of an abuse situation and stand up to a guy who was manipulating me, and blamed me for the sexual abuse I experienced as a kid

    • @IEVAKambarovaite
      @IEVAKambarovaite 2 года назад +36

      Good on you for being able to leave an abusive situation. Leaving an abusive relationship is incredibly challenging. Usually takes on average around 8 attempts or so before you feel you're definitely not going back to that toxic situation. These cycles are extremely difficult to break. I know it from my own upbringing and personal situations.

    • @kimberlywilliams4964
      @kimberlywilliams4964 2 года назад +4

      That’s great girl happy for you

    • @aanyamallick7747
      @aanyamallick7747 2 года назад +14

      I'M SO HAPPY AND PROUD OF YOU!!
      I pray you continue to grow mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually so that you can find your equal and receive what you deserve. I'm so sorry and disgusted that he blamed you for that abuse you experienced. This is why i personally refrain from trauma bonding, and I wasn't dating until I was healed from said trauma. Because trauma bonding will have an energy vampire lach on you, drain you emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally then use said trauma against you in a heated argument.
      Apart from Breeny, I listen to 'Real Talk With Yanie' and upon watching her video the other day about the whole Jin & Juice situation, she said something that has stuck with me and i hope it'll do the same for you
      "If you master healing, you can master your life. Because you can try to go out here and start a new life or go to a different country and somehow still deal with the same stuff you saw growing up in your childhood. Or have the same effects of some of the things you traumatically dealt with in your childhood. Now you're in your adulthood sharing your trauma, or some type of trauma bond with this person you're in love with"

    • @blessedchildofgod9112
      @blessedchildofgod9112 2 года назад

      Dam that's fucked up sorry to hear god bless you

    • @natashadickson4819
      @natashadickson4819 2 года назад +22

      Don't tell men you were abused. A good man doesn't need to know. A bad man will use it against you.

  • @NathalieLazo
    @NathalieLazo 2 года назад +247

    Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤️

    • @veronica_sm_
      @veronica_sm_ 2 года назад

      i needed this and i’m so moved internally by your message🤍🤍🤍

    • @jaelle6993
      @jaelle6993 2 года назад

      Thank you, I pray the same for u too

    • @mmaya772
      @mmaya772 2 года назад

      Thank you love and I wish the best for you too!* 💕✨💕

    • @Sara-vh6sq
      @Sara-vh6sq Год назад

      Thank you.. I really needed to hear this. Wish you the same as well!

  • @queenrrainy4625
    @queenrrainy4625 2 года назад +60

    Yes girl!walked out of my marriage after being with this man for 23years!my head is held high and feeling liberated and powerful taking my 3 children with me and nothing else but my peace,health and sanity after he tried tringulating me instead of changing his behaviour.And he doesnt understand why I would walk away after all these years just because he cheated and got caught! Deal breaker,i stand by my boundaries and value !move on!the real mature one will come through

    • @TranquilityWealth
      @TranquilityWealth 2 года назад +5

      Congratulations on choosing you. Your peace and children...!

    • @maira3681
      @maira3681 Год назад +2

      So proud of you

  • @Pandas0918
    @Pandas0918 2 года назад +48

    Just told a guy I gave a second chance to that his actions showed me that us moving forward wasn’t a good idea. Had enough of him acting like my boundaries and standards weren’t non-negotiables! #Notsettling🙏🏾☺️❤️

  • @nothemba1982
    @nothemba1982 2 года назад +98

    A note to self to listen to these time stamps again:
    12:35-13:25
    15:20-15:58
    18:57-24:53
    30:25-31:22
    I love that simple and powerful analogy of your house growing up, about people leaning against the wall willy-nilly because there was no fence (i.e. boundary). I’m gonna use that to explain boundaries to my goddaughter.
    You look like you’ve shed a lot of weight Breeny, and not just physically - there’s a calm and peace about you lately. I love that for you.
    Thank you for this video.

  • @shesonfire_
    @shesonfire_ 2 года назад +61

    Someone wise once said. "When the women go bad, the men will follow" as crazy as this is,unfortunately its true more often than not. Cheaters can't be rampant if there is noone to cheat with etc. Great video!

  • @blessedchildofgod9112
    @blessedchildofgod9112 2 года назад +68

    As black women we are the most disrespected ...so I personally need the up most respect from everyone nothing less ! Thanks for what you do I liked and subscribe

  • @SylviaJoe
    @SylviaJoe 2 года назад +92

    “Boundaries are clear and they are confident” 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @IdorenyinIbanga_
    @IdorenyinIbanga_ 2 года назад +125

    So Sunday a friend a met online gave me a ride to church & back. When he dropped me he wanted to hug 🫂 & I rejected it. I just noticed he stopped talking to me & I did went my way & didn’t care. About 5 days after he sent me a message that he is mad with me because I didn’t hug me. I was like, guy I owe no apology because I decided what I do with my body & I owe no one any explanation. I bluntly don’t care if you are hurt?

    • @IdorenyinIbanga_
      @IdorenyinIbanga_ 2 года назад +1

      @Sherise Roberts not at all

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  2 года назад +65

      I went on a date with a guy I met in the US.
      He got upset with me because I wouldn’t give him a goodbye kiss, like I owed it to him, didn’t speak to me again, poor guy.

    • @amorepsyche808
      @amorepsyche808 2 года назад +4

      yes, but if it was an innocent hug? I mean it is ok to reject them ,but in general giving a hug is not a sexualized thing.. jmo

    • @glecservices3114
      @glecservices3114 2 года назад +2

      With respect if your trying to build a relationship with a man why would you reject a hug, if he was trying to get sex then I get it but if it’s just a hug then that’s shouldn’t be a problem, I would say this rejection breeds rejection and if you don’t care then a man shouldn’t care either, but also I think you should be mindful to give out love if you want love

    • @IdorenyinIbanga_
      @IdorenyinIbanga_ 2 года назад +6

      @@amorepsyche808 access to my body isn’t an “innocent “ one. I only hug when I choose to

  • @Patricia-cp2zg
    @Patricia-cp2zg 2 года назад +49

    I'm crying my eyes out because I didn't had a mom and hearing this is really giving me that motherly advice and warm I needed. My selfworh and everything I've been working suddenly shutted because of a man I was dating. It's okay, I'm going to get back on my path, my energy, I will learn from this and not beat myself up. Thank you for this. You are giving people something truly valuable.

  • @jessitabonita
    @jessitabonita 2 года назад +83

    25:48 😂 So true!
    My $30 waterproof bag from Target has lasted longer than my $800 leather Burberry bag!
    It reminds me that someone with a lot of currency, whether it's $ or £, especially when wearing or driving luxury brands, isn't always actually the best one. 😉

  • @t.r.8794
    @t.r.8794 2 года назад +105

    I appreciate you. Everything you said is true. I used to be a people pleaser, the best thing I did was put those boundaries in place and learned to say NO. People respect me more and it shows. When it comes to dating I weed out the men that aren’t worthy of my time.

  • @RoseMon3yy
    @RoseMon3yy 2 года назад +25

    I went against my standards and gave my broke abusive ex chances after chances. He is so very attentive, loving, afffectionate, but cheap and took his frustrations out on me.

  • @Godsdestiny4us
    @Godsdestiny4us 2 года назад +91

    GIIRRRLLLLLLL, I seriously love you!!! You are a breath of fresh air on the internet and anointed by God! You are called to EDUCATE THESE WOMEN!!!! Your message needs to be broadcasted to every woman on the plant. I've been preaching this to my girlfriends for years!!!!! STANDARDS, AND KNOW YOUR WORTH PERIOD!!!!!!
    Until women change their "EASY" behavior, men will CONTINUE to get away with murder on how he treats a woman..FACTS 💯 💯 💯 💯

    • @oohno1000
      @oohno1000 2 года назад

      She is I can’t wait bro hear this

    • @jaythenihilist4689
      @jaythenihilist4689 2 года назад

      Most men today don't put forth any effort to meet even the bare minimum of standards that women have. Most men are too unattractive, too short, don't make enough money, don't have a good enough education, aren't funny enough, aren't masculine enough etc. Truthfully, women ask for very little in a relationship, and probably 90% of men don't meet the bare minimum standards. Women should absolutely *never* lower their standards for a man that isn't worth their time. Women are the prize, and should be treated as such. That's why it's not important what women bring to the table. They're the woman, they're the prize, THATS WHAT WOMEN BRING. Just themselves, and that's all that they have to. It's better for a woman to be single, than lower herself to man that doesn't measure up. Stay strong, and eventually God will deliver the perfect man to every woman who withholds to earge to settle. And even if a woman has to remain single or unmarried for her whole life, then that's still far more preferable than settling for a man who doesn't deserve her.

  • @iamgoddessoflove
    @iamgoddessoflove 2 года назад +25

    Don't lose yourself to someone that doesn't respect you; instead, let go of that relationship to allow doors to open from someone that deserves you.
    💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

  • @avalon.a
    @avalon.a 2 года назад +42

    This hit me absolutely hard. Being very pretty all my life, I’ve attracted a lot of attention, and sometimes unwanted. I became a people pleaser and now at 19, I’ve been struggling ever since especially in my friendships and beginning too talk to guys. My standards are ideally high, yet once I start to date around I subconsciously lower them to appease the other person. It’s been very hard facing my consequences for being a people pleaser and too nice but I’m staring to face my problems head on and fix them. Thank you so much for this encouraging video it’s reaffirmed a lot of points. :))

  • @Pacifica74
    @Pacifica74 2 года назад +9

    I had a minimal concept of standards as a young teenage girl because of my father. Your very first relationship with a man is the one you have with your father. He's the first man that broke my heart.

  • @lorrainadennis2652
    @lorrainadennis2652 2 года назад +18

    great video breeny. I went out on a date and this guy he wanted to kiss me and i told him i dont kiss on a first date nor do i move that fast and he said 'ok i respect that'. he gave me a lift and said he would like to take me out for dinner and he would like to get to know me more. My mindset is i am a queen and i deserve the best, i already giving myself the best so any man that comes in my life has to add to that not take it away and i value myself enough to walk away from anything that messed with my peace. P.S ive been watching your videos and applying them to my life the results are amazing xx

    • @zippyblessed839
      @zippyblessed839 2 года назад

      Your not a queen
      Get over your self 😄

  • @amy9910
    @amy9910 2 года назад +60

    I'm not a people pleaser because I don't care about being liked, but I'm super high in agreeableness and compassion so I find it soooo hard to cut things off with a guy I'm dating unless something's really wrong, because I don't like knowing I'm about to inflict pain on this person. I don't know how to overcome this 😭

    • @liahlove8297
      @liahlove8297 2 года назад +20

      I understand that. I have the mindset where I'm always afraid to hurt people's feelings. But girl, I'm slowly learning how to be true to myself and stop putting myself on the back burner. I am being honest and if they get hurt, that's none of my business. You have to be deliberate and take a stand and change. Or else, you'll remain that way for years. All the best.

    • @IEVAKambarovaite
      @IEVAKambarovaite 2 года назад +6

      You sound very aware, Amy. Have you done JP's personality test?
      I totally get how tough it is to reject someone. You have a loving heart and you always try to get into another person's shoes and you don't want to treat someone in a way that may hurt them. But you're the most important person. Never forget that.
      And would you not someone tell you they don't want to be with you if they were not 100% hell yes
      about you?

    • @amy9910
      @amy9910 2 года назад +7

      @@IEVAKambarovaite yeah I have! Found it super interesting. Yeah, that's true. I guess this is the sort of issue that requires conscious effort and action to overcome. Plus, I always feel like I need a reason - a reason that makes sense to both of us (when in reality the reason only makes sense to me). Just need to keep at it and push through the discomfort of it 😬✊

    • @kenasssss
      @kenasssss 2 года назад +9

      just do it. You are wasting your time and his too. And some guys get mad when they think everything was going alright and then you cut them off. They'll say you're leading them on, you want attention, you're bored, blablabla. Do yourself a favour and call it quits "I'm sorry, I'm not interested; Sorry, we don't share the same values, I hope you find a nice person" Be compassionate by not wasting their time and politely refusing them, straight to the point.

    • @georginalobo-clarke2412
      @georginalobo-clarke2412 2 года назад +8

      Remember if you're not sticking to your own boundaries you are allowing your SELF to be hurt by this person and inflicting pain upon yourself

  • @ZumbawithDorothy
    @ZumbawithDorothy 2 года назад +5

    Tired of being a people pleaser. I am always yelling but I still do what they want me to do. Listen to this every day.

  • @nicksmith-cx1fx
    @nicksmith-cx1fx 2 года назад +18

    You should be looking for someone good enough and build a great relationship. Finding the best person doesn't guarantee a successful relationship. Also when those romantic feelings and chemistry fade what are you going to do then. Choosing a partner solely based on how he makes you feel is the wrong way to select a mate.

    • @ToniaAlex13
      @ToniaAlex13 2 года назад +3

      You should be looking for someone good enough, just doesn't sound right to me. Sounds the same like saying he or she has potential. Potential don't normally work

    • @assitandiaby3027
      @assitandiaby3027 2 года назад

      @@ToniaAlex13 I agree. There’s no such thing as good enough. That’s literally settling.

    • @ToniaAlex13
      @ToniaAlex13 2 года назад

      @@assitandiaby3027 👍🏽

    • @stormship1647
      @stormship1647 2 года назад +1

      I agree …good enough ..like our fore parents did …that means they have the character values and fundamentals to be a good partner …everything else is the seeker trying to satisfy their fetishes , fantasies and socially programmed preferences or even trying to impress / seek validation from others ( oh ..he must be six feet , Six figure income , certain complexion etc )

    • @jaythenihilist4689
      @jaythenihilist4689 2 года назад +1

      @@ToniaAlex13 Right. There is no "good enough." He is either perfect for you, or he's not. And if he's not, then don't waste your time. But look on the bright side, women become more desirable as they get older, wiser, more mature. It's the women who hold out for the perfect man for them that end up the happiest in life. God has a plan for everything. So refusing to settle just means that you'll be available when that perfect man comes along. And even if he never does, then being alone is still far better than settling for someone who doesn't meet your standards.

  • @angelathomas8680
    @angelathomas8680 2 года назад +81

    You are the big sister that I never had. You've taught me alot and that help me from not doing stupid things so thank you very much and God bless you more wisdom

  • @tatisloveoth
    @tatisloveoth 2 года назад +45

    "how do you want others to experience you?" you really gave us a lot of food for thought with this one, thank you 🙏🏼

    • @mmaya772
      @mmaya772 2 года назад

      She always does!* 😊

  • @veronica_sm_
    @veronica_sm_ 2 года назад +5

    “we do not entertain flies, we do not entertain trash, we do not entertain dogsss” damn Breeny!!! you are a graceful and powerful queen INDEED! 😍😍😍

  • @iamella96
    @iamella96 2 года назад +15

    Tbh, I can't even tell you how much you have effected my life. It's been like 10 months that I've followed you and now you're part of my routine :)))) your name is on my TO DO LIST like every day and I watch 1 or 2 videos of your RUclips channel a day. And you can't believe me how much it helped me...
    I can just say that I LOVE YOU. You even made me believe in God. I mean I've changed my whole perspective about God...

  • @Chaptersaudio
    @Chaptersaudio 2 года назад +52

    24:55 Preach Breeny!
    I have lived my entire life like this and the few times I lowered my value and dated men that in my heart I knew were beneath me, I was MISERABLE. At first blush it does sound snooty or stuck up (the concept of viewing oneself as being of value) but when you look at it via the prism of this analogy, it makes sense.
    Like you, I do not agree with people that rate others on a scale of 1 - 10, that to me meams nothing. However, if you consider yourself to be valuable and precious ladies, trust me....you will not tolerate a man that doesn't match or surpass your energy and value.
    I could be with any number of men I have met today, but I refuse to devalue what I want. Lastly ladies, I encourage my sisters to stop trying to bring women down to your level if you choose to lower your standards. Do You! and keep your opinions to yourself. 😉

    • @lunar686
      @lunar686 2 года назад +2

      Lovely to hear you’re out of those relationships now beautiful 🌸💜🌸 and hope you find someone worth your time 😊.
      I think it only sounds snooty if people confuse standards/boundaries with shallow/surface attributes. Like if someone’s standards are based around physical attributes, finances, prestige, where they holiday, what car they drive or other instagramable features lol then yeah rejecting someone based on not living up to a superficial expectation is pretty bad (lol we all have our attractions but I’m referring to ones that aren’t balanced lol)...but having standards/boundaries based on how we treat ourselves and others is far from b$#*y, if anything, you’re actually showing kindness and compassion by having clear standards of behaviour that bring out the best aspects of the person they are also trying to be. Entertaining and being ‘nice’ to people that are disrespectful or toxic, all because we’re having a lonely moment and want to be liked, brings out the worst in them for out temporary benefit, but ultimately our misery.
      Definitely agree with you too 😊. True value can’t be measured on a rating scale. It can only be understood through experience.
      Loved this from Bree 💕

  • @princessgigiking
    @princessgigiking 2 года назад +5

    Men don't like easy women, Men really respect a woman who says No to him. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @GiaMooore
    @GiaMooore Год назад +12

    Thank you girl! You literally made me realize that all my past relationships were men that didn’t treat me well because I didn’t set boundaries or standards for the type of men I chose! I chose any man due to my circumstances, sadness, loneliness, environment. Now I know I need to pure love into me and set those standards because I am responsible for who and what I allow! All I seen was fu*kery all my life so I truly Appreciated this so much!

  • @Irenee_vx
    @Irenee_vx 2 года назад +47

    I haven’t watched you in a few months and clicked on your latest video to see your transformation! Congratulations, I went on an 8 week challenge and I was taught “it’s not a diet, it’s a healthy life choice” and I kept repeating that to myself and it was the best thing. Do it at your own pace, know one dessert in moderation will not throw off your entire training, simply work out the following day and you get yourself mentally back into a good routine and you don’t put so much weight on your shoulders.
    All these things helped me loose 23cm off my entire body within 3 weeks of intense training whilst eating home cooked meals.
    Congratulations once again and keep going. ❤️

  • @BeautyRebellion
    @BeautyRebellion 2 года назад +165

    Love you Breeny!!! Thank you for sharing! Loved this video and your hair 😍🫶🏾

  • @siomi2701
    @siomi2701 2 года назад +5

    everyone has standards till it's time to reinforce them. men have been left "jaw dropped" i think i've always got what i wanted because i give an man no other option when dealing with me. my man says "you will always get what you want in life" and that is very true because i will accept nothing less for myself he knows it too. it makes men move very differently and respect you in a different light. very true

  • @Asher_Masa
    @Asher_Masa 2 года назад +39

    The door analogy is actually true. They don't seem believe it. 🤦🏽‍♀️
    Absolutely loved this, thanks sis ❤

  • @kristylrickydawn5152
    @kristylrickydawn5152 2 года назад +28

    Rarely do I comment on youtube, but I 'know' that here I will be heard. Out of all the things I have to say/ask you ; from a short amount of time of watching your videos.... We recognize veterans for their honorable service. Emotional, Nutrient, and healing is barely the epitome of what I've found in the videos of yours that I've the privilege to have seen. So very deeply, I. Thank. You. For. Your. Service. When someone mentions strength , I think of you. By far the most colorful and resiliently powerful mind I've seen this far. I know I'm young but, it really matters because I have a lot of value to see yet in myself, mostly I'm alone but I sustain really well all things considered lmfao . It's just nice to know another light . You literally fuel me. And what you do is just everything to me.💯

  • @liahlove8297
    @liahlove8297 2 года назад +14

    This was a whole message for me, because boy am I guilty of this. I have alot of work to do on myself.

  • @AmerieFanbase
    @AmerieFanbase 2 года назад +27

    Can you please do a video on being childfree vs having children? It needs to be spoken about

    • @sixteen.candles.4644
      @sixteen.candles.4644 2 года назад +6

      Why do you say that?

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 2 года назад +5

      Child free kids are not a possession let's hope you stay free of them

    • @sunvavachi
      @sunvavachi 2 года назад +5

      It'd be a good topic. I don't want kids so would be an interesting topic.

  • @StarDaughterOfZionDube
    @StarDaughterOfZionDube 2 года назад +19

    Sis , first of all you look amazing 👏🏽

  • @austriaperez497
    @austriaperez497 Год назад +1

    Excellent chat!! You hit the nail on the head

  • @kellydaniels4509
    @kellydaniels4509 Год назад +5

    I’m that people pleaser and it’s so hard to try to change my mentality, I have this desire to be liked by everyone but I do think you’re correct I’m not having peoples respect, people don’t give me the same energy and then I feel unappreciated and lonely anyway. I’m going to continue to try working on it, thank you for your pep talks ❤

  • @anathelifecoach
    @anathelifecoach 3 месяца назад

    Great video, Breeny 👑

  • @annamielniczuk7771
    @annamielniczuk7771 Год назад

    Breeny pep talks always 🔥🔥

  • @jasintamumba3738
    @jasintamumba3738 2 года назад +1

    Breeny dropping the message I needed

  • @Liy___444
    @Liy___444 2 года назад +4

    The flower vase 🔥🔥

  • @ciggytwiggy
    @ciggytwiggy 2 года назад +2

    OMG that is so true. We are not doing ANYONE, not him and especially ourselves when we accept their nonsense.

  • @kaylahmariepaul7881
    @kaylahmariepaul7881 Год назад

    Breeny Lee is speaking!!! ❤❤❤

  • @meganpoppy_884
    @meganpoppy_884 2 года назад +1

    Your analogies are ON POINT Breeny💋🤍

  • @alwaysalady9775
    @alwaysalady9775 Год назад

    I love your content. Keep up the great work.

  • @mamancooper942
    @mamancooper942 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for this! The analogy is perfect.

  • @claudiathomas3193
    @claudiathomas3193 2 года назад +1

    So good ....I had to watch it twice! Preach it sistah!

  • @queenbri129
    @queenbri129 Год назад +3

    I’ve literally been binge watching Breeny Lee all day while at work 😂😂😂

  • @versatile3169
    @versatile3169 2 года назад +1

    Phenomenal breeny.all the analogies to be visual. The light with the flies was funny! Thank you!

  • @QueenOyinkan
    @QueenOyinkan 2 года назад +8

    This is sooo true! & we see you slimming down girlll💖💖

  • @nadiajourdan3969
    @nadiajourdan3969 2 года назад +11

    I couldn't handle all the gems being thrown at me! Thank you for reminding (me) women of our value and worth!!! 🙌🏾

  • @ebm25
    @ebm25 2 года назад +1

    Woowww my head is already enlighted!!! Thank you so much!!! ❤

  • @JayBird227
    @JayBird227 2 года назад +114

    It’s not even about what men like, the world doesn’t revolve around them anyway
    I absolutely love the bag analogy!! I will always refer to it in my mind ✨👛👜👝

    • @TeaWitcher
      @TeaWitcher 2 года назад +2

      !!!!!!!

    • @lunar686
      @lunar686 2 года назад +2

      Loved it to 😊🌸👜!

  • @JasmineSlater.
    @JasmineSlater. 2 года назад +3

    THIS VIDEO, THIS HAIR, THIS REAL TALK IS DOING IT FOR ME!!! 🗣🗣🗣❤️❤️

  • @Visionary848
    @Visionary848 2 года назад +10

    The Targets vs. Louis Vuitton description is prime example of human nature. Brilliant Brenne. You are speaking truth. “Man handling bags in target, hilarious, yet truthful.”

  • @FatimaLopez-
    @FatimaLopez- 2 года назад +3

    Just the message I needed to hear!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!! ♥️

  • @dorisdiribe
    @dorisdiribe 2 года назад +1

    Thank you Breeny for always bringing value to us.

  • @torivalle4035
    @torivalle4035 2 года назад +1

    i appreciate this insight, i def lacked this guidance growing up so reparenting myself at the moment, thank you for this

  • @Just1Independent1
    @Just1Independent1 2 года назад +5

    Yes ma’am Breeny Lee!

  • @maddyishara
    @maddyishara 2 года назад +2

    This woman never disappoints

  • @shellyj9809
    @shellyj9809 2 года назад +4

    Girllll Ur lil DJ Khalid! Another 1👍🏾 keep up the inspiration it’s a good look

  • @reginasmith5293
    @reginasmith5293 2 года назад

    Love it, love it, love it! As always raw and to the point! 🌻💛

  • @findingdori442
    @findingdori442 2 года назад +4

    I Heart your advice! Words of wisdom 💛

  • @mahsabehnamrad6523
    @mahsabehnamrad6523 2 года назад +2

    Thanks for new video ~ I can’t wait to get home to watch it … LOVE YOU 💓

  • @tenamesaric8742
    @tenamesaric8742 2 года назад +4

    Needed this video soooo much! Exactly right timing. "Fool me once- shame on you. Fool me twice- shame on me." That hit hard gurlll

  • @snehshabangu
    @snehshabangu 2 года назад +1

    Sheeeshhh sis Breeny!!!!! You are on fire and spitting facts! 🔥☺️🫣❤️🤭
    Thank you sooo much for this! We heard you very well. Imma listen to this multiple times and take notes to let it sink in.

  • @fedousafiriyie3230
    @fedousafiriyie3230 2 года назад +9

    You are glowing Breeny . God bless you

  • @sarahvasquez6494
    @sarahvasquez6494 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much Queen!

  • @solvetcag4801
    @solvetcag4801 2 года назад +6

    Breeny, I appreciate you so much. I love your videos and what you're doing with this channel. I feel like you're a big sister to a lot of your subscribers (including me!). Thank you so much for your work Queen!

  • @girly.mimi00
    @girly.mimi00 2 года назад +15

    This is amazing content Breeny. Keep it up.

  • @TrendyTroylynSlots
    @TrendyTroylynSlots Год назад

    I love how you used the bag to explain your point! Great video🤎

  • @theinfluentialprincess
    @theinfluentialprincess 2 года назад +7

    I love your videos. Esp on the soft life one 🤍🤍🤍

  • @gemfactory904
    @gemfactory904 2 года назад +6

    Girl you look so good!!! Like you look gorgeous! Keep it up💕👏🏾

  • @AleshaMarieTV
    @AleshaMarieTV Год назад +1

    So many lessons packed into a 34 min video. I truly appreciate this! 💕

  • @lynnmothibeli325
    @lynnmothibeli325 2 года назад +5

    This is very good advice. Thanks, Breeny.

  • @Sandrinarhonda
    @Sandrinarhonda 2 года назад +6

    BREENYYY you look so good 🥰 & I absolutely love you

  • @Sunnyside45335
    @Sunnyside45335 2 года назад +1

    Your voice, your message, such a queen girl 🙏💕

  • @vdes78
    @vdes78 2 года назад

    You never disappoint! Nothing but facts.. at this point you need your own show love.. you are the light to the community 🙏🏽❤️✨ we need more of you XOXO

  • @melshonestsoul2200
    @melshonestsoul2200 2 года назад +2

    I loved everything you said. It’s a journey but it’s sooo worth it.!!! You are a Queen inside out❣️ Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽

  • @roslynjones5886
    @roslynjones5886 2 года назад +3

    You really explained boundaries and standards perfectly!!!! I have to pass this video on to some women who need to hear it. Thanks

  • @taylorhines996
    @taylorhines996 2 года назад +5

    I love your content!! This is exactly the journey I’ve been on to work on setting standards and boundaries for the past year! This was well articulated. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @victoriawinn4442
    @victoriawinn4442 2 года назад +4

    Preacher Sis! I'm almost 56 and still learning life lessons..

  • @Jess_ca0605
    @Jess_ca0605 2 года назад +6

    Thanks so much for this empowering video! I‘m struggling with leaning on my standards when it comes to work. At work, not just my boss but even my co workers know they can push me around and I will accept it. I’m working on putting an end to this 🙏🏼❤️

  • @biancatanael176
    @biancatanael176 2 года назад +2

    I love this so much!!! I needed to hear this at this time of my life. Your pep talk is so worth every sec of my life. ❤️❤️❤️