I’m lost without my other half! (2 weeks since my husband passed)

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  • Опубликовано: 10 дек 2024

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  • @janeb1400
    @janeb1400 5 дней назад +200

    We’re not ‘watching an old lady cry’ - we’re feeling compassion and sending you healing thoughts. ❤

  • @sallyjorace7703
    @sallyjorace7703 7 дней назад +288

    It's only been 2 weeks, you must give yourself some grace. I'm so very sorry for your loss..

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  5 дней назад +5

      Thank You

    • @angelusway
      @angelusway 5 дней назад +4

      So sorry for your loss and may God bless you with peace and the cherished memories of the love you had.❤

    • @Mimiminnielove
      @Mimiminnielove 4 дня назад +4

      I know how you feel. But we have to keep going. He would want you do be well.

    • @valeriekehrt7566
      @valeriekehrt7566 2 дня назад +1

      God bless you. Grief takes time I know. It's a hard blow. Be good to yourself& give yourself time to heal. ❤❤❤🫂🫶

    • @JaniceTattrie
      @JaniceTattrie День назад

      My grandson’s girlfriend died on Thanksgiving day! He is so devastated! They were together 7 years and were engaged to be married. She aspirated after throwing up in her sleep. It’s beyond sad! 😢😢😢

  • @bonniekesic8040
    @bonniekesic8040 9 дней назад +302

    I was alone on Thankagiving. I took myself to a restaurant. I have three grown kids and they were doing there own thing without a care about me. I feel like you do. My husband died two years and a half ago. I was were you are now. Dont apologize for crying. Dont apologize for not having the energy to clean. I didnt leave home for months after he died. It was unexpected. I wish I could reach thru here and hug you. It will take time. Stay busy.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  9 дней назад +23

      Thank You!!!!

    • @paulacheek6793
      @paulacheek6793 8 дней назад +40

      @bonniekesic8040 I too, was alone on Thanksgiving. I have one son, 23 that had other plans. I haven't any other family left. As much as it hurts inside, I spent the day alone physically.
      However, I was Thankful to have God. He is always available to talk to, without fear of rejection or judgement.
      I know exactly how you feel.
      I think those of us that find ourselves alone during certain holidays, we should make up our own group.
      Lonely hearts club.😊
      Sending peace, love & light. God bless

    • @melaniekolomyja7335
      @melaniekolomyja7335 7 дней назад +23

      Shame on your children. M daughter would never do that to me.

    • @ItsMeYaMama
      @ItsMeYaMama 7 дней назад +44

      I was alone for Thanksgiving too. I have one daughter that didn’t invite me over and I can’t tell you the pain it cause me. I praise the Lord for keeping me safe and healthy is all I can say. 😔

    • @melaniekolomyja7335
      @melaniekolomyja7335 7 дней назад

      @@ItsMeYaMama (((Hugs)))

  • @joyceessary-ray6877
    @joyceessary-ray6877 2 дня назад +24

    Do not stifle your tears !!!
    You Are Loved ❤
    God gave us tears to heal , one day there will be no tears !🙏🏻

  • @judyoliver533
    @judyoliver533 7 дней назад +199

    Keep talking, keep filming. You are so brave.

    • @pamhope3778
      @pamhope3778 3 дня назад

      Go to the blessed Mother, she understands your loss. More than any one she had to sacrifice the loss of her Son . May Jesus and Mary be your comfort in your loss. You are so loved ! Wake up each day and ask the Lord to fill your days and direct your path. 🔥❤️🔥

    • @cbean0017
      @cbean0017 3 дня назад

      ​Idolatry. Just go straight to Jesus❣️@@pamhope3778

    • @coleensonnenfeld5519
      @coleensonnenfeld5519 3 дня назад +1

      First god bless you losing your dear husband has to be hard on you I lost my son when he was 43 it is horrible feeling that doesn't go away, but it's 7 years since we lost our Jason, but keep your faith in seeing him again, it Wil be hard for now if talking helps I am sure your in the best , it will be awhile believe god bless you

  • @reginahicks1769
    @reginahicks1769 3 дня назад +32

    Honey I feel your pain. When I lost my husband, I felt the same way. I’m so sorry for your loss. Don’t let anyone tell you how long you should grieve. Take all the time and don’t rush to do anything . We were married 43 years.

  • @denisesalles7248
    @denisesalles7248 8 дней назад +101

    You don't need to do ANYTHING right now. Just grieve, sleep, eat if you can, and find a grief group. Two weeks is an absolute grain of sand in the process of losing a loved one. You are still in shock, my friend.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  8 дней назад +8

      I think it is a two week mark that you really no he isn't just at work or something.

    • @valeriekehrt7566
      @valeriekehrt7566 2 дня назад +1

      True. ❤

  • @rosalienotter6835
    @rosalienotter6835 2 дня назад +24

    😊I’m so glad i found you. I lost the love of my life 22 months ago. Hang in there.

    • @theugandanvillagewife6647
      @theugandanvillagewife6647 10 часов назад +1

      Am so sorry for your loss dear sending virtual hugs from one widow to another RIP my babes

  • @johnnylyon3958
    @johnnylyon3958 5 дней назад +52

    This is the realest video ive seen in years

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  4 дня назад +13

      At first I wasn't sure I should make it, but my daughter told me it might help someone down the road. Thanks for letting me know.

  • @MaryR7256
    @MaryR7256 4 дня назад +48

    I'm so very sorry your husband passed away! May God bless you with peace, comfort & strength!

  • @LovingAtlanta
    @LovingAtlanta 6 дней назад +95

    🙏💝😢Condolences. I’m so sorry for your loss. We keep our loved ones alive by talking about them. Tell us about him. Tell us how you two met. Tell us how your love grew. Tell us about how you and your husband were able to stay together for 49 years. Keep making videos and keep talking to us. No one can tell you how to grieve or how long to grieve. Give yourself grace. Take your time. Praying for you. Everything will be okay. 🙏💝

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  6 дней назад +26

      Thank you for letting me know it is okay to talk about my man and others might actually want to know him too. Thanks for the prayers.

    • @resellingandthrifting
      @resellingandthrifting 3 дня назад +4

      That's a wonderful idea for videos.

  • @gabymeyer8003
    @gabymeyer8003 4 дня назад +57

    My husband died suddenly 10 years ago. It was like most of me had died as well. Two weeks into that grief is a very short time indeed. The lost feeling is normal. You will need much more time, and I'm sorry it's over Thanksgiving and Christmas as well. But you *will* discover yourself as the months go by. You may discover strengths you didn't even know you were capable of, which is what happened to me. I will pray for you over the holiday season.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  4 дня назад +4

      Thank you so much and thank you for the prayers. I do believe this channel is going to make the difference in my journey.

    • @aliceblanton4911
      @aliceblanton4911 4 дня назад +4

      GOD Bless you honey . Take one day at a time. I’m sorry for your loss. It’s great to talk , we’ll listen. I’m 71 , living alone. I love helping people. I love the LORD and HE is always with us. Love and prayers , Sis.

    • @diannehorne2324
      @diannehorne2324 2 дня назад

      Praying for you, dear friend🙏. God is so good and He will NEVER leave us or forsake us. ❤

  • @GigiWillBeRaptured
    @GigiWillBeRaptured 4 дня назад +25

    My husband just died at the end of this past August. I couldn't think very well for a couple of months or more. Just remember the Lord is with you. He will give you strength through all of this. And don't worry about anything or about yourself or about who you are it'll all come back .. God is so gracious to us and merciful

    • @theugandanvillagewife6647
      @theugandanvillagewife6647 10 часов назад

      💯 it is by God's grace that my daughter and i have kept going since my dear husband flew to heaven!

  • @newlexness
    @newlexness 5 дней назад +39

    You totally can be a RUclips star! You are keeping it real, dealing with life as it is coming at you. This is the new chapter, wishing you peace and strength on your path.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  5 дней назад

      Thank you for the kind words! Star or not this has been so good for me to know others are thinking of me.

    • @AbbyKuusisto-cl7lr
      @AbbyKuusisto-cl7lr 5 дней назад

      ​@@trishaleetAmen!!!!

  • @monnie651
    @monnie651 6 дней назад +52

    I’ve never been married. I never found someone. Your grief must be unimaginable, but you are so blessed to have had that love. He is still with you and always will be.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  5 дней назад +5

      Thank you and I truly was blessed and am blessed still.

    • @valeriekehrt7566
      @valeriekehrt7566 2 дня назад

      ❤🫂

    • @patriciasmiderle9181
      @patriciasmiderle9181 День назад

      I never had a long love like you. You've been so blessed. I'm sorry for your loss. Those of us that have always been alone realize how very blessed you have been. Time is the healing for you, only time. You'll be ok dear. ❤️

  • @JudiH-ig6uu
    @JudiH-ig6uu 6 дней назад +55

    Hello! My darling husband of almost 55 years passed in June. I know exactly how you are feeling. Sending you hugs, thoughts and prayers!

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  6 дней назад +2

      Sorry for your loss and I'm sure you do know that loss of your other half. Thanks for the prayers and prayers sent for you.

  • @MarciaKeichel
    @MarciaKeichel 6 дней назад +48

    I am an 81 year old widow…my husband of 52 years died 7 years ago, 2 days before Thanksgiving. You will heal…have faith in God…he will get you through this. My prayers are with you. Have met a wonderful man on a dating site and am now happy again. You will succeed.

  • @kimmillay4725
    @kimmillay4725 5 дней назад +24

    Your story sounds so familiar to mine. My husband passed away 4 years ago and yes the loneliness is real. The Lord is my strength and He has guided me. He is always there for me. Grief is not easy so dont be hard on yourself, give yourself time during this process. God bless you and pray God surrounds you with His love and peace.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  5 дней назад +1

      Thanks for sharing your loss. God is first in my life and He will get me to where I need to be.

  • @wandakoehorst8734
    @wandakoehorst8734 3 дня назад +11

    You're describing exactly how it feels. Losing yourself, trying to find yourself back. How it feels to lose a big part of yourself. My husband died just before Xmas 2023 after 50yr marriage. It really sucks this new life, unreal, still not used to it.
    May it comfort you that we all know and feel how you feel.

  • @jamtin127
    @jamtin127 9 дней назад +43

    Your video just appeared out of the blue on my feed.
    Dear new friend:
    Its been only two weeks. There's no rush to be anything or anyone - take each day as it comes and you'll find yourself.
    The best advice I ever received from my old Mum was that the year of firsts (the first year after you lose someone special ) is not just the hardest but one of the most important.
    Make conscious choices about whether you spend first Thanksgiving, first Christmas, first Easter and birthdays and other personal celebrations on your own, or out and about, or with special others. Each time will be different - and you may choose to spend each one differently.
    Many blessings to you.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  8 дней назад +5

      Thank you and thank you for sharing your old Mum's advice.

    • @sallyjorace7703
      @sallyjorace7703 2 дня назад

      @@jamtin127 each and every first is incredibly painful. There's no time limit to grief.

  • @puglove876
    @puglove876 2 дня назад +10

    Often single young people are left alone to celebrate holidays or birthdays because everybody is doing their own thing.
    We need to remember our single friends and family members.

  • @buckeye7192
    @buckeye7192 4 дня назад +13

    Three years ago I lost my husband after 47 years of marriage. I miss him so very much. Grief does not end but takes a different shape. I still have a hard time being responsible for everything and all the decisions. I miss his companionship terribly. My life is totally changed, and I still am working on what the rest of my life will look like, but just is not easy. He should still be here, and I hated that the WE had to become ME. Best wishes for your journey and maybe I will pick up some new ideas on this life passage. Blessings to you..

    • @JESUSisLORDBibleStudy-channel
      @JESUSisLORDBibleStudy-channel 3 дня назад

      Reading the bible daily really helps in figuring out why we are still here when our dear loved ones have reached home in heaven.. THE LORD wants us still here, there are some tasks assigned to us which will be completed only by us with HIS help. So hang in there Sister, LORD JESUS's got your husband and you❤

  • @shelbyindianajones3226
    @shelbyindianajones3226 4 дня назад +12

    A lady I met at church for our Thanksgiving turkey dinner give away lost her hubby a few months ago and she is now just starting to be able to breathe again.. she went back to church and did this event where we took a dinner to a family in need and is ready to take some steps forward.. have faith because even though it is painful you will be able to start moving again.. don't rush it, the emotions need to be felt. May Jesus bless you every day and remove your pain with His love. You will be fine kind and sweet lady!

  • @rollingstone6699
    @rollingstone6699 9 дней назад +18

    Grief is so universal but so personal, we can all relate and understand those engulfing moments and how it compounds, how we enter into a new normal. And that's just the surface. God Bless sweetheart XXXX

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  8 дней назад +1

      Thank you for those beautiful words and God Bless you too.

    • @rollingstone6699
      @rollingstone6699 2 дня назад

      @@trishaleet ♥

  • @connieschwarz6023
    @connieschwarz6023 5 дней назад +14

    What you’re feeling is normal! It’s the grieving process! It’s a nightmare. You have to survive! KEEP FILMING! You’re in for a wild ride my friend 🙏🙏🙏❤️

  • @karenjones7267
    @karenjones7267 5 дней назад +18

    Oh sweetie, I’m crying with you, your pain is real. One step at a time. Don’t push yourself xxx

  • @marlenek3412
    @marlenek3412 6 дней назад +27

    Heavenly Father, I lift my sister and her family up to you,, may your presence fill them with comfort, and joy, and bring peace to their souls that passes all understanding. May you strengthen them and fill them with hope and faith that you will carry them through this most difficult time in their lives. I pray they will feel your goodness every day and to know that you are right there with them, that you are close to the broken hearted. Bless them and keep them in your perfect care in Jesus's name.

  • @WendyMott-v7x
    @WendyMott-v7x 3 дня назад +4

    You cry sweetheart, it does the soul good. I lost my husband a week before Thanksgiving 9 yrs ago and I still grieve for my husband . All your feelings is normal . I started drinking , that lasted for about 5 yrs and I stopped . Then the depression started , that lasted a few yrs . I’m ok now grief is a very hard thing to go through. Now it’s constant prayers. It gets me through the day.

  • @RobbinLynn23
    @RobbinLynn23 4 дня назад +8

    I'm so Sorry for Your Husband passing. I know how lonely you must feel. I also lost my Husband 3 years ago and I miss him a great deal.
    My thoughts and Prayers go Up for You. I do Appreciate You 🙏 .
    Thank You for Sharing.
    Sincerely, Robbin. ❤

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  4 дня назад

      Thank you for your thoughtful words

  • @ffc303
    @ffc303 4 дня назад +16

    Darlin, I have fear of losing my 72yr old husband & going thru your situation. Keep talking, we're listening! We need you!🤗

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  4 дня назад

      Thank you and I hope it helps someone else and we can make this change together.

    • @joelg6172
      @joelg6172 2 дня назад +1

      Who you are? A child of the most high God. Losing a love one is unimaginable. Please know you will be reunited with your husband one day. I will pray for you. Please lean on your children.

  • @maxinemcivor4974
    @maxinemcivor4974 6 дней назад +17

    I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband died 9 years ago. I'm still grieving. It's very early days for you put no pressure on yourself to do anything. I spent a lot of time in bed asleep for the first couple of years. I functioned, went to work etc but a lot of time alone in bed asleep. Be kind to yourself 🎉

    • @cjhoward409
      @cjhoward409 6 дней назад +5

      I lost a son , 28 years ago. It’s still hard. I think of him often. The stinging is gone but the hurt is still there. It will always be there. But I have other kids and now grand kids and my husband and friends and life is for the living. Life goes on until we are no longer here.

  • @debbieolivarez3322
    @debbieolivarez3322 3 дня назад +5

    I'm so sorry for your loss of your beautiful husband!! You are in my prayers ❣️

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  3 дня назад

      Thank you, I appreciate it.

  • @kateg7298
    @kateg7298 5 дней назад +9

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that your memories of happy times with your husband bring you comfort. You're in my prayers tonight.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  4 дня назад

      I am trying to remember the happy times and I am so grateful to have had the time I did with him

  • @48661
    @48661 5 дней назад +9

    Lost my wife of 36 yrs 9 weeks ago today. I’m still working thru it myself. Thoughts and prayers to you. I cared for her the last 15 yrs 24/7 so I have a lot of free time now.

    • @kateg7298
      @kateg7298 5 дней назад +1

      I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what it's like to care for someone and you don't know where to put yourself after the loss. I'm praying that you have comfort and peace tonight.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  5 дней назад

      I have a couple friends that have been taking care of their wifes. Its hard on them for sure and I know you are still working through the loss of your wife. Prayers sent

    • @romibo6252
      @romibo6252 4 дня назад

      You're a wonderful seamstress..... busy, artistic work

  • @Super1Mary
    @Super1Mary 11 дней назад +87

    You're not an idiot, you are going through grief and stress. My heart is with you my friend, my sister went through this two years ago. You need to talk to her, come to the next luncheon. Go on the cruise, I had those fears too, but I went on one and loved it. Join things, we'd love to have you join us at cardio drumming in Obetz community center, it's a lot of fun. You have to go on the path of grief by yourself, but you do have friends close by to talk to. This is Mary from the high school luncheon, I was there with my sister, Theresa (who lost her husband) there are also grief groups on facebook and some churches that help you to sort out your feelings. Getting out of the house and doing things really helped my sister to cope with it.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  9 дней назад +21

      I have the next meetup on my calendar. I would love to do the Drumming with you guys. My husband got real sick after we met and I know that God was showing me things I could do. God works on me daily and He is never going to leave me. Thanks for writing to me.

    • @tammyr3255
      @tammyr3255 6 дней назад +14

      My beloved husband of38 years just passed from horrible cancer . He was57n we cried for him on first thanksgiving ❤we r lost without him. I'm alone I live way upstate NY in mountains.i feel your pain ..our hospice offers a bereavement group..I'm going try it .but we've had too much snow n.i feel your pain n lonely I'm so sorry for your loss ..I have two pugs❤i. Keep busy crocheting. I have. Few friends but nobody close here in these mountains...we will always try to say to ourselves WHO AM I'..I'm lost soul too .I pray 🙏 for you. I'm 60n. Hurting with broken 💔 I pray for you.just take one day at a time. Your a amazing woman..

    • @terryrussell9590
      @terryrussell9590 6 дней назад

      ​@@tammyr3255lost my husband on the 13 th and my sister on the 19th.Im so lost without him.He was on hospice but they thought he might go back on palliative care in Dec.So didn't expect him to pass away I just want the holidays over

    • @bakokat6982
      @bakokat6982 6 дней назад +6

      I wish I could tell you how to get through this terribly lonely existence. I lost my husband to Parkinson’s disease in June. I’m trying to figure out how to live alone after 57 years with my husband. I have never lived alone, I was nineteen, he was 27…. So I know how you feel. I pray we figure this new life alone.

    • @SueRawlinson-f3x
      @SueRawlinson-f3x 5 дней назад +7

      It’s just early days , your doing so well, you are missing your husband, that’s to be expected, you spent a whole life together, it’s a slow road without a road map, glad you reached out to you tube, im a single parent, my children are grown up and flew the roost years ago, it’s just me, You will find a path that your comfortable on, I’m sure, give yourself Grace, pay someone to come take care of your back garden, it’s so beautiful, your in my prayers and thoughts, best wishes, Sue xx

  • @darleneswoboda6065
    @darleneswoboda6065 4 дня назад +4

    Yrs for me. Grieving is so hard especially at the holidays....HUGS TO YOU

  • @steppininit8559
    @steppininit8559 3 дня назад +6

    So sorry for your loss. Maybe this is your ministry to help other grieving people that have lost their spouses.

  • @donnam4260
    @donnam4260 4 дня назад +5

    I was 39 with 2 little boys , when my 41 yr old husband died in an airplane crash . We had been together since I was 15 yrs old !!!
    There are 1000’s of us who have been thru what u r going experiencing now

  • @marylampman3481
    @marylampman3481 4 дня назад +5

    I feel your loneliness totally. I lost my sweet husband four and a half years ago, were married for 44 years. Loneliness is unbearable. I spent the first Thanksgiving and Christmas by myself at home. I am one of seven siblings and they all have passed except me. That leaves me very lonely. I have friends but know they have families of their own. I went through grief classes but still a part if me is missing and always will.

  • @mamawfrancy
    @mamawfrancy 3 дня назад +2

    My husband & I are 77 yrs old & have been married 55+ yrs & we've talked about how one of us has to pass first & pray the one left can continue and do ok. They've been unimaginable sad conversations but we know our biggest fear will happen. Being left alone will be the biggest challenge that either of us has ever face. If I'm the one left I haven't a clue how I will be able to continue on. Sending you my heartfelt prayers for healing & happiness. May God Be With You.

  • @FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts
    @FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts 6 дней назад +22

    It took me two years just to change my lights in the kitchen. My son-in-law had come over and put new lights in actually three of them and then I started little by slowly doing things. I was with my husband since we were 15. I am now 74. It’ll be 10 years that he has passed on December 6th. Give yourself some grace. I cannot do sugar either I get sick when I eat it But God, he can do anything.❤❤

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  6 дней назад +3

      Thank you and God Bless you. Yes God can do anything and I can see how he was leading me to do things even before He led my husband home.

  • @Vickyplaits
    @Vickyplaits 3 дня назад +5

    You are a brave woman. Thank you for sharing, this will help many people to not feel they are the only ones grieving.❤

  • @cr3062
    @cr3062 4 дня назад +3

    So sorry for your loss. But he's not gone..he just changed location. You are not alone..God is with you. Give yourself some time to adjust. Its gonna be alright. Luv and prayers to you..xxoo

  • @AuroraB604
    @AuroraB604 День назад +1

    You are such a sweet lady! So very sorry for your tragic loss 😢 Prayers for your healing 🙏🏻❤️

  • @johnhamilton1098
    @johnhamilton1098 4 дня назад +4

    What a sweet lady you are. I'm so sorry for your loss. I am praying for peace and comfort for you as you navigate through your changed life. GOD is always with you, and loves you. I wish for you inner comfort that only HE can provide!

  • @BaileyArf
    @BaileyArf 5 дней назад +6

    I lost my husband after 37 years and I remember the sweet mail lady standing in the driveway giving me a big hug. God bless you 🙏

  • @enaid54
    @enaid54 4 дня назад +4

    So sorry for the loss of the love of your life. It's terrible to lose someone that you love. I pray you find peace.

  • @lynnwillis4332
    @lynnwillis4332 5 дней назад +19

    My heart reaches out to you. My husband did not die but abandoned me last year. It's incapacitating. I started a new life in my RV and traveled and I am still doing it. I have met so many wonderful people and have a new man in my life. Life's not over till we're 6 feet under. Prayers for you my sweet lady.

    • @sbug2705
      @sbug2705 2 дня назад +1

      Being abandoned is a form of death.
      So sorry that happened to you.
      May you only know happiness in your life going forward.
      Xx

  • @gingersnapjudy
    @gingersnapjudy 6 дней назад +8

    I am so very sorry for your devastating loss.

  • @christong9868
    @christong9868 3 дня назад +2

    I’m so sorry for you. Take time for grieving. I’ve lost my darling 5 years ago n I’m still crying 😢. It takes lots of adjusting. Sending you a big hug. Xx

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  3 дня назад

      Thanks for the hug and I'm sending one back!

  • @lynnecarnaby6083
    @lynnecarnaby6083 5 дней назад +17

    My heart goes out to u .31 yrs since my husband passed ,its been a long lonely time . But making him proud how i have coped has been my aim ..never even had a cup of coffee with another man ,my soul mate ,i am still his wife .always will be .god bless you xx

  • @MrKathy09
    @MrKathy09 4 дня назад +3

    You had the us and ours, I wish I could have that, be glad you did for all those years, sounds like true love. You sound strong, you will be strong and pull through, give it time.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  4 дня назад +1

      Thank you and I was truly blessed.

  • @catslafadventures5001
    @catslafadventures5001 7 дней назад +7

    Keep posting. It can help you but, also can really help so many others.

    • @ItsMeYaMama
      @ItsMeYaMama 7 дней назад

      Yes, I thought the same thing. Us older ladies need to know we’re not alone. 🙏🏼♥️

  • @Nebr_Sandhiller
    @Nebr_Sandhiller 4 дня назад +2

    Deeply sorry for your loss. Not sure why it popped up in my feed but so glad I watched. My husband passed two years ago. So much to learn to navigate through life from who we are but how to do it. I too like traveling and have a camper. Subscribed to follow you on your journey and maybe we will meet someday on the road. Hugs!

  • @shelleycharlesworth5177
    @shelleycharlesworth5177 8 дней назад +21

    Oh gosh the loneliness is soul crushing.
    So sorry for all of us old ladies who had good marriages and are now widows. …I lost my husband 10 years ago…..and since losing my beloved husband, nothing is as much fun or interesting to me and holidays are the worst. I STILL have days when I cry and cry and feel miserable and sorry for myself but then tears are healing….and after crying on and off I feel better and press on.
    I remember feeling so lost and heartbroken…..I didn’t know I could be in so much emotional pain and still be alive.
    I look back now and wonder how I managed to survive. Grief never ends..we will always miss our beloveds terribly.
    The intense shock and depression lessen however the pain never goes away. But we learn to carry it.
    I have also lost 5 dear friends since I lost my husband. Hubby and I never had children. I went to grief groups and had private therapy.
    I took dance classes, volunteered. I stay active and am physically fit. I love my dog. I read and write. BUT
    Nothing is as much fun and I detest holidays. Sending hugs ! You will feel better eventually. let yourself cry...go to grief groups..make sure to exercise-
    eat healthy foods..try to get enough sleep......xoxo

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  8 дней назад +1

      Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I too feel lost but your words give me hope. I have been dancing each night as I need to keep moving or I will not get up.

    • @shelleycharlesworth5177
      @shelleycharlesworth5177 7 дней назад +1

      @@trishaleet that is good keep dancing--and you are welcome...
      You will eventually be ok. Right now you are still in shock. I was in shock for the first 6 months. Humans are wired to survive losses but it takes work and time.
      We - the grief stricken - are literally like patients in an invisible hospital, and our culture does very little to help us. I come up against the obstacles resulting from my widowhood every day, some large and tangible, some small and mostly mental/emotional, but all very present, even after 10 long years. Sorry if I sound whiny, but it still kind of amazes me. I’m just grateful that I’ve been able to get the help I need to keep the balls in the air! I hope I’ve gotten stronger. Some days I’m not so sure.
      Yes-it’s been 10 years since my husband of 40 years died. I still - at times - find myself stunned.
      At the same time, I'm okay. Most days I think of him with
      great love and gratitude. Yes, there is still sorrow, but it is no longer the predominant emotion in my body.
      I wouldn't have believed this would be possible for the first 2 years after he died.
      I remember feeling that no one else in the world had ever felt as awful as I did. I remember the yearning.
      Now, I think about all the kindnesses great and small I've been lucky enough to have received. Reading about grief and going
      to bereavement /support groups helped. I remember how sometimes just one breath is all you need to do,
      and then the next breath. And then the next. Even though you are breathing in hell !!!!
      [ "When you are going through hell..keep going" ].
      Bereavement groups helped me see everyone suffers when they lose a beloved person. And losses will come to ALL of us.
      I was hearing a podcast yesterday and the therapist said every person grieves differently but the one thing all grief stricken
      people need is someone to witness their pain. I was fortunate to have a cousin and 2 friends who listened to me. In grief group our therapist said “don’t waste your pain-use it to transform”. I hope you have at least one person who will listen to you.
      "Grief and love are sisters, woven together from the beginning. Their kinship reminds us that there is no love that does not contain loss and no loss that is not a reminder of the love we carry for what we once held close."
      - from " the wild edge of sorrow" by Francis Weller

  • @Abc-1973
    @Abc-1973 6 дней назад +4

    You showed up in my feed. First of all I’m so sorry for your loss. Right now don’t worry about crying, you are grieving. Hospice offers Counceling if you would be interested.
    You are a beautiful lady. I can feel your heart.
    I sew too. Keeps me busy.
    I’m subscribing now!!!!

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  5 дней назад +1

      Thank you so much for the kind words and the subscription!

  • @moirakris
    @moirakris 4 дня назад +4

    oh sweet lady, I am so sorry for your loss.

  • @janefox3188
    @janefox3188 6 дней назад +8

    I just found you today. Keep making videos. I look forward to listening and sharing your feelings. You have a wonderful smile and laugh. Tears are healing. I am 70 and have been single most of my life. I love my time alone but it came with time. Take care, keep busy and keep making plans.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  5 дней назад

      Thank you and I have always enjoyed alone time, just always had someone to share everyday stuff with. I will adjust in time and I think this channel is a great place for me to share my thoughts. Perhaps this is what I needed to do for a time.

  • @sl.3287
    @sl.3287 8 дней назад +11

    I'm so sorry. I lost my husband 4 months ago after a three year battle with cancer. Thank goodness my adult son lives with me. I try to just remember the happy times. Lately I've been dreaming about him as if he never left.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  8 дней назад +1

      My husband had just found out he had cancer and within 2 months he couldn't push any further. I'm glad he didn't know about it years ago as we might not have had the good times we did. I'm sorry for your loss and prayers for you.

  • @debrahowsden1217
    @debrahowsden1217 2 дня назад +2

    This vlog crossed my path in the middle of the night when I couldn't sleep. Ma'am please, please join a grief group. It would help you so much. Grief is a process that can take awhile. After such a loss, that grief must be processed. Order a book called 'Tear Soup.' Anyway, a grief group helps in so many ways. You'll be in my prayers. Love, your sister in Christ

  • @erinb2887
    @erinb2887 6 дней назад +9

    You're so precious.💞 Genuinely transparent & lovely. Thank you for sharing your soul.🌈

  • @privatesuzie4071
    @privatesuzie4071 6 дней назад +10

    You poor sweet dear. I lost my husband many years ago. What I learned was find other widows to share with, even grief group therapy, find good listeners, very comforting, sometimes so was being alone and not answering the phone and the door, …my mom and siblings, stepchildren did take turns and come stay to start to clean out things I knew I did not want…I indulged in couple good bottles wine, junk food, delivery dinner service, ….it gets a bit more lonesome when you realize how long it takes to get more comfortable, anniversaries and holidays are hard ….it is important to do this ‘rambling’ to get to empty your heart of tears…when you feel like a meet up, that can be in your future…go to florida, I managed a trip across country on my own and was shocked how good it was for me after only a few months….anyway, DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU THERE IS A RIGHT WAY TO DO THIS…it is ok to not know where you are going…take care

  • @donnadesmoulin1146
    @donnadesmoulin1146 7 дней назад +8

    I’m the same age as you and totally feel for you, I know how hard it is. I can’t believe how brave you are to share. Hang in there. Sending you love.💕

  • @nancymcfarland5421
    @nancymcfarland5421 4 дня назад +2

    You're doing great! Please be patient with yourself. The grieving provess can take 12 to 18 mos. The things you're feeling are normal. I think your youtube channel is a great idea. It gives gou support. Love and prayers❤🙏🏻❤

  • @thecharlesft.laud.garden
    @thecharlesft.laud.garden 4 дня назад +5

    My condolences to you. It’s ok. You’re still grieving.

  • @virginiasummer2619
    @virginiasummer2619 6 дней назад +2

    Grief is exhausting- give yourself time and grace. My husband died suddenly too and I also felt like part of me died too. I’m in the fourth year now and it does get easier- not better- but a lot more bearable. I kept a journal and got some counseling too. I needed the help to figure it all out. You will be okay even though it doesn’t feel like it right now.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  6 дней назад

      Thank you. When its quiet its hard for sure.

  • @gloworm1822
    @gloworm1822 6 дней назад +4

    Grief is so hard. You need time to heal
    Life will never be the same. I'm so sorry for your loss. 💔

  • @LenaBeckwith
    @LenaBeckwith 4 дня назад +3

    I'm so sorry for your loss.. You're in our prayers and prayers God will bless you and bring you through it .

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  4 дня назад

      Thank you for the prayers.

  • @NanaOf26
    @NanaOf26 5 дней назад +9

    My beloved husband of 64 years died November 21 after many months of illness. My children, grandchildren and I celebrated Thanksgiving by enjoying his favorite foods which were roast chicken and all the trimmings including pumpkin and pecan pie. After his burial, we went back home where all were welcome to any of his library books that I no longer wanted or needed. They also finished an autumn themed puzzle that he was working on that I will frame and display.
    He was the best husband, father, grand and great grand father that anyone could wish for. He will be greatly missed. Like you, I am now responsible for all that he did, from finances to taking out the trash.
    I came upon your channel today which has given me much solace. I also am cleaning out closets and drawers, anything to keep busy. My sincerest condolences to you, and I have subscribed.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  5 дней назад +2

      I feel you really do understand how hard this is. I was going to make my husbands favorite too, but decided not to cook at all.

  • @AK-pq4zz
    @AK-pq4zz 4 дня назад +1

    There really are no words other than I'm truly sorry for your loss. This is going to be a new journey into finding yourself. Healing takes time and you will always love and miss him. Things do get easier in time but we never forget and we never stop loving. You are so brave to be reaching out and being so real with us as well as yourself. You are not alone. ❤

  • @mikelessard7492
    @mikelessard7492 4 дня назад +4

    It's always the toughest for people who put their whole self into their family to then re-find oneself...I commend u for being such a gr8 wife...family is everything

  • @amandabartell1502
    @amandabartell1502 6 дней назад +6

    So sorry for your loss. I went on a grief workshop and the lady explained that your brain thinks that the other person will always be there, it's the easiest way to operate so to speak. So when they pass you are constantly being shocked that they are not there any more. Sorry l haven't explained it the best but it totally made sense to me. Sending a virtual hug x

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  6 дней назад

      I think I understand what you mean and that makes sense. Virtual hug right back at you!

  • @Wayman_Simmang
    @Wayman_Simmang 5 дней назад +3

    My Heart goes out to you! My prayers coming your way. Sorry for your loss!! Hang in there!!

  • @jennlphilips-schoknecht1333
    @jennlphilips-schoknecht1333 4 дня назад +2

    You're helping others with your channel. The holidays are hard for me as my 40 y/o son is in stage 4 cancer. I've lost so many young ones between Oct to Dec in the past 10 years. The hardest is yet to come for me. Please keep on keeping on helping others while helping yourself.

  • @Laura-c3l5n
    @Laura-c3l5n 5 дней назад +4

    I am so sorry for your loss. I understand the pain of grief, lost my lovely husband of 41 years, 4 years ago now, and will never get over it , so have just learnt to live with it.

  • @BarbaraandChuckCropper
    @BarbaraandChuckCropper 5 дней назад +3

    I lost my husband 2 years ago, we been together for 60 yrs. Prayers for you

  • @MsVillo84
    @MsVillo84 4 дня назад +3

    I am so sorry for your loss, my dear. Life can be so challenging. 😢 Sending you hugs across the ocean! ❤

  • @paulacheek6793
    @paulacheek6793 9 дней назад +5

    Im so sorry for your loss. You are not an idiot, you're venting about the loss of your husband and it's only been 2 weeks.
    Oh, my heart hurts for you hun.
    You are grieving the loss. Allow yourself some time for mourning. Please know you are not alone. I think we all have our own way of grieving and processing our feelings. I think reaching out is a great way to help you cope and get through the hard days.
    God bless your heart. 🙏

  • @AnnaKoosed
    @AnnaKoosed 6 дней назад +9

    You met when so young never lived on your own. Never learned to do that and now you must. My heart goes out to you, there are many here who are in the same position. One day at a time is the only way. You have love to give now that your kids no longer need and your husband is not there to soak up. Maybe some volunteer work would help. So much suffering in the world, so many people need kindness.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  5 дней назад +1

      This world is hard and I never want to be someone that makes it harder for another person. So yes I do enjoy helping others.

  • @debbieb1320
    @debbieb1320 4 дня назад +2

    I’m so sad for your loss. Crying is healing. Wishing you peace! ✌🏼💕

  • @kevinscott832
    @kevinscott832 4 дня назад +3

    I am so sorry and totally understand. I lost my wife of 37 years a few weeks ago and don’t know what to do with myself. I am planning on carrying out our plans we had and cleaning out the house like you mentioned. God Bless you.

    • @JESUSisLORDBibleStudy-channel
      @JESUSisLORDBibleStudy-channel 3 дня назад

      Reading the bible daily really helps in figuring out why we are still here when our dear loved ones have reached home in heaven.. THE LORD wants us still here, there are some tasks assigned to us which will be completed only by us with HIS help. So hang in there Brother, LORD JESUS's got your wife and you❤

  • @Hibernia2324
    @Hibernia2324 4 дня назад +2

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Those words sound so cliché but they come from the heart. We're here for you.❤

  • @davida1676
    @davida1676 6 дней назад +5

    Bless your soul. My heart goes out to you. You will find a new way forward but still with your husband in your heart

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  6 дней назад

      Thank you and I'm sure my husband will always be very close to my heart. Not the same as him being here, but he is always near.

  • @brianbutler4969
    @brianbutler4969 4 дня назад +2

    Honest prayers for you. Sorry for your loss. Much love from human to human.

  • @Sunny-rh1yp
    @Sunny-rh1yp 8 дней назад +6

    I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers going you way.
    The last of my family died a year ago. I have my husband and grown children and the grands. I feel lost. Don't know who I am any more. Been on my minimalist lifestyle and add the Swedish death cleaning a year ago. If you live near me your welcome to join my husband and I for Christmas.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  8 дней назад

      Thanks and I started the swedish death cleaning a couple years ago but haven't gotten it all where I want it to be. I never touched my husbands stuff and now its too hard to do. I have always done Christmas eve at our house and the grands all come over. They are asking about this year and I'm just not sure as over 50 years of spending christmas with my man is gonna be hard this year. tomorrow is 7 yrs since my dad passed and last week was 8 yrs since my mom passed. This Christmas will be 9 yrs since my brother passed so nov and dec are not good months for me.

  • @jo-annehussey4846
    @jo-annehussey4846 2 дня назад +1

    I don’t know why you came on my page tonight but watched you and thought what a lovely lady. I be married 40 years I couldn’t imagine what your going through and I would be wrong to comment on how for you to feel better. What I will say is my hand is in your hand giving you the strength you need to get up each day. Im 61 and live in Australia but I’m here for you . Take each day at a time and we all be with you through your journey. Your not alone we are all here just reach out. Xxxx

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  День назад

      Thank you, you are so kind.

  • @moe9265
    @moe9265 3 дня назад +6

    Vlog your accomplishment! Getting your oil changed, cleaning the basement, using a power tool for the first time. Girl…. You have a platform to teach and inspire. So sorry for your loss.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  3 дня назад +2

      I plan on taking you all with me, but me and power tools go way back lol So I do plan on repairing my chicken coop and finishing the inside of my she shed.

  • @tracyhuff1
    @tracyhuff1 4 дня назад +3

    Oh you lovely lady. Don't apologise for grief. You need time to heal. ❤

  • @SummerSpring-ee8sf
    @SummerSpring-ee8sf 4 дня назад +4

    Sweet Lady, this is your new normal. It will take time for you to embrace this place. You are doing very well for someone who just lost the live of her life. Trust God, he will see your through every second of every day.
    Love, blessings and prayers. This too shall pass but it takes time. Don't apologize and keep the video coming.

  • @jennlphilips-schoknecht1333
    @jennlphilips-schoknecht1333 4 дня назад +1

    I would love to attend one of Lulu's Way meet-ups. Don't let fear stop you from your dreams🎉 You can always find someone to go on the road trip with you.

  • @countitalljoy2023
    @countitalljoy2023 4 дня назад +4

    I’m so very sorry for your loss! That’s a lifetime of love. Praying for peace and comfort for you as you go through the grief ❤

  • @TIFandTAP
    @TIFandTAP 3 дня назад +1

    Talk to Wendell. Talk out loud. Turn on your TV or radio on to dispel the quiet. When I travel I am never out after dark. When my hubby passed I downsized to one vehicle to simplify my life. Take it one day at a time.

  • @nigelrichardson7574
    @nigelrichardson7574 4 дня назад +4

    Sending all our love from the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 you will get through this god bless you

  • @genegould6357
    @genegould6357 3 дня назад +1

    I'm so sorry for your loss!! Be patient with yourself it's only been 2 weeks. It's a personal journey. This is yours.

  • @kbbels
    @kbbels 8 дней назад +4

    My heart hurts for you. I wish my words could take away your pain or bring comfort. You may not think people want to watch a video like this, but we NEED to see real life and the emotions/grief we all experience at some point in life.
    Your video is a reminder of how life can change for us and we need to appreciate each day we have with our loved ones.
    Your video randomly showed up in my feed. New subscriber. Saying a prayer for you.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  8 дней назад +1

      Thank you so much and thanks for the words that make me feel like I can continue to do videos that are just random feelings we all go through. Thanks for subscribing and thanks for the prayers.

  • @AllthingsAngie88
    @AllthingsAngie88 34 минуты назад +1

    Hear from pretirement days and more. 🙏may god keep you threw this hard time ❤

  • @JoannePelletier-w3p
    @JoannePelletier-w3p 7 дней назад +6

    Dont be sorry! You are going to be ok. Take one hour at a time. ❤

  • @CharlotteRothmeier
    @CharlotteRothmeier 4 дня назад +2

    You have such a lovely energy, and voice. I instantly feel connected to you, you must be a special soul. I would be hounored to follow and see you find your new self. 💚 I am so sorry for your huge loss. Greetings from Denmark.

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  4 дня назад

      Thank you and I hope that this channel continues to be a source of encouragement to get me out and about. My fear is I will just stay on my couch, but now have a reason to do stuff.

  • @southernsummerrain9159
    @southernsummerrain9159 9 дней назад +4

    Warm hugs and prayers for you. Sorrow from loss can seem impossible to handle sometimes but you can do it. One step at a time. Please know that people you will never meet are praying for you and here to encourage you. Hugs from Mississippi

    • @trishaleet
      @trishaleet  8 дней назад

      Thank you and thanks for the prayers!!

  • @ahw331
    @ahw331 4 дня назад +2

    “Who wants to watch an old lady cry” brought tears to my eyes because there but for the grace of God go I. Many of us may eventually walk in your shoe one day and be able to understand your sense of loss and pain. I can only pray that God grants me many more years with my husband because I’m not anxious to experience that pain. I pray that you find the strength to get through this difficult period and be able to cope.