It sucks when you have a friend who slowly sinks into the discord antisocial shit. I’ve know people who are super funny, and they just slowly become a recluse after spending too much time online
Yeah, I have a severe addiction to youtube, it was something I loved watching as a kid now its kinda formed into the embodiment of just every time i'm watching a youtube video i feel like i'm not getting anything done. however, i still make music and push through and work cause its a goal of mine to be a musician. i think the key is dicipline, or balance in real life experiences and your hobbies/aspirations.
We have the same problem. Sometimes with an addiction like that, you have to make something positive out of it. You want to be a musician, so maybe watch more content that you could learn from that pertains to that. When I was a kid, I used to play video games for hours on end. With my passion for video games, I decided to study to become a game developer. Sometimes, you gotta embrace it. But not always.
Needed to hear this, just got my first ever paycheck today, only after years of wasting my time online. Finally realized it was time for my life to start, life goals are way fucking better than giving your computer screen the 10 hour fluoride stare.
Same boat, I work for my local council now just got my full time contract. Use to be addicted to gaming gave it up like 4 years ago. Just started building my own PC though hoping to get back into gaming in moderation
i have a friend group that is terminally online in the same way you described. they're awesome people but all they do is talk on discord with no life aspirations. sucks to see but idk how to help them lol
dang, I really needed this to be honest. I get my math degree after 2 more terms, but have slowed down a lot into 'degeneracy'. I used to have a much better habit of studying that I need to get back into. I completely relate to the fact that many people waste around 4-6 hours per day on games/tv/youtube. Putting even 2 hours of that aside each day makes a big difference.
What i find helps is using an hour and a half of your day to go to the gym. Squat heavy, do the essentials etc. It helps make the rest of your day far more productive mentally.
Made me tell my discord friends I need a break and log off my account. Seriously, thank you, you opened my eyes and made me realize that my attitude and bad feelings came from my online life, Now that I logged off, I think I could work on art or music or stuff, and I have not felt this positive for awhile, I have strived for online friendships when in the end all it does is make me sadder, Thank you sm, have an awesome day sir
I did the same thing with a girl who I'm convinced would be my girlfriend if we had spent the time in real life, but instead we didn't really form a connection and I was just sad because of it. Don't @ me with questions, it's very nuanced. But yea, the bottom line is, I learned that hanging out with people only works in real life.
I really resonate with this. There are two types of activities. You can either produce or consume. Most people spend literally all their time consuming, or at least the vast majority. Ever since I started cutting it out I have literally been doing like 10x more producing, and I've also become a lot happier.
I've never been depressed, but in the last year and a half, i've been using discord as a way to replace social interactions throughout the quarantine. I've definitely met some great people through that, but as the restrictions are slowly being removed, i've just got a job and i'm starting college in a little less than 2 months, i'm very much looking forward to what the future has in store for me. I don't think my time spent during the quarantine, playing games and talking and playing with people through discord was wasted. In that time i was able to play games that now mean a lot to me, games that i believe have steered my life into the direction it is taking today. And these games and talking to these people through discord has helped me a lot in feeling more confident in myself in general. My view of myself is so much more positive now than it was a year ago. Im probably in the minority here, but being "terminally online" for the past year has helped me in so many ways, that i don't regret it (i'll also thank my parents who have also helped me a lot in that way)
Discord feels like the guys at the bar in a sitcom. We're all losers and we keep going to the bar even though the alcohol isn't helping us and the people aren't involved with us more than as a person to bounce jokes between
ngl i just use discord for talking to my irl friends from school and shit, i kinda find the idea of meeting new friends online kinda foreign tbh cuz i dont rlly like communicating with someone when i cant see they face
This is actually great advice. Idk if I'll actually be able to stick to doing something productive though, when its so much easier to waste away on the internet.
it's scary how much was said that i could completely connect to and see in myself, especially with what was brought up at 2:28 i've been sitting around wasting time on discord for a little over 4 years now, just wishing and hoping, that maybe one day, i'll magically find that illusive person(s) to fill in this glaringly large hole in my life that wasn't being filled IRL, only to be met with drama, even more neglection, and painful heartbreak. thanks to my unfortunate experiences with trying to form connections online, i've unreasonably started to resent the people who immediately come out successful in doing so, and i know tom states that in his case a lot of his meaningful online friendships did not come from the intent of having them be friends in the first place, on discord however, it feels like that's exactly what many others managed to do. it's like everywhere you seemingly look, there's always some sorta preestablished clique or pair of close friends with matching avatars/statuses. you'd think that after observing this for so long and never obtaining it, i'd give up on trying and ditch the platform, but no, i'm still here, sporadically dumping messages to give myself the illusion of being heard and considered, and still getting fidgety over the occasional ping that more than likely is just a server announcement, and if it isn't, it usually isn't something that leads into anything substantial anyway. even though this is just a very small snippet into my psyche, i honestly feel like i'm at a point of no return, mainly cause i've listened to countless other amazing speakers like tom and still haven't been able to get myself to take any significant action towards even remotely bettering my sad and lonely day-to-day lifestyle, especially the being terminally online part of it. to anyone reading this who feels like the door to improvement isn't almost completely out of reach like mine yet, please, grab that handle as fast as you can and walk through without ever looking back, i have a good feeling you won't regret it.
@@anathame3649 hey dude, thanks for the check-in! I'm honestly finding it really hard to answer your question because on the one hand, a lot of that resentment in my original comment has mellowed out in a way, but on the other hand, that large hole that was being unfilled IRL continues to not be. also, the fact that I responded to a reply on a year old comment in less than 5 hours should fully explain how the terminally online situation is still looking hahaha. anyway though, I'm hoping things on your end happen to be much more clear-cut and defined, and seriously, thanks again for dropping by!
the video speaks to me, despite that i dont spend an inane amount of time online, i have a job and i play sports, it still hits me that i could be doing so much more with my life. the internet is a vice, in moderation it can be good and fun and all, but you can easily become entrapped in its hellish pits. tom this is a great video and this is something i think that a lot of people need to hear including myself.
thats exactly how i was for the longest time and it was caused by many things that were just bringing me down, and finally recently i realized what the value of people actually was to me, and how i should be using my time to be happy compared to how i was. i mean i just sat on my computer trying to meet people that would fill that void exactly like you said but the only people willing to talk were people just like me, and since neither of us got fulfillment from it every time me and the other person would stop talking. i consider myself pretty b a s e d and r e d p i l l e d and never understood what normies got from life that made them so happy. until last year when i started driving and getting interested in cars, which for my whole life i thought to be the most boring shit ever. i dont know if it takes being a normie like everyone else to be happy but since then ive actually found a passion for something, something in real life that gives me goals and a feeling of achievement as i work hard towards them, and now i realize i dont really need all those people i was talking to because i can be happy on my own. none of that is anything i got before when all i did was sit on my computer all day. im especially happy that now i can actually appreciate the games i play, instead of just using them to distract myself from my life. i dont feel like i NEED them anymore, and that makes everything so much more enjoyable.
Hey Tom just wanted to say I was here when you made the Tomdark channel and I remember when this video came out and it was very powerful to me. I was basically rotting away on discord being degenerate ect and I did self improvement only to end up at the same spot but marginally a better person. Through some discord drama and other shit in my personal life I'm basically going through the same cycle and I still relate to this video. Just want to say thanks for making a real video like this that your audience can relate to and anecdotally share that there's a way out of being a discord doomer.
I used to be this "discord doomer" and good lord, those 3 years were pure hell. I wouldn't wish on my worse enemy. I'm still a bit like that, but things have gotten better.
Joe was talking about a friend he had where he ruined his life playing (I think) EverQuest. He would complain about how he was so successful online in the game but he was a loser in real life. I know a few people like this. It's sad.
The problem that Ive run into time and time again is that I just genuinely cant build any motivation to be passionate about something and it reeaally sucks :(
this was the kind of motivation i need to get my shit together, it really resonated with me... i've been loving these videos a lot, thank you for making them :)
It's a tough thing to break out of when you're disabled. I'm still trying to figure out what to do with myself. I've experimented with various avenues but consistency is tough when you don't really have anything grounding you. Like my office is my bedroom. I sleep in there and relax in there. It's hard to be productive like that. Giving up isn't an option.
Damn ever since I graduated high school I just been working at a factory, even I've gotten straight A' s I think I've would have been in the same position I don't have a passion and no ambition I don't have any productive interest
And another thing is, why do people just assume that others have known what they wanted to be since they were 12? Even in Junior High/High School I’ve heard the “If I only tried a little harder when I was younger” cope from boomers and people under payroll from colleges so it would be in their benefit to repeat that line, but the people who say it don’t understand that some people have no idea what they want to be and have no grasp on if what they did in Junior High/High School would even matter afterwards. I sure as hell didn’t and I sure as hell wasn’t going rush out the door at 18 to get caught in the university system to get tangled up in debt to something I didn’t even know if I wanted to do for a living. It’s a disgusting line of thinking that treats people like economic units instead of human beings.
Waitttt you made me realize something…RUclips was my addiction. Now with this realization, I should start focusing more on hobbies that I have been putting off in order to move forward with my life. Thank you!!!
Tom I found your videos a few months ago and blasted through them pretty quickly, all of them are super impressive to me and I 100% agree that the internet is something that can suck you in and waste our most valuable resource of time. I started recently becoming a voice over artist and this is something I could not do if it wasn’t for the internet but it’s all about how I’m using my resources that is helping me, it really is a double edged sword.
It’s really true though. I’m going into my freshman year of college and I’ve begun working out just because I want to feel physically better. Taking the hour for the last week to work out has been so nice and I regret not doing it sooner. And that may not be working out for you it could be drawing or read or whatever. But it’s gotta be something rewarding in some fashion for you to get something out of it yah know.
I used to be like this beginning of high school but after last year, I know my limits and avoid using social media too much and focusing on people half the world away that don’t really care about me
So... i built a computer at the age of 8, and i'm 18 now.. for about 7 of those years i just sat on my pc.. and god do i regret it now in alot of ways, dont get me wrong it was cool n all at the time but i wish i went out and had more friends as a kid. Highschool and 8th grade i kinda wavered and started being more socially and physically active. I wish alot of things but the most i can do now is get my life together. Im now going to what will hopefully be my first job and i developed a passion for working out and wrestling. Listening to your videos really helps/helped me, and i hope to continue watching them. I know this is a really old video but i needed this.
as a ESL im thankful to the internet that i was being able to learn English more or less, English medium is so huge it contains so much knowledge and stuff
before moving out, i was in a pretty bad household so i would stay in my room besides getting food because i would be scared to cause something if i left my room. if someone in my family didn't want to deal with me, i got told to go back to my room and sit on my lazy ass like i always do even though i always did stuff for them around the house. since moving out, i've been trying to get my life in order and work on my mental health. sitting at my desk, using my pc or even looking at my phone isn't healthy for me.
Im trying to break out of this. Your last video about why you stopped using discord kind of influenced me. I have a full time job but even when I take an extended break from discord it's hard to just get off altogether when I have nothing to replace it with in my free time
it's crazy that I look up to Tom so much but he's only like a few months older than me. That being said love your videos Tom, you've got great advice :)
This video pretty much described me 2019 -2020. At some point for some reason I desired change and starded trying to work toward my goals. I quit Leage of Legons, my life got so much better and now I am working. Limiting RUclips. I wast to much time waching it and doing nothing. I am paying off my debt, thin I well be leaving CA. Not for another city.
I've only just realised how much of a degenerate I am or used to be, I had no friends due to how selfish I was and it caused me to reject friends I already have. I the same mindset of something will change but nothing did. So I got out of my comfort zone and apologised and it surprisingly worked wonders. So I can truly relate to this video.
Personally I find these videos a lot better where u share ur opinions and knowledge on things. I could imagine this video could be a reality check to some people too
I dont have any social media anymore. I deleted instagram over 2 years ago, i deleted discord around the same time (although i never got to into discord) i deleted snapchat about 2 to 3 months ago, and although i can improve alot, i havent felt this good i dont think ever. My only problem is that i watch too much youtube videos and i feel i waste my time on here too much. Ive been learning how to play guitar and i feel happy being able to play guitar. It gives me something, in a way, i can look forward for something
really love these videos, you hav esome actually really insightful things to say, this is personally relevant to me, and you always deliver it in a casual way, that keeps me interested. Sorry if this sounds like a review, I'm just really enjoying these videos
Remember watching this video when it came out & fuck man, I've seen shit when using discord heavily back in the day. Knew folks in their late 20s bragging about their parents not pressuring them to find a job & dedicating all their time to video games. Its such a hole of nothing, it felt disguting knowing i was walking down that similar path unless something changed throughout my highschool life. This video unironically really put into petspective what had go get done & i couldn't be more grateful
I'm not surprised at the great advice from young Tom. Could tell he's got good head on his shoulders. That's very rare at that age especially these days. I'm 41 & a successful construction contractor,my dad was too. At 12 I was on the job learning the basics. At 18 running crews making more $ than most guys 10+ yrs older than me & in charge of some too lol. Everyone wanting to be a "entrepreneur" now you better be dedicated,have ridiculous work ethic,no life but work 95% of the time,deal with many types of personalities and most critical valuable thing a problem solver. Point is most ppl have no clue what it's like being the boss especially in small business. Yeah it's great but it can be I'm gonna choke the shit outa someone n burn shit to the ground, can I be a dummy that just collects a check & not think lol.
Watching this as a 31 year old, and I don't regret being a gamer at all. But I DO regret all the time I spend engaging online with people who bullied me or were toxic as well as all the time I watched rant channels like Bloodblitz...that guy in particular I used to related to because I was a social outcast in HS and I could relate to a lot of the frustrations he had with people that he expressed on RUclips. But then I'd go to school every day feeling angry and looking for things to resent and that just got me nowhere. With hindsight as my homie, it's a miracle that I was able to be on the basketball team and take AP Calculus my senior year
Yeah, can relate to this. The last 16+ months working from home doing IT work where you don't have to talk to anyone and no coworkers around makes ya lethargic, socializing online with people in the same funk just keeps ya down. Just started back in the office a couple weeks ago and I feel human again. ❤️
Can confirm - I’m 24 and have my first career type job, but it was absolutely murder to get because I was lazy in school and didn’t get the grades I was capable of. Ended up pulling a 1st class honours in my degree but it still didn’t count for much in a lot of employers’ eyes because it came from a pretty shitty university. For the British kids reading this doing your A Levels - just put the effort in. I know it sucks, I hated it too, but you’ll regret it if you don’t.
The best advice I could ever give to someone who's terminally online would be to look for a job. Ever since I got hired I found a sense of purpose and belonging that I could never find online
Man making friends in college and keeping in touch with my close friends back home has done so much for me while at college. All I gotta figure out is how I'm going to pay for college now... gg 🦍
i've let go of friends who are terminally online, and now that i'm away from their toxicity, it's just... sad. they don't have any aspirations even as adults, and they don't know how to exist in the real world. they expect to just make it big on the internet and everything will be okay, but that's not viable. they don't realize that they can't live on the internet.
you know, there are two types in my area: the ones that work hard and don't waste time on video games and people that have a good job as a forklift driver, a wife, kids that play forklift simulator.
the 'internetwork' is simultaneously a grand encyclopedia of wisdom and a black hole of parasitic degeneracy. it constantly reminds me that the only way to truly "succeed" as an internet user is to develop your own skills through the academia provided and produce greater art/knowledge than already exists on the worldwide web.
Good video man. It was only somewhat recently that I started to really feel the inferiority of online communication in general, and I think that archetype of the Discord Degenerate™️ who just wastes time dicking around on Discord is a powerful enough mental image to keep me cautious so I don't turn into that.
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Tom stopped using mario 64 gameplay so he wouldn't get bullied
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It sucks when you have a friend who slowly sinks into the discord antisocial shit. I’ve know people who are super funny, and they just slowly become a recluse after spending too much time online
Oof.
thats society, its like a religion.
...gets triggered easily blocks you for like a week
The correct word for that will be "asocial". Antisocial would mean they become a sociopath who would harm other people.
Good thing that I was antisocial before falling into discord lol
Yeah, I have a severe addiction to youtube, it was something I loved watching as a kid now its kinda formed into the embodiment of just every time i'm watching a youtube video i feel like i'm not getting anything done. however, i still make music and push through and work cause its a goal of mine to be a musician. i think the key is dicipline, or balance in real life experiences and your hobbies/aspirations.
We have the same problem. Sometimes with an addiction like that, you have to make something positive out of it. You want to be a musician, so maybe watch more content that you could learn from that pertains to that. When I was a kid, I used to play video games for hours on end. With my passion for video games, I decided to study to become a game developer. Sometimes, you gotta embrace it. But not always.
Nice :)
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Needed to hear this, just got my first ever paycheck today, only after years of wasting my time online. Finally realized it was time for my life to start, life goals are way fucking better than giving your computer screen the 10 hour fluoride stare.
congratulations
Congratulations. Good luck on your future endavours man
Same boat, I work for my local council now just got my full time contract. Use to be addicted to gaming gave it up like 4 years ago. Just started building my own PC though hoping to get back into gaming in moderation
late but that is awsome
It's really not that great, your still in a rat race lol
i have a friend group that is terminally online in the same way you described.
they're awesome people but all they do is talk on discord with no life aspirations. sucks to see but idk how to help them lol
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Same here man, it's really sad.
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These videos have became an addiction for me, I officially believe in Tom Dark supremacy.
yes
Tom Dark Supremacism is spreading all over online
glad you like them! thank you
Maybe stan even?
It all sounds so familiar. Too real, lol nice job Dark Tom Turkey.
dang, I really needed this to be honest. I get my math degree after 2 more terms, but have slowed down a lot into 'degeneracy'. I used to have a much better habit of studying that I need to get back into. I completely relate to the fact that many people waste around 4-6 hours per day on games/tv/youtube. Putting even 2 hours of that aside each day makes a big difference.
What i find helps is using an hour and a half of your day to go to the gym. Squat heavy, do the essentials etc. It helps make the rest of your day far more productive mentally.
"Your life is on a clock..." Damn that hit me heavier than I thought. You're right though.
If you're age is on the clock. You're ready for my ....
Wise words indeed.
Made me tell my discord friends I need a break and log off my account.
Seriously, thank you, you opened my eyes and made me realize that my attitude and bad feelings came from my online life,
Now that I logged off, I think I could work on art or music or stuff, and I have not felt this positive for awhile, I have strived for online friendships when in the end all it does is make me sadder,
Thank you sm, have an awesome day sir
I did the same thing with a girl who I'm convinced would be my girlfriend if we had spent the time in real life, but instead we didn't really form a connection and I was just sad because of it. Don't @ me with questions, it's very nuanced. But yea, the bottom line is, I learned that hanging out with people only works in real life.
loving these videos tom brings back alot of memories of 2015 commentary videos
They seem to be coming back lately. I wasn't around in 2015 so I thought it was a new thing lmao
I really resonate with this.
There are two types of activities. You can either produce or consume.
Most people spend literally all their time consuming, or at least the vast majority.
Ever since I started cutting it out I have literally been doing like 10x more producing, and I've also become a lot happier.
ur mom consumes what i produce
imagine being terminally not a real turkey
I've been spending way less time on Twitter then I used to, and to be honest it's kinda nice
twitter is literally the worst place on mainstream internet
I've never been depressed, but in the last year and a half, i've been using discord as a way to replace social interactions throughout the quarantine. I've definitely met some great people through that, but as the restrictions are slowly being removed, i've just got a job and i'm starting college in a little less than 2 months, i'm very much looking forward to what the future has in store for me.
I don't think my time spent during the quarantine, playing games and talking and playing with people through discord was wasted. In that time i was able to play games that now mean a lot to me, games that i believe have steered my life into the direction it is taking today. And these games and talking to these people through discord has helped me a lot in feeling more confident in myself in general. My view of myself is so much more positive now than it was a year ago.
Im probably in the minority here, but being "terminally online" for the past year has helped me in so many ways, that i don't regret it (i'll also thank my parents who have also helped me a lot in that way)
Discord feels like the guys at the bar in a sitcom. We're all losers and we keep going to the bar even though the alcohol isn't helping us and the people aren't involved with us more than as a person to bounce jokes between
ngl i just use discord for talking to my irl friends from school and shit, i kinda find the idea of meeting new friends online kinda foreign tbh cuz i dont rlly like communicating with someone when i cant see they face
Same
You never know if it's someone who would make a good friend or a 50 year old dude trying to groom you.
same i only talk to my friend from school on snap because we are onlins school
This is actually great advice. Idk if I'll actually be able to stick to doing something productive though, when its so much easier to waste away on the internet.
nahh just watch NileRed or Vsauce or something- you can productively use the internet while still watching videos
@@Gliccit or u can outdo those sensationalized edutainment and prove them wrong by seeing the true results
it's scary how much was said that i could completely connect to and see in myself, especially with what was brought up at 2:28
i've been sitting around wasting time on discord for a little over 4 years now, just wishing and hoping, that maybe one day, i'll magically find that illusive person(s) to fill in this glaringly large hole in my life that wasn't being filled IRL, only to be met with drama, even more neglection, and painful heartbreak.
thanks to my unfortunate experiences with trying to form connections online, i've unreasonably started to resent the people who immediately come out successful in doing so, and i know tom states that in his case a lot of his meaningful online friendships did not come from the intent of having them be friends in the first place, on discord however, it feels like that's exactly what many others managed to do.
it's like everywhere you seemingly look, there's always some sorta preestablished clique or pair of close friends with matching avatars/statuses. you'd think that after observing this for so long and never obtaining it, i'd give up on trying and ditch the platform, but no, i'm still here, sporadically dumping messages to give myself the illusion of being heard and considered, and still getting fidgety over the occasional ping that more than likely is just a server announcement, and if it isn't, it usually isn't something that leads into anything substantial anyway.
even though this is just a very small snippet into my psyche, i honestly feel like i'm at a point of no return, mainly cause i've listened to countless other amazing speakers like tom and still haven't been able to get myself to take any significant action towards even remotely bettering my sad and lonely day-to-day lifestyle, especially the being terminally online part of it. to anyone reading this who feels like the door to improvement isn't almost completely out of reach like mine yet, please, grab that handle as fast as you can and walk through without ever looking back, i have a good feeling you won't regret it.
doing better now?
@@anathame3649 hey dude, thanks for the check-in! I'm honestly finding it really hard to answer your question because on the one hand, a lot of that resentment in my original comment has mellowed out in a way, but on the other hand, that large hole that was being unfilled IRL continues to not be. also, the fact that I responded to a reply on a year old comment in less than 5 hours should fully explain how the terminally online situation is still looking hahaha. anyway though, I'm hoping things on your end happen to be much more clear-cut and defined, and seriously, thanks again for dropping by!
@@ClodYTwhat about now?
I really dig these chill videos. There's always something interesting to take away from them and they're nice to just sit and listen to.
the video speaks to me, despite that i dont spend an inane amount of time online, i have a job and i play sports, it still hits me that i could be doing so much more with my life. the internet is a vice, in moderation it can be good and fun and all, but you can easily become entrapped in its hellish pits. tom this is a great video and this is something i think that a lot of people need to hear including myself.
Tom giving me the existential crisis that’s only meant for 3am not 3pm
Yeah buddy?
Im going to college regardless of how my music career goes but this video inspired me to practice what I do more and learn to edit my own music videos
I’ve watched your main channel for a few years now. It’s nice to see you be real here, and just spit whatever’s on your mind.
thats exactly how i was for the longest time and it was caused by many things that were just bringing me down, and finally recently i realized what the value of people actually was to me, and how i should be using my time to be happy compared to how i was. i mean i just sat on my computer trying to meet people that would fill that void exactly like you said but the only people willing to talk were people just like me, and since neither of us got fulfillment from it every time me and the other person would stop talking. i consider myself pretty b a s e d and r e d p i l l e d and never understood what normies got from life that made them so happy. until last year when i started driving and getting interested in cars, which for my whole life i thought to be the most boring shit ever. i dont know if it takes being a normie like everyone else to be happy but since then ive actually found a passion for something, something in real life that gives me goals and a feeling of achievement as i work hard towards them, and now i realize i dont really need all those people i was talking to because i can be happy on my own. none of that is anything i got before when all i did was sit on my computer all day. im especially happy that now i can actually appreciate the games i play, instead of just using them to distract myself from my life. i dont feel like i NEED them anymore, and that makes everything so much more enjoyable.
Hey Tom just wanted to say I was here when you made the Tomdark channel and I remember when this video came out and it was very powerful to me. I was basically rotting away on discord being degenerate ect and I did self improvement only to end up at the same spot but marginally a better person. Through some discord drama and other shit in my personal life I'm basically going through the same cycle and I still relate to this video. Just want to say thanks for making a real video like this that your audience can relate to and anecdotally share that there's a way out of being a discord doomer.
I’m turning 20 soon and I’ve been struggling a bit with the stuff you talked about, so this video is really inspiring! Thank you for posting this
I used to be this "discord doomer" and good lord, those 3 years were pure hell. I wouldn't wish on my worse enemy. I'm still a bit like that, but things have gotten better.
Joe was talking about a friend he had where he ruined his life playing (I think) EverQuest. He would complain about how he was so successful online in the game but he was a loser in real life. I know a few people like this. It's sad.
That's cool and all but who is Joe?
@@Bandug Joe Rogan, Tom mentioned him in the video.
@Krunker Lover jokes on you I have 2 dads.
If you think nostalgia is the only thing keeping you going at 19 wait until you're over 30.
The problem that Ive run into time and time again is that I just genuinely cant build any motivation to be passionate about something and it reeaally sucks :(
Same bro
@@alexsolomons2996 honestly feels like curse fr
@@Despairfilledfool chear up mate. We got to Cut down on the black pills.
I really needed to hear this right now, thank you.
this was the kind of motivation i need to get my shit together, it really resonated with me... i've been loving these videos a lot, thank you for making them :)
It's a tough thing to break out of when you're disabled. I'm still trying to figure out what to do with myself. I've experimented with various avenues but consistency is tough when you don't really have anything grounding you. Like my office is my bedroom. I sleep in there and relax in there. It's hard to be productive like that. Giving up isn't an option.
Damn ever since I graduated high school I just been working at a factory, even I've gotten straight A' s I think I've would have been in the same position I don't have a passion and no ambition I don't have any productive interest
And another thing is, why do people just assume that others have known what they wanted to be since they were 12? Even in Junior High/High School I’ve heard the “If I only tried a little harder when I was younger” cope from boomers and people under payroll from colleges so it would be in their benefit to repeat that line, but the people who say it don’t understand that some people have no idea what they want to be and have no grasp on if what they did in Junior High/High School would even matter afterwards. I sure as hell didn’t and I sure as hell wasn’t going rush out the door at 18 to get caught in the university system to get tangled up in debt to something I didn’t even know if I wanted to do for a living.
It’s a disgusting line of thinking that treats people like economic units instead of human beings.
Waitttt you made me realize something…RUclips was my addiction. Now with this realization, I should start focusing more on hobbies that I have been putting off in order to move forward with my life. Thank you!!!
I'm really glad that this is addressed. Literally all of my old friends have nothing else in life but online presence... we don't talk anymore.
I think I needed to hear this. I've been wasting my time and doing nothing and loathing myself for a long time
This hit harder than any motivational dogshit I've seen on youtube. Wow I gotta rethink some stuff.
The more time I spend online, I can see many people who probably spend too much time on discord and twitter
Tom I found your videos a few months ago and blasted through them pretty quickly, all of them are super impressive to me and I 100% agree that the internet is something that can suck you in and waste our most valuable resource of time. I started recently becoming a voice over artist and this is something I could not do if it wasn’t for the internet but it’s all about how I’m using my resources that is helping me, it really is a double edged sword.
Finally, motivation video just in time not at 3am
It’s really true though. I’m going into my freshman year of college and I’ve begun working out just because I want to feel physically better. Taking the hour for the last week to work out has been so nice and I regret not doing it sooner. And that may not be working out for you it could be drawing or read or whatever. But it’s gotta be something rewarding in some fashion for you to get something out of it yah know.
because of you, i’m addicted to monster energy
this was a real one Tom, thank you my g
I used to be like this beginning of high school but after last year, I know my limits and avoid using social media too much and focusing on people half the world away that don’t really care about me
Basically, being a NEET sucks.
I think I'll listen to the guy who was addicted to Quake back in the day on his experience with how addictive video games can be. LOL
I'm surprised tom is drinking a coke instead of a monster
So... i built a computer at the age of 8, and i'm 18 now.. for about 7 of those years i just sat on my pc.. and god do i regret it now in alot of ways, dont get me wrong it was cool n all at the time but i wish i went out and had more friends as a kid. Highschool and 8th grade i kinda wavered and started being more socially and physically active. I wish alot of things but the most i can do now is get my life together. Im now going to what will hopefully be my first job and i developed a passion for working out and wrestling. Listening to your videos really helps/helped me, and i hope to continue watching them. I know this is a really old video but i needed this.
good luck
love these types of videos a lot
as a ESL im thankful to the internet that i was being able to learn English more or less, English medium is so huge it contains so much knowledge and stuff
before moving out, i was in a pretty bad household so i would stay in my room besides getting food because i would be scared to cause something if i left my room. if someone in my family didn't want to deal with me, i got told to go back to my room and sit on my lazy ass like i always do even though i always did stuff for them around the house. since moving out, i've been trying to get my life in order and work on my mental health. sitting at my desk, using my pc or even looking at my phone isn't healthy for me.
these videos are really chill. post more, these are entertaining.
Im trying to break out of this. Your last video about why you stopped using discord kind of influenced me. I have a full time job but even when I take an extended break from discord it's hard to just get off altogether when I have nothing to replace it with in my free time
I hate how this just feels like a therapy session for me
I agree with the internet can be used for educational things asking if it’s used correctly.
it's crazy that I look up to Tom so much but he's only like a few months older than me. That being said love your videos Tom, you've got great advice :)
Forgetting my discord password might have been one of the greatest things to ever happen to me lmao.
Thank you, man!
This video pretty much described me 2019 -2020. At some point for some reason I desired change and starded trying to work toward my goals. I quit Leage of Legons, my life got so much better and now I am working. Limiting RUclips. I wast to much time waching it and doing nothing. I am paying off my debt, thin I well be leaving CA. Not for another city.
here from pancho’s channel and holy shit your videos are the best thing i came across in a while
I've only just realised how much of a degenerate I am or used to be, I had no friends due to how selfish I was and it caused me to reject friends I already have. I the same mindset of something will change but nothing did. So I got out of my comfort zone and apologised and it surprisingly worked wonders. So I can truly relate to this video.
this hit different i shall admit
how tf did this video motivate me more to get off my ass more than any college counselor has
These are awesome chill vids man. Definitely also reminds me of certain Leafy vids.
Personally I find these videos a lot better where u share ur opinions and knowledge on things. I could imagine this video could be a reality check to some people too
thanks for being a real one tom. basic insights like this are still very meaningful
I have a job which gives me plenty of free time for gaming. Am I living the dream, Turkoid Tom?
i always watch this video when i feel lazy, stay kek bruhddas
I dont have any social media anymore. I deleted instagram over 2 years ago, i deleted discord around the same time (although i never got to into discord) i deleted snapchat about 2 to 3 months ago, and although i can improve alot, i havent felt this good i dont think ever. My only problem is that i watch too much youtube videos and i feel i waste my time on here too much. Ive been learning how to play guitar and i feel happy being able to play guitar. It gives me something, in a way, i can look forward for something
Im so glad I forced myself to stay on one social media and even that was damaging enough.
really love these videos, you hav esome actually really insightful things to say, this is personally relevant to me, and you always deliver it in a casual way, that keeps me interested. Sorry if this sounds like a review, I'm just really enjoying these videos
Remember watching this video when it came out & fuck man, I've seen shit when using discord heavily back in the day.
Knew folks in their late 20s bragging about their parents not pressuring them to find a job & dedicating all their time to video games.
Its such a hole of nothing, it felt disguting knowing i was walking down that similar path unless something changed throughout my highschool life.
This video unironically really put into petspective what had go get done & i couldn't be more grateful
This is how Instagram made me feel so I stopped using it consistently
This is some great advice for those interlopers over on twitter
I'm not surprised at the great advice from young Tom. Could tell he's got good head on his shoulders. That's very rare at that age especially these days. I'm 41 & a successful construction contractor,my dad was too. At 12 I was on the job learning the basics. At 18 running crews making more $ than most guys 10+ yrs older than me & in charge of some too lol. Everyone wanting to be a "entrepreneur" now you better be dedicated,have ridiculous work ethic,no life but work 95% of the time,deal with many types of personalities and most critical valuable thing a problem solver. Point is most ppl have no clue what it's like being the boss especially in small business. Yeah it's great but it can be I'm gonna choke the shit outa someone n burn shit to the ground, can I be a dummy that just collects a check & not think lol.
Damn bro you hit the nail on the head. Have a good one!
Watching this as a 31 year old, and I don't regret being a gamer at all. But I DO regret all the time I spend engaging online with people who bullied me or were toxic as well as all the time I watched rant channels like Bloodblitz...that guy in particular I used to related to because I was a social outcast in HS and I could relate to a lot of the frustrations he had with people that he expressed on RUclips. But then I'd go to school every day feeling angry and looking for things to resent and that just got me nowhere. With hindsight as my homie, it's a miracle that I was able to be on the basketball team and take AP Calculus my senior year
You could’ve just said “go outside, and get a job.”
Man, make me anxious. I'm gonna have to start writing soon again
“I guess 5” lol
5th guy like: yea yea ik I came 3 years later in the group HAHAHA
wow this channel is becoming unironically so good
Yeah, can relate to this. The last 16+ months working from home doing IT work where you don't have to talk to anyone and no coworkers around makes ya lethargic, socializing online with people in the same funk just keeps ya down. Just started back in the office a couple weeks ago and I feel human again. ❤️
Tom, you raise some good points
Bruh quarantine fucked up the little social skill that I had
nah this video hits hard thank god that im in my summer work
Can confirm - I’m 24 and have my first career type job, but it was absolutely murder to get because I was lazy in school and didn’t get the grades I was capable of. Ended up pulling a 1st class honours in my degree but it still didn’t count for much in a lot of employers’ eyes because it came from a pretty shitty university.
For the British kids reading this doing your A Levels - just put the effort in. I know it sucks, I hated it too, but you’ll regret it if you don’t.
This video is really making me rethink how I've been living recently.
Completely agree and understand you. Social media and video games can't bring real fulfilment and I realised that during the loneliness of quarantine.
The best advice I could ever give to someone who's terminally online would be to look for a job. Ever since I got hired I found a sense of purpose and belonging that I could never find online
Man making friends in college and keeping in touch with my close friends back home has done so much for me while at college. All I gotta figure out is how I'm going to pay for college now... gg 🦍
i've let go of friends who are terminally online, and now that i'm away from their toxicity, it's just... sad. they don't have any aspirations even as adults, and they don't know how to exist in the real world. they expect to just make it big on the internet and everything will be okay, but that's not viable. they don't realize that they can't live on the internet.
you know, there are two types in my area: the ones that work hard and don't waste time on video games and people that have a good job as a forklift driver, a wife, kids that play forklift simulator.
I think I like TomDark more than the main channel. I believe in TomDark Supremacy now 🙏
the 'internetwork' is simultaneously a grand encyclopedia of wisdom and a black hole of parasitic degeneracy.
it constantly reminds me that the only way to truly "succeed" as an internet user is to develop your own skills through the academia provided and produce greater art/knowledge than already exists on the worldwide web.
Damn I never thought something could motivate me to actually study.
this was very wholesome.
I got a bunch of AI programming , engineering, and robotics books off the internet. I wanted to put "Make a murder robot" on my bucket list.
Good video man. It was only somewhat recently that I started to really feel the inferiority of online communication in general, and I think that archetype of the Discord Degenerate™️ who just wastes time dicking around on Discord is a powerful enough mental image to keep me cautious so I don't turn into that.