I been so sad about this. I Cried and cried because I been watching him on his RUclips channel unraveling for the last two years. I hope this event doesn’t destroy him. I hope he comes through the other side of this. I want to send Will Smith a hug.
The best way to find ourselves is to unravel the old. None of these situations are bad we are all perfectly imperfect and when we act in Perfectly we only do that because we are hungry to find our most honest and authentic self. All we are lacking is the process on how to find it. That’s why I do all this is to show people the process to find it
@@charchar7897 Yeah, she's just what he's used to, she's his Dad All over Sharon but in form of Verbal and emotional abuse. Unfortunately, his Mom taught him how to take that abuse! Pray find courage to leave snd stop the vicious cycle. Poor Kids also!!😢 Praying for Chris Rock also!!
Wow, I watched and listened five times. I get it. I understand what happened to Will. I went through abuse as a child and watched my father abuse my mom and both parents abused me. I married abusive men and thirty days ago I left ninety percent of everything behind. I just want to be a better version of me. Now that all my children are adults with their own children I want to heal and be the best I can be. We only get one life and I refuse to die without being the best version of me. I will not deny myself of my truths.
Good for you. If you’re looking for the solution on how to turn all of that around. I have put most of it in my videos you can get it for free. I’ve written a book I have master classes… I’ve created a whole platform to help people turn their lives around and recover from these dynamics
Bravo to you for getting out, and for getting to the root cause of your trauma. Family sets us up for future relationships whether good or bad. I wish more people understood this.
The Will Smith incident impacted me in ways I couldn’t fully understand until I came across this video. In short, I felt his shame, pain, anger, frustration, desperation, effort, and sense of helplessness. I am Will Smith. All of him (except the fame and fortune). I’m trying too but the pressure continues to build and each day feels like groundhogs day. I’m going to read your book to learn the tools to move past this. Thank you.
Hello sir. I'm Yasmine. I'm an advocate for mental health and for homelessness. I'm sitting here watching you with tears in my eyes because your words are the words of a father, the type of father I always wished I had. I grew up in Haiti and sadly immigration often involves family separation. The coming to America experience isn't a fairy tale for every child and it certainly wasn't for me at age 12. I moved to Brooklyn with a father I hardly knew and with a stepmother I met at the airport. I'm forever grateful for my life in America, but it cost me. Displacement at such a young age is trauma. I grew up without the love and the affection of my mother at a crucial time when every girl needs their mother. It wasn't easy. I experienced a lot of trauma, shame, and humiliation. At 21, I figured the best way to separate myself from those experiences was to join the most respected institution in America, the US military. The Navy exposed me to a new world, saved me, and gave me a new identity. I thank God for therapy, for great books, and for people like you who tell the truth. I continue to do the work by advocating for mental health as a public speaker. Thanks a million. My heart goes out to both Will and Chris. I hope you sit down with Oprah one day. You're a brilliant mind. P.S. I love your shirt.😊😊
I'm glad I found you this year. I went through immense trauma, could barely manage my emotions and was going to end my life this year. Even waking up was too much. Now I have some hope.
Smarty Pants... your on the right track. You must keep HOPE alive. Sometimes you have to encourage yourself along with this channel to help you realize the facts and truths and know you was not created for fear. We are truely blessed to get all this iformation free.Keep watching listening and learning.I went through some terrible things growing up and it sounds like I was just like you. Stay encouraged You can get through it. We go through it with out staying stuck if we want change bad enough. Keep listening to this channel and never give up on yourself. Im rooting for you.You said it right, You went THROUGH immense trauma.You are a survivor so keeping on surviving,learning and be a blessing to yourself. You are worth it.
Kenny thank you! This is absolutely life changing. I found you on RUclips yesterday when searching for parental estrangement. And now this about Will. Ill get your book and start listening to your content on RUclips. I’ve been stuck for yrs living out the trauma of my upbringing. And now experiencing the estrangement of my youngest daughter. It’s been one of the most painful,confusing events in my life. Needless to say I ve found YOU and you speak my language. Thank you for your vulnerability. Truthfulness. And for your wisdom. I’m just starting this journey w your help. God bless you!
Wow. Thanks, Kenny. I’m sharing this on news feeds via Twitter now, and just shared it with Will Smith on his FB page. Hope the message is heard by some.
Yes, thank you for mentioning the misogynistic message about Will Smith had to protect his "property" or his wife. She is perfectly capable of responding for herself. Otherwise what Will did was treat her as his property. I wish you had commented on how Chris Rock responded in a mature, collected emotional way - no comedian ever had a perfect childhood and so Chris might be broken too. BUT, Chris seemed really together to collect his emotions and move the event along. I have so much admiration for the emotional maturity he has developed. Chris made THE RIGHT CHOICE. I agree that we all can be Will Smith, but we all can develop to become Chris Rock.
@@kennyweiss I think it depends on whether Chris’ reaction came out of self control and inner strength or from a past trauma. I’ve been in his position (kind of) of not responding to a verbal aggression in front of an audience. In my case, it was because I felt paralyzed in fear with a sense of powerlessness. I knew I was perceived as weak, not being able to respond in an intelligent but powerful way.
Kenny, You are the first responsable human being and mental health professional that really speaks with responsibility and compassion… Bravo!! We have hope.. sure, out there are millions responsable.. you and your kind should have more exposure in order to spread peace wisdom and gladness XOXO Mapi
Will wrote in his book that he watched his father beat his mother and he’s carried shame and cowardice for not defending her like his brother did. Slapping Chris was the easiest way to (seemingly) assume a sense of leadership. There’s so many layers to this.
@@supernova7848 it’s not about preference it’s about how the brain and body work. It repeats what it knows even if what it knows is wrong. To understand the full process my suggestion is to head over to my worst day cycle playlist and if you really want to understand the process purchase my book. I just can’t explain the process to you until you have a lot more information on how the brain and body works and the worst a cycle works. And I can’t put all of that information in a text message
@@fashionablylate888 i think she's a covert narcissistic abuser. i'd bet she's just always disappointed and just never could be herself because she never felt protected. and bam wills gonna finally defend her, he's not gonna fail this time. now maybe he will satisfy her. but nope she says she doesn't need him to defend her. he failed her again. and now he's trashed his reputation.
Kenny is so passionate in his delivery. I am going to listen to this presentation again and again. Worst Day Cycle...a new concept for me. Thanks,Kenny.
I agree but for that to happen the adults are gonna have to do the recovery work first. Children become their parents so passing this off on school kids is not the solution. The adults have to take responsibility before they demand their children and the schools teach it
Wow, it was profound to hear this, because it was a traumatic thing to have watched so many reasons. You nailed all of this right on the head. Just subscribed to your RUclips channel and bought your book on Amazon. Thank you for the break through moment presented at the end of this video - just bought your book on Amazon and looking forward to getting to the next level of emotional mastery.
Well thank you for trusting me with your subscription and pursuing emotional mastery. I’m really glad it touched you and you feel like it’s the solution you’ve been looking for. I feel very deeply and passionately about these topics and based on all my research all of the struggles boils down to the areas I’m talking about. Everything else is window dressing and I really want our culture to take ownership because we all play a small part in events like this whether we want to take ownership of that or not. It’s true, his trauma is our trauma and I’m hoping we choose to work on it together instead of pointing the finger at each other.
I have been watching so many videos about this incident, and I wasn't sure why. I felt there was some deeper wisdom to be found. This is the video I was looking for.
Powerful. Worst day cycle. I have always said that anger is one of the emotions that never stands alone it is attached to fear and shame and sadness. You explained this so well. This should be taught in primary schooling
Thank you for uncovering the deep, deep psychological part of Will’s unhealed trauma from his father. It was not a good example for little children, young adults, and men/women, double standard. That night is a great teachable lesson that we can stop the cycle of abuse. It was a slap that shook the world and we’re now uncovering everything so we can heal individually. And collectively. 🙏🏼 Thank you. ❤️🌎❤️
Yes. I am sharing this and will teach the new lessons I got recently from doing my own inner healing work. We gotta rip the band aid off. One person at a time. Individually. And collectively. Wow! This is freakin’ deep, deep as it goes. 🙏🏼
Will is an awesome person. This is so sad for both he and Chris. Comedy can be cruel... because the comedian doesn’t know, well, no one knows, what is happening in someone else’s private life. If we all had perfect lives, comedy, even if cruel, would just bounce off us with no painful effect. But we don’t all have perfect lives. It is sad. But all of us must find our way somehow. Thank you for caring so much about helping us find our way out of our childhood.
@@kennyweiss the comedy is crap. He insulted a woman with a disease, illness, whatever you call hair loss. Same as if he insulted someone mentally physically challenged. Why should Smith face consequences when the jokes should be funny, not hurt.
@@karencordero5477 Karen I’m not sure if you watched my video? This is the problem. Words don’t hurt us jokes don’t hurt us. We choose to hurt ourselves with those. That’s how emotions are made and that’s the point of the video. If people knew that it was our worst day cycle and unhealed childhood trauma and a society that promotes victimhood that created our heard from a joke none of this would happen. All of those are scientific facts they’re not up for debate but we don’t teach these things instead we promote that everyone’s a victim and we promote that words actually hurt us when in fact they don’t. I encourage you to watch the video and then go watch the videos I suggest where I lay out the science of how emotions are made and that we actually create them inside of ourselves. No one ever makes us think feel do or believe or feel anything. We do all of those things to ourselves. Your response is part of the culture that creates the professional victimhood and the celebration of them. That’s how we play a part in the slapping. We are the culture that plays a role in creating the definition of emotions. Therefore when we promote professional victimhood as you are doing. We are partly responsible for creating a culture which sends the message that if somebody says a word we can punch them or slap them. That’s on us and that’s what the video is addressing. We all need to take responsibility for how we are creating emotional reactions like Will Smith. Please watch the video again from a position of trying to learn new information instead of trying to defend your position.
@@karencordero5477 It was not an insult … Being compared to a beautiful heroic woman who happened to be bald, (alopecia) a cosmetic condition (not an illness) that Pinkett told the world that she embraced was actually a lighted hearted comedic compliment … What Mr. Weiss pointed out went way over your head causing you to relapse into making this about the joke … It was about Will having a childhood meltdown, not Chris Rock’s joke.
Thank you for being brave and bold, discussing these truths with an open mind helping to create further understanding. I appreciate these talks that aren't always in alignment with what's popular and trending.
I appreciate you taking this on. When I saw what happened, I squared it up with what you've been telling me, and my heart just broke for Will and everyone involved. And the reactions of people I've heard all day long have made me ill for how sick our culture is in its response to what happened. Stop the ride, I want off. :'(
Thank you for your work. What is sad is that Will has the money to get an excellent counselor to help him. I pray that he will get the help that he needs. So many people can't afford a good counselor or they have state insurance that many counselors don't accept.
I hope Will Smith finds your message. Your words have been so helpful to me since I found you here on RUclips. I been reading self help books since I was 12. I been through lots of therapy. Your message , though a little harsh because It is difficult for me to take responsibility, has helped me so much in the few weeks I have seen your work here. So, thank you.
Yes that’s the most difficult part about what I teach. The shame and denial portions of the cycle. I confront that because those two pieces are what keep everyone sick and hurt and they act out like Will Smith did. It feels like an assault or it feels like I’m talking down to you or criticizing you in the beginning. In fact it feels very much like what you experience from your parents as a child but if you stick with it eventually it changes because I’m holding your hand in the way your parents never did I’m guiding you back to yourself and supporting you the whole way even if it doesn’t feel like that once you get to the other side of shame and denial it becomes perfectly clear that I have done that with you. Just stick with it and it will all make sense and you will have the freedom you’ve been looking for your whole life
@@parklady4233 What a great strategy. Yes that critical voice is not truth and anything we can do to remind ourselves of our value and our worth and to love ourselves is a great solution
Judgment is not the problem, it’s the lack of ownership for being perfectly imperfect that’s the problem. We all make mistakes, we can all rise above them when we take ownership of them, admit them and forgive ourselves for them. I commend you for your courage
I don't feel sorry for Will because you need to watch the video that Chris Rock did with Howard Stern. I am a grown man and I almost cried. Just because you are traumatized doesn't give you the right to assault another human being. Many men are in jail because of childhood trauma, and if Will Smith wasn't who he was, he would too. Smith has enough money to get treatment for his trauma. Smith made a choice. Chris made a choice. One made me sad, and the other made me so proud. For every action there is a reaction.
@@kevinharris3993 you both have very valid points of views. It’s a sad situation all the way around. I’ve learned a lot about myself through this and still continue to. It’s made me face my own traumas.
Wow! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and helping me understand this situation better and my own situation better. I’m buying your book and Lisa Feldmans book. I’m doing my work the help change our society. I appreciate your work and guidance. I can’t get enough of your videos, I watch them repeatedly and pick up new information every time. So many aha moments!!
You are so welcome and thank you for being part of the change by taking responsibility of the one thing each of us can control, ourselves. That takes guts. I’m happy that when I teach and talk about is helping you. Thank you for your trust😁
I came to this realization the other day that I too have done things such as WILL SMITHING someone. Then today I find this confirmation - so good when you find content that articulates what I've been thinking.
You are absolutely right, my goodness!! Yes, I had to come to grips with marrying a very emotionally unavailable and abusive narcissist...in place of my unavailable father who was in and out of my life throughout childhood. Thank you for this very powerful message.
Thank you Kenny, Love your openness. Love Lisa’s book and your book. I continue to be totally confused by society. It is a giant mess. I hope so many people watch this. Being the victim has such a low vibration. We are the saddest nation. I just hope we all learn to work together and help each other.
You’re welcome and it just requires all of us making our own recovery from the worst day cycle our priority and developing emotional mastery and passing it on to the next person
Sir, you are such a Godsend. Many don’t take the time to pay attention or to develop our emotional I.q. (E.Q). If we could tap into this mindset, many of the unnecessary disagreements, disrespect and discourse can be avoided.
Kenny - you are something else. I really want to acknowledge you from the bottom of my heart - your courage - your wisdom and your big heart to do this beautiful work. You explain this episode exactly what it is. Everybody is loosing here - will himself - those who blame - those who judge - those who defend - everybody looses because you are so right Kenny. This is just pure sadness and lack of responsibility no matter what people say about it and how they explain it. Your work is just awesome Kenny. I want definitely to read your book.
Thank you. I’m glad it resonated with you. If you’d like to learn more about these dynamics my tinder swindler video goes in to deeper detail and my worst day cycle playlist will really help you understand what’s happening
We cant handle the truth.i am 100% in agreement.Will is our mirror,God has put him in our tv so that we all learn from him.We are all suffering and in trauma mode.Instead of bathing his behavior we must really talk about all our shame,sadness and pain.Will also wanted to punch his wife for having being unfaithful and probably he does not have the courage.
Dear Kenny! So far I have watched this video twice. It's honest and very powerful. I want to thank you because I see myself in Will, even though I never hit anyone! I see my brother, my father, so on. A really thought provoking video. I saw physical violence in my childhood, the fear and triggering is real.
As I said in the video will smith is all of us. We all slap people in our own way. You’re exactly right all of us are perfectly imperfect all of us have been through childhood trauma we are all stuck in the worst day cycle and we all need emotional mastery. Please share it with others so we can work together to make this change
When I was in high school, we were in a science class, a guy I knew since second grade came up and told the guy across from me to get up. This young man got up and this fellow hit him square in the face with a fist and messed him up bad, this young man sat back down in horrible pain. The friend and I next to me were traumatized of what we just witnessed, I ask the perpetrator why he did this and he ignored me and again came back over and did it again, bashing this guy's face so bad that he needed surgery on his teeth, jaw and nose. Over the years I struggled with the "why" for no real apparent reason this young man did this. This video has shed some light on this, maybe not all factors of it but some, and over the years I stayed friends with both the parties involved. I did feel the need to defend this victim but chose to stay out because I myself could not wrap my mind around what had happened. Even today I still think of that and feel a great sense of sadness for all involved. About a month after this happened the boy who hit this young man, his house was mysteriously burnt to the ground, and he was in trouble with the law for many years after. The victim ended up with a sever drug problem and to this day has isolated himself from his family and longtime friends. It is so important to get the help one needs before this kind of thing happens. This truly affects others that were not involved but witnessed this brutality and I am quite sure that those who were present that day still, as I do will struggle with this memory. This happened in the spring of 1979.
One of the many things I like about your work is "everybody" else blames the Narcissist. You explain why we choose to be victims and how we can stop being victims and become free.
We are massively in denial about facts and science, totally agree. Everyone is manipulative, domineering and so forth... Love this video, you really came into your own here Kenny. Thanks for speaking this. There is so much inherent bullying and then also dissonance in this world it is unbelievable. No one knows what to do and they can't even look at each other. This was an interesting look into what was happening that day. I didn't watch it, and I refuse to give him attention for that assault and then crying in public, which is fine, but they need to come into reality.
Yo... I'm 5 min in and all I can say is deep and accurate AF....I learned from my therapy how real this is What's crazy is I now see how my reactions or lack there of were greatly connected to how I felt about myself based on things I learned or heard as a child or young adult. When you heal in a very aware way you truly do respond differently.
Yes it’s true for all of us. Those that struggle to accept this is how things work it’s because they’re early in the process and they’re still stuck in their childhood pain
Thank you so much for this video! I got the url from your Facebook page and now I am subscribed. I am very grateful for your work and it certainly explains the context of these events for our culture.
You have me thinking after watching this emtional video. You made so many good points. Have me thinking about my childhood and realating it to my day to day reality. I dont want to be a victim but i am seeing how i do act like a victim
Thank You for explaining this recent televised moment. I could only feel the mixed emotional outburst which I knew was displaced anger. Now I am ready to move on from this point of watching Will follow the path of pain. Even I am feeling wounds & not always certain why. As a society we can begin to recognize the healing we need to support & empower one another to hear the truth. Our daily suppression of emotions is not working without emotional mastery techniques.
You’re very welcome and that’s right your emotional reaction was based on your pain from your past and so the solution is to watch these events and turn them around to learn about ourselves and what we need to heal next
I understand what you’re saying. What about Chris? Because I’ve lived with Narcissists my whole life I’m sensitive to you raising your voice even if its to explain or make a point. Its my problem not yours.
Interesting to consider his pain comes from NOT protecting his mother, that in the day was NOT deemed ‘misogynistic’ behavior, which he acts upon by protecting his wife’s honor….that today’s woke label misogynistic. Guess you have to fix yourself quickly before society moves on
I just finished watching the video, I just happened to come across this. Thank you for your enlightening and empowering discussion. I'm new here watching from Rhodes Greece. 🇬🇷❤️🇬🇷
Great session for Tiffany Haddish who thought that Smith was protecting his wife … She was then projecting her own trauma and psychic pain by applauding Will Smith.
Oh 🌱Kenny so grateful for your generosity and kindness putting these words into our defeated ears to at least find self respect to finally get IT. I am well on my way to my numbered days, but now feel Graced with a real basis for forgiving my too young parents who themselves had denigration and substance abuse, ignorance, lack of education, a foreign unknown ability to LOVE or even ever express a form of love. Gracious Senior Weiss👍⚾️
No one talks about Will walking back down the stage, after the slap, with a smile on his face. He had inappropriate affect. He did not look angry. He looked happy. I found that very telling.
It’s not equal. The equalizing process is destructive. We’ve been through this every generation. People don’t talk about it. There is tremendous control of communication. Tyranny.
@@misstmemrs in my personal opinion I think most people that take the victim position are unaware that’s what they’re doing. I agree some July but at least in my experience most are just doing what society and culture has taught them. They’re completely unaware that they have chosen the victim position. They think they’re doing the right thing
My God, this makes so much sense and I can see how I inject my childhood trauma in so many day to day situations! I have got to break this cycle and put it in the rear view mirror. Let the healing begin.
Yes it’s true for all of us. If you’d like to learn more about how the worst day cycle works and how to overcome it, I would suggest subscribing and going to my worst day cycle playlist. It’ll give you the basics of how it works so you can start seeing it in your own life. I’d also suggest picking up a copy of my book it will give you the full process. As for recovery I have a whole set of online master classes to guide you through that process. Just let me know what you’re interested in and I’d be happy to point you in the right direction
I just want to say thank you Mr. Weiss for your informative presentation. Now that I have the knowledge and the wisdom and some of the tools that you have given me to move forward and to leave my childhood traumas behind. I also pray that GOD open up the doors for Will Smith to get the real true help that he needs maybe from someone like you (if not you yourself) to help him navigate through his traumas.There are sooo many lost souls out here. Please continue to inform and educate this world. Again Thank you so very much...May GOD continue to be your guiding light and to use you to be a light source to many!!!
Both men suffered severe childhood trauma and both made choices because of it. Watch the interview Chris Rock did with Howard Stern. It makes Smith trauma looks like a pat on the back. Will made a choice trauma or not. That choice has destroyed his career, and resurrected Chris Rock. Many men are in prison because of childhood trauma, and if Smith wasn't who he was, so would he.
Once again you have blown out my mind with your analysis Keny! The thing that remains a bit unclear to me and that i am trying to research has to do with romantic relationships, you mentioned that poliamori is sort of a coping mechanism for people who fear getting real intimacy... Could you please shed some light on this topic and make a video on this. What are your thoughts on monogamy and poliamori relationships? Im really interested in hearing your findings in this topic 😊 once again ty so much for sharing your wisdom with us ❤
For blacks this trauma started with slavery when the family was separated psychologically and physically, we know why this race of people have such disfunction, you can't cover over that, the question is why such disfunction with other races of people, we all need to be delivered from all evil
Just watched this video. Excellent commentary. Thank you for the heart felt message and the sensitivity on the subject matter. Truly insightful and I appreciate how you include everyone in this message, meaning we’re all the same. We’ve all gone through some kind of pain in our lives and I think it’s important to recognize how this could be any one of us, plus how each person plays a role. Thank you.
This is so a thing that people are not willing to let go of because it was done in a public place/platform Most people remember the slap before or after did not seem to be revelant Will Smith experiencing a moment of enough is enough. We all have our breaking point in our lives and most people do not know how to what goes on in our private lives. I don't want to judge all I know it was a sad moment It will take healing in Will's time as he is ready to Thank you Kenny once again for sharing this video 😁
It’s interesting to understand where people are coming from so that we can be more empathetic towards one another. No matter what though, it is completely unacceptable to get physically violent simply because someone hurt your feelings. To be fair, we kind of all are short fuses these days nearing the end of the world pandemic
And our fuses are so short because we are also under developed emotionally because science and culture has never promoted how important it is for us to develop emotional mastery we are all responsible for that
Great talk and analysis. I can see what you are saying and relate. Guess I was with a semi sociopath, I have no clue, enigma. He was always up to something. I didn't understand it all. I was floored to see borrowed names and social security nos...Yet, he would give away free food from reward pts. on borrowed names to friends. I am not in a relationship now. I canceled everything and live alone, multiple operations... I go to ACA, groups. Don't have addictions, seen a therapist for years. I say my feelings, but is it getting me anywhere, if no one connects at our meetings? Plus, the room echoes and you can't hear. Then they all leave, no camaraderie. I like feedback, not talking to talk.
I love your commentary! What’s something I noticed esp as a victim of narcissistic abuse from a parent, Jada allowed his highest moment in his career to be about her. This is a classic narc behavior. Am I saying she shouldn’t feel hurt by Chris’ comment, no, but when can Will ever have a moment to be on top of his life with the shadow of her guilt, needs, shame etc. she probably said to Will that “2 PAC wouldn’t let me experience xyz!” It’s so sad. He is so coddled in life by everyone around him that no one tells him he needs to look at himself and his enabling . He is clearly Anxiously Attached and she is Fearful Avoidant with narc undertones, appearing deep when she’s a fake and quite immature
You’re welcome and yes you’re just seeing the perfectly imperfect nature of being human. We are all just like Will and Jada in our own unique ways we are all stuck in the worst day cycle and we all need to develop emotional mastery
So true. He had all the money to help himself. He choses to stay in that marriage. I have seen so many people with child good trauma who turned that around to be a better person
She is a narcissist. It’s clear from her talk shows with will and her family about her affair. Look at her and others Body languages and posture. Everybody act very subconscious and on eggshells not to say wrong things about her. Serious gaslighter.
Not playing victim but I just adore a man that has that special respect & kindness and wants to open the door & such. Women are equal but different. We are the weaker vessel. We all need healing & healthy.
All of us have many from very small ones to bigger ones. Each one of those hurtful moments are what we are replaying as an adult. My book lays out the process for you and if you want to take things further my Masterclasses give you the complete deep dive
This also means that the Oscars are over. If celebrities had any real respect for the event he would not have done it. The Oscars will never be able to top this drama.
Well I feel like Jada was the instagater in the situation.Will was laughing ,till Jada gave him the evil eye ,like some sense of control .Then he got up and went to assault Chris .I feel like Jada sabataged Will ,in a sense.I hope she enjoyed watching her husband ruin and tarnish his career ,over her not being able to take a joke . I believe she is a controlling narccasist.He did her dirty work for her and it ruined his life .
That’s true that because a Jesus unhealed pain she’s trying to get other people to fix it for her but Will Smith is responsible for his reaction. As I point out in the video, he picked her because she’s just like his mother or she’s going to put him in situations just like his mother he gets to relive the same abandonment and neglect as she has affairs and does all of these different things. That’s on Will Smith. He doesn’t get to play the victim and blame her for that. He’s an adult. As I point out in the video he’s not to blame our society doesn’t teach us the truth that we are all caught in the worst day cycle that we are all caught in our childhood trauma that we all create our own emotional reactions based on our history not on the person sitting across from us and our culture won’t teach us these truths and those are the actual problems. That’s the point of the video. It’s to stop pointing the finger at other people and recognize we all do this to our self because we won’t deal with the source of the problem. Unhealed childhood trauma that creates the worst day cycle. That’s where all of this starts
Thank you for the conviction in your voice explaining this. After moving from co dependaecy I am learning to take ownership over my own happiness. Yes narcs are narc to almost anyone but I did not have to stay with the narc. I am soo soo much happier now!
Ken, what video help might you have available for children who stood up for their Mom when physical battles between parents erupted, physically returning fire on the Dad to stop the violence on their Mom... sometimes being able to distract and draw the attack onto themselves instead of their Mom. That child learned to distrust and fear angry, argumentative people, and might respond to their anger with more anger, and go into childhood-programmed self-protection mode, with all the accompanying escalating fear/anger/violence behaviors they learned as a kid? Do their emotions still end up as the same fear, shame, and unworthiness as in Will’s experience?
You can’t make a blanket statement each child creates their own unique coping skills. My best suggestion would be to watch all my videos in the worst day cycle playlist and my codependence playlist and pick up a copy of my book
22:32 👏🏽 I love how you brought truth to the discussion. In light of the “new” rules of equality….how do I raise my teenage sons who are gonna get into dating girls?
Thanks for using Will Smith as an example to help me understand Worse Day Cycle in a deeper level 🙌
You are very welcome
I been so sad about this. I Cried and cried because I been watching him on his RUclips channel unraveling for the last two years. I hope this event doesn’t destroy him. I hope he comes through the other side of this. I want to send Will Smith a hug.
The best way to find ourselves is to unravel the old. None of these situations are bad we are all perfectly imperfect and when we act in Perfectly we only do that because we are hungry to find our most honest and authentic self. All we are lacking is the process on how to find it. That’s why I do all this is to show people the process to find it
He needs help, and he needs to get away from Jada.
Chris Rock was abused growing up then was abused on stage. No one seems to give a damn without him.
@@davidh8924 Um, this video was about Will Smith.
@@charchar7897 Yeah, she's just what he's used to, she's his Dad All over Sharon but in form of Verbal and emotional abuse. Unfortunately, his Mom taught him how to take that abuse! Pray find courage to leave snd stop the vicious cycle. Poor Kids also!!😢 Praying for Chris Rock also!!
Wow, I watched and listened five times. I get it. I understand what happened to Will. I went through abuse as a child and watched my father abuse my mom and both parents abused me. I married abusive men and thirty days ago I left
ninety percent of everything behind. I just want to be a better version of me. Now that all my children are adults with their own children I want to heal and be the best I can be. We only get one life and I refuse to die without being the best version of me. I will not deny myself of my truths.
Good for you. If you’re looking for the solution on how to turn all of that around. I have put most of it in my videos you can get it for free. I’ve written a book I have master classes… I’ve created a whole platform to help people turn their lives around and recover from these dynamics
Me too 😟
congrats on finding your freedom!! 👏
Bravo to you for getting out, and for getting to the root cause of your trauma. Family sets us up for future relationships whether good or bad. I wish more people understood this.
You are awesome, thank you :)
The Will Smith incident impacted me in ways I couldn’t fully understand until I came across this video.
In short, I felt his shame, pain, anger, frustration, desperation, effort, and sense of helplessness. I am Will Smith. All of him (except the fame and fortune). I’m trying too but the pressure continues to build and each day feels like groundhogs day.
I’m going to read your book to learn the tools to move past this. Thank you.
You’re welcome 👏😁
Hello sir. I'm Yasmine. I'm an advocate for mental health and for homelessness. I'm sitting here watching you with tears in my eyes because your words are the words of a father, the type of father I always wished I had. I grew up in Haiti and sadly immigration often involves family separation. The coming to America experience isn't a fairy tale for every child and it certainly wasn't for me at age 12. I moved to Brooklyn with a father I hardly knew and with a stepmother I met at the airport. I'm forever grateful for my life in America, but it cost me. Displacement at such a young age is trauma. I grew up without the love and the affection of my mother at a crucial time when every girl needs their mother. It wasn't easy. I experienced a lot of trauma, shame, and humiliation. At 21, I figured the best way to separate myself from those experiences was to join the most respected institution in America, the US military. The Navy exposed me to a new world, saved me, and gave me a new identity. I thank God for therapy, for great books, and for people like you who tell the truth. I continue to do the work by advocating for mental health as a public speaker. Thanks a million. My heart goes out to both Will and Chris. I hope you sit down with Oprah one day. You're a brilliant mind. P.S. I love your shirt.😊😊
I'm glad I found you this year. I went through immense trauma, could barely manage my emotions and was going to end my life this year. Even waking up was too much. Now I have some hope.
Emotional mastery is powerful in how it can heal us
I’m glad you found this. You are in my thoughts.
Smarty Pants... your on the right track. You must keep HOPE alive. Sometimes you have to encourage yourself along with this channel to help you realize the facts and truths and know you was not created for fear. We are truely blessed to get all this iformation free.Keep watching listening and learning.I went through some terrible things growing up and it sounds like I was just like you. Stay encouraged You can get through it. We go through it with out staying stuck if we want change bad enough. Keep listening to this channel and never give up on yourself. Im rooting for you.You said it right, You went THROUGH immense trauma.You are a survivor so keeping on surviving,learning and be a blessing to yourself. You are worth it.
@@darleneburns4093 thank you 😁
I nearly cried watching this. I am sending my love in prayer for Will and Chris
It is very sad
Kenny thank you! This is absolutely life changing. I found you on RUclips yesterday when searching for parental estrangement. And now this about Will. Ill get your book and start listening to your content on RUclips. I’ve been stuck for yrs living out the trauma of my upbringing. And now experiencing the estrangement of my youngest daughter. It’s been one of the most painful,confusing events in my life. Needless to say I ve found YOU and you speak my language. Thank you for your vulnerability. Truthfulness. And for your wisdom. I’m just starting this journey w your help. God bless you!
You’re so welcome. And I commend you for your courage to learn, grow, and do the work😁👏
Wow. Thanks, Kenny. I’m sharing this on news feeds via Twitter now, and just shared it with Will Smith on his FB page. Hope the message is heard by some.
Thank you and I appreciate your willingness to spread the solution
Wow, this is the best analysis I've heard of that situation. We can all learn from this. Thank you Kenny. Bless you.
You’re welcome
Yes, thank you for mentioning the misogynistic message about Will Smith had to protect his "property" or his wife. She is perfectly capable of responding for herself. Otherwise what Will did was treat her as his property. I wish you had commented on how Chris Rock responded in a mature, collected emotional way - no comedian ever had a perfect childhood and so Chris might be broken too. BUT, Chris seemed really together to collect his emotions and move the event along. I have so much admiration for the emotional maturity he has developed. Chris made THE RIGHT CHOICE. I agree that we all can be Will Smith, but we all can develop to become Chris Rock.
You’re exactly right Chris rock is who we should all aspire to be in our reactions
@@kennyweiss I think it depends on whether Chris’ reaction came out of self control and inner strength or from a past trauma. I’ve been in his position (kind of) of not responding to a verbal aggression in front of an audience. In my case, it was because I felt paralyzed in fear with a sense of powerlessness. I knew I was perceived as weak, not being able to respond in an intelligent but powerful way.
@@gloriagarza4149 I couldn’t agree more. I am a freeze and fawn type as well.
Chris has said in a previous interview that he’d been traumatised repeatedly by bullies and robbers, but got help to heal that wound
Kenny,
You are the first responsable human being and mental health professional that really speaks with responsibility and compassion…
Bravo!!
We have hope.. sure, out there are millions responsable.. you and your kind should have more exposure in order to spread peace wisdom and gladness
XOXO
Mapi
Thnak you. i hope you share it with others so we can make a change together
Will wrote in his book that he watched his father beat his mother and he’s carried shame and cowardice for not defending her like his brother did.
Slapping Chris was the easiest way to (seemingly) assume a sense of leadership. There’s so many layers to this.
yes, that is called the worst day cycle
So he preferred to behave like his violent father
@@supernova7848 he made his choice’s.
@@supernova7848 it’s not about preference it’s about how the brain and body work. It repeats what it knows even if what it knows is wrong. To understand the full process my suggestion is to head over to my worst day cycle playlist and if you really want to understand the process purchase my book.
I just can’t explain the process to you until you have a lot more information on how the brain and body works and the worst a cycle works. And I can’t put all of that information in a text message
@@fashionablylate888 i think she's a covert narcissistic abuser. i'd bet she's just always disappointed and just never could be herself because she never felt protected. and bam wills gonna finally defend her, he's not gonna fail this time. now maybe he will satisfy her. but nope she says she doesn't need him to defend her. he failed her again. and now he's trashed his reputation.
Kenny is so passionate in his delivery. I am going to listen to this presentation again and again. Worst Day Cycle...a new concept for me. Thanks,Kenny.
You are very welcome. I have a whole playlist to help you understand it more plus I’ve written in my book which outlines all of it
Bravo!! Absolutely OnPoint. This should be shown to every highschooler in America
I agree but for that to happen the adults are gonna have to do the recovery work first. Children become their parents so passing this off on school kids is not the solution. The adults have to take responsibility before they demand their children and the schools teach it
@@kennyweiss Absolutely 💯
Wow, it was profound to hear this, because it was a traumatic thing to have watched so many reasons. You nailed all of this right on the head. Just subscribed to your RUclips channel and bought your book on Amazon. Thank you for the break through moment presented at the end of this video - just bought your book on Amazon and looking forward to getting to the next level of emotional mastery.
Well thank you for trusting me with your subscription and pursuing emotional mastery. I’m really glad it touched you and you feel like it’s the solution you’ve been looking for. I feel very deeply and passionately about these topics and based on all my research all of the struggles boils down to the areas I’m talking about. Everything else is window dressing and I really want our culture to take ownership because we all play a small part in events like this whether we want to take ownership of that or not. It’s true, his trauma is our trauma and I’m hoping we choose to work on it together instead of pointing the finger at each other.
I have been watching so many videos about this incident, and I wasn't sure why. I felt there was some deeper wisdom to be found. This is the video I was looking for.
Thank you for that I really appreciate it and I’m glad that it really resonated with you and brought you clarity
Powerful. Worst day cycle. I have always said that anger is one of the emotions that never stands alone it is attached to fear and shame and sadness. You explained this so well. This should be taught in primary schooling
Thank you
Thank you for uncovering the deep, deep psychological part of Will’s unhealed trauma from his father.
It was not a good example for little children, young adults, and men/women, double standard.
That night is a great teachable lesson that we can stop the cycle of abuse.
It was a slap that shook the world and we’re now uncovering everything so we can heal individually. And collectively. 🙏🏼
Thank you. ❤️🌎❤️
You're welcome. if you think it can help others and make a difference, please share it
Yes. I am sharing this and will teach the new lessons I got recently from doing my own inner healing work.
We gotta rip the band aid off. One person at a time. Individually. And collectively.
Wow! This is freakin’ deep, deep as it goes. 🙏🏼
@@ArtByHazel Beautifully said. Yes we all need to take ownership of our part and do the work
Will is an awesome person. This is so sad for both he and Chris. Comedy can be cruel... because the comedian doesn’t know, well, no one knows, what is happening in someone else’s private life. If we all had perfect lives, comedy, even if cruel, would just bounce off us with no painful effect. But we don’t all have perfect lives. It is sad. But all of us must find our way somehow. Thank you for caring so much about helping us find our way out of our childhood.
The comedy is fine, the unhealed childhood pain is the problem!
@@kennyweiss the comedy is crap. He insulted a woman with a disease, illness, whatever you call hair loss. Same as if he insulted someone mentally physically challenged. Why should Smith face consequences when the jokes should be funny, not hurt.
@@karencordero5477 Karen I’m not sure if you watched my video? This is the problem. Words don’t hurt us jokes don’t hurt us. We choose to hurt ourselves with those. That’s how emotions are made and that’s the point of the video. If people knew that it was our worst day cycle and unhealed childhood trauma and a society that promotes victimhood that created our heard from a joke none of this would happen. All of those are scientific facts they’re not up for debate but we don’t teach these things instead we promote that everyone’s a victim and we promote that words actually hurt us when in fact they don’t. I encourage you to watch the video and then go watch the videos I suggest where I lay out the science of how emotions are made and that we actually create them inside of ourselves. No one ever makes us think feel do or believe or feel anything. We do all of those things to ourselves. Your response is part of the culture that creates the professional victimhood and the celebration of them. That’s how we play a part in the slapping. We are the culture that plays a role in creating the definition of emotions. Therefore when we promote professional victimhood as you are doing. We are partly responsible for creating a culture which sends the message that if somebody says a word we can punch them or slap them. That’s on us and that’s what the video is addressing. We all need to take responsibility for how we are creating emotional reactions like Will Smith. Please watch the video again from a position of trying to learn new information instead of trying to defend your position.
Your words are golden. Let's talk now about how violence and ridicule come from the same seed.
@@karencordero5477 It was not an insult … Being compared to a beautiful heroic woman who happened to be bald, (alopecia) a cosmetic condition (not an illness) that Pinkett told the world that she embraced was actually a lighted hearted comedic compliment … What Mr. Weiss pointed out went way over your head causing you to relapse into making this about the joke … It was about Will having a childhood meltdown, not Chris Rock’s joke.
Thank you for being brave and bold, discussing these truths with an open mind helping to create further understanding. I appreciate these talks that aren't always in alignment with what's popular and trending.
What a kind thing to say. Thank you so much. If you think you can help other people please share so that we can make a change😁
I appreciate you taking this on. When I saw what happened, I squared it up with what you've been telling me, and my heart just broke for Will and everyone involved. And the reactions of people I've heard all day long have made me ill for how sick our culture is in its response to what happened. Stop the ride, I want off. :'(
I agree That’s why I decided to do the video
Thank you for your work. What is sad is that Will has the money to get an excellent counselor to help him. I pray that he will get the help that he needs. So many people can't afford a good counselor or they have state insurance that many counselors don't accept.
You’re very welcome
I hope Will Smith finds your message. Your words have been so helpful to me since I found you here on RUclips. I been reading self help books since I was 12. I been through lots of therapy. Your message , though a little harsh because It is difficult for me to take responsibility, has helped me so much in the few weeks I have seen your work here. So, thank you.
Yes that’s the most difficult part about what I teach. The shame and denial portions of the cycle. I confront that because those two pieces are what keep everyone sick and hurt and they act out like Will Smith did. It feels like an assault or it feels like I’m talking down to you or criticizing you in the beginning. In fact it feels very much like what you experience from your parents as a child but if you stick with it eventually it changes because I’m holding your hand in the way your parents never did I’m guiding you back to yourself and supporting you the whole way even if it doesn’t feel like that once you get to the other side of shame and denial it becomes perfectly clear that I have done that with you. Just stick with it and it will all make sense and you will have the freedom you’ve been looking for your whole life
@@kennyweiss I bought the audiobook and it helps to listen to you instead of the critical voice in my head.
@@parklady4233 What a great strategy. Yes that critical voice is not truth and anything we can do to remind ourselves of our value and our worth and to love ourselves is a great solution
Now, I feel nothing but compassion for Will Smith, and a shame burp for judging. Perfectly imperfect.
Judgment is not the problem, it’s the lack of ownership for being perfectly imperfect that’s the problem. We all make mistakes, we can all rise above them when we take ownership of them, admit them and forgive ourselves for them. I commend you for your courage
I don't feel sorry for Will because you need to watch the video that Chris Rock did with Howard Stern. I am a grown man and I almost cried. Just because you are traumatized doesn't give you the right to assault another human being. Many men are in jail because of childhood trauma, and if Will Smith wasn't who he was, he would too. Smith has enough money to get treatment for his trauma. Smith made a choice. Chris made a choice. One made me sad, and the other made me so proud. For every action there is a reaction.
Same here🥺
@@kevinharris3993 you both have very valid points of views. It’s a sad situation all the way around. I’ve learned a lot about myself through this and still continue to. It’s made me face my own traumas.
Finally! Someone speaking a lot of COMMON Sense! He is not excusing the behavior... He is reminding us that we all have ISSUES!
You're telling the truth Mr. Weiss! Thank you for this video! We all have to do our own healing work! Can't judge anyone!
You’re very welcome and yes I agree😁
Wow! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and helping me understand this situation better and my own situation better. I’m buying your book and Lisa Feldmans book. I’m doing my work the help change our society. I appreciate your work and guidance. I can’t get enough of your videos, I watch them repeatedly and pick up new information every time. So many aha moments!!
You are so welcome and thank you for being part of the change by taking responsibility of the one thing each of us can control, ourselves. That takes guts. I’m happy that when I teach and talk about is helping you. Thank you for your trust😁
I came to this realization the other day that I too have done things such as WILL SMITHING someone. Then today I find this confirmation - so good when you find content that articulates what I've been thinking.
You are absolutely right, my goodness!! Yes, I had to come to grips with marrying a very emotionally unavailable and abusive narcissist...in place of my unavailable father who was in and out of my life throughout childhood. Thank you for this very powerful message.
You are very welcome that’s what we all do in our own unique way
Thank you Kenny, Love your openness. Love Lisa’s book and your book. I continue to be totally confused by society. It is a giant mess. I hope so many people watch this. Being the victim has such a low vibration. We are the saddest nation. I just hope we all learn to work together and help each other.
You’re welcome and it just requires all of us making our own recovery from the worst day cycle our priority and developing emotional mastery and passing it on to the next person
Sir, you are such a Godsend. Many don’t take the time to pay attention or to develop our emotional I.q. (E.Q). If we could tap into this mindset, many of the unnecessary disagreements, disrespect and discourse can be avoided.
I agree 😁
Thank you, Kenny, from A course in miracles. lesson 31"I am not a victim of the world I see." Love Greg
Kenny - you are something else.
I really want to acknowledge you from the bottom of my heart - your courage - your wisdom and your big heart to do this beautiful work.
You explain this episode exactly what it is.
Everybody is loosing here - will himself - those who blame - those who judge - those who defend - everybody looses because you are so right Kenny.
This is just pure sadness and lack of responsibility no matter what people say about it and how they explain it.
Your work is just awesome Kenny.
I want definitely to read your book.
Thank you so much. Please pass it along to others so we can join together and making the change that is necessary
Thanks Kenny. It would be amazing if Will Smith heard this 🙏
I hope everyone hears it. Rememebr it is a cultural problem and we are the culture. We need ALL of us to hear it
This was absolutely awesome! Such a intense and deep look into what this actually was!!! Please continue this work, it is so needed!
Thank you. I’m glad it resonated with you. If you’d like to learn more about these dynamics my tinder swindler video goes in to deeper detail and my worst day cycle playlist will really help you understand what’s happening
We cant handle the truth.i am 100% in agreement.Will is our mirror,God has put him in our tv so that we all learn from him.We are all suffering and in trauma mode.Instead of bathing his behavior we must really talk about all our shame,sadness and pain.Will also wanted to punch his wife for having being unfaithful and probably he does not have the courage.
@@nena5878 We are all perfectly imperfect
Dear Kenny! So far I have watched this video twice. It's honest and very powerful. I want to thank you because I see myself in Will, even though I never hit anyone! I see my brother, my father, so on. A really thought provoking video. I saw physical violence in my childhood, the fear and triggering is real.
As I said in the video will smith is all of us. We all slap people in our own way. You’re exactly right all of us are perfectly imperfect all of us have been through childhood trauma we are all stuck in the worst day cycle and we all need emotional mastery. Please share it with others so we can work together to make this change
I just tried ur technique from your downloaded free exercise book, i am feeling better in two days, thank you so much 🙏
When I was in high school, we were in a science class, a guy I knew since second grade came up and told the guy across from me to get up. This young man got up and this fellow hit him square in the face with a fist and messed him up bad, this young man sat back down in horrible pain. The friend and I next to me were traumatized of what we just witnessed, I ask the perpetrator why he did this and he ignored me and again came back over and did it again, bashing this guy's face so bad that he needed surgery on his teeth, jaw and nose. Over the years I struggled with the "why" for no real apparent reason this young man did this. This video has shed some light on this, maybe not all factors of it but some, and over the years I stayed friends with both the parties involved. I did feel the need to defend this victim but chose to stay out because I myself could not wrap my mind around what had happened. Even today I still think of that and feel a great sense of sadness for all involved. About a month after this happened the boy who hit this young man, his house was mysteriously burnt to the ground, and he was in trouble with the law for many years after. The victim ended up with a sever drug problem and to this day has isolated himself from his family and longtime friends. It is so important to get the help one needs before this kind of thing happens. This truly affects others that were not involved but witnessed this brutality and I am quite sure that those who were present that day still, as I do will struggle with this memory. This happened in the spring of 1979.
One of the many things I like about your work is "everybody" else blames the Narcissist. You explain why we choose to be victims and how we can stop being victims and become free.
We are massively in denial about facts and science, totally agree. Everyone is manipulative, domineering and so forth... Love this video, you really came into your own here Kenny. Thanks for speaking this. There is so much inherent bullying and then also dissonance in this world it is unbelievable. No one knows what to do and they can't even look at each other. This was an interesting look into what was happening that day. I didn't watch it, and I refuse to give him attention for that assault and then crying in public, which is fine, but they need to come into reality.
Yo... I'm 5 min in and all I can say is deep and accurate AF....I learned from my therapy how real this is
What's crazy is I now see how my reactions or lack there of were greatly connected to how I felt about myself based on things I learned or heard as a child or young adult. When you heal in a very aware way you truly do respond differently.
Yes it’s true for all of us. Those that struggle to accept this is how things work it’s because they’re early in the process and they’re still stuck in their childhood pain
This needs to get viral I hope will sees this ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Thank you
You appeared on my utube feed yesterday. And I am ever so grateful.
Thank you so much for this video! I got the url from your Facebook page and now I am subscribed. I am very grateful for your work and it certainly explains the context of these events for our culture.
You’re very welcome I’m happy that what I teach is a help to you
You have me thinking after watching this emtional video. You made so many good points. Have me thinking about my childhood and realating it to my day to day reality. I dont want to be a victim but i am seeing how i do act like a victim
You broke it down ! As I said it's more than just the joke that made him slap. His issues are deeper.
I’ve decided you’re my new bff. Thanks for being an adult, for telling the truth, for teaching us.
I want to be a part of your world.
Thank you
You are very welcome and thank you for your trust
Yeah, he is my new bff also.
@@adimeter thank you 😁
@@kennyweiss You are so welcome. I have you very interesting book. It sort of reminds me of 'quantum theory'.
Thank You for explaining this recent televised moment. I could only feel the mixed emotional outburst which I knew was displaced anger. Now I am ready to move on from this point of watching Will follow the path of pain. Even I am feeling wounds & not always certain why. As a society we can begin to recognize the healing we need to support & empower one another to hear the truth. Our daily suppression of emotions is not working without emotional mastery techniques.
You’re very welcome and that’s right your emotional reaction was based on your pain from your past and so the solution is to watch these events and turn them around to learn about ourselves and what we need to heal next
Powerful. First time viewer this hit home and helped me on my own journey. 🙏 thank you
You’re welcome
I understand what you’re saying. What about Chris? Because I’ve lived with Narcissists my whole life I’m sensitive to you raising your voice even if its to explain or make a point. Its my problem not yours.
for now I chose to not address him. So much going on in all of this
Beautifully stated!!!🌺 This has been my take away as well! Thank you so much for sharing!❤️👍🏽
Interesting to consider his pain comes from NOT protecting his mother, that in the day was NOT deemed ‘misogynistic’ behavior, which he acts upon by protecting his wife’s honor….that today’s woke label misogynistic. Guess you have to fix yourself quickly before society moves on
I just finished watching the video, I just happened to come across this. Thank you for your enlightening and empowering discussion. I'm new here watching from Rhodes Greece. 🇬🇷❤️🇬🇷
You are so welcome
Great session for Tiffany Haddish who thought that Smith was protecting his wife … She was then projecting her own trauma and psychic pain by applauding Will Smith.
Thank you so much for this teaching, various confirmations and taking the time to open our minds to unseen truth. I truly appreciate it.🙏🏿💯
You’re welcome
Oh 🌱Kenny so grateful for your generosity and kindness putting these words into our defeated ears to at least find self respect to finally get IT. I am well on my way to my numbered days, but now feel Graced with a real basis for forgiving my too young parents who themselves had denigration and substance abuse, ignorance, lack of education, a foreign unknown ability to LOVE or even ever express a form of love.
Gracious Senior Weiss👍⚾️
You’re welcome
No one talks about Will walking back down the stage, after the slap, with a smile on his face. He had inappropriate affect. He did not look angry. He looked happy. I found that very telling.
That’s the False empowerment that I was speaking about in the video. Even though I didn’t bring up the smile itself hides the deep shame
It’s not equal. The equalizing process is destructive. We’ve been through this every generation. People don’t talk about it. There is tremendous control of communication. Tyranny.
You can’t just lump all victims into the same group of liars who play the victim.
@@misstmemrs in my personal opinion I think most people that take the victim position are unaware that’s what they’re doing. I agree some July but at least in my experience most are just doing what society and culture has taught them. They’re completely unaware that they have chosen the victim position. They think they’re doing the right thing
@@misstmemrs Thanks for sharing your thoughts
My God, this makes so much sense and I can see how I inject my childhood trauma in so many day to day situations! I have got to break this cycle and put it in the rear view mirror. Let the healing begin.
Yes it’s true for all of us. If you’d like to learn more about how the worst day cycle works and how to overcome it, I would suggest subscribing and going to my worst day cycle playlist. It’ll give you the basics of how it works so you can start seeing it in your own life. I’d also suggest picking up a copy of my book it will give you the full process. As for recovery I have a whole set of online master classes to guide you through that process. Just let me know what you’re interested in and I’d be happy to point you in the right direction
I just want to say thank you Mr. Weiss for your informative presentation. Now that I have the knowledge and the wisdom and some of the tools that you have given me to move forward and to leave my childhood traumas behind. I also pray that GOD open up the doors for Will Smith to get the real true help that he needs maybe from someone like you (if not you yourself) to help him navigate through his traumas.There are sooo many lost souls out here. Please continue to inform and educate this world. Again Thank you so very much...May GOD continue to be your guiding light and to use you to be a light source to many!!!
You’re very welcome and thank you so much for the kind words. :-)
@@kennyweiss you're welcome Mr Weiss have a great day and a blessed life
I don’t think that anyone thinks hitting someone for a joke is ever going to be okay.
I definetly saw me in Will.
The statement "This was trauma for all of us" is REALY stron Kenny!
The passionate truths are so cutting edge...I am grateful for truths....and prospering...listen up...and discover Soul truths...
Well said!
Blew my mind within the first minute, best I’ve seen by far. Very informative, thank you !
You are very welcome I’m glad it helped you make sense of everything
He should be invited to the "Red Table Talk"
Wow, thank you for educating me about this worst day cycle. I finally get it ❤ No contact 3 years
Both men suffered severe childhood trauma and both made choices because of it. Watch the interview Chris Rock did with Howard Stern. It makes Smith trauma looks like a pat on the back. Will made a choice trauma or not. That choice has destroyed his career, and resurrected Chris Rock. Many men are in prison because of childhood trauma, and if Smith wasn't who he was, so would he.
Exactly
Once again you have blown out my mind with your analysis Keny! The thing that remains a bit unclear to me and that i am trying to research has to do with romantic relationships, you mentioned that poliamori is sort of a coping mechanism for people who fear getting real intimacy... Could you please shed some light on this topic and make a video on this. What are your thoughts on monogamy and poliamori relationships? Im really interested in hearing your findings in this topic 😊 once again ty so much for sharing your wisdom with us ❤
I will put that on my idea list
I saw Will Smith at that moment. Unfortunately for him his true self came out in front of an uncaring world. I hope he finds the help he needs.
For blacks this trauma started with slavery when the family was separated psychologically and physically, we know why this race of people have such disfunction, you can't cover over that, the question is why such disfunction with other races of people, we all need to be delivered from all evil
This is the best I've heard in my entre life, thank you from the bottom of my soul. Hope also to Buy your awsome book soon!
You’re very welcome Andrea I’m really happy that it resonated with you😁
Thank you so much for this video. This situation is so much deeper than what appears on the surface.
Yes it is and you are very welcome
Just watched this video. Excellent commentary. Thank you for the heart felt message and the sensitivity on the subject matter. Truly insightful and I appreciate how you include everyone in this message, meaning we’re all the same. We’ve all gone through some kind of pain in our lives and I think it’s important to recognize how this could be any one of us, plus how each person plays a role. Thank you.
He needs help.. For sure. But unfortunately no one in Hollywood is going to, or will, hold him accountable.
This is so a thing that people are not willing to let go of because it was done in a public place/platform
Most people remember the slap before or after did not seem to be revelant
Will Smith experiencing a moment of enough is enough.
We all have our breaking point in our lives and most people do not know how to what goes on in our private lives.
I don't want to judge all I know it was a sad moment
It will take healing in Will's time as he is ready to
Thank you Kenny once again for sharing this video 😁
You’re welcome
Here for the algorithm. Everybody needs to listen to this several times over.
I’m glad you believe it will help people
It’s interesting to understand where people are coming from so that we can be more empathetic towards one another. No matter what though, it is completely unacceptable to get physically violent simply because someone hurt your feelings. To be fair, we kind of all are short fuses these days nearing the end of the world pandemic
And our fuses are so short because we are also under developed emotionally because science and culture has never promoted how important it is for us to develop emotional mastery we are all responsible for that
@@kennyweiss Yes!
Great video explaining the cycle of fear.
Thank you, if you think it can help others, please share it wo they can become aware of new and better options
@@kennyweiss I sure will. Thank you and blessings!
Great talk and analysis. I can see what you are saying and relate.
Guess I was with a semi sociopath, I have no clue, enigma. He was always up to something. I didn't understand it all. I was floored to see borrowed names and social security nos...Yet, he would give away free food from reward pts. on borrowed names to friends.
I am not in a relationship now. I canceled everything and live alone, multiple operations... I go to ACA, groups. Don't have addictions, seen a therapist for years. I say my feelings, but is it getting me anywhere, if no one connects at our meetings? Plus, the room echoes and you can't hear. Then they all leave, no camaraderie.
I like feedback, not talking to talk.
I hope some day he sees this. So valuable.
Me too
I love your commentary! What’s something I noticed esp as a victim of narcissistic abuse from a parent, Jada allowed his highest moment in his career to be about her. This is a classic narc behavior. Am I saying she shouldn’t feel hurt by Chris’ comment, no, but when can Will ever have a moment to be on top of his life with the shadow of her guilt, needs, shame etc. she probably said to Will that “2 PAC wouldn’t let me experience xyz!” It’s so sad. He is so coddled in life by everyone around him that no one tells him he needs to look at himself and his enabling . He is clearly Anxiously Attached and she is Fearful Avoidant with narc undertones, appearing deep when she’s a fake and quite immature
You’re welcome and yes you’re just seeing the perfectly imperfect nature of being human. We are all just like Will and Jada in our own unique ways we are all stuck in the worst day cycle and we all need to develop emotional mastery
@@kennyweiss very very true!
So true. He had all the money to help himself. He choses to stay in that marriage. I have seen so many people with child good trauma who turned that around to be a better person
She is a narcissist. It’s clear from her talk shows with will and her family about her affair. Look at her and others Body languages and posture. Everybody act very subconscious and on eggshells not to say wrong things about her. Serious gaslighter.
Not playing victim but I just adore a man that has that special respect & kindness and wants to open the door & such.
Women are equal but different. We are the weaker vessel.
We all need healing & healthy.
We are not weaker.
@@juliehuffaker4476 Girl I have three brothers. And I don’t dig ditches nor want to.
Hey Keith, it would be interesting to hear also your evaluation on Chris Rock behavior also.
I’m pondering doing a video about that
How can do know what your worst day was that we are stuck in? For me there were many.
All of us have many from very small ones to bigger ones. Each one of those hurtful moments are what we are replaying as an adult. My book lays out the process for you and if you want to take things further my Masterclasses give you the complete deep dive
I knew it I just knew it this came from pain.. not just in the moment but what had been buried ...oh wow 🥺
Yes, it is true for all of us. All of our reactions are from childhood pain. It is called the worst day cycle.
@@kennyweiss agreed..much healing needed
We have to keep Will in our prayers. This was my ONLY reaction “we saw a HUMAN in action” plain & simple. His book provides so much insight.
Just like all of us he is perfectly imperfect
This also means that the Oscars are over. If celebrities had any real respect for the event he would not have done it. The Oscars will never be able to top this drama.
Well I feel like Jada was the instagater in the situation.Will was laughing ,till Jada gave him the evil eye ,like some sense of control .Then he got up and went to assault Chris .I feel like Jada sabataged Will ,in a sense.I hope she enjoyed watching her husband ruin and tarnish his career ,over her not being able to take a joke . I believe she is a controlling narccasist.He did her dirty work for her and it ruined his life .
That’s true that because a Jesus unhealed pain she’s trying to get other people to fix it for her but Will Smith is responsible for his reaction. As I point out in the video, he picked her because she’s just like his mother or she’s going to put him in situations just like his mother he gets to relive the same abandonment and neglect as she has affairs and does all of these different things. That’s on Will Smith. He doesn’t get to play the victim and blame her for that. He’s an adult. As I point out in the video he’s not to blame our society doesn’t teach us the truth that we are all caught in the worst day cycle that we are all caught in our childhood trauma that we all create our own emotional reactions based on our history not on the person sitting across from us and our culture won’t teach us these truths and those are the actual problems. That’s the point of the video. It’s to stop pointing the finger at other people and recognize we all do this to our self because we won’t deal with the source of the problem. Unhealed childhood trauma that creates the worst day cycle. That’s where all of this starts
Reactive abuse of narcissist’s victims
Thank you Kenny. I'm clapping my hands over here!
You’re welcome 😁
Fantastic Kenny! Hope you go viral 🎁
Thank you! Wow! What a discovery! I like this type of content. Maybe something I have been searching for, for a long long time.
I was hoping you would comment on this. This explains what happened but doesn’t excuse it.
Exactly I would never excuse it but I will discuss the what why and how
Wow! Great teacher. I'm excited to learn more. Thank you, Sir.
Thank you
i am seeing your sadness to kenny
M. Gandhi stated: be the change you wish to see in the world. I see be the cause.
Truth...and I'm proof...
Thank you for the conviction in your voice explaining this. After moving from co dependaecy I am learning to take ownership over my own happiness. Yes narcs are narc to almost anyone but I did not have to stay with the narc. I am soo soo much happier now!
Perfectly said we are in control of our own choices
Wow, what a beautiful channel ! Thank God for this blessing.
Thank you. I’m glad it’s helpful to you.😁
Ken, what video help might you have available for children who stood up for their Mom when physical battles between parents erupted, physically returning fire on the Dad to stop the violence on their Mom... sometimes being able to distract and draw the attack onto themselves instead of their Mom.
That child learned to distrust and fear angry, argumentative people, and might respond to their anger with more anger, and go into childhood-programmed self-protection mode, with all the accompanying escalating fear/anger/violence behaviors they learned as a kid?
Do their emotions still end up as the same fear, shame, and unworthiness as in Will’s experience?
You can’t make a blanket statement each child creates their own unique coping skills. My best suggestion would be to watch all my videos in the worst day cycle playlist and my codependence playlist and pick up a copy of my book
22:32 👏🏽 I love how you brought truth to the discussion. In light of the “new” rules of equality….how do I raise my teenage sons who are gonna get into dating girls?