This actually worked for me. The time in my life when I was the most authentic was when I carefully considered each word I said before speaking until it finally became an automatic behaviour. I found that the words I speak play a large role in defining my identity as I am interpreted by others.
How long did this take you before it became authentic. How are you suppose to stop talking mid sentence in a conversation to think about all of this and reword or take back what you have already started saying without looking crazy lol
@@AuntLorasHouse ikr I'm also trying to figure out a practical way of implementing this into my life without it being awkward as fuck at start :D What I'm thinking would be a great way to get started is to practice this with someone who you know very well. Just tell them about your situation, and then ask if you could practice it with them. Then have a long discussion about anything really, and focus on the stuff Peterson talked about.
I’m here to learn how be authentic, learn how to relieve myself from worrying about other people’s opinions and working on allowing myself to grow in knowledge bc I’m currently 31 and ik I won’t live forever so i have to get better, do better and be better.
@@lydialou113 I mean some days I wanna push myself but a majority of the time I remain in my stubborn ways and idk how to stop being stubborn and stop being afraid of speaking my mind plus other things I’d prefer not to get into
This may well be the best that I've ever heard him say. I've spent a lifetime, always wondering if my thoughts were my own or whether I'm just a mouth piece for everything I've ever heard. It's like he was talking to me. Now I'm going to have to sit back and see if this is me or a reflection of who I wish to be. I never stop learning. How boring life would be if the learning stopped.
Jordan is a thinker, that's for sure. In a nut shell he is saying we should be centered, sincere. Your BODY (gut) knows the truth and if you listen to it - you will be authentic. I try to do this. I love when I'm tuned in. The first step is making an advanced decision to listen to that center so you can be sincere. The more you do it the easier it is. The hard part is, you can start to spot bull in others and it's upsetting when you sense it. To me anyway.
I can appreciate Dr. Peterson’s critique of clichés and how critical analysis of an undergraduate student’s cliché-riddled paper is truly an assessment of the cliché itself, not the student’s own ideas. It causes me to think about one who endlessly overuses axioms from a particular theoretical creator, say Carl Jung for instance.
So basically: intelligent people always rely on their intellect but doing so invalidates their own thoughts (inauthentic) but they also can not stop relying on their intellect because of habit. Instead of that they can bring other clues to their attention while forming thoughts
This is a very good advice, to know to use your words in a way that tell to the world what is it that you want, is a good way to stop using things that doesn't apply to that.
Peterson describes Existential authenticity in the vein of Sartre and Kierkegaard. Leaning Kierkegaard. But definitely far more ground up and prescriptive than either manage to be (despite their tremendous efforts into the topic). In a way you can follow this advice without treading the tiniest existential waters. From 'science' Ironically our human experience of 'individualistic' authenticity is very conditional with our external environment and achieving largely the same goal as others: Financial independence, good friends, moderate popularity, confidence in social situations, choosing to do the right thing with or without an audience, obtaining a partner, and not going against your personal highest context sensitive values, even when they appear irrational in a moment (say the benefits work against this decision aka you feel afraid). Authenticity also has two general modes. A passive mode experienced almost as if a mood or continuous state which can be checked at any moment. And an active 'intervention' which can peak or drop in but typically does at value defining moments where you are positioned with a difficult choice. (cognitive dissonance literature is an extremely interesting connection here that has yet to be made in large strides) The second comes as if your awareness intervenes in your daily living due to some circumstance or event which you must successfully resolve with respect to your internal states. The passive state is continuous, operates on a tragectory and is the result of our relative state of affairs. But it is with our general attentiveness and awareness of our personal issues whatever they may be at the time. It is extremely highly correlated with our wellbeing, higher than every other psychological factor other than hope. Active intervention states are strong authenticity anchors and help to define our values. Interestingly authenticity has very little to do with conformity. Academic authenticity (which is very explicitly what peterson is talking about with awareness of 'whose words' those belong to) is correlated with wellbeing but less so than general authenticity, and it is correlated with higher awareness (which should be self evident). Academic authenticity is correlated with lower alcohol consumption and binge drinking. Interestingly. Overall this is what we do know about authenticity. There are some big 5 correlations, like with conscientiousness, openness and against neuroticism. However, they are marginal. And there is a gentle association with higher IQ. In some cases authenticity is associated with high levels of short term anxiety and even negative affect. But always with higher long term well being. biggest problem with authenticity (psychologically) is its root in ego based literature today. Rogers, Ericksons, Freuds, and its drawing on existential literature outside of Frankl. Frankl suggested man's freedom comes when he abandons himself, when he forgets himself. And flow literature largely supports this (for private matters). SDT largely confirms this for social and achievement matters. And if Ericksons theory can be reconceptualized to discuss developmental goals which result in higher levels of wellbeing and authenticity (due to the relationships) then which ericksons conceptualization broadly supports. There is a new branch looking at 'broader ego' theories which incorporate 'self abandonment'. A tremendously difficult task given that a lot of the pleasure and corrective benefit of authenticity comes from self reflection. Authenticity is extremely complex, it is my masters study. Peterson does a fantastic job of providing a technique you can use to get honest reflection and genuinely develop an academically honest self awareness (which is pretty important to developing a more broad authenticity). His concept of 'words which make you weak' is what inuathenticity represents and does to you. And his use of terms is exact to the nature of the discourse, and even somewhat to the physiology, which every meaningful psychological experience is expressed as. no matter your values, the words which make you weak do not represent you (and later as you become more aware, they simply cannot represent you without your permission). Fantastic advice. This can really help you nourish your own beliefs and avoid being controlled too much by others ideas. (It is not entirely wrong to be controlled by others ideas, but they should have your permission first).
Easy said then done. I’d lose my job if I’d tell people what I thought or believed. People have to be mostly half fake, if they don’t like confrontation, like views on politics etc.
@@JA1DN7The universe doesn’t care about you. My pal at work’s mother was a devout Christian. All her life spent helping people and feeding animals, stray dogs, cats, foxes. What happened, what was her reward! ~ she died in agony (cancer) Don’t give me those rubbish bags about “the universe”
Looking at ideas presented doesn't make original thought. I asked a lecturer what the countries around the one being discussed thought of the country, and received a blank stare.
Nine people who watched this short quip of one of Peterson's lectures actually likes being inauthentic, writes in cliches, and 95 percent of what they say actually has nothing to do with what they believe?
But If I’m quite before I speak it’s going to be more likely unoriginal thoughts that’ll come out when I speak. Isn’t better to blurt out your words rather than ponder?
The irony here...is the JBP explicitly said (don't remember where...in one of his lectures) that there is no such thing as emotional intelligence. And yet...here he is advocating the application of exactly that (emotional intelligence) to 'weed-out' (adjudicate...IOW) whether a particular thought makes you weak or strong.
In today's world, I would say no. I heard a man say that today we think with our feelings, and we look at the world with the eyes devoid of a conscience rather than looking through the eyes with a conscience (paraphrased). It seems to me that this is true (unfortunately).
Lol nope, Foucault believes that all constraint and influence is inauthentic, because he's a bullshitter who doesn't realize rebelling against everything is just as inauthentic as accepting everything
Seriously you have to be told how to be authentic!!! We are in trouble. Just have the courage to be YOU!!!!, and that the whole gamut of behaviours integral to you and quite possibly many other if not all people...
Yea that’ll work out well for him. The media is in the process of digging up any bit of dirt possible to try and destroy him. You think he should just give them ammo?
This actually worked for me. The time in my life when I was the most authentic was when I carefully considered each word I said before speaking until it finally became an automatic behaviour. I found that the words I speak play a large role in defining my identity as I am interpreted by others.
I may need to stop talking completely again for 10 days to kickstart that.
Very nice
How did doing this make u feel?
How long did this take you before it became authentic. How are you suppose to stop talking mid sentence in a conversation to think about all of this and reword or take back what you have already started saying without looking crazy lol
@@AuntLorasHouse ikr I'm also trying to figure out a practical way of implementing this into my life without it being awkward as fuck at start :D
What I'm thinking would be a great way to get started is to practice this with someone who you know very well. Just tell them about your situation, and then ask if you could practice it with them. Then have a long discussion about anything really, and focus on the stuff Peterson talked about.
This is the wisest talk I have ever listened too literally
I’m here to learn how be authentic, learn how to relieve myself from worrying about other people’s opinions and working on allowing myself to grow in knowledge bc I’m currently 31 and ik I won’t live forever so i have to get better, do better and be better.
I’m glad you’ve recognized this and that you’re working hard to grow
@@lydialou113 I mean some days I wanna push myself but a majority of the time I remain in my stubborn ways and idk how to stop being stubborn and stop being afraid of speaking my mind plus other things I’d prefer not to get into
This may well be the best that I've ever heard him say. I've spent a lifetime, always wondering if my thoughts were my own or whether I'm just a mouth piece for everything I've ever heard.
It's like he was talking to me. Now I'm going to have to sit back and see if this is me or a reflection of who I wish to be. I never stop learning. How boring life would be if the learning stopped.
Such excellence of mind and speech, this is authenticity in it's purest form
How is defining authenticity and how one can be authentic, actually being so?
@@yvettecheevers278 Because authenticity has a definition. That is true.
So defining it is authentic because it represents something true.
Jordan is a thinker, that's for sure. In a nut shell he is saying we should be centered, sincere. Your BODY (gut) knows the truth and if you listen to it - you will be authentic. I try to do this. I love when I'm tuned in. The first step is making an advanced decision to listen to that center so you can be sincere. The more you do it the easier it is. The hard part is, you can start to spot bull in others and it's upsetting when you sense it. To me anyway.
I can appreciate Dr. Peterson’s critique of clichés and how critical analysis of an undergraduate student’s cliché-riddled paper is truly an assessment of the cliché itself, not the student’s own ideas. It causes me to think about one who endlessly overuses axioms from a particular theoretical creator, say Carl Jung for instance.
My lifetime appreciation goes to this man who is always trying to make the world better place. Thank you so much. God will reward you 🙏
This is pure solid 100% GOLD!!!
Thank you Jordan 🙏🏾🙏🏾
There is so much knowledge in this, it is both exciting and terrifying.
All Good stuff :-)
Brings to mind Socrates; “An unconsidered life is not one worth living.”
Unconsidered. I heard it as unexamined.
Not pulling you up, I could be wrong.
@@peekeyeseek who cares?
Ironic, considering the message of this video
This is sooo helpful. To feel your way to authenticity. Thanks. ❤
I actually really need this right now.
Simple yet profound.
So basically: intelligent people always rely on their intellect but doing so invalidates their own thoughts (inauthentic) but they also can not stop relying on their intellect because of habit. Instead of that they can bring other clues to their attention while forming thoughts
This is a very good advice, to know to use your words in a way that tell to the world what is it that you want, is a good way to stop using things that doesn't apply to that.
I wish there were more professors like jordan peterson
Peterson describes Existential authenticity in the vein of Sartre and Kierkegaard. Leaning Kierkegaard. But definitely far more ground up and prescriptive than either manage to be (despite their tremendous efforts into the topic). In a way you can follow this advice without treading the tiniest existential waters.
From 'science' Ironically our human experience of 'individualistic' authenticity is very conditional with our external environment and achieving largely the same goal as others: Financial independence, good friends, moderate popularity, confidence in social situations, choosing to do the right thing with or without an audience, obtaining a partner, and not going against your personal highest context sensitive values, even when they appear irrational in a moment (say the benefits work against this decision aka you feel afraid).
Authenticity also has two general modes. A passive mode experienced almost as if a mood or continuous state which can be checked at any moment. And an active 'intervention' which can peak or drop in but typically does at value defining moments where you are positioned with a difficult choice. (cognitive dissonance literature is an extremely interesting connection here that has yet to be made in large strides)
The second comes as if your awareness intervenes in your daily living due to some circumstance or event which you must successfully resolve with respect to your internal states. The passive state is continuous, operates on a tragectory and is the result of our relative state of affairs. But it is with our general attentiveness and awareness of our personal issues whatever they may be at the time. It is extremely highly correlated with our wellbeing, higher than every other psychological factor other than hope.
Active intervention states are strong authenticity anchors and help to define our values. Interestingly authenticity has very little to do with conformity.
Academic authenticity (which is very explicitly what peterson is talking about with awareness of 'whose words' those belong to) is correlated with wellbeing but less so than general authenticity, and it is correlated with higher awareness (which should be self evident). Academic authenticity is correlated with lower alcohol consumption and binge drinking. Interestingly.
Overall this is what we do know about authenticity. There are some big 5 correlations, like with conscientiousness, openness and against neuroticism. However, they are marginal. And there is a gentle association with higher IQ.
In some cases authenticity is associated with high levels of short term anxiety and even negative affect. But always with higher long term well being.
biggest problem with authenticity (psychologically) is its root in ego based literature today. Rogers, Ericksons, Freuds, and its drawing on existential literature outside of Frankl. Frankl suggested man's freedom comes when he abandons himself, when he forgets himself. And flow literature largely supports this (for private matters). SDT largely confirms this for social and achievement matters. And if Ericksons theory can be reconceptualized to discuss developmental goals which result in higher levels of wellbeing and authenticity (due to the relationships) then which ericksons conceptualization broadly supports.
There is a new branch looking at 'broader ego' theories which incorporate 'self abandonment'. A tremendously difficult task given that a lot of the pleasure and corrective benefit of authenticity comes from self reflection.
Authenticity is extremely complex, it is my masters study. Peterson does a fantastic job of providing a technique you can use to get honest reflection and genuinely develop an academically honest self awareness (which is pretty important to developing a more broad authenticity). His concept of 'words which make you weak' is what inuathenticity represents and does to you. And his use of terms is exact to the nature of the discourse, and even somewhat to the physiology, which every meaningful psychological experience is expressed as. no matter your values, the words which make you weak do not represent you (and later as you become more aware, they simply cannot represent you without your permission). Fantastic advice. This can really help you nourish your own beliefs and avoid being controlled too much by others ideas. (It is not entirely wrong to be controlled by others ideas, but they should have your permission first).
Incredibly fascinating and valuable. Thank you for writing and sharing this.
The problem is that there are people who hammer it down.
Wow, I love this
Thank you
In Soviet Russia you don't have ideas, ideas have you.
Incredible
Easy said then done. I’d lose my job if I’d tell people what I thought or believed. People have to be mostly half fake, if they don’t like confrontation, like views on politics etc.
ofcourse but u only live once, why live your life being fake?
@@JA1DN7You’d lose your job with the woke mob
@@eddyk2016 yeah but the universe will reward you for staying you no matter the circumstances.
and maybe even bless you with a better job then before
@@JA1DN7The universe doesn’t care about you. My pal at work’s mother was a devout Christian. All her life spent helping people and feeding animals, stray dogs, cats, foxes. What happened, what was her reward! ~ she died in agony (cancer)
Don’t give me those rubbish bags about “the universe”
The only way I can be authentic again is to go back and become an embryo. Everything is learned from ideas of others that came before you did.
Anyone know where can i find books or further material on this topic?
He's written some books but idk if they have to do with how to be your genuine self
Looking at ideas presented doesn't make original thought. I asked a lecturer what the countries around the one being discussed thought of the country, and received a blank stare.
Nine people who watched this short quip of one of Peterson's lectures actually likes being inauthentic, writes in cliches, and 95 percent of what they say actually has nothing to do with what they believe?
But If I’m quite before I speak it’s going to be more likely unoriginal thoughts that’ll come out when I speak. Isn’t better to blurt out your words rather than ponder?
He didn't say to ponder the words. He said to say them, and feel what feels authentic
What if your own idea is an accumulation of other ideas that brought forth an original idea?
That's basically how everything came to be.
You learn things/ideas and eventually it swirls around in your head until something original emerges.
Just don't stand on something you haven't personally developed and gotten familiar with.
That's authentic
The irony here...is the JBP explicitly said (don't remember where...in one of his lectures) that there is no such thing as emotional intelligence. And yet...here he is advocating the application of exactly that (emotional intelligence) to 'weed-out' (adjudicate...IOW) whether a particular thought makes you weak or strong.
Well most people are other people.
'With our eyes'? Don't we pay attention with our minds?
In today's world, I would say no. I heard a man say that today we think with our feelings, and we look at the world with the eyes devoid of a conscience rather than looking through the eyes with a conscience (paraphrased). It seems to me that this is true (unfortunately).
Well yes, but the eyes are the primary sense organ involved with that.
Step 1: Don't be fake.
There. Done. The end.
That's like giving someone a tutorial on how to fix a computer and saying: "step 1. Fix it. There, done, the end."
My life is so much better with this advice🙄
@@SteffanPhoenix glad i could help you. for more blatantly obvious truths that people should be ashamed for not knowing, please see google.
Try really, really hard.
WOW! jp has lost so much weight since this was filmed
parity bit 0 his daughter changed his diet to fix a autoimmune disorder he has.
Terrifying
His beard 😥
he's just repeating what Foucault said...
Lol nope, Foucault believes that all constraint and influence is inauthentic, because he's a bullshitter who doesn't realize rebelling against everything is just as inauthentic as accepting everything
Gibberish at best!!
Am I the only one who thinks he gained some weight.
But he also put lots of weight in this topic, very well explained.
Seriously you have to be told how to be authentic!!! We are in trouble. Just have the courage to be YOU!!!!, and that the whole gamut of behaviours integral to you and quite possibly many other if not all people...
Hm.. in that case I will have to be silent for 2 weels
Here's my contribution - a song I wrote called 'I think I'll be Me'. Enjoy: ruclips.net/video/2kmPHHCeERQ/видео.html
Instructions to be authentic, wtf?!?!
It's not instructions, it's an idea, that you can try, and see if it works.
Yeah yeah why don’t you tell the truth about Israel??
Yea that’ll work out well for him. The media is in the process of digging up any bit of dirt possible to try and destroy him. You think he should just give them ammo?
Imu Lippo Peterson is a Jew? Proof?
Peterson is not a Jew.