This vid hit me hard. I learned a lot by seeing the perspectives. Guys.. pay attention to when she says "I feel", "you need", and "we never." These should set off your alarms and you should automatically get into reassurance mode. Your women is a human being with feelings and emotions. You need to be present, empathize and be there for her.
I’m glad you go into detail why relationships don’t work out. I had no idea I had anxiety...I was told I was insecure and jealous. I never felt jealous about my ex, but I feared her and her leaving me. Now I find out it’s because my parents weren’t there for me....makes a lot of sense!
Thank you so much. Watching your videos has been a HUGE help to me! I had a breakup with a man with an avoidant attachment style and my recovery time has been as long or longer than the relationship. I didn't know what was going on, or why he acted the way he did.. Now I do, and I can finally move on. I can't thank you enough for the relief this has given me!
Wow. Its amazing how i can relate to this video. When i had my ex-wife with me its unreal i would just shut down for differences that we had that could've been resolved and failed to be that mountain she needed to go out together and share intimacy. Instead i gave her total freedom to go out on the town with her friends and it ruined our marriage. I remember specifically times when she would tell me to hold hands and i never obliged fully. Many of these behaviors that i never worked on described by Craig in many of his videos arrived from earlier experiences in life and lack of relationship experience. My ex-wife was really my first real everything. Hopefully her new man treats her like i said i would've and never treated her. I will always remember her...
If he left during an argument that worsens the wound for the girl. He should say, let's take a time out but I want to repair this with you when we're both ready to talk
So true about how we test them during the distance and space that I need! I’ve held these boundaries for a long ass time with him and it just turned into a coping mechanism
I've never tested a man to see how strong he is or independent he is, I just pay attention to see if they are actually interested or not. If they don't show much interest in the beginning than i know he is not that interested in me, then he's out.
I had the same situation as #2 . He was very avoidant and it was hard for me bcuz I felt disconnected from him eventually this led him to cheat on me and we broke up. He refused to discuss anything about our relationship.
This guy sounds AVOIDANT DISMISSIVE. RUN THE OTHER WAY... HE WENT TO A STRANGE CHICK FOR SEX BECAUSE HE FELT TO CLOSE/INTIMACY WITH YOU AND WITHDREW FROM YOU. IM DEEALING WITH THE SAME SHIT...RIGHT NOW. AND HE BLOCKED MY PHONE NUMBER
Wish I had the money to get a counceling session, could really use it after my ex-bf dumped me after 3 years and buying a house together, that I hardly lived in since he broke up right after we moved in.... I bet it had something to do with a lot of issues his mom had, and the communication problems me and him had. In no contact now with him, day 5 of not reaching out. Too bad about the groupapps but hardly talking in there anyway... it sucks, but I am slowly healing.
We can never come back after an argument! This last one was not just about me not wanting to just sit in the house that weekend and watch TV ..again! We don't talk anymore! The excitement that he had for me is gone! He doesn't compliment me anymore and we don't have sex! It seems more of an issue for me than him! He was doing these things before he asked me to marry him but it's only been a month since he asked and he said the honeymoon phase is over! Well why? Smh Anyways, me expressing all of this to him caused us to not talk the whole weekend and I guess pushing us farther away! I told him how I felt and what I needed and he was defensive and said he treats me like a queen but he feels like he never does anything right! So I have nothing else to say!! He was not like this before the ring!! So Let the cards fall where they may!
This happen to me and I did leave my boyfriend over it but I do not realize it was because I was felt disconnected from him. Now I regret leaving him and I wish I had stayed to reconnect but my boyfriend doesn’t want me back now.
I'm in the second case. I know I'm with anxious attachment style and I'm trying to cope with it. My partner doesn't show affection. He says I love you less and he doesn't spend enough time with me. I tried to speak with him about that and told him clearly how I felt and what I wanted from him but he told me that I have psychological issues bcz of my anxiety and he doesn't think there is a problem and that my reality isn't real. So he regrets fixing anything in his attitude or actions. I don't know how to connect with him so he can understand the problem. Can you give me an advice?
Janet P. I can give you some advice....i was him, and my now ex gf was you.....she eventually left me for good because i didnt understand her anxiety and didnt try to take steps to work on my avoidant style....ask your bf how he is gonna feel when you eventually leave? Tell him ive been miserable for 2 months and wish i had listened and put in the work
You are my best entertainment! Can you really think been neglected....Not by me I would never listen you cry!!!!You would get all your baby food. kisses and love.
Your videos help me so much. I can't wait for our Skype session. When I watch these videos I realize what I've done and I just cry, because I want to make things right, but I don't know if she would give me another chance.
These relationships are perfect examples of unhealthy bonding. I was the dumper in both situations. After the second fail, I gave myself 5 years of single time and started working on myself.
Now I’m still striving to be better but I have a relationship and I’m working on my mental health and my hair salon that I finally opened. I end up burying myself in the salon and my mental health journey to avoid my boyfriend. He hates when I bring up talking about deeper subjects. He’s had 4 deaths in his family this year and is totally “fine”
This vid hit me hard. I learned a lot by seeing the perspectives. Guys.. pay attention to when she says "I feel", "you need", and "we never." These should set off your alarms and you should automatically get into reassurance mode. Your women is a human being with feelings and emotions. You need to be present, empathize and be there for her.
So true, I lose feelings so fast when I don't feel like a big enough priority.
I’m glad you go into detail why relationships don’t work out. I had no idea I had anxiety...I was told I was insecure and jealous. I never felt jealous about my ex, but I feared her and her leaving me. Now I find out it’s because my parents weren’t there for me....makes a lot of sense!
These videos have helped me not only for my relationships but when I have kids attachment is so important when you have kids
Thank you so much. Watching your videos has been a HUGE help to me!
I had a breakup with a man with an avoidant attachment style and my recovery time has been as long or longer than the relationship. I didn't know what was going on, or why he acted the way he did..
Now I do, and I can finally move on. I can't thank you enough for the relief this has given me!
Glad it's helping :)
Wow. Its amazing how i can relate to this video. When i had my ex-wife with me its unreal i would just shut down for differences that we had that could've been resolved and failed to be that mountain she needed to go out together and share intimacy. Instead i gave her total freedom to go out on the town with her friends and it ruined our marriage. I remember specifically times when she would tell me to hold hands and i never obliged fully. Many of these behaviors that i never worked on described by Craig in many of his videos arrived from earlier experiences in life and lack of relationship experience. My ex-wife was really my first real everything. Hopefully her new man treats her like i said i would've and never treated her. I will always remember her...
Great video bro
Most guys I know are disconnected. They often pretend by handing over money but that is NOT CONNECTION, that is a money transfer! LOL!!
This is what I've been trying to explain to my boyfriend and couldn't find the words!!!! Thank you
Your very welcome :)
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If he left during an argument that worsens the wound for the girl. He should say, let's take a time out but I want to repair this with you when we're both ready to talk
So true, i feel ashamed whatching this.
Learn and grow :)
I destroyed my relationship because of this. I am now living with so much guilt and regret.
jek ancheta me too
Any updates?
I feel you
me too! i wish i tried to change things instead of running away from it now it's too late...
Tell me about it.
So true about how we test them during the distance and space that I need! I’ve held these boundaries for a long ass time with him and it just turned into a coping mechanism
Thank you coach Craig for helping both men and women
Well...according to my calculations, I've watched this video 4 times in the last couple of months! 🤓
haha I watched it 4 times back to back lol
This is exactly what happened to me.. and she broke up with me 2 weeks back. Now I realized my mistakes. Thank you Craig for explaining me this.
This is exactly what I’m currently going though in my current relationship glad to know I’m not alone.
I've noticed that dumpers are not so good with communication
I've never tested a man to see how strong he is or independent he is, I just pay attention to see if they are actually interested or not. If they don't show much interest in the beginning than i know he is not that interested in me, then he's out.
Wow! This video is so helpful! Thanks to the people who were willing to share their stories. 🤯
Amazing job coach
Such a great video as usual Craig! Thank you so much for the clear and fun way of explaining the situations.
I had the same situation as #2 . He was very avoidant and it was hard for me bcuz I felt disconnected from him eventually this led him to cheat on me and we broke up. He refused to discuss anything about our relationship.
This guy sounds AVOIDANT DISMISSIVE. RUN THE OTHER WAY... HE WENT TO A STRANGE CHICK FOR SEX BECAUSE HE FELT TO CLOSE/INTIMACY WITH YOU AND WITHDREW FROM YOU. IM DEEALING WITH THE SAME SHIT...RIGHT NOW. AND HE BLOCKED MY PHONE NUMBER
I can relate so much me and My ex both did this together 4yrs broken up 9 months and she won't even reply to my messages
Excellent video. Really opened my eyes.
Coach, you have some great advice!
Wish I had the money to get a counceling session, could really use it after my ex-bf dumped me after 3 years and buying a house together, that I hardly lived in since he broke up right after we moved in.... I bet it had something to do with a lot of issues his mom had, and the communication problems me and him had. In no contact now with him, day 5 of not reaching out. Too bad about the groupapps but hardly talking in there anyway... it sucks, but I am slowly healing.
This is so real !!! I FEEL like an ass I realized so much from my past relationships dammit I lost alot of good woman
We can never come back after an argument! This last one was not just about me not wanting to just sit in the house that weekend and watch TV ..again! We don't talk anymore! The excitement that he had for me is gone! He doesn't compliment me anymore and we don't have sex! It seems more of an issue for me than him! He was doing these things before he asked me to marry him but it's only been a month since he asked and he said the honeymoon phase is over! Well why? Smh Anyways, me expressing all of this to him caused us to not talk the whole weekend and I guess pushing us farther away! I told him how I felt and what I needed and he was defensive and said he treats me like a queen but he feels like he never does anything right! So I have nothing else to say!! He was not like this before the ring!! So Let the cards fall where they may!
Update?
excellent video
Thanks
This happen to me and I did leave my boyfriend over it but I do not realize it was because I was felt disconnected from him. Now I regret leaving him and I wish I had stayed to reconnect but my boyfriend doesn’t want me back now.
I'm in the second case. I know I'm with anxious attachment style and I'm trying to cope with it. My partner doesn't show affection. He says I love you less and he doesn't spend enough time with me. I tried to speak with him about that and told him clearly how I felt and what I wanted from him but he told me that I have psychological issues bcz of my anxiety and he doesn't think there is a problem and that my reality isn't real. So he regrets fixing anything in his attitude or actions. I don't know how to connect with him so he can understand the problem. Can you give me an advice?
Janet P. I can give you some advice....i was him, and my now ex gf was you.....she eventually left me for good because i didnt understand her anxiety and didnt try to take steps to work on my avoidant style....ask your bf how he is gonna feel when you eventually leave? Tell him ive been miserable for 2 months and wish i had listened and put in the work
I absolutely agree with the second girl... ive been there.
Completely identified with both sides.
You are my best entertainment! Can you really think been neglected....Not by me I would never listen you cry!!!!You would get all your baby food. kisses and love.
:)
Great advice
Your videos help me so much. I can't wait for our Skype session. When I watch these videos I realize what I've done and I just cry, because I want to make things right, but I don't know if she would give me another chance.
Tessa Hartman hey im in the same situation how things been going? Hope everything is good
I feel exactly the same way, bro
Probably won't give you another chance..be a better version of yourself moving forward tho
I totally get where Alexander is coming from
I was in the same shoes of Alexandra😔
Men can be really selfish. These dudes in the stories sound terrible. The dude who is watching the game is only thinking about what he wants.
Nice
She disconnected from me, it's all her fault. But now I'm setting here with the pain because for some stupid evolutionary reason I still want her😠😭
These relationships are perfect examples of unhealthy bonding. I was the dumper in both situations. After the second fail, I gave myself 5 years of single time and started working on myself.
Now I’m still striving to be better but I have a relationship and I’m working on my mental health and my hair salon that I finally opened. I end up burying myself in the salon and my mental health journey to avoid my boyfriend. He hates when I bring up talking about deeper subjects. He’s had 4 deaths in his family this year and is totally “fine”
they have to explained they fillings this girls
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