Why Women Want Married Men

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  • Опубликовано: 30 окт 2024

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  • @nytbk8880
    @nytbk8880 Месяц назад +12

    It's simple- many women love chaos, drama, conflict, and destruction. Period.

  • @standground8284
    @standground8284 2 месяца назад +17

    *I’m 38 married for 14 years.* I work in the corporate world. There are many women who are well aware that I’m married with children but they still proposition me. They’ve bluntly said things like, I’m not trying to take you away from wife and kids I just want to F, what makes your wife so special that she deserves her own man, I’ll be one of your secrets, etc. Discipline, self control and communication are important in a marriage at bare minimum.
    I’ve never cheated in a relationship and I’ll never cheat on my wife. I asked colleague who was aggressive, why don’t you pursue a single guy instead of a married man like me. She looked me dead in my eyes and said, a single guy likely has a roster full of hoes and likely passing around stuff. You on the other hand are faithful to your wife and we all know it. Therefore, we rather be a side chick since we know exactly who the other woman is that we have to sneak around and share you with (your wife).

    • @javiermorales365
      @javiermorales365 Месяц назад

      Wow that’s crazy I’m 41 married with kids same thing Atleast 2 girls I know wanted to F with me. One had daddy issues so she loved how great of a dad I am and good husband. She wanted to be treated well even if she was just a side girl. That’s insane!

    • @wandaclement4000
      @wandaclement4000 Месяц назад +4

      It is beyond great! That you have been and continues to be faithful to your wife!!!! There are so many men and women who commit adultery. It's at an all-time high. May God continue to bless you and your wife!

    • @standground8284
      @standground8284 Месяц назад

      @@wandaclement4000 It’s sad that people cheat on their spouse. I’d never put myself in a position for a to be a question. My wife is amazing and I’d never betray her. If my wife passed away, I’ll be unfair to even pursue another relationship as I’ve never met anyone near her caliber.

  • @hubertroberts7800
    @hubertroberts7800 2 месяца назад +25

    Helena ... You had two wonderful men with husband characteristics and you ran both of them away. Self sabbotage is real.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад +4

      Yes it is. I have self sabotaged before but these were not good long term choices for me. I didn’t want to take care of a physically ill man who smokes nor have children with the other, I’m sure someone else would be a better fit for them.

    • @Qedoshim
      @Qedoshim 2 месяца назад +7

      @@HelenaPaschalwhat exactly did you contribute to those relationships except provide company?

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  Месяц назад +3

      @@Qedoshim nothing

    • @jasonharris996
      @jasonharris996 Месяц назад +2

      ​@@HelenaPaschaldamn, that's brutally honest.

  • @christopherjones512
    @christopherjones512 2 месяца назад +27

    Because men are established and that's the attraction

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад +1

      Simple as that. I listed that in the video description, I believe that, too!

    • @kaywashington5604
      @kaywashington5604 2 месяца назад +2

      Agreed, but that establishment comes from what that husband and his wife built together, no?

    • @christopherjones512
      @christopherjones512 2 месяца назад +3

      @@kaywashington5604 excellent opinion

    • @jelanihashim7083
      @jelanihashim7083 12 дней назад

      @@kaywashington5604Absolutely, which is why infidelity is full of shit

  • @Ameal-w9w
    @Ameal-w9w 2 месяца назад +24

    This is an adulterous generation. All will pay a heavy price.

    • @jeannestrickland7027
      @jeannestrickland7027 2 месяца назад

      I do not believe that it has anything to do with generations. Adultery is not disgust in the past. That does not mean that it was not present in abundance. This generation just faces the harsh reality head on.

    • @Ameal-w9w
      @Ameal-w9w 2 месяца назад +2

      @@jeannestrickland7027 certain sins are weighed out according to that particular generation

    • @marvinhagler4721
      @marvinhagler4721 2 месяца назад

      @@jeannestrickland7027 It's NOT just ONE generation,the percentages and ways of thinking are different in each one.....

    • @garawa1987
      @garawa1987 2 месяца назад +1

      Exactly God gives is free will doesn't mean we are exempt from those evil choices no wonder HIV and other new diseases are popping up

    • @justafriend3408
      @justafriend3408 2 месяца назад +1

      The answer to the question in the title is because polygamy is how we are supposed to live. Women, please stop being pretended by civilisation, polygamy is just OK, the women will love it and the married man will love it so what's the problem. Follow your natural self not what someone, some culture or some book says.

  • @SylisDaGoldenPeach
    @SylisDaGoldenPeach 2 месяца назад +15

    I’ve never tried to date a married man , my ex was a alcoholic tho but I realized his drinking came from a place of pain , I’m now working through that pain wit him as friends , it makes me feel good that he’s smiling more and I’m learning more about his moods and who he is as a person , I figured out that he just needs patience and slowly he may leave his bad habit .

  • @marvinhagler4721
    @marvinhagler4721 2 месяца назад +16

    TOLD to my face, a woman told me she dates married men because they ALWAYS are straight up and the men that are single are full of it in too many situations.My female friends say the same thing about todays dating games..we are ALL over 50

    • @ERoss338
      @ERoss338 2 месяца назад

      Makes sense

    • @mactherealestateman
      @mactherealestateman 4 дня назад

      Yoy would think that if they knew better, they'd do better. you would think...

  • @brittanybrown9536
    @brittanybrown9536 2 месяца назад +4

    Girllllllllll wow ur timing is impeccable!!! I thought I was going crazy. Crazy chemistry with a married man currently, and fighting the desires and temptation EVERY DAYUMMMM DAY. The more I see what’s out here and the men who are broken it worsens knowing there are good men out there but they’re married. 😢

    • @KimmieB1993
      @KimmieB1993 Месяц назад +4

      Don't fall for a married man. Love yourself and walk away.

    • @Oritselababy
      @Oritselababy Месяц назад

      How do you have chemistry with someone who is taken? You are nuts. You mean sex?

  • @jelanihashim7083
    @jelanihashim7083 12 дней назад +1

    I don’t know if you’re still responding to this video. But, i’m an engaged 28 year old black man. This sort of dynamic begins fairly early. So, i’m sort of an anomaly. I became a union journeyman hvac mechanic last year at 27, and now I work for Google as a data center facilities technician. I just returned from a New York trip for a corporate event celebrating onboarding for young black professionals. The women out there were 25-35 for the most part, and plotting. I believe that a lot of women have a two pronged vetting process, and most of the males there already fulfilled one condition, being employed at Google. The other, married or engaged, is one thing most of those men weren’t. They believe that you’re a safe bet because another woman has done the real work to determine this. So several attempts were made to get me to fold. It made me feel really weak, and quite a few of my married friends have told me that it’ll only get worse. After a night of club hopping in Brooklyn, two of the more attractive women even asked to attend my wedding. Which is weird, because they don’t know me OR my fiancée 😂. One lives in Atlanta and kept remarking on how the men there aren’t worth a damn. The other one tried to play born again Christian. But it was obvious that she used to be wild as hell. It’s really sad. I’m glad I caught this video.

  • @ashleysalazar2012
    @ashleysalazar2012 2 месяца назад +8

    Taken people are taken for a reason and left overs are left over for a reason. Generally speaking. So a married man is usually a better man. I think these women want an easy way in. I can always tell when a man is married, and I don't believe a woman when she says she doesn't know. Married men already know women, they're married to one. So they're more thoughtful, clean, respectful, have more money, ect. Men that are single really don't know how to speak to women or what a woman needs or wants. We mold them into good men. Just like they mold us. I know men from being married to one. I got lucky and I didn't have to mold him or a desire to mold him, but being with me does make him better, it's like a resume.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад

      Thank you for sharing! Very insightful perspective, I appreciate it.

    • @mactherealestateman
      @mactherealestateman 11 дней назад

      Not always true. Some of us were taught well as kids. My parents were considerably older, and I guess my entire generation (generation x 1968) was taught to be mannerable.

  • @AlvinStone76
    @AlvinStone76 2 месяца назад +6

    Some older women prefer independence over a relationship.

  • @vincentParham-t3v
    @vincentParham-t3v 2 месяца назад +16

    That single guy was buying your love

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад +6

      You don’t buy your woman anything? I guess I was buying his love, too. I bought him a lot of things too because I cared about him, that’s what people do in thoughtful relationships.

  • @tonywalker2334
    @tonywalker2334 2 месяца назад +5

    Well the bottom line is the married man is more responsible and can be far more sensible. Always remember the married man will risk his family for an affair. The woman will outright destroy her family for her feelings in the affair. Last most women know their very attractive well put together husband is highly desirable and more than likely may step out.

  • @smoothwill
    @smoothwill Месяц назад +3

    Sounds like you’re just tough to please if everything is not perfect . The minute there was a health scare you jetted outta there . Please correct me if I’m wrong . But I do agree no one should be forced to start off a relationship with someone who has health problems . We are not obligated nor should we be forced . You have had these fabulous men with all the traits a real woman loves, but you’re not with either of them now . Any of them . Maybe you really have commit issues huh . I’m just saying .

  • @WritersWay247
    @WritersWay247 2 месяца назад +6

    Question at 22:45)Years ago, my former neighbor; a lady that never married or had children was the sweetest lady I had met. ( she said she wanted, desired marriage and kids, just never met her Prince Charming) I’ve also met some very mean married women and it appeared they had good husbands 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад +4

      Oooh that’s another video idea! Because I know some mean wives lol! There’s no perfect person, I say just be yourself because there is someone for everyone and it’s perfectly fine to be single. Thank you for sharing!

  • @clivematthews95
    @clivematthews95 2 месяца назад +6

    I believe what you’re saying about childless, single men being better off dating childless, single women. I know that I shouldn’t even think about being with a married woman, but I don’t cheat, in general, anyways. But I wonder if I ever do get married, would I, ever, find myself on the other side of being single and divorced, and would I date a woman that’s never been married before 🤔

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад +3

      At your age, I would definitely recommend being with a woman who has never been married and has no children. You deserve a fresh start to build a family. At my age, people are more stubborn and selfish so I believe it’s best to choose someone who is conditioned to be considerate. I can’t wait to see how your future unfolds. 🥰

  • @michaelmiller3401
    @michaelmiller3401 2 месяца назад +3

    Women also like the idea of a married man because in her mind she sees he can be had

  • @chillywillie6283
    @chillywillie6283 2 месяца назад +2

    When l was stationed in the UK while serving in the USAF, l dated a single military member in the army who dated mostly married men. I was single but l met her when she was in the club looking for her married boyfriend who was a part time bartender. He was off that night. When we were together at her place, she shared with me a story about a previous relationship she had with her married supervisor at her previous duty station. She said they were in his bed at his home while his wife was in the hospital recovering from childbirth. I told her how disgusting that was, when she thought l was gonna compliment her. That was the beginning of the end of that relationship. She just wanted a married man more. She loved the idea of being with another woman’s husband.

  • @msmampful
    @msmampful Месяц назад

    I just found your channel today and I am a new subscriber instantly! I am engaged with the subjects that you discuss.
    Good luck beautiful I hope that your channel grows.

  • @WhatsThatBeats
    @WhatsThatBeats 10 дней назад

    I have an odd situation. This is very random but I’ll go into it. I’ve smoked cigarettes off and on for about half my life. I’ve done it in secret, not in front of people I know (unless I’m out drinking). I’ve recently accepted its part of who I am and part of my identity and I feel most like myself when I’m smoking (brings out the “bad boy” in me). I consider myself a classy, clean, professional guy (a good boy) I’ve hid my smoking not to tarnish that image. so I’m slowly letting the whole world know I do it. So I’ve been married for 4 years, together 6 with my wife. She knows I indulge with smoking from time to time. I’ve smoked around her on multiple occasions. We’ve talked about it and I’ve brought it up because I want to do it openly and I just wanted to test her response. She tells me it’s her biggest turn off, she would have never dated a smoker had she known up front, she hates it. However I’m extremely confused because when she knows I’m actively smoking her attraction level to me goes through the roof. She submits to everything I do and say. It’s like our marriage is on cloud 9 when she knows I’m smoking. Yet she’s told me her feelings about smoking. So I’m in a conundrum. I know it’s unhealthy so I don’t need the thoughts about that. It’s just like I don’t want to do it because she says she doesn’t like it but I want to keep doing it because I love it, the way it makes me feel (mentally) and my wife is basically head over heels when I do it. So do I just keep doing it and let nature take its course?

  • @proudblackwoman4824
    @proudblackwoman4824 2 месяца назад +1

    You and I are around the same age. So I can DEFINITELY relate. But I wanna say this: If we are speaking of black men specifically, they are already aware that MOST black women have never been married. Because MOST black men are not marrying us anyway. So in my experience, it really hasn't been a red flag for men that I've never been married. Because most of them haven't either lol......BUT, I've been engaged 6 times in my life. Four were white men- 2 were black. But none of them panned out for different reasons. I date ALL races of men so that is the first thing that I recommend us as black women consider nowadays. In regards to dating a man who has been MARRIED before, versus single men- YES! I must agree with you. Men who were once married CATER to you more. You can kind of sit back and relax, rest in your femininity. Especially if they grew up with BOTH parents in the home. I am experiencing that now and it's nice. At my age, I don't think I would ever date another man who didn't grow up with his father in the home. It makes a difference. It really does. For the MOST part. Great video!

  • @Itmetijuana_84xo
    @Itmetijuana_84xo 2 месяца назад +1

    Hello I just got done watching your video and I have to say you are on point. I’ve been single for 6 years now because I was going through a lot. I had a stalker a player, a liar, narcissist, girl I’ve been through it all, and I don’t know what to do when a man come up to me and try to talk to me. You are right. The first thing I think is he wants sex playing games and I gotta stop thinking like that because every man is not like that and I know that but I never been with a married man never so I just wanna say thank you for sharing this with us
    On your next video, can you do a video about?
    1. Still a virgin at 40 years old.
    2. 50-year-old women
    Dating a 20-year-old man
    3. Would you date someone that is a register sex offender or would you date a man that’s been in jail?
    Thank you 😊

  • @Hellishot24
    @Hellishot24 Месяц назад +1

    That's why some are sick,the sexual sins they are committing.

  • @zubrickbullies3595
    @zubrickbullies3595 2 месяца назад +4

    Shouldn’t be a red flag 🚩 in today’s climate… (for a MAN )

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад

      It is a red flag if he’s selfish.

  • @monjue55
    @monjue55 2 месяца назад +1

    I ran into your channel and decided to stay and listen to you. Thanks for explaining a woman’s psyche when it comes to relationship. As a heterosexual male, I did learn a lot from your presentation.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад +1

      WOW! I really appreciate the thoughtful response. For someone to listen to my stories and experiences without judgement and insults is a level of maturity I deeply respect. Thank you!

    • @monjue55
      @monjue55 Месяц назад +1

      @@HelenaPaschal I’m an OG….☺️trolling and insulting is not part of my online persona. I was endeared to your knack for storytelling, that’s why I listened to your entire spiel, give you a like, and subscribed.

  • @southernafricanboy4148
    @southernafricanboy4148 Месяц назад

    Sis great video
    Just curious, when you've been tempted what tempted you? His looks or personality or accomplishments
    Ill watch ghe video properly later💪🙏

  • @Lashawn4795
    @Lashawn4795 2 месяца назад +2

    But also lets be clear it takes two not just the woman the married man imitates the majority of the time .

  • @HooliTV
    @HooliTV 2 месяца назад +2

    If a married man is dating a woman for the sake of a second wife, is that still adultery?

    • @kaywashington5604
      @kaywashington5604 2 месяца назад +4

      I'd think so, especially if the marriage is grounded and rooted in Christ.

  • @southernafricanboy4148
    @southernafricanboy4148 Месяц назад +3

    Women want the top level men. Simple as that

  • @JamesBennett-rg2xv
    @JamesBennett-rg2xv 2 месяца назад +4

    The side chick isn't committing adultery because she's not married...The man is...

  • @justafriend3408
    @justafriend3408 2 месяца назад +1

    The answer to the question in the title is because polygamy is how we are supposed to live. Women, please stop being pretended by civilisation, polygamy is just OK, the women will love it and the married man will love it so what's the problem. Follow your natural self not what someone, some culture or some book says.

  • @westbeats2050
    @westbeats2050 Месяц назад

    The issue with this is. All u have is that person. While when u dating a separated and parent person. They always have some one else they always have some one to fall back on. A kid a husband/wife baby daddy/mommy they always have something and you are sorta a 3rd wheel. And you won't feel good most the time In this

  • @TwoH.Q
    @TwoH.Q Месяц назад

    More support for content creators like this!

  • @brittanyb5942
    @brittanyb5942 2 месяца назад +6

    I DONT want a married man but I guess some women just want to see if they can get a married man to leave his wife for them…

    • @t.p.anderson1833
      @t.p.anderson1833 2 месяца назад +2

      I saw a man leave his wife and go back to her nobody won!

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад +3

      @@t.p.anderson1833it’s a losing game. That wife who accepted him back will never be the same, trust and respect are completely broken 💔

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад

      Good point!

  • @dyoung2739
    @dyoung2739 2 месяца назад +3

    Jmo but it depends. Even if he’s been married before he might be fake &/or toxic. Even when I was a teenager, Ive never been tempted to date anyone’s bf or husband but karma was not kind to me in that regard because many women dated my ex during our marriage. Looking back at my situation,I should’ve been honest w/myself about the🚩🚩🚩. In my situation, consideration of birth order would’ve been important . I’m the oldest who married the youngest.

    • @KimmieB1993
      @KimmieB1993 Месяц назад +1

      I never thought of that perspective. I am also the oldest who married the youngest. He wouldn't stop cheating. I wonder if the birth order difference had a lot to do with his behavior.

    • @dyoung2739
      @dyoung2739 Месяц назад

      @@KimmieB1993 I’ve often wondered if birth order mattered because even though my ex and I are the same age,he always acted so immature.

  • @lamarreerickson3502
    @lamarreerickson3502 2 месяца назад

    Chivalry is a leaned skill that you can learn at a anytime in your life depending on the women that you’re dating !

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад +1

      Chivalry is taught in the home. If a man doesn’t know how to do it, are you saying he will magically know what to do with certain women?

  • @Stax-ht9md
    @Stax-ht9md 23 дня назад

    I'll bet it's a lot more than 20% who have engaged in affairs with married men. I think back on the women I've known, and that number, among them, would be closer to 90%. Could be 100%... the discussion didn't always come up.

  • @TimmyBullard
    @TimmyBullard Месяц назад +1

    Im 32 years old, been single for 9 years, never been married, and always wanted a friend! That was it!
    Great Video 💜

  • @charlesbeatty888
    @charlesbeatty888 2 месяца назад +1

    Women date married men because they should. Polygyny I'd a biblical and righteous. That's why they're doing it! If we got on board with Jesus, the community would be soo much better off

    • @southernafricanboy4148
      @southernafricanboy4148 Месяц назад +1

      Amen
      I just wish the women who date married men would come out openly and we could have a discussion as it fascinates me

  • @mactherealestateman
    @mactherealestateman 11 дней назад

    Sad to say, but for some women, some man is better than no man. My late friend told me this way back in th 90's and it still stands 2day. God help us all...

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  11 дней назад

      Many believe that. I would rather have my peace of my mind than a piece of man.

    • @mactherealestateman
      @mactherealestateman 4 дня назад

      @@HelenaPaschalI like the way u put that.😁

  • @tjack552
    @tjack552 2 месяца назад +1

    Because she has no respect for herself that she would not be number one!!!!

  • @brianfreckles8542
    @brianfreckles8542 2 месяца назад +1

    Had 2 womn who knew i was married try. Both times, i told my wife she should invite them to church 😅😅

  • @shomarimonroe150
    @shomarimonroe150 2 месяца назад +1

    Big facts

  • @erichill4926
    @erichill4926 Месяц назад +2

    I think if
    this country, would allow multiple wives for one man, then the adultery would stop. Look at it from that perspective.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  Месяц назад

      Men have multiple women already with a wife, side chicks, and baby mothers. I don’t understand your point.

  • @Lashawn4795
    @Lashawn4795 2 месяца назад +3

    Lets be clear i did and yes im 53 he was 75 i understand yes sis totally different ❤ . But i can tell you as well military men also are not my thing they like door mats not all of them.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 месяца назад

      Interesting. Thank you for sharing!

  • @eddiecainbeats
    @eddiecainbeats 2 месяца назад +1

    You don’t have to be married to have all of these traits. Smh

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  Месяц назад

      Yet, here you are not married and trolling ...smh

    • @eddiecainbeats
      @eddiecainbeats Месяц назад

      @@HelenaPaschal yet you listen to respond and not to understand smh. And you don’t know me you don’t know what I am you just pulling shit out ya ass Helena.

  • @Lawrence-cs8mw
    @Lawrence-cs8mw Месяц назад +2

    Preselection. Simple.

  • @macavelli8905
    @macavelli8905 2 месяца назад +1

    It really is a self esteem issue, the excitement aspect is not all it seems from a movie. As for the men or woman that looks outside of their paper union usually is based on one or both choosing the wrong person from the beginning. Even if they have a few years of being together, the cheating aspect more or less has been there from the start. It requires conversation between people to find out what they are thinking, and believe missing, things like flirting romance stranger interest can be replicated within a good relationship, but it requires work and desire. And the value of knowing love languages can never be overstated.

    • @jonthomson9262
      @jonthomson9262 2 месяца назад +1

      Its not just a paper union. Its called MARRIAGE........and being a cheater has nothing to do with choosing the wrong person........the cheater is the wrong person. This comming fròm a reformed cheater.

    • @macavelli8905
      @macavelli8905 2 месяца назад

      @@jonthomson9262 Thank you for engaging, the wrong person is made by choice. That decision is optional...

  • @GeePee-h2s
    @GeePee-h2s 26 дней назад +1

    You seem a little old to not have been married 🤔

  • @HerbertWells-hr5de
    @HerbertWells-hr5de 2 месяца назад

    Hello Ms. Paschal

  • @williamransom2920
    @williamransom2920 Месяц назад +1

    Are these men white? B honest 😊

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  Месяц назад +1

      No. Doesn't sound like a black man to you, huh? Which part, the generosity or the respect for a black woman?