OMG!! You blew my mind with this video. This was my relationship and my life in a nutshell. Always trying to Pls people and not asking for anything in return.
amazing video! I though that I was the only one who were in a relationship doing all the work, it is all clear now! Thanks coach, your videos are impressive!
This is so true! I've been dating a girl for 2 months, I became too much of a pleaser and too available, and guess what? She’s pulling away now. Stay balanced guys ✨
This was my relationship in a nutshell and whenever I would put my foot down or call her out on doing nothing for me we would just get into fights lol. not sure if there was a way out of that one.
I guess my ex is never coming back because of this. He got bored and I guess wanted a challenge because I gave him everything and he didn't even have to try.. oh well.. it was my first relationship, I know better next time.
My ex was like that, but she said that she didn’t really want anything in return, she kept saying that; that was her nature, she’s a Cancer ♋️. Even though I kept telling her that I would like to, she just kept saying no. I used to buy her jewelry for her birthday and anniversary, not everyone mind you and she had told me that I did give her the best sex ever and all the time. I miss those days.
Came across this video looking for advice on how to end it with a dude after my interest level dropped. Not exactly the right video but it was a good watch and I subscribed cuz I like your personality.
This video spoke so much volume to me.. I had no idea because I was doing the same exact thing as this guy!!! No wonder I feel this way.. I realize now that I have an anxious attachment style smh
Gen Z men need to watch more Craig Kenneth and less Andrew Tate lol. Craig Kenneth is good at show both sexes their worth, what they should do in relationships, and what values are respected in a relationship. These newer “love gurus” are one sided either to women or to men and it’s just toxic. It’s creates a rift between men and women. Thank you Craig for making this content! We all appreciate you.
I was too nice. She did break up, told me we are 'so different". Blah After several months of no contact she dropped something off (on the same day she posted a pic with her new bf) I don't know if that was an indirect direct? I responded with ' your not welcome to drop anything off at my home again. All the best' I think she was shocked by my uncharacteristic firm response. 6 mths has passed and nothing. No idea what she's thinking.
wow, this is what's been happening to me all the time, how to I change that ? I am a giver and always want to please my partner , I ended up investing so much in a long distance relationship and after all the time and effort I put into it instead of being appreciative of it all, even looking down the road to me moving to where he is giving up all for him he did not see the big sacrifice I was making for him and because I was dealing with trust issues instead of helping me with it he dumped me . I am still in disbelieve after 3 weeks , it's so hard to take it .
Wow my relationship to a tee!😟 Same 13.5 months, last few months has pulled back...im def an anxious attachment, 95% sure she is a DA. Only thing doesn't make sense, is she had a happy childhood, and is extremely close to her parents, but not her older brother.
so I am huge girl friend pleaser? I let shit that upset me go as to not poke the bear! I always thought I was treating them like princess! basically I am overly invest and turn them all off!
Yeah man just remember that even the nice girls can be turned off by an overly nice guy even if youre naturally like that. You have to keep that masculine energy and self-respect and not be always pleasing them all the damn time. Eventually women know they can step all over you and they'll lose respect and the attraction they have for you will also drop. They'll be asked what's wrong and they won't even have an answer for you. If you're pretty sure that you were over investing just back off for a bit.
Hi coach! How is it that a person can react differently with different people/relationships, given that they have these attachment styles? Like they can manifest insecurity/anxious style towards partner A (ex) and can have a secured attachment towards partner B (current).
Good question. Maybe because some people might be a mix of both. So maybe they find a particular person attractive and they go out of their way to do a lot of things and it makes them look like somebody who has an anxious attachment but in a different relationship they don't have to work so hard and they seem way more secure because they are finally with someone who puts in equal effort
oh my out of all of your video's this is the closest to my relationship. So now I dont know what to do since he broke up with me. Its been almost a month since we broke up. Now Im like sitting here dying to reach out to him. I dont know of I should contact him though.
My girlfriend is 51 and going through menopause. It has just about ruined our sex life. Would this also caused her to have low interest?I think this would be a good video topic.
I think I have an anxious attachment. My ex and I have reconnected and ever since February 14th, we have seen each other on a weekly basis once or twice a week. In a sense we are together, but what's killing me on the inside is I haven't heard from her in 6 days. I have not reached out at all because I'm moving and I feel like if I reach out, I would kill the mystery. Although I am focused on my purpose and mission in life, she is constantly on my mind. In other words, I miss her lol.
PoppinDom7 I was always the pleaser. trying to make her happy. I did everything for her. and she said I was needy and clingy and controlling. I'm trying to use the tools I've got from Craig to get her back. we are actually working together for 2 weeks then I am going to a different store with the same company. I've been professional and acting unaffected by the break up. building my confidence and doing the behaviors I've learned and been working on. I am hoping these 2 weeks will show her how I've changed and she will at least have me in her mind And might reach out more. I don't reach out at all. she reaches out about bills but those bills will no longer be a common thing once I move. she has been moved out for 2 months now. I keep focusing on what I want and doing those attractive behaviors.
Well I'm sure you know that not pursuing them by calling or texting them first is the key to gaining attraction. I actually heard from my ex a couple days after that post. We hung out and I thought we were back together, but she pulled back the next day and then what was really confusing was we slept together afterwards. The next day, I was short with her because I thought we were together, but she pulled back. She knew I wanted her still, so I'm glad I was short with her because she wasn't going to get the full benefit of me. Although, I told her I would call her back after I made some calls which I did, then called back and left a voicemail. She hasn't returned my call since then and she completely disappeared. Not even on social media too. I haven't reached out or said anything on social media in regards of my feelings. But I'm staying focused on my purpose.
PoppinDom7 it's the tiny victories. my ex was harsh after the break up. She spoke to me in harsh tones and always so guarded and almost to the point of mean. even got mean at a few points. today at work she was actually joking with me and speaking to me in the friendliest tone I've heard since the break up. its not much but it is still something. and I continue to keep my distance while remaining professional and always upbeat and friendly towards her. I have to remind myself to let things happen in their own time. I can't rush her. it's the hardest thing ever not being able to say I love you or kiss her or even hold her hand!
Oh I truly know what you mean. It is unbearably difficult, but you learn a lot from it. Have to keep in mind that love is giving, freedom, and bonding. Time and space is the greatest gift of love, but do not wait for her. I told that to my ex that I wouldn't wait for her and I won't. Just the way it is and she might be confused on what she wants, but hey I'll let her do her. Even if she doesn't choose me, I'll be fine because I already know there is more to life than to be with some woman who doesn't truly know themselves.
PoppinDom7 I keep telling myself exactly that. I have to love her by giving her freedom. And that she will come to me when she's ready. watching Craig's videos has given me this whole new understanding. I know why she is distant. I understand she is afraid I will cling to her again. it's almost like I can read her thoughts and feelings now. somewhat anyways. it's like I can't get mad or upset because I understand why she is acting this way now. I just want a fresh start with her. a new beginning. I want to date her and court her again and take things slow and at a pace we both can handle. I just hope she gets to a point that it can happen.
OMG!! You blew my mind with this video. This was my relationship and my life in a nutshell. Always trying to Pls people and not asking for anything in return.
Amazing how you confess your own relationship issues too and don’t pretend all is well with you, it makes your content more relatable
This is exactly what Im dealing with now and it will help me stop all of the investing. Thanks coach!
Good for you! Everyone deserves someone to invest in them as well. It goes both ways!
amazing video! I though that I was the only one who were in a relationship doing all the work, it is all clear now! Thanks coach, your videos are impressive!
No contact worked perfect.
This has just opened my eyes to why my 8 year relationship fell apart 4 months ago! Thanks coach!
Great comment! This sounds like a good video... I should watch it!
This is so true! I've been dating a girl for 2 months, I became too much of a pleaser and too available, and guess what? She’s pulling away now. Stay balanced guys ✨
Whatever ended up happening?
This was my relationship in a nutshell and whenever I would put my foot down or call her out on doing nothing for me we would just get into fights lol. not sure if there was a way out of that one.
I guess my ex is never coming back because of this. He got bored and I guess wanted a challenge because I gave him everything and he didn't even have to try.. oh well.. it was my first relationship, I know better next time.
This guy is so underrated, keep it up Craig, working on no contact week 2, long distance 2 hours away
My ex was like that, but she said that she didn’t really want anything in return, she kept saying that; that was her nature, she’s a Cancer ♋️. Even though I kept telling her that I would like to, she just kept saying no. I used to buy her jewelry for her birthday and anniversary, not everyone mind you and she had told me that I did give her the best sex ever and all the time. I miss those days.
Great subject to go back over as I go back out into the dating scene. Thank you Craig for sharing a personal story also.
Came across this video looking for advice on how to end it with a dude after my interest level dropped. Not exactly the right video but it was a good watch and I subscribed cuz I like your personality.
This video spoke so much volume to me.. I had no idea because I was doing the same exact thing as this guy!!! No wonder I feel this way.. I realize now that I have an anxious attachment style smh
Gen Z men need to watch more Craig Kenneth and less Andrew Tate lol. Craig Kenneth is good at show both sexes their worth, what they should do in relationships, and what values are respected in a relationship. These newer “love gurus” are one sided either to women or to men and it’s just toxic. It’s creates a rift between men and women. Thank you Craig for making this content! We all appreciate you.
I was too nice.
She did break up, told me we are 'so different".
Blah
After several months of no contact she dropped something off (on the same day she posted a pic with her new bf)
I don't know if that was an indirect direct?
I responded with ' your not welcome to drop anything off at my home again. All the best'
I think she was shocked by my uncharacteristic firm response.
6 mths has passed and nothing.
No idea what she's thinking.
omg this hit home...I'm a pleaser that's why he left me. he invested but me much more
Great video, so eye opening.
wow, this is what's been happening to me all the time, how to I change that ? I am a giver and always want to please my partner , I ended up investing so much in a long distance relationship and after all the time and effort I put into it instead of being appreciative of it all, even looking down the road to me moving to where he is giving up all for him he did not see the big sacrifice I was making for him and because I was dealing with trust issues instead of helping me with it he dumped me . I am still in disbelieve after 3 weeks , it's so hard to take it .
Whatever happened in this situation?
Wow my relationship to a tee!😟
Same 13.5 months, last few months has pulled back...im def an anxious attachment, 95% sure she is a DA.
Only thing doesn't make sense, is she had a happy childhood, and is extremely close to her parents, but not her older brother.
Great work coach .
Thanks for the advice
How do you balance it out?. If you giving and the other doesn't, do you go cold too??
This feels like my case
Coach Craig.....I did exactly this the last year and a half of my relationship with my ex. Can the relationship be recovered after this behavior?
so I am huge girl friend pleaser? I let shit that upset me go as to not poke the bear! I always thought I was treating them like princess! basically I am overly invest and turn them all off!
Yeah man just remember that even the nice girls can be turned off by an overly nice guy even if youre naturally like that. You have to keep that masculine energy and self-respect and not be always pleasing them all the damn time. Eventually women know they can step all over you and they'll lose respect and the attraction they have for you will also drop. They'll be asked what's wrong and they won't even have an answer for you. If you're pretty sure that you were over investing just back off for a bit.
Hi coach! How is it that a person can react differently with different people/relationships, given that they have these attachment styles? Like they can manifest insecurity/anxious style towards partner A (ex) and can have a secured attachment towards partner B (current).
Good question. Maybe because some people might be a mix of both. So maybe they find a particular person attractive and they go out of their way to do a lot of things and it makes them look like somebody who has an anxious attachment but in a different relationship they don't have to work so hard and they seem way more secure because they are finally with someone who puts in equal effort
Good work
This was literally my relationship and she lost feelings. So I work on myself give her no attention and she comes back? LMAOOOO
are u doubting me?
No sir I respect what you are teaching and I trust it
@@SFN-xo9hu and what happened?
craig can you make a video about rebound reantionship's and your opinion on it...and also if you believe on the GIGS SYNDROME.
if you a man and your mind games go on and on that also makes us lose interest
So what happens when the person doing all the work decides to end it? Can the person who took the other for granted, get them back?
oh my out of all of your video's this is the closest to my relationship. So now I dont know what to do since he broke up with me. Its been almost a month since we broke up. Now Im like sitting here dying to reach out to him. I dont know of I should contact him though.
My girlfriend is 51 and going through menopause. It has just about ruined our sex life. Would this also caused her to have low interest?I think this would be a good video topic.
I think I have an anxious attachment. My ex and I have reconnected and ever since February 14th, we have seen each other on a weekly basis once or twice a week. In a sense we are together, but what's killing me on the inside is I haven't heard from her in 6 days. I have not reached out at all because I'm moving and I feel like if I reach out, I would kill the mystery. Although I am focused on my purpose and mission in life, she is constantly on my mind. In other words, I miss her lol.
PoppinDom7 I was always the pleaser. trying to make her happy. I did everything for her. and she said I was needy and clingy and controlling. I'm trying to use the tools I've got from Craig to get her back. we are actually working together for 2 weeks then I am going to a different store with the same company. I've been professional and acting unaffected by the break up. building my confidence and doing the behaviors I've learned and been working on. I am hoping these 2 weeks will show her how I've changed and she will at least have me in her mind And might reach out more. I don't reach out at all. she reaches out about bills but those bills will no longer be a common thing once I move. she has been moved out for 2 months now. I keep focusing on what I want and doing those attractive behaviors.
Well I'm sure you know that not pursuing them by calling or texting them first is the key to gaining attraction. I actually heard from my ex a couple days after that post. We hung out and I thought we were back together, but she pulled back the next day and then what was really confusing was we slept together afterwards. The next day, I was short with her because I thought we were together, but she pulled back. She knew I wanted her still, so I'm glad I was short with her because she wasn't going to get the full benefit of me. Although, I told her I would call her back after I made some calls which I did, then called back and left a voicemail. She hasn't returned my call since then and she completely disappeared. Not even on social media too. I haven't reached out or said anything on social media in regards of my feelings. But I'm staying focused on my purpose.
PoppinDom7 it's the tiny victories. my ex was harsh after the break up. She spoke to me in harsh tones and always so guarded and almost to the point of mean. even got mean at a few points. today at work she was actually joking with me and speaking to me in the friendliest tone I've heard since the break up. its not much but it is still something. and I continue to keep my distance while remaining professional and always upbeat and friendly towards her. I have to remind myself to let things happen in their own time. I can't rush her. it's the hardest thing ever not being able to say I love you or kiss her or even hold her hand!
Oh I truly know what you mean. It is unbearably difficult, but you learn a lot from it. Have to keep in mind that love is giving, freedom, and bonding. Time and space is the greatest gift of love, but do not wait for her. I told that to my ex that I wouldn't wait for her and I won't. Just the way it is and she might be confused on what she wants, but hey I'll let her do her. Even if she doesn't choose me, I'll be fine because I already know there is more to life than to be with some woman who doesn't truly know themselves.
PoppinDom7 I keep telling myself exactly that. I have to love her by giving her freedom. And that she will come to me when she's ready. watching Craig's videos has given me this whole new understanding. I know why she is distant. I understand she is afraid I will cling to her again. it's almost like I can read her thoughts and feelings now. somewhat anyways. it's like I can't get mad or upset because I understand why she is acting this way now. I just want a fresh start with her. a new beginning. I want to date her and court her again and take things slow and at a pace we both can handle. I just hope she gets to a point that it can happen.
Lol Craig put his ex on blast! Lmfao
I'd risk death for a Turkey and Swiss cheese sandwich. any day.
You just can't miss that Turkey n Swiss
No sir, not at all. But all joking aside, good video. People pleasing is a one way street to feeling betrayed.
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