The Chronically Online Generation - Over Sharing is Bad
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With the invention of the internet, phones with cameras, and data plans - everyone has the ability to share every aspect of their lives. Nowadays people are going overboard with trying to make it big on social media by posting literally everything they do. From day in my life videos, the shenanigans they get up to at work, even down to things that would get lawyers involved. Everyone wants a piece of that sponsor money pie from brand deals and internet clout. What happened to secrets and keeping your personal life private? No one’s going outside anymore to experience the real world - and all their coherent thoughts are coming from bad Twitter takes and Reddit forums. Tiktok and Instagram are creating a new breed of content creators that think publishing one's life story for strangers to see is a totally normal thing to do. Back in the day, we would share things with 3 to 6 people max. The Chronically Online Generation - Over Sharing is Bad #edvasian 
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Honestly one of my worst fears is being filmed against my will to be made fun of on the internet. It destroys lives :(
Yeah, the advent of "cringe compilations" for people doing things that aren't even that cringey, but were just caught in the wrong place at the wrong time for someone to randomly decide to film them against their will or without their consent for online clout has spiked my social anxiety.
I was 4 months pregnant at the beach and I realized I needed to put more money in the parking meter. As I was feeding the money in, a group of guys in a truck came up laughing and filming me. The one said I was a "10/10" (obviously being dumb. I'm pretty average with a big nose and my belly was a little bigger than normal.) I was very flustered and a little scared. I just muttered "thanks" will clutching my belly and turned away from them. Every time I think about it I feel a little sick. Who knows where that video went. I'm a pretty private person and having a video of me being sweaty, flustered, and pregnant out there is just... disgusting.
@@amberblack6908 christ I’m so sorry you went through that!!!!
Yeah. I especially worry about this at work, I work retail, cause what am I supposed to do if someone decides to film me there?
True.
My "ick" is seeing professionals mock the people they're supposed to be caring for.
Right. The only funny one was the baby daddy ick. The rest we’re about basic necessities…?
Professionals do not ought to like you even when they seem invested in you and smile all the time to get you feel ok, right? Especially when people they serve are clearly stupid.
@@sipliza6568ok nurse
@@sipliza6568 hopefully you never get a job on anything that requires you to directly interact with clients, and no one ask them to smile, we ask them to be fucking decently ethical professionals instead of whiny bullies with a degree
Ehhh… I complain about my job 🤷🏽♀️
Thinking about the therapist who complained on tiktok about her clients traumadumping as if it wasn’t her job
What??? I pay them so I can Trauma dump
Well… It also not technically Tramadumping, it’s getting therapy. tramadumping implies lying it on an unsuspecting person a mental health therapist isn’t that.
They definitely are in the wrong profession
I had a therapist who would not do trauma therapy with me and I had to do that with my psychiatrist instead. The therapist was nice otherwise but damn. I thought that was supposed to be part of the job.. Sorry your life has been so easy that it makes you uncomfortable to hear about someone who had it harder than you did..
What the fuck
@gingeralice3858 it's perfectly valid for a therapist to specialize in certain areas and not be comfortable doing others. people in a certain field don't have to do everything. also, just because she did not do that doesn't mean she had a better life than you. maybe she even had it worse and hearing trauma like that would have triggered her, so she can only do certain types of therapy. you simply don't know everyone's life story 🤷🏻♀️
Some people really treat the internet like their journal
That’s probably the best way of putting it
I literally just had this thought a few days ago. The internet used to an escape and now it’s a hellhole.
And? is theirs and their internet and etc or you pay their bills?
@@realbharbiexoxo For me, I have reservations bc a lot of people on the internet are very young and may not fully understand that when they post something on the Internet, it's there forever.
Indeed, a very public journal that everyone can see
Surgeons dancing on tik tok while doing surgery gives me anxiety.
My sister works in surgeries and she always says if it's not something life threatening they take turns putting on a playlist and have a little party while they do the surgery 💀
@@autumntbz1960 Isn't surgery and general anaesthesia in general life threatening? There's always the risk of complicaties and death with it.
@@plumdutchess I think it's because some surgeries are on a shorter time limit than others,, idk though I just hear little surgery stories when I see her 🤷
@@autumntbz1960 doctors does play music in the operation room bcs usually surgery takes really long hours irl but idk about dancing tho lol
@@plumdutchess yeah, but if it takes a while then some people might find it easier to do the job if they can play some music or whatever. I personally don’t mind that, but I also don’t think they should post about it on social media. They should be aware it could make patients feel uncomfortable to think about even if everything is technically safe and under control.
The internet has been around for quite some time now and we still for whatever reason refuse to educate young people on how not to use it.
I feel like they know how not to use it but to them the consequences are worth the possibility of "going viral".
@Lalogue hi! i am so seriously suggesting that you live somewhere rural where internet is not really around that much. no matter what you do, your child will find ways to get into things you dont let them have, and thats just the sad truth. there is no stopping it in this day and age. whether they work around any parent features you put on their devices or just use their friend's phones to get what they want, etc, they will probably find a way to.
Yeah, I almost wonder if they are taught and just ignore it. My school made it a point to let all the middle schoolers know that what they post online could wreck their job/higher education prospects.
No they get educated they just refuse to listen🙄🙄🙄
Tbh my generation did do cyber smart courses (the ones w the cringy cgi) and our parents did give the “be careful because of prospective jobs” talk but… they were largely ignored.
As a disabled person, if you see me struggling, please offer assistance if you feel able! I’m perfectly capable of saying “No, I’m okay, thanks for offering!” But I might really need help. The other day I was at the doctors surgery and an entire waiting room full of people watched me struggle on crutches with a stuck automatic door until I had to go get a member of staff to help me. Nobody owes me help, but please don’t think it’s rude to offer! Not all disabled people are born disabled, not everyone has had time to find ways to adapt. Especially in the case of degenerative illness, it’s not always possible to adapt fast enough, and for every disabled person who might be offended, there will be another that’s silently wishing someone would offer a hand.
It’s not offensive to be compassionate.
yes! 👏
Thats a really good shoutout, but unfortunately i live in a very macho french society. I've been yelled at by a disabled person for offering help, he started screaming profanities at me (a woman) for helping him with the door as he struggled to keep it open to go through 😮💨
I grew up with loving offering help and if i see someone struggled, i immediately help..but once a disabled person embarassing(making it look like i look down on her) me in front of everyone for offering help, i had to stop myself a lot of times to offer a help..unless they make eye contact with me and i do a gesture of do they need help and they give a nod, only then i would help..because of that one rude disabled person, i become scared to help anymore 😓
There was also an old person, when he made eye contact, i do a gesture if he needs help and he gave a small nod..once i got near him to help, he guilt tripped me for not helping sooner 😅 but if i help sooner, i always get rude comments that i look down on them etc
This is smth I experienced two days ago. It didn't happen to me but this old man with a cane was getting off the bus but had a hard time doing so, and he ended up asking someone for help. I thought that it may be rude to try to help him since you never know, even if they are visibly struggling. If I do have time from now on, I'll try my best to help people out, cause I have a big issue where I only go to where I need to be right before I have to 😅
The nurse ones made me mad. I had just given birth for the first time right before that tiktok blew up. I was in labor in the hospital for 3 days, uncomfortable, could barely eat, couldnt go pee by myself- my nurses for the most part were so kind to me. I cant imagine being in the situation i was and having those crappy nurses make fun of me online because i bled everywhere and wanted a shower or hadnt eaten in 24 hours and asked for a snack. Like wtf
@@amandak.4246 u’re definitely a nurse lol
@@amandak.4246 we should actively try to be a empathetic society instead of just ignoring shitty treatment,🤨
@@amandak.4246 venting to your coworkers is one thing but posting your complaints and being made fun of online is another
@@Slutfortea
I filled out a survey the last time that I was treated poorly by nurses (heard them gossiping at the nursing station about me, other Doctors* and patients-by name-violating HIPAA bc there are so many rooms within earshot of where they were) but as an old-head Gen X woman, I have a feeling that Zoomers wouldn't call my actions "empathetic". They would call it "being a Karen". The labels from Gen Z can be so hypocritical.🤷♀️
They need to be fired
The thing you said about the bullies becoming nurses is so spot on!
@Lalogue exactly, for patients is not everyday routine situation and anyone with half brain and a little empathy should understand that
I've worked as a nursing assistant for 8 years and can confirm that this happens. I've worked with some amazing nurses, but some people become nurses for the wrong reasons and have no compassion.
@@reloreo2899 I’m a nursing student. I’m concerned how some nursing students say somethings they’re not supposed to say on a group chat or on tik tok…. It’s very annoying 😒
@@hyunieee99 oof, felt the same way about my psychology program and what the students would say in discord chat even about the other students. So crass. Whatever happened to empathy. For a fricken psychology field of all fields! I left the program.
Yes! Also a lot of teachers are bitter people with a superiority complex. Some are nice of course, but lots of “former mean girls”
People are really getting too comfortable on social media 😭
fr 😭😭😭
I just saw a TikTok of someone recording themselves breaking up with their boyfriend today and in the comments part two was them recording themselves crying about it 😭 like whyyy did you feel the need to record all of this?!
@@casperlovely7301 people filming themselves crying is really getting out of hand 😶
Respect for privacy or the desire to maintain any personal privacy has been destroyed for the anyone born after 1990
@@casperlovely7301I feel like people like that go out of their way to ruin their lives just for a second of attention.
The employee that got fired from Starbucks and wasted all the product is only going to make things worse for all of their coworkers. And do they not realize that future employers can see that?? The complete lack of thinking things through baffles me
Yeah ! I know that getting fired suck but it's not a reason to be petty 🤦♀️ what if other companies see that video and choose to not employ him/"blacklist" him ? They're never gonna hire someone like him who throw a tanthrum and make a mess. And what is he gonna do if his (old) boss want to sue him for all the damage he has *purposefully* done ????
Yeah the company could literally sue him or at least charge what he wasted. They probably did. Such a stupid thing to to.
We love posting evidence of a crime.
Also, its just so horrifically wasteful. Also I'm pretty sure it could be considered a crime, I consider that to be property damage.
@@loftyradish6972 it is
My friend works at an advertising firm and their employee showed up two hours late to work and had posted a "get ready with me" that morning on TikTok that the whole office saw 💀💀💀💀💀 I'd die
So *that's* how they have time to post it! They don't. Interesting
Wow they couldn't film it on the weekend??
@@marybean2231 💀💀
Not gonna lie I seen some get ready with me vids showing they have 15 minutes to leave and they still recording 🤣 I'm like " how are you not focusing to get out the house " . My anxiety gets off the roof with some of them bc it felt it took long to get out the house 🤣🤣🤣
I always wonderd where they got the time
I think some of the oversharing online comes from many ppl feeling lonely in their everyday lives, the other half is attention seeking which can also derive from loneliness 🤔
I wonder how much the pandemic contributed to it tbh
I mean, a fair bit of it also came to be because of things like facebook where youre *encouraged* to overshare about your life. Theres a good overlap between those that grew up during the time when sharing every bit of personal information online was the new trendy thing, and the adults that now film themselves doing and saying everything. I could definitely see the nurses being from that generation. And then twitter and tumblr kinda making it cool to just say whatever is on your mind again for the younger people. The difference is just that you can hide your identity on twt/tumblr by choosing a random name and pfp, but you cant hide your identity on tiktok when you film your face, job position, and location. And I think a lot of young people forget that theyre not anonymous on tiktok like they are on the other platforms.. So I don't think its necessarily loneliness/attention seeking.. More so just that youre *encouraged* to overshare ?
I think its the contrary, the virality can also bring monetary compensation and 2 out of 3 cases you can see the disingenuousness. Also the problem comes from the companies online forcing us to merge the virtual and private self in the same space (specially worryingsome about pppl w underdeveloped frontal cortex)
It's also scary how much it's a multi generational problem. Like I'm not surprised by the kids that have literally been born into it and the ones that grew up with it but the grown ass adults, middle aged and older that also complain about said kids and how much better it was in the past without social media while posting is wild. Also so many parents that are obviously posting their kids for attention and to humiliate them for clout for themselves is really sad where as if their kid did the same they'd get their phone taken and be punished.
I think a lot of it stems from arrogance & the wanting to be special.
Oversharing can be harmful. Not all information are meant to be disseminated all around. The lack of personal space and autonomy these days are being widely talked about. Interesting topic. We look forward to seeing more.
I feel like there's a thin line between being relatable and educating people about the realities of mental health issues and such and oversharing.
Well said.
It's lack of boundaries & not respecting other people's.
@@snooganslestat2030i got called ableist (against autistics) for telling someone (who didn't say they were autistic) that they need to learn boundaries (they were telling someone they didn't know that based on her eye movements and speech patterns she should expect some kind of "neurodivergent diagnosis")
i'm autistic so… nice try i guess
@@snooganslestat2030so uh. watch out for that lol
A girl in my class shared news that her mom had cancer and she was struggling on social media. I asked her about it the next day and she got furious. "IT'S NON OF YOUR BUSINESS". wtf, so I can't ask about something that she shared with the whole world?
What reality stars do. The kardashians wanting "private time" after exposing themselves 24-7
imo, she has the right to say no and that she doesn't want to share the details of what's going on. But she def should have been nicer about it - it's reasonable to assume she might be okay with talking about it if she's sharing it online, so you asked her a reasonable question. She shouldn't have blown up about it imo
Lk those ppl who shout at you for "eavesdropping" when they're having a full blown conversation in the middle of a train on speakerphone at max volume shouting at the mic 😮💨smh
It could also be because she is lying. This is a large tell tale sign. Not saying she is, just that it's a possibility
Back when covid was a thing a friend of mines partner didnt want to get the shot because of a severe heart condition that she had and was recommended to not get one from her doctor. After several months of being denied for an exemption (causing her a lot of distress) she eventually got it because she didnt want to lose her job, and she then posted about it on facebook (after months of also posting on facebook about being very nervous of getting it).
About a week later her husband was at my place for beers and i asked him how she was doing and if she was ok considering how nervous she was about getting the jab. He had no clue what i was talking about and so i told him she posted on facebook about getting the jab. Turns out she had blocked her own husband from her facebook and had not told him at all. Shortly after he told her he knew because she posted it all over facebook, to which she then responded to making another post on facebook saying whoever told him needs to mind their own business and stop trying to interfere with her relationship. A bunch of people commented saying that whoever told him needs to get a life and all kinds of other nasty stuff. She still doesnt know it was me who mentioned it to him (out of concern for her mental state). Seriously who the hell blocks their own husband on facebook? Some people just are desperate to play the victim at any cost.
All these constant “oversharing” is perhaps a symptom of people craving validation because they want to feel they matter. Definitely an issue that everyone’s just escaping online. People would rather do the easy thing than the right thing. All of these are the symptoms of something deeper and worse.
Also its expensive to get therapy and in many places still stigmatised
@@elvingearmasterirma7241 exactly
People are feeling increasingly distant from each other, working miserable and meaningless jobs that barely pay enough and barely have the energy to maintain relationships. The internet makes connecting with other people easy, but it doesn't exactly allow for really deeper interactions and whatnot.
@Andrada 100%
@@suther5414you really think it’s to act important? I’ve done this out of a socially anxious fear of having eye contact with adults. It’s not that deep.
Those tiktok kids working at fast food joints are cringe but the nurses made me really disappointed on another level.
Kinda made me realise why I was so popular with patients when I was a janitor at the hospital.
i believe working in the medical field requires some sort of empathy too right? or i guess not
@@rhea776 expected but people just don't somehow. Same with customer (dis)service
@@kittenmimi5326 lots of customer service jobs ate incredibly hard and emotionally draining, so I wouldn't be surprised if those sensitive and empathic would drop out first.
So true soooooo strange the algorithm pushes those stupid Tik Toks…. Tik Tok should be banned trust me
If my girlfriend posted online that I didn't shower to humiliate me we'd be done! Even if we were married were done she needs to learn online boundaries
@Blue Plumbob then how in the fuck would he know….use your common sense.
There's something unhuman about frequently trash talking anyone to a bunch of strangers. Leave him or don't but don't get others involved.
It's like the equivalent of a parent complaining about their spouse to their child. A little maturity and social skills can't hurt.
@Blue Plumbob Even if it is anonymous, it's on the internet. At any point, someone you know might see it and recognize who's in the video. If she wanted him to fix his personal hygiene, she should've talked to him in person with no cameras. Imo, that's a violation of personal trust and a huge red flag. She didn't have to post it online.
@@crypticcorvid u mad over a man who prob smells like shit
Yeah quite literally. I ask my partner beforehand whether or not he is comfortable with me sharing things about us online. i don't have any social media besides RUclips, so I can only post about us on my WhatsApp story, but I only allow 3 people (my closest friends) out of all 75+ contacts I have to see them, and my partner knows them and is okay with saying a joke to them. I do get the need to share the happy moments, since the feelings may be so overwhelming that you just need to share to someone else as well how happy they make you feel, but I don't get oversharing the negative things. Those are only needed when you need a second opinion by someone you trust
As a super private person with terrible anxiety, the thought that a handful of idiots could just record me for funsies at any point, without my knowledge or consent, just really creeps me out.
FR it's so shameful that people think it's okay to film strangers. Even if it's for a 'good' reason people deserve the right to privacy! If they wanted the world to see them they'd film it themselves!
And it scares me that someone having the worst day of their life or suffering from mental illness can be posted online and then the whole world uses that short contextless video to judge them forever.
This has been one of my fears every time I go to festivals. There’s accounts that record attendees without their consent to make fun of them or take pictures of women because of how they’re dressed. It’s awful
I find it really disturbing when someone tries to psychoanalyze me for not being publicly online, like I must not really care about my friends or family or vacation because I didn't post a picture of it. It used to make me annoyed but now it just triggers the grandma in me being "do you actually measure happiness through how much people share online? are you doing okay, honey?"
Same here.
yes!! i get criticized for never posting on instagram. i currently have one post up and i remember asking friends to like and comment on it because i was worried it wouldn't get "enough" likes (and it hasn't. it's gotten like, 115. i can't even name 115 people, but the thought that i "only have 115 likes" makes me feel like i have no friends). the feelings putting up a single post gave me were emotionally exhausting.
🤔 I have no social media and ask people who take pics of me not to post on their social media. I do not understand the obsession with trying to create another reality.
I have a bunch of random private accounts with zero followers that I just use to store pictures and videos since I don't wanna pay for more storage on my phone. Other than that, I don't post pictures of myself on my social media and while I might talk about my issues, I've stopped documenting all my life on like. Instagram or something like when I was 13. I use those accounts purely for storage and nothing else, I have an account for my art or my interests or literally whatever I want where I post what I want and take breaks when I want. And I don't feel guilty for not being active all the time cause I have a life.
Honestly being less online has improved my mental state so much. Even with RUclips, I'll turn it off and just put on Spotify because I don't wanna hear whatever's going on in the world right now that I can't control. I feel so free like no. I don't have to let this glass rectangular prism control my life I can just not look at it.
@@rainingwhenidie you may have them set to private but social media companies have access & store all those pics. Even if you delete the accounts, those companies keep the last incarnation of your profile and can use it however they want - it's in the terms of service. Nothing is free, you're paying for it somehow. Better to just get an external hard drive and download to that.
A friend of mine defended those nurses, saying that they should get to complain about work like everyone else. The difference in this situation is these women are putting their lives in your hands, they are trusting you to help them through one of the most difficult times in their lives. The last thing they need to be thinking about is their nurse judging them when they are at their worst. And that’s putting aside that you are a healthcare professional and need to recognize WHY there are confidentiality rules in place. You might not have broken them, but you are missing the reason why they were created
Edit: I get that nurses and doctors are human too, and being able to express you problems are perfectly reasonable BUT like I said not on a huge public platform. I handle people’s confidential information in my job and yeah it’s not an awesome time, but I’m not going to go into detail about it online EVER. I don’t want anyone coming into my workplace nervous about being there more than they already are.
Conversations that were previously said after work during happy hour is now being posted online. People seem to be forgetting or unaware that companies and organizations are now including social media clauses in their contracts and employee handbooks.
I hope these dumb nurses lose their job... Being at the hospital for whatever reason is already hard enough without adding a mountain of trust issues about the staff that are paid and supposed to take care of you. Doctors fucking around while they're supposed to be doing a surgery on you that can potentially cost you your life... I don't even want to live on this planet anymore. It's just awful.
@@ariesmry Yeah helps to read that lol.
So many people don't read the terms of their employment. I signed a contract that promised at least 13 hours of work a week and one week they didn't give me enough, I was like the only employee who knew that was in the contract.
Why the fuck did no one else know that? The manager said "Yeah well most of our staff aren't getting 13 hours of work a week". I said "You breaking contractual obligations to the other staff members doesn't make the situation better, it makes it worse".
@@silverstorm1000 damn you go girl/man. Put your foot down and be smart about it
They have every right to vent but they really shouldnt have turned it into a tiktok
One thing I hate about this over-sharing trend is that it makes us people who don't use social media look like weirdos. Somehow people get suspicious of you like you have something bad to hide about your life if you don't have an instagram, twitter, facebook, etc.
Or when people go a few days or weeks without posting something, people automatically assume the worst.
Last year I talked over a phone to a colleague from a company I left a few months earlier. He said that he tried to search me on Facebook but couldn't find me, so my profile must be hidden somehow. I don't have any social media except YT, that is the only platform that is giving me any value on a daily basis. I'm 40 and my colleague is a little over 25. He just assumed that I have to have FB profile, it did not occur to him that someone may just NOT have a thing like that.
Bruh, I'm 24 and people around me look at me as if I'm joking when I said I don't have Instagram or Twitter, or tiktok I don't even post anything on Facebook where most of the people I know are active. Either they'd laugh or look at me with pity..... Guess I'm the weirdo then
Really? I'm in my late twenties and haven't used social media (unless leaving dumb RUclips comments anonymously counts??) since I was 18 on tumblr. Nobody irl judges me for not having social media accounts. I'm kinda a quirky person, though, so maybe people just accept it as part of my weirdness. I have a friend who is 50 that told me to get a Facebook just so I can see when local LGBT events happen, but that's about it. But yeah, most of my friends just accept that they have to text or call me if they want to connect and it's not a big deal. Maybe you're a teenager, though. If you are, don't worry about it. Most people mellow out in their mid 20s and stop caring about stuff like that.
@@pinkdarkboy7127 Similar situation and nobody judges me either, but they do mention that getting in touch with me is somewhat inconvenient (even when calling and/or texting still exists). Not that related, but also i feel like it’s getting increasingly harder to live in the modern society without social medias. Especially in this age with facilities that are rendered inaccessible without having it
My 96 yearold Grandpa calls my phone a "little computer" As precious as it is, it really shows the generational change
to be fair, it basically is a mini computer plus more features.
As a GenXer, that's how I look at it. I marvel constantly at the fact that I can watch someone's face via video, while chatting with others, all while THEY watch something else like a football game during livestreams. When I was a kid, we had 3 tv channels that my dad would tune by climbing to the roof to fix the antenna! Holding Charlie (moistcr1tickal) in the *palm of my hand* literally feels like living in the future!!😳
@@liben5052 "plus more features" lmao
It is a mini computer. You can technically attach your phone to a screen and keyboard and have it work
He's not wrong. Smart phones are basically mini computers.
THE SURGEONS DOING A TIKTOK DANCE WITH SOMEONE'S UNCONSCIOUS BODY BEHIND THEM 💀💀💀
That's wild af
I'm not surprised. People are out here selling Native American spines through tiktok too.
@@ArtisanAsteroid I swear there was a person who exploited native communities, I forgot what country though. But they exploited them into giving them a child spine to make a handbag with. What a disgusting person.
it was from an snl skit
Pretty sure that’s not real, you aren’t even allowed into surgical suites without being fully gowned, I’m pretty sure.
Every time I see someone commit that kind of buffoonery online, I always get reminded of this Jurassic Park quote: “Your scientists were so preoccupied with whether or not they could, they didn't stop to think if they should." I need folks online to think about this quote before they show their ass…
No dice. They only watched Jurassic World where big dinosaur go brrrr
Honestly Gen Z and boomers have different values but the same sense of entitlement. They are just starting to run into the boundaries of the outside world and are offended when they realize they aren’t untouchable
YUP!!
This is BS, we have been setting boundaries but the times were different. I had my jobtraing 15 years ago and that was when you had to send many applications to get a job and the companies knew that they would find someone else easily. Our weapon was knowing what we had to do and what they couldn't demand without serious consequences for them. But as someone who has a family: sometimes you have to choose if you want to keep a job that you don't like very much to provide for yourself and your family or do what you want. Keep in mind a lot changed in your favor because it was us who set more and more boundaries despite facing consequences you don't have to fear anymore. You're welcome.
@@juliawacker tldr, but thank u anyway, A- for the effort. ⭐️
@@juliawacker soooo what was your point here
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Last week my sister got super mad at me for suggesting her friend shouldn't post her underage clubbing on her public instagram. She insisted that nobody who was looking at her instagram would care - but that isn't the point. The point is that somebody who cares (i.e. potential jobs, colleges) COULD go looking, and the won't like what they see. I'm less concerned about her going out when she's only 17, as long as she has somebody responsible with her, than I am about the consequences of her posting that online. I'm only a few years older than my sister, but I wasn't a teenager when TikTok started to get popular, and I deleted it as soon as I realised I was spending more than an hour at a time on it - while she still is a teenager, and has spent the past three years fully submerged in that online culture. I think that divide really shows the mindset that TikTok has been cultivating.
my mom had zero problem catching my younger brother who was blatantly selling weed on instagram - your sister's friend's parents are going to find out.
I think that the most dangerous outcome is not the disappointed HR, but potential creeps seeing an underage girl in a place/state (e. g. drunk) where it is easy to take advantage of her...
I recently heard about a case where 3 girls posted about their alcohol tolerance, this devil saw that video and made those girls drink past their limits and tried to assault them. That guy was within their social circle so the naive girls trusted him, thankfully this other dude saved them.
Tik tok is a cult now and I firmly believe it lmaoo (just kidding.. or am i? 👀) But seriously tho, that's kinda sad and scary
And the thing is, they might not care now. She may already have a job, idk. But getting a career? Yeah, that'll be an issue. I once found a 16 year old at my old job holding alcohol on social media. Not an issue now, but it really doesn't take much talent or skill to sift through people's online presence to find dirt or anything.
I downloaded Twitter for a few days and deleted it, because I was attacked with the most vitriolic BS because I liked a movie. I've since deleted all forms of social media (with the exception of RUclips). The chokehold social media has on society is insane, I'm genuinely afraid for my generation.
geez, what movie was it? :/
@@ezrey127 I'm a horror fan, and I specifically made my Twitter account to interact and share my artwork with the cast/crew of a slasher film called Terrifier 2. I was attacked by people who called me a psycho, a "future serial killer," and much, much worse (the p word, the r word, etc.). They also attacked my appearance and the fact that I'm gay, simply because I enjoyed the film. Accounts with MAJOR followings shared my posts and attacked me publicly, it was a whole big thing. My anxiety was amplified to the point of panic attacks, so I deleted Twitter within just a couple of days :/
@@donnybuoy
omg that’s awful! i’m honestly really glad i never downloaded twitter and good thing you deleted it and other social medias, hope you’re doing better now☺️
Bruh, I barely use Twitter, but during the pandemic I asked to the Coca-Cola account if they would continue doing the caffeine free version. I forgot about it, and month after, I had responses of people accusing me of supporting this terrible company based on capitalism and what not. I was acussed of many things. Bruh, I just wanted caffeine free cola😭
@@vickyoli I have to laugh when people online criticize others for "contributing to capitalism" as they make those accusations from their cell phones 💀 That's so wildddd! Twitter is genuinely such a scary place, lmao.
As a nurse i can confirm that there are so many horrible people who are nurses, but you know we need every pair of hands we can get so the healthcare system doesn‘t really mind 🥴
I don't understand why though because nursing isn't easy? Even nursing school is like a nightmare it's hard to imagine someone going through all that effort just to get a job they hate? And where I live nurses don't even make a ton of money so even that doesn't make sense. (I'm in a medical city, like Mayo clinic territory)
@@snailart9214 i don‘t know either tbh. Studying was very hard and during practical training, the other nurses were so mean sometimes i thought about quitting several times. I pursued nursing bc i love helping people and it makes me happy when people tell you they are thankful for your service and being able to see that you could help them with your services. Idk why so many narcisstic and/or non empathetic people go through the hard training and accept the poor working conditions just to bully other nurses and/or patients.
@@NightmaresWonderland it's because a lot of people pursue jobs that they know will get them social respect and will put them in a position of power over others. They use the job to feed their ego and maintain their delusions of grandeur.
You see this especially often, and incredibly concerningly, amongst PSWs who work with old people and disabled people who can't self advocate. They love the feeling of power that they get from knowing another person relies on them and is vulnerable. Even if they don't abuse that power dynamic, some get off on just knowing that they could.
There's also a lot of people who go into careers like nursing just because that's what their family expects from them and not because they actually care about the job.
Plus there's the empathy burnout which just makes any disregard/disrespect that they already had for patients multiple times worse
@@snailart9214
I think it's the (relatively) low barrier to entry, and the prestige of saying 'nurse' rather than 'waitress' or something else.
It's not easy, but it's easier than becoming a doctor, and it pays better than a low-wage job.
Basically it's the safe option that a lot of girls who never matured out of their high school phase take.
@@LancesArmorStriking Low bar? Tell me you know nothing about nursing with out telling me. We are talking about can the folks that change bed pans and bed sheets and got a certification we are talking about people who spend years in school to get a degree and then pass exceptionally challenging examines just to be able to work as a nurse. Nevermind the one that go back for more education to get advanced degrees in nursing. Nothing about that is a low bar.
For me the most concerning part about the oversharing trend is that it creates an illusion that unless you are a 100% honest about every aspect of your life, you are somehow "bad" or "problematic". People should not have to share sensitive information like health or financial information to be taken seriously by people. Sure if you are not actively making money off of something or impacting other people's lives through your actions, you really should not be expected to tell people your entire life story for no reason.
Excellent point. No one is entitled to private experiences of other people.
Yes this!!! I’ve been struggling with this in my own life. You’re seen as a liar and sneaky if you don’t over share and tell your entire life story for their amusement. If you practice tact in any form you’re a liar 🙄
And sometimes even when someone is making money, it's harmful to push for information. How many actors have been pushed to out themselves prematurely because they played a queer character on film? It's especially shitty when it happens to young people, like that actor from Heartbreaker.
@@Alex-fc8xn oh, I wasn't referring to actors! While I think that actors in some sense have signed up to live in the public light, I hate the Twitter mobs that go after actors (especially young actors) and force them to reveal extremely private information like their sexuality. I have always hated how people are so morbidly curious about the private life of actors. I definitely think it should be brought to the public's attention if they are engaging in illegal activities but things like their romantic relationships or sexuality should not be dug into.
Yup... There's a trend now calling you a fake profile if your info isn't public. People nowadays get validation from the number of likes they get and feel superior just because of that, even if they're talking shite.
I heard those nurses that did those “ick” videos in Georgia all got fired. Sad we have nurses that don’t want to do their job and comfort a mother in labor.
Source? I’d love to hear that!
@@straberryshinigami15g97 I saw it on a video recently, don’t remember where. You can google it, I think it was in Atlanta. It was the patient that recognized her nurse who had a bad attitude, so she reported it to the hospital management about these ick videos. It was 4 nurses total from one hospital that did these.
Yeah. Very stupid of them.
That's good for them. Maybe they'll learn a lesson.
So embarrassing to publicly humiliate your partner, nothing erodes trust in a relationship more than talking down or badly about someone you supposedly love PUBLICLY in front of everyone. Such facepalm and lack of respect I'm utterly disgusted. Build your partner up instead of tearing them down smh
Exactly! Not to mention that just showering with water is perfectly fine. Every decent dermatologist will tell you that. Soap is not making your body that much cleaner but it is usually going to also kill all the good bacteria on your skin that you need. So you should only use soap in the armpit and groin area but depending on how often you shower daily soaping is usually not needed.
@@ducklingscap897 😕
@@a1ntcry1noveruyou aren’t supposed to shower if you don’t sweat. It’s actually bad for your skin’s.
If you stay inside all day you don’t need soap. if you don’t work out you don’t need soap. Thats why many people shower every other day or every three days in winter.
Soap dries out your skin if you use it too much, same with shampoo, you aren’t supposed to use it every time unless you are actually dirty
That's why I hate couple content. Like, your relationship is no one's business. (I only know about couple content because of my best friend. He loves that stuff, but I never watch any of the videos he sends me.)
I say it so many times, but I wish more people would follow this rule:
"If you feel the need to complain about your partner online, especially to strangers, then something is very wrong with your relationship and you either need to fix it or leave."
No I feel like people online are WAY to open with their business added with being so overly invasion that I kinda find it hard to be on the internet to escape society without feeling I need to be a damn social influencer in order for someone to recognize my post or completely off it so nothing I post or record would go viral infamous or not . People definitely nowadays have that main character wannabe celebrity enegry.
There are people at my work that over share in person. When I worked in retail, I had people telling me everything! I didn't need to see the colonoscapy bag! This b*tch at work will not shut up about her daughter. Everyone knows literally everything about her because she doesn't shut up. I had to go to HR on her because she was talking about stuff that she isn't needed to keep in her stupid head. You can't be talking controversial sh*t at work, you're going to cause a fight and issues. Someone got fired for bringing up shooting other people!!
My point is people will always over share regardless of being online or not.
Its funny, the internet used to be used to escape reality/society but now society (and some reality) is online and in order for you to escape now you have to get off the internet 😭
Your point got a little buried by the lack of punctuation
@@Saxinful Their point makes sense though, so I don’t see why you had to point it out, and not everybody’s first language is English
@@Asaspecimenyesimextraoddinary Even if it's not their first language, pointing out an error can be really helpful. Their comment wasn't rude towards OP, so I don't see any issue in it.
I can't with "don't assume disabled people are not as able as able-bodied people" ... like just rlly let that sink in 😭
What do they think disabled means? I get how someone hates being coddled, but "disabled people are superheroes who don't need accommodation or help" feels like repackaged ableism.
Because it is. Everyone is so busy normalizing everything that you just know they hate the non normal.
In Switzerland, there was a case where a customer spat at a McDonald's employee. The worker then threw the drink after her. Rightly so! Spitting is so disrespectful. The employee still works in the same place because her supervisor backed her up. The student, on the other hand, got into real trouble because the whole action was filmed and posted on the web.
It's so scary to talk about work stuff online. Not only can you get fired but it may prevent you from any type of employment in the future >.< I prefer to keep that to voicenotes to my best friend ^^
Right, I mean, I like "realatable" content about my job, but if you go too far it's just very unprofessional... especially if you have a job that implies some discretion or interaction with clients/patients
Yeahhh. That's what work friends are for. Meet someone who equally detests your job as much as u do and talk to them in private about it. No need to share it online smh
I have overshared on social media way too many times in the past and I definitely regret it. It makes me feel a bit gross. I've been trying to be more selective lately about what I share and I feel a lot better.
i have def been guilty of that too especially when covid hit in 2020... i stopped too and feel way better now even tho i still cringe at the memories of when i used to overshare
I’m glad you’ve both taken a step back to be more discerning. Congratulations on feeling better. Truly. 💜
Me too glad I’m not the only one ahaha 😅
Mmm not even social media. I tend to over share when I meet new people and I’m just wondering if it’s some symptom for something worse. Maybe it’s a validation thing 😭
@@dariya1873 I have a tendency to over share when I’m talking to someone and they still remain quiet. I get really uncomfortable, so I’m thinking that they’re expecting more out of me. But I think it’s a manipulation tactic that if I overshare the person will enjoy the fact that I’m getting flustered for their enjoyment…
Or they could be just as socially awkward as me and are hoping to God that I keep talking so they don’t have to talk, lol. 😂😂😂
I remember when Facebook first came around my father warned me saying "be careful what you post and don't post things like we're going outta town cause that's just asking for someone to break into your home... even if they are your friends or your friend's friends that know where we live".
I also thought it was evident fairly quickly that employers were using social media to screen their potential hires, since social media tells you a lot more about a person than their resume.
Back in the early days of FB becoming the dominant social media platform, I remember walking into an office full of supervisors, and they were huddled around a monitor, critiquing the FB page contents of someone they'd interviewed that day. I was like, "You guys actually do that?" I told them that I didn't think it was fair for them to make a hiring decision based on someone's FB activity (especially since, in this case, the candidate was fresh out of college, and there were unnecessary remarks made regarding his appearance and his girlfriend).
Fast forward to the present day, and I understand why an employer would take certain social media content into consideration when making a hiring decision (ESPECIALLY TikTok!). It may provide valuable insight into the maturity level of the candidate or give you an idea if they can be trusted with sensitive company/ customer information.
One of my rules for online ranting has always been, not a single word about my job, my town, or details about my family. Not on close friends, not with names changed, not a word. Text your best friend, tell your cat, your therapist, just don’t post that shit lol
you know what I do? I type the shit out and then immediately hit back twice so whatever I wrote disappears. sometimes just writing it out and then immediately deleting/erasing it satisfies the urge since now you got it out.
Also dont use your real name and even better dont show ur face
@@megsley More people should try that. They'd be amazed how much it actually helps.
@@megsleyTHIS. And if I'm pissed at someone I type out my message then put down my phone and revisit it later. I rephrase it or delete it completely. I don't want those momentary thoughts to represent me permanently.
@@megsleytype it into the notes app, that way you can’t accidentally post it.
It will have the same effect, but you can vent in w safer manner
if my other half went around marking things like she did and video me with them like she did, i would no longer have that human in my life.
I don't care that he probably just rinsed off with water, she's implying ON SOCIAL MEDIA that he is gross and disgusting and that is no way to treat someone.
I agree, it was like she was out to humiliate him to change his behavior. Like you didn't have to go that far girl
Right! I mean, yes it’s gross to just use water to clean but why post it online?? Just have a conversation with him about it..
To be fair though if the boyfriend only cleans himself halfassed and cleans their apartment halfassedly too that's fucking lazy and gross... But she still shouldn't post about that online. My ex was this fucking grossest person ever. If I asked him to clean the bathroom he would only clean ONE THIRD OF THE TOILET and don't clean the sink or the bathtub... Soooo he only cleaned about 15% of what he was suppose to do and left the rest saying it was done... Fucking glad I broke up with that useless lazy shithead!!!! When he did stuff like that I was about to go insane for real!!! But when I cleaned he expected EVERYTHING to be SPOTLESS or he would complain I didn't do it good enough. It was like that always. I was never good enough. He conditioned me to become his personal maid/mommy and conditioned me to expect very little of him... Like a real mother/son relationship basicaly. He wants unconditional love from my side while he fucks around doing whatever. Him bringing anything to the table back to me was not to be expected. Being nice to me back was only for lovebombing, it was never genuine.
Absolutely. That was horrible
While I kinda agree... y'all need to date someone who thinks just water does the trick. None of you saw a grown ass man cry like a little bidsh because you refused to suck his duck unless he washed it.
Imagine paying 10 thousand dollars to deliver your baby, you are scared and need professional help, and then at the background these nurses are talkings basic things against human rights.
This is one of the reasons why I don't like social media. Some people still get mad at me because I don't share a lot of stuff in my social media and I just like posts but honestly I just don't get why should I constantly tell random people my whole life, my deepest secrets, etc. Having privacy is really nice, tik tokers should try it out.
Yeah those people that get mad at you for not posting are weird and nosy af
Those people are weird and need help. I don’t understand how they can be so invested in something that has no effect on them whatsoever
Deleting all social media was the best thing I ever did, because I was one of those losers who shared any and everything about my life online. It’s just embarrassing and it’s a sign you’re extremely lonely in your life so you grasp onto any shred of attention you get from strangers online, usually good or bad attention. These people don’t need to be extreme like me and wipe themselves from the internet completely lol, but moderation could do some of these people wonders
Isn't RUclips social media?
@@ducklingscap897 Most people on youtube aren't creating content, they're solely viewers. I don't think that applies to most other platforms.
@@xtinkerbellax3I agree
@ducklingscap897 no it's just media
i feel like ppl glorify pre-cellphone times bc back then they were kids and were happy, i’m guilty of this too.
Nah early 2000s with the existence of internet and computers the internet was chill with wholesome content of people figuring it out being creative and journaling (i was thinking about tumblr when i wrte this lol) . Now everyone wants attention and make quick bucks. The fact that a anybody can become a "celebrity " cough influencer everyone thinks they can do it too for little work
@@semekiizuio
You’re literally a textbook example of exactly what op is talking about. As someone who isn’t blinded by nostalgia, I can tell you that the 2000’s were definitely not glamorous, nor were they “chill.” Everything was practically the same, people were just significantly less connected back then.
@@nixxdra Tell us more. Seriously, I'm not being sarcastic, please tell us more.
@@frillycreation8922
Okay, sure, what I’ll tell you is that I think that you think you just did something there. I mean really, Honey, getting offended on behalf of someone else? Classic.
@@nixxdra I was not getting offended. I was asking for your insight. No ill will on my end.
Like for that nurse, girl, i feel you. Am not a nurse but am a social worker. Some of the people that we work with are infuriating but don't post that online. Like don't even send messages to friends over text with full names. I always refer to my boss as "that lady" when am ranting to my friends about her. Like you never know but you do know one thing, you need that job to pay your rent.
i used to be in barista tiktok. like the specific starbucks and those like it kind. and some of the things i posted i’m pretty sure the only reasons i wasn’t fired are 1. they needed every half-competent worker they had, and 2. letting me continue working for them was a far worse punishment than firing me. i went back just to private my profile at the start of the year and looking back through it, it’s not entertaining at all, it’s watching someone’s mental breakdown. just a diary of pure misery and mental illness and exhaustion with like a couple of cosplays sprinkled on top. you’d have to be some similar kind of deranged to find me funny. i can’t even watch any other barista creators i liked back then anymore because so many of them have that same half-dead look in their eyes i had. i remember it being cathartic to some extent to have people relate, but i didn’t need thousands of viewers telling me how valid i was, i didn’t need to be making me begging customers to follow through on threats to kill me into a clown act on the internet, i needed to log out, get a new job, take a month off and go to fucking therapy. deleting tiktok and tightening up on how much i say about my personal life has done my mental health nothing but good.
This is the most self aware comment I've seen lately. I salute you for that, and wish you luck
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My “ick” is having bad nurses with horrible bedside manor who don’t listen to me when I’m in agony during an induced labor. I still have trauma from my experience! Some people just shouldn’t be in healthcare
That last one was really hard to watch, it's one thing to share about things that could be better about your job but its another to shame people in a really vulnerable time because they slightly inconvenienced you? Even though it's your job? This is why some people don't feel comfortable with health care professionals. The confidentiality is completely overruled by internet clout nowadays, unfortunately.
Exactly, like I come from a really abusive household with lots of mental illnesses and I'm not talking about some cute ✨depression✨ nah, it's bipolars (not the quirky girl ones, the dangerous ones) BPD (again, not the quirky ones, but the ones that try to end you for no reason) and one of the main issues was anything health related, so whenever I was sick or injured I'd go through hell instead of seeing a medical professional. So seeing stuff like that just reminds me, that it's better to hide everything than inconveniencing someone and accidentally triggering something awful.
@Chubby Dinosaur sorry you have to go through this! This is exactly my point, so many people I know or know of have been hurt by the health care system!
Y’all know it’s satire right????
Well some of the comments of the nurses clearly shamed cheating. At least with that I can get on board.
I think the most chronically online take I've EVER seen was recently when someone shared a post saying that couples with tall men and short women were cute and said it was reinforcing p3d0ph1l1a. Because short people are always children, I guess.
Wtf I’m really worried about people on the internet I hope they don’t think like that in real life too
@@clickbiatthey definitely don't lol. They would never have the courage to say that to a short person's face in real life.
i know what post you're talking about and that's not the entire context. so reading comprehension also helps too. they're saying a lot of men look at short women with child like qualities and only that. like no body hair, wears kid like clothing, wears pigtails. and THAT phenomenon is an actual study. THATS what they're referring to .
@@niceguysfinishlast thank you for this. I was just about to comment.
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Those nurses basically said: “my ick is when I have to do my job🙄” like ??? girl???
Tbh that is pretty funny. It's much better than saying "I hate it when they bleed" because everyone can relate that we don't want to do our job, so it comes more as a joke than anything. But it's very unprofessional to say that in such a setting
@@sin3358 agreed, difference is that all of their "icks" are basically what they got their degrees for, so it's very...dumb?, like, complaining about working is honestly the most relatable thing ever, most people wouldn't even work if they didn't need to, except they're not complaining about their job, but about patients that aren't even problematic, just regular people needing assistance
Then they should quit
@@indigoechos6796But...what about the money,and the power in their private life??
How dumb is it to spend lots of money and waste years of study for something you hate doing 😂 Make it make sense.
Deleting social media a couple months ago was theeee best thing for my mental health besides going to therapy. Highly recommend!!
Could you expand as to how it made your life better? I'm wondering because I don't really follow influencers who flaunt their wealth and travels etc., just stuff that I actually like + linkedin for work, but am wondering if it would be worthwhile to delete tiktok etc just because.
@@mpGreen03 the biggest perk is that I’m so much more present. I’m never thinking “ooh this would be cute on my story” or taking ~*aesthetic*~ pics; now I take pictures of things that matter to me and it feels cool to keep them just for me. Also, being so socially available all the time was overwhelming to me. It’s helped me manage my social battery better and it’s forced me to work harder at maintaining real life in-person friendships which has been really rewarding internally. In short, I think it’s caused me to more readily turn inward and I learned that it’s more satisfying to me to savor, save, and experience parts of life in more personal ways, which I possibly never would have known about myself otherwise 🌻
@@crumbs22 Aaah, I understand now, I don't have this problem, but it's interesting to hear your POV and what you said makes sense, thanks!
As a disabled person I cannot with the take about providing assistance being ableist...like bffr, that's why accommodations exist and takes like these might complicate accessing accommodations even more when it is already super difficult!
I can only imagine. My older brother is legally blind and if someone gets mad at me for trying to help him in public, I'll laugh right at their face while helping him. It's just a huge insult in my opinion. But that's coming from an outside perspective I suppose.
The comment is so funny because the whole point of it being called a disability is because it affects your ability to do stuff. And generally, a disabled person can do the same things as an abled person so long as they have accommodations, but regrettably we live in a world where not everywhere has the necessary accommodations and so sometimes they may need help with some things.
what's bffr?
@@SpecialBlanket"be fucking for real"
I thought the mean girls in high school to nurse pipeline was local to my community but I guess it’s a global pain😂😂😂
Whatever happened to the mantra of "Do not share private information with strangers online". Like to this day I refuse to show my face on any of my socials because I have an understanding that there will always be the risk that someone will recognize me. Not to mention now that a lot of apps insist on having your contacts sync with your apps (Tiktok, Instagram, Twitter, etc).
I asked a nurse to help me to the bathroom once and she gave me grief about it. "You can go by yourself, you need to get up and walk after surgery it'll help you heal faster. I know what I'm talking about, so listen to me." Ma'am. Ma'am I just had 3 surgeries on my hip, I have a bracelet that says fall risk, I am forbidden to put any weight on my leg as instructed by my surgeon and doctor, and I have THREE different IV's in both arms. She got real helpful and full of smiles when she realized my mom was in charge of her schedule and paycheck. Not as bad as the male nurse who hit on me by asking if I was a 'natural redhead' while helping me to the bathroom.
That gives me the ick.
damn, i had hip surgery and they put a catheter in me. before the surgery they had me use a bed pan. i don't know what all kinds of surgeries are done on hips but i'd figure they'd at least do that
If I’m paying out of my ass for that hospital room and the services, I should be able to ask all the questions I want and get all the blankets available to me without nurses complaint about doing their literal job. 🤦🏻♀️
It's why I've been getting into mindful reading. Not just skimming through as many books as possible, but reading two challenging books a month or so. It's really helped with my critical reading skills and I basically use less social media because of it.
It's also important to realize that this is not a new thing. My mom has been complaining about people using Facebook as their diary since I was a kid and my older cousins have told me about how their friends used to post a lot of personal stuff on My Space. I think newer social medias (TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, etc.) makes it a bit easier for this stuff to go viral, but people have been oversharing online since the internet was available. You would think we would be teaching this to kids by now to NOT do stuff like this.
Lol no offense but I know that you are super young. Since the beginning of the internet?
@@ChillVanilleIt's not exactly not true. As long as people can share about themselves,which people could do for a fairly long time online,there will be those that say wayyy too much.
It went wild once smartphones got Apps. Facebook and MySpace started as websites you had to go to. That required a laptop or desktop PC. You couldn’t post anywhere anytime, and might go days without checking on your FB or MySpace.
Enter the App Store and notifications, and that’s truly when SM gained access to the stream of consciousness of mankind.
It is a bit different because back then, platforms like My Space are created with alias and avatars. The phones back then don't have the camera feature. Or rather it is there, but you prob have to take a photo, go find a computer, transfer the photo to a computer, then open a browser, login to My Space and upload the photos.
My point is, people do used to share more personal stuffs on platforms like My Space but it is done so that it couldn't be trace back to your real world identity.
That is totally different from today where your Tiktok and your Linkedin are only 2 clicks away.
ALL of the mean girls from high school became one of 2 things:1) nurse or 2) went to cosmetology school (she may or may not have graduated though). The male bullies either became addicts or coach some kind of sport (sometimes both).
Maybe it’s a different area but most of the mean girls joined mlms here 😭
Mean girls who weren’t popular became cops
@@dakota7651mlm?
As someone who has delivered a baby, I am not surprised that nurses just dislike whenever their patients have any needs. I very much felt that.
There needs to be more education around social media and how people can safely and consciously use it
The problem of, adults don't really get it and can't educate young people, while young people can't take responsibilities and have to learn it the hard way
It's already been taught and has been since before Facebook and Instagram existed. Kids don't care until the consequences from their actions face them in real life, they're too interested in the possibility of becoming an influencer and instant gratification.
@@calmcuke6865 Exactly. I've taught cyber safety classes and done it all with them, talked about safety in their tiktoks, not showing school uniforms, names, addresses etc, and you can still find them in tiktoks in their uniforms. This isn't the only thing we teach, obviously, but probably the best example of how just because they're doing it doesn't mean we didn't spend hours teaching them not to.
@@Saxinful It's hard to teach anyone anything without them seeing real consequences in real time, or at least hearing about real consequences. Hopefully most young adults and kids can learn from their peers who were already fired, blacklisted, etc because of their internet activity.
It's been taught in school over and over again. People just don't care.
@@Saxinful i've been curious to see insight like this
something to also note is how "tamed" the internet has become. back in the late 1900's there were all sorts of complicated forums you'd go to figure things out, but these days the top search results will be the only thing you look at and it'll have to be kid friendly. as a kid, the internet struck me as an adult space which was intimidating, but now that people are forcing children to get used to the internet for practically all their needs, of course they'd view it as something casual and a part of their life.
trying to say the internet has real ramifications just wouldn't feel the same without that background.
I'm 38 now and let me tell you that life was soooooo nice before that craziness of all of everyone everywhere
The nurses complaining about not using the button really frustrates me. My grandma was in the hospital and she was a fall risk so she was supposed to push the button to go to the bathroom. First of all, she had alzheimers, she had no idea that a button existed, let alone what it did, let ALONE that she was supposed to use it. Second of all, my mom would push the button when she was there. They waited upwards of half an hour sometimes and no one came. My grandma already wore diapers most of the time, she couldn't wait half an hour to got to the toilet.
yep!! nurses are obviously overworked and underpaid, but to get mad in a situation like that is extremely messed up.
That is just neglect.
I'll /never/ understand people making accounts under their full names and posting their faces and then posting wild shit and acting surprised when they get fired or something like literally just change your username 😭
Honest oversharing showed me that uber eats delivery drivers will just choose not to bring your food if you don’t fit their personal criteria, but they won’t let you know what’s wrong, either. The ubereats guy compared an inferior delivery to slavery. Bch please. It’s called a job.
Ehhh, i mean UberEATS drivers are running their own business basically. They incur the cost of fuel, maintenance etc, so if the cost of delivering the food is more than they are getting paid it makes no sense to do it because they're incurring a loss. I hope that makes sense!
@@ereristark425 Yes I understand. I removed the app. I’ll get delivery from my nearest fast food when i need food. they have an interest in providing that service to me when requested.
@@ereristark425 ya like it's not exactly the same thing as slavery but the comparison kind of makes sense bc they are saying the wages are so low sometimes it's like working for free when you factor in the cost of gas. don't hate the uber driver, hate uber for paying like shit
you read my mind i been thinking recently about people being waaayyyyyy too comfortable nowadays oversharing. even at my job i’m the cashier and people tell me way too much stuff i don’t need to know. and oh lord the straight couples😭 lord have mercy on all of us take the straight couples’ phones away
The Straights TM are at it again
@@elvingearmasterirma7241 much to everyone else’s dismay, did they ever really stop?😪
r/AreTheStraightsOkay
I use to be kind of envious of people in relationships. That envy flew straight out the window when people displayed that there partners are terrible!
And then it kinda makes you glad you are single. Better single and happy than in a relationship like that!
Those nurses complaining about patients asking for basic human rights. Food? Water? Shower? Blanket? They don’t even say they ask for latés or beers. Just water.
I actually worked a Facebook event, and they handed out journals. I’ve always said that instead of posting people should write in a diary, and I think that low key Facebook agreed with me.
Oh I recommend watching Not Even Emily! She actually made a video on The “Mean Girl” to Nurse Pipeline !
Another pet peeve of oversharing that I have is when people post pictures of their kids' injuries online. I don't know if anyone else has had this experience, but some people will post on Facebook to ask for help/thoughts and prayers, and I've seen some poor kid in the aftermath of a nosebleed/bad rash/stomach bug/etc. My friend, I am so sorry for your kid, and if you had just typed up what happened and asked people for their consideration, that would be fine!
But no!!! I have somehow seen more children covered in blood in the past few years than when I was a kid, and me and my stupid friends used to jump off the highest point of the playground equipment for the shits and giggles!
Not only is it upsetting to see, but I feel bad for the kids. Here they are feeling horrible, whether they're hurt or ill, and Facebook moms really do be treating it like a photo opportunity.
Children being posted on social media at all is inexcusable to me, do these ppl not know that pedo's exist?
That part about high school bullies becoming nurses it's so true. All the bully girls in my class went to medical school to become nurses, like, why!? Health care system should have some kind of psychological exam to enter the career. I'm convinced that the majority of "Angels of death" are actually this mean spirited people who are also nurses and doctors.
Bullies become nurses because they get constant praise and love. They also use being a nurse to manipulate people. You're supposed to trust nurses and respect them.
@@WildWinterberry That's awful
love when people to tell me to go outside and touch grass because they're usually yelling at me for no reason while they're doing it and have obviously never gone outside and touched grass themselves.
Edwin is the only exception. He has obviously gone outside and touched grass at least for 5 minutes every day. How else is he this calm, like a cheery little houseplant that actually vibes with you and has decided it wants to live in the darkest corner of your house
Oh and also. One should touch a tree at least once a week. And if your area has flowers, look at them. Smell nature. Hold a potted plant
We humans go legitimately loopy if we dont see, smell or interact with nature in a way.
And no your pets dont count as plants. You need both
@ElvinGearMaster Irma my bonsai is hibernating but I do hold him lol
I can totally relate to the boyfriend not washing properly thing. It was one of the reasons I left him. He was fully able-bodied and able-minded. Just didn’t want to use soap or shampoo and fought with me whenever I tried to get him to wash his hair. If these girls are so bothered by their partners not showering properly and they can’t get them to use soap then they’re better off finding a new man. It’s not that hard ladies. There’s no reason to put that out there to embarrass him for clout. There are better things to be using your time for
I feel like you'd have to get into the science of why water isn't enough. Just SAYING "You have to use soap" just sounds like an opinion/preference.
@petra1995 you do that with a child, not a full grown adult. An adult can easily access that info but chooses to still not clean themselves properly.
@@squarebear619 They might not have thought to google it yet. Full adults learn stuff that "everyone knows" all the time.
Water is enough. Soap is not necessary and is very drying to the human body. I haven’t used soap in YEARS and I’m perfectly clean
Something also nasty...being filmed by someone chronically online without your knowledge or when they notice that you notice and aren't comfortable with it. The U.S. needs that shutter camera sound law that Japan uses at the very least...
People just need to middle-school-counselor-social-media-education-style ask “why am i posting this? What am i hoping to gain from people seeing this?” Like, yesterday I was upset at boss being difficult, and i kept almost making a story post complaining, but i thought, “what would i gain from people seeing that? Validation for my frustration? Why do i need that? Can’t I just be frustrated and get over it on my own?” not everything needs to be posted…
I am a nurse and honestly the meanest people really do become nurses. my coworkers are heartless and literally joke about patients passing it makes me sick to my stomach
i don't know any nurses but i've shared college classes with people who were studying to become one. plenty seemed fine but i definitely noticed some carried an aura about them that was just like the kids in high school who were messy, got into drama, and caused themselves lots of heartache. hope people like that figure their ish out and can find some inner peace so they can be good at their jobs
I truly believe that posting all your plans and achievements on the internet is a sure recipe for failure.
Kinda funny that you mentioned the "bully to nurse pipeline" toward the end of the video when Not Even Emily did a video about it as well :)
I'm totally guilty of oversharing on Instagram, but I think it's because of loneliness. I have no actual friends lol. I deleted my ig account to stop though... I read books instead. 🙃
That's a good way to deal with it
It's more productive
I'm very much guilty of the oversharing on Close Friends (instagram story) but since it's never about anything confidential, I don't think too much of it? Like as an autistic kid, I can't really gauge what's socially acceptable to say all the time, and sometimes, I _know_ something I do is weird and don't care bc ik my friend group are the only ppl who see it, and they find it fine
I'm absolutely chronically online, and ik it isn't great, but I think as long as you respect the boundaries of others, respect yourself, and don't post about your damn job (omg like u would think that that rule would be obvious to someone who is literally employed, especially ppl well into adulthood but I GUESS NOT), internet-ing can be manageable.
Like bro we can work towards the minimizing screentime gradually. As long as you're touchin' grass and grounding yourself in reality, leave the unachievable recommended screentime amount be 😭 you'll get there when you get there. Baby steps, man.
Edit: talking about the general definition of chronically online - the people pictured in this video aren't JUST chronically online, they're either actively doing messed up things and just happen to be broadcasting it, or sharing exceedingly personal information (which is very much unsafe and unhealthy!)
You can’t just admit to being “chronically online” and then say “yea it’s fine just be cautious” ??? you literally just admitted that u don’t know boundaries lmao. I think you need to work on that & probably do some self reflection… it’s gonna hurt you in the long run if you keep using the internet as your private journal.
@hotsexyangel I should clarify - when I say "weird" I don't mean criminal, or hyperpersonal. The internet is *not* my diary. I just mean info-dumping about psychology and TV shows and stuff like that.
When I say chronically online, I mean the hard definition of being online an excessive amount - not posting incessantly, and NOT to the degree of what's in this video.
I'm not saying being chronically online is great; I'm not encouraging this. I'm just saying that it's a common but MANAGEABLE issue that a lot of people deal with, and that going of the internet cold turkey rarely works.
@hotsexyangel like dude, I do know my boundaries - I'm just online a lot. I'm not sure what about my comment implies that I'm not self-reflecting, not working on it, or at all saying that any of the content in this video was acceptable.
I apologize if this comment wasn't clear to you, but I can assure you that I did not mean what you apparently interpreted from my statement
@@magnificloud nah, you good, and you don't gotta apologize. You're writing was clear and concise, and I understood exactly what you meant (and I agree with your comments as well). I don't think that other person really digested your comment before responding is all.
@springsnature7037 Thanks, my dude! I read my stuff multiple times over just to check bc I wasn't fully sure if my point came across, so I appreciate the affirmation.
I remember people my age were already getting pinged for future jobs for having old cosplay photos and such available online (yknow, girls in somewhat skimpy costumes and not being 100% professional) and desperately trying to delete all evidence because now they weren’t 15 and were actually trying to have a career. These babies be posting everything about themselves and even purposely going for those outrage views just for clout. It pains me.
Starbucks makes you sign an agreement before you're hired that you won't post anything on social media in an apron or otherwise representing their brand, it's in their employee policy and they take it super serious
"Can I please get a waffle? CAN I PLEASE-" 9:51
As someone who has been chronically online, and who is disabled. The general rule is to ALWAYS ASK. That's the rule--ableism comes in when people just manhandle you like a child because it is assumed you cannot do any independent tasks purely based on disability. The ableism is the infantilization and forced help.
But if you offer help or ask if someone would like help, that's literally fine. Just don't take away agency and you are good.
And for the words like "Stupid" and "dumb" being ableist--yeah they got ableist histories, but it is mostly an issue when those words are used towards disabled people to imply they are unintelligent because of, or to shame them for disability. Mostly comes from educational spaces, or people describing others who are disabled with ignorance and ingrained ableism from our society.
But yeah, honestly--those are the last things I am gonna fight on atm. As a disabled person, both mentally and physically disabled, I think it's more important we get rights and protections, and that discourse over specifics in language can be heavily debated later. In general, I would just ask people what terms they prefer and try to respect them and their disabled lives. ✌
As a nurse there's plenty to complain about but patients asking me questions or wanting basic stuff are not one of them... jfc.
I had a baby last spring, and let me tell you when I saw those nurses complaining about patients it only made me want to become a nurse even more because clearly there’s a lack of nurturing in the field. Although I had an amazing experience at the hospital! And it was a very mixed staff, they were all extremely nice to me. I bet those nurses were like in a city or something where they’re super overwhelmed all the time. It’s not an excuse but adds context. I can’t lie, I did feel for them a little bit losing their jobs over something so stupid
I think part of the problem is the attitude that "you can only talk about x topic if you've experienced it!!!11" so like I can't talk about depression and how to manage it without revealing I personally struggle with it, lest I get beat down virtually by screaming judgmental teenagers.
and saying you struggle with it isn't even enough because strangers on the internet demand to see your private info as "proof". & if you don't show them proof you're accused of faking it💀
These issues would be half-solved if parents stepped up and stopped letting their kids use technology unmonitored. Better yet,how about they start giving their kids meaningful lessons rather than neglecting or abusing them,which the kids would expose online anyway?
OMG, and the actors who were forced to come out as gay because people would harass them for playing gay characters! Like these things have real world consequences for people to this day! We shouldn't be acting like it's normal to harass people into sharing sensitive private information.
I deleted Instagram and Twitter in late August last year and deleted TikTok a few weeks ago it's had such a positive impact on my life and mental health. If you've ever thought of doing the same this is your sign! i was scared to loose touch with friends but all the people I'm close to and who actually care about me were willing to make the effort to keep in touch through other ways even if it wasn't as convenient for them as whatever app we used to use
Agreed! I only had IG for about a year and deleted it, then dumped FB a few months later (the was it). This was a few years ago, and it's been great.
Close friends and family who make the effort to reach out still know what's going on with me, and that's the way I prefer it.
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I remember my manager threatened to fire me because I posted a video of our store. I wasn’t doing anything I wasn’t supposed to be doing like recording in the break room or shit, I literally just recorded the buckets of water leaking from the ceiling on my break. As if the customers who came in didn’t see the damn water leak💀 There’s oversharing but I also feel like corporations are taking their control too far.
legally, they have the right to ban you for it due to a store being considered private property. plus idk about you but most jobs i've worked generally have a policy of "don't post anything negative about us online" which is why most people keep the location obscure in their rants.
Wow, the way this post made me laugh!😂 'I wasn't recording anything private.' (Me thinking you recorded a quick look at a Bath and Body Works, what's the big deal?) 'I just recorded how the *ceiling was leaking into buckets* in an attempt to humiliate the company I worked for!'🤣 Come on, bro. You KNOW that's why you did it. There's absolutely no reason for anyone to record their break unless something unusual was happening. A water leak is unusual, but not something that you just innocently "caught on camera". There have to be better ways of dealing with it than exposure.
@@liben5052 legally they can't do any of that shit since I was off the clock and was no different from a regular customer. Legally you are allowed to record in all spaces where you cannot assume a reasonable amount of privacy as a civilian, which Starbucks would be one of them. as you can imagine when I asked my manager to cite what I was in violation of, there was nothing to back her up and not only did I get to keep my job but I got to leave the video up lmfao
@@heathernks8 aw the baby is hurt that I recorded the state of my store completely legally
@@yin4296 well idk about termination, but most owners have the right to ban people from private property according to their policies (employee or customer), following the right to refuse constitution (as long as it isn't discriminatory).
there are also "employed at will" states which allow employers to fire employees for reasons outside of legality. for example, violating a code of conduct, insubordination, and poor behavior. meaning, even off the clock, what you do can be used against you (like people getting fired for tweeting racist things).
i would just be cautious if i were you and avoid letting employers know what you're doing on social media entirely. you might be right 'legally', but in a workplace setting, 'etiquette' is equally important.
Wait did one of the nurses say that her ick is when moms don't want pain medicines but rate their pain level high?Did I hear that right???????? Because if I did, I have so many questions and one of them is HOW did she pass her exams to become a l&d nurse
@@amandak.4246 No one is obligated to agree to medical interventions for the nurse's comfort. It's their job to support the patient's choices.
Epidurals don't always even work like they're supposed to, so one could be in pain even if they agreed to one.
@@amandak.4246An important part of life is not taking the issues of people to heart too often. They have their own reasons for not accepting help,and it's not worth complaining about publicly.
The one that hit me the hardest, a year or so ago, was a therapist complaining about patients trauma dumping.
Jezz, this lady talking about icks from her patients (mothers giving freaking birth!) pissing me so much. I think it is a big problem of medical field that some nurses/doctors don't give a fuck about patients basic dignity and are unnecesary judgemental. In my homecountry giving birth often comes with free horror story about how much nurse/doctor humililate you during one of the most stressful and pottentially dangerous times of your life. This is really disgusting.
People get addicted to the “validation” cycle from others that are chronically online, and they’ll come up with any reason as to why it’s actually a good thing that they should keep doing. It’s seriously so bad for them as individuals and also for all of society.
Who raised a child who doesn’t wash themselves with soap
This is a little bit off topic, but lately I can't seem to have a normal conversation with my friends without hearing something among the lines of "queen slay" or "omg literally me". I'm so glad to have a couple of people who don't use online talk at all. I'm tired of Internet's influence on us as human beings
I just wanna say that those lines are not "online talk" they're AAVE spoken by the African American community
So there are people who have been speaking like that before tiktok
@@rhaianna7692 and by extension, some of that stuff is also queer dialect (in large part due to the amount of non-white people who helped build and maintain queer culture, like drag balls) but it all became viral and treated like a trend to use and discard after a year, when it's shit with decades of history and a lot of meaning to the people whose culture it was taken from. It even kills some words and phrases, because it becomes so associated with pop culture and is misused and abused, then the people who used it before don't want to anymore because of the new connotations and stigma around it being a slang term that young people overuse
Another thing is how Arabic phrases that muslim people use such mashallah inshallah wallah etc are being overused by young people who don't even know what they mean. As a muslim myself it's incredibly frustrating to see my culture being mocked.
@@ignotuz4836 OMG that sounds horrible for you
I was a bit shocked about the Tiktok where the lady admitted that she took work documents from the worksite after being fired/quit. I have only worked at 2 different companies and BOTH required workers to sign a form saying that anything we created FOR the company on comoany time is owned BY the company. Regardless of whether you made it, if it was made while you were on the clock for some sort of use your company/job required, you absolutely CANNOT take it from the company.
My ick is nurses who don't see their patients as human beings
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Even though those nurses were rude I agree with the one about going between 2 different baby mamas. Idk how any sane person could think that’s anything other than ick. That’s just unfaithful and gross imo
The nurses complaining about having to deal with people is so scary and saddening.