Be More Confident And Attractive : Secure Attachment Style

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  • Опубликовано: 29 ноя 2024

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  • @LiLgPnoy15
    @LiLgPnoy15 4 года назад +121

    It's crazy how I realized all these things after my breakup, and after finding these videos. I needed the breakup to open my eyes.

    • @valentinepetric3689
      @valentinepetric3689 3 года назад +2

      Yup we all here man, its sad in a way that we have to go through that to open our eyes, but the great thing is that we opened our eyes and now we are all improving ourselves. Stay strong my brother we will get there 💪

    • @innovativeentertainment4412
      @innovativeentertainment4412 3 года назад +3

      Honestly, it's all perspective. You could see the breakup as negative... OR... you could see it at positive, in the facet that you gained so much more value from it than you would have had you stayed in the relationship.

    • @mikkey246
      @mikkey246 2 года назад +3

      Now that we can see, lets move forward

  • @petitlapin66
    @petitlapin66 5 лет назад +18

    CRAZY story. I work for Microsoft and was listening to this just this morning as I walked into one of our new buildings. Hit the ladies’ room and all over the mirror, there were sticky notes with positive affirmations like “you are enough” and “you are worthy”!!! What an amazing coincidence, and I’m taking this idea back to my office as well! Thanks to both of you for being so wonderful 💖🙏

  • @AS-kp3pb
    @AS-kp3pb 6 лет назад +72

    After weeks my ex broke no contact...I am decided to be a better version of myself.
    I am decided to be her best option, her muntain, her superman.
    THANK YOU MARGARET & CRAIG.

    • @LoveNLife700
      @LoveNLife700 6 лет назад +1

      I feel the same way...i understand where your coming from.its better to serve your purpose and not your spouse.

    • @LoveNLife700
      @LoveNLife700 6 лет назад

      Smart...

    • @s.a.9503
      @s.a.9503 5 лет назад

      better mountain then her wimp mate

    • @waheedfaizi3547
      @waheedfaizi3547 4 года назад

      Exactly guys I like it 😉

  • @StrikeforceJedi
    @StrikeforceJedi 5 лет назад +29

    I wanna thank you both. Being blind sighted by this break up, plus the cruel things shes said to me...its the most painful thing I've been through. I've been on the edge of suicide and these videos have kept me alive. I'll save some money and buy the workbooks.

    • @hamptongal62
      @hamptongal62 3 года назад +3

      Big hug to you...had gone through similar feelings with my breakup.
      Keep the faith...things will get better...

    • @StrikeforceJedi
      @StrikeforceJedi 3 года назад +3

      @@hamptongal62 Thankyou Terry! Can't believe what a slump I was in when I wrote this a year ago. Life is completely different now. New people and new situations. For anyone reading this and going through this... Keep your head up, I know it seems like darkness without end, but It will get better. As for that ex, I dont even think about her anymore lol. In fact, I forgive her and wish her well.

    • @WeAreReFormSniping
      @WeAreReFormSniping 3 года назад +4

      Going through a breakup after 7 years together right now man it’s only been a month and only 2 weeks of no contact. It’s beyond rough but we have to stay strong. Don’t do something you can’t take back stay strong brother.

    • @jacoblindsay5281
      @jacoblindsay5281 2 года назад

      @@WeAreReFormSniping any updates on your situation?

    • @israelmendoza5262
      @israelmendoza5262 2 года назад

      @@WeAreReFormSniping hows the situation now? Its been 8 months.

  • @AnthonySmith-yu8vc
    @AnthonySmith-yu8vc 2 года назад +2

    this is ...IS SO REVERBERATING!!! WOW! GOD BLESS YOU 3! MARGARET CRAIG AND VICTORIA! I am the oldest of 11 of a alcoholic abusive father and a Schizophrenic mother! I been doing this work for over 20myears and your work has been resonating!!!! I am so in tears! Deep Thank you. Time to get more recommitted with the work i purchased from you. Again HUMBLE THANK YOU!

  • @israelamaroorendain9034
    @israelamaroorendain9034 6 лет назад +24

    Margaret, I love you, you're the best therapist in the world 😘

  • @JB-kl1rm
    @JB-kl1rm Год назад +2

    I had both parents, grandparents, friends, exs, bosses/military say horrible things. I now type affirmations on my phone and read them everynight before bed, also if I find a good one I screen shot it and save it and do the same. I talk to myself or my dogs, people tell me Im crazy. I tell them nope, only if I argue with myself or answer, lol We are ALL worthy of being loved!!! BUT before you can love another you must first love yourself!❤

  • @elishabutterfield5951
    @elishabutterfield5951 Год назад +2

    I’ve been in a relationship for a year, been living the same painful break up over and over again. Thank you for these video and for both of your help.

  • @proudmasculine
    @proudmasculine 5 лет назад +7

    I went to the mirror as soon as the video was over. I was pretty nice to say that aloud to myself. Kinda brought a few tears. Its painful to think I thought so little of myself. I'm improving every day, and this is another tool so to speak for healing and improving myself. Thank you, sincerely, both of y'all for the love and information

  • @clairmoreau2553
    @clairmoreau2553 6 лет назад +30

    My mother once told me, "You weren't an accident- you were a mistake!" She was obviously very upset at the time and can't remember saying it- but I will never forget it!

    • @Mushroom321-
      @Mushroom321- 4 года назад

      thats awful. hugs
      i cant imagine. 😒😲

    • @bunniewood
      @bunniewood 3 года назад

      Some people shouldnt be parents

    • @yashpatel8704
      @yashpatel8704 9 месяцев назад

  • @loritoler6289
    @loritoler6289 2 года назад +2

    I love that you love yourself Craig. That cracked me up that look you had. Your humor is great! I love you and Margaret so much together. Y’all make great videos.

  • @ponokunishima1
    @ponokunishima1 2 года назад +2

    My ex girlfriend would be the one who would take me to the mirror, have me look in the mirror and repeat positive words about myself. Sadly, I lost sight of that throughout our relationship and my anxiety built up.
    Truly another amazing video to watch for when you’re feeling down and to keep watching with your ex if they come back.

  • @paffification
    @paffification 6 лет назад +48

    Hey dude, haven't watched your videos in a while, since I moved on I guess lol. Just wanted to say I appreciate your work and I'm super thankful as you helped me through some dark times hahaha. Keep doing what you do!

  • @Summer-vu5kw
    @Summer-vu5kw 4 года назад +7

    Few months ago, I was watching videos about moving on, and now that I have moved on, I am dating a new girl now and watching this video to be secured and more confident. Thanks Marga and Craig:)

  • @hamptongal62
    @hamptongal62 3 года назад +1

    For the past few years, I have made a conscious effort to say positive affirmations and express gratitude each day...it definitely makes a difference!

  • @cynthiadavison5785
    @cynthiadavison5785 6 лет назад +22

    I write self affirmations on my mirror with eye liner. When I'm getting ready, I read it aloud. I think of a new one during the day and erase it at night and write a new one daily. It does work. Keep doing it. Everyone is different but is unique. Own your strengths!

    • @brainfreezemaster128
      @brainfreezemaster128 6 лет назад +2

      Believe me this kept alive I did not even know about it back then. I had notes in my mirror so I could get my thoughts straight, it truly worked for me. I got to get back to do it again.

    • @cynthiadavison5785
      @cynthiadavison5785 6 лет назад

      Yes!

    • @StrikeforceJedi
      @StrikeforceJedi 5 лет назад

      I will start doing this

  • @moonie9000
    @moonie9000 5 лет назад +4

    I love you guys. You talk a lot about people who come from families where they didn't get enough love, attention, validation, etc, but the thing is I'm the reverse. I had over-protective and anxious parents who didn't allow me to grow in confidence on my own. So thank you for talking a little about that today, and I hope you do more of it soon.

    • @robertferrin9088
      @robertferrin9088 4 года назад

      Same here, brother.....
      This material really helps in understanding where the root of all my issues are coming from !!! All this has helped in my own personal growth

  • @thetransparentjerseygirl
    @thetransparentjerseygirl 4 года назад +2

    I just adore Margaret!!! ❤❤❤ im going to try this...i just wrote on my mirror...i am growing..i am healing ❤

  • @carlfreiermuth5424
    @carlfreiermuth5424 3 года назад +2

    Here's one: every day in every way I'm getting better and better

  • @HugDealer
    @HugDealer 6 лет назад +17

    I think the over-estimation of the percentage of the secure population comes from the fact that when you give a theoretical test to assess for instance your attachment style, many people are in a quiet setting, that is not emotionally charged and therefore they will tend to report answers that are more skewed towards good, secure behavior. Which would not happen in reality, when emotions and old traumas surface up.

    • @davidcharles6043
      @davidcharles6043 6 лет назад +3

      You're back! Haven't seen your comments lately. Hehe. Fellow coach craig's fan 😆

    • @HugDealer
      @HugDealer 6 лет назад +1

      Hey Clara! :) Funny :)
      Indeed I have not commented in a while... I was acting avoidant towards youtube :p :D

  • @dmitryisaev5955
    @dmitryisaev5955 17 часов назад

    It is a huge factor to be able to have your own and healthy support system. If not given by care takers, then building it up by yourself.

  • @ladyjade9494
    @ladyjade9494 Год назад +1

    I am so grateful that you created this channel xxx

  • @meeraraj0
    @meeraraj0 6 лет назад +8

    Coach Craig is the BEST coach on the planet 😍😍

  • @nono-zb8px
    @nono-zb8px 3 года назад +1

    You both have done a world of good to so many of us. I can't thank you enough for your positive energy and supporting others. Many thank yous.

  • @embermiller4356
    @embermiller4356 4 года назад +2

    I remember making the statement in front of my parents once that I was an accident. Omg...they both sat me down & told me under no uncertain terms that I was a beautiful surprise & blessing. They were both older & tired when I came along... but good parents. My already grown brother was not that nice to me, unfortunately.

  • @brainfreezemaster128
    @brainfreezemaster128 6 лет назад +13

    This is amazing I talked to myself in the mirror and I started laughing 😂 uncontrollable!!! Seriously thank you I love this!!! You guys are simply great

    • @meeraraj0
      @meeraraj0 6 лет назад

      wolverin style i am loved protected guided by the universe

  • @paulthethi1341
    @paulthethi1341 5 лет назад +2

    Hello Margaret and Craig, Thank you so much for making this video. I hope that as many people as possible see it. This subject touches the key areas of life. Please do more videos together.

  • @marinaaing5467
    @marinaaing5467 4 года назад +2

    You two are a God’s send generous angels . I thank God for you both , blessings from above🙏🏾

  • @Nora-xr5gl
    @Nora-xr5gl 2 года назад +1

    I still struggle with finding out what is my attachment style, but I am glad that I intuitively used to say that I loved myself in front of the mirror. I will try other ideas, and I am sure they will help.

  • @GoldenbanjoDJ
    @GoldenbanjoDJ 6 лет назад +7

    Love these Craig. Always an encouragement and I'm glad you post each day

  • @alexandrulupu725
    @alexandrulupu725 5 лет назад +2

    I find this Gold and you guys are Gold to me for being the first ones to tell me about attachment styles. I can tell you that I don't think anybody considers this to be crazy, because inside ourselves we tell us strong sentences sometimes, and can feel immediately the empowering effect that has on us, if we believe it to be true deeply. We did it randomly in our lives and until we hear this from you, we never had an idea of the usefulness. Maybe we said to ourselves that we're the crazy ones, talking to ourselves :) Thank you for sharing this awesome and powerful knowledge ! God speed !

  • @emmagahan4377
    @emmagahan4377 5 лет назад

    I wished I found this channel after breaking up my ex for 7 years. Everything that you mentioned in your video makes more sense. I am still in pain but I started working on myself to be better both physically and mentally. Keep up the good work Craig and Margaret and I will keep listening to your video.

  • @KylesUserID
    @KylesUserID 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for this video and the many others you have helped myself and others with.

  • @marthah4499
    @marthah4499 5 лет назад +5

    My divorce of almost 30 years was final on April 1st both you Fabulous coach Craig and Fabulous Margret and God .. have been there in my journey of healing my self and for that I Thank you!!.. love you guys..🥰

  • @__.Sara.__
    @__.Sara.__ 2 года назад +1

    I'm going to try this! Really great video, Coaches! I think exercises like this are really healing and helpful.

  • @becsterino
    @becsterino 6 лет назад +4

    An amazing video to start off the week with! Thank you for the video and definitely the encouragement on self praise and self love!

  • @marykenney3318
    @marykenney3318 4 года назад +6

    Many people say that they wish their daughters were as wonderful as I am!! I really think my mother had jealousy and mental problems! Her words really hurt, though.

  • @waheedfaizi3547
    @waheedfaizi3547 4 года назад

    Margaret is the sweetest old woman I ever seen she sometimes reminds me of my mother and she is full of knowledge and also Craig is very much right anything he says I am watching all of his clips

  • @JillyScope
    @JillyScope 6 лет назад +12

    lol Margaret is sooooo cute...... Margaret: I'll be the best therapist...

  • @billsmith6849
    @billsmith6849 5 лет назад +3

    I actually feel relieved after the breakup, which is weird. I loved her a lot

  • @ALMALV8
    @ALMALV8 6 лет назад +1

    my fave part is its honesty and you.. you have a very nice smile and ok back to video topic😁
    your videos are very educational and they are interesting too and your authentic and fun character .

  • @juliemarie7854
    @juliemarie7854 5 лет назад +2

    If you work hard, it is possible to reset your mind and reprogram yourself. Repetition is the key. #believeinyourself

  • @mannyhernandez7138
    @mannyhernandez7138 4 года назад

    Craig, thank you for all the videos. I know these videos are not only to create a better you but to support grow. I really appreciate your work and I'm not that growing grind everyday! And I feels amazing

  • @princessnelson9168
    @princessnelson9168 6 лет назад +1

    Talk about what you should say to yourself after getting horrible negativity from former friends/ x's (their negative interpretaion of one's character, lifestyle, and secrets).
    Role-play this for us in a video.
    Thank you!

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 4 года назад +2

    you are both really skilled at what you do.
    😺

  • @meeraraj0
    @meeraraj0 6 лет назад +2

    Our parents really do make our internal beliefs even if they were kind. The world doesnt do any better. During healing session Archangel Michael let me see myself as he sees me as i really am not what i think i was. And i saw that i was actually very beautiful and i deserved love 💛💛💛

  • @aprilroland4546
    @aprilroland4546 4 года назад +1

    I’m definitely going to try this! I really need to do the affirmation cards!

  • @serfanful
    @serfanful 5 месяцев назад

    Dear Margaret;
    I hope you are in peace wherever you are …
    People are missing your “absolutely” confirmations of Greg’s saying
    Nothing in this world has been as calming as your “absolutely” saying voice
    ❤️

  • @alexandrasalvagni6269
    @alexandrasalvagni6269 5 лет назад +2

    They are the perfect partners. I love how well they compliment eachother in these videos !

  • @Jason_wears_stuff
    @Jason_wears_stuff 6 лет назад +8

    Loved the thunder sounds ! :) great vid Peg and Craig!

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  6 лет назад +5

      It's been raining in Orlando for about a week!

    • @Jason_wears_stuff
      @Jason_wears_stuff 6 лет назад +1

      Coach Craig Kenneth oh no hope you guys are t getting flooded

  • @ulaland
    @ulaland 5 лет назад +2

    The mom is a bomb !!!! You guys are great !

  • @cristydoesrealestate
    @cristydoesrealestate 4 года назад

    Margaret, you rock! Love you too, Craig.

  • @nene90047R1
    @nene90047R1 4 года назад +1

    Great video love it. Affirmations is the best way to retrain your brain. And it does work. It’s all about train your mind to learn positive things

  • @AhlTV
    @AhlTV 5 лет назад

    Wow, I didnt know about this thing. Now my mom passed away 9 yrs ago so i dont have no one to lean on emotionally. Thanks for this episode coach craig and margareth 😊

  • @nicoletobey2356
    @nicoletobey2356 6 лет назад +1

    Hi Craig and Margaret , thank you once again for an encouraging video! You two have been so encouraging and from the bottom of my heart I thank you. I feel that I do have a lot to offer the world and I am offering a lot to the world. I do love myself. I guess I get stuck with not understanding how he can feel that he doesn’t love me anymore. I have been pushing myself to become better by volunteering at my local animal shelter, socializing more with friends, losing weight, and I joined a hiking group which I absolutely love. I feel that I am nurturing myself but the pain still continues. It’s been six weeks of no contact. Prior to that it was about four months of slowly detaching of which I think I was in denial until November. What advice you have for my situation? Thank you so very much! Nicole
    1 second ago

  • @ronniepratt8710
    @ronniepratt8710 5 лет назад

    This his the best video out of all the ones I've listened to.

  • @CoachCraigKenneth
    @CoachCraigKenneth  6 лет назад +10

    Did u have a favorite part to the video? Share your thoughts

    • @mariellarodriguez7421
      @mariellarodriguez7421 6 лет назад

      Coach Craig Kenneth I love your vids Craig, they are helping me a bit... but I hope you make a video about my story.
      Gosh my story is really hard...
      So, I met this guy through a dating site while I was an international flight attendant so it was easy for me to fly to were he was (long and tiring but not that expensive) and so after a week and a half of texting and videocalling I decided to go meet him in person (he’s in the states I’m based in SouthAmerica) He was the sweetest, most adorable man I’ve ever met and everything I have ever wanted... we kissed the first night, he told me he loved me the first night (which scared me a bit), he said he had never told that before even though he had ex gfs. Btw he’s a pastor, and we spent the weekend together it was like a movie... I was there for 4 days and the night before I left, he told me he knew it was crazy fast but he really wanted to ask me to be his gf and I said yes. Everything felt perfect, I flew there every time I could ( 12 hours away) and spent there even if a couple of days. In December I had the opportunity to take a leave of absence from my job and I discussed with him the possibility of being together all December and seeing if what we felt was just because of our short term times or if we truly were good LIVING together. I met his parents that came from another state, and we spent Christmas together but I had to fly back on New Year’s Eve to be able to work, then I had 2 weeks off in January and he asked me to come to Mn where he was visiting his grandma for me to meet her and I did, also meeting the rest of his moms family.
      Our birthdays are in February 13th and 14th (I’m 31 he’s 32) and we celebrated together and spent them together, after that I had to fly some more, but just being apart from each other was TOO painful for both of us so we started planing for me to quit my job and move in with him. I have to add that during this time he would ask me to get married for papers (so I could stay there with him) but I refused it every time because I think of marriage as an important step even if just on paper and didn’t want to do that for another purpose, so I was looking into getting a student visa.
      In March I had another opportunity for a leave of absence and we lived together all March. During all these trips I kept leaving stuff in his house, so to be able to move little by little.
      He kept talking of making things more serious and kept telling he wanted me to move in ASAP so even though we had first agreed on August, I went back to my base to quit my job in the beginning of April and he bought tickets to come to South America and meet my family at the end of April.
      I quit my job on a Tuesday, and I was under a lot of stress just feeling nervous and scared and when I felt this way before, he always reassured me and made me feel better except that Friday.
      That Friday he had told me he had a very busy day, and that he was going to try to text me but to keep that in mind. Again... this was a very stressful week for me and when I knew that later that night the reason why he wasn’t texting me back or calling me was that he was playing board games I got extremely mad at him because I felt lonely and doing everything over here on my own, I really needed to feel he was with me. And so when he called me later that night... I was awful to him and told him I wanted to break up (not really meaning it). He tried to reason with me and tell me to talk on another moment but I was fuming and wouldn’t accept even telling him I was going to block him. We hanged up and the second afterwards I knew I had made a TERRIBLE mistake, and tried calling back but he was already asleep with his phone on silence.
      We talked the next day and as much as I apologized he wouldn’t have it and he broke up with me saying he was giving up... I couldn’t believe it... then he wouldn’t talk to me for days and 5 days later sent me a picture of my things in boxes and bags in his basement... then he blocked me from everywhere except emails).
      I am desperate, jobless and don’t know what to do. I know I ROYALLY fucked up, but... I know he is the love of my life I am sure of this. I just wasn’t ready for all of the pressure so fast and then panicked... it’s been over a month, during which we have just communicated to coordinate how or where he could mail my stuff back (he already did) and he was super cold and at times mean to me.
      After my stuff was mailed out and we really didn’t have any other “reason” to talk i tried to go no contact (because at the beginning of the break up I had spammed him with apology emails, texts, etc begging and pleading to him). I went one week of no contact successfully but last night I got tipsy in my house while watching mamma Mia and after crying my eyes out with the song “The winner takes it all” I emailed him just saying that “watching mamma Mia, singing along to the winner takes it all” and crying so much. He hasn’t shown any emotion since the breakup, but in some emails he has told me he is hurting and extremely sad but he stands by his decision and thinks the break up was for the best. Can’t afford to pay for your coaching right now but I will for sure try to in the future, if you could help me in any way Craig.... how could he want to marry me, told me I was the love of his life, make me quit my job and move and then breakup and be so radical about it???

    • @AS-kp3pb
      @AS-kp3pb 6 лет назад +3

      Margaret is so good!!! Great video!!!
      Thanks again!

    • @ahhhhliyah
      @ahhhhliyah 6 лет назад +2

      Coach Margaret and Coach Craig I really admire your work. Longterm sub. Short and sweet. I am a 31 year old female. I looked in the mirror into my eyes when Margaret said to say I love you and I immediately started crying and looked away. It's at this point I realised I must not love myself. I love others very much (although have quite an avoidant attachment) but how on earth do I learn to love myself when my very core being shuns away when I try to help it? Thankyou for all you do ❤

    • @android1012
      @android1012 6 лет назад +4

      @12:23 - You talked about your Skype that whistled your theme song...
      No joke here, Craig. I've been watching these vids for several months now and I saw my ex drive by me awhile ago. I was walking on the sidewalk. When I saw her go by, I got so nervous and petrified that I started whistling your theme song, and just repeated that for awhile until I got to work. Meanwhile in my brain, I was remembering many things you said in the videos and our Skype sessions...about confidence, appearing unaffected by the breakup, etc.
      Your theme song would soothe the most stubborn Pavlovian dog out there! Don't ever change it! Thanks for everything, Craig & Margaret. :)
      Andrew (in Japan)

    • @thelegionary07
      @thelegionary07 6 лет назад

      Craig.. I met a girl last night from Bumble, and she was super cute, and visibly into me all night... Doing the hair twirling, looking me directly in the eyes at all times, and going to the bathroom several times (likely to just "break the seal" haha, but I felt like she kept trying to make sure she was looking her best for me.).. Anyway, she begged me to come over her place after 3 hours at the bar, and we had sex. I played my cards right, but I felt like AGAIN, things are going so fast. She wanted me to sleep over. Why do I always attract these types that wanna go super fast? Most guys would be congratulating me for hooking up with a cutie, but it kinda feels empty in a way. At first I denied her the sex, but she looked like she was really upset about it, so then I just made my move and it happened. Should I just have walked away?

  • @sherifatiyumba9386
    @sherifatiyumba9386 5 лет назад

    Wow! a clap for Margaret 💪💪💪

  • @kagor406
    @kagor406 3 года назад

    Margaret is awesome!

  • @silvermont331
    @silvermont331 5 лет назад

    I often talk to myself 😂 and in the mirror too 😂 thanks for sharing couches and yes you are both the best couches on this RUclips Chanel ❤️👍

  • @chooseboost
    @chooseboost 5 лет назад

    This is a fantastic video. I don’t know how I overlooked it.

  • @CorporateQueen
    @CorporateQueen 6 лет назад

    I write my affirmations on my bathroom mirror with a dry marker. 😊

  • @Dad_Brad
    @Dad_Brad 4 года назад

    The self affirmation sticker I have in my bathroom mirror just says, "Who's going to carry the boats and the logs?" It's a Navy Seal reference to BUDS. I'm not sure of the impact it's had on me, but it's there.

  • @firstnamelastname6548
    @firstnamelastname6548 4 года назад

    Always helpful I love watching you both 💓

  • @mpuci3307
    @mpuci3307 2 года назад +1

    Just writing this because I was the 2000th like! Jk this is also one of the best vids by you guys. So great!

  • @arenee6418
    @arenee6418 4 года назад +1

    Amazing content!

  • @kairai2
    @kairai2 6 лет назад +4

    Baby steps into the elevator... baby steps into the shower... movie "What about Bob?" Ahahaha 😂🤣

    • @kolohe2790
      @kolohe2790 4 года назад

      I neeed.. thats Bob !!! he was calling the therapist from the general store (with his comfort fish "Gil" hanging around his neck) when he took the bus to try to find the location of where the vacation home of his therapist was.....

  • @carriethompson1398
    @carriethompson1398 5 лет назад +1

    Do the attachments HAVE to come from the parents specifically? I feel like I have a “good enough” relationship with both of them, but I’m a little avoidant. I was put in to child care very early, as both of my parents worked during the day...

    • @jackman3503
      @jackman3503 5 лет назад +1

      Most of avoidant think their childhood was "good enough" but it wasn't.

  • @texasbrotherbear6863
    @texasbrotherbear6863 5 лет назад +1

    “Or coach Craig is the best coach on the planet” 😂😂😂

  • @meeraraj0
    @meeraraj0 6 лет назад +1

    Coach Margaret I'm delighted to tell you that I love myself i stand in front of the mirror regularly and say I love you I love you 💙💚💛💜

  • @toddlaforest504
    @toddlaforest504 3 года назад

    No parents until I was three, step mother hated me. Was living with another family by 11 separated from my brother. He lived with another family. Out on my own at 14. Cried every night, got up and went to school then two jobs. I am such a Attachment mess. Could I be disorderly?

  • @None_of_your_business666
    @None_of_your_business666 6 лет назад +1

    Thanks a lot!!

  • @katiebennett650
    @katiebennett650 3 года назад

    I tried talking too my old boyfriend and my I dont kno if he seen it or not and I was afraid and this past Time...it didn't go through and that was the other day

  • @pinkcashmere573
    @pinkcashmere573 5 лет назад +1

    So, if up to 70 percent of the people are insecurely attached then it makes sense to work of the self and the people who are damaged versus people all trying to run to the 30 percent

  • @deweycouto6922
    @deweycouto6922 6 лет назад +1

    Coach craig,Margaret would you do a video on hypergamy, when women leave you to upgrade financial......n the results they can expect from it...

  • @kolohe2790
    @kolohe2790 4 года назад

    Not everyone reviewing these videos is angst ridden, some may seek the information to cope with an anxious partner looking for coping skills and ultimately a solution. When asking the anxious partner why are you so anxious and what can cure you. They will say I dont know. The "fixer" is the one that is attracted to the anxious partner. The satisfaction you get from helping another or curing someone is their drug. In this microcosm every person is sprinkled with unsavory issues. Controlling these impulses and realizing someone loves you enough to get you through this is imperative to your mental health.

  • @lileebennett676
    @lileebennett676 10 месяцев назад

    My mother told me she would kill herself and it would be my fault. I was 18 at the time, but still I remember it and will for years to come

  • @TheCoffeeCat
    @TheCoffeeCat 4 года назад

    Great advice!! I highly recommend Louise Hay's Mirror Work and Love Yourself. These are powerful lessons on how to connect with yourself so you can re-parent yourself.

  • @Transfurgroomers1
    @Transfurgroomers1 6 лет назад +1

    God, I feel so blessed. My mother said I could be anything I want when I asked her what I could be professionally. I was a little girl at the time.

  • @mariellarodriguez7421
    @mariellarodriguez7421 6 лет назад +4

    Gosh my story is really hard...
    So, I met this guy through a dating site while I was an international flight attendant so it was easy for me to fly to were he was (long and tiring but not that expensive) and so after a week and a half of texting and videocalling I decided to go meet him in person (he’s in the states I’m based in SouthAmerica) He was the sweetest, most adorable man I’ve ever met and everything I have ever wanted... we kissed the first night, he told me he loved me the first night (which scared me a bit), he said he had never told that before even though he had ex gfs. Btw he’s a pastor, and we spent the weekend together it was like a movie... I was there for 4 days and the night before I left, he told me he knew it was crazy fast but he really wanted to ask me to be his gf and I said yes. Everything felt perfect, I flew there every time I could ( 12 hours away) and spent there even if a couple of days. In December I had the opportunity to take a leave of absence from my job and I discussed with him the possibility of being together all December and seeing if what we felt was just because of our short term times or if we truly were good LIVING together. I met his parents that came from another state, and we spent Christmas together but I had to fly back on New Year’s Eve to be able to work, then I had 2 weeks off in January and he asked me to come to Mn where he was visiting his grandma for me to meet her and I did, also meeting the rest of his moms family.
    Our birthdays are in February 13th and 14th (I’m 31 he’s 32) and we celebrated together and spent them together, after that I had to fly some more, but just being apart from each other was TOO painful for both of us so we started planing for me to quit my job and move in with him. I have to add that during this time he would ask me to get married for papers (so I could stay there with him) but I refused it every time because I think of marriage as an important step even if just on paper and didn’t want to do that for another purpose, so I was looking into getting a student visa.
    In March I had another opportunity for a leave of absence and we lived together all March. During all these trips I kept leaving stuff in his house, so to be able to move little by little.
    He kept talking of making things more serious and kept telling he wanted me to move in ASAP so even though we had first agreed on August, I went back to my base to quit my job in the beginning of April and he bought tickets to come to South America and meet my family at the end of April.
    I quit my job on a Tuesday, and I was under a lot of stress just feeling nervous and scared and when I felt this way before, he always reassured me and made me feel better except that Friday.
    That Friday he had told me he had a very busy day, and that he was going to try to text me but to keep that in mind. Again... this was a very stressful week for me and when I knew that later that night the reason why he wasn’t texting me back or calling me was that he was playing board games I got extremely mad at him because I felt lonely and doing everything over here on my own, I really needed to feel he was with me. And so when he called me later that night... I was awful to him and told him I wanted to break up (not really meaning it). He tried to reason with me and tell me to talk on another moment but I was fuming and wouldn’t accept even telling him I was going to block him. We hanged up and the second afterwards I knew I had made a TERRIBLE mistake, and tried calling back but he was already asleep with his phone on silence.
    We talked the next day and as much as I apologized he wouldn’t have it and he broke up with me saying he was giving up... I couldn’t believe it... then he wouldn’t talk to me for days and 5 days later sent me a picture of my things in boxes and bags in his basement... then he blocked me from everywhere except emails).
    I am desperate, jobless and don’t know what to do. I know I ROYALLY fucked up, but... I know he is the love of my life I am sure of this. I just wasn’t ready for all of the pressure so fast and then panicked... it’s been over a month, during which we have just communicated to coordinate how or where he could mail my stuff back (he already did) and he was super cold and at times mean to me.
    After my stuff was mailed out and we really didn’t have any other “reason” to talk i tried to go no contact (because at the beginning of the break up I had spammed him with apology emails, texts, etc begging and pleading to him). I went one week of no contact successfully but last night I got tipsy in my house while watching mamma Mia and after crying my eyes out with the song “The winner takes it all” I emailed him just saying that “watching mamma Mia, singing along to the winner takes it all” and crying so much. He hasn’t shown any emotion since the breakup, but in some emails he has told me he is hurting and extremely sad but he stands by his decision and thinks the break up was for the best. Can’t afford to pay for your coaching right now but I will for sure try to in the future, if you could help me in any way Craig.... how could he want to marry me, told me I was the love of his life, make me quit my job and move and then breakup and be so radical about it???

    • @cynthiadavison5785
      @cynthiadavison5785 6 лет назад +3

      Mariella Rodriguez. First thing you need you do is find work...throw yourself into that..next make a routine for yourself and don't get off of it. Get up and do all those things the same as much as possible everyday...I find that order is some control...especially when you feel out of control...jog or yoga or something to release energy...listen to motivational speakers...Coach, Les Brown, Tony Robbins...I can't believe the transformation I have made by doing this...keep trying...its ok to feel the way you feel. If you have a bad day...there is a new one tomorrow...Good luck on your journey!

    • @mariellarodriguez7421
      @mariellarodriguez7421 6 лет назад +1

      Cynthia Davison I found a job, it pays a lot less than my previous one but it’s something... and have been listening to Prince EA and Jay Shetty... but can’t get my ex out of my head and heart... and I don’t know what to do next about him

    • @cynthiadavison5785
      @cynthiadavison5785 6 лет назад +2

      Mariella Rodriguez don't do anything. Do you...step away...think about what he is feeling. I'm sure he's hurting. By doing anything anxious you are essentially making them try to solve or sooth your anxiety. It's too much weight to carry, when they are hurting too. It sux...but I have come to realize I must be quiet to him. It has to be his decision to do something or not. You will be ok. I can tell you there is no time limit that this will actually make sense. I have been anxiety riddled for 3 yrs. This channel has opened my eyes. Keep watching. Cry if you need to. You must work on yourself! Tell yourself its gonna be ok. If the job is not what you want now...keep looking still. Do not give up on yourself! Just remember this...a human can do anything they want. Start wanting better for yourself!! It will be better...self actualization and affirmations will help. Investigate yourself and your issues....make the bad good!!! That's what I have doing...I'm better...not perfectly better...I still miss him. But I can't do anything about it. Talk to a friend you trust...

    • @mariellarodriguez7421
      @mariellarodriguez7421 6 лет назад

      Cynthia Davison you have been missing him for 3 years? Have you had a coaching session with Craig? Gosh.... I know he can do whatever he wants, but so then... my therapist keeps telling me he never ACTUALLY loved me... and that makes me feel stupid and depressed

    • @cynthiadavison5785
      @cynthiadavison5785 6 лет назад +5

      Mariella Rodriguez yes, I had 3 coachings. But my anxiety was out of control. We were engaged. I was blindsided. I won't go into it, but there was some trauma in the middle of our relationship. It was never resolved and just avoided by both of us. I'm sure it lead to our breakup. I acted so anxious after. He did some too. We both goofed it up. I've been in nc for months. Last month he did a indirect direct contact and we met for lunch....boy did I look like a brand new woman. I lost 30 pounds changed my hair style and smiled the whole time...he told me I looked fantastic and happy. I'm back in nc. I never said a word after that. Coach told me its not a sprint...its a marathon. Let it be...if he wants you, go slow...all the stuff you said about your relationship says he has some issue himself. That's his burden to resolve. I'm not a therapist...but this channel is the for real...listen to all of the videos..it helped. I listen to them while I sleep too. Just know you are a good person. Don't rely on someone to make you feel good. I did that and I have had to work hard to stop it. Its childhood trauma. Look for your weaknesses...make those strong. I have issues with anxiety and tend make everything worse in my head..its the story you are telling yourself..stop self blame...stop the what ifs...that is fantasy...its gonna be ok...but you have to make it ok. Even if he didn't love you....there are so many people in the world...I recently started dating again...you wont match with everyone...but you will meet nice people.

  • @shivangkharbanda
    @shivangkharbanda 2 года назад

    Wish i could talk to margeret just once! I am sure she will kill my anxiety.

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  2 года назад

      Very easy to sign up for a coaching. She’s amazing!

    • @shivangkharbanda
      @shivangkharbanda 2 года назад

      @@CoachCraigKenneth only if you can afford craig. Being a student and fighting anxiety is hard.

  • @rashellellison4420
    @rashellellison4420 4 года назад

    Love this.💕

  • @grl57
    @grl57 5 лет назад +2

    Coach, are you in love? I definitely note a happier Coach Craig!!!

  • @lars1296
    @lars1296 4 года назад

    My mother told me that growing up: “it was your father who wanted you.” She had a bad childhood and was looking for her husband to fill her need. She always resented her children.

  • @jamjar3451
    @jamjar3451 6 лет назад

    Great video. 😁😁😁

  • @nelidasicha2455
    @nelidasicha2455 4 года назад +1

    I love you ❤️

  • @cmajor8084
    @cmajor8084 6 лет назад +2

    They never talk about people that had great parents that had a good marriage and treated their children well.

    • @gew977
      @gew977 5 лет назад +3

      if you re looking for validation you are on the wrong channel. they are therapists

  • @ritagaston1556
    @ritagaston1556 6 лет назад

    In my opinion positive thoughts to oneself are not helpful. I have tried many ‘techniques’.
    Only help I find is to stay in your body and breathe into your body.

  • @mitzimayhew4799
    @mitzimayhew4799 6 лет назад

    At 20:15 - "What do they think in - grunts and moans?"
    😃😃😃

  • @lesleymiller8446
    @lesleymiller8446 3 года назад

    I got my 3rd divorce through 6 months ago and im not only scared to let anyone else in my life, im also scared to love anyone again

  • @berthasakala4440
    @berthasakala4440 4 года назад

    I want to talk to you now I don't know how.

  • @bunniewood
    @bunniewood 3 года назад

    My parents sucked..and now im damaged for life

  • @muhannaddurubi1345
    @muhannaddurubi1345 4 года назад

    Is misleading those cards.. My x grf she was Bpd under therapy she had so much card's on the wall nd everywhere it have been for a while. But when she trager she will be apposite... The card she was repeated in the conversation but it's just words..

  • @susanc.2207
    @susanc.2207 4 года назад

    I call my dog names like Dummy, but she's not dumb. I wish I didn't do that. I don't call myself any bad names. Just others I guess.

  • @carlfreiermuth5424
    @carlfreiermuth5424 3 года назад

    Don't do the "fake nice" voice Margaret, we love and appreciate the real you.

  • @whiterobin01
    @whiterobin01 3 года назад

    I'm still going through this with my mother. I'm an artist and she still says mean things like who would want to buy that painting? I just love to tell her when the painting sells. That gives me confidence. Lol