After having watched a couple of videos of him here, I can confidently say that this guy is LEGIT!! His advice is very relevant and applicable to both men and women equally. I also like how he goes straight to the point with whatever he has to say🎯. I'm gonna keep listening.
So true. “Be blank but polite so that you can study him.” I do this all the time, give men space to be himself and I just observe and the answers are always there.
I have become regular here. Learning each day. Now i know mistakes i have made before. Narcissistic people suffocate you within the 1st week of dating..
I went on a date with a young man. He knew I have a vehicle the first time we met. We met at the restaurant, but for the rest of the date I parked my car and rode with him in his car to the next location.
Here representing the "self contained" women 🙋🏻♀️ with no apologies. Men should be confident enough to accommodate accomplished women who are go getters but also be ambitious in their own selves. Not trying to downgrade the woman a.k.a #enemiesofprogress 😒
Maybe this man will be an answer to African countries, cause the mindset of most African men are so limited and they are so self-centered, power eager, stereotypes, selfish autocratic etc.
I really enjoy what I learn from these conversations! I even love it when you switch to Swahili, it reminds me of the power of being African, our languages are so beautiful. I personally don’t understand Swahili but I feel like I understand 🤣 when you talk, I make up my understanding as I go along!
12:24-12:25 When you want to know what a man wants, don't describe what you want yourself. Sound advice! Steve Harvey said something similar on his talk show. You have to observe the man to see what his true character is.
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2347049035529) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you........
I used to feel bad when I turned down short guys. I'm relatively tall as a lady so I've always wanted someone taller than me so thank you Zulu for not making me feel bad about this.
My dear dont ever feel bad cos men dont feel bad about whatever they prefer in women, whether it is a particular complexion, breast size, bum size etc 😂😂 1,65 meter which is not short and also not so tall but I want to be able to wear heels and still not look down on a man.
Im so happy listening to this topic, cause my husband left me when i started making money and we went for counselling but his response was he want a divorce cause everything is done by my wife , the councillor from Zambia asked him did your wife ever say bad things about you he replied he just feel that way. Remember most women have higher positions then men now in Africa ! Please men of Africa accept us.
Wow. I am immensely impressed by Benjamin. He is life smart and manages to deliver serious psychological truths with a sense of humour. I need to binge watch his other interviews.
Love the hair Joyce! Yasssss!!! On the topic though, be very aware of narcissists and sociopaths! Insecurity hubs. Loving the conversation... more English please for your audience in England 🙏🏾
Im first listening here, I'm learning a lot thank you, please translate down with English when you speak your language so we can understand everything please thanx, Benjamin Zulu and everyone thank You
minute 26 ....Once i bought a seat for my house and this guy i was with had the guts to ask where i got the mney from....I was like dude, first of all im a banker...i got a job why would you think i cant afford a seat,,,,that was the end of us man,,,,i felt so controlled so insulted.
Swahili is National, Regional and the largest native single use Language in Africa. Emphasizing in swahili really drills it in. Good job Mrs Wahiga and Mr Zulu.
I like this man, very informative video. But I could not understand half of the interview. I wish he had stayed with English and made another video in his language. He has a lot of important information to share but make it easy to understand. Thanks again fir your video keep up the good work
This is dooope meeeen!How was i so blind that i couldn't see this channel long ago.Anyways, it isn't late at all,infact the right time to learn.Thank you for this lessons.
Luv watching Benjamin Zulu talks..pls for those of us DAT r not south Africans..we can't understand what you guys r saying when you switch to your language..luv your program tho
I stumbled on this page and I love Dr. Benjamin and Joyce you guys are amazing. i am totally hooked. Please I am Nigerian, can you guys interpret your language in English so that I can flow very well. thank you so much.
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This is still a very valid discussion now as it was earlier in the year. Thank you Joyce
I think I need help,my man says I have mood swing how to deal with them.
Please can we have subtitles when you speak in your language. I enjoy your shows bt get lost when you switch to your language. Im Zimbabwean.
please speak english throughout or at least put subtitles
Please can you speak English please? Or please you can add a subtitle please. This is your Nigerian fan Benjamin Zulu
My answer is date with a purpose. Your relationship with God will define which partner you have.
100%true so true
I agree.
Well said
So true
Spot on!
This man is so hilarious yet so wise. I could listen to him all day.
Insecurities when a man tracks you and where you are going. And when they judge how you are looking. Woooza
He's right ladies .... Do not tell a man what you want in a man.
Wow
After having watched a couple of videos of him here, I can confidently say that this guy is LEGIT!! His advice is very relevant and applicable to both men and women equally. I also like how he goes straight to the point with whatever he has to say🎯. I'm gonna keep listening.
Just started let me hear what he got to say
Good girls are not flattered by your achievements.😊
we look for character and integrity.
2021 ..you said it.. 😍😍😍😍
Well no that's wrong achievement is what makes men attractive because high status means He will be able to provide for the family
True
Yes money we make it ourselves, for more than two decade I HV done it
Unfortunately character and integrity alone don’t pay the bills
"True love is jealous but not possessive" good one indeed 👍👌
I disovered this channel recently and have been binge watching. I am loving Benjamin's teachings.
Me too
Me too😭😹
Me as well
Don't give exclusivity to a man who hasn't earned it.Well taken in.
Really inspired to start my own RUclips Channel:)
Christian hypergamy
Good advise i like it
Hope you do!
As a man, I am motivated to be the best version of myself for myself and for my queens.
Wooow "true love is jealous but not possessive" I love it
Ati we have learned fools😂😂 this man has wisdom
So true. “Be blank but polite so that you can study him.” I do this all the time, give men space to be himself and I just observe and the answers are always there.
I have been listening to advise about relationship from foreigners I am glad finally we have sharp mind in Kenya. I thank God for you sir, keep going.
Hi loice
Same
Same,
We have all, only we need to be confident with our talents and he is ...
Hope it's not Kevin Samuel
A driven man looks for a driven woman..
Full of energy in this discussion
AND THAT IS WHY WOMEN ARE ADVISED NOT TO SLEEP WITH MEN UNTIL THEY GET MARRIED.
💯💯
I agree
This is a terrible idea
@@Austin_ka why do you say it is a terrible idea?
@@trishtrish2349 How can you tell if you are sexually compatible to your partner? Sometimes its either you are compatible or not.
When a guy asks me what I'm looking for in a man my answer is "he should be who he is"
Great answer👍🏽
Short and sweet
Mines I will know when I see it
Next time tell him you will know him when you find him.period
luv u
I have become regular here. Learning each day. Now i know mistakes i have made before. Narcissistic people suffocate you within the 1st week of dating..
@Sabina Moraa sorry my dia
Ugandan here too
Benjamin is just too obsessive
Cant stop watching, he is someone really inspiring and awareness awakening.
Obsessive or Addictive?
@@KenyanAtHeart I think its obsessive
Addiction not exactly
Tsup Peris
I went on a date with a young man. He knew I have a vehicle the first time we met. We met at the restaurant, but for the rest of the date I parked my car and rode with him in his car to the next location.
Here representing the "self contained" women 🙋🏻♀️ with no apologies. Men should be confident enough to accommodate accomplished women who are go getters but also be ambitious in their own selves. Not trying to downgrade the woman a.k.a #enemiesofprogress 😒
Maybe this man will be an answer to African countries, cause the mindset of most African men are so limited and they are so self-centered, power eager, stereotypes, selfish autocratic etc.
Wah, Kali Ms Kanyi, am raising my daughter to be a bit self contained. This life you never know.
been this unapologetic self contained women. i got married to a man who tried to change who i am n downgrade me, i had to drop his sorry ass
I guess according to you women are perfect and changing needs to happen to men only and you call us selfish nkt!! Education needs to happen to both
Your sense of humour kills me Benjamin. Anyway may God bless you for your teachings.
Joyce,, I just love how calm you are always. Baraka
I really enjoy what I learn from these conversations! I even love it when you switch to Swahili, it reminds me of the power of being African, our languages are so beautiful. I personally don’t understand Swahili but I feel like I understand 🤣 when you talk, I make up my understanding as I go along!
Swahili is so beautiful
Me too 🤣🤣🤣 I'm even willing to learn Swahili through RUclips tutorials
12:24-12:25 When you want to know what a man wants, don't describe what you want yourself. Sound advice! Steve Harvey said something similar on his talk show. You have to observe the man to see what his true character is.
This is true ,it has always been my weakness
much love Benjamin from South Africa🇿🇦
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2347049035529) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you........
Here for the first time and I love Benjamin's advice, tips.. and Joyce's discussions. You are talking to the 40s too. Learning never ends
I used to feel bad when I turned down short guys. I'm relatively tall as a lady so I've always wanted someone taller than me so thank you Zulu for not making me feel bad about this.
My dear dont ever feel bad cos men dont feel bad about whatever they prefer in women, whether it is a particular complexion, breast size, bum size etc 😂😂 1,65 meter which is not short and also not so tall but I want to be able to wear heels and still not look down on a man.
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 yes o thank you ma. This so so true and I can totally relate.
Me I like tall girl ladies o. Where are you based in fine tall lady?
@@shodapad07 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Im so happy listening to this topic, cause my husband left me when i started making money and we went for counselling but his response was he want a divorce cause everything is done by my wife , the councillor from Zambia asked him did your wife ever say bad things about you he replied he just feel that way. Remember most women have higher positions then men now in Africa ! Please men of Africa accept us.
I can say that all people who have come a cross your teachings are so so blessed.....am blessed too 👍👍👍👍
Wisdom in this interview is priceless.
I've watched 3 interviews of Benjamin in a row. This man is very wise
Am literally watching every video I see his right now
Wow. I am immensely impressed by Benjamin. He is life smart and manages to deliver serious psychological truths with a sense of humour. I need to binge watch his other interviews.
I like this guy. Kenyan men describe a wife as a house help.
They are running mad,is there any parents that can raise a daughter to become a nanny,those men they need psychologists
All African men not only Kenyans
@@nakamijunic5844 not only Africans most men in saudi they have just allowed them to drive a car
Ag xem!!! That's more African men's small mind set.that's women abuse.
💯
Love the hair Joyce! Yasssss!!! On the topic though, be very aware of narcissists and sociopaths! Insecurity hubs.
Loving the conversation... more English please for your audience in England 🙏🏾
Zulu mentored me when was in form four and since then have liked the guy..Zulu we emea vau
U r very lucky
Ur lucky
Vau vau
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 “even on earth 🌍 you can’t tell who is for real , who is fake” Benjamin Zulu is here to keep it real. This been a fun show👍👍👍
Shine as the Noonday Sun Sir!!
You are brilliant!
May thy rising be evident to all and sundry!!
I love how they switch from English and Swahili even though I dont understand a word from the later.
I konw , we are in the same boat .
Me too
I can teach you
Wao wao..am lucky am not married but already 30 ..but i look young my body is small...i can now make the right decesions..bless joyce & zulu.
Could you please carry on the conversation in English. Non Swahili speakers are missing out on vital information. Much love.
Non English too might be missing😀😁
happy
happy
happy
You just voiced my thoughts
I am so in love with Benjamin Zulu,I am glad I found you just when am preparing for this journey may God bless you and continue giving you wisdom.
Everything he speaks i feel boom i have done every mistake 😂😂😂🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 not too bad i am just 21years
Ain’t you lucky!
M nw obsessed about watching yo interviews....Mr Benjamin....great advicer....love frm Zimbabwe🇿🇼
I can listen to this man all day
Joyce, how are you not rolling on the floor laughing....😂😂
I wonder ,the way this man is funny and wise😄😄😄😄😄
Benjamin is everything I swear🤣🤣🤣🤣 thanks Joyce en Zulu for ths educative topic
Them: what do you love doing while free,
Me: i Listen and repeat all Benjamin zulu's Convos period.
This man is wise
I love this man 😂 he’s so right I’ve been single so long I don’t know if I can need a man. I want one though.
Sister girl I'm joining your table 😂😂😂 This man spilled truth
Give it a chance.
Wondering where how n when will get one whom we understand each other
@@TheRelaxationZone1 me too am joining 😆😆😆
Me too
Waaa nilikua wapi mwanzoni..it's just today..by it's realities.. thanks brother Benjamin na wasikilizaji
I love what you are saying, brimming with wisdom and sound advice, THANK YOU!!!
😍
This man says it as it is! I love it
I love this guy for free, he is so real.
I like this man already...
I am from Zimbabwe, I looooove this show. But I feel I loose a lot of important information when you switch from English 😭😭😭
Taura hako
Me too we need translation really
Im first listening here, I'm learning a lot thank you, please translate down with English when you speak your language so we can understand everything please thanx, Benjamin Zulu and everyone thank You
Wow!! This guy is really enlightened he talks with a lot of Zeal and he totally makes sense.
When did relationship discussions become this interesting and fun. Lol Benjamin Zulu.
I need this guy as my mentor 😩❤️😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂uuuh! This man though! My ribs are not safe right now
Am so getting inspired, am glad I came across this, Benjamin you're so right, thank you for this!
New sub ..I can’t get enough of Benjamin
🤣🤣🤣🤣very educational and funny!! I can hear Mr Zulu for hours and hours....👍👍
My goodness listening to Benjamin is like therapy for me..thanks sooo much for this program and your expertise in relationships.
This man's saying is very effective.
Men i love this man. He needs his own channel
He sure does
Wow Benjamin Zulu, good job. i will never forget the first day i met you and the time you took me to a mission in kitui. Good job bro. KUDOS
I wish I watched this like two years back. Thanks Benjamin .
Submission does not mean weak 👌👌👌
I used to dislike Benjamin but my opinion changed after a heartbreak and I realized what he was saying was right. I was just blinded ...
This guy comes on kwitu usa so funny ... singles like me lets listen...This guy is so hilarious napenda wewe bure 😂
Wah,I just discovered this guy😂😂😂. Hee! He is so practical and (funny as hell) yet has great insights.
@Benjamin.... honestly......I need your prophesional services.....@Achiengjael72@gmail.co.ke!.... Please reach out!
You should watch man kush as well.. He's just as hilarious yet wise
minute 26 ....Once i bought a seat for my house and this guy i was with had the guts to ask where i got the mney from....I was like dude, first of all im a banker...i got a job why would you think i cant afford a seat,,,,that was the end of us man,,,,i felt so controlled so insulted.
He was projecting his brokenness by your financial progression
You did well
🤣🤣🤣 this Zulu is so hilarious and too real!I love it!
Gatta love this talk.. Wow.. Wish I knew this 20 years ago🤔It is well. Thank you Benjamin 🙏
Eti 70% is the Best you can get in this WORLD. Very TRUE 🤣😂
😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃
Hahaa...I can't stop laughing...
Everytime I come to RUclips I must watch benjamin speak...pure wisdom.
Swahili is National, Regional and the largest native single use Language in Africa.
Emphasizing in swahili really drills it in. Good job Mrs Wahiga and Mr Zulu.
But some of us dont understand the language.
@@sedemejersonvlogs I think they think to understand that this show is international
I just love this show. Thank u Benjamin...so much truth here!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾
"date a person who fulfills your appetite" Wow
I love listening to Benjamin Zulu. A valuable message to all, humorous too!
He's is so refreshing!
I like this kid of talk, this is gorgeous, thanks for being not selfish🤗be blessed guys🇳🇦 from Namibia.
I like this man, very informative video. But I could not understand half of the interview. I wish he had stayed with English and made another video in his language. He has a lot of important information to share but make it easy to understand. Thanks again fir your video keep up the good work
Mercy Uganda this guys speaks reality
This is dooope meeeen!How was i so blind that i couldn't see this channel long ago.Anyways, it isn't late at all,infact the right time to learn.Thank you for this lessons.
Eeeish very knowledgeable, I really feel wow. Wise words to us
Hello!! Mr Zulu, I didn't know that God, Could lift you this way, Wonderful........, Man of God, Glory to God, for such a Wisdom
Hello guys...I am Lucia Mhango
from Malawi since I started watching this channel my mind set change
Ladys don't switch off your dignity!
I should HV learnt to listen to you like immediately I was a teen.nevertheless its never too late!
Hahaha haky benja aty kuja NA Bible kwa date.. Haky mbavu zangu.. Mbona siku kujua kitambo.. Am flowing mazee... Love u🤣🤣🤣
I have just discovered these videos and am loving this ...this man is speaking truths ...please add interpretation to the Swahili bits x
there things you can't say in English and even when translated they lose their meaning
sorry for that
say it again , there r a lot of narcissist looking for women they can control . its very frightening.
Zulu is just making me feel like I'm still human "introverts chat better than having physical conversations". I used to think I have a problem.
Me too 😉😉
Luv watching Benjamin Zulu talks..pls for those of us DAT r not south Africans..we can't understand what you guys r saying when you switch to your language..luv your program tho
I stumbled on this page and I love Dr. Benjamin and Joyce you guys are amazing. i am totally hooked. Please I am Nigerian, can you guys interpret your language in English so that I can flow very well. thank you so much.
Zulu: I'm ready for 2020
Corona virus: hold my glass
Lol... Was he really ready... If only he knew what was ahead of us
😂
I was looking for that
He is still ready lol
Wow... Good point,my goodness am glad to be here❤ God bless you guys
Avoid open ended relationships.Point taken.
Ask him "where were you five years ago". Good one