“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.” - Carl Jung I hope you like this video, it's a bit longer than usual but I wanted to give a good overview of shadow work & how to do it ~ Let me know if you have any questions or feedback, I'd really appreciate it! 😊
Hi Zoe, you explained it very clearly and articulately. Thank you so much. I am starting to do my shadow work. Thanks so much for sharing. Sending you light and love.❤❤
It's the exact opposite of your personality type so it's definitely easy to do. #1. Learn your personality type #2. Find out what your opposite type. #3. Watch 50 to 60 hours of RUclips videos on the behaviors and Traits of the opposite type. Now that is lessons learned in pure Positivity so it's definitely a great learning experience. INFJ-T to ENFP-T. it's definitely not going to be a negative life experience again.
No thanks I don't need the retardedness that American Women's Shit Circus of American Dating. Ostracized, Invisible and Abandoned for 25 years therefore I will not allow anyone else in my life again because I have nothing to offer anyone so I don't have any Needs or Wants that anyone else can satisfy. What do other Men have that I don't. Social skills and wealthy families. It's a great thing that I have spent 33 out of 44 years old or 77% of my life experience so far lived in Isolation Solitude and Celibate. And that's exactly how I will patiently wait for my final moment alive. Finally I will be able to return home where I belong. Magus Gatekeeper of the 5th gate. I don't think being a Genetic Primary Psychopath INFJ-T is the best possible outcome for law of attraction. Because I have Zero Patience for people who have Zero understanding of Do onto others is and why it is extremely important. Otherwise not guilty by way of Temporary Insanity with a great mess for others to clean up. Therefore I will not allow anyone else in my life again yet you can do whatever you wish and be constrained by your executive functions while I have 6 learned behaviors to supplement my decision making ability. You survive a 98.56 mortality rate from a Frontal lobe collapse get Ostracized from Society in the 3 rd grade tormented and tortured since day one from birth by an older brother. a mom that emotionally abandoned me and a dad I referred to as the big dumb drunk animal. From 4 to 19 every other week getting beat even if I was sleeping because I had to rewire my brain. The first time I heard him yell life or death I was 11 so I have more than a few issues that I acknowledge and I don't care what anyone else has to say. If I'm left alone in isolation living in Solitude and Celibate then everyone else is going to fine so it's definitely ok to believe anything you wish that I would be capable of and the common issues that are fixed within minutes for others. I would love to hear the solution to create something that has never existed before such as future consequences, appropriate punishment for the damage received, along with the other 24 executive functions and how to implement them to automation when they are triggered. Otherwise you enjoy your Journey and I will exist until my final moment alive then be forgotten as soon as possible. I have never belonged here in life yet here I exist. Love doesn't exist external for me so I will not attempt to find it or allow anyone else in my life to destroy me. I'm sick of the retarded Cumdumpsters, whores, and Prostitutes who pretend that they are good girls or I got the wrong idea she is not that type of gal. I insta replied keep telling yourself that and maybe one day you will believe it. What the fuck did you do last night to earn money. When I tried to give her a gift for buying products from me at $250 daily for 5 months. So what the fuck is wrong with women that even prostitutes pretend that they are good woman with High Character Values Morals Standards and Principles? Fuck that stupid shit. I have learned that I have nothing to offer anyone so I will not allow anyone else in my life again because I have a nice collection of hammers and I don't give a shit what happens or who watches me make an amazing mess out of shitty ass people who are not pillars of the community...
I think it's too late for me. I'm 53 and went through an abusive relationship for 16 years. Now my life consists mostly of anxiety and dread. I have tried all kinds of workshops and therapies but I am still stuck. I have no friends and keep fighting myself. Everything is confusing. I seem to be stuck with childhood reactions without the ability to help myself.
Just here to say that I believe in your healing and growth. I'm sorry for your hardship. I've personally found enormous benefit in getting a good therapist to help me. I'd really recommend you consider that, too. Many blessings to you on your path ! 🙏
If you were 95 its not too late. In fact it will be an easier transition into your devine part of your self...you hs e to want it pretty bad...saying its too late is like giving up when you obviously already so very close.❤go for it. Its yours.❤&✌️to all
Look at yourself from the perspective of observer, like you are watching a movie from first person view and also being able to feel all the emotions. And also look at yourslef as being that went through all that stuff just like you are an actor, in other words look at yourself from the side like you are observing yourself without judgment, about all your emotions and thoughts. Then ask yourself what next steps should benefit this being that you are observing? When i started doing this meditations, little by little great insights started coming into my mind and smoothly i was able to transition myself into desired personality.
Still a lot of life left for a 53 year old. See it. And make small changes. Im doing the same. 48yo and had a great midlife wobble. Invest time and money in to what actually will leave you feeling better. The rest is distraction. You’re worth it.
Dear Zoë Winters, Your ability to explain complex ideas is truly exceptional; your presentations are clear and easy to understand. I am very grateful for your videos. Honestly, I didn’t have high expectations at first, but within minutes, I was completely drawn in. Jung is a psychologist I deeply admire, and his work holds a significant place in my heart. I’ve spent a lot of time studying his theories, and your video does an excellent job of succinctly explaining the core concepts. The journal prompts you included at the end offer a great way to practically apply and reflect on these ideas. I’ve already saved them and plan to use them regularly to further explore and integrate my shadow. Thank you once again for your wonderful work!
10:26 damn. Thats so eye opening. I get angry for being not understood. For being triggered. For being insulted etc. These things cause a reaction out of me wich stems from the fact that it had an effect on me. Devolping my anger could look like self love, walking away from the situation, journaling to heal MYSELF bc it stirred a trigger in me, so now i can work on that trigger.
Yes!! I’m so happy to hear this! Anger I’ve come to look at as one the most valuable & protective emotions- it serves only you and your values and will show up to protect what’s important to you even when others try to make you feel like it’s not.. but just like you said, it often shows up alongside with other (important!) things and really becomes beneficial once developed because then it’s like a friend looking out for you, you can always trust it🤍
@@itszoewinter yes! Im so happy to have come across this realisation. Emotions in generall are just here to lead us and to protect us especially the "bad" ones. Its like they are the abandoned children who are so angry and bitter at the world. Loving them and accepting them, shines light and the desired attention on them. Emotions and feelings are so intressting. They affect so much. Our beliefs,our life, etc. Is dependent on them. They make or break a person.
@@animeluv2008 they often are the abandoned child pissed that you cut off the good parts along with the bad. its like crying out to have you look at it and sort it out and put it back on a path, but until then its like, fine i'm gonna be the only me I know how to be, crooked and a mix of all my greatest strengths, overshadowed by all my greatest weaknesses. Its just wierd to understand how evil is what we allow, not what we're capable of.
The shadow is something that we are imbued with at birth. It only grows from there, to whatever degree we are traumatized in life. Its origins is the unresolved traumas within our parents before they had us, passed down energetically to us. They got it from their parents, and their parents before them and so on and so forth. I've heard people say you can go back as far as 14 generations, however I do not actually know how accurate that number is. Our shadow is comprised of a lot of generational trauma and wounding that has gone unresolved through our lineages...and some of us are lucky or unlucky enough (depending on how you look at it) to wake up to this (sometimes very rudely) and begin the arduous task of doing the inner work that all of our forefathers and foremothers did not do. When you have a child before you've healed all of your inner wounding and traumas... That energy will invariably be passed to your children, which means they're gonna have to deal with it. Both father and mother and then the two of them combine their energies to create us. If neither one of them ever did the work before they created children, It gets passed onto their offspring. That is how it works. Somebody could have an amazing childhood and still have a very dark shadow because of generational trauma energetically passed down. When you add our lived and experienced traumas that get suppressed to the mix, the Shadow gets even darker and borders evil.
This is incredibly interesting & insightful, I really appreciate you taking the time to share all this! While I’ve heard of generational trauma, I know nothing about it and would love to learn more~ I’m curious, if you can’t refer to your lived experiences, how do you go about generational shadow work? Is this still a part of the personal unconscious?
@@itszoewinter Shadow work is shadow work. Your shadow is your shadow even though a lot of what comprises your shadow.Isn't your own baggage per se. I don't know that there's actually a distinction made for what you referred to as generational shadow work... I think it's all just shadow work. I'm wise in some of these things but i'm not necessarily what anyone would call an expert, so you might want to do a bit of your own research on that to flesh it out yourself...that way you'll know, and it won't just be some theory.
@@itszoewinter hereditary traits reveal themselves through your life experiences. Some can be recessive, and have nothing to do with anyone still alive. Sometimes you will experience projection from a parent, or someone older in a family, by them saying things like "you are just like your grandma", and it is someone you have never met. Then you know what to target, and why. Most of which may not even be true. It's all part of the program.
I kind of wonder if this is why I've had a difficult life.... both my parents grew up in troubled times... my dad in the war, he grew up in famine riddled Ukraine in the 30s, ended up in the war.. my mum in 40s Poland... my grandfather's both 1st World wars. My dad had me very late in life, so I'm 50, most of my friends parents hadn't had such a direct connection. Both had their faults and my socialisation was pretty weak, but gave me love and never treated me unfairly. But my life absolutely collapsed a few times inspite of this. I beleive even though they tried to give me the best upbringing they could, I picked up their war trauma. Maybe people less sensitive wouldn't have, who knows... interesting you should mention this, as I've often wondered.
When I was younger the most repeated thing I heard from adults about your future was the ability to set goals and foresee them. I am now realizing at 26 as I get closer to a goal I set back 4 to 6 years ago just how true and important that is. Goals can seem challenging, and depending on how difficult, just downright impossible. Sure know your limits but humans in nature are problem solvers and task doers. If a goal you truly want seems impossible, divide it. Make smaller more realistically achievable goals with the structure that eventually you will reach the main goal. If you are wise, which you are, and your will is strong, which it is, there is nothing you can not do (realistically). Never underestimate the power of setting goals.
Yes doing anything towards a goal is great, and little steps are required. Just remember that if you make time for things you like to do or know more about it the goals will set themselves. Too often we just don't pursue the things we always wanted to do, because we think we have to earn the freedom to pursue them. Make the pursuit of them how you attain them. Stick to what you know, and learn as many things as you can as often as you can even if its just so you don't have to wait on someone else to do something.
So in a way, Shadow work is a way to dissolve trauma? Inside every trauma that left us with an emotional trigger/scar, is a part of self that is being repressed so that we are protected from this ever happening again? Trauma can be as little as someone telling us off for being fearful/angry/sensitive when we are children. Or as big as failing your degree and thinking you cannot ever take any responsibility for anything as you will inevitably fail. Both end up with us locking a part of ourselves away and steering away from scenarios that require that part of us to surface.
Its realizing how Tyler Durden is just your shadow self taking over in a way that you don't realize he is taking over. You think its you. You think you are thinking those thoughts, You think thats air you're breathing? Its the shadow self making sure it has a place in this world, but it is trapped inside like the hulk in puny banner. So if you don't organize its thinking with the true dominant side of your self, it starts to become the dominant side. Using anger as a weapon, not a call to action. Using that weapon against you trying to get you to fight back. Knowing that you will be purifying yourself in that process unless the shadow isn't overpowered and submitted through strength of reason and force. Its why if you solve parts of the puzzle the war rages on. You have to drop that final piece in and suddenly the other guy knows you can always see him in the reflection, and that his way of making sense of things was mired by bad teaching, bad faith, and bad information, and that everything you were afraid of was something that would've been almost impossible for someone to tell you.
I'm just starting out with shadow work on myself, have watched several YT 'how to' videos but found yours the most concise and well explained. Thank you so much for this. I believe this is going to help me a great deal.
I did it btw I successfully got a lot of my shadow stuff recognized I think integration is a lifetime process though. because the moment you start shadow work you realize how much you’ve been relying on your non shadow worked brain for building your relationships and it is not easy to mend those without burning bridges. It is important to integrate properly but at the same time I have truly realized one thing is that my happiness depends on myself and no one else. This is true regardless of the world around me. I think human beings are very special animals in that we can truly generate our own happiness albeit in a limited way.
I've read and heard time and time again different in depth analysis of 'what is shadow work'..but this time around finding someone like you, someone of our generation, being so informative and reassuring as a guide, is truly a breath of fresh air
What I'm learning through doing a lot of various creative work (one of my favorites is doing strange voices) is that there are a lot of positive traits hidden behind the darker parts of ourselves. So what may come up out of the pipes first is going to be the more dark characters, and then beneath that are the more vulnerable and soft characters that live inside of us that we guard very closely.
Oh I love this! I know Jung wrote a lot about active imagination as a channel for unconscious elements.. The strange voices is such a great idea, and something I might just try out haha😄 I've recently started a journal to draw without intention, one page every day, and it's been quite interesting to see what comes up (both the drawings & the emotions with it!) Also, I'd be curious to know, when doing the voices do you notice any archetypal figures show up in them?
@@itszoewinter Definitely, so far I've found my self doing this sage archetype that talks in a very manly stoic type of voice, then there is the very deranged dark almost demonic type of character. For fun I was talking to a friend of mine in that voice at Walmart, and a lady was about to come around the corner and she immediately went back in the direction she came from, it made me laugh. Behind those two I've found this new voice, it is this Latin ultimate romantic archetype, very fun to see what comes out his mouth. There are many more than this too, if you want to see some of my characters I've been making youtube videos, acting them out. I'm also reading my active imagination stories on there too.
"You are going to fail even when you are giving it your best, because your best isn't one set level, it's something that you grow and you develop, and that's ok, that's natural".
Can you speak a little more on "laziness"?!. Why do I feel lazy yet I try my best to keep busy?! I am self sabotaging for sure💔. Please and thank you ❤
Yes this is a great topic! I talked about laziness a bit in my latest video on shadow work but might do one just on this as it’s something I very much struggle with as well😅
Another great starting point for shadow work is dreams. I dreamed about a rowdy teenage boy who was playing loud music and putting dirty shoes on my couch. In the dream, I called the police. My therapist said, That’s a Shadow figure. Let’s get to know him. He was a source of rich material and great insight.
Very important video and well explained! The only thing I wish was explained more is Why asking Why over and over can be dangerous, Why it should be taken step by step and Why control should always be the priority Uncovering the depths of your Shadow is uncomfortable for a reason, and if the Shadow becomes too big to handle everything can shatter altogether, reality collapses and it becomes very hard to put back the pieces where they belong
Very good insights. One comment about your editing, you are talking about a hard topic, but you have edited all the pauses out, keep them in, it gives a break for the mind.
Very insightful video, I had heard/read of shadow work before but never more than surface level. I really liked how you first set up the concepts and then translated them into actionable steps. You also have a very soothing voice, which helped ease in all the information.
Wow. Just happened to come across this video... thank you. Much appreciated. I actually managed to follow through the entirety of this 20min+ video. which means you are excellent in what you do! I never lose focus or get lost in some other thought at all! Usually 20min. Is almost too long to follow anyone and keep focused cause they tend to get boring along the way or end up complicating simple info. And when I realize that they are not consistently making sense they then become back ground noise and when i snap back into reality- I GET REALLY ANNOYED AND NEVER AGAIN DO I CLICK ON THAT CHANNEL! They just prove that they too lack complete understanding and knowledge in what they are trying to teach here... lol that is just insane to me. I cannot give my attention to foolish, unprofessional teachings ! Quality is obviously most imp. And you nailed it 💯! Well done. Will be looking out for your content ...its great stuff. Once again- thank you.
You lost me when you said the ego had four spectrums and then listed three. Otherwise good, but most other source I'm seeing explain that thinking, feeling, sensation and intuition are each spectrums unto themselves. And, each spectrum exists on the introverted/extroverted axis. i.e: not thought vs feeling. Introverted thought vs extroverted thought and introverted feeling vs extroverted feeling. And, introverted sensation vs extroverted sensation and same for intuition. While I'm being mean, I'm also not a fan of drawing a map with ego in the center. Seems what we need to take from this is that executive function is not the center of self. Or, perhaps it's better to say, we're not just out center. We're also our edges.
i appreciate this video popping up on my feed. you did a great job in explaining these not commonly known /understood parts of our subconscious self. thank you. i understand this video may be primarily about the 'self' but i've always believed that this conversation (with one's self) cannot be wholly comprehended and/or well developed without taking external forces (beyond our 'self') into account. it is one reason religion is such a popular phenomenon among us humans. we are not in this world alone, and others affect how we grow up and how we develop our 'self' throughout our lifespan, before we became enlightened to this level of thinking.
Thank you for your kind words and sharing your insightful perspective! It's fascinating how external influences shape our Selves, and your mention of religion highlights the complexity of this relationship. I'm curious, to what extent can others affect the Self and can these external influences help us towards our unique potential? I'm aware that Jung was an essentialist, but don't know much about his views on this-- although when reading about our Inner Law it reminded me very much of God and religion!
@@itszoewinter Hi! i'm happy to hear that you understand my perspective here. the pervasiveness of external influences can sometimes be fascinating at best and annoying at worst. the presence of religion is unavoidable, it's our best answer yet to our universal questions about life on earth. in my own personal experiences, and from observation of others (whether on the www or in the real world), or actively listening with interest to the experiences shared by others, i find that the "extent" of helpfulness from external influences is subjective to the individual. what is more significant is how much it contributes to further development of the better self of that individual. that development should be identifiable if not visible. i appreciate the study of the philosophers, and those who follow them. to me, even when they dont mention "god" the influence of whatever mysterious universal creator from whose 'behest' we are all gathered here, is evident in their academic thought process and search to understand our inner selves first. i hope you're feeling well today despite whatever is happening in and around your environment. thank you for enlightening others and i hope the radiant love of our universal creator continues to shine from within you and that you can continue to share it with the rest of us in the world (wide web:) be well.
Right. Small victories. But first you have to figure out where the battles even are. Thank you. I think one of the problems is, we tend to look at the mountain. Our friends and relatives are like " why aren't you on this mountain? Jeez, you're not even climbing" but we don't see the road that leads up it. So we look away.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths.” - Proverbs 3:5-6
Very well explained.. thankyou so much.. i think though that the shadow stuff is not things that are necessarily "bad" like "laziness" etc.. because what to others might seem "bad" (in "laziness" for example) might actually be a deep true need in US.. it is things we have been MADE TO FEEL ARE BAD by others in our lives as we develop, but those things are actually things that are truly part of our true nature but we get made to feel guilty or ashamed of those aspects of us, so we suppress them in our ways of being.. but to heal this we are best to let those aspects of us BE in us and not suppress themz we are best to just be truly usz so we can live our lives truly as us, even if others try to shame us or scold us (but that is really difficult to do, due to the need to feel loved and accepted in society etc) .. am i beginning to figure out the true needs/difficulties? (the capital letters were for emphasis not shouting by the way! :) ..i hope life will be Really good for you
I saw this in passing and had to stop to say bless you for actually explaining not only what that term means but what to do. You hear so often with people saying others should do shadow work and thinking that means something to the average person. If you don't tell them what to actually do, how can you expect them to do it at all? So thank you for actually explaining what you mean and how to approach the task, and not just giving hollow advice to people.
The algo is listening because I needed to see this after this weekend. Haha I was letting small things trigger me and while I’m fully aware things shouldn’t bother me in the way they do, they still do. I’m hoping some shadow work can help with this.
Why are young people holding these tiny microphones? Microphone technology is beyond the need for you to hold anything, so, if you are holding a tiny ivory colored mic, it must be as a fashion accessory.
I've had to suppress my sexual desires because my family always discouraged any kind of sexual expression. As a cis hetero male, society now has made it even more difficult to express this part of myself, so I've wound up in a toxic relationship in the past, I'm not with an ideal partner currently, and I have developed a severe prn addiction. I do not know how to overcome it. I do not know appropriate ways to express such desire. I have been shamed for that part of me a million times over, so it has become the worst part of my shadow. I do not know the way forward. It is the primary driver behind my suicidal thoughts. How can I possibly overcome this?
It is very simple. The "shadow" 😂 is in truth the alert that is the misidentification that is the pain and suffering that is the indication that is the I am not self. It is an alert. A signal that says "Hello, I. No, not this! I am". In truth all be I am. The I am not self is the illusion and fictional misidentification that there is that other than I am. The great pointer that all be I am, is the truth that all that is, is now: the present moment. The present moment is the one self. The unconscious (or deeply unconscious) shadow is in truth I am. When this is consciously realised, there can be no deeply unconscious shadow. Or in truth, there is no requirement for an alert that is the I am not self. Pain and suffering in all its form, is in truth I am. When this is realised by the pain and suffering it dissolves to the presence and clarity of the present moment. The alert that is the misidentification that is the pain and suffering that is the indication that is the I am not self, that is in truth I am, is presented as fear and desire combinations. Sadness: fear and desire of leaving and remaining, of beginning and ending. Guilt: fear and desire of acceptance and rejection, of being more than and being less than. Anxiety: fear and desire of knowing and unknowing. This explanation is anxiety. It is also the keystone of the alert! Arousal (frustration-anger and excitement): fear and desire of position and opposition. Respectively, fear of desire and desire of fear. These are the actions of the I am not self. It is interesting to realise that one cannot truly fear and desire my self. I cannot fight, flee, hide from, and fool myself. Nor can I eat, find, lure, and trap myself. Trying to do so results in the alert that is the misidentification that is the pain and suffering that is the indication that is the I am not self. So what is the remedy? Surrender with a Sigh of Relief to the pain and suffering. Mind surrender to mind. Body surrender to body. World of the senses surrender to world of the senses. Two half breaths in through the nose followed by a long slow Sigh of Relief out through the mouth. A sigh is physical surrender. When this is realised, the fear and the desire dissolve to the presence and clarity that be I am. The biggest game that psychology plays is that the shadow is real. In truth, there is no shadow! Why? Because the deep unconscious is one and the same as presence. Formless awareness that is aware that I am formless. Form, the stuff and things that appear as thought, emotions, feels, and the world of the senses, is in truth not there. 😂 How can the sun in the sky not be there? Like bubbles in a bath sponge, as the hole that humans are pushed into the world from, it is null and void. Yet, it be! Form is the formless aspect of that which is referred to as consciousness. Form is an artifact of consciousness. Form is The Living Symbol. The Living Dream. The Living Allegory. Ask the question - What is this truly knowing and unknowing about that which this labels as awareness? Ask it out loud. Go on. It will be observed that this, whether it be thought, emotions, feels, and the world of the senses, cannot know nor can unknow that which it labels as awareness. But, I am that I am. So Surrender with a Sigh of Relief. Give up the futile and hopeless action that is trying to find an answer. It will be observed when this truth is realised that the pain and the suffering will switch off. Surrender. I am.
does analysis solve the problem of fragmentation, which is really what you are describing here? Can one fragment, the "me" look at the other fragments and integrate them, when the "me" itself is or may be a fragment? That is what each of us must decide or not - is the "me" just another fragment, trying to analyse the other fragments. The other fragments are episodes, memories that the brain has recorded due to some perceived importance to the "me". The "me" itself is the sum total of all of these fragments, i.e I may be just a bunch of memories, stored up in the brain. It comes down to whether you believe the "me" is something greater than that - i.e you are saying the ego is more than just memory and has some quality of wholeness that allows it to do this integrative work. That as such is saying that the "me" is in some state of cosmos, is essentially some form of "higher self". But to say that is pure supposition, pure imagination or belief. If, instead, one observes the me to be just another fragment, one sees the impossibility of ever integrating those fragments via the analysis process. Analysis causes further fragmentation, as the analyser separate from his analysis. Think of it this way, if there was real meditation, there would be no meditator, only meditation. But the meditation that is "taught" is a system, a method that says there is a meditator. The factor of division, the ego, the meditator, is again present, and the meditator becomes the meditated and the whole business has no meaning whatsoever, and that is how it is practiced everywhere. Analysis preserves the same division so that the petty little ego can be there at the centre, pulling the levers, giving the illusion of having the power to integrate, when all it is doing is dividing. "Is Analysis the Way For The Mind to Learn About Itself?" - J Krishnamurti. I think you and others here would enjoy to search for that and maybe read it. It is next level imo.
Thank you for this video! After taking a vacation after so much high intensity work, I’ve felt so completely overwhelmed and I think it’s due to how much I’ve repressed my shadow. Going on this journey is absolutely necessary for where I am
It was a video rich in information. You clarified the parts about 'Shadow Work' that didn't make sense to me before. It was very helpful for me. You're doing a great job, keep it up. :)
Thank you, I appreciate it☺️ Good point, I find projection such an interesting topic! It would definitely help with recognizing your shadow, I’ll keep this in mind for my next video✨
INTERESTING VIDEO. IT DOESN'T MEAN I AGREE WITH YOU ON EVERYTHING YOU SAID . BUT AGAIN I DON'T DISAGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAID. ITS STILL THOW CONFUSING TO ME.. I'VE WATCHED ALOT OF RESENT VIDEOS LIKE THIS BUT I AM STILL CONFUSED AND ITS NOT THAT SIMPLE. NOW THAT SAID I APPRECIATE THE WORK YOU PUT INTO YOUR VIDEO. I DO HAVE A QUESTION IM JUST GOING TO BE DIRECT , HONEST AND STRAIGHT FORWARD. FIRST I MEAN NO HARM WHEN I SAY THIS SO WARNING.. QUESTION : WHAT IS THAT IN YOUR HAND, ITS REALLY ANNOYING AND DISTRACTING. JUST TO LET YOU KNOW USUALLY I DON'T GIVE A WARNING I JUST TELL IT LIKE IT IS AND I SAY WHAT I MEAN AND I MEAN WHAT I SAY. II'M JUST HONEST AND DIRECT BUT SOME PEOPLE THINK THATS BEING HARMFUL, HURTFUL AND RUDE. SO I CAN'T BE MY SELF ANOTHER WORDS. HENSE TYE WARNING. MOST PEOPLE MISUNDERSTAND ME SO I DON'T WANT TO AT ALL COME ACROSS THAT WAY. BUT I ALSO DON'T HAVE PATIENCE / TIME TO BABY SOMEONE EITHER. HENSE WHY I AM JUST SHORT, DIRECT AND HONEST. THATS ME WEATHER SOMEONE LIKES IT OR NOT.. I AM TRYING TO SIMPLEY BE MORE NICE HERE. WHICH ISN'T EASY FOR ME. AND ALSO WANTED TO BE KIND BUT FIRM AND CRYSTAL CLEAR. MAN THATS ALOT TO EXPLAIN BUT NECESSARY JUST INCASE AGAIN THANKS FOR YOUR VIDEO. AND HARD WORK BLESSINGS/PEACE.
@@itszoewinter I’m not sure if you have done this already but adding the collective layer would be a great add on - the anima and animus with the archetypal influences. 🤷🏻♀️
@@theravenmagickexactly, when I saw her drawing to describe self, shadow, ego and persona, I was thinking how the anima and Animus fits into this model! (I have no expertise in psychology, just curious to read, watch and listen here and there to learn something)
@@HootanHM so the Anima and Animus are two collective archetypes that’s SOLE purpose is to bridge the unconscious and conscious. The Anima was originally thought to be the inner woman of a man and Animus the inner man of a woman. His model has been further developed since then. The Anima/Animus are unique to the individual and contain the archetypal patterning of how one views the genders. They also have psychological stages of development. I mean this is a deep dive, I’m also not a psychologist. I am certified in numerous disciplines of shadow work and I’m more of an occultist and ritual witch. You’ll be able to find info on them easily but @thediamondnet has the best vid on them
I just subscribed. I’m 70 years old and have been doing shadow work. Journaling. Dianetics. EFT Tapping. Identics. And it works. While doing any work concentrate on your emotions. Cry, stomp your feet. I write in my journal, what unwanted emotion comes up and all times in my life the trauma happened. So if the first trauma happened at 5 years old. I’d pay attention to all of the traumas but I’d pay more attention to the first 5 year old trauma
Me : getting angry watching this video after spending 3 years going out everyday to coffee shops to try to get more comfortable being around people and ending up in the same place I started. 😂 I'm not discounting any of the content in this video, but I think a lot of people need individual attention of a friend ideally, or in lieu of having a friend, at least a mildly competent therapist.
Carl has an interesting model of human soul, but it is what it is, a model, an abstraction, not the ultimate truth, but I don't doubt that at some point it can predict some complex human behaviors
I always fail at step one. I seem to be unable to conjure up any ideal future. I dont get it. I dont seem to care about anything anymore the very idea of having to stick about is depressing.
This is a stylistic choice, Tom Nicholas has a good video on the lapel mic holding phenomenon. If it bothers you or strikes you as odd you might not be in the spheres that this video is attempting to be in dialogue with. It conveys a kind of “real talk” or “info dumping” kind of vibe. Holding a lapel mic, for whatever reason, conveys a casual but informative approach to serious topics aimed at people who are used to commentary channels and stitched videos. In the same way an academic might put their camera in front of a book shelf it’s visual language that conveys “I’m on your level but I have some information to share”
As someone who has just started her shadow work journey I wanted to say thank you for making this video. I found the video to be an easily digestible formula for change and your ability to firstly explain the shadow, ego and persona, then to provide information on how the parts of ourselves that are hidden, once slowly integrated, can have a positive affect on our lives; motivational. I also found the stages and examples of how to work with the shadow parts of ourselves with compassion; particularly inspiring to do the work. I have subscribed to your channel because I wouldn’t want to miss such amazing work which will help me have the life that I visualise for myself in the not too distant future. 👍👏👏👏👏🙏❤️.
@@itszoewinter Since childhood, I wanted to be a musician, and that's what I became. A couple of years ago from now however, that dream started to collapse, slowly at first, I had no idea what went on or why, it developed into a deep and devastating crisis. In my current understanding, all of this happened as a consequence of my working on unmet childhood needs, and the motivations or shall I say urges that came from that. There is a lot of grieving going on. But also hope, for I want rebuild my relationship with music, this time for the right reasons. This is why I see how one's strongest dreams, urges, motivations can be questionable and volatile. Even one's own identity, if based on that. Emotional intensity is not a good measure IMO.
“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.” - Carl Jung
I hope you like this video, it's a bit longer than usual but I wanted to give a good overview of shadow work & how to do it ~
Let me know if you have any questions or feedback, I'd really appreciate it! 😊
Hi Zoe, you explained it very clearly and articulately. Thank you so much. I am starting to do my shadow work. Thanks so much for sharing. Sending you light and love.❤❤
It's the exact opposite of your personality type so it's definitely easy to do.
#1. Learn your personality type
#2. Find out what your opposite type.
#3. Watch 50 to 60 hours of RUclips videos on the behaviors and Traits of the opposite type. Now that is lessons learned in pure Positivity so it's definitely a great learning experience. INFJ-T to ENFP-T. it's definitely not going to be a negative life experience again.
No thanks I don't need the retardedness that American Women's Shit Circus of American Dating. Ostracized, Invisible and Abandoned for 25 years therefore I will not allow anyone else in my life again because I have nothing to offer anyone so I don't have any Needs or Wants that anyone else can satisfy. What do other Men have that I don't. Social skills and wealthy families. It's a great thing that I have spent 33 out of 44 years old or 77% of my life experience so far lived in Isolation Solitude and Celibate. And that's exactly how I will patiently wait for my final moment alive. Finally I will be able to return home where I belong. Magus Gatekeeper of the 5th gate. I don't think being a Genetic Primary Psychopath INFJ-T is the best possible outcome for law of attraction. Because I have Zero Patience for people who have Zero understanding of Do onto others is and why it is extremely important. Otherwise not guilty by way of Temporary Insanity with a great mess for others to clean up. Therefore I will not allow anyone else in my life again yet you can do whatever you wish and be constrained by your executive functions while I have 6 learned behaviors to supplement my decision making ability. You survive a 98.56 mortality rate from a Frontal lobe collapse get Ostracized from Society in the 3 rd grade tormented and tortured since day one from birth by an older brother. a mom that emotionally abandoned me and a dad I referred to as the big dumb drunk animal. From 4 to 19 every other week getting beat even if I was sleeping because I had to rewire my brain. The first time I heard him yell life or death I was 11 so I have more than a few issues that I acknowledge and I don't care what anyone else has to say. If I'm left alone in isolation living in Solitude and Celibate then everyone else is going to fine so it's definitely ok to believe anything you wish that I would be capable of and the common issues that are fixed within minutes for others. I would love to hear the solution to create something that has never existed before such as future consequences, appropriate punishment for the damage received, along with the other 24 executive functions and how to implement them to automation when they are triggered. Otherwise you enjoy your Journey and I will exist until my final moment alive then be forgotten as soon as possible. I have never belonged here in life yet here I exist. Love doesn't exist external for me so I will not attempt to find it or allow anyone else in my life to destroy me. I'm sick of the retarded Cumdumpsters, whores, and Prostitutes who pretend that they are good girls or I got the wrong idea she is not that type of gal. I insta replied keep telling yourself that and maybe one day you will believe it. What the fuck did you do last night to earn money. When I tried to give her a gift for buying products from me at $250 daily for 5 months. So what the fuck is wrong with women that even prostitutes pretend that they are good woman with High Character Values Morals Standards and Principles? Fuck that stupid shit. I have learned that I have nothing to offer anyone so I will not allow anyone else in my life again because I have a nice collection of hammers and I don't give a shit what happens or who watches me make an amazing mess out of shitty ass people who are not pillars of the community...
The concept that you explained is from the book of "The psychology of unconscious"?
Your videos have been really helpful to me. Please make more!
If a flower was a human being 🌼
This is so sweet, thank you☺️🌼
My thought exactly.
if a flower WERE a human being, - use the conditional, not the preterite
Exactly. So true. Such a beautiful compliment. She's truly beautiful
I think it's too late for me. I'm 53 and went through an abusive relationship for 16 years. Now my life consists mostly of anxiety and dread. I have tried all kinds of workshops and therapies but I am still stuck. I have no friends and keep fighting myself. Everything is confusing. I seem to be stuck with childhood reactions without the ability to help myself.
Just here to say that I believe in your healing and growth. I'm sorry for your hardship. I've personally found enormous benefit in getting a good therapist to help me. I'd really recommend you consider that, too. Many blessings to you on your path ! 🙏
If you were 95 its not too late. In fact it will be an easier transition into your devine part of your self...you hs e to want it pretty bad...saying its too late is like giving up when you obviously already so very close.❤go for it. Its yours.❤&✌️to all
Look at yourself from the perspective of observer, like you are watching a movie from first person view and also being able to feel all the emotions. And also look at yourslef as being that went through all that stuff just like you are an actor, in other words look at yourself from the side like you are observing yourself without judgment, about all your emotions and thoughts. Then ask yourself what next steps should benefit this being that you are observing? When i started doing this meditations, little by little great insights started coming into my mind and smoothly i was able to transition myself into desired personality.
Still a lot of life left for a 53 year old. See it. And make small changes. Im doing the same. 48yo and had a great midlife wobble. Invest time and money in to what actually will leave you feeling better. The rest is distraction. You’re worth it.
It’s never too late. It’s only too late when you convince yourself that it is.
Thank upu so much for this video. This was brought to my attention befire and i ignored it but i need it now more than ever! Thanks for the words🎉
Dear Zoë Winters,
Your ability to explain complex ideas is truly exceptional; your presentations are clear and easy to understand. I am very grateful for your videos. Honestly, I didn’t have high expectations at first, but within minutes, I was completely drawn in. Jung is a psychologist I deeply admire, and his work holds a significant place in my heart. I’ve spent a lot of time studying his theories, and your video does an excellent job of succinctly explaining the core concepts. The journal prompts you included at the end offer a great way to practically apply and reflect on these ideas. I’ve already saved them and plan to use them regularly to further explore and integrate my shadow.
Thank you once again for your wonderful work!
10:26 damn. Thats so eye opening. I get angry for being not understood. For being triggered. For being insulted etc. These things cause a reaction out of me wich stems from the fact that it had an effect on me. Devolping my anger could look like self love, walking away from the situation, journaling to heal MYSELF bc it stirred a trigger in me, so now i can work on that trigger.
Yes!! I’m so happy to hear this! Anger I’ve come to look at as one the most valuable & protective emotions- it serves only you and your values and will show up to protect what’s important to you even when others try to make you feel like it’s not.. but just like you said, it often shows up alongside with other (important!) things and really becomes beneficial once developed because then it’s like a friend looking out for you, you can always trust it🤍
@@itszoewinter yes! Im so happy to have come across this realisation. Emotions in generall are just here to lead us and to protect us especially the "bad" ones. Its like they are the abandoned children who are so angry and bitter at the world. Loving them and accepting them, shines light and the desired attention on them. Emotions and feelings are so intressting. They affect so much. Our beliefs,our life, etc. Is dependent on them. They make or break a person.
@@animeluv2008 they often are the abandoned child pissed that you cut off the good parts along with the bad. its like crying out to have you look at it and sort it out and put it back on a path, but until then its like, fine i'm gonna be the only me I know how to be, crooked and a mix of all my greatest strengths, overshadowed by all my greatest weaknesses. Its just wierd to understand how evil is what we allow, not what we're capable of.
@@nak3dxsnake could you elaborate more?
This is an incredible video!! So helpful. I find so many videos gloss over the how-to process and you dove in. So thank you
The shadow is something that we are imbued with at birth. It only grows from there, to whatever degree we are traumatized in life. Its origins is the unresolved traumas within our parents before they had us, passed down energetically to us. They got it from their parents, and their parents before them and so on and so forth. I've heard people say you can go back as far as 14 generations, however I do not actually know how accurate that number is. Our shadow is comprised of a lot of generational trauma and wounding that has gone unresolved through our lineages...and some of us are lucky or unlucky enough (depending on how you look at it) to wake up to this (sometimes very rudely) and begin the arduous task of doing the inner work that all of our forefathers and foremothers did not do. When you have a child before you've healed all of your inner wounding and traumas... That energy will invariably be passed to your children, which means they're gonna have to deal with it. Both father and mother and then the two of them combine their energies to create us. If neither one of them ever did the work before they created children, It gets passed onto their offspring. That is how it works. Somebody could have an amazing childhood and still have a very dark shadow because of generational trauma energetically passed down. When you add our lived and experienced traumas that get suppressed to the mix, the Shadow gets even darker and borders evil.
This is incredibly interesting & insightful, I really appreciate you taking the time to share all this! While I’ve heard of generational trauma, I know nothing about it and would love to learn more~
I’m curious, if you can’t refer to your lived experiences, how do you go about generational shadow work? Is this still a part of the personal unconscious?
@@itszoewinter Shadow work is shadow work. Your shadow is your shadow even though a lot of what comprises your shadow.Isn't your own baggage per se. I don't know that there's actually a distinction made for what you referred to as generational shadow work... I think it's all just shadow work. I'm wise in some of these things but i'm not necessarily what anyone would call an expert, so you might want to do a bit of your own research on that to flesh it out yourself...that way you'll know, and it won't just be some theory.
@@itszoewinter hereditary traits reveal themselves through your life experiences. Some can be recessive, and have nothing to do with anyone still alive. Sometimes you will experience projection from a parent, or someone older in a family, by them saying things like "you are just like your grandma", and it is someone you have never met. Then you know what to target, and why. Most of which may not even be true. It's all part of the program.
This is why I probably won’t get children. Me and my sister are both seriously inflicted and I still haven’t found a way to deal with it normally.
I kind of wonder if this is why I've had a difficult life.... both my parents grew up in troubled times... my dad in the war, he grew up in famine riddled Ukraine in the 30s, ended up in the war.. my mum in 40s Poland... my grandfather's both 1st World wars. My dad had me very late in life, so I'm 50, most of my friends parents hadn't had such a direct connection. Both had their faults and my socialisation was pretty weak, but gave me love and never treated me unfairly. But my life absolutely collapsed a few times inspite of this. I beleive even though they tried to give me the best upbringing they could, I picked up their war trauma. Maybe people less sensitive wouldn't have, who knows... interesting you should mention this, as I've often wondered.
When I was younger the most repeated thing I heard from adults about your future was the ability to set goals and foresee them. I am now realizing at 26 as I get closer to a goal I set back 4 to 6 years ago just how true and important that is. Goals can seem challenging, and depending on how difficult, just downright impossible. Sure know your limits but humans in nature are problem solvers and task doers. If a goal you truly want seems impossible, divide it. Make smaller more realistically achievable goals with the structure that eventually you will reach the main goal. If you are wise, which you are, and your will is strong, which it is, there is nothing you can not do (realistically). Never underestimate the power of setting goals.
Yes doing anything towards a goal is great, and little steps are required. Just remember that if you make time for things you like to do or know more about it the goals will set themselves. Too often we just don't pursue the things we always wanted to do, because we think we have to earn the freedom to pursue them. Make the pursuit of them how you attain them. Stick to what you know, and learn as many things as you can as often as you can even if its just so you don't have to wait on someone else to do something.
Well written.
a giant that holds normal sized mic .. so cool :D
So in a way, Shadow work is a way to dissolve trauma? Inside every trauma that left us with an emotional trigger/scar, is a part of self that is being repressed so that we are protected from this ever happening again? Trauma can be as little as someone telling us off for being fearful/angry/sensitive when we are children. Or as big as failing your degree and thinking you cannot ever take any responsibility for anything as you will inevitably fail. Both end up with us locking a part of ourselves away and steering away from scenarios that require that part of us to surface.
Its realizing how Tyler Durden is just your shadow self taking over in a way that you don't realize he is taking over. You think its you. You think you are thinking those thoughts, You think thats air you're breathing? Its the shadow self making sure it has a place in this world, but it is trapped inside like the hulk in puny banner. So if you don't organize its thinking with the true dominant side of your self, it starts to become the dominant side. Using anger as a weapon, not a call to action. Using that weapon against you trying to get you to fight back. Knowing that you will be purifying yourself in that process unless the shadow isn't overpowered and submitted through strength of reason and force. Its why if you solve parts of the puzzle the war rages on. You have to drop that final piece in and suddenly the other guy knows you can always see him in the reflection, and that his way of making sense of things was mired by bad teaching, bad faith, and bad information, and that everything you were afraid of was something that would've been almost impossible for someone to tell you.
funny enough I did mostly of it by trial and error, but there was something missing on the whole picture and this helped, thanks.
I'm just starting out with shadow work on myself, have watched several YT 'how to' videos but found yours the most concise and well explained.
Thank you so much for this. I believe this is going to help me a great deal.
I’m glad you’ve found this helpful! And thank you for the kind words, I really appreciate it☺️✨
What’s the name of the mini microphone?
Really great presentation. What areZoës’ credentials? She’s new to me.
It's in the six senses, actually. I'm "autograph hunter" always been. :)
music is my primary tool for exploring my psyche and emotional regulation
Me too! U have great taste yo, new Magdalena Bay is sooooo great I lauv it
Oh my goodness, you're actually enchanting. I love the video!
Thank you, Zoe.
I did it btw I successfully got a lot of my shadow stuff recognized I think integration is a lifetime process though. because the moment you start shadow work you realize how much you’ve been relying on your non shadow worked brain for building your relationships and it is not easy to mend those without burning bridges. It is important to integrate properly but at the same time I have truly realized one thing is that my happiness depends on myself and no one else. This is true regardless of the world around me. I think human beings are very special animals in that we can truly generate our own happiness albeit in a limited way.
I got this on my recommended front page! You are doing something right, good job!
I’m so happy to hear that! Thank you, I appreciate the support☺️✨
So did I today, listened while walking my dog😊
Ok, this was posted on Apirl first. I don't know how much I trust it lol
Thank you very much! I understood a lot about myself after journaling using your questions!
I’m glad, I find journaling so helpful for self-reflection! Thank you for the kind words☺️
Thought This Was something Else, very glad i watched it, ty now Just for implantaision
Thank you so much for posting this. ❤
Your calm delivery and feminine nature help this message flow right into my shadow
I’m happy to hear that! Thank you for your kind words☺️✨
Please give that drew in The notebook
that was well explained and easy to understand + made sense, nice video :)
Thank you, I’m really happy to hear that☺️✨
It's you, it's always been you. Offer it unconditional compassion, not judgement and recrimination.
I've read and heard time and time again different in depth analysis of 'what is shadow work'..but this time around finding someone like you, someone of our generation, being so informative and reassuring as a guide, is truly a breath of fresh air
Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate it☺️✨
you explained this perfectly I’m glad this video popped up on my feed. You’re definitely an infp btw haha
Haha is it so obvious? Thank you for the kind words😊 I really take it as a compliment after seeing that you’re an INTJ haha
What I'm learning through doing a lot of various creative work (one of my favorites is doing strange voices) is that there are a lot of positive traits hidden behind the darker parts of ourselves. So what may come up out of the pipes first is going to be the more dark characters, and then beneath that are the more vulnerable and soft characters that live inside of us that we guard very closely.
Oh I love this! I know Jung wrote a lot about active imagination as a channel for unconscious elements.. The strange voices is such a great idea, and something I might just try out haha😄 I've recently started a journal to draw without intention, one page every day, and it's been quite interesting to see what comes up (both the drawings & the emotions with it!) Also, I'd be curious to know, when doing the voices do you notice any archetypal figures show up in them?
@@itszoewinter Definitely, so far I've found my self doing this sage archetype that talks in a very manly stoic type of voice, then there is the very deranged dark almost demonic type of character. For fun I was talking to a friend of mine in that voice at Walmart, and a lady was about to come around the corner and she immediately went back in the direction she came from, it made me laugh. Behind those two I've found this new voice, it is this Latin ultimate romantic archetype, very fun to see what comes out his mouth. There are many more than this too, if you want to see some of my characters I've been making youtube videos, acting them out. I'm also reading my active imagination stories on there too.
Bravo! Best overview and explanation of shadow work, inc why it's VIP. Thank you!!! Very clever, clear, concise chick to cam post - niiice1❤
Great video and clear explanations, thank you so much. I was diligently taking notes. You have a gift to explain things this well!
"You are going to fail even when you are giving it your best, because your best isn't one set level, it's something that you grow and you develop, and that's ok, that's natural".
Can you speak a little more on "laziness"?!. Why do I feel lazy yet I try my best to keep busy?! I am self sabotaging for sure💔. Please and thank you ❤
Yes this is a great topic! I talked about laziness a bit in my latest video on shadow work but might do one just on this as it’s something I very much struggle with as well😅
Fear of failure? Fear of success
The only time I actually understood everything about shadow work. Nicely explained.
I think you could find a smaller microphone 🤔... but I'm not positive...
Such intelligence [dare I say wisdom] in such a young adult … impressive … "a little ray of ‘sunshine’ came into my night" … 🌻💜
You're like a real life Aerith Gainsborough.
I feel healed watching this video.
Tysm for this video
Haha I had to look this up but thank you, I take it as a compliment☺️✨
@@itszoewinter
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This video teaches minimal required theory for playing "Persona 5"
Another great starting point for shadow work is dreams. I dreamed about a rowdy teenage boy who was playing loud music and putting dirty shoes on my couch. In the dream, I called the police. My therapist said, That’s a Shadow figure. Let’s get to know him. He was a source of rich material and great insight.
I think dream interpretation can be such a great tool for shadow work! Thank you for sharing😊
Very important video and well explained!
The only thing I wish was explained more is Why asking Why over and over can be dangerous, Why it should be taken step by step and Why control should always be the priority
Uncovering the depths of your Shadow is uncomfortable for a reason, and if the Shadow becomes too big to handle everything can shatter altogether, reality collapses and it becomes very hard to put back the pieces where they belong
You are amazing. There is much to be considered. I will think about what you said and comment later...
This was the most helpfull video I have seen on shadow work. Thank you so much for sharing. This gave me so much more insight on this topic.🙏🏻😇🍀
Very good insights. One comment about your editing, you are talking about a hard topic, but you have edited all the pauses out, keep them in, it gives a break for the mind.
Very insightful video, I had heard/read of shadow work before but never more than surface level. I really liked how you first set up the concepts and then translated them into actionable steps. You also have a very soothing voice, which helped ease in all the information.
Zoe, your vocal fry disappeared after the 14’00”mark. Beautiful. What do you think about that ?
Your cuteness is very distracting 😭
Wow. Just happened to come across this video... thank you. Much appreciated. I actually managed to follow through the entirety of this 20min+ video. which means you are excellent in what you do! I never lose focus or get lost in some other thought at all! Usually 20min. Is almost too long to follow anyone and keep focused cause they tend to get boring along the way or end up complicating simple info. And when I realize that they are not consistently making sense they then become back ground noise and when i snap back into reality- I GET REALLY ANNOYED AND NEVER AGAIN DO I CLICK ON THAT CHANNEL! They just prove that they too lack complete understanding and knowledge in what they are trying to teach here... lol that is just insane to me. I cannot give my attention to foolish, unprofessional teachings ! Quality is obviously most imp. And you nailed it 💯! Well done. Will be looking out for your content ...its great stuff. Once again- thank you.
Spin self sphere counter timewise... I begin the second first ... Thanks
You lost me when you said the ego had four spectrums and then listed three. Otherwise good, but most other source I'm seeing explain that thinking, feeling, sensation and intuition are each spectrums unto themselves. And, each spectrum exists on the introverted/extroverted axis. i.e: not thought vs feeling. Introverted thought vs extroverted thought and introverted feeling vs extroverted feeling. And, introverted sensation vs extroverted sensation and same for intuition.
While I'm being mean, I'm also not a fan of drawing a map with ego in the center. Seems what we need to take from this is that executive function is not the center of self. Or, perhaps it's better to say, we're not just out center. We're also our edges.
i appreciate this video popping up on my feed. you did a great job in explaining these not commonly known /understood parts of our subconscious self. thank you. i understand this video may be primarily about the 'self' but i've always believed that this conversation (with one's self) cannot be wholly comprehended and/or well developed without taking external forces (beyond our 'self') into account. it is one reason religion is such a popular phenomenon among us humans. we are not in this world alone, and others affect how we grow up and how we develop our 'self' throughout our lifespan, before we became enlightened to this level of thinking.
Thank you for your kind words and sharing your insightful perspective! It's fascinating how external influences shape our Selves, and your mention of religion highlights the complexity of this relationship.
I'm curious, to what extent can others affect the Self and can these external influences help us towards our unique potential? I'm aware that Jung was an essentialist, but don't know much about his views on this-- although when reading about our Inner Law it reminded me very much of God and religion!
@@itszoewinter Hi! i'm happy to hear that you understand my perspective here. the pervasiveness of external influences can sometimes be fascinating at best and annoying at worst.
the presence of religion is unavoidable, it's our best answer yet to our universal questions about life on earth.
in my own personal experiences, and from observation of others (whether on the www or in the real world), or actively listening with interest to the experiences shared by others, i find that the "extent" of helpfulness from external influences is subjective to the individual.
what is more significant is how much it contributes to further development of the better self of that individual. that development should be identifiable if not visible.
i appreciate the study of the philosophers, and those who follow them. to me, even when they dont mention "god" the influence of whatever mysterious universal creator from whose 'behest' we are all gathered here, is evident in their academic thought process and search to understand our inner selves first.
i hope you're feeling well today despite whatever is happening in and around your environment.
thank you for enlightening others and i hope the radiant love of our universal creator continues to shine from within you and that you can continue to share it with the rest of us in the world (wide web:) be well.
Right. Small victories. But first you have to figure out where the battles even are. Thank you. I think one of the problems is, we tend to look at the mountain. Our friends and relatives are like " why aren't you on this mountain? Jeez, you're not even climbing" but we don't see the road that leads up it. So we look away.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths.” - Proverbs 3:5-6
Very well explained.. thankyou so much.. i think though that the shadow stuff is not things that are necessarily "bad" like "laziness" etc.. because what to others might seem "bad" (in "laziness" for example) might actually be a deep true need in US.. it is things we have been MADE TO FEEL ARE BAD by others in our lives as we develop, but those things are actually things that are truly part of our true nature but we get made to feel guilty or ashamed of those aspects of us, so we suppress them in our ways of being.. but to heal this we are best to let those aspects of us BE in us and not suppress themz we are best to just be truly usz so we can live our lives truly as us, even if others try to shame us or scold us (but that is really difficult to do, due to the need to feel loved and accepted in society etc) .. am i beginning to figure out the true needs/difficulties?
(the capital letters were for emphasis not shouting by the way! :)
..i hope life will be Really good for you
A very enjoyable and informative video, Zoe, thank you. But please take a bite of that chip (potato fry).
It’s probably cold by now 😉 XX.
ive been slacking off on this practice. youre an angel. i needed this so much.
You make Young sound very different from what Jordan Peterson makes it sound like
Is it kind of like star signs? I.e., persona being your sun sign, shadow being moon and ego being rising?
I saw this in passing and had to stop to say bless you for actually explaining not only what that term means but what to do. You hear so often with people saying others should do shadow work and thinking that means something to the average person. If you don't tell them what to actually do, how can you expect them to do it at all?
So thank you for actually explaining what you mean and how to approach the task, and not just giving hollow advice to people.
22:30 whenever you're confronted by negative self talk, ask yourself
"Is that an opinion or a fact? If it's a fact, prove it."
Shadow work like removing the shadow that the mic your holding is casting on you?
Jealousy is not the part of your shadow. Repressed emotions are. For instance, anger
Came for a drawing session and stayed to understand about my inner shadow
The algo is listening because I needed to see this after this weekend. Haha
I was letting small things trigger me and while I’m fully aware things shouldn’t bother me in the way they do, they still do. I’m hoping some shadow work can help with this.
Why are young people holding these tiny microphones?
Microphone technology is beyond the need for you to hold anything, so, if you are holding a tiny ivory colored mic, it must be as a fashion accessory.
I've had to suppress my sexual desires because my family always discouraged any kind of sexual expression. As a cis hetero male, society now has made it even more difficult to express this part of myself, so I've wound up in a toxic relationship in the past, I'm not with an ideal partner currently, and I have developed a severe prn addiction. I do not know how to overcome it. I do not know appropriate ways to express such desire. I have been shamed for that part of me a million times over, so it has become the worst part of my shadow. I do not know the way forward. It is the primary driver behind my suicidal thoughts. How can I possibly overcome this?
It is very simple. The "shadow" 😂 is in truth the alert that is the misidentification that is the pain and suffering that is the indication that is the I am not self. It is an alert. A signal that says "Hello, I. No, not this! I am". In truth all be I am.
The I am not self is the illusion and fictional misidentification that there is that other than I am.
The great pointer that all be I am, is the truth that all that is, is now: the present moment. The present moment is the one self. The unconscious (or deeply unconscious) shadow is in truth I am. When this is consciously realised, there can be no deeply unconscious shadow. Or in truth, there is no requirement for an alert that is the I am not self.
Pain and suffering in all its form, is in truth I am. When this is realised by the pain and suffering it dissolves to the presence and clarity of the present moment.
The alert that is the misidentification that is the pain and suffering that is the indication that is the I am not self, that is in truth I am, is presented as fear and desire combinations.
Sadness: fear and desire of leaving and remaining, of beginning and ending.
Guilt: fear and desire of acceptance and rejection, of being more than and being less than.
Anxiety: fear and desire of knowing and unknowing. This explanation is anxiety. It is also the keystone of the alert!
Arousal (frustration-anger and excitement): fear and desire of position and opposition. Respectively, fear of desire and desire of fear.
These are the actions of the I am not self.
It is interesting to realise that one cannot truly fear and desire my self. I cannot fight, flee, hide from, and fool myself. Nor can I eat, find, lure, and trap myself. Trying to do so results in the alert that is the misidentification that is the pain and suffering that is the indication that is the I am not self.
So what is the remedy? Surrender with a Sigh of Relief to the pain and suffering. Mind surrender to mind. Body surrender to body. World of the senses surrender to world of the senses.
Two half breaths in through the nose followed by a long slow Sigh of Relief out through the mouth. A sigh is physical surrender. When this is realised, the fear and the desire dissolve to the presence and clarity that be I am.
The biggest game that psychology plays is that the shadow is real. In truth, there is no shadow! Why? Because the deep unconscious is one and the same as presence. Formless awareness that is aware that I am formless.
Form, the stuff and things that appear as thought, emotions, feels, and the world of the senses, is in truth not there. 😂 How can the sun in the sky not be there? Like bubbles in a bath sponge, as the hole that humans are pushed into the world from, it is null and void. Yet, it be! Form is the formless aspect of that which is referred to as consciousness. Form is an artifact of consciousness.
Form is The Living Symbol. The Living Dream. The Living Allegory.
Ask the question - What is this truly knowing and unknowing about that which this labels as awareness? Ask it out loud. Go on. It will be observed that this, whether it be thought, emotions, feels, and the world of the senses, cannot know nor can unknow that which it labels as awareness. But, I am that I am.
So Surrender with a Sigh of Relief. Give up the futile and hopeless action that is trying to find an answer. It will be observed when this truth is realised that the pain and the suffering will switch off. Surrender.
I am.
please don't drag your voice for 35 minutes straight, i love the content , but this annoys me, thanks :)
does analysis solve the problem of fragmentation, which is really what you are describing here? Can one fragment, the "me" look at the other fragments and integrate them, when the "me" itself is or may be a fragment? That is what each of us must decide or not - is the "me" just another fragment, trying to analyse the other fragments. The other fragments are episodes, memories that the brain has recorded due to some perceived importance to the "me". The "me" itself is the sum total of all of these fragments, i.e I may be just a bunch of memories, stored up in the brain. It comes down to whether you believe the "me" is something greater than that - i.e you are saying the ego is more than just memory and has some quality of wholeness that allows it to do this integrative work. That as such is saying that the "me" is in some state of cosmos, is essentially some form of "higher self". But to say that is pure supposition, pure imagination or belief. If, instead, one observes the me to be just another fragment, one sees the impossibility of ever integrating those fragments via the analysis process. Analysis causes further fragmentation, as the analyser separate from his analysis.
Think of it this way, if there was real meditation, there would be no meditator, only meditation. But the meditation that is "taught" is a system, a method that says there is a meditator. The factor of division, the ego, the meditator, is again present, and the meditator becomes the meditated and the whole business has no meaning whatsoever, and that is how it is practiced everywhere. Analysis preserves the same division so that the petty little ego can be there at the centre, pulling the levers, giving the illusion of having the power to integrate, when all it is doing is dividing.
"Is Analysis the Way For The Mind to Learn About Itself?" - J Krishnamurti.
I think you and others here would enjoy to search for that and maybe read it. It is next level imo.
Thank you for this video! After taking a vacation after so much high intensity work, I’ve felt so completely overwhelmed and I think it’s due to how much I’ve repressed my shadow. Going on this journey is absolutely necessary for where I am
14:08 I had to pause because this came as a shock to me...a sort of revelation haha.
It was a video rich in information. You clarified the parts about 'Shadow Work' that didn't make sense to me before. It was very helpful for me. You're doing a great job, keep it up. :)
Great video and channel! Projection is one of the key ways we can identify our shadows or other people's shadows.
Thank you, I appreciate it☺️
Good point, I find projection such an interesting topic! It would definitely help with recognizing your shadow, I’ll keep this in mind for my next video✨
Sincerest thanks for this Zoë. You're gifted!
Thanks Zoë! Very clear shadow overview.
Very insightful and ineresting. Presentation wise is there an alternative to that mic? It looks somewhat sanitary...
You could talk about crab mating habits and I still couldn't force myself to click away
Your gorgeous shawty, what do you reccomened for someone who wants to integrate envy and develop a healthy relationship with it?
~Zoë~
INTERESTING VIDEO. IT DOESN'T MEAN I AGREE WITH YOU ON EVERYTHING YOU SAID . BUT AGAIN I DON'T DISAGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAID.
ITS STILL THOW CONFUSING TO ME.. I'VE WATCHED ALOT OF RESENT VIDEOS LIKE THIS BUT I AM STILL CONFUSED AND ITS NOT THAT SIMPLE.
NOW THAT SAID I APPRECIATE THE WORK YOU PUT INTO YOUR VIDEO.
I DO HAVE A QUESTION IM JUST GOING TO BE DIRECT , HONEST AND STRAIGHT FORWARD.
FIRST I MEAN NO HARM WHEN I SAY THIS SO WARNING.. QUESTION : WHAT IS THAT IN YOUR HAND, ITS REALLY ANNOYING AND DISTRACTING.
JUST TO LET YOU KNOW USUALLY I DON'T GIVE A WARNING I JUST TELL IT LIKE IT IS AND I SAY WHAT I MEAN AND I MEAN WHAT I SAY. II'M JUST HONEST AND DIRECT BUT SOME PEOPLE THINK THATS BEING HARMFUL, HURTFUL AND RUDE. SO I CAN'T BE MY SELF ANOTHER WORDS.
HENSE TYE WARNING. MOST PEOPLE MISUNDERSTAND ME SO I DON'T WANT TO AT ALL COME ACROSS THAT WAY.
BUT I ALSO DON'T HAVE PATIENCE / TIME TO BABY SOMEONE EITHER. HENSE WHY I AM JUST SHORT, DIRECT AND HONEST.
THATS ME WEATHER SOMEONE LIKES IT OR NOT.. I AM TRYING TO SIMPLEY BE MORE NICE HERE. WHICH ISN'T EASY FOR ME. AND ALSO WANTED TO BE KIND BUT FIRM AND CRYSTAL CLEAR.
MAN THATS ALOT TO EXPLAIN BUT NECESSARY JUST INCASE
AGAIN THANKS FOR YOUR VIDEO. AND HARD WORK BLESSINGS/PEACE.
As a shadow specialist this is a very well articulated video for an overview.
Thank you, that means a lot to hear😊
@@itszoewinter I’m not sure if you have done this already but adding the collective layer would be a great add on - the anima and animus with the archetypal influences. 🤷🏻♀️
@@theravenmagickexactly, when I saw her drawing to describe self, shadow, ego and persona, I was thinking how the anima and Animus fits into this model!
(I have no expertise in psychology, just curious to read, watch and listen here and there to learn something)
@@HootanHM so the Anima and Animus are two collective archetypes that’s SOLE purpose is to bridge the unconscious and conscious. The Anima was originally thought to be the inner woman of a man and Animus the inner man of a woman. His model has been further developed since then. The Anima/Animus are unique to the individual and contain the archetypal patterning of how one views the genders. They also have psychological stages of development. I mean this is a deep dive, I’m also not a psychologist. I am certified in numerous disciplines of shadow work and I’m more of an occultist and ritual witch. You’ll be able to find info on them easily but @thediamondnet has the best vid on them
hi, any books you can recommend to a beginner? thanks.
I just subscribed. I’m 70 years old and have been doing shadow work. Journaling. Dianetics. EFT Tapping. Identics. And it works. While doing any work concentrate on your emotions. Cry, stomp your feet. I write in my journal, what unwanted emotion comes up and all times in my life the trauma happened. So if the first trauma happened at 5 years old. I’d pay attention to all of the traumas but I’d pay more attention to the first 5 year old trauma
So... Scientology?
One of these doesn't fit with the others ... Dianetics
Me : getting angry watching this video after spending 3 years going out everyday to coffee shops to try to get more comfortable being around people and ending up in the same place I started. 😂
I'm not discounting any of the content in this video, but I think a lot of people need individual attention of a friend ideally, or in lieu of having a friend, at least a mildly competent therapist.
Carl has an interesting model of human soul, but it is what it is, a model, an abstraction, not the ultimate truth, but I don't doubt that at some point it can predict some complex human behaviors
I always fail at step one. I seem to be unable to conjure up any ideal future. I dont get it. I dont seem to care about anything anymore the very idea of having to stick about is depressing.
thank you for making this and setting it loose in the world.
"In service to what" as James Hollis would ask.
I hope you make enough to afford a mic clip
This is a stylistic choice, Tom Nicholas has a good video on the lapel mic holding phenomenon. If it bothers you or strikes you as odd you might not be in the spheres that this video is attempting to be in dialogue with. It conveys a kind of “real talk” or “info dumping” kind of vibe. Holding a lapel mic, for whatever reason, conveys a casual but informative approach to serious topics aimed at people who are used to commentary channels and stitched videos. In the same way an academic might put their camera in front of a book shelf it’s visual language that conveys “I’m on your level but I have some information to share”
I thought it was a tampon first 😅
Of all the good stuff she spoke, this is what you noticed??? smh
You let your shadow write that.
Haha this made me chuckle! But I also can’t believe people are hurt by this funny quip!
As someone who has just started her shadow work journey I wanted to say thank you for making this video. I found the video to be an easily digestible formula for change and your ability to firstly explain the shadow, ego and persona, then to provide information on how the parts of ourselves that are hidden, once slowly integrated, can have a positive affect on our lives; motivational. I also found the stages and examples of how to work with the shadow parts of ourselves with compassion; particularly inspiring to do the work. I have subscribed to your channel because I wouldn’t want to miss such amazing work which will help me have the life that I visualise for myself in the not too distant future. 👍👏👏👏👏🙏❤️.
Thank you for the kind words, it really means a lot😊💗
When will we get that the only way for people to be happy is at the expense of other people
5:20 yeah but why?
ps: great video, very helpful
I think your dreams can come from a false personality, which can make following them dangerous. You have to go deeper than that.
Yes, definitely. Although I'm still learning to recognize the difference, do you have any experience/advice in this?
@@itszoewinter Since childhood, I wanted to be a musician, and that's what I became.
A couple of years ago from now however, that dream started to collapse, slowly at first, I had no idea what went on or why, it developed into a deep and devastating crisis. In my current understanding, all of this happened as a consequence of my working on unmet childhood needs, and the motivations or shall I say urges that came from that. There is a lot of grieving going on. But also hope, for I want rebuild my relationship with music, this time for the right reasons.
This is why I see how one's strongest dreams, urges, motivations can be questionable and volatile. Even one's own identity, if based on that. Emotional intensity is not a good measure IMO.
Thank you for the video. It really resonated.
what if im stuck living in my shadow? ☹️
Thanks this is exactly the video I was looking for
I like your little microphone, great topic.
The Vocal Fry is strong in this one...
Best video I’ve seen. Thank you
Are you eating that little marshmallow or what?
Courage! There are also good features on which we all agreed :+)
I've learned so much in this video I'm amazed