What do you do when you win $1 million?
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- Опубликовано: 6 янв 2019
- Ever wake up with a heavy feeling of dread?? You may be suffering from people-pleasing-itis! This is my story -- I hope it helps you in some way
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Parvati you’re still my favorite female Survivor winner of all time! 😍 & I’m still salty that you didn’t win Heroes v Villains 😤 #bitterjurors aka haters! 😒
I agree parvati is still my real favorite survivor
Its crazy to think that you posted this over two years ago but this advice is really ringing true to some things in my life at this present moment. Thank you for opening up and allowing us to be part of your journey as well.
Yeah no shit
@@StiglerPanther So the thing you said: Was it true, was it kind, was it necessary, was it useful?
Parvati, the winner of Fans Vs Favorites & Heros Vs Villains
I really needed to hear this! Thanks parv! Do more of these
That took a lot of vulnerability and honesty - thank you for sharing! I'm looking forward to the following videos.
I've been binge watching your survivor seaaons and clips and ranking and everything about you. You are and will always be the Queen of Survivor.
I was going through a tough time when this pandemic started and this self-isolation thing gave me time to re-evaluate myself and my life. Your videos are a big help.
I've been binge-watching past seasons of Survivor and I thought you did great in every season you're in. I became a fan. (Yes, you deserved to win the title in Heroes vs. Villains!). Winners at War made me google you and thank God I did. I am learning a lot from you, even in your recent interviews! Thank you for sharing! I wish you success in everything you choose to do.
Definitely great advice to follow. Love watching your videos!
Fantastic advice Parv. Needed to hear it.
You’re a light. I see you in myself.
Love listening to you.
Wow I really needed to hear this. I have been pouring my blood sweat in tears into a business for the last 3 years, my story is even worse because it has not even got off the ground (marijuana businesses are like that sometimes). It was no longer serving me and I quit and I was beating myself up because I was not sure if I made the right decision. I realized the only reason I was staying involved was because I did not want people to see me as a failure, when in reality, getting out of this is going to open up my time and mind and money to pursue better things. You are amazing! I did not realize you were so smart
This perfectly described a current situation I'm in in life with trying to make choices to please others instead of myself. Thanks for the video and I can't wait for more! 😊
thank you so much for this video and the message. you are a great story teller and a source of inspiration. it's so true that we have to deconstruct what we know about happiness and success, and what we think it looks like, to really be able to find that in our lives, regardless of whatever we decide to do and no matter what people think. society paints a picture of what happiness or success looks like that -- it seriously takes our imagination as hostage, preventing us from truly soul searching in this world. it's brave to push against that grain and pursue what really makes us happy, even if it's not the image we see as desirable.
Wow. It’s the third time your vids really hit where it matters... thank you for sharing. I suffer a lot from social anxiety and sadly as a part of my job (academia) I give many presentations. I always feel like such an impostor. Like I’m not smart enough, I don’t know the material well enough, what if they asked me this..
Will they say I’m the worst teacher.. etc.. It’s tough. I used to not sleep before lecturing.. and no one would know. Anyway, thank you again for sharing. You’d be surprised- but we don’t just see you as a reality show winner. We liked what we saw cause you came across as special. Lots of love parv ❤️
I so hear you about making presentations. Working on being more focused on the process (what is important to convey) and letting go of the result (i.e. need for feedback, praise, etc) helped me to let go of a lot of nervousness around speaking. Keep up the great work!
I’m in love with these videos!
Same I am so glad I found her videos. She is so kind hearted
Freaking love hearing this kind of raw honesty.
I actually love your videos!!!! You are soooooooo inspirational. I constantly watch every season of survivor that you are in over and over again because I just love watching you! I love how honest and truthful you are and just really like watching your videos ❤️💞
Wow! What a great message. Thank you for sharing!
I hope make more videos like these (if you want). You're a great speaker.. you're so genuine and natural
I know this video was posted three years ago… but you have been and always will be my favorite survivor player. in my mind i think you’ll always be the best survivor player as well. you played a great game in every single season. you were still my favorite in WaW you never did anything wrong you just got screwed by the swap. you are very smart and i struggle with very similar things such as people pleasing, and anxiety. your videos have helped me so much even though they were uploaded so long ago. Thanks Parvati for helping me and being my favorite!
Absolutely loving this, and though I hadn’t phrased my ideas for what I wanna do this year in exactly the same way, there’s definitely aspects of moving away from people pleasing after feeling like I was trudging through mud in the second half of last year.
Thank you.
(Plus you’re just reaffirming your status as my favourite survivor player - not that you gotta please any of us fans!)
Hello! I love you so much parv and you have been so much of an inspiration in my life. Not only are you a great speaker but you are a great survivor! I am in love with these videos!♡
Thank you Megan :)
Love this! Thank you Parvati
Stumbled upon this video and had a real come to reality moment. Helped me out a lot!
I needed to hear this. Thank you. ❤
Looking forward to seeing you on the upcoming season of Survivor, Parvati!
Omg this was so inspirational. Thank you so much. I'm recovering from severe anxiety and depression and your videos definitely help me. Subscribed.
Hi Tracy. Thank you for sharing your journey here. I acknowledge you for showing up for yourself and your recovery. Sending you so much love.
+Parvati Shallow Thank you:):)
Just the advice I needed at this specific time in my life. Great video Parvati
You inspire me so much! Thank you for sharing what you are trully feeling. I am also in a similar situation and trying to get out of it somehow without disappointing others. I will keep watching your videos. Btw, I am also your #1 Fan from Canada!! in your Survivor season and also an inspiring candidate. Thank you!
You are the queen. I love your videos!💛💛
This helped me a lot Parvati I am used to being a person who does things to make people go wow that person is so smart or so brave and things like that but in reality I dont like doing that and I am starting to do more things that make me happy
People pleasing in regards to intelligence and bravery has been such a pervasive issue for me too, lol. Even in this comment, I can tell how I'm trying to please you, Parv and of course simply affirm things for myself. I guess an important step is to recognize the manipulative nature of it before relaxing into what there is to love about that effort (after all it does help us move into deeper parts of ourselves).
I loved your comment - doing things to make you happy can still overlap with all of that people pleasing in a way which is genuine, and I think you really hit on a major truth with how wise happiness is a guiding principle!! Thanks for helping me see that, RNEVO
I honor your honesty and self-reflection. Doing things that make you happy is a great place to begin! Thanks for sharing.
Parvati You are the ultimate and my favorite survivor player ever and thank you for being you luv it. beautiful as ever and you have a beautiful soul and that killer smile Is gold Godbless
Hi Parv! Omg I didn't know that you had a RUclips channel! I (obviously) subscribed to my FAVORITE female Survivor player *of all time!* I'm finally watching your first season (Cook Islands) and so far it's suuper good. ❤️
You're so amazing and your advices are really helpfull! Keep doing what you do
Parv, U r by far my fav survivor player of all time. I love ur vids😆
okay queen this actually really helped me :( ily
oh my gosh, I cannot believe that I didn't know you had a RUclips channel, i wish you still posted but you're my idol parv, 💖
I actually find the idea of you talking about your desire for truthfulness really intriguing. I'm sure it seems weird to be processing an experience that many on the outside would view as obviously positive -- but, hey, our minds are weird. I think situations that look sweet to others can often taste sour to the person involved because that person knows his/her own intentions better than anyone. Props for your honesty.
I experienced attention at like 1% of the scale that you did once, and some of the fallout from that still messes with me. But in the past couple years, my closest friends have helped me see that I can be a little bit deceptive (first to myself... then that translates to what I say/do to others), and pursuing honesty about what I want and what I think has led to so much growth in the last year. And WAY better relationships.
Anyway -- rock on, looking forward to hearing more.
Grady, thank you sharing! I hear you about the self-deception. That can be really tricky to catch without outside help. I so acknowledge you for your honest self-reflection :) That takes real courage.
i love you parv thank you for this
wow i needed this today. thanks!
This is very helpful. Thank you!!
Thanks Parvati! I love what you said here. It's like an expansion of the four agreements
Also, I'm definitely a recovering people pleaser.
You're amazing, Parvati!
I love theses videos Parv there helping me so much.
Hi!
your voice and presence are very calming and authentic. thank you for sharing your energy with us! as a queer person and trauma survivor, I feel like I'm very receptive to your wisdom and kind words. I hope you know you're an inspiration for many people like me, queen! 💛
Just warched this on 2021 and great advice parv😘😘😘
We need more people like you in the world Parvati 💕
Wow this is so real. THANK YOU.
Great to see you here, Sal!
Thank you Parv :)
You are adorable..intelligent, smart..always your fan since suvivle and love see you around..thanks for this video, I following your advice about sharing!! hugs and kisses,,
Thank you for sharing!
Hello Parvati.. I am subscribing.
I super get all your point.. And it's Tiring making people understand and look at us how we want them to..
Anyhow it's Tara and I'm part of Survivor Philippines Season 2009.
Done with pleasing.. And still we got stuck sometime..
This only means your being just kind❤️
this changed my perspective completely: i’m the vp of this student organization on campus and am putting so much time/energy into it every week. i know that my intentions are that of wanting to please my friends and impress my superiors. when you called that manipulative i was like damn...never thought of it that way
Great video!!
I love this! I know this is super nerdy but if you're not already into the Enneagram, I'd look into Enneagram type 3, which is the "achiever" type that is a chronic people pleaser and wants to look successful in the eyes of others. I think you would really appreciate reading about it (if you haven't already), because it sounds like you've been doing a ton of growth in that area. I think you'd find it super interesting!
Would love to see more vids from you.
What you been doing for the past few years?
I super got you❤️ lots of love Parvati from Ph❤️
I want to take you out for dinner ? I’m not kidding. I’m Italian and Irish ☘️... I just love your laugh 😂 .. It makes me smile and I never smile or laugh at anything normally.
BIG LOVE!!❤❤💗💗💗💞💞💞💓💓💓
I'd love to hear how your story continued.
sunfire65 I would like to hear it too
Thank you so much for sharing this experience. It sounds like a hard time, was it harder than Survivor?
Thank you
Hey Pavarti,
It's great to see you back on RUclips. I can appreciate and relate to this video so much and my question takes it a step further.
So, we find ourselves living in a place we hate, or working a job we hate. From this point we are already in a negative, anxiety ridden head space. What can we do to overcome the fear of failure and maintain wellness while we transition out of a bad situation?
Many thanks from Australia!
(P.S. If you haven't seen it, watch Australian Survivor season 2017 - it was incredible.)
Great question! I'm curious -- will the fear of failure go away if you take a bold leap and move toward your most fulfilled life? Mine sure hasn't. It's always there, but I know that if I don't take action I will suffer 10000 more than if I just TRY to do the thing that my heart is calling me to do. What small step can you take today that will lead you toward a more joyful life? Do that. And, be gentle and kind to yourself -- because you are doing something that requires a lot of courage and vulnerability when you take a leap of faith like that. Exercise, eat well, listen to good music, surround yourself with positive people... etc. Helpful?
Love, Parvati
@@ParvatiShallowOfficial Very helpful! Fear of failure in my case seems to amplify once I've taken that bold leap. I'm really not great at adapting to change. Job loss is one of the most stressful things in life so I find it incredibly hard to force that situation on myself in the hopes I'll find something better.
You mention knowing if you don't take action that you'll be far worse off. I think I need to take up your challenge and be truthful with myself. We can find a 1000 excuses not to do something, but if we stay on the path of truthfulness our true potential will be right there within reach. Thanks for your kind words!
Parvati which season was the most fun for you? I’d assume Micronesia?
Lovee youuuu parvvv
That’s smart! I always thought if I won survivor I’d either buy a house, invest in the stock market, or invest in a start up
I am jobseeking at the moment so this could not have come at the better time. There is a lot of those kind of thoughts sneaking in. How will this look to others; How will people perceive me if I take this job etc. Thank you Parvati!
Parvati is a legend
The truth will set you free.
youre awesome!
I hear ya! Are you going to be back with some more advice?
Big fan of u love from the philippines ❤️
She is so Beautiful
If you can be happy with what you do and help people, everybody wins
Parvati I know I’m saying this after Season 40, but are you going to play again? I would loveee for you to be back on Survivor! You’re the queen and should’ve won Heroes vs Villains. I just rewatched season 39 and it should’ve been Rob and You not Sandra!! Love you Queen P!
are you ever going to play survivor again
you never know
@@ParvatiShallowOfficial "is it useful?" Idk how to use this information parv.
@@ParvatiShallowOfficial can you please be on season 40
Parvati,..............PLEASE..............suggest to Natalie Bolton and the Survivor big wigs to bring her back for a 2nd season.
Parvati Shallow yes
Hi are you currently watching survivor?
De Paraguay te mandó saludos
i love you so much
parvati ily!!!
Would you play survivor again?
I love her
Same here! Parvati, are you ever going to go back on survivor?
ng history she did!
Hi Parvati. What does your name mean? Are you named after an Hindu Diety? Is one of your parents from India? Just getting into Survivor btw... great job on the show.
Love your name ol wife of Shiva ^.^
Wasn't your name technically pronounced wrong on the show, Survivor? I wondered about that. I think in Sanskrit, as wife of Shiva, it is pronounced Par-VAH-ti rhyming similar to karate, rather than the.. Parvuhti sounding more like property.
Also did you change your name to that or was your parents into something associated with Hinduism like Yoga? I love Sanskrit and everything that comes from it. It is by far the most elaborate and beautiful concepts on Earth to me.
The language of Sanskrit itself is like a perfect design beyond explaination. And it is powerful!!!!! Mantras and meditation is funny because on some level.. EVERYBODY DOES THEM.... Its so funny to me when someone tries to mock any of it just prooving their own ignorance lol.
It is really awesome you are into and even teach Yoga! I am sure you know about the 8 limbs of Yoga. But if not please google it and i encourage others too as well!
Blessings
Om mani padme hūm
yes she did
Parvati is so fine! Inside and out, I find her to be appealing on a level that's etherial...
Are you still friends with Amanda
Y would u ask her that 🤔🤔🤔
Good advice in some situations but if you don't try to please people, you soon don't have any friends - maybe not for you since you are super pretty. But, for most people, they have to do jobs they hate to pay the rent. Welcome to the world of the rest of us. You are lucky enough to have the freedom to not do that (although you did earn it on survivor) so maybe lucky isn't the right word.
Hi
Parvati
Ironically while you were thinking you had to do something great for people to think you were smart or important, some of us were already thinking you were smart and important.
Did she have a crush on J.T.
❤️❤️❤️
Gremlin thinks you're great and inspiring! You only get one life, live it!!!
Hey Parv , i have a suggestion.... when you filming a video you can use tripod for the camera that would be great so there is no shaky movement from it .
Just a tip , thanksss 🤩
I hear you. Sometimes I will use a tripod and sometimes I won't. I'm going for consistency over perfection with these vids :)
The video is perfect. I didn't even notice any unsteadyness. Love your message!
Damn
Ola parvatiiiiiiiii