hey everyone! here’s the LA live event video I mentioned in this video! watch it here to go deeper into the empath-narcissist dynamic and learn the cure to finally stop attracting narcissists: ruclips.net/video/bNd4MLCFgPs/видео.html
Empaths are the embodiment of the highest expressions in humanity. Sociopaths & narcissists are deeply traumatized empaths, scoring high on the psychopathy spectrum to become secondary psychopaths. We are born empathic or psychopathic & one will spend it's lifetime destroying the other. Many are reduced to hungry ghosts feeding off energy no longer accessible, without a host.
As I was healing.. I promise myself to never abandont myself even if everyone will.. we tend to attract people who abundant us because we abandon ourselves.. become your best friend..
I’m an empath, a giver yet i don’t expect Anything in return. I have learned to accept a compliment, whether I believe it or not Ive learned to accept it and say “Thank you”.
This is honestly more enlightening than any of the 3 therapists visits and my talk with a psychiatrist has been. Thank you Aaron! I can’t express enough how much you are changing the world around you by being you!
I just came from a party and this was fully the main theme! I broke the Spell last night and then this video shows up when I arrive at home and open You tube! Confirmation resonance and fully aware of the trauma response oversharing! ‘ When you know who you are you don’t tune to other people to tell you who you are! Exactly!
when I healed my trauma with counseling and meditation I found a wonderful loving man. Thank you God and all of the wonderful RUclipsrs like Aaron. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Being around an empath won’t trigger your fight/flight, give you adrenal fatigue and autoimmune where narcissist will. Even though it might be same core wound, narcissist in the end will win because the empath ends up sick or dead if they don’t figure it out while narcissist has fine life. Equal wounds, but unequal outcomes for sure.
It is only this way because our world is sick. If people were helping the helpers, it would not be this way. If we did not tell our most beautiful and perfect persons to stop being so wonderful, and be a little more horrible(toughen up), so that they aren't taken advantage of by horrible people, it would not be this way. Why do we capitulate to the narcissists, worsening our best because of them, instead of making the narcissists leave our precious perfect ones Alone. We are pushing our society down the drain. Making everyone be worse and worse so they won't be harmed by the worst of us, but soon they too will be the worst of us, because we refuse to allow people to be generous and kind by Defending Them instead of Tainting Them. A bit of shadow does not hide you from the darkness. 🕊️♥️🍀🧠🎶💪🏼
Simply stop caring and loving people too much, create healthy boundaries, be sober in relationships so that you smell the early grooming which is too good to be true and saying no often to keep off the narcs.
Aaron- I’ve followed you for years but also researched this type of manipulation for years. But WOW the way you put things is absolutely incredible. I “know” all of this but you make it hit home in a way nobody else does! Thank you so very much for your videos and what you share. Nothing but blessings, love, and endless success sent your way!! ✨
Im naturally a empath from me coming up as a child as coping. My wife was narcissistic from coping. I accepted myself and as we accept ourselves. We share our strengths and weaknesses. We've healed each other. They aren't always your enemy.
WOW! I was with a Narcissists for 11.5 years and found out she had been cheating on me basically the whole time. I took her from rags to riches and thought I was doing such a great job for helping someone grow. She never cared to learn any lesson and in the end tried to take everything from me. You NAILED this and it was just what I needed to put everything in perspective. Thank you so much
I'm so sick of everyone blaming empaths for being narc magnets! If you were a narc would you be attracted to some selfish mean jerk like yourself or a kind and giving person?? I was raised by a narc parent and married another. I am not changing who I am. I will just be more cautious with whom I share my space with, but narcs are unapologetically who they are, and so am I. I do not control who is attracted to me, I only control who I decide to give my time, love & energy to.
Over giving IS selfish,but a poorly constructed selfishness.Narcissists are incredibly difficult to please,and in my own case,I can actually SEE the wounded child in myself STILL trying to get approval. The narcissist never gives it,and I exhaust myself.May all 'empaths' free themselves from overgiving...it sucks.
It's such a hard lesson. I'm teaching myself to feel more "sober" and neutral around other people, ESPECIALLY when I like them or feel attracted to them. I force myself to stay in my own frame and in my own lane. It's super uncomfortable, but I'm getting used to it, and it feels like I'm regaining more peace, more objectivity, more balance, more energy to focus on other stuff. The women's behaviors that used to trigger me so much in the past don't disturb me as much anymore because i'm learning to integrate a bit of their intrinsic qualities (that i was clearly lacking). And it feels good, to be honest, to learn to be a bit more self-empowered.
Much of your words in this video resonates with my lived experiences. I think as empaths we give a lot of our energy to the point of depletion. I think this is a very difficult lesson to learn. To protect your energy and not let others deplete you. 2024 was a turning point for me and I had to cut ties with people who meant a lot to me but depleted my energy. I lost love and friendships. It is the most challenging experience to live through and you do not heal overnight. It is ongoing and there are so many highs and lows on the path to healing.
❤ I get this now. Thank you for the way you explained this. I've had these dealings w narcs as an empath and I didn't understand the why. Now I have a better understanding and my part in this interaction. Thank you for all you do for the collective Aaron.
I’ve learned so much from you through the years. So happy to see you more active here on RUclips. I remember those days of you with short hair, no tattoos and the white board that you said it made you feel more confident. Happy to be here and on some online events for many years ❤.
Brother I would pay $200-$300 per day for such an incredible session and knowledge. I have the same struggle in business from this more personal question. These days I ask myself what I’d be willing to pay for another and recognize the valuation standard also applies to me. I’m learning to apply this perspective in other areas too. It’s a forever growth process. Thank you for your light in the world. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
You helped me change my life! we do it together lol. Jokes aside i found your channel last year and since that moment lots of things changed for me. Finally I have the courage to do what I want to do, pursue my artist career even if I'm graduated in other stuff. I'm becoming my real me a little bit more everyday, thanks Aaron I love you from the bottom of my heart
I’m just exhausted from feeling others energies all day everyday all night etc. I’m so tired. It’s an uphill battle trying to please everyone. Aaron you said bring the energy back to yourself that is helping me
It's a fascinating concept that empaths are manipulating in a similar way to narcissists. I've never heard anyone talk about it like that before. It does make complete sense though. Very interesting.
I’ve watched at least 100 if not more you tube on narcissism. FINALLY!!!!!! A breakthrough. Married 8 yrs separated 3 months gone back 1 year separate 5 months, gone back,then divorced 6 years, went back for 2 years left twice in between. A total nightmare. Now I finally get an explanation WHY AND HOW it happens. I am totally free now! I can’t believe this. Please have more exposure somehow. This explanation will save lives. Sounds like I’m a flake…big BUT. He’s the nicest guy you will ever meet…but he’s always on a quest for wanting something especially $ I lost a lifetime of wealth. I’m exposing raw here. Thank you!
It’s very true that overgivers are selfish. I don’t think I’ve ever met a people pleaser that was doing it purely from the kindness of their heart. All of them that I know, only do it because they expect the same thing back. Of course they wouldn’t admit it, but the expectation is absolutely there.
I hear what ur saying. But I can vouch for the fact that that's not true in every case. I looked after my narcissistic mother for 11 years before she passed at 93. It broke me ! But I did it cause she was my mother, I loved her and couldn't bear to put her in a nursing home that would've broken her heart and also the possibility of her being abused in the home which sometimes happens. I didn't expect the treatment I got from her, I didn't understand it at the time but then I learned about narcissistic behaviour and realised what was going on - at the very end. Could I have walked away - yes, but how do u abandon ur own mother. So when ur in that situation it's not always black and white where u can just walk away. And trust me I certainly got nothing out of it only ill health physically and mentally. I'm a lot better now thanks to RUclips including Aarons teachings. I'm not having a go or anything but just saying.
U get something out of it, u can tell everybody online and offline what a care taker and how selfless u r. U reflect on how giving u r and let people know.
@@bobohobo7652 If u are referring to me u couldn't be more wrong. Uv completely missed the point. Anyway I'm not on here to argue - just giving my view point.
@@miriamroche671A caregiver often doesn't choose to be an over giver. Sometimes a person you love is ill,needs care,and as you pointed out ,you don't want to put them in a care home..... ( featuring people who often DO NOT CARE). Also,if they are ill,you don't know HOW LONG they will be alive. If they become even more narcissistic,leaving them when they are old and ill is not something I could do. Leaving a blatant narcissist who is NOT ill,after you find out about narcissists and your own empathic nature,IS feasible. Yeh,being a caregiver doesn't give you gold stars in the " I am so giving" department. Everyone I know who has been the caregiver suffers because they are not 'cheerful' enough about it.
The limerance illusion was a source of oxytocin and dopamine. I like to feel good. And curious about a narcissistic mirror . Towers and triggers for my growth . Total breadcrumbs and manipulation experience. Thank you 🙏
True....I gave healing energy to a group of people and wanted validation of them...admiration etc. Now I released this completely and only give to myself and maybe a few peope but in a balanced way :) I am free.
You may never read this but your videos are saving my life right now….its helping me understand myself more and I was really falling into a hole of hating myself. I’ve always been a giver yet I’ve started realizing that I am a taker, I feel exploitative in friendships because I was realizing that I was being transactional with my giving. Your videos are so kind to me without letting me off the hook or live feeling like a victim. It’s helpful to integrate the concept that I really have been attracting to entitled people who don’t mind taking up space. I am blown away by people like that and do wish for more balance in my own being. Anyways, I am a work in progress and sitting in gratitude right now.
This guy is incredible! The person who edits these videos is a genius! Aaron talks about something and then the words pop up for your mind to comprehend what Aaron is saying. Really easy to follow and makes a lot of sense. These videos have changed my life.
Omg! I can't believe you just said that I'm in tears! Fear of abandonment! Yep! You hit nail on head with this giver I've always known fear of abandonment just didn't know anyone else did wow!
I’ve finally learned when people compliment me to reply “Thank you for noticing!” or “Thanks-that’s kind of you to say so!” If someone thanks me for doing something, I accept it and reply “You’re welcome!” It took a long time for me to feel humble yet worthy.
I love this!!! I also secretly want you to invite that same "Consumer Friend" back after you've installed a pay wall like a vending machine to see if they treat their purchases with the same cavalier disregard they give to your purchases. 😉😅 Your growth and insights make the world a better place!
⚖️ It blows my mind when people say they’re attracted to narcissists. ⚖️ Well for a start it’s RUDE to go to someone’s fridge and just take cans of drink without asking. When I go round someone’s house I wait to be offered a drink or if it was hours or I was really gasping of thirst I’d ask for some water. I’m glad I have ‘manners’ and most importantly ‘empathy’ and I’m not at all resonating or attracted to unhealthy dynamics. It is very rude and wasteful to be a friend who behaves in that inconsiderate and lack of regard manner, it is a taking energy. Also I as an empath don’t have an interest in Narcissists, I don’t need a ‘shitty persons approval’ when I can have the approval of a divine soul. (I mean come on where’s your self worth at?) I wouldn’t even entertain or get something from being around a dark energy as I’m not into them, I avoid like the plague. I’m not into the dirty pay off thing of having a narcissists approval because I would not even want to associate. BECAUSE I know I’d rather not be around or associate myself with shitty manipulative dark energy who I have nothing in common with and all superficial connection is not worth having or being around. I relate to energies that feel aligned with my beingness I resonate being around genuine sincere kind hearted that resonates and can relate with my soul. Coming from an Empowered Empath that’s been through a lot and dealt with a lot, I won’t even associate with energies that are not worthy of my time. If they’re not mutually an authentic soul who has integrity and a mutually heart centred nature, they most certainly don’t get to have my presence in their life because I’m strong and grounded in my core values and self worth. Cheers to encouraging EMPOWERED EMPATHS ~ Halo Ariel ❤️🔥⭐️🪩⚖️🙌🏻
I just found you Aaron and clearly you have the same 'way' as me so I'll be listening. And interestingly enough, I grew up with a father who had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Possibly on the malignant scale.
Such amazing explanation to the question why ! You uncovered something no therapist have been able to , so, i got way better understanding of what and why has been going on for me, love the part about getting compliments and recognition- have always had struggles to accept those.. Thank you ❤
This is so valuable to help me become more aware of myown ego and dark side and learn lessons i need. I literally asked my guides to help me learn my lesson connected to that subject.
I think the difference between a narcissist and an empath can be both big and small. Sometimes the only difference is the empathy and the entitlement to treat people badly. Especially if there's trauma, that's when the difference is smaller I believe. I think that narcissists and empaths understand each other in this case, they see the wounds in each other and therefore a connection. Just like when empaths are drawn to other empaths. Even if it's less toxic (hopefully not toxic at all).
I am one of those people that open a can of beverage and put back it in the fridge to keep it cold (and forget). As someone with ADHD sometime I wasn’t even aware that I was doing that until when I clean out the fridge and see the cans of stale sodas that have been sitting there for while. Thanks for bringing it to my attention so that I would be conscious of my behavior and have a secret spot in the fridge where I want a sip of the cold beverage! Practicing to be more present! 😅
It's to balance yourself out. I couldn't leave him for me, but I had the epiphany that as an empath I wasn't just feeling what others feel as if they were my own feelings but i was also projecting my own feelings on (as a star seed) a much larger scale than most people. The abusive narcissist made me feel helpless, worthless, degraded, etc. The next time i was intimate with him, i told his higher/lower self (through telepathy) "you cannot use me to hurt others ever again" and the universe provided me a door to leave him 3 days later. 4 years later, i am finally going through counseling to enstill more self respect to open up my respectability.
Egoism (narcissism) and altruism (empathy) are two ends of the same stick. Same as love and hate. The real enemy of the first couple is apathy and of the second, ignorance.
Thank you, Aaron for sharing interesting insights. If I were you, I'd nicely remind or tell your friend to finish the juice. Some people don't even realise that they are wasting the juice because they were raised with different values. They might not even be narcs. They might just be too carefree.
As a hard Narcissist i couldn’t relate more. As a empath overgive and can’t receive. Narcissists overrecieve and can’t give, I realized that even though I know now that I have problems with it, I can’t share my feelings and emotions properly.
Oh Man! I’m so glad I’ve discovered your Persona few months ago. You made and still doing that a huge impact on my growing/exploring expeditions:) like that influence! Hugs with eastern vibes 💚💫 and wish You great 2025 chapters- may it surprise you with sth super duper!
Humans are uniquely different. Using time is easy, maybe difficult. The fact is, that I have no influence on time, which by itself continuously passes effortlessly. But the essence of, what is created over time, is for me decisive for whether I made sense of it, before it runs out. Time is a limited currency, make the best of with it.
My question what is even “nice” and “mean” Be careful and safe in this world 🌎 a lot of these people probably were supposed to stay/be in prison or a reform program. Most people in rehabs, nurses, hair dressers, tattoo artists. I would judge these people there’s some truth to all of it I think with these types. Maybe not to the extreme but there is some truths to these types of people that have strong violent tendencies towards others. Whether it’s gossip or physical or psychological. Unfortunately some of us are related but I do not want to be associated it’s brought a lot of bad experiences, people and drama that’s really scary. Even when they have calmed down it’s not pleasant recovering from them. And it’s too extreme that therapists etc will report them as abuse and sometimes it’s too late to do anything about any of it. Do any of us really know. Is it extreme immaturity? No one knows 🙏
Love the comedic truths 😭 Resonate so much 😂 It will forever live rent free in my head as I instantly change my actions to never do those things again lol
Wow, I had to pause, because your example is so dead on, it's crazy!!!! My best friend owned a huge 2 million dollar home, people were always coming and hanging out, and we would gripe about who left there half drunken sodas everywhere, but as " I was earning my keep" for getting to stay there part time, and live. Usually by doing a ton of dishes, or something like dishes, mopping floor etc, I was like" man! I wish I could just come here, enjoy it and leave, not caring really about helping out or whatever, but just be enjoying myself so much, that I forgot my soda, or be in the frame of mind of, not asking if I needed help with doing dishes, like so many NEVER asked me!!!! My best friend died, her husband died, and they were both lazy and sick before they passed. Guess who took care of them, and the home before? And now I have nothing, I spent years caring for them, that my own life suffered and still is. I just watched my first video of yours today! And omg! Thank you! I mean! Really! Thank you! After one video you have changed my life, when all I wanted to do was sit and wonder why everyone hates me! And I have to be alone! Wow! I can't wait to learn more from you! Thank you. Nothing else has worked since my friends died, and I had to leave my huge part time home,to come back to my small house,small town,and no friends.
Thank you Arron for this video I am the person that spent a year and a half with a narcissist and we broke up got back together don't why I still want this person in my life, but know I understand what my issue is. W are both feeding of each other. I don't need to validation from a taker I am enough and worth of a true worthy connection.🙂
Yep. We have to heal that and accept our shadow or "bad", with no fear in order to find more balanced people. We receive validation about being good too. :/
Difficult conversation, but totally needed. I was thinking about that and lots of videos accusing others to be narcisist, and how to acknowledge that, and inside of me I was thinking.... That's not what I want to know. I know better off this... I know that the outside is a reflection from inside.... So its my consciousness awareness... thanks Aaron. ❤❤
I learned in Psychology 101 that Altruism doesn't exist. Everyone is receiving a payoff. I disagree that the Empath are on the same vibration as the Narcissist. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction" is a statement describing Newton's Third Law of Motion which essentially means that when one object exerts a force on another object, the second object exerts an equal and opposite force back on the first object. Narcissists & Empaths both run down the same family trees. This is why they attract. The Empath marries a replica of their Narcissist parent. The Narcissist marries a replica of their Empath parent. Since they attract, they often marry & have children. The children energetically copy 1 of the 2 roles. Always a scapegoat & a golden child. ❤❤❤❤ Good info Aaron.
This happen only when you unhealed.. Once you heal core wounds thats actually attracts narcissist you will be able recognaise.. because say avoidant attachment attracts anxious because same core wounds same with unhealed empaths
We were conditioned to give and not to get. That we don’t give to get. Then manifest emotionally unavailable takers. That eventually reveal the need for our own self care and love. Which applies to both parties unhealed aspects. Equal and opposite
I want to note there are many people that can not support others or strangely are Never able to give others a compliment .( I suspect Jealously and insecurity ) I think this is due to their own low self esteem , although possibly not apparent. They will not make another feel good or show support , since it takes the spot light off them selves . They do know you are also worthy of praise ..but they cant give that power over to someone with out feeling at some loss . My thinking is sharing good will and compliments , generally gives you more back than anything it gives others .
I'm trying to retrain myself to practice the art of not doing whenever possible. We are trained to see just two ways, giving or taking, good or bad, right or wrong. But there is good and bad in both sides. Not doing would be to react to a compliment not with rejection and not with acceptance, but with a look and a smile. Acknowledgement, but no action or reaction. So nobody can manipulate you with an artificial compliment to trigger a reaction, nobody would feel rejected, when you deflect, you receive without taking. It's hard to do, the whole world thinks in pairs, but it is possible and so much better, at least for me. 😁
I'm working at a restaurant, and we had an artist exhibiting drawings on the wall... and everybody was commenting on how his prices were high. And then a few weeks later, i was invited to exhibit my own art on the walls ! I thought, shit i'm gonna put the exact same prices, maybe even slightly higher, just to see if i dare 😁😆
I think another reason why empaths attract narcissists is because many of us come from narcissistic family constellations. I once went to a family constellation event where the facilitators tune into the person's energy field and start playing characters association with the family constellation. I think narcissists can sense the narcissistic energy within the empath's energy. It feels compelling to them. And they start acting out the narcissistic stories carried by the empath. How our emotions move and cycle in our lives is largely due to epigenetics. There is a lot of evidence for this in books like It DIdnt Start With You by Mark Wolynn. So yes, there might be this part of us that empaths try to deny. But I think that empaths are trying separate themselves from the toxic family constellation, how their emotions move, which is largely inherited from the family.
Today I realized that as a giver. I chase narcissista becauee focusing on them is easier then focusing on myself. I give love compassion to others super hard to give it to myself. I can do it here and there for a minute but I cant do it consistently. .I hope by giving that someone else will be responsible to give to me, to make me feel worthy
I wouldn't say they occupy the opposite energy cause ultimately Gods creative energy is positive, eventually. What I would say is that they occupy opposite frequencies . Empaths live almost exclusively out of the first energy center and Narcissists live out of the third center. This is why the second center and sexuality is the only frequency they can meet at or in creative venture together, I have seen this in business deals with covert Narcs. Dr. Joe Dispenza speaks that a bond can only be created between two individuals who share the same thoughts and emotional root similar frequency Even if the top of is opposite of the others. The only thing that can break this unhealthy bond of stuck energy to build something more beautiful is the fruits of the spirit, discipline, love, compassion, wholeness in our creator.
It is important to know the very first intention and motivation and even point of view, as soon as there are thousand other thoughts as a reaction to this very thought. In such a case you are never gonna have your own thought. Of course there are blind spots and noone says that authentic self is not the one with light and shadow. Somehow. Thank you
Everyone is a trigger now and then. Whether they want it or not. It is what it is. This is not the reason to never have their own thought or intuition. Somehow.
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hey everyone! here’s the LA live event video I mentioned in this video! watch it here to go deeper into the empath-narcissist dynamic and learn the cure to finally stop attracting narcissists: ruclips.net/video/bNd4MLCFgPs/видео.html
Aaron, I love your videos and what you share. You also crack me up! 😆 Happy New Year!
Empaths are the embodiment of the highest expressions in humanity. Sociopaths & narcissists are deeply traumatized empaths, scoring high on the psychopathy spectrum to become secondary psychopaths. We are born empathic or psychopathic & one will spend it's lifetime destroying the other. Many are reduced to hungry ghosts feeding off energy no longer accessible, without a host.
Brilliant mind ✨ thank you thank you thank you
As I was healing.. I promise myself to never abandont myself even if everyone will.. we tend to attract people who abundant us because we abandon ourselves.. become your best friend..
❤❤❤Yes!😊
So true, wow.
Yes!!!!!
I’m an empath, a giver yet i don’t expect Anything in return. I have learned to accept a compliment, whether I believe it or not Ive learned to accept it and say “Thank you”.
This is honestly more enlightening than any of the 3 therapists visits and my talk with a psychiatrist has been. Thank you Aaron! I can’t express enough how much you are changing the world around you by being you!
Not abandoning yourself is a good one.
Wow. This resonates so much. I am recovering empath. All the giving, over sharing… Such a life lesson at the moment.
I just came from a party and this was fully the main theme! I broke the Spell last night and then this video shows up when I arrive at home and open You tube! Confirmation resonance and fully aware of the trauma response oversharing!
‘ When you know who you are you don’t tune to other people to tell you who you are! Exactly!
when I healed my trauma with counseling and meditation I found a wonderful loving man. Thank you God and all of the wonderful RUclipsrs like Aaron. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Which meditation was it?
@ many different ones for relaxation from Aaron Doughty and Gary Zukav. There are a ton on RUclips. God Bless 🙏🏻
@@deec411 which one do u recommend from Aaron’s youtube? Thank youu
Being around an empath won’t trigger your fight/flight, give you adrenal fatigue and autoimmune where narcissist will. Even though it might be same core wound, narcissist in the end will win because the empath ends up sick or dead if they don’t figure it out while narcissist has fine life. Equal wounds, but unequal outcomes for sure.
Once an empath becomes empowered they can no longer be MANipulated!
It is only this way because our world is sick.
If people were helping the helpers, it would not be this way.
If we did not tell our most beautiful and perfect persons to stop being so wonderful, and be a little more horrible(toughen up), so that they aren't taken advantage of by horrible people, it would not be this way.
Why do we capitulate to the narcissists, worsening our best because of them, instead of making the narcissists leave our precious perfect ones Alone.
We are pushing our society down the drain. Making everyone be worse and worse so they won't be harmed by the worst of us, but soon they too will be the worst of us, because we refuse to allow people to be generous and kind by Defending Them instead of Tainting Them.
A bit of shadow does not hide you from the darkness.
🕊️♥️🍀🧠🎶💪🏼
Simply stop caring and loving people too much, create healthy boundaries, be sober in relationships so that you smell the early grooming which is too good to be true and saying no often to keep off the narcs.
This!!! 💯💯🎯🎯
Aaron- I’ve followed you for years but also researched this type of manipulation for years. But WOW the way you put things is absolutely incredible. I “know” all of this but you make it hit home in a way nobody else does! Thank you so very much for your videos and what you share. Nothing but blessings, love, and endless success sent your way!! ✨
Im naturally a empath from me coming up as a child as coping. My wife was narcissistic from coping. I accepted myself and as we accept ourselves. We share our strengths and weaknesses. We've healed each other. They aren't always your enemy.
May be ur wife isnt a full blown narc… only ppl who have been destroyed by these narcissistic snakes know that boundary is must
That's wonderful ❤
She may have the characteristics of one but I can assure you that you're not happily married to a narcissist.
Thank you
Because the root is "I'm not good enough" - empath then reacts to GIVE MORE, nacissists oppositely NEEDS TO PROOVE BETTER THAN OTHERS to be enough.
WOW! I was with a Narcissists for 11.5 years and found out she had been cheating on me basically the whole time. I took her from rags to riches and thought I was doing such a great job for helping someone grow. She never cared to learn any lesson and in the end tried to take everything from me. You NAILED this and it was just what I needed to put everything in perspective. Thank you so much
I'm so sick of everyone blaming empaths for being narc magnets!
If you were a narc would you be attracted to some selfish mean jerk like yourself or a kind and giving person??
I was raised by a narc parent and married another.
I am not changing who I am. I will just be more cautious with whom I share my space with, but narcs are unapologetically who they are, and so am I.
I do not control who is attracted to me, I only control who I decide to give my time, love & energy to.
It's all about vibrational energy
Over giving IS selfish,but a poorly constructed selfishness.Narcissists are incredibly difficult to please,and in my own case,I can actually SEE the wounded child in myself STILL trying to get approval. The narcissist never gives it,and I exhaust myself.May all 'empaths' free themselves from overgiving...it sucks.
It's such a hard lesson. I'm teaching myself to feel more "sober" and neutral around other people, ESPECIALLY when I like them or feel attracted to them. I force myself to stay in my own frame and in my own lane. It's super uncomfortable, but I'm getting used to it, and it feels like I'm regaining more peace, more objectivity, more balance, more energy to focus on other stuff. The women's behaviors that used to trigger me so much in the past don't disturb me as much anymore because i'm learning to integrate a bit of their intrinsic qualities (that i was clearly lacking). And it feels good, to be honest, to learn to be a bit more self-empowered.
Much of your words in this video resonates with my lived experiences. I think as empaths we give a lot of our energy to the point of depletion. I think this is a very difficult lesson to learn. To protect your energy and not let others deplete you. 2024 was a turning point for me and I had to cut ties with people who meant a lot to me but depleted my energy. I lost love and friendships. It is the most challenging experience to live through and you do not heal overnight. It is ongoing and there are so many highs and lows on the path to healing.
High levels of self respects and learning to hold our energy in reserves for ourselves instead of giving it out all over the place.
❤ I get this now. Thank you for the way you explained this. I've had these dealings w narcs as an empath and I didn't understand the why. Now I have a better understanding and my part in this interaction. Thank you for all you do for the collective Aaron.
I’ve learned so much from you through the years. So happy to see you more active here on RUclips. I remember those days of you with short hair, no tattoos and the white board that you said it made you feel more confident. Happy to be here and on some online events for many years ❤.
Brother I would pay $200-$300 per day for such an incredible session and knowledge. I have the same struggle in business from this more personal question. These days I ask myself what I’d be willing to pay for another and recognize the valuation standard also applies to me. I’m learning to apply this perspective in other areas too. It’s a forever growth process. Thank you for your light in the world. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
You helped me change my life! we do it together lol. Jokes aside i found your channel last year and since that moment lots of things changed for me. Finally I have the courage to do what I want to do, pursue my artist career even if I'm graduated in other stuff. I'm becoming my real me a little bit more everyday, thanks Aaron I love you from the bottom of my heart
I’m just exhausted from feeling others energies all day everyday all night etc. I’m so tired. It’s an uphill battle trying to please everyone. Aaron you said bring the energy back to yourself that is helping me
It's a fascinating concept that empaths are manipulating in a similar way to narcissists. I've never heard anyone talk about it like that before. It does make complete sense though. Very interesting.
I’ve watched at least 100 if not more you tube on narcissism. FINALLY!!!!!! A breakthrough. Married 8 yrs separated 3 months gone back 1 year separate 5 months, gone back,then divorced 6 years, went back for 2 years left twice in between. A total nightmare. Now I finally get an explanation WHY AND HOW it happens. I am totally free now! I can’t believe this. Please have more exposure somehow. This explanation will save lives. Sounds like I’m a flake…big BUT. He’s the nicest guy you will ever meet…but he’s always on a quest for wanting something especially $ I lost a lifetime of wealth. I’m exposing raw here. Thank you!
It’s very true that overgivers are selfish. I don’t think I’ve ever met a people pleaser that was doing it purely from the kindness of their heart. All of them that I know, only do it because they expect the same thing back. Of course they wouldn’t admit it, but the expectation is absolutely there.
I hear what ur saying. But I can vouch for the fact that that's not true in every case. I looked after my narcissistic mother for 11 years before she passed at 93. It broke me ! But I did it cause she was my mother, I loved her and couldn't bear to put her in a nursing home that would've broken her heart and also the possibility of her being abused in the home which sometimes happens. I didn't expect the treatment I got from her, I didn't understand it at the time but then I learned about narcissistic behaviour and realised what was going on - at the very end. Could I have walked away - yes, but how do u abandon ur own mother. So when ur in that situation it's not always black and white where u can just walk away. And trust me I certainly got nothing out of it only ill health physically and mentally. I'm a lot better now thanks to RUclips including Aarons teachings. I'm not having a go or anything but just saying.
U get something out of it, u can tell everybody online and offline what a care taker and how selfless u r.
U reflect on how giving u r and let people know.
@@bobohobo7652 If u are referring to me u couldn't be more wrong. Uv completely missed the point. Anyway I'm not on here to argue - just giving my view point.
@@miriamroche671A caregiver often doesn't
choose to be an over giver. Sometimes a person you love is ill,needs care,and as you pointed out ,you don't want to put them in a care home..... ( featuring people who often DO NOT CARE).
Also,if they are ill,you don't know HOW LONG they will be alive.
If they become even more narcissistic,leaving them when they are old and ill is not something I could do.
Leaving a blatant narcissist who is NOT ill,after you find out about narcissists and your own empathic nature,IS feasible.
Yeh,being a caregiver doesn't give you gold stars in the " I am so giving" department.
Everyone I know who has been the caregiver suffers because they are not 'cheerful' enough about it.
Don't agree entirely , some folk just have a generous heart.....
The limerance illusion was a source of oxytocin and dopamine. I like to feel good. And curious about a narcissistic mirror . Towers and triggers for my growth . Total breadcrumbs and manipulation experience. Thank you 🙏
True....I gave healing energy to a group of people and wanted validation of them...admiration etc.
Now I released this completely and only give to myself and maybe a few peope but in a balanced way :) I am free.
You may never read this but your videos are saving my life right now….its helping me understand myself more and I was really falling into a hole of hating myself. I’ve always been a giver yet I’ve started realizing that I am a taker, I feel exploitative in friendships because I was realizing that I was being transactional with my giving. Your videos are so kind to me without letting me off the hook or live feeling like a victim. It’s helpful to integrate the concept that I really have been attracting to entitled people who don’t mind taking up space. I am blown away by people like that and do wish for more balance in my own being. Anyways, I am a work in progress and sitting in gratitude right now.
This guy is incredible! The person who edits these videos is a genius! Aaron talks about something and then the words pop up for your mind to comprehend what Aaron is saying. Really easy to follow and makes a lot of sense. These videos have changed my life.
reading banned books on fathomora about the law of attraction is like unlocking a hidden side of manifesting
Wth?!😂😂😂
Advertising crap
On what Fathomora, what's that please?
By “banned”, you mean “first result on google”?
Scam
Omg! I can't believe you just said that I'm in tears! Fear of abandonment! Yep! You hit nail on head with this giver I've always known fear of abandonment just didn't know anyone else did wow!
I’ve finally learned when people compliment me to reply “Thank you for noticing!” or “Thanks-that’s kind of you to say so!” If someone thanks me for doing something, I accept it and reply “You’re welcome!” It took a long time for me to feel humble yet worthy.
I love this!!! I also secretly want you to invite that same "Consumer Friend" back after you've installed a pay wall like a vending machine to see if they treat their purchases with the same cavalier disregard they give to your purchases. 😉😅
Your growth and insights make the world a better place!
they don’t want you to read the book 'Magnetic Aura' by Takeshi Mizuki because it says the stuff no one else is brave enough to say about attraction
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Can you pls expand on this? I’m genuinely interested. TY🫶🏽
⚖️ It blows my mind when people say they’re attracted to narcissists.
⚖️ Well for a start it’s RUDE to go to someone’s fridge and just take cans of drink without asking.
When I go round someone’s house I wait to be offered a drink or if it was hours or I was really gasping of thirst I’d ask for some water.
I’m glad I have ‘manners’ and most importantly
‘empathy’ and I’m not at all resonating or attracted to unhealthy dynamics.
It is very rude and wasteful to be a friend who behaves in that inconsiderate and lack of regard manner, it is a taking energy.
Also I as an empath don’t have an interest in Narcissists, I don’t need a ‘shitty persons approval’ when I can have the approval of a divine soul. (I mean come on where’s your self worth at?)
I wouldn’t even entertain or get something from being around a dark energy as I’m not into them, I avoid like the plague.
I’m not into the dirty pay off thing of having a narcissists approval because I would not even want to associate. BECAUSE I know I’d rather not be around or associate myself with shitty manipulative dark energy who I have nothing in common with and all superficial connection is not worth having or being around.
I relate to energies that feel aligned with my beingness
I resonate being around genuine sincere kind hearted that resonates and can relate with my soul.
Coming from an Empowered Empath that’s been through a lot and dealt with a lot, I won’t even associate with energies that are not worthy of my time. If they’re not mutually an authentic soul who has integrity and a mutually heart centred nature, they most certainly don’t get to have my presence in their life because I’m strong and grounded in my core values and self worth.
Cheers to encouraging EMPOWERED EMPATHS
~ Halo Ariel ❤️🔥⭐️🪩⚖️🙌🏻
instead of over taking or under taking... we could just share!👐
I just found you Aaron and clearly you have the same 'way' as me so I'll be listening. And interestingly enough, I grew up with a father who had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Possibly on the malignant scale.
I don't see it as attract. I see it as chosen to judge a narcisist is what empath is for.
If we keep attracting narcissist its because we need to learn somthong.
This took me many many hard years to learn. It’s 1000% the truth! Better late than never though✨❤️
Such amazing explanation to the question why ! You uncovered something no therapist have been able to , so, i got way better understanding of what and why has been going on for me, love the part about getting compliments and recognition- have always had struggles to accept those..
Thank you ❤
This is so valuable to help me become more aware of myown ego and dark side and learn lessons i need. I literally asked my guides to help me learn my lesson connected to that subject.
I think the difference between a narcissist and an empath can be both big and small. Sometimes the only difference is the empathy and the entitlement to treat people badly. Especially if there's trauma, that's when the difference is smaller I believe. I think that narcissists and empaths understand each other in this case, they see the wounds in each other and therefore a connection. Just like when empaths are drawn to other empaths. Even if it's less toxic (hopefully not toxic at all).
Wow, you SO nailed the empath/cody pattern. I can totally relate. Thank you for sharing!
I am one of those people that open a can of beverage and put back it in the fridge to keep it cold (and forget). As someone with ADHD sometime I wasn’t even aware that I was doing that until when I clean out the fridge and see the cans of stale sodas that have been sitting there for while. Thanks for bringing it to my attention so that I would be conscious of my behavior and have a secret spot in the fridge where I want a sip of the cold beverage! Practicing to be more present! 😅
It's to balance yourself out. I couldn't leave him for me, but I had the epiphany that as an empath I wasn't just feeling what others feel as if they were my own feelings but i was also projecting my own feelings on (as a star seed) a much larger scale than most people. The abusive narcissist made me feel helpless, worthless, degraded, etc. The next time i was intimate with him, i told his higher/lower self (through telepathy) "you cannot use me to hurt others ever again" and the universe provided me a door to leave him 3 days later. 4 years later, i am finally going through counseling to enstill more self respect to open up my respectability.
lol I can tell you were hanging out with Owen, you were emulating his mannerisms and I loved it. Made me giggle.
Egoism (narcissism) and altruism (empathy) are two ends of the same stick. Same as love and hate. The real enemy of the first couple is apathy and of the second, ignorance.
Thank you... I received the message... Much love to you and yours.
I feel like I know this answer. It's the same core wound, but different responses to it
I am working on receiving. It's my challenge spot for sure.
I love this ...I'm learning to be the right amount of selfish with my energy...
🎉 Happy New Year, Aaron 🎉
Thank you Aaron, same - sooo interested in human behaviour and what makes us tick
Thank you, Aaron for sharing interesting insights.
If I were you, I'd nicely remind or tell your friend to finish the juice. Some people don't even realise that they are wasting the juice because they were raised with different values. They might not even be narcs. They might just be too carefree.
You are such a great find! Aaron, you have a great perspective on this issue. As a psychotherapist empath I agree with everything you’re saying here ❤
Fabulous advice! Thank u love! Been following u for a few years now! Always great stuff
As a hard Narcissist i couldn’t relate more. As a empath overgive and can’t receive. Narcissists overrecieve and can’t give, I realized that even though I know now that I have problems with it, I can’t share my feelings and emotions properly.
This really hit the spot where I am at the moment. Thank you, still trying to be more of an observer to things more than reactant. Thanks again ✨💖✨
Very nice, fun to watch and educational video. Thank you!
As a sensitive person this explain a lot about my life with a narcisist manipulative mother
Oh Man! I’m so glad I’ve discovered your Persona few months ago. You made and still doing that a huge impact on my growing/exploring expeditions:) like that influence! Hugs with eastern vibes 💚💫 and wish You great 2025 chapters- may it surprise you with sth super duper!
Humans are uniquely different.
Using time is easy, maybe difficult. The fact is, that I have no influence on time, which by itself continuously passes effortlessly. But the essence of, what is created over time, is for me decisive for whether I made sense of it, before it runs out. Time is a limited currency, make the best of with it.
lol I like how your RUclips videos feel like you just getting time to be heard and express how you feel
It totally sucks. I would like to attract someone nice for a change❤
Same
Of course, meaningful interactions are therapeutic and beautiful, we long for them and who doesn't want to thrive...
Me too 😢
Nice actually means stupid!
My question what is even “nice” and “mean” Be careful and safe in this world 🌎 a lot of these people probably were supposed to stay/be in prison or a reform program. Most people in rehabs, nurses, hair dressers, tattoo artists. I would judge these people there’s some truth to all of it I think with these types. Maybe not to the extreme but there is some truths to these types of people that have strong violent tendencies towards others. Whether it’s gossip or physical or psychological. Unfortunately some of us are related but I do not want to be associated it’s brought a lot of bad experiences, people and drama that’s really scary. Even when they have calmed down it’s not pleasant recovering from them. And it’s too extreme that therapists etc will report them as abuse and sometimes it’s too late to do anything about any of it. Do any of us really know. Is it extreme immaturity? No one knows 🙏
Love the comedic truths 😭 Resonate so much 😂
It will forever live rent free in my head as I instantly change my actions to never do those things again lol
Wow, I had to pause, because your example is so dead on, it's crazy!!!! My best friend owned a huge 2 million dollar home, people were always coming and hanging out, and we would gripe about who left there half drunken sodas everywhere, but as " I was earning my keep" for getting to stay there part time, and live. Usually by doing a ton of dishes, or something like dishes, mopping floor etc, I was like" man! I wish I could just come here, enjoy it and leave, not caring really about helping out or whatever, but just be enjoying myself so much, that I forgot my soda, or be in the frame of mind of, not asking if I needed help with doing dishes, like so many NEVER asked me!!!! My best friend died, her husband died, and they were both lazy and sick before they passed. Guess who took care of them, and the home before? And now I have nothing, I spent years caring for them, that my own life suffered and still is. I just watched my first video of yours today! And omg! Thank you! I mean! Really! Thank you! After one video you have changed my life, when all I wanted to do was sit and wonder why everyone hates me! And I have to be alone! Wow! I can't wait to learn more from you! Thank you. Nothing else has worked since my friends died, and I had to leave my huge part time home,to come back to my small house,small town,and no friends.
Thank you Arron for this video I am the person that spent a year and a half with a narcissist and we broke up got back together don't why I still want this person in my life, but know I understand what my issue is. W are both feeding of each other. I don't need to validation from a taker I am enough and worth of a true worthy connection.🙂
Great video as always, Aaron ⭐️
You got really good energy going on! 💪 It's great you dare to be authentic in your videos.
Dude, that weather part is hilarious...fully get it in all seriousness and hilariousness
Yep. We have to heal that and accept our shadow or "bad", with no fear in order to find more balanced people. We receive validation about being good too. :/
Difficult conversation, but totally needed. I was thinking about that and lots of videos accusing others to be narcisist, and how to acknowledge that, and inside of me I was thinking.... That's not what I want to know. I know better off this... I know that the outside is a reflection from inside.... So its my consciousness awareness... thanks Aaron. ❤❤
I learned in Psychology 101 that Altruism doesn't exist. Everyone is receiving a payoff.
I disagree that the Empath are on the same vibration as the Narcissist.
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction" is a statement describing Newton's Third Law of Motion which essentially means that when one object exerts a force on another object, the second object exerts an equal and opposite force back on the first object.
Narcissists & Empaths both run down the same family trees. This is why they attract. The Empath marries a replica of their Narcissist parent. The Narcissist marries a replica of their Empath parent.
Since they attract, they often marry & have children. The children energetically copy 1 of the 2 roles.
Always a scapegoat & a golden child.
❤❤❤❤ Good info Aaron.
This happen only when you unhealed.. Once you heal core wounds thats actually attracts narcissist you will be able recognaise.. because say avoidant attachment attracts anxious because same core wounds same with unhealed empaths
You've grown a lot spiritually.. I resonate more with this more experienced version of you..
the truth in the book 'Magnetic Aura' by Takeshi Mizuki is so real, it makes people uncomfortable, and that’s why it gets ignored
I’ll read this
Where do you purchase this book ?
Got it! So thank you Aaron for your help! And yeah! I am dope because I love myself! Yes 💯
We were conditioned to give and not to get.
That we don’t give to get. Then manifest emotionally unavailable takers.
That eventually reveal the need for our own self care and love. Which applies to both parties unhealed aspects.
Equal and opposite
I want to note there are many people that can not support others or strangely are Never able to give others a compliment .( I suspect Jealously and insecurity ) I think this is due to their own low self esteem , although possibly not apparent. They will not make another feel good or show support , since it takes the spot light off them selves . They do know you are also worthy of praise ..but they cant give that power over to someone with out feeling at some loss . My thinking is sharing good will and compliments , generally gives you more back than anything it gives others .
I'm trying to retrain myself to practice the art of not doing whenever possible. We are trained to see just two ways, giving or taking, good or bad, right or wrong. But there is good and bad in both sides.
Not doing would be to react to a compliment not with rejection and not with acceptance, but with a look and a smile. Acknowledgement, but no action or reaction. So nobody can manipulate you with an artificial compliment to trigger a reaction, nobody would feel rejected, when you deflect, you receive without taking.
It's hard to do, the whole world thinks in pairs, but it is possible and so much better, at least for me. 😁
Thank You Aaron
Great Video
Enlightening
Peace Bro:)
WOW ! I get it now 🤯
Thank you Aaron ❤
This is good thanks for the new perspective
Thank you! Makes-a lot of sense.🙏✌️❤️
I learn from your channel. I am not financially secure. Thank you for all your advice.
You explain it so well man.. Why does it take so long to feel worthy..
Okay LA live event,thank youuu❤
I'm working at a restaurant, and we had an artist exhibiting drawings on the wall... and everybody was commenting on how his prices were high. And then a few weeks later, i was invited to exhibit my own art on the walls ! I thought, shit i'm gonna put the exact same prices, maybe even slightly higher, just to see if i dare 😁😆
Learning not too attract these people! Much more smarter than before! Yay
This video is amazing and funny at the same time😂
I think another reason why empaths attract narcissists is because many of us come from narcissistic family constellations.
I once went to a family constellation event where the facilitators tune into the person's energy field and start playing characters association with the family constellation.
I think narcissists can sense the narcissistic energy within the empath's energy. It feels compelling to them. And they start acting out the narcissistic stories carried by the empath.
How our emotions move and cycle in our lives is largely due to epigenetics.
There is a lot of evidence for this in books like It DIdnt Start With You by Mark Wolynn.
So yes, there might be this part of us that empaths try to deny.
But I think that empaths are trying separate themselves from the toxic family constellation, how their emotions move, which is largely inherited from the family.
Today I realized that as a giver. I chase narcissista becauee focusing on them is easier then focusing on myself.
I give love compassion to others super hard to give it to myself. I can do it here and there for a minute but I cant do it consistently. .I hope by giving that someone else will be responsible to give to me, to make me feel worthy
I enjoyed listening and had to laugh often. Thank you 🎉😊
💖 all of this resonates so deeply 😂
I wouldn't say they occupy the opposite energy cause ultimately Gods creative energy is positive, eventually. What I would say is that they occupy opposite frequencies . Empaths live almost exclusively out of the first energy center and Narcissists live out of the third center. This is why the second center and sexuality is the only frequency they can meet at or in creative venture together, I have seen this in business deals with covert Narcs.
Dr. Joe Dispenza speaks that a bond can only be created between two individuals who share the same thoughts and emotional root similar frequency Even if the top of is opposite of the others. The only thing that can break this unhealthy bond of stuck energy to build something more beautiful is the fruits of the spirit, discipline, love, compassion, wholeness in our creator.
Thank you! Very interesting, I hadn’t thought about a narc being on the same frequency as myself 🙂
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This is absolutely right 👍
It is important to know the very first intention and motivation and even point of view, as soon as there are thousand other thoughts as a reaction to this very thought. In such a case you are never gonna have your own thought. Of course there are blind spots and noone says that authentic self is not the one with light and shadow. Somehow. Thank you
People do not intend to make themselves better and show to someone just because they have their own view and thought of the moment. Hm...
Everyone is a trigger now and then. Whether they want it or not. It is what it is. This is not the reason to never have their own thought or intuition. Somehow.