Trisha ❤️ My sincere condolences on your loss, beautiful woman. 🙏 I have been a widow for almost 8 years. I know exactly what you are going through. The Lord spoke to me three days after my husband died. I had just taken a shower and just sobbed like I have never cried before and the pain was soooo deep. I had never, ever felt so much pain inside my heart as I did when he died. Its almost unbearable. As I walked down the hall with a towel wrapped around me, I felt the area around my heart get warm and I heard a soft voice in my heart and in my ear and He said, "I know you are going through the storm, and it will get worse. I need you to bear with me, I need you to hold on. I am going to move my mighty hand and show certain people, that I am God". At first Trisha I thought I was losing my mind. That the pain and the grief were too much for my brain and body to handle and maybe I was going insane. I didnt understand what it meant until years later. He was right, the storm DID get worse. There were some days that I almost felt like I wouldn't survive. I just kept turning to Jesus. He was the only one that truly understood what I was feeling. But He began to bring me others that ALSO understood. Women and men. All people that have experienced the pain that I was feeling. All widowed. I started a group that He told me to start. An event group to get them out of their houses and back out into the community with people that knew what they were going through. I did it for almost 3 years. To see the smiles and the joy from what I was doing was a blessing straight from God. Your grief is just as precious and like gold as was/is your love for your husband. It is totally "your own" and so special and beautiful and unique. People do not realize the beauty inside of the grief because they dont understand it or have not experienced it. I am already loving you as a my "sister" in the Lord and will continue to follow you as your own journey takes it path. If you havent already, please look up Griefshare. It is a biblically based support group for the loss of any loved one. Griefshare, along with Jesus saved me from myself and the sorrow that lasted for so many years. Its an amazing program and I learned so much about the "why's" and the what now's and the "who am I's" from griefshare and the Lord above. In His perfect timing you will begin to heal. It cant be rushed, it cant just "go away" like some will try to tell us. Look on facebook and see if there are any "local" widows/widowers groups that meet up monthly. A lot of churches are beginning to do them as well. I love you, and you already know He loves you. And I will be praying for you daily. 🙏❤️ Thank you Jesus for what I know you are going to do for your precious daughter, Trisha. PS. I learned one thing very quickly of the journey. If all you could do is "brush your teeth" for that one particular day?? That there is HOPE and its going to be alright. God still has a good plan for you. He will give you your "purpose" as you pray. Look up the song by Ryan Ellis (contemporary Christian artist) Gonna be alright. And Heart of the Father. Music was Pinnacle in my own healing. God bless honey. ❤️
My husband was cremated, and I have him home with me. He is my soul mate ❤. He had congestive heart failure. He was 52 when he died. I understand your pain, but you will make it through. Holidays will be hard. Stay strong. Take it day by day.
My dear, You really need to get someone that is not related to you, therefore not affected by your sad loss that can help you with such things as paperwork, no one can think straight at such a sad time. Sending huge hugs ❤ x
Bless you..cry if you need to. Cry if you want to. This is your journey but you are not alone. You have us to listen when you need to talk, cry with you when you need to and laugh with you when you laugh. I miss being able to visit my husband’s gravesite. He’s buried in Arlington National Cemetery and I live in Mississippi. I would think you will find comfort visiting and talking to your husband. Keep talking about God. He is the one that will carry you through your journey.❤
After a year and a half of chemo etc. my husbands was given about 6 months to live. He did & my grieving began 6 mths before death. After being on my own caring for him & stuck at home, I felt relief & freedom for him & I after he died. After a time my grief came in waves for about 2 years.
I have not lost my husband. I am scared of that day I love him so much. We have been married 30 years. I lost my father when I was 11 years old. It was sudden a heart attack in the middle of the night. I was a daddy's girl. I followed him around like a little puppy dog. It broke my heart. I was never really the same. At that time they never talked about grief counseling. Without going into a lot of detail I will tell you what I learned living through my loss. Even though I was so young I realized that dad was just behind the veil. That he could see me and hear me. That he always watched over me. I learned that no matter what anyone says your not crazy if you talk to your loved ones. I share special moments that I have with my grandsons with him and I believe he smiles. There will be people that don't share my beliefs and that is fine. You are very much loved from behind the veil draw strength from that if you can. So you don't misunderstand me I am a Christian. It does get easier but I still have a hole in my heart.
Hello my friend. I've never been through loosing a husband due to death but when I divorced my husband,, it absolutly tore my heart out. I thought I'd never get my identity back let alone doing things my myself. This takes time and eventually it becomes easier but you will always have those percious memories of your husband. I enjoy your videos and doing them is a type of therapy for you. So cry when you need to and laugh when you need to and yes, God is with you all the way. Blessings to you.
Please keep posting. You are doing the right thing. I am so glad you are sharing your grief, so we can kinda know what grief looks like. Keep on with God , He will get you through. Bless you.
idea: when it gets colder & snowy, you could take a folding chair & a thermos of something hot to drink (along with bundling up warm) when you visit the cemetery ♡♡ p.s.: we can enjoy your videos, and the chat can be your choosing [[we'll still be there listening & sending you love & support]]
I've had picnics in the cemetery and one of our last vacations we stayed all night at a church with a cemetery behind it. So I might take my camper and stay the night in the cemetery with him. The police will throw me out or at least they did when I used to hunt for pokemon
I just found you a few days ago and I wanted to say God bless you and I appreciate your videos so please keep talking to us, I care about what you are going through. I am the same as you were, my husband does everything for me because I have a bad back, so he gets the gas in the car and truck, he gets the groceries and even cooks. You my new friend are helping people during the hardest part of your life. One day at a time and if that's too hard take a second at a time and know so many are with you ❤❤
Allow yourself some or allot of grace! Grief is a new journey and not one that you prepare for. I knew my late husband was terminal, but it still came as a shock. We were married 61 years and then his passing changed my life forever. God has sustained me for these past 2 years plus and I know that He will continue for my remaining time here on earth. I will never quit missing my husband and I continue searching for my new purpose. I would not be concerned with answering message . Get your rest and keep up with your nutritional needs. Prayers for you, my sister in the Lord Jesus!
I recently found your youtube video and it resonated with me. January 26th will begin the third year of my journey with grief. I still have "widow's brain" some days & I still wonder if I have a purpose. I don't have family who want to deal with me. My daughter calls but I'm estranged from my son. Sometimes I get so lonely and other days I don't want to be around anyone. I realized that now that I'm no longer taking care of my husband (ten years with dementia/alzheimer's) I have time to read God's word and grow spiritually. While I still haven't ventured out to church...I can't deal with being in crowds...I figure someday I will face the uncomfortable zones again. Keep praying, keep on keeping on. Hugs - Victoria in Oklahoma
You are a light and you keep shinning, I never been married and I will never know that pain grief ,But I did loose my Brother on Christmas day 2016 and My Nephew his son i 2022 he had just turned 26 ,So I do know we must remember the great times they were here ,And never stop talking about God as you are so right he is our lives and our Hope ,The world wants us tobe ashamed and many will try to put out our light and we must shine , I hope you get to a point where you can talk to your Husband and laugh with him as he smiles on you and saids how proud he is watching you grow and share he wants to hear your laughter and he too teases about ,Girl do your hair ( Joking of course ) He would remind you of how beautiful you are . Please continue sharing and just being the Love and Light that you are .
My love you must look after yourself, keep talking because it's helping you, and your followers are giving you comfort. I live in UK I still have my husband but I lost my adult son five years on January 8th and my life fell apart, I now have a heart condition, at the time of losing my son I said my heart is broken and now it is, but I listen to you and this old heart goes out to you, don't worry about replying to comments just draw strength from them. I am sending healing hugs and love take 🙏💕💕 care.
Aweee Trisha …. Please know my heart is with you honey …. I’m 67 and so is my husband.. realizing we are facing these trying times ahead …. Thx for talking ! Prayers 🙏🙏🙏❤
Glad to see you are still posting. I only found you recently. I hope you will continue to document your real feelings along with the realities of what you face.(SS, Medicare, Life Insurance etc..) One day this will be me or my spouse left to continue on without the other one. We just never know the day. Here to listen and let you know even strangers care how you're doing.
I know it’s hard. Don’t let the haters get to you. Know that you have a lot good people watching and going through some of the toughest times. We lost my Dad in 2005 at age 60. We still miss him terribly. I know for Mom it was the hardest. I remember to this day she told me how hard it was for her to come to terms with him just not there anymore. She said it was like he was there and then he was gone. Since then she’s had two bouts of Cancer and by the grace of God has beaten the odds. I live with Mom now, since 2011. It will get better..slowly but it will. My faith has saved me many many times! Prayers to you 🙏
Love and prayers for you and your family through this difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss. You are such an inspiration Praise Jesus! I have also known my husband since we were teenagers and we have been together 35 years. I understand what you’re talking about, about you being a team, and a pair. What an incredible relationship you guys had! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Again sending you prayers for Gods peace, comfort, wisdom, strength and guidance in Jesus name, amen.
Bless your sweetheart. Praying for your broken heart dear lady. Don’t pay no attention to negative comments. Shame on them. Yes just delete them and keep talking about Jesus all you want. Without him there’s no hope. Love you🙏✝️🫖☕️💜
It’s been six weeks since my husband died and I’m not sure if I can do this by myself. Dealing with all the stress and paperwork. It’s overwhelming to me. Keep doing the videos because they are really helpful to so many others and it helps you to get your thoughts out.
Good morning Trisha! I am a new subscriber that can identify with you. I am a widow also. These holidays are triggering for me. I fixed my husband's grave yesterday . It has been 5 yrs 8 mos for me. What helped me in the first yrs of his absence is spending time with my sons and their family. I have 2 sons and one of them would come and we would go out to eat etc. He still comes with me to all my Dr. Appt.Please don't ever stop talking about God. My husband was dx with cancer in 2015 and without God in my life and his we wouldn't have made it. I am Catholic by faith and my faith is a great comfort to me! It's your channel you do and say what you desire! I for one find you delightful! I wish I could comfort you! May I ask where do you live? How many children do you have ? How are they coping with the loss of their dad? I am holding you close in thoughts and prayers! I look forward to your videos! God Bless!🙏✝️💙😘
There’s always hater’s!!! Just delete and move on!!! Don’t let them get you down… God will stand beside you and I pray you feel his presence. One day at a time. Try to get one thing accomplished and check that off… You got this❤
Psalm 147.3 The Lord heals the brokenhearted. You are beautiful with your honesty. I’m so sorry for all the pain you have. May the lord cover you with His love and comfort❤️
Recently subscribed to your channel.. did it because you are so understanding and comforting.. like the kind neighbor wish we had.. Just listening to your videos helps so much.. My dear husband passed long ago.. even so his spirit is with me and I am content..💜💙 Just so nice to know you are there.. your videos help more than there are words to say it right.. Use my husbands name in signing to honour him.. we are still one and will always be.. Thank you from William and Jen
Hello, Trish. You got this. Don't pressure yourself to answer everyone. You can acknowledge, with a heart, emoji or a thank you to all. You have enough on your plate. Be kind to yourself, do what is absolutely necessary, and the rest can go to Hades.
I enjoy your sense of humor. If we can’t laugh at ourselves then we are in big trouble. Keep relying on God because he never fails. About two months into my grief when the love of my life died I prayed to God to lift the heavy burden from my heart and mind and he did. Praise the Lord. I replaced feeling deprived because my love was no longer with me to gratitude for the time we did have together. What a difference that made in my mental state. Again praise the Lord. 🙏 It takes time to grieve and to heal. Grant yourself the grace to do both.
Trish, I really look forward to watching your video’s.. you are such a real person, the grief of not being with your dear husband is so raw.. so real …and still you can be so funny ( love the “ oh I’m at the wrong house”) 😂 Praying for you ❤🙏
I feel so bad for you. I can relate to what you are feeling. I have 6 beautiful children and 13 grandchildren, but it isn't the same as having your mate Nobody can take their place or fill that void you are feeling. He was your soulmate. When my husband passed a part of me went with him and I know I'll never feel the same. But the one thing I'm so thankful for is I found my soulmate, and we had 34 wonderful years together. He loved me with all his heart, as I did him and you and I are more blessed than a lot of people, because they never found the love of their life and they don't know what it feels like to feel that kind of love. While our heart breaks because we miss them so much, we have to embrace and remember our beautiful memories. Yes, even sometimes that is painful. I remember a night not to long after my husband passed, our 16-year-old grandson was staying with me and his bedroom was down a pretty long hallway from mine. I had my door closed and it was about 2 am. and I was crying. It was dark in my room, but the next thing that happened as long as I live, I'll never forget, my grandson heard me, and he laid down beside me and just held me while I cried. We already had a very strong bond but after that happened, it will never be broken. Take care of yourself and don't worry about the mean people, you talk about whatever is on your heart. And I didn't see the comments about the hair, but if they haven't been in our shoes they don't know sometimes it is hard to just get out of bed let alone worry or care about how we look. Take care of YOU!!
I am with you god bless you . When my husband died in front of me . I begged to god please let him live, a voice loud in my ear said to me * SUFFER LITTLE CHILDREN WHO COME UNTO ME* amazed and so grateful that the lord and spirit family are with me .xx
Trisha I agree with you I feel sorry for those who don’t let themselves know Jesus. And don’t know a spousal relationship that allows such complete connection that the two really do become one. Many will never know that immersion of two spirits blending into one being that just a glance communicates it all. Keep walking my dear. I have found that even with my loved one passing to Jesus arms I still talk with them everyday. I feel my relationship continues to grow even with them taking a step to eternity. Keep talking to him. It helps! ❤
You went outside and showed us the fireworks, and most people in your situation would have said to heck with the fireworks, so just know you are gonna make it, I promise you, you will get through this.
Trisha, this is still very fresh for you, grief plus all the "administrative" and bureaucratic procedures will feel overwhelming. Hang in there, keep going, keep putting one foot in front of the other and eventually you will get to a point that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. It might take a while, but you will get there.
Your channel isn’t my usual but I’m happy to contribute to someone’s well being by watching videos. If you watch other RUclipsrs I highly recommend Goobie and Doobie. He’s a young man, and a former surgeon trying to find his way. He’s very calming and I think you would enjoy his videos. We are all trying to find our way. Love your stories especially about Margaret. Hugs to you Trish and hope today is a better day for you. And I’m glad you delete the mean people. ✌️
OMG....you're 'batton' video popped up on my screen. I never really learned to do that. You are like a pro. ♥♥♥I hope you feel like doing that again next year. Things will be a little better next year. Ok....take care of you.
It is still so raw for you. This takes time! I always say it is worse losing a spouse because we are with them the longest. I lterally took it hr by hr because thats all I had the strength for. The first yr I had what they call widows fog or widows brain. The firsts are the most painful! My second yr was a little better but I still struggle with dates like our anniversary and his birthday and death date etc. I always will! Just know you are not alone. I care about you and what you are going through!
Thank you for sharing yourself with us. Just do you no matter what that is. Don't listen to negative people. You'll get through this, no one knows when. Hugs to you my friend!
Being able to cry is good. Its helps relieve sadness. I cant cry easily. I have a lot going on. Im numb. Im on psych meds for depression so it makes it hard to cry and let it out.
Heavenly Father my sister in Christ needs your guidance and counsel.I lift Trisha to you .she is an angel on earth as you well know .Her heart has been ripped out of her chest with grief .She has lost her lifetime companion recently. And has the world’s bureaucracy to tend to on his behalf. Oh lord give her the strength to go forward .send your comforting angels to her side and cradle her .Hold her tightly for me. For I am not close enough to do it. She is Amazing .please guard. Guide. And protect her in this time of need . In the name of your son JesusChrist . Amen . I love you Trisha we are here for you honey. ❤🙏🦋
Ive never been on my own for over 20 years. Me and my parents have been a team trying to get by, All of us in poverty. Now, my mom is dying from lung cancer, Never smoked in her life. Dad has been gone for 4 years or so. I am becoming an orphan. The sweet light that my mother is , is moving on. Im so scared.
My heart breaks with you. ❤ My husband had a stroke in April 2019. He was recovering very well, but he had s fall which caused bleeding on the brain and I never spoke to him again after that. He died May 9, 2019. It took me two years before I knew I was going to be ok. We met when I was 15 (he came to my house to console my older sister when our dad died). We got married when I was 17 and were married 53 years. We were 3 weeks away from #54. The hardest part was he wasn't there to talk to. It was only me and I was all alone after 50+ years. I only had the four walls. The TV became my best friend and I looked forward to my son's phone calls every day. Grieving is personal and different for everyone. I am here to tell you you're going to be ok and it does get better! Hugs!
God's the only one that can help us all,you sit and talk to God, call on him...I pray God give you peace and comfort and the will to carry on helping others because that's what God would want....get out with family and love ones you be surprised how that will help you and them..I'm praying for you..
Isaiah46: Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.
I am divorced seven years and loneliness is a thing I have had to deal with. I work but on long holidays I can go days with no interactions. You hang in there, it will get easier. I know death and divorce are very different but being alone is being alone.❤🙏🏼😘
Keep talking with all of us. Some of us have gone through losing loved one. But please ask for help. Call Department on Aging or reach out to a church near you even if you don't go to church. Wonderful people. They will help you find the right help. Above all, take care of yourself!❤
I know it's not the same as talking to your dear husband, but you do have someone to talk to, you have the Lord first, and you have all of us who are listening. Take care of yourself, sincerely, Donella
Trying to regain your own identity after losing your spouse is a real thing and it has nothing to do with religion. My wife died 12 years ago and I went through the same struggle. Who am I without her? She was not only my wife, but my best friend. Don't entertain idiots who try to drag you down. Grieve how you need to. It is unique to everyone.
If any one expects you to to reply on a day like this then thats someone you definitelty shouldnt be replying to. I know what your going through so you have all my sympathy and love ❤️
Please dial 211. Tell them what you’re going through and they may be able to find you help with your paperwork and lots of other things. Where I live, they even help with our taxes. When you start feeling a little better (and you will eventually) maybe you can look for a senior center in your area if they have one. They are a lot of help too. It’s ok. That’s what they’re there for. One day, you’ll help somebody too. ❤️🙏
Trisha keep moving forward. I work for a hospital and work with insurance. Good idea to call your doctors office to ask if they take insurance of your choosing. Social security is a good option to ask questions of. Y personal opinion is to go with traditional Medicare and not a med advantage. Just my experience in seeing who covers what. Sharing in case this is helpful. 💕
I wish you would lean more on your children. I am sure they would like to embrace you with love and comfort. I can only imagine you were always there for them and now you need someone to help you through this hardest time of your life. You seem like such a sweet person, and so sincere. My heart is breaking for you.
My children are great but I still don't want to put more on their plates than they can handle. I'm passing some stuff off to my husbands friends now. It is hard to ask but I finally broke down.
Are you able to get a friend to come over and assist you with all the paperwork? Just takes a bit of the anxiety away. Please ignore the nay sayers, as you said just block them. They don't need to watch, it's a choice. Buy yourself a little deck chair type of thing to leave in the car and take to the cemetery and then you can sit and chat easily (or use your grandpa's milking stool). Some people leave their chairs at the plot in some of our cemeteries'. The fireworks looked lovely; we could see them. Just remember God is with you and will guide you through this and help you meet your challenges. You have been blessed with a wonderful family and have wonderful memories to reflect on (loved locking your brother away 🤣🤣) and new ones to make. Hugs and one step at a time 💕💕🫶. Later tater !
John 14:27 New King James Version 27 Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
John 16:33 New King James Version 33 These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”
Determine to get up tomorrow and do better. Fix your hair and face (even if it’s just putting moisturizer on it) and face the day bravely. Will you still be grieving? Of course. But you will be taking steps to move in the right direction. Will the day be easier? Maybe not. But you will feel a little better when you are put together. Nothing to lose by trying it.
Trisha ❤️ My sincere condolences on your loss, beautiful woman. 🙏 I have been a widow for almost 8 years. I know exactly what you are going through. The Lord spoke to me three days after my husband died. I had just taken a shower and just sobbed like I have never cried before and the pain was soooo deep. I had never, ever felt so much pain inside my heart as I did when he died. Its almost unbearable. As I walked down the hall with a towel wrapped around me, I felt the area around my heart get warm and I heard a soft voice in my heart and in my ear and He said, "I know you are going through the storm, and it will get worse. I need you to bear with me, I need you to hold on. I am going to move my mighty hand and show certain people, that I am God".
At first Trisha I thought I was losing my mind. That the pain and the grief were too much for my brain and body to handle and maybe I was going insane. I didnt understand what it meant until years later.
He was right, the storm DID get worse. There were some days that I almost felt like I wouldn't survive. I just kept turning to Jesus. He was the only one that truly understood what I was feeling. But He began to bring me others that ALSO understood. Women and men. All people that have experienced the pain that I was feeling. All widowed. I started a group that He told me to start. An event group to get them out of their houses and back out into the community with people that knew what they were going through. I did it for almost 3 years. To see the smiles and the joy from what I was doing was a blessing straight from God.
Your grief is just as precious and like gold as was/is your love for your husband. It is totally "your own" and so special and beautiful and unique. People do not realize the beauty inside of the grief because they dont understand it or have not experienced it. I am already loving you as a my "sister" in the Lord and will continue to follow you as your own journey takes it path. If you havent already, please look up Griefshare. It is a biblically based support group for the loss of any loved one. Griefshare, along with Jesus saved me from myself and the sorrow that lasted for so many years. Its an amazing program and I learned so much about the "why's" and the what now's and the "who am I's" from griefshare and the Lord above. In His perfect timing you will begin to heal. It cant be rushed, it cant just "go away" like some will try to tell us. Look on facebook and see if there are any "local" widows/widowers groups that meet up monthly. A lot of churches are beginning to do them as well. I love you, and you already know He loves you. And I will be praying for you daily. 🙏❤️ Thank you Jesus for what I know you are going to do for your precious daughter, Trisha. PS. I learned one thing very quickly of the journey. If all you could do is "brush your teeth" for that one particular day?? That there is HOPE and its going to be alright. God still has a good plan for you. He will give you your "purpose" as you pray. Look up the song by Ryan Ellis (contemporary Christian artist) Gonna be alright. And Heart of the Father.
Music was Pinnacle in my own healing. God bless honey. ❤️
Dear Trisha.. please keep doing your channel.. we love you so much😭💔🤗
William and Jen
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My husband was cremated, and I have him home with me. He is my soul mate ❤. He had congestive heart failure. He was 52 when he died. I understand your pain, but you will make it through. Holidays will be hard. Stay strong. Take it day by day.
Thank you for your encouragement and sharing your story.
My dear, You really need to get someone that is not related to you, therefore not affected by your sad loss that can help you with such things as paperwork, no one can think straight at such a sad time. Sending huge hugs ❤ x
Psalm 23:4: “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me
I love you so much, Trisha. You re an inspiration, believe it or not!
Oh dear heart , you don’t have to talk the way anyone else wants you too. I love the LORD , you’re just grieving.We’ll pray for you.
Bless you..cry if you need to. Cry if you want to. This is your journey but you are not alone. You have us to listen when you need to talk, cry with you when you need to and laugh with you when you laugh. I miss being able to visit my husband’s gravesite. He’s buried in Arlington National Cemetery and I live in Mississippi. I would think you will find comfort visiting and talking to your husband. Keep talking about God. He is the one that will carry you through your journey.❤
After a year and a half of chemo etc. my husbands was given about 6 months to live. He did & my grieving began 6 mths before death. After being on my own caring for him & stuck at home, I felt relief & freedom for him & I after he died. After a time my grief came in waves for about 2 years.
I have not lost my husband. I am scared of that day I love him so much. We have been married 30 years. I lost my father when I was 11 years old. It was sudden a heart attack in the middle of the night. I was a daddy's girl. I followed him around like a little puppy dog. It broke my heart. I was never really the same. At that time they never talked about grief counseling. Without going into a lot of detail I will tell you what I learned living through my loss. Even though I was so young I realized that dad was just behind the veil. That he could see me and hear me. That he always watched over me. I learned that no matter what anyone says your not crazy if you talk to your loved ones. I share special moments that I have with my grandsons with him and I believe he smiles. There will be people that don't share my beliefs and that is fine. You are very much loved from behind the veil draw strength from that if you can. So you don't misunderstand me I am a Christian. It does get easier but I still have a hole in my heart.
THE COMMUNION OF SAINTS IS THE NAME OF THIS BIBLE DOCTRINE. THANK GOD FOR IT!
Thanks for the fireworks show!!🎉
Thank care l9vely 🎉
Hello my friend. I've never been through loosing a husband due to death but when I divorced my husband,, it absolutly tore my heart out. I thought I'd never get my identity back let alone doing things my myself. This takes time and eventually it becomes easier but you will always have those percious memories of your husband. I enjoy your videos and doing them is a type of therapy for you. So cry when you need to and laugh when you need to and yes, God is with you all the way. Blessings to you.
Thank you
Please continue to hold on to God. He is holding you! He has you! Don’t feel bad for crying. That is a sign of your love for your husband.
God is awesome! Stand your ground and keep allowing God to heal you in Jesus Name!!! I appreciate your video and I m praying for you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
🙏🏽 for continued Strength
❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤ We care about you Trisha!
I love you and I feel your pain. I lost my twin sister recently and I am full of despair too. But with the Lord’s help we will come out of it❤
One day at a time. 💫
It's okay you do you bless you
Please keep posting. You are doing the right thing. I am so glad you are sharing your grief, so we can kinda know what grief looks like. Keep on with God , He will get you through. Bless you.
Thank you and God bless you too.
I saw the beautiful fireworks
Just take one day at a time sweet lady 🙏
Sending you love and a hug ❤ 🤗
idea: when it gets colder & snowy, you could take a folding chair & a thermos of something hot to drink (along with bundling up warm) when you visit the cemetery ♡♡ p.s.: we can enjoy your videos, and the chat can be your choosing [[we'll still be there listening & sending you love & support]]
I've had picnics in the cemetery and one of our last vacations we stayed all night at a church with a cemetery behind it. So I might take my camper and stay the night in the cemetery with him. The police will throw me out or at least they did when I used to hunt for pokemon
I just found you a few days ago and I wanted to say God bless you and I appreciate your videos so please keep talking to us, I care about what you are going through. I am the same as you were, my husband does everything for me because I have a bad back, so he gets the gas in the car and truck, he gets the groceries and even cooks. You my new friend are helping people during the hardest part of your life. One day at a time and if that's too hard take a second at a time and know so many are with you ❤❤
Allow yourself some or allot of grace! Grief is a new journey and not one that you prepare for. I knew my late husband was terminal, but it still came as a shock. We were married 61 years and then his passing changed my life forever. God has sustained me for these past 2 years plus and I know that He will continue for my remaining time here on earth. I will never quit missing my husband and I continue searching for my new purpose. I would not be concerned with answering message . Get your rest and keep up with your nutritional needs. Prayers for you, my sister in the Lord Jesus!
I recently found your youtube video and it resonated with me. January 26th will begin the third year of my journey with grief. I still have "widow's brain" some days & I still wonder if I have a purpose. I don't have family who want to deal with me. My daughter calls but I'm estranged from my son. Sometimes I get so lonely and other days I don't want to be around anyone. I realized that now that I'm no longer taking care of my husband (ten years with dementia/alzheimer's) I have time to read God's word and grow spiritually. While I still haven't ventured out to church...I can't deal with being in crowds...I figure someday I will face the uncomfortable zones again. Keep praying, keep on keeping on. Hugs - Victoria in Oklahoma
You are a light and you keep shinning, I never been married and I will never know that pain grief ,But I did loose my Brother on Christmas day 2016 and My Nephew his son i 2022 he had just turned 26 ,So I do know we must remember the great times they were here ,And never stop talking about God as you are so right he is our lives and our Hope ,The world wants us tobe ashamed and many will try to put out our light and we must shine , I hope you get to a point where you can talk to your Husband and laugh with him as he smiles on you and saids how proud he is watching you grow and share he wants to hear your laughter and he too teases about ,Girl do your hair ( Joking of course ) He would remind you of how beautiful you are . Please continue sharing and just being the Love and Light that you are .
My love you must look after yourself, keep talking because it's helping you, and your followers are giving you comfort. I live in UK I still have my husband but I lost my adult son five years on January 8th and my life fell apart, I now have a heart condition, at the time of losing my son I said my heart is broken and now it is, but I listen to you and this old heart goes out to you, don't worry about replying to comments just draw strength from them. I am sending healing hugs and love take 🙏💕💕 care.
I see and hear the fireworks!! How fun 😊 thanks for taking us along.
Aweee Trisha …. Please know my heart is with you honey …. I’m 67 and so is my husband.. realizing we are facing these trying times ahead …. Thx for talking ! Prayers 🙏🙏🙏❤
Thanks for the prayers
@@trishaleet most welcome !!!!!!
@ you got them !! Sending hugs 🤗!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
You can't see it right now, but it'll slowly get better. You never forget him, of course, but the Lord heals your broken heart. ❤
Glad to see you are still posting. I only found you recently. I hope you will continue to document your real feelings along with the realities of what you face.(SS, Medicare, Life Insurance etc..)
One day this will be me or my spouse left to continue on without the other one. We just never know the day.
Here to listen and let you know even strangers care how you're doing.
I know it’s hard. Don’t let the haters get to you. Know that you have a lot good people watching and going through some of the toughest times. We lost my Dad in 2005 at age 60. We still miss him terribly. I know for Mom it was the hardest. I remember to this day she told me how hard it was for her to come to terms with him just not there anymore. She said it was like he was there and then he was gone. Since then she’s had two bouts of Cancer and by the grace of God has beaten the odds. I live with Mom now, since 2011. It will get better..slowly but it will. My faith has saved me many many times! Prayers to you 🙏
Love the fireworks wife and I went to fireworks in Southern Michigan this weekend
Love and prayers for you and your family through this difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss. You are such an inspiration Praise Jesus! I have also known my husband since we were teenagers and we have been together 35 years. I understand what you’re talking about, about you being a team, and a pair. What an incredible relationship you guys had! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Again sending you prayers for Gods peace, comfort, wisdom, strength and guidance in Jesus name, amen.
Thank you for the prayers
@ you’re very welcome 👍🏼
Prayers 🙏
Please yes pray for me too
We saw them a few times!
Praying for Gods strength and Peace 🙏
Trust ✝️him, he is faithful ❤
Psalm 30:5b
Weeping may endure for a night,
But joy comes in the morning.
Youre a nice lady.
Bless your sweetheart. Praying for your broken heart dear lady. Don’t pay no attention to negative comments. Shame on them. Yes just delete them and keep talking about Jesus all you want. Without him there’s no hope. Love you🙏✝️🫖☕️💜
It’s been six weeks since my husband died and I’m not sure if I can do this by myself.
Dealing with all the stress and paperwork.
It’s overwhelming to me. Keep doing the videos because they are really helpful to so many others and it helps you to get your thoughts out.
Good morning Trisha! I am a new subscriber that can identify with you. I am a widow also. These holidays are triggering for me. I fixed my husband's grave yesterday . It has been 5 yrs 8 mos for me. What helped me in the first yrs of his absence is spending time with my sons and their family. I have 2 sons and one of them would come and we would go out to eat etc. He still comes with me to all my Dr. Appt.Please don't ever stop talking about God. My husband was dx with cancer in 2015 and without God in my life and his we wouldn't have made it. I am Catholic by faith and my faith is a great comfort to me! It's your channel you do and say what you desire! I for one find you delightful! I wish I could comfort you! May I ask where do you live? How many children do you have ? How are they coping with the loss of their dad? I am holding you close in thoughts and prayers! I look forward to your videos! God Bless!🙏✝️💙😘
There’s always hater’s!!! Just delete and move on!!! Don’t let them get you down… God will stand beside you and I pray you feel his presence. One day at a time. Try to get one thing accomplished and check that off… You got this❤
Thanks and yep I"m taking smaller bites now.
I love all of your beautiful religious pictures on the wall!
Psalm 147.3 The Lord heals the brokenhearted. You are beautiful with your honesty. I’m so sorry for all the pain you have. May the lord cover you with His love and comfort❤️
Stay strong my friend. Praying for better days ahead🙏❤️🙏
Thinking of you sending bunches hugs your way ❤❤❤❤
Recently subscribed to your channel.. did it because you are so understanding and comforting.. like the kind neighbor wish we had..
Just listening to your videos helps so much..
My dear husband passed long ago.. even so his spirit is with me and I am content..💜💙
Just so nice to know you are there.. your videos help more than there are words to say it right..
Use my husbands name in signing to honour him.. we are still one and will always be..
Thank you from
William and Jen
Hello, Trish. You got this. Don't pressure yourself to answer everyone. You can acknowledge, with a heart, emoji or a thank you to all. You have enough on your plate. Be kind to yourself, do what is absolutely necessary, and the rest can go to Hades.
You’re going to get thru this.
I enjoy your sense of humor. If we can’t laugh at ourselves then we are in big trouble. Keep relying on God because he never fails. About two months into my grief when the love of my life died I prayed to God to lift the heavy burden from my heart and mind and he did. Praise the Lord. I replaced feeling deprived because my love was no longer with me to gratitude for the time we did have together. What a difference that made in my mental state. Again praise the Lord. 🙏
It takes time to grieve and to heal. Grant yourself the grace to do both.
Love your vlogs ❤️and enjoyed seeing the fireworks 🎆 😉!
I know that you are helping so many !
Keep the vlogs coming!
GOD BLESS! 🥰🙏
I loved the fireworks!
Trish, I really look forward to watching your video’s.. you are such a real person, the grief of not being with your dear husband is so raw.. so real …and still you can be so funny ( love the “ oh I’m at the wrong house”) 😂
Praying for you ❤🙏
Thank you and your comment just made me laugh.
Sending you a big hug, my friend! Be kind to yourself! You are going through a lot right now. Plus the holidays. ❤
It helps to be around people for the first year. Helps with the grief.
Sending a hug! Prayers! ❤
I feel so bad for you. I can relate to what you are feeling. I have 6 beautiful children and 13 grandchildren, but it isn't the same as having your mate Nobody can take their place or fill that void you are feeling. He was your soulmate. When my husband passed a part of me went with him and I know I'll never feel the same. But the one thing I'm so thankful for is I found my soulmate, and we had 34 wonderful years together. He loved me with all his heart, as I did him and you and I are more blessed than a lot of people, because they never found the love of their life and they don't know what it feels like to feel that kind of love. While our heart breaks because we miss them so much, we have to embrace and remember our beautiful memories. Yes, even sometimes that is painful. I remember a night not to long after my husband passed, our 16-year-old grandson was staying with me and his bedroom was down a pretty long hallway from mine. I had my door closed and it was about 2 am. and I was crying. It was dark in my room, but the next thing that happened as long as I live, I'll never forget, my grandson heard me, and he laid down beside me and just held me while I cried. We already had a very strong bond but after that happened, it will never be broken. Take care of yourself and don't worry about the mean people, you talk about whatever is on your heart. And I didn't see the comments about the hair, but if they haven't been in our shoes they don't know sometimes it is hard to just get out of bed let alone worry or care about how we look. Take care of YOU!!
I am with you god bless you . When my husband died in front of me . I begged to god please let him live, a voice loud in my ear said to me * SUFFER LITTLE CHILDREN WHO COME UNTO ME* amazed and so grateful that the lord and spirit family are with me .xx
Its strength I didn't know I had and it's not all the time. When I break down I go down for sure. Nights are hard.
Trisha I agree with you I feel sorry for those who don’t let themselves know Jesus. And don’t know a spousal relationship that allows such complete connection that the two really do become one. Many will never know that immersion of two spirits blending into one being that just a glance communicates it all. Keep walking my dear. I have found that even with my loved one passing to Jesus arms I still talk with them everyday. I feel my relationship continues to grow even with them taking a step to eternity. Keep talking to him. It helps! ❤
You went outside and showed us the fireworks, and most people in your situation would have said to heck with the fireworks, so just know you are gonna make it, I promise you, you will get through this.
Hi, new to your channel. Loss is a terrible thing to have to endure, but it'll somehow get better. Praying for you and your family.
You keep God always with you, I talk about God too. Without Him to talk to I always pray. You are helping others. Love you 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
Bless your heart😢keep your faith in God❤
Trisha, this is still very fresh for you, grief plus all the "administrative" and bureaucratic procedures will feel overwhelming. Hang in there, keep going, keep putting one foot in front of the other and eventually you will get to a point that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. It might take a while, but you will get there.
Your channel isn’t my usual but I’m happy to contribute to someone’s well being by watching videos.
If you watch other RUclipsrs I highly recommend Goobie and Doobie. He’s a young man, and a former surgeon trying to find his way. He’s very calming and I think you would enjoy his videos. We are all trying to find our way. Love your stories especially about Margaret. Hugs to you Trish and hope today is a better day for you. And I’m glad you delete the mean people. ✌️
OMG....you're 'batton' video popped up on my screen. I never really learned to do that. You are like a pro. ♥♥♥I hope you feel like doing that again next year. Things will be a little better next year. Ok....take care of you.
That’s what I always say to my family, “See ya later alligator, after while crocodile!” ❤
It is still so raw for you. This takes time! I always say it is worse losing a spouse because we are with them the longest. I lterally took it hr by hr because thats all I had the strength for. The first yr I had what they call widows fog or widows brain. The firsts are the most painful! My second yr was a little better but I still struggle with dates like our anniversary and his birthday and death date etc. I always will! Just know you are not alone. I care about you and what you are going through!
I think you are a beautiful young lady. I love watching your channel. You are so funny.😊
Thank you for sharing yourself with us. Just do you no matter what that is. Don't listen to negative people. You'll get through this, no one knows when. Hugs to you my friend!
Being able to cry is good. Its helps relieve sadness. I cant cry easily. I have a lot going on. Im numb. Im on psych meds for depression so it makes it hard to cry and let it out.
Heavenly Father my sister in Christ needs your guidance and counsel.I lift Trisha to you .she is an angel on earth as you well know .Her heart has been ripped out of her chest with grief .She has lost her lifetime companion recently. And has the world’s bureaucracy to tend to on his behalf. Oh lord give her the strength to go forward .send your comforting angels to her side and cradle her .Hold her tightly for me. For I am not close enough to do it. She is Amazing .please guard. Guide. And protect her in this time of need . In the name of your son JesusChrist . Amen . I love you Trisha we are here for you honey. ❤🙏🦋
Ive never been on my own for over 20 years. Me and my parents have been a team trying to get by, All of us in poverty. Now, my mom is dying from lung cancer, Never smoked in her life. Dad has been gone for 4 years or so. I am becoming an orphan. The sweet light that my mother is , is moving on. Im so scared.
I believe a higher power had you start this RUclips channel at the proper time for a reason 🙏
Don’t ever stop talking about God , or your husband . It’s ok to cry . We will be here for you anytime you need to talk.
My heart breaks with you. ❤ My husband had a stroke in April 2019. He was recovering very well, but he had s fall which caused bleeding on the brain and I never spoke to him again after that. He died May 9, 2019. It took me two years before I knew I was going to be ok. We met when I was 15 (he came to my house to console my older sister when our dad died). We got married when I was 17 and were married 53 years. We were 3 weeks away from #54.
The hardest part was he wasn't there to talk to. It was only me and I was all alone after 50+ years. I only had the four walls. The TV became my best friend and I looked forward to my son's phone calls every day. Grieving is personal and different for everyone. I am here to tell you you're going to be ok and it does get better! Hugs!
Thank you and yes it's that all alone feeling that is the worse.
God's the only one that can help us all,you sit and talk to God, call on him...I pray God give you peace and comfort and the will to carry on helping others because that's what God would want....get out with family and love ones you be surprised how that will help you and them..I'm praying for you..
Thanks for the prayers
Isaiah46: Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.
I am divorced seven years and loneliness is a thing I have had to deal with. I work but on long holidays I can go days with no interactions. You hang in there, it will get easier. I know death and divorce are very different but being alone is being alone.❤🙏🏼😘
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5 days ago Hubby passed from painfully cancer😢. I'm all over the place and nowhere at the same time.
Keep talking with all of us. Some of us have gone through losing loved one. But please ask for help. Call Department on Aging or reach out to a church near you even if you don't go to church. Wonderful people. They will help you find the right help. Above all, take care of yourself!❤
I know it's not the same as talking to your dear husband, but you do have someone to talk to, you have the Lord first, and you have all of us who are listening. Take care of yourself, sincerely, Donella
Trying to regain your own identity after losing your spouse is a real thing and it has nothing to do with religion. My wife died 12 years ago and I went through the same struggle. Who am I without her? She was not only my wife, but my best friend. Don't entertain idiots who try to drag you down. Grieve how you need to. It is unique to everyone.
If any one expects you to to reply on a day like this then thats someone you definitelty shouldnt be replying to. I know what your going through so you have all my sympathy and love ❤️
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Please dial 211. Tell them what you’re going through and they may be able to find you help with your paperwork and lots of other things. Where I live, they even help with our taxes. When you start feeling a little better (and you will eventually) maybe you can look for a senior center in your area if they have one. They are a lot of help too. It’s ok. That’s what they’re there for. One day, you’ll help somebody too. ❤️🙏
Trisha keep moving forward. I work for a hospital and work with insurance. Good idea to call your doctors office to ask if they take insurance of your choosing. Social security is a good option to ask questions of. Y personal opinion is to go with traditional Medicare and not a med advantage. Just my experience in seeing who covers what. Sharing in case this is helpful. 💕
I wish you would lean more on your children. I am sure they would like to embrace you with love and comfort. I can only imagine you were always there for them and now you need someone to help you through this hardest time of your life. You seem like such a sweet person, and so sincere. My heart is breaking for you.
My children are great but I still don't want to put more on their plates than they can handle. I'm passing some stuff off to my husbands friends now. It is hard to ask but I finally broke down.
Hi ❤️
Death is an enemy
Are you able to get a friend to come over and assist you with all the paperwork? Just takes a bit of the anxiety away. Please ignore the nay sayers, as you said just block them. They don't need to watch, it's a choice. Buy yourself a little deck chair type of thing to leave in the car and take to the cemetery and then you can sit and chat easily (or use your grandpa's milking stool). Some people leave their chairs at the plot in some of our cemeteries'. The fireworks looked lovely; we could see them. Just remember God is with you and will guide you through this and help you meet your challenges. You have been blessed with a wonderful family and have wonderful memories to reflect on (loved locking your brother away 🤣🤣) and new ones to make. Hugs and one step at a time 💕💕🫶. Later tater !
I used to have a post box but I discontinued it. Im not popular on RUclips for a fan mail box.
John 14:27
New King James Version
27 Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
John 16:33
New King James Version
33 These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”
Determine to get up tomorrow and do better. Fix your hair and face (even if it’s just putting moisturizer on it) and face the day bravely. Will you still be grieving? Of course. But you will be taking steps to move in the right direction. Will the day be easier? Maybe not. But you will feel a little better when you are put together. Nothing to lose by trying it.